Wednesdays - Ep 10. The Lockdown Libido

Episode Date: June 15, 2021

AhoiiiiWelcome back gang! Today we are sampling a lovely Pinot Gris and answering your dilemmas. We discuss the lockdown libido, or lack thereof! Also, should your boyfriend be texting you on a night out? Today we are drinking the Nautilus Estate Pinot Gris!https://www.winedirect.co.uk/wines/nautilus-estate-pinot-gris-2019Our ratings:Sophie: 6Melissa: 7Love,S & M xSocial - @wednesdayswedrinkwineEmail - [e-mail] Productions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I'm Melissa. And welcome to our new podcast, Wednesdays We Drink Wine. Hey guys. Hey guys, we're back. Where are you shouting because i'm excited you've got glide we got glide we got we've got glass oh my gosh save me we've got glass in our eyes oh guys we've had half a bottle of wine already no you can't keep saying this i'm just being honest no we need to stop being honest because honestly it's terrible you have to how else are we supposed to explain the lack of we

we did an igt video of us doing our makeup and melissa yeah open the glass bottle but open the glass open the bottle we had a lovely time that'll be up on the insta by the way guys check that out yeah we're gonna put that out but we do have glass oh my god no no a lot of ice today let me just help you out getting your friend i just can't speak we have ice in our glasses so apologies i was going to say apologies for the for the clinking the clinking yeah which is about to happen throughout the podcast but i'm very happy to announce that it's really sunny today i don't know whether it's going to be sunny when this comes out but yeah so if it's not sunny in a couple weeks that's quite appalling for the uk i know when you think about it and it's been like I've been in my tougher jacket torrential rain

torrential rain oh it's all spun out I've not I've not put makeup on in like two weeks didn't today feel really weird like putting on makeup on and like talking through with a maid as well I know it felt so nice I can't stop thinking about this I wish we were going out

I know same well we are tomorrow we're going on a like a girls night out tomorrow guys we are going on a big night out tomorrow I'm very excited well no it's not that big

it will be big blackout drunk no I'm joking Melissa's got like this really naughty naughty outfit

yeah and then Sophie was like oh I'm upset I need to get my skin out mine is so like frumpy like I'm just not

very like dressy you just gotta just go for it I oh, I'm upset. I need to get my skin out. Mine is so, like, frumpy. Like, I'm just not very, like, dressy. You've just got to just go for it. I'm like, I am using this opportunity to wear an outfit which makes me feel like I'm naked. Because... But I just, I'm too bloated. Like, I'm not ready for that. I'm not prepared. My body's not used to it.

I'm not used to it. It's funny. Wellness has been doing you wonders. Yeah, wellness has been doing you. I am ready. I just want to get skin out i'm just going to embrace the fact that we don't have to wear a bloody jumper is it tight or like shippony it's not that tight it's kind of got a cowl neck it's sort of like loosely i know exactly what it's like a bit of side boob but it's like bright green by the way it's very tiktok girl

vibe oh it's very american i don't know why you don't like these american girls they're so great what do you mean these american guys like all the american youtubers i love them they're so glam they've got like the fake nails yeah oh my god i just have a select few that i just love and they're so do you that what my favorite is josie london no no wait what's what's her actual name joe i don't know what her last name is josie london and then such a fan the best one is in the fro she is the oh no i don't but i like her name is. Josie London. Such a fan, of course. The best one is in the throw. She is the best. Oh, no. I do, but I like her dog.

I'm going to get one of those. Oh, my God. I'm obsessed with her. I'm absolutely obsessed. Should we talk about the wine? She's such a nice lady. Because once again, Sophie bought it. I think.

I transferred her money two seconds after she bought it. Because I was like, I knew she was going to go in on me. God damn it. But it's the effort of me going out. It is. And I really appreciate it. Only because I'm rushing to get out the door to get here. Oh, it's so fair. I've been travelling 45 minutes for it. Yeah, here oh it's 45 minutes yeah yeah so if he walks out her door two minutes goes

to the lovely wine shop oh what do we have today can i tell you about this so it's called frank so i'm not plugging this at all because they definitely do not give me any discount or any sort it's extremely expensive but it's on um westbourne grove it's lovely it's so nice they have like cocktails in there it's a brand new wine shop they opened in lockdown oh so is this the one that you keep going to

yeah so I've gone to them no then I used to go to Geroboam sometimes but this this one's so great they've got like picantes and the guy in there

is just really cute and I was like can I get an organic wine and he was like no such thing I was like what that really upsets me Sophie told me that

when she came back there's no such thing because the vineyards are so like messed up like the wine goes from this she came back. There's no such thing because the vineyards are so messed up. Like the wine goes from this part. You can never start a place for them. Yeah, the pesticides, whatever, they will go on the grapes. But you would hope that it doesn't have the sulfates in,

which is what makes you have a hangover. Well, to be honest, I have had half a bottle. Now she's admitting it. Yeah, now I'm admitting it. It's not just by yourself. We've had a couple glasses each. That's so acceptable. The sun is out. There's something to celebrate yeah yeah relax so right you're so

so right melissa um although do you have a bit of a head yeah but you have that smoke i think that's because your neck your back yeah yeah true um this will help that but it's a pinot gris yeah not which i had it's obviously not the exact one I had but I had a pinot gris I really apologize if we're saying that incorrectly and I was out the you know the little orange tree in Pimlico or the orange in Pimlico oh yeah I really like that I was having some lunch and I was like I was with Harry he was parking the car and I was pre-ordering myself a glass of wine and I was like oh what's a nice sort of dryish wine I was I really like pinot grigio she was like this and it was like pinot gris she was like it's very what's a nice sort of dryish wine? I was like, I really like Pinot Grigio. She was like, this. And it was like Pinot Grigio. She was like, it's very, very similar to Pinot Grigio.

It does taste very similar. Basically the same. And I was like, lovely. So when I had this, I was like, oh, I know something about the wine this week. I'm just turning around the bottle. It's got a cute little snail. Oh, it's a vegan wine too. Yeah, it's vegan.

And it's organic, supposedly. Okay, right. Do you want to give me a milk? Oh, wait. Hang on. It says contains sulfates at the bottom. No, it doesn't. Yeah, it does.

Oh, my mother effing God. That guy had me on. This also isn't an organic wine. It does not say organic anywhere on it. Oh, no, but I think that Green Leaf does. I honestly don't think that that's truly correct. I think he's kind of having you on with that. Oh, for God's sake.

Because organic wine does not contain sulfates. And that doesn't say that it's organic. It's probably like a more natural version or vegan yeah it was on his nap i think it's vegan and they've got confused oh it's just like when people think i can eat cheese because i don't eat meat you know yeah i'm like no so he has a lot of dietary requirements guys going out for dinner with her is hard work I'm basically just pescetarian I am gluten free, vegan, pescetarian but I will eat

eggs. No I won't What? Yeah I gave them up they grossed me out, ew how upset I was, I was so happy when I started eating ice cream and you were like oh happy days but no as long as you eat. Guys I broke my little toe twice in a month i don't

think you have i have melissa apparently it happens all the time no i'm i told you that last week on the podcast well wait did i tell you i broke it last week and i was like that's really common there's nothing to do on friday that is so weird you broke and you said that jamie was like you're complaining the whole time or something maybe we were on on FaceTime. Oh, no, no. That's right. No, that is. Okay. So I broke it and then I re-broke it because then I was putting on my pet a pair of pants

and my toe, like, went. Got caught. Got caught in the fall. And it, like, yanked it backwards. And honestly, I was, bearing in mind, this is a mending broken toe from one week one week old it's just the swelling's gone down the bruising's turned to yellow and i'm putting on my thongs trying to be just really cool in the morning before i go to the gym and i was like honestly thought i pulled my toe off and it's then it was swollen and really back that is so funny

the fact that it got caught in your little thong i know pinged it back when does that ever happen okay so we've had some really lovely replies from you guys which is just like making us so happy or like a follow-up message and then we've got another message i'm gonna read them out so hey both thank you for the podcast and reading out my dilemma i'll be seeing him for the sixth time for drinks on sunday this by the way just for a bit of background knowledge this is about the the girl who wrote in about her hinge date who she was catching feelings for but he had recently put in a put it into friendzone i remember this yeah yeah friendzone time we were like watching and she was basically wondering whether it was worth trying to pursue a friendship or not as he as she

thought he was really great anyway she said that she was very thankful for the podcast she'll be seeing him from for the sixth time for drinks on sunday but i am taking your advice and i've decided to accept a couple of other actual date invites good well done yes and also dress up a little bit more get your you know get your arms out get your skin out get your legs out i am going to really think about where my head is when i see him on sunday and as you said train my brain to think that this is not going to happen and see what it makes me feel oh i'm not sure that's what i want her to feel i mean what train her brain don't want her to be training this yeah because that's manifesting bad things she needs to be manifesting like good things but if he doesn't if he's friendzoning

her then i think you train your brain to think i am good enough something like that you know oh yeah but also i don't think like trying to kid yourself and thinking oh i could i could convince him to unfriendzone me because you don't want to have to convince anyone someone will just want you for like you straight away you know what i mean can't wait around for somebody to change their bloody mind definitely don't train your brain to think this isn't going to happen because then it won't i really believe in the law of attraction i think if you're saying that to yourself every day that's what the universe will give you you know yeah that's quite conflicting i know but i don't i think that she should go out live her life have fun enjoy her time but more so if she's going to train

her brain train her brain to say something like everything good is going to happen to me yeah all of my dreams will come to me that's what you should be training your brain not anything negative because that's just not positive positive i'm wearing all my crystals today guys yeah so if you got me a couple of these positive energy tea the sun came out just i know there you go okay this is really really lovely this from a girl in canada so we've got international audience she said i feel so weird messaging strangers on the internet don't we're not strangers we're a family i think this is the first time i've ever done this so i hope it's okay i moved to london five years ago from canada to be with my now ex we had a lockdown breakup which

was for the best okay good but good yeah I guess but obviously it's a bit complicated because all of my friends in the UK are his friends oh wow that's freaking hard girls and guys who've known for absolute years they've been great there's no hard feelings but out of respect we've all pretty much lost touch as you'd expect oh my god, no. Oh, my God, I'm really sorry. Oh, that sucks. Well, you can come hang out with us. That plus lockdown and the fact that all my girls are at home in Canada has meant I'm severely lacking in girls. So your podcast has been so, so lovely. I don't have a dilemma.

I just wanted to say how impressed I am and how kind and lovely you both are. Oh, my God. You are such a little sweetie. She's actually called Sophie as well. Oh, good name. So Sophie from Canada, we love you. Love you. I think that with a massive following you are such a little sweetie she's actually called sophie as well so sophie from canada we love you love you i think that i think that with a massive following probably comes with a

lot of negativity so the fact that you're both so positive and loving and lovely is incredible and something you guys should be proud of thank you for doing the podcast oh my god what a nice message safe how lovely you're a little gem just the best and i'm really sorry you're going through that but obviously you sound like an absolutely amazing girl so i'm sure now that places are opening you'll meet people yeah i think you'll meet someone as you said like now things are heating up again people are going out and surely some of the people that you have been friends with for five years will maybe ask to go out like one-on-one like a coffee i don't think that's like imposing like if they're doing big group things then probably your ex will be there and

fair enough you're not going to go they'll probably choose him i guess if they're here but also i am a big believer in you know girls do kind of stick with each other so when there's a girl's night like just like be like oh what are you doing this evening like i don't feel like going along to those types of things is invading his, you know, friendship group because he wouldn't be going anywhere because it's a girl's night. So whatever. That happens all the time in like breakups,

like friendship groups kind of get a bit complicated, but that's the life you've just got to carry on. You can't not be, I guess, friends with them anymore. When I break up with my, my ex, it did sort of like create a divide,

but you give it a year or like less. It's just time heals everything and then you all become your true friends you might go back together the ones that you know you're not so you can't be friends with everyone then you yeah to go your separate ways but i think that's process yeah but i do think true friends definitely sit together and i don't think just because he was their friend before means that he'll be their friend for longer or whatever. They'll definitely not... Still value you and your friendship that you guys had, yeah.

Sending you good energy and positive vibes. Yeah, we love you, so... Love you. Dilemma from a lovely lady who must be anonymous. OK. I adore the podcast so much and find it so comforting hearing your sponsors dilemma sent in. I have my own dilemma and I really appreciate your opinion. I've recently got back into my first relationship after being broken up with by a guy I was with for seven years from school.

Wow. Whoa, whoa, whoa. So they were together for seven years, they've broken up for seven years and now they're back together. I've recently got back into my first relationship after being broken up with by a guy i was with for seven years from school it left me broken and took two years to really grow and get some confidence back okay what i'm assuming with she was with a guy for seven years she had a boyfriend before that she broke up with the guy for seven years she's back with the first boyfriend right okay okay it left me broken and two took two years to really grow some confidence back i was really proud of

myself i adore my new boyfriend he is honestly amazing but i really struggle now that he's started going out since things have started to be lifted wow this is going to be hard for a lot of people my anxiety from previous relationship is really starting to come through i am his first girlfriend and have up have asked before that if he's going out to send a message just say it where he is wherever he is and that he won't be able to chat i completely understand that this is him and he wants to have fun but he never sends a message is this a red flag if he can't communicate with me the way i need i'm really worried my anxiety over him going out will just get worse and i'm wondering whether

i should walk away from the relationship if i don't feel ready for it even though he's really going for me so you do not walk out way okay right I'm just gonna like put across what I can understand the story is she was with a guy for seven years yeah that she was at school with they broke up it completely broke her so it's taken her two years to recover now she's with a new guy and this is now I guess they got together in lockdown and now everything's opening up it's kind of like you don't know any different with the relationship. And now she's kind of freaking out about the going out thing and the communication. I'm bad at communication when I'm drunk.

Sometimes. Sometimes I'm excellent. Sometimes I'm such great to find my girls. I don't even look at my phone. Yeah. And Harry's like, hi, when you coming back? And I'm like, oh my God, so sorry. God, Jamie's opposite the minute he started doing FaceTime, FaceTime, FaceTime.

I'm like, go, dude. Oh my God, that's so sweet. No, he's like, look, I FaceTime, FaceTime. I'm like, go, dude. Oh my God, that's so sweet. No, he's like, look, I'm fine with this person. I've never met them before. Hi, my sweetie. But I really do think that for anyone going out with somebody who they've met over lockdown, I think this is going to be huge, huge. Because just like for people in relationships going into lockdown it would have made a break

yeah for people who met in lockdown that was all they knew and maybe they were codependent and maybe they like just being one-on-one and maybe the boy starts going out and he you know it's a change it's a massive change it's a huge change I think that you have to I think you almost have to trust your gut if you think that there's something i guess fishy going on and that's making you very paranoid and making you feel anxious that's obviously not good you have to communicate that with them yeah and you know they just have to be a little bit better at letting you know where they are and what they're doing what their plan is which i don't think is much to ask but i do know from my own self when i'm hammered or i've had you know not even hammered i've had three four glasses of

wine with my girls my phone is staying three four glasses of wine by the way it's a bottle of wine you like it but that will make me sink wine no but i can't really these days i do you just don't drink anything but wine you would never have a spirit i've never seen you drink a gin and tonic oh yeah can we get one of those tomorrow night yeah we'll have some of those tomorrow night so yeah i i know for a fact my phone will just sit in my handbag and i won't check it for a couple hours but that is i guess that also comes with a little bit of maybe maturity not having i think if you're in you're in a two three four four year relationship i think it's different the early stages you would have been messaging Harry however my first

boyfriend never would message me on the night out ever Jamie's very different but it was never because I hope I don't think he was he's just not like that like so boys are just different like everyone's different you know I Jamie messages me

a lot on nights out because he gets drunk and wants to speak to me I don't look at my phone. You're like, leave me alone. Yeah, I like air all his calls. It's not because I don't love him. It's not because I'm cheating, obviously. But some people are less communicative. You just want to be in the moment.

I think back to the days when we didn't have phones. Yeah. You just got to trust. You know, obviously, this is going to be a different conversation if he's not then coming home at night. I get, and also if he's out all day. Like like if you don't know where he's going if i know where they're going it's really not an issue yeah and also if i'm it's different for us also because we know all the people that harry and jamie are friends with and who they're with and it's always

on social media i can always kind of have an idea like i just don't i'm just not worried about it what does annoy me is if he's coming home super super late and then he comes in and disturbs me in the night that will then bum me out because I'm like I've got like just let me know you're gonna come home late but I used to be very worried about where he was and like what he was doing in terms of like is everything okay like can you just let me know what time you're gonna come home like are going to come home before i do do i need to go and get a key from the key no but like if we go out together and then we split up harry will always have he always takes the keys in his pocket and then i'm like oh shit i don't have a key i have to go get it from constant it's just like a bit of a pain but yeah now i'm just like i think obviously years have gone past i just i'm just i just don care. And if he comes into the bedroom and wakes me up,

I'm like, shut up. I kind of like it when JP goes out and gets wasted because I'm like, ha-ha, you're going to be hungover and I'm going to feel really fresh tomorrow. It annoys me so much when Harry's hungover. So much. Because I'm... On a Sunday, like... But Harry's not good on a hangover.

Terrible. I just can't take it because I feel so healthy and, like, so... Like, I've got a hay dose coming out of my head. I love doing stuff on a Sunday Sunday's like such a big like you're the same like I've always had big family days yeah it's like my mum always has a lovely big family roast and like Sundays are great family's always been around like this is what I've grown up with so on Sunday I'm like can we do

something I want to go out for lunch like come on like I don't want to just sit inside don't want to waste the weekend and he's like Dead Dead I don't like Did he not do anything last Sunday Oh absolutely not What time did he leave the bed Um To be fair he got out of bed quite early But then he just sat on the sofa

Like watching like F1 videos And then we watched the F1 And then we both had a bit of a nap Oh I wish I could nap How you nap I just can't I just have so much sleep It's actually probably not that good for you though

I'm not asleep Yeah you're almost like a natrophiliac or whatever the people who fall asleep standing up no I don't have that problem but get me on a plane

I'll fall asleep when the plane's taking off like I don't want to see my dad's the same I think it's just like we don't Jamie in you come

I wish you guys could see oh my god I wish you could see what she's... Locked hand liquor? Becante, shut up. Oh my... Five times a day, honestly, that doorways...

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Please play responsibly. It's lockdown, Nicka. We can have patantis. Also, guys, this is also so relatable for our complaints that Harry did about me in the past, that Sophie has the same problem. Jamie, you've left the fridge open. Shit. Oh, it's closed. Okay, it's closed. Okay, right, going back to the dilemma.

I don't think... Don't dump him. No, definitely not. That's savage. I don't think she said that that's what she's gonna do she did she was like should i walk away i think it depends how much it's working you up i feel like there's obviously some underlying issue there that could be her insecurity not like maybe it could be i think that you have to communicate this with him and you have to kind of like get through it together because if you just keep it to yourself and you're like

uber paranoid that's not not going to help anybody. You're just going to be like getting really upset. And then you'll probably resent him a bit. For no reason. I will tell you a secret of mine. It's not really a secret anymore. It is. Well just to be nice.

The first time. My first boyfriend. Did. Oh maybe my second. Can't remember. He did cheat on me. I've only had three. Oh no I've haven't.

I've had four. Sorry I always forget about one of them. We've the same you've had four boyfriends one of them escapes my mind let me tell you second boyfriend i he did actually cheat on me but to be fair to him i will give it to him i was such a bitch that summer i i don't know whether it was the pill i was on the conscious that we were I was on, and girls are like... Oh, you're going to blame me on that, can't you? No, I honestly, like, some... I was... Actually, do you know what? Growing up. The whole of that relationship, I was so crazy.

I can't... I look back and I'm like... Who was it? Tell me. Okay. I was... I was just hard work. Nothing.

I mean, just nightmare. Oh, my God. Everything was just a nightmare. I was just... I was a... We've all been there. I was a bitch. Everything I did.

Anyway, so I left summer i think we were yeah we had like summer together whatever and i was in england and i remember like having this gut feeling middle of the night to look at my phone and i looked at my phone and i instagram searched this random girl and i saw she was at the same party or festival as him and in my head i went well they're flirting together. I didn't think they were cheating. I was like, something bad's happening. And I knew.

And I woke up at 1 a.m. Four months later. By the way, I've met this girl once. Four months later, I found out they kissed. I know. I'm psychic. That's not being psycho. That's just being intuitive.

Psychic. And being psychic. Yeah. I kind of look back at it. That's not being hard work, though being intuitive being psychic yeah i kind of look back that's not being hard work though you were not paranoid for no reason or do you think you drove him to do that oh no i look at it like i was such a psycho girlfriend that i'm like oh don't blame me i would have cheated on me and i'm surprised he'd done me earlier but anyway what i mean obviously not okay but what i'm intrigued like, gut feelings are a real thing. Like, I woke up. A hundred percent.

I had the, you know what's so funny? With my second boyfriend as well. We, we all say something. I had the exact same thing. I just didn't hear from him. Did he cheat on you? He was in another country. Yeah, I told you this.

Shut up. He was in another country. He was in France. I'm really giving away who this person is. We all know who it is. We all know who it is. And I was with my mum watching TV and I was like I just have this really odd feeling

that something's not right because I haven't heard from him all day and I just knew that was weird and I was like I remember saying to my mum I was like mum something really bad has happened I was like I just know and I was due to go out there and fly there and see him in like a week and I was like this is so weird I didn't hear from him all night

and the next day he was like being a bit fishy and I was like that is just, I just knew in my gut that something had happened and I knew there this is so weird didn't hear from him all night and the next day he was like being a bit fishy and I was like that is just I just knew in my gut that something had happened I knew there was this one girl out there that he was friends with when he was like three or something you actually knew the girl shut up and um yeah when I got there you know what when I got there we were in his little apartment and he was unloading. I went to put our plates in the dishwasher that he had just cooked a lovely lunch for me when I arrived from the airport. There was two wine glasses in the dishwasher and I went.

Was it just him saying that? Just him in this flat. And I just knew, I went, why the fuck is there two wine glasses in the dishwasher? Anyway, he then went to work the next day. I messaged the girl. Shut up. Like, would you, hey, like I'm by by myself like such and such is at work i was with my boyfriend at the time was at work i was like gonna meet for some breakfast i kind of i

knew that they were seeing each other and like he had put it on their instagram they were friends but i just knew something weird had happened anyway i then just cornered her and i was like can you just tell me if you kiss like i kind of want to know like i did you take breakfast we went for breakfast she was like yeah sure we went for breakfast and i was like i just need you to tell me she's like yeah happened really sorry i was like don't worry it's not your fault but i need to like get the fuck out of there yeah so what happened i've got geese i then call my parents they've got bitten on the next flight i think if you've got gut feelings about potential cheating that's a different avenue to go down but if you're just being you know anxious about him going out

because it's a change in your relationship then i don't think you need to get yourself worked up from it maybe just express him like look like i just feel a bit anxious about it like i obviously don't have any problem but it would make me feel better if you just let me know where you are every now and then you just have to also set boundaries boys are like puppies train them just tell him time and time again they are though well jamie is yeah you have to be, can you please message me when you get there? That's it. I don't need messages to you out the night. And if you're a team and he fully understands

and wants to make you feel better about it, then he just will. But don't, and we've obviously heard this, don't let it freak you out. Anyway, I'm sure it's completely fine. And if your gut's right, then here's loss and you get the hell out of there. Exactly.

Hi, girls. i have a dilemma i've been with my boyfriends for two years we moved in together last july and even though i expected the sex to slow down it's way less than i think is normal we both put a little bit of lockdown weight on every time i initiate anything he makes excuses like he is too tired or that he isn't as fit as he used to be because of the weight gain i want to be understanding but sometimes it feels like an excuse to avoid having sex with me it's now been two weeks and nothing am i overthinking it honey two weeks i think that's not a long time i've been let me tell you but i do think this is obviously sending me from an insecurity point of view oh no my heart goes my heart goes out to him. Which is quite sad. But now maybe things are different and, like, you're not obviously, like, in lockdown anymore. Maybe he'll get back his, like, his mojo and feel better.

It sounds like it's stemming from, like, an insecurity. It does. And maybe encourage, like, as a, like, a couple's thing to go to the gym together or go on walks together. And everyone, you know, I had a summer body. I had a winter body. like as a like a couple's thing to go to the gym together or go on walks together and everyone we you know i had a summer body i had a winter body i had everything body in this lockdown we've had a year of being in our sweatpants like we've all been through this in some form with like not being happy with the way that we look as and we've been eating badly or no sex like no sex yeah it's a massive lockdown thing i don't think i've spoken to anyone who literally every single girl has had zero sex and like as boys as well like you're spending every day with that person i

think we're so unstimulated by sitting around the house that's a really good way of saying it we are very honest that you're not gonna want to have sex like there's no drive so i don't think anyone needs to worry and i definitely have been worried about it during this lockdown and then i was like oh yeah we both have yeah yeah and also like it's quite funny like i'm like i'm too tired get off like if i'm in bed i'm there to sleep leave yeah yeah but are you in the morning so that's kind of i hate that because i'm like first thing i need to do no one speaks to me i need to brush my teeth yes i'm like an afternoon but i like kind of middle of the day i don't like it when i'm really tired at night i'm like i hate it when i'm full so i'm like get off i got i don't mind it

when i'm drunk so i'm so relaxed i'm just like whatever i just sit on the end of the bed like yeah pretty much i do get my i get my phone out i start watching amazon prime emails yes you know watching badly hills housewives no but i am yeah not a morning though yeah sorry we've really digressed this i would not panic but i would i would encourage them to go to gym because i'm a massive believer and you've really come into this like working out regardless of how it makes you physically look the endorphins are so and it does stimulate you it does motivate you it does make you feel so much better in yourself every single human should do it yeah so good for you and if it's not like going to do lift weights or

doing high intensity go on a walk like that go on a walk and start eating healthy together yeah just go on a little bit of a health kick and now we can go out and about i think that things will start to change anyway because as sophie was saying like you're not stimulated in the house like you'll probably be like excited about stuff again and i also think weirdly when you're around other people your partner can sometimes become more attractive i so agree i'm like god harry you're so good looking i really really fancy when you're on your own you're almost you become almost you become a bit immune to like seeing what they actually look like well it's all about physical appearance no but i i'd have this like thing that you don't almost

look at them in the same way my sister always says about her boyfriend she always says that she like doesn't look at him and they're not aware and then she's like oh that's your face yeah i don't know what jamie looks like i can't just put it into words i think when you're looking at the same person every day and that's all you're looking at like if i really look at you i'm like well you're very very very very beautiful not that is to do but you know what i mean i just know you i think when you're around people so much and you don't think and then when i see harry that's the great thing because it's like the importance of the personality yeah it's also important it's hugely important when it when you throw in real life as well to this mix i think it will all help and don't panic two weeks honestly nothing honey two weeks i'm laughing because two

weeks it's a good stint two weeks oh yeah Oh, yay, only two weeks. Only two weeks. Got another week to go and then it's becoming an issue. No, I'm joking, guys. Honestly, no matter how long you go, I'm sure everyone can relate. Lockdown's been a massive anomaly. It's not normal life. No, I totally agree. And it does sound like it's definitely

stemming from an insecurity point of view. So I think maybe you need to... I don't even know how I would even approach that. I would just suggest, you know... The gym thing is good, going a bit of a health kick. Yeah. Going out on a nice date night, just changing up the environment. I wouldn't pressure him into it because if he is feeling insecure,

there's nothing worse. Then it will become almost a paranoia thing. He's like, oh, I must, you know. You must have sex, yeah. Yes, which you don't want to make a thing. Yeah, you don't. The complete and free is hilarious. It's from Harry.

Actually, message me, Ali. Yeah, go on. No, he didn't send it to me. He sent it to Sophie. Oh, my God. I'm crying. Guys, he sent Melissa's mess. Just this is a whole other...

Wait, what is it? Guys, you know you know he always complains about melissa's mass i was like just mashing on like not regarding the podcast i can't believe how messy she is he just sent me we're gonna have to post on my instagram sorry no way no way this is embarrassing he just posted me the photo of his bedside table which by the way is militant like he's a minimalist it's so cute he is literally like yours is like that yeah actually my neck oh my god yours is actually criminal what guys i'm gonna post it because there is 49 wires there's everything everything sunglasses face down which is so illegal anyway you know the tissue on the floor anyway here's a complaint of the week i'm gonna read it to you guys now right

these are melissa's headphones okay i don know how anyone, how anyone can sort of work and use these knowing that they're like this. And I know people are not going to be able to see this because it's a video, but you're going to have to do your best, your very best, to describe the entanglement that these are in.

I mean, how do, how, how do you get them like that? There's nine knots in there. God, it honestly just epitomized this is what her headphones are like imagine what our flats like after she's finished getting ready it's just a joke i'm crying guys melissa's like a full-on vlogger if you've not watched her vlog go check it out we'll put a link in there anyway she sits and edits these vlogs by facetime with these bloody headphones and firstly why you don't have earpods i don't have it one of my earpods is broken yeah they're so bum out and

they annoy me oh yeah i agree and i but i steal other people's privacy and they're like i log them into mine it's like you've got ruby's sorry ruby if you're hearing this it was me who took them she was like where have they gone and then i then I got back to London and it was like, connected to Ruby's headphones. I was like, shame. Anyway, Melissa's headphones have about 10 knots in them, which is really irritating. I did send in mine and say mine are pretty tight. Oh, yours are bad. Yeah, we're probably like a knot.

Why are mine in a knot though? It's almost like I've gone like that. Yeah, they're like in perfect, really tight knots. You're not going to get them out. Anyway, I agree. That is kind of irritating. I sit there editing them and it's just like, knot, knot, knot.

It's like, does that not bother you? I'm like, no. You're a messy girl. For someone who calls everyone else grubby and everything, you're more grubby. I'm not grubby and dirty. I'm very clean. You've got fake tan all over my cream seat right now. I can imagine. it doesn't transfer don't worry what one is i'm just not it's a

bondi sands one but it's like a gradual it's not oh yeah i hate the the dark green color i just can't deal with that so it's the clear one everything yeah oh fine yeah that's why it smells quite nice um i just it just doesn't upset me that much i don't know it just doesn't bother me i'm shocked because you are quite like ocd like you're very like organic and everything has to be clean your nails are always perfectly well like i just and you're pristine to look at like you never turn out with greasy greasy hair i have a couple times oh yeah fair shove me a dry shampoo but i feel like that's a different that is a different i don't mind greasy i prefer my hair greasy when it's tied up in a ponytail yeah like i won't wash mine for tomorrow you've done that a couple times i do all

the time i wash my hair once a week i'm not even so do i and i go to but i oh yeah you jim do it's kind of disgusting i hope jim doesn't but it's better for your hair that's why i do it yeah i do i prefer the look of it i don't like my fresh yeah this is this is fresh hair and it's like flat to my thing mine's like puffy poofy my friend um mind me has hair like ours it's like dead dead dead straight yeah and her boyfriend loves straight hair like hates curly hair for some weird reason on so does jamie hates it and whenever she comes out of the shower and it's like dead straight to her face like this he goes oh my god your hair looks so nice it's jack and miney and he's like i love your hair like this and she's like

what the fuck is wrong with you my hair looks terrible and it's like flat to her face no volume whatsoever well wet or dry like i think it's like when it's like just dry out and he's like Jamie that's my night and he's like god it looks so nice so he's basically just hinting like anything to what you normally do

do not curl your hair it's funny isn't it Jamie hates my hair Sam Johnson hates curly hair as well so does Jamie not hates curly hair I think just prefers

Zara with straight hair I think curly hair can look a bit like poofy princessy like I try not to if I do a beach wave at a hairdresser it's quite bang a bit try and make it look a bit messy you actually have to get a little tip salt spray so fair oh my god it makes my hair so dry yeah i know it does but it's cool you look nice

beauty is pain i've heard it here first and sophie gosh we've been rambling on for a while, we now have to rate our wine. Shall we quickly just give Sophie's taste buds a test, guys? Oh God, okay fine. Tell me what you taste. Wait, hold on, it's just even bloody saying. I don't think it does say. It's got a snare on the front, how weird.

Yeah, I know. Oh no, no, no, we do have, we do have finger spritz. Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, shhh. Oh God, my nose is a bit rough. Oh come on, you cannot blame me on that. You're so good at this. Great. I'm going to give it a go.

I'm going to give it a go. I'm going to give it a go. I'm going to give it a go. I'm going to give it a go. I'm going to give it a go. I'm going to give it a go. I'm going to give it a go. Oh god my nose is a bit locked Oh come on you cannot blame me on that You're so good at this Grape Grape Wait wait wait Grape Yeah have another large sip go on

Oh my god you're so bad at that you ought to get better at that Oh god I really can't taste anything Grass No Not citrus I don't mean No Pear Apple Berries You're just taking wild

guesses now should i tell you tell me oh it's fragrant dry style of melboura pinot gris or melboura yeah is textural and expressive with notes of spice and a long finish oh for god extremely abstract that is such an abstract description a long finish i agree it's long what what does that even mean it's a lot i don't know but i'm over that it's really nice i'm really enjoying this well yeah i can tell we're both a bit drunk you know it tastes it i mean it's pretty sound okay i going to do the official. Okay, fine, I'll do. Let's both try and do it. No, you have to swirl. Okay, so I swirl first.

And it gets caught at the top, then you sniff. It smells quite, like, fruity when I do that. Yeah, it's very fruity. But what's this? It's floral. Oh, okay. Oh, gosh, that's alcohol. Oh, gosh, that's alcohol. Oh gosh, that's alcohol.

Got down my throat. Alcohol. Okay. I mean, all I can say is it's really nice. I have my misalign right now, so it's probably adding a little bit of a plasticky flavour. I can just... It tastes like a normal Pinot Grigio.

I'm not going to lie. I feel like we need to mix up and get like a Chardonnay next week. What was that accent? Chardonnay, you know, and then I can have get like a Chardonnay next week what was that accent Chardonnay you know when they're like can I have a bottle of Chardonnay sorry I actually

um I'm gonna rate this I'm not gonna be too generous because I feel like we've nearly drank a bottle of wine that's how she it's not even or whatever

go on what time is it live your life it's almost 5 o'clock it's 6pm somewhere 6pm somewhere um okay I'm gonna give it a 7 only because I really really like it Live your life. It's almost five o'clock. It's six p.m. Six p.m. Summer. Okay.

I'm going to give it a seven. Only because I really, really like it. I don't want to be too generous and give it an eight. And I feel like a seven is quite a nice middle. I'm going to give it a six. Oh. I think I've had nicer. Oh, yeah. To be fair, so have I.

But I just, you know. I think that Chablis was really nice that we drank the other time. We need to really mix it up. Also, we need to go to wine. I'm really enjoying this. I could just drink this forever. This doesn't have ice in it now yeah i'm way proud of the ice i think it's too warm it is too warm the temperature is too warm but the flavor of the wine is like nice yeah it's a really nice really nice really light wine and it's vegan so yeah always a bonus how are they

not vegan i don't understand it's on a grape sustainable as well actually that's a serious question how is it not vegan? They're from grapes. Okay, so normal wine is actually filtered through fish scales, which is going to freak you out. That's why it's not vegan. Why you eat fish, but that is pretty wrong. Weird, isn't it? You don't think that.

Fish scales? Yes, something like that. Google it. Honestly, she'll get it right now. Oh, you just, something like that. You can't just make a statement like that and then not be correct. I'm honestly so sure.

Fish scales. Yeah. Anyway, guys, we will love you and leave you. Please rate and subscribe and review and send in your dilemmas. But we'll see you next week. Bye, guys. Bye, guys. Love you.

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