Wednesdays - Ep 73: Tasha Ghouri answers your dilemmas! | PART 2

Episode Date: September 6, 2022

Fashion icon and absolute sweetheart, Tasha Ghouri helps us answer your dilemmas this week, and of course we chat allll things Love Island. Meeting the grandparents, matching tattoos, and moving in together, we get the lowdown from Tash all about her time with Andrew since leaving the villa.This week we enjoyed an M & S Rosé, ‘Rambling Rose’ - https://www.marksandspencer.com/rambling-rose-provence-ros-single-bottle/p/wnp60573278We rated the wine:Tasha: 8Sophie: 6.5Melissa: 8  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Here is dilemma number three. I have a boy dilemma, shocker. Met this boy on a trip abroad this summer. We got on really well and kissed, but he left the next day because he had another trip. He sent a cute goodbye message and that was it. I had another two weeks of holiday and no contact from him

until the end of my trip when he started liking my Insta stories. Decided to text him and ask about his summer. He gave me a very long reply about what he did and that he was back home and got sick and blah, blah loads of emojis included we've been texting for a couple of days and have a lot of energy when he replies long text going into detail but hardly asked me any questions it's true that i'm not a very good texter i have a hard time not giving dry answers and elaborating on my answers i want to keep talking to this boy and not let the conversation die but i'm not really sure how to do that or even if it's worth it given he is in another country and is it a bad sign that he's talking a lot about himself and not asking me

questions about my life and sometimes he takes a long time to reply although i see he's online other times and he replies instantly that gets me when you see a guy that's online doesn't reply but constantly online going online i'm just like why why are you not replying but also it really stresses me out when they reply when i'm still online do you know what i mean when it's boom and you're like they're typing they're typing they're typing get offline yeah yeah i think it's hard the conversation you can't force it it has to be there especially with texting I feel like it just has to be there to have that flow

it has to be there it just has to be there I feel like this is setting the tone for what the type of person that he's going to be like he probably wouldn't ever ask you questions like oh on a date it would all be about him I'm getting like a bit of a no he shouldn't ask about you if he really cared about about you liked you he would take his time to ask about

how your day was also how are you meant to continue a conversation when he's just doing a monologue about his day like you'll be like oh it's sweet yeah um i think if he lives in another country i mean there's no harm in continuing texting him it's a text it's hard anyway when he lives in another country and they've just kissed yeah i think if you're constantly like pranging out like how am i gonna carry on this conversation oh my god he's online i just feel like this is driving you slightly crazy for no there's no good that's gonna come from it like if he lives in another country realistically you're really never gonna see this guy again i don't think yeah and he doesn't as like tush said he's not asking you questions right he's not interested enough to ask you a question or he's very like self-absorbed and he doesn't even think

about other people yeah it's like all about what he's doing the whole time maybe if you do reply yeah maybe if you do reply like a really blunt thing like oh that sounds nice see what he then does if he then like makes the effort to like carry on or if you air him there's nothing more powerful than airing a message and ignoring somebody nothing and then he might do the infamous double text which is nothing better than that maybe like start applying slower take like three days play his game play the game don't reply for three days he'll be like oh my god then he might just double text you lovely stuff yes that's hopefully then he calls you and then you can have a normal conversation because clearly he's crappy at texting yeah some guys just aren't very good at the old texting thing but it sounds like he kind of is because he's monologuing where

most boys are like just one word answers in your life but he's sending one message yeah what's um andrew like the texting obviously you live together but like to be fair we don't really text much yeah because I bet you never even had that stage

yeah we're not we're not at that stage now to be like messing because we're both busy but then it's like we still message throughout the day

just like check up like how you doing how's your day going and then we'll see each other at the end of the night anyway sweetness just you guys cook dinner yeah I was gonna say

what do you do for dinner? Back on you and Andrew now. You're like, fuck. Sorry, I'm just so intrigued. To be fair, there was this one time I finished at like eight. And in my head I was like, I really hope Andrew's cooked me dinner. Got home, there was no dinner on the table. I was like, fuck.

Okay. You disappointed me. I was like, take away it is then. But he has cooked one dinner so far. He's never cooked me dinner. Does he do a little shopping waitress for you does he buy all this i want to know like does he go and buy all the bits no to be fair we did an online shop together on tesco just like a massive like a big old food shop yeah because we're like we need to stop like buying takeaways oh my god i'm bad at it though it's so easy to do when you're busy as

well like it's the convenience yeah exactly so do you cook say like what we're gonna have for dinner tonight why are we so obsessed with what they i know we me and sophie do this every time we say what are you having for dinner tonight then you get it's like the most exciting part of the day i know it is dinner right now i'm clocking like what should i have for my dinner i know what she's gonna have are you ready she's gonna have chicken thighs i know i'm gonna have to take away probably i'm gonna get an attis bowl takeaway are you yeah i've already decided i know then a snog then a snog what did you miss most whilst you were in the villa oh yeah what i missed most from the villa yeah not like a lot but probably just not having our phones like that was so nice not having my phone but that was so nice it was so good but at the same

time it was a bit of a there's moments where you wanted to contact your family and friends but like it was nice you're connecting emotionally way more deeper because you're not having that to scratch enough your phone so it was nice to not have that have you tried to keep like an element of that since leaving the building yeah we actually have so when we come home like hey we put our phones down that's really that's amazing and then we go back on it like before we go back to see it about 10 minutes whatever but we are literally like okay let's keep it going for as much as we can because it's good because i think it's the best thing ever i did it once when i went to dubai for a holiday like four days and jamie and i were like let's just not go now and i felt like I was a child.

Like it was a really weird feeling. I was like, I feel so like a child. Like it took me to like a place. And I was like, it's so mad how we are so saturated, like with all this stuff. Like, especially with that's probably, you're the same like Instagram being your job and things like that.

You are constantly on like, I never used to be on my phone much before but now yeah what's happening i kind of do you have to be on it anyway yeah and there's times where i just want to be like i just want to put it down and just not go on it yeah like i say yeah i do miss that a lot i need to go on a retreat and just not have my phone for like two weeks maybe we should do what tasha and andrew do and just put it down like just for the evening because I'm alone it's like a bit depressing it's fine like if you're with another person because you connect more with them I guess and like the conversations and the thoughts that you have out loud but for me I'm on FaceTime to my friends all night long so if I didn't have that I'd be like watching the TV which I guess is another form of like yeah technology there's

this thing that I've seen where it's like a cage it's like you put your phones in this cage it's like a time where you can't get your phone back until it's like what if there's an emergency then you're screwed I guess they haven't thought that far ahead that would like you'd be me seeing them with like pliers that's what you need to do it's like you just jamie has like a screen thing where it's like you've looked at your phone too much oh yeah god i just go over every time yeah oh clear clear notification yeah same ignore her don't tell me how much i've been on my phone please right this is the last dilemma hello girls love the podcast I have a dilemma please keep anonymous sorry it's a rather long one a few months ago I got drunk on my b-day and

ended up sleeping with one of my greatest friends I've never seen him in that way and it came as real as a surprise however he had said he'd liked me for years and had always wanted it it's continued to happen regularly and it's been so much fun and so unexpected however he made clear clear early on he didn't want a relationship and he's dating other girls and even let slip he's sleeping with someone else i called it off then silly me changed my mind drunk drunk messaged him one evening and since then it's continued again. I'm trying not to bring up any, bring up the seeing of the other girls thing,

but hard to shake it all as the more we keep doing this, I feel like I'm falling for him. I've already expressed my concerns about ruining the friendship and he's like, I won't let that happen. But I'm worried it's gone too far now and I'm falling for him,

but don't want to stop. Oof. You're going to get hurt, I feel. I feel like you keep going down this road, it's not a good one. He's made it clear that he doesn't want to have a relationship. So I think you're hurting yourself more that you're hoping for something to happen to change.

You're hoping that he's going to fall for you. You've all been in that situation before. It never works, it never happens. Every girl has been there where they're like, he'll for me and you literally convince it in your mind like yeah but they just don't and i'm for like unfortunately it sounds like you're almost being too available to him anyway so he's at the moment he's having his cake and eating it so why would he give you anything more like you're giving him what yeah you're Yeah, you're allowing him to do it. I think you've got to take a step back and just you really have to be strong

and don't message him and you need to stop sleeping with him now. I agree. And I also think you have to be really, sometimes you have to be really hard on yourself and tell yourself like, if he liked me enough, he wouldn't want to sleep with other girls anyway.

Like it would make him feel sick the thought of looking at another girl. So he would want me to himself and like he wouldn't want anyone else to like be going near him like like that so he clearly the fact that he's been so upfront with you which I appreciate the honesty of him being like I am sleeping with other people and he's expressed his concerns about ruining the friendship so I think he's basically like telling you but he's also like well if you're gonna carry on saving me then yeah yeah I don't think it's worth it.

I think we have to call that a day. You can find someone so much better. Exactly. Exactly. It's not menopause. You want a man who wants you. Exactly. 100%.

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Did you actually? Okay, right, let's have a look. On my neck. Let's see. Oh my God, I love. Oh my God. I thought it was going to be an A for a minute. I love.

How? So on my neck? I didn't hurt. Joke. Surprisingly, I was chilled. I was like sleeping. I was just doing it. But do you know what? Because I wanted to get a tattoo tattoo anyway of like a love heart and a palm tree to represent love

island i thought maybe that's quite cute that's cute no i think that's cute i think that's good maybe get one of those and i was like obviously roses my favorite flowers and andy wanted to get a tattoo as well so we're both just like she'll just get a matching yeah the same that's so sweet yeah so the roses represents our final date it's obviously we have thousands of roses so that's where it comes from yeah if i said to him i'm not getting your name initial because everything wants to happen then yeah then i'm fine but basically the rose is doable do i mean so doable but not yeah yeah and it's just nice like a little mean cute tattoo that we're both young living living life

yeah a hundred percent i want jamie to get a tattoo representing me i'm not sure what what should i get guys harry bow a little harry bow sweet that's cute no no no to remember the time his mom called me harry bow and basically told read out a text saying that their auntie thought i was awful the hot that's not a good memory a harry bays we are a little lamb oh that's good we got each other lamb do you guys have any nicknames no we haven't got nicknames yeah yeah yeah do you have your own like weird language where you're going like me yeah i do sometimes yeah i'm like and he's like what you're doing and I'm just like do you actually have you seen that clip in the inspired unemployed bro it's like he's like can we go home I'm tired and it's like how girls

meet their boyfriends and it's like the friends are like to the guy it's like what are you doing and she's like why aren't you speaking my language and then eventually he goes all right hubby well you will go home soon and then all of his friends are like you absolute freak but it's like what couples just do in the background like you and jamie have your own little weird language completely like full language do you have to do it in front of his friends or no you would never yeah i'm like yeah yeah yeah she does i can't stop i just literally i don't even know i'm doing it now. I'm like, in the supermarket and people are like,

is that a cat? And I'm like, oh, fuck, it was me. Sorry. Oh my God. And he does it back.

He's like, yeah. It's quite strange. I love that. All right, so if Bridal Bridezilla. Okay. So it's been revealed,

Tash. Melissa, we're doing a stan. and stag together boy vidler girl villa in ibiza oh sick fun for my wedding rather than i just personally i find like the thought of a hen gives me a bit of anxiety because it's like all eyes on me and that sort of i love that get the you have all the attention on you take it for every moment it scares me do you know why it scares me just because i worry so much that my friends are having fun i'd be like are you all having fun no i get that because you're like the host because you want to make sure that but the thing is you're not the host because you're the you're the bride So your friends were making sure you're having a good time.

That is true. It's not like a birthday party where you're home. But I just don't think the stand will be fun. And then we could do a mini Hen in London. Yeah, we do another Hen in London. That's cute. I want to do a girl's thing. Oh, you're not keen on the stand?

I'm really keen on the stand, but I also think there needs to be a hen in addition. You know what I mean? Let's just drag it all out. We've got to do it all. It's all got to happen. Do it all just drag it all out i want to do it all it's all gonna happen do it all do it all let's rate the wine what are you rating it i'm rating it a six and a half because the bottle reminded me of smurtoff and it kind of bummed me out i really enjoyed it and it was not that cold i think it'd be even nicer cold i I'm going to rate it seven, eight.

Yeah, I'm going to rate it. It's a really, really, really yummy wine. I really enjoyed that. What are you rating it? Eight. I can drink a whole bottle. A two eights and a six. It's really good. Yeah.

It's nice and light. I've had a whole glass. I'm all right. I've got a date. Yeah, not for hours though. We've got a while. If I have another glass, it will just,

I'll sober up by that point. I've got to just let this one slide out. Then'll have another two glasses and i'm getting ready give me two glasses when i'm getting ready how did you meet him uh this one loads of mutual friends i've met him quite a few times before he's lovely my friend jack was like i feel so bad for all those boys you're gonna date about what you say about them on the podcast i'm like i'm so nice am i not so nice one of them bought her her A bottle of organic orange wine Because she likes organic wine He's the favourite at the moment

Organic? That's really asking I mean I'm not sure you can say that He is the favourite at the moment ATM One's been knocked out of the running order He's still in the running One she messages me within a minute

No bummer I was like So did you leave? She goes Nomer. I was like, so did you leave? She goes, no, still here. I was like, where is the poor boy? To be fair, it went on for hours and hours. It was fun though. I had a really fun time, but like just wasn't going to have a second date, you know?

Fair, fair enough. At least had fun. Yeah, I had fun. He was good company. But that nothing romantic. No kiss. If he'd gone in for the poor boy, would you have been like, get away?

Yeah, get away. I don't think I would have been like, get away. I wouldn't have said that to him. You'd have just kissed him. No, I don't think I would have kissed him. I think I would have just given him the cheek. Have you ever done that? Like, given people cheek?

No, but it makes me really upset the thought of having to do that. I've never done it, have you? And then they kiss the cheek. Oh, that almost gives you the icky even more. No. I feel so bad for them. I'm not going to kiss people I don't want to kiss. Sure. No, I icky no i feel so bad i'm not gonna kiss people i don't want to

care sure no i agree i probably feel so bad i'd like oh no that's what you'd give them a sympathy kiss even worse exactly and they're black but i just kiss me then then you're like i also have this thing as soon as i sit down and see they're nervous i'm like which is so horrible because i'm like could should be quite sweet but like for some reason there's something about nerves that like i guess if you fancy them it doesn't actually matter if they're nervous or not but like yeah i just didn't yeah i still get nervous on dates with andrew so weird i don't know about pure as hell no i sometimes i'm like oh we've spoken a lot today what could we talk about but i'm kind of at the point where i'm like, oh, we've spoken a lot today. What can we talk about now? You're in a different... But I'm kind of at the point

where I'm like, I just want to eat the food. Just shut up and let me eat. No, but I did. I definitely did at your stage. I did it for about two years in. I would get nervous on dates. Yeah.

It's still... I think it's important to still have that. That's so key. And that you have date night and you go, that's really... Yeah, you're having date night pretty much every weekend at the moment. That's so... I'm going to date night and you get that's really you're having date night pretty much every weekend at the moment so i'm going to go and see this weekend to see like

all his friends and family i'm scared that'd be so beautiful it's like 20 of his friends coming out that's so like lads i'm really like so you're so like you're the dream that'll be like we'll have so much fun but i feel like i'm having drinks and shots and I'm going to be like, I can't keep girls coming in. It's just all boys. I think it's all boys. They have got girlfriends but I don't think they can come. So I'm like,

I think it's better. Quite a long way for them to fly away. No, loads of them live there, right? Yeah, those parents live there,

yeah. No, but the friends, are they locals or are they Millfield people? What, Andrew's friends? Yeah.

Yeah, they're all living in Guernsey oh they're all locals okay fine we're Guernsey friends I know so you met the parents before

yeah so and he's met yours and yours love it yeah I met his nan and grandad as well I know they're absolute sweethearts

do you fall kind of fall in love with him even more when you see him with his grandparents you're just like oh I don't know

why I get emotional seeing like elderly people I know I'm just like they're literally sweethearts so yeah pretty much met i met his brothers yet which i will be this weekend oh that's quite big yeah that's big are they younger one younger one older the younger one will be easy you just take them under your wing yeah i mean like oh you're my little father too true the older one will be easy to their brothers sisters are more scary yeah yeah the brothers have girlfriends god asking so many questions both of them have girlfriends how long has the old one been

with their girlfriend for quite a while i think yeah i think that makes it easier yeah that does might be easier and then it's not just you as like a foreign family yeah there's other girlfriends yeah they have got quite a big family so it's nice just you as like a foreign person family essentially there's other girlfriends yeah they have got quite a big family so it's nice I think that's way less better like nicer

less pressure it's daunting but it's actually when you get there you're like oh this is so fun yeah it's like

yeah exciting I'm sure you've got to let us know how it goes I should let you know how it goes after yeah bye

bye guys bye guys thank you so much for coming thank you so much for coming i could sit here for hours we need to go for a drink absolutely i'm down 100 down thank you for having me as well thank you guys for listening bye We'll be right back. Enjoy the number one feeling, winning, in an exciting live dealer studio, exclusively on FanDuel Casino, where winning is undefeated. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario. Gambling problem? Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly.

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