Weekly Motivation by Ben Lionel Scott - DON'T STOP BELIEVING

Episode Date: January 16, 2023

Become a Member for ad-free listening, video versions and exclusive content: https://benlionelscott.com/subscribe — The fight isn't over when you fall, it's only over when you quit trying to get up.

What do you do when it seems like suffering won't stop? What do you do when it feels like your pain doesn't have a point? What does it do when it feels like your weaknesses continue to worsen? You're going through a tough time. Maybe you are in a valley today that you've experienced the worst failure of your life and you are on the verge of giving up. Maybe you're here today and your marriage is on the rocks. Maybe you're here today and you're dealing with anxiety on a daily basis.

You know what it's like to be in a life. lonely dark place. You know what it's like to want to quit. You know what it's like when the pressure's overwhelming, when people expect your best, but you're at your worst. That is a moment of choice. That is a moment of decision. What will your response be? Are you going to sit back? Are you going to step up? Adversity creates the perfect moment for audacity. The real challenge of growth, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually comes when you get knocked down. Life's going to punch you right in the face. Life's going to fire you over and over again.

You're going to be told you're not good enough. Your faith is going to be tested. Your family is going to look you in the eye and say, how do we get health insurance the next month? I don't know, but I know we're going to make it. Life is hard, man. That's what it's about. If you don't work as hard as you can,

if you don't sacrifice everything, if you don't get rejected and keep coming back for more, If you don't get your loyalty tested and your faith tested, you don't love that thing if you bail out. So if you fought through all that, that's love. Even in the darkest times, even when the sun is blotted out and the world is falling apart, the darkness cannot extinguish your light, your will. No matter what is happening, no matter how hard the fight is, as long as you keep fighting, you win. Only surrender is defeat.

Only quitting is the end. Listen to me, everybody. You can't give up. You can't give in. If it was easy, everybody would do it. But if life's got you down, I need you to get up and prove them wrong. I'm unstoppable. This will not get me down.

You've got to make those kind of declarations to yourself. I have never met anybody who became incredibly successful in any area of their life. life until they had suffered and sweated and sacrificed and kept their focus and fought through tears and trials and tests. And if you have a dream and you commit to it, it will come to pass. You must have patience and engage in consistent action. We live in a world, ladies and gentlemen, where people want instant gratification. They want it right now.

No, it's simple, but it's not easy. It's a system that if you work the system, it works if you work it. But make no mistake about it. It's hard. And you are the determining factor. The people that make it in this world look around for the circumstances that they want and if they can't find them, they create them. It's you that you must take personal responsibility to make it happen. It's hard.

No easy. It's not an option. However, ladies and gentlemen, what you will discover is, it's worth it. Now listen to me, I don't care if you're sick. I don't care what you're going through. If you're not dead, he ain't three. with you yet. As long as you waking up, you're still in the game. As long as you're alive, you can still make it happen. As long as the breath in your nostril boot, you still in the game.

You still can win. Now get your butt up. It is the size of the fight in the dog. I ain't smart. I ain't never got on AIDS. But I got hearts. I got will and I go take everything I won't and can't nobody stop me. Bring on the fights and I'll match your intensity. I will That's your fight and you will not outlast me. What will you do with your pain? Will you let it break you or will you let it redefine you? When you won't want to get out of bed, at times you won't want to come out the house. It's hard living.

Life is hard. It's hard handling just the tragedies of life. It's hard. When you're working on something and you put everything you have in it, in it doesn't work out you lose your money and other people's money it's hard you will go through things and while you're going through them you can't understand why it's happening to you and it's in these moments right now that so often we feel like backing down what is it that will make it worth it for you to face the rejections what is it that will make it worth it for you to brainstorm and not be intimidated and say i

do this what is it that will make it worth it for you to raise the bar on yourself and say I've got some more stuff in me what is it I will make it for you and you want to get up and things are working against him what is it that will help you get that up again man's character is not judged after he celebrates a victory by but but by what he does when his back is against the wall so no matter how great the setback how severe You're the failure. You never give up. You're going to fail. You're going to make some mistakes. You got to fight. You will have opposition. Things going to happen to you in life. It's called life and it's not personal. Stuff's going to happen. Sure, you might lose comfort and sleep. Sure, it might be frightened. But so what? The darker the night, the brighter the morning. You will fail your way.

to six sex. It doesn't matter how many times you feel. It doesn't matter how many times people tell you that you can't do it. It doesn't matter if you don't have a dime in the boat. The thing that's causing you pain today actually has purpose in your life. Every season you can learn, every season you can grow, every challenge is developing you. That which does not kill you will make you stronger. I don't need you thinking about it no more. You're doing too much thinking. You analyze it too much. You're talking yourself out of it. I just, I just, I just, I don't know if this going to work. I try and it didn't work.

I just need you to keep moving. I need you to make up in your mind that the only way you can lose is if you quit. I just need you to keep going. Get emotional if you must. Cry if you must. Get it out. But get your butt back up after you finish crime

and put a time limit on the crime. You say, coach, I need 30 minutes. Don't take it. But when you come back after that 31 minute, you better cry. Because if you don't, you'll be stuck at that adversity for the rest of your life.

And some of you are not success. Because every single time you run up against a trial, every time you run up against a tribulation You stop and you cut off beast mode and what I'm here to tell you is if you tell that thing I'm here just like you here and I promise you I ain't leaving without the degree I will not leave without that goal I will not leave without that dream I will not leave this university until I'm successful I will not leave this job I will not leave this client I will not leave this opportunity until I get it Are you in a storm or are you just in between two miracles?

You take those terrible events in your life and you create a new story of triumph. We got to become something new. We take those traumas. We take that pain and we allow it to become a part of who we want to be. What if I told you you got everything you need to make it through your storm? This storm will not take you out. And I know you've been tired and I know it's been hurting and I know it's been life. And it might be an addiction. It may be wondering how much longer you're gonna have a job or when you're gonna get one or when this is all gonna be over

But you're not gonna die in this trial. You're gonna make it in fact you're gonna be better You see the fight's not over if you've been knocked down. It's only over if you quit if you make the decision to get up one more time I'm telling you you will win the fight that's listening That's started to go down down in that whole trapped in the chains of depression or addiction or rage. Maybe you've taken a knockdown concerning your finances lately. Maybe it's with your kids, maybe with your marriage, maybe with your health, maybe some other arena of life. You're laying on the mat, gasping, and you don't know what you're going to do.

People ask you how you are and you say fine, but you're not fine and they'll never know that. We're people. We're people and we struggle and we suffer and we believe. and we cry and if you think that true strength means never showing any weakness, then I'm here to tell you, you're wrong. You're wrong because it's the opposite. You're going to get depressed sometimes. You're going to have weeks where you don't feel like eating, where gravity is working overtime like it's afraid of getting laid off and you can barely lift your fork to your mouth, and you are going to have a choice. You have a choice to either give up or keep going. Give up or get up.

It's like you have to have. to save your own life. Nobody's going to be able to save it for you. So we have to do what we have to do what it is. We all struggle. We all know what it is to hurt. We all know what it is to have pain in our heart. And you know what? It's okay. That's just a part of life. As much as I hate, some of the parts of my life depression has dragged me down to. In a lot of ways, I'm grateful for it. Because yeah, it's put me in the valleys, but only to show me there's peaks. And yeah, it's dragged me through the dark. but only to remind me there is light. Life is not always good. Life is not always rosy.

Life is one-fled-h. When you fail, try again and again. Hold on to that fundamental quality of faith. Have faith. And on the other side of your pain is something good. It's in your adversity. The thing that comes out of you is what defines you. When life is squeam.

freezing you and pressure is on you. What's really inside of you? See, there's some people in this room right now that you need to hear this loud and clear. You need to get this in your spirit because I don't know what you're walking through, but some of you right now, you are in a tough season. An event has happened, and something's happened,

and maybe you have failed. But I want to remind you that failure is not final. It's formative. It is part of the process. It's part of the journey. Your failure matters as much as your success. How do you think you're going to grow if you don't never fail. Yet some of you have failed and you have decided, well, guess what?

I'm a failure. No, failure is an event. It is never a person. Just because you failed doesn't mean that you're a failure. In fact, failure is actually fuel for your future. The way that you grow, the way that you advance. You have to fail in order to succeed. The darker the night, the brighter the morning. This two shall pass, you're going to get through this thing. I want you look in the mirror I want you to tell yourself, I am a survivor. Listen to me, and you can get through this. I want you to speak life into that thing. Whatever it is, what's frustrating me, like, for real,

you feel like I can't go through another day like this. I can't handle it. I can't take it. Listen to me very closely. Say it with me, breathe life into whatever that thing is. Whatever your circumstances are, say with me, I can. I can't get through this. I will.

I will get through this. I must. Moments. that drive the human soul, so violently and so perplexing, that if the truth were told, all of us have had moments that we wanted to throw up our hands and walk away. It is a threat. It's full of threats.

You all know what you got till the storm breaks you. Is that everything crazy happens when you're in transition. When you look at where you are and where you've got to go and all the dangers that are in between you and your destiny, the lions, the tigers and the bears, you look at the people that fell on your right side and fell on your left side and you say, oh God, I'm terrified and I'm anxious and worried. But you will get it. You can't trust your gauges, but you will get there. You may go through some stuff. You may be betrayed. You may even be delayed, but you will get there.

That means don't let yourself go. That means don't let yourself go down. That means don't give up on yourself. That means get up out to bed in the morning with an agenda. That means keep on moving towards your goal. I don't care how long it takes. If you keep working hard, I don't know when, but it's going to pay off. You just can't lose sight.

You've got to keep looking up, and you've got to see the big picture. The difference between a winner and a loser, The failure's there every some time. It says the winner gets back up and does it again. It does it again until it goes his way. Your dream column is push. And anybody about getting your cookies and ice cream? Push!

It's a lie. It's inside. How do you know you feel it? You dream about it. You eat and sleeping every day. When people talk to you, Tom, this is what I'm going to do. So push. And you push your way to success.

You push yourself to that 4.0. You push yourself to that scholarship. You push yourself to the next level. Just push back. Push, don't quit, don't get pushed. Push! I'm still here. I've been tried, but I'm still here.

I've been burdened, but I'm still here. I've been alone, I've been frustrated, but I'm still here. I cried, but I'm still here. I will my way through every situation, every trial, every Triple A, I will my way through it. I don't care if it's cancer, I will my way through it, I don't care if I'm struggling in school, trying to get a degree. I will my way through it. I don't care if you fail the boards. Go again.

I don't care if you fell to a law exam. Go again. Will your way through it? But you know what I'm not going to do? I'm not going to quit in the process. I'm not going to give up. I'm not going to give it. I'm not going to let you take my stuff, my job, my opportunity, my life. I'm not going to let you do it. And even though I don't have nothing fancy to fight with like a degree or like a million dollars or like a bunch of friends, but I'm going to roll up what I got. And I'm going to throw it at you. I will do whatever it takes. There's going to be blood.

There's going to be sweat. And there's going to be tears. I'm not giving it up. You got to take it. And I will allow the pain to push me the greatest. You will not break me. If you want to think bad enough to go out and fight for it, to work day and night for it,

to give up your time, your peace, and your sleep for it. If all that you dream and scheme is about it, and life seems useless and worthless without it. And if you're glad to sweat for it, and threat for it, and plan for it, and lose all your terror of the opposition for it. And if you simply go after that thing that you want, all of your capacity, strength and sagacity, faith, hope and confidence, and stern for tenacity, if neither call poverty, famished a goat, sickness or pain, or body and brain, can keep your way from the thing that you want. If darken and grim, you besiege and beset it with the help of God, you'll get it.

Getting successful, it's not a magic trick. You have a say-so in that. You can decide to be rich. But you first have to think it. The difference between successful people and non-successful people is here. You have to change this. If you keep doing what you've been doing, you're going to keep getting what you've been getting. So if you're at a place in your life and you ain't happy with it, you have to change some things.

But you have to make a conscientious decision that you're going to. You're going to change. And it's not dependent on anybody else. It don't matter what your mama think. It don't matter what your coworkers think. It don't matter what your siblings think. It don't matter what your children think. It don't matter.

They have nothing to do with it. This decision is yours and yours alone. Never let anybody tell you that you can't. A lot of time as a leader. A lot of time is a business builder. A lot of time as a craftsperson. We will have an idea for a business or a product where the rest of the world says that's impossible.

And we have to be coming from a place from within where our I can is larger than our I can. You absolutely must do the interior work required where you have these fiery levels of confidence where when the world is saying, you know what, I dismiss your vision. Or that is impossible. You have to be that lone voice.

who goes, no, you know what? It is possible. And just watch me do it. I'm not going to allow anything to shake me. I'm not going to allow anything to stop me. I'm not going to allow anything to stop my happiness and my growth. You've got to live beyond reality. Even before you do it, see yourself doing it.

Even before you accomplish it, see yourself accomplishment. Your perception is everything, not just circumstances, not just situation. It's how you see it. And if you can learn to see it correctly. If you can learn to just get it. Get past the pain, get past the little hurt. And you can learn to see it properly, I guarantee you can be what you want to be. You can have what you want to have.

You can do what you want to do. Every champion has felt it. Every victorious person has felt it. The urge, you give up on your dream. I don't care if you don't have the money, and you don't have the help, and you don't have the family for it,

and you don't have the friends for it. Don't you give up on your dream, but you do it. It may take you twice as long. You may have to take courses and classes. You might not read as fast. You might not move as quick. You might not have as much. But don't you quit.

If you lay dead, even the animals won't bite. The risk of being bitten is the cost of getting up. And you have to decide, are you so concerned about being bitten that you're willing to spend the rest of your life laying dead? Or is there something pumping down inside of you that says, bite me or not? I'm getting me. up, I'm going to be the best me. I'm going to do all I can do. I'm going for it.

Anybody can do anything except in mind to. It depends on how bad you want it. With enough persistence, most things that seem impossible become possible. You just have to show up and show at so often. Time other time, you got to wake up and you got to drive. You got to be driven to go get something. than done now. You got to be willing to stand on your beliefs. Because a lot of times you're the only one who can see it. And other people, they don't see it really, but you got to really believe in what you got inside of you is telling you and driving you to a certain goal for something. The very minute that you decide upon something, you know that's what you want, you know you're

going to do it. All of these negatives that have been bothering you, they pick up their baggage and get out. They can't live in a positive mind. You have to have. You have to be a positive mind. You have, to move with courage, with faith, with determination. How difficult it is. Listen, you better put some strength in your back. Plant your feet and stand up. Don't you dare sit down. Don't you dare crumble under the weight of it.

Don't you dare give in because of the nature of it. Don't you dare go home and rape. Whatever is all right you. It's your season to die. This is not your season to squeeze. It's going to be a problem. part of your prize, a part of your product. I challenge you to never give up, never give in. And finally, guys, you gotta wanna succeed as bad as you wanna breathe.