Wednesdays - Ep 20: Can you be friends with an ex?

Episode Date: August 24, 2021

Hey guys,It’s Wednesday… it’s time for another wine and another set of dilemmas and catch ups!In this ep, we’re covering a whole rangeee of juicy topics, and discussing the best ways to help move on from a break up - don’t worry we’ve all been there!We're also dishing out our thoughts on last week’s Love Island and talking about our own experiences dropping the "L bomb”- ugh what will we watch now Love Island has finished?!This we are drinking the glorious ’Notorious Pink’:https://drizly.com/wine/rose-wine/notorious-pink-rose/p56395Melissa’s rating: 9.5Sophie’s rating: 9.5Sending you all much love,S & M x  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I'm Melissa. And welcome to our new podcast, Wednesdays We Drink Wine. I'm back. I'm back. Why do you always laugh when we start i don't know because we've been talking before guys and then we're like hello it's because we get melissa always face times me just before we have the podcast i just feel weird i feel weird not doing that though because normally i come over like chatty for half an hour she's i like to do a mini like setup chat before we start yeah you really do i'm like no no gotta go chat i also have spot cream on every orifice of my face is that a word i bet there's orifice i don't know but i've got quite a lot lower part of my cheeks and i think i think where is it that it's like

hormonal areas of your face you you know? Chin, chin. Oh, I don't have any on my chin. So let me tell you. I have it like on this part. Foreheads, constipated. Cheeks, from smoking a bad diet. Chin, hormones. Nose, T-zone. Spoil.

Okay, well maybe from here it's maybe from all the alcohol that I've been having recently and it's just kind of coming out of it, like. Yeah, yeah, I think that's fine as well. You know when you detox it, straight out does it yes and maybe what are you thinking about like detox trying to get rid of all that rose trying to get rid of the toxins and i'm just going to fill it back up with some rosy that we've got right here okay wine for today guys seriously let's talk about wine yeah yeah i was gonna say should i show it to the camera but you guys can't see this okay so this is a stunning bottle it's one of my favorite roses ever and it's actually not hugely expensive but like the quality of the grape everything is like really lovely really lovely the quality of the

grain the quality of the grape but it's quite hard to get it's very exclusive where did you get it from no it's not there's just only one dealer in the whole of the uk you know because sounds really wine dealer you know mimi reese yeah oh this is her dad owns like a wine shop and he's the only stockist stockist are you making up words or is this just me what is the correct way of me saying that you know what i'm trying bro no stockist so if it's stockist i don't think it is it wouldn't be stocker just one thing to let you know what i'm trying no stockist so if it's stockist i don't think it is it wouldn't be stocker just one thing to let you know i think for our birthday presents for each other we need to get each other the cabinets you can get these glass cabinets and they have like

these holders in them so you can open a bottle of wine and you can just so it never goes oh yeah i've just sent me that i walked past it on chilton street actually carmobile was like a wine shop and i thought that's what vanessa and i need i'm pretty sure it's going to be like near to a grand position oh christ maybe we just get one between us for the studio yeah for the studio which is safey's kitchen guys no we are going we are moving to a studio oh i just feel so grown up i'm not sure if i'm ready for that step yeah i like safey's kitchen it's very wholesome yeah the home comforts okay back to the wine let's try it's called notorious pink it's a grenache grape safe yeah yeah it says it grenache and it's like a nice frosted bottle we like a good frosted bottle don't we we like a

good frosted bottle i also think like a frosted glass is like key in the restroom you know what i don't really drink beer that much but when they have a beer that's ice that's been in the freezer yeah yeah yeah do you know i think it looks right okay let's have a little sip i've got a giant ice cube in mine can you see the size of that thing yeah i know just stunning that guys is my favorite rosé in the whole world right now it's it's the top of my list well we know what her rating is going to be about then that has to be 10 by the way so nice that is so so so i'm never gonna rate a wine a day i'm gonna do it nine and a half or nine no okay surprise waters don't be so stingy i think it's either 12 to 14 pounds um i've had it in my fridge for a while because i was like hoping to use it we've obviously been to so many wines to

go through it's just so guys and it is actually it's not as expensive of like whispering angel which you can pay like what 17 pounds for some really that's actually yeah yeah 19 pounds 15 16 pounds that is really reasonable for your favorite wine in the whole entire world it is really reasonable okay you know why because it hasn't been like like inflate like inflation or whatever like well like west spring angel has if you know what i mean not that many people the branding it's not blown up like that one day yeah if great now after this maybe we might influence that one together and then it's gonna really inflate and then it's 12 pounds a bottle there you go guys you heard it here first you heard it here first

it's absolutely lovely i'm having a look at what what we've got for today so we have a nice little bit of feedback yeah from bethany by the way guys the feedback's probably one of my favorite parts of the podcast i know it's just so, it's so wholesome and lovely. And it's really nice. And, like, if you keep giving us the feedback, that would just be wonderful. Yeah, just keep blowing our trumpets. Stop. No, not the feedback.

Like, the catch-ups. I'm talking about. Yeah, like, letting us know what, as in, like, carrying on from a story, like, letting us know what's going on with the dilemma. Yeah, but this isn't that. I don't think. This is just a girl,, like letting us know what's going on with the dilemma. Yeah, but this isn't that. I don't think. This is just a girl letting us know. Evening, ladies.

Hope you're both well. Thank you so much. Hope you're well, too. I want to say thank you to you for your incredibly and highly addictive podcast on Wednesdays We Didn't Wine. I'm currently training for the London Marathon. Wow. And I have been listening to your podcast on my runs.

It has made me laugh on numerous occasions and i dread to think what people who drive past are thinking please keep them coming is they keeping me sane and spurring me on lots of love bethany that is so cute oh my god bethany good luck on your um good luck on your podcast you might start one on your american that's bloody amazing that's amazing let us know how it goes maybe we'll come to you keep us updated that's epic if you need any um donations let us know like if you're doing any any charity run because people always do it in aid of some sort of a charity don't they or just a challenge but yes a lot of people do do it in a lot of people do and follow up on that good luck we also want to discuss love hiding because this has been honestly

i'm actually really barking at me about it i even watched it cuff me i don't know i just so i hadn't watched i watched the first episode and i was like gosh this isn't good i was like this isn't good and i hadn't watched it since zara's year and charlie break who was my friend and i was like lolling at him so it's been a couple years and then also I don't think it actually happened in Covid did it so this is like the first big year I think that's like the comeback anyway watch the first episode I was really disappointed I was like nothing to see here then I saw Sam Thompson like going mental guys he basically does a debrief of every episode it's actually very funny and I was like oh maybe I need to just watch this and we'd like watched Friends so many times,

I didn't have anything else to watch. And I was like, okay. So I think it was maybe about five episodes ago I tuned in. So I'm fully up to date. And like, if you watch all the little clips on their Instagram, you actually get a really good idea

of like what's going on. You don't actually need to watch the episode, if I'm being honest. Oh, really? So yeah. So now I'm fully up to date. And there's, at the moment, there's, I feel actually quite bad. The guy and there's at the moment there's i feel actually quite bad the guy there's a guy on there called jake and he's basically been with this girl from the

beginning and it seems like i think the consensus is the public seem to think he's not very genuine with her and they've been together since the beginning and he's just in it for the cash but they all are aren't they let's be honest you don't i don't know like what is he in it for the cash but they all are aren't they let's be honest you don't go i don't know like what is he in it for like i'm like you know what i mean like surely they i know anyway so they don't think he's very genuine they think the relationship's one-sided or whatever and she seems to have a couple issues that she wanted to address with him so this is quite a general topic actually so she had a couple issues insecurity things and she wanted to address it with him and she was like I need answers for why this this and this has happened and instead of him addressing those issues and answering her he just came back with I love you

and just sort of blanketed over the whole of the problem squashed it to one side and so she was so overwhelmed and happy with the fact that he said I love you that she forgot about everything else so like she went back down to her friends all happy as Larry bless her and they're like yeah but did you actually get an answer for all of those questions that you had and like did he explain why he upset you blah blah blah and she's like oh actually no and so it was like another issue where it's kind of like he just throws in her face like you're my girlfriend that's the only thing he seems to sort her face like you're my girlfriend that's the only thing he seems to sort of say to cover up a problem this is what is this what the vibe i'm getting is this what it's called they're calling it love bombing so he's bombing her with love

oh god is that what they're calling it i feel i actually feel for him a bit because i think that people are going a bit a bit much people were is he not being very liked for the public no not at all i think he's getting a lot of really negative negative on the hate because seriously i can't bear with people hating on social media and neither can i and also you have no idea yeah how many hours of the day aren't shown they show an hour every night yeah i know seriously so anyone listening remember there's 24 hours left in that but what what what are you trying to ask me you're asking me so basically i think do we think like i just think the whole like saying i love you at a certain point in a relationship like

when is the right time to say it like i've never actually had a problem with waiting for a guy to say it to me of you no boys have always said it first to me harry said it to me like on the third date i was like bloody hell yeah i've seen james after a month i just love you on the third date what did he say tell me no he didn't say he loved me he was like i know i'm falling in love with you or he was like can i tell you how one of my boyfriends when we just go to nobody's death oh what what what no no you have to say it now right he sent me do you remember that song by john john legend oh with me oh yes i do know sir this is actually really sweet because he was so young but he sent me that song was that his way of telling you that he said this is how i feel about you and i was like cool didn't listen to the song how old are you a day later he was like

i can't i can't disclose that information he sent people money here and then i like obviously didn't listen to the lyrics he was like did you listen to the lyrics like that's how i feel about you all of me love all of you oh my god it's quite sweet when you're already having a lot of whoops it is bless him i don't know how jamie did i can't remember probably yeah i don't remember how harry actually said the words i love you i feel like that just kind of came naturally afterwards you probably i don't know that there was no big moment or big gesture which i actually don't think is necessary do you know what i mean i quite i quite think it's a quite a big deal i don't i don't want a gesture i don't want like a present like oh i love you whereas on love island they keep doing all these big gestures for like can you be my girlfriend big gesture and i'm like is this about

you and them or is this about like everyone's seeing it yeah well i know i would just prefer something a bit more low-key how but having said that i actually eat my words because monnie may and tommy fury are just so great i didn't watch theirs i'm such a fan of monnie may like oh my god i'm a bit obsessed yeah yeah she's quite funny as well have you ever watched my youtube videos just like she just talks a million miles an hour and i'm like god you're hilarious yeah she's fat let's get her on i wish um basically my idea love you i think say it when you feel like it i personally have never actually had to say it to a boy fast do you know what i remember thinking with jamie actually oh gosh i think i might love him there's no way i would have said it so i don't know yeah i think that's probably wrong on my side like i

should have probably said that i i waited and then he luckily said it i think it's just you just trust the process that they will say and they are feeling the same as you i feel like you can feel that they feel it yeah yeah yeah it's almost like a really really weird feeling. It's a real special moment when that happens. It is a special moment. That's long gone for me now. It's a special moment. Let's move on to some dilemmas. We've got some good juicy variation of dilemmas.

Yeah, yeah. Covering a couple little topics for you guys. Here we are okay my first one i'm gonna go hi girls loving the podcast my boyfriend of two years and i recently decided to break up it was more on his side but after a couple of days he met up with me and said he wasn't completely sure if we should break up because he still loves me but the main reason he wanted to break up was that he wasn't sure if he could see us together in the future. So I realized that the right thing to do was to break up as we can't continue a relationship on a I don't know.

Totally agree. I agree. However, it seemed really hard and as we didn't end up on bad terms, course, I still miss and we love each other. We agreed we should have a bit of a break, but we could try later being friends when we were both healed as we were a big part of each other's lives and that we still care for each other. Can you be friends with an ex? And any tips on getting over a breakup?

Please keep an eye on. Of course, it's going to be kept anonymous. Firstly, I think it sucks. And i think you have done the right decision because i think if a boy said i can't see us together in the future or i don't know if i can big red flag yeah you just there's no point like no tough like if you don't if you can't see how great i am then no and secondly unfortunately whenever you do break up with someone even if they suck and your relationship sucked you only what the immediate reaction is you only remember the good times good stuff so of course he's missing you and of course he's loving you but it doesn't mean that you're

right together because you deserve to be with somebody who is like I want to be with you forever yeah I also think it is though I can relate to the sense, I wish I knew your age, because when you are younger, I guess you are on a bit more of an aware level of like, time and age. So like, you're like, Oh, God, am I? Am I going to be with this person for the rest of my life? No, it's been two years. And you kind of have that bit of a wobble, which I can so appreciate, like get it but at the same time like saying that if someone said that to me I would be like see you later then like I don't want to be with someone who's like I can see the end and then I don't think that it's very fair if

I'm actually to break up with you you guys come to this decision and then say oh I still love you I think it's a mistake no no you've made that conscious decision we've actually followed through with a breakup after two years being together it's not like a six-month relationship and now you you know i just don't think it's right and i think the best way for you to get over it i mean breakups are hard they are hard but you've got to get fully fully over the whole thing before you can even consider being his friend and by the point you're over it you might not even want to be his friend to be honest and my my advice on breakups everyone says go out get drunk have fun party

for me i don't think that's always the best way for me i like really get really fit i get really healthy i throw myself into like an exercise i want to feel the best version of myself when you're hung over you miss them when you're hung over you eat crap and you feel crap the next day like i personally am like get up go to the gym have a great day eat really healthy make myself feel beautiful and from the inside out and then you feel better your vibrations are hard and good things are going to come to you yeah and obviously go out have fun and be sociable but i i don't think you know a lot of people like break up and like just go on a rampage of partying.

For me that's the worst thing you can do. That's the thing. I think. I think you always have to sort of stay true to yourself. So if there is a part of you that's like. You know I'm craving to actually go out and meet boys in a club. Fine. Go do that.

But just maybe. I wouldn't advise going and just drinking all alcohol in sight because that does obviously then lead to a hangover which then leads to you feeling a bit crappy about yourself and i always think hangovers when you're going through a breakup is so much worse obviously so much so so just bear that in mind yeah and if you are hungover make sure you spend the whole day with your best friend with somebody yeah do not feel 100% yeah or you'll want to you'll think about him then you'll get yourself upset and then it's like a bit of a vicious circle but you know what everyone has a different process

and everyone handles things so differently but breakups with everybody unless you're kind of like mentally over it before you break up which I've actually had before where I've been like so fine and not even like cared have you ever had that yeah it's a weird one isn't it but she's obviously not because they still love each other. No, I know, but breakups are... I mean, they suck. Do you know what? Everyone always says there becomes a point where you just, like,

wake up halfway through a breakup at all. I've actually never had enough heartache or anything, so I can't really... But a lot of my friends have, like, really had their hearts broken, and they... It's so tough, and they're like, I'm never going to come out of this. And then one day they just like do. They wake up and it's just all gone.

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busy especially on sund Sundays so like always yes you've got like a Sunday lunch plan and always have things I know this sounds weird but to me always having some sort of a noise in the background like friends playing it's just a little bit of a like subconscious comfort like it makes you feel like you're not totally alone even if you're just in your room at uni or wherever and you just have it playing on your laptop I think that that really helps too I think it really helps and listen to our podcast yeah listen to our podcast that will help right next dilemma hi girls loving the podcast I have a like a dilemma where I'm in love with

one of my best friends oh I think he's amazing but I don't know if I'm good enough for him. I don't talk to any other guys because I feel like I'm waiting to see what could happen between us. We could have kissed twice, but I don't know how he feels. We have kissed twice. Oh, my God. We have kissed twice. Wow.

But I don't know how he really feels, sad face. Do you think I should tell him how I feel? Thank you so much. Oh, my God. Surely if you've kissed twice, there's something there. feels sad face do you think i should tell him how i feel thank you so much oh my god first start surely if you've kissed twice there's something there do you ever caught like i need follow-ups on this one please and thank you we need more information do you like talk about the kiss or is it like you get drunk and you kiss and then you wake up next thing then you pretend it's never happened yeah well that kind of happened with me and jamie for a while i guess yeah fair did you

yeah were you like okay so like after the first like kiss or whatever happened with you guys did you discuss it like are we gonna do something about our feelings or was it kind of like you just rushed it we were like whoa that was weird for ages yeah yeah oh my god we kept and it kept happening like i kept everyone kept saying you kept saying to me i think jamie really likes you i was like oh no he doesn't but then you would like randomly grab your ass in public and i was like no he wouldn't i was like what's going on and you were like oh i don't know he's just being silly and i was like no he didn't no but like he's one of those boys girls where like no matter who you are your friend you're friends with him or not

like i remember when like even where we were in croatia and like you and sam were just having a chat and he just came and sat next to us and I think we were both sat on his lap and like that sort of thing's like quite normal with Jamie where it might not be with other boys yeah so like for him to just do that when you guys were so close now he's locked down no he's locked down he would never do that but like you know what I mean for him just for me to see him just doing that it was very flirty and like funny and I was just like oh is that like normal am I looking into that or like what's going on you were like why are you sat on his knee I was like chill out honey it's okay I know I was like because you can tell there was like chemistry in the air you know when you can just see it with

some people so I wonder if any of your other friends maybe notice a vibe with you guys like surely you can feel the energy I would actually just not say anything she might freak him off i just keep i enjoy it enjoy the fun fertility frivolity of it is that word oh frivolity frivolity i think we're making up some words flirtatiously just don't enjoy like the ride enjoy like yeah you know you've got this little flirty thing going on and sometimes you kiss and sometimes you don't and just sit play see how it plays out i wouldn't look into it i know you really like him but don't make that change your friendship because what he obviously likes about you is how you are with him as a friend so don't suddenly get with him and don't suddenly you know keep it real keep it how it is and see how it is unless he's

falling in love with you by the minute unless you are ready to it's got to a point where it's almost that you can't contain the thoughts when you're with him and you are going to have to make a decision right either we're never going to be friends again and i tell him how i feel or it could blossom into a really lovely relationship i think that you have to also make a bit of a judgment call in your mind about how important it is to you and like if i'm totally honest what i would do is the next time you sort of i'm assuming they get drunk and kiss i am just assuming yeah because surely that's not a sober situation yeah because i'm sure you would have discussed it if you're having sober snogs so i would the next time you like get drunk and have a little kiss i probably

drunkenly make sure i'm like what are we doing like just kind of don't be heavy don't be full on but just maybe like what's going on this is a bit odd sort of like but maybe don't say too odd because then he might get think you don't like it but i would sort of say like oh i don't i don't know is this gonna and just you know at the end of the day do that. Just kind of gauge where he's coming from like from a subtle point of view but then I also think you could maybe start dating someone else and then see what his reaction

is. All the things we play. But that's kind of probably what I would do. I would just leave it and think you know what he would have said something to me by now. I can't wait for him to say it to me. But boys aren't as secure as you think they are. He might then just be like oh my god she obviously really doesn't like me and then just never ever follow through through they're not sure your other friends will be like aware of what's going on he'll tell somebody something or you know or we don't know can we

have more information we need some more info on this it's quite a juicy one yeah i need a big follow-up on this one please but we've given you quite quite a lot of different different bits of advice yeah we've given you quite conflicting advice i'm really sorry about that but i would just go with your gut honey enjoy your ride like you're kissing someone that you really fancy like how wicked's that you know yeah i would just make a judgment call and see what path you want to go down hey girls i love the podcast and have been such a big fan of youtube for ages thank you oh my dilemma is about friends not paying you back so i started

my gap year in september by working full-time whereas all of my friends went to uni because of this every time we now go out they almost expect me to pay for their food drinks taxis etc that's weird even though most of them all have summer jobs now huh oh my gosh no no obviously i don't mind here and there but it's all adding up to quite a large amount i tried asking them to send me the money nicely but they often forget or just ignore it i think they think because i've been working full time for the past year i should be more generous with my money. I find it such an awkward conversation to have and while I don't want to come across tight,

I do believe it's hard-earned money that I will need down the line. Of course. What are your thoughts on friends not paying you back? Do I drop them a message? Do I drop it or keep pestering them? Okay, this is really extreme because it's like they're

expecting you to pay for their maybe you know without this is just being devil's advocate they might not be expecting you to pay like you might just always go to you might think they are and then offer to pay and then you're being generous and then they genuinely just forget like that often does happen so you might actually just need to at the time be like guys we all need to split this like you might actually be assuming they're wanting you to pay when really they're not that's just being devil's advocate yeah but i feel like from this it sounds like it's been happening a certain amount of times and it's not just one friend it's all of them maybe maybe you're more

generous than you think and it comes across like don't worry guys I will get it because that's happened to my brother a couple times I think when you're young yeah and you just think that people will pay you back or whatever and you're like don't worry guys I'll get it and then people just don't sometimes and I'm like well don't offer to pay because why would you everyone normally where i go everyone just splits it like and it's never a problem yeah you know um yeah i i can be a bad person i do go oh i'll pay for the whole thing you do have to just sort of like because i don't think it would be malicious of your friends i i actually don't think well hope i'm hoping they won't be assuming you'd pay no because that's just really kind of rude um so my advice strange yeah it's your hard-earned money surely they don't expect yeah i mean surely

not i would really hope not i'd really hope not my advice to you would to just be like when the bill next comes right guys it's 25 pounds each or it's 30 you know whatever just let someone else do it you just keep quiet and be like yeah happy to pay my bet cause just let me know what i owe you could just start saying that and if they just go the whole bill you could be like oh no no excuse me no i absolutely don't but i wouldn't pass i mean what's the point in pestering there's nothing worse than like having to pester though isn't there like when someone owes you i refuse i can't i can't i'm terrible at that which is what my brother has done a couple times and he's like i can't

bear to ask them and i'm like well you kind of have to because that's like a lot of money yeah it depends how big the money is but yeah i'm not i i'm with you pestering people for money you shouldn't really have to do it but it isn't fun when you do have to um i'm actually terrible at doing it i just sort of let it slide but if it was happening a lot of times it you know that's that's and then also learn your lesson don't ever often offer to pay again just don't ever do it again you know if you don't want to pester them and whatever you let that slide but just don't ever do it again just don't pay for the whole bill again yeah everyone paid for their bit which i think is fair enough i do think that is fair enough i feel like that happens to people quite a lot maybe but i i mean i've never heard it in the situation where

it's like all of your friends just expect you to fork out enough money for the whole bill yeah no it's not on everyone should pay i mean i'm all for it like if someone expects you to pay and then they pay the whole next round but like if that's not happening then yeah that's different if someone's like i'll get this round you get next round and whatever and then someone eventually doesn't even end up getting around and then the next day it's like oh sorry i didn't pay for x ones i'm just trying to think of this tonight unless you're going out to dinner with your girlfriends and you're saying girls don't worry all this is on me let's not worry about it i don't think that it's yeah it's a completely different thing when it sounds like you're not doing that so just don't offer to pay again yeah and if they ask you to just flat out refuse yeah

just wait until the bill comes wait until everyone's fit and said told you what they owe or you say let me know what i owe and then do it that just avoids any complication any conflict hopefully that that helps should we call it your wind of the week melissa have you got one actually you know what i do have one i'm gonna say right now every time i do my podcast yeah how much of a ruckus does Harry make in the background? Yeah, he loves it. Just making my lunch. Like, no, no, you can't do that now. I need you to just piss her off. Bugger off.

Piss her off? Where's that come from? It's from the crown. I just picked it up. I love it. Bugger off. Bugger off. I'm not quite doing it right.

When's the crown back on i don't know do you think they're gonna have diana like the whole accident of that do you think they're gonna include that i don't know but i'm desperate for it to come on also can someone let me know when hands may tell number four is out oh my god everyone keeps talking about this and i need i told you melissa was like it's too scary for me. No, apparently it's very disturbing, the first season. Everyone says, like, it's very disturbing. It's not disturbing. It's like a weird world. Like, it's a war.

Like, it's just, it's TV. Anyway, sister, I recommend that you watch it. Oh, like a low attention span, you know me, just go with it. Yeah, you like Friends. It's just over and over again. Oh, yeah. We both have the same favourite food. Movie, just go with it it's another one

of those friends movies happy you feel great oh i could watch it a million times over oh yeah i've watched it four times this weekend so i felt really oh my god not joking anyway another one instant family thank me later when you watch that instant instant family 10 out of 10 oh my god who's in it who's in it what is it mark walberg walberg oh i like him you're going to love it it's a very like just go with it film like i felt so wholesome i'm gonna watch it on saturday i'm excited um lovely right i'm gonna whip with you harry come on yeah just get out he just wants to come in he could join in he's just every day he's like can i say hi to safe i'm like no go away no yes he can guys i think you'll want to hear what press sounds like i'm sure they've all heard the sound of

harry's voice just sounds like a boy okay right guys i'm gonna rate this wine a nine and a half because it's just stunning oh it's quite a low vol percent as well so i didn't do nine and a half as well it was 11 and especially for the price such good price such a beautiful bottle stunning stunning rosy i like it the top's also one of those nice glass tops that you pop in so if you don't drink all of it you can just you know save it for later how long when you have not drank all of it would that last with the popper top i would say like five days max okay well giddy up honey but pushing it i could probably do a week should i read should i read what it says at the back yeah we didn't really do that the citrus red fruits balance the flavors of ripe berries with zesty acidity and soft mineral

mineral ality mineral ality i don't know what that means but anyway it's very sexual it's really really lovely and i urge you all to go and have a look i also feel like the label looks quite old school which is nice yeah and also just on the topic of wines i do want to let you guys know so many of you've been asking where we put the wines and the ratings from the ratings let me tell you they are up there they are at the bottom of each app description on apple spotify acas wherever you're viewing or listening to our podcast so you can find the exact wine the rating etc etc and go out and get in let us know what you think lovely thanks for that info so you're so welcome and on that note we will say goodbye wrapping up here girls i feel like it's been quite a quick it's been a real quick nifty

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