Wednesdays - Ep 14: Dating app dilemmas!

Episode Date: July 13, 2021

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connects ontario.ca please play responsibly hey guys it's sophie here i'm melissa and welcome to our new podcast wednesdays we drink wine oh she's back. Are you going to sit with those headphones on? I've got my headphones on for the first time ever, guys. And she's got

a face mask on. I do have a face mask on. Looks like I'm quite jealous. Shall I tell you why? Because I've got loads of fake tan on my face so I don't know

how to get it off. Oh my God, look at my forehead. I'm the same thing. Yeah, but how do you scrub it off? So I'm making this going to peel it off.

I'm hoping she'll scrub it off for me. I can't bear it. Mine's like all around my jawline and it's like stuck in my hair line mine gets like that stuck in my hair line all around my hair and then it looks like I've got ginger like baby hairs

because it goes so orange around my hair I don't mind it so much at the top but at the bottom it's really unacceptable like all hair look I mean I can't really see because the face mask is like fully white it's covering it up yeah I'm just hoping you'll like scrub it off I'm quite jealous you don't feel like a right old pamper day i really have we're both in our cozies we're in really really cozy clothes and the weather's like really not very fun is it it's a bit yeah it's like it's still warm but there's

no sun there's cloud it's like spitting a little bit it's like one of those awkward what do i wear yeah days i'm gonna take a picture of melissa with the wine today guys because it's like one of those awkward what do i wear yeah days i'm gonna take a picture of melissa with the wine today guys because it's such a bottle we haven't opened it yet guys we've fully waited for the fresh yeah we're gonna do it now this is actually such a cool bottle and the the name so this is actually from a friend of mine's friends right and it's called pink diesel and it's just so cool i'm gonna put we'll post a photo yeah it's really sick the aesthetic feel good times i love very clever and like the front let's just do a little description of this okay yeah it's literally like you know when you go to the gas station you pull

out the thing it's like the the gas thing with the like handle and then a drop of pink like droplet coming out of it if it's the rose it's so cool and the lid's like a really nice gold like rose gold yeah and it looks gorgeous it really does i'm really excited i wonder where it's from um anyway here we go let's have a little glass we've already poured ourselves out oh my god it's delicious oh my god lovely right i'm gonna read out the notes because you know what i'm also gonna be quite honest guys i have had covid a couple weeks ago don't worry i'm fully out of it now but i still can't taste so this is we're gonna have to rely on soph so tell me the notes that you can taste

from this um peachy peach and floral no stop you've 100 i have not okay how dare you this is what this is what this is a really i wish i could taste this because it sounds delicious pink diesel has notes of honey peach and citrus undertones a perfect light and crisp rosé oh delightful guys i can confirm it's very lovely is it yeah our cellar is located in the heart of provence what's wonderful really recommend that and well done to the girls of pink girls or boys i don't know guys and girls guys and girls it's a pretty wicked bottle i love hashtag fuel good times that's so cool i love it it's very clever very clever i really like that so that's that's our drink of the week we'll rate it at the end but i feel like really good for like a hendy or something.

Do you know what I mean? Like a very girly, really cool. Really cool. You'd like to have like loads of bottles out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's really nice. It is pretty cool. What would they do if they wanted to bring out red wine though?

I don't know. Oh, oh, oh. Well, they obviously just wouldn't. They can't. They've committed to the colour pink now. They can't, they can't rebrand red diesel. Oh, actually, no, they could call the wine red diesel. Of course you could, actually. Yeah, committed to the colour pink now. They can't rebrand Red Diesel. Oh, actually, no, they could call the wine Red Diesel. Of course you could, actually.

Yeah, and more White Diesel. Yeah. I wonder if they do. Have you checked? No, they're brand new. I'm pretty sure they're brand new. Guys, we're back. We're back.

We've had so many funny, funny messages from you all. The podcasts going out recently have been really funny like well i'm glad you all found it really funny because i'm not sure i did but um we've had some really fun replies from you all we had a lovely girl saying um you absolutely adored the podcast i love the friendship and i look forward to the podcast every week and i feel like i'm having a conversation with friends i just wanted to say to sophie after listening to today's podcast i have the exact same issue with my bladder i have to go at least once usually like three times before i eat and sleep oh my god and her boyfriend always slags her off but it's definitely a mental thing and i'm and i'm not

uncomfortable until i've gone multiple times glad to i'm not the only one who has a weird habit i'm telling you it's how funny oh my god it's getting but you must actually also need the loot like it's not like in your squeeze like really drop it out oh my god yeah yeah yeah before before food there's nothing that comes out sometimes i just i have to go to the motion of going to the bathroom oh my god how weird yeah it must be no it's maybe it's not an anxiety maybe it's just like a like a formality that you have to do like before like an ocd yeah almost yeah like turn the lights yeah it is interesting i wonder if i mean it must be a common thing if someone else is going to say someone else i know have the same thing why don't you just say you you don't i just hold the loon

this is that's my problem i'm like i can't will it I'll just hold it in that's honestly my worst nightmare unless I'm going somewhere so like before I leave here like I'll make sure I go I I'm like empty before I like get in the car Jenny because I don't be uncomfortable so at a meal that you would just sit and let it brew yeah I would just wait until I'd finished my meal and in this in your sleep can you just sleep and I've never it's never waking me up in my sleep forever surely you just don't drink enough water no I've just I think it's never woken me up from my sleep forever surely you just don't drink enough water no I think it's normal to like sleep through the night I don't think there's one night in my life

I've not gone to the bed in the middle of the night never ever wakes me up in the morning I'm busting your teeth are looking bright they look really small don't they my Invisaligns move them up they look different I don't like it but she said the end, you can just pull them down

and move them into position. It's pulled your teeth up. Yeah. Move them up. No, your teeth do look really different. They look, like, shorter, don't they? Some. They're like mine now.

This size shorter and they go longer. Stop it. Are they wrong? No, but that's my smile. I've never noticed that. You always look like you're dead. Like it was... Not that they're not dead straight,

but as in, don't make me feel more barren. I still got like loads to go. I think I've got about, so we're just talking about Invisalign guys. I think I've got about 10 more retainers to go. Oh, blimey.

Got a long old stint still. I'm out of that stint. Are you? Yeah, I just, I slept in them and that was me done. I had a bit of bonding at the bottom. Just on one tooth. It was actually just a chipped tooth and then they fixed it.

So guys, today we are going to be talking about dating app dilemmas. I feel like that's kind of... Some juicy dilemmas from dating apps. Yeah, that's kind of the way dating's going now, isn't it? Like that is just like the 21st century. 21st century.st century it's so it's i also feel like more so now since we have obviously been in lockdowns and stuff it's like the only way people can even like meet each other and stuff like that through social media apps it's the way forward

it's the future well anyway we've got some real juicy dilemmas for you guys so are you ready another little bit it's not a dilemma not a dilemma but i am on but i am a tinder bride i cannot believe she's a tinder bride that is like so impressive met my husband to be in august 2016 on the app we are potentially waiting our third wedding awaiting our third wedding date in september after postponing in September last year. And March of this year due to COVID. That is really sad. Keep your fingers crossed for me, girls. Oh, my God.

Bless your soul. I feel like, I mean, you're not alone at how many people have postponed there. I mean, I know two couples that weddings that we've postponed. I was going to go to a wedding in the bra. You got COVID. Oh, my God. I know. That was like only last week.

I know. That is awful because so awful that's like oh god i i mean my heart goes out to you but you know it will happen you're still you've still got the love of your life by your side and you will get married at some point that's why a lot of people are just like going and having the kids now because they're like i can't wait for the wedding i'd rather just have a kid yeah loads of people i can see have just got honestly it is the baby boom isn't it it really how many there yeah loads of people I can see have just got honestly it is the baby boom isn't it

it really how many there's loads of people from my school now in my year because I'm obviously at that age where it's starting to happen

I mean have you had this recently not one person I know is pregnant you are like so many people at my school are pregnant that's mental I know

imagine me having a baby now sometimes I do think oh it would be nice wouldn't it it would be nicer than you haven't you're like oh my god this is so hard start with a puppy oh 100 my mum always says that she kind of wishes she had to do a puppy first because it really teaches you like yeah the responsibility i mean obviously it's not the same but like it is a good starting point like the

best you can get to practice yeah he usually thought oh you get those little dolls that are like fuck you know how chris hughes had on love island like they all had i think everyone i think didn't chris hughes like call his like matilda or something and really loved it i can't remember that i know and then it became like sort of i know that they give them those like oh yeah maybe you're right have you been watching that violin you know what so i watched the first two apps and i wasn't really into it yeah no me i was like none of them have that much chemistry none of them really seem to like each other they all just sort of like making do like oh yeah i've been put with this person let's just get on with it but now there's these two new girls have gone in so i watched last night's because um harry went out to watch the football when he was on his way

back i was like oh i might as well just put Love Island on now Seems to be Spicing up a little bit These two new girls seem to have come in and stirred up Some shindig I actually prefer Too Hot to Handle It's really good Do you? Well Damien producer I know! Which one? The first or second?

The recent one Oh okay I've watched both series now She said at four which must have already been she said something really spicy happened on that one did it anyway so anyone they're all the same to me let's know what you guys think um so this isn't a dilemma but somebody wrote in my ex keeps popping up in the people you should meet category on hinge oh my god that's so awful do you know what i'm still on this app called raya and loads of you're not i don't know how to get it off i deleted it apparently it

doesn't like get ever get rid of it i'm still on it and everyone's like messaging me about it like people always kept saying sophie's on raya like as it's a big deal they messaging jamie like by the way yeah at the beginning when we first started getting together and I was like, I don't even have that app and now to this day if anyone sees me on there, I still don't. Guys, Sophie's secretly dating

online on Reddit. Who did I ever message? Oh yeah, give us the goss. Go on, any celebs? Oh, I think I know who that is.

Those of you who don't know, Ray is like, it's like a platform, it's like Tinder but for celebrities, right? It is that, isn't it?

Yeah, well no it isn't like as in like anyone has it now but you have to kind of sign up be like recommended oh but the funny thing is if you like so much just screenshot somebody so if you see someone like if i saw like i saw harry styles on it and all these people if you screenshot it you get disqualified you're banned oh my god and then oh my god i do have the funniest story to tell you so i went to go get my nails done yesterday this is god i do have the funniest story to tell you so i went to go get my nails done yesterday this is so off topic guys but i have to tell you because you'll die i actually feel like we had someone write in and tell us a story so similar anyway they make my appointment was at 12 it was like half 12 still hadn't seen anyone i didn't complain

but i was just a bit like oh this is a bit annoying yeah anyway the guy comes over really close to me and he goes I'm so sorry about it I'm so sorry about the wait let me buy you a drink and I went oh no it's honestly it's okay don't worry like stop flattering me I've got a boyfriend I basically said to him don't worry I've got a boyfriend let me buy you a drink is my nail color that I have every time I had to take a photo of it because I was like, no one will believe me. And he was like, what?

Wait, let me buy you a drink. So he was coming up to you. He was like, so sorry for the wait. Is it? Let me buy you a drink. I'm getting ready for you now.

Oh my. I'm dead. I went, Oh no, honestly, you don't have to do that. Like, stop flirting with me.

That's so inappropriate. Did you actually say the words? I've got a boyfriend. I was about to, but I was, I went, oh, no, honestly, you don't have to do that. Like, stop flirting with me. That's so inappropriate. Did you actually say the words, I've got a boyfriend? I was about to, but I went red. And I, like, he knew. He was like, oh, no. And I was like, oh, my God, you mean the nail varnish? Oh, my God, that's so funny. He was like, well, she's so confused.

I know, terrible. What a ridiculous thing to call a nail colour. That is so confusing. Thank God you didn't go i'm really sorry but i actually have my nearly did i was so taken aback and i also looked him a bit like oh no go away and he sort of clocked on to like oh he's like oh shit she thinks she was like oh no did that happen someone or like have you i don't think so oh great just me now just me he's an idiot anyway brings us back to talking about dilemmas because that's a big dilemma of mine this week

okay so let's get on to a dilemma then okay should i read the first one looks like a cheesy one hi girls love the podcast and here is my dating app dilemma i was recently catching up for dinner with two friends I haven't seen for ages. We were catching up on each other's love lives. And I explained how I've been seeing this guy from Hinge for a few months now. Said his name and how we'd spent loads of time together, been on a load of nice dates. And I was beginning to catch feelings. One of the friends then texted me the next day explaining how she'd been talking to the same guy

but didn't know how to bring it up at the table the previous night. Firstly, should I call him out on it and expose what he's been doing? So he doesn't do it again or just straight up goes him. Secondly, am I within my rights to even have a go at him, given we haven't had a chat about being exclusive yet, but he behaved like I was his girlfriend. Oh my God. Hang on on so let's just go back they've been for a few months now you're a few months long oh no that's not like they've been

on two three dates a few months and they spent loads of time together been on loads of nice dates i'm sorry i'm sorry you could have called him out on it i would just be like lol i think you know my friend and then ghost him see you later maybe give him a chance I think maybe give him a chance because I mean I've never really done this whole like dating thing so I'm not sure but looking at it from a very

platonic no I don't know what point of view I'm going for here but I think just trying to play devil's advocate I think he if you haven devil's advocate I think he if you haven't had the conversation maybe he's just thinking like oh it's just casual we're dating she's probably dating somebody too like it's so fine

but I don't know how intense your relationship is like have you guys slept together I mean probably if you've been dating for months but like boys do you think unless you're unless they've like unless you've spoken about it like technically he isn not doing anything wrong i think you need to yeah and we do we can't really like be hypocrites because we

always do say to everyone like don't just put all your bags in one basket if you're dating someone date other people yeah that's true but it's just it's quite funny that it's like your friend for a couple months and it's like your friend that's really awkward because now he's essentially gonna choose yeah but you don't know how he might have literally just been talking to the other girl when she said they've been doing the same thing the same thing what an how do you have the time i'm impressed well like more so like surely he'd realize they were friends like can't you see that social media yeah oh? See them on social media, yeah. Oh, God. I think you 100% need to bring it up. 100%. And just be like, look, I know we haven't had the conversation, but...

I just may be saying, like, a joke away from the fact that you are actually dating. Because, I mean, you're dating my best friend. She told me everything. So I don't know if there's another one. Like, there might be even more girls. I would kind of make a joke out of it. See how he takes it and then like be really cool just go off and think what you want to do on your own rather than like

showing him any emotion it's like i wouldn't give away how you're feeling so if you're feeling sad i wouldn't be like yeah because you might freak him out yeah just be super chilled about it and then go away and on your own decide whether once you've heard his response it could either be flat out absolutely no or if he's got like a really valid excuse you can just go away and on your own decide whether once you've heard his response it could either be flat out absolutely no or if he's got like a really valid excuse you can just go away and think about it i kind of think at this point if he doesn't say like you know what oh my god i'm so sorry like i was dating multiple girls but i actually really like you and want to like be exclusive just to you because ultimately you don't want to keep dating this guy if he's going to carry on because then it's going to go on five six months you're gonna be like yeah he's gonna say that

yeah he's got to really like make a decision so i think you have to tell him otherwise it's also going to become like a weird thing between you and your friend like who's gonna get him like it's really she slept with him as well that's kind of gross i know i mean not that like literally i can't i can't believe that it's been going on for months and neither of you realized before yeah you're both very cool yeah i would have told maybe they're not best best friends super close yeah but you 100 need to have a conversation because that is a big old dilemma that is a real juicy dilemma i'm sorry i mean one thing i would just say is just laugh at it like and also yeah don't the fact that you caught him like red-handed as well like

he's quite imagine if you got the girl to not sit at the table imagine if you ask him and he goes like no i'm not dating anyone else i promise oh maybe i think you should try and catch him out yeah i think because then you know what he's like anyway and then he's allowing you know not to trust him already oh we've got him we've got him we've nailed him right so let's let's practice conversation i'm the girl you're the boy all right by the way or should we call him ben hi ben so i just wanted to is that how you'd address it i'm the girl you're the boy all right by the way or should we call him ben hi ben so i just wanted to is that how you'd address it i'm so blunt no but the conversation needs to happen i'm not going to put my all into the acting but you get the gist yeah okay so fanduel casinos exclusive live dealer studio has your chance at the number one feeling

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just wanted to let you know that i'm not actually going to be dating anyone else now like i really quite like you i'm enjoying the time that we're spending together like how are you feeling do you want to carry on dating other people like what's like because it has been going on for a couple months and like i don't really want to waste for me waste my time i would just be honest i would then see what he said oh i think so it was funny someone asked me if i was dating the other day and i kind of realized that i'm not i'm where i'm sort of only dating you see as a response he'll be like haha imagine if he's like oh my god same i really like you i'm not seeing anybody else then you go then you literally ghost that motherfucker and you don't tell him that.

Yeah, because he needs to just be honest with you. Because if he's not doing anything wrong, which he's not really technically, you know. But once he's lied, he is, and you caught him, and you know once a liar. Once a liar, always a liar. Is that the, okay, where is it? I think that's true, though. Like, if he's going to lie this early on. Oh, but then boys, they do. There's always a couple niggles that you've got to get through early on. but then there's always a couple needles we can't we're not straightforward we say one thing

and then say it now you know it's all circumstantial though it really is yeah it really is so you know I think go with your gut see what the reaction and then come back to us and follow this up because I need to know we need to know what the hell's gonna happen okay right next dilemma love the podcast thank you we love you so recently i matched with a guy on a dating app he seemed cool funny and asked me out for a drink so i said yes why not 100 i was ready to go but half an hour before we were meant to meet he cancelled uh saying he had to stay on at work and that he was really sorry I was all ready to go and had kept that day free for us to meet up brackets I'm a busy woman he's since asked me up again but he cancelled on me half an hour before our first date does that mean he's not should I give him another chance? That is one of those.

That is a... I don't even know what to say. I would, you know, give it another chance if he literally could. You've got to give someone the benefit of the doubt. It could have been a genuine excuse. Yeah, I do agree.

And if it's half an hour before then it is quite likely that literally his boss came in last minute and was like you've got to do this but why couldn't he have just been like is it all right if you push it back an hour it's not like he's gonna be in the fucking office all night oh he might have literally had like the shits or something i didn't want to say that or be hanging out his ass and didn't want to do like a bad about half an hour before it's like a bit i don't know i mean it could be a legit excuse but then to me I'm like why wouldn't you just

be like oh is it all right if we meet an hour later my boss has been such dick but he's asked her again why if he didn't want to yeah I don't think he would yeah that's true unless he had like another another option that came up and he probably did though but they've not met so she's got to give him the chance I say you go for it if he if he does something again or it's a shit date then so what you got like a nice little dinner he had a drink out and you you didn't lose anything but if you don't go what if he could be your prince charming yeah he could be the one you know what i would do for the next day make him book something just a drink i would do something short you don't want to be stuck there yeah so you say i've got dinner afterwards but with my friends i've got dinner drink before and you make sure that

you actually arrange a dinner with your friends then you're not wasting because god forbid if he does cancel you're still ready you're still gonna go out have a fun time yeah you're still gonna go out have a nice glass of wine yeah that's a good idea so right plan of action you choose a date you go sounds great but i've got dinner that night afterwards but great to meet for a drink before yeah you get on your girl group and you text those girls you text your mom you text your sister you text anyone and you arrange a nice dinner and then you're already excited to go out if he if he goes again his loss you go and have a nice yeah and if he does bonus you get to go out and

you might not like him anyway but at least you know you know you you've not lost out exactly i think that's a really good um solution oh my god we've got it we've got yeah we're like whizzing through them oh yeah we've got a real long juicy one here oh i love a juicy one you love the long ones a few months ago i matched with a guy on tinder and we started talking we spoke every day for two weeks and went on our first date we really hit it off and have now been seeing each other for for four months wow bear in mind we're both expats in a foreign country i've lived here for a few years where he's only been here for a few months.

Quite early on he asked me what I was looking for when I joined Tinder. I told him I was ideally looking for a relationship. He then said he wasn't ready for a relationship as his life wasn't as still isn't stable. He's just moved to a new country and has had to sort out work and a work permit plus generally adjusting to a different culture. he's had far less work on during lockdown he's also hoping to maybe get permanent residency in another country and has loads of paperwork to organize for that that's just a maybe and wouldn't happen until next year so he's quite stressed at the moment he did say to me that he wishes he'd met me when he was in his home country because he'd be in the right headspace for a relationship i said i understood and although i'd hoped to find a relationship i was open to other things too i also said i was happy with what we had and that we could see where things go we've also had a couple of conversations

about what to call each other we settled on my date person i'm seeing oh for god's sake am i foolish for secretly hoping he'll change his mind and decide he is ready for a relationship? I am mostly happy with how things are, but I want him to make more of an effort. Recently, I feel I've been initiating more and more conversations and meetups. Nah, sack him off.

He always comes to mind as his place is tiny and he has a roommate. When I told him this, he blamed it on stress and lack of work, writes about his work permit. He said he doesn't like burdening me with these issues and feels like a bit of a down at the moment still i want more of a commitment i recently turned 30 and what i was worried about finding the right person and settling down am i wasting my time or should i continue to enjoy what i have and see what happens i'm scared to ask him again about his thoughts from becoming serious easy peasy lemon squeezy you're just dating there's no commitment date other people still

you don't have to throw it away yeah scare him and i think and i'd let him know that you're dating other people because and i'd let him know you're 30 and that's what you want and yeah you can't you don't have enough time to wait around for someone that doesn't want to commit to a relationship and figure out where he's going to live i mean if he doesn't even think that he's going to be living in that country until for that long then it's not going to be a long-term proper relationship anyway because he's going to be moving to another country you know yeah you've got a barrel that yeah i do but potentially she would like fall in love and want to move with him but i really don't think he's not committing like i would just i'm like no sorry i would just probably really take a step back i wouldn't say i wouldn't even address that with him because it doesn't seem like he's like that on it anyway so

i'm not sure he'd be like what's going on between us i just think if he was dropped dead in love with you and he was like this is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with i'm going to commit we'll make it work if i have to move we'll make it work yeah but selfishly i think perhaps like there's no harm in her if she's enjoying the time while she's looking for the next right guy she can still go out for dinners with him or have a sunday snuggle like do you know what i mean i do feel like if you're constantly feeling like you're the one messaging him and asking him yeah yeah that's what I mean I wouldn't make I wouldn't make the effort with him anymore I go out I do your own thing I would sort of like keep your doors open like want to attract new people into your life however if you're not doing

anything on a Sunday and he asked to go for a movie I would say oh my god it's the worst thing to do ever like do it if you want to selfishly but i wouldn't be putting your eyes on your basket i definitely would say i don't think he's gonna change and i don't think he's ready and i don't think he's gonna ask you to be his girlfriend anytime soon the fact that you've had a conversation about him like what should we call each other and what did they what did he date person i mean just come on like no that's actually quite offensive yeah it is to any boys out there, honestly, like, just grow up. Yeah, grow up. Like, I'm either your girlfriend or I'm not, you big idiot.

Yeah, Jesus Christ. Well, anyway, so he's confirmed to you that, you know, you're not girlfriend, boyfriend. So I do think, as Sophie said, go out on a date. Don't make the effort with him anymore. And that could make him change his mind and be like, oh, shit, what have I lost here? Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. Make his balls sweat a bit. don't be so easily available yeah so i would really stop reaching out to him if he reaches out to him fine you fine see how you feel but go out and do your own thing and try and forget about him i would and if you are with him i would just i would bear in mind

and just have it there in your head you know he doesn't want a relationship he doesn't know where he's going to be living he might be moving to another country in a year whenever don't let yourself be like lulled into a false sense of security like oh i can change his mind i can make him feel you you need to really like keep like yeah don't don't be one of those girls and i hate that brutally but yeah we've all been there he's gonna change for me yeah they don't they don't they will change when if they change they change and that he'll have done it by now unfortunately yeah got a bit of tough love but anyway honey look hot girl summer it is hot girl summer and you know what 30 still

so young so young so many like there's actually so many friends that are 30 that are single and they're just living life 30 is the new isn't that like when you're meant to like fully you're in love with yourself and like be at one with yourself and know who you really are sex in the city yeah 30 and they have the best time and you just don't give a shit about what other people think when you're 30 you just don't care you've culled out all the negative people like everyone in your life is there for a reason yeah quite i'm quite excited about it to be honest yeah okay well that's actually all our dilemmas but melissa you have got a big old winch of the week haven't you okay so this is kind of like a winch i feel like we've got a mutual winch over this topic a winch slash discussion slash winch about all men

oh it's the football guys let's just talk about the football for a minute i you know i'm really happy for us currently when this melissa actually is really a big old fan she's calling stacker or whatever okay so guys i am not a football gal whatsoever i've never seen a football match in my life but obviously harry's been having it on because this is a big deal it's england i get it like fine and also i quite like having a bit of sport on on the weekend sometime like the tennis right now is really enjoyable anyway and obviously the football like you know it's coming home whatever the song is that they all keep saying oh hi he's friends i'm sure jamie's friends they're all going mad for it mad mad absolutely mad anyway so when when was the

first match that we we watched and i was like when we me and you went oh yeah yeah we went to bluebird yeah but what which that was like this literally england might even play it was in like the first like things that they were they were trying to get through to whatever it was like the first like i don't know matches that't know and um i was always like i actually kind of secretly hope that england don't win just so the boys don't go too mad because it's just god hooligan behavior the whole thing really isn't it yes like i mean really sweet in a pandemic is that amazing i'm like you're putting us into another lockdown guys cheers it's like all the beer sloshing over everybody let me just bend over and lick the inside of your mouth i know it's just so ridiculous and like the people that are

clustered all together and like obviously i know that there's a lot of things are allowed now because like obviously the restrictions have lifted and whatever but i'm still like this is just a bit much like it's also like so much drinking a beer in such a short space of time so what's your wind you just the football the whole thing the whole thing in general like i'm really enjoying like i'm enjoying watching the match but it's all the stuff that comes with it like you don't like them like they're really gonna behave yeah and like oh i'm gonna go and getting their dicks out not like not like changing the thing i'm seeing everyone's video and there's like all these like middle aged men

with their tattoos their beer bellies and it's all like like literally doing a helicopter with their penis and I'm like what is going on

the hooligan behaviour and it's also like just how intense they all take they take it so freaking seriously yeah

and where all the conversation is like where are we watching it on Sunday where are we watching it on Wednesday and it's just

really quiet and Harry's like oh the boy's gonna be really upset really and i'm like oh get over it it's a bloody football match like like i'm like what do you mean they're gonna be so upset he's like you don't understand this is just such a big deal since 1996 i'm like what does he mean by the boys he's in his boys or his boys football well i mean he means his boys his group of friends but obviously he probably means every single boy in the whole nation let's be honest they will be really everyone will be just completely shattered i i think that's a valid point i feel like we've all got to like just smell when jamie comes back you stink like a brewery out of my bed and he's like oh order the pizza when he got in i was like like, wow. It's also like the movie starts quite late as well. It starts 8pm, right?

Yeah, I know. And also Sunday night. Where are you going to watch it on Sunday? Oh, I might go to Ruby's house and watch it from her flat. I was like, I don't really want to. What, just the two of you? And Zara. Quite sweet.

I was like, I don't really want to go out to Jack's or a dark pub where there's loads of people screaming, going mad every time there's a school, like a school girl, a school girl like yeah yeah you know the whole thing's just like a bit intense i'm like it's good fun but also like if we were outside for example watching it in civilized manner i'd be really happy with that but it's like it's also because there's so many matches it's not like there's one or two and then it's over i just say about like jumping with the crowd like if someone like jumps i mean it's like you know jumping like i can't jump like i i'm so uncoordinated i just like end up getting elbowed in the face because i jump out of time and like i jump when everyone's going down and like i end up just getting a black eye like that just scares me and also it's quite embarrassing so i probably wouldn't even know like whether we've scored or not oh my god it's so funny so the one that was on that um it's so funny guys because i've been

watching every single one and the commentators like say the footballers names every time they have the ball so i just like picked up what their names are so quick um harry kane used the like the captain whatever he was doing the penalty that he took the penalty and was like shooting for the girl here she is she's going i that coy about knowing the deets. I was watching it and he kicked it and like the goalie like stopped it with his hands

and I looked down at my phone straight away and I was like, oh, I've missed it. And then he re-kicked it in and got the goal and I then heard the,

everyone went, wah! And I was like, what happened? I was like, we missed it. And then I saw the replay and I was like,

oh, okay. So I don't watch that intently but like you're still you're a bit of a glory watcher I mean as in like you're a glory fan like you're not like a true you don't know what's going on but you're like no I always think you're kind of not because the whole football thing like isn't really my vibe anyway so now we keep winning and it turns into a busy night and I'm like what now god and if we win this don't think Harry

will be home for three days straight I know honestly I'm like I can't I'm actually going I'm going to watch it on Sunday there's a big group

bring him home yeah he's coming home although I might leave him if he like is so disgusting he looks like a little toddler like running about with his it's the fact that

Harry and Jamie are both I can't bear it guys is anyone else's boyfriend walking around in a football top like is it okay harry harry got a red one he thought it was cool i was like why did you get red fresh not white he's like well you know everyone gets white it's just cooler i get red bless your little soul i don't think anyone wearing a football t-shirt can be classified as cool but like supporting their country i get it i think it's great you know it's good for us

but it's also just like can we just relax a bit you know yeah like going out it's too much how all the beer drinking i've actually heard did you hear on the news that like this football have saved has saved so many pubs from like going into like I know I was thinking I wish I was in the beer industry it's helped so much the hospitality industry yeah like really saved people's businesses that's really that's actually really nice

yeah because like for every one that they pour on the floor like you know what I mean they're still getting paid for it yeah they're pouring over each other's heads yeah

well look I agree with you I'm with you every step of the way I'm not I don't have a clue what's going on with football, I'm ashamed to say. It's so funny. I told you guys what Sophie said that one time. And you were like, it was at the very beginning.

Sophie goes, oh, it's the last match. It's the big one. It's the World Cup. I said, it's the World Cup. I just didn't understand it. And I was like, is it? And then I was like, are you sure? I was like, Harry told me this was just the start of it.

I don't think it's the World Cup. It was the second match. Oh, it was so funny. And it wasn't even playing. I literally just thought, oh, and I was like, are you sure? I was like, Harry told me this was just the start of it. I don't think it's the world. It was the second match. Oh, that's so funny. And it wasn't even playing. I literally just put it on. I was like, we best book somehow. I'm such a loser. Right, we've got to rate this wine.

I'm going to give it, because of the bottle included, a seven and a half to an eight. I really like it. I totally agree with you. I love it. It's a really lovely wine an eight. I really like it. I totally agree with you. I love it. It's a really lovely wine and I think it's new. I love sporting new brands. I think this is so cool.

I think I'm really impressed with the name. It's really unique. They've really thought outside the box with that. Yeah, it's wicked. I'm so impressed. What was the price tag on this?

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