Wednesdays - Ep 62: The Seven Year Itch

Episode Date: June 21, 2022

Hot Girl Summer has officially arrived and the rose is well and truly flowing in today's ep! Today we'll be discussing a boyfriend's relationship with a work colleague and educating Sophie on the 7 year itch...Today we're Drinking-https://www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/product/all-summer/la-vieille-ferme-750ml Sophie Rating: 8Melissa Rating: 8 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either. And we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not i'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts in anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help we're back and we are drinking la veli for me i think we've drank this before but it's so nice it's just a very nice We're back. And we are drinking La Velle Famille.

I think we've drank this before. We have. But it's so nice. It's just a very nice pale. It's just a lovely, lovely rosy. How much was it? Eight pounds, I think from Sainsbury's. It's got two little chickens on it. It's very cute.

Very cute. And it's really pale. Like, you almost can get more pale than that. This is actually doing me a world of good. Why were you a bit hungover? No, I actually wasn't. Toby's hungover. But he drank more rosy

than me like you know when like i was having half a glass and his glass was empty like he was drinking it faster than me so he would have had yeah he never usually does no he does he's a guzzler he's worse than me worse than me and you no i'm a guy but he's silent what do you mean as in like you don't really notice he's doing it. And then you're like, wait, where's the wine gone? And he's had it all. What do you mean? He just drinks it. Really good. Or pours it back for himself. No, but when you're in those restaurants, they top you up nonstop.

So you sort of don't notice it's happening. But then he's had like 10 glasses and I've had one. No, you haven't. But yeah, I know the ice is back in full force, guys. Okay, so yeah, this sub- this sub wine we need to discuss this Britney Spears wedding situation okay so Britney Spears wedding we don't know much about it which is really unlike me in particular oh it's unlike you I haven't seen any of it on social media not a drop I've seen quite a bit about her like Paris Hilton crying that was kind of it and then like

loads of memes about her having it on a weekday. But anyway, which I'm confused about because I assume like, I don't know why. I thought maybe, I don't know. You just assume Paris.

Britney Spears can afford to have it whenever she wants. And also you just assume people move their weddings for, like, do you know what I mean? Maybe it's an anniversary for her and her boyfriend so they wanted it to be on a Wednesday

or something like that. Maybe, yeah. Maybe that was why. Okay, so she wore, guys, a wedding dress. She wore, how many outfits did she wear? It says, I think she's had four. Right, so she wore four outfits, which is kind of wild. A little bit excessive.

Well, it's not really competitive. Do you not just spend your whole evening getting dressed? Yeah, exactly. Like, are you performing? No. I know, but you know what they're like. Yeah. And she's also quite eccentric, isn't she? Anyway, the wedding gown took over 700 hours to produce is that i wouldn't know i don't know i mean it must be if it's like a fact they've put out there into the universe like 700 hours how many hours are in a day 24 24 it's a lot of days

that is a lot of days yeah but like some wedding dresses take a year to make so it doesn't really short me that much do you know what i mean yeah but then i watched a documentary once and a dior dress got made in a night like the dior and he just wore dior himself christian dior oh my god it was actually on my jamie's stepmom's mom was a famous model for dior and the dress was made for her jean how cool is that that is really cool um anyway and she also accessorized her outfits with 62 carats worth of diamonds which is just like that gives me a thrill of my heart that's outrageous but also like i think that's probably quite standard for a celebrity wedding tennis necklace tennis basic teardrop earrings and then she also wore a diamond thong under a blazer the diamond thong's a little bit weird how would that it'd be so painful yeah no how that would really hurt cut

cut no no no not for me maybe it was like tiny tiny tiny diamante yeah really really thin i'm just over like you know what i imagine it was just in the front section i don't imagine like the g-string itself that's what i was picturing like big fat diamonds up the maybe a couple at the top yeah and then it went into like a bit of lace or a bit of like silk and over like a mesh thing so it wasn't like we need to see this in real life this is my imagination's going crazy right now maybe i'm picturing like something that's i doubt i'll wear underwear with my wedding dress so you can't really can you they're so long as well it's not like anyone's gonna get a flash no you're right we put poll out asking how many of you check guy or girl social media before a first date 92 said always and eight percent said no sorry were these eight percent

yeah you're lying who are you yeah you are lying you definitely like check them up on linkedin or something to be honest sometimes ignorance is bliss because you can expect be expecting too much no and i also think most boys look worse on social media than they do i would be checking who their friends are and if we have friends yeah yeah yeah same it's all that i'm never saying i would never not do it but i think you get disappointed or cringe out like if they're even good at social media i'd be like oh a bit cringe yeah i feel you slash both of our boyfriends are really good at social media so great that did you were a bit like oh he's a social media boy yeah yeah yeah i was because i was like i don't want anyone that does social media or anything like that yeah see and i was

like just go honestly quite fancy a private account kind of vibe oh private they posted like 25 pictures yeah that's private that's great because then you're so intrigued, but you know they've got an Instagram. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, public's a bit baggy. Look at us. We're like, like our photos. Public's a bit baggy. Oh my God, no, who are we?

Right, it's not really. A couple of you have written in about this topic, which is quite funny. Okay, I didn't realize my ex was convicted bigamist. What's a bigamist? Until I Googled his name after almost two years together. Always check them online as it could save years of your life. Okay, right.

What's a bigamist? He's already married, so he's having another relationship. Wait, wait, wait. I thought it's illegal to get married twice. I thought they just don't allow it. Yeah, but that's why it's illegal. He was a convicted bigamist whoa that's really when i got married

in like another country or something you know what's quite annoying about us if you google us like it's just like there's no mystery there yeah there's no mystery there's all these podcasts coming up oh yeah yeah yeah anyone dating us can find out anything and everything i think we're like well i'm definitely we're all right now yeah yeah you're with you're not gonna be with someone else okay my now husband didn't and still doesn't have social media so it was it wasn't an option best thing though because you go in with a completely open mind rather than your mind made up expectations based on social work for me 10 years later still married with a little boy best first date ever oh my god that's so sweet see i i do agree with that i do too but then it was so yeah just be private though it can because it did so this is what happened with me and toby

like it almost made me not go i actually made me not go for two months and date him it's true whereas i should have just got like you should just actually take it with a pinch of salt i get it i guess it's good to see if they have friends and whatever but like imagine if they're like naked posing in like the the mirror with like a speedo i mean that is you'd be like no i can't do it yeah yeah so then i'm like well then it just saves you an awful day okay right fair enough i mean there's so many angles on this isn't there there's so many angles as someone else said 100 you need to check if he's a fuck boy and if he follows a bunch of girls or if he wears anything that gives you the ick like string vests or alexander mcqueen oh god yeah i still get

you with the alexander saying there's big chunky shoes guilty guilty guilty guilty it's something that gets me the ick um string vest and not too much for me i think they can be quite like a string vest maybe a string vest might fit if it's done in a cool way but not like a tight one i guess like abnormally abnormally skinny No, abnormal muscles for me. Like you're on steroids. Abnormal muscles. Like it's a bruise every time you give them a hug. Don't like that.

Don't like it when there's veins showing in the muscles. Oh. You know what I mean? Like they're so pumped up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, the steroid vibe. I also don't really like the huge thigh muscle situation. No, it's so messy.

You know when you have a massive thigh muscle and their calves are quite small and it's like what's going on there a lot of girls love that though like me and you are just weird like we have weird things no not loads of girls love the steroid vibe if they do they're like oh stunning body right for example there is i've watched guilty i've watched the first two episodes of Love Island. I haven't watched any of it. Quite a lot of mixed reviews. Anyway, I watched the first two episodes. There's a guy who's just come on it called like David or something.

He's like Italian. His body to me is way too muscly. It like gives me the ick. I'm like, ugh. But all the girls in there, and I'm guessing pretty much the whole nation, thinks it's like godly and he's like been carved by angels. No, for me, like a nice body is like this bit is out of the packs and like if they tense like use some definition but like not

when they're like sat chilled like yeah yeah yeah i so agree like you want them to just naturally athletic yeah but you don't want them to look like they just spend their whole lives in the gym that's the vibe for me not for not for me doesn't I don't want to look like they just only live off protein exactly and they like weigh their food no no no no no that's no no offense this is just our opinion and our vibe on what we like that's just not for me right should we move on to dilemmas yeah okay right I'm gonna read out the first one because I've already read it and it's really making my heart palpitation okay ready hi girls love your pod you make me giggle so much i have a dilemma so my boyfriend and i have been together for almost four years now we are very happy and have a baby on the way recently i noticed he's been going into the office more

than usual he usually works from home there is a new girl who works with he works with and being a girl dot dot dot i checked out her socials and she's really quite pretty the other day he told me he went into lunch he went to lunch just the two of them when i asked if he fancies her he went all giggly and went bright red and i and he said no i was being ridiculous the problem is i just don't believe him when you have that gut feeling, you are usually right. I've been hurt in the past before where previous boyfriend has cheated on me. But with my current boyfriend,

I've always trusted him until now. Do you think I should leave, I should believe him or just call it a day as I don't want to get hurt again? This is, it gives me such. But is there a thing In him just having a crush And like he would just Never do anything And he loves her

And he just finds her attractive I'm just trying to think She'll be your way No I find so many people Attractive And I don't have Having a crush

And like wanting to spend Time with someone One on one Going in the office Like no no no More than usual I would never want to Go for lunch with

This Okay right This is a really harsh um it's just a little baby black and white perspective that i'm going to give you now there's so many different like options you've got here obviously if it was me it would eat me alive seeing someone go red and like all the signs are there and it's and if it's in my gut your gut's always right i always, most of the time, 90% of the time, my gut is always right. I wouldn't be able to deal with that. It would eat me alive. It would make me hate him.

And it would make me crazy. Every time he goes into the office, I'd be paranoid. I would... The whole thing about that makes... But she's got almost nothing to go off. What's she going to do? Break up with him? That's so hectic.

She's got a baby on the way. Oh, sorry. I've got a gut feeling that you fancy this girl so we must break up i know it's so difficult i almost think you need to just like wait it out and see what actually happens unfortunately i think you've got to yeah because if you like push him and be like i really got this you can also make him do it yeah you almost push he'll then resent you and be like you're crazy and then he'll probably like confide in her probably really spiral this but you know what i'm seeing it all that makes me feel so unwell the giggling and the red it's the red the red and the giggling because it's so to be fair sometimes like when you feel like you're being pushed put into position you sort of like get all hot because

you're like how can earth can they think that it's now embarrassing that like now i look guilty like when i get id'd when I was younger and like when I was 19, I was so used to being, freaking out and giving a fake ID that I would like get all hot and like flustered giving my real ID because I was like,

they're not going to believe me. So it can be that. Do you know what I mean? I sometimes do just like go red randomly, like very rarely, but I will suddenly like be telling a story and like I very rarely am someone who would go red. There are occasions but i will suddenly like be telling a story and like i very rarely am someone who would go red but there are occasions like that there's no backstory to

it and i'll just have a red flash and like feel really embarrassed but there's no meaning to it so that's what this is hard so imagine jamie goes to you do you get fancy alex mutton you wouldn't go bright red and be like oh no i don't know i'm just thinking one of his friends or like something where it's like no but i would be like really shocked that he'd asked me who do we work with it's like no you know what it's like Jamie asking you if I fancy miles you're not gonna go red and get all fluttery but you obviously can appreciate he's an attractive guy and he's so sweet and we love him to bits but no that's different having like a full-on crush on someone's like feeling. Yeah, I think I'd also be annoyed at Jamie for asking me. I'd be like, you okay?

Whereas he obviously wasn't like giggled, which made it really weird. Don't be so ridiculous. Like I'd be like, no. Oh, the fact that you even have to ask the question, do you fancy? It's awful to me. Yeah, it's awful.

What are we going to do about this? I always think you can't really say much more because he hasn't technically done anything wrong yet you can probably put your foot down and be like look kind of makes you feel a bit weird that you're going out to lunch with this girl i'd be like yeah can you maybe not do that like it's a bit weird like i i don't think i'd be doing that to you it is weird do they and they don't know and he normally works from home but now he's going to the office a lot it makes me feel so but he's pregnant i just can't think that he's that bad of a guy i know but you know what you'll have like the baby and you'll be happy with the baby

no matter what but like you can't make that a reason that you're staying with someone if they're making you feel do you know what i mean it's difficult how options are like you were you i would just keep an eye on it i would probably probably say to him like i find your relationship with that it makes me feel uncomfortable like i'm pregnant maybe it's my hormones going crazy but like can you not and if he doesn't hang out with her then you do have grounds to be like i've asked you not to like yeah you know i'm your wife carrying your child like you put me before her so whether you know you're not friends before i think that you maybe need to give it a bit more time come back to us update us but don't make any rash decisions because right now all it is is like an uncertain feeling right

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so my question i guess is do you actually know if someone is the one i'm in general i am an overthinker and a bit of a perfectionist but these doubts plague my mind 50 of the time and i've had them for years sorry no oh you need to get out now. Wow. A huge part of where the doubts come from is that we are almost in a sexist relationship. No, you need to get out right now. I don't have a drive for it as I don't really love sex,

especially now we've been together so long. I've only slept with two people and always found it a bit painful, to be honest. Oh, no. I'd just rather use my vibrator and be done. So I wonder if it would be the right person. He's a lovely man and I love his family.

He'd make an amazing husband and father and he makes me feel safe and loved. Maybe a guy I've had great sex with wouldn't make me feel safe. He's really short about me, even though I've been pretty honest with him about how I'm feeling. Would love to be upset if...

Right. Okay. I would get out now. Get rid of your fucking vibrator because if you're in a relationship, you should not be using that unless it's with your boyfriend because you're obviously not going to be sex.

Like, I'm, you know, when you say that, I'll be like, oh yeah, Jamie, I'll be like, I'm done. No, exactly. Like, so that's, you're killing your own sex life there. That's number one.

Two, you've only had sex with two people, so maybe like you're- You've got some wild oats to sow, honey. And I think that's a huge thing. If you're not having any sex, what's the matter? Oh my God, it's so, sex is actually, I think,

such an important part of a relationship. But also... It is. If you're having a sex... She's having doubts without the sex. But I don't know if it's... Because if I've been with someone for seven years and we didn't have sex,

I'd be having doubts. So I'm just not sure. I'm not sure which comes first. I would personally try putting the vibrator away and really making an effort on your sex life because if you think about it it's you who's actually not i don't think doubts like that go away if you've been having them for that long they're only gonna get worse imagine if he was having doubts about you you would probably be like okay fine like you know

i'm feeling the same this isn't meant to be but it's weird she's told him he won't stay with her which probably means i make her doubt more because like you i had this exact thing yeah because then you stay with them she's like oh well they know that i'm doubting it but they don't yeah and then you almost feel like bad for like saying it and like having the doubts because you're like oh they're so lovely and sweet which is what she's having but you know you that's like that's just some two people don't work together like one person can be so lovely and so nice but that doesn't mean that you're right together and that you should be with them you've got to you've got to feel really like finessed around them like you have to have a spark you can't just be like oh they'll make a lovely husband and a dad that's good enough for me but

i'm not happy you can't you know what i mean you've got to laugh you've got to love there's so many important things be attracted to them and you do have to have some form of sex life like you can't be just doing that i agree i agree so i think you need to have a really really big word with yourself i think you do very much like you're settling yeah i think that's fair on you or him i agree you're checking out and um you need to go and have some fun single time and buy the sounds of it yeah but it sounds like she doesn't really like sex but i think that's because she's but that's because you don't like having it with that person i think but she only has sex with two people so maybe she doesn't she's not that

experienced yeah not that i like some sex on a surf but you know what i mean i i do i think regardless of the sex thing you're having the doubts so like the sex thing on top of that it's just like this is not working this relationship also i feel like there is a part where she's saying like she's made a point of mentioning that she's a perfectionist and i just wonder whether you know what it is she's thinking i'm such a perfectionist so am i overthinking this kind of thing i'm such a perfectionist so am i overthinking it he's so lovely yeah no relationship is perfect like I'm a perfectionist I'm looking for the perfect guy and they don't exist yeah I don't think the perfect guy does exist but regardless of that or like the perfect relationship

but I think you just have a spark like I so agree I think the fact that you're doubting so much also the fact that you've doubted it so much to write it down and write it into us and I think it's a big plate of thoughts and it's not just like seven years in she's just doubted it so much to write it down and write it into us is a big... And I think she said it's played her thoughts and it's not just like seven years in she's just doubted it. She's had these thoughts for over many years. Yeah.

Which is my biggest flag. And you know what they say about the seven year itch? Do they? Mm. That scares me. Seven year itch? What the fuck's

a seven year itch? It's like you have like apparently like you hit the seven year mark and it's like just an itch for like uh oh like what what's going on this is right do i love it i don't know i think my mum says it i don't know who says it either it's like a general saying or it's something that my mum says i've heard it now i've heard it yeah yeah because i'm not seven years in don't worry most people don't have it but like this has been you've been having these doubts

for a long time and now it's got to seven years you're probably at the bit at the end of your toddler, where you've thought, right, I need someone else's opinion. I can't ask my friends because it's too awful to say out loud to my friends. I had the exact same thing. So you almost want us to tell you to break up with him. And I think that you should. And, you know, you will find there is lots of lovely, lovely people out there that will be lovely husbands and lovely fathers,

but they'll also make you feel really good and you'll also want to be with them and there won't be a doubt in your mind sometimes you can get stuck in a rut when you've been together for so long as well because you're almost like how on earth can i not be with them because we've been together for so long you know you can't think like that oh god that's really giving me the seven year itch you don't what are you on about well I've said my opinion if I was you because I've been in that trap it's like sort of that sort of trap feeling because they're so lovely you you you battle it with yourself like no I should be grateful they're so lovely they'll blah blah blah I just need to sacrifice all these other things but like you know what you can't have

everything in a relationship you really can and you should feel like so not doubted next dilemma hi girls love the pod I was just after your opinion on this when is it the best time to have the defining the relationship chat I've been seeing a guy for about a month and a half completely smitten and I'm sent and I'm sensing he might ask me to be his girlfriend in my last relationship my ex just always presumed we were official and I only found this out because I had to double check with him which looking back was weird and so I don't know what the norm is. We're very much so on the same wavelength completely smitten with one another and it's all going great but basically what I wanted to know was do I ask what we are even though it's obvious where it's headed

shall I wait for him to ask me to be his girlfriend I'm just so impatient how were you both asked to be official I just really want to be asked properly I think you just wait personally and I think um just wait be chilled play the cool girl like I don't think I was really oh I guess I was asked but you do kind of presume at some point like oh they're not seeing other people like it's fairly obvious I don't think in this day and age which I get girls there are girls who like find that sort of thing really special and like memories and all of that but I don't think you can expect to be told by a boy like will you be my girlfriend I don't think you can expect to be told by a boy like will you be my girlfriend I don't think you can in this day and age but then it's also quite difficult because

if you're introducing someone it's like this is my mate no no no so when you get to that stage with the parents I think it's rude to introduce you to the parents when you're not a girlfriend I I had that I went to Toby's house I wasn't his girlfriend I met Jamie's mum and she was like so what are you guys and I had to be like I don't know and she was like, so what are you guys? And I had to be like, I don't know. Yeah, she was like, so what, but like, sort of like, what is this? Yeah,

yeah, it's confusing. So you're just, you're not boyfriend and girlfriend, you're just seeing each other? And we were like, yeah, we're just dating.

But neither of us were dating other people. Yeah, yeah, it's a difficult one. he had to officially ask me. I, if I,

I would personally like to know. I wouldn't want, because my friends, I remember my friends being like, so you're his girlfriend? And I was like, well no, I'm not. I would love to know, but how, she can't just how she can't just say so am i your girlfriend no you definitely can't say anything i would just wait it will happen it

sounds like it's heading in the right direction same i did actually ask i said i'm not gonna be like it's so awkward because like i remember we had a press interview and someone said what are you jay oh yeah sure and i was like i don't know what we are and i was like i'm not having that experience ever again so i was like yeah yeah yeah i need to know what i'm saying it's embarrassing yeah yeah so if it gets to a point where you feel it's embarrassing and people keep asking you what are you guys or you keep him meeting his family i would definitely be like where is this like am i yeah yeah am i your girlfriend or not but if you're literally if you feel like it's brewing anyway don't don't ruin don't rush it and don't ruin it. He's probably, like, so excited to actually, like, say it to you.

And it's also quite sweet that you're both, like, you don't want to, like, say too much to each other. You're in that stage when it's like, you're still like, oh, no, can't say that in front of him. Can't say that to him. He might think I'm too keen. What can I text? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Trying to be really cool, just one kiss. Yeah, yeah, I need to wait five minutes until I reply. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love those times they were the best sometimes I still do same I'll be like I'm gonna ignore that for 15 minutes I'm not gonna pick up my phone right now

pretend I'm busy with the girls then he comes home and sees me like just doing a facial and he's like why didn't you pick up your phone and I was like oh I'm busy oh my god that's too good um no the worst is when like you know when it's really fun at the beginning when

like you like i used to love being like oh they fancy it did you ever get that like when you'd wait what yeah maybe like you loved your boy your whoever you're with looking at other boys look at you like now jamie wouldn't care like honestly i'm like oh i see what you're saying i'm like see something i see it and he's like yeah yeah he just doesn't care he's like couldn't give a fuck surely they always see the ring talks to me about jamie's literally like so can you get me this drink and i'm like oh he's talking to me like why don't you care yeah can you beat him up please yeah can you get upset or get upset with me

like you used to oh my god that's too funny no no no he does get upset he did get upset the other day don't forget about that the romance is still there that lovely bit of jealousy

is still knocking you out yeah yeah you've got to have a bit of jealousy got to have a bit of jealousy it's an essential part it's a necessity okay yeah girl's looking at Tobi

I'm like I'm literally going to fuck him up yeah yeah you you're literally gonna fuck them up yeah yeah you do you think he doesn't make i don't know i don't know he cares do you remember when he went to that bar and you were like it was so good that's much better you passed him at louis oh yes i'm going to walk past it was like me and toby had been dating for like three weeks or something and this guy walked past two guys walked past me i'm like oh my god she's stunning like right in front of him he goes i'm gonna fuck them up and i was like that's what dreams are made of that is what dreams are made of like you can ask anything

rather than that yeah anyway in answer to your question i think you've got to wait hans yeah wait don't rush it just enjoy the process this is so fun when you're like in that in between stage like oh what are we like we're just dating like exactly and obviously if it gets to a stage where you feel the need, then that's when you, where you're right in. Yeah, but right now I think you're fine. There's nothing for you to worry about here. Yeah.

That was a nice dilemma to end on, wasn't it? Lovely. Lovely. That brings us to... The nuts of single diaries. Okay, well, this is quite,

I don't really have anything. I mean, I've had a lovely, romantic overnight stay. I met the nephew, his little i met the nephew his little nephew that was very sweet that's very sweet a little baby watkins that was really really cute going to mykonos our first holiday oh yeah when is that next weekend yeah i'm so excited we're both away for the weekend but you're away for the whole week i'm so excited you're away for ages only a week don a week. You don't worry. I'm only a week though. Can you see Sophie's getting panicked about that already? Yeah, I am.

I thought it was just a weekend already. No, don't worry. It's only a week. And then I need to go and get some really cool outfits. Yeah. Maybe some sexy underwear. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Lovely sexy underwear. And some new bikinis.

The problem with me is I don't really wear the whole matching underwear thing. I don't wear underwear. It's not. I have one set of matching underwear which I got my girlfriend's own got me for my birthday never put it on still got the labels in it yeah I'm exactly the same I don't really like wearing a bra neither I just wear like normal like cotton like organic cotton like like thongs plain no bra no same it's very unsexy we need to like spice that up I know but I just don't know if it's me.

I've tried it before and I'm just like, no, I actually prefer what the plain cotton thongs look like. It's also a bit cringe. Like, you put on the underwear and then, like, mints out the bathroom. Like, oh. I so agree. And also, like, by that point, your underwear's off.

Yeah, yeah, it lasts two seconds. Like, I'm not going to come into the room being in my underwear. Like, hello. Once a boy said to me, he said, it's worth it for that 0.3 second of the underwear on okay okay that's changed everything

I got some sense I'm like bridal underwear wowza okay mine is found a venue locked in the date boosh okay I'm so excited and also the bridesmaids dresses are coming up oh yeah we've got bridesmaids dresses

until September but I'm so excited and I fully like locked in a date paid for deposit stunning like this is real now so like it's actually saved the date are the saved dates going up yeah they're going up I can't wait

I mean obviously I need the date but so that is actually quite stunning so that's big news do we have any progress with the dress I am going on like the 30th of something I want you to come with me but it's really far away it's in manchester but i think we'll just take a really nice overnight stay in a really lovely hotel should we do that yeah i could take the boys go for a lovely dinner

no oh yeah they can do something whilst we go and do the dressing have a lovely dinner stay the night in a hotel and then get the drone home yeah lovely lovely yeah great idea that's actually so nice yeah i've never been to manchester neither have i apparently it's really fun yeah apparently it's so fun that was actually so fun all right let's lock it in the diary though anyway guys let's rate the bar loved it it was an eight out of ten yeah same rosé for ages same same and i think it's killed off the hay fever a bit i'm less sniffly anyway guys we love you bye guys love you. Bye, guys. Love you. Bye. you're a Canadian podcast listener and that makes you important to us. We'd like to know more about

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