What's Your Drama - “Tuesday is Go Inside Day (Not On the Duvet)”

Episode Date: April 5, 2017

Welcome back to the Sasha Answers Podcast!On today’s show: How to handle a hick-ass family during a wedding, how finances can f-ck up a relationship, and if pulling out during sex means you should pull out of a relationship.Thanks again for listening and keep your questions coming to me at [e-mail] or tweet us at @sasha_tong and @laineygossip. And head over to iTunes and Google Play to download the podcast!S. xx  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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For Sasha and her hair that I'm here, just express what's happening, because this is real time. What's going on right now? I just opened the mail. I got a package and I just got the review copy or the, we call it an advanced reading copy of Kevin Kwan's Rich People Problems. This is because you want to also be in the movie, correct? I want to be Kitty Pong. Okay.

They haven't cast Kitty Pong yet, have they? I don't think so. But it's mostly because Crazy Rich Asians, which is the first book in the series, was, I mean, I love the book. And I love the book because for the first time, this is a book about Asian people that wasn't like spiritual, lotus, mahjong, whatever. I talk about that all the time, but like there is another side of what being Asian is about. And these are superficial, like dynasty, Dallas, catty, fucking shopping, obsessed, materialistic, shallow people. And that's what kind of diversity should be, right?

That you can be all things. Of course. You don't just have to be, like, wise and, like, let me look at the dragon flower and tell you your fortune, right? Even though I love that, but yes. But, yeah, but you can also be like us. I mean, you are half Asian. I'm fully Asian. I was raised in Canada, and I love fashion.

I love fucking gossip. Like, you know, there's all sides, and this is… Anyway, so the third book is coming out this summer. Well, it's coming out in May, and the movie is, like, on the way. um they're casting the movie real fast like they've got all the leads almost in the movie just today they confirmed the character of Astrid which is Gemma Chan a British Chinese actress super excited about that and now oh my god like I've I want to kick you out of my house right now because I'm going to start reading right now 40 minutes you're just gonna have to eat shit and

let's uh but let's talk more about this because I didn't read any of the books but I know that you didn't you interview the author? I did. I interviewed him twice. Ask him, can I please be cast in your movie? I said to him, bold face. I said, I think I should be Kitty Pong. I am Kitty Pong. Yes. Many, multiple times. We ate noodles together. So don't we, can't we start like a petition? Cause I would love to see you. And I'm like, let's, can we all do that now? Like we will post something. Remember when I started my period petition and no one signed I will try again, and we can do this for you being in a blockbuster. You just have to do this podcast alone, Sash.

Just read out the questions, answer them yourself, because I'm going to start reading. We need to hide it. I'm going to start reading right now. Anyway, everybody, Rich People Problems, the third installment and the final installment of the Crazy Rich Asians series by Kevin Kwan will be available in May. I have an advance copy. La, la, la, la, la. Fiat.

Oh, my God. That was so exciting. I know. That was not planned either. We were trying to think about what we were going to talk about before, and then this happened. So, thank you. Okay, so… Let's take a deep breath. Fine. Let's take a deep breath. Get centered, because I don't know what's coming. Maybe it's like not happy time. So, just… All right. Want to get into it?

Yes. Okay. Hi, Saj and Lainey. I got engaged last year to an amazing partner. He has absolutely no issue with what I'm going to pose as a question. Good to know. Also, footnote, he's in charge of dealing with his quite small, in comparison to my, wedding guests if they get out of hand. I recently moved back to a smaller city in the Midwest. Most of my adult life, meaning 10 plus years out of my 31, I spent in New York. There I met a lot of people I love and respect, and they mean the world to me. I've invited them to stand at our wedding. We're having brides people instead of a bigendered thing, and a lot of them are people of color and queer.

A few are transgender individuals. individuals. My immediate family will be chill, but there are some people I kind of have to invite, parents, siblings, and such, and they've been sheltered in the Bible bubble their entire lives. Even if they don't mean to be insensitive or downright cruel, I can't trust what will come out of their mouths. Besides entrusting my brother and friends, how do I control what they say? I do not want anyone to feel uncomfortable about their gender and or sexuality during my wedding, but should I approach a couple people beforehand? My father's brother, for example, has been known to say terrible things,

including slurs around people like my brother's girlfriend. My family suggests that I laugh it off, but I will absolutely stand up for my best friends. Long story short, how do I prepare my small city wedding so that people I love the most are prioritized? Thank you. Well, I appreciate that you're thinking of this in advance and that like...

And so you should. Whenever you have any heat score family members, especially around wedding, especially when there's alcohol, like good that you're thinking about that because I think we can agree that everybody's wedding to to some degree has some sort of fucked up shit storm right right well I mean weddings are drama period yeah whether or not you have guests um who are racist and intolerable um whether or not you just have that like asshole fucking uncle who loves you know showing off his car or his third

wife or creeping on your friends or whether or not you have that girl who decides to wear a white dress. I mean, it's true. Everybody is going to shit on your day in some way. Yeah. There's always going to be a fucking dick at a wedding. And like part of, sometimes part of wedding fun is talking about who was the big ass cunt like at your wedding.

I mean, my mother went off after my wedding. Oh, with some of the people that were there? It was entertainment for me, and to a certain extent, yassic, like hearing her go off on people. Why did it go off? Like, I had one aunt who gave me a ceramic shoe as a gift. Did you get something? You got some other really whack gift, too.

Yeah. What was it? No, no, what was it? You just mentioned it, I feel like, the other day. Um, I've, like, someone's given me a scale. Didn't someone give you a fucking scale? Correct. But we shouldn't talk about who gave me the scale.

Oh. we should we can't talk about who gave me the scale because that would are we keeping in the scale though because that's like a really no we're not I've set this I've set us the scale oh four I think but my god I sorry that actually blows me away I can't I think we can keep it in we're just not gonna talk and whatever I won't say who it is okay anyway anyway so yeah my mother went off on the ceramic shoe because like first of all one shoe it was one shoe and second of all the symbolism behind giving someone a shoe is look I'll step on you right I'm stepping on your day that's how she interpreted it anyway and that's how like the Chinese way of inter so she went

off on that for like days and days and days I think that like if you get her in the right mood she'd probably do it again like she I would just have to push a little button and she'd go off she She'd come over, she'd drive over here, and she'd, like, yell it. You thrive off that shit, right? Like, you thrive off that stuff. You and clearly your mom as well. Well, no, I don't thrive off of my own drama. I love being a spectator to drama.

Yeah. Like, I would be happy, and that's the best kind of drama. That's why we watch TV and, like, listen to radio or whatever. That's why we do this fucking podcast. It's true. Not to help people, but to listen to their drama. Part of it is to hear their drama. Of course, of course.

So all weddings will have, to the breeder, all weddings, there's going to be, even if everything goes smoothly and none of your racist aunts and uncles do anything racist, something will happen. Yeah. I just need to prepare you for that. And for the most part, like, we'll get into what she can do, but for the most part, yeah, there is so much you can do because you can't control, as she asked, how do you control what's going to come out of people's mouths? You can't. There's going to be an element of surprise that you just can't handle. so you have to do what you can do and then you have to

kind of just like let it go you gotta let the cookies crumble yeah and I'm sure the things that you're referring to that she can do are just like seating arrangements right like make sure all the racists are seated yeah like put them at the K table throw in a few

extra K's it'll make them happy I don't know like whatever I would also think too like a wedding oh my gosh there's nothing better than a wedding than to express love and talk about love and if you know you have um lgbtq people at your wedding that are standing next to you or or at whatever at the reception um then it's your chance to maybe like talk about that in your vows or in your speech um you know you can plug that in talk about you know your hopefulness for uh equality and all

that kind of stuff like you can kind of drop the hints that way as well yeah right i love that idea Okay. Like you're saying in the vows or whatever. I don't know if they're going to go with like traditional church vows or like. But in a speech. In a speech. During the speech, you can be like, as you said to us, part of your life was spent in New York and you're saying that these people added so much to your lives.

And if you're like, thank you for coming. This is what you did for me. You opened my eyes. You opened my heart. You opened my spirit. You taught me so much about tolerance. You taught me about respect. you taught me how I come from a small place where I don't know anything and well that might take it

one step too far I loved everything before that but yeah right I think you can drop those hints there and as you said like seating arrangements and I mean and if you want to be super political which I kind of almost have an inkling that she does you could you know when people bride and grooms have favors at the end of their weddings for takeaways you could you could donate some money in honor of xyz foundation you know to really drive home what you stand for uh personally and as a couple and um i don't if you want to go that route like there are there are some ways to get around this i love that idea too like instead of wedding gifts like don't register for a gravy boat um instead of registering maybe say um if you would like to give us a gift please make a

donation to the aclu or whatever no no get the gifts but the gifts to your your guests i hate the gifts. Well, because you've got a fucking scale. Of course you would hate the gifts. It's not that. Like, I mean, to me, I never give wedding gifts. Like, I never go to the registry and be like, here's a fucking gravy boat.

You get an envelope full of cash. I think the gifts are so dumb. So, I remember for my wedding, I, like, straight up told people I want cash. And I think now you're seeing more couples actually doing that. Because you don't fucking need another

ceramic pot you sure shit don't need a fucking scale so or wait a minute you asked straight up people for money yeah when my friends were like what do you want I was like just give me fucking money right I'm gross but like that's what I wanted I didn't want anything that is a little bit gross yeah but you gave me money and I fucking used it I did give you money money but I don't remember you demanding money for me no I'm talking about like people who actually ask me like yeah do you want this or do you want me to give you money I was like can I have the money I mean if If you are that person, like Jacek and I actually wrote on our invitations, no gifts, please. Instead, if you are to make, like have a gift, please donate to the Cancer Society or to

the Kidney Foundation because his mother is a cancer survivor and my mother is a transplant recipient. So you can do that too. You can be like, hey, no gifts, make a donation to the ACLU or LGBTQ Foundation, Pride, Rainbow Coalition. Like there are so many. Black Lives Matter. Yeah.

Um, that'll get your, you know, get the attention, your, your clan family members. Um, so, but at the same time, as you said, there's only so much you can do and then you kind of just have to let things happen. And there's something to be said about meeting people and in a perfect world, the understanding that can occur when people of disparate segments of society meet and see that they're talking to a real-life human being in a place of joyous celebration. So at a certain point, you kind of have to let it go

and kind of see what happens when your racist uncle meets up with your black trans friend. And they're all dancing to YMCA. Whatever, Beyonce. drake or whatever and to see what happens and in many cases i've heard of many stories where the beautiful can happen which is that listen as you said your family members have lived in such a closed community where they haven't been exposed to different people of different faiths and different beliefs, and different colors, and different, you know, orientations, and so

that needs to happen for change to occur. Yeah, I totally agree. I actually just think that, yeah, I'm hopeful that this will, this big love event will probably or hopefully have people melding together where they wouldn't usually, and then it just makes me think of, now I just want to talk about S-Town so badly. But it's actually a really good segue because, listen, if I had met someone like John, first of all, as I said on the Show Your Work podcast, I have, I previously, previous to S-Town had no fucking interest in going to Alabama. Are you kidding me?

Right? But now you do? And now I know that someone like John B. was in Alabama, in like a shit town. Yeah. and that someone like him could be raised there produced there and it's given me a different perspective it gave me a perspective to want to understand these kinds of people like I remember that part I forget what episode was when um the guy goes to talk to uh the people at the tattoo shop and that was that one guy who's just like Bubba racist fuck right Bubba and I was like oh

fuck I was just filled and fueled with so much anger listening to it and then when Bubba starts talking about how much he appreciates John B about like getting all the tattoos to save their shop I was like oh like there is you always have to believe and always have to know that there is a soft side to some people who are uneducated small town fucks right like there is a human side to them and so yes that podcast totally made me think like oh like it would be interesting to actually understand these people and you don't have to even be uneducated to be a fucking prick But a lot of those peeps were uneducated. Well, I would say, to me, like, what it gave me a sense of perspective about is that, like,

are they the danger or are people like Jared Kushner and Ivanka Trump the danger? Equal. So, well, I mean, you could say, what influence does the John B. in the world have? What influence does he have? Yeah. Like, Jared Kushner is, like, cushed up in the fucking White House. You know, the bubba in his tattoo shop that he can barely keep open. Like, I don't know that he's got a lot of power.

So, and as you said, yeah, there are sides to people. Not that I want to condone a baba and, like, the shit that comes out of his mouth. But, yes, it's about empathy. It's about, and having that go both ways. My hope is that, like, you know, the people from New York are going to come to the wedding and they already have kindness. like they would have to have kindness given what they've already gone through but that kindness has to flow i hope that it can flow from the other direction as well yeah i agree so um hopefully

there won't be super ugly drama at your wedding and the drama that will happen will be the fun kind of drama like there was great drama at your wedding sash where we like collectively um observed our friend oh yeah fighting with her ex i didn't see the fighting i just saw the trying to fuck afterwards. That too. Right? I'm trying to think what else happened.

Like you actually ran over to where I was and Joanna was and Lara was and you were like oh my god look let's watch. Let's watch the show go down.

Yeah that's true. I did. That was really entertaining. That was a great end of the night. Yeah. So anyway so hopefully there'll be that kind of fun drama

and not the horrible drama that you're bracing against but do what you can do and then at the end of the day you're going to have to let it go and let people sort out the shit for themselves. And hopefully maybe

some of your New York City friends will edumacate your ignorant You can always hope for edumacation. Your ignorant your ignorant relatives. And I hope it's okay

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main bone of contention in our relationship for me is finances. He essentially lives out of his line of credit and is about $25,000 in debt with nothing to show for it. We don't own a home and we share my parents' old car, which they gifted to me years ago. He's been a musician for 20 years and this has brought him a lot of cool experiences and opportunities, but like most artists, it doesn't pay the bills. Luckily, he's smart enough to know that he can't rely on his musicianship as more than a supplemental source of income, so he has his own business as well. He's had this home-based business for the past 10 years, and over the past few, it's been slowing down to a point where his main source of income is not something one could survive on. He's been job

hunting and submitting applications for various positions over the past year, but never got any bites. This experience left him feeling defeated and extremely frustrated. Luckily, in the fall, he landed a part-time gig for his friend's company. While this isn't getting him out of debt, it's at least stabilizing and not hemorrhaging. I've expressed to him many, many times that the level of debt he's in isn't cool. He again takes on a defeatist attitude and chooses not to deal with it. He seems to think this part-time job will suffice for now. The struggle here is that I value being debt-free way more than he does and I cannot force him to shape up his finances because of that. I don't know what the hell to do anymore. I'm sick of tiptoeing around this issue.

I need him to take some fucking accountability and act like the 40-year-old man he's supposed to be. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Fed Up. Yeah, money. Like, I read some statistic, and we talk about this all the time on the social, and that is that, like, money is the main cause of marital strife and breakdown of marriages. Of course.

Not to scare you, Fed Up, but you're right in, like, writing it in and recognizing that this is a concern. i don't know because uh this is hard because like i don't i don't know how to save shit either and i'm almost 40 and i don't have i don't have any savings you're a homeowner though yeah no i know i'm just i'm just trying to empathize here by being like not everyone has their shit together there are some people who have like finances organized to shit they've always been like cory cory is like was like fucking living out of a van in his 30s like living in australia had no fucking job yet still had thirty thousand dollars in savings because he

doesn't eat food and doesn't do anything but drink beer right so he was able to fucking uh like get some loot in i i wouldn't be able to do that so i'm just like i i understand fed up and she's totally right in her concerns but the other good thing too and i'm not making i sound like i'm making excuses for this guy but he's trying the dude realized that like his musician dreams weren't going to fucking do much for him so we've had a small business and that kind of went south and now he's like doing a part-time job it's not like he's sitting on the couch fucking eating potato chips scratching his dick you know like he is trying to do stuff and sometimes like especially when I think about like my own debt like sometimes that's like a real mind fuck and

you don't want someone chirping down your back being like you fucking loser like fucking save some fucking money if she's a saver then maybe she needs to help him understand what that looks like and how to do it like she hasn't explained here that she's tried to help him she's just being like get your shit together homeboy and that doesn't help that doesn't help someone like me who doesn't know how to fucking save because there are tools that can help you with that and it's also a mindset as well right so I feel like she should help him and then help me No, I, look, before Jacek and I got married and still, I'm the one who's irresponsible with money. Like, he manages all our finances.

Like, please don't leave me because I don't know anything about our money situation. Like, there are times when he's like, come look at our statements and our savings and our retirement plans and whatever. So that, you know, that hit by a bus scenario, like, nobody wants to think about it. But actually, if there was a hit by a bus scenario, I don't know what to do. Like once a month, he sits me down and he's like, here are the passwords. I've forgotten them already. Like he just did this two weeks ago. And I'm like, what?

Right now I'm thinking about it. He's going to yell at me after you leave. I'm thinking about it and I'm like, oh, fuck. I don't know what they are. So I get it. That said, also, though, I have matured in my, like, I don't know much about our money situation, but I do know that I can't gamble anymore. That's what you've learned?

Sorry, this is your responsible lesson here. I had a gambling problem. Like, when we got together, he had to assume, like, over $10,000 of my gambling debt. Wow. I know. So you're not a good gambler either. It's just that I'm a very good gambler. Like, I know this, but I'm just not lucky.

It's all about luck. And P.S., no one's a good gambler. Like, if you gamble long term, the house always wins. Like, it's just… Listen, I… Anyway. I would get into the first one. It's designed for the house to win.

Like, Vegas wouldn't be standing if gamblers won all the time. Of course. The whole point is that they lure you because you win early, but if you over… Anyway, whatever. The point is, is that I was a gambler. I still have gambling tendencies, but they have been controlled. Okay. Um, it also helps that we don't live anywhere near a casino.

Um, so I get it, but the reason I'm pointing this out is because, so then Jacek and I were preparing for our wedding and we got married in a church and before you get married in a church, they make you go to these like marriage preparation classes. Part of the marriage preparation class was, there was like, we spent an afternoon talking about financial compatibility. and they encouraged you to have conversations about your money style and this was one of the ways that they were helping you develop as you said tools to have financial conversations and stability in your marriage because again most marriages break down because of uh like money

like whatever money money issues money issues okay there i heard this one story there's a financial advisor who works in our building and she came on our show and said that she works with couples to help them with this very thing and she said that she worked with one couple where the woman had like so many secret credit cards and was like something like sixty thousand dollars in debt just from shopping like going to whatever sacks and shoes and bags and whatever um and then when like the husband found out about it or maybe it was the husband I can't remember but it was like some serious shit so yeah so I would as you said Saj start going through um conversations where you help him or seek outside help there are people who do this for a living who are like

financial therapists are they expensive those financial therapists I mean but I mean in long term I get it that's the investment you have to make if she's that frustrated but yeah they're financial therapists um I like the idea of financial therapy then because then I feel like I need it too. Because it's true. I think a part of it is I'm trying to understand her husband because I'm quite similar. It's like you just don't want to face it. And so if you are faced with that and you actually see the numbers and you actually see how much you're losing or how much you're not saving or if you were to save this amount of money, how much you would have at the end of the year, like those make big impacts to me. So I feel like if our writer doesn't feel

like she can do it on her own, then yes, you're right. Financial therapist would be a good call. I think to me, this is, it's a big thing because I don't know long-term if this marriage is going to hold together. If this, if this continues, because think about it, like she has goals, you know, you have goals in life. Do you want to be a homeowner?

Do you want to get another car? Do you want to travel? Do you want to have children? Children are expensive. Oh my God. Like forget about just, you know, the getting pregnant part and the whatever, but then you have to like feed them and raise them and like send them to school and like save money for them.

Like it's the worst. Well, I guess it's not the worst, but I mean like, you know what I mean? Like it's expensive. Yeah. The worst. So when those dreams and those goals are made more difficult by the fact that one person or both people aren't financially compatible in order to realize those goals, because unfortunately goals, a lot of goals require cash.

um then what's going to happen long term is that she's not going to feel fulfilled in her life hey in my life i want these things to happen and they can't happen with this partner that is what my worry is so invest in a financial therapist if you can or invest in the time to train each other how to be more compatible financially because my god like again the statistics are against you i do not want to scare you but this is what happens so yeah good luck um keep us posted and send me your financial therapist and if anyone out there has any financial like you know stories about your relationship share them because we'll share them here um okay last question dear Sasha and Lainey where do you stand on the whole pullout thing I've been with my guy I've been with my guy for

six months and he always wants to pull out but let me be clear i have an iud so there's no real reason for him to do this when i've broached the topic with him sensitively he just says that he likes it better that way but i don't like it better that way any word any words of wisdom on how i can keep it in thank you d um this is this well i mean i get a guy who wants to like splash it once in a while but like not all the time my understanding is that like it's unsatisfactory for them it's way better like when you you know keep it in the whole time right right yeah so he I don't this is a unique one so they've been together for six months I mean my first thought is that he doesn't trust her oh really my first thought is that he doesn't trust her Jacek's

nodding his head because like okay so that's interesting that you're you're vibing that she he doesn't trust her I was just sort of taking it for what it was worth like maybe that's just his thing like maybe that's what is exciting for him is like blowing his load in like a duvet cover I don't know like if that's what he wants to do but here's the thing when you blow your load on the outside you have to jerk to the end so he has to do the work like he pulls out and then he's got a fucking no he does not no he does not you can pull out right before you're about to blow your load and then you go all over the place it's no no don't don't we have someone with a dick here yeah but i also know people who have done that who have a dick and do it they're not jerking

off afterwards most of the time like to get it like if you don't want to come inside and you want to come outside then like the moment of like you're holding on you're holding on you're like oh i'm right about to go you pull out you lose the stimulation of like bringing it out maybe he doesn't do it it's like drawing it out right yeah but maybe like there's like some dribble action in there and then he like that it's i i don't know that's interesting again that you think that you have to jerk i've never really that's not a thing okay well let me get real then like have you i'm have you had the experience yes and they yes i've had that experience and they don't jerk off into the duvet cover after they just like fucking blow their load on like on

whatever i don't know i'm not looking but on shit okay usually it's on a part of your body nope so what you make him aim out elsewhere okay a i'm not talking about cory b this doesn't happen all the time i'm just saying that it's happened before and they didn't wank off to do it okay i should just do good um i don't know okay but regardless yeah he's doing it this is what he's expressing that he enjoys yeah so much like the last reader about the financial thing you've got you two have to get on the same page because this shit ain't gonna last if he's not gonna shove it in all the time well yeah like that's why I was first a little suspicious so then well what's the deal what does she do so I just think that like in my experience and from what I've

heard and like read about and heard from other women because again other women will talk to me about this kind of shit, Sasha. Yeah. That it requires a little, a self-hand job at the very end. And I would, like, Jacek's reaction at the beginning, like, most dudes kind of want to, like,

at least once in a while, finish inside. Yes, of course. So that's why I'm just asking, like, this is a newish relationship. Is he kind of suspicious? Like, maybe prove to him in some way, like, give him a doctor's note or something.

I've got an IUD and see if that works. Right. Or do it the way that you guys have been doing, like, strap on a dome and be like, dude, if you are unsure of this, like, fucking double bag that shit and let's get it going. Yes. Or, I don't know. Okay, so how about if she's like, okay, strap on a dome, push that sucker in, leave that in, and he's like, but no, like, I want to, I like to pull out.

Like, how about if she's negating the fact, like, we've given option A, but how about If that's his kink, if that is legitimately his kink, that he likes to see his juice. Okay. Then that might just be his kink, but that means that there has to be a compromise. Like, hey, can we 70-30 it? Yes. Like, 70 or 60-40 it? Can you, like, whatever?

Hey, it's Tuesday, and on Tuesdays, we come inside. Yeah. Tuesdays. Ruby Tuesdays. Come inside. Yes. Right? I agree.

There needs to be. She needs to express that there needs to be compromise. Work out the suspicion first. That's where my head went. Okay. And Jacek's too. Okay. Like, I don't know.

I feel like, but the conversation has to happen, obviously, before you decide on, like, come inside Tuesdays, a talk has to occur. Yeah. Agreed. So, good luck with that. Let us know. Keep us posted. Yeah.

Let us know. Oh, no. Forget that. Well, recording this on Tuesday, you're hearing this on Wednesday. So, maybe next Tuesday, let us know. Yeah. Exactly. Next Tuesday, have fun taking in the juice.

The juice. Yeah. Welcome semen Tuesday. Right. Hey, that's it for us. Keep your questions coming to Sasha at LaineyGossip.com. And check us out on Google and Google Play and iTunes. And bye.

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