Wednesdays - Ep 69: Setting fire to your ex’s stuff!

Episode Date: August 9, 2022

Melissa is officially our heartbreak healing guru - we’re answering your dilemmas about moving on from past relationships and dating someone new!This week we were given some lovely Rosé from the Co-op:https://www.coop.co.uk/products/co-op-solo-pale-spanish-rose-75cl-865849Sophie Rating: 8.5Melissa Rating: 8 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either. And we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts'm not a doctor either and we're not psychologists and we're not experts in anything in fact we just chatted all the shit so and we love giving you guys advice but as we love giving you guys advice do not take what we're saying as gospel if you do feel like you need to speak to somebody please seek professional help hey guys hey okay we're here but we're in slightly a bit of a weird mood

because we just got robbed. Foul, foul mood. So should we tell everyone what happened? I'm in a trance. Okay, so we were sat in prayer. We were eating our little lunch. And these two girls came in and shoved newspapers. They weren't girls.

They were like fully-fledged women, weren't they? Oh, yeah, women. Sorry, I would call women girls. Yeah, they were like women. I can't really remember what they looked like they were so close to us and one of them shoved this newspaper in melissa's face like all over her lunch and i was more so i thought they were asking us for money so we were like can you please not put your this newspaper in our food and it was a good minute yeah which sounds like not very long but when someone's just staring you're not speaking

and you're like what are you doing And we had our phones on the tables and this is the prep opposite Selfridges guys next to M&S on Oxford Street. And apparently it happened, these girls have been seen in there quite a few times. So these women, I reckon they're in their forties. One of them was in a black outfit

and one was in like another thing. That scarf that was left on the floor, one of them was like shaking. Oh yeah, she was shaking in my face. So they came in with these tiny bits of newspaper right one came to me one went around the other side of the table to sophie they were like saying weird things like murmuring you're like what the fuck are you doing sophie picks up her food and brings it towards herself right she had her hand that she had my food and this woman put her newspaper slip on top of my like phone obviously

now looking back that's what she was doing and putting her face right up in my face making all these weird noises this went on for a good minute minute and that doesn't sound like long but at the time it was so fucking uncomfortable i'm so pissed off with everyone in pratt because i turned around i went somebody help us everyone just looks no one does anything anyway this is all carrying on eventually I grabbed my bag eventually they just left they just suddenly left we were like what the hell's going on and then um this woman next to us goes you all right girls and we were like yeah what the hell was that that was so weird we were like really just shaken up by the whole thing like it was just strange wasn't it disturbed anyway then suddenly this bloke comes running in he must have been his mid-50s like like a big like tall man with the

phone and gives it to Sophie and goes this is someone's phone they've just taken your phone we were like what the fuck and then I looked and I was like oh my god they've taken mine he sort of saw what was happening from across the room in press saw them leave ran after them without even saying they're taking your phone like he's a superhero yeah so he said to you he's an ex-security i think he said he was an ex-security guard so he's like seen the behavior yeah and he said he didn't even really see what they did to us until the very last minute but he said he as he watched them leave he saw them about to leg it and he's like they've stolen something like he saw them picking up pace he was like those people

have just it just clicked in his mind right so he just bombed off them and he just i think he saw them take my phone so he saw he knew they had one phone he grabbed one phone i just don't understand the whole thing so i'm that literally happened honestly half an hour ago and i feel pretty depressed i'm gonna be honest with you it's just how i'm feeling i'm just telling you how I'm feeling. No, you're going to be fine. You've got insurance going to give you your other phone. We're all good.

No one got hurt. But be warned, people. It just makes you feel... Violation is probably slightly too dramatic, but it does make you feel very strange. I feel really odd. And thank God we weren't, like, mugged or anything like that because that's obviously happening a lot in London at the moment.

I know that. But being robbed is just a very weird you're really weird strange feeling strange feeling but on a happy note we're here with you guys and we've been given some lovely wine by the co-op I like the shape of it it's called solo and it's dry rosé and it's from the, look, the bottle's gorgeous. Oh, it does look nice. It's from Spain. Oh, lovely. Also, guys, I wet my teeth this morning with the Crass White Strips, which, by the way, anyone wanting to know, you can get them from Selfridges.

Do pay quite a big premium on them, but they're really good. Anyway, they're so sensitive. It feels like I'm constantly having someone blowing cold air on them. All right, here we go. We've got some legs on this. I like that. That is delicious. That's really nice.

That's so dry. But I think it's also a little bit sweet. That's gorgeous. And that's like the prettiest color. That's the prettiest rose color out, but that's like the palest thing. 13.5% is like a lot. Yeah, 14% is like red wine. Apparently Whispering Angels.

Why am I so obsessed with the alcohol percentage yeah i don't know i just it blows my mind whispering angels yeah team sandwich is really high i think god no wonder i get so exactly okay melissa doesn't have her phone so she's not oh you've got all right let's rub it in you've got a lovely printout guys it's been printed i feel like i'm in school you drink you drink that wine that'll make you feel much better okay so guys love island has finished i actually am going to be honest i haven't watched it since i got back since i was in new york i stopped watching it when that adam bloke came on oh yeah me too he kind of killed the vibe for me made it all like

it broke the fourth wall a bit too much i was a bit like oh you feel like you're in this bubble where they're all so in love and then he comes in you're like oh you're actually gonna be just reality stars and you know all get loads of brand deals after it i know that's that's i know what you mean rude about it i feel it just made me realize that they come out of love island and it's not yeah yeah yeah love bubble i know you mean but having said that it's still the best tv out there but i just also got a bit boring by them by the way didn't take my love away from eckinsu and davide love eckinsu and davide and davide oh they're the best happy day one we must get eckinsu on this podcast guys everyone message her and tell her to come on yeah everyone message

her and tell her to come on wednesday so we drink wine and say it's the best podcast you've ever listened oh my god imagine getting daffodil on oh my god if we got them both that would be that would be these knees half an hour of my life they obviously deserve to win well done then Jamie and I were saying it's so crazy these people go into with this normal normal life they're in there for however many weeks like seven weeks or something no contact with the outside world so that's already going to play with your mind you're already going to be like is it like where am i in yeah yeah yeah and then you come out and you are literally the most famous person ever like everyone will know their name everyone will be speaking about them if

they're being pulled in every direction it's so it's just like such a whirlwind. It is such a whirlwind. But I'm very happy they won. Also, we've had some gossip. So people, the ex-Islanders, are now coming out and saying that Paige was a bit mean to the girls. But it's so weird, because she was portrayed as the nicest person. It's all in the edit, guys.

It's all in the edit, guys. You have no idea how much stuff happens in an edit. Like, we've experienced it. Yeah, this is first hand but how why have none of the other girls come out and said it because i'm taking it was on the podcast she says she was great she said she was just as nice as she is in real life because she's portrayed as like like uk sweetheart like she's just like the sweetest little god um is coco and who's the other one you said summer were they both new girls they were

newbies well maybe that's why maybe she's frosty towards them because she was kind of like you're fucking stuff up for the old gut the original guts maybe it's just a protective thing i don't know now i'm sitting now i'm picturing like it's the fact that two people have said it but you know what we can't obviously judge but interesting maybe we have to get page on the podcast yeah ask her what her thoughts are on the podcast yeah ask her what her thoughts are on people saying this about her and also i was on um gmb this morning and they're having jacks come on tomorrow his first interview since leaving that i love i meant to talk about all he's a stunning boy and i like he just seems so sweet and stunning i'm like yeah

he's so sweet i love him also why has he not done any press i think it's so clever because i also feel a bit i just feel bad for him with this page thing now because say that i'm like no you're so great and like he's so good looking he deserves like me i know he's so sweet we should ask him come on can we just get every single one yeah let's make a list so we've got eckinsley first then first then davide i can see at the same time ideally that would be so i know but like if we had to pick one at the beginning of my list yeah yeah then davide then jacks yeah maybe page just get some real inside knowledge just to see see whether we think she's authentic are we team pager are we team jacks just because i felt like oh jacks but

i thought she would have left for him to be honest same same same same when that didn't happen i was like oh i say i'm like huh oh it's just a game i think that's kind of why i was just like then like i just kind of fell in love with jack what did she come with adam fifth oh fifth yeah they fell in love quickly and it was so weird jack's never really got mentioned so really going back down yeah yeah yeah yeah it's just like it was just sort of weird jack's never really got mentioned so really going back down yeah yeah yeah yeah it was just sort of like jack's who yeah i but no no no i'm not there for that yeah me too okay also guys melissa is now today was the day that it all came out on the podcast in real life guys oh yes so this will be released next Wednesday. But today it all got announced that Melissa is now single.

She's now the heartbreak healing guru. How do you feel about that Melissa? I feel a lot of pressure but I also feel like I can handle it. Good. And you guys have been writing in your heartbreak dilemmas to us. So we've got them and we think we're going to read them. And Melissa can give sort of advice. I can give my advice.

Not sure how good mine will be, but should I read the first one? Yeah. I think this is just a funny story, this one, isn't it? Oh, yeah. Beg your pardon. This is really fun. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. You know, when you're younger, I would be like, what?

And she'd be like, don't say what say pardon yeah but for some reason when someone says like beg your pardon it's like quite rude now you're older so like if you say i'd be like beg your pardon you'd be like what do you know what i mean it's just so funny like that's the only person who ever pardon i don't think anyone says it it's like when someone semi like insults you as a joke you go pardon they're like oh no didn't mean like that pardon now just sounds weird you know I think it's just quite rude now almost to say even though technically it's polite pardon I don't know if it depends how you say it but I go pardon do you know what I mean like I beg your pardon it's like that like what did you

just say I just say pardon I didn't hear you sorry you're such a polite little flower. I don't know. I don't really know what you're talking about. I don't know if it's a rude comment. No, but you do not know the context that I mean it in. I've never heard someone go to me, I beg your pardon. We're not on the same wavelength today, it's all right. But if someone said that to me, I'd be like, all right, chill out. Exactly.

But no one's said that to me. Oh, because it's not really the done thing to say anymore these days, because it is quite an aggressive sort of thing to say i think i think you just say it in an aggressive way okay we have a funny story heartbreak dilemma i was about 15 years old and was besotted with this boy who really used to play with my heartstrings all the time one day i'd had enough and my friend suggested getting the hockey shirt he gave me and taking it to the woods and setting fire to it okay it sounds psycho but could be a good way to get back at him right wrong why did we not realize how flammable hockey shirts

were we set it alight and the wind picked up and flew it onto my friend's foot oh my god she had to go get a skin graft it was not a good day no that's oh my god that's actually really do not do that that's horrible skin graft that's so full on flipping out that's very serious i'm dead that she's like laughing about it like it was not a good day i'd be like if i was the friend i'd be like no oh my god that would be so upsetting that's horrible do not can we just take it back to the whole like hockey shirt thing because that was such a vibe you'd get the boys like rugby shirt and like have their number they were flammable though they were like that plastic it's like 100 you were so fit everything had to be oversized back in the day like yeah because the boys are so big and we were so little but even like my gym tops i wanted to be oversized

because you wanted it to look like it was almost a boys and then like a really short skirt really really short skirt i would love to have whoever wore number 11 i would love to have that top 11 just it's like a nice number but 11 was something i think i dated someone who wore number 11 of course she did right we've got some quick fire yeah go on dilemmas how to feel excited about the idea of dating slash meeting someone new after heartbreak I'm on my way to this point but it's a very scary stage because if you're not totally over the previous relationship I think it's a very dangerous one because it can make you retreat back which we don't want to do we only need to move forward so I think if you're

half excited so like if you're half excited and you force yourself like right I'm half excited about it but I'm not sure you go on a date you kiss and it's not a vibe you'll then be like I miss I miss the ex so much like that was so and then it kind of makes you retreat back which is not always a good thing so I kind of think don't force it if you're half excited brilliant keep on that excitement level but until you're like oh i'm 100 ready now like yeah the x is like giving me the yick on that that that that verse you know what i mean then then go for it i so agree there's nothing worse than like going to see the first person you get with after an s and you're like yeah yeah or you're like

oh fantastic yeah it's hit or miss so i think if you're halfway there i would just be a bit more cautious maybe we give it a little bit more time if you're not if you're halfway there and the guy's really fit and he ticks boxes go for it but if you're like halfway down and you're like not sure i need but i need to move on you know i need to force myself kind of thing yeah don't do that i would wait till you're yeah as you say excited about it fully yeah same okay would love some general advice for a breakup after three years it was my decision but still love him so much it's so weird spending all your time together and not speaking i know it is hopefully for the best but i don't know what to do myself i wonder why they break up then if she still loves him um i think i don't know what the circumstances were but like I think you might just be missing the comfort

rather than him like there's obviously a reason why you break up with him and I think when you break up with somebody yeah go through the stage of grief and you forget all the bad sure just miss them yeah so I think you've time like we say time and it's like talking to them you've got to replace talking to them with someone else i think like if you've got a best friend it does help like having someone else to talk to helps yeah what boy or girl boy yeah it just does it's just a distraction and it's just like a it's a use and abuse situation but like we've all kind of done it. Yeah, got to do what a girl's got to do, right? Mm-hmm.

Maybe don't take that advice. But you know, as in like... Poor boys who are getting used and abused, but... Oh, they've done it to us, for God's sake. Distract yourself. You're not leading somebody on. You're just having a chat with somebody. That's fine.

Some people do like have sex. You know what? It's all so complicated. Everyone handles things so differently. That's all so complicated everyone handles things so differently that's the thing everyone handles things so differently what's right for somebody is so wrong for another human for me I've obviously had Sophie and then my friend Hermione honestly every second of the day on FaceTime or in real life spending that time like I'm not even joking a sec I will hang up the phone with Hermione and then I'll be on the phone to Sophie for an hour and vice it just literally rotates like that over and over again Jack and

Hermione on their like anniversary trip I know I'm dead Melissa's like I was like what are you doing this weekend because I'm going to work she's like we're Jack and Hermione and then on Saturday I was like so what do you even know on Saturday we're Jack and Hermione no to be fair it's because it's Jack's birthday weekend so this week if you guys don't know jack stone is oh my god i'm really giving him away he's one of my best bestest oldest friends and his girlfriend i've only known for five years but she's also become one of my best friends like i kind of met her at a similar time i met sophie so you two have just become like my bread and butter you know my core family and then i've

obviously got my other group of friends that are girls I've had like since school I don't speak to them like all day every day as much but they're in jobs they're busy girls they do but not through school only through me right so we all do big gatherings like obviously they're all together like this weekend just gone that was really fun got it but they all have like jobs where they're like in an office they're all serious people so and they all have you know busy busy lives compared to like what me and you do we have a lot of time together because I guess our jobs are so aligned yes yeah got it got it got it so I'm lucky in the respect that I have a constant human replacement from the ex yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah um yeah I think having that to some degree even if it is that you're i don't know you're ready

to go on a dating app and have a chat with somebody or chat to a couple of people just to have some fun and excitement that doesn't have to lean you don't have to date anyone you can just chat to somebody if you want or you have friendships that you can just constantly be talking to yeah it's a comfort i do it depends i don't really like i've learned i don't really like being alone i like my own company i think i like days you don't like being alone but then you know what's strange even when i was in a happy relationship i was still talking to you and hermione all day every day on facetime like i'm like i actually haven't changed my routine at all have i have i it's true it's because when we walk I hate we both we both walk without being

on the phone yeah like really I should just get involved in like a really good podcast I've been doing that as well I've been listening to some podcasts I just love a FaceTime on a walk yeah me too because it feels like you're walking with someone yeah anyway that was such a long answer to that dilemma but I think having the company of something and somebody else not necessarily in person but just having nice chats it's comforting and also what you do which is quite nice is you and hermione have fake dinner and they put oh yeah yeah yeah so they eat together and i did this even when i even when i was in a relationship i would do this with hermione which is quite sweet because then you never have dinner alone never because i think i quite like eating on my own because i love to watch wheelhouse wives and jamie's like if i eat

on my own i'm like oh yes i can watch tv and it's just like bliss yeah but that's only because i'm like so hooked and obsessed what is what series is it wheelhouse is what i went on new new jersey guys and it's the best one yet you've gone and watched all of them have you done new york beverly hills now you're on jersey yes i started at the beginning uh beverly hills i've watched always from running then i in lockdown i watched new york from the beginning and then now i'm on new jersey and i thought new jersey had put it off i was like oh it's gonna be so shit best one really okay it is the best tv known to mankind okay they punch each other one goes to prison like it's whoa i thought that my my life was wild with the breakup and the robbery of the phone no no no no just wait they they smash glasses over each other like it's freaky shit yeah yeah i think um

theresa's got a bit of spoonerism as well like me just all her words muddled up or she's can someone else please write us in and tell us if this spoonerism as well, like me. That's all her world's muddled up. Can someone else please write us in and tell us if this spoonerism thing is even a real thing? I googled it this morning. I said real thing. Yeah. FanDuel Casino's exclusive live dealer studio has your chance at the number one feeling, winning.

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Gambling problem? Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca please play responsibly okay on to this week's dilemmas so dilemma one hello my boyfriend's hair oh god oh no my boyfriend's hair is receding quite badly and can't and i can't stop noticing it it's making me really nervous even though it probably shouldn't i keep bringing up with him oh my god this is horrible i keep bringing it up with him and he doesn't really care about it but i do and i don't want to keep bringing it up i can't stop myself i don't want to keep putting him down but it's making me

upset is this trivial please yes yes it's so trivial imagine if you started losing your hair and he was like uh your hair's falling out that's so mean you must catch yourself and stop doing that tell him to get a buzz cut as well i think boys with buzz cuts are so fair i'm not i'm not about the receipt don't give him an insecurity if he's fine with it that's fine and also boys are so insecure like he might not have it yeah but they're so insecure when they lose their hair also they're so insecure about their hairlines what is this with the boy in the hairline thing well guess because they lose it they have no control over it and like so they're probably always being like is it is it gonna go is it not do not do that that is mean like i do it's trivial yes it's trivial and it's mean and it will give him an insecurity and you wouldn't like it if he started

being like oh you're getting acne on your face oh Oh my God, guys. Yeah, you cannot do that. Yeah, no. That is just so bad. You've got to love him no matter what. I rate the honesty from you. We're being cruel to be kind. Right, dilemma two. Hey girls, thought I'd share my heartbreak dilemma.

This one's for you, Melissa. I'm currently traveling around Europe and bumping to my ex in vienna yesterday you honestly couldn't write it oh my god to cut a long story short i ended up sleeping with an australian guy and getting so drunk my ex and his friend oh my god oh my god oh my god my ex and his friend found me passed out on the floor of a corridor you're joking they helped me get home but of super weird vibes even though i know my ex has a new girlfriend we broke up like five months ago i can't help but feel like it was fate bumping him

and i will be telling our kids one day about our chance meeting in vienna oh my god oh my god oh my god he kept watching me as i was chatting to his friend and he was quite weird to me i guess that is to be expected how can i stop thinking about him in this way seeing him has helped me finally message him to post my stuff that he's been refusing to give me and he's finally aggrieved but now it feels properly the end any advice for getting over heartbreak to stop thinking that heartbreak is just temporary i can't help but feel like maybe in a few years we'll find our way back to each other so you should stop thinking that the breakup is just temporary she says and what i'm confused about is that i rate that she has no anxiety that he found her pass out in the corridor like i literally because she's probably thinking like oh my god this was meant to happen like he found me and i

was passed out in a corridor he saved me this is a freaky freaky coincidence that you bump into your ex in vienna i mean of all places to bump into your ex strangeness that's crazy of all the towns of all the places. Yeah, it's quite romantic. It's not even like they're traveling in like Colombia. It's like Vienna, like Euro, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, listen.

In a cold, I'm guessing they're in a hostel. Five months, he's got a new girlfriend. I'm going to say. I'm going to say you've got to move on, Ham. I'm going to say you've got to move on. I was going to say five months isn't that long, but then to be honest, it is. I think five months is fine. Like, you're fine to have another girlfriend after 100 i um i think you've got to move on you know what like you've bumped into him he was nice to you and he's sending your stuff back i think saved you from being drunk on the corridor he's obviously a nice

guy and i think that maybe you need to stop grasping onto the fact that you bumped into each other and that means you're destined to be together like he's got a girlfriend it's been a long it's always been it's a half a year god I feel like you're on a good path like I know Australian you're obviously not thinking about him and then boom there he is in bloody Vienna you know what I will say if you were getting a vibe that there was still like attention there and a love there i'd also don't know how this breakup came about right i also think that it's hard because he's got a girlfriend so he might just be a really nice guy by the sounds of it and even if there is a vibe he's

probably holding himself back to be respectful to the girlfriend there's nothing we can do he's got a girlfriend you know unless he breaks up with the girlfriend comes to you and is like and then seeing you really brought things back made me realize I shouldn't be with the new girlfriend because I clearly still have feelings for you let's give things another go but I don't think it would be right to insinuate it from your point because he's got a girlfriend that would be really unfair on him and her and also you might just fuck with his brain a bit and also you're like obviously going off all this fate thing so if it's meant to be it'll be you've got to go by that yeah he sent your stuff back now

yeah that's kind of a shit maybe you shouldn't have asked him to do that if you still have feelings keep it there as long as possible and then in a year's time when he's hopefully broken up the government you'll be like oh fancy that can i go get my oh yeah can i go get my shoes look really fit and then be like, oh, can I come in? God, it's quite, you know what? Bumping into the ex, it's actually happened to me, which has just been. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Takes a life out of you slightly.

Not really. It's on my way to see Sophie. And it happened. And I was like, you will not guess what just happened to me. I knew that. I knew it happened in my gut that's weird thing because she was so long at Dalesford she went to get lunch and she was like 20 minutes no I wasn't well it felt like you were I buzzed the thing dropped my back

I was like 10 minutes yeah but you were like you should have been like two minutes there and back what do you think I just stood in Dalesford and just like had a moment no I thought you bumped into him I really didn't speak it was like a two second bump in it wasn't like a big deal a little bit too long that I was like something's happened really then I did face him you literally second after I bumped into him when I was on my way to Dale's but still you didn't pick up the phone probably because you were like she's coming in in a minute I've just buzzed her in so bumping into the ex is a strange thing and it's never happened to me I've never bumped into the boy in my life but obviously sold to law as soon as we're not together i

freaking bump into him so it's quite a strange i do think there's something like when you're both thinking about a person like it's like if i'm thinking about somebody you have not and they text me i'm like universe like you obviously universe works in mysterious um maybe i get where she's coming from with the fate i so get where you're coming from the fate especially if you're kind of semi not over it maybe she thought she was and then she bumped into but you know what you can't kid yourself that the feelings are there because of the fate do you know what i mean if you were like i was so hung up on this guy couldn't stop thinking about him was thinking about him the whole of traveling and then i bumped into him yeah what if she's traveling alone different but because you've said you know i can't

help but feel like it's fate i bumped into him now i can't stop thinking about him do you see what i mean it's like yeah it's like a different way and vienna and she's like hello yeah you're in a foreign place it was familiar he saved you from being passed out yeah you know what i'm getting the vibe that we leave this breakup in the past he sent your stuff back that's kind of a good riddance i also think when you get back to uk wherever you live you might be like sorry i'm so hot this hair i think when you get back to uk you could be like oh god what was i thinking i think that's a familiarity thing and we have to remind ourselves he's got a girlfriend yeah so you can't do anything anyway look I think you carry on with your life you sound like you're doing great five months is a long time keep pushing keep shagging some lovely Australians

yeah lovely couldn't go better what got go wrong with an Aussie I feel like you're traveling everyone sleeps I need to go traveling maybe right what's your favorite accent Irish is lovely I like the English accent just give me just give me what like how we talk it's an English accent next weekend will be three years since me and my boyfriend first started dating I've brought him some cufflinks with his initials engraved on them. He starts his first job in September and has to wear a full suit so I thought it would be practical but thoughtful gift. Lovely. But I'm really nervous because he's not very sentimental and there's been times in the past, Valentine's and previous

anniversaries, where he hasn't got me anything. Not that it's about giving presents but he hasn't even got a card slash forgotten. It now makes me really dread the awkward moment where I've gotten him something, but it's not reciprocated. I thought about not doing anything, but I love giving gifts. I don't want to stop and stuff like anniversaries are important to me. What should I do? Should I out him and say, why don't you care about these things? Or do I stop giving him gifts too? I think she should speak to him and just be like I it means like just give him my thought on this is he's a typical bloke yeah my dad sorry Edwin constantly forgets about things like that you know Valentine's Day he's

like oh shies runs off the morning of to go to the bloody petrol station gets my mom a shitty bunch of flowers like Jamie's never it doesn't matter I think if everything else in your oh shies runs off the morning of to go to the bloody petrol station gets my mom a shitty bunch of flowers like yeah jamie's it doesn't matter i think if everything else in your relationship's great like you can't fixate on these little things his love language is obviously different like some people don't have that love language and you know what makes it quite fun like make a joke out of it be like next week's the anniversary i I want something great. Don't forget. Just make a joke. Just don't make it a big deal. Some,

it does mean a lot to different people. Some people. Melissa and I have said this before, like it doesn't really, like Jamie literally writes on the back of her CV. Yeah. Don't give me a card. I don't want a card.

Well, I wouldn't, I wouldn't mind one. But you do. I wouldn't care. Same. It doesn't really touch the size with me. Same.

It's very sweet when it does, but I'm not, it's not something that I crave. But some people do, and that means a lot to them them so i think if you are that type of person lovely that you are maybe just communicate it with him and but don't take it too hard if he does forget again because i think you know he's just probably a boy he's just a boy and that is just his love language and he doesn't see it he doesn't see it as like a priority you know that important and that is totally okay you know what you could do you could get your friends to be like look david whatever your name is you need to get something

good this year you send some links be like gather this these are these are the vibe don't put like make a joke out of it rather than be like like. I would just say to him like, look, next week is the anniversary. Make sure you get a good present because I've got you a sick one, all right? Yeah.

Like it's not, shouldn't be. Yeah, don't overthink it. Okay. Wedding update. Zero update. We have to do the guest list.

Well, that's the update. And I'm putting it off. I'm putting it off. I'm putting it off, I'm putting it off. I was going to say, have you sent your save the date out? No, you would have got one. You're leaving this very late. There's a reason.

It's a tactical leaving it late. We're inviting far too many people. Oh, oops. I also don't care. Like, everyone's like, you're leaving late. I'm like, no, if you're my friend, you're going to come. Yeah, I mean, I know the date. All of our friends know the date.

Yeah. Fair. Maybe I'm being really stupid. I stupid i'm just like making myself feel better i'm just look by the end of this month the save dates are coming out are they going to be in the post or like a paperless post yeah good idea good idea better for the environment better for the environment way easier i'm not gonna then just get everyone's email then we can give everyone the website through that way i am so freaking excited you've got a long way to go till then hun your big moment melissa can't wait to walk down the aisle am i gonna be with someone have you decided that since last week we spoke about this last week i don't know if that's a thing we need to look so i asked someone someone

said you either walk down with another bridesmaid you walk down alone or you walk with a groom uh what's the word an usher no no i don't think you'll be walking with an usher also is it groomsman because you will look then like you're in a couple with him like that's what some people just do it because it makes sense and then you part ways and it looks quite nice i think you've got flabber girls in front of you which is so sweet and i think they steal the show i'm afraid they will everyone go oh and you don't have to worry about tripping over. We have to wear high heels. No, you're going to wear flats. Are we?

No, you're going to wear heels, obviously. I don't know. Well, do you want to wear flats? Well, if the dress is long, can anyone tell? No, but I'm not going to wear flats with my wedding dress. Like, I'm not going to wear some slippers. I want some plimsoll. I don't know what your plan is. Sophie.

You think I'm going to wear flats with my wedding dress? You did say at one point you were going to. No, I said I never wear heels, but I will find some nice heels. I'm not going to wear trainers. No, you won't wear trainers. What would I wear? Some sandals? Will you wear full-on, full-on heels or kitten heels?

Like, I don't know. I hate the word kitten heels, but I probably won't wear giant. I know, they're coming back in fashion. Yeah, they are. I won't wear giant heels. You're joking. No. Jamie's the size of my arm.

My arm. Right. You're joking. No. Jamie's the size of my arm. My arm. Right. My heartbreak healing tip. I'm going to just go back to the whole like constantly chit chat with your mates. Yeah, yeah. It's true. Also, I've got quite a few people that are also going through the same situation. So we help each other every day.

That is so sweet. It's really nice. Well, there's two. I've got two friends. One's a boy, one's a girl. Who's the girl? Ruby and Scott. Sorry, guys. I'm outing you. But every day nice. Well, I've got two friends. One's a boy, one's a girl. Who's the girl? Ruby and Scott. Sorry, guys, I'm outing you.

But every day it's like, how are you today? Yeah, yeah, good. And then it's like, bad day today, bad day today. Why, why, why? It's really funny. Oh, my God, I like that. I should make a little group chat for us. Yeah, you should.

And we spur each other on. It's really good. Like, no, no, no, push through this. It's going gonna get better tomorrow to do this tonight do that tonight you're joking that is the sweetest i know we are quite sweet that is really sweet you need to like introduce them because they've been they match you need to have like a little friendship race that like the heartbreak is the heartbreak is well we're gonna break some hearts now watch us exactly okay let's rate this buying i'm actually gonna say that's eight really yeah i would get it was much better than last week's actually i'm really really like it on there i know it was really

upsetting that i haven't drunk any of that and it's not like a friday because i'm gonna have to take a picture off don't have a phone you're gonna take a picture of it okay fine but I will actually repurchase that I think I can get that on my delivery yeah you probably don't have a cup around me but I could get it delivered to me that was delicious I'm giving it an 8.5 oh wow thank you very much I think that's the highest Sophie's ever rated yeah I know that was my favorite so far okay we love you guys. Bye, guys last parachute? I do. Daily Jackpots. A chance to win with every spin and a guaranteed winner by 11pm every day. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario. Gambling problem? Call 1-866-531-2600.

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