Wednesdays - 99. Ruby Adler reveals all about her NEW boyfriend and their first holiday together

Episode Date: August 12, 2025

Guys, Tiny Tim’s been on tour!!Ruby Alder aka Tiny Tim is back on the pod, fresh from the South of France with her NEW boyfriend. She tells us all about her new relationship and their first holiday together, on a YACHT no less!! 😍Also big news, Melissa’s seen some Tinies in the wild! She’s been making friends with some of our lovely listeners whilst she was away in Cannes on Emily Champion’s hen do. The girls also reminisce about their MIC Bali trip. And Ruby’s in her sporty spice era, she’s been playing padel AND doing pilates. This is a girl who never works out. She’s a new girlie for her new man.In this week’s dilemmas, one Tiny wants a nose job but is worried about how her family and friends might react. Should she do it? Another listener has a boyfriend who is exhausting her in bed taking HOURS to climax - we couldn't quite believe it! Enjoy the episode xGot a dilemma, some personal advice for a fellow Tiny, or a follow-up to a previous one? Send us a voice note or message on Insta @wednesdayspodcast, or drop us an email at [e-mail]--Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/wednesdayspodcast/TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@wednesdayspodcastEmail | [e-mail]--Credits:Exec Producer: Jemima RathboneProducer: Helen BurkeVideo Editor: Kat Milsom & Jake JiSocial: Laura Coughlan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi everyone, it's me, Paloma, and I'm back. I hope you all love the first series of my podcast, Mad, Sad and Bad. I thought that I'll make another series. Let me see you might come and join me. Mad, sad, and bad. What the hell's that mean? That's the name of the podcast. Don't show me now.

Each week, I have an amazing guest to join me in my house, who I promise love the show, as I hope you do too. I'm not so happy you have a podcast. New episode is out every Tuesday, out now. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists, and we're not experts in anything. In fact, we just challenge a lot of shit, so...

And we love giving you guys advice, but as we said, we love giving you guys advice. Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help. Guys, welcome back to another episode. We have Ruby, Tiny Tim, on the podcast today. Yay, I'm so excited. Hi, guys. She's telling us all about her new relationship and her recent travels.

Yes, I thought I've got so much to catch up on. We do. I'm going to be talking about Emmy Champions Hen I've just been on in Cannes. And then we've got some really fun dilemmas too. Yeah, we do. Enjoy the episode, guys. Can I just say, I'm going to start this episode. sort of strong by me

criticising you because you have not posted enough about your trip. Have I not? No. You're being sarcastic? No. Oh you're not being sarcastic. I mean deadly fucking serious. I'm like where have the post spin? I posted, I've done three holiday dumps babe. It's not enough. Should have done ten. You should have done double. Guy's reviews on if you can't tell. Tim's back. She's been sailing around the world on a yacht.

Living her absolutely. on tour. Absolutely best life. Can we just talk through the itinerary? So where did you start? So we set sail? We set off at Nice. We ended in Naples. Set sail in Needs, but you went straight to Naples? No, no, no. I don't know. I need to hear the itinerary from so we went, we were on a boat for two weeks and we went from South of France and then we ended up in Italy. And how many stops was there? We did the south of France. We did Sanctrape, we did can, and then we did like the Amalfi, we did Portifino, Positano, Capri for a few days. Yeah, it was amazing.

I've been away for nearly six weeks with five days at home in between to pack up my flat and see you for dinner. Yes, of course. Then we went again, I know. Why does it feel like this boat trip was six weeks alone? I don't know, because I was away the second half for three weeks. It felt like fucking ages. Which felt like a really long time. Also because you were probably, you weren't living out of a suitcase, but because you're in different locations for you,

probably follow you away for longer. I felt like I was away for like six months. In a nice way, in a great way. But I felt like I was gone for ages. Are you sad to come home? I was more sad to leave him than I was to come home. I was excited to see you and my friends and my parents and like kind of like we'd been away for ages. So I was kind of ready to like, yeah, I was a bit and get into routine. But yeah, he's gone back too. Right, well, can we tell him who he is then? Yeah, so I've got a new boyfriend. And he has made it onto the ground, so this isn't a secret really. You've done the hard launch already, but... He's so great. I think he's one of the best people I've ever met. Oh my God, stay.

And he lives in Sydney. He's Australian. I met him 10 years ago in Greece, and Micanos on holiday. We were on separate holidays, staying in the same hotel. And then, like, we just reconnected recently. But nothing romantic even happened back then. No. No.

I was like 19. I reached back out, you were like, hmm. I was like 19 when I met him. Oh my God, sweet. On separate holidays in Greece. And you know what's so lovely about that is that you know, also you know what's so lovely about this whole thing is that you've actually met him organically. You haven't had to like.

Didn't meet him on an app. You didn't have to wade through the apps because that's very time consuming. Yeah, very time consuming. He wasn't like a DM slide in. Like we knew each other. I stay like loosely because we weren't like in contact and like seeing him. But like I met him years and years ago. Yeah.

So he's like a familiar face, which is quite nice actually. really nice. It's a very organic, romantic, stars-aligned situation. And he's just really cool and really nice and really great. I'm very happy. Oh my God, that's what we want here. And you deserve it. Thanks to him. So she's been really whisked off her feet. Like, it's been a whirlwind. It's been a summer. It's been great. Yeah. She's been whisked off to all these lovely holidays. So you weren't on this boat with just him. Obviously, you were the lot of his friends. How was that? Because you don't know him that, that, that well. So suddenly, like, having to, like, spend all that time, no time, really.

Do you know what? It was great. Like, I can't really fault him. Like, obviously, you're still getting to know one another and, like, spending time together. But we weren't alone as such. Like, we were with his friends. A lot of his friends. We were actually quite a big group.

How many was there? We kind of, like, friends were sort of coming and going over the, like. Oh, quite fun. It wasn't, like, one. It was a couple of his friends. A couple of guys sort of did the whole stint. Stint. And then we were sort of like six at a time, like us and like four or five others.

So fun. It was really fun. What was your favourite place on the trip? Capri. I'd never really spent much or any time in Italy before. I'd been to like Rome through like a connecting flight. I had a job years ago that I did in Florence. Oh yeah, I remember that.

The beer job. But bar that, I'd never done the Amalfi. I'd never been to Portifino Positano. I'd never been to Capri. I'd never really. You have no idea how lucky you are that you've done all those places. It was like literally like an amazing, like a bucketless moment. It's absolute dream.

Yeah. Like it was beautiful. My dream. It was amazing. The food was incredible. The weather was amazing. Like it felt very, there was like a sense of like, it was very magical. Like, and then like going in on the boat.

I bet when the water's all like still and glistening. And I also bet on that boat quite presents. I bet you're like, fuck yeah. This is quite cool. It was like, do you know what? I feel like there's a sense. I've never been a huge water baby, but actually sleeping on the ocean and like being so close to the ocean the whole time. There's like a real sense of like.

Oh, it's so. nice to snooze on a boat. Like, I don't know how to describe it. Like, it's quite natural. It also takes us back to being in the womb where we were like sleeping in water. Yeah, it's very therapeutic. You feel like you're in a whole other world. I felt like I was so like disassociated from like reality.

All right. I just like try to laugh off every second. Oh my God. Well, he set the president very high. I will say that for the first Sunday. At one point, Tira and I were like, we might just join you, share a cap in. Not sure how appropriate that would have been. I'm not sure how appropriate that would have been.

I wouldn't like that very much, but she seemed a bit of a waste. I know. Next summer, babe. Next summer. Right, so he's gone back to Sydney. He's gone back to Sydney. And now what's our little plan? I will be spending some time out there.

And she's doing, I guess for now you're going to be doing long distance for the next few weeks or whatever. For the next few weeks, yeah. And then when September, off she goes again. I'll go to Sydney in September for a bit. What's a bit? Not sure yet. Oh my god Oh no

Sweetness Okay so Ruby's off the market Don't know when I'm going to meet him Hopefully soon We're gonna be We'll be it Oh you'll be around Later on in the year no

So we'll be spending Christmas together in London Yeah all right Well I'm normally in Valdez's earth That's a problem But we'll have to see Hopefully we'll cross paths at some point Surely You're gonna come out to Sydney

At some point Toby wants to go and watch his friend Gus play cricket out there So that's actually, I think, this Christmas. I was still, Yasmin. It was so funny at an event. She was like, I saw Toby Watkins recently. It probably was really drunk.

And he came up to me, but I'm so happy for Reeves with Henne Muck. And Yasmin was like, who's her new man? Toby just fucking chatting to everyone. Oh, Toby. She was like, Toby told me. I was like, don't worry. Wait, was this this weekend, just gone? I don't know.

I don't know. It was. I think it was the weekend before. No, no, no. I know what it was because he came back and he was with Gus and Gus was like, oh, that girl's really fit. And she was like, oh no. Oh my God. She wasn't very interested apparently because he didn't say hello to her. She's got high standards that girl. I rate it. She does actually. So what event for you out then? And we went to a Miss Sima Paddle event. I played paddle. When you messaged me, like I've done Pilates and Paddle, I thought, fuck me. This is a new Ruby because she's not an active girl. I'm also like really trying to be a sporty guy. because I, like, really want to, like, they're really good for my boyfriend.

And also, he's, like, really so sporty. Very athletic. And I'm, like, just like, I can be a sporty girl, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Change my whole personality. No. Wait, were you both working out together on the boat? I'm sorry, I can't put you right now because I'm just at paddle.

Very trendy. Are you working out together on the yacht? No, he was. And I was like, I'll come back to London and give it a good crack. So I'm really trying. dead the post i thought this morning wow guys she never works out i know i'm really trying i want to get in like i feel motivated more than ever fantastic also doing like 12 000 steps a day not to scare you but me and ruby have had this

conversation before no for several times we me and ruby always have this conversation that the easy thing really is getting the guy it's the hard thing maintaining things yeah totally isn't it of a certain standard that you would like to maintain so some people just sort of like some guys like really work out hard and they're single, same with girls, and then they'll get in a relationship and they all just let it go. And it's like, no, no. No, I feel like I've gone the other way. Like, I was not that actor being single and now I'm with him.

Now she's done a paddle of lesson and a Pilates club. Like, you may as well call me sporty spice. Like, I genuinely want to look really good. No, fair. This is my motivation. No, I want to look, I want to feel good and feel better in myself. Also, having just been away for so long and like, I'm like. I bet you also not really walking on a yacht?

No. Because you just. You're not. You're really not. You do laps. Because you get your 10K in, just walking around it. I bet you could. Do you know what?

Swimming in the sea is actually like a real workout? Are you a strong swimmer? Because I'm not... No, not really. I've never been anywhere where I would have swam with you. We've never swam in the seas. Did we swim in Barbados? Yeah, but we were standing up.

Yeah, we were with like a drink. It's like in the beach. It was very different. So like it's different. No, we've not because we've actually never been on the same Hindu bar tips. I'm just trying to think, surely there's been another holiday. Barley, we didn't go in the sea.

Oh, fuck that. Guys, sorry. Poor Zoe Hake. What I will say is she has a point, okay? There were certain parts of barley where it was absolutely stunning. And then right next to it, there was this poor cage of chickens all dyed 17 different colors, like in the dirt, on the floor and stuff like that.

And it's like, I think she was just being really on. honest and she was like we got to Bali and I had such a thing in my mind about how it was all going to look right and then she was like she basically said like it's just not what she imagined it to be because obviously it's a very Instagramy influencery place so people make everything look a certain way yeah um and what she said is kind of like kind of true but like some people really don't mind that and that's okay um so we found the same thing really didn't we whilst we were there there were certain parts of Bali it was actually amazing like a bird was beautiful and there was part of Lairche that water and

everything. Oh, we did swim in the sea then. Yeah, we did. That was an amazing day actually. That was one of our best days. Yeah. That was one of our best days. But then where we were in the main like Changu. Yeah. It was very touristy. It was very built up. It was overpopulated. So polluted like. Yeah. But we also went in rainies. We weren't that lucky with the weather. Oh God. It rained every fucking day. It was, it rained basically all day every day. And I think when you're in a place where it's like, we're at the sun shining every day, it's going to look completely different, isn't it? You're going to be able to do more and like, you're also just going to be in a better mood.

100%. We couldn't do anything. We were just stuck in... Felt quite claustrophobic better. We could talk about this for the whole episode. We got into bed every day at 3pm. Do you remember with Julius? To try and pass the time. Me and Julius in bed. Sometimes me and Jules would nip out and get some cookies for the group of us. Honestly.

And then Marles and Jules would have play movie night. We just didn't film. We just didn't film made as well. Because we had secret boy friends. I remember us walking in the pool. Do you remember one day? I was like, I think I'm going to go ahead. Guys, we had the worst time.

But it was circumstantial as well. Like, we went to film and didn't film. It was just a bit... Yeah, it was shame. But Zoe Hague filled for you, girl, because I know people are really not happy with the comments, but I get them. I can see her point.

Yeah, I like the transparency. So can you tell me about Emily's head? Yeah, so just to give you guys some background, Emily Champion is getting married and we went to her hen. I actually met her through Sophie maybe like eight years ago now. Wow. So yeah. We went to Cannes. It was so fun.

It was honestly so much fun. Like unbelievable. Highlight was the day when we went to... Lagerie? Yeah. There was these really cute girls that... were fans of the pod and they allowed us to join them

with their family for a little bit because we had the early sitting for lunch. No, the early sitting for lunch. The late sitting is seven grand minimum spend and we were like, we're not doing that because there's so many of us. Yeah, of course, that's a fortune. So we were like, right, well, plan is,

we're going to have our lunch, go to the bar and see who we can sort of tag on to. Yeah, yeah, good idea. I like that. So these really sweet girls who were like, she was about to have her 21st birthday. and her friend was already 21 and then the brother was like 19th their parents and they're like, we come every year.

So we're with them for like a few songs and then went back to the bar because we were like kind of like encroaching on their like family lunch and I was like we need to leave and then me and Hannah this girl were having a chat at the bar and halfway through

this guy came up and was like do you guys want to come and join us on our table and we literally did and we were like yeah actually we do so we rallied the troops So how many were you in total? 13. Oh, wow, okay.

Marched over and then turns out some of the other girls knew this one of the other guys on this table from the flight. They've been drinking with him on the flight. And then on the table next time there was this stunning, gorgeous, very cool, very like Euro. I can vision him right now. No girl. Oh, girl. Her name is Isabel. She was so cool.

And she was like, oh my God, I live in the podcast. Love it. Do you want to join us on our table? We're like, yeah. Where was she from? London, I believe. anyway um so yeah and then she was with her fiance and then her twin brother called Alex and I was like obsessed with you she was just so cool

timmy had the best time we had did you come in on the little like water taxi yes and then we went back on their boat which was like really lovely what did were they just want to vote for the summer they were just really cool god how lovely where else did we go everything that I want to be um and then on the first night I felt really bad for Ames, bless it, because we were like four and a half hours late or something. I remember you texting me saying that there was a delay. So we missed our whole first meal, but then we managed to get to the nightclub.

So that was really fun. And then on the last day, we went to somewhere called Annex. I don't know how old just beach club. And then we had lunch. And then we went home. Oh my God, so fun. How were you away for three nights? Two.

Friday and Saturday. Do you fly to Nice? Yeah. Yeah. Nice. Nees, I also quite lovely. Yeah, really lovely. Thank God we went delayed on the way home because that would have been.

And you know what? I go home and who's hung over. No, the boy. For the second time, after me going away on a hen, big night, 5am. Oh, what was the ring door dog saying? Just him struggling to get in at 5 a.m. Like the keys, like, not quite getting in that. I'm like, are you going to go?

He made the most of his, having had to himself. But you know what? He was with all of my friends from Milfield. Oh, that's quite nice. All of my school friends he went out with. And they were all, like, wrecked the next day. And I was like, guys, come on. They love a drink.

My school friends are fucking. I love a drink. I love a drink. I just can't hack it anymore. It's like I used to. The big night. Let me just tell you. I love a couple of glasses of wine. I can't do like the big night. I can't do it. I don't know how much we drank so much at laggery. God only knows. I don't know how I wasn't fully over because we drank disgusting amounts. How much is that? Like how many bottles. Like how many bottles of rosé like magnums. And then we had espresso and martinis. And then we had espresso and martinis. And then it. Emily bought us a glass of champagne. Then we went to the bar and I was having lemon cello spritses. Ooh, I've never had one of them. With Izzy. I think I had three of them.

Then we went to this other person's table and had more drink. Oh my God. I think just when you're in the sun and you're away and like the hangovers don't hit as bad. It's being here at home. I'm like, why is it? The sun, the sea.

It's something about... Something in the air. I feel like I could drink more being away and I'm okay. Me too. And you know what I'm like with hangovers these days? I throw up all morning. I'm so bad too. So I felt absolutely fine

The next I woke up and I felt great And you know what is good about a beach club day Is that you actually get a decent night's sleep Because you're drinking in the day Day drinking you do sleep off I feel Exactly I have an aura ring

So I was like staring at my stats on this And I was like oh my god It's gonna be so angry at me after this hen Where does the ring So where do you get the stats on your phone? Yeah on the app Oh you download it fine I need to get one of the thing

Everyone raves about them My stress level is so low Toby's like oh my god I'm so jealous But my heart rate variability is like of a 90 year old so that's slightly concerning but apparently I'll have to wait a few months for it to level out

but like it was like 19 and I was like what the fuck and it's supposed to be 90 is like meant to be like good I'm like oh my god uh oh am I dying I'm worried I'd get one and I'd end up stressing myself more so

because you don't really you're just like huh I wonder how I can fix I'm not a stressy person No you're not but you would probably be like I'm a very anxious soul I have been my whole life

I actually don't feel like you haven't been anxious for a long time. I haven't recently. I've been, I think I'm just really content and happy with life, so I don't feel anxious. You know what that shows is you're 30? Like the moment you hit 30. Oh my God. 30's like, feel amazing. And you just stop giving a shit about everything. Yeah, he really do. Can't fucking wait for that. No. So Love Island, have you been watching? I started this series and it was like, I felt like I was loosely following it the first half of it because there was so much online. So it almost felt like I knew what was going on from just seeing like TikToks and like people talking about it

on Instagram. But I wasn't like avidly watching it. I heard it was a really good series. It was like old school Love Island. Like they were not holding back. They needed that though. I feel like Love Island needed a, like they needed a bit of a rebrand because it was becoming very samey. It was Tony and Shakira and Yas. So great. So Shakira is the one that's with Harry. They run her up. Yeah. But he was initially, he didn't get a very. good opinion, public. No, but not in the same way

just from being like a bit of a twat. He was with Helena. Yeah. But like always quite funny, like good television. Like just yeah. And like he carried the show slightly. And just always funny.

Like just for some reason like I know in real life like we're just, he's just quite harmless. I like just get away with it. You need everyone's got to be like there needs to be characters on this show, doesn't they? He was obviously that guy. He's a real character. Yeah.

And like, Obviously, he wasn't very nice to Helena, but what I will say is there was warning signs. Like, Helena maybe should have acted a bit faster. And just, like, set up and herself a bit more. And taken herself away from the situation. I know, bless her. But she was great fun. And, like, and to be fair, her and Harry had great vibes.

Like, watching them chat was so funny. I was like, you guys are really funny together. But anyway, he's with Shakiro. He's obviously gorgeous. And you can tell he's, like, really quite obsessed with her. That's good. So they got runner up. So I really hope that goes the distance.

Tony and Cash, gorgeous, they won. Thrilled. And it was so nice because all three of those girls are besties and they were all in the final and I thought, you know what? They are the true winners of this whole show all three of those girls. Like that is what people were voting for.

They didn't give a fuck about that. Like who they were, they just love the girls. Good, good for them. Well, that's my opinion anyway. There was someone on it called Dee, who I really dislike. He was like really nervous. The one going out with Meg?

Yeah. Yeah, he hadn't get a very good public opinion. And his sister's come out on TikTok and gone. he's a narcissist. I'm like, well, that's his sister. His sister has come out on TikTok and on a whole thing and been like he's a fucking narcissist. I've been telling people for years, blah, blah, blah, blah. Oh my God. And sweet Meg, people, they're boyfriend and girlfriend, right?

Yeah. Do you think they'll go to the distance? No. I just think she'll start to, I think she'll watch back and hopefully have a bit of a wake-up call. And Dee's brother has also been very nasty about Meg online and Meg's family and I'm like I'm saying what I just I don't know just bad stuff about the family so it's not looking good for dear Meg I will say that um and yeah I feel like Dee's been really caught out you can't get away with shit and then no you can't like you just can't so hopefully Meg will be happy in some way and maybe you shall worry from him but thrilled with the outcome and it was a fucking amazing show and I kind of am hoping some of these things will fall apart and then we'll get an epic Pick All-Stars series. Yeah, yeah, I'm sure. All-Stars is always interesting because then you've watched everyone's journey and like,

also not everyone's going to stay together and that's not me being negative. It's just not. Love Harry and Shakira together, but would kind of love to see Harry in an All-Star series. You'd probably be great in an All-Stars. She's so good. Love. Like, Katie, just shove Katie back in. Oh, no, she's got that rich boyfriend now.

I like Katie. Yeah, she just quite, I just quite like a sassy, you know, someone who's just a bit of spunk. Yeah. Yeah. I like the Sponky Girls. Yeah. Like we had that from Grace Law Series. That was good.

Yeah. Like the way she walked with those hips. I know. Oh my God. There will be animals. There's an awful lot of bird here. There's a lot going on. There will be chaos. He tugged and he ripped an air off. He ripped the whole head off.

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Okay, ready? We're going to move on to style. now. I'm quite cold. Yeah, I know, same. Okay, dilemma one. Are we ready? Ready? Am I being ghosted by my partner? Hi, girlies. I've been with my incredible partner for almost a year now. I'm 34 and he's 39. So as a more mature couple, we have a very grown-out relationship, despite it not being super long term. I'm invited, as is plus one, to weddings. We've been on multiple holidays together and it's a given that we see each other's families around Christmas, etc. the gist. But we've had a bit of an ongoing issue around active listening. He just doesn't

probably listen to me when I talk. I brought it up a few times, but he doesn't take it very well. Anyway, I recently went on a girl's trip to Greece and was sending him cute little photo updates, but every time he relied, it was something totally random that he had nothing to do bad, nothing to do with what I sent him. It really upset me, and we ended up having a big argument. I got back home three weeks ago and we haven't seen each other What? Do they live, sorry Do they live in the same city?

Yeah, she's not saying they're doing long distance He's refusing to see me turning his phone off when I call And won't reply to any of my messages Even one saying, I miss you and I feel sad What do I do? I'm in so much turmoil And he doesn't seem to care Is it just classic avoidant Or am I, or should I be demanding a proper adult conversation

About what's going on here? Baby doesn't want to be with you He doesn't want to be with you And that's really hard pill to follow That's really fucking horrible what he's doing to Like so unfair Like Oh my God

Sorry I don't even know what to say Like obviously it's easier for an outsider to see this I feel like when you're in it Like and you love someone You probably don't want to believe it But ultimately what he's doing is just avoiding having a breakup chat with you

Which is really mean So mean Also I'm like he's 30 fucking night He's 40 grow up but also I do think like maybe this is generalising but like is he single and 40

for a reason does he do this sort of thing a lot and as you say there's a huge problem with communicating and now he's just not communicating at all like he's just don't you want more for yourself like you should want to like there's so many great guys out there like you'll meet someone that literally will you will never have these issues and problems with

not saying you'll never have issues or problems but this is like the bare moment Yeah, like this is not weird. He should have missed you so much. Like, what the fuck? How is he just not talking to you for three weeks? I just am baffled by that. Turning the phone off?

That's like cheating, I think. No, no, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's dumb with you in my mind. Like, he thinks we've broken up. He's taking that argument as a breakup and he's not. Yeah, if I were you, I would have. He's just been ignoring you for basically a month and you think that you're still together, no. You're not. Got right, a few weeks ago, haven't seen each other.

He's refusing to see me turning his phone off. No, I'm sorry. and won't apply to any of my messages. No, no. That's really mean and horrible, but I, you know, I'd be the bigger person and I would dump him before he'd dump to you. I would send him, break up message.

Be like, this is fucked up. I don't know what your problem is, but I can get the message loud and clear, but like this relationship is no longer. Yeah, I completely agree with you. She should definitely take the power. Absolutely. I'll take the power back.

As we say, he's 39. and single for a reason and he's maybe done this before to women and it's just not fair and you deserve to be treated a lot better than that so been him bin okay so dilemma two hi girlies i'm 27 and i've always been self-conscious about my nose by that i mean really self-conscious i hate most photos that other people take or random videos where you get to see my side profile lately I've been seriously considering getting a nose job, not because I want to look different, but because I want to feel more comfortable in my own skin. The thing is, every time I bring it up with my family or close friends, they immediately shut it down. They keep telling me I don't need it or I'm being silly, which just makes me feel worse.

My mom is the most vocal about it. She says, I don't need surgery, which is ironic because I know she's had Botox and a few other bits herself and I don't judge her. I'm stuck between feeling selfish and wanting surgery to feel better about myself. What would you do in my shoes? I actually feel quite strongly about this. Oh, you go. Um, you've got to do what you want to do for you. Yeah.

And your, you know, your mom will just be coming from a protective instinct. She doesn't want to see her child go under the knife and when it's cosmetic. But I actually think, you know, you live this life for you. And if you're doing it for all the right reasons, then go for it. Life's too short. If it's going to make you feel better, you're going to be more confident. And it's something you've really done your research in and you are pretty confident and self-assured that this is what you want to do. it and don't actually care too much what anyone else has to say. I agree. Well, I agree with it

to a certain extent. And I will add a caveat with that as I have seen more bad nose jobs than I have seen good. Yes, I do agree with you. It's surgery in the middle of your face. And you will never be able to reverse it. And it's fucking surgery. It's not getting a bit of Botox or a bit of fill of it. You can just take away and it fades. It's a big deal. And your nose is what makes you look like you and I was weirdly on the hen and this girl I'm not going to say her name was thinking she doesn't want me to talk about it but she was saying that she'd always wanted a nose job and she was like I went in for a consultation and she showed me they see GI the nose that they think that you they can get you from the like what result

they can get you and she was like I looked like a different person I mean for really peculiar she'd put me right off she was like and then someone else was talking about the fact they wanted a nose job and she was like right go and do this and you will not want to get it done like I've only seen a few nose jobs that are we've seen a couple of good ones but I would phenomenal ones where you'd never been able to tell

I knew what they looked like before and even now maybe you shouldn't bother getting that done because it looks like hardly different but like that's exactly what they wanted so that's great but then there is some people that we know that have had quite scary

quite scary what it looks like afterwards and I have found it sometimes hard to look at these people in the eye because I'm like it's a new part it's a completely different person and it can end up looking like you've had a really bad nose job I yeah I completely agree with you and like when I was talking about like doing surgery for yourself and not for anyone else it's very different just consider that just doing your nose is like it's like it's kind of you make it's in the middle of your

face what makes you look like you yeah it's the biggest I think the biggest thing that makes you look like yourself but then there are some people that have had phenomenal nose drops like phenomenal. I think you just need to put a lot of time and research into... Don't cheapen out on this. Maybe go to someone who's like reach out to someone who's had a nose job and you really like the nose job and go through someone like a recommendation. Yeah.

But I also think, you know, I do think if it's something that you think about every day and it consumes you and you're really unhappy, I would really like look into it. But be prepared that it's, you're going to probably look like a different person. Yes. bit. I also think of the nose drop. I would consider people get the filler in the end of their nose. I would maybe explore options. If I was you, if I was you, I would explore that option first and just see how I felt and then also go and have that CGI thing and see how you think it makes you feel. And if you're like, you know what, I'm so unhappy with my nose. I'm willing

to take the risk. I don't care if I have a botched nose after this. At least I've tried, then you know that you really really really want it. I think you have to weigh up like how it's making you feel day to day and if like potentially having a worse nose would make you feel better. I don't know. Tim just took the floor. I just really want to make sure that it's not. I know. I don't know it. Nose jobs that scare me so much. It's such a process of healing. Like I think it can take two years for you to then be like, you're swollen for a long time. I think as long as you're because sometimes I think people think so many people have surgeries so you actually just quickly think fuck it everyone else has it and then you're like what have I done and there's nothing worse than

being like I've made the biggest mistake what have I done it's like I had it with the morphie and I was so and I know it's not the same thing but my skin was fucked for a year I had these dins in my face like I still have scars now if I pull my skin I can see all the holes and then I had like spots in all the holes and like it fully made me I wouldn't say I was depressed but I had like depression from it I was so upset and I was like what have I done to my face remember crying myself to sleep and I, it sounds so pathetic because obviously there's bigger problems in the world and I know that it's just all relative to like me. But like, I know how that made me feel and I just don't want anyone ever to feel that way about something they've done

that's completely irreversible like, et cetera. It's just all I'm saying. Yeah. So thank you so much love and you're so beautiful the way you are, but also. Keep us posted. Please keep us posted about what you decide to do and I really hope that, you know, it does, if you do decide to do anything that you are happy and it all goes swimmingly. Yeah. And I'm sure it will. I'm sure it will. I'm just being really pessimistic because I'm a bit scarred in my own experience. Dilemma three. Hey girls, so I need to raise an issue by an issue I mean my boyfriend lasts way too long in bed. Skipping swollen flaps. We've been together.

I don't know why that just came into me. Oh my God. I'm so unlike me. Listen, it's given, like, well, some pseudacremas needed, ASA. Okay, right. So we've been together for a year and a half, and honestly, this man treats sex like an Olympic endurance sport. I'm talking one, two times, even three hours. No. Who's got the time for that?

Oh, my God. I feel like I spoke about this last week. Three hours? I mean three whole hours. I could fly to Spain in less time. What a way to compare What a comparison She's thinking about that

Whilst she's being penetrated She's like I could literally I can be in Spain Oh my God Doesn't sound like she's enjoying her sex life I've watched it up on several occasions And tried to address it in different ways I've told him it gets uncomfortable

After a while I've dressed up We've done it in public places Oh I've even joked that I must be terrible in bed If he can go that If he can go that long without finishing He just laughs and nothing changes

Oh my gosh such a problem He keeps saying that I never initiate sex But to be quite honest I'm exhausted I love nothing more than a quick 20 minute sash Even 10 minutes to be honest

Not a full-blown marathon When I have work the next morning What do I do? I kind of feel I like I'm at three hours Sorry an hour An hour Let's just talk about an hour

I Would almost like put me off sex Oh my God I feel so sorry for your vagina. Yeah, I feel sorry for her. I don't know what, God. Also, I can just imagine you're acting by the end of two and a half. Yeah, you're going to be like, yeah, like, literally, like, Oscar worthy. I'd just be on the end of the third, like, watching well-one. Also, I want to say this is obviously a naughty you, problem. This is fully something that's going on with

him. And you know what? Sometimes I do feel sorry for guys and they have things like ED and stuff because I'm like, fuck me, like, you, there must get so in your head. And I know this is the opposite problem of that. I'd go to the doctor. I'd call one-one-one. I'd call one-one and just get some advice. I'd call one-one and I'd get some advice. We're not... Can you Google it?

I'm going to Google. My boyfriend won't come for three hours. Delete search history. My, I'm not to say, why am I not coming after three hours? It's going to think I'm a girl then. It's going to be like, I'm a boy. Like, what would Google say about that? The question refers to delayed a jack.

A condition where a male takes too long to ejaculate or is unable to ejaculate during sexual activity with an adequate stimulation, even with adequate stimulation. It's not about being able to ejaculate or specific time frame, like three hours, rather than a persistent difficulty that can be both physically and psychologically caused. Relationship issues, performance anxiety, mental health conditions, past trauma, medical conditions. medications, hormonal imbalances there's a lot of different things it could be and your job as the girlfriend is to get from the bottom of it because you know if you love him

you'll help him fix that because that is it's not fucking normal no it's not oh god you must be wrecked at the end of doing that you must be exhausted you must be exhausted like oh my god I wouldn't give him a round of applause because it is in one way quite impressive

God also like don't you have shit to do I'd be like Also, I'm not getting a full night's sleep. I'd be so tired. Oh, my aura would be so upset with me. That's the stress levels would be higher on the ring. Right. Ultimate piece of advice.

You just need to talk to him and be like, really honest, and be like, this isn't normal. And, like, I can't, like, carry on like this. But if you're willing to, like, make this work, I need you to probably try and get to the bottom of why it is taking so long because it's not right. Also, he must be, like, fucking how else. I'm imagining that he knows what the problem is and doesn't quite want to, like, address it. Because it's probably really annoying for him, too. and it's a sensitive subject. Yeah, I agree.

That was the end of the episode, guys. Love to having you, Tim. Love being on, thanks, Tim. Oh my God, please come more. I will. We love it. I love you so much. Thank you for listening, guys.

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