Weekly Motivation by Ben Lionel Scott - WHEN LIFE IS HURTING

Episode Date: February 27, 2023

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We all get knocked down in every aspect of life. You're going to fall flat on your face. You're going to be criticized when you come out into the arena called light. You're going to feel awkward and stupid and dumb sometimes. But it's okay. It goes with the territory. When the defining moment comes, either you define the moment or the moment defines you. Either you define the moment you decided that you're going to not concern yourself with the naysayers.

That you're not going to concern yourself with what has happened or what hasn't happened, but you're going to make the commitment to do what you've got to do so that you can have a lifestyle that you've never experienced before. Or the moment defines you. And you decide to play it safe. In 20 years from now, you say to yourself, what if I would have taken a chance on myself? What if I would have stayed in the game?

What if I would have kept making the phone calls? What if, what if? But let me tell you something. Something amazing begins to happen when you make the decision to move forward on your goals and your dreams. And maybe you've been knocked down in your life and it seems like, hey, the fight is over. It is not over unless you quit. You have to learn to turn and look at every obstacle as an opportunity.

You've got to get gritty, man. You've got to develop some dog in you. Life is going to throw some serious blows. Some body blows and they go hurt. But I want you to feel that pain going through your body. And as pain leaves your body, that's what's going to take. His place success. No pain, no game.

Pain has a purpose. Don't go through it. Grow through it. Stop running from your pain and embrace your pain. Your pain is going to be a part of your prize. I challenge you to push yourself. When you get knocked down and you're going to get knocked down, when you run into some roadblocks and you're going to run into them,

when you have some setbacks, you can always be a lot of you can always be knocked down. You can always be able to bring yourself back in knowing if someone has done it, it's possible that I can do it. You've got to be willing to face rejection and know again and again and again. Defeat again and again and every time life knocked you down, you jump up and say, It's not over until I win. Fight your way through this battle. You have what it takes. Your greatness comes from within.

And once you realize that, nothing. will stop you. Nothing will keep you from being great. It's already there. You just have to feel it and know that you are placed here for a reason. I want what all other men want. But when the opposition hits, when the challenge hits, when the pain creeps in, when the uncertainty creeps in, when the cuts, when the scars, when the bruises come, I just want it a little bit more than they want it. If you dare to be great, if you dare to do something that you've never done before, if you dare to go to limits that you've never went to before. They will remember your legacy forever. What you become in the process is more important in the dream. The kind of person you become, the character that you built,

the courage that you develop, the faith that you're manifesting. Oh, it's something that you get up in the morning you look yourself in the mirror, you're a different kind of person. You walk with a different kind of spirit. You know it was hard, but you did it hard. And so here's what I say to you. There are going to be times that you're going to be wondering, why should I keep showing up and working? my business. Why should I keep at it? Why should I keep showing up to the conventions? Why should I keep picking up the phones and making the phone calls? Why should I keep fighting for my goals and fighting for my dreams? And what I would remind you is that you got to show up for your life regardless of the circumstances. You got to show up in spite of the naysayers. You got to show up

in spite of the conversation going on in your mind. You got to show up for your life. Because if you don't, nobody else will. You will fail. You will likely fail often. It will be painful. It will be discouraging. At times, it will test you to your very core. It will not be easy.

This is for those of you who are going through the fire. Those of you who are wondering, how can I keep going like this? Some of you have been through so much that you should have lost your mind. It's all right to fail as long as you fail forward. It's all right, but I need you to have heart because there's some things you just can't get without perseverance.

Don't think it's strange when things happen to you because every man, every woman, every boy, every girl will go through a time where your faith will be tested. You will hit something And when you do You will have a choice Many choose to turn around They feel a little pain

Then they run away But there is a small number Who decide that the pain is worth the prize They will do whatever is required To make it past this I know it's hard And I know it may look hopeless But if you just keep pushing forward

you'll see how strong you truly are when things are going bad there's going to be some good that will come from it mission got canceled good we can focus on another one didn't get promoted good more time to get better didn't get funded

good we own more of the company didn't get the job you wanted good go out gain more experience build a better resume got injured good needed a break from training got beat good Good. We learned. Unexpected problems. Good. We have an opportunity to figure out a solution.

That's it. When things are going bad, don't get all bummed out, don't get startled, don't get frustrated. No. Take that issue. Take that setback. Take that problem and turn it into something good. Go forward. If you can say the word good, it means you're still alive. It means you're still breathing. It means you've still got some fight left in you. So get up, dust off, reload, recalibrate, re-engage, and go out on the attack. I've got here, not because I'm the strongest, not because I'm the fastest, not because I'm the best. I never stopped fighting. It got harder and it got harder and it seemed the further I climb, the harder it got.

But I didn't stop, I didn't quit. I just kept fighting and fighting and fighting. let this world break you. You are stronger than what you are going through. I invested too much to quit. I made too many sacrifices to give up. We've come too far. We've been through too much. We've seen too much. We've had too many victories. We have seen defeat. We've lived defeat in the face. And we've overcome it. We've come too far to give up now. We've come too far to be negative now. We've come too far to start overthinking now. So when life happens, I'll just sit there and cry. I bought back.

I walk back I wish I could tell you It's going to get easier I wish I could tell you that If you just keep going The weight is going to get lighter I wish I can tell you that But that's not the truth

The truth is you gotta find something Within You gotta find something within And that's got to push you And that's got to elevate you And that's got to drive you And that's got to move you And when you find out what your why is

You don't hit snooze no more When you find your why You find a way to make it happen. The spirit of resiliency, the spirit of grit, it's in your DNA, it's in your blood. Overcoming is in your blood. Getting through adversity is in your blood. Your ancestors got through so much more. We will be all right. We need to focus on where we're going, not where we come from and what's happening. I just need you to keep walking toward it. I don't need you thinking about it no more. You're doing too much thinking, you analyze it too much. You're talking yourself out of it.

I don't know if this going to work. I try and it didn't work. I just need you to keep moving. I need you to make up in your mind that the only way you can lose is if you quit, I just need you to keep going. It's an opportunity to prove what you're made up. It's an opportunity to prove you are what you say you are in your head. When you look in the mirror and you say there goes a bad motherfucker, you actually believe it.

And the process is not supposed to be comfortable. So if it hurts, welcome to the big leagues. If you feel like you're under heat, praise God. If you feel like you're being pressure, praise God. But when God looks like he's pulling you back, eventually he's going to let you go. And the farther, he pulls you back. Once he releases you, boom. I challenge you to never give up.

Never give up. You're going to be here one day, but you'll never get here if you give up. If you give in, if you quit and finally, guys, you've got to want to succeed. be as bad as you want to. The thing that you didn't ask for happens in your life in the shifting season. You can find yourself stressed out. You can find yourself depressed, mentally fragile because of the experiences,

the turbulence that you have gone through. I don't care how good you are, don't care how talented you are. There's some times when things aren't going to go right. And you have to deal with it. you can experience enough pain in life that he can clobber you to the ground and you believe you can't do it.

You believe that this is it for you. No, it's not. Setbacks will happen when they do. It's okay to cry. It's okay to go home. But eventually, you have to get over it and move on. You don't have to force yourself or motivate yourself to think negatively.

To be depressed. To hate somebody. to want revenge, you want to get back at somebody, to beat yourself up over the head, to feel loaded with guilt. You don't have to make any effort to do that. Your mind is on automatic. It will do that by itself.

But if you want to begin to move into your own personal greatness, if you want to begin to really enjoy a happy, successful, healthy life, you've got to be willing to go against the tide. You've got to be willing to harness your will. And say, in spite of this, I'm in control here. I'm not going to let this get me down. I'm not going to let this destroy me. You want it.

And you're going to go all out to have it. I challenge you to see your problems as a great thing. I challenge you to start being thankful that you have the opportunity to grow, get stronger, get more focused, get more skilled, and kick more ass because of every hardship you face. You need to make it a habit to start every fucking day. validating yourself because life is a marathon. And this might be a challenging leg where you're like, I'm just going to throw in the towel. I'm not going to do that thing.

Hell no. You've got to focus on you. And as you convince you, as you sell yourself, every day, every day, you will begin to see a difference in the things that you're doing. Telling yourself every day, here I go again. And I got what it takes. This is my day. And nothing out here is going to see.

Stop me. My back is up against this motherfucker. Every day, and I got to go that way. And I'm going to give a fuck who is in front of me, and I can stop me. We turn tragedy into triumph. That's what lions do. Lions don't cry. Lions don't give up.

Lions don't quit. Lions hunts. That's what we do for a living. When you are a true hunter, you don't go by time. You go by the gazelle. You hunt until you get a gazelle, and you don't stop until you get one. It's hot than hell. You got to fortify yourself and say, come on with it.

I've got to step into it. Just find an excuse to win. Keep going to go. If you're going to be successful in this game, you got to have a dog within you. You got to know it's a dog fight, and you got to go get that fight. Life ain't going to be easy. Ain't nobody going to hand you nothing. You still got to go to work.

You still got to compete against everybody in your industry. Life's still going to happen. Why are you trying to blow up? I want to know what the fuck I'm made of. I'm made up. I want to know what I can overcome and I know from experience that the harder the task to overcome the more strength I'm going to gain from it. When you get to the point where enough is enough when you get to the point where it hurt real bad when you get to the point you can't take it no more when you get to that point doors start opening

opportunity start happening but what you cannot do is you cannot quit doing the process you cannot give up because it ain't what you see. You cannot give up. These are the days that test your fortitude. They test your endurance, your grit, your dedication, your determination, your mental toughness, your character at the very moment when everything in you wants to do absolutely nothing, when you'd rather die than send another email or take another phone call or talk to another human, you've got to get the job done. You got to tell life, I don't know who you've been dealing with, but you ain't dealt with me. You got to tell bankruptcy.

You got to tell divorce. You got to tell sickness. I don't know who you've been dealing with. But you come up against the wrong one this time. You can be and do whatever you want, and nobody can stop you. Nobody can stop you but you. There's a journey that takes place in your career, in your life.

Every transformation always gets worse before it gets better. It's supposed to be that way. The journey you're embarking on It's not an easy path It's not for the ill-hearted Or the weak nature It's for the strong people And before you embark on this journey

Mentally you have to prepare yourself for it No one's going to get worse before it gets better Throughout your journey people are going to deny you People are going to reject you Your journey makes you want to cry Your journey puts you sometime in dark places Where you feel like nothing is going to do right for you Nothing's going to be right.

People are going to take you places that you've never been before through heartache, through pain, through so much shit to make you want to quit your journey. When you embarked this journey, you must know that it's going to go down before it comes up. But when it comes up, it's going to go so much higher than you've ever been. Sacrificing today for tomorrow's betterment. But if you didn't know that, you didn't prepare for that, you think something's wrong. Maybe it's time to stop. No, it's time to move free and further.

You have to be equipped mentally to endure this process, knowing what you're about to go, into a step one, knowing it's an uphill battle, but a winnable one and one that's achievable. It's up to you to push past the pain, because on the other side of pain is glory. It's rejoicing. It's happiness. It's winning. It's succeeding. You got to understand with no pain, it's no progress. You don't go through something, but you won't get nothing. And you choose whether or not that journey is going to hurt you or make you stronger. I remember so many times I wanted to quit. I wanted to turn around.

I wanted to stop. I wanted to go back and go back to what I used to be. You got to push you that shit. You got to tell yourself that no matter what, no matter what gets in my way, I'm going. I'm going to keep moving. I'm going to keep winning.

I'm going to keep surviving. It's everything that you want because you went through that pain of that journey that felt like you wanted to just knock you now and say, you know what? can't do it. Understand that it's going to be trials and tribulation. There will have storms, but they will have sunshine after the rain. But that depends on you. And how bad do you truly want? Nothing in life will hold you back. If you trust in yourself, if you trust in the process.

At the end of this race, guys, you're going to be more capable. Through that effort, builds the character the person you want to be at the end. Accept that. Pressure does most people in. weight of what it feels like to want to be successful every single day and over. It's just too much pressure. People crack. You got to persevere.

You must insist that this is going to happen. You got to get in there and keep fighting. You got to be constantly at it. Everybody got to develop some dog in them. You got to say, I'm going to hang in. in here now. I'm going to hang in here. I'm going to keep going. I'm going to stay with it no matter what. At the very end state, what really wins it isn't the potential of a person. It's the perseverance, the heartbeat of a person. That heart doesn't stop. The heart doesn't go nine to five and then shut

down. It's always beating. Just like a true champion doesn't just exist in the arena, but exists everywhere Or else too. Those moments and inches that are won at the final hour that make or break a win or loss aren't discovered there. They're discovered through thousands of hours in the training lab. When no one's watched, do you get up and run at 5 in the morning when it's pouring down rain? It's a person of character that values who they are. There's no half that's here, half that's there, and then when it matters, oh, I'll give it my all. It doesn't work that way. Everyone wants it, but somebody wants it more.

Where does all the great shit that we have in our lives come from? It all comes from people who, in the face of massive adversity, decide that they're going to move forward regardless. They're going to make the thing that they want to happen, happen no matter what anybody says, no matter how many times they get laughed at, no matter how many times they get called crazy, No matter what, they are going to make this happen.

We have the ability to make the choice to be the person who rises above the sh- If you keep making the choice, to take the things that have happened to you and turn them into good, productive things. There is no way that you cannot be successful. None of us ever get through this life without heartache, without turmoil. We're all going to fail at something. Everyone's failed at something. Life is a trial. And trials are never supposed to be easy.

Life is hard. It's hard handling the tragedies of life. When you're working on something and you put everything you have in it, in a dozen words. out you lose your money and other people's money. It's hard. It is okay to be scared. It is okay to cry. But giving up should not be an option.

And it doesn't matter how you get knocked down in life. Because that's going to happen. All that matters is that you've got to get up. Because when you fail, you get up and then you fail and then you get up and that keeps you going. That's how humans are strong. Failure is an option, but giving up is not. Find a way. If you believe and you have faith and you can get knocked down and get back up again

and you believe in perseverance as a great human quality, you find your way. You've got to have that resiliency over and over again. You got to make a commitment to keep stepping up to the plate and swinging for the fence. Every day, whenever you do what you do, swing for the fences. Understanding when you swing for the fences, sometimes you'll miss. Did you know Hank Aaron had twice as many strikeouts as he had home runs? But he kept swinging for the fences. Most times he missed, but when he hit it, he knocked it out the park.

When it's your shot to do what you do, keeps swinging, and keeps driving. Change is going to happen in your life. Setback and set back to you. Setback is about to happen. But a setback is nothing by the setup for combat. The champions, it's not the potential, it's not the genetics. It's a perseverance, always show up, always willing to fail, because then failure, that's part of success. Success is not a marathon life with just ups.

Success is normally through failures, through facing your fears, through falling down and getting back up. That's what creates the champion.