Wednesdays - 97: What really happened at Sophie’s Hen Do!

Episode Date: February 22, 2023

This week we’re spilling all the goss from Sophie’s hen! And of course we dive into your dilemmas about boys who haven't made the move after 4 months (!!) and whether to tell a girl she’s been cheated on. Plus a VERY juicy follow up from a listener...This week we tried a non alcoholic MargaritaWe rated it a 5/10! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Restrictions apply. See full terms at canada.casino.fandu.com. Please play responsibly. Melissa are you a doctor? I want to be but I'm not I'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts in anything in fact we just chat a lot of shit and we love giving you guys advice

but as we said do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help We love giving you guys advice. But as we said. We love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Yo, Sister X. We've got loads of fun things to talk about. Celeb gossip. Can you talk to me about the Brooklyn Pelt situation?

The father of Nicola Pelt is suing the wedding planners. God, why do they need to do that? They're so rich anyway just leave it also I actually think like surely things are bound to just go wrong yeah yeah

I don't think I've put it in a contract being like if one thing goes wrong I'm getting my deposit back deposit back like it's going to go wrong yeah well no no

it might not but sometimes things change you know sometimes things don't go to plan we've got Rihanna Superbowl oh yeah so she apparently she was using her fenty

products like whilst she was like doing the performance or whatever quite funny get the merch in there pushing out the content have you tried fenty is don't know no i haven't i'm such a creature of habit i always stick to the same old things same same same i really i do want to try rare beauty and fenty do you know what i did try the other day that I made a purchase of? Rosie Inc. What's that? Oh, Rosie Huntington. Huntington Whiteley.

What is it? It's lovely. It's just a blush. No, like a cream blush. This is a cream blush. Oh, it looks like a powder brush. No, it's really good and it lasts like a really long time. Well, they all do because you literally do one finger on each.

It's like a good packaging. It's solid. Like, you know, sometimes they... Skims. We should probably try that at some point oh my god kim's skin skin yeah but the only thing is it's not medical grade i know it just doesn't appeal to me with hayley bieber's stuff it's not medical i would love some of that road lip balm give me some of that stuff do you think it's as good as it yeah as everyone makes out well probably not it's just a bit image isn't it but i bet it's just lovely to have in your bag let's give it a go give it a test i don't think you can ever get it yeah that's the problem with all these things like it's just sold out like straight away they do one tweet boom it's gone i know it's almost crazy they go into so much effort to make them so cool because then they're

just gonna sell out anyway then it like exhausts me because then i'm like i'm never even gonna bother trying i want to be able to like order my new stuff as soon as i run out like i can't wait for the next drop i will say skims is amazing skims yeah the underwear and like the pajamas oh my god yeah it's incredible it's the best thing in the entire skims is so good and that took me how to dress a woman that took me like two years to try i was like i'm not gonna bother even attempting to like order it but that's not even like sell that you can go to self-dates they have it all there in Paris never in my size but no really it's a bit higuchi piguchi

yeah it's a bit higuchi but I remember you can never really get like the same set in two different colours it's like you can just about find one set

okay right next little bit Austin Butler everyone keeps talking about the fact that he's still talking in this like the Elvis accent

the Elvis Presley accent sorry was that your impression go on I haven't seen the film I think I mean your voice is a muscle right so technically like you can change it so if you train it over a two-year period you can't change your voice your voice is a muscle if you train it over a two-year period, then obviously it's going to probably still sound a bit like it. But you know how some families all sound the same? It's because you all copy each other. But my muscles are not the same as my dad's.

Oh, so Toby's brother and him have the same voice, and it's spooky. Yeah, they do. My sister said that. Yeah. They all kind of sound the same. So it is a muscle. But that's why when you have singing training, you're training your voice, right? Because My sister said that. Yeah. They all kind of sound the same. So like it is a muscle. But that's why when you have like singing training,

like you're training your voice, right? Because it's a muscle. It's like going for a workout. So we could train ourselves to be able to be a singer? Technically, yes. I think a lot of it is obviously genetics. It's like someone's obviously more capable of being a muscly person. No, I don't believe this.

I'm being serious. Your voice is a muscle. So I could just be Rihanna tomorrow. You actually sound very different to when I first you like think about think about how people's voices change as they grow up I'm fascinated I'm gonna go to muscle voice muscles oh my god sorry we need to talk about machine gunga limb and things yeah tell me about this I need to know more all I know is that there was rumors of them like breaking up and she like posted like quite a cryptic thing like something about like disloyalty or something on your Instagram

but then she like deleted her Instagram I love how melissa looks around the room for a backup she's like i always do that on my validation so megan basically released a statement saying there's been no third party interference in this relationship of any kind she wrote in a notes app screenshot which is a bit weird and that includes but it's not limited to actual humans dm's ai bots or succubus demons i mean they're quite weird so what she's saying that like they're shagging ai balls i mean she's obviously joking but odd so she basically put up a really cryptic like she put up a picture and the caption was quite cryptic something about dishonesty or like whatever maybe it was one of her friends and then there was obviously all this speculation and then i think she came out and was

like no there was nothing going on and i don't think they have technically fully broken up i think they're trying to work on their relationship they're still going to therapy etc i think he's got like a lot of stuff going on and she's always very very very supportive and i think it's just probably quite hard i don't know i just could never go over those two it's a couple bars okay right you have to read out this next item basically guys i don't know if you remember obviously you remember if you're a good listener because this has been the best story we've ever had right into us it started off with the girl talking about how her boyfriend they've been together for just under a year they normally have a really great sex life they've suddenly

stopped having sex he won't have sex there he won't kiss her he's got this new job keeps talking about these two other girls yeah and we gave her the advice well toby gave her the advice to be like just have a conversation with him i'm sure it's fine then she followed up with us and basically said that she went away on holiday had a conversation with him it was all seeming okay she went on holiday came back from holiday snooped through his emails and found uber receipt at like 10 p.m at night sketch and there was no receipt back and she didn't recognize the address and he like never said anything to her about where he was going blah blah blah we gave her some sneaky advice and she's followed up with us on the last you have to read it i'm so over the moon hi again hopefully this will be the last update on my cycle with this boy it really helped lighten up the

situation hearing you guys talk about it on the pod and cleared my head so here's how it all panned out i'm currently looking to move to a new place i don't live with him we both live with roommates oh this okay fine fine that was for context so i told him i was being housed in the area of the uber receipt but wasn't sure what was the vibe you are so clever that is genius what the vibe was there and asked if he knew anyone living around there to get their advice oh my god you're so clever you are so clever you are so bright he said no he didn't know anyone and didn't know the area well alarm bells were ringing i then went and snooped through those two girls social media and was able to find out the general areas they lived

in but didn't match up it was some intense deep diving that i'm not proud of but i have to say i was some it was some excellent detective work i was still feeling so unsettled about it all. Guys, imagine if he literally... He's doing nothing and we're just winding ourselves up about it. You know sometimes Ubers just put the wrong address on. They don't. I was still feeling so unsettled about it all, so I drove to the house,

ordered a pizza under a fake name to the house and waited to see who would answer the door. No, no, this is next level. You are so funny. Oh my God. I waited in my car for about 30 minutes and finally arrived

and it was one of his male friends from university who lives with all the boys. I slid into a conversation with my boyfriend. He did mention going on a night out with him a while, a while's house away

and had gone to his house for drinks beforehand. No, no. Terrible. Oh my God. It's been a big relief but also a big lesson to stop being so insecure of myself and thinking problems it's been a big relief but also a big lesson to stop being so insecure of myself and thinking

problems from old relationships are going to happen in new ones there's also been a silver line to all of this on valentine's he asked me to move in with him and said i was asking him questions about looking for a house it made him decide we should just live together also i've since met those two girls and they were really complimentary telling me all about how he's always talking about my work and how excited they were to me we're awful people we're insecure psychopaths thanks so much for your help and hopefully i'll have no more dilemmas for you guys anytime soon a tiny whiny okay we love you so much and the time you know what she really did us proud though you did us so proud you did us i wouldn't have done anything differently i wouldn't have done anything

differently i give you full 10 out of 10 stars you've done that without actually questioning him and being like yeah he will never know all you did was a little bit of like, right, let's just get my facts, let's just get my ducks in a row. Let's just order a pizza. You did quick thinking on your toes. It was also the good question about like, oh, I'm kind of looking in this area.

Like, do you know, like so smart. All happened for a reason. Wish I could be that smart. And now that's just taught us a lesson and he doesn't even have to know that you were worrying. Do you know what I mean? Until he hears this and then... He won't even have to know that you were worrying. Do you know what I mean? Until he hears this and then... He won't hear this. Okay, right.

Dilemma one. This is a fresh dilemma. We've got a fresh, juicy-ass dilemma. Sorry. I don't know. Oh my God, it's from a boy, I think. We love the boy you are. Okay, right.

I've been with my girlfriend for just under seven years. Well, good for you. We got together when we were quite young 16 17 and the first three years were amazing and have nothing bad to say about them but after we moved in together we started to have sex less and less when we first were together we were having sex nearly every time we saw each other and now it's lucky to be having it every three or four months oh god every three or four months i think every three or four times a month i've grown tired of trying to trying asking her because i feel like i'm forcing her into something

she doesn't want she says it hurts her or other excuses at different times i have asked her to go to the doctors with or without me and she refuses i have voiced my concerns to her on two different occasions and then we have sex that night and then it goes back to back to normal I'm very sexually active person and so was she is it worth having another conversation at risk of it all ending in tears I love her more than anything but the complete lack of intimacy at 23 has really started to affect my mental health I think I'm one of the few men who thoroughly enjoy your podcast I really hate you can help me and don't know what else i can oh my god i'm sorry but you're lovely like he's doesn't even say anything because he loved her so much fair enough like you that's that's quite tough look she might either have

just lost her sex drive girls some and like if she's on the pill that can also get rid of your libido yeah it really did for me actually Yeah like it can really affect your But just in general like people have high libidos People have low libidos I thought you were going to say three or four times a month And I was like that's maybe like once a week That's not horrendous But every three or four months

To be together for seven years and have sex once a week Is absolutely fine Yeah but three or four months it's not Yeah that's probably not that normal So you've had the conversation twice and so she always makes an excuse but then you have it that nice it's almost like okay i'll put out tonight just because we've had the conversation then she falls straight back into like that same gosh i just don't think it's really hard because ultimately like this if she's saying it's hurts and she should definitely go to a doctor yeah but she's refusing to and he's saying i'll go with you or you go by yourself what you want to do she refuses

such a difficult one it's almost like you've tried you've done all the right things and it's now almost like what is the next step because you can't bear to break up with her because you love her but no when you don't need to break up over this because it's not like you know people are gonna be so in love it doesn't sound like she's not in love with you she might just honestly be going through a moment you haven't together for seven years like she might just really have literally lost all of her sex drive or she might have something going on like you know sis or anything like that that's making it painful for her to have sex and she does need to go to a doctor and maybe even if she just spoke to them and said you know like her sex drive really maybe they'd chip her on a different pill or if she's not on a pill or whatever.

Yeah, I think that you need to maybe have the conversation again. I think three or four months. I'm a little bit worried about you, kind of thing. Yeah, I wouldn't even say I'm a little bit worried because she might feel, like, a bit attacked or, like, a bit insecure. It's just so hard, though, because he's already had this conversation twice. It's almost like sometimes people aren't that... No or four months like you're gonna have to just even if you're not sex drive you just like that that's like unfound the boy a little bit or the other partner but then also

like i get it that it's unfound her and like it is really annoying when you don't want to have sex and someone's asking you to have sex you're like oh, ugh, God, this is it. It's so difficult. I'm going to be so cutthroat and just say sometimes, like, sometimes love isn't enough and you need everything else. And if that's not... No, I would say love's a lot more than sex. I agree. But love's not always enough.

Like, if this is getting to a point where you're like, it's all you're thinking about, what are you going to... I think if they've been together seven years, I wouldn't break up just because she's not... I would think there's a solution. I'm not saying to break up. I'm saying sometimes people just have to accept, like... You're not going to have that full passion.

You're not going to have sex. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Like, what else? He's already tried to have the conversation that you've done everything right. Obviously, it's worth having another conversation, but it's...

Yeah, it's definitely... I don't know what else you can do. Either you just accept, okay, fine, we're never going to have sex, I'll be with the girl that I love, or I want something else from our relationship. Like, at this point, we're just friends, and I love you,

but, like, that's what defines a relationship from a friendship, right? Really is, like, the intimacy part of it. Yeah, I think it's definitely worth having another conversation, and just maybe, like, just, like, it's so hard because I just know, like, you don't want to make her cry. But I agree.

It's also such a terrible conversation to try and have. And also... The thing is, though, I feel like it's much better coming... It's fine. It's easier from this way around. I think it's harder for a woman to have that conversation with a man for some reason because I think that they can then feel so emasculated and then it turns into this yeah but I think girls can feel really defensive they're like well I'm fine you know

gosh it's so hard but I think you do just ultimately in relationships you've got to just be honest with each other there's something that's worrying you and you know you're affecting your mental health like you have to communicate things and you know it might end in tears but tears aren't always a bad thing you might resolve it you might be able to work something out you might get to the bottom of it like sweeping things under the carpet don't always work and like you love her so much and just make sure you reassure her and she knows that and I'm sure she would and you seem like a really nice person so yeah you do seem like a great guy dilemma two so my dilemma has been going on for months just before Christmas I went to a sports social with my housemate it was love island themed so got zip tied to football boys my flatmate got zip tied to this tall muscly football guy my type but they weren't vibing and

my flatmate could tell we were so we did a switcheroo and the banter was flowing instantly. Lovely. We were getting with each other and dancing in the club all night, even grabbing my bum. In the club. But then the minute it came to bedtime, he wouldn't touch me at all, not even a kiss, just a spoon. I love a spoon.

Initially, my flatmates and I came to the conclusion he was being a gentleman and was a little bit shy. Yeah. Yeah. I shortly after went home for Christmas and we messaged the whole time, which was very flirty and he was the one who would initiate

and carry on the conversation as I was still a little bit cautious about messaging him and I wasn't sure if he was into me. So I came back to uni and this situation keeps happening with the same guy, no kissing when we get back to mine.

The only thing that kept me interested was the fact that we would hang out the next morning. Obviously it was confusing. The more he would stay over and then nothing would happen what this is really odd it was last saturday when my flatmate took it into her own hands and went out to him in the club and asked if he was into me or not as he was starting to look like he was using me like an airbnb due to the lack of moves being made he responded i definitely like her but again no moves were made that night.

What do you think I should do? I feel like waiting around is a bit foolish as I could be wasting my time as I have only, as I have four months left till I graduate and he's a second year.

Would love the advice I feel like I'm starting to catch feelings but don't want to waste my time. I think that's really weird. It's the fact that it's just not even a kiss. No,

that's not, the whole thing's weird. The whole thing's really odd. Why are you just coming back to sleep in my bed? It's really odd. Yeah, yeah. Four's not the whole thing's weird like why are you just coming back to sleep in my bed it's really odd yeah yeah full on sin no that's like giving me the ick i don't know why yeah that's weird like where's his bedroom what's wrong with his room like why is it always your house yeah why is it always your house maybe his bedroom's got mold or something and he just needs his place to grab no very strange very strange just sack it

off you're you're about to graduate second year. You need some fun time ever. Be single if you can throughout it. I so agree. Neil, yeah. You're not,

you don't sound like that in tips. Nah. That's odd. This is just strange behaviour. You need to have a wild bath. What, he just like,

maybe he's so tired. No, but it's the fact that he's not even kissing her. Like, fair enough, wake up in the morning then you kiss and have sex. I don't know. Yeah, that's the morning.

Why do they hang out in the morning and they don't even have sex then? It's so odd. It's really strange. I mean, a you get kissed and have sex i don't know that's the morning why do they hang out in the morning they don't even have sex then it's so it's really strange i mean a morning kiss is really rank when you don't know somebody in general but like sorry it's weird that you don't try boys just try don't they they don't care they just go if i was just getting with a guy and woke up in the morning and there was still no kiss i'd be like fuck he doesn't like me i'd be like this is that it would be one thing to like give me a lovely kiss before i go home and be like no this is can i take you out for a date tomorrow but no it's just like kissing in the club going back to yours and sleeping where's the dates not this whole thing's a red flag the whole thing's the

ick don't like it i don't like it but then i know this is sound this is like just where my head's going right now which is maybe a bit strange but like maybe he has like a willy problem yeah I was going to say an STI or something where he I don't know

oh no now I feel so bad you never know I was just thinking like maybe that is a reason like maybe he's got an issue somewhere lurking and he's just a bit like ah I can't go that step further

because oh no I don't know like a terrible human well look if he does either way do you might have ed yeah be really lovely to him just be like look there's certain other things that I I would like to do and if like just have the conversation like I just kind of want to know where we're at because I kind of want to kiss you or like sleep with you or whatever like I fancy you a lot and I think you're great. Why won't you kiss me? Yeah.

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Please play responsibly. So I'm in the most amazing relationship of three years and we've got a little dash hound puppy. However, before we met, I had a crazy summer of fun. Hot girl summer vibes. During this crazy time in my life, one night in my hometown i got with a guy after a night of kissing an average kisser may i add and non-stop drinks being brought for me i

proceeded to ask how he was getting home you'll never guess what he said he said his words exactly his girlfriend was picking me up no we live together would you like a lift home quite funny for context for context we live next to each other. What the fuck? At the cheek of him. As soon as he said this, I was riddled with guilt. I feel like such a bad person and literally would never want to ruin any relationship. How could he kiss me all night knowing his girlfriend was picking him up in an hour or so? No, maybe it was a joke.

Anyway, after this comment, we parted ways, obviously without a left home. Not my vibe. I obviously confronted him and he said he was out of order for cheating on his girlfriend trying to earn back my girl code badge the plot thickens dot dot dot the next morning my friends and i debriefing the evening and we stalked this poor girl on the social media turns out we have over a hundred mutual friends and are following each other but didn't properly know her just know of her if you get me i contemplated messaging her but my young immature mind stupidly thought i wouldn't get involved now four years later i'm regretting this dot dot dot a few weeks into getting with my now boyfriend the guy messaged me to say he'd sorted things out with his girlfriend and if i wanted to

give things a go. What? What? Social media said differently. They were still together. Oh, wait, hold on. He said he sorted things out with his girlfriend, but he means, I guess he meant that he'd, like, sacked the girlfriend off. Social media said differently.

They were still together. She was posting pictures of him in bed, cuddling up that same day. Fast forward four years. Today, I've literally just seen on social media that this guy's proposed to his same girlfriend he cheesed on with me. What the fuck? I think being in a long-term relationship myself, I put myself in her shoes and I'd want to know if my fiancée cheesed on me four years ago. Or maybe she knows, question mark.

No, surely not. Maybe I'm not the only girl he's done it to, question mark. I feel terribly guilty and a part of me wants to tell her no no i've spoken to my boyfriend about this and i agree with him that i shouldn't get involved but there's a part of me that feels horrendous for this poor girl no no leave it leave it no she's just got engaged you never know also i do think people change he might have been a lot younger four years ago you can't just pop up and go and then six months later and like you know however many years later he might have really grown up and like become a bit more mature and was like fuck i made such a stupid mistake when i was younger i'm so i'm such a twat and i realize how much of a sick girl i've got and i'm gonna propose and marry her

you never know you just can't or the girlfriend's okay with it and kind of just turns a blind eye that happens a lot in relationships like we just wanna i hope not i think it does well look i just personally don't think unless you you and him like were dating and had like a big relationship like you kissed in the club it's not your place you can't really go and be like look you don't like i know the message the follow-up message that he was like oh we've broken up and then they were that's just quite shady and shit but like he's obviously a shady and shit guy you're not friends with them i know that like that's not very nice yeah morally or ethically right thing to say but i just don't think you can just pop up in their life and be like oh fyi four years ago this happened it's like well why didn't you tell me four years ago then why are you telling me now

i'm engaged and what's she gonna do with that information i like if someone said four years ago i would almost not believe it if someone said to me four years ago, this happened in a club. I think she's got proof, doesn't she? Oh, yeah, because of the message. Look, I so get where you're coming from, and morally, you are correct. Like, we should be telling the girl, but I also think it might cause more damage

than good at this point. It's been too long. Also, like, maybe just unfollow them and, like, don't worry about them. Like... Yeah. Just enjoy your own lovely boyfriend. Just enjoy your lovely lovely boyfriend just enjoy your

lovely life your it was four years ago you sounded like you were at uni yeah I think we just move on from it I agree but like I get the moral dilemma I do get it when you see them engage you're like what the fuck but like boys are silly and they make mistakes and they're young so I think it might just might have just been that, hopefully. Yeah, it's just not really your place to worry. You just get out. I agree. You just, out of sight.

Irrelevant, irrelevant. Are we so bad? No, he's irrelevant to you. He's irrelevant to you and so is she. Exactly. If he's done it more recently, like the truth will always come out. Like she'll find out through something. She'll find out through her friends.

She'll find out through someone else. But if it's happened more recently, there's a reason why this hasn't come about and it's been four years do you know what I mean yeah or they've sorted it out and they found it

or she found the text and they've worked through it and then you're gonna pop up and she'll be like I already knew that and we've worked through this like who are you yeah yeah yeah

can you not yeah yeah have you got any not so single diaries we're going away to Val d'Azer with a lot of my friends and we're all gonna stay

in an apartment together which is oh you're not staying at yours yeah yeah but they're all staying in yours yes everyone there's 10 people staying in mine you're lying every room is full deadly serious where are your parents they're not there we kicked them out you're joking no I was like mom dad is okay if you leave and then we can stay in the yep 10 people 10 people and there's seven boys down the road in a in a hotel it's going to be so much fun when is it I'm going on Sunday colossal it's gonna be huge that's and it's for a week and it's just gonna be wild I'm kind of dreading it i'm like i know i know i know i'm gonna go buy loads of charcoal tablets and like detox tablets yeah yeah yeah you must also there's something about the slopes you do just walk out and you're like oh clean oh god i'm

gonna be so drunk all the time yeah lovely but it's gonna be so fun and also like you're burning you're burning off like what you're drinking because you're skiing and like you feel like you're earning your like your drinks yeah ski all morning lovely i'm such a fan of the ski i'm not skiing if it's snowing like no thank you ski all morning and then like a long boozy lunch coco's lovely so oh my god were you there when jamie staggers no you just miss each other he goes a week after you that is so annoying i would have loved for you to have been there when chaperone that would have been stunning you could have got binoculars got the phone out could have really kept a close eye you could still go back out my parents can do that

for you stunning stunning she can she can go on the little i'll be literally on facetime to nickle the whole time okay mine is my brazil brazilla oh my god guys we had her number numero uno it was so fun and boy did melissa pull all the stops out i didn't really do that much yes you did you did so much she's got little flowers really well and she got little candles and she still have them in your flat yes in the exact same place as you left them because you came back and spruced my flat up before we went to the electric yeah you were like right let's quickly spruce it up and then you just sat down with a glass of rose I was like I'll finish I just put the candles on the coffee table yeah and you know you moved my like veil into a corner of the room with all Bobby's toys and I saw it earlier I was like with all the margaritas in there and I was like

what's this doing here good job she's not found it oh my god sorry anyway yeah so this we had we had a blast we had so much fun Melissa honestly bestest friend ever you did so well it was so great should we talk through the itinerary yeah yeah yeah so we went to well I actually messed up and booked um did you even call Daphne yeah yeah and tried to fix it and they were like we can't do it and I was like surely we can just squeeze another chair on basically I, I forgot, I just looked at our group chat. Sophie obviously wasn't in the group chat. And I was like, six participants, great. So it's six people, and I forgot Sophie wasn't in the group chat anyway.

So I didn't book it for seven, I only booked it for six. I called them up, panicking, they couldn't change it. And I was like, well, I've got a week. I'm sure there's something I can book instead. So I booked Stanley's as a backup, called Daphne's every day, until like two days before they still couldn't do it. No, you didn't! And I was like, it's fine. But then actually, one of the girls couldn't make the hen anyway, so we could have actually a backup called Daphne's every day until like two days before they still couldn't do it and I was like it's fine but then actually one of the girls couldn't make the hen anyway so we could have actually still gone to Daphne's. Do you know what I thought Stanley was better because we were so loud. We were very loud. We would have been told off a lot. We would have felt really out of place also it's like hellishly more expensive.

Is it? Yeah our meal was actually really reasonable. We had so much champagne loads of cocktails it was lovely to the champagne my meal was delicious as well we all had that lovely white fish you had salmon something yeah i well i actually had norovirus on the wednesday before which was ideal jamie and i went to so farmhouse for valentine's day and i didn't leave the room once guys i have never been so sick both ends just so you can understand how romantic it was and the whole time i was like god jamie's fucking hell he's so lucky maybe i've got like food poisoning and then just as we're leaving the grumbling the tumble it's set in wait how did you get back to london drove and he was literally peeking the whole time he was like oh my god no that's horrible and then he literally

went out that night he was absolutely fine he's a anyway. Anyway, the hen do was really good. So then we went, so then we, so that was at Stanley's lunch. And then we went on to the Feeney into their private room, which Tim very kindly sorted out for us. And it was so beautiful. I went there before our lunch and set it up. Isn't it such a stunning room? It's such a stunning room.

The fire. It was very Soho House vibes. It was chandelier. It was stunning. Like, that's really underrated. Like, so nice. Like, I would do a birthday there i'm the same and it has a little like bar in there and then live bentley did like

some hilarious like striptease dance for us that was honestly the best entertainment we've ever had she was mvp of the night oh god she was so funny i don't think i've cried off that i know we were just smacking each other yeah it was like it wasn't even just like it was three minutes it was a good 20 minutes of just straight laughter I was like my face

in agony from like smiling so hard I know I'm almost so sad it's over like I want Libby to just constantly be around me

I know just honestly that girl is just one of a kind entertainment yeah it was it was phenomenal and it was also really good

like the dancing I was like why she was doing like handstands. I was like, why are you actually really good? It was so good and unreal. Like, it was just the whole thing. To the music, it was like, have you rehearsed this?

I know, it was so bizarre. So good. She's done that before. Tristan's a lucky lad. Yes, he is. He's a lucky, lucky lad. Oh, anyway, it was like the best night ever, so. We did a little booty game where we got all the boys.

Melissa got every boy's bums photoed. The boyfriends' bums photo. So I made a really joked group chat with all the boyfriends and husbands of like the girls that were attending the hen. To send in a photo of their bum. And then we played this game called Guess the Bums. And the person who gave me this idea was Toby Watkins' mum. She's genius. I know, it's so good.

And it was honestly the best Valentineentine's day ever for me because i just had all these like guys and i was like i promise i'm not a pervert oh my god sophie got 10 out of 10 sophie guessed every bum don't ask me how so i made a little like thing i told you i've got a weird thing with like eyes like i can tell things sophie had vision sophie had to guess we'd have read sophie's guesses out and then everyone had to rate whose bum was the best and it was like just so great. And Sophie guessed everyone first. But it would have also been Toby's

because I didn't vote. Also, someone voted twice. I think it was Emily. What? Emily or Liv voted twice. Also, Emily was like dying over Toby's butt. She's like, whose is this? To be fair, he's got a big old ass, doesn't he?

He's got like real big dimples either side yeah not like dimples like bone dimples almost yeah like bone dimples like almost like a cup he'll be so upset he's got really heavy no he's got hippie hips no he does not so he's got lovely butt no he's got the best one they all had a lovely one but jamie won um anyway we then also went to the phoenix and we broke every single piece of furniture in there no we didn't yeah but they helped us they fixed it shit every time we move the table claps it was because it's because it was one of those tables that sort of has like a glass no no the separation like it's not connected to the legs and it's it's done by balancing it so when we tried to move it then collapse the legs down it's like a collapsible table it was like a

big chunky mirror table and i was like this mirror is going to crack and it's all of us will have seven years bad luck but it didn't it was fine it was so fine it was fine then we went to the electric no then we went to yours had some rosy had rosé. It was a bit of a shambles up situation. We did our makeup a bit. We did our makeup, touched up. Left for them. Went to The Electric. Met the boys.

Met the boys. Then went to the lake. Then we went to Verity's. Then we went to Verity's. And then Jamie went home because he had radio the next day. And me and everyone else went to Lolo. And then I did a Houdini and left. In bed by 2.30 I was.

You must have been in bed by 2. No, I was in bed by 1. You live quite far away compared to me. I live up the road from Lolo. I went to Toby's. Oh, no, I didn't. You didn't? I watched you.

I had to make sure she was safe at home, safe and sound. She watched me on by my bed. She was drunk. We haven't drank our non-alcoholic margarita because it is only 10 a.m but we still have no alcohol in it so we probably should give it a try you should give it a try oh my god i think i might have cystitis guys so i'm just staying off it we've got to be honest we're all friends here this is this is a safe space this is a safe space this is a distilled coastal botanicals pentride adrift

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I mean a margarita non-alcoholic or alcoholic at 10 in the morning is probably not the one is it it's a punchy flavour like that's what I will say it's very floral

right we're rating this a solid 5 because it's just not for me I would say margaritas are quite punchy anyway i really just have them when i'm like really craving you have to be so in the mood for a margarita or you would just for me it's got to be on ice and it's got to be spicy and it's got to be perfectly done if it is too like too sweet too sweet and like syrupy i'm not there's no worse taste in the world i agree well there is tripe would be worse what's that like cow's stomach oh what the hell sophie i thought we were talking about an alcoholic drink it's like there'd be a work alcoholic drink i once tried

tripe when i was um younger because it was like a tapas in spain and my dad like paid me five pounds to try this thing i was like oh what is it five euros and he was like it's a tribe cast not like wait do they sell it in restaurants well this is yeah in Spain like really tapas-y but I'm going for a really nice tapas on Friday I'll talk to you about it next week okay guys I hope you enjoyed this episode love you so much We'll see you next time. a ticket to somewhere you don't need a fancy parka, or just be responsible and top up your retirement fund. Plus, move any other eligible account and we'll give you a 1% match. Minimum $15,000 transfer. Register by March 15th.

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