Wednesdays - Ep 36: I hate holidaying with my inlaws!

Episode Date: December 15, 2021

10 more sleeps until Xmas! In this episode, we are discussing dilemmas with a festive twist!This week Melissa is drinking a Castellore Organic Prosecco:  https://www.aldi.co.uk/castellore-organic-prosecco/p/076806148752900Melissa's rating: 7.5Sophie is drinking Quatre Vin Rouge: https://qvwine.com/products/quatre-vin-red-2021Sophie’s rating: 7.5 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I'm Melissa. And welcome to our new podcast. Wednesdays We Drink Wine. Hello. Hey everyone. wine hello hey everyone we're gonna start singing this episode by the sound of it we're apart because you know covid is rife right now and we're just trying to be extra safe for xmas aren't we i know especially as we're both meant to be going away and like we've both got this horrible fear that we're gonna get it it's It's arrived. And we've both gone for a different alcohol this week.

We did. Very festive. Festive. Yeah. So I've got some organic Prosecco and I got this one from Aldi because I've heard so many good things about it. The bottle's actually really nice.

Look at it. It looks quite expensive. Oh my gosh. I love that bottle. And it's one of those short, sort of chubby bottles which I really like. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Absolutely gasping. Gasping. And I have got, it's called Tavan. And it is organic. I did not know that. Oh, God, we know we're on organic. And it's their new red wine. Jamie's friend, Ollie Proudlock and Emma Liu have launched this wine.

We tried their brews. It's really lovely. So give them a go. It's 2022 Rouge Grenache Syrah. Grenache is a good grape. Do you remember I told you that before? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Cheers, honey.

Cheers. Do the camera. Oh, God, if we're going to be doing this, if we go into a lockdown, cheers, and do the camera again. I'm joking, I'm joking. Love. Oh, mine is so good

that's really it's extra dry extra dry should i read it also it's really fizzy i'm not sure you like i love because it makes you feel like it's champagne oh sophie this i almost want you to try it and then give me your description next time because it's like really unique what they've written on the back should i see the legs on this this has got good legs this is lovely this is very drinkable it's not as thick and rich as like right you can have it by itself have it by itself you can have it with a meal you can have it with fish you know what i mean yeah yeah very lovely very drinkable also we deserve it we deserve it at this time of the day. Usually, sometimes we have to record it, like, two and we're like, oh, we deserve it. Oh, God, is it a bit much to have a bottle of wine to share?

Is it just me or does it not feel like a Friday? Guys, it's like mid- It's like, what? It feels like it's the weekend. I don't know what's going on. Strange, strange time. It's Christmas, honey. Everyone's, like, on holidays.

Everyone's having Christmas, such as Monday to Friday. Yeah, so honey. Everyone's like on holidays everyone's having Christmas. It's just Monday to Friday. Yeah so true. Chris McHurt is fully in the swing. I've got a Christmas party tomorrow. Tuesday I know in the Cotswolds. So excited. Oh my god I'm so jealous of you. I know I need to find myself a little cocktail dress. I've got a big family

Christmas lunch tomorrow as well. I can't wait. Dude. Summer set. It's summer set. Are you coming back or staying tonight? Staying there for one night and then I can't wait. Dude. Summer set. Summer set? Yeah, summer set. Are you coming back or staying tonight? Staying there for one night and then I'm coming back to London.

Stunning. Absolutely stunning. Question, question. Have you watched New Sets in the City? No, but I'm desperate to. And I've heard mixed reviews. Yeah, what are the reviews

that you've heard? Okay, so all I've actually heard is that it's good, but it's sad. All I've heard is like, why didn't Carrie Hall 9-1-1 or whatever. So I'm like, you've all spoiled it for me. I realise that Mr. Big died. Like, it's upsetting.

Let's move on. Who did? Huh? What? Big dies? How have you not seen this on social media? You are lying. I thought it was flipping Samantha that they made look like she died.

Wait, am I getting wrong? No, no. I think it's Samantha that died and that's why she's not in it. Is that why they killed her off? No. No. Flipping. Guys, I'm really sorry.

That was such a big spoiler. Don't look like we actually... I'm not going to watch it now. That's ruined the whole thing for me. Done. How bad is that? And everyone's being like, why didn't Carrie call 999? Or 911 or whatever.

Sometimes Carrie's a bit ditzy and silly, isn't she? She drives me insane. I don't know why people are so obsessed with her. No, but I love all the other characters. So anyway, both of us are saving that for like when we go back to our families for Christmas week because I feel like it's quite... Yeah, something wholesome to watch.

Yeah, it's really wholesome. Yeah, so you like feeling sparkly, Sex and the City. There's something about it that makes you feel sparkly. Do you know what I mean? It's just a great to watch. Yeah, it's really wholesome. Yeah, so you like feeling sparkly, Sex and the City. There's something about it that makes you feel sparkly. Do you know what I mean? It's just a great bloody watch, let's be honest. Also, we've got Tom Holland and Zendaya starring together in the new Spider-Man. And are they dating?

Like, is that what we're thinking? Yeah, they're together in real life. Yeah, they're together in real life. Oh, stop. Okay, well, I'm obsessed with them both, mostly her. I really like her. Her fashion sense is amazing her and herself is just genuinely probably the most beautiful person to work

with like yeah can't can't I walked past a makeup I think it was in self-judge like she's one of the faces of something and I was like god her face is unbelievable like just so perfect like every feature is just like perfect yeah and I just think they're both just cool I like them she's very elegant and little as well like she almost just looks like a little fairy a little fairy yeah yeah yeah very ethereal I feel you I also have guys yeah a really funny funny story to tell you before we dive into some feedback right I actually I think I had this story within my knowledge last week so I was having one of my birthday dinners with my girls and we were just telling joke stories and my friend tells me I'm

not going to name her because it has to be has to be kept secret basically one of her work colleagues or I think maybe it's her boss or somebody was like they were they were at a wedding recently and they were all waiting in the church you know waiting for the bride to walk down the aisle and suddenly the best man runs in like, guys, wedding's off. Everyone needs to go home. Really sorry. It was all very dramatic and bizarre. Turns out, whilst the bride was getting ready in her room, I think they were all staying in this lovely hotel.

She was getting ready in the room. She needed to go into the mother-in-law's room to get something from her. So she just walked into the room and suddenly her husband-to-be and his mum, the mother-in-law. What? The mother-in-law is topless and quickly puts on a dressing gown. Wait, what do you mean the husband and his mum? Yes. So her husband-to-be and his mum, as in her mother-in-law, are in this bedroom, right?

She's got her top off and they're all scrambling about as soon as she walks in. And the mother-in-law, basically, turns out, he's been breastfeeding from his mum. No! His whole life. And apparently he goes, it's only when I get nervous. Oh my God.

Sorry, pass me a bucket. I'm about to spew everywhere. That is fucking disgusting. I know. No, some people need to get an absolute grip and the mum's just as much I'm sick to my stomach the mum is fully to blame

because she's made the son like fully addicted like his whole life yeah the reason she's done that is because apparently you never get fat if you do that like you can always have

like 600 calories a day yeah and you get a banging pair of tits and you just get 20 ways like at one point I did contemplate it and then I was like

no no no wrong with so many levels how that is a story that I need to call Jamie and tell her so I know apparently she was like you've ruined my effing life so I'm going to tell everyone about this story I'm not surprised

how messed up are you joking I'm not marrying you yeah so then they're separated they're not together how can you ever get past that oh no it's the mum

like putting on her shirt I know I know like scrambling putting on her silk dressing gown absolutely vile absolutely vile

oh god that is just so wrong surely does does he have a dad like does the dad know I don't know I don't know the details oh god

but that is just the most messed up thing can someone else send me a story that's that juicy because that is golden also there was apparently like this TV programme like this porn programme I can't really remember But that is just the most messed up thing. Can someone else send me a story that's that juicy because that is golden. Also, there was apparently like this TV program, like this porn program, I can't really remember, about people having like really good flashes.

About liking to suck. Milk. Like breastfeed. It's like a weird psychological thing that like children can't, you know, I think I also like, I know this is going to be a controversial thing. I also don't really like it when I see like a, a two-year-old walking up to their mum and, like, holding the boob and, like, sucking on the boob. I just think they're too old to be doing that at that point. You're only supposed to do it, I think, between six and nine months is what they say. Yeah, look, I know that's massively controversial on each their own,

but, like, there gets to a point where it is a bit uncomfortable. It's like they're a full-on person sucking on your teat. Yeah. God. It's like, you know what it's like?'re they're full-on person sucking on your teat yeah god it's like you know what it's like what it's an um little no no what's the program that you love and that we watch over and over again desperate housewives you know when um she's working i don't come with the blonde lady's name and she's like got yeah lynette's working then her colleagues like why do you stay so thin and like oh like... Oh, that's where I got the idea from. And the child was, like, four and, like, still breastfeeding.

And Lynette was like, oh, what the hell? This is messed up. Like, stop it now. Yeah. So it is obviously a common opinion that once a child is, like, walking and, like, talking and, like, is a person, not a baby anymore. And has teeth and is, like... Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And is able to hold a cup, hold your mum's boob and eat solid food and it's still that's when it's not actually like okay like that's not good for the child surely at that point so I heard that story over lunch and I honestly almost I was like I'm gonna have to just not eat anything for the next five minutes and just take a moment because it's the most repulsive story I think I've ever heard in my entire life rep Repulsive. Oh my God, that's so rank. Oh God, I'm trying to think of a really rank story. Imagine if you saw your other half. I mean, I can't even do.

Also guys, which I like because obviously Jamie is not the tallest bloke in the world. Zendaya and Tom Holland have agreed that height stereotypes are misogynistic after addressing the difference seen in their Spider-Man kiss. What do we think about? I so agree. I think it's so epic. What, the height? As in she's a bit taller than him? Yeah, like I think it's wicked, like Rosie hunting to... Oh yeah, I think that happens all the time. I don't think it matters at all.

I also think it kind of makes a boy look a bit more like you. What's the guy married to Rosie? What's he called? Jason Statham. Jason Statham. Like he looks so... It's like he's a boss because he's like walking in with this really tall supermodel yeah yeah yeah I just think it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks it's down to you ultimately and also Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner she's way taller yeah way taller you're right you're right you're right I just think it doesn't

matter yeah I don't think any of those sorts of things matters no one cares yeah okay well we've had some follow-up advice for the listeners who wrote in about being in love with a man in another relationship do you remember yeah you guys remember that situation was he married or no no he lived with her and like wasn't gonna end it with her um hi i love your podcast could you please replay this to the lady on last week's podcast please tell her to love herself and move on from the married man my mum has been dating married man for seven and a half years and his wife found out twice the second time more recently she loves him dearly and he makes her so happy so she was sure he would leave his wife this time unfortunately him and his wife have decided to give it another go and my mom

has finally put her foot down and realized he'll never leave a married man will never leave please don't waste your time and find someone who only wants you don't wait over seven years to realize this oh my god i love that girl she's so great yeah that must be so hard watching your mom go through that oh my god yeah it's like i guess it's like a mom watching your child like it's like someone you love so much you're like're like, or even me watching, like, you making massive error. And you're like, just listen to that. I want to shake you, please, this morning. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Fuck, that's really quite savage. But you know what? Like, love is so blind. Like, you really, like, ugh. I do think it comes, a lot of it is all about self-worth. And I think that when you, and I'm not the master of this I have no I've got a long way to go but I think when you find some element on self-worth and you start focusing on loving yourself rather than only loving yourself from someone else's love if

you go yeah you love yourself first before you love anyone else yeah I think that's and then you know you're working to everything because otherwise if you rely on other people to make yourself happy or to make you feel loved then it's always going to be so you're worth it. Key to everything. Because otherwise, if you rely on other people to make yourself happy or to make you feel loved, then it's always going to be... So agree. You're always going to get let down because people are selfish. Samantha Jones, famous last words. I love you, but I love me more.

Yeah, I know. So great. Rate that so much. Rate that so much. What would you do if a boy said that to you though? I'd be like, fuck you. Yeah, same. I'd be like, you're selfish.

Selfish and disgusting. what would you do if a boy said that to you though I'd be like fuck you yeah same I'd be like you're selfish even though I'm gonna try and like live by that motto but honestly if Jamie ever said that to me I'd be like oh I said that to my ex I think I said that to my ex I was like love you to bits that you're so sweet but I love myself more yeah but we all know how that that situation was yeah but I think I think it is important to like but when things aren't right like you can't be 100% in it and selfless until you're happy with I think when you love yourself so much you know exactly what you're owed and like your worth and like what situation you should be in and when it feels wrong and you love yourself you do something about it but if you don't love yourself you just think oh okay I'm going to accept it because I don't deserve the best sort of thing yeah I so agree everyone does deserve the best so okay right first dilemma of the week we've got a festive theme this week family during the festive

season okay this is quite a huge one I mean you can actually say quite a lot about this probably because you actually do big family joining situations at Christmas. Okay, dilemma. My fiance's dad does not like me. He's very old school, aka macho, believes women should be quiet, housewives, etc. And that is not me. I'm respectful, of course, but when he crossed the line when asking very personal questions about me and my fiance having babies, I let him know he crossed it. Now the holidays are coming and I have to decide do I avoid holidays with the in-laws to try put things aside and suck it up for the sake of the holiday season please keep anonymous if you share how do you deal with in-laws when they openly and clearly

do not like you this is this really sucks oh mate that really sucks I can't really comment because I really like my in-laws and I hope they like me no you can comment because you've got to sort of put yourself in this girl's shoes right that's what we've got to do I've never had a situation where people in North St. Louis like parents love me and I always love parents yeah I'm the same however if I were to put myself in that situation and Jamie's stepfather is quite old school not in that way well I hope not in that way but I think you know I've always had this sort of approach that adults and you're you're sort of equal like you know I'm 27 I'm not gonna like be nervous to talk about someone who's about

someone spoke out of line to me I'd I'd sort of in a polite way reply back yeah I would not avoid holidays with the other nours because if you want it to last, you're going to see them and that's just life. Yeah. I would stand around and almost just make him respect you. I'm sure if he was strong back to him and like had a really good argument as to why, you know, like you're not just a baby making machine and there's so much more to you for that,

then he would have respect for you. Yeah. You've got to just, and also play on his like, play on things that he likes try and find some common ground like you know in life you don't get on with everybody but you are put in situations where you have to entertain or and just get on with it and just not not fake it till you make it but sometimes you do have to like do a bit of that like get through stuff yeah i would just really focus on the common ground situation i agree and maybe make some jokes like I was gonna say

flirt a bit but that's not the right thing to say but like no do you know what I mean like but like as Sophie said like find a common ground to like have jokes with and like things like that I always think I don't know like I feel like I actually feel like dad's easier than mum's actually my last relationship that wasn't the case I loved the mum and I didn't really ever speak to the dad but the one before that like the dad was literally like a second dad to me like still love him so much like so so easy like dads I just feel like if they have daughters they love they just really like love girls I think it really depends like I get on really well with both of Jamie's parents but yeah they're both they're both very different people but yeah I

get on with them really well. I think it just really depends. I think you've got to just, you've got to like them as well. Like try and not take everything he says to heart so much. I understand that that could have been offensive, but look at like him interacting with your boyfriend or your partner and like see the good in him. But you know what I'm also going to say?

I don't understand why your fiance is not standing up and being like dad shut up don't ask my fiance that question like how dare you sorry please don't do that and also why isn't mum I don't know if mum and dad are still together but mum should be like you know Nick shut up or whatever like Victoria needs to stick up for girlfriend here I'm just giving Victoria and Nick, which are my friend's parents' names. And Nick's Jamie's dad, so I was like, what? Oh, no, no.

Nick and Vic are my best friend's parents' names. But, like, I think wife or mum should step in and be like, tell her husband to shut up. You're stepping out of line here. Or fiancé should be like, Dad, please don't

pester my fiancé with those kind of questions. That's actually quite rude. We'll have children when we're ready. Thank you very much. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, I think, I definitely agree. Like, it feels like she's being penalized a little bit

like they're picking on her and then no one else is saying anything or just watching what she's gonna say back like jesus do you know what i mean it's all a bit much oh yeah god no if my dad if my dad ever stepped out of line to jimmy be like dad shut up yeah same same and if my dad said something to my brother's girlfriend my brother would would be like, Edwin, what on earth are you saying? You have to have that son. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And so would my mum. So I almost think like, you know, fair enough. You know, maybe he is a bit old school

and that is just the way he is and we've got to accept it or whatever. That's fine. But I do think other people need to step in as well. Like it shouldn't just be you really sticking up for yourself because ultimately you're put in a bizarre situation where it's like you're in-laws and you don't want to piss them off

by saying the wrong thing anyway. Yeah, there's only so much you can say. You can't go like can't go like yeah you can't have an argument with him about it yeah yeah that is not something you want to do i think you've just got to forget about it move on as sophie said and just oh yeah i think forget about it it's done now you obviously stood your ground which i massively respect i'm sure he respected it a lot more than you think and i don't think hopefully you've got to hope it won't happen again because you know give him the benefit of the doubt yeah and also I also feel like if he asks other questions like it just like joke with him about it be like oh god not this question again exactly like oh I mean like you know learn from last time this isn't a fun conversation for us yeah let's move on and be like I'll pop the babies out when I'm ready thank

you very much yeah exactly or if you don't want it just like yeah swift swiftly move on. And be like, I'll pop the babies out when I'm ready. Thank you very much. Yeah, exactly. Or if you don't want to, just like, yeah, swiftly move on. Manage the situation. Exactly, exactly. Dilemmatism. FanDuel Casino Daily Jackpots. Guaranteed to hit by 11pm with your chance at the number one feeling. Winning. Which beats even the the number one feeling, winning.

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chocolate usually get something around 15 in return this xmas i'm spending christmas day with them so beating the pressure to get them all something good as I'll actually see their reactions but I'm also aware they probably won't buy me much so I don't want to spend too much any other days okay firstly if you're spending Christmas with them you anyway you have to my view is that you could you spend the gift anyway and they don't really have to get you that much because they're putting up their hosting that's how I feel I think that in laws if I were to spend Christmas I would like to get them a really nice gift because you want to make a good impression. Yeah, and they're hosting. But you don't have to spend loads.

What about a really nice cheese board? I was going to say a hamper so that the whole family can enjoy it, but choose it yourself. Hampers are so expensive. You get so little in them, unless you go to Gigi and Arlo. No, you can do them yourself.

My mum makes her own hampers every year for the gardeners she like loves them so much and she like spends so much time like picking out the gifts and like makes them in a lovely little box and like

puts decorations in so she like knows like what what wine that she likes it's not like so expensive that they're gonna love and then like lovely chocolates

and then lovely cheeses that are like all local like do it yourself like it's so nice to do a ham and you can put something each in there for every family even if it's something small even if it's like five pounds per member of the family that you're putting in there but it looks a little bit more special and

impressive for the whole family and like if you do it yourself i think that's quite nice and you've made it yourself and it's super easy yeah it means something so to make a hamper you get yourself a little hamper you can order one from amazon and then you get some tissue paper or like whatever. What are those shredded bits of paper things? You know, those shredded bits of paper that people put on the bottom. Yeah, you put those in and then get some cheese for the fam. Get some chocolates. Get some wine.

Get a candle if someone wants a candle. Yeah, get a nice little candle. And remember, you can't really fit that much into a hamper because you boof it up a bit with all the tissue paper. Get a lovely pair of socks. And if you wanted, you could put a little label on each thing saying like who it's for or you just let them scramble and choose yeah there you go and that's also just so thoughtful and lovely and and you can just say i don't really know what to get you all because you are like i'm just so terrible at presents so i thought this would be quite fun yeah there you go and even

make some like lovely brownies and put them in a little case oh yes sweet awesome homemade mince pies oh there you go you're winning you got gold stars all over lovely stuff that is what good idea for me that was can we sorry yeah yeah yeah that was the tongue as well no under parents love you okay right so the next dilemma is not christmas related but it's very relevant to all of us okay it's called boyfriends exes hello girls any advice on comparing yourself to your partner's ex got myself fixated on them and searching socials really unhealthy behavior any advice would be so helpful okay block them on instagram me and sophie have this weird thing where we i don't know if it's like a fake it till you make it thing but we always go

we just know we're better so we don't care it's like it's like a weird but like that's how confident you have to be in order to get through life like especially i think in our social media world like you have to otherwise you can get yourself into a bit of a hole like this yeah I always think just joke about it in your head like oh well I must be better yeah yeah I must be I must be better even if you don't think it I must be better and then you can have a little laugh to yourself and it makes you feel better and at one stage you're gonna you just won't give a shit because it's funny I like find it funny that we say that I know it is quite jokes I remember ages ago when Jamie first asked me he was with his ex he was very insecure and he was like god do you ever get like this with

my current boyfriend at the time was Harry he said god do you ever get this out and I was like no I just think I'm better than everyone as in like I don't get jealous by an ex because I just think like oh I must be better like it's just what you tell yourself like you have to rate yourself so much in order to get through this life especially with this whole social media thing you just have to yeah because otherwise we're all gonna find ourselves just down a hole of comparing each other also just do yourself a favor and let's block her like come on i wouldn't block because i think if you block she might know you and then it looks bad okay and then she'll be like oh god i'm obviously affecting that girl's life so much that she's decided to block me which is no you's pose you can hide you can hide hide hide so i um but i don't follow any of anyone's

exes i wouldn't see them anyway i just wouldn't get tempted to look go down that rabbit hole and also like their exes for a reason like it's actually if you wanted to be with her he'd be with her yeah you've got to have that mentality because otherwise we're all gonna end up down the green-eyed monster aren't we yeah so easy to get especially with social media and also let's just remind ourselves that social media is not fake all the photos you see of me i do not look like that right now whilst i'm recording this podcast let me tell you that all of our angles yeah i mean how many pictures do we take so yeah i was gonna say we take what we want to say about 60 pictures of the same like thing slightly different angles then we're like okay that lighting's good. Yeah I've got a huge fat spot on my face right now from a big boozy weekend

like you're not gonna see that on my social media maybe I should start putting out that but like cuff me we all don't so don't yeah her photos are all gonna look 10 out of 10 but you know it's not realistic let's just all know that Instagram is not real and i also feel like more and more people are obviously getting to know that and if you do make yourself look so different on social media when people meet you in real life they're like catfish which is like legal oh yeah you can't do a catfish we can't be doing that so you want someone to say that you look nicer in real life than oh yeah jamie always says i'm much more i'm really unphotogenic which i actually found it as a compliment i agree you are you're much nicer in real life there's some yeah there's some

pictures of you where i'm like that's what that picture you showed me that i was like you don't look like that that's bizarre like your whole face is different all the photos like unless i've like had control of the photo yeah i'd have taken probably 400 to get that photo. Yeah. If someone else just takes sort of me like walking down the room, I'm like, what? I don't look very different. That picture, I was like, you look like a different person. I wouldn't even recognise you. I'd be like, that's Sophie's ugly sister.

Like if I saw that picture, I wouldn't think it would be you. Bizarre. But like you want to be that way around, don't you? Well, kind of. Not really in my industry because then it makes my work quite hard. Yeah, but your pictures on your Instagram are stunning

but like a random picture that someone takes I'm the same like those pictures oh shut up no you're not no no no oh sorry

am I better in Instagram than I am in real life no but you're equally as beautiful so let's just go no I'm lying right we did the little poll

about the Sunday versus sending a Sunday so obviously obviously 74 of you said like agreed that if you spend like a sunday or have a roast with somebody you're dating it takes it to the next level which is so dark because it's not like a like a sexy little date night out in a bar where you're getting a bit pissed it's like you're like cozy and you dig in for the food whereas like yeah yeah i'm kind of like, oh, can't really. Oh, just sorry. Can I just have a starter?

Yeah. No, you can't. I don't want a plate. I want the gravy. I want the stuffing. I want everything. Get me the cheese sauce. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sorry. The cheese sauce? The cheese sauce. The cauliflower cheese. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yum, yum, yum. Yes. Delish.

So, Melissa, having heard that, that means that your relationship's gone to another level because you had a race together. It has in my head, to be honest. You heard it here first. God, we really give the inside knowledge, don't we? No, we really shouldn't. We really should. Do we agree, guys?

We really should. Okay, do you want to give us another thing? How much do you like him out of 10 out of 10? Oh, my God. How much do you want to give us another another thing how much you like him out of 10 out of 10 oh my god how much like him out of 10 but you mean how did you like him 10 out of 10 i like him 10 out of 10 we'll leave that one to next week oh she's gone okay my winch of the week is people turning up to birthday parties that they're not invited to. Oh God, yeah, guys, I did that the other week. It was so embarrassing. But it wasn't your fault. As in I'm whinging like for the sake of like the situation that you were put in.

You were like, no, that's why this is not what I'm doing. I'm honestly mortified about it. I know a girl really well, actually a friend of mine. She's so lovely lovely and for some reason or other wasn't invited to the birthday party how strange what a strange

how strange I didn't even want to be there um no whatever it must have been a school gathering anyway I was having dinner

very close by with Jamie and another friend he was there forgot to tell me it was about the brand she was like oh we're all having drinks this bar yeah come come come come come come me and Jamie had like this sound course meal we were it was delicious but like so drunk at the end of it yeah they had a wine pen a glass every meal guys seven glasses of wine deep and

also you had champagne to start and Jamie had like two fake marty oh stunning stunning stunning evening and we and i was like oh god everyone's really close by we'll go see them i walked in i was like birthday cake everyone's like everyone's in like sparkly dress i was like what's going on here and then she was like it's it's her birthday party and i was like i might be sick i've just gate crushed about it yeah it's all right she's such a i was like i might be sick i've just gate crushed about yeah it's all right she's such a lovely girl i hope you should invite i mean i don't know the reason i was invited maybe there had to be a reason you're just really boring that's what it is you're just so dull you and jamie are both the most boring people so they were like no we can't

invite this oh god oh god oh god i saw melissa in the morning for breakfast i was like melissa both of them is boring people. So they were like, no, we can't invite those two. Oh God. Oh God. Oh God. I saw Melissa in the morning for breakfast. I was like, Melissa, something terrible happened. I'm a gate crasher guys. Yeah.

You had a fun evening. It worked out okay. Yeah. It was so much fun. So Melissa's winter of the week is when, when, when you go to a birthday party and you don't drink, she's like fucking boring.

No joking. She's not really. We're being very coy today. No, if it was my birthday and I had people coming to it and then there was like people that weren't drinking and I was hammered, I would just feel a bit more self-conscious

because I'd be like then suddenly aware of how much I was drinking. Do you know what I mean? When you're around sober people and you're like, oh God, I must be not, I'm really not coherent not coherent right now and I then get so self-conscious it makes me like panic a bit so I'm like oh god can I tell you a winter of my week um someone did like a wet willy in my ear the other night and I literally you're like you know with his finger not his actual penis yeah sorry Sophie a wet willy is with your finger it's not actually with a penis I want a penis to fit in your ear hole

the penises of you and me I don't know I've seen some that are that small and you know you were so revolted that I was like

does she think that I was actually a dick because I know it's like the worst feeling ever like I used to do it at my school

and I was like oh it was like a thing and I literally looked at him like firstly we're in a fucking global pandemic

and secondly, are you fine? That is disgusting. We're in a global pandemic. I was like, get your fucking slimer and your germs out of my ear.

Away from my face. Yeah, no, not about that. Anyone sort of sharing during some nights that is that I'm like, whoa,

no. Same. I almost broke that rule the other night and then I realized I was like, actually, that's really not a good idea. Melissa what are you doing tonight then um i'm going up for a nice

dinner i'm so jealous she's living like that single life where like they go for a lot of dinners although jamie and i did have such a nice night we're gonna have a date night tomorrow night as well but you've actually inspired us we were like god we need to go out and like get it like dressed up and get a bit drunk a bit yeah yeah yeah keep the romance live also how excited are you to double day oh my god we're gonna book a couple's holiday guys in the new year okay you're sophie's jumping a big old gun yeah melissa's like can you not say that because you're gonna scare the poor boy off but I can't wait I'm already Sophie bumps into this boy okay and goes

introduces him to people as my boyfriend this is Melissa's boyfriend I'm like oh my god the bottom boy is going to hire a free cat you can't say stuff like that

safe sorry sorry sorry everyone knows what I get like when I'm a bit drunk I know but he was probably like shit he probably thinks that I've said that to you

oh stop it he doesn't he probably does no don't be ridiculous oh my god it's death and he brought it up to me as well and I was like oh no I don't know what to say I was and then you know if you go oh it wasn't me it wasn't me then it looks even worse yeah you're like no I've never said that I've never said to my dad going like what we're not even anything do you think we're gonna get to that to that point and see where you're going to talk about what you are? I don't... Is that, like, a thing you do at this age? I don't know. Yes, it is.

I personally quite like a boy to talk to me about that because I like to confirm that I'm the only person they're going with. Or have you already done that? That's a different thing. That's an exclusive chat. No, we haven't done that, but, like, it's so early days. So, like, he could technically go out and date other people and I would just have to be okay with it but would you wouldn't yeah obviously I just have to not if you have the conversation that's why it's always yeah but I also thought the conversation thought of it really cringes me out and there's something awful I don't know what

it is about would you I wouldn't know if I'd like a boy to say to me like I just want to know where we stand like that would cringe me out would it cringe you out um yeah I don't know if I'd like a boy to say to me, like, I just want to know where we stand. Like, that would cringe me out. Would it cringe you out? Yeah, I don't think a boy's ever said that to me. No, neither. But, like, there's a fear that someone will say something like that to me. I just had, like, will you be my girlfriend?

Are you my girlfriend yet? And I was like, no, not yet. And then it got to a point where I was like, fine, if you insist. Stop it as if you went, no, not yet. Yeah, I said loads, no, not yet. If I was a boy and i said to someone like oh well you know the circumstances were very different to me we had a lot of pain at the time so i was like no yeah yeah yeah okay there was other obstacles in the way for you yeah but like if it gets to a point where you just know and they're like oh you're my girlfriend aren't you then then that's fine but i don't think there needs to be an

exclusive chat they introduce you as your girlfriend yeah and then you're my girlfriend, aren't you? Then that's fine. But I don't think there needs to be an exclusive chat. They introduce you as your girlfriend. Yeah, and then you're like, okay, sweet, that's what's going on. We don't even need to, I would prefer that than someone being like, can you be my girlfriend? I don't know, that's like, ugh. I think, yeah, you get, there becomes a point when you know you're not. There's just a vibe, like you don't have to like. I think if you spend New Year's together,

I think you know you're not shagging other people. Not that you are. Let's see. Sophie's telling porcupines right now. Lucy lips over here. Oh, you're so horrible because you don't let me out anything about you. You're just acting all my secret. There's nothing out about me.

I'm in a boring, boring relationship. Not boring, but like, is it? No, what happened to you on what even night was it oh okay something did happen yeah good juicy drama that people would love that that especially that last dilemma so relevant no no no no um i'll think of something flexi yeah you got you got it you've got to kind of drop some goss now so if you've got to pull your finger out now do you know what we'll do a really juicy christmas special where we tell two secrets from each other oh okay like actual secrets because we actually spill a lot in these podcasts we haven't told each other or that we have told

each other that we're gonna tell everyone else oh i think we know everything about each other but i was gonna say i don't have any secrets i don't have any from you guys i honestly the moment that anything happens me and sophie call each other like you'll never guess it's like we're in a you know a relationship with someone and it's like something happens in the street and you just text them like oh my god this person just like fell over and fainted on the street the ambulance came to pick them up it was very dramatic like you just tell them everything all day yeah like oh god and laurie just went past and slashed me in the water. Yeah, constantly. Love you, bye.

Sophie messages me like, oh my God, some guy just threw an orange peel at my face. Oh yeah, do you remember when that happened? Yeah. That actually happened.

I was walking down the street and a guy threw an orange peel at my face. So she lost me. And I was like, huh? I almost screenshot that and put that on my list if you drink wine.

Like, this is, sorry, should we just start dating each other? This is ridiculous. Like, this is... Sorry, should we just start dating each other? This is ridiculous. Like, did you even message Jamie saying that? Probably not. No, Joshu. It's a special kind of relationship, guys.

Oh, it's too funny. Okay, right. Before we leave, because Melissa's got to get ready, we've got to rate the wine. I'm going to give mine a 7.5 because it's just really easy lovely same and mine's delicious and i this is gonna be okay my house prosecco i'm that bougie okay fine i'm gonna have it too as mine copy g stunning audi as well so cheap as chips well you know what it's how much was it it was 9.99 so i do think that's quite good for prosecco but you can obviously get Prosecco for like £7.99,

which is also good. But it's organic and it's a nice bottle. And it's such a nice bottle. We'll have to put a photo. Is it the label pink as well? No, it's like a lovely beige colour. It's so nice. It is really nice.

It looks really expensive. It does. I think it's great. You could so easily have this at a bougie bar. And the QV wine's got a really nice label as well so ladies and gentlemen we will see you next week cheers

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