Wednesdays - Ep 48: Drama in the Beauticians!

Episode Date: March 16, 2022

It’s all kicking off today on DM’s- drama in the beauticians, sex gone stale and sleeping with your friends bf! It’s a good job that we had a lovely wine pairing to help us handle this week’s juicy dilemmas. Wine this week was the red merlot gifted from https://www.sin-with-mind.com/de/. Our rating: 7xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Sophie always fixates on the percentage. That is so low alcohol, though. That is, like, quite good for people who want to, you know, have a long stint ahead of them and want to pace themselves. And red wine as well. There's normally a lot more, right?

Red wine's normally, like, 14. Am I getting that right? Yeah, yeah, you are. I'm not even going to try and pronounce this, or shall I? All right, if you want me to. We were sent this, weren't we? Mel Schlo.

Mel Schlo. Rot wine and Scholadad's a german wine it's all in german on the back but i can make out merlot it says sin with mind it's a pretty cool bottle yeah very cool it's like matte black the whole thing and it's like skinny and cool it kind of looks like it's a spirit and it came with a masquerade and the sign on it's a masquerade and it says sin with the mind so yeah cool little mask looks like it's a spirit and it came with a masquerade and the sign on it is a masquerade and it says sin with the mind. Yeah, cool little mask on there. It's giving me Gossip Girl vibes.

Is it you? I've never watched that. Have you watched the new season? Sorry, no, no. What? Don't smell. No, no, that's really strange. That smells like fake chocolate.

Go give it to me. Give it to me. No, no, but like fake chocolate. Yeah, you know. Okay, let me explain it. You know, chocolate syrup, vegan chocolate syrup. That's what it smells like. chocolate. Go give it to me. Give it to me. No, no, but like fake chocolate. Yeah, you know. Okay, let me explain it. You know chocolate syrup, vegan chocolate syrup. That's what it smells like. Oh my God.

It really does. That is the most bizarre thing ever. I feel like everyone in the room needs to smell it. No, you need to come smell that. Guys, this is honestly bizarre. This is like actual chocolate. What is that smell? It tastes like chocolate sauce.

You know like that chocolate sauce that you get when you're younger at school that you put over the sponge cake yeah yeah chocolate custard oh my god right just give me a drop because i am she's not feeling it guys i don't have covid so don't worry but it is like a little bit of a chesty cough and a cold now i want to open the chardonnay because apparently this one the red tastes like chocolate and the chardonnay tastes like caramel oh my god so oh my that's like really blowing my mind i'm not sure how i feel about it um it tastes like it tastes like a dessert wine a red dessert wine it's very very sweet it's really interesting it almost tastes like port i could actually just sit and have a glass that as dessert you it's definitely not one i wouldn't want that with my food no no no have it with a dessert wine or just by itself yeah god that would actually get you really quite drunk in like a nice way imagine winter

instead of mulled wine i much prefer that to mulled wine so but i i might have that just yeah yeah yeah lovely lovely melissa's been away guys yeah i went to valdez so he's been away guys so you went to seville oh well yeah yeah yeah. I have. I will mention that. We'll get into that later. Yeah, I had a lovely little trip with the family to Val d'Azur. Missed Toby so much. What about missing me? Missed Sophie so much.

Yeah, I know. I was getting to that. God. But we're back and she's with you. Yeah, yeah. Really sorry if you hear me coughing and spluttering. I know it's really quite horrendous. Sorry.

Also, P.S. Sorry to advance to Sophie if I give it to you. No, no. I really don't want that. I know. I'm not intentionally going to give it to you but it might just happen no i think it's more of like a viral infection that's what i'm yeah yeah i think it is i was around my family the whole time and they didn't get it they're probably gonna get it when you leave when i was younger i used to think that um you couldn't have a cold like if you couldn't give someone a cold if you still had it. My mum was like, I've caught your cold. I was like, you can't, I've still got it. Like you've catch a ball or something. Do you know what I mean?

Oh, sweetness. That's really cute. Anyway, getting stuck into this podcast. We've had some messages from the listeners. We've actually had a fairly new listener all the way from Australia. So shout out to her. She said that she was catching up on the pod 7th of July to be precise. And Melissa was talking

about holding in her pee for ages and this is me i think it's a mix of finding going to the toilet the biggest waste of time and i just can't be bothered yeah i don't i just don't enjoy the whole process even if i have nothing else to do i will just sit there and hold my pee until i'm desperate delighted to hear i'm not the only slightly old person that does this i don't know why i do that i like the minute i even have a hint of a pee i'm like need to do that if i'm at home like i don't try and do it as much because i've read i've obviously learned that it's not so great for you and i have had cystitis in the past and i know that can also make it like you can get cystitis from holding your pee it's like not good for us gals but like i can hold my pee in all night i did hear this yeah did you know boys

can get thrush yeah fascinating that blew my mind i think boys like spread thrush around and they just don't know that they just don't yeah they well they're like oh you've got thrush i don't think they know what thrush is like you know how boys just always itch their penises wait wait but that's does thrash make you itch i thought thrash was basically same symptoms as cystitis makes you just need to no i think thrash makes you itch right we need a um expert in here to tell us i'm pretty sure it does and i'm pretty sure that's why when boys are always like itching and moving maneuvering things down there boys really like to just maneuver like move around the balls it's so weird because imagine we were just itching and maneuvering things down there. Boys really like to just maneuver, move around the balls, don't they? It's so weird,

because imagine we were just itching our fannies that much. I know. Why is the word fanny being said to me so much recently? It's what people are calling vagina. Who else has said it? I don't know if he says it sometimes. He's like, fanny. I'm like, stop saying that word!

What context? I don't even think I want to know. Not in a sexual context, like in a funny context. And I'm like, I know it's funny, but please don't say it, because the word doesn't mean it. What do you call it? i don't even think i want to know in a sexual context like in a funny context and i'm like i know it's funny but like please don't say yeah what do you call it i don't know can we come up with a nice name guys we need the suggestions a nice name also dick i don't like saying dick like our dick's a dick you know what i mean like it's i don't care about that no the is when you say my piece peace peace for a boy cock sexual really yeah you can't say cock in public it's so

sexual no you know what it reminds me of something oh you're such a cock it reminds me of school like used as an insult that's why i think i don't think of it as being sexual penis willy guys can you please write in suggestions of a really lovely name for a vagina, but nothing that's like nunny. I don't want a nun. Oh, go away. Not flower, not vagina, not... Pussy, definitely not. Nuns, nuns, nuns.

None of that. Pussy's absolutely outrageous. I know, that is vile, vile, vile. That's the bottom of the barrel. That is pussy. No, also nun. Loads of people call it that. That's why I said we can't call it nun.

My friend used to call it a winky. And I was like, that's what a... That's like a boy. I know. She was like, yeah, that's what my mum always called it. And I was like, you can't. From bottom used to be the term when I was really young. Yeah, yeah, that's what my mum called it to me.

It's actually on his laptop. Right. Okay. There's also the BAFTAs. Yeah, so I, for some reason, was living under a rock. But you know what? Now I've seen the pictures on this link. I've seen them on Instagram.

But I didn't clock that that's what it was. Right, okay. So who, I can't get onto that because I can't get Wi-Fi. Sienna Miller. them on Instagram, but I didn't clock that that's what it was. Right, okay, so who, I can't get onto that because I can't get Wi-Fi. Sienna Miller, I love her dress. I don't really like the gloves. Vogue put her in best dress and Daily Mail put her in worst.

Well, I would go with Vogue. I quite like that. I wouldn't wear it. I think she looks great. I think Sienna Miller also could look good in a bin bag. I just think she's so fit and effortless and timeless. Don't really like Lily Gaga's look that much. Who did I really like?

I really like Jordan Dunn. I can't, I don't have my phone. Oh my gosh. I was looking on the way here. She is up there with one of the most beautiful women in the world. Oh my God, I thought you were going to say something else. What is wrong? Like her face.

I've never seen it. Phenomenal. It's just flawless. Yeah, she's flawless. She really is. Like it makes me really jealous. And also Nila, that model. You know, she did like Burberry. Her dress dress she was like very risque but looks stunning i like this dress the

james bond girl what's her name leia i swear she i swear she got worse dress as well maybe that's cool i think that's cool i think it looks nice yeah um sorry but we also do have to talk about kanye and kit might know me to be quite what lot. What's going on? What's going on? What's going on? Oh, man. I actually fancy Pete Davidson. There, I said it. I like that picture that she posted of them together. I was like, oh, that's really sweet. Yeah, but also, his texts to Kanye have been, like, aired.

And he's just so great. He's just wicked. Really? And Kanye's going fucking mental. Oh, my God. But in a way, I'm kind of like, Kim kim why don't you just take north of tiktok like is it that big a deal is north doing this weird stuff on tiktok then oh guys i'm so behind i don't know what you do i don't know where you live and i don't know what you do because it's

definitely not in uk i just don't read daily mail or anything like that but like there's quite a lot of shies on there but like do i really care i hear about it from you anything important i hear from somebody else you know kanye and kim's kim's a real moment at the minute and also their new episode new season coming oh my god i saw the trailer the start of the trailer i'm really excited about it okay right we're gonna talk about the dilemmas now here we go hey girls happy international women's day oh yeah we forgot to put anything on our instagram about that happy international women's day belated to all of you lovely ladies absolutely loving the pod more looking for advice

rather than a dilemma i'm moving in with my boyfriend in a couple of weeks which is weeks which is super exciting but it's the first time i've ever lived with a boyfriend or anything like that so i was wondering what your girls top tips were or if you had any key pieces of advice for transitioning from living with friends which i've been doing for the past six years since leaving uni to living with your partner lots of love um i don't think that you can give much advice on this i think you've just got to play it by ear roll with the punches i think like make sure you have your own space and make sure you you see your girls make time for girl time and being on your own because like you do get on top of each other yeah then and it's inevitable

you're gonna find each other more annoying living together right and also i think your tolerance for your partner or boyfriend or girlfriend is way less than your than a friend do you know what I mean like if I was living with you Jamie would do something and you would lose your mind up but I would don't you probably wouldn't even care Jamie always says that he's like would you ever do that to like Melissa or Chrissy or whoever and I'm like no but I can do it to you so I think you have to like be mindful of like not to do that like just kind of take a step back take a breather and be like is that worth it no and i also would try not to do everything together because like make like i actually enjoy it when you know like

jamie's got football tonight i might make the most of that time alone or like make the most of time of having it's so nice to have like a series that you watch together in a movie that you watch yeah but also have one like on your own uh-huh so you're not always like you know if he if he's out like you're not like you're not dependent on like your routine at home together you're totally independent within your space shared space yeah yeah good tip guys um and like also if they're late i always think this was a kid at the beginning don't get so stuck on like having to have dinner with them every single night like i that was driving like if we were back and i was hungry oh do you know what i mean i would wait to eat and then now i just eat on my own and it's so chilled fine yeah yeah yeah otherwise

it's the worst you're like oh my god when are you home and it's just so bad and you're hungry do you cook for him when he comes home or does he just do it himself i'll probably do it again yeah just because he literally that's a good tip like don't force a routine if it's not gonna work it's not gonna work just accept it and make a new routine yeah you've got to just be much more laid back when you're not yeah but it seems like you've been living with people for so long that you kind of you're probably good at good at yeah dealing with other people um i hope that helped and good luck. So dilemma two,

unfulfilled in the bedroom. Hey lovelies, I'm desperate and in need of your help. Would be so, so grateful if you could give me advice on my dilemma. Please keep anonymous. I'm in a five year long relationship. Very happy with the house however. Recently I've been thinking about

how I wish I would have experimented more and had more sex with other guys before our relationship. Oh. I've been thinking about how i wish i would have experimented more and had more sex with other guys before our relationship oh i've been there we are happy we're in a happy relationship however recently i can't help but think that i'm missing out and that in the bedroom of our relationship i am unfulfilled please can you help does this mean we shouldn't be together as i'm having these thoughts after all there is no such thing as the perfect guy right okay these thoughts let me tell you from experience are only going to get worse and worse and worse and then you'll start thinking about one or two specific guys that you probably know or that you've seen speaking from experience sorry you just fantasize and then it almost becomes like you're cheating in your brain

and then because you're thinking about it and you're almost wanting it so badly it's almost as bad as doing it because i always thought like god like imagine if he was having those thoughts you would be so mortified so like i think there's a fundamental big old issue not an issue but there's you're not satisfied and happy and i don't think that that will go away for me it never did it just it went away for a bit and then it would come back but every time it came back it came back stronger oh god and it's always difficult when the other person hasn't done anything wrong and you still love them and they're great but if they're not filling you with excitement and like all those things then you know what we

can have fucking everything in a boy you can you don't just accept like oh they're nice to me so like i'm gonna accept we don't have a good sex i'm thinking like maybe the sex life does get a bit stale they can use some toys like oh they're not having the best sex okay i feel like she's yeah i do think if you're thinking about other boys, that's kind of not like all we're not having. Yeah. Yeah. I personally think breaks,

I don't think necessarily work because they are basically a breakup. So if you get back together, you get back together. If you're kind of thinking about, yeah, I think like, the minute you start thinking about other boys, that's like a... I think this is a this is a calling

for you to be single sleep with who you want kiss who you want experiment get that out of your system because that's never you're never gonna get rid of that until you do it i don't think personally i'm really happy that i have my single blip like i honestly am like that is the best thing i ever did for myself i don't think I would have been able to like have any other relationship until I had done yeah as intensely as I did almost like you know what I mean like I really put myself out there like I fulfilled that need you have to do what's right for you if this is gonna fester in your brain you'll I don't know like I I would could you could you i mean it's i would consider the breakup and being single if you need if you need to be single you need to be single but she's not saying that she's

just saying that she's having a bit of a blip they have a house she's really happy hold on recently i can't help but think i'm missing out it's not like oh you sound like you need to be single it might just mean that he might not be the right person for you um and you might just be single and then find another boy and then be like oh my god so i would never want to be thinking about other boys so it might not necessarily mean break up be single but it might does kind of make me lean towards that he might not be the right person for you yeah life's too fucking short life's too short and also maybe sit on it for a bit and just see how you feel but like life is too short i wouldn't wait too long because there's some people that go on for three years like is it gonna get better probably not how long she's been having

these thoughts for she just said recently oh but and the fact that you've been having these thoughts so much that you write it to us to say i always think that that's like a pinnacle moment yeah well you write it down i think having thoughts like oh i mess but actually thinking about other boys like yeah that's just a yeah yeah i mean you got to imagine like if you're giving advice to your younger sister and you heard that her boyfriend was saying that having those thoughts would you tell the sister like you need to break up with him because if he's thinking about sleeping with other women he's not satisfied with you he doesn't he can't want to be with you yeah that badly and eventually I don't this is this is really going down a hole here I feel like if you're thinking about it that much eventually it might lead to someone being disloyal at some point I'm not saying that it would but

like for me I know that it definitely probably would have gone down that road if I had tried to stick with it. God, do you think? I don't know. I think that like- I reckon if we went on a girl's holiday, you'd have slipped right out.

Oh, no. Oh, no. But like, yeah. Well, there you go. You heard it from the queen herself. So maybe, maybe that's the fact. I've not really. Don't take what I'm saying as gospel

because obviously everyone is different. But I don't think that it should be a reason for you not exploring and like listening to yourself because you own a house with him. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. FanDuel Casino's exclusive live dealer studio has your chance at the number one feeling, winning.

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Okay, right. So this is a dilemma about friendship. To stay anonymous, I'll use fake names so it's not confusing, okay. I was getting my nails done and my beautician is local and she casually mentioned that about six years ago my friend Lucy slept with my friend Jen's boyfriend at the time. Jen and Lucy were best friends and still really close now. Jen isn't with that boyfriend now but they only split up just over a year ago for different reasons, obviously. My question is, should I tell Jen that Lucy slept with her boyfriend six years ago or since it's so long ago is it not worth drama my beautician only mentioned it to me because she thought it was common knowledge I really don't know what the right thing to do is here I don't want to upset anyone but I also feel weird that

one of my close friends could do that to our close friend any advice is hugely welcome oh my god that would eat me alive it depends how close because i'd have to tell you oh yeah i'd have to tell you but also like is it worth the drama no but i would have to tell you i'd have to tell you but if it was like do you know what i would have i'd probably let i'd have to let it slip just because i don't think it'd eat me alive but it so it depends how close like it depends how close you are it's like do you see her every day because personally i see you every day like i just wouldn't it just depends on your friendship i think it does depend if we're going from a completely diplomatic point of view

and you don't think it will cause drama then fine i don't think it's bad to say if you do think it will cause drama which it probably will then just don't say anything i know but that would kind of make me but i would i would but if i'm giving myself advice yeah i wouldn't say anything i would but it totally depends on the friendship dynamics oh what you could do is go to jen or the one who had said god you wouldn't believe what the nail technician yeah i've been like she told me that you slept with lucy's boyfriend and jen will be like oh my god and be like uh-oh jen and be like, uh-oh, Jen, I might, like, can you tell Lucy? Because now I've got this piece of information

and I feel so uncomfortable. I don't like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's gonna bubble up. Oh my God, no, no, no, no, no. I would love to be on a flyer. We need to be followed up on this. Poor Jen.

Poor Lucy. I don't know which one's which. Oh my God, this is terrible business. That is scandalous. You know what? I don't actually think the girl will care because she's obviously over the boy but she'll be more upset with the girl that the girl did it i'd be so angry like imagine okay any of my fans okay right this is this isn't this is a scenario

imagine i'm like oh yeah um chrissy actually slept with harvey i'd never speak to her again it's horrible isn't it imagine i said i was like really slam with harry i don't think i would get at this point but i know what you mean it's just a i would always laugh and then be like no you're lying yeah yeah yeah i wouldn't care about the boy but the girl i'd be like yeah yeah it's just such a lie to cover up like no but yeah it's more just like that it's it would be more it wouldn't it was just the betrayal also for so many years like how did i let you like and then you think about all the times that you were together as like three or like you were all together and you'd be like they checked that's oh god it's terrible it's terrible business it really is good freak okay well look just tell it because we want the girls

okay the last dilemma hey girls i love the podcast literally makes exercise fun please keep it on so i've recently reached my first anniversary with my boyfriend he generally is very good to me and i do love him very much but oh no he says stupidly earlier on there isn't a boy in the world who hasn't got bored of sleeping with the same girl oh my god no he did not oh fuck and he said it he said it on three separate occasions sorry you stupid stupid fool oh no what a silly boy recently i came out with how i'm so bothered by this and it's made me feel insecure no bloody question he was very reassuring and admitted it was a stupid thing today and tried to spin it that he meant it was more to keep sex interesting rather than just boring routine okay as we've been

together a year we've only a year you said that's not very good as we went together a year we started having sex less and less and now my insecurity has gone into overdrive oh no i feel like i'm instigating it and i don't i feel like i'm instigating it and if we don't we put we'll probably have sex two to three times a month whereas for me i'm three to four times a week kind of girl lol love it how can i get past this or do you think this will only get worse sorry if it's so long just wanted to add generally he is very affectionate and cuddly but doesn't seem to want sex that much more anymore so it's made me feel pretty crap i love you guys thank you i have so many

thoughts about this same there's so many strong thoughts i have about so many strong thoughts but i actually honestly one thought i have is like it's really hard because i've had this conversation with jamie actually about boys not like being that sexual towards their girlfriends like right he sort of says to me like no everybody like i'm like well boys some boys must just have a low libido and he's like yeah no they fucking don't trust me and i'm like but i think they do yeah they do they do right yeah some boys just don't have that much testosterone some boys just have too much yeah some boys just don't so i think in that sense he's wrong and that there could be the you know

your boyfriend may actually just have a lower libido if he loves cuddling and being affectionate to you or he's feverishly wanking over porn and then he doesn't have right there's one of the two but they can do that like boys can be like really addicted to porn yeah oh my god i remember someone saying her boyfriend who she's still with now used there was a big problem with her him watching porn and like she walked in on it him like watching porn it was like an issue oh god i know and i was like i i would find that really insulting yeah i would but i've kind of like got it i mean i don't think jim does it now but i'm kind of a bit like whatever i mean if i walked in on it i'd be a bit like yeah i might vomit in my mouth yeah yeah yeah yeah but like but the thought of like a boy

watching porn isn't grazing me out i'm like i'll give a fuck like yeah no no no no neither if they would upset me if they weren't having sex with me and then watching porn oh yeah that would be insulting that's pretty well yeah yeah that's just quite okay so i don't actually think that he's doing that for i actually think of the sounds of his he's got a really low libido that's just quite okay so i don't actually think that he's doing that i actually think in the sense of he's got a really low libido that's what i think and perhaps he's actually like almost embarrassed about it and that's why he tried to because you obviously have a high libido good on you and i instigated get three to four times a week and i think if he's like not the one instigating it he probably is trying to like flip it and be like oh like sex becomes boring if we have it right with the same girls but i yeah because i just don't think he's got

the same sex drive yeah that's what i actually come off that because you've said he's really affectionate and cuddly and i i just don't have a gut feeling about that i just don't think he's doing anything ultimately so you really shouldn't fit in school i reckon he's actually feeling insecure i agree and if you are a three to four times a week kind of gal that's a lot for a boy a girl sorry and he's not and three to four months and three to four weeks is a big old difference twice in a month is quite the opposite i will admit yeah yeah you would have to like that kind of guy you've got a way out like are you okay to put up with that for like however well maybe you your relationship lasts? Or maybe you just, like, try and do it once a week, at least, if it's... I just feel like when you try and, like, if she's always instigating it,

it's going to become, like, you need to try and have sex with me now. Like, this isn't... Yeah, I don't think I've ever instigated it in my life. I know. No, I have. I haven't. Well, I know this is getting really into it, but you know, like, when you're just not quite ready for it to be over, and you're like, oh, come on, can we do it again?

I don't quite know what you mean be over and you're like oh come on can you go again i don't quite know what do you mean stop it so she's like get off me how many times i don't know but like sometimes i'm just not quite finished and i just quite like to carry on yeah i'm sure if you're not finished i think that's quite normal exactly yeah yeah that's not being a sex pest that's just being like when you get to the point in the relationship where you're like no no i'm not finished we're not finished right now i think that that's that's different i think um a friend of mine had someone stick that she was dating and he stayed the night and in the morning um kept like pestering her woke up in the morning and he was just like can you suck my dick and she was like and she just got the ick so bad and was like your file your breath smells your breath yeah obviously she didn't say it in her head she's like your breath smells you're asking me to suck

my dick like your dicks like so many times like she just got out of bed she was kind of like i just need you to leave but they were like fully dating and that just like fully gave her the there's there's something really like quite horrible about someone that's like yeah you've got to do it in the right way like that i think he's actually insecure has a low libido and he maybe feels intimidated by like your free sexual um spirit spirit and he probably maybe isn't as free and sexual and whatever and so therefore is trying to like deflect the blame maybe and yeah i think that's quite a good. But I don't think there's anything for you to be insecure about. And I don't think there's anything for him to be insecure about. I think that's just, you know.

The way it is. And I don't really know how you're going to get his libido up. Because it's just something that's like in you, right? Like you can't help your hormone balance. So I guess for you to be fulfilled, I't really know maybe you're gonna have to get a toy you have to just assess how this goes and like if it gets worse and worse conversation yeah just be like sometimes that can make it worse though yeah because then you're addressing it and it then it becomes like a thing it's really difficult like i so so empathize with this because

if it was happening to me i'd be really upset i would like it would get me down yeah i so empathize with it um it because sex is a weird thing to some because you can make it a big deal and also sex is very important yeah and sex can be become a thing i know and it's just like like even if you know there are times when i've not had it for like a week and it's like oh my god i've not had sex for a week it's a real thing yeah yeah yeah you know or like however long but so i don't know why it really shouldn't be a thing but it is it does make you overthink things so i totally get it i'm sorry that's i actually probably i don't know what would you do okay well i think that you probably if it doesn't improve you probably do need to have some sort of a conversation with him and if it doesn't improve then you need to see how much it bothers you if it bothers you that much either you can put up with it or you can't that's yeah you know you can't change

somebody like that i'm guessing and if you've been together for a year that's still technically the honeymoon phase yeah that's why you should still be having sex a lot yeah i think i think yeah keep an eye on it and maybe maybe it is something you'll have to have a conversation you have to see how much it bothers you. Yeah. So we've also got our bride or bridezilla and not so single diaries anymore. Should I start with my bride or bridezilla?

Yeah. I think, once again, ladies and gentlemen, I was a bride because we went to Seville. Angel case. We didn't find a venue. It was raining. It was cold. I remember Seville's literally the hottest country in europe like it is so hot the whole time because of me i was like i need to go shopping get clothes because i was so cold um and then

we went to five venues bearing mind we stayed the whole day and expressed tonight before to get a foray and like the whole thing sorry can we just comment on the fact that could you make me hot chocolate was the funniest thing the whole experience was toby facetiming just to tell me about that he was like have you seen jv's story about the hot chocolate the tea i was like no it was so rogue and also like lutein it was such a random thing why would you why wouldn't you just get up earlier in the morning like why would you stay i don't know because it was such a random yeah james keith i'm actually to be fair it kind of did give us an extra hour sleep but it was a little adventure um and then we got there and we didn't find fanny so we're back to square one and it's actually proving quite stressful because my sister's obviously getting married in september next year and i don't want to have it

like within you know you want to have a nice gap a big gap so like mine was going to be eight end of april may and now it's looking like well we'll be very lucky to get a summer fair end of april may like everywhere is fully booked so we're back to the square but we're gonna have to go on those holidays go to italy pulia check out the venue check out the venue so that would you ever just do it on the beach like that's right yeah well we're going to mexico next month and i'm like honestly i think we might just go there and be like fucking obviously not next month but be like find the venue imagine she elopes no my god no you won't do that no but as in like i might just be there and be like oh this is where we get it done do you see what i mean yeah

yeah yeah um would you ever go back to the whole um cape town situation well i actually would i would really revisit that and do it in December next year fine or like January anyway I was a bride because I was so well behaved I didn't kick up a farce even like my dad and Jamie were like getting a bit antsy and I just was so relaxed I like laughed about it and I was like right don't think it's Phil was very proud of myself had it all in if it's not all right it's not right you can't stress about it getting stressed over it is not going to make the situation any better exactly and it's meant to be an enjoyable experience so yeah what's the point and also there's no time stamp i had this time stamp i

was like need to get married by april next year but like really i don't like it's like i can just rush what's the rush although it will be next year but yeah we at least at least you guys are now fully like engulfed in the journey because now we're literally starting from stage one again could be anywhere could be in london could be in the bluebird no it's not gonna be in the uk that's all i know okay fine all right go on then it's not so single i thought you're calling me snotty i was like that's mean i was like that is that's what toby's calling me he's like all right yeah this is okay so this is just a quick like single diary so then we've got a funny like thing to talk about um i've obviously got this horrendous cold and cough and i'm having to like blow my nose in front of him and stuff it's

horrendous oh yeah i actually go to the loo to blow my nose no it's my worst nightmare hell the nose is dry i'm having to put lip balm on it every time i blow my nose because i don't want to get too dry because then i put makeup on and then i blow my nose and the makeup comes off it and then it gets like flaky with the makeup no it's really quite upsetting i know i'm being melodramatic but it's quite hard when you have to do something like that in front of a boyfriend that you haven't known for that long blowing your nose i was like that's a nick blowing your nose is just about my for a girl because it's exactly like you're scared that bogeys are still there after you've made it like that's what what it's you have to do it by a mirror and like yeah yeah yeah have to have to

have to i like literally my worst nightmare would be to blow my nose and then have to sit not knowing what what's up there yeah and also i've got quite an upturned nose like you can see the nostrils out on full force so like there's a boogie and then there's no hiding it it's out there for all to see and then the funny story is um this girl is um dating this boy i think i hope i'm telling this right and um he has this cupboard full of these like really expensive sex toys from his previous relationship and he got kept he got like asked and like i think he was kind of like we need to use them we need to like make the most of them they were really to his current girlfriend don't want to waste them yep no no that's so wrong

on every level firstly what his ex-girlfriend's vagina has been all over them like that is absolutely disgusting that is so disgusting imagine

imagine it's kind of like a red room this is how I'm imagining it it's a red room on the smaller scale and he's obviously just weird about it

because he spent so much money and he just doesn't see the issue with you know sharing a carry if he's a creeper about it because he spent so much money and he just doesn't see the issue with, you know, sharing a carry. If he's a creeper, I would literally dump that bitch straight away. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I would sack that off in a heartbeat. Also, can't you get like, oh, God, I don't even know.

That's just so unhygienic. But anyway, can I tell you this story? Yeah. Because it's kind of similar. So a friend that we both know, two friends that we both know, they were having sex at his dad's house, like apartment, and he

got his stepmom's dildo and used it on her. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I didn't even wash it. I just got it out the cupboard and used it on her. Wait, for a start, how did he even know

that his stepmom had one? I know. The whole thing is, oh my God, that is absolutely vile also why would they repeat that story to other people she didn't know i then told her he told me before i met her and then i became friends with her and i was like oh my god i remember i think i remember this story being because over here was like oh my god that's so rogue that that happened and she was like sorry what and i was like oh no so rogue thank god she's she's such a legend so i think she just laughed

it off but almost probably was a bit i would be really really really upset but they weren't going out so like what can she be like hey that one time that that happened like fuck you like that's disgusting yeah like that's wild they're not mates but yeah it's it's so great but like if they were if they were actually going out like if i found out jamie ever did something like that and now i'd be like i literally could never speak that's like almost a guy like buying sexy underwear for a girl her wearing it once putting it in the washing he's like oh waste not want not here you go new girlfriend do you know what i mean like it's just bizarre yeah that is a bit like melissa bought a necklace for her ex-boyfriend i did his name and we were constantly it was so pretty we were like we don't want to waste it i was going to give it to my friend's girlfriend no your your

friend's the boy ex-boyfriend because that was his name my friend's ex-boyfriend and then i got one of my brother's friends is the same name and i gave it to he was around and i was like oh do you want this necklace if you ever get a sweet girlfriend give her this he was like oh yeah right we've got to rate this wine okay I'm like I'm going to rate it really highly because it's absolutely delicious I just can't enjoy it

and I'm upset about it because I'm just you know it's lovely I like it I want to try the Chardonnay because it's like a toffee can we save that

for next time yeah yeah yeah it's a strange flavour it's not your normal wine it's not it's definitely wine yeah so don't like i sit to deserve expecting normal wine yeah it's not it's a sweet wine and you know what if you don't like wine very much and you're younger this is the sort of thing you would love it almost a bit like malibu like it's got a coconut yeah it's

really lovely i like it a lot imagine that with actually a bit of dark chocolate that'd be delightful or like a bit of like dark chocolate and cheese. Cheese. I bet that would be so yum. That would be banging. Like salty and sweet. I actually must say I had a Michelin star meal on Friday and I had a wine pairing with every meal. It was fabulous.

Oh my God. Delicious. We really need to do that one once upon a time. We do. Okay, guys. Thanks, guys. Love you. Bye.

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