When Reality Hits with Jax and Brittany - Filling up Brittany's Love Tank w/ Hollywood Matchmaker Jaydi Samuels-Kuba

Episode Date: March 13, 2026

Hollywood matchmaker Jaydi Samuels-Kuba stops by to help Brittany and Zach navigate the wild world of dating. Jaydi shares her journey from writing for Family Guy to becoming an author and expert matchmaker. They discuss her book Your Last First Date, how to break toxic dating cycles, and why choosing a partner is about more than just a checklist. Plus, Jaydi opens up about her emotional path to motherhood and why it’s never too late to find your person.Please support the show by checking out our sponsors!Leesa: Go to Leesa.com for 20% off PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code REALITYHITS, exclusive for my listeners.Hiya: Hiya Health: Receive 50% off your first order when you go to hiyahealth.com/REALITYHITSARMRA Colostrum: Go to armra.com/REALITY or enter REALITY to get 30% off your first subscription order.Quince: Go to Quince.com/realityhits for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns.Discover Your New Home at apartments.comProgressive: Quote your car insurance at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust ProgressiveSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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And I am so excited to meet you, Jady. I'm excited to meet you, too. Oh my gosh. Jady is a Hollywood matchmaker who knows exactly how celebrities find love, which we know I need help with these days. Desperately. And why they still screw it up, which I also need help with.

She's the author of your last first date, and she's here to spill the real dating secrets you actually need to hear and maybe even find a good match for me. Hello, Jady. I would be honored, so yeah, let's get into it. Oh, my goodness. Okay, I want to get into your book first,

but I want back to hear this and I want to see what you're going to say because I love this. Jady's husband, Dave, was a client of hers, matchmaking business. She set him up on five unsuccessful dates and then decided to ask him out herself. I take issue with the phrase unsuccessful. I feel like it helps me figure out what he was looking for. Right, right. Which happened to me. Well, not match date.

Right. No, for sure, for sure. They didn't turn into subsequent dates. Yeah. Yeah. He, how good's your database? If you can't pull from within your own database to set yourself up. Yeah.

That's what I feel like. Yeah. I wasn't single when I started the company. But a year and a half later, I became single. And again, like had looked internally first. Yeah. When I met him originally, because I was with someone else at the time, I was thinking, like, there's a great guy for someone else.

And I was so excited to set him up. There's a whole long story, which is in the book about. how our relationship unfolded when I became single, but only guy in my life I ever asked out because who's going to ask out their matchmaker? Right. Even the most confident. Yeah.

How did that go about? Like, how did that part go about? Like, you actually asking him out and like... Yeah, well, first I pulled my business partner aside. Yeah. You're like, I need to call HR right now. Right? All two of us.

What are the legal ramifications of this? Yeah, I was like, I know this is a little unprofessional, but again, like got a good database. I feel like it's unfair, right? I'm single to not look within my own database. So I only did it one time to my credit. Right. But I knew what I was looking for.

I knew that, you know, I didn't know if it was going to work out long term, but I knew that he was definitely the kind of person that I could see myself with. And there was a little bit of flirtation through email and everything while I was setting him up. At some point, I passed him off to my business partner just to keep things clean. Nothing over the line. but at some point he had said, you know, he was getting a little self-conscious that he wasn't hitting it off, that they were unsuccessful attempts setting him up. And he was like, I swear I'm not that picky. Like, I just want someone cute like, like you, for example.

Not that I'm not that picky because you're not that cute. He was rambling. And you're like, I was reading this right. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. And so when I became single, I was like, well, I know at least he thinks I'm cute. There's that. Yeah.

So, you know, I knew that there was a decent chance he would go out with me if I threw it out there. So I just emailed him one day and I said, checking in, how's the single life going? He probably thought I was gearing up to set him up with somebody else as usual. And he just wrote back, it's great. He'd gone to Coachella seven years in a row at that point. And it was like, just got back from, I know, right? Just got back from me. Yeah, I got Coachella so much.

Right. And he had said, I think I'm ready for the next phase of my life. Dot, dot, dot. Because he said, I think I'm finally over it, ready for the next phase of my life. What does that mean? And I said it means you should take me on a date. I was going to say, did you immediately, that's, I like that. I was like, he, he just teed it up.

Yeah. So I stepped right in. And I said, P.S., I'm aware of how unprofessional this email is. And he wrote back, I'm reporting you to the Better Business Bureau. Oh. But, of course, I'd love to take you out. Oh, yeah. I'd acknowledge it, you know.

Yeah. And then you're married now. We're married now. It's been seven years. That's awesome. I have an almost four-year-old. Oh, I have a four-year-old. Yeah.

Oh, my goodness. That is so, I love that story. Also, like, I feel like it's one of those things where even for you to take that leap, like knowing, but you own the company. Yeah. That's just like, you were like, no, but he's worth it. You know what I mean? That's awesome.

I've done two very ballsy things in my life and both change the trajectory of my life for the better. And so I'm like, okay, I need to figure out what that third thing's going to be. Yeah. Right? But, yeah, the first time, well, second time was him. and the first time, I got my start before I was a matchmaker. I was a TV writer. Oh.

Family guy. I guess. I am obsessed. I love family guy. Family guy. I love it. Love it. That's our jail.

I told him this in the car because I'm going to want to talk to you about that as well. Yeah. I'm an open book. But yeah, when I became Seth McFarland's assistant and it never would have happened had I not basically cornered him at the water cooler and just I handed him a letter. why I thought I would be the perfect assistant for him. Wow. Definitely ballsy move.

And so both of those things just completely changed the course of my life. Do you still work with Seth MacFarlane at all? He endorsed the book, which is great. Yeah. Yeah. So we're in touch, but I haven't worked on a, the last project of his I worked on, not the version that streamed on Netflix, the show Good Times, but an iteration of the room before the original showrunner was no longer a part of it.

I was in that writer's room. And so again, not the version that aired, but the show Seth produced Good Times. I was in the original writer's room for that. So that was about a couple years ago. But yeah, I'm often off doing my own thing. Yeah. Well, that's fun. That's a fun thing.

Me and Kristen actually went to his Christmas party this year. Oh my God, they're so fun. Yeah, it was like gatsby's. Yes. I was like, wow. I mean, it was incredible. Kristen has yet to invite me to it. So Kristen, next year.

Thank you. This was 10 years ago. So I used to help run the guest list. That would have been no problem, but not in that role anymore. I met Bill and I the science guy there. Oh, yeah. He's been a staple for a while, yeah. I was like, this is so cool.

And I posted it and everybody was like, wow, two different worlds colliding, reality TV. And the science guy. Technically, his was reality TV too, though. Yeah. True. Yeah. Very different kinds. OG, original reality.

I love that. He, like, gets on stage and sings, though, and has, like, a guest up every year. And so, like, it's so good and talented. and just like a whole orchestra. I know. That was always really important to him. Family guy has, it's scored live. I was going to say, and he, when he hosted the Oscars,

that was one of my favorite years of hosting because he also just like really, he's such a good singer. Yeah. And he's such a good, like, writer and like everything and cares about that type of stuff. For sure. So you liked the orchestral, we saw your boobs. Yes. I mean, I guess it's a little inappropriate, but it's also like really funny.

And I don't think anyone should have. taking a two series. But that's what he does. Family guy has an orchestra. Like, come on. Like, they all have like all these songs and different things that are. Exactly. You know. Talking about two worlds colliding, you don't usually see like the orchestra and hard comedy. Exactly.

That's what he does best. And I love that. I think that's amazing. Okay, let's talk about your book, your last first date. What made you realize this book needed to be called your last first date? Was there a specific client or moment that flipped the switch? It was a publisher.

Oh, really? I actually didn't. You didn't have the name? No, I love the name, and I've been using the name, and it's great, and it very much embodies what I want for all of my clients, but it would be disingenuous for me to take credit for the name. It was originally, like, my podcast is called Match Made in Hollywood, so was my social media handle, and it's like, that was the name of the book. I met my husband.

We were a match made in Hollywood. I Matchmake. And so that was the original title for the book, and the publisher felt that it was a bit to narrow in terms of potential audience. It could alienate people who don't live in Hollywood. Yeah. And they wanted it to feel more accessible. And I think that was the right way to go because the book really is for everyone. That's amazing. I love how honest you are. You're like, ah, it wasn't me. You'll always get transparency. We love that though. Yeah. Authenticity means everything. Yes. You tell some pretty vulnerable stories about your own dating history. What was the

hardest truth to emit on page? Oh, boy. You know what? It actually had nothing to do with my dating life. There was a lot more I wanted to put in. On that front, I did not need to hold back. I actually had to be like with certain exes and you don't want people to get litigious. Yeah. Actually a lot more that could have gone into it. The part that was hardest to access, I went through an IVF journey with my husband and that was excruciating two and a half years of our life. And it's a through line in the book because one of the characters I'm setting up is considering becoming a single mom by choice. And so having to relate that back to my only. life, that was by far the hardest part to access.

So most of your stories, you don't feel like came from your own journey other than that one? They do, but they poured out of me. Right. Right. And I live and breathe all of that. But in terms of the IVF, I was like, okay, I'm past this. My daughter's born.

Yeah. You know, but I had to relive all of it writing the book. Yeah. I know that's extremely hard for so many women. So I think it's so empowering whenever any woman tells their story. And a lot of our friends have gone through it. Yeah. And my brother and sister-in-law went through my IVF journey as well.

And I think that so many people relate to that stuff. And I think it's important to talk about once you're okay. Because I know it can be a very private and, like, hard thing to go through. But so many women can, like, learn from each other and be there for each other. 100%. The amount I learned doing it, you know, even just knowing there's a website you can go to to check statistically at my age, what are my chances of getting pregnant at this specific clinic? Right. Had I known that earlier in my journey, I would have realized, wait a minute. That's crazy. Yeah. Like the CDC actually releases these statistics going through it. I had no idea. And about almost two years into the journey, I realized, wait a minute, the clinic I'm at for women my age, there's a 19% chance it was ever going to work. That was devastating after everything that I had been through physically, emotionally. And so, yeah. And then you switched it up. Did you switch it up? Yeah. We found a clinic that had higher success.

I had my daughter in no time. Okay, that's important. That's important information for people to hear. S-A-R-T. What's it called? S-A-R-T. Okay, because I know a lot of people listening. Yeah, it's like society for assisted reproductive technology, I think.

Okay, that's amazing to know. Yeah, that's, that is so interesting that that even exists. Well, and that you didn't even know that from your doctor or it's like, you know, you were never told that. They're not going to say by the way. They're not, yeah. They're like, we're going to bury that and hide that from everything. Yeah. That's not what you put on a billboard.

Oh, my goodness. Okay, so your characters, Mira, Kent, and Callie all feel very real. Which one do readers most often say, oh, my God, that's me? I have to tell you the beauty about this book is that I've gotten about an equal amount from depending upon where I go and the demographics of people I'm speaking to. The younger audience, people that, I would say tend to relate more to the mirror character. she also people that experience toxic cycles, constantly dating the same type of person. Sounds like me.

Did you see my eyes go? I saw it. I did. That's why I was like, once we get through that, I got some questions for you because we need to help our girl. Yeah, I'm also fine pivoting. I just wanted to give your books of love as well. Oh, that's so sweet of you. Yeah.

And so the Callie character, any woman who's getting to the age where they're not sure if they could have kids or not, and do I prioritize finding the right person or having a kid on my own? really have related to her character. She's also, she's someone with very rigid requirements. And they're not necessarily the like quote unquote right requirements when searching for a life partner. So I've gotten a lot of feedback on her. And then the Kent character, people are like, oh, I've dated a Kent. That happens a lot. But also I've gotten some very interesting reactions from guys about him. Like for those listening, his character is someone who's seemingly very superficial, getting at like late 50s, early 60s type who's asking for someone like 30 who looks good in a bikini.

You're like, okay, I have thoughts on this one. You know, I've seen this before. Yep. And you think you know how the story's going to go and then it kind of takes a different direction. That is interesting. That sounds like every stage. Literally.

Yeah, they're all based on real clients and stories. But I wanted to be accessible for people who, basically anyone picking up this book, I wanted them to recognize themselves if they're single or someone they've dated in these characters or if you're, married and happy you read it and you're like wait i remember being in that yeah time in my life yeah exactly maybe it'll be a tv show one day do you ever like because you did writing for yes i'm pitching an adaptation right now that's amazing yeah very loose adaptation though because i didn't want to follow it too strictly i think it lends itself maybe more to a movie but the tv version is i'm super passionate

about it but it's based on a very minor character in the books i'll say that interesting Oh, that's exciting. I love living in L.A. where we get to hear stories like this. It's very inspirational. Yeah, it really is. And we do something so different. I know. You know, so it's really, it's really, I hope that works.

Give it a year or two. I feel like you could, I'll be watching one of your shows one day. That's your brain, but I'm. Okay, Callie gives you an ultimatum about love and motherhood. What does the book say to women who feel like they're facing the clock? You know, it says to them that the clock insolk. some ways, especially we live in 2026. We have so many choices as women now that we didn't have before. And so the clock is a little bit orchestrated to some degree. Yes, there's biological

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Or waiting longer than we thought, you know, even me, like I've always wanted to be a mother. And I didn't have any. issues or anything like that with fertility, but I was over 30. And I always thought growing up in Kentucky, like, I was going to have kids by 24, you know, everything just changed. And it's perfect the way that it worked out for me. You know what I mean? And if I want to have other kids down the road, I still have time now.

Totally. And it probably makes you a better mom that you were able to get to know yourself better. Oh, I think so. 100%. I think so. And, you know, it's just crazy how my life changed so much. because coming from Kentucky, I thought that's what I was going to do and I was going to live there. I ended up moving to L.A.

My whole life completely changed. And I just feel like there's, especially with wit, like our bodies and what we can do, there's just so many more options out there now. And that's incredible because I did not think anything back in the day. You know, I was like, I'm going to be in my 20s. I feel so old if I'm in my 30s. And it's just like, that's not real. Especially in L.A. I mean, you had a child very young for L.A.

standard. Yeah. I know. And I love that. Like, I think that's great because it gives me, like, if I do want another child, I know I have time. Exactly. I don't know what I want right now, obviously, going through a lot, but, you know, there's still hope and I love that. And I think a lot of people feel that way now, more so than we used to, like, years ago.

And if they don't, they really should. Yeah. And that's what I've talked about this a lot, actually, on the podcast, because I think it's very important. And that's why I was saying, like, it's inspirational, whenever people open up about their stories because so many people are like struggling and think like, oh my God, I'm running out of time. You know, yeah. I'm not married yet.

I like them this, you know. So a lot of women feel that way. And men who are wanting families too. Like, I'm sure it could go both ways. Oh, yeah. Clients in their, even in their 50s, who that ship, for some people, they would have thought, oh, it's sailed.

And for them, it's important enough that they're looking into surrogates And the same thing that, you know, with a single mom by choice option, they're going to do the same themselves if they don't find their partner. Yeah. And I love that. My friend Lala did that. And she's very open about that. And I think that's inspiring as well, you know. So I love when people talk about those stories. You write about recognizing your future husband when he walks into your life. What's the quiet sign people usually miss when it's actually right? Interesting. I'm trying to think what passage may be conveyed that because I actually, just to set the record straight, I actually think that a lot of people are so convinced that they have met their husband before they actually have gotten to know the person. So I do want to caution people listening.

Yes, do I believe that you may feel love at first sight 100%, but do I think it's actually true that love at first sight exist? I think it's more potential for love at first sight. Right. One of those times you're going to be right. It's going to be your person. Yeah. You know, a lot of people who feel that have probably felt that way before. Yeah. And it doesn't take away when it is right in the end. I think the question's more like asking, like, what is a sign that somebody might miss? Like, like, if I'm dating and, like, you're being too picky or you're being too whatever, like, but it could actually be a good person for you, but you, like, overlook it.

I think that's a great question. Yeah. My husband's someone who I would have swiped the wrong way on a dating app. Right. I had very rigid requirements about height. Yeah. That's a very common one for a lot of women. And I had never gone on a damn short.

I had never gone on a single date with a guy under 510 until I met my husband. And he was just so charismatic and I was attracted to him. And I didn't think about the fact that he'll say he's 5'9, maybe a little shy of that. But, you know, I didn't think about that when I met him, you know. And I think that in terms of pickiness, if someone brings to the table what they're asking for, I'm okay with it. if they don't, I might level with a client and say, you know, you're asking for a billionaire. You're not a billionaire. Like, what do you bring to the table?

That's so amazing. And if you have something that's so amazing that outweighs the fact that you're not a billionaire, cool, let's talk about it. Right. But so many people ask for things that they themselves don't offer. And so I think sometimes. Yeah, like the 60 year old that's asking for the 30 year old in a bikini. Yeah.

Like, you ain't offering a gym bod, sir. Exactly. Like, don't. Like, come on. You're not offering a gym barter. Sorry, I almost made you put that out. That's why I stopped. You did.

You did. I need to bring you on my client meetings. Yeah. But that's kind of more with that question, man. Like, what are people, like, missing? Yeah, I think they're being a little too picky at times, I think. People are too honed in on the checklist. Right.

I agree with that. Yeah. And I think it should be more obvious, but I don't think people talk about it enough. Like, they really do have those rigid requirements. And if one, like, he brushes his teeth weird. Nope, done. For sure. Even if it's like something so small.

Totally. Yeah. For me, it's not about what I try to do with coaching clients is take the rigid requirements in the checklist, which by the way, 50% of people, if you go by the microcosm that is my dating database, 50% of them, whether it's through me or on their own, they find someone who checks off all the boxes. I'm not against someone having a checklist if it makes sense. But you have to be open to things outside of that. Working in the inverse is how I prefer to operate. is someone avoiding your deal breakers.

So not are they checking off boxes. Are they avoiding the things that are not good for you and what you're looking for? Right. Interesting. That's really the way to do it. Like if you're someone who wants a family and you're talking about it with them, they might not actually want one, but they're not going to say that to you. Are we speaking from personal experience?

No, I'm just like, just saying. Yeah, yeah. It's a great example. Yeah, yeah. I mean, it was definitely said that no kids, no marriage, no nothing, and then all that stuff happened anyway. So it's like, I don't know. I don't really know. And sometimes it's for the best, you know, but at the end of the day, I think, yeah, it's a perfect example. If you're asking someone like, do you want kids on a first date and they don't and you're so attracted to each other and what have you,

you know, it's, that's wonderful, but it may not result in what you're looking for long term. Do you want kids on a first date? Should that even be a first date question? It should not. Okay. I'm glad you asked. I don't think so. I'm glad. Yeah. I'm like, eh, I don't know. Yeah, cringy first-day question. Yeah, I feel like when men do that to women, in my experience in the past, not saying names, but it's kind of, it's in a love, it's in a love bombing way. Right. Yeah. Right.

So I think it needs to be like that conversation can come, you know, a little bit later once you're getting to know each other more. D three or four. Yeah. Like early on, because those things matter. Right. But not first date. No. And I think the beauty about matchmaking or even setups through friends.

or online dating, a lot of times you know that ahead of time. And people still feel the need to bring it up early. I'm like, keep it light on the first date. Yeah. Have the passion, enjoy each other and then have those more serious conversations. But knowing that baseline stuff, I think they call it hot take dating now. You know, first date, like, what are your politics? What's your religion?

People are all for that. But I do like using it. Some of those, you going on a date with me, the first thing I'm going to say is, what are your politics? Because we ain't, we ain't going to even buy that coffee. continue that talk unless like I feel like there are some of those like things that you should get to. But I feel like a lot of those, but in a light, in a light way. Yeah, because I think what I agree with, you're going to see on their social media majority of the time. Like I know, you know, we're probably

not even getting to the date part. Yeah. If I thought otherwise, if I saw a red hat anywhere. Exactly. Unless it's completely blind. Right. You know a little bit about them before the stay and age. And so. Oh, yeah. I'm on Google. Like, what's your name? How tall are you? Listen into your voice to make sure it's not weird. You're the perfect example of why my dates are, I actually have a blind dating business, and so I don't let people know too much about the other person. Oh, my gosh. Because people like Brittany like to Google. I have never done a blind date.

I would. Ooh, okay. I don't know if I could do a blind date. Fun challenge movie. Oh, my God. I don't know. I feel like you could, if we, if there was someone like me involved, like, you know, another person to be like, no, she'll think that. facial whatever is weird you know like and as I'm saying like we shouldn't be too picky

and I'm gonna be picky on your behalf but it sounds like why is you're picky about the right things exactly yeah yeah I actually wouldn't be but I was like you know I think you could do the blind thing I've never done blind date I've never been on a dating app I try so that is actually a point of contention in our friendship because I try to get her and I get it it's different because like we're in the public eye so like like putting her on there, it also adds like, you know, safety concerns, screenshots. Are people going to screenshot that I'm there? And then it's going to be in the magazines or even just little gossip blogs and stuff.

A hundred percent. I've got a pitch for you. Okay. Okay. Zach runs your online dating profile. That's what I said. Yes. Okay.

But you have to. I'm glad she's on today. You have to be. You have to own it, though. You can't pretend to be Brittany because then it's going to be all over the place, right? Right. Oh, don't worry. I would immediately be like, this is her gay best friend.

Yes. This is a man. Yes. But don't worry. I'm vetting you, but you do have to get through me. I tell people to do this all the time. First thing. Really?

That's a thing? Yes, I just officiated a wedding for a woman. This is actually, you're not single, correct? No. But yes. But this was, you were the person that ended up getting married in this scenario in this metaphor, this example. But my friend, I'll just use names, it's easier.

My friend Jackie. was doing, she was the you. My friend Floresia was the you. And Flora was burnt out by online dating apps. And Jackie was like, well, you have to be findable. And that's my whole thing that I tell clients. Like you might be burned out, but your person is out there looking for you. They can find me on Instagram.

I have almost two million followers. How many DMs do you got a day? But that's intimidating too. If you have two million followers, they're like, oh, she's never going to see it. So sometimes they won't try. Yeah. It's hard for me to go into my, because, you know, you have your DMs of the people

you follow, so those are the ones that you actually see. And they're requested. And it's very rare for me to go into the requested because there's mean people online. I always say, like, if you want to put in your bio, hey, DM me if you're a single man. Sure, then I will, then I'll accept it. That's findable on Instagram.

I need you to say like, hey, open for business. Oh my God. Taxi light on. Nobody knows. Exactly. People have to know you have to advertise. Thank you. Actually, I'm going to sit on this side of the table now because, yeah, I was like, this is what I needed.

Thank you. And she's a trained medical professional. Medical professional? I mean, maybe not medical. I'm putting this on my Instagram. She's at least done some things and research. So you can't argue with facts and science. I'm not arguing.

I want to know. I'm telling you one of my besties, and I've done this for clients too. But Jackie was like, I am going to get you a person. You're burnt out. I'll take a load off. Like, I will do this for you. And she did run dates by it wasn't totally blind. She would talk to someone.

Okay, Floor, what do you think about this person? And then she would go ahead and make the match. And sometimes Floor would say, yes. Sometimes Flore wouldn't decline the date. Well, one day, she was presented with this Italian manufacturing engineer Sergio. And Floor was like, ah, he doesn't look like my type. And Jackie was like, well, he's too good to pass up. And Jackie was single.

And she messaged Sergio. She said, I know this sounds a little, you know, out of the ordinary, but my name's actually Jackie. I was looking for a date for Floor, but would you go out with me instead? I just officiated their wedding. Oh. Yeah. I mean, since the friend turned it down, that's completely open territory.

That's fine. 100%. That is so sweet. It is sweet. Yeah. Like, I love that type of story. Yeah. Was the other girl Jackie in the wedding? In the wedding? Oh, Florence. Yeah. So, yeah. Sorry, Jackie was in the wedding. She was the bride. Oh, I mean. Okay, sorry. She got married. Yes. Was the other girl in the wedding as well?

She was. Yeah. I love that. That's so cute. Also, though, that does... See, and this is where my... That does sound like that bait. Like, because I'll get DMs. They'll be like, oh, my God, my friend, these are so cute. DM her at blah, blah, blah.

So, like, to me, like, the fact that they got past the... Is that, like, I would have maybe gone to... This is definitely spam. I'm being tricked. I'm sending money to some king in, you know, Morocco. Now we're saying it on here, you're going to run her profile. Perfect. And so now when people see it, they know it's not spam or whatever.

Like, it's... You're not a bot. That's the other thing is because sometimes they'll be like, oh, well, this can't be her. You know what I mean? Because it's like you're a public figure. Yeah, this is official. It's going to be her. But you have to say it's you.

And it's great. I have to tell you people, guys love this. First of all, it's different. They're not used to it. But also guys love a chance to impress somebody. And so whether it's Zach or whatever or whatever friend, family member, they're like, oh, well, I want to prove that I'm good enough. So all of a sudden, they're- Exactly.

Exactly. Exactly. So they're showing up on date one, having already tried to impress you. So it sets everything up for success. And I trust, I trust Zach to be discerning on your behalf. Yeah. Oh, he wouldn't be. I'm probably crazier than she is when it would become, like, come to the checklist or the whatever. Yeah. I'm going to have to peer over your shoulder and be like, don't, don't discount this person. I know, I know. I know. I seem okay. I'm actually, I'm pretty good. I feel like a, am I or am I not a really good judge of character? You are. I'm a great judge of care.

I suss out things real fast. I have like intuitions about stuff. I feel like I just read people in general and communication styles and everything else and if they would be good. So I do feel like I am specially qualified for this. And I'm like, you know, I know all the knowledge on Brittany. So there you go. I'm so glad you're convincing her of this. Oh, my God.

It's the best. And you don't even have to do anything. You just have to say yes. I'm controlling her. Thank you. You've never done that. I'm validated by science. And medicine.

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Ooh, the fans usually miss. Because I was going to say controlling behavior, but I feel like that can be noticeable. It doesn't have to be that fans really miss. It could be because you actually know the couples or whatever or, you know, been around like power couples in general. I would say lack of consistency. Yeah. That's the big one. People miss that because they just, when you feel good, you feel great and you forget about the times you didn't.

No one should be crying early in the relationship. If that happens, it's not a good sign. Quit. I'm not going to name names. I'm not going to name. names. There was this one guy she, I don't know, happened to be married to. And that was like one of the, it was like mistake, mistake and then he would pull her back in. Doing all the wrong pull her back. It was like that constant tug, but it was like the, I like the way you said it. It's the inconsistency of behavior. Yes. And so it's, yeah, it's not about the treatment. Although of course you want the consistent treatment to be positive. So, you know, I'm not

advocating for consistent bad behavior. Right, exactly. No one should stay in that. Yeah. But yeah, it's the consistency. So someone treating you well, but regularly and not making you cry early. Yeah. Or hopefully ever.

Yeah, ever. But, you know, yeah, like, again, it's like also going back to, because you said love bombing, like, do you find that because I feel like love bombing is actually one of the biggest crimes that can happen? I don't totally agree. Okay. Well, I have a soft. This sounds horrible. Well, I have a soft spot for love bombers.

I know the phrase is, I think it's overused. So there are people who are maliciously love bombing. And I'm not, I will never defend those people. But I also coach a lot. It's more men that tend to do this. I coach a lot of men who have been guilty of love bombing in the past. And I will say they really mean it in the moment. Yeah.

What they're guilty of is they don't take, not falling through. Not falling through, but not, they don't realize. they're not going to in the moment, if that makes sense. So a lot of these guys, they'll be like, I love you so much. Like, let's plan a trip to Japan next year. Yeah. Right. Absolutely. Yep. Yeah. And they don't, I want people to, and this is true with fighting, you know, sometimes I think there's something called the 24-hour rule with conflict cycles. Take a beat and do you still feel that way in the morning? If you do go ahead and have that fight, I believe with saying I love you and having big romantic gestures, a lot of people are guilty of not waiting 24 hours. You feel something. You're

super excited. You're Tom Cruise. You want to jump on a couch and say how much you love someone. Get off the couch. Get off the couch. Go to your bed. Sleep for, you know, sleep overnight. You still want to jump on the couch the next day. Go ahead and jump on the couch. But a lot of people get swept up in the passion and the emotion and they really believe the things they're saying when they say it. And that's why we're not dumb. It's not like, you know, we can't tell the difference between when someone really loves you or not, they really mean it in the moment. And so I encourage a lot of those people to take a beat. I know you're really excited and you feel this way, but you might not tomorrow. And I think a lot of them make that mistake. And I think the term

love bombing kind of makes it sound like it's intentional. You know, most people don't drop a bomb by accident. Yeah. It's a very deliberate act. And I think there's not enough, in general, empathy for the other side with dating and that's why there's a lot of bad behaviors and miscommunications that I'm out there advocating for on people's behalf trying to dispel some of these notions most people are not ill intended and trying to hurt others they're probably hurt themselves and their behaviors coming out sideways and they're not taking enough time to process their own emotions and so they're hurting others in the process and that sucks and it's awful to be on the other side of it oh yeah for sure okay asking both of you

what kind of person do you think I should be with? I was like, do we see you with? I'll let her start because I don't want to give any of No leading questions. Yeah, exactly. Well, I was picking your producer Stacy's brain out there. Oh, good.

Super kind and playful. We're at the top of her list. So, you know, I'm a little bit biased in terms of that. I now have that in my head. Yeah. But no, that's true. Somebody has to, like, making me laugh and being like kind of like my friend is very important to me.

You know, like, I have to be able to have fun because I laugh. That's why I've stuck around so long. I make her laugh. I try to be a very positive person and I laugh all the time. Even like if I'm not supposed to like somebody saying a prayer and I accidentally laugh. Like I'm just a laugher.

It's just like who I am. So I want somebody who like enjoys that part of me and like wants to make me laugh and not make me feel weird if I'm laughing all the time. See now I'm not whenever I laugh, I'm going to like hear myself every time. You know, typically when I do an intake with clients, I always look to them first to see what do you see for yourself. And I do a gut check. And I'm like, okay, is that resonating with what I'm perceiving about someone? Of course, like in terms of what I know about you, you're so deserving of like all those major checkmarks, right? Like in terms of somebody playful, someone who is, you're an intelligent person, someone who's going to match you in that way. You know, somebody grounded, who doesn't take life too seriously. But. But also, you know, there are serious components of your life and they need to rise to that challenge. But I need to know so much more about you to know who that perfect person is for you. If we were in a coaching session or doing an intake interview, which maybe we could even do now.

But I want to know, you know, in terms of when this goes out, we will be doing that right after. Amazing. Well, sidebar. But, yeah, like, I would need to know in terms of where you end up. First of all, biggest question. are you really ready for that next serious thing? Do you need to get anything out of your system? This is one of the first questions I asked clients coming out of something major.

Don't look at me like that, Zach. You know, I want you to have a rock. I always tell her she needs a roster. Oh, yeah, it's important. Let's do the roster so you can get it all out. You know, like, let's get, Stella getting her. And that's ho-dice. I do.

I'm like, let's hoe down. That is important to acknowledge. Or let's just hoe up. And also this is all in service of your next person. Like if you're keeping him in mind and you do need to get things out of your system, you should very much do that. Right. So when I set people up,

I'm like, okay, first of all, where are you at? Are you really ready? Are there, there's people where I literally prescribe to them essentially like, yes,

going to the roster, like getting it out of their system. And that is vital and helps lead them to meeting their person. One of those people on the list could be your person, and, you know, crazy things happen. But if you're like, I need to do that first. But your list right now, no. None of them.

That's the thing. And people often will fall into the trap of like falling for someone on the roster. And it's like, I'm sorry, she's right. What do you want me to do? Not agree with her. I'm sorry, this woman speaking Bible. It's like, I just really wanted to make it very that. Like those listening won't know, but if they're watching, I'm getting

lots of pointing. Yeah, yeah. But I don't know. I'm regretting having him on the podcast so much. I'm loving it. I'm loving. But yeah, in terms of religion, politics, you know, like, are you on the same page with someone in terms of life values and perspective?

And so how are you open to someone who has kids of their own? Is that an ideal scenario? You know, are you okay with someone who doesn't want children if they already have theirs and they're able to, you know, give Cruz a sibling? a built-in sibling in terms of that relationship. So there's so much more I need to know about you. But in terms of what I see, I just see someone super high quality because you're super high quality.

Yeah, of course. I am high quality. You know? Literally. I love kids. So the kids saying wouldn't be an issue with me. But I did like kind of date this guy and it was just like too recent and like baby mama drama and like different stuff was happening.

I don't want that. Like if I'm going to be with somebody who has kids, I want them to be. in a great co-parenting situation because I love kids. I would be a great stepmother. I would love, I don't care. I just, yeah, I always have. And I grew up with a stepmother who I love so much. So, you know, that kind of stuff doesn't bother me, but they would have to be out of that, like,

drama situation, which is ideal. Yeah. Not going to lie. It's super ideal. But then also, this is the part, you know, where I meet with a client. I'm like, okay, is that your situation as well? And if it is amazing, right? like you can come to the table and be like,

I've got this great co-parenting situation. I was like, okay, you know what? I'm going to point this time because you already know I'm looking at you. But so you're asking for something that maybe you don't quite. Mine is getting better, though. Yeah. A lot better. But that's what I'm saying.

It's important to leave room for people that I'm not saying this exact situation. I would love for you not to have that coming at multiple ends, right? But there might be something that someone is bringing to the table and it's like maybe not their fault or they're in this situation. but everything else about them is amazing. If I were setting you up, I would want the guys to know that about you and I wouldn't want them to hold that against you. Yeah.

So in the same way, like, yes, ideally, that's what you're looking for, but leave room for other possibilities. Right, true. My bio on Instagram literally says Cruz's mommy. Like, no matter what, and I know that a lot of people, like, if they're dating, they don't want to talk about their kids right away,

but that's like a 100% deal breaker for me. Like, my son is the most important thing in my life and he needs me. And, like, people will know immediately that I have a child. Yeah. And your person, they wouldn't want it any other way. Yeah, exactly.

Exactly. I feel like for you, it's the, like, great, let's touch on the big thing. But for me, the things that I've seen is you need the little things too. And that's what I want from the person to pay attention to the little things with you. Like, just like love note or like something where it's like makes you feel special in ways that I know other people have. have not made you feel or didn't make you feel like you were, you know, the greatest thing that had happened to them. You know what I mean? And that is where like, yeah, I want to fill in all those, but I want to make sure on a daily basis, this person has your back and is, for lack of a better term, like filling up your love tank.

You know what I mean? Like making sure you're getting those small things because I know that that is important to you. You like to, you know, you like to have that, like, romance. Yeah, I do like, I do like the romance. Like, she lost that romantic feel. And I want that from your next person. I want them to be kind of a romantic for you without you having to specifically ask. Well, the people competing for your attention through Zach on Hinge or whatever dating app he chooses.

What is your preferred love language? So they know they have the recipe for success to win you over. Man. Okay. So what is there six like languages? So, well, now there's, there potentially is more than five, but there's five that are like the most talked about. And there's other people coming forward saying, but there's six, there's seven. Which is like, I believe in the five. So acts of service. Okay. Yes. Physical touch. Yes. Words of affirmation. Yeah. I'm like, yes to all of them. They're all great. They're all great. They're all. No, but that's the thing. We're very much like, no, these. We need all of these. Yeah. Everyone needs all. But it. It hates differently. for different people. So, for example, so there's also just to close the loop, there's gift giving and quality time. My husband is someone, Dave's someone who, what really he loves it all,

acts of service. So I could get him amazing gifts. I could spend so much time with him. But if he comes home and it's like, I don't know, I left a million things on the countertop, he doesn't feel loved. Right. He feels loved if I took the extra two seconds to like clear off the counter. Yeah. You know, that's how he feels of the most. He appreciates. He appreciates. appreciates all of it. But that's what really does it for him. For me, I'm like a physical touch person. He could tell me I look beautiful. He could get me presents. But if we just like are able to cuddle up and, you know, he just will do like a loving gesture of some kind that like makes me feel loved, you know, like just any, any form of intimacy is how I connect and feel like, okay,

like he sees me, he hears me. I feel valued. Yeah, I think that's super important to me as well. Physical touch. Yes. Physical touch is definitely very important to me. Words of affirmation. Words of affirmation are important to me. Especially from things I've gone through in my past. Exactly.

Like, I'm overthink. I'm overthink. I'm a, you know, I'm a overthrinker too. So like. She needs to have the validate.

Like she needs to make sure. Like it's like, wait, it's like yes, you're, you know, she needs that extra. Yeah.

Well, they say like when people are going through times of conflict, a lot of times it manifests through the opposite of what their love languages are. So someone might be great at giving you words of affirmation, but then they are vicious when they fight with their words. So sometimes you have to be careful. And I also think a lot of people believe that you should automatically find someone who has that built-in same love language as you. So like a guy that just naturally is super affectionate, you'd be like, oh, like he's great for Brittany.

But I think the most important thing is when someone is able to adapt their love language to fit the way that you receive it. Right, right. I actually love that because my boyfriend and I, hi Benji. Hi, Benji. My boyfriend and I, I wouldn't say we have the same love language. He does not like gifts. I love giving gifts. I love.

I love giving them, but I don't necessarily need to get them. Exactly. I'm the same. But when I, and it doesn't even have to be a big gesture. It could be like something small that made me think of you in this certain way. Something sweet is good. Or I'll get him something like of TikTok shop for the kitchen. And he'll be like, we don't.

don't need this. Yeah. And I'm like, I went, oh, my way to get you this. And so now he's adapted to being, like, because I need to hear that you're appreciative of what I went out of my way to think of you. Yeah. And that's funny, you said it that way, because he's adapted to be like, thank you. I really appreciate that.

And, like, adapted to me. And then I've adapted to, you know, knowing that, like, yes, like, his is more physical touch, I think. So that's mine, too. So I'm like, I don't really have to adapt that much. but I have adapted to where I'm like, like, okay, if I give him a gift, he's not going to like it. So then I...

Service probably you had to adapt. Yeah, you know what I mean? It's like we've adapted in that. Or it's like you dress up the gift with something physical. Yeah, you know what I mean? Yeah. So it's like we've done that like give and take. And I think that's like when you're doing a relationship, it is, it's not about compromise.

Like you shouldn't have to give up everything, but it is about making your life together. So it's like I don't like to see it as compromise. It's you're choosing a path. Mm-hmm. And you're deciding that that's the path you want to take and then doing it together and not separately. You know what I mean? No, I couldn't agree more. So I think that's like the.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you. Thank you back with him. I'll be here all week.

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Okay, so it was acts of service, gift giving, quality time in words of affirmation. Quality time is important too, though. I think, no, I think you're number one, though, if I, if I had to, like, speak, it's either physical touch or words of affirmation. And I think it's even words of affirmation. Because, like, I think you could, like, possibly go without physical touch, like, holding hands or whatever. But you couldn't go without words of affirmation. I mean, you have. You've gone without all of these for a very long time. That's why I'm like, she needs them all. I'm like, all of them. Raise the hand. I'm like, audios, me. Oh, yeah. I guess I couldn't, like, pick which one would be. the most important, honestly. It's not always obvious. Like, I think my, I am not a hugger. My friends would be, like, physical touch. I'm not a hugger, really, with my friends.

Like, I'll give you a hug or whatever, but I'm not somebody that's, like, grabbing on. And I don't love whenever I'm, like, out with friends and they're, like, grabbing on me and doing all that stuff. Like, I'm not really like that, you know? Yeah. But when it's with a guy, I want them to, like, kiss on me and, like, hug on me. And so.

No, you want, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So it might not be obvious to Zach that maybe physical touch actually is your, yeah. Yeah, it's not always obvious. Because he's my best friend.

So we just, you know, like, we'll hug each other and whatever, but we're not having to, like, walk around holding hands or, you know. I was like, yeah. You don't kiss on me. We've actually never kissed. I've kissed a lot of my friends. You're like, this is a different podcast now. No, we've definitely pecked. You literally were at my house at game night the other night and you would not take a shot with me until I picked you on your lips.

I know. That's different. That's different. I mean, what else would be? do Zach, hello. I'm just saying we've never made out. No, no, no. On the record.

But no, because I'm not really like that with my friends, though. Right? I'm not like a cut like on the couch with my friend type person, but I like that with whoever I'm dating. Yeah, it makes it that much more special. Yeah. Because it's a difference, right? You know, I don't know which one would be the most important. I guess that's something I'll have to figure out.

Your intake. Yeah. What's another important question that you would ask me? Like, you don't have to give away everything. saying obviously. But is there anything else that really stands out that you would like ask me to see what kind of person would be right for me? You know, my business partner actually, and now I incorporate this into my line of questioning, my business partner, Lauren Rosenberg, every intake wants to know what someone's birth order is

and actually believes like older siblings should be with older siblings younger and younger. Oh, really? Middle and middle. Yes. Only children. Wildcard. How, what is, what about you and Benji? He ate his triplet. I'm an only child. But he, tell the, everybody always says that they're like,

oh, I'm sorry. And I was like, I didn't know that. He was supposed to be a triplet, though. I was supposed to be a triplet and I ate him. I just could not even imagine.

Did he also eat his triplet? No, he's the oldest. And it's crazy because he's, they've been doing those like TikToks where it's like one person's like the planet, like they're traveling. Yeah.

I did the this, this, this. And then it's my name's Zach. You know what I mean? Uh-huh. That is the literal. our relationship. I am up in the clouds, like,

to go off signs, I'm a Libra, so I'm just like very nonchalant, don't care about a lot. But you also complain a lot of things. Like, if I need help with something, you're one of the first people I would call. Well, I used to be an executive assistant. Yeah. So I'm very like, but the thing is, I think I do that for other people. Not yourself. I get it.

I exhaust myself on, so for myself, I'm like, no, someone, like, so Benji does it for me. Right. This is wildly off topic. but how old were you when your parents revealed that you ate your siblings? Oh, I went to school when I was five, and I told my, because they gave me the, you know, the five-year-old version of what happened with the trip, because they were explaining it, I guess one day because I had questions. And I literally went to school in kindergarten and told them that, or told my friend, that they pulled tissues out of my mom.

I thought it was Kleenex, where it was like, so I had. basically it was triplets and they had they had like malformed or whatever and so like it I think it was like it was far into the pregnancy they thought they lost all of us all three of us but they only had lost the other two and then champion darwin yay um I popped out but they told me about the process so I went I was like yeah my mom had like Kleenex coming out of her like blah because I said tissue they said tissue and so like they had to then re-explain it but we we um my parents and I like we always make fun of it. They were like, how in the world could we have had three of you?

Like, we wouldn't have been able to afford a house on the food you ate alone. I definitely have a personality of three people. So, yeah, we just have fun with it. It's not like, people are like, oh my God, I'm like, it's not traumatic. Like, my mom will laugh with me. Like, we talk about eating them all the time. Oh, my goodness. All right, well, this took a turn bite.

It usually does with us. It does. We're like squirrel. Every time. We're trying to tell each other's stories. Every time. Every time. A perfect person to match you on.

He knows me. He's been, how long now? We've been friends since before we, I ever moved to L.A., which has been over 10 years. So we've been friends like. And I moved here 10 years in March. Yeah. Yeah. But we were friends.

We're both from Kentucky. So I'm going to say like. So we've known each other since before. That's so nice to have. Yeah. Yeah. 17, 18, 18. Yeah.

It's been a while. Yeah. Yeah. Since college. Since college. I'm like. I go crying in a corner. So long.

But I have a weird, I guess, birth order. Is that what we're calling it, a birth order? So my mom has three kids, and I'm her youngest. My parents got divorced whenever I was like two or three. And so I would be my mom's youngest of three kids, but my dad has five kids, so I'm right in the middle of all five. Did you grow up in a house with them? Well, they've divorced very young,

so I lived with my mom majority of the time, saw my dad, you know, the cussie thing, like every other weekend, blah, blah, well, well, great. I was great with both my parents. Like, had a great childhood and stuff. But I lived mainly with my mom. And then my older brother and sister are like six and seven years older than me. And then my younger brothers are like 10.

Yeah, like 10. Yeah. So I would say, it was a gap. Like, I'm kind of, I was kind of in the middle. So what you're saying is you're an only child. But my family was always around. Like, I would go to my dad's and my little. brothers would always be there.

And I was just obsessed with them, love them. I loved kids. I was just like squeezing on them, kissing on them. But I was like old enough, like probably like seven or eight or something whenever they were born. Yeah, I would say you're formative years. You were basically the youngest. And so most likely, at least Lauren would say you'll probably end up with someone who's a youngest sibling. And I also think she gives youngest energy.

Like if, you know, like the archetype of oldest, middle youngest. Yeah, you'd say youngest. Everyone loves the baby the most. Yeah, there you go. But she's also responsible, like, the oldest. She's definitely not a middle child. Like, my mom's a middle child. I feel so bad for her.

But she's, like, not left out either. But, like, I'm like, but she was left out. Like, you know. Did you just call me responsible? I'm going to cry. Obviously. Duh. Like, she's definitely more responsible than I am.

Yeah, you strike me as very responsive. Thank you. But then she has youngest energy. Yeah. Yeah. It's a great combination. And now I'm over here wild card now. someone's got to do it

it was always going to be me yeah I would say yeah the years that I was growing up the most like you know my brother would have been in like high school my sister would have been in like end of or middle school like you know we need to start paying attention

for young guests they were like six and seven yeah whenever I was born you know so we need to pay attention for young we need to ask that first birth order yeah I mean something else I'd be curious about in terms of dating experiences, you don't have to get into specifics, but dating experiences since your marriage,

what have you noticed you were not into? Zach. Well, I think that... She was like, no, you shut up. No, no, no. I just know he was going to start going off. Definitely, like, drama from, like, a baby, like, any kind of baby mama drama.

Like, I don't want that at all, and I realize that. I don't know if I'm, like, into long distance. Okay. I mean, maybe I could be. with the right person. Kentucky different? Do you count that as long distance?

Because you go back there plenty, right? I go back there plenty, but again, I like affection and I like, you know, so I don't know if I would want to be like a way. I'm just going to stop her here. No. She cannot do long distance. I don't know why. I don't even know.

She can't even do like, like barely, like I would say barely weho to like West Hollywood to Valley. That's not true. I could do within like a. I mean, this is a thing. I literally, so we have software that we use, we do all the matching, but there's like an algorithm that will also tweak to help narrow down the pool because we have thousands of people. But I'm also like not saying I wouldn't be open, but it could be, I've only ever done that like one time. Like it could be a completely different experience.

No, it's not that you're not open. I'm just saying it's definitely not ideal for what you need. From the people that I have dated since, that was something I was like, don't love that. Like I want to be able to see somebody whenever I want to spend time with them, you know, and especially being a single. single mom like my time is valuable. You only have so much non-mom, you know, like where you can shut off and have that romance for you. Exactly.

So you'd be available for it. Yeah. So I think that is definitely. And I just don't want to have any drama with anybody else. The drama or whatever I had is all fine now. Like whatever, it's good. But. Well, it wasn't you.

Yeah. But like, in that time, it just like, I was just like, why am I dealing with this? Like, what the heck is happening? Like, what is going on? I didn't ask for any of that, you know? So it's just like, I don't want. like baggage coming up from like old relationships. Totally fair.

You know, it doesn't, it doesn't have to be a baby mom. It could be a crazy ex. It could be whatever. They need to have processed their trauma. Because I already have enough drama with what's going on in my life. I don't want to take it on.

Well, listen, remember I talked about the billionaire asking for the non-billioner. Right, so maybe I can't ask for that. No, no, because I had a caveat.

Do you remember the caveat? Yeah. If you bring something else remarkable at the table. And I will say you are a remarkable person who brings multiple remarkable things. to the table. So even though you might have drama with your baby daddy situation and you don't want that in a partner, if you didn't have so many other things going for you, I would level with you and I'd be like, you know, you might have to be open to that because of your situation. You have

so much going for you. So if that's truly, you're like, I don't want that in my life. You don't need it. Yeah. Yeah. There's only so much that I could take on right now. I know. The cup is runneth over. Like, like, so true. Okay. They're telling us we got to wrap it up, which I could go, we could sit here. Oh, no. I would so many questions.

Yeah. I would literally lock that door and not let you leave and be like, okay, just, it's fine. Someone email my daughter's preschool. Can you tell everybody where they can find your book and how to find you on social media and things like that? Yeah, for sure. So my website is LJ for Lauren and J.D. LJ Matchmaking.com. My website is, well, to find the book, you could find anywhere you would get your books.

Typically, it's called Your Last First Date Secrets from a Hollywood Matchmaker. My podcast is match made in Hollywood. My socials are match made in Hollywood. And hopefully I could matchmake you in Hollywood. Yay! Or outside Hollywood. Also, is there one, just to wrap up, is there one, is there a Hollywood connection that you've made that you could actually talk about? I wish everybody's.

You can't talk about. They're so freaking private. Yeah. And I get it. We get it. It's like I'm not doing it for, you know, the whatever. I'll just make it up in my head. Even like, honestly, even the success story, because I have a lot of success stories posted

on my website. Yeah. You could like take a sneak peek. But even that, it's like pulling tea. Like it's the nature of what I do and the people I work with, they're very, very private people. And so I try to be really respectful about that. I guess I understand.

While he rolls his eyes. Oh, my goodness. Okay, well, thank you so much for being here. And Zach, love having you every time. And I can't wait to take your intake form with her. Let's wrap this up so we can do that. He's going to start me a profile tonight. Just wait.

I hope he does. Tonight, in the Uber home. Yeah, like, what? Oh, my goodness. All right. Thanks so much, everybody, for listening to another episode of When Reality Hits. We'll see you next week. Bye.

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