Wednesdays - 98. Melissa's MASSIVE wardrobe malfunction at her friend's wedding 😱

Episode Date: August 5, 2025

Hey Tinies!Melissa's just come back from influencer Bronte King's dreamy wedding in Croatia and it was a ride!! From an outfit disaster to an emergency trip to the doctors, Melissa's been through it. But don't worry, she lived to tell the tale (and still had a lovely, lovely time).Meanwhile, Sophie's rewatching Vampire Diaries and let's just say, it's having an effect on her!! So, the big question is: Are you Team Stefan or Team Damon?!We've also got the latest TikTok TEA, plus a major update to one Tiny's dilemma, Did My Boyfriend Cheat on a Stag Do. And ICYMI, did Charlie XCX copy Sophie's wedding dress?! #styleicon lol.In this week’s dilemmas, one Tiny wants to know if she should start dating someone from work. Is it ever OK to mix business with pleasure?! Another Tiny is struggling because her boyfriend's got another girl’s name tattooed... on his BUM. Plus, Sophie shares some 10/10 advice for any brides-to-be stressing about being on their period on their wedding day, along with her top tips every bride-to-be should know.Enjoy the episode xFor more info about Doctor Care Anywhere, head to: https://doctorcareanywhere.com/contact Got a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Exec Producer: Jemima RathboneProducer: Helen BurkeEditor: Kat MilsomSocial: Laura Coughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hey, tiny's, okay, we've got an epic episode today. talk about my friend Bronte King and Matt's wedding, which was epic in Croatia. Melissa strips off into her pants for a facial. And we have a follow-up this episode, which is a huge news. Because I haven't had a follow-off in a while. We're really excited. We love a follow-up. It's a great episode. Enjoy, guys. Hey, guys. We're back.

Hey, guys. Why does it feel like we've been a month and a half off? Because we've had a week off. Also, we've not seen each other for a week off camera. I know. I know. Which is so unlike us. Wow. I was in Portugal. You were in New Yorker and then you went to Croatia. Oh my god, you got so much for film me up there. So much, shall you? So I went to Croatia for Matt and Bronte's wedding. It's Bronte King, by the way. So I feel like a lot of you probably follow her and see her on Instagram. But we were like arrived there on these like James Bond boats. I saw it. I'm fucking sick. They're so in love and it was so cute and like the speech is so in love. Yeah. Like really wonderful. Like very magical. And she's like really good at like hands on stuff. So like the details were like so.

there but like other things like they had this like really cool apparel tower because she's like sponsored by apparel so it's like very much so her drink and it's like actually quite sick and then her brother's performer who was performing and was like actually so good I was like I would need to listen to this song on my phone it was like just really cool like little touches it was very special can I just say one thing that I'm like really upset about your photo's up 10 out 10 out of but why can't we see the dress because I know the bottom of the dress has such nice detail all I'm seeing as the top half of the khaki. Right, listen.

So. Is there an explanation? So, kind of. So I try on the dress. Coybird very kindly sent it to me as a present as a gift. Present? Yeah, hashtag gift. And I tried it on the day I was packing in the dark.

Not in the dark, but in my bedroom with black underwear on. Kind of see the black undies through it and I was like, perfect. I'll just wear a nude underwear. Toby was like, oh my God, it's so gorgeous. Anyway, Toby is an usher. So him and Louis, who was the other guy and the couple that we were like staying with, went off to do like what our usher's duties early in the morning. So me and Louisa are getting ready in our bedrooms.

I put the dress on. It's so see-through. Like, as in it's essentially just a beach cover-up. Like, and you're meant to see the bikini on to it. So, so see-through. And I'm wearing nude underwear and you can, because I'm tan, the nude under is no longer nude. It's like white. And you can see the lace, everything.

It's so outrageously see-through. Like there's no recovering from the fact that it's so see-through. A message to Lisa, I was like, alert, massive wardrobe malfunction. We're about to leave in five minutes. I feel physical. It was so stressful. And then I walked down, she was like, oh, she said, let me see if I have another dress for you. Like, you know when someone actually doesn't even try and save it?

And I was like, Louise, I can't borrow another dress. She was like, I don't really have anything else you can wear anyway. She was like, do you want to borrow some my underwear? None of her underwear was, like, it was all the same as mine. were going to see it. Then I go upstairs and I'm like, what can I put on underneath this dress? Bearing in mind, it's the hottest day of the year in Croatia, guys, 40 degrees. The wedding's at 3pm, hottest part of the day. My dress would have been perfect as it was if I was willing to just sort of go see-through vibes, but I can't. I'm like, right, what do I have? I have a khaki green skim's dress

that I traveled in. I'm going to have to put that underneath. You can sit in all the pictures. It fucking ruins it. You can see it on the side. Anyway, I am in puddles. puddles of sweat I took it off after the ceremony and I went see-through I just couldn't bear it I couldn't bear it so I was that bitch

who wore the see-through dress at the wedding but you didn't wear it for the ceremony and that is a real dedication to the course I didn't want to be arriving in it I thought at this point everyone's seen the bride like everyone's in such if I've had a few drinks like they're not going to surely notice me in this dress

did anyone notice I hope not but some of the girls that were like at the when we were were waiting to go into the ceremony, I spoke to some of the girls because I was like, oh my god, no, my dress is really see-through. And then when I had clearly taken it off, they were like, took off the dress underneath there, and I was like, it's clearly quite

obvious. I'm sorry, do you not have a photo of you with the see-through? Tobes put one on his story. And you could fully see my thong. Wait, were you wearing, like, French your thong? Just a thong. So basically, it was just arse. I think ass is better than a thoth, the pants showing, for some reason. Pants were showing the lace, and

yeah. Sorry, this is the best fucking thing that's ever happened No one took a photo of it But if I go back home and put the address then I would then send you how well it was I can't believe So did you not tell me this because you wanted to tell me today No, it was just so irrelevant because then That's the least irrelevant story in the entire world

Like I am so upset you didn't send me a photo immediately Because then get to the wedding Obviously it was so wonderful sit down and have a meal I go for a wee Major burning sensation Fuck, I've got a UTI I had to leave guys halfway through the dinner because it went from bad to worse.

But what does that feel like? Because I've had a sinusitis, it just like feels like you need a weed the hot tub. For me, it was like, I think I had left it too long and the infection was obviously in. I don't know how long it had been brewing. Sometimes I have it where it's like,

oh, need to pee, need to pee, need to pee. This was like straight away. Burning, like, weeing out razor blades. So painful. And also you don't want to drink on that because you know. So then I have to stop drinking. Very mind we've been drinking so much.

So what time do you leave? So then I go to the wedding plan. I'm like, can you like delivery me, like a sachet or like get me some. bicarbonate or soda just to get rid of the sensation. I took two painkillers and wasn't touching the sides. An hour goes by. I'm downing water. Nothing is fixing this problem. Are you drunk at this time?

Having a vibe you time and then you've just got this bernic. I'm completely sobered up to the max the moment this happened to me. Like any alcohol just left my system. I then start shaking like a leaf and I realized and they were like, do you need to have anything for anxiety? Louise was like, I think you had an anxiety. Do you think that's what it was? Probably because I was like so like, no, surely not.

I'm in the middle of Croatia. I'm in the middle of a wedding. Like, as if I'm getting cystitis right now. Like, are you fucking joking? It's society's that bad. I don't mean to downplay it to everyone. But when I've had it, it's just like, out, need of we. Same.

I've had it like that before, but it just depends on, like, how severe the infection is and how quick it takes on. I think because we've been drinking so much, it was hot. I was dehydrated. I've been in up the sea the few days before that. Wet bikini. Wet bikini. Anyway, so we're on our way to A&E because there's only one way to get antibiotics,

which is from a doctor, duh, and it's Friday night 9 p.m. I need to rewind. So you at what time? So I said to Toby, I was like, you stay, you're on Asher, you must enjoy a seizure, you sure, like really want to come with you? I was like, no, absolutely fucking not, you need to stay. But Louisa, please come with me.

Like, all my people pleasing went out of the windows and I was in so much pain and I was like, Louise, I need you there. So she was already offering, but I was like, yes, I need you to come with me. And what times is, was she drunk? Nine o'clock. Was she like, okay. Mid-meal. I think she was, like, quite worried for me because she was like, I so know the pain.

So then a wedding planner drove us to the hospital 10 minutes away, so that was fine. Great. We're in the taxi. Louise, the chat GPT's quickest way to get a prescription. of Rored in Croatia. She then sent me this link, this online doctor I was on the phone with within 10 minutes. I'll say, like,

what the website is for this guys, because it's such a good health of care. Like something like that, doctor something. Doctor care anywhere. They sent me a prescription through WhatsApp. I go straight into the pharmacy, get the Antwera,

down my gullet within 45 minutes. Then we go back to the hotel, which was five minutes away from the hospital. Oh, you don't go back to the party? No, and I said to Louise, I was like, I was like, you need to go back. She was like, absolutely. I'm going to go now and I was like maybe I come with you and she was like I'm like running

to the loo like every five minutes and like I'm like am I going to have that much fun there's two hours of the wedding left so she goes back she goes back has three shots sketches I was flying she had an epic time and it's like so long was she gone for with you like 40 minutes for an hour really fine just missed the end of the meal sorry this is unbelievable got there in time of the speeches but I'm so upset because I wanted to see bonte's second dress and like their first dance and apparently the band was like saw the speeches apparently the band was like fucking amazing and I'm like and I kept saying to Toby

I was I feel like such a loser I'm just sat on the bed in my wedding dress watching Love Island like nine people I was I'm so depressed for you I feel devastated you did text me on the night didn't you and say I've had to leave

but I wasn't very sympathetic because I just thought Toby was with you and like I just I don't know why and my mind didn't put myself in your shoes I was like that shit especially when you like it's like in a broad wedding like you go a long way I guess and like it's a big sort of deal

and Toby was an usher and like I was um anyway I live to tell the tale. God, you've really been through the walls there. I don't even know what to say. How's the cystitis now? That is fine. But you know what's funny? Also, this lovely company, which I'm now going to just take this as a little drink every night for the time being, but I'm obviously a bit more susceptible to it. It's called anoma health. It's a drink. It's like a powder with demonos in it, which is an extract from cranberry.

They sent it to me when we last spoke about cystitis. They were like, girl, you need this. I was like, okay. And you just have it as a long drink. And the girl was like, You just have it as a long drink before you, like, go to bed at night or before you think you're going to, like, have sex. So it's in your bladder so that when you wee after sex, it gets all the bacteria from inside of your bladder and sort of crystals it together and you wear it out. I'm absolutely fascinated.

So I'm taking that at the moment and listen to any girls who are prone because you're either prone to society or not. Like I've got a friend who literally like you gets it every time she has sex. And I'm like... Oh my God. I haven't had it in two years. I was so... I felt like, wow, what a blast from the past when you text me that. Yeah, I know.

I really was. Like, I feel like we've really gone back in time. I felt really young again because it felt so young when you used to get it. You used to know, I used to get it all the fucking time. It was like every other week. It felt like very almost early up in yours and Toby's relationship. I think when you're in that stage of a relationship, you know, things are a little bit more high speed. Yeah, frequent.

But I did a urine sample at the doctors just to make sure that the antibiotics I'm on is the correct one. Because I don't want to get caught short when I go to can this weekend. Oh my God. So Melissa's going to can to my best friend. who I'm a bridesmaid for Emily's hen but I'm sadly not going I'm really sad It is very sad but basically

I have this low brow pressure problem And like I kind of get very very faint and dizzy When I'm in the heat Because it like triggers it and sitting down for a long time And I just thought it's just too risky Like I also don't think you should be Maybe this is me being overcautious by sensitive I don't think you should be going anywhere abroad

Without your husband at this time in your pregnancy I just don't I kind of agree Like God forbid like I got to start in the middle of a fucking wedding I had to get to a hospital in 15 minutes. Like, do you know what I had to get antibiotics in me quick? You don't want things like that happening on a hen for a start because then it's like, oh, you feel like you're whatever.

Like you feel like anything. I didn't want me to feel dizzy like I do it. I did it my mom's 60th and then like to lie down and then everyone to be like, oh my God, so for you okay. And then take away from like anything of the hen. You know what I mean? Like it's about her and it's a good vibe and like some pregnant girl that is not, it's a vibe killer, let's be honest.

So I just thought I'll take one for the team. But I'm going to be, we're going to face them, day because I need updates the whole time. So I get to Elle's last week, right? And we go to see Nikki, who, um, faceless. Yeah, she's a facelist and a laser expert. So, um, Nikki has once done on me. my knees and like the back of my thighs of this, like, what would you call it?

Like a radio frequency sort of thing that's meant to help skin tiny. Tighten and get rid of celluline and that lovely stuff. But then we've also been rotating that with her doing clear skin on my face. Yeah. So I had an appointment booked in and I walk in and I just take my leggings off, take my socks and my shoes off and get on the bed. She sat there in my little pink thong. Halfway through, we're actually doing my face.

She's halfway through doing my face and I'm like, oh my God, I'm just sat in my thong. She was like, I did think And I'm like, oh my God, why didn't you say When I just walked in and go, right then Take off my leggings, pop them on the side And get on the bed in my thong And we're just doing a facial I'm like, why didn't you say anything?

She just thought you were really comfortable in here And I was like, oh my fucking God No, sorry, that's the fucking funniest thing In the entire world She just, oh my gosh, she's so sweet She must have thought I know exactly you weren't through her mind Need to say it

The words didn't come out And then she was like, moments gone moments gone cannot say anything now it's like when you speak to somebody and they keep talking you can't say you've got so much shit in your teeth and then it's they've done two minutes and now and I know you're like because it's been two minutes and now they would be like why don't you tell me earlier no the worst is when someone's got like a bogey and I just feel so upset talking to them because I'm like I know that you're going to now go to the bathroom and you're going to be like I just spoke to that person for an hour with a boge you're laughing about but you can't say to

someone hey look you've got something more embarrassing to tell them if you don't know say about a bogey. I would never say to someone you've got a bogey. I just pray to God it never happens to me. But it's the worst when you're... I would tell you if you had it. I'd be like that. Obviously you. But I'm not telling like Jim who sat next me at the wedding that he's got... Or like the worst is when you go on holiday with someone, you dive into the sea and then they come up and it's like... Oh no.

Do you remember that growing up as steamy just didn't happen all the day? It's not everywhere. Or like just like bogeys blast across their face and you're like, why? You know what is annoying as a girl that you get like eye bogeys from... This eye, like, Sof and I obviously put eyeliner in our waterline, and it gives you like, eye-buggers. Eye, wherever, yeah, like sleepy dust. It's black.

Well, that black thing can kind of like give to the look sometimes. It's not, sometimes. Yeah, it's not icky, whereas like a clear one, when it's got the eyeliner on it, it's not icky, with the clear one, it's icky, get rid of it. Oh, and it's a yellowy sort of vibe and it's in the middle of the eye. I know. I know. Me and Melissa have a real thing when people, like, have sleeping their eyes in the morning.

By the way, I don't like, before I'm like, before I brush my teeth, my eyes had been washed. I get rid of all that shit. We wash my hands, deal with my eyes. Even if I'm completely alone, by the way, I would not walk down the stairs without cleaning my eyes. Well, neither, because you could get a style or something as well. Like, it's actually not good for you to have dirty eyes. I would rather have dirty teeth for like a solid hour than to have dirty eyes.

Like, dirty ice has to go within a second. It's just not. Some people just leave it. I know, all day. I'm fascinated as to how they've gone and looked at themselves in the mirror and thought, yeah, leave that there. I'm like, what? There's no words for that.

That is like the word. weirdest shit ever to me. Like, why have you not washed your eyes? Because everyone feels it. And it's not like an eye bogey. I'm talking like the dried sleep. Yeah, yeah. It's the dried sleep that goes almost onto the cheekbone. You're like around here. Like it's basically where your eyes watered and then dried and crissed up tonight. Like, why have you not cleansed that in the morning? Or like, just like it's like so easy. It's so easy. Just wipe away with water. You're so right. I just don't fucking get it. It's honestly out there with one of the weirdest things. That is so fucking funny about the leggings thing i feel like i've had that's like when i remember when i went to get my

moles chatted and i sat on the um it's quite humbling when they tell you like you don't need to take this he was like can you take your top or please and i was like yeah sure and then he turned around i just had bra up tips out and james no bra on um tips out and he went oh no you can't and quickly turned away and i was like i i just can't like i was so humbling it's just too much is it really is it really is and then you sit there the whole rest of the time night at least Nikki's a lovely woman I know we had such a laugh

we were cry laughing because because I was like why do you fucking say anything I thought you're just really comfortable and I was like Nikki I thought you were like lasering my ass today hence why I took my trousers that is so fucking funny because I bet part of her did just think maybe her leggings were really tight

and she just wanted to get I honestly didn't try and think about it too much but I did think why is she taking her leggings off So Montana Brown, posted a TikTok, I want to say like a week ago, maybe two weeks ago. This talking rant, she was like, I don't normally do this, but I'm just going to do it. She was like, so story time. Yeah, she's actually quite good. I love listening.

That was good, wasn't it? Yeah, really good. So she basically was divulging into the fact that years ago when she, I think when she had first come out of, like, Love Island and obviously she was like quite booming. whatever and this girl was very much so a small influencer like under the radar they were at the same event and she was like I was always so nice to her and so welcoming and like we bonded and had like a nice moment following each other on Instagram and since then this said chick has become very famous and she was like she's sort of surpassed me in the game and is like very like I guess millions of followers and quite famous

and blah blah blah blah blah I don't know and um she was like I then saw and then she unfollowed me Yeah, the cheek. Fucking bitch. Unfollowed me. And then she was like, I was then with my friends at like this concert. I think she said it was a little mix concert or something with two of her like home friends. Bumped into her and her two home friends were like quite big fans of hers and were like really quite buzzing to have met her and she was just like hi. And one time I was like, are you fucking serious?

Are you actually like almost as if we don't know each other? Like this is just so weird. So then everyone, it was like a very quick casual brand. Winking is. Everyone is writing. I think a lot of people assumed it was, there was a lot of Love Island guesses. There was a lot of Vic Hope guesses.

And she said, no, not them. No, not Vic Hope. We're never. She's so lovely. I know, but I guess people don't know these things do this. This is just what the guesses were. Like, we're on TikTok. And then I messaged her and she was like,

I'm going to voice note you on WhatsApp, but she never did. So, want to tell her, please, tell me. Can you just DM her now and say, we're gagging to know. Because I literally can't. That's, like, fed my soul. This is, like, a week ago, I'm going to say, just chasing up on this.

Just chasing up on it. Is that really weird? It's so good. And then I'm going to send her a photo of us, so she doesn't think it's absolutely horrible. Right, listen, this is like the Olivia Outward of the Moor Higgins thing. Like, I'm just gagging to know what the tea is there. Was it Laura Anderson who stole a Live Atwood story or was it Moora Higgins? Who knows?

We'll never know. We'll never know. What I will say is. Someone that is always so nice in real life, Olivia Atwood. Like, one of the nicest, most fucking, like, humble people I've ever met. No, she's lovely. She's also killing it. Okay, guys, so, Sabrina ended up.

Probably all seen it actually, and I received all of your sweet messages, your DMs telling me about the fact that she wore it. I saw every single message. Everyone was sending me the fact that Sabrina copied you, like all of the tini's were sending me. And like even people that I've like barely like not spoken to for a while being like Melissa's influence Sabrina and then Charlie XX is wearing your exact wedding dress. I got. I saw that Charlie XX wore your wedding dress. I did see that. I know.

What can I say? That's pretty fucking cool. But you know what is funny is that when I got my dress, it was a sample and it was the only one left. Like they'd stop selling it. So I don't know where she got that dress from unless they've like rebooted it. Maybe I drove the sales up, who knows? So when we were in Croatia, we saw some emoes and I haven't seen an email in years. Or a proper goth, like a committed goth.

There was a few of them. That's in like 10 separately. Wow. Croatia's obviously where the gods go. Yeah, I write. It's like maybe there's a committee there or something. I would say being an emo or a goth, would one say that they are the same sort of genre? Absolutely.

So I feel like maybe a goth is maybe there's a bit more lace involved, whereas an emo is a little bit more spikes. No, I'd say that's more punk. Avrilavine vibes. Yeah. Yeah. I think spikes is punk. I think got an emo, right. A got is a little bit more face makeup.

You've got a lot more black going on, maybe a bit of black lipstick. It's almost giving dark bridle. It's almost giving vampire. Yes. Which on that note, I've restarted vampire diaries and you must stop because when I tell you that as I put it on, I thought, and I've just finished Jessica Housewives, bear in mind elite, elite up there with one of the best shows in the world. And I thought nothing is as good as Vampire Diaries. That makes my heart saying. Honestly, it's so good.

I am so thrilled that I am now in for like, what, two months of goodness? I think more. Can we ask the listeners, if you've watched Vampire Diaries, if you haven't, you need to. to watch it. You can't be a tiny blout. Are you Stefan or are you Damon? Just write in, let us know. Stefan Damon, vampire diaries, which one are you?

Put your votes in. Because Georgia is hardcore Stefan and I flip flap. I'm either. I would take either. I was Stefan at the start because he's so fit to start. He's giving Justin Bieber. Don't know his personality. Damon.

It's something else. Can't wait for the third trimester. Apparently you're going to get so Randy Danny. No, no, no. It's happening now. It's really unacceptable watching it. It's literally like porn. Because you need to watch it.

It's just like it's everything come all. It's like the best TV show and the whole entire fucking world. Like nothing to be. It's Van Far Darii. I'm watching Love Island. Oh, it's true. How's that going? Good.

Apparently it's best season that's ever been. I've never seen a season like this. It's so bonkers. And it's so unpredictable. Can you just happen? I haven't got a clue so you can just spoil a lot. Give me like the highlights. Right.

This is controversial opinion, but I really like Harry and like everyone fucking hates him. I think he's so funny. But I need to do what they're doing. And he doesn't give a fuck. And it's just, I don't know what it is. I'm like, he's just funny. And like, I'd love to be his friend not to date him because he seems like a nightmare with women. He's basically, like, led two girls along the garden path so much all the way up until this point.

Gone exclusive with one, then changed his mind and now gone to the other one. But, like, that's like underplaying it. You need to watch it because there's so many twists and turns. I mean, the thing is, we do love, like, someone who's a cheeky shabby. Back in the day, the best was Chris Hughes and Ken. him and then do you remember how fit Alex Bowen was when he was on it? That physique. That was nothing like it. Still

never seen nothing like that. I sent I've gone back on Google images and found photos for Alex Bowen when he first went on Love Island to show Toby about what my dream body is and it's that. I've never seen one since but that was very musley was it not. It was like almost like how Joey Essex used

to be. It's kind of like that. Like just the pecks but not so much the abs. It's like naturally just such phenomenal physique but like it doesn't look like a gym nut. yeah you know what it is guys it's like either all like either they the boys they gym lows and they beef up to do it which i don't like that beefing stage that's not for me or then they shred after the beefing they've got loads of muscle and then they've got an ape out i don't like that either just keep the consistent like four times a week jimming and boozing all in between and eating those pizzas then you've got the dream body you've got an easier life for what us women like we don't want a bodybuilder I love the body. Like, it's all type, isn't it? Yeah, I just assume that one's going to want what I want.

I know. There is, Blue came back on. I know, I got told. Oh, God, and he's got such awful chat. I'm like, stop trying to start fights with people for like airtime, get away. Oh, God, it always happens when they get come back on. Like, he has like zero point in like the argument at all. And the girl that he was trying to argue with, Tony, it was just like, shut up.

Beggie, get out of my face. Didn't look good. Rounding off. First, you need to watch it. Secondly, I think the winners will be Tony and Cash, obsessed with both of them, they're amazing, and Yasmin and Jamie. Cash is a cool name. He is, like, the most wonderful man, like, everything he does, you're like, oh my

fucking God, I don't think I could have handled that, like, any better or any human could have done, like, his choice of words, yeah, he's amazing, and like, but then his sister came on, the family thing happened last night, you know, when they bring the family, his sister really doesn't like Tony, and it was so obvious, and it was like, you obviously also don't want to be here, like, why have you come? Why didn't you want, like, Tony? It was so mean, like, just really unnecessary. I was like, bizarre, you'd have imagined she'd love Tony.

Well, Tony fucked up a bit, but like, it wasn't that deep. It was like she chose someone else a recoupling. I'm like, ugh, it's, come on. Hope everyone else agrees with me. Sorry if I'm being controversial. Okay, dilemma one. Hey girls, I work in finance and for the last couple of years I've been working with a client who I really get on with. He's a bit older than me. I'm 26, he's 31, but he's someone I'd definitely want to date if we'd met outside of work. However, I always have a strict no dating at work rule. I've worked really hard to get to where I am and I don't want to risk any drama or people at work talking behind my back. So I've kept things friendly with the client even though there's definitely a vibe between us. Anyway. Nothing like a workplace ring out.

I know. I just die for it. That's the back story. Not that I've ever had one. That's the back story because things have taken a new turn. I've just handed in my notice after getting a new job and I invited my client to my leaving drinks. We ended up flirting a lot and kind of stepped over the boundary of keeping things professional. And then after he left, he messaged me asking why I hadn't asked him out.

I love the fissed with the cocky slash. Like, why haven't you asked me out? That's such a good line, guys. I know, it's almost like out of the movie. It's a fucking unbelievable. I was going to write that down on my notes. Part of for the next time you're thinking. Part of me wants to go for it and ask him on a day.

It's not like he's a work colleague anymore, but another part of me is still worried about mixing work and my personal life. So, should I play it safe or give it a go? No. Ask him out. Life is too short. This is not mixing work and pleasure. You are, he isn't your line anymore.

No. Also, life's too fucking short, as Modester says. It's also really rare to feel like connections with people, like it is, and obviously you both feel it. You must explore. There's no two doubts in my mind. You are asking him out and you are probably going to shag on the first date because there's so much pent up tension. Okay, listen, we're so excited. Can you please? I'm so buzzing for you. I'm buzzing. Like, why are we even worried about this? I get it because you have obviously worked hard and like that's to be respected. But this is the universe just working your favourite. There's nothing getting in the way.

It's absolutely not a single, single cloud getting in a way. You just go for this. you go on that date you get with him you kiss him you see what happens and just don't hold yourself back i think one night and one night only just let loose don't hold yourself back love just give it give it your best shot we're really excited please tell us what you do please and also send a photo if you start dating oh my god i do we need to know a bit hot under color thinking about it it's really fun good luck let us know we love you love you okay ready dynamity yeah girls help i've started dating a guy and he's so lovely but there's some something about him that really pips me off.

He's got a tattoo of another girl's name on his bum. It's not a huge tattoo, just a line on his right cheek, but still, I know it's there. I mean, why are you bum? And I can't stop thinking about it, especially when we're in the shower together or having sex. Yeah, I'd be the same. I get it. At least you don't do do do doggie with him, you know what I mean? Yeah.

Because then that's game over. It's like it's watching me. Then I start spiraling because I'm imagining him with her and it kills the mood completely. I would be exactly the same. My mind would go to some dark places when I would be thinking about that tattoo. I brought it up in a jokey way when we first saw it and he said it was the name of some random girl he met in Magaluf when he was 18. We're now 29.

Apparently he got it as a joke and I don't find it funny. I actually think that's worse for some reason. I'd be like that needs to get off your bum then. I'd almost prefer it to be a girlfriend. My friends think I'm being silly because he met this girl 10 years ago and it doesn't mean anything but I can't help be a bit jealous. Do I need to just get over it or should I offer to pay for his laser hair? his laser removal. Oh my god, laser that shit off. I'm not paying for it though.

I'm not paying for you yourself. Me too. You should want that. I'd be like that's so weird that you want that. Boys are strange. What is it they don't care about that? They sort of find that characterful. They're like, that's like a story like y'all was in Magaloo. If he doesn't want to go through the pain of lasering that shit off, you could just get something to go over the top of it because our friends have had names and they've got like a feather over it or they've got like a whatever over it. So why don't you get a wig? worm that would go over it or a caterpillar she's only just us dating him i think we need to just chill out a bit oh yeah if you only just started dating a guy i'm like no no no we need to wait until

you're at least a year in i'm sorry we're boyfriend girlfriend we're a year into dating and then it's such a it's so reasonable as a request get that girls you've simply got to be boyfriend and girlfriend before it happens otherwise it's just like it's not good why don't you just say i'll do this if he like something in bed just be like i'll if you do that i'll do that our fashion bribery oh god that's literally my way through life. You just say, I'll do that tonight if you go and get, but can we get a fucking caterpillar over that? I don't want that on you.

Because my moving's a long fucking time. Yeah, it's such a long recess. It's going to really hurt him. He'll do it once. He'll be like that hurt. I'm not going back again. Yeah. Whereas you go and you do it once.

You get a tattoo put over it. It's funny. And then it's your memory together. Agree. But look, you've got two options there, but I think you've got to give it some time. Don't let it get in your head. Like, I get it.

But also, like, it isn't that deep. If it was, like, on his bicep, like, fine, because maybe then it's like, you look at it every day. Why don't you want to get that? He can't see his bum. He doesn't give a crap what's on his bum. So true. You'll see it quite a lot. It would bother me.

It would bother me too. It would bother me so much. Let him know that and be like, one day you need to get that sorted. And I'm not going to nag you. I'm just letting you know that's got to go at some point. Yeah. Okay, right, Dial number three coming. Hey, Sophie, Melissa, I love the pod.

I'm literally listening to you guys right now as I'm typing this. Sophie, you mentioned you were on your period for both of your. for both of your weddings. I'm getting married in two months and it looks like I'll be on my period for it. I'm so worried I'm dealing with the cramps, headaches, bloating and I keep having panicked thoughts I might bleed onto my wedding dress.

Sophie, what did you do? Did you guys have any tips or advice to still manage to look like a glowy bride and get through the day pain free? PSU girls are always at weddings. I'd love to hear fun wedding tips. We can still for our own day. Right, listen, I'm going to be totally honest.

I wasn't at the beginning of my period for both of them. It was, like, more towards the end. But I will say that what happens with, like, the pain of things, there is so much adrenaline that goes through on your wedding day. I honestly think if you, like, broke a finger, you wouldn't feel it. Like, I can't explain it. Oh my God, yeah, it was the London one.

Like, my dress was cutting into my ribs. Like, when I took it off it, it was like... Yeah, then you guys have to cut it out. We had to cut me out of it. I was like, I cannot... In the taxi on the way, I was like, I need to get out of this. Ten seconds off seeing everyone, the adrenaline didn't remember. in the bloody dress.

But get your bridesmaids to have like Feminax. Or just good old-fashioned strong paracetamore. No, Feminax, it does something. It's got something specific for your like, it's amazing. It's the only thing that helps because I have such bad painful periods. That was a con. No, it's amazing. It has a particular thing that like reduces ovary swelling or something.

I don't know what it does, but it's particularly good. So have that on hand and then get a big fat sanitary towel pad. Have that in your pants that if you leak through your tampon. Yeah. you're doing that and then you've got to be regular like look you've got to change your time every two hours you're not going to have gone through it but like just go to the loo don't worry you're going to look so beautiful you've got to remember there's no one else there wearing white there's no one else there who's had the hair and makeup dark there's no one else there's you know

you will look it's your day so don't worry about that any fun wedding tips you can get for her own day oh my god okay fun wedding tips get all your friends to have like your chewing gum your thing like their bags your brides and your bags are your bags and then also just be with your husband and really slow down like I wouldn't spend like hours talking to like the past you know someone who you've invited

but you don't particularly because you will get dragged and be spoken to by every single person so like don't be afraid just like nice to you and walk on like spend it with the people who you want to make the cool memories with and don't let your husband's hand out

of your like glue yourself to him the whole night that's a good shout okay right we've got a follower fuck me Oh my God. Oh my God. It's did my boyfriend shoot on a stag dude, remember? And he went to the stripper club and he deleted all the calls. Okay. Hey guys, thank you so much for your advice on my last day, Lemma. I have an update for you. I ended up asking my boyfriend about the Albuhrara stag. He told me he didn't do anything, just got very drunk in the club, fell asleep and then deleted his friend's messengers because he was calling him loads and it looked bad. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and believed him. He had another stag in my bear two weeks after the last one.

And the same thing happened again. Shut up. He came back from the stag and was acting so shifty. I kept asking him if everything was okay and he said it was. He was just hard, stress and that it wasn't me, it was him. This strange behaviour lasted a whole week. Then I noticed he was back on Instagram after being off it in three years. Shit me.

I looked at his profile and he removed the only photo of us together with no explanation other than he wanted to clear our old photos. No. Oh my God, I'm sorry. I'm so upset for you. This guy is hell. I decided to check his phone again when he went to the bathroom. I quickly went onto his Instagram search bar to find that he had searched several random

girls' names. I asked him who the girl at the top of the search bar was and he said he's never met her for and it was just a random girl he saw on Instagram. Shut up! You have to search them for them to be on the search bar. You don't fucking get it's not through clicking on someone. Idiot. He thinks that you can make you feel stupid.

Gasider. He started going crazy at me and shouting at me for looking at his phone. kept asking him who she was and he finally gave in and said he met her and mar bear at one of the beach clubs he left with her took her out just him and her and spent several hours with her buying her drinks flirting with her and getting to know her he then said he told her he had a girlfriend and she left straight away so nothing happened to make this worse i found out that when he came back home he searched her name on instagram multiple times trying to he obviously was searching the same name like different accounts coming out he's trying to find that fucking girl he tried to find her on

LinkedIn, such a whole family on Instagram. He's obsessed with her. And then deleted all the evidence so I wouldn't find out. Did he tell her this? We've decided to break up, which has been very hard to come to terms with. But I do believe it's for the best. His behaviour probably wouldn't have changed and the trust is completely broken. I'm hopeful there's light at the end of all of this and I'll become a stronger person for it. Thank you so much for your advice. I hope this will encourage people to trust her gut more often.

Babe, we're so proud of you. That is so brilliant that you fucking did that. Just took the phone and went through it, took the initiative followed your gut. Caught him red-handed. I mean, it's so shit because you're still going to be heartbroken because you love him, so I get that. It's fucking hard. It's fucking hard. But a broken heart heels.

A broken heart heels, and you know what? You haven't had kids with him. You're not married. Like, you have no ties to him. You can start fresh. You'll find someone amazing. You can have a hot girl's summer. You can focus on yourself. Like, this is so for the best. You do not want some asshole treating you like this. Oh my God. What a

fucking twat as well. Like the lies. Oh, my. And also that understands. You know what? He does this all the time as well. He will think that you're so fucking stupid to believe those lies. Like, what? No, I can't bear it.

Can't fucking bear it. He deserves to be alone forever that guy. And he probably will be. Because I think the older women get, well, the older we all get, we all get wiser. And we all like understand what these. No, gaslight is. I don't know. That's like difference between, you know, when you're younger and you fuck up and you cheat.

And then there's like that sort of calculated bizarre behavior. Like you have no moral compass. That's an anesthetist. No moral compass to take a girl out from a bar when you've got a girlfriend at home and take a cup of drinks. I would be sick to my stomach to hit that bad happened. It's funny when these things happen, it's like your emotions don't turn off. So like obviously you will love this still then. It's like, fuck I wish I didn't like him because.

I know when you almost like love them more all of a sudden you like fancy them more because it's like a rejection thing. It's a rejection thing. But you've got to just know that like every girl's been there. through this and you will probably be like obsessed with him from it and like really fancy him but like you will get to a point where one day it might take a year but you will wake up and you're like oh my god he's the most disgusting person ever and the blink has come off and honestly that will happen but we love you so much and we are sending you the biggest hug and love and you're just so brave please update us on like how you're feeling in a few weeks or a few months or whatever

and oh my god we love you I wish I could set you up with someone I know I know I like there's a lot of single people i don't know can you please please please update us on how you're feeling in like a month and like how you're doing and stuff yeah because i feel like there's obviously a lot of girlies that listen that don't write in they're like go through similar things that would like really appreciate the honesty yeah and like i'm rooting for you yeah it's august now like you're gonna have a fun august and like keep us updated but we love you love you love you oh guys that's the end of the episode oh we'll be at next week but love you guys so much you guys. Thank you for listening. Bye.

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