Weekly Motivation by Ben Lionel Scott - WHEN YOU FEEL DEFEATED

Episode Date: February 16, 2023

Become a Member for ad-free listening, video versions and exclusive content: https://benlionelscott.com/subscribe — This episode is spoken by David Goggins, TD Jakes, Eric Thomas, Ed Mylett. You can see more of David Goggins at instagram.com/davidgoggins, TD Jakes at instagram.com/bishopjakes, Eric Thomas at instagram.com/etthehiphoppreacher, Ed Mylett at instagram.com/edmylett. The music is Lines of Infinity by Ninja Tracks. You can see more of Ninja Tracks at twitter.com/ninjatracks.

We all think about quitting when shit's hard. It's hard to process information during pain because that pain takes over and you can't think rationally. You're thinking about fight or flight, save yourself. That's not a rational thought. It's not a thought that's going to get you through hard times. When you quit, your mind says, we're done. So it doesn't expand. There's no expansion when you quit.

you will not find toughness in a comfortable environment. The only way you find it is to drown yourself in a position where you're just out of sorts, where you can't swim and you're drowning. You're drowning in life. You're now, like, I got to get out of here. You're in fighter flight. It's cold. I can't be cold this long.

And then this is with that one second decision comes in. You forgot every reason why you wanted to be there. All you want to do is go back home. You want the warmth. You may want something to eat. All those things of comfort are there in that one second. What you have to do in that one second is say, you know what, ma'am? F*** that.

I'm going to figure out how to backstroke or something. It's about gaining control of your mind, putting things back in the proper perspective, and then saying, I really do want to be here. I'm going to have a bunch of these one seconds. And I have to learn to control these. Because if I fail one of these one seconds, I would not be a doctor. I would not be a lawyer. I would not be whatever the fuck it is.

When you say, fuck you, this sucks, I'm drowning, I'm miserable, I'm suffering, I'm broken, but I'm not going anywhere. What happens to your mind, it says, fuck, he's not leaving. So we got to expand. We got to grow. We got to figure this fucking thing out. These compartments in your brain, they have to work. And then you start to engage parts of your mind that you've never engaged before. When you're in suffer mode and you say, I'm not going to quit.

You're forcing your brain now to operate. On a level, it's not used to, but then it becomes used to it. If you want to take the fucking island, burn the fucking boats. When you burn the boats, you tap into a level of drive, determination, and courage that you may have never experienced before. You become un-fucking stoppable. You are not any further than where you are right now, because you have never thrown your whole self at anything in your life. I have never met anybody who became incredibly successful in any area of their life until they had suffered and sweated and sacrificed and kept their focus and fought through tears and trials and tests. And if you have a dream and you commit to it, it will come to pass.

And you think greatness goes on sale, but true quality never goes on sale. Greatness costs what it costs. You gotta pay a price. There are no discounts to success. Only grind, only hard work, only perseverance, only sweat, blood, and tears. 50% of women are showing up for the fight. The fight is half over when you show up. You'll never win a fight you don't show up for.

I am fool hiding in the shadows for fear that I might fail. I'm showing up for the fight. Here I am, ready for duty. I'm gonna face this head on and let the chips fall where they may. You don't learn how to flourish under fire, you won't flourish at all. In fact, many times the greater the opposition, the closer you're getting to your goal. Dream they're fertilized, not in nice, convenient places, not when everything's going well. It's in the stinky places.

It's in the rough places that dreams are fertilized. So if you avoid the stinky places, you're avoiding the very fertilization of the next moon in your life. It may take a long time, but if you just keep it, doing right. If you just stand your ground and be dedicated. If you keep going right, you can lose weight, you can go back to college, you can get your doctorate, you can overcome anything. And whatever it takes, I'm going to pay the price, I'm going to do it when things go right, I'm going to do it when things go wrong, I'm going to do this, I'm going to be consistent. You can count on me, I'm going to show it every day. I'm going to make a little dent in it

every day. I'm going to hit it every day. I'm going to chop it every day. I'm going to swing every day. You can count on me to take action. You have to be intentional. You have to be obsessed. This has to be something that's just infectious. So when people get around you, it emanates and there's an energy, and there's like, this person's just going to wield this to happen. Our obsessions become our possessions.

So if you want to become great, you've got to let go of everything but that dream. Anybody can dream it, but you'll never see it until you're willing to be committed to it. You've got to have your back against the wall and give yourself no way out. Because when it's due or die, you'll find a way to do it. hits the brown at one point. The question is, who gets back up? Failure is part of success. Someone who changed a title and everyone tries to chase that title.

They never get the title. And why? Because they're chasing the title. The title is nothing. There's nothing there. It's not the materials. It's the individual that created a title. You've got to study the character.

And when you study the character, you'll see failure everywhere. You'll see some dark hours, man. But of all it just fell apart. Why didn't it? The belief of the individual. True, as with where he's going. Kept his eyes focused on horizon.

Didn't get carried away with all the ups and downs and the bullshit battles of the daily. It said, are you on a journey of betterment, moving somewhere in some progressive state? Are you moving or are you sat down? And giving in, throwing in a towel. Resting on what you had. I'm willing to take that risk.

The thing is, everyone that's done it, and achieved it a million times over before they finally got it. Failure and setbacks. People quitting, chargebacks, flunking the exam. That's all going to happen. Just get ready. You're going to have false start after false start. Get it going, then you don't. Get it going, then you don't.

Don't give into that stuff. Don't give into the fears. Don't give into the setbacks. You're going to have failure. It's part of the game. And when you get weak, when someone quits, when an appointment cancels, when some Yahoo tells you shouldn't be doing this, and you're not good enough, or there's something better, whatever they tell you,

you remember why you're doing it. You've got to have a permeating attitude that you're going to win. You've got to have a positive outlook. You've got to be optimistic. You've got to know you're going to win. Right now you've got to say, I'm going to win. I'm going to win. My life is going to win.

There's going to be a victorious life here. Because listen to me, the price you pay for losing here is too extreme. You have to carry the burden of failure the rest of your life. The people in life that win play offense, not defense. Stop backing into everything. Stand up. Bow your back a little bit. Start to walk a little different.

Start to be that best version of you. You can do it in your quiet way. You can do it the way you do it. But somehow they got to look at you and go, okay, I won't monkey with that one. You're going to have to put up with some rejection. You've got to put yourself in an uncomfortable place. Listen to me. Do it.

Put yourself in an uncomfortable place. Don't negotiate it. Don't try to navigate it in your head. Negotiation you will lose. Unrealistic people rule the world. Quit trying to be so damn realistic. Remember this. Weird, rich, normal, poor.

You got to get a road dog in you. You got to rise up. You've got to make your dreams of reality and live a damn masterpiece.