Wednesdays - Ep 9. When is the right time to move in?

Episode Date: June 8, 2021

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Call 1-866-531-2600 or visit connectsontario.ca. Please play responsibly. Hello, I'm Sophie. And I'm Melissa. Welcome to our weekly podcast on Wednesdays We Drink Wine. The podcast where we drink wine the podcast where we drink wine listen to your dilemmas and have a laugh hello it's so funny when we walk in the room i like avoid making eye contact so i just we've got a towel down guys to stop the like clanking i think it's the Sandra Pay face we've got a towel down guys to stop the like clanking I think it's also the bangles no let's just put it out there

it's you you and the noise are just not good it's because I'm very handy when I'm like no you also sit and you're really quite quiet when I talk

I think well I think it's because I sit so far away from my phone so this is soph's choice today yeah and just to put it out there we finally got an organic one where does it say organic though well you turn it to the back and that little leaf means organic does it yeah did the wine chap yeah tell you that i love how you say chap i know know, it's such an old bloke thing to do. It's such a thing like...

My dad says it. Yeah. He goes, oh, chap, you've pulled me off. I've done my 10k steps for you guys. I had the announcement on my Fitbit when I was walking to your house, and I was like, I deserve my glass of wine. I mean, it's honestly just so weird. Honestly, half a bottle.

Yeah, you deserve it. Cheers, honey. Hey, guys, welcome back. I don't know what episode we're on right now i feel like we're so far deep now we don't even need to see the episode before we start drinking this wine i actually went for um lunch which is such an opportunity with my friend the other day and she has done wine course too and she told me how to taste wine so you smell oh no sorry sorry sorry you know i was doing it and i was like you actually do that with every wine even if it's not ready to try it oh and you only pour to the whitest point of the glass you should only pour

to about a thimble but that's so ridiculous you need to help it that's like a sip swear okay so then you go up and the reason it goes in it gets trapped the aromas at the top of the glass maybe no it shouldn't smell alcoholic and then you go sorry my nose is so bad we've both i've got like a bit of a cold save you's going to be like that sounds really then you smell it anyway i just want to tell you because this isn't that this wine but a servignon blanc is meant to smell of grass apricots or nectarines like that stony fruit and something else i can't remember the other thing but i she gave it to me and i was like grass is up my nose i wonder if i would be able to because you're a lot you can taste a lot more than i can like when when you tasted the other wine and you were like okay all right should we do hints of the himalayan whatever you could just yeah the smell

grass on the top i really like the smell of this i can't smell alcohol and i wonder if it's because all right i've got a little bit of a cold so it's filtered out that alcoholic smell yeah my news is so bad from the hay fever honestly is the hay fever right there's pollen flowing everywhere okay not unlike it's not my favorite one that we've had not my favorite rose that we've had it's slightly sharper yes what do you think it's quite strong we can't say it again but it's like quite powerful it's not watery like you know how normal rose but it's because we've not got ice in it because you clank oh my gosh maybe that is why and it's not actually stone cold no but it's not watery like you know how normal but it's because we've not got ice in it because you clank oh my gosh maybe that is why and it's not actually stone cold no but it's definitely more it's sharper it should be same cause oh i think my fridge keeps oh i'll say sophie does

this thing you know when this is what the type of thing that boys do sophie doesn't shut the drawers in her fridge or her freezer so like you know you have a drawer she just then shuts the whole fridge door and like forces the drawer with my first line just shut the drawer first and then shut the fridge door so i think your fridge always stays like a crack open yeah it does because i'll be like up in the shower oh god mine doesn't ever beep at me which is actually a bad thing because if you accidentally leave open then like all your food gets warm at least you'll be really happy but i can't get it out of my me this is organic yeah i know and i think maybe i'm not allowed oh you're right it does say organic on the back oh it's obviously french which

is obviously a safe bet as we know apparently wines you shouldn't really go for are like the californian australian especially in southern new york blunts or chardonnays no no no no no what you don't i don't like it that much. It's okay, but it's not as like Yeah, it's quite strong. There's a sharpish aftertaste. It tastes like full wine. Yeah, it's very wine-y. I wouldn't be able to have more than really like two glasses.

I'll say that now. Oh, it's really acidic-y. I would have taken the whole wine bottle. We would have drunk the whole thing. That's what it is. It's really acidic-y. It is. It's like acidity? Acidic. Acidity. Acidic. Acidic. Acidic. Very acidic.

We don't make ourselves sound very clever on this podcast, do we? Mm-mm. Oh, it gives you no details. What is that about? Oh, but no worries because I've got my app. No. Don't you worry. Don't worry about me.

I think Vivino downloaded it as you guys have been requesting. But there is no thing that I no scanner oh shame shame wow wait are you serious we can't actually scan it no oh my god i have to log into the vivino app anyway that's really upset me i was quite excited about using the app okay well next time let's make sure whenever we go i google what it is because i feel like people are actually getting a bit annoyed i feel like you guys are like come on give us something better than it's sharp or it's got a lot of body and uh rather don't mind me it's got a nice color to it it looks like it's going to be a lot smoother than it is right got it sorry yeah it looks like it'd be really banging i was close to getting the 24.99 um angelina jolie's but i was like oh this is you

know what my friend actually told me because i i've bought her that one before like when i've gone to stay with her parents and the other day she told me she tried it's a grenache gate a grenache it's a pebbly terrain peb these pebbles are particularly good at radiating the warmth built up during the day back to the vines oh sorry that's I'm so confused what are you talking about now

I'm talking about the soil you're just reading is it made I don't hold on hold on hold on are we sure this is French well it says chateau so I'm assuming it is

okay oh Grenache it's French oh no it is it is wait can you let me talk about the soil yes sorry talk about the soil they play a part in getting the grapes perfectly right the exceptional draining capacity of these pebbles also allows any surplus water to quickly drain away oh god how boring

i just want to know the notes just tell me the notes does it say acidity it doesn't tell me anything it just tells me i'm quite disappointed you know what i wouldn't turn it down if someone gave this to me oh it's a sweet nose with hints of rose and vine and peach okay yeah it you know what it tastes a bit like a serving your blog bit in the rose i don't like it maybe it's definitely quite like the mouth has an elegant acidity bloody hell oh my god we are good we are lemon and red you know what those are the exact so good. Lemon and red are our flavours. You know what? Those are the exact flavours that I was thinking in my head.

I just didn't say it. Oh my god, it's so acidity. Oh for god's sake. Do you want to get another wine? Oh god. No, I'm not going to complain. It's fine. It's because I'm thinking about it so much.

Why don't you get me some ice? Yeah, should I just drop a little? Yeah, but don't play me around. Sorry everyone, she's such a fussy. I'm such a fusspot. I really am. It's all the wine tasting we've done. It's like,

what, my standard's up so much. Do you want some? Yeah, why not? We'll try not to clink it about. That's going to be really annoying. Oh, should I close my freezer? Told you. That's why I do that

because the freezer doesn't shut. Oh, it's very stiff. I told you. Golly. Now you know. I think this will really change it for us. Okay, right, let's re all right let's reach it is okay no i think that annoys everyone as well it's so loud and you've just punked everywhere again this is real life though guys this is just us in the kitchen someone actually messaged me saying it's a great podcast but the the pouring of the wine

and the clinking bleeds makes my ears bleed i was like i'm so sorry i do apologize that's not the point of the podcast better it is better it does add like a bit of instant coolness but i'm still i don't like it either it's just not my favorite so i'm like really acidity if you're into that then this is probably quite a nice one but it's not our vibe shane's it looks i know it does um Anyway. Moving on. Now we're just completely slated to have all the wine. Yeah. Sorry. Sorry. Chateau de Montreux

Chateau de Montreux Femme. Lovely pronunciation. It looks stunning. So we've really, really missed out on that. Oh well. How's your week been? Let me tell you what I've done. We are in the process of doing the launch of our new clothing line which has been very stressful hasn't really been an enjoyable

experience this time around because we can't travel and go see the bits and bobs yeah i know i'm gonna pin your hands to your um how's your week been my week's been fine like the weather's been pretty shite like the weather's shocking guys this is i'm not sure when this is gonna end but let's hope there's some by then because at the moment it's snowed on me it's hailed on me it's rained on me i've been caught in everything jamie's back tomorrow oh my god you must be so excited i know i actually thought you fill your days up with a lot of stuff i know i do i can't sit down you're like i'm out i'm just leaving i'm like you only just got home an hour ago wherever you're going i actually think i might have a problem like i can't sit from if i sit down at five i'm like

that's a legit time to sit and like watch tv yeah yeah i don't really i fully feel like i can't i like almost feel like sad if i do that i'm like no no no i have i can only like put on the tv at 7 p.m is that normally it's after i finish cooking dinner that i have yeah i sit down and have it on the background by the way just shout out this isn't oh my god hands wait out i know she's not listening to me she thinks it's too scary but it's the best thing i've ever watched oh my god yes i well i was going to i convinced harry i was like come on i was like i said i was like sophie's recommendation i also said i was like harry your mum's told us to watch it as well so it must be really good you should really like i just use because like he just obviously he's like oh if my mum thinks it's good it must be really great she gives great tv recommendations you recommended californication

though does he like it oh my god no we fully oh my god he's the coolest guy in the world actually i want to ask you who are your top five because he's my number one i know matthew mcconaughey's probably yeah well he wasn't telling me why i met i honestly guys california tv series jamie told me to watch it he was like it's really you're gonna love it you'll really fancy a guy from it and i was like watching it first half i was like oh he's so gross yeah I don't know what it is that's like attractive about him

he's just so but he just is because he's so chill and nice he's nice I would let him do anything oh

I was coming out today he's like he's like my number one he's a very cool guy Tom Hardy plays you coming behind him

I don't think I've ever watched a film though with Tom Hardy in it where I can appreciate how beautiful he is oh see i think he's kind of grows off out of films i don't like that but where is he fit in film i've only ever seen him in batman the dark night and he's bane and i'm like you can't even see his face loads of like banging movies yeah i don't watch that much like johnny depp and practice guys guys guys friends is the only thing i watch and how excited are we i know but i actually shared a titter i thought so did i no but oh more so for the fact how old they look i know she goes we're gonna live that soon i was like for fuck's sake i think

my dad's forwarded to me and went awful look at all the surgery they've had no dad they've just aged chill out mate it's like so unlike my dad i don't think they've had us. No! They've just aged. Chill out, mate. It's like so unlike my dad's. I don't think they've had that. I don't think they have. Ross has got another face hanging off his face. Wait, did you see that? I saw him in... What, on the street?

The Soho Hotel. This is pre-pandemic. I'll never forget Harry and I having a meeting in there. You saw Matthew Swiner, wasn't he? Yeah, no. David Schwimmer. David Schwimmer. Yes, he walked in. He was having a meeting right next to us, and we were absolutely,

and he, the sound of his voice, I was like, oh, it was making me twitch, because it's obviously exactly the same as Ross's, obviously, but, like, it was honestly making Harry and I twitch that he was right next to me, because we could hear his voice so clearly, and his voice is just Ross, and I'm like, it's Ross. No, I can't. I couldn't even actually mimic that't I couldn't yeah I couldn't even actually mimic like mimic that I couldn't mimic it he has a very no no I could probably do Monica when she goes um what is it she goes um what's that when she goes uh when when you

know when her and Rachel find the um I know that's it I know and then's it. I know. Sorry, that was terrible. And then hear Emily answer the phone. What's the one with Phoebe where she's like, My eyes, my eyes, my eyes. No, we're so bad. We shouldn't even know that. Oh, God, it's so good. How many times have we actually, like, spoken about friends on this podcast?

It's probably quite appalling. I feel like we're probably... It's like in every episode. Yeah, we have it on the background. Like, that's my background music. Oh, my God, same. Yeah, it's really... But anyway, it's back in, like, a week.

I'm really excited. I was quite disappointed when i heard it wasn't going to be a genuine episode but now i'm like okay fine now it looks like it's going to be good fun yeah i think if they tried to make it an episode it wouldn't it wouldn't be as good i know but it would be a letdown i think this is the best way they could do it i'm a justin bieber fan but it's kind of bubbling me out just have it there yeah Yeah, why do we need Justin Bieber? I get Reese Witherspoon and all those other people. Yeah. There's a couple others that are featured in the series. Yeah, and Reese Witherspoon's right up there with one of my favourite people.

Her, Sandra Bullock and Jennifer Aniston. But Justin Bieber, I don't even think is that funny. I'm like, I've seen him on Saturday Night Live. He's really not funny at all. No, I know. Okay, good. I'm glad you said that. I was hoping that everyone was going to like... I know all the JB fans out there don't know i'm really sorry i'm a big fan

turn him down but he's not that funny let's be honest like no he's not he's pretty deep if anything yeah yeah yeah i know it's not about spiritual healing and stuff in the middle of the comedy section yeah yeah no i'm not about But it just, it just made me think, wow, like, sure. How old were you? I called my sister, I called my mum. My mum literally was like, what are you talking about? I'm cleaning the house. Like, she literally didn't have, went straight.

Called my sister, I was like, she was like, all right, calm down. I called you. Like, I was really. Yeah, it got to you. I mean, relax. Obviously, they're getting older. Yes, but it was on yesterday. And now they look very different. I mean relax obviously they're getting older what's wrong with you yes but it was on yesterday and now

they look very different it's because you look at them like all day I guess on your TV and they look so young and then suddenly you see them and you're like what

yeah I think that's right because even in Just Go With It Janet Rannison still looked bloody young I was like and now she looks something I mean I love her

do you watch the other one she's obviously done I've watched everything Janet Rannison's in Rima Hazard have you seen that yeah yeah yeah that's old though I mean the recent one that she did with Reese theza. I've watched everything Janet Van Ness is in. No, the one... Rima Hazard. Have you seen that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's old though.

I mean the recent one that she did with Reese. The one that I told you to watch. Oh, the morning show. I didn't really like it. Oh my God, I flipping loved it. No, Steve... Is it Steve Keegan, the guy?

Who? The one who like... No, no. I don't think so. It was another guy that's like in the office. What is his name? Maybe it is him.

I can't put a face to a name right now. I don't know, guys. I really enjoyed this morning. There's not a Jennifer Aniston movie out there that I've not seen. I am honestly her biggest fan. There's one that keeps floating about. If I ever feel sad, I will just go with it. Oh, I better put her.

It's my go-to. Yeah, same. How weird that that is our favourite film. It's such a rogue one. I flipping love it. Makes me want to-to. Yeah, same. How weird that that is our favourite film. It's such a rogue one. I flipping love it. Makes me want to watch it. I know the words off my mouth. It brings the same,

it just brings so much joy to me. But Adam's father as well. Oh my God, I love him. I love him. I kind of wish they were a couple in real life. I'm like, I love him that much. No, her and Vince Vaughn, I really like that couple, that one.

Yeah, they're not together anymore. I thought she really said she never had kids. I've got to put it out there. Do we think that she is quite difficult because she always has divorces? You know what? I think it's not right. I know. You must be not...

Maybe the men she goes for are just bad choices. I don't think Vince Vaughn... I think Justin Theroux. I listened to him on a podcast with Blue 3 and he sounded so great. Again, another real... The thing is you just don't know what people are like behind closed doors yeah he's a real lethargia you can just tell like what does that mean like proper player like no no no like shags are like a he's very good looking and he like smokes those are weird and he's just like so chill and i just feel like she's like not

i know but you know what i think this i thought the same thing about um this is just a review on friends sorry guys we'll get into know about taylor swift i'm like why can't she keep any of these lovely blokes that have now married other ladies and had children let's go into the dilemma that's what we're really here for are you ready i'm gonna read it oh oh actually i'm so excited about this because it's um oh my god i'm reading it and i'm dead already no stop it's about schools which just makes me so happy because school memories again are like the funniest things they really are i'll just have you stroking off i should get a bit hot and flustered inside that story she's like get it off me.

Yeah, so the other week we were talking a lot about our own memories at school. Yeah. And the side pay you tell, if any of you have heard it, you will know those vibes at school. And we asked you guys if any of you have a similar thing. Just to confirm it, the ice hates everything. So obviously it's not actually the one

we just dilute all of our raisins. No, that's not true. It even says acidity. Do you know what what he didn't want me to get that he was like go for this but i said i wanted to get organic no there was quite a few but i just wanted to get something more budget like yeah 24 pounds is ridiculous well yeah i don't yes it is minnesota right anyway i'm reading this okay so ready yeah Please tell me your schoolgirls used to go to Jane Norman just to get a bag for your pee kit. Jane Norman.

I remember Jane Norman. No, I kind of can, but mine was misguided. And we weren't allowed to get, like, our own gym bags. Oh, ours wasn't for gym. No, mine wasn't. Oh, for your school bag. No, no, no. Mine was Cath Kidson.

People used to have the old cat oh i had a i think i had a jack wills mine was jack oh yeah jack wills but before that oh yes kath kidson no i i miss that that was below me and i kind of was like i never had a case i never had kath kidson my pencil case was putting out sorry what did you have miss cool i don't know i think i probably just went to that like paper chase place and got a cute one from there I actually like in my late years

thought I was really cool like being really not girly so I'd get like the see through really geeky one with just the colour at the top

and like have all my ink spilled in it I was like really messy I love like I didn't have I had I would put ink on my hands

because I thought I was like really cool if I was like geeky I wasn't goth or anything but I just thought I was like really messy my skirt I liked my skirth or anything, but I just thought I was, like, really messy, my skirt. I liked my skirt to be, like, frayed at the bottom. Mum would be like, no, I get sunburned.

But you, like, get a bit of scintillation with a bit of scissors, like, a rip. I would try and, like, put my thumb through my jumper. I went through a real stage of that. Oh, my God, the thumb through the jumper thing. Some girls did that, and I just thought, oh, you're so grubby. It was always the girls that bit their nails a lot. Melissa always calls girls, you're so grubby it was always their nails melissa always calls girls like people grubby they're not grubby but like that's just my description you know and it's like they just bite their nails a lot no you have like a nervous like

grubby which is most most outrageous only because there's so much like soot and dirt everywhere you live on a building side yeah fair enough but you know what i mean about so i love to hear it's like one of the yes so do i but it is grubby there's a lot of certain pollution and cars like it's really cool but you know what i mean it's just description yeah it's your description all right clagging grubby clagging grubby well and greener yeah yeah do you remember that i don't really remember that no yeah jane i don't know i recognize jane norman i don't think it exists anymore it was like one of those what's that she's like i don't know i don't it was like a fast fashiony place

i honestly think it was i don't think it exists anymore well yeah obviously not obviously not it might do sorry jane norman sorry um okay this one would you flirt so much with the tennis teachers no but i flirted so much my golf teacher and then he started texting me no stop this now you played golf for a start i mean my start. I mean, my dad really got me into golf. I mean, maybe do sailing. I definitely wanted to go. Oh my God, no. Yeah, he bought me an otty or whatever they're called in Ontario.

A boat. That sounds so fucking spoiled. My dad bought me a boat. But it wasn't. It was in Draycott Waters. It was Baltic. That is like your worst nightmare. Yes, and he would make me and my sister go.

We were so bad and we got put into this group with really good people because they were family friends like they just shoved us in with them they were so good and they were like mean how we're capsizing freezing oh my god i know so i remember i just came to these grubby to use your word like rank showers they were rank oh no no no there's nothing cold and they would be like don't put the the shower on too hot because you'll actually hurt yourself because we were that cold yeah and then all i the only good thing was i just allowed a coffee cake my mom didn't really allow us to have like cakes and stuff so i was allowed a carrot cake or a coffee cake because they were

in the cafe below and i would just sit freezing I was so left out so uncool because we were the shittest there me and my sister like my daughter she was older than me she really wasn't very confident she's a lot older

than you as well you must have been like a little twiglet I was a twiglet just floating around in this otter my dad would be on the side like oh is that them

they're really losing oh my god how bizarre I cannot imagine you doing any of those things and then golf so firstly started at school. Don't know why I'm in school.

Did that, like, who the hell are we? My school did golf. Oh, right. And then my dad took up on it. Oh, wow. They must be right. He put her in lessons. So I had to go.

If you become a golf break, you can actually make quite a lot of money. The best girlfriend in my whole school was a girl called Jenny Jackson. She's really good. Oh, me? No, I didn't like it. But I do flirt with the guy okay so tell me about him he was like quite ugly like not much no offense but like he just wasn't really my type but i just there was something about him you were like i went to a little girls school

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any boy at that age I also like would flirt with like honestly what was I you little no but I wouldn't really flirt but like clearly I was in his heart because I remember you then like whatsapped me that you must have had my number like on the form sheet or something when i left it was when i left six i think it was when i left finished dcse that's what it was he was like oh finished your like oh you're old enough for me to slip into the dms and i was like well this is a bit weird and it was at our like my mom's like country club like when i went to go my mom would go play tennis i'd like sometimes like do my homework in the thing like he'd like walk past and come talk to me i was like no you're like 40 oh my god yeah it is actually quite scandalous at the time i didn't think it was

i was like sweet well he just found yeah you didn't think anything of it that's the problem with being so young like you don't think anything of it that's the problem with being so young like you don't think anything and you think all these things are harmless and now looking back you're like seriously guys yeah i did the scandal that goes on with like the school teachers are actually quite fooling i think right this is another one did either of you have muck update yes but all the year 11s would play pranks on everyone one year one year year eights ponytail it was horrific was usually like cling film on the toilets yeah yeah yeah oh my cows on the field yeah dramatic one that was yes we've all done that i put we hung bras all around our all girls school all around the school

and we put toilet paper all down yeah toilet paper is quite a classic one we did the thing for i mean we put our school up on eBay for one pound. That's fucking hilarious. Come on. Who missed it, honey? No, see. What?

You put the school? Yeah. But did anyone buy it? Well, obviously not. No. We put a poster on the school.

People were like, that's the bad mistress's desk of our school on eBay. Oh, you guys were very funny. Well, it was so funny.

I can't remember who did you know what on the like exit slash entrance to our dining hall there was this huge glass door that you had to lean against quite hard to push no I didn't

the boys would smear a load of honey on them so you couldn't see it and all the girls would push the door and it would go all over their head all over the screen horrible just things like that quite annoying

like just dicky annoying things like oh for fuck's sake well I didn't go to an all girls school how much is that honestly can I have to pin those down

no I'm you went to an all girls school yeah I went to an all girls school I thought you said I didn't go to an all girls school yeah well so boys didn't really piss me off

oh my god boys were the worst with that kind of thing but it was mainly it was always the old years and I think when it got to my year none of the girls

were really that arse and also I think it got really you weren't allowed to it became my band it was always the old years and I think when it got to my year none of the girls were really that arse and also I think it got really you weren't allowed to it became my band and it was a big deal but we did do on our last day of term every time at prep school

we'd do Chinese fire drone in the middle and we'd set all the fire alarms off and run around and it was terrible our house parents, I feel really bad for them we love them so much but we put them through hell on the last day of term you and then did you do that thing with the loo roll would you like wet it and make them into muffins and throw them on the wall and they'd like glue there yeah yeah that was awful i got caught you really couldn't get them almost got suspended that was honestly terrible i felt so bad naughty naughty

thing yeah I can't imagine I know you were so upset I was and I was like you know what I'm so sorry

that was an awful to be fair I was in like year 7 so that's so young I mean you see all the older girls in year 8 you're like yeah okay let's join in

I was a coward in year 7 why did I ever do that were your things got mynical order marks and then if you got 3 you get suspended and then you got 3 suspension yes you're right I don't know what why did I ever do that did you get like were your things mine were called order marks and then if you got three you get suspended and you got three suspension

yes you're right I don't know I don't know what ours were called I got a letter sent home oh god I was a group

a group oh no mine did the year saying some girls in the year think it's cool to get order marks I was like

oh my god I think it was order marks yeah it was I thought it was cool so I'd be like I got another order mark I was such a rebel I quickly quickly dropped that oh my god, I think it was Audemars. Yeah, it was. I thought it was cool. So I'd be like, oh, I got another Audemars. I was such a rebel.

I quickly grew out of that. Oh my god, that's very funny. Yeah, but I think when we're young, we will have these weird and wonderful, like, phases that we go through. And it's definitely the older years that influence us 100%. Yeah, mine was like my sister's friend. Actually, one of her friends in particular, I thought she was really cool and she was such a terror.

So I just copy everything she did. I was like, oh, she's done that. I'll do that. No, I was like 11 she's done that i'll do that no i was like 11 doing it like am i all right god should we write dilemma time this is what we're all here for okay you ready i'm excited about this oh nice and long juicy one here hey girls i need help my best friend has had a really hard time getting a mutual friend of ours she dated last summer they decided to call it off in september as they both both wanted different things and a relationship between them wouldn't have worked she's still hung up on the

boy today and it's always a main point of conversation between us which always adds some tension to our friendship like sorry i hate it when the girl just constantly like i've been on and on and on having of similar conversations about this boy nearly every time i speak to get exhausting for me as i don't know what more there is to be said every time i have given her tough love or have said something she doesn't want to hear and she gets upset and i feel terrible then on the other hand i feel like i can't keep giving her the false hope she is holding on to because when it doesn't happen she'll be left disappointed i'm completely stuck on what to do any advice would be appreciated thank you oh my god i feel for you and i also feel for your friend a little bit because obviously she's very like infatuated and obsessing over it almost now

oh god i've never really had a friend that just bangs on and on and on and on and on yeah we have i can't think either i'm pretty sure we have yeah we definitely have both of us do you know what you've just got to be the sounding board as annoying as because they're not going to do it forever and like you're not going to lose a you don't want to lose her over it so you just have to yeah what can you say so you limit the time you see her like go out in groups and talk i know that's yeah that's really shit just make a little mini rule like just kind of say it like as a joke be like look i love you so much i want us to have a fun positive night no talking about him we're gonna forget about him

let's not talk about him he is against the rules to discuss when we're out tonight he's our friend fuck's sake more friends references but you know what i mean i think you can kind of go down that route and i feel like that's probably a less harsh way of saying it but also and then when she does bring i'll be like no no no i'm not talking about this tonight we're gonna forget about him we're gonna have a good fun girly time yeah we're gonna concentrate on other boys if we want to but we can't talk about this negative you know worry that's going on in your mind because like obsessing over it is only going to really make it worse

I feel like yeah yeah yeah you've got to do it in a nice way yeah and you go no no no no not talking about him

and you switch there yeah yeah yeah and she's not going to want to talk about any other boys yeah you make it light hearted but you have

and go out in groups because going out with her at the moment is just like not fun yeah and it sounds like it's kind of making you like you know what's annoying you're waiting for her to bring it up as well

you're almost anticipating like and you probably oh god here we go yeah it's like let's be honest you're probably like oh god you've droned on yeah yeah yeah stop banging on but we've all done it like i've done it to you you've not actually done it to me because i don't think you've ever done that to me i actually don't i actually should i lie when i'm in no you'll we'll have like one conversation about it i'm very like once you've got it's you don't repeat your it's with those people that repeat the same problem over and over and i was like we've just gone over this about 500 times i actually know someone who's doing it right now oh god i know loads of people who do this like it's such a common thing it's their therapy almost yeah and they don't want to hear it they want they want you

to just keep listening to them and giving them yeah i just like tend to stop seeing those people during that time like you just have to slowly distance yourself yeah but then you also have to think if the shoe was on the other foot and you were going through a really shitty time you do need your friend to listen to you there does become a point where it's like you are actually like like if she's been really deeply hurt yes obviously you'd be there for her but you don't have to listen to the same problem 400 times yeah because it's it is irritating like yeah no i agree yeah you've got to go down that jokey route just tell her just be straight out just definitely make sure i'd like bring you along to every dinner no i think just be straight out with

your friend like if you were doing it to me i'd be like so love you but we can't talk about him today we've got to just have another glass and she'll speak then you just go no no ban conversation yeah and if it's not then you go time girl talk whatever anything other than him yeah veto every time veto is the right yeah it is veto yeah ross and rachel when they veto the names okay and then they're like is it me or do you think veto something really good yeah hilarious okay yes i think that's what you have to do honey same i think that's a good one we've got another dilemma so my dilemma is i'm three years younger than my boyfriend and i'm still at uni because i took a gap year and he's well into his job and an adult life and wanting to move in with me sort of soon not in london as those of his mates live that with

their girlfriends i'm 22 and wanting to live with my friends in london when i leave uni end of next year so moving in with him is not on my radar at all i love him and want to be with him but i just don't want to live with him the next few years what do i do wow okay this is really interesting because i know so many girls that this happened to really yeah because i've obviously went to uni all actually like pretty much most of my group were in like quite long-term relationships like we all sort of going out started going out with guys like in first year yeah by the time we left they were sort of like and also it's like almost becomes with pride with the price of lond, it's like just a sensible thing to do. Like let's move in together.

And loads of my girlfriends, half of them were like, well, we're just going to do it because it's what we can afford. Like there's no point. What, with their boyfriends or with each other as girls? No, with their boyfriends. Right, okay. And they would share a room, but they didn't want to and they've all broken up.

Oh. And then the one, yeah, I know. And they all, well, we haven't actually openly said it, but, like, I'm pretty sure it's because they've all had that crazy year in London, sort of, after, and now they're all settled down again. And, I mean, they probably aren't really happy, I'm sure they are, but I personally, from an out-looking perspective, think that it was because they moved in and they were just like what the hell we've not had any time on our own like I think you have

to be really ready if you're having these doubts you're definitely not in the right headspace and also if he wants to go live in the countryside oh my god no well I'm not sure it might not be the countryside it could be anywhere like Gloucester that is the countryside

anything other than London really is it might not be. The countryside could be anywhere, like Gloucester, like... That is the countryside. Leicestershire. Anything other than London really is. It's not. There's City Birmingham. Oh, God, yeah, but that's miles away. It's not that far. It's an hour and a half. Stop it.

Yeah. Really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think you're just going to be so bored out of your brains. I'm not going to lie. You need to live it up in London. Yeah, and if you're not ready... If you're meant to be, you're just going to be so bored out of your brains. I'm not going to lie. You need to live it up in London. Yeah, and if you're not ready.

If you're meant to be, you're meant to be. And you'll probably have two crazy years in London. Also, you're 22. Like, you don't. Yeah, you've got enough life to live, honey. I mean, I actually. How old was I when I moved in with Harry? Probably 21.

I didn't have the whole uni experience like you did. And I obviously didn't know him then. And that was like oh um yeah so i was so ready and just like so like like happy to do it yeah like if you're having these doubts there is no way every little thing they do will piss you off and you'll be like oh i just don't want to live with you yeah it's not gonna be right like there's no right or wrong time to do it like 22 might be completely right for somebody and it might be completely wrong for other but like if you if you want to live with your friends

and it's not on your radar then that is what you should do a hundred percent you will end up presenting him so my advice is to say to him like this is something i want to do in the future but i need to like i want to live with my friends i'm not ready right now and obviously he's going to respect that and if he doesn't i mean it doesn't say his age but if he doesn't then you know hang on two years a boy doesn't have a biological clock they can chill out yeah exactly and also you're 22 you're such a young spring chicken a lot of my friends and I'm 24 they have had boyfriends for like the same like the same same length as I have yeah and they still don't live with their boyfriends and they're like i'm not ready for that and they're like i still i've still got years in left in me to live with my girlfriends i personally couldn't live with like two other

girls and share a kitchen with them and like get and then they all have their boyfriends over at once it seems like just another uni house but like in london yeah that's personally not my vibe yes oh that's why then that's why they kind of just clinging on to that and they love it and i so i'm like you know what i rate that so much but like i just it's just for you yeah i couldn't do it now but i am also nearly 27 so oh my god that's crazy what even when i met you you weren't living with oh my god no you were you know yeah i was that was a really big mistake because it was them, but just like it was, well, yeah, Mars, I love you if you're listening, but like, Jesus, that was like 400 pounds.

I just don't live with a boy, like, and that's like a boyfriend. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. My friend Ali says the same. They're just fidelity. She's like, I love them, but like, oh God, it's actually harder than you think. But they, do you know what it is? And this might just be me being an absolute loser. Like, boys stay up later than girls. Like, name me a boy who doesn't harry's can stay up so late

how do you function so much little sleep yeah he's like on his phone at 1am i'm like i'm like should we get into bed oh my god same how he's like no i'm wanting to relax on the sofa first i'm anytime to relax i'm like well it's bedtime half now i might as well just get ready to bed now yeah i just do i take that half an hour and get in bed you do bits and it takes me forever like i'm doing my like face like massage oh god all the bits yeah all the bits all the bits yeah so that's why i'm really good if you're not ready you just go and live with your girls just tell me like i want to live with you and i'm really excited to do that but i don't feel like right now is the best time you've got the rest of your life to do

that with him yeah i keep reminding myself this as well i'm like i'm gonna hopefully touch with have children in a couple of years or not maybe a couple yeah kind of yeah i know you're 27 so you know if you're like i should really be living up my life right now yeah should we move in together sack off jamie and harry okay right you know what instead of the boys complaining about something you're gonna i'm gonna complain and i am gonna complain about oh you wouldn't have had this recently i've had a free house i've got a complaint can we both do a complaint okay let's both do a complaint the constant nagging of my messiness

is actually becoming like really quite irritating well you're obviously really messy I'm fucking not and it's actually I'm like I love having this

because I think you're messy do you I actually just see you clutter I just know you are wait no no no let's talk about the clutter on this table right now

from you I know yes I know we've got a remote a candle I'm quite glad you're on the kitchen bit of juice bit of coke yeah I don't know what that's doing about the clutter on this table right now from you. I know, yes. I know. We've got a remote, a candle. I'm quite glad you're on the kitchen. Bit of juice, bit of coat. Yeah, I don't know what that's doing on the corner.

No. I brought it downstairs. Got a couple of these things, lighters or whatever they are for your candles. And the only thing of mine in here is actually my microphone I bought. Bless my little heart. What? So you're just a massive clutter. No, you know what?

I think it's because I don't have the space that you have. So when I'm... I'm actually going to space that you have. So when I'm, I'm actually going to blame you on this and this is what Harry says and I'm like, when you buy me a big house, the second bedroom, then, then you can complain.

But right now I'm like, I am sharing this area, this small area. Where is the platter? Is it on the balcony? No, it's just like, when I, it's like when I,

that's your storage. When I get ready for something, you know, I try on a couple outfits and then like the excess and i'm like oh gotta go now gotta go gotta go the excess will stay in a little little mini plan floor drip you know on the floor yeah and then you know i'll get back it'll be late that's offensive though i couldn't go out for dinner with the palm on the floor i don't have like a nice chaise longue chair in the corner to like plonk it on i would hang it up i quickly get as the uber's arriving this is what harry does harry gets back from a night out it's 2 a.m he hangs up his clothes i'm like can you not just do this in the bloody morning and we have

i tidy up i will put the glasses the rosé glasses or whatever in the additional shirt 3 a.m in the morning no do. I'm not that bad. Like I'm not like. If I don't have a snack. Which I tend to do after a night out. I'll like fully put it in the dishwasher. Turn the dishwasher on. Oh I won't.

I'll just leave it on the side. Depends how drunk I am. But like. Yeah I'm pretty much. Harry hammered. Or hang up on his face. Hammered. Like at his little trouser.

Like hanging out. Like that. Yeah because Harry's like. Gets really lit. Yeah he just like. Does it all. When when he gets home and i'm in bed sometimes so recently we've been going out quite separately because i'm like i need to see my girls you see your boys we haven't seen in ages so sometimes i'll be at home in bed fast asleep you know bless my heart and he comes in opens the wardrobe the auto like flashes on it's quite bright and i'm like god what the hell's going on i'm just hanging up my trousers on yeah can there's no way to i think that's really

adorable i kind of wish jamie did that jamie's the opposite jamie's not that messy though he's just normal he's really clean like he has a lot of showers but he's also like really i'm not going to talk about toilet habits because i just and toilet habits is a whole different yeah what he does at the moment is he like facetimes me well firstly i think the amount of times he facetimes me a day god love him is actually a bit offensive how many times is it more than i facetime you and you facetime me maybe 14 times a day i swear my life yeah about what nothing nothing nothing nothing he has the phone and he goes does sunday's in seattle i'm busy and i've just and i'll be doing a live or i'll be on the call someone and it cuts off i'll be doing a whatsapp voice note and it cuts off because he has nothing to say so that's my complaint of the week

like that's annoying if you have nothing to say and also i broke my little toe and he rolled his eyes at me and he's like that's annoying don't think just because you're some boy and i'm some girl that i'm complaining about breaking my toe i broke my toe you poor thing you're very there's nothing you can do about it how did you break it we stabbed it were you like i'm so sad there's nobody here to hear me whining yeah i also did it like just before i went into that amazing chelsea house and And Jamie was like, you haven't broken your toe. And I was like, yes, I have. It's black and blue. Oh, my God, you poor thing.

How is it now? It's painful, Marcy. Can you wear high heels? No, but do I ever wear high heels? No, but we're going to one next weekend, honey. We've got a big night out. And we can go inside, get our chests and arms and legs out. I know, it's actually quite tight quite i'm so excited for that like

to not wear a freaking coat and a scarf and a hoodie and a hot water bottle yeah and like be able to like move around just have a little boogie you know but should we rate the wine okay but you guys i don't want to be a dick but I'm going to rate this quite low I'm going to do this solid four for this I might coffee you on a four

because it's not that great but it looks really nice it's very deceiving it looks lovely the colour is fabulous and do you know what's really great

like it's not that cheap but you can get fabulous rosy for £15 that's what I mean Whispering Angels £17 I don't actually think

Whispering Angels is that incredible now I don't think it's a bit I don't think that's that bad maybe my palette's feel like it's a bit i don't think that's that bad maybe my palate's really bad i don't it's not that bad it's really dry but i quite like a dry wine with the with the thing in it's fine solid for that sorry guys okay wow so solid for we'll put the an image of it up and um let us know what you think if you disagree with us yeah if you tried it before let us know and to be honest you disagree with us. Yeah, if you've tried it before, let us know. And to be honest, I'm still really blocked up.

So whether it's the hayfew or the wine, we don't know. And to be fair, I'm quite blocked up as well. Maybe that's why it's quite acidity for me. Maybe this isn't a fair test. Don't worry, guys, don't have COVID. I've had like four tests and went and had a proper test and I'm all good, but it's definitely just a little cold. Maybe that is affecting it.

Maybe that is. Could be. Could be. So maybe this is not a fair test. If it is actually fabulous, let us know and we will give it another try if you think that it's unfairly rated for us yeah we've been able to that's i'm quite proud of us giving it a book so we moved away from me yeah i know we've been overly generous we really have we need to just be a little bit more yeah variation with our ratings but anyway guys we love you and we'll leave you and we hope

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