Wednesdays - Ep 18: HELP I’m beginning to hate my housemate!

Episode Date: August 10, 2021

Hey guys!This week we chat about all your housemate horrors...Anal housemates, messy housemates, boring boyfriends, you name it, we have you covered!! Massive thanks for the dilemma who was sent in by a lovely male listener this week - yay!! Please send us your follow ups to the dilemmas we address in the week’s pod, and to any boys - please send us more of your dilemmas, we absolutely LOVE to hear from you!This week we drink a Louis Jadot Macon! https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/268665113?preservedReferrer=https://www.google.comWe rate this wine: 7.5/10Lots of love,S & M x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I'm Melissa. And welcome to our new podcast. Wednesdays, we drink wine. Hi guys. This is so, Sophie, this is the longest i think i've ever gone without seeing actually no maybe not maybe christmas has been the longest but this has been so long guys we've not seen each other for how long three i think yeah three weeks no no i think maybe a little bit longer now no no no really i think it's just over three weeks by the time i next see you i think it will be four

weeks i don't know why i'm finding everything so funny hey guys sophie's in spain guys if those of you didn't know very jealous and now i'm i was just saying to um melissa I got really bad food poisoning. I actually think I might have, like, eaten too much rich food and had too much rosé mixed with a bit of sunstroke. But wow-wee, was it bad. Oh, God bless you. It's the worst. That is, like, the most horrible feeling as well.

You're lucky it didn't last very long. Because I know food poisoning can last, like, 24 hours, like, non-stop. I know. I honestly, I woke Jamie. And it was, by the way way in the middle of the night it wasn't like oh gosh yeah yeah i woke jamie up and i was like you've got to take me to hospital i was like get me to hospital help oh my god that must have been really awful awful i was i had a pan so i was so great for everyone listening but I had a pan a pan from the hotel thing oh next to your bed just in case you were sick oh my god so bad but anyway oh god a little

bit better but I'm not gonna be drinking the wine but some of this you've got to definitely not you tell me I'll drink I'll drink your drink for you yeah okay doubly is drunk so I've already poured myself a little glass out oh my god no God, no. Sophie's got to wash it in a wine glass. Yeah, I have to get my water. But it's in a wine glass. So I'm just having a glass of... I already poured it out for myself because I knew Sophie was not feeling great.

I'm just having a glass of Macon Village. I can't, like... The name of the brand... I don't quite get it pronouncing these. Well, no, no, no. If you were to see the poster, you would read it the same. It's actually quite easy.

So I think the name of the brand, guys, is Louis Jadot. Louis Jadot. But the name of the wine is like Chardonnay or Pinot Grigio. It's Macon Village. And it's really like light and easy to drink. Dry or sweet? It's like a go-to one. I think it's quite dry.

But apparently, according to like the label it says because i'm not good at like thinking up these things it says apples pears and subtle oh pastry like richness pastry interesting anyway it's really really nice as in food pairing think cream butter or both you can't go wrong oh my god i love that description yeah that's like exactly the type of thing i eat as well a lot of like cream and butter i just put cream in like a lot you know i have a lot of like pasta dishes and i always cook with butter and i always have like creme fraiche or single cream in there god you're such a little chef i just feel like that's just like my thing i'm trying to get better at not using so much of like cream and butter because

obviously it's not so much cream or butter. Because it's not that great for you really, is it? Do you know what I was drinking out here just on the topic of wine? Ribeiro. Oh, I've never heard of that one. Really nice Spanish wine. So like Albarino and then the other one's called Ribeiro. Also, they're so cheap for a glass of wine in Spain.

It's like €3.50. Oh my God. Okay, so where I, where I go, a meal court's not that cheap, but in Porto, Sophie, guys, I just come back from Porto, it was the same. It was like €4 for a glass of wine.

We were like, oh, my God. Yeah, what was Porto like? Okay, it was obviously like a city break, so I wouldn't want to go for longer than we did because I feel like in a city, you can't sort of just mooch by the pool and like chill you know you've got to do food and drink that's all you can do so breakfast lunch dinner we ate every single thing out so like the whole time i was like kind of full do you go

are you quite organized when you go on holiday so i didn't have an itinerary but i did find good places to go to and also on the first day we like walked along like it's a very small city so we like walked pretty much everyone the first day and like spied out the good places like read the menus looked inside and then we booked and it was quite easy to just book on the day like it wasn't well yeah it was busy but obviously not their full like capacity because i think portugal because we obviously flew from we were already in Spain. If you fly from England, you have to quarantine for 14 days and you get there. Anyway, we went, okay, did you see the post I did when I like tagged like all that little wine? And I was like, I'm doing a wine tasting.

I don't know if any of you guys saw that on Instagram. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Guys, she actually went and did a wine tasting. So Harry and I always like say that, oh, we'd love to just go and try like loads of different wines. Like it always just like sounds so appealing and so fun to me but what we didn't understand when you're in porto they have something called porto wine right yeah what does that sound like to you port okay right so this is where the confusion came in so i was like that's port and i was like i know what you mean but on this menu it doesn't say anything about

port it just says like wine from porto no so is it wine from porto is it port and i was like i don't know so we asked the guy and obviously there's a bit of a language barrier he's like no no wine from porto porto wine and i was like right okay so it's definitely not port anyway we sat down ordered six of these things each he's pouring them out bless him but what's this wine tasting or did you literally just ordered six glasses of wine it was all flipping port sophie did you drink it i did see your face it's like harry was so like yeah it's thick it's lovely to have like a christmas like that kind of vibe you know it's like a wintery drink

like a ski trip like a uni ski trip I didn't go to uni but yeah oh yeah or like anyway I swear they used to make you drink like port to port oh my god sorry who am I did they yeah me chugging poor in the back of a bus don't think so oh so it was a no it was an unsuccessful wine tasting experience it was unsuccessful harry was like i feel so rude and he was like oh we're obviously happy to pay for the ones we've ordered but we didn't realize that it was poor like we thought that it was just wine from portia we got confused oh my god anyway surely you were drunk as a skunk i know because the guy was pouring out he's like yes it's very strong it's 20 and i was looking at her like oh my god we've got six glasses of this to drink it was such a disaster did you drink it bad thing that we like messed up you

know like on a holiday where you don't plan stuff and you like get a bit shitty booking for dinner or something like we actually didn't have any of that this was the only balls up so it wasn't too bad and it's quite funny and like we and harry and i ended up having such a laugh at the time and then we just ordered some red wine like three glasses of red wine to try after but it was just like i think we really insulted the guy because he wait i'm confused was it a wine tasting experience or did you just go to a bar and think let's just try every wine on the menu no no no it was a proper wine tasting place but he obviously tries to sell and push the stuff from porto so yeah they had normal wine and porto wine and we obviously thought we would with the

language where we're like we're gonna get some nice local wine to try from oh god port oh anyway so yeah i know my port now inside out yeah Guys, we had actually so many replies to the pee story. Was it a pee story? Oh, my God. What is it? The flaccid willy story. The flaccid willy. So many people have been replying to it.

We got one actually. He said, I'm so peed off story has had me laughing. A really similar thing happened to me. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months and we have been for drinks one evening. That evening as we were falling asleep all curled up, he asked me to be his girlfriend. Very sweet. Of course I said, yes, he's amazing. Anyway, during that night I was woken up to the sound of what I thought was water.

No, no, he was pissing on the floor by his wardrobe I ushered him back to his bed realizing he was totally asleep I cleaned it up and try and save for the embarrassment in the morning when we woke up in the morning I said do you remember what you did last night to which his face looked horrified and he was like oh god what have I done and when I told him he was mortified and even more horrified that i cleaned it up he's gone to do it again since but it's like i now have a radar before the peeing starts that i can now get him to go to the bathroom in time oh my god he's obviously got a peeing problem no it's like it sounds like this is a sleepwalking issue oh my god because it

sounds like the other guy was obviously sleepwalking when he did it. He obviously wasn't drunk enough to think, like, oh, I'm just going to pee right here. But that's how you wet the bed when you're younger. Because you're sleeping. You just really need a wee. I think you're asleep. No, but I think that's just that you don't know how to control your bladder but it sounds like these boys are like fully sleepwalking like they take

their boxes down they get their willy out as if they're about to pee in the loo. Yeah or the flaccid penis is just the worst. You know what I mean it's like it's like they're going to they're going to the they think they're in the bathroom like it's like a sleepwalking thing. Yeah they're sleepwalking. Did you know that boys can't pee if they've got a boner? Oh, okay. I remember when I was younger, people used to talk about this all the time. And people used to say it's really painful for boys as well if they have a boner. Is that true? It's painful. What do you mean?

Ask Jamie. Is it painful to pee if you've got a boner? You can't pee when you have an erection. Oh, physically it just cannot happen? You can't pee when you have an erection. When you have an erection. So you just can't? It just won't happen?

Oh, interesting. No, you just can't it just won't happen you just can't it doesn't come out yeah why would that be oh my god because then you would pee in the guy's vagina i don't know that because you would pee in the guy's vagina very two-point you would oh that's so disgusting oh my god also everyone has been asking about melissa's belly button account i am also with you i cannot find this belly button account oh Oh my God, maybe it's been deleted. It's been deleted. You've not made it anymore. I've not.

I've been degraded. He's probably gone to some sort of love island person now, isn't it? Barely. Let's have a look. What's it called? I could send you a photo. What's the photos of your belly button? You have a nice belly button, don't you?

It's like in the outie. And this person like obviously took so much notice and what do you mean in the outtie wait i'm gonna send it to you what photo of your belly button no of the account because my friends all screenshot it and send it to me okay some people really hate belly buttons i think that kind of goes too i'm dead at your belly button so this week our dilemmas are all housemate drama based did you ask you put a shout out didn't you I did do a shout out I feel like you some of the stories you guys sent me were so funny so so annoying I wish I could read them all no as in like I feel the pain you know we've had a story sent in about how boys choose their rooms at

university here we go i heard of a boy's house at uni who went and measured each other's sperm count to decide who got the best and who got the worst room absolutely savage their sperm count so they would have had to go to a clinic i mean it's quite handy at the end of the day as well because at least well i mean i guess quite good to know, but also quite bizarre way of, can you just flip a coin? That's a bit of an effort to go out. Yeah, that's really going to some serious... Right, let's book an appointment at the sperm clinic.

What? So if you had the lowest sperm, you got a shit room as well? That's like a really bad day for you. Yeah, I know that is. You know, has Harry gone and had his sperm added? No, no, I don't think so. Jamie and I haven't had it all done. I know you guys have has harry gone and had his spell no no i don't think so jamie not since we've been together i know you guys have been all sorted out you know where you're at with all that now i don't know but i also feel like i'm surely at the gynecologist they would i guess how would they know unless you have the full like surely they would just give you a heads up oh by the way this

isn't looking good for having children but do they know unless they do a full-on like is it paternity test what's the name of it well no boys don't go to a gynecologist that's for vaginas no i'm talking about us me oh for us oh well yeah i guess well no i guess they wouldn't know really how would they unless they do the proper testing no so neither of us had any any of those tests i know for boys it's easier to test them isn't it they literally just put a bit in the cup and then that's it yeah whereas we've got to go through max oh stunning what do we get some bloke up our vagina with the contraption yeah no we just get like a scan of our vagina oh is that what it is yeah yeah we don't have to make ourselves well yeah you don't know i didn't think i'm aware of that but I thought they would have to

I thought they would have to do an ultrasound scan yeah yeah yeah they do and they'd hit your bloods

they'd hit your bloods exactly yeah getting a little bit of an insight knowledge to have anyone who wants

to go get it tested god that is a savage weird way to decide on your room I don't rate that from those boys

not gonna lie I think that's bloody weird that's really really strange the first dilemma is about a housemate's boyfriend this is a typical thing i feel like i feel like everyone can sort of have a bit of that would suck if you didn't not that i know what the story is but if you didn't like your housemate's boyfriend and they've been coming over the whole time. Yeah, no, so annoying. Or like putting his smelly feet on the sofa. Do you know what I mean?

Oh, no. And when they're cooking next to you and all that stuff, that's the... Yeah. Also, it's just kind of bummer when you've got your housemate has a boyfriend because you're the third wheel. Exactly. And it's like meant to be girls living together and the boyfriend's like always there. It's like, oh, God, this isn't what I signed up for. You know, I can imagine that happening quite a lot um okay hi i hate my housemates

boyfriend he is so judgmental and rude to me and all my friends and i've honestly had enough he continuously puts my housemates down and sucks the energy out of the room oh god i tried to bring this up with her however due to christian culture it's the norm to have a dominant boyfriend who controls you etc so she doesn't what what is that a christian way of being i didn't that's quite a broad statement from any religion point of view to me that doesn't sound correct i don't know he's always around the house now and it makes me so uncomfortable and i've now ended up completely distancing myself from my housemate due to his behavior oh no am i in my own right to say i don't want him coming around shall shall i bring up again how awful his behavior is

or is my only solution to suck it up and ignore him oh i think you suck it up and ignore him because you're going to end up falling out it make it like what what resolution are you going to get from that unfortunately she's going to side with the boyfriend exactly god we are quite are we really like passive because we do often say to our often devices just suck it up no as in like I don't think suck it up but I mean I think it's almost like not that it's none of your business but like it's her relationship and sometimes if you're if you're sort of saying that that's the way that their culture is and like whatever and like she's obviously fine with it and just loves him so much that she takes the negative energy and whatever he when he puts her down like you saying something isn't going to

change her mind on it she can probably see that he's not being very nice to her but she's choosing to live with it anyway i don't know yeah that's not what would you do if this was me imagine if me and you were living in a house and i had a boyfriend would you say something no i think you would i think i would yes i would because you're we're best friends it depends how close they are you'd just be like i would say to you regardless if if we weren't even housemates and your boyfriend was behaving that way i'd be like melissa that's gosh i probably sit in not like as such a serious way like oh harry's really opinionated yeah maybe i just replied to the boyfriend rather than even bring it up with her

like maybe i'd say to him like oh my gosh like relax yeah I know it's hard like I think from a really diplomatic point of view to make your life easier maybe just trying to ignore him will be easier in the long run and you just hope that she sees the light and at some point breaks up with him or it just could result in maybe more drama that's the only thing like do you know what I mean like trying to have an argument with him especially if he's not being rude to you and he's just being rude to her or is it did she say he's rude to her as well no yeah oh no he's rude to me and all of our friends well you know what if he's rude to you then you need to stick up for yourself because then at that point it does become your business

which I think you know it's not anyone rude to you regardless of like if they're going out with one of your friends or not like you need to be like um actually please don't speak to me like that or get out of my house you know yeah the cheek that he does like yeah the cheek bizarre i don't know i don't think anyone really should be with somebody who's really really dominant and controlling i mean dominant is fine but being really controlling is just not really ever a good thing i don't think no i know personally that's not for us is it well i've always been like brought up in an environment where if someone's like that that's wrong like you shouldn't yeah we you should be equal partners you should be

equal parts and even even in a friendship having someone who's controlling is toxic you know yeah oh i think you'd say something if he's rude to you for sure. Stick up for yourself. Stick up for yourself and tell all your friends to do it too. And yeah, definitely say something. I wouldn't, but I mean, I wouldn't necessarily go to her, but I would say if he ever was rude to you, I'd just say it straight to him.

Yeah. Don't involve her in it because it's not, it's your issue with him. Yeah, exactly. And your friends should do the same. Like if they're rude to them as well, then, then you know it's up to them to stand up for themselves um so yeah that's our advice honey hope it works that's really annoying though i would really hate that okay so this is another dilemma that we've got obviously housemate related my housemate is moving

in his girlfriend to our house for three months she is extremely toxic and none of us get on with her also he hasn't asked any of our permission probably because he knows we feel that way do you think that's acceptable slash what's your advice first of all i think this is our first dilemma that a boy's written into us yes i'm loving this shout out to whoever this is our first dilemma that a boy's written into us. Yes! I'm loving this. Shout out to whoever this is because you can't say it may, but I love this. Also,

I'm really not rating this behaviour. Three months is a long old time. I think it'd be different if it was like two, three weeks. You'd probably be like, right, we can talk about it. Three months is an age. Yeah, and also,

he definitely has to ask your permission your permission a hundred percent i think like she like you know technically without being really stingy she should probably pay some rent paying some rent yeah that is yeah that's quite no i'm not about that it's definitely not acceptable no firstly i just love that you're a boy i do i know i really that you're a boy. I do. I know, I really rate it that a boy's written that in, and it means they're obviously really struggling with this decision to write that into us. Oh, and you actually want our opinion because we're girls?

I really think that you could definitely... You so have a point. I think it's fully unacceptable. But what would you say? I think you just need to be like, look, we would have really appreciated you asking for our permission because to be honest three months is probably a bit long and like we haven't signed up to living with you and your girlfriend you know it'd be different if it was weeks but it's months but if she is really toxic whoa you've got to put your foot down because that's just so hard otherwise you're not gonna have you going with her yeah wow what's so toxic about how we need to follow up on this, please.

Yeah, we do need to follow up. Also, why is she moving in? She's obviously, like, going to live for a couple months. Yeah, but three months, Sophie, is a ridiculously long time. You can rent somewhere for, like, two months. Do you know what I mean?

Like, I don't... Like, why three? Or he needs to move out with her for three months somewhere. Like, if that's what they want to, like, do or trial. Because it's so unfair on the other housemates. Imagine if all of them had their girlfriends move in for three months somewhere like if that's what they want to like do or trial because it's so unfair on the other housemates imagine if all of them had their girlfriends move in for three months that's like so crowded so crowded and just it's more so do you know what the biggest thing is that he's not asked for your permission he's yeah no respect i think that's

there's no respect yeah i don't know i would never do that to someone I'm living with ever I know I wouldn't even think about it I would like I'd be mortified and embarrassed to even ask I wouldn't even do that with my family like I would literally of course I'd ask I'd be like I'm so sorry or I'd probably say I mean you would be able to move in but

I wouldn't even do it with my family that would just be so rude no neither especially okay you know what though like I wouldn't even deal with my family. That would just be so rude. No, neither. Very presumptuous. Especially, okay, you know what, though? Like, if the situation is really, like, she's suddenly lost her job,

she doesn't get on with her family, God forbid, I don't know what her situation is, that's different if he sits down with his housemates and he's like, look, she's in a really shitty situation, I really need to help, I'd really appreciate it if you guys would be all right with her staying with us. I know it's a long time, but, like, I really, really need this, boys'd really appreciate it if you guys would be all right with her staying with us I know it's a long time but like I really really need this boys like is that okay that would be obviously a bit different but it's just like he's just gone and done it without asking bizarre yeah really really outrageous I really I right so the answer to that is that

you can literally just say maybe write it maybe it needs to come from the three of you yeah I think you all need to sit down with him and just be like, look, we can't have this kind of thing going on. And also just say, like, it's just too cramped. Like, we don't have the room. And, like, you know, you feel a bit uncomfortable. You didn't sign up for that. And, you know, she's not your girlfriend, you know?

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in a hotel room or you're like away and you're like leaving soon you're like yeah also it's probably like big you're you I always feel like in smaller places I think they're cleaner because you in a house you it always becomes more messy because there's more room to put stuff but I have always when I was at school I've always been like one of the tidy ones I know that you're gonna think that's so hard to believe but like I really was I do think that's hard to believe guys I'm actually I mean gonna show you some of my list as bedside tables because boy you would be shocked no my bedside table right now is actually really tidy really tidy bedside tables, mine's quite crowded.

My desk has a few. It's just because bits and bobs just build up, like my little nail file, my cuticle, my hand cream. Yeah, my lip balm, my hairbrush. I love getting in bedding. It's all just got to be on the side of your bed. It's just got to be convenient. And Harry's like, there's clutter. I'm like, well, I need the clutter.

You know? Clutter. Jamie, that is high end right now. Okay, so, so well this girl wrote in and said it was my idea to move in with my housemate because she could live at home and safe because of that I tried to make it as easy as possible

sorting out bills etc kitting out the flat with all the furniture and add-ons it was okay for a bit but then I noticed things going mouldy including her toiletry items I've tried to speak nicely about it but she gets so offended so i've resorted to spending as much time away as possible so i don't get upset which makes her annoyed i know they're only possessions but i like a clean space and i honestly

think it's wrecked our friendship i'm moving out soon but is there any way to rebuild it or do you you sometimes have to accept friendships end and living can together can be the worst idea oh my god this isn't lessy this is a cleanliness issue yeah this isn't like this isn't like she's got ready for a night out and then there's like a pile of clothes on the floor of like her trying on stuff yeah this is like kind of gross this is the cleanliness problem because if your toiletries are growing mold i don't know what you're doing to make them grow mold but like that's not yeah i needed to follow up like because if it's like which has got moldy or like what your your moisturizer i'm imagining i'm

imagining she's got some bits and bobs like on the windowsill or something like that i'm imagining her toiletry bag is moldy oh god you know how, toiletry bags get so messy so easily? Yeah. I'm picturing that's got, like, oh, no, it's actually giving me grima. That is so gross. This is really not okay. I think, I do think if you move out, like, your friendship will just, you'll just completely forget about it. But, like, don't fret about it.

Like, if it has damaged your friendship so much because by the sounds of it, it sounds, is hard living with somebody isn't it like especially when you're adults i do think living with people you see a massive side of people massive like other side and some people you just can't live with like some people you know my old housemate oh he used to drive me mad like living with it like some people you just aren't meant to be around that many hours of the day day yeah yeah yeah I think that when you move out and you see each other less you'll forget about it and you'll love each other unless like you're really kind of grossed out by that then yeah then it's too far gone I wouldn't put too much pressure on it and worry about that too much like it's happened you guys have felt obviously

upset by the situation she's upset that you don't like her messiness. But who would like that? She's upset. Who would like that? Yeah, you're really, I think. Also, I want to know, I'd love to know how you did bring it up to her. Like, ooh, that's a bit moldy.

I would do it in a joke, and she would be like, oh, your toiletry bag's moldy. I would straight up, if I saw you have a toiletry moldy oh yeah yeah yeah i would say it to you as well okay look the issue is is that people have to have there's a general level of cleanliness and hygiene and that we should all abide by and if you are living especially in these times yeah you thought that shit out like i'm not gonna be living with somebody who's got a moldy

shit in our share bathroom like that would not go down oh my god they share a bathroom that's even worse i was imagining them not sharing a bathroom of course that is yeah that's really like not okay yeah imagine she wouldn't like seeing the same you know she wouldn't like seeing your moldy sanitary items. Oh God, it's actually so gross. Look, okay, I feel bad for this girl, but also I don't because it's like, come on, it's actually a bit selfish to be that dirty.

Yeah, we all know how to just put stuff in the bin and then, you know, take the bin out. Like how, you know. Yeah, I'd be way too embarrassed. Like if she wants to live her life, oh my God, I did actually hear about this story of this girl at uni he used to um when she'd have sex she'd just take and she was on her period she'd just take

her tampon out and just leave on the side of like her bedside table like a used tampon and then like her her housemates would like go in like in the morning and like chill in the bed and she was just there with like her used time oh my god yeah oh my god also so gross but but yeah cleanliness is a real real real situation yeah that that's that's being a bit messy like and if it's in their own space I think that's very different like when you were living in that small flat well I mean it wasn't small flat but your room was quite small yeah in your flat like for me a room like that if I was trying to get ready for a night out or going out for dinner that would get messy quite quickly and there would be like clothes on the floor like for me trying on an outfit maybe a couple shoes

and I'd be like oh shit like and if that's like the case with someone's room like that's very different because like obviously you shut that away do you know what i mean it's if they're like the kitchens like got shit yeah if they're not throwing away their food and like it's a cleanliness issue and like the surfaces in the bathroom aren't like clean you know do you know what in response to that dilemma i think your friend i i'm i'm with you it would actually really upset me that she's leaving moldy stuff in the bathroom because it can actually make you unwell like that's not yeah it's gonna make you unwell well it might it's just kind of and i think that you're actually quite in your right and quite nice to have just gone away and

not actually brought it out with her because i I would have probably been like, mate, this is really gross. Can you sort it out? I wouldn't. Yeah, like, I can't live like this. Yeah, I'd have been like, no, no, this has to change. So in that sense, I think you're actually a really nice person. So I really wouldn't worry about it. And even so you're worried about your friendship, I think it will go back to normal.

And if it doesn't, then, you know. I think don't force it. Like, if it is something that you can't sort of shake the feeling of and she's obviously very embarrassed that you've seen it i don't know the fact that she got upset oh yeah um we need a bit of background story like maybe give the girl a break she might have just really been ill or like completely for not known but yeah we don't know the situation but i can't really imagine there being a big excuse if you bring it up to her and then she doesn't change it and then she gets annoyed if you you know i don't know that there's something going on there there's something some people

i wouldn't put pressure on yourself to like you know what jamie's favorite smell is shit Shit, sewage. Disgusting. It's honestly, guys, it's so gross. How am I going out with this boy? Obviously it's not sewage. Sewage. Obviously that's not his... He likes the smell of bad drains. Like that sewage smell.

Not the smell of shit, but the smell of like bad drainage, bad plumbing. There's obviously some wires crossed in his nostrils that aren't connecting to the correct sense yeah that's not normal oh god i actually like this really does bring me back to when i lived in that house like just yeah it's tough with the housemate it was really tough but that's like what you take on I guess like I know a lot of a lot of people that have gone to uni together then end up living together because they know they've already done it and they know what they're yeah living you know habits yeah yeah yeah because some people you can be that you're best friends with them but you just can't live with them live together yeah it's one of those things totally okay so we have another little

dilemma this is called anal housemate i need help with my incredibly anal housemate she forces us to label our bananas so we don't get them mixed up no and she makes us fill what she makes us fill in a house calendar no way no way she makes us fill in a house every week every week with our plans for the week we have to fill in the in the days that we'll be going out and we're no no no and where we're going what what do i do it's driving me crazy on the other hand i know she can't help it and she's an anxious person oh my god bless that girl that is so funny that is that's where you're going for the week and when you're leaving the house and where you're going i don't think that she needs to know where

you're going also she always doesn't get mixed up if they buy a bunch of bananas each what i don't understand why can't she just eat is that being like really tight no because it obviously goes in sync with this whole house calendar situation i can understand the logic if you all buy a bunch of bananas and then you know someone's eating your bananas it's kind of annoying so at some point you've got to figure out how you're gonna know what whose is whose so all right fine my bananas has got like this red tape on it or whatever like i kind of understand that genius i'm gonna get jamie to label my bananas oh stop but surely you guys just share everything i can like see it though from like a perspective if you're sharing it out to loads of people and

then like people keep having like your stuff like if someone keeps using all your oat milk for example yeah yeah i actually would be really pissed off i know the worst for me robinson's fruit squash and i'm so thirsty and i can't drink water without it and i come home and someone's bloody drank it that is game over man it's really upsetting i would not be having that is really really intense like also by the way this is intense writing a house calendar is actually quite a good idea i wish that i did that would you i'd love to know his every week no but this is different because this isn't like that's not your boyfriend like that's a bit odd yeah like and i'd almost be like no i want my own privacy if yeah like you're not my mom and i'm not

so militant we have to fill in the days that we'll be going out and where we're going okay so the fact that you have to know where you're going that's why why does she care about knowing about that because fair enough she wants to know if you're going to be out maybe because she's gets a bit anxious by herself so she wants to make sure she's doing something at the same time but then why does she need to know where you're going why don't you just jokingly say to her like oh no like in a really sweet way and like obviously not so patronizing as i am going to do an impression right now but like oh god no we surely aren't just you know like just brush it off but be like no no

come on we can't be doing this house calendar thing yeah i think if she is an anxious person bless her she can't be sort of pushing that onto you guys to all that's a really really intense way to live your life yeah talk about being highly strong yeah like yeah yeah and like imagine if you're like a bit hung over and you cancel your plans and you're like no no i'm not actually gonna go for dinner you know what fair enough if that's the way she wants to live her life that's you know all power to her but I don't think it's fair for her to ask you guys and your housemates to do that in the same way that's completely I kind of feel sorry for this girl because if she's really anxious I feel like maybe she's got like OCD and you know with that with that but I thought OCD and like being anxious

is all to do with I mean I don't really know anything about it is to do with yourself does it have to do with yeah but maybe she just needs to control unfortunately though you know it's just not fair for your housemates so i do think you guys could but i mean i would have just literally been like no no i'm not writing in a house yeah does she get pissed off if you don't write it in? Is she like, come on, write it in. Like, I can imagine, you know. Yeah, like, how does that happen? Can we get a follow-up on this? Yeah, I want to know how it happens.

Do you all sit down on a Sunday night and discuss your schedule for the week and she writes it in for you? Also, like, God, you really plan in advance because I'm a very last-minute person. I know, so am I. I know a couple of things I have for the week ahead planned, but that's more like appointments that you have to book in advance but like I don't know when and where and what I'm doing every day like it changes on the day yeah same surely when you're living with people that's the same thing as well because you can be spontaneous with your friends you can be

like oh girls do you fancy going out this evening like and then you just go yeah I don't know I'm very interested I mean I would just I would definitely bring it up in a really lovely way and just say can we not um like can I not have to write in the house calendar because I feel a bit like I'm at school and I can't relax just be honest like in a very yeah and it's probably making you feel a bit anxious as well having to do that like it would make me I'd be a bit on edge thinking like oh yeah I'd be like oh shoot i need to write in my little calendar and you better better get my ducks in a row for the week and know where i'm going golly gosh i mean i mean it's kind of a good way and it's very safe i mean you know what i think it worse comes to worse have a shared

calendar on apple and then you can pop something in and it comes up on her phone. That's a good idea. And then you can put stuff in that only she sees. I think that that would be a resolution if she really wanted to know that she didn't want to be in the house by herself or something like that. I think that's a really good idea, Melissa. Yeah, you've just solved it. But that's if you want to do that. But I still don't think that you feel like you have to you know because it's not really fair yeah but it's quite a nice

compromise i guess oh yeah i think it's a meet in the middle you meet your friend for a bit better maybe moving on to the whinge of the week my My whinge, just because I'm on holiday and I keep seeing boys do it, is why do boys always hold their penises? You know what I mean? When they, like, have their hand under their, like, boxes or, like, trunks or shorts. And it's like, well, I wouldn't do that. And I'm a girl. So why is it okay for all of you guys to do that?

So I've actually asked my brother that before. And he's like, it's comforting. I think that's what he said. was like well i can imagine it probably is the actual penis they just have it resting like they're just basically in the elastic waistband instead of having a pocket they just put it it's just resting in the in the waistband and to be fair you know what if i'm at home and i'm really full you do that actually i pull it down either side and then just sort of have my hands resting like on the top of my head to stop my trackies or trousers pushing into my stomach yeah yeah i don't think that's the same

as the boys doing it but yeah and i quite like to hold my hand put my hand on my boot but i wouldn't do it in public you know what i mean that is quite comforting if you sit and watch a movie like that yeah I guess I feel like it's fine in your own personal space but like when it's kind of out in public it's like oh maybe you shouldn't be holding your piece right now like you could give someone the wrong idea maybe not um Jamie's actually given me wind which I'm not sure what it could possibly be because I've been nothing but short power this holiday and you've been unwell so i know about you that's so mean so mean okay i'm playing of the week is sophie cannot make decisions she can't make decisions and when she can't make a decision she asked me to make a decision for her and if i don't make a decision for her she then gets annoyed that's my winter yeah well this is always the food you do the

same list I'm like what do I want I'm like do I want breakfast or or should I just wait for lunch yeah what what should I have this or should I get this ice cream and I'm like tell me and then JB's like I don't mind you do what you want and then I get annoyed because I'm like no make the decision for me for then he never makes the right decision so I have I have a similar thing but then Harry will make the decision and I'll be like no oh yeah it's almost like I'll be like which photo do you like that one oh no I like the other one well why did you ask me then just what it's almost like reassurance I know it's weird isn't it i think that it's just a human nature thing because i mean to be fair harry never does that to me but i do it to him all the time

yeah jamie never asked for my opinion harry's quite decisive like he knows what he wants to eat yeah he knows what pictures he's gonna post it's always around like it's what i i never know what i want to eat fancy or like what to drink it's like should i have red or white wine don't know i can't ever yeah yeah yeah yeah it's nice to have choices though could be yeah i want it all that's why just have faith have both i always have it when i'm choosing a meal and i've got like three things on the menu that i really want yes can you get that as well so then i can have a bit i do i'm like you get it it's so upsetting james like no'm actually full. I don't want an ice cream. I'm like, what?

No, no, you must. Oh my God. I do it with dessert as well. And I always make it. Dessert, you've always got to share with a different person. You're like, that's so boring to have your own, for me anyway.

But sometimes when I'm super full, but I still want the sweet, I have to just get one and then we share it just so that you have the taste of the like, Yeah, just a one mouthful finish off the sweet yeah yes no i don't think that is quite funny that would like annoy me if you kept doing if you got angry i do do it no i don't get angry at him but i get angry at the situation because i can't work out oh and that by that point i'm like no i put the moment's gone

like you know then i yeah i'm very indecisive I'm that's probably my worst trade I'm a little bit indecisive with stuff like that I think it's probably more of a girly thing I think it is as well look guys let me know if you're indecisive or not Melissa you've got to do your wine tasting it's quite sad doing it without me oh okay well I mean I have this wine all the time and you know i really like it it's easy i also feel like it looks quite impressive yes also the name of the wine is quite impressive oh macon village you know what's that yeah yeah i feel like it's a wine that everybody will like it's very like drinkable it's my favorite description for it and it's easy for

me because it's just down in my little shop downstairs so it's just a quick grab and grace go situation but i will say it's like a little bit on the pricey side so downstairs they charge more which is just such a rip-off but in real life i google the actual price let's look at majestic for a second okay so for per bottle or majestic for 13.99 which isn't horrendous but it is no it's not horrendous and i always i also feel like the the bottle itself if you guys look it up you'll know what i mean looks really oh i think it's won some sort of award it's really nice it's a really nice wine i feel like it looks very sophisticated very like old school and i know that this um like wine brand does lots of different wines they do like a boujoulet you know the red wine boujoulet whatever it's called oh yes they do like all those sort of like fancy cool names so yeah I really rate this wine I really like it and I'm gonna I'm gonna give it a solid seven seven and a half out

of ten just because it's something that I always go back to and I really like it okay I'm gonna try it I'm gonna get it I'm gonna try it when I'm feeling slightly better and let you guys know what I think we'll have to do it together we I know we'll have to do a couple more I also think when we next see each other we should try two different wines so do I I think we should get one really cheap and more like yeah more expensive maybe we should do a blind taste test. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, guys. Well, you know what's happening next week.

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