Well with Arielle Lorre - 143: Health Hacks, Career and Dating Advice + Life Off Air with Tanya Rad

Episode Date: December 8, 2021

In this episode I am talking to Tanya Rad, cohost of On Air with Ryan, E! Correspondent, cohost of Scrubbing in with Becca Tilley and Tanya Rad, and modern woman extraordinaire about knowing your worth, upholding values, finding your purpose and dating in your 20’s and 30’s. We discuss her career in radio and television and how she has navigated the pressures of the entertainment industry while staying true to herself; how she has overcome imposter syndrome; how she prioritizes herself with a busy career; her wellness non-negotiables; her experience dating in LA and how she held out for true love; how she stays positive and so much more.   www.Storyworth.com/blonde to save $10 on your first purchase. www.Athleticgreens.com/blondefiles for your free 1 year supply of vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. www.Helloned.com/BLONDE for 20% off plus free gifts with orders over $150. www.Arrae.com with code blondefiles for 10% off a one-time purchase or 25% off first month on subscription. www.Oshensalmon.com with code BLONDE for 15% off your first purchase.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Let's get into it. Hi, everybody. Welcome to the show. I have such a fun episode today, just such a treat. I am talking to Tanya Rad. Tanya is the co-host of On Air with Ryan. She is an e-correspondent. She is the co-host of Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rad. And she's a modern woman extraordinaire. And if you guys don't follow her over on Instagram, just go follow her now because her energy, her attitude, her optimism. all of it is infectious. And you guys will hear in this episode how I first came to be introduced to her. Before I got sober, I used to hear her on the radio when I was like driving to work at my job at like seven in the morning, hung over as shit, or sometimes still drunk or sometimes even drinking. And I was like, wow, this girl like clearly got the playbook to life.

And I did not. You'll hear us talk about it in this episode. And then she and I became internet friends, many years. years later a couple years ago. And I just love her. She's just such like a light. So anyway, in this episode, we're kind of all over the place. But we talk about knowing your worth. I mean, she has from the beginning been like, this is who I am. And she knows her worth. She sticks to her values. And that seems to be no easy feat, especially in the entertainment industry. So it's really interesting to hear her perspective on that. We talk about finding your purpose, even if you don't really know what you want to do.

We talk about dating in your 20s and 30s. And yeah, we talk about her career in radio and TV and how she navigated the pressures of the entertainment industry while really staying true to herself and how she overcame imposter syndrome in the beginning, especially, and how she prioritizes herself with a busy career. She always on Instagram is showing and talking about her Tanya time. And we talk about her wellness routine and non-negotiables and her experience dating in L.A. and how she kind of was playing the field, but she really held out for true love. And she's in a relationship now. And of course, we talk about her mindset and how she maintains such a positive attitude and so much more. It's like truly girl talk, but also really substantive. And I think you guys are going to

to love it. So enjoy. All right, welcome, Tanya. I'm so excited to have you here. I'm so excited to be here. Thank you for having me. Tanya and I have been internet friends for a few years now. We were just talking off mic about it. And I was saying how it's like the most L.A. thing ever to finally be like, even though we're not face to face, but we're on Zoom, doing this on a podcast. Because we were trying to get together before COVID and then the world turned upside down. So so happy to to you though. You've always been such an inspiration to me and I know to so many other people. And when I was getting ready for this interview, I was thinking about like what I wanted to talk to you about. And I could remember back to before I got sober. So like over eight years ago, I had this

internship in the Valley. I was living in West Hollywood. And I would go in the morning at like 730, hung over as shit, chain smoking cigarettes, sometimes even drinking wine in my car. Like it was towards the end when I was like a really, really, really bad alcoholic. But I would listen to on air with Ryan. And I remember I would hear you. And I was just like, my life was in such a terrible place. And you were somebody who had so much like energy and just like this, I don't know, infectious like joy. And you seem to really have your shit together. And I was like, who is this person? How did she do this? And I just remember like you being this little bit of like sunshine in like such a dark time.

That is the nicest thing. Literally that is so nice. And so I was like, I was thinking about it for this interview and I wanted to ask you just to open if you always knew what you wanted to do, like if you knew what you wanted to do in life and you had a sense of direction and you executed and you did it, how did that come about? How did you land where you landed? And has your attitude always been an attitude of like positivity and optimism. Okay, so the crazy thing is with my story is that I didn't seek out to have this job or this role. I knew I wanted to be in the music industry. And so I was either going to work for like a record label or do the radio thing. And so I kind of got led into the radio world. And what's crazy is I was always a producer. So I was like behind the scenes of the

show, the morning show. And for like two years, I was behind the scenes as a producer. I loved it. I didn't have any desire really to be on air, but anytime Ryan would come to me with something, I would talk and it was fun. And I loved the whole vibe of it. So at the time, his co-host was getting her own morning show and they were like bringing in all these girls to like audition to be the next co-host. And Ryan and I just had a really good rapport. And so basically what they did is they created a third mic on the show for me. So they brought in Sisney, who is the new co-host. And then they made this third mic for me because I wasn't trained. I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't seek this out. So it's like on the technical side of radio, I had no idea what I was doing. I literally felt like a

fish just got thrown into the ocean, like had like learn how to swim. But the thing that I had going with me or going for me was the chemistry with Ryan. You know, like we just had a really good like rapport. And that's the thing that I realized is like you could go to school and learn all the skills and do all the things. But what it really comes down to for a lot of it, especially in this industry, is chemistry and personality in a weird way. And so I did always have, I've always been super, like I was Susie's sorority in college. I was like singing, dancing. I was in all the clubs. That doesn't that surprise me at all. I like, the thing that when you were saying that you were like really bad and you were like

in that phase of your life for your chain smoking and all that stuff, I never had that phase of life, not because I didn't. It was just never, I was just never. that sounds so cliche or like trite, but like I was always really high on life. Like I drink a lot. Like I like to drink, but I never did any drugs. Like I was never into drugs. And I was always really, really just like peppy and positive. And it's funny because when you get thrown into the entertainment industry, it's like the opposite of that. And I remember in the beginning of my career, like a lot of women in particular being really cutthrow and nasty to me. And I just remember being like, I used to have this like imaginary cocoon that I would just like zip up when I would go and I would just like say nobody's

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That's a yes. I see her face as a yes. How did you deal with the imposter syndrome of that? So I actually talk about this all the time because, so because I didn't get my start the way that you're like supposed to, I had to deal with a man that always kind of chopped me down, you know, always said things about my personality and how it was too much and people only want it in small doses.

And like, that's hard to hear when you're doing something that you don't really even feel like you should be doing. You know what I mean? So it got to me. Like, it got to me for many, many years. And it's something that I still struggle with today because I remember when I got the first call from E to do a red carpet for E. I was like on television.

And I was just like, these people want me on TV. I've never done TV. I don't know how to like, I don't know what to do with my face. I'm in radio, you know, like I can talk, but I can't. I don't know how to act. And so every step along the way in my journey has everything like good that comes my way. I'm just like, why is this coming my way? I don't deserve this.

And I think it's something that like just a lot of women struggle with in general because especially for me, I feel very, very lucky and fortunate to have this career that I love. And so there's always this kind of like, I don't deserve this. There's so many other women that are qualified to be doing this. Why me? but I kind of have to just push all those things aside and I'd have like affirmations that I say to myself. So like before every award show, I'll say a little like, you know, you are capable, you are deserving, you are, you know, like all these things because I don't think it ever really

goes away, but I've definitely been able to manage it in a healthier way now. Yeah, something else that I wanted to ask you because I heard you talk about this on another interview was like when you do have these big opportunities coming your way, especially if you feel like maybe you don't deserve it or something, how do you deal with that anxiety and that fear? Because from an outsider point of view, you look like you're somebody who, like you're saying, like you are just kind of unapologetically yourself. You are very like upbeat and bubbly and personable and I would assume like sociable and all of these things. And so it seems like the job that you're in and the opportunities that come your way are just like natural for you and they are

meant for you. And I heard you back to what I was saying, like I heard you in an interview saying, you've been terrified for some of these things, like the red carpets in particular. So how do you manage that? First of all, thank you. I mean, I just need to like have you in my pocket at all times. It's really, really nice. I'll send you voice memos. Like, you are deserving.

You know, it's interesting because when it comes down to like, essentially your job is a lot to do with your personality. And so when you don't get a gig or you get passed up for something, you know, you look inward and you're like, what's wrong with me? Why didn't I get that? What don't they like about me? But I think what I had to come to terms with is like, I can't change myself. I just have to be my authentic self. And the people in the industry that like that will hire me and the people that don't won't. I can't change myself to be a different person for a different outlet or for a different space. But in the beginning, I used to prep like, I would prep like a crazy person to the point where like I didn't have a life.

all I did was just prep. I remember my first award show with E where I was doing a Jason Kennedy. So he and I were doing all the interviews. This was my first one that was just like live. You didn't know who was coming your way. They gave you a list of like a hundred names of who could possibly come by. Was this the Golden Globes? No, this was Billboard Music Awards a few years ago. And I was just like, what do I like normally I do one interview at a time. I have, I can prep for it. you know, this is a list of 100 people that could or couldn't be coming. So it's like you kind of have to prep for them all. So I think I took it a little too extreme and I just spent way too much time prepping. But I guess you can never prep too much. I've learned to like have a healthy balance now.

And then at the end of the day, when like the day comes, I do a same little affirmations and I just try and have as much fun as possible because I also think nobody really knows what they're doing. Right. You know what I mean? Everybody just kind of acts like they know what they're doing. And I'm like, I'll never forget. They're telling me stuff in my ear. And this is the first time I've ever had like an in ear. Oh, God. I don't have a conversation with somebody that I'm interviewing and they're telling me

these things in my ear. And I'm not doing any of it because I can't tell you. Wrap it up. Oh, God. You know, all this stuff. And I'm like, thank God I had Jason Kennedy by my side who was like a pro and couldn't listen to them and have a conversation because I like wouldn't have been able to do it. That's so funny.

I'm just picturing myself in that situation. I would not do very well. There have been times where I'll be at an event or something speaking. And if someone's like wrap it up, I'm like, and I like completely freeze. Like I'm like, I can't have somebody. Too much stimulation. Yes. Have you ever had any interviews that didn't go very well? I mean, I've had interviews with people that I didn't necessarily like click with, but I've never had a traumatizing experience on the carpet, thankfully. knock on wood. I did early on in my career have a very awkward encounter with busy Phillips. Ooh. I asked for something. You can share. Well, it was like one of my first carpets. So I'm like super

green. I had no idea what I was doing. And at that time, it was the time where like everybody just wanted you to get the like that scoop, you know? And I also feel like it wasn't very me. I'm not that person. I'm not salacious. I'm not trying to like get the dirt. I just want to like learn from people and share stories, you know. Yeah. I remember I did probably ask her something that was having to do with like I think it was Michelle Williams who was her friend, her best friend and somebody she was dating at the time. Like, oh, did you set them up or I didn't say it in a mean way. I said it was very kind and like she was so mean to me. Oh no. Like I can't be the first person that's asked something like that.

You know, I don't want to answer that. Like thanks. Bye. Yeah. Yeah. I was going to say like I feel like if you're a celebrity at that level, like you should know how to handle a situation like that with grace. Like that's scary. But it could have been a bad night. I don't know. I don't know her personally. But I don't know if it sticks out, like, I was just like, whoa. Oh my God. So this attitude of being unapologetically yourself and you're just not going to try to like fit into this mold and be a chameleon and change. Have you always had that? And like, if, So where did that come from, do you think? Yeah.

So I used to call it Rattitude. And I've had it my whole life. Like I, when I was in high school, I created a musical synergy club because I love music. Like Shakira John Mayer fan club. Nobody, like, put up us in it. Have you gotten to meet them yet? Yes. Oh, my God.

Yeah. Yeah. Both of them. They were really, really cute. Shakira was like amazing about it. And so was John Mayer, but he was like, why? didn't I get my own club? Why did I have to share it? That's amazing. I always felt like I never really fit into the mold. You know what I mean? And now that I'm in therapy, I start to realize how

much our childhood or like our school experience has shaped us to the adults that we are. And I feel like I never really fit in. You know, I went to a Catholic school from kindergarten to eighth grade and I wasn't Catholic. And so all those like milestones that they would do at school, I would be in like a blue dress when everybody was in a white dress and like my parents said no, you know. And so I kind of feel like I always stuck out in a weird way. And so I kind of think I built that thick skin early on. Do you feel like you are living out your purpose right now? For sure. I think, you know, it's interesting because I went through a really bad breakup right before I got the on-air gig. And this was the man that I I thought I was going to marry. I was going to move to Arizona, have a bunch of kids by like 23.

And we ended up breaking up and I felt like my life turned upside down. I didn't know which way was up. I didn't really feel like I had a purpose. Like I had a job, but I didn't feel like I had a passion. And when I got this on-air role and especially through my podcast, I felt like I've created this community of women that's like a really beautiful safe space. I've always been the youngest kid and I've always wanted to be a big sister. And I feel like I have that relationship with a lot of our listeners. You know, I talk about my chronic UTIs. I talk about periods. I talk about stuff that, you know, sex or masturbation and things that people don't even want to talk to their friends about, you know, so they can come to me and I'll just give them the list of things, you know,

like you need a toy, here you go. You need UTI meds. Like, this is what I do. So in a weird way, I know it sounds silly, but I just feel very purpose-filled. And again, because I never really sought it out, I feel like I don't really know what the future holds in terms of career. Like, I don't know where I'll be in five years, but I know I'll be living in purpose for sure. Yeah, I love that. I feel the same way where, like, people ask me, where do you think you'll be in five years? And I'm like, I have no freaking idea. And that's like the beauty of it.

Like you just keep doing the next thing that's put in. in front of you. When you started developing your career, did you kind of feel the same way? You just started doing it because you loved it and then it started kind of gaining traction. Yeah. I mean, I was pursuing something completely different. I was in school to be a drug and alcohol counselor like when I was kind of newly sober and I thought that that's what I wanted to do with my life. And on the side, I started an Instagram as like a workout accountability thing. And it just kind of snowballed and I enjoyed doing it so much like from the creative aspect of it. and also kind of in a similar way that you like to share,

like you feel like you're in a kind of big sister role. I felt like I had a lot to share just from what I had gone through, like with my struggles and overcoming alcoholism and addiction and like multiple health issues and everything that came along with it. So, yeah, I mean, like you said, because I was doing it organically, it really was like a passion thing. And I think when you're really putting your passion behind something,

like it just snowballs. And so I got to a point. You almost, even though you were going to school to be a drug and alcohol counselor, you kind of are that in a weird way. Yeah, I mean, it's definitely the kind of thing where I can look back and see how everything in my life, even back from when I was like a teenager and like scrapbooking things, that was like the OG blogging back in the day. That's an aesthetic.

I do have to say, I'm probably being so drawn to just your page in general. I love the content, but just the visual aspect. of it is just so, like, beautiful. You have such a good eye and it's very, um, it does not go unnoticed. Oh, thank you. Well, you know, these days, everyone's like, aesthetics are out. It's like the Gen Z. They're like over the aesthetic. And I'm like, no, I am keeping mine. I love my beige tones. I don't see everything when they're like blonde hair. They don't like that. I'm like, I just got to do my, I know. I'm like, okay, great. So I'm like, chugie now with the blonde hair. But you know, like Adele, Adele said the other day, because I can't remember what somebody asked her,

but it was something like, something about her music and TikTok. And she was like, no, I'm making music for the 30 and 40 year olds or, you know, the people that are on TikTok. And I was like, I love that. TikTok is like the thorn in my side because everyone's like, you have to do TikTok now. And I'm like, I get that. And like, I don't have the big. bandwidth to do it on top of everything else. I enjoy TikTok a lot more than I ever have. I really find myself going deep into some of these videos. Yeah. Oh yeah. It's like such a rabbit hole. I mean, it's to the point where like I can't really go on it because I know I'm about to waste hours of my day. Sure. Yeah. Okay. So another thing about the holidays is that we eat all the food,

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slash blonde to get access to all of this. That is H-E-L-L-O-N-E-D dot com slash B-L-O-N-D-E to get 20% off plus free gifts with orders over $150. Do you have any tips for somebody who's listening who's like, I get this whole purpose thing, but there's nothing that I'm doing that I'm passionate about or I don't know what my purpose is? You know, something that my mentor told me really early on in my career was chase the passion, not the paycheck. And so I was lucky enough to where I, you know, after I graduated from college, I moved back in with my parents to because I wasn't, I was interning, I wasn't making any money. And of course, I wanted to move out and I

wanted to like live on my own. But it was like the best advice because at that time in my life, I didn't need to be in an apartment. I didn't need to have a new car. I didn't need any, you know, like as you get older, you do need to like sustain your life and you need to have a place to live and you need a car and like all that stuff. But it was like the best advice. And so if you do like, let's say you do need the paycheck and you have a job that pays really well, but it's not your passion. I think if anything, what we realize now is like you can do multiple things. So you can have a side hustle. That's your passion and work on that from time to time until you're able to make that your full time thing and cut the court on the other. You know, I think especially now,

there's just so there's so much opportunity in that. And so really just kind of explore what brings you joy and kind of try and hone in on that, you know, like I have a girlfriend who she was in entertainment industry and she quit her job because it was just like sucking the life out of her. And her husband made enough money to support the both of them. So she didn't really like need to work. So she quit. But then she felt purposeless. She felt like she didn't really have a purpose. And so she started this Etsy shop because she really liked creating and being artistic and actually making things. And now she has like a full blown Etsy shop where she gets to do, be creative and do what she loves. but on her own time, in her own way, being her own boss.

And I just think that's really cool, you know. Yeah, I love that. I think there are like, I think you're alluding to this. Like there are so many more ways nowadays to pursue your passions and turn that into a business just with like. Like even if you're a teacher and like you love teaching but you don't love your teaching position, it's like you can create a whole. tutor program on your Instagram or like through Instagram and get, you know, start tutoring kids.

And maybe if you can get enough kids at once, that can be your living. You know, and there's more passion and purpose in that. Yeah. It doesn't have to be a creative job. Yeah. Okay. So another thing that I really admire is your Tanya time. You seem to, no matter what's going on in your life, carve out your Tanya time.

What does that look like? and how did you prioritize that? I love my Tanya time, and it's been like a game changer because I think when I was starting out in the industry, you can really get sucked into, I would spend 14-hour days in the studio, not because anybody made me

or because that was demanded of me, but because I wanted to do, I wanted to go above and beyond, or I was helping other people with their projects. Like, you know, like I just got very sucked into this go, go-go-go mentality. and to the point where I felt like I would like wake up and just like I'd go in this hamster wheel, come home, shower, go to bed and like do it all over again.

What time are you waking up during that? Five. Okay. Okay. So it's not like three. Five? No, no. I mean, I look like this every day.

I don't like put much effort into my whole situation. You look amazing. Thank you. I think in the beginning I was like waking up a lot earlier to try and like, you know, like do all of things. But I think it got to a point where I felt like I wasn't really prioritizing my health. It got to a point where I was feeling very lethargic and just not myself. It wasn't sleeping well. And so it got to a point where I was just like, I have to really prioritize and give myself just one hour a day. Usually it's a workout. Like usually I go for a run or a walk or something or go to a workout class.

But like when I'm on my period, sometimes I'll just use that hour to do Pilates or stretch or meditate. or go sit in a sauna for an hour, just something that's like an hour where I don't have to think about anything or anyone and I just kind of like zone out. And it's been like the best thing for me physically and mentally. So what is your wellness routine like now? And what are you into right now in wellness?

I have a future 15 journal that I write in for 15 minutes every day and just kind of envision my future and what that looks like. I love that. What's interesting, I got this from, we had Ryan Seri, I don't know if you watch a million dollar list in New York, but he does this every day. And I was like, what a great practice. And I think if anything the pandemic taught me, it was like not to create goals that are so

specific in my life. And like, I don't really believe in New Year's resolutions because if you don't do it for a day or two, then you feel like a failure. Yeah. So I kind of believe I create vision boards every year. And I want to feel a certain way. I want to have a certain lifestyle. I want to have relationships and also be doing something that I love.

So it's like not so specific. So I write in my journal about just kind of what my future looks like for me in terms of just like what I'm doing on a daily basis, who I'm with like things like that, career-wise. You know, I want to do speaking engagements and things like that. So I just like write every day about future goals. And then my hour of Tanya time is like definitely a game changer and water. I just drink a ton of water. Love that.

So simple. Very basic, you know. I'm curious not to get like too far in the weeds about this, but since you are in the entertainment industry, I'm sure radio is different from TV, but you're also doing stuff with E. Have you felt pressure from being in the entertainment industry to like look a certain way? And how did you deal with that if you have experienced it? Yeah, I think I definitely went through a phase where, especially in the beginning of doing carpets and TV and stuff where I felt, you know, everybody else is like a size zero or size two and I'm not that. And it's not to say that I feel like I'm this like, you know, I don't have, I don't know how to say it. I always felt like I needed to be that sample size for the dresses or for whatever. And I think I came to terms with the fact that,

my body's never going to look like that. And I had to do a lot of like reprogramming in my brain. And I would look in the mirror and when I was naked and just like look at my body and like speak affirmations over it instead of like I always used to think I had just like crazy thunder thighs. And I would do anything to like get rid of them, you know? And to the point where I just like wasn't taking care of myself. And I think that I realized. my body's just built a different way. And I do the best that I can. I eat clean. I do enjoy my sugary treats. And I don't deprive myself. But I also feel like I eat really clean and I drink alcohol. Sometimes it doesn't make me feel

great. But like it also makes me feel good. So I think that definitely the weight stuff was a big issue for me in the beginning. I've never had any desire to like get my boobs done or my nose done or anything like that. The thing is like what's so interesting is, you know, I talk a lot about being a modern woman and embracing who you are and loving yourself. But I also think if you want to do things to your face, you know, like I get Botox because I have gnarly wrinkles around my eyes. You want to do that by all means. Like if it's going to make you feel good, do it. But I also feel like you don't have to do anything to like fit into a certain mold. But if it's going to make you feel good and make you feel better, why not? Yeah, I get this question a lot too. Like people ask me, well, how can you say you

fully accept and love yourself and also change things about yourself? And I think like for me, it comes down to like my motive with it. If I'm changing something because I'm like, oh, I don't want these like crow's feet. Like I love myself, but I also like don't want these crows feet. But I don't expect it to change how I feel inside or like change anything about my life, that's one thing. But if I'm like, I have to do this because I like, I hate myself, then that's completely different. And that's where I think, I don't know, like they're not mutually exclusive. You can do both. I agree.

And I think to, you know, I remember I was using this like one filter in particular for a while. And I think it was called like the supermodel filter. And I don't know what it did in my face. but I loved it. And I will never forget. It got to this point where I sent a screenshot of my face with the filter on it and just like my normal face. And I said to my friend who's a classic surgeon and I said, what do I need to do to look like that? And I will never forget that moment because I was like, I'm literally sending this guy a picture of my face through a filter and saying, how can I cosmetically change my face to look like that?

And that's kind of when I took a different, I was like, I'm going to stop using all these crazy filters. Yeah. Because it was messing with my head. You know, I'm like 30s. I feel like I'm a, you know, I don't, I was like totally just not really shook me to my core. I was like, okay, Kanye.

I had to stop using those. I stopped using those too. I'll do a Paris filter. That's like the extent of my filtering. Or if there's like a moody like sometimes, but nothing that I was talking to my photographer earlier about this because we were shooting like something and I put a filter on. And I was like, holy shit, who is that person? Like, it changed everything.

And it can really mess with your mind. Like, I will not go off on this tangent because I do it often on this show. But it's crazy. I cannot imagine being like 12 or 13 years old, fucking like awkward stage. And then you put on like the cute baby face. That's the one my friends and I always joke about. We're like, we want cute baby face. And then you're like, oh, wait.

Like, can you imagine the seed being planted when you're like going through puberty? No. And honestly, it's so, it's so funny because I think everybody, you know, you want to look good. You want to look good. You want to feel good. And it's your own prerogative. Like, whatever makes you look good and feel good. And so for me, like, especially since the pandemic, I love wearing sweats. So like I feel good in sweats. I like wearing sweats. I can make them look cute. And it's just kind of about doing what you want, how you feel. And I don't know, I'm like, I'm not anti anything. You know, if you want to go get something done, like, I think it's totally fine. But at the same time, I don't feel like you need to do anything to fit in. Yeah. But it does. It's like when you compare yourself, it's like compare and despair.

And I think that really easy. There are certain things that I've dealt with, like something recently even where I was like, starting to obsess over it. And I was like, if only like this were different, I want to change this. And I had to like just pray for acceptance. And the acceptance came. And I let it go. And it's like there is, I mean, obviously we all know like I do things on my face. But there is so much beauty and just like accepting something being like, no, this is like who I am. Like we're all, it's getting into such dangerous territory, I think, where we are right now. Where like everyone is starting to like want the same thing and starting to look the same. And we're like losing individual. And that's something that I love about you so much, like you are just so authentically yourself. I appreciate that. I appreciate that because, you know, it is, I remember when I started in TV, it was like I felt like the bigger girl on screen, you know, and it's like you look, you watch yourself

back and you're like, oh my God, that's what I look like on on TV, you know? Like, you don't, you, I don't know. It's like this weird thing that happens. And so I've stopped watching myself back. That was the first thing. because I also would pick myself apart about the way that I would, you know, I open my, whenever I'm shocked or whatever, I open my eyes really big and I make like this, you know, bug out face and I would like, sometimes when I laugh, I look like a hyena. No. And it's like you look at it, you look at it. Oh, that's what I look like.

In time, it's like, I just want to be me. I don't want to think about, you know, and so it's, yeah, it's an interesting. And we see ourselves so. differently than other people. So yes, like I would never think any of that about you. I see you on TV and like when you've done carpets and I'm like, she looks freaking amazing. But I know how it is like even today, this is like shooting with my photographer pictures nobody is ever going to see, but you're going through a thousand pictures to get the one good one. And all the other ones, I'm like, I look like that. Like this is fucking terrible. I can never move my face like this again.

And I can't look down and like all these things. It's crazy. It'll make you crazy if you like start to upset if you start to care about it and start to believe it i think and and honestly too like when we when we record our podcast so i like when beckis it's right next to me so our like zing is just so tight on our faces and so you just see everything and i almost like it better because i'm like i always look like crap when we're doing the podcast because that's usually after my workout and my facial expressions are just like genuinely what they are and it's like i look so bad but i also don't care. You know what I'm like? That's what I like. So it's definitely, I think, getting used to it too, because I think also with Instagram, you know, everybody uses the filters. You start seeing yourself

like that. And then when you see yourself in the mirror or whatever, you're like, do you know who Heather McDonald is? Yeah, of course. She always says, like, I don't want to use the filter because I want people to see me in real life and be like, whoa, she looks so much better than she looks online. Like if you're using cute baby face filter or like Kylie Jenner filter and then you see somebody in real life, they're going to be like, uh, that's happened with me once and I was just like shocked. I was totally shook to my core because it literally looked like a different person in real life. Yeah. And I was just like, this is a reality. It's that time of year when we are all probably thinking about gifts. And I have the perfect thing for your family members or loved ones because the best gifts are the most meaningful, thoughtful ones. So I am talking about storyworth. It is an

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So what was that like for you? And how did you bring this kind of ratitude into that aspect of your life? It's so funny because I think like, dating is such a universal. I don't know what the word I'm trying. It's like it brings people together because everybody's done it. You know, like we've all,

even when you're, if you're married or whatever, like we've all dated. And I think when I went through this public, not public, when I went through the breakup when I first got on air, I talked about it on air because it was just like so fresh and I was so young. I didn't,

you know, it was just didn't, the, the microphone wasn't even a thing. I just felt like I was like talking my friends about my breakup. So for a few years, I feel like I was on this path of just dating to date and just get back out there. And it was fun. And I didn't really like anybody. And so I could talk

about it on the air and like to have it be a teaching moment. And it got to a point where I was like, I was single for six, seven years. And I was like, okay, Tanya, time to take this seriously. So I started like really taking it seriously. And it's just crazy. Because when I tell you the things that had happened to me in my dating life, like, I met a guy on Wilshire Boulevard once. Like literally, I like you talk about. Um, both of the Lord. And he asked me for my number and we went out a few times. And I saw him on like a date with another per.

Like literally he walked right past me on a date with somebody while I was out to lunch with my best friend Becca. And I was supposed to see him that night. And like I heard of like I think on like a base of this guy. Like I was, you know what I mean? Like this wasn't just like. So just like all the things that would happen to me were literally just out of a movie. I had like a misconnection with somebody once and then. we went on the air to try and find him.

I knew his name and like what he did. And somehow we like found him. We got together, went on a date. So it was just like this weird movie of just like I went through everything. I met a guy at Whole Foods once and like went on a date with him and he didn't own a television. And I was like, I'm not going to work. So it was like everybody's kind of watching me and like listening to me go through all these like things. And it got to a point a couple years ago where I was like really sad about it.

I was feeling like really discouraged and just like when's my time. I'm going to all my friends' weddings. All my friends are having babies. I'm still single going through it. Like, what the fuck? And then I met this, like, amazing man on a dating app of all places. And really unexpected. My girlfriend forced me to do it.

And I went to happy hour with him thinking, like, oh, I'll go at 5 o'clock. I'll be home at 7. I can, like, pack. I was going to New York the next day for work. Ended up staying with him at the bar until, like, from 5 to 10 p.m. and just totally hit it off. And it was like one of those things, like when we kissed that night, got the fanny flutters.

And I was like, this guy's different. What are the fanny flutters? When your vagina tingles. Oh, okay. Got it. Yeah, from like a first kiss. So I was like, whoa, this is different and exciting. And so it's been two years now.

We just like celebrated two years. But it was like a whirlwind because he has two kids. And so, and he's very private. And I'm not. So in the beginning, it was hard balancing. You know what I mean? Like somebody who's super private and then somebody who's very public. But I think we got to a good place with it in terms of just like what I share and what I don't share.

To where I feel like I'm still connecting with people and being authentically myself. But I'm also protecting like his children and their privacy and, you know, that aspect. I can relate to that a lot on a smaller. scale. Like, I'm obviously not on radio, but Chuck is like so intensely private. And it was hard for me in the beginning, although a little bit easier because at the time that we started dating, I only had Instagram. I didn't have my podcast. So it wasn't like I was like hiding something per se, but even still now, like he doesn't want, sounds obnoxious, but like the house on Instagram or like where we're going, what we're doing. Like he just doesn't want any of that. And I respect.

that, but it can be hard when that's like your job. How do you balance that? He's gotten a lot of half your portion. You're like, okay, I'll take my photos here. I'm always in the bathroom. If I'm ever on like stories or anything and I'm back in LA, I'm always in the bathroom to the point where somebody sent me a DM that she meant to send her friend and was like, do you think he keeps her locked in the bathroom?

And I was like, screw you. But he's gotten better about it. Like he understands now. He's like, I get that like, you know, you can't like go hide yourself, like lock yourself in a closet. But yeah, it's definitely like definitely a balance. Yeah. And I think too, I think because I was so open and I gave every part of me to my job. Like there was not one ounce of privacy that I had, not because anybody made me because that's just how I am.

And so I think when I started pull back a little bit, I felt like this weird shift. And I was just like, I have more to offer than my dating life, you know? like I have a lot more to bring to the table and I'm not just this one trick pony. And so I almost then kind of took a hard turn and just stopped talking about it completely because I was like, I'm more than that. I have so much more to offer. Don't pigeonhole me into that, you know, into that role, that space. Right. But it is. It's interesting because we are public figures and I enjoy creating community and I enjoy talking about my life and my experiences and, you know, milestones that we had. And like in the beginning when it's like, I look my toothbrush there. What else I'm going to be? You

You know, like these are really relatable things. And so I think it was like a fine dance in the beginning of figuring out what he's comfortable with and what he's not comfortable with. And I think at the end of the day, too, he really admires what I do. You know, even though he's private, he loves what I do. And he's like seen he came to our live podcast show and he thinks it's really purpose-filled and loves it. And so he's like, I don't want to take away from that in any way.

So he's kind of opened up a lot more, too. Like he came on the morning show for my birthday. I was like, what? You know? So it's like baby steps. Maybe in a couple of years I can like, maybe he'll like do the podcast with me or something. I got Chuck to do the podcast twice. That was like when I knew he was like really fully accepting it and being super supportive.

The first time he did it, it was like right when the pandemic started. So I feel like he was kind of doing me a solid. And then he was like never again. I'm sorry. I love you. But like never again. Like I just don't want to be. like he's like, I don't want to be a public person.

I want to be like behind the scenes. And then I got him to do it again this year. So score. Yeah. But it's also like that's their prerogative, you know? Totally. That's how they want to live their lives. And that's okay.

You know, my boyfriend has a private Instagram account. Those don't even make sense to me. Yeah. I'm like, why? I'm like, what is private Instagram account? But whatever, that's what makes them comfortable. That's what they want. Then like, yeah.

I feel like with Chuck, I mean, he doesn't even have social media, but I feel like it has made me a little more like cognizant of being more present when I'm with him and like not sharing everything. And, you know, if we're like traveling or out to dinner or whatever, like just being there with him and not being connected to that piece of it. I had this conversation with my best friend the other day because I love social media. I don't care what people say out. It's like the, you know, bad or excited or whatever. I love it. I feel like I can connect with people through it and I love doing it. We were talking. We were talking. talking about some of these influencers that we follow and they have kids and they're constantly

every single day, you know what they did from when they woke up until when they went to bed and what their kids are eating for lunch and what their kids are being for Halloween. And I was just like, it seems like this. And some of them we know personally and we're like they're not that happy family that everybody sees. You know what I mean? Like the behind the scenes of getting this photo was yelling and screaming. And it's so crazy because I think you can't get caught up in this world of wanting to share every single thing that you really like lose the moment, you know? And so like being aware of actually living your life and sharing it, but like you can also do both in like a nice way. Right. So back to the dating piece. How did you really value yourself and not settle?

Because I would imagine that going through all of that, especially when you see your friends getting married and having kids and I'm sure that you dated like guys that were good, how did you really honor yourself and not decide to stay in a relationship, maybe for convenience or just to be in a relationship? I think that's something that so many women, especially our age, struggle with and will send me messages about like, I'm in the relationship with this guy. I love him, but I don't know that he's the one, but I'm like 32 and I don't know what to do. So what is your experience with that? I totally agree with you. Like if I wanted to be married at 25,

I could have married the guy that I was dating. He wanted to marry me tomorrow. You know, like I could have been married. But I think that I had this vision of what I wanted my life to be like. And for a while, it was getting myself to that place of really just kind of being independent and being able to do things on my own because I didn't want to. And I don't want to when I do get married,

I still don't want to rely on somebody fully. You know, I want to always have like a backbone or, you know what I mean? Like I want to have my own life. And so I had this vision. So it was getting myself to that place being stable first. And then I think I saw a lot of my friends fall in that trap of marrying somebody just because it was that time. And the guys were kind of immature and like not ready. And the things that they would complain about, I'm like, I don't.

want that. I don't want to babysit somebody in my entire life. I want a life partner. I want somebody that is my partner that I can help out when he needs it. He can help out when I need it. And I just wasn't taking anything less. And what's interesting is about four or five years prior to meeting my current boyfriend, I decided I wasn't going to have an attached sex anymore because I was like giving my body and having sex with these guys and not getting a committed relationship, which is what I ultimately wanted. So I made this decision to not have an attached sex. So I didn't have sex for like four or five years before my current boyfriend. And that like kind of helped weed out a lot of men quickly. Because I just did there. You know what I mean? Like that's a big easy way of seeing if somebody

was in it for me or just, you know, the physical aspect of it. So if if then you didn't have sex for four or five years. Does that mean that everybody was only in it to have sex? No, no, no, no. Oh. Like, there were a few that I dated, I'd say two or three that were almost to the point of like being in a committed relationship. I was like, this is terrible. No, no, no, no, no. There were, there were like three or four gems. Got it. They just weren't it. Like, I dated a guy who was my age, but he was really intimidated by the fact that I had a vision. and a career and I knew what I wanted and he just wasn't there. He was still living with like five guys in a house and I always felt like I needed to lower myself a little bit. Like I couldn't share in

exciting things that were happening for me and I didn't like that at all. And looking back, I'm so happy that I was that and I don't want to call it picky because it's not picky. It was never, it didn't have like a certain type of guy that I was looking for physically. But I always wanted to be with somebody that I admire. And that's like exactly what I found. You know, found this guy who I admire the man that he is. He has a really, he has great character. He's super loyal. He's super loving. And he's somebody that I want to do life with. You know, like I trust him completely. If I'm having a bad day or if I'm stressed, like he volunteers to help me in any way that he can and vice versa. And it's like a true partnership where I've never felt that before. It was always,

I felt like I had to bring myself down a little bit or kind of fit. role that I didn't want to fit. So that's kind of where I just didn't want to settle. And to me, it's like, I think it got through that phase in my early 20s when all my friends got married. So at that point, you know, and that was my late 20s, early 30s, I was like, I don't care how long it takes. If I'm, you know, 38 and single, like, freeze my eggs. I can, you know, do my thing. I don't want to just be with somebody, just be with somebody. I feel like it's so different now. Like, I don't know. I feel like 40 really is the new 30. And so many people, more people are having kids like into their 40s and it's just like a different landscape now,

I think. Not everyone is getting married at 22. Like I remember when I was growing up in high school, like newlyweds was the big thing. Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachay. And I was like, all right, so I'm going to get married and have kids at 22. And, you know, it's like so different now. And you know what's interesting? And I get on such a, I can go on a tangent about this, but it's like, And as society, we only celebrate women when they get engaged or they have a baby. And it's so ridiculous. Like, that's our plateau. Like, that's what's that. Like, what? It sends such a warped message. And so I'm like trying to, my girlfriend might just bought a house. I'm like, we should have a, you know, I'm going to make your registries that people can buy you things for your house. Who cares if you're not married? And you know what I mean?

It's like, why do you have registries for when you get married and have babies? Like, you just bought a house. That's so badass. It reminds me of that sex in the city episode where Carrie, like, register, right? She, like, says that she's marrying herself. Yeah. And she registers and has people send her gifts and everything. There's this, there's a public special on, I remember. I think her name's Taylor Tomlinson. It's called Quarter Life Crisis.

And she talks out when she got engaged. And she's like, something happens to you when you get that ring on your finger or you just walk around, like, you like, fly. She's like, I went to Target. and they were, you know, ma'am, do you need help grabbing that? She's like, no, somebody loves me. And it's just like, so true. That is so funny. That's so true.

It's like all we aspire for. And she's like, what are we doing? Yeah. And then like after you have babies, then it's like it. Like women are discarded, like irrelevant, obsolete after they're like 35. I mean, especially like physically too. I'm like, men get hotter with age. They're like so celebrate.

into like their 50s, even 60s, like, for their looks. I mean, how old is Brad Pitt now? Like, almost 60, probably, late 50s? I don't see any women really at that age being like revered for their beauty, which is crazy. On the contrary, they're like, Sarah Jessica Parker was getting all that criticism of gray hair for such a city. But in the world. But then Charlotte, Kristen Davis, had some filler or whatever and she was getting dragged for doing that. So it's like there's no like you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's the thing I think that sucks.

That breaks my heart about, you know, when women tear down other women for doing things that make them, make them happy, you know, like I'm very lucky and fortunate that my Instagram following is very encouraging and loving and I don't really get much of that. But I do from time to time get one,

or two of the nasty ones. And it's just like, why? Why? It's always women, too. I could imagine being a mom and having to deal with all that. Everybody's opinion about that. Hillary Duff wants to pierce her daughter's ears and people are like sending her death threats.

Crazy. I feel like people have truly gone crazy over the last two years, especially, being kind of like in some sort of social isolation, just having like you and your phone. like trendy now to like be as snarky as you can possibly be in comments and like it's cool to troll like especially I mean TikTok is like savage for that the comments sometimes they're kind of funny but but they can be so terrible and it's like celebrated same thing on Instagram sometimes

like it's just my block finger is so happy I'm like block block block block I used to not because I was like no I am going to be like fair person and people free speech, they can say whatever they want. And sometimes I would try to like rationalize with people. What do you say about you? Oh my God. Well, the lowest hanging fruit is like the relationship stuff. So being in a relationship with somebody who's older, people tell me I'm a gold digger,

even though like I do really well in my career. People say like I'm addicted to plastic surgery. Also just like the fact that you found somebody. and you found love and you're so happy and you found a partner to do life with. Like that's such a thing to celebrate. Do you know what I mean? It's always women and like I'll go to their pages sometimes and they're like moms with young kids. And I'm like, this blows my mind. Like how is that how you're spending your time and this is where your energy is going. And like it always goes back to like hurt people, hurt people. Like you're not in a good place sitting there,

you know, trolling some other woman's Instagram. Like it's. not because you're so happy inside. But it's like, if I get any of that, I just block so fast because I don't want the energy suck. Yeah. You know? Anyway. All right.

Well, I could keep going with you forever and ever, but I just really appreciate you coming on and on and sharing everything. I think because you have such a positive attitude and just like a really unique. mindset. I mean, I am always mystified when people can kind of have this perspective when they're not like recovering drug addicts or alcoholics. I'm like, I was forced into this like life of like, I don't even know what I would call it. I had to adopt this kind of outlook because otherwise I'm going to die. And so when people have that naturally, it always, I don't know, I really admire it. So I want to ask you in closing, what is one that?

thing everyone should start doing today. Making your bed when you wake up in the morning. Love that. That is like a simple routine that I have every day that just like gets me on the right foot. You know, like you feel like you've already accomplished something. You feel cleaner. You feel neater.

Like I used to never make my bed because mornings are always so crazy for me that it was just like get up, get dress, get out the house. And then I'd come home and I bet. It's just making your bed is such a difference. And also I think, and I get a lot. I do get criticism about this because a lot of people will say, you know, because I say I wake up in the morning and I choose to be happy. Like I choose to look at the stuff that's going right in my life because I think anybody and everybody can be a victim of something. You know, like it can always be

why me? Why is this happening to me? And I try and have that different approach in the morning. I just choose happy. I just choose to focus on the good things. And a lot of people just say like that's toxic positivity and like you shouldn't be telling people that because some people clinically can't do that medically or I don't you know whatever and I'm like I understand that you know and I have a lot of grace and empathy for people that needs to be medicated and have an imbalance I can't speak on that because that's not my reality you know like my reality is my reality and my circumstance and this is what helps me so like all I can do is share what helps me in my life, that's all I can do. That's the best that I can do. So I'd say make your bed

and wake up and just choose to be happy or choose to look at the good stuff. I love that. And there is a distinction, I think, between like maybe somebody can't choose to be happy, but you can choose to focus on the good in your life. And when you focus on the good, the good usually grows. So love that perspective. Where can everybody find you, follow you, all of that. They can. They can follow me at Tanya Rad on Instagram and Twitter. I don't remember my TikTok. I think that's on. Yeah, yeah, it was Tanya back. Then I'm on air with Ryan Seacrest weekday mornings and then my podcast is scrubbing in with Beckettilian Tanya Rad. Amazing. Thank you. Thank you so much. I hope you enjoyed that episode. If you liked it and if you like the show in general,

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