Well with Arielle Lorre - 139: Wellness Check! Health Updates, Life Hacks, Combatting Stress & More with Brian

Episode Date: November 10, 2021

In this episode my producer Brian and I are taking listener questions and discussing our current states of wellness. I explain what has been going on with my health lately, how I get myself out of a rut, current wellness tools and how I sift through the recommendations guests give on my podcast to find what is right for me. We also discuss personal and professional goals, how we let go of what others think of us and so much more.   www.OshenSalmon.com with code BLONDE for 15% off your first purchase. www.AthleticGreens.com/blondefiles for your free 1-year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. www.Helloned.com/BLONDE for 15% off plus a free De-Stress Blend Sample with every order over $40. www.Arrae.com with code blondefiles at checkout for 10% of one-time purchases or 25% of first month on subscription.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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From how to achieve optimal health and well-being to the best beauty tips and everything in between, no topic is off limits. I know there is so much information out there, so I'm here to help you navigate it all and live your best life. Thanks for listening. Let's get into it. All right. All right.

Welcome back. It's been a while. Welcome back. Brian, this is a lot. our third attempt at this podcast. Last one was my fault. I had a crisis with my dog and had to sprint out the door. Sorry about that. Yes. I think the first time we tried this, it was kind of both of our faults, mainly me. I think you would have persisted had I not been like so just out of it. I was trying. I wasn't crushing it or anything. Yeah. But you were doing. Okay. Last time you had a little bit of a

dog crisis and this time we're going to see how this goes. It's a little early. Tie game. Tie game. I don't know. I think you're kind of winning. So. let's see. Really? It's so early. Well, okay, how about we lead out with this? Because we're taking it from the top here. Yes. What's been going on with your health lately? Because it's been unclear to me at least, and it seems like you're a bit of a mess sometimes with all due respect. So how are you feeling? What's going on? Thank you for that. Love that for me. Yes, I have been a bit of a mess. Sometimes I am going to try to condense this down and not take up the entire episode. But it kind of started with the whole foot thing. That kind of set into motion a bunch of things. And I feel like after that my health just

kind of unraveled in really weird ways. I think part of that has to do with medication that I was put on for my foot issue, which I won't get into. I don't want to scare anybody if they're taking this or anything like that. It wasn't super dramatic. I just seemed to have some bad side effect. And subsequently when I tried to go off the medication, it got nightmarish. So I've been dealing with like neurological issues, tremors, terrible brain fog, which is why this should be interesting, debilitating anxiety. I also like I talked about in my episode with Dr. Aviva Ram, which I'm sure you don't want to get into.

I had like a two month long period. So that was very taxing on my body. The science is interesting if you have anything to add there. The science of it? Yeah, how do you have a two-month period? Oh, I mean, totally beats me. I went to my OBGYN. She said everything looked great. She said it was just my PCOS acting up. But I think that what must have happened was the stress that my body has been under with this other health stuff that's been going on just caused my reproductive hormones and my whole cycle to kind of go AWOL. And I've had that experience in the past where I've dealt with other health issues. like gut issues and as a result, my period and my cycle has gone out of whack, which I get into in episodes about women's health. I'll spare you today, Brian. But it was just a lot at once. And I know I was a little bit vague about it on Instagram just because I didn't know what was

going on, but it was really to the point where I couldn't function and it was very scary there for a while. So hopefully I'm coming out on the other end. But that's kind of what I've been going through. It's good to hear you seem a little, I don't know, more together today. This is terrible afraid. I'm going to redo that one. No, no, you got to keep this in. People need to hear how savage you are. But what have you been doing to get yourself out of it? Like, what is your current health routine? I know this comes up on almost every episode, but it's kind of changed day to day because it's been like a total crapshoot. Every day I can wake up feeling different.

But I have been pulling out all of the wellness tools in my toolbox and kind of seeing what sticks. And really for me, I think the best things that I've been doing are different techniques to manage my stress. And we talked about this on the last time we tried to record this. But I am working with somebody who said, you can do all of the wellness things. you can take all the tinctures and you can eat all the clean foods and meditate and all of that, whatever. But probably the most important thing that I'm going to do for myself throughout this

entire thing is focus on reducing stress. And we all know that, but it's so hard to do. And especially right now with holidays coming up and so much going on with work, I think that also has added to it. So, you know, I'm still doing my meditation and I've added a lot of breath work into the mix, which has been very helpful. I have added a cold plunge, which I feel like kind of shocks my system in a good way and helps alleviate stress in a kind of interesting way. It kind of makes you feel like if you can do that, everything else you go through during the day is not that bad if that makes sense. And I think just I saw this question that somebody asked, I don't know if this is what you were referring to, but like how to get out of a rut.

And I have been in such a rut. And I think the most important thing for anybody listening who might be struggling with anything, whether it's health or work related or just personal, the most important thing to remember is that actions precede feelings. Like if I'm in a rut, I can't think myself into feeling better. I have to act myself into feeling and into thinking better, if that makes sense. Right.

So kind of taking contrary action, you know, doing something with a friend. If I feel like staying in bed or isolating, those kind of things help. And sometimes like coming in to podcast or doing something for work where it's not what I necessarily want to do just to kind of get me out of myself and like thinking about how shitty I feel is super helpful. So what do you do if you're in a rut? Oh my God. Are we talking about stressed out from work?

Savage. Yeah. Yeah, I do some of that. No, I've been getting a lot more disciplined about exercise and not eating trash all the time. The past week, I've been eating trash all day long because I was without a refrigerator briefly. But, yeah, I was just in the moving process. What is trash for you? Genuine trash, like muffins and anything that doesn't eat refrigerate.

Yeah, but when you don't have. salmon and things to back it up. It's a little hard to justify. I think you've been producing wellness podcasts for too long. I don't know. I feel the difference at least. I feel like trash when I do that. But to your point on the previous take that no one has heard or will here probably. Ever. I did get back on athletic greens and that seems to be helping. It does kind of like you sort of like feel all the dents in your body fill back out. Like you can actually feel the vitamins sort of replenishing all the things you're missing. That's nice. It does kind of give you that little, like, healthy buzz, I feel like.

Yeah. And this is not product placement, by the way. I don't know if they're advertising on this show. I think they are advertising on this episode. But, yeah, I was actually going to ask you, since you've been producing wellness podcasts, you have mine and you have a couple other ones, do you have any wellness hacks or, like, wellness tips that you've incorporated into your life? Sort of. Yeah. Most of them would probably have come from Dr. Will Cole.

because he addresses a lot of gut issues and things, and that's something that I also deal with a lot. I find there are some interesting ingredients like marshmallow root and slippery elm and these things that I never would have discovered had I not read his book. And I think the main one, though, is, and I need to get back into this,

it really seemed to help a lot, is the intermittent fasting. I was never religious about it exactly, but, you know, I would go a week at a time, or time-restricted eating maybe is the better way to, put that is that, you know, I'd eat between sort of a six-hour window during the day and the rest of the time. I felt a lot better because nothing seems to like sit very well. But it feels nice. I get a lot of my energy back and I ready to take on the day when I do that. Yeah, yeah, I find it

really helpful. Yeah. I kind of go back and forth with it. I never really intentionally do it. And I think we actually talked about this in Aviva, Dr. Aviva Rums episode as well. But a lot of the studies around intermittent fasting have been done on men. And so it can be really beneficial for men, whereas for women, again, that added stress that your body endures if you're hungry, can really mess with your hormones if you already have a hormone imbalance or if you are susceptible to that. Whereas for other women, it's probably great. So during the pandemic, it was funny. I felt like I was in the best shape of my life, even though we were kind of being lazy, but I was walking a lot and we would eat dinner at five o'clock. I kid you not. We started eating at like six

and then five 45 and then 5.30 and then five. And so I would have dinner at five, maybe have some chocolate or dessert or whatever at 530. And then that was it. And then the next morning I would eat at like 10 o'clock. So I was really intermittent fasting. Kind of unintentionally. Did you feel good? Yeah, I felt good. I was very lean. That's another issue I've been dealing with, like not to get into But I gained 10 pounds in the last four to six weeks. I know I'm still petite, but I think it's another side effect of the medication that has been like, what? On behalf of the entire world, nobody has noticed. I notice.

I think a lot of it is water retention, but yeah, maybe it will cut that part because nobody wants to complain about that, which I'm not complaining. But there have been so many weird symptoms. And again, I'm not going to get into it. But I think I said this in the last episode. Like, I just have so much sympathy and respect for people who deal with chronic illnesses, whether it's autoimmune or whatever kind of illness, even if it's like a mental illness, these kind of invisible illnesses, too, that people don't really see.

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So be prepared to be obsessed. Check out lipstick on the rim wherever you get your podcast. What's like the number one thing that you do for wellness each day? That makes a big difference. you're a wellness god i'm drinking an energy drink in front of you right now i i feel really kind of okay wait gross describing my wellness planning this is what you're telling me about on the episode that we can't right it's called c4 superhuman performance frozen bomsicle that's the flavor yeah it's just astronomical amounts of b vitamins and things like that what is frozen bomsicle tastes that's a great

question. Like, you know, if you get Gatorade, it tastes like blue. Sort of that same idea. Can't exactly hone in on a real flavor. I'm looking at the ingredients. I don't even know. This is so interesting. No calories, no fat, no sodium, no carbs, no protein, no sugar. 30 milligrams of niacin, 250% of your daily value of vitamin B12. Yeah, so it's like a B12 blast. Yeah. Interesting. So that is not my wellness. No judgment. Yeah, it's a great way around the more sugary ones. But why do you drink it for energy?

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. And it doesn't make you like crazy jittery or anything like that. No, I have such a high threshold for everything like that. I mean, this is another one from the other episode, but I could wake up in the morning and take three Benadryl. It doesn't really seem to affect me very much where other people would be crashing and flying off of bridges and things. Yeah, I told you, Benadryl completely knocked me out. when nothing else did when I was in Greece.

Blessing. That's a great product. I would, I think I would probably have a heart attack if I drank your C4 energy. I am so sensitive to caffeine. Like I had maybe half a cup of macha this morning and I am like buzzing. Every muscle in my body is buzzing. Yeah, this might actually kill you. I'm actually starting to feel a little bit jerry today over this.

What was that drink called? I don't know if they still make it like red line. Was that something? You're not thinking of Red Bull, are you? No, not Red Bull. I think it was called Red Line. Maybe like 10 years ago. Red stripe is the closest I can think of it.

Hold on it. Because this was like cocaine in a bottle. Yeah, Red Line. I don't know if they sell it anymore. I want to see how much caffeine was in it. I remember when I got sober, like not permanently, but after I went to rehab once, everybody was super into the energy drinks.

And I drank like a Red Bull. And then I went to dinner with a couple. people and I drink a red line before. And I was like, like talk about tremors. I mean, thought I was going to die. Yeah. If there is anything funny about addiction, it's how badly everyone needs sugar after the fact. Sugar and caffeine and nicotine. So it's like gummy bears and skittles in your pockets and stuff. It's so weird. When I finally got sober this last time, I was in rehab for Easter. and I just remember like I had a really bad day and I just laid in bed all day and ate all the chocolate. I mean like pounds of chocolate. It was so disgusting. I felt so terrible. Oh my God. Okay. We're like way off on a tangent here.

Yeah. Since we're in outer space, we might as well change the subject here. Okay. What are some long and short term goals of yours? Let's say health goals for now. Okay. I was hoping you weren't going to ask me that. But my health goals right now would be, or at least in the next, I don't know, whatever amount of time. Three to five years. Three to five years. That's a long time frame for health goals. My immediate health goals are really to really get a handle on stress. I feel like it is finally to the point where it's like completely wreaking havoc on my body. body. I feel like this is kind of my rock bottom. And I always talk about having to be a rock bottom person before I'm willing to change. I've been there with exercise. I've been there with dieting. I've been there with gut health where, you know, things have just gotten so bad that then I really have to make lifestyle changes. And I feel like with stress, I've always been like, yeah, yeah, stress is not good. I'm going to meditate. That's it. And then like blaze through my day and take on so many

projects and just be absolutely buried. And I feel like I really can't do that anymore. Like, it's really not sustainable. So yeah, that would be a big goal of mine. Do you have any kind of plan for that? Yes, I'm hiring two people. So if you're listening to this, I'm hiring an executive assistant full time and a part-time social media manager who can do like strategy and posting on like TikTok and just all of the stuff that I don't have time. to manage, but having a full-time assistant because I have like a part-time VA right now, I think that'll make a huge difference to delegate. And this is another thing we talked about on a canned episode, but saying no, I have to start saying no. I feel like for whatever reason this

year I said yes to everything. I think it was because at the beginning of the year, I was deciding whether or not to continue with school. And I decided I have so many opportunities coming to me with my career that I have to put all of my energy there. And when I did that, I like came out guns blazing and I just said yes to everything. And I did have some great opportunities come and I got to do some really cool partnerships and stuff. And I'm not saying that I don't want to do that, but I really have to be more intentional because I just, it's like an energy suck. I don't have anything left for myself or the people in my life. So that's another thing. What about you? It's good to hear. Stop drinking C4.

Yeah. I think we're saying. similar in that. I like to crash into the ground and absolutely lose my mind before I make any sort of change for real. I just have ideas floating around in my head for months and months on end. Long-term health goes, yeah, I mean, I'm working on it. I'm starting to go to the doctors and actually do more official things, find out what is wrong with me and so speculating and making changes based on that. I don't know. You know, I always try to wean myself off of, it's a constant back and forth between head pain, stomach pain, so I'm trying to get myself off of the constant influx of excedrin and all of the other pills I'm taking regularly, that would be nice for me.

It's hard to say because I don't exactly know what's wrong yet, but I guess that sort of brings me back to the short-term goals is just to get everything diagnosed and know exactly where to go from there. What do you do for your health? I mean, so do you work out? Do you meditate? Work out? Yeah.

Yes. Yeah, I'm a weights guy. I'm, I really, it's frustrating for me to have to do any amount of cardio at all, but I've been better about it. I'm doing what a 30-something-year-old person does, and I'm checking the steps and all of that sort of thing to make sure I'm moving at least. I found one good technique is just to get a dog, so then you have to do it or else they'll nag you all day. Yeah. It's like your psyche out loud, just going like, get up right now, walk around the block. That's kind of useful.

I have to say, I was never a step counter. But something that I started doing, I started feeling really terrible when I was in New York in September. And I found that the only thing that helped was walking, which you do a ton of in New York. You have to walk everywhere. And so I was getting like well over 10K steps a day. And it just helped because I had so much residual anxiety that it like just kind of helped to shake that out. And I pretty much kept it up almost every day since I've been back. And it's been so helpful.

It's kind of an arbitrary number. I don't know why they picked 10K and it's easy to get obsessive over. Like I know there are people who are like, I only have 9.2. So I'm going to walk around my house until I hit 10. That's what I do. That's what you do? Yeah. It's absurd.

So do you get 10K steps a day? It works. I go more by month because I know during the week it's going to be harder. But on the weekends, you know, I'll easily 15. thousand whatever it is between errands dog going insane and all kinds of things but yeah it's helpful silent walks are where it's at i never thought to do it silently that's smart although if you're listening to this podcast and walking that's great too yes keep doing it oh boy this is you're not going to like this one either is that the one yeah so i'll put it on you first where do you see yourself in

you probably should have mentioned that. We are using listener questions and trying to weave them in. That's why it sounds a little erratic. But where do you see yourself in the next five or ten years? Are there still goals that you're working towards? Yes. I mean, I hope so, but they must be like pretty out there. This is such a hard question for me to answer because I am such like a one day at a time,

as cliche as that sounds. And I do have kind of overarching goals, but it's hard to say exactly. what they are. I'm not like, I want to have this accomplished by this date. I mean, one of my goals, obviously, is to continue to grow the podcast. You know my numerical goals. Love to hear it. Which I won't share on here. And that is something that I do want to focus on more next year. I feel like with so much work on Instagram, it's been hard to put all of the energy that I want to into the podcast. So I'm kind of shifting from Instagram to this because I just love this medium. Like, it's just so much more authentic.

I mean, there's only so much you can say and do on Instagram, but you have to keep that up, obviously, to have, like, the audience. But anyway, that's kind of a goal. I would like to move into product. That's maybe a good, like, five-year goal. I don't want to do it too quickly. Do you have any sense of what kind of, are you talking about, like, high fashion? No.

Or, like, merch? No, no. I'll tell you off mic. So that would be another goal. The health goal plays into that as well, just delegating more, being able to be more intentional with what I'm doing with my work and having more time to focus on myself and my relationships and like traveling and doing things that I enjoy versus just constant content creation, which is draining a F. Yeah. Yeah. What about you? Oh, God. I actually put together a really comprehensive word document every year of goals that I want to break down.

I love that for you. Like by section, like finances, travel, miscellaneous, like good things to do in the world. I love that. You're like a manifester. Yeah. Traveling is really the thing. It's not an interesting answer. It's not a unique answer.

But it's something that I just can't seem to make happen no matter what. Like I have the means to do it. I have unlimited time off. if I choose to take it and I just can't seem to get away because I think we have a similar mindset and that I just work before my existence. I have such a good idea because that's one of my things too and it's such like a banal answer like oh I want to travel the world. Blond files podcast tour. Okay. I've seen the stats. We know where the cities and the we're big in Australia, right? Some places in Europe. Yeah, we could get away with it. Austria, Canada.

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being home and, like, getting a tree. Normally we don't do that because we're going somewhere. But we don't do, like, huge family gatherings. My family is very spread out. So I'm going to go see them in the beginning of December. But for the holidays themselves, I think it'll just be Chuck and I and like maybe a couple other people. So not super stressful. The stressful thing for me about holidays, and I'm sure people listening can relate and you as well, it's the end of your crush with work.

So many deadlines, so much to do, so many loose ends to tie up, whatever. It's always just crazy no matter what. So that's where the anxiety comes in. The holiday is the fun part. What about you?

I'm with you on that one. I mean, we're in the same boat. I'm going to make you send in episodes early because we're shutting down. Sorry. I forgot about that. By the way, I meant to tell you, you're going to have to send those in. Something like that.

Probably three we could get away with. So I'm going to have to get all those done before the break as well. I think we shut down for two weeks or something. Hold on. I need it like a paper bag. Yeah. So how about being sober during the holidays? You tell me.

I'm not sober during the holidays. I know I wanted to ask what your holiday situation is like. If anything, that's when I do the drinking. I'm not much of a day-to-day drinker anymore. It used to be at least a weekend thing and now I'm trying to stop that because it just feel like trash all the time. It's mostly a fun experience because around the holidays I get to be home and I actually get to have a beer with my grandpa and stuff, which always still feels weird.

Why? No matter how old you got. Oh, just because he's your grandpa? Yeah, just the age difference and seeing my parents drink because my parents are the kind of people that led me to believe they didn't drink for almost my entire life until I became of age and then they're cracking open beers after dinner all the time like normal people. I feel like that's kind of the fun drinking though. It's like not to romanticize it, but the holiday drinking is festive. Yeah, it's nice. The holiday party is great. Like the work one is fun.

Yeah. I don't know. A lot of people asked me tips for staying sober during the holidays. I don't know. I don't I mean, there's so many good non-alcoholic spirits and beverages out there now. Like, you know, toast, T-O-S-T. They have a really good. They have the champagne, like a sparkling. I think it's sparkling. They have a rosé. And then this other brand Optimist, they were actually on the podcast.

They have a really good one. I know Cidlip has a really good one. So sometimes it's just like the habitual, like the feeling of having something in your hand. it's not so much the it's like the ritual of it. So I think you can kind of replicate those rituals with non-alcoholic beverages. And if you're in a situation

where you know it's going to be really stressful or it's like a work party and you want to stay sober, but you know it's going to be really hard. Maybe you just pop in and pop out. Try to have some boundaries around it. Yeah, that's fair. It's so weird to think that the alcohol industry

is sort of leading the way in making these healthy changes. Like the Seltzers and things, so wild. Five years ago, you would never think that the world would all be drinking hard seltzers instead of beers and things. And it feels so much better. You know, I kind of feel bad that I never got to experience it. I know. I'm sorry. I don't mean to like sell it at you. It's okay. I'll live. I like Chuck the other day at some commercial came on and it was for bourbon. And he went,

and I was like, what's wrong? And he said, just that there's bourbon out there that I never got to try. What an interesting choice. Not to make sobriety sound bad. It's like these fleeting thoughts that happen once in a while. Obviously, you don't act on them, but. Yeah, there's almost a real thing. The benefits far outweigh the cons. This is an interesting batch. How do you let go of what other people think of you?

It says us. I'm putting it on you. I want to hear your take on this. I just had to, again, it was like a rock bottom thing. I cared so much. And my whole job for such a long time felt like it was around what other people think of me. That's what I believed. Like, I have to make people like me and see me in this way.

And it was so exhausting. It's really one of the reasons why I think I became so addicted to alcohol because I had to, like, manage and control this perception. Or I thought I was controlling your perception of me, if that makes sense. And I had to put up this facade and the alcohol helped me to put on that facade and, like, tend to be somebody that I wasn't so that I could control what people thought of me, like very manipulative. And that happened for years. I mean, it really kind of in the last year, I had to get over it. And it's a daily thing where I just have to remind myself that what other people think of me is none of my business. And I can exhaust myself trying to shape myself

into this thing that I think people will like or receive well. But ultimately, I have to be authentic to myself and I don't have to be for everybody. Like Lauren always says, I'm not for everybody and that's okay. And it's such a refreshing perspective to have and it just feels so much better when you just kind of stop caring. I would imagine so. But it's hard. It can be hard sometimes. And then other times I really don't give a F. Yeah. I mean, I don't think you're particularly

controversial figure. I don't think there's anything to take all that personally, really. Well, I have seen some of the reviews. I've since stopped

reading them because I realize that the people that I block on Instagram just go to the podcast reviews. Oh, shit. Really?

I didn't notice that. Skathing reviews. And they're like, come on. I saw one about talking about plastic surgery that my husband pays for. If you listen to the podcast,

you know, he has never paid. He paid for my nose job in 2017 and it was such a terrible experience for him. He was so resentful that I said never again. Like he was too emotionally connected to it and he didn't want me to change my face. And so he felt like bamboozled a little bit and it was terrible. And so I've talked about in the podcast that I pay for it myself because I don't want him to have any involvement. And sometimes I don't want him to know. He doesn't even know. I don't think people realize like, I don't know. I won't go here. but content creators do quite well. I don't need my husband paying for anything.

Yeah. My general feeling is if he doesn't notice a change in your face, then good for you. You got away with it. Yeah. Like where's the harm? Well, and I've talked about this before, like he would just get worried. He would get worried about me changing too much. He would get worried about my safety, all of these things. So I saw it as a service that I was doing to him to not make him.

That's nice. not make him endure that unnecessary stress. Yeah, I mean, at least you have a genuine interest in it and you do the research and talk to experts and things. I could totally appreciate his concern. If I married someone and they came home and massacred their own face, that would be a huge bummer. I think I've been very lucky and that I've gone to two really good doctors and found somebody, mascara shout out.

Down in Miami? Yeah. I'm just laughing because I feel like I reference him in every podcast and I tell him that too. But yeah, I've gone to people who have really been very restrained and just kind of like made me look like a more refreshed natural version of myself, if that makes sense. Beautiful. How do you manage what people think of you? I don't have to. I'm not an influencer.

How do you let go of what people think of you? Oh, God. generally by making changes if I can actually take a step back and determine that they have a valid point about something that I'm doing wrong like say it was

for an example I'm just creating a scenario here this isn't a real thing but if I had say a work evaluation and they said that my demeanor was odd or something like that I would honestly take a step back

and I appreciate the feedback and learning a bit more and I make an effort and who the hell knows I mean I just have to kind of wait and see if anything else happens. But I do make an effort to improve myself. I like to read and do things like that.

I enjoy psychology and kind of examining how people are perceived and how they feel. Yeah. So do you care? Was that much of, oh, do I care? Was that the answer? No, I'm just following up. I do care because it does matter. I don't, it's not the center of my world.

Yeah, I think it's much easier said than done. And like, I think it's human nature to want people to like you and want people to see you in a good light. So it's just a matter of balancing that with also being true to your authentic self and not being crushed if somebody has a different opinion of you. It's like things you can control and things you can't. I cannot control what somebody else thinks of me. I can only control myself. And if you can stop yourself before you become a full-blown, unlikable person, that's a great thing, too. Sometimes there is constructive criticism, yes.

How do you want to wind us down? We've been kind of all over the map. Let's see. Well, the next questions that we had were like relationship questions. I think we're going to have to do a separate episode for that. I think people would like a whole episode dedicated to that. Would they? Yes.

That hardly seems fair. Let us know. all set. Yeah, but people are asking about like my relationship and age difference and do you believe in the one and how do you know if it's the one and marriage? And then people also want to know about if you're single and your relationship and dating experience. I think we have like two interesting perspectives to share.

Yeah. If you're not tired of answering those questions, then I'm more than open to it. I don't think I've ever done like a full relationship episode. Yeah. Let us know. Or let, yeah. Let us know if you guys want to hear a relationship, dedicated episode, dating, relationship, marriage, all of that. Maybe we'll do that next. Hopefully we won't have to record it three times before we get it right.

I mean, we did it. We did it. High five. Wait. One at a time. Perfect. Thank you guys for listening. I hope you all enjoy.

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