Wednesdays - EP 11. We answer your post lockdown dating dilemmas!

Episode Date: June 22, 2021

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Guys, this is so weird. Sophie and I aren't with each other in real life. But I will say we were quite sloppy this week because Melissa last minute was like, by the way, I got an organic pinot. And I was like, okay. But I didn't even ask for the brand, so I ran out to the shop to try and get an organic pinot and I was like we probably not got the same one and we did and then I showed her she goes she tries to pronounce it to be fair it's quite a weird what is it per perato catarato pinot grigio 2019 organic we're really sticky it's looks very Spanish. It does. Is it Spanish?

Mine's in the fridge, so I'm not. And it's 80% recycled glass. Lovely. So this is, I'm not going to lie, I've had this quite a lot before. I'm not sure if you're going to love this. Are you looking on the app? Yeah, I'm also thinking they've got loads,

by the way, they've got loads of Pinot Sauvignon Blanc, all organic. They've got loads of roses. What, this brand yeah oh wow oh how fabulous and now this is just in my little shop downstairs so i just grab it it's like my little go-to this is little shop downstairs it's just delightful what's it called the natural farm no it's like one of the most expensive food shops ever it's like so overpriced for the like normal stuff you can get in like waitrose

or sainsbury's they like have the same thing they just overpriced it i know it's ridiculous but i love something about it you feel like you're going into like you're eating so much better when you eat from there it's because it's kind of a whole foodsy vibe okay let's i've already poured mine and i do have a bit of glass glass sorry i haven't even had a sip right now but i can't still can't speak this whole week I don't know what's wrong with me have ice um

so do I look at mine look how big that big old you would love these ice cube trays it's one huge block of ice

mmm your glasses are lovely do you like it yum I like that lovely I really like this Harry doesn't not not so much,

but that's because I think, because it's organic, he's kind of like, oh, it's going to be shit. But it's actually really yum. And it's... Yeah, that's so... It's really...

Tell me how much yours was. This is going to be interesting. Mine was $8.99. Oh my God. What was yours? In the general store, it's $12.99. That's what I mean. They just mark stuff up up but it's the cheapest one in the shop so that's why i always go for it that is quite cheap for the general store yeah but considering that you only paid 8.99 like it's a bit annoying yeah yeah but

it is a criminal i felt like jamie's candy kittens like 12 pounds for a packet in there every time i see them i'm like yeah they honestly overprice everything. It's so bad, but it is quite heavenly. It's so funny. Whenever Sophie comes to visit me, I know that she's just mingling and meeching about in this general store. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She buys all these like nuts and like... Yeah, like they have these activated nuts.

Like, what's an activated nut? Like, just give me a normal... You told me they were good. Well, apparently they're easier to digest. I was like, all right, I'm all about that. They're like £7 told me they were good. They were apparently they're easier to digest. I was like, all right, I'm all about that. They're like seven pound for a packet of nuts.

They are. And that, oh my God, they are so expensive. And the packet of nuts, honestly, guys, it's about five nuts. But they do taste way nicer. Or is that just me?

Do they? You know what's really quite like outrageous with me? I bought the walnuts, activated walnuts and put them in brownies. No, what you do is you put them in your smoothies,

which is, Fancy's just gross. I love it how you know that about me. She puts four walnuts in a smoothie. What do you think that's going to do? Yeah, because they're so good for your brain. Are they? Yeah, it's meant to be excellent

for like preventing dementia and stuff like that. You're 25! I honestly get paranoid that I have like early onset memory loss because there's so many times where I forget things and I'm like am I okay like that's not right I do worry about that's like my biggest my biggest fear is going mental like is in losing my mind getting scared going crazy

sorry started off on a really light and friendly note but anyway welcome back guys welcome back let's talk about the weather for a minute because we have to. We have to, guys. It's shorts weather. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to wear. I'm dressing like a boy. I don't have any shoes.

I'm exactly the same. Melissa's in a full-on hoodie. What are you doing? To be fair, in my flat, we've got full-on aircon on right now. So do I. And I feel like that's what my block nose is is from from all the air conditioning nashk sophie my hay fever is next level bad i walked out at battersea park yesterday i sneezed okay so i have like fits of sneezing but there'll be like seven sneezes in a row you know if because each sneeze god i wish that was true

what that is absolutely terrible i wasn't let me tell you right now in battersea park on my seventh sneeze i was nowhere near an orgasm let me tell you something else as well your glass is a full bottle it's because the ice is so big i promise you if i took that i fell out it's friday somewhere right oh my god the sun's out honestly there's something about the weather that just makes me so desperate to just go out and drink rosé all day long i know it's just so heavenly but i so feel you i am like so bad with like choosing outfits i was like i have nothing to wear on my top half like i have some shorts from last summer but i like i in in the lockdown culling season which we all did i got rid of all of my summer stuff so now i'm like i've

got nothing to bloody wear i've got like dresses she's just like not really so sure what's in fashion i know shoes wise like the last time I was wearing summer dress I wore cowboy boots but I'm actually over them. I know you love them but I am a bit over them. It's also too hot today for that. Like that's like the in between weather stage

where it's like 16 degrees. Still a bit shitty you can get away with it but right now, woof. But I feel like I can't wear, like I've got a real issue with sandals anyway.

Like let me know if anyone else has this. Flip flops, sandals, a broad suite. When I'm in England I just think I look ugly with them. I just can't. It's just like, sandals anyway like let me know if anyone else has this flip-flops sandals abroad suite when i'm in england i just think i look ugly with them i just can't it's just like it cringes me out i feel so it's so funny like the moment it got slightly hot i got in the lift with this guy who

was wearing like shorts and flip-flops and he really didn't he his toes weren't that groomed but they weren't atrocious i've seen a lot worse and i was just thinking god is it really appropriate to get your toes out in the middle of London? Like, it's the first date. But people do it. Like, they just- People are fully naked in the park and go. Oh, I know. Good for you.

But if you see me hanging about in my bikini in High Park, it will be- Because you're really drunk. The day- Something's wrong. Something's not right. It's just not going to happen. I walk past them, like, fair enough. But firstly, I'm just not tanned enough.

It's always... I wouldn't have the balls to do that. I tell you what it is. It's like, you know when you go abroad, the first three days I feel really wearing? Because I'm just like, I don't have my base tan. I'm a bit patchy. You just feel a bit bloated from the plane. It's also like there's no facilities in England or in London to go with this weather.

You know, lots of places don't have air con. There's no pools. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, unless you're like a member of say a house which i am just like not getting accepted into which is so weird and even if you are accepted into it you're not getting in that pool when it's hot like this so crowded it's probably like get me away like it's too much no i went i actually managed to do you not see people's stories when it's like hot weather like i just would be too cringed to do it anyway.

Like, what, am I going to do some laps in Soho House while everyone's there? Like, ooh. And I'm like. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a different environment. Do you mind? I'm trying to do my 10th lap here. Like, just no.

It's just. And also, like, getting out. No, no, no, no. It's a no from me. No, it's a no from me. Guys, me and Sophie had our first big night out. Yeah, we really did. By the end of it, Melissa's eyes were closed.

Oh my God. She definitely needs like breaking back into the drinking. I was like, get. To be fair, I drank as much as you, which is unheard of for me. You just didn't do those shots. Oh, for God's sake. Obviously not. They were like a pint of tequila.

You said a no to the shots. We had a couple of- I was going to throw up. Oh. If I did the shot. Yeah. It was quite intense. But we went down the margarita route, guys,

and actually no wine was drunken, drunken, drunken that night by us. That's probably why it was so expensive. Guys, it was very expensive. I forgot how expensive going out was. The whole shebang. I think that restaurant's really expensive, and I also think if you drink cocktails

all night you're pretty much making a real big mistake yeah yeah we did actually say let's get a bottle of wine we did that didn't happen

to avoid that situation but it just never went down that way it just didn't happen did it but it was good fun I was really happy to get my skin out

dress up we didn't dance you keep saying skin yeah only because I was so bored of like covering every inch of my body up with like five layers of clothing isn't it so funny you get your skin out now it's hot enough to sit outside everyone wants to sit outside the moment we're allowed to sit inside it's like oh

i know someone told me that it's like all control this is so conspiracy theory and by the way this is not what i believe but she was like it's definitely controlled by like the government the weather i was like is it what she's like she was like don't you think it's definitely controlled by like the government the weather i was like is it what she's like she was like don't you think it's just like remarkable that like the minute you can sit inside like all of these things i was like i'm not quite sure that's the case because why have places like america been hot the whole time it didn't make any sense but i just sit listen they control the weather i believe they control the lockdowns because they bloody do yeah they really do.

You know? Have you guys watched The Handmaid's Tale? Because this is kind of what I feel like we've lived in. No, you keep trying to make me watch it. Trust me. I know Sam and Zara are really into it too. I told you, you would love it. You think it's too deep and depressing and it's just... They said it is a bit dark.

No, yeah, it is. But it's like interesting. I really feel like we should talk about the wine. Notes. Okay. My notes are so bad. Please forgive me. You know, I'm so happy that we picked the same.

Mine just smells a bit vinegary. Okay, tell me what you think. Because I know what I think. Okay. Right. Give it a little swirly, swirly. It's very floral, let's be honest. Oh my God, I'm so shit at this.

I honestly have no words to describe this wine. Floral and tropical fruit. Is that what it actually says? I did just read it, but I definitely think you can taste floral. I really like that. It's very fruity and flowery. It's like not dry. But you know why?

Mine is tasting a lot more because my ice is so enormous. Yeah, my ice is already melted though. So c'est la vie, sugar. So it's really, really like washed it down. Okay, yeah, let's see. Fresh floral, citrusy. They're always citrusy though. Like just give us another name.

Like why aren't they like tomato-y, you know? Because grapes aren't actually like a citrusy be a bit more original you know because grapes aren't actually like a citrusy fruit both grapes are grown organically well yeah duh it's organic wine

oh it's it's an Italian wine yeah I know it's from Sicily burrato burrato I love that accent and it also is pegged

and there is a little oh guys this wine is like recyclable it's carbon offsetting definitely recommend this yeah it's a really good one for the old planet and for you because it's organic.

So there's no sulfates in this. I know, but I'm still getting a really blocked nose, but I think it might just be because my air corner or the hay fever. That's the hay fever. Oh my God. I cannot even tell you how drowsy this appearance makes me. It makes me so drowsy. I want to see like it hits three o'clock and I'm like, I cannot open my eyes.

Yeah, but Melissa's one of those people who has a nap every day. To be fair, I used to have a nap absolutely every day without fail. And then I really got out of that habit. And then the last like four days, and I've just realized it's because I've been taking the periodies. It's so hard for me to stay awake. I have to pop two of those puppies a day. I do one in the morning, one in the evening. One in the morning.

Yeah. That's what I used to do last year. But this year, I'm just taking one in the morning. Because if I take one in the evening, it's so hard for me to get up in the morning. Really? Well, I'm such a bad sleeper anyway. I love it. Because I just take it and then I'm like, I'm zonked out.

It helps you, yeah. Yeah. On that note. Shall we read the first little... Yes. Sort sort of this is like a follow-up dilemma situation isn't it yeah oh you're gonna read it she's gonna read one guys drop out i read one last week didn't you but not a big bad boy like this this was a big one so this is from i'm not gonna say her name because we want this to be anonymous hey girls looking beautiful as always oh that's so sweet thank you

i have to say episode eight didn't give me an answer on who is okay to say i love you when is okay to say i love you to someone i have been dating this guy for six and a half months he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet we do everything that people in relationships do met parents friends and spent every weekend together i'm going to a concert with his friends and family even a staycation planned in september i can feel that i love him but the fact that he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend makes me build my walls up ever so slightly because i feel like he could drop me at any moment oh so i'm really scared to be vulnerable and tell him that i love him girls to girls please help oh no that's

quite I feel quite like not stressed for you I really feel for you I personally just because I am quite a guarded person I've never really said I love you first to a boy I probably would wait until they said it to me particularly if you're not boyfriend and girlfriend but I wouldn't worry that he doesn't love you. I think perhaps he's just different. And, you know, maybe he's just waiting. Maybe he's nervous himself. No, you know what? I'm going to completely take this from a different angle

because that was the way we went down last time. I personally think if it's been six and a half months and he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend and he hasn't said, I love you, there's something not right there. That's not okay for me. Oh, wait, for me oh wait wait sorry six and a half months i would probably i probably wouldn't go in with a kill like i love you i would be like i am not waiting around forever i need to be your girlfriend i'd probably be like i would probably start with are we together because i'm not gonna

go on these yeah wait around your parents i'm not going to introduce you to my parents as almost the boy i'm seeing because it's just embarrassing that's the way yeah it is i agree flippity flip of my mind there didn't i yeah i say if he goes yeah tiptoe around the subject no no but i wouldn't go in and be like putty in his hand like i really love you because you know take the bull by its horns oh my god absolutely not but i would kind of just be like look like i just need to know what the fuck is going on you know it's been six and a half months yeah we're not officially together we do these things like we're a couple but you know you haven't we haven't told each other that we love each other but we act like we do and we're not even yeah what if someone asks me on a date tomorrow can i go out with them like are you gonna go out with

someone else what the hell is yeah like what the hell are we doing here? I would just personally, like, in my own position, this is what I would do, which is probably not the correct thing to do. I would sack it off. No, because. And I would be like, oh. And then I would have to wait for them to come to me and be like, I love you. I want to do this. And I would need a big, that's me personally. Like, I've got a thing where I, like, it would hurt my ego almost too much and I'd be like I'm not waiting around I'd be like bye sorry I don't want

to do this anymore like if if this is as far as it's good yeah but I think perhaps if she's never ever aired it then he probably doesn't know I think it I think if she's never aired it I think that is something in her for going by the way where are we like I I think I might have done that to Jamie or Jamie did that to me like I was like are we like i i think i might have done that to jamie or jamie did that to me like i was like are we boyfriend and girlfriend yet there becomes a stage where you have to say it and then if he's dodging the bullet then then absolutely i'll be like okay well sweet i'm gonna go on dates with other boys because i gotta cure them waiting for me honey yeah which i'm sure you do yeah you can't wait around for this boy and you can't be stuck in some lingo for like another six months limbo limbo sorry i agree lingo and also like oh it's just the worst when boys do

that it's just because they're too pussy to just say like for god's sake it's not gonna do it if you're already doing staycays and meeting his family you're obviously boyfriend and girlfriend just put a label on it honey why are you such don't be such a commitment to that exactly relationship though should we quickly talk about the fradgery another reference to res i think this has to be like a a weekly thing where we reference something from friends didn't we talk about this last week am i going mental we didn't because you hadn't seen it i only watched it on sunday it i really really really enjoyed it i had a really nice wholesome time watching that i felt a little bit sad because i feel like matthew perry's not quite himself he didn't really speak yeah his teeth frightened me and i felt like he was just like really left in the

like he wasn't saying much almost like and obviously we've all heard that he's just like really left in the left in the dark a bit like he wasn't saying much else almost like and obviously we've all heard that he's had like rehab issues and whatever yeah and I kind of felt like

he was just like a bit of a damaged soul like he didn't really speak he didn't really he seemed a little bit almost not bitter passive yeah a bit

no but like when James Corden asked them all like what they thought their character would be doing in 10 years or now he skipped Chandler Chandler or whatever you call him and i was like excuse me mate you don't know they might have

just cut out because his answer might have been really bad he was just shy and he looked sad and it made me sad i know because he's my favorite character chandler yeah i think he's so fit yeah he was i really fancied him yeah also you know you always told me that you thought Joey was really fit when he was very very very young when he was first on it

yeah like when they show pictures of when like he was actually casted yeah gorgeous I literally like strapped me down gorgeous that is a one beauty

beauty are we good who was it you were like you can do anything you want to me um Tom Hardy no it was the guy

Hank Meany oh Hank Meadie. Oh, Hank Meadie. Please let us know if you do watch California Cajun. Because honestly, we need to discuss that. It's so good. Friends now has to draw a limit. No, it can never. Absolutely not.

It's always going to be there. Right, now this is the official dialogue as we were just sort of okay hey girlies just wanted to say that i loved listening to your podcast so fun and enjoyable both of you are such beautiful inside oh thank you i love you you guys just honestly sweetest i would love to share my problem with you both and hope you can give me some advice in the episode i'm 21 and have never been in a relationship. I'm quite shy around this topic because it's definitely out of my comfort zone. I've not tried dating apps because I don't think they're for me but I want to be more open with getting to know guys and forming connections. I also find it hard to open up because I'm almost

always feel most guys my age are after only one thing. I would love some advice on how to be more confident and open to step out of my comfort zone and to be able to find someone babes never said babe before in my life but babe for a start do not worry 21 is so young i think that's great to start being a relationship though yeah you're just like at the age where you've kind of i guess not found yourself a bit but you know who you are a bit more i feel like in the late teenage years always a bit you know all over the shop aren't there this is like a good time yeah they're like at least like if i assume you've not had sex at least like the sex will at least be a bit better because the boys will know what they're doing whereas 17 year old or 15 year old in some people's case yeah it's just not fun not worth it um yeah yeah yeah honestly Honestly, you've crept in at the right time.

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confidence and i think that will exude because people see confidence it's not about looks like people are attracted to confidence and it's not confidence that people fake or whatever it's real inner confidence that you can feel and sense and that's what makes people attractive yeah I so agree and I also think it's so fine if you're not like into that whole dating app thing because it's obviously not for everybody like I don't think I would be able to do the dating app thing not me I mean never say never I don't know I've never been I guess in a position where I would look to it as an option but I don't think that it's for everybody and that's so fine but now we're also like you can go out and about so you are obviously more likely to meet somebody and i think constantly socializing with your friends then then you'll see like mutual friends and then

maybe you'll go to a party and meet somebody like things actually happen so organically like you'd be surprised if you're just like putting yourself out there a bit more socially as well like you know i mean don't see them as a different sex like don't be freaked out talking to them like oh my god it's a boy should i be doing this should it don't overthink it talk to them how you talk to the girls oh god no no there's there's no difference and that you know there's no way of flirting everybody i think just being friendly like i've always been told i'm a flirt but i'm absolutely not yeah lol i'm really not i i honestly wouldn't know how to flirt i actually don't know anyone that's a flirt these days like quite funny no but i would say you are because

we're so friendly you're flirting if you're closed and guarded then you're probably not perceived as a flower like yeah james so friendly to everyone so everyone thinks yeah yeah of course i know that's part of his personality yeah but i think just laughing chatting have fun smiling like yeah and people will be drawn to you and don't agree don't you know don't close off any if a boy does ask you on a date or does off to buy your drink don't think oh god don't overthink it just have fun so what if you don't fancy him so what you got a nice free dinner a nice free drink i mean in case you're really like feminist and you want to go dutch or even pay yourself but i'm definitely like sweet yeah i think also it's quite good to sort of get experience and you might be quite surprised by not being attracted initially to somebody and

then getting to know them a bit more because sometimes people are a bit shy and they come out of their shell a little bit over a couple drinks at dinner then you might find yourself really fancying that person yeah i think you've just got to be really open to everything and put yourself out there socially because i do really think like a lot more house parties are going to start happening you know like one of your friends boyfriends might have a friend they might come along like all these scenarios are going to start happening now and i think you'll be surprised how easy it is strut in there with your head held high

start doing these grattis start doing these like affirmations start gaining your inner confidence and by the time the club's open

you're going to walk in there and everyone's actually just going to be drawn to you because you're going to be a walking hot girl summer yeah

you're just going to be a walking ball of sex sex god a walking ball of sex okay let's hope you're not walking ball of sex no but i agree i think honestly confidence is the sexiest thing yeah that will really like attract the type of like energy that you want to attract hopefully i mean there is such thing as bad luck i'm touching wood here for you i'm touching but i do think that um and also you're so young you're so young do not stress

out that you're 21 literally yeah um yeah i so agree do you want me to read the next one oh no you can read it is this small one so maybe you go for it okay this is another little dating dilemma dating a guy before the most recent lockdown and we recently reconnected and asked and asked me out on a date however i'm really nervous to go as i have gained weight and not looking as good as i did when i first met him should i still go or hold off until i feel a bit more confident oh my god bless you i literally just want to give you the biggest hug ever because i feel like every single person listening the lockdown we've all done it it's happened to us yeah

every person has gained a bit of weight oh yeah I mean I feel like it's gone one of two ways like some people I guess have like really whipped themselves into like shape and had a huge lifestyle change and some people have come out losing a lot of weight and some people

have gained a bit of weight because you know you can't leave the house so i don't know what else people are supposed to do other than eat other than eat i mean it's such an enjoyable experience eating and it's just i looked forward to so much my little meals throughout the day like they were like a little event oh yeah same they were like the full-on hideout of my day my week my year 100 and the food shops and this is obviously yes you are not today so i also think this guy if he really likes you he's not gonna give a crap like you just need to and it's the same thing applies it's inner confidence you've got to love yourself and if you love yourself he will sense that from you and he'll be like oh she's so great and also you're still so beautiful your chat's gonna be the same who gives a crap if you put on

five ten two stone like no one cares and if he really likes you he won't care i think that if you're feeling super unconfident and you're like almost to the point where it's making you feel a bit anxious um I don't know what I would suggest I mean I don't think that that you should feel like that and you should just think to yourself right well if he's not gonna like me now at my worst you certainly can't have me at my best whatever Marilyn Monroe said that little quote and um when you are feeling your most confident and you are like back at the place where you wanted to be and you're feeling your best and you're most happy and whatever, if he has sacked you off, then screw him.

You can find somebody else. I just think his loss, you know? Completely his loss. And again, I think it's one of those things if you are feeling anxious, it's definitely one of those things you've got to just rewire the brain. Every time you catch yourself feeling a bit anxious

or don't speak to yourself how you wouldn't speak to your friends. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Totey, totey, totey. Treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend. Talk to yourself how you talk to your friends. Would you ever say to your best friend, oh, you've gained a bit of weight, you look bad.

You'd be like, you look beautiful, so what if you gain a bit of weight? If you want to go on an extra walk a week, you know, whatever. Start talking to yourself like that. Be kind and compassionate with yourself because this has been pretty tough on everyone is an exciting time i don't think you should keep yourself cooped up like until you're feeling your most like confident or whatever i mean obviously it's totally like a preference but i would personally want to go out and have a bit of fun like god's sake we've been in lockdown like you deserve this and if he

does he's not interested then you know that's totally his loss as we said before yeah and i think you'll look beautiful either way you will look beautiful either way exactly exactly exactly um i hate this guy i hate pure um dilemmas we actually really wanted everyone to sort of give us we've already mentioned on our social but we want people to send in dilemmas about actually really wanted everyone to sort of give us we've already mentioned on our social but we want people to send in dilemmas about the dating and i love that you already are but we feel like this is where it's gonna get real juicy because juicy awesome i want someone to like say something really rogue or play footsie with you under a table and instead he ends up

kicking over a bottle of wine something really hilarious just oh i was thinking more like hilarious like sex first time having sex and he tries to like tow you instead of on a date and all these weird wonderful stories that come out of the dating like world and life like i've had a couple for my friend oh it's just so great i can't say that no i absolutely cannot it's so horrendous okay Okay, well, I'm going to ask her privately if she'd mind anonymously selling us. I've already asked her. I've asked her to write it.

For God's sake, Vanessa Spann, please. You can't deny us this juice. But there is obviously going to be a lot of you having some juicy stuff going on. Yeah, so come on, give us the goss because we're basically married. We're living vicariously through you guys. We need it.

I need the juice. I need it. I want it. I want to hear it now. How drunk did you get on Saturday night? Was Saturday... Oh, Saturday day. Oh my God, guys, I did a whole day.

Started at one. Oh, I enjoyed the night of us drinking. Went home at 1am. Got very drunk. Oh, Sophie Haboo. Yeah, felt very sick on Monday. Wait, were you sick? Did you throw up? No, I didn't throw throw up i've never been one of those people who throw up on a bottle of alcohol you are very very rarely but sometimes the next day i want to get so drunk i'm sick i want to get

a blackout drunk no i've only said that like twice when we were coming out of the lockdown and i was just so desperate to just go out and have loads of rosé and just be pissed like all day drinking you know like a nice girly brunch which is exactly what i did the day i lost my wallet oh yeah she called me she said i lost my wallet and then i ate a really expensive bug you know what i still don't even know how much that burger was because i went to pay for it and my wallet was lost and my friend i think i paid her back god but that's the worst thing when you like wake up the next day and you're like who paid for the that bill like if i if i'm like oh gosh i think i like my waterways left my bill with my mate that's like cringe killing me now i just don't want to hear yeah just the bad the beer fear really hit me on monday let me just did it

so oh that's interesting to me that it hit you on Monday a couple days off drinking I know because Sunday had another lunch didn't I so I drank all day Sunday I really had a big busy weekend guys I'm looking at safety and it honestly looks like there's an absolute blizzard going on outside your window no the other one the other one look at the tree branches they're just going crazy out there no they're not yes they are it looks like they really are and it's actually kind of cloudy what's going on over there it does say it's gonna actually have a little rain pool this afternoon but i'm just 4 p.m it's scheduled so um oh sophie's got it in the diary rain little April showers okay okay okay so we feel like you guys are bored well i'm bored of hearing jamie complain i'm bored of hearing harry complain because that's all be honest we always side

with each other and also we're so perfect they're gonna run out of things to complain about soon so yeah i've got a huge winch to tell you about jamie okay he is such a people pleaser he never tells me his plans and then day before we're meant to be flying and getting a pcr test he's like oops i think i gotta fly back the next day i'm like not possible not possible not possible you can't come then he's like oh i'll work it out i'll work it out because he's such a people pleaser he doesn't want to like tell me the truth a month ago so we could have actually planned around it he just wants to appease me but actually

he ends up letting me down that is boys not communicating their plans oh my god no I'm dead but you have to fly back he has to fly back the next day I just said don't bother coming

yeah don't bother I'm going to have a lovely time with my mum my mum lives in Portugal he should just come out a couple of days later oh my god no that would you know what

I can actually vouch for Sophie I'm just done we'll be in her flat and suddenly like the door opens and Jamie's coming she's going oh oh he's coming back oh he's coming back and then like two minutes later we'll be upstairs and then you hear the door go she goes oh god he must be leaving again i don't know where he's going i have no idea i'm like what that must freak me out he's secretly

having those he just goes in and out of the house like 17 times a day he's only been back for five minutes i'm like golly gosh he just doesn't communicate he's a very busy little bee busy little mind he has i'd love to know what goes on in that little head of his i think there's like a i picture like a monkey with like but he just doesn't communicate and he obviously is extremely busy yeah which i totally understand but just let you know um there's no need to just not let you know but shame because you're gonna be home in this apartment and it's just not gonna be quite the same as me he'll have his call of duty and he'll just probably facetime you 15 times a day when you're

in portugal oh no i know i'm gonna be really aloof I'm gonna have my phone on all off all day and be out drinking rose with my mum and you can suffer the pain honey well yeah I mean that is um

karma for not communicating that is really shitty that he didn't say oh I'm not gonna I have to fly back the next day he was like

I can make it work I was like how or let's get a private jet just grow up but the thing is don't you have to do you have to test when coming back

and all that or no but it's green you're okay with doing that it is green but you still do have to do three PCR tests so like it's just not gonna work there's no point

let's like what money doesn't grow on trees honey you're not gonna fly out for one day and then fly out yeah there's no point you might as well do a

FaceTime session no point yeah it would also stress me out I want to get in joy yeah you want to be relaxed I want some clams I want some clams I keep i keep seeing them people instagram and i'm like i really want like a fresh green salad some grilled fish sign me up yeah that is really nice oh oh wine that we need to try i forgot i love this wine albarino i think that's how you say al. Albarino. It's like a white wine.

Okay. And I remember I used to... That's my mum's favourite. And I had someone sat in. I was like, gosh, I need to really remember to drink this. Oh, I think Harry's mum likes an Albarino. Yeah, it's a good one. It's a good one.

It's a good one. We had a lovely wine, actually, the other day. We went to... Did you? We went to the Ivy in Victoria. You all dressed up. I really... It was like, this is the first actual date night. We've got a meal plan.

We had a starter. We had a main. We had a pudding. We had a lovely big bottle of wine. You got some vino. And we had some champagne before we went. And I was just like, God, this is just exactly what I needed. And I think Harry went for a Gavi or a champagne.

One of the two. And it was just delightful. And I was like, i think this is what we had in our forecast and i always and i always want to say like oh i can try i can um order the wine today and you know try it i always like check it out at the time oh no no harry can do it how you can do how i can do it you know when they come to the table we should like to try the wine i go no no no how you do it yeah yeah same same because i said what do you do sniff and slap i'm gonna i always do the same thing should i show you exactly what i do i'm gonna talk you guys through it okay so i just lift up the glass i don't do the whole swilling because

i don't act like i know what i'm doing when i don't and i just do it you're quite apparently after this podcast we definitely don't know what we're doing i have to give it ever so slightly just a just a just a subtle one and then I go but what if it's gross what would you do if it's gross and that is what I do every time

I wouldn't even know what called it's only been cooked and I've tried it like twice over like five years that I've like olive juice so you think you will

100% know honestly it tastes like absolute no it tastes like mold and white like it's like you know that horrible damp moldy oh and it's just it's just awful like it's just such a disgusting thank god i've never been to a restaurant that caught my mind because that would not be fun oh sorry it's corked would you send back food that you don't like i never do that either that would not go down well unless it's like a fish that's raw i'm like sorry that would not go down well have we been somewhere together

where we've someone's been given raw chicken or something weird like that oh my god yeah i think it was you and we were like do we send it back but i was like no melissa that's actually not okay i think i've heard that before but like i am one of those people who like can't be like i can't be like no i don't like like, no, I don't like this. Like, if someone brings me something. Oh, yeah, yeah. I would just put it up with it. I'm like, oh God.

My worst thing is when you order loads and they go, you've ordered quite a lot. And I'm like, yes, and I'm very hungry. So can you just bring me the food? That's so funny. Don't embarrass me about it. That's really not very professional to say that. Yeah. But you know, when you go to like a sushi restaurant, like a tapas place.

They don't want to waste it. And they're like, oh waste it you've ordered quite a lot i would suggest like maybe three plates each and we've ordered like that and i'm like well i don't care i might leave a bit so funny guys sophie did all the ordering on um friday night and for some bizarre reason the rumor went around our table that we had 85 pounds free each which would just never happen why would we ever get that okay so sophie goes oh okay fabulous i'll order some scrammy bits i'll order loads i was like 12 sauce shell crabs so then anyway and it turns out i was 85 pounds of minimum spendage well to be fair i don't even we didn't you didn't even order that much to be fair i don't even remember eating that much do you no i't. That's why it was really expensive. But oh, we had a lovely time and we got a bit pissed.

We did have a lovely time. And I'm not going to lie, that octopus was the most delicious thing I have. Oh my God, it's unbelievable. Oh, you're making me out of order to think you got it. I really, I love going out for dinner so much. I just love it. Same. It's my favourite hobby for sure.

You call that a hobby? What are your hobbies? You know when people like, it's like in a job interview or weird situations like that and people go, what are your hobbies? And I just go, hang out with my friends.

Yeah, listening to music. I like going shopping. Going out for dinner and shopping. Let's be honest. Oh no, no. I need to have a hobby. I used to say acting, which is actually more embarrassing

than anything. What? Oh my God, sorry. Acting is not a hobby. I used to do like, I was in the play at school. Like bloody hell, who do I think I am?

Angelina Jolie. Meryl Streep. I need to chill out. Right, should we rate this wine? Yeah, let's rate it. I actually really like that

for an organic wine because the other organic wine I would say was a little not as nice. That was a not organic. I'd say that's a 6.5 to a 7. I'm going lower every time because it's not as.5 to a 7 i'm going there every time because it's not as amazing as i would i'm gonna do the same because it's not absolutely fabulous

there is a much nicer one from waitrose that we can get that's organic oh i'll do it next time maybe get an am alberino whatever you call it it's definitely harry's mom's favorite as well i think there's like a mum thing isn't it it's just a very elegant wine i think i'm pronouncing it so wrong is that way albarino is that not it we know that you're better at pronouncing these things than me yeah which is so weird considering i'm so dyslexic anyway yes we both rate i'm going to give it a six yeah i'm actually not going to give it a seven all right i'm giving it a 6.5 so all in all it's like a standard bottle of wine but i got it for 8.99 this is pretty reasonable as well it's like a standard bottle of wine. But I got it for £8.99. This is pretty reasonable as well. It's much better than that horrible sharp one that we had a couple of weeks ago that you got.

It wasn't terrible. Yeah, that was terrible. This is much less. But anyway, guys, we hope that we answered some of your dilemmas. And we can't wait to be back with you next Wednesday. Yes. Drinking wine. So excited.

I hope it's still sunny. Get the rosé out. Yeah, I'm sure it will be. I feel like we're in full summer mode now. That weather is not going away. Yeah, yeah, yeah. June here. Hot girl summer.

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