Wednesdays - Ep 40: Not So Single Diaries!

Episode Date: January 19, 2022

This week we have the first-ever 'Not So Single’ Diaries’, and we also need your opinions on a few dilemmas of our own - listen and let us know!More Dry Jan recommendations: Sophie is a drinking a non alcoholic French Bloom bubbly  - https://www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/low-no-alcohol-french-bloom-le-ros-organic-french-bubbly-750ml_R03878724/Sophie’s rating: 7LISTENER RECOMMENDATION: Melissa is drinking a Jukes 1 ’The Rich White’ - https://jukescordialities.com/products/jukes-1-giftboxMelissa’s rating: 4 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Oh, no, I've edited our YouTube video today, so that's going to be out soon, guys. Guys, apparently we're so aggressive towards each other in it that's like actual true sisterly love lovely right and we are just so aggressive oh my god we're so rude to each other like we're like we just get pissed off don't we should we talk about quickly what we're drinking today because it's quite exciting yeah we've got some funky new things you go first so i am drinking this lovely organic french bubbly it's from a brand called french bloom which i saw on a lady called donna ida's instagram and then i followed them and they're actually in south june and it's organic

0% alcohol and it is delicious and it's vegan and it's pretty low in cal like no sugars four grams of protein in it how is that oh wow stunning um preservative free it's basically and it's delicious stunning bottle yeah yeah yeah it looks really lovely shape yeah and how does it taste give us a quick right okay smell that lovely champagne glass you've got it smells a little bit sweeter than normal champagne but then to taste honestly delicious oh wow that does look really nice it's like a it i wouldn't like a sweet champagne but it does taste like a sweet champagne but it's not right i can't it's fruity it's it's fruity yeah it's really yummy like i would drink that as like a drink yeah lovely this was recommended to us um by a list

of the one that i've got yeah it was recommended or no you just found it yeah so it's called dukes one and it's in this tiny like pretty little glass bottle it's basically like a cordial so you mix like this with loads of water so it's like one part this eight parts water how cool is that stop so look at the glass it kind of looks like orange wine i haven't tried it yet i'm gonna try wait that's that's quite cool i like that how cool is that but but also a bit weird because it feels like squash no okay it's really nice but it doesn't taste like wine what does it taste it doesn't taste like alcohol it tastes like um do you know that like it's not it's like medicine that you get in like a glass jar that's like that that has like the fruit all over the front it tastes like concentrated fruit

juice kind of thing like watered down it's really yummy but it does not taste like alcohol very sweet like a grape juice kind of like a grape juice it's delicious like what you get on set as a fake prop drink yeah kind of thing yeah yeah and it's only three pounds 95 it's just i mean it's lovely it's apple um organic apple cider vinegar brown sugar peach cucumber plum apple pineapple natural flavorings oh it's quite healthy then. It's almost like having a... Very healthy. Yeah. Show me what mine is. Yeah. It is Genzac Spring Water Organic White Grape Juice, Dealkalized Organic Fermented Grape Juice,

Organic Lemon Juice, and Natural Flavor of Grape. So it's literally sparkling grape juice, but it is delicious. Like, it almost tastes a bit like a kombucha. Like, there's something fermented in it. Same. It's the apple cider vinegar that I can taste that's coming out of mine.

I think mine's more fun because it's fizzy. That's quite good because you don't normally like the non-fizzy, non-alcoholic stew. I know, but it doesn't taste, I'm not going to lie to you, it doesn't taste anything like wine. And it's meant to be like a rich white wine. I'm not going to lie, but I'm not such a fan of the fact that you've got to dilute it because it's like oh I'm drinking water it was a little bit of a faff because I kept refilling the bottle and it's like real small to like get it perfect so I wanted to do it right but very nice thank you the way refreshing okay right right right should we dive in right got some lovely bits of content to talk about today I'm quite excited oh yes all right you

go ahead you start it right this Molly Mae drama we've got to talk about it so this only happened last week so this is fresh fresh fresh news sorry is that only last week that's gone this week i know so slowly um what do you think talk to me tell me i don't think she deserves all the criticism that she's getting it does seem a little bit too much a bit intense yeah i know and also like sorry we've had so many awful suicide like you know people really struggle with mental health by trolls and so why is everyone you know going for i just think it's a horrible space on the internet for people to be so nasty have your opinion drop it she says something stupid the girl probably knows it she probably feels awful i'm sure she's cried a lot about it. Like, yeah.

Move on from it. We're all over it. Let's all move on. Yeah. Leave the girl alone. More exciting news. Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox. Oh, my God.

What do you think about the ring? So, I... I mean, we spoke about this, right? She's kind of, like, gothy now. And I actually think the ring, like, really suits her. No, but have you not heard what it's for? No. Her birthstone is an emerald. his is a diamond so they've got it interlinked and then they had like this weird the actual ring around it yeah it's in the shape of a heart

oh my god no it's actually good that's really sweet i know i actually how thoughtful of him well yeah i mean of course i think that's so, but, like, she's not going to suit, like, a bog standard. Like, can you imagine her with a teardrop ring? I think it looks, loads of people don't. I think it looks amazing on her. And, like, I think she's got bright green eyes. I wouldn't want it for myself. I would like it because I actually, yeah.

I mean, I wouldn't say no to it. It's not a bad ring, let's be honest. No, no, no, no, no, it's not. It's just very niche. Like, it's very unique. I feel like because they're obviously, like, it's not. It's just very niche. Like, it's very unique. I feel like because they're obviously, like, the way they dress and they are... I think it suits her down to a T. Same.

I think it's so great. And I also just think they're, like... Well, what did you think about, like, her vampire reference at the end of her comment on the Instagram post? She was like, now we... And then we drank each other's blood. I was like, oof, it's a bit much. Oh, my God. I didn't...

See, I get so bored of reading that i'll read like three lines then i'm like yeah done so i didn't read the whole caption i read like a bit of it which was talking about how they are sacrificed the relationship world require us to intoxicate off the love and it was all a bit weird the caption that she put with it was a bit deep it was a bit deep also at the same time like i guess quite sweet that she was being honest like it's not like she was like we've had the best like miss smith running relationship she was being honest but i did not see the drinking of each other's blood thing that is bizarre because they had the blood around each other's necks for ages do you remember that no in like little like

they had these little glass bottles as necklaces and they had each other's blood around it yeah sorry i think that's really quite odd but then again i am like vampire diaries 101 biggest fan so i would turn into a vampire yeah they probably do honestly i told you about it that everyone's theory is that all of these really famous people the salus celebrities are all like demon demonic worshippers demon worshippers so maybe they're like that they're part of the luminati i don't know whether it's the illuminati is that the same thing satan worshipper yeah oh god i wonder what it all involved like a ritual yeah you know like that ritual interesting i used to do some research on that. Yeah, we do. We should actually delve into that.

Okay, firstly, we have a dilemma. No, but no, we've got a follow-up from the woman who we spoke to about the prenup. Oh, oh, oh. Okay, go, go, go. I've missed this. Okay, she said, Thank you so much for answering my dilemma. Such helpful advice, as usual.

I really appreciate it. Long time fan of you both on the podcast. Oh, we want a bit more information so if you fancy giving us more yeah um okay guys we've had another follow-up on the prenup dilemma so i'm going to read it to you hey i've just listened to your podcast and it was great i recently got engaged yay and had a couple of thoughts that i hope are helpful we looked into prenups and found that in the UK they're not super legally binding and there are lots of caveats, so it may be worth your listening looking into them with her boyfriend and finding a lawyer together. That way she gets the say in it, but it may appease her boyfriend too.

We also have the issue of the plus ones and who to invite. We basically settled on only asking them if they live together slash are engaged or we are friends with their partner. We then did an engagement party where everyone could bring a plus one. We've had no complaints, so hopefully this is helpful. We also did a lot of family opinions. So from the get-go, we told them non-negotiables.

This has meant no one tries to persuade us to change these, but we are open to any thoughts on anything out. I hope this is helpful and congratulations. Oh, thank you. That is sweet. That is helpful. That was a lovely diplomatic helpful. Yeah, you're a good, you're a very sane woman.

Yeah, very, very rational by the sounds of it. Okay, right now on to dilemmas. Okay, you can move i'm so excited we i don't know why first thing we have a dilemma we all want that we all want all of the wednesday wine listeners to get involved in oh when splitting up do you delete the instagram post i ask as i noticed as i noticed stalked melissa who hasn't and was curious her opinion on this. Okay, so I have actually deleted a few, mainly because I don't like the pictures of myself. Why did you not make them in the first place? Well, you know when you look back and you're like, two years ago, you're like, oh, it was hideous.

What was I wearing? Why was my hair like that? Why was my makeup like that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Why am I so puffy in the face? So I've deleted a few, but I've kept some because I'm kind of like I like nice I look nice in the pic I think oh god also I'm I don't have like a toxic I guess like thing about it so I deleted them of my ex but that was because I went on a tv show and I like honestly thought I was right I thought I was gonna be so famous I was like everyone's gonna look at my Instagram and find out who and my ex won't like that so best delete them

little did I know no one gave a flying fuck I honestly I thought I was going to be Angelina Jolie Jolie oh my god and you're also probably like I don't want anyone following my ex like no thanks not giving him any credit yeah I don't want anyone following my ex. Like, no thanks. Not giving him any credit. Yeah, I don't know. But actually looking back on it, I think it really upset him at the time. I remember it being an issue. He was like... Why have you deleted all of our memories?

Yeah, and actually rightly so. I mean, looking back, I think it was a bit pathetic of me to have done that. Yeah, I think that was also another reason why I didn't do it. Because I was like, I actually still followed my ex up until like recently. And then I was like, okay, now it's not petty. I can unfollow him. Yeah, I muted. I obviously didn't really want to see what he was doing.

Because it kind of made me feel a bit. But I didn't feel the need to be like, oh, right, I have to block him and unfollow him. Because there was no like bad. Bad blood. I actually am quite. We will definitely have to give a poll to all the listeners on this one. Because it's a real. This is a good good very good question but i do think that there's ways for both i think yes

if you haven't i think it is a bit immature to delete every single photo but equally i think if you're trying to date and you want people to know your single one all your recent photos are like you snogging your ex. Probably delete them. Get some new thirst traps up there. Is that what we need? You need some fresh pickies on there, on the ground. Thirst traps. I had to delete a few because I had quite a few like, because I didn't post that often at that time.

So like there was a few that were near the top. Then she became single and there was all these. I was like, I have to get rid of them because otherwise people, I'm like cock blocking myself. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. that's an that's an element to it i think also but you know if you ended on really good times you went out with them for four years i think kind of nice to keep them keep a few keep a few yeah i think you look really great in yeah if you look stunned definitely don't delete you maybe crop them out i'm joking we'll definitely do a poll on this one, though, because I'm out.

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Please play responsibly. Dilemma two. Hi, girls. I need some advice on a fairly new situation in my life. Me and my ex-boyfriend of two years broke up three months ago due to us just kind of losing the spark and being a different part of life. I think I emotionally left the relationship months before this, so I'm not really struggling post- struggling post breakup and I actually feel so much better. Oh it's a bit of a Melissa Tatum. I started speaking to someone new quite quickly and it was just a bit of fun at first but as we've got to know each other we've ended up falling for each other. He broke up with his ex a month before me so we're both in quite similar situations however I'm nervous to publicise this new boy as i'm why people will judge and think

it's too soon life's too short and this boy is literally perfect oh and so i don't want to push it away if it's right i've told my close friends they're so happy but i'm nervous to tell my family so i've been staying at his most of the time do you think this is too soon to be going into a new relationship my plan for this year was to be single but this boy has watched my life so unexpectedly no if you like him that's three months is quite a long time no it isn't melissa that was exactly my i think that was my time frame wasn't oh maybe it was four no it wasn't it was like four and a half you can't put a time on love if you feel like if you there's no need for you to immediately post this boy all over social media like there's no rush for that like if it's right like you can wait but I don't think lie to your family about it just be honest

but I think the posting on social media like don't think that that's like a must you have to do like as soon as you become yeah what did you how long did you you were quite nervous to post tapes yeah I was but I kind of needed some pictures to post and then he was just in them oh wait actually you weren't more nervous about people's reaction. Like, you were more just nervous in general, right? Yeah, yeah. I know I didn't care what people were going to think about it. No, no.

No, it's just like a... I kind of get it. It's just like a... Ooh, it's like a... I guess it's like... It's a big step. Yeah, so I also feel like by the time I had posted him, it had been, like, what, six months, so...

Yeah, fine. So that's different. I agree with him, it had been like, what, six months. So. Yeah, fine. So that's different. I agree with Melissa. I don't think stress about posting too quickly. Leave it until you're happy and comfortable doing it. Yeah. If you, if, yeah, do not feel pressurized to post. It's not like a rule of thumb where it's like, oh, you're not official unless you post on

the gram. Yeah. Just live your life. It's probably quite nice keeping it to yourself and not having other people involved. But yeah, I don't think that I'd tell parents. I think tell them. I can guarantee they won't judge you. I mean, if they do, then that's their problem, not yours.

Yeah. Also, you can be like three months. I've actually started dating this boy and we get on so well. Totally fine. Why? Yeah, no one's going to judge you for that. Okay, dilemma three. I've been single for two years and since then,

various lockdowns, COVID restrictions taking into account. I've been on a lot of dates, rare and hinge. I love meeting new people. So maybe a lot of love for dating stems from that. But it's got to the point now where if I weren't to stay over after, which hasn't happened yet, apart from two times where I just blatantly didn't fancy them. So it was completely I weren't to stay over after which hasn't happened yet apart from two times where I just blatantly didn't fancy them so I was complete completely my choice not to stay I think I'd feel like the date had been a waste of time oh interesting that is interesting maybe

this is more of a comment on my potential over active sex drive than my morals because I truly have never seen the issue with sleeping someone on the first date but is this a healthy attitude to have I'm not sure it is should I force myself to purposely not stay the night after a date to break this cycle or should I just think fuck it live my life if we both want to have sex why bother forcing myself not to much love okay the comment that you're saying is like I think it's a waste of time if I don't have sex with my I don't think that's true at all I think that's a shame that if you don't have sex with them you think it's a waste of time because yeah i like a dinner with melissa and we don't go and have sex do you know what i mean like you should just enjoy people's company company yeah yeah

do the boys all insinuate coming back to us because i've been on dates when like boys have been like okay bye and i see you like they're not always and they're like really respectful yeah so like if that does happen I really don't want you to go away and be like well that was a waste of time because it really wasn't you got to enjoy someone's company and he might really like you and you can go have sex the next time you know yeah follow your gut really I think if they really like you afterwards then they will see you again yeah like no matter if you sleep with them or not like it doesn't make a difference yeah i agree so as our circumstances have changed we've had to change our wind of the week and single diaries so yeah we're now gonna have a being a marriage update for me and i'm gonna let you know whether I've been a bride or a bridezilla each week and Melissa is going to read something from her not so single

diaries yes it's going to be quite a challenge this is quite a change up yeah I'm excited for yours myself not I mean is mine that fun I don't know I don't know is there a marriage yes there is actually a big marriage update is there not yeah so the marriage update is um me we're not having it in cape town it's going to be in seville am i brazil i've been one hell of a brazil this week because i have i literally been like i'm not having a wedding so this is too overwhelming because everyone i had to catch everyone up and be like, sorry, so update everyone. It's not Cape Town. And people were just pointing at me and I was like, you.

Because basically Jamie wanted it in Seville, not Cape Town. I wanted Cape Town. But that's how much of a good partner I am. I've gone with his location. So you're not a bridezilla. You're the opposite. He can have the location, but I'll have all the say on everything else. Okay, go on from not so single diaries.

Okay, so my update is, and it's also kind of like a question, which I also feel like we should do a poll on. When is it like too soon to start like leaving stuff at someone else's house? Oh my God. Do you know what I mean? Okay, because I never take anything with me.

The minute you're boyfriend and girlfriend. The minute you are. I did it even before. But what if you go out for dinner? I'm not going to take a bag with me. No, the minute the minute no so when you go over like on a sunday get yourself do you have a toothbrush yeah i do but that's only because he was sent a pr package like the second or third time i ever went there because you already had one i was like oh no and he opened all this this pr package and he was like oh there's a toothbrush you can have that right it was a really shit

toothbrush though but then the last time he bought me like a nice one and I was like, oh, should I, should I return the gesture and buy him a toothbrush? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Buy him a toothbrush. And also, um, you've got to start getting cleanses, leaving cleanses. Like we both have, like I made sure that I would have, because I don't want to bring my face wash in the bag with me. And then the clothes, clothes are probably the last thing like that.

I don't really care. No clothes. It's like my toiletries. I just need them all there. Yeah. are probably the last thing. Like, that I don't really care. No, clothes. It's like my toiletries. I just need them all there. Yeah, it's the toiletries. But he's got, like, a good face wash that I can borrow. And he has the same face cream as me. So it's quite convenient.

I'm also kind of, like, quite like to have my fake tan over there. The Cetaphil face wash. You're not going to fake tan over there. No, but if I stay there for two days and I've got something the next day and I just want to do a trick. Oh, your face wash. Yeah, I don't fake tan over there. No, but if I stay there for two days and I've got something the next day and I just want to do a trick. Oh, your face for it. I thought you would like to. Yeah, I don't fake tan my body. I just a quick.

Oh, yeah, leave that. Leave that. Bit of tan marks or something drop into my moisturizer. Leave that. I bet he'll use it himself. He'll love it. Jamie would be like, oh, God, what a win that she's left it. It's like, can't work you some more.

He says, I leave some bronzer on the side. He's like, oh, yeah, I can just blame that she's left it yeah yeah exactly no I definitely think leave the fake down and just be like I'm leaving this here

or just leave it you don't even have to say anything no I get so scared to like do anything I don't know why shut up yeah I know

you're in love you're smitten have you said the oh we'll save that for next week I think we have only one juicy bit of information come on gotta leave something i okay okay i'm on the edge of my seat so i really actually don't know

who you have or not um yeah i think just leave it no questions asked leave the friggin face fake tan spray we use fake tan and i should you know my eye cream my eye cream like i don't have an eye cream there i'm'll just leave it he'll use it he'll think it's sweet right okay so the minute your boyfriend go off when you can do it yes i mean i personally think it's a bit full-on to like leave your pants there like you know what i mean oh my god i would never like a shoe never never never never never the funny thing is i literally look back and i forced myself moving in into jamie's old flat do you remember because Because circumstances, I fell out with my housemate, we're fine now, but at the time I was like, right, I'm moving in with you. And I just turned up with all my bags. He

must have like, been like, what the fuck? Oh my god, I think I remember this. Yes, I moved out and I like, honestly, like I look back at it, I'm like, he handled that so well. Yeah, he really did. That's because he loved you. He didn't care. He was like, I want you to move in with him anyway. I don't think didn't care. He was like, I want you here all the time anyway. I don't think Toby will care. I think let's test out this week, see if he mentions anything. I think you'll like it a lot. It'll make him smile.

No, guys, I can't leave my fake tan there. It's too soon. I want to hear the listener's opinion. Oh, right. Okay, okay, okay, okay. You guys can write it. We'll do a poll that you can make the decision for me. Guys, come on.

You guys. Yes, you can. I love how you go to whisper to them. I always ring to you guys. She goes to whisper. I put my hand out like in a whisper. Oh my God, but we just love you guys. Yeah, we do.

And also the YouTube video is coming soon and it's real fun. I don't know when it will. Maybe Friday, maybe. Yeah, let's do it Friday. Why not? Yeah. Right, should we rate this yeah i'm giving mine a seven i actually really like it i want to drink the whole bottle like it's just a really delicious taste wow i think i need to try it then i really do you'd like it and i love the brandy my one for the fact that it doesn't taste anything like

wine i'm gonna rate it a, but it still tastes lovely. Okay, I'm not going to go out there. It tastes real nice, but it doesn't taste like wine. Okay, so maybe just for a nice healthy juice, it's actually quite healthy for you. Yeah, very healthy. And you also get a lot of water in it as well. So if you're not a good water drinker, this is really good to add.

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