Wednesdays - Ep 68: Heartbreak Healing!!

Episode Date: August 2, 2022

We’re chatting everything weddings this week including our fave celeb ceremonies, plus, have you ever had a dream about a boyfriend's ex? The wine we tried this week was Roches de Provence - https://www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/product/all-wine-/roches-de-provence-côtes-de-provence-75clSophie Rating: 6Melissa Rating: 7 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either. And we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts at anything at anything in fact we just challenge all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help i'm roasting hot i'm not this is much nicer weather. Come on. This is better than that horrible heat wave where it was like 30 degrees.

You weren't even here then. I think I'm just a hot girl these days. Baltic. I'm Baltic. Do you remember when I used to say that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm cold to the bone. I'm cold to the bone.

Made in Chelsea. I used to be cold to the bone. I just looked straight to the camera. Do you want to pour us some more? Yeah, we've got some nice new rosé right what's it called roche de provence i like it do you know one day we do need to try like the pink pink rosé that they try on real housewives of beverly hills because there's no way that those girls drink a shit rosé there's just no way oh lots of ice in here that's that's how i've had

a rosé for a while i'm also really excited we've got a little event this evening so this is like a little the first pre-drink delicious i just don't know whether i drink wine enough anymore apart from on this podcast that when i drink on this podcast i'm a bit taken aback what by the flavors yeah because when i used to drink it a lot more i used to be like i feel like i taste it more now it just tastes very alcoholic to me oh it's lovely i think i need the ice give me the alcohol i need the ice to melt a bit more i'm such an april girl these days which are just basically they're basically just orangina which is why i think when i mix to this i'm like sophie habu it is not it's so alcoholic yeah i know but it tastes so sweet to me everyone's like oh it's so bitter

i'm like i think if there's too much apple you have to get the ratios right if there's too much apple in there it's a little bit too bitter that my first ever apple put me off it for a long time because it was so bitter i literally love the apple on its own like i've got i went to a house party once but sophie's my friend pickles out the jar and stuff like that yeah i have a really acidic taste taste yeah you do lily lewis made me apricot she just put apricot in a glass with ice and i was like i'm sure this isn't how you drank it and i drank it i was like stop it's like a liqueur yeah yeah i mean i guess i mean i probably was so drunk at that point that i didn't i couldn't really tell i was like this is delicious we don't need the porsche look how lovely like like our tanned moisturized summery legs sorry flattering ourselves why sorry look at our lovely my own look i definitely do i'm so i just saw sophie's

like look how shiny that i looked at mine thought so shiny fresh you know why it's because i'm fresh out the shower freshly shaved moisturized and i'm like same same no i'm gonna go back and shower again and moisturize i was thinking i'm gonna go back and shower again sorry everyone we've got like a party i don't know we're telling you off a lot i'm too sweaty after like going on a tube it kills my soul um okay so we've got loads of content to talk about first okay so guys remember benefit honeymoon in paris we were saying we wanted to we needed to know like the logistics of it yeah before we gave it our silver yeah yeah we managed to find the itinerary in vogue so they stayed in hotel de creon or creelon which is managed by the

rosewood hello my favorite hotel and the apartments are designed by Karl Lugfeld. Cool. And it's one of the most prestigious five-star hotels in Paris. Stunning. Oh my God, look at that courtyard safe. That looks amazing. Oh my God, a case of the restaurants they went to. Well, it looks like the Buckingham Palace. It looks very regal.

It does. Very British. They went to Giraffe, which I didn't manage to go to, but you've been. They have the best octopus there. And it's got a stunning view of the Eiffel Tower through the window. It's magical. Magical. They celebrated

her 53rd birthday there. Sorry, it's actually sick that she's that old. I know. Not that that's all. And so sweet, they've come back together. Like, that is an amazing story.

I know, but I don't know why. I know it's amazing, but I don't know why it hurts my soul for Jennifer Garner. And I love Jennifer Garner as well. I don't even know i love jlo but i but you know what her and jennifer garner she seems happy for them she seems happy

for them and you know they were done anyway so like it's not like he left jennifer for other jennifer it was like they were fully done and then a couple years down the line him and jlo found their way back together it's true this is true but you'd always just think it's not it's not an Angelina Jolie Jennifer Aniston situation we've got to remind ourselves of that do you know what I mean yeah yeah what as in she didn't steal yeah she didn't steal him back or anything like that there was no crossover if Jennifer and Brad got back together I'd be like yippee yippee yay yeah me too I'm not a Brad and Angelina neither am I I love I think Angelina Jolie is the most beautiful woman in the world I genuinely I do, I think Angelina Jolie is the most beautiful woman

in the world. Genuinely, I do. Really? Yeah. Always have done. Like, there's no one prettier to me. I think she's such a different look to Jennifer.

I just think her facial structure is like frightening. Like, it's so amazing. Yeah. Okay, where else are you? So they went to Matignon, Red Rooms, Animal Prince, Disco Ball Club downstairs.

I can't imagine. Oh, I've been there. Matignon. I'm sure I've been there. It looks a bit like La Venue inside. Or Mun, the French. I've been there too, Mun. That was lovely.

The Japanese place, yeah. Really yummy food. And then they went to Brasserie Lip. Cool. And they took the children there. Oh my God, sweetness. They had their families. But that's gorgeous. That is took the children there. Oh my God, sweetness. They had their families. But that's gorgeous.

That is gorgeous. Oh God. Brasserie Lip looks very like just traditional old school. Yeah, it does. And they got married in Vegas, didn't they not? Oh, another one bites the dust. Yeah, so there's so, all these people are getting married in Vegas. Demi Moore, Bruce Willis got married in Vegas.

Lily Allen and David Harbour. Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton. Do you remember him? No. Oh my God, you have to see these weird pictures of her. This is when she was a real young girl. This is when she got with her brother. Brother.

It was like that weird stage for them. That was like such an iconic moment in my mind because I remember my mum talking about it. Like we would have been too young to know about that. But I remember my mum mentioning it to me. Quite very bitched it. Yeah, what are your thoughts on this whole like eloping going to Vegas just I think it's so sweet if I was a

celebrity I don't I would not be having a baby they have such a big celebrity I know you're a pop star a pop star Melissa calls everyone a pop star a pop star's when you're a singer you know that I know yeah slash raw not a Z-list reality show oh golly gosh a pop star's like Miley Cyrus to me Mimi Webb no a Mimi Webb's

a pop star bigger than a pop star to me like a pop star's like a minor like a younger really yeah yeah

no I think a proper pop star is like Britney Spears no no I think like an artist star is like a minor like a younger really yeah no i think a proper pop star is like no no no i think like an artist they're like an artist oh god all these names right anyway what was i saying so for me if i was a celebrity being the really famous i am i think you have such a hectic life art style i definitely don't um but they must like just be around and have to dress up and they're kind of like i don't want to stress about anything let's just get married like have care what they look like i just want to be like fucking let's do it i don't want the don't want the press on me i don't want the attention personally that's what i would be

like yeah right well that's my thoughts what about you um i love it you know i love a quickie wedding registry or office red weddings my dream absolute dream don't ask me why you know why i don't like a lot of people looking at me in one go don't because i get nervous because yeah it makes me nervous yeah the thought of it does keep me up at night sometimes i know what you mean like a small it's a lot when you think about it but actually then it also excites me because you have so much love everyone is yeah it's not they're like they're looking at you it's like they're like excited for you yeah yeah i know it's like woo and also everyone's just there for this huge party which is that and it's such a positive vibe yeah so much love um can i just go off topic and tell you that i had someone come do my

nails last night in my house anyway she she um what she was telling me this whole story she's been doing it for 40 years and she was princess diana's nail woman the whole lot like last 10 years and she told me all her little tricks and secrets she did like loads of people's now as nicole kidman said she was the most beautiful person ever anyway she told me that diana and all of them back in the day they used to you know the white eyeliner that you put in your eye they used to put that underneath my granny does the same thing and it's a crayon you can buy and i have it it's specifically for nails specifically i was wet it a bit and you put it on your nails my granny does it and my granny is like the most glamorous, incredible woman ever.

And it looks like your friend. She's 92 and she's got stunning, long, oval nails. She never puts anything on. She always puts the white in. She's got the most amazing, natural. Clean. Clean, clean nails. What a hack.

I know. Why am I not doing that? I swear, I told you about this. Did I not order you one of these pencils? Have you ever put a pencil on your nail because that is full on if you have i have when i when i had a break from the gel and i had to like let them go out and actually i used to do it how often did you have to do it like once a week wait it like even when you're washing your hands all the time yeah it just kind of stays there

why wouldn't i obviously i guess you can't like get right under your nail can you just wet it a bit and you just like draw it under. It's amazing. I might start doing that. That's obviously phenomenal. You can get these pencils from Look Fantastic. There you go, guys. Top beauty hack from us. Top beauty hack.

Okay, we also got some listener emails. So the first one is, Hey Soph and Mel. No, no. Resay that. Hey Sophie and Melissa. She said, Hey Soph and Mel. so i'm just reading what she said just to let you know that what soph does with switching the first letters of word is actually a thing it's called shut up it's called spoonerism i do it too from

time to time love the pod cheers how fascinating i need to look that up i'm screenshotting spoonerism that's fascinating i have a disease called spoonerism. It's not a disease. I have an inability. Disorder. Disability. I have a disability called spoonerism. Sounds like it's made up, to be honest with you, doesn't it?

Spoonerism. Dialogue number one. In 2018, 2019 and 2022, due to a two-year delay because of covid me and my three friends have gone on holiday although these are so much fun we all have very different ideas of a girl's holiday what to do budget how many days we take off work etc they want to go every year but i'm not sure that's something i want to do but it would be really awkward to say that as i don't think it would go down too well and they'd see me as not prioritizing them next year I want to go on holiday with my family my boyfriend's family and my boyfriend how do I approach the situation if I was going to do a holiday with the girls I

want it to be for a long weekend not a week please help gosh I so agree I think a long weekend three days is more than fine for a girl's holiday a whole week I'm like oh go away no I don't think I'm up for a week's holiday with girls anymore like three days it's more than she's in a relationship and like she'd rather spend her money and her holiday i think priorities change i think you don't even have to explain yourself i think you just be like guys i can't afford to go i'm going on holiday i'd rather just do three days just say no just say i i'm going on holiday with boyfriend family and i've got to prioritize that that's where my money is going and i can't budget a whole week but i could budget within three days

yeah i just need to balance it out and just maybe yeah like if you work you can be like i can't ask take the time off yeah yeah taking too much time already a week with girls no that's a week's holiday with anyone i mean jamie and i rarely do a week we usually do a five-day holiday we get on top of each other a bit too much. You live together, how on earth do you? No, I know, but we, you know, he's just so antsy. No, he doesn't get on top of me, but as in, he doesn't like sunbathing for too long.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's an ADHD ridden. Yeah, he's constantly trying to do something. So relaxing for five days is probably like, ah, this is too much, now I've got to go back to work. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, dilemma two i've been with my boyfriend for four years and we have an amazing relationship we met through a mutual friend who was one of my best friends at the time the friend and i have got quite close for the last few years but i've got to a stage where i only want a positive person in my

life who lifts me up and makes me feel like a better person yeah and she's just not one of them oh no she still thinks that we are best friends but i'm wanting the friendship to fizzle out a bit to make sure my life is positive and happy as it can be and with her in my life it's not i feel awful because she is constantly trying to contact me but i need help trying to let the friendship fizzle out naturally also my boyfriend agrees with me that's she's a very negative person to be around but he still catches up every few months with her as they've been lifelong friends and he'll carry on doing this which i'm completely fine about but it does mean we need to stay civil not oh god you know what we all run into these situations at some

point in our life when we've got someone that's like really negative and toxic in some way and just isn't making us feel good about ourselves or you know just yeah as you say just isn't bringing you up like the energy is just not good how do you right right no it's so i'm sorry that's hard because of your boyfriend like can he not just cut her out because otherwise it's sometimes you know people come and go for a reason and this you know but then like sometimes you like you think that about somebody and like they're so negative and then you sort of distance yourself you don't always have to cut people out it is i think just people in moderation distance you know make yourself slightly i guess less available to her and then you know see her every now and then and just think you know i've done that my good deed you know i've kind of done this i i really feel for like

her the girl because imagine someone going for dinner with you and being like oh god take that one off the box and don't have to see her for another six months like that is death to me like i i would that's my worst nightmare that's someone thinking that someone thinking that about me is really uncomfortable like that gives me i know but you know what life's too short and if someone doesn't make you feel good they don't make you feel i know but like how sad for that girl i almost feel a bit bad for her do you know what i mean i i do but you know what she hasn't written us in the dilemma we're talking about the girl yeah yeah yeah all right so um you've had to cut someone out i guess like over the years people

have faded out of my life but i haven't necessarily been like i need to cut them out i haven't had that i haven't necessarily like cut someone out like with scissors you just like fade they've just faded away from you you just stop talking yeah it's quite easy like you just miss their phone calls yeah i mean i've not done it with loads of people i sound like such bitch but like i guess this happens all the time i guess that happens with everyone i'm sure people have faded me out yeah it happens all the time and people come in and out imagine if we fade each other out oh that will never do that do you ever do that to me i know that's we call each other far too much what the other day i didn't i was so hungover and i didn't reply to me the whole day and i

got so anxious she was like am i what should i be worried i was like she didn't reply to it then i messaged jamie and it wasn't so if you applied to me he read it and didn't know and i was like i was like oh my god something really bad's happened and i was like just calm yourself find my friends and you could have checked yeah i did i could see you both at home at home you were like if i was out someone would you be like maybe i called the police she's like falling over or something i was like maybe they're just having like a really intense day of like work or something at home and i was like no i'm such a business woman i was like shoot i was like what the fuck's going on i got so anxious you can't cut me out that was really

i will come knocking on your door the next day oh for god's sake as if that would happen we call each other out seven times a day no if i didn't hear from you the next day i would have come to the door. You would give him your... No. No. I do. Who wants this last parachute? I do. Daily Jackpots. A chance to win with every spin and a guaranteed winner by 11 p.m. every day. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario. Gambling problem? Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Select games only. Guarantee void if platform or

game outages occur. Guarantee requires play by at least one customer until jackpot is awarded or 11 p.m. Eastern. Restrictions apply. See full terms at canada.casino.fandu.com. Please play responsibly. Okay, now for dilemma three. How to deal with romance and relationships when you're young. Anonymous, please. I'm 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend who is also 20 for two years. He is a dream and will do anything to make me happy. Sweet.

I love him completely, but I'm a bit of a realist. The likelihood of us ending up together in another eight to 10 years is pretty slim. Is it okay to just be happy having fun and love this boy right now, but be aware that it might not last forever? Or is thinking about the end a sign that we should end things? P.S. Love you girls and thank you for your advice. Over to you, Melissa.

That's you in a nutshell. I think if you're like having fun at the time, I wouldn't overthink it until you get to a point where you're like thinking about other boys getting icked out and you're not happy yeah i can't understand if you're having fun why you i guess maybe if like you know it might last forever lots of people do like last long old stints and some people don't you know you're growing up as people and i think if you're still having fun and you're happy yeah don't overthink it and don't i also think everyone has a blueprint right so everyone's like i want my boyfriend to be a lawyer or work in the

city or to be a banker and then they're not and you actually sound like you're having a really good time with him but perhaps maybe he's not ticking all the boxes and you're like oh i won't end up with him but actually there's like honestly you might get with someone who ticks the boxes but you just don't have that spark within it will actually be way worse i do think if this scenario was different and you were like he makes he's like nice to me it makes me happy but i'm thinking about other guys i can't help what i'm missing out on i want to be single different different story but if you're not having those thoughts and you're really happy and you're kind of like worried about the future and about how long it's going to last like that's just you know that's life that's anything that you're in you could be in a relationship with

your 30 and think this is going to last another 20 years like you can't you know what i mean like you can't yeah worry that far ahead worrying it's just i just think that's a recipe for disaster in your own brain yeah just focus on whether you're enjoying it at the moment enjoying yourself live for the live for today yeah live for today yeah it's easier said than done but i really would like don't take for granted that you're having fun with your partner like yeah that's a really epic thing and loads of people aren't okay dilemma for ladies and gents hey natural beauties oh my god what that's a nice compliment of the century natural beauties that's so lovely thank you so much thank you so much dynamo for hope you're

well hope you're well too looking for a bit of advice recently got happy divorced it took two years super happy in myself and ready to meet someone but being back into the dating world is a minefield i've tried the apps but find them super depressing and the men on there haven't given me the best hope what advice would you give to meet someone while out at a bar i don't have the best confidence while when chatting to the opposite sex any help would be appreciated okay god i i look i'm with you because i'm freaking you're good you're good you you're good i never go up to someone yeah but you're good i i honestly laugh like i genuinely think i like i have like a my version of flirting is like being rude to somebody i don't i know what you mean like i'm

almost like i just i don't have a flirty bone in my body i physically don't i'm i'm genuinely the worst flirter like there's nothing sexual that will ever come out my mouth or sexy that anything sexual necessarily needs to come out your mouth and you're like approaching a dude in a bar but there's nothing like even flirtatious okay right i'm gonna say first of all stunning congratulations on the happily divorced new year i think that's great don't rush it I think like as soon as you almost stop like as soon as I was like I don't I want to be single I don't want a relationship it just sort of happened I don't like that as soon as you stop searching and you just relax and you like

neatly fall into yourself it's such a cliche thing say but everyone it's so true the minute you stop searching it comes to you I think all you have to focus on right now is having fun when you're going out and like that energy will feed out and then it will happen I think I think it's really good to practice being confident I don't know how you grow confidence but some people say fake it till you make it and the rest will just happen naturally like once you start really loving yourself and you sound like you're halfway there yeah you do and i agree i do think it's it is like it's not even faking well it kind of is you fake the confidence and then one and every day then the confidence is actually growing yeah like it's like manifestation exactly like that is that yeah yeah so i think just go out and have the best time with your girls and boys will gravitate towards

you the more confident the more fun you're having the happier you are and if you do see a guy and you want advice going to chat him up i would maybe we've said it before but it never fails just having a look eye contact eye contact and also i can't do that i'm definitely fine with looking at people looking at people is fine if you stare just a little bit longer than you're supposed to makes people think like oh what's she looking at kind of thing and then you just follow it give it go and see what go like comes yeah like trial and error so I am gonna say like boys are way less confident than they used to be and I think it's because there is all these dating apps out there as you say and it almost gives people less of an excuse to bother because they're like yeah oh I'll just use the

app it's like you can hide behind the phone kind of thing so maybe like if if you do want to go up and speak to a guy just freaking do it and the worst that's going to happen is that they're going to say no do you know what I mean or like the worst yeah I guarantee they won't like boys are a lot I often think girls are a lot more confident than boys anyway like it's all a facade with them um like they're quite intimidated by girls and we forget that i know and a lot of girls like it's very rare you see a guy it's not a thing now when a guy comes and just chats up a girl it's i don't think i've ever had it i've never seen it either i've definitely had it sorry as in like with the most revolting view ever and i'm like yeah i'm offended

that you actually think that we're no it's not happening i know i've had that like you know what we are the reason why men don't go up to girls anymore because we're such bitches about it no no no i'm sure loads of people with the people i got bed will be like no no no no you shoo shoo what I'm so is it like I'm not the reason is it then that grace I know I was with my I was with some of my guy friends the other day and one of my other girlfriends that was there was saying that this guy came up to her and she was like oh like so rude she was like I shouldn't have been that rude because he was actually decent looking but because I had a boyfriend, I was just, you know,

standoffish. Yeah, it's funny because girls are sort of like that. And then my boyfriends were kind of like, that's the reason why blokes don't go up to girls anymore because the rejection's actually like, so hideous.

It just sort of kills the confidence. They're like, I don't want to do that again. Do you know what I mean? Like once, so like. Fuck, it's so true. So I think. Thanks, guys.

We need to just be nicer. Boys, come chat us up. Yeah. I'll give you a high five. Give it to me. Right. So guys, there's obviously a bit of an announcement. I'm single.

Plot twist. I didn't realize who you were announcing it. Fuck. Fucking hell. She's single. She's single. She's single. It's been maybe like a month and a bit. We kept it on the DL.

Sorry, we didn't like hiding it from you guys. I didn't like hiding it, but I had to just get, I guess, strong enough to a point where I was ready to talk about it. Yeah. Toby's still the best. We love Toby.

That's all we're going to talk about with the breakup. And I'm not sure if I'm ready to do single diaries yet but i kind of wanted to do something called heartbreak healing and just talk to you guys about my experience of heartbreak because this one's like full-on heartbreak full-on heartbreak sophie has been the best friend in the entire world like you are honestly a god's godsend every single day how are you how are you higher like five times a day and then like the first two weeks guys were very difficult sophie i followed sophie around like a sheep every day she was like send me her itinerary

she'd be like right you're gonna come meet all these people i just she just happened she's a wave she was like a shell of a human i was like no personality just dead behind the eyes it's like the light is on no one so i'm just following you around anyway my personality's come back now i'm coming back she's still a waif okay i'm gonna be honest my appetite i wasn't hungry for stuff because i was sad and i was anxious but we're okay now. We're on the up. You're on the mend.

We're on the mend. You know, there's several phases. And I'm going to say I'm in phase three. What phase is that? So the first phase is like, I was a bit numb the first week. Second week, it was like I was dying. Guys, this is a physical pain. Heartbreak is a physical pain.

Really? Like what? I can't even remember how bad it was. I was like, really? Like what? It's just awful. You know what it is? It's grief. It's grief. It's the same thing as someone like passing. Apparently it's just full on grief that you feel because like a part of them,

I guess you're grieving the relationship and the person. Right. And then also your identity goes. So you're like having to rebuild your identity. You're like, who am I? What's this hole in me you've been like and you give so much of your heart and your love to someone else then it's like emptiness it's very strange anyway so you're sort of rebuilding that and then i went to

see my parents and i just weirdly the night after i was with my parents that was that was going into week three i had the strangest dream do you remember me messaging you like i had this dream i'm gonna tell you on the podcast no okay right i was visited by a guardian angel my dream that was his ex-girlfriend sorry yeah i know it's so weird i really she came to me in this dream my dreams have been so strange sorry melissa that's actually i believe that's true what it wasn't a dream yeah yeah yeah what i tried to understand what you meant then and i just said what what are you on about i don't know carry on anyway is that his girlfriend came to me in a like with wings on no no no just in a white dress just in this lovely white dress you're fucking joking and she came to me she went i've went through a

breakup with the same person i'm fine you're gonna be fine don't worry about it and then she pulled me out of this sand i was in i was in like quicksand sorry no she pulled me out of the quicksand this sounds like a full-on and I was like I woke up and I was like that empty feeling had gone it was really weird you know I was like I feel so much better today and I had this dream but I need to tell you about it on the podcast sorry no no I'm absolutely freaking bizarre and I woke up and I was like that empty feeling's gone I'm still so I'm I haven't grieved the relationship since so I'm over the breakup now but I'm not over the person if that makes sense so like my emotions towards him I guess is still the same but I'm

not sad about the breakup anymore and that happened when i was in myoka what the actual i know was it midnight middle of the night and i woke up in the morning and it was just gone like this feeling in my stomach was just gone how long was the dream i don't know but did you be like you know what the dream was probably like a couple seconds but you know when you like look back was it like but you didn't wake up in the night it was like no it's in the morning i woke up so it's probably in a light sleep i know that is i know why were you thinking of messaging an ex or something no well that's so weird do you know that's bizarre i know so bizarre anyway you were in sand like you were sinking i was in quicksand she came she was like i've been through

the same thing with the same person you're gonna going to be fine. And just pulled me out. And then that was the end of the dream. It was so strange. Fascinating. My guys, my dreams. I've told you before. You must go see a dream therapist or someone. Because you have the weirdest dreams. And I'm sorry. I do.

Sophie knows my dreams are so vivid. And my subconscious is so like weirdly connected to my dreams. How many weird dreams did I have? But like. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no. it's almost weird it's like you're psychic and it comes out in your dreams and it's very strange anywho that's fucking so now i'm going so now i would say i'm in phase three so there was phase one

can't wait to get to phase four what one's that i don't know is that one i'm ready to like have a bit more to drink at the beginning i was like i couldn't drink anymore because i was going to get upset but now i'm ready to have a bit more of a drink and have fun again. My personality's back. Have you had a drink since? I've had like a couple glasses of wine, but I haven't got like drunk, you know,

like with my girlfriends. Do you think you'll get drunk tonight? Probably. I'm nervous. Stop! No, I'm joking. You're going to be absolutely fine. There's also like so many people going.

Sorry, I'm like, diary of the month today. Right yeah i'm very that's my name i'm very happy you're on phase four and i love you and you're gonna be fine love you too so if you guys have any questions anyone's going through any heartbreak please write in because i can relate to this shit yeah maybe next week we should do our dilemmas all based on heartbreak i also did a little q and a on my instagram so weirdly so many of you guys messaged like how to get over heartbreak and all i could really say was time because time is such a healer but then i do believe women are excellent at processing

their feelings like we deal with this shit head on for some reason guys don't they sort of like push it to the back of their mind and then I think it comes on like later. But we are very good at processing our feelings and we do tackle them immediately. Instinct. It's instinct. Also, any other single diaries, stories that you guys have?

Because my single diaries are going to be pretty dry at the moment because it's all about the heartbreak. But if you've ever got any good... Yeah, send them in. Yeah, send them in. Meanwhile, Sophie's getting married. Meanwhile, you're three years younger than me two two it's okay i'm a bridesmaid closest i'll get to walking down the aisle anytime soon no i'm also quite nervous about it don't say that what do i go before you're gonna be with your dad walking down so

it'd be fine it's the thought of going down alone no I wonder do they go down with do you go down with like Chrissy or Bella or something I don't know honey this is your wedding I don't know what happens I get confused I don't actually know I think you walk down alone no I don't think I think you go down imagine if you get the giggles and it's like and you're like do you know what song you're gonna play no no bloody idea um wedding update i don't have an update well to maybe talk about how proud you are of your fiance for this evening right so candy kittens are on their 10 year anniversary and i'm so proud we've got the party tonight to celebrate there's a lot of people going we're very excited and that's really fun yeah he's

gonna have a little speech he's gonna have a little speech. He's going to have a little speech. I'd be so nervous to see that, but that's like his like bread and butter, isn't it? Yeah. Some people love all eyes on them. I just wish I was like that. They thrive off it. I can't.

That's why I've never had a birthday. Like I just really don't. Yeah, it's terrifying. Terrifying. Terrifying things. Having the responsibility of other people's fun. And I love other people hosting. So tonight is going to be so fun for me. Same, same, same. I can't't wait i feel a bit like it's me hosting it and i'm feeling a bit unwell about it i know so you've messaged someone like are you feeling as anxious as i am

slash excited about this party and i was like no because it's nothing really to do with me i'm just in attendance she's like well surely you're feeling the same as me I'm like no I feel like I've gone through this breakup with you that's why I know like every guys every emotion she goes I know exactly I'm feeling the same thing I'm like don't think you are she's no no I feel it for you every like progress we go I'm like oh that's made me feel much better I feel so much better today it's not you it's me that's going through the breakup that's what best friends are for right melissa it is time to rate the wine right i thought this was such a lovely bottle of wine i also really like the fact that the um it's got like ice effect on the bottle and it's like all pink and like shiny, so nice.

I'm actually going to rate this like a seven. It wasn't like my absolute favourite, but obviously really lovely, so drinkable. I feel like because I'm not drinking a lot of wine at the moment, it's quite strong and alcoholic-y tasting to me, but I do like it and it got better as I went on. I am going to rate it I'm gonna go with

a six because I'm not enjoying wine as much as I used to I'm getting in more into the tequila margarita vibe but it was delicious nonetheless we love you guys thank you for listening speak to you next week yeah love you guys keep sending us in those stories Send me stories. Send me stories. feeling winning which beats even the 27th best feeling saying i do who wants this last parachute i do daily jackpots a chance to win with every spin and a guaranteed winner by 11 p.m every day 19 plus and physically located in ontario gambling problem call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca select games only guarantee void of platform or game outages occur guarantee requires play by at least one customer until jackpot is awarded or 11 p.m eastern restrictions apply see full terms at canada.casino.fandu.com please play responsibly That's it for this week, Wednesdays.

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