Wednesdays - Ep 73: Tasha Ghouri answers your dilemmas! | PART 1

Episode Date: September 6, 2022

Fashion icon and absolute sweetheart, Tasha Ghouri helps us answer your dilemmas this week, and of course we chat allll things Love Island. Meeting the grandparents, matching tattoos, and moving in together, we get the lowdown from Tash all about her time with Andrew since leaving the villa.This week we enjoyed an M & S Rosé, ‘Rambling Rose’ - https://www.marksandspencer.com/rambling-rose-provence-ros-single-bottle/p/wnp60573278We rated the wine:Tasha: 8Sophie: 6.5Melissa: 8  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa, are you a doctor? I want to be, but I'm not. I'm not a doctor either, and we're not psychologists. We're not. We're not experts at anything. In fact, we just chatted all the shit. And we love giving you guys advice. We love giving you guys advice.

Do not take what we're saying as gospel. If you do feel like you need to speak to somebody, please seek professional help i wanted to introduce our guest as the style icon of love island 2022 everybody it's tasha hello do you like tasha or natasha at tasha tasha booze it was called a natasha fret i've never heard i, but you know how some people just get nicknamed on the TV. Yeah, I go by Tasha. And I was wondering if your family still call you Natasha. Yeah, Natasha's my trouble name.

Right. Yeah. If I'm in trouble. Does Andrew call you Natasha? Natasha. It's like, Natasha. Put the toilet seat down. No, she hasn't.

Does it on purpose remind me of her? I'm like, go away. Don't do that. Yeah, no. It's the worst. You hate Mel, don't you? Yeah, and that's the opposite. So I'm the opposite.

I don't like my name being shortened. Right. I like my name Melissa, but Mel I feel like is a completely different name to Melissa. It's like Melanie. Is it like Soph? Soph, yeah, I don't mind Soph.

I'm not a massive fan of Habs, but that's how I kind of got labelled that MIC and I was like is this my name I never call you how some people who you have some like what so yeah um but how are you how's it been it's a whirlwind yeah I know it's been good it's been such a whirlwind coming out um your life's changed in many ways when you come out and it's kind of a whole new world but it's been really good really positive and just enjoying it lovely can i just say i think you handled yourself so well graceful graceful amazingly and you really did the outfits you were the best dressed yeah and congratulations on the ebay that is i think it's the best I mean obviously I personally think it's the best like

deal that anyone's ever had like yeah like it was just so it felt so righteous to do that because like in the filler I had so many like things I could play with and like go in my comfort zone and just try new things I thought coming out kind of did hope that eBay would maybe you know come to me and the fact that it happened i was like yes i was waiting for it can i ask questions about that so like did you have a huge wardrobe or did you bring your stuff out it was did ebay like sponsor you so they had things and then you got to like how did you get your outfits yeah first dibs on stuff as well like because you would definitely a lot of a very different style to the rest of the guys in the villa yeah so i think obviously you bought out

our own clothes we had like two suitcases can bring whatever we want yeah and then once a week ebay would give us clothes and it'd be like one big bunch sometimes it'd be like our own thing or one big bunch but it got to a point where we eventually the girls knew whose style was who so sometimes we didn't have to fight anymore i'd be like tasha there's definitely a bit of you or like gem this is a bit of you so i feel like it was good because each of us had different styles and that's what i liked about the girls this year like no one was fighting or cat fighting over the clothes no there's none of that it was a really really nice but like girl vibe apart well you and kk didn't really have beef did you it wasn't beef it was just what here

I saw your TikTok so funny it's so good do you know what it's actually mad because me and Coco actually get along like even in the villa we would have chats and be embarrassed but obviously didn't show that on TV but we actually did get along regardless of what happened and like it's just funny like now i look back and it's a funny line the fact that everyone makes birthday cakes and yeah like it's a sign it is a legendary line it is so funny it really is so so funny i just remember being like you are i say that again the whole thing is the whatever at the end like what was the i had to like i had to be like say that again because i wasn't sure if i heard it correctly it was funny oh my god oh but obviously it didn't like do anything because you and adam not you guys Andrew it's because we're paid on the other day

we were quite starstruck by um adam also like i wasn't expecting him to be as charming in real life he was really nice not that he's your boyfriend it's andrew i feel like it's the a season isn't it yeah yeah yeah oh my god but you and andrew

are going so strong so nice to see yeah like honestly i think leaving the fillers made us stronger so i've got the canvas and the microphones like we can just be ourselves without the pressure yeah you can just enjoy it now was it a bit weird coming out were you like it was that or did you just slip straight into a relation like boyfriend and girlfriend situations i think we just slipped straight into it because obviously he pretty much moved in straight away so we can carry on that journey that's not in with your parents no it's not with the other people that you live with so i live with like my best friends right and then you guys all in there together andrew moved back from dubai before i went into the villa

so he didn't really have a home and he was like I'll stay at my friend's house a few nights on the sofa and literally it was like one night and I said

you can just come stay with me like you don't want to stay on the sofa you've already been living together yeah exactly it makes no difference so

but it's been so good it's just brought us closer and we're not too much on top of each other because I can go home like I do my thing he does his thing we come back to each other and it's really nice to have that and also you're probably both so busy like you can just you just look like you're so in love and so happy like it's just like radiating no i get so mad at cl and Christian. Are you moving? You're like Cheshire Cat over there.

I always get so embarrassed by things like this. I'm like, ah. Well, I know it's so lovely. It's making me have faith in the world. There's love out there. Oh, stop. She keeps acting like she's a six-year-old spinster. I'm like, Melissa, you're 25. Like, what is going on?

She's like, how old are you? I'm 24. Oh, my God. I'm an old gal. I'm an old gal. I'm 28. You're engaged? I gal i'm an old gal i'm 20 you're engaged i'm 28 in a month yeah and you're engaged as well i'm four years older than you yes i don't like that 24 was the price no no no i think sorry everyone listening to this there's nothing wrong with age there's nothing wrong we're just having slight you know crisis about getting older we're not

we're not one bit embrace it embrace it age is just a number age is just a number apparently when we get to our 30s is when you feel

the best about yourself yeah I've heard about this and you're like I don't care about anything that is when you start thriving yeah

what is it called 30s and thriving yeah 30s and thriving what's that movie 30s flirty and thriving oh no wait is that that 13

going on 30 with Jennifer Garner yeah no wait is that that 13 going on 30 with Jennifer Garner yeah yeah yeah I love that film that film's so good wait I've got more questions to ask you are you and Andrew

moving in together properly just you two yeah what's the next stage we've heard you've been house hunting we are fully grilling you so we are currently

looking for somewhere maybe potentially in London hopefully London yeah it'll still be east london um so yeah we are still looking but i feel like we may have found something maybe exciting yeah maybe so excited it's been so hard because i feel like flats get stacked up so quickly i'm literally like then the market right now is like crazy it's horrible melissa yeah don't you

know what i'm saying no no he went to my school apparently but i've i never saw him i was like are you gonna tell he went to same school as digby as well yeah yeah yes in somerset right yeah yeah did he play hockey apparently he was a hockey boy yeah he did play hockey yeah that's what my girlfriend's told me last night when did he leave he's 27 but so did he leave when he was oh yeah did he do the whole sixth form there i just don't know how i never saw him you don't know to be fair it's such a huge school you saw a new person every day there's a lot of like is it big like 2 000 people wow okay so maybe huge yeah i think it might be like two years above you yeah he was a bit of a my year same yeah so is he friends i know a lot of people in that year i don't know i think they know of each other i'm pretty sure

how what a small world yeah i know small world who else went there was there's quite a few people that have gone through that school that have gone on to love island who else charlie break yeah same year as charlie break two years older um So have you been like hanging out with everyone from Love Island since leaving or is it very much like everyone's just in a ballroom? Yeah, who's kept in touch? You've done the double date with Gemma and Luca. Yeah, so we went to go see a football match.

That was fun. But I was so hungover because it was my birthday party the night before and I literally was like, I came on as well in the morning. I was literally like, this is like a double whammy. And I sat there watching football like, ooh, was part time i was just like going with it you know um but that's a really nice day to be fair and then i'm still in touch with page at the

pretty much every day india as well asian um and tony looked like they had a wild time i was like, wow. They're carny, isn't it? I've never been before. Well, no, it's really fun when you go. But if you live there, it's like you want to go home

to peace and it's not, right? Well, you can't, you physically can't get in the house. Like I wouldn't, I'm like, I won't disclose where I live, but I like literally

wouldn't have been able to get into my house. And then I like forgot loads of stuff and I was in this hotel and I was like, I can't live at home. It was all quite weird. I also just forgot to mention we are drinking this lovely rosé from M&S

so what's this called we're all like we're getting too excited about your hair but basically we taste some rosé and then at the end of the podcast we break the rosé all the wine in between our nattering we answer some dilemmas from the listeners okay so maybe we should get onto the dynamic we should this is also called rambling rambling rose from m&s and the bottle is cute isn't it yeah the bottle is giving me spout of ice vibes though yeah it is to be fair it's the top of the shape and like almost like the the wrap around but it's also they should have done a power pink uh top yeah it's too dark it's giving me blossom hill vibes power puff vibes yeah flower flower energy

hey girls love the podcast listen to it on my 4am shifts at the supermarket and it really helps them go faster here is my dilemma a couple of weeks ago i was driving to the gym i had my music blasting for that pre-workout motivation and swung into the first parking bay i saw in the gym car park as i swung into the bay i heard a loud crunch check the car next to me's bumper and it was fine however as i went to get out of the car i saw a massive scrape across the side of the other's car my heart dropped as i've never got into an accident or anything before i got back in the car and rang my friend about what to do and got her to calm me down in my panic once i calmed down i made my way to reception to tell

them what had happened where they proceeded to call out the registration plate on the tannoy in the gym and this is where the story gets worse who did i see walking down the stairs but my gym crush who i fancied since february it's his fucking car that i've scraped i explained him what happened in a very awkward walk to the car park he was so nice about it and kept thanking me for not driving off i said i'd pay for the damage so he asked for my number and we both awkwardly went back into the gym when i avoided him for the entire session i was there we've been messaging since but very formally to sort out insurance etc and i haven't been back into the gym since because i'm too embarrassed i'm pretty sure he's told all his

by the way turns out to fix his car it was 1000 pounds but all my friends keep telling me to ask him out for a drink to say sorry do i risk an awkward situation if he denies i don't even know if he's single when i have to see him at the gym or should i just fuck it and ask him i think fucking fucking ask him you've got nothing to lose at this point you've already scraped his car you've already paid he owes it to you really you paid a thousand pounds for his car no the insurance paid out a thousand pounds i don't think she did and it's also quite a good excuse to be like look to apologize i can take you out for a drink if you want you could say it like that and then he can be like oh no don't worry or he'll be like yeah all right i'll take you off on that yeah he could just be like no no don't worry and then it's not such a pie exactly don't you think that's a really

good way of worming around it what is our thoughts on like asking boys out in the gym people meet a lot in the gym oh my god my gym's a hot spot for people meeting they've all but how like so when what i've never there's so many fit boys in that gym there's so many fit boys yes i mean you're so never been asked out they are really stunning boys but i mean i've always had a boyfriend or a fiance. Slash fiance. Sophie still calls Jamie her boyfriend. She goes, yeah,

my boyfriend. I'm like, you can say he's your fiance now. You always like forget. I do always forget. I think gym is a real thing. People do it.

They become like gym buddies and then they follow each other on Instagram. They're like, fancy training. And it becomes like a flighty thing. You do like squats and things like that. Pherom things like that flying everywhere hold get the endorphins going yeah there is something that happens that's sexual like a chemical and something reaction i think

it's the pheromones get released and you just yeah that's it yeah because you're like what i'll swear you know it's like your natural scent like you know when you really okay right let's just talk about this in a minute when you really really really fancy someone there's something weird about a slight i'm not talking about like a bo it's like a slight smell of sweat smells like really quite yum and you're like what's going on why do i fancy you more than you're a bit sweaty yeah i always say it's true you know it's apparently if you like sniff someone's arm this is legit and you don't like their smell like you know sometimes for example i honestly think jamie's skin smells of sweets yeah i used to have it like exes smell of like sweets too like everyone i dated my exes smell

like like porridge like maple syrup it was lovely and that means if it but if you smell them and it like smells milky or whatever you don't that you're not like your pheromones don't connect it smells milky or like i'm just saying like tighten off milk i think if you don't like the smell you're technically like you're not genetically yeah it's not right you're not there's no chemistry interesting but then sometimes i i don't smell great no no no but i've had it before with boys when i'm like no i just don't like the smell of them when i give them a hug and like i don't fancy them anyway. But the smell reinforces that. Yeah.

I've had that. It put you off. I love the aftershave. Like, I just don't think it's- Is the aftershave mixed with the pheromones? Like, all around their hairline. Like, there's quite a lot. It's like, am I down the neck? Yeah, it's down the neck.

What's wrong with the neck? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Lovely. The back smells quite nice, too. It's like, when you walk past and you smell it, I'm yeah, yeah. Lovely. The back smells quite nice too. Is that the number one past you can smell it? I'm like, oh. Melissa's been single for too long.

It's alright, she's going on a date lately. Oh God, no. You can all listen in. I am just a serial dater these days with what's going on. Okay. Okay.

Right, so our advice is to go for it. Yeah. Yeah, you've got nothing to lose yeah you've got nothing to lose got nothing to lose okay right second dilemma okay hey girls i'd love to get your opinion on this situation and let me know what you think if i'm being unreasonable my boyfriend and one of my best friends are also friends with each other and before my boyfriend and I were together my best friend was with both of us separately my best friend was friend was both of us separately

right okay I didn't meet him through her though finally we met separately so this girl and the boy are like together but they share a best friend that's a girl basically right but they didn't meet through the girl okay they met separately it's great when we all hang out together and good when we can all hang out separately too but i do have certain boundaries with their friendship and i think this should be respected i agree they used to be housemates so it's totally understandable that they're close when they lived together our friend also had a boyfriend she doesn't anymore but often when they were in the house alone she would ask my now boyfriend before i was with him to sleep in her bed with her because she didn't anymore but often when they were in the house alone she would ask my now boyfriend

before i was with him to sleep in her bed with her because she didn't like being alone no no she moved out when me and him first began dating as she bought her own house and now over a year later my boyfriend and i live together okay right so this is a bit funky already here's my dilemma now that she lives in her own place and she will she will invite him over for movies and he will go out for breakfasts coffees lunches etc all of which i'm absolutely fine with but they will also arrange sleepovers with each other sorry no this is her boyfriend rachel sleepovers sleepovers are we 12 years old sorry this is so weird they're fucking surely

yeah that is weird right i have expressed that this makes me uncomfortable obviously not because i don't trust either of them but because i absolutely because i absolutely do but it just makes me uncomfortable quite right when they live when they did live together they would nap on the couch while hugging and cuddling while watching a movie, etc. And I just can't stand the thought of them cuddling in bed, sleeping at night. What? I don't like this. I know nothing more than that would happen as he says

she's like a sister, but still. Is this unreasonable? Absolutely not. You don't cuddle your sister in bed. No, that's weird. My brother might get away from me. Don't organise a sleepover with your sister. A sleepover? I don't even organise a sleepover with you oh it's weird it's giving me jamie and me vibes at the beginning of your friends you guys used to do weird stuff like that red flag i have said that

obviously hanging out and everything is fine but i draw the line at sleepovers because it makes me suck on the sleepover things making me laugh. I don't know why. My boyfriend has respected this and hasn't stayed over at hers, but they will discuss him staying over there with her and make arrangements that just end up not happening. Dot, dot, dot.

But even that makes me uncomfortable. This is so strange. Neither of them see it as being weird, so it makes me second guess what my feelings and think I'm just getting, setting odd boundaries that other people wouldn't. No, no. What would you do in my situation?

The reason I've sent this is now, because I've just found out they've been talking about arranging another movie slash sleepover night and I'm worried about it happening. The most insulting part is my boyfriend is the one who suggested it with her this time. Uh-oh. the get this whole thing from the get-go you're right i would just assume the worst and think they're shagging and this is yeah i don't know anyone that does that

i think for me the way i go around about it is i don't know if she's speaking to her boyfriend about it just say how you're feeling set your boundaries but at the same time if andrew was doing that i'd be like what you're doing like no but also it's her best friend like that it's just weird that there's boundaries like me and jamie having sleepovers yeah that's like no that's like really really shady i don't know why i'm finding this funny because it's the word sleepover which is like making me feel weird i i think they're like I'm really worried that they're sort of like secretly secretly in love secretly also like how is she letting us get away with this like this is really odd yeah like you don't I'm picturing them spooning on the sofa that's that's almost worse to me yeah like watching movies yeah it's relationship vibe i am not liking this

i'm gonna say it's like you have to know your worth in these kind of situations because that that to me this is a sackable offense to me this whole scenario yeah it's dumpable for sure yeah for me i worry that it's exactly you need to know your worth and i think because you put so much trust and you obviously do and your boyfriend and your best friend, they're being like, this is normal. And you're like, oh, it's normal. Yeah, don't be weird.

Like, why are you making it a thing? Yeah. And it's making you, the manipulation I think has gone quite far because you're second guessing if you think you're being unreasonable. Yeah. But you are absolutely not.

You have every reason to be, you know, I would be so pissed off. So I wonder what the boyfriend's been saying about yes i'm absolutely dead like imagine what are you doing tonight i'm just gonna go have a sleepover with so and so i'd be like sorry no no no no stay with me in bed andrew's just gonna go have a sleepover with jemma like i'd be like sorry what just a movie i can't have a movie night on the sofa. No biggie. Stop making it weird. That is weird. It's so weird.

What the fuck? Even I, no. Sorry, no. If that was me, I'd just. I just can't get on board with it. And I have a best friend that's a guy. I actually have a few guys that are really good friends. And I would never, regardless of them being with someone, regardless of me being with someone,

I would never fucking do that. It's so weird. It's so weird. You get icked out by your best friends that are guys sometimes as well like they just like do you know what i mean i'd be like the thought of the thought of giving you a cuddle on the sofa like get away from me yeah that's the attitude and like feeling i have towards that whole situation so the fact that neither of them do and they've been doing it sleeping in each other's beds cuddling whilst she had a boyfriend no the whole thing's wrong

there's something i don't necessarily think they know oh my god yeah oh okay i need more details like what is she i don't like it because that changes everything i reckon she's in pants and a t-shirt which is just even more i just don't his t-shirt for a bit yeah no we can't i think and she like bends over i think you need to just realize are you going to be okay with being with a boy that wants to have sleepovers with other girls yeah no and i know your best friend i think it's so fucking rude yeah i think it's i think it's dumpable i so agree and know your worth yeah and talk to him be clear on your boundaries or dump yeah you either be like this is never to happen again.

Yeah. Yeah, let's go with that. You've got to give him a chance. Be like, this is never to happen again. Yeah. Like, absolutely underneath circumstances and make him understand. Even suggesting it, even it being something that you want to do. The fact that he wants to do it, though, to me is dumpable.

It's a bit odd. Yeah. Yeah. It's like if she was on the other foot and she was having sleepovers with his best friend. Yeah, right, I'm going to go have a sleepover with my... He wouldn't like it. Yeah. So you've got to have first yeah. Yeah. It's like if she was on the other foot and she was... Yeah, right, I'm going to go have a sleepover with my... He wouldn't like it. Yeah. So you've got to go with first roles. Yeah.

That's a very good tactic, Therese. That is a good tactic. That's it for this week, Wednesdays. But, God, don't you just fancy some more, Melissa? Yeah, I'd really love a follow-up to some of those dilemmas I want to know what happens well then tinies we have got some news for you we have launched a premium version of Wednesdays now listen subscribers get access to the podcast ad free with bonus episodes it's pretty amazing it's also packed full of dilemma follow-ups which which we love,

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