Wednesdays - 96. Did My Boyfriend Cheat on a Stag Do?

Episode Date: July 22, 2025

Heyyyy Tinies!This week, we catch up on our weekend in Spain for Bella’s wedding, including Melissa’s near-death experience at the wedding meal. It was intense!! Plus, Sophie’s planning her first dinner party at her new house. Let’s hope there’s no shenanigans caught on her new Ring Doorbell... TB to when Melissa’s doorbell caught Toby out after a big night out. In this week’s dilemmas, one of our lovely Tinies is in full detective mode. She suspects her boyfriend might have cheated on her on a recent stag do and after going through his phone, she’s found some seriously shady messages in the group chat… and that’s not the worst of it. Is her gut instinct onto something? Another Tiny loves her husband SO much but can’t stand his smell. It’s started during her pregnancy and it’s got so bad that he’s now sleeping in the guest bedroom! Is there any hope for her nose (and their relationship)?! Enjoy the episode x For more details about Flavia Morellato and her pregnancy-safe treatment, head to https://flaviamorellato.co.uk/Got a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Exec Producer: Jemima RathboneProducer: Helen BurkeEditor: Kat MilsomAssistant Producer: Emily D'SouzaVideo Editor: @lizziemccarthySocial: Laura Coughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello, I'm Elizabeth Day, the creator and host of How to Fail. It's the podcast that celebrates the things in life that haven't gone right. And what, if anything, we've learned from those mistakes to help us succeed better. Each week, my guests share three failures, sparking intimate, thought-provoking and funny conversations. You'll hear from a diverse range of voices, sharing what they've learned through their failures. Join me Wednesdays for a new episode each week. This is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment original podcast. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts. Melissa, are you a doctor?

I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts at anything. In fact, we just challenge all our shit, so. And we love giving you guys advice, but as we said. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel.

If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Okay, on this episode, we've got a very fun one. We've got Toby being caught in the ring doorbell. I had a near-death experience, so I can tell you about that. We've got some seriously juicy dynamics. They just get better and better these week, these dynamics. I really do.

And also, I'm planning my first dinner party at my new house. Can't wait. Enjoy the episode. Hey, guys. We're back. Lispy and the Liff of back. You don't have a lisp though. But you can, do you not think I sound different? A little bit. Like, I mean, if you hadn't told me, I wouldn't know. Really? Okay, that's good. No. So where have we been? Nowhere, but upstairs for a quick swig of a drone. Basically, we're doing a back to back recording. Yeah. So have you been choked upstairs? I'm still really choking now. I don't know what's going on.

So Melissa choked when we were at Bella's wedding. I joked on day two. It wasn't on the actual wedding day. Yeah. And it was on a piece of massive salt. So when I first swallowed it, I thought I'd swallowed a shard of glass. That's all it felt like. It was like, cutting. What are you saying? Because in my memory, you were like, I swallowed a shard of glass. No, that was when I'd coughed it up.

Oh, yeah. Or when I had first swallowed it, I was like, ow, ow, ow. And then I think because I then swallowed again, which I had then full of food in my mouth, then it all got stuck on top of it. And then I couldn't breathe. And then I was like, I couldn't speak. Did you know guys, when you choke, you can't fucking speak. She was fully choking guys.

So basically someone was hitting, it would have been Toby, was hitting me on the back, on my back to try and like get it out. It wasn't working at all. And it was also really painful because it was this massive square of rock salt, but like it was like a shard of glass is what it felt like in my throat. We then found like five other bits. You didn't have it in your salad, thank God. No, we didn't.

But Willis then was like, oh my God, it was this and picked out this massive like square. Willis always finds things like that. Like that is so him. He was like, you would have swallowed that. And then I looked in my side, there was like five other bits in my salad. So it must have just been at the top. It's like meant to sort of melt into it. It was like the biggest thing guys. No, she showed me and I thought it was plastic. I didn't think it was glass. You were like, I think I did swallow this and it was like this big square. So I'm on the Bella's table, so behind Melissa and I have my back to Melissa. I'm so late to the party. I'm chatting away to Archie. And suddenly I like look to someone across the table, I think like Bella to be like, did you hear this? And then she is looking

face like a sheet of ghost, so scared. And I was like, what are they fucking looking at? So I turned around and then Jack, who is Bella's friend from Soto Grande. But he's a chef, so he knows. Maybe that's why he's a chef. He was giving you the high neck, but like big time guys, this was no fucking joke. Like he was going for it as though you were in a movie and you were about to die. Like it was nothing I could ever see before. And then suddenly I could breathe in and I was like, are you really?

And I couldn't see who it was. So I was like, who the fuck is he? What is going on? And I creep around the corner and I see Melissa's limp body off the ground. Like she's, her head is forward guys. She looks dead and her legs are off the ground because he's like pulling her up. And I was like, and I turned to Jamie and went, it's Melissa. And then Jamie runs up and he goes round and I just, I froze. I froze like this. And then my sister's baby was just there with eating, grab that.

And everyone was dying. And I just looked at Bella a full like a split second. I was like, no, no, no, no. She hasn't got clue what's going on. It was scary guys. It was scary. So basically long story short, chew your food before you swallow it.

Well, this is it. I think I've just gobbled food because we have like a five minute break and we're doing a double. I feel faint as anything. So I was just chowing down food. you swallow it. Well, this is it. I think I've just gobbled food because we have like a five minute break and we're doing a double. I feel faint as anything. So I was just chow down food. You must chew. I know, but when times of the essence.

Especially when you think like that salad, I thought it was so soft. It was like the avocado was so lovely and soft. And you can almost press it with your tongue and it just squishes. That's what I did. Swallowed first, fucking salt went down there. And I was like, ah, what the hell?

And then the water. And I couldn't get it out. And then I swallowed everything else. To try and I was like, okay, right, try? And then I couldn't get it out. And then I swallowed everything else to try and I was like, okay, right. Try and swallow it down and then it just lodged even more. No, that's absolutely fucking terrible. And then Toby was shaking, she was shaking her whole body was shaking afterwards. So Toby was like smacking me in the back, right? This is what went through my head. It was the weirdest thing. And it wasn't coming out. It wasn't moving at all. And I think because the salt had just fully like, it was square and hard, just lodged. It wasn't soft and could move.

And I remember thinking, it's not, I know my gut is not gonna come out from him smacking me on the back. So worst case scenario, they can just cut open my throat and get the food out. That's all, and I'll be fine. It was like such positive minds. That's unbelievable. Cause obviously you would die

if someone slit your throat with it. Well, I know, but in my mind, that wasn't an option. Did you think that we were gonna do it with the kitchen knife? I just thought someone will get, yeah, someone will get something, cut open my throat, I'll have like a, then they'll get it out. I'll just have a scar on my throat and it'll all be alright.

I don't know, I just thought it'll all be, that's all they'll have to do. And it'll be okay, I'm not going to die, is what I thought. And it's so weird because in my mind, this was going on for like five minutes, but apparently it was like 30 seconds or something. It was so quick because I didn't see any of it until the very end. I saw Jack rush over and Bella went, Jack, no! It was like a movie guys. It was fucking insane. And then the thing is when Melissa could breathe and she was sat down, she was gray, like you were gray. I was then so embarrassed about it. And you were like kind of sweating from like

fear. It was like not like hot sweat. It was like, you know, when someone's just like clammy, clammy. Yeah. And my eyes also were... Shaking. Beading with water. Yeah, and her hands were like, and she was like, it was awful. It was horrific. It was so horrific. And you know what the worst thing was, like when I could breathe again, because I like couldn't, it was really weird. You like block out all sound. I couldn't really hear anything.

It was like so strange. And then when I had a breath in and I was like, I'm not going to die. I can breathe. Everyone get off me. Like, I'm fine. I can breathe. I then was just like the sheer embarrassment. I can't. It was like a wall of embarrassment just came over me like you know when your whole body goes cold like head to toe from like what the fuck

I want to sink into the floor. Yeah I know what you mean but there was nothing to be embarrassed about. By the way I have not slept for hours but we then go to the bathroom. And Melissa goes so these two love a lovely couple sit opposite her. She was obviously so shaken up. She's no, no, no. I'm talking about the people who sat opposite you. And you went, I'm too shaken up. I can't talk to strangers. And you said it to me. No, so nonchalant. I said it to them. I know you said it to them and you still saying it's so nonchalant. And I have not slept because I'm like, I can't believe she said that to you. I basically said, guys, apologies if I'm not being chatty, but I like can't face.

Well, that's not what you said to me trying to conjure up conversation right now with like people with anyone No, this is what she said to me She said I just said to these people sorry can't speak to strangers now And I then have not slept because I'm like I'm I'm feeling anxious for Melissa that she said that as she doesn't even care I said it in a much more polite way That is what I thought you said word for word And I was like, God, no wonder people quiet little mouths. And then I did, and then I did,

and then I had a few last words, and I was like, just get over it now, it's fine, like you're alive. Just fucking get over it. Then we had a lovely evening, then we went for food afterwards. Can you imagine, we had that lovely tapas, and those churros.

I will say, I don't think the food was very good at that tapas place. It was all right, did the job, but it wasn't the best tapas I've ever had, you're right. It wasn't, all I want is just some like ham, I'm just gagging for it. I just can't. I mean, you kept watching it all weekend, just all that Serrano ham. I like so much Serrano ham. I might buy some at my dinner party tomorrow at my new house. And I was thinking I might just get a big plate because I'm just like, I need to see

it. Get the whole Blackfoot and making a slice of it. Oh yeah. You know that we once bought Spencer Matthews out for a birthday present? It's a lovely gift. But I was on the back of Jamie's moped holding this black foot going over to Battersea and I just never forget it. And I was just there on the back of his moped

carrying this big leg of lamb. It's also the stand. It stinks. That's how we could get it for you. We just know it's been aged for a certain amount of time. I might go after this and get one and say which one's over 18 months and then get it. And eat the whole thing today.

Yeah. What's the plan with the dinner party then? Put me through it. I am just going to do very low key. I'm going to make some Otelangie style stuff. And that's it. It's a lovely group. 12 people though.

It's quite lovely. It's a lot of people. And then the front room is getting finished today. I really love it so much, but there's honestly about 30 people in my house every single day. And I'm like, and you know what's funny is because the doorbell only got installed yesterday, my own doorbell, it's all done. But before that, all the builders just don't know it's installed. So they knock and it scares the fucking knife out of me. Cause Jamie goes at 7 AM. So I wake up at say 7 30 to knocking on the door every morning. And it is like this, and I think I'm waking up with

spike cortisol because it is so jarring. It makes you jolt. Anyway, but now we've got ring doorbells and I can just... So question, is the ring doorbell like plumbed in to the electric? Yes. Brilliant. So your battery's never going to die. Oh my God, you're in for a real treat. We had the electrician yesterday come in and do it all.

I need to link it up to my phone. It's all linked to Jamie's. Oh no, no, you must because you're going to... The amount of stuff that Sophie and I have seen Toby do on my ring doorbell is fucking amazing. One day we must share it because it's Jenny. There's one thing that he did that gave us a lot of entertainment. That is just- You're going to have so much good shit on your ring doorbell. I don't think anything will be that in it. It was the drastic, right. Okay, so Toby like, did he ring the doorbell himself? He had an after the night before, right? So me and Sophie were like looking at that footage,

like lolling and like, whatever. The next morning comes around, I think that what he had done is charged it. No, he put it back in. This is it. So for the afters, he had like taken out the battery and me and Sophie were like, hmm. I wonder if he knows.

But like we watched him doing it, like his face in the camera. And then it goes like, like it's off. And I'm like, well, I can see you've taken the fucking battery out, you idiot. Because he didn't want Melissa to count how many people in your back because we were on a hand. So the next morning, he obviously puts the battery back in. And when you put it back in, like two minutes after, it automatically rings. So he would have put it back in, shut the door, and then it would have gone.

So he opens the door on this footage. So you feel like, okay, he's wearing my dressing gown, holding my pink Hetty the Hoover. That was the best part of it. He opens the door, like. He looks left. And he's, you know what it's like, you know, what's black, is it black panther or like pink panther? It's like that, he's like.

And he goes, and then he stares at the ring doorbell face. He's like this. Oh, that was me. And then he gets the Hoover and goes to the hoop, to the ring doorbell, like cheers to the ring doorbell. It's the weirdest thing I've ever seen. Can we actually just ask him, beg him to just come and show the Chinese guys. It is so funny. I could watch her over and over. I reckon if I was just feeling a bit low at night, I would just, you must send it to me. Oh, it is in my text with you. I've sent it to you before. It's so funny. I need to just replay it a couple times, just give me a boost of energy in the nighttime

because it is... And the funny thing about it was like, Sophie was like so weirded out when we were watching it. She was like, that's really weird that he's talking to himself. That's really free. I was trying me out and I was like, for some reason this protective thing, and I was like, no, no, no, my brother's there. He's not talking to us. My brother wasn't there. He was talking to us.

Is he not slapped or something? Is he not feeling okay? Why is he talking to us out? Oh my God. So I've been watching, Ginny and Georgia just had their series three come out, guys. Never got into it. You never watched it.

You never got into it. It's quite good. Cause like the mom's like a murderer. It's just quite, but it's very light and funny. Anywho, what I thought this is a really good aim for us to have in the Netflix show of Ginny and Georgia, the Giggly Squad get mentioned and their voices get played and it's like all shut up in it. So it's like the mum's a murderer. So then like within this like TV program, this girl's on her phone listening to a podcast

and the clip is like, oh my God. And it's the giggly squad girls like, have you heard this mom like killed loads of people and she's on trial and blah, blah, blah. And I was like- So they've actually been employed to do that. They've been like hired, yeah, to go on this TV show to act as themselves, but only their voices.

But it like showed like, and I was like, fuck. Okay, right, right, right, right. What do we wanna be on? Sex and the City. We need to get on something. Sex and the City, we want Samantha to have on something. Sex and the City, we want Samantha to have us in the background, be like, I had a tip how to give a really good blow job

by these two girls, Melissa and Sophie, on a podcast called Wednesday. They're British girls. What I was thinking is maybe we should go for the Disney route, because we've got on in with Disney. Okay, right. So what's a good Disney?

Kim Kardashian. Right. I'll let you work your magic with that, but we must get mentioned on some Disney show. Let's start a petition. Right. I'll let you work your magic with that, but we must get mentioned on some Disney show. Let's start a petition. Let's get us viral so that some TV show, Netflix, Amazon or Disney play Wednesdays on it. The Tineys get mentioned. You guys get mentioned. We're all out there. Let's make this fucking happen. Absolutely.

You know, it's like those TikToks where it's like, my boyfriend says that I can get a Birkin if I get a hundred thousand likes or like, you know, like, can you see these? Let's get us on a TV show. Let's get Wednesdays mentioned. How do we do this? Okay. Leaving it down to you, Tainis. And hopefully one of you listening is like a producer on a TV show or something.

And you can like mention it to your boss. Or maybe you are the boss and you can just make it to your boss. I think so. Or maybe you are the boss and you can just make the magic happen yourself. I think it would be a really good idea. I think it would really mean a lot to us and we'd be so grateful. I'd really feel like we'd made it in life if that happened. I'm not going to meet it. Okay, who would you want playing you if someone had to play you?

That's actually fucking amazing. I know who you'd want. Camilla Moray. Oh Camilla Moray and all hot sexy ladies. Who would I hire? Margot Robbie? Yeah, but she's blue eyed. I don't make sure it's anything like me.

They don't have to actually look like you. Camilla Morrone doesn't actually look like you. But I'm thinking she's got the same eye color and hair color. But obviously I would love Margot Robbie. Jessica Alba when she was in Fantastic Four. Give me her. Or when she was in the Blue League game with Paul Walker, my favorite sex scenes. That's it. That's what really tells me this one.

Kissing scenes. Okay, that is- Perfect. Resorted. Okay, so that's who we have. I'm just trying to think. I don't know what TV programs I watch that are acting that I love. I just watched Jessica Houserate on repeat and I'm loving it so much. Can I tell you something? I'm really not liking Real Housewives anymore.

It's Miami. It's so like, right, I'm going to say it. Don't come for me. But like, I don't like their lives. It just looks like really like, can I say it? But it looks like just really cokey and drinky. I feel like they're just like on drugs and drinking the whole time. And I just like, I don't like that lifestyle. Like Beverly Hills is like, it is just like a fairy tale world. Like Miami to me is just too, too party. It's just not the life I'd want to live. It reminds me of, it is just like a fairy tale world. Like Miami to me is just too... Too party. It's just not the life I'd want to live. You know what it reminds me of?

It reminds me of Laguna Beach when they would go to Miami. Yeah. And Christian is like in one of the bedrooms with her sunglasses and I'm like so hungry. Oh my gosh. Obviously been partying so much and they're all like, we know you've been doing drugs. Oh yeah, and she's like, no I haven't.

I'm just like hungover, like shut the fuck up. I know, I've always been so lazy. It's like very Alex R, like her life gives me a bit of anxiety, if I'm totally honest at the minute. You know what I was really thinking of Alex R, like why isn't anyone calling her out, like she literally just wants to be Paris Hilton. Sorry, I really like her, but like everything she does,

it's just what Paris Hilton did in the back of the day, like the sunglasses, like party girl, you know when she's like dancing on tables and she's like, it's literally like she, someone in her PR team has been like, we're gonna make you the new Paris. Paris. I mean, she's done it.

She is. She's only gone and fucking done it. I'm taking it home, we love Alex L. We absolutely love her, but like, that life would give me anxiety. It gives me anxiety that she's really young. I know. We're not really young, she's younger than us.

And she looks fucking phenomenal. Always obsessed with the chip tooth. She's just like plunging through, like going to weddings. She's like filing it down. I was like whoa. I know that. But they're veneers. She said they're like fake teeth. Yeah because if you filed your actual tooth it would be like absolutely. So painful. When I used to watch it without putting the volume on it and I was like. I was watching it like like it was like making my skin crawl. Hump day hormones, sorry, let's go back to prep pregnancy. Hump day hormones, still feeling a bit shit in this trimester, not going to lie, low,

low energy, but I have, I've had her before, wonderful Flavia, who does like this amazing lymphatic massage and I've had two massages with her and it's just, it's so amazing. Has it changed? Firstly, like you feel very, cause you get a lot of water retention in this stage. And secondly, it's just unbelievable. You really need to get it. Have you ever had one? No. I'm going to sort you out one. That's going to be my present to you. Present for what?

Just for being a nice person. You're a sweet pea. You'll get one this summer. Why don't we get a couple's massage? And they can come to the house and we can do it together in my house and then have dinner. Guys, going to Sophie's house is like honestly just walking into like the nicest house you've ever been into in your life. It was like-

Yeah, Melissa came there. And we're going to get outdoor furniture on Friday, so then it's like really fun for us because then we can just do all- Gorgeous. Because it's so- Guys, let's not forget that we've all had a summer in a long time. This is the best- This is a great summer. We were saying the last summer that we had, Sophie and I were mincing down Portobello

Road and we were like, this gives us, was it 2022? Or 2021? It's 2022. 2022 summer. It's giving. Okay. Which was the year that Toby and Melissa broke up and me and Melissa, I took on her breakup diet and we just walked around.

I mean, it wasn't necessarily a diet. She was just too anxious to eat. And all I felt like we did was walk because it helped your anxiety to move. So we walked, guys, I'm talking like we didn't. We did 30,000 steps a day. It was like we were at Glastonbury every fucking day. And it was roasting hot.

We wore these bucking stocks. Oh yeah, yeah, the most comfortable shoes in the world. We wore sweaty Betty Jim clothes. Yeah. No, it was the Brandy Melville shorts. Oh yeah, you wore them. I wore sweaty, betty gym clothes. Yeah. With like- No, it was the Brandy Melville shorts. Oh yeah, you wore them. I wore sweaty, betty gym gear. I had a New Balance cap on and we wore the same thing every fucking day.

And we just walked from like- We walked and walked and walked. Notting Hill to Southbank. Like we walked- Oh, we walked from Vauxhall. Yeah, Studio Vauxhall. And we'd walk all the way up to- No, we weren't Vauxhall.

That was when we were in Southbank. Oh my God. Mars wake. We would go to Southwark. Like Waterloo, you're right. Suffolk. We'd walk to Suffolk over the bridge. And then we would walk all the way to this area, Chiltern Street, and go to BXR, climb.

We would then go and eat something. And then we'd go back to yours and we'd mince up and down Portobello. Yeah. And then you'd bump it into Toby down again. And then I'd have a glass of Prosecco. We'd sit at Brasserie, have a glass of Prosecco. It's true. And then what would you have dinner somewhere outside? Also like, don't remember Jamie in those days. I really took you on as like- I remember I was on the back of his bike once.

He picked me up from Attis. Oh yeah, it's true. And we went back to yours. And we would all debrief over like the Toby situation over and over and over again. God, you must have been so- No, cause I really knew you were gonna get back together. Can I just say that the whole time?

I never ever thought it was over. So if you would just go every day like... So I was so invested. If I'd thought it was over, I'd have been like, shut up. Like, come on, we need to move on now. You know, when your friends like blast them, but you're like six months in and like,

we need to stop talking about this. He's moved on. But I knew he hadn't moved on because he would occasionally call me. I remember that. And I'd be like, I don't know. That was a weird time. Anyway, so we just had like a nice little sort of deja vu moment didn't we on Friday, mincing up and down the road.

Oh yeah, the point of that story was that it's not been this hot since 2022. Exactly, this is just an upbeat summer creator and host of How to Fail. It's the podcast that celebrates the things in life that haven't gone right. And what, if anything, we've learned from those mistakes to help us succeed better. Each week, my guests share three failures sparking intimate, thought-provoking and funny conversations. You'll hear from a diverse range of voices sharing what they've learned through their failures. Join me Wednesdays for a new episode each week. This is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment original podcast. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts.

Okay, we've got Dailam Mawaan ready for this Hey, gorgeous girls. I love the pod. I'm hoping you can help me out with some much needed advice. I've been with my boyfriend now for five years. He's 31 and I'm 30. And our relationship has had its ups and downs. He was unfavorable in the past and lied to me about it. I thought we'd work through it and I chose to stay in the relationship, but now I'm beginning to question that decision. Last weekend he went to Alba Farah for his friend's stag do, which I'm fine about, and left him to enjoy himself. When he came home, he seemed happy, but just something fell off. Oh God, you know that gut feeling. I had it instantly. No, I wanted to speak to him about it, but whenever we'd have conversations like this before, he just shuts me down or has a go at me. I know it's wrong,

but I decided to look through his phone whilst he was on a run. Oh God, I saw several messages from his friends on a group chat asking where he was at 3.30 AM. No reply from him. When I casually brought it up, I lied and said one of the other girlfriends had mentioned it. Well done. Perfect. Would have done exactly the same. He claimed he fell asleep in the club. Oh, grow up.

At least get a better fucking cover story. What with the pumping music and the bouts and not going me, let's go. And your friends leave you there like, shut up. This would be a bit more original. And his friends just left him. He had also cleared his cool log and deleted all his messages with one of his friends. This friend was on the trip, newly single and doesn't have any loyalties to me. Fuck.

Then I found a strip club search on his Google Maps. He previously told me there were no strippers, no one went off alone and that they all stay together. Clearly not true. To top it off, he keeps asking me if I'm okay and keeps checking up on me when I'm acting normal. It just seems like guilt, me, he's done something bad. Yeah. I feel totally gaslit and heartbroken from all the lies.

I've always had his back and stuck with him through good and bad. What do you guys think happened and what should I do? I've attached a photo of us for context, right. Where's the photo? Right, can I just say something? I'm devastated because he has cheated. You're fucking stunning. Oh my God, you're gorgeous.

You're absolutely stunning. I'm sorry. You could do better than him anyway. Yeah, fucking sack this shit off. I'm sorry. He's also like really gone out of his way to cheat. I hate him because I literally can feel every part of this for you. Like, I just know that he's cheated, but also there's no concrete evidence. So your mind is being like, but there's no evidence. You still battle with it, don't you? It's funny.

You're so battling with it. And like, what are you going to call him out on? He will literally deny this till the fucking end. He definitely dies. Absolutely. Call his bluff and be like, look, I've had a message from a girl. Yeah. Actually, you know, maybe like, be like, listen, I've heard whisperings from the other girls on the stag of like what their, what their partners have said that they think has happened or what they, what has happened.

Make up a line. I would say, I know you've done something because the girls have told me that you've used on me. I would actually also like, I would get a bag, a sleeping bag or whatever, like a night bag and go and stay at your friend's. So when he comes home, I would be gone and then I would do it over text because he will face to face gaslight you and you will just get so tizzed up because there is an evidence as such that is evidence, there's not concrete evidence he could work his way out of it and like lie his way out of it.

You are just going to get like flustered and then you'll be like, ah, like, cause I'm getting confused. And also cause you're going to lie and say, I think you should call this bluff. And like when he calls you be like, I know what happened. So you've only got one chance of making this right. You tell me the truth or like get out, but leave the house by the time we get out. Listen, I think you've got to, if it was me going through this right this second, okay. I would call all the fucking girlfriends of the boyfriends that are on that stack and be like, or I would drive and

be like, can I come and see you? Hope the boys are there. I really feel like this has happened and I need you to help me. Do I leave this relationship or not? Those boys won't like you to be your face. They won't fucking like. They'll be like, yeah, not. Boys are so shit lying as well.

They will just also be like, being honest. Yeah. They will tell you the truth. Great, great, great. And then you can just also be like being honest. Yeah, they will tell you the truth. Great, great advice, Vanessa. And then you can just go to him like with evidence, like look, I've spoken to X, Y and Z. I know X, Y and Z and we're fucking done. It's hard because you obviously still feel the need to like know more to like leave because you don't quite want to leave yet, but you must. He will forever cheat on you this boy.

We hate. But we love you. But we love you. Keep us updated. You've got this. We're really proud of you for going through his phone because like, you know. It's gotta be done sometimes.

You have the gut feeling. It's like when they walk through the door and you're like, something's happened, something's happened. Yeah. It's funny how you just know, isn't it? It's honestly, girls have such a weird intuition. So number two, hi girls. I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with my first child and I have a very, very, very niche topic to discuss with you both. I'm in the most loving relationship with my husband. He's truly incredible man and treats me better than I could ever have dreamed of.

He is showing me what true love is and throughout our relationship I felt like the most gorgeous woman in the world. I can't bear it. We've been married for six years and due to some fertility issues on my side we never really thought children were on the cards but through love and manifestation here we are. I honestly want to pinch myself because I'm living the life I thought I could never have. No I can't do it. Sorry! I love you so much. This is gorgeous. The issue is I can't stand my husband's smell. Anyway, what's it she's been breaded with?

Don't know. It started three weeks ago and it's gotten so bad that now he can't sleep. He normally has to sleep in the guest room. I feel so guilty and even if he showers ten times a day, I can't stand to be around his scent. It's really common. And I love his smell. Loved.

Sorry, past tense. I still do. But my baby clearly does not. I'm so attracted to him. But honestly, sometimes he hugs me and I want to... My husband went to the dentist to prove he didn't have cavities. Oh my God, peeling scissors in his breath. Oh my God, I love the boys so much.

Cavities because I kept gagging. It sounds funny, but I can't tell him. But I couldn't tell him it's making him feel bad. He makes me feel so beautiful. Not for gagging. And I have so much guilt. Not imagine talking. It's so fucking funny. I can't imagine snuggling him. Sophie, does Jamie also stink to you? No, but listen. Oh, Jesus.

I smell everything. And what's really weird is I know Melissa says she smells, but I honestly have never smelled beer on you once in my whole life. I thought you were going to say, I've never smelled beer like it. No, I've never smelled it, even though she says she smells all the time. It literally doesn't even come near my nose. But Jamie, in this one top that he is like, it's his gym clothes, right? But they get washed every time. He's like, this is brand new clean, but it's, the sense of smell is so strong. I'm like, I can smell your sweat from before the wash.

You know what I mean? And he will be like, he's like, it doesn't smell of anything. It's like laundry. And I'm like, no, it smells of stale sweat. And I gag, it's like stale, smelly grassy sweat. And it's unbearable. But generally his sense of smell is nice to you.

Yeah, his sense is fine to me. but like smells are making me gag a bit. So this is so common. This is so common. Also, how many weeks are you spending? You said 30 weeks. How many weeks have you got left? You've only got about 12 weeks left, 10 weeks left. Once that baby's out, you'll be okay.

You've got it, girl. Don't worry. You've got to laugh at it. Don't feel bad. It's so common. Honestly, show him some TikToks. All my TikToks are about like how the men smell like your husband, you're repulsed by his smell. Really? It's so common.

Even Anna, my cleaner, like, smiles at me, she's like, I don't smell anything. I'm like, the stop stinks of like stale sweat. How are you not smelling it? But like, it's literally like washed at 100 degrees. Anyway, the point is, is that your nose obviously gets like weird senses. So don't, just laugh about it. Tell him you love him loads and be like, Oh my God, but it's, it's really bad that

you're gagging. Like that is a real thing. I have seen this on TikTok. Right. So final bit of advice is just ride the wave. Obviously, you know, it's your pregnancy and these things are so normal, as so you've said. Also, you can just be honest with him and be like, I love you so much. I'm still really fancy about this, it's just the hormones change. It's like really normal. I don't think there's anything to worry about. You love him so much. Sorry, this is the most gorgeous problem to have.

I think you guys are so cute. I think just like you've got to laugh about it and like hold your nose and give him a big hug because you can't like lose the tact on this. Absolutely. That's really important. Can we just read this one sentence again? Yeah. He makes me feel like the most gorgeous woman in the world.

I love him so can we get a photo of you two? And when your baby comes, please send us a photo of your baby. I'm so happy for you. You've not got long. You've really done a great thing. He jokes about it and just push through. Yeah, we're really happy for you. Just be a mouth breather so you don't smell him. Oh yeah, what do you do? They sleep in separate bedrooms. God, I'm just like, I can't imagine how bad the breath smells to her.

It must be absolutely positive. Imagine like to actually gag. Like you really got to be like honking. It must be so- Are you sure he doesn't have lapses? At this point, maybe there's another issue going on that he needs to address. Imagine she gives birth and it's still there. That would be tragic. Well, at that point we maybe need to reassess where the smell's coming from

because obviously something's changed. Oh my God, it was so funny. Me and Melissa were in South Jersey the other day and she was like, it stinks. She goes, it smells of a fish counter. And I was convinced it was me. She goes straight away, she goes, it's me, it's a pregnancy vagina.

And I was like, it's not fucking not. She goes, sweat everywhere. And then we were walking. She goes, can you still smell that? I'm like, no, it's gone. It was in the other room. She's like, I'm just convinced. At 4pm that day, I was like, are you sure it wasn't me? Just sent her a text. I was like, are you sure that wasn't me? She sent me a whole voice. Like, you know, everything smells and you're pregnant, so it's okay if it was me and it was me.

And I'm like, it wasn't you. I'm still convinced. It really took me like, it was really odd. That was like serious. What are those thoughts she's saying? Intrusive thoughts. I for like a whole day was like, oh, it's like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this.

I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not going to be able to do this. I'm like, I'm not you. I'm still convinced it really took me like, it was really odd. That was like serious, what are those thoughts you say? Intrusive thoughts. I for like a whole day was like, oh, it's me and she didn't tell me

and she was being too sweet. Because you kept saying it's fish counter. I was like, we're literally in a matcha store. There's no fish. I walked into that makeup section, fish counter. That whole makeup section. And then the match section stunk as well. But matcha smells of fish sometimes don't you think I know

Someone told someone said to me matcher tastes of and smells of fish and grass Fishy grass and then now sometimes on the off day. I'm like can taste the fish you undertone Okay, right. Dilemma three. I was wondering if you had any advice for my dilemma for some context I've been with my partner since we were 15 and 16, and we're now in our early 20s, sweet. I couldn't be happier and our relationship has truly flourished, and I see a really amazing future with him.

However, there is just one thing that really gets me, his relationship with my parents. It feels really often they've just never been able to get on with each other as well as I would like them to. It's not like there's tension, it's just awkward. Oh, I hate that. This is such a big thing for me as I adore my family and I adore my boyfriend too. I feel like I'm completely in the middle as it's not just him that's the issue. I'm aware my parents could make a lot more effort too. Whenever I try to bring up with him, it turns into an argument with me getting upset because

of how personal this is. I've always gotten on so well with his family and really put the effort in. I just wish he could do the same for me. Do you have any advice? I know what this is about. Right. When you meet parents when you're 15 and 16, you never ever can have a relationship like Toby and Jamie meeting them at 30.

100%. Even Tom Berry, who met my dad when he was, that's my sister's husband, when he was 18 years old, for a long time had a different relationship than say Jamie, because to him, he was a boy and my dad was- He's still that scary man, adult, parent that you're meeting. Scary man. Whereas Jamie came in at 35 and made-

So confident. So confident, made best friends with my dad. Your boyfriend will feel intimidated by your parents. They are your parents, that's your big scary dad and your mom. He won't feel comfortable sat with them or chatting to them. I get it because I had that when I was younger with people. I'd be fucking terrified of my ex's parents because they were adults to me. Yeah. So right.

But whereas now I'm not scared at all of Jamie's parents. Classroom is like friends as well as parents, you know? Absolutely. And so that's what it is. So how do we get over this hurdle? And they see him as like a child. A child still. And they've seen him like fully be that awkward person. When he has kids and when you propose and when they start to see him as like a father or adult or a husband

and they the relationship will shift and the dynamic will shift but you're out you I mean you are really young still yeah when I was 20 I acted really coy around my family I mean Toby and I went we were both 24 and like when I look back then I I'm like, that's still really young, but 20 years, like, that was such a... Well, we both had relationships at 20 and I was very caught around my ex's parents. Yeah, me too. Like, I really liked them, but I was like into, I didn't want to do anything wrong because they were adults. I can't give him three more years and it will all change.

It's a confidence thing. If he goes in there and he's like, Robert, so nice to see you, right? I bought you this wine. I don't know. You start to have banter with them and like talk about adult stuff. Whereas right now you're still, you're still, as you say, so young, 20, like Jesus. Yeah. You'd be in a normal job at that point. Yeah. I've guessed, no, you're still at uni. Well, yeah, you're very young and like, you know, like it's still at that stage where like you don't, you're starving at the parents house, but you don't dare say it or go and make yourself a snack. You're so polite, you're like, no, just have the dust off the side.

Yeah, they're like, do you want a sucker? You're like, no, no, no, I'm fine. Like stomach caving in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. God, I don't look back at those days. I was so scared of parents. I sometimes think that I would redo like my boyfriend's parents, like time with them and I would nail it now. I know me too. They didn't see the true me and sometimes I'd say things and I was like what's just come out my mouth? I remember once I've told you about the coop story with I had the champagne in the coop but I just... No go on, tell me. I overpoured, I sipped and it overpoured because it's a coop but like one of these ones that's just like this. Yeah. And I didn't know what to do. So I just left it there. And like.

Down your face. What? Who were you talking to? The mum and then the sister. Oh no wait. I would be. What? It was just dribbling down your face? I just left it thinking it's see-through. So they won't see it. Oh my god. That's so sweet. No, you must have been so sweet. But the thing is, is when you're shy, you come across as rude. That's what I don't like the little. And just a bit awkward. That's why I know when I read this, I was like, I know because when I, oh my God, and let me tell you, when I, my other ex, when I was like, that was before uni, so it must have been like 17. I really lovely family. Really. He was a twin. Gorgeous. Really cool.

The sister was very cool at school, gorgeous, gorgeous girl. And she was dating this guy, he was really cool. Anyway, we had a Sunday race at the house. When I tell you guys, I don't think I opened my mouth for the intaguration. And I still look back at that and I'm like, it was fear. I was petrified, but I was mute for the entire thing. I think I was like, every time I went there, I was just mute. I wouldn't speak and if I did, I would be so weird and awkward and like, oh, it gives me the ick. So that's why I know what he feels.

I so get it. I also think some people are just good for parents and some aren't. I remember someone being like, yeah, parents is my bag. I'm good with that. Don't worry though. It's not, he's not doing anything wrong. Just think he's probably intimidated and he's never going to say that and it Don't worry though. Like it's not, he's not doing anything wrong. I just think he's probably intimidated and like he's never going to say that and it comes off as rude, but it's not.

Yeah. And don't like make it a bigger thing because you'll make it into an issue and it's really not. It's just one of those growing problems, growing pains. Growing pains. But we love you. We love you. Hope it's okay. Send us pictures of the family and the boyfriend. We love a picture. Okay guys, that's the end of the episode. Love you so much. Thank you for listening. We love you so much. And also, if you want to subscribe to Wednesday's podcast on YouTube

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