When Reality Hits with Jax and Brittany - Meet Jax & Brittany!

Episode Date: March 28, 2023

They finally joined the bandwagon! On the very first episode of WHEN REALITY HITS - Jax Taylor and Brittany Cartwright discuss how they first met, Jax's love of Hooters, their journey of being pregnant and having a baby during the pandemic, a little game of how well they do (or don't) know each other, their recent visit to Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen, Jax's antics on the early days of Vanderpump Rules... and of course their take on the Tom Sandoval / Ariana Madix / Raquel Leviss Cheating Scandal!!!

Here we are! Hey everybody! We are so excited for our first episode! Woohoo! Oh my gosh, I can't believe we're finally doing it! When reality hits with Jackson Bird, I'm so excited. We finally joined the bandwagon. I guess we should introduce ourselves. I mean, I hope everybody knows we are. Objects Taylor. And I am Britney Cartwright. Most people probably know us from Vanderpump Rules

and our little spin-off, Jackson Britney takes Kentucky. We don't talk about Jackson Britney taking Tuckina. If we need to start talking about it more, we got to bring Jackson and Brittany taking Tucki back. Yeah. It was actually a pretty funny show, I'd to be honest. It was very crazy and very embarrassing to watch and rewatch.

It was, I hate watching myself on TV. I never even watched the show. Everyone's like, you're watching Vanderpump. No, I've never watched it. Okay, I think we should start at the very beginning really fast for people who might not really know us or know our story Like how we met because it's funny hearing your version compared to my version. By the way, we are married For four years. We've been together for eight years. Can you believe that we met eight years ago? That is insane

And we have a beautiful little boy cruise nails. So it's the best thing ever. But I think I want to hear your side of how we met. Well, first of all, everybody, welcome to our podcast. I know we keep taking it. This is just really exciting. We're so happy. Yes. We're so happy to be here. We're so happy that you guys are listening. So yeah, we met in Vegas. That's where it all began. I went for Sheena's birthday. I went a day early because I was meeting a girl. I set myself up on a date before I go. So I went a day early. Actually, it was one of Sheena's friends, believe it or not. Now, I'm thinking about it. I'm surprised she's never around anymore. Anyway, I've never seen her again. Anyway, so yeah, I was on a date and then we ended up in what part, the old part of Vegas, we were in the old Vegas.

The gold spike or gold spike. The gold spike, right? We were at the old spike. I was having dinner. You know, I was- We were just drinking, it was like the bar. Yeah, we were at the bar. Because there was like the life size jingun, everything, remember?

Yeah, but you walked by and you're you're gorgeous beautiful accent, you know, caught me and I was like, ooh, what's that? So, you know, when my date got up to go to the bathroom, I moseyed my way over to the bar real quick. That's right. He came to me. There are so many rumors out there that I like came to you on Instagram or hit you up in a DM or something. It's so weird. She had no idea who I was. She did watch reality TV. Her friend was there though. Yes.

And it was like... Wanted a picture with Katie because she actually did watch for a fair pop. She watched a show. Yeah. And she wanted a picture with Katie. So I took a picture of her and Katie together. And Katie and Schwartz actually went up to the bar with us.

And we're like, we're taking a drink together. And that's whenever you walked over to me. What did I say? I know I got your number. It's all I know. You asked me like what I did and I told you I worked at Hoover. Okay, so for those of you that don't know, I love hooters. Yes, me too.

Before I ever met Britney. Me too. I just I love that restaurant. I used to go all the time, a Midwest. I just used to go all the time. I loved it. My dad took me there when I was like 15. And it's just my favorite place, I just whatever.

And my friends always said, Jack's one of these days, you're gonna marry a hooters girl. I was kind of the running joke. It really, really was the running joke. So get back to what meaning Brittany, you know, asking her the basic questions you ask when you wanna date somebody or you wanna meet somebody. Hi, how are you?

Where are you from? Yada yada. And she goes, I mean, I was already gonna take you home that night. You didn't even take me home that night. So, oh, I did not take you home that night. You probably had to take that girl home. No, I didn't take her home. You got my phone number at the bar. And then you started texting me because you saw other guys flirting with me. And you were like, get in jail. If we didn't even know each other. Yeah, I got really jealous. Anyway, back to my story. Britt, I asked Brittney, you know, asking the routine questions and every guy has a girl that just to get it out of the way.

How old are you? Where are you from? Like, what do you, yeah, and then I got to the question, what do you, what do you do? And she goes, I'm a bartender at Hooters and I was just like, no. I was working at Hooters and TinRoof and you just were, it loved with me after I said Hooters. She said, she had me at Hooters. I mean she had me, I mean you're beautiful. So I was like, that got me there and then after talking to you, I mean, you're sweet as tea and then, you said you worked at Hooters, I was like, this is it right here and sure enough that was it.

After that, we never left each other. I know. Can you believe it? I started coming, like my friends and family probably thought I was crazy. Yeah. We literally met in Vegas, hung out for what, like three days in Vegas. Three days. Yeah. Whenever I came home, I started traveling back and forth. It was costing a fortune, right? It was like, you would buy a ticket and then I would buy my own ticket.

I was like working during the week or like every other week because I think I would come for like a week at a time. Yeah. So I'd be working a week and then I would come see you. And it was a lot of money. It was like, a lot of traveling. First of all, it's a three hour time difference. Britties from Kentucky.

And I was a bartender. So, that was a big deal for me to buy all this. Yeah. I bought some. And you gotta remember, I didn't have a ton of money at the time. I was just kind of, you know, newer on the show. I think I was like, I think I was like, see you. We definitely had a big blow-ups since we've been together.

Yeah, we did. But, you know, one week I'd buy a ticket, she'd buy a ticket, one week, and we just did that. And I think it was just like two or three months and that I was moving in with you and your tiny, tiny, tiny studio apartment. Oh my God. That had no air conditioning. That was crazy.

You couldn't even dry your hair and have a fan on at the same time where the power went out. So I lived in Koreatown. That's in Los Angeles. I had a studio apartment. I loved my apartment. It was fun for you. It was great. It was guess how much my apartment was? $600 a month, all utilities. That is like in a heart of. That was unheard of. And I wasn't allowed to have air conditioning. Remember you made me go buy an air conditioner at home people and I snuck it up

there and I shut down the whole building. Because I'd drive my hair at the same time. Yeah, it was a crazy situation. I love, I missed that apartment. It was, it was such a cute little apartment. Yeah, I think we, I don't even know how we fit our stuff in that little tiny apartment. Because now I think about it, I'm like, whoa. Now that apartment is the same size of our bathroom, our master bathroom, just goes to show you

how times have changed. Oh my goodness, but yeah, we lived in that apartment and then we, I think we got two other apartments in West Hollywood. Yeah, we go through. Before we bought our home in the valley. Yeah, that's how it all started. That's where all those people out there, asking us how we met.

That's the truth. That's the truth. That is the truth. Because there's so many rumors going around about that. That drives me insane. But now we have a podcast. so we can tell what really happened. I know. I'm going to actually tell my story and talk about things without getting cut off. Exactly.

I'm very excited about that. And a little ketchup because we haven't really been on TV for like three years. Yeah, three years. And it's been a nice break. Yeah, things have been amazing. Like we said, we have our house and we's been a nice break. Yeah, things have been amazing. Like we said, we have our house and we have our beautiful sun cruise.

He'll be two April 12th. I'm so excited to throw his birthday party. I love that stuff. We got pregnant during the pandemic. Yep. Had our baby during the pandemic. There's a bunch of us that all had babies during the pandemic.

Yeah, it was definitely like the new baby boom. Definitely the way to have a kid though. I wonder what else you do and lock down. It was the best time to have a was definitely like the new baby boom. Definitely the way to have a kid though you can. What else do you do in lockdown? It was the best time to have a baby. You don't get fomo. You can stay in bed all day. It was even though it was a rough pregnancy for you. You didn't get any fomo because we couldn't even have a house.

It's like if all my friends were out like drinking and partying, I felt like I could go anyway. It was the best time to have a baby, that's for sure. Oh my goodness. Speaking of my pregnancy, I was sick pretty much every single day for almost nine months. Yeah. Like only like the last couple weeks I didn't throw up every single day like it was crazy, but it was the best thing I've ever done and I would do it a Million times again and again. By the way, I want another baby like now. So let's get on it. And then you keep saying And by the way, I want another baby like now. So let's get on it.

And then you keep saying that. One of our friends just announced that she was pregnant. And now she's got baby fever. Again, I said I wanted crews to be out of diapers before we had our second one. It's just, I just kind of wanted I'm out of that diaper for fun. I've been wanting to have another baby, not because my friend,

and my friend, my friend Jolly is literally about to have her baby and I'm so excited. Yes, of course I have baby fever, but I've had baby fever since crew started being able to walk. Well, I'm just saying it doesn't help, doesn't help me when you keep hearing your friends getting pregnant and it doesn't die out of this.

Someone else gets pregnant and you hear it and you're like, oh, I'm getting that baby fever. I don't know, all my friends back home are pregnant or just had babies and I just love it. I know, it makes me so happy. Okay, I want to see, since we have been together for eight years, how well do we know each other? How well do we know each other?

You better get these anchors right. You better get these right? Or do you think I'm going to get these wrong? I think, I mean, you better get them right. We're literally together, 24 cents. That is true. I should know you like a get on right. We're literally together 24 cents. That is true. I should know you like a book. So okay go ahead. Okay. What do you think my favorite color is? Beige. What? Rose gold. Whose favorite color is beige? Green. And I don't even like Rose gold. I only you're doing terrible. Rose gold green or beige.

Green. We watch 90 day fiancee and you said that one girl has the favorite color, her favorite color is beige. Yeah. I like beige clothes sometimes, but like, beige is your favorite color. It's not. Camel? Lavender is my favorite color. Lavender.

My freaking fingernails are lavender. I've never seen you wear lavender in my life. It's my favorite color. I don't have to wear it all the time. I've told you this. All right. Moe for one. Let me see if I know yours. Red. No, red. You love Detroit red wings and Corvettes. That just so happens that my Corvette is red. Well, we got red stuff all over the body.

In the garage and your little main case thing in there, it's like all red. It's definitely not my favorite color. Blue. Used to be. Okay. Well, then what's your favorite color? I like black. Is that a color? Oh my gosh. That's where black. I like black. It used to be blue. Definitely not red. Okay. Well, I've just figured since you have literally everything red in your little main cave. My Corvette and my dad's is my dad's Corvette and my dad's golf cart. They my dad love red. That's why they're red. Oh Well shoot we are not I'm for a good start. What's next? This is scaring me

What is my favorite food of all time like my boy my favorite thing if I got to pick one thing I guess I was about to get killed on death row flats hot wing flats from hooters There we go or above low-ings, one of the two. Redded hot, all flat. All flat. With ranch from Hooters. For sure. And I think yours would be cheeseburger

with ketchup and cheese only. That's right. That's right. I'm gonna be easy going. We did good on that one. All right, this next one is our favorite TV show of all time, but we both love favorite TV show of all time, but we both love this TV show. So obviously what would your answer be for that? Well, we love the office. Exactly.

It's the office. It plays every day all day. Yeah, it's like our background one. So which one is your favorite episode of the office? Ooh, my favorite episode. Which one do you think is mine? Probably when they go to Jans and Michael's apartment. That's my mod apartment That one is so funny song this thing. What is it? How does it go if you don't watch the office? It is just so hilarious. It's our favorite show. We have it on all the time But I'm glad that okay, that was what I was gonna say too So that one worked we don't even know enough about it It's gonna be kind of like therapy for us because we're gonna get some stuff out Or we we're gonna be able to talk it through and we're gonna be forced to talk it through

So it's gonna to be great. Okay. What is my most annoying trait? What annoys me? Oh, geez. You drop everything. Okay. That's not that bad.

You fidget. I do fidget. I do fidget. Yeah. You move around a lot. Especially in bad, you move around. You're always moving your feet or your hands. You fidget all the time.

I'm fidgeting now. Fidgeting, yeah. Okay, all right. Is that right? You can stop. Well, this is just like that. I can stop. I'm like, you can stop now.

Yours is either snoring or leaving all the cabinets and doors open. That drives me insane. I know. Why do all men do that? Snore? Leave the cabinets open. In all the drawers open. I do, I leave them all open.

I mean, you think after three knows jobs, I would stop snoring. You would think because I ask you every single day to shut the freaking cabinets. That you would start doing it. It's just a guy thing. It's just what we do. Just leave things open.

It's like, I've seen other people like talk about it too, like on TikToks and stuff, and it is so true. So. Oh, guys, that's insane. Just try to remember, I don't know why it's so hard. I know. Should be just like a dollar drawer every time I leave it though, I might put a dollar in the jar.

And then we'll like put it in cruise as bank account. Oh. That would be perfect. He would have a lot of money. Sure would. Okay, let's do one more all right What's my biggest fear heights? Yeah, that's true. I try to think of what yours would be I don't even know what your biggest fear is I just mind not really heights like I love

Reller coasters and stuff like that, but what I hate is Like a freaking balcony like I don't like being able to look down I hate that feeling. It freaks me out the worst feeling ever. My stomach flips. I'm the same way. I feel like I'll throw myself over. Oh, it's like crazy.

It's like you know you wouldn't, but it's just, I don't know. It's like the weirdest feeling ever. I hate, I hate, hate, hate being able to look down on stuff. Like, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. By the way, did you like New York going to New York? Oh my God, we just got back. We just got back.

From New York City, we did Watch Your Heavens Live with Andy Cohen, which was amazing. We had not done that in like three years. It was so cool. And we used to do it all the time. So like it really just brought back so many amazing memories. I'm not gonna lie. Whenever we were backstage at Watch Your Heavens Live, I got like a little emotional and like started crying for a second. It just like felt really good to be there and like everybody was just so nice

and it just brought back a lot of memories. I mean, the whole first five years of our relationship was, you know, on Vator Pump Rules and it was all being filmed and we were so used to that and like it was a nice break, but it just felt really, really awesome to go back. It was, you know, like I said, we've been off the show now for almost three years and like, you know, going back to NBC and Bravo and stuff. I wasn't sure what kind of a greeting of what we were going to get. We just, we kind of, you know, we left and then the pandemic had, and I feel like we haven't talked to anybody.

We haven't really talked to anybody. So it was just, we were so like greeted warmly through everybody. There was so many people from NBC there. I felt like, yeah, it was really fun. there. I felt like people took the time off work during their work day to come down to CS. All these girls were so nice, taking pictures. We miss you. When you come back, what's going on.

Like it was just like, it's an overwhelming just, everybody was just so nice. And I was really worried about, I was nervous about it. I was a little nervous just because Andy Cohen's show is so fast, it's so fast. And he always gives you a hard time, not go, he loves it. He loves it.

He loves my balls all the time. He knows that I have fixed again. He kind of always says before Jackson, you know, I'm gonna give you a hard time. He knows that I can take it. I'm not gonna really cry about it. But. Yeah, you're a lot different than me.

My feelings get hurt. So he's like, I can't stand it as somebody's mad at me or anything. Like the worst feeling ever. I know. If you get careless, like you were so opposite. You need to care a little more sometimes. I know that.

I just like, I think that's just part of my persona. That's just who I am. Like I just, I don't have a filter. I just, I am who I am. I say what's on my mind. Does it get me in trouble? Yeah. I kind of a shoot first, ask later type of person.

Well, that's why you are the number one line group. Villain. That's why you are definitely like the perfect villain. I'm letting Ariana take my title for a while. Oh, yeah. The number one guy in the group is definitely a lot. Yeah, she does everything. So getting back to much of that time, it was really awesome.

We had a great time, but it was, it's just so fast. And you have like in your head, like how you're going to answer questions. When we go and you kind of know, we don't know exactly what they're going to ask us, but we kind of have an idea. What, they're going to ask us? No, we don't know. We're all, we're all, we're like, no, obviously they were, we were going to talk about scandals. So we have an idea that we kind of knew, hey, what do you guys been up to? What, you know, we're going to talk a little about the podcast. We kind of have an idea, like the gist of what's gonna go on. But sometimes we get started with a question

that kind of will throw us for a loop. And you have to answer so quick because they go, you know. Oh my gosh, one of the questions, whenever I watched it, I was like, wait a second. Cause one of the questions Andy asked me was like, who else other than SantaVall would you tell to Rotten Hale? And I didn't know what to answer. And like I should have said, Rick Hill,

but since you can't say Rick Hill. Because in my mind, he said, who would you say Rotten Hill to other than sand of all? And I just figured, I guess I just thought he said sand of all. I bet to ask you, I kind of bet to ask you, Charlie. Why would you say Charlie? I don't even like, no, I don't even not like her anything. I literally just said that because I was like,

who else am I supposed to say? Like I just didn't know who to say. So like that was the only thing that came to my mind because I don't even know the girl and she kind of went after you that one season at the reunion. But it's so long ago, like I don't even care about that anymore.

But I was just like whenever I watched it back, I was like, wait, why didn't I say or kill her, her insane of all the ones who did all this. It kind of takes me back to my point. Like, you went over my head. Your asked questions so fast. And by the time, like, you're like in the middle of answering one of his questions,

he's already lined up with another question. So it's like back to back to back, then it goes to commercial break, then it has a little game in this and that. So it goes by so fast. Everyone's like, you talk so fast because I have a lot to say about a topic and I want to make sure I get as much information out there as possible. So it's kind of like, I have to talk fast. I was like, man, why are you talk so fast because I have a lot to say about a topic and I want to make sure I get as much information out there as possible. So it's kind of like I have to talk fast. I was like,

man, why are you talk so fast? Just because you don't have the time. You just want to get it all out. You don't want to be like, oh, I should have said this. And then you forget what you say like right away. Every time I get off the bus. Every time I leave a talk show or whatever, I'm like, damn, I should have said this or I should have said that. I'm like, why do I always think about it afterwards? Yeah, but yeah, it was a lot of fun. Like I said, I, I should have said this or I should have said that. I'm like, why do I always think about it afterwards? Yeah, same. But yeah, it was a lot of fun. Like I said, I, I don't know if you guys watched Vanderpump Rolesons day one, but I donated the, well, I didn't donate. I kind of returned at home to the original chunky knit sweater. My manager,

season one after the infamous fight that I fought Frank in the Vegas parking lot. Why did you fight him over? I don't even know. I literally have not watched any of the episodes before I came on. You should watch the episodes and then ask me, you've never watched the show before. I'm scared I'm gonna watch it. I've heard how terrible you were and I'm scared.

Then I'm gonna watch it and be like, oh, what did I marry? I mean, I wasn't terrible. I was just a young guy that my 30s haven't funded Hollywood. I, I don't know. I Frank's the one that Stasi dated, right? After you. Is that why you fought him? Yeah, well, yeah, for some odd reason,

I wanted to get back with Stasi. I would, I tried. And I was like, I look back at my wife, why did I care so much? Nothing against Stasi, you know, I will get into that later. But I just like, we should not date. We should just be friends.

So I, for some reason, I was just. Amps to try to get her back. I don't know if it's because a guy moved in and I'm not the type of guy that loses a girl, do a guy. It doesn't happen ever. So, uh, well, you're married now. Yeah. I mean, I mean, but I was like, that's never happened to me before. So, um, I think we just obviously lost our lost during our relationship.

And Frank started working there. That guy ended up being a wacko by the way He like he went off the deep and I think he like ended up it's yeah, he's something crazy He got I don't know whatever, but yeah, anyway long story short I Showed up to Vegas unannounced and I showed up to where they were having sausage birthday unannounced obviously production new And I showed up to where they were having Stasi's birthday unannounced. Obviously production knew. I just came in guns blazing like I'm effing here. What's going on? And you just started fighting.

I know I waited till Frank and they were all no, there's all the co-girl. They're all sitting there like jacks. What are you doing here? They're original cast. So I'm sitting here and it was like, Hey, I'm here. Oh my gosh. And I bet it was good TV though. It was great.

The camera man had to grab me and pull me back ripped. So I was wearing was good TV though. It was great. The camera man had to grab me and pull me back. So I was wearing a chunky sweater. And everyone was like, what are you wearing a chunky sweater in Vegas for? It's 100 degrees here. But I just had this chunky sweater that I had on and I felt good in it. And I was like, I knew I was going to brawl. So it was easy to like come off.

I don't know. Well, I'm glad to know the story because like I said, I have not even seen any of the episodes since before I think the only ones I have seen is because whenever I first moved here Sheena showed me her wedding to Shay So those are the only ones that I saw so I saw like Kristen and James like their thing. I don't know Be the shit out of each other. Oh my goodness gracious. Yeah, terrible, but Other than that was fun. It was actually a fun wedding other than that I have her her wedding to Brock was amazing. I had the best time. She was first one. It was fun. It was actually a fun wedding. Other than that, her wedding to Brock was amazing. I had the best time.

It was so beautiful. So happy for them. Gorgeous wedding. Yeah, so beautiful and little summer so cute. I love that cruise and summer and ocean all get to play together. And you know, it's just like it's so cute watching them all growing up together. It's so funny. Through like the next little, I don't know what you would call them.

A little VPR people. I still can't get over that you never seen the first time. I keep forgetting that you've never watched those. There's so much. Maybe you probably shouldn't watch it. I know one day Cruz is going to look all the stuff up and watch it. Oh, God. You were a total demon. He's going to be so mad at you for what you did to me. I don't want to get too much into that, but most people already know what happened anyway. Yeah, he's not gonna. It's gonna be, oh gosh, will he see it? I hope he does it.

Well, he's gonna see it. Everything's lives on TV and the other one. Oh, jeez. He's gonna see it one day. He's gonna look it up and be like, who are my parents? Oh goodness gracious. Okay, so I have asked people on my Instagram,

which by the way, if you don't follow me, my Instagram handle is at Brittany, B-R-I-T-T-A-N-Y. Crazy how you got that name. Oh, it was awesome. Oh yeah, like everybody's like, how did you get that handle? How did you get that handle?

It was pure luck. I just checked in like randomly. I was at saucy's house. You had just changed your Twitter to at saucy. And we were like, that's so cool. And I was able to get at Brittany and we just happened to look at it and it was available, it was crazy.

Cause it used to be like being cart-ride or something. But anyway, aside from that, and your handle is Mr. Jack's Taylor. Mr. Jack's Taylor. Anyways, I'll ask before the podcast, like questions that you guys would like to ask us. So you could always go there and ask your questions and we'll answer a few every episode

By the way, just so you guys know the reunion is being filmed today. Oh, yeah now as we speak I can only imagine it like It's in the back of my mind right now as much as I haven't really paid attention like I'm just God I wonder what is going on. Yeah, we've been wishing all of our friends like good luck and you know go at it I can only imagine what Law Law's gonna do. She is such a spitfire in like her comebacks and her quick wit is like something else. Like I just, she cracks me up. And Shina was just like, she wasn't gonna go up

until last night. She got the phone call at like nine o'clock because Raquel got a restraining order. No, I can walk in with all this. So they must have like a police officer there. They have to. How do you lift a restraining order in five hours? Well, it's just like a temporary one, but like,

sheena is not going to pull punch, like close fist punch anybody. Like I just don't believe it. So I just also ridiculous. But anyways, we've got to get some of these questions. I want to get into that a little more. I just, like, I know what I went through. It's crazy.

Like, and it's just so like they're going to come after you. And they're going to come after you hard. Oh, I know. It's going to be crazy. OK, we it's just so like they're gonna come after you and they're gonna come after you hard. Oh, no, it's gonna be crazy. Okay, we have a question from Nina Benoit and her question is, who are you still friends with from VPR? Oh, that changes meat with me all the time. Well, right now I'm definitely the closest to Kristen and Shina and Lala. And I still, of course, I love Ariana to pieces.

They're probably the closest to me at the moment I talked to shorts Lala Sheena you got they all come to our house. Yeah on the regular like they'll be filming and then all of a sudden look Come to our house and vent like so they're always at our house our house is like the hub of everybody I feel like everybody comes to our house to like decompress into vent and let it go So I'd say right now I got Lala, Shina, nah, as a last night Kristen. Yeah.

Oh, by the way, I forced Jackson Kristen to talk yesterday. So did you finally unblock her on Instagram? I didn't unblock her, but I will. Okay, you need to unblock her. I will. Right now, I cannot stand. It is so hard whenever like,

Jack's beef and with somebody in the group, it like makes me so uncomfortable. She's like literally one of my best friends. Whenever I was sick in the ER, not that long ago, she dropped everything and came there and like helped me with the baby. Like was so amazing. So I just love her to pieces.

Okay, this is a question from Katie. E dot do four. And her question is what is our number one tip for marriage? Number one tip for marriage for a man or for a woman. Like if you're asking me, if you're asking Britney, it's probably my answer. You give your answer and I'll give my answer. Um, who can you? Number one tip tip from yeah, communication. Just going with that sometimes. Um, just because I'm very stubborn, yes, I'm a very stubborn, hard headed person. For me, it's patience because I don't have that. You have no patience and I have to deal with yours,

shenanigans, all the freaking times. So patience is key in our relationship. Laughter. Oh, yeah. Um, definitely, um, definitely laugh a lot. Yeah, yeah. Definitely, definitely laugh a lot. Yeah, laughter. We, yeah, I mean, yeah. There's a lot. But there's a lot.

We're good. You know, we're obviously, we answered this question. I know, but what's the tip you would give to another man? I don't know. For a guy, I hate to use the old cliche, but like the happy wife happy life. That's right. Don't sweat the smallest stuff. Oh, that's a good one. Pick and choose your battles. Yes. That's it right there. Pick and choose your battles. Yeah, I agree. Because we, sometimes like I would talk about the time. We're picturing, we picture today. We just,

we've bicker all the time. We're like a 50, like we've been married for like 50 or 60 years. I talk over her all the time. It drives me crazy. Yes. So you just got to, yeah, pick your battle. Pick your battle. Because if I screamed at him every single time the cabinets were left over. Boy. Or maybe like not all the time. Yeah, that's for sure. Okay, let's see. This is from at Arts by Morgan. And she asked, do you to miss the show? Oh, that's a good question. We got that question when we were in New York quite a bit. Yes, I'll just say yes, I do.

There's things I don't miss, but overall, in the beginning you were like, I don't miss it, blah, blah, blah, blah, but of course, like over time, you're like, oh yeah, I would definitely miss it. Especially, I got to say. It was such a big part of your life. I mean, it was five years of my life

and that seemed like a long time, but it was like eight years. It was almost a decade. It was a decade, like if you added all up, it was a decade of my life and that seemed like a long time, but it was like eight years. It was almost a decade. It was a decade, like if you added all up, it was a decade of my life. Yeah, like the promo's and everything before hand. I mean, that's a huge, huge part of your life. Yeah.

You know, almost 10 years. I think the rough thing about reality TV, that a lot of people don't realize is that, like, first off, everybody judges you, and that's really hard to have to deal with, especially over things like we have no control over. We don't know what's happening and a viewer is watching it and they see everything like pieced together.

I didn't know that she was over there saying that or that this was happening. So people watch it back and it just, we live it and then we have to relive it again whenever it airs and it's like, it's something bad happened. It can be really hard to relive all that. That's why I feel so bad for Ariana, because everything is so blown up and crazy right now. And I just know having to live through all of this crazy drama so publicly, it's got to be so, so hard.

For me, you got to understand, too, in the beginning, we were filming like 20 episodes, which is a lot. So I think we got up to 26. 26, or the last thing. 26 or something like that, which is a lot of filming. So basically, you're filming seven days a week and the cameras are just on, on, on. And for me, I was a punching bag on that show. I was a, you know, I was a bully.

I was a villain. I was, you know, I got beat up. If you guys watch the show, I got beat up a lot, you know, just beat up a lot. I had to have some thick skin. But because you did bathe, I did a lot of that. You got to make up for that. I felt like a lot of the guys could hide behind me

because they would just, they would get away with a lot of stuff and, but whatever I did, kind of just took precedent over what they did. So now that I'm not on the show, I feel like everything's coming to surface as you can tell with Scandabaugh. But what nothing was, what that bothered me is, is when you watch a scene, you're like, wow, Jacks is so crazy.

Well, you have to understand, and I said this before, as you get the front, or really see the middle. Well, yeah, because like you always say that. You feel the show is only 45 minutes long, and hour with commercials, right? So you got six different storylines going on. They're only going to show little bits of each story line. So if there's an argument between me and Santa Ball, for instance, like they're going to just show the meat of it. They're not going to show how beginning or how it ended. And that's frustrating because they're like, oh, Jack's such a hothead. Well, no, not really.

You just didn't see how it for an ended or started. I mean, you and Santa Ball have any really, because they want to work the juicy stuff. Nobody wants to watch the boring crap. I know. But no one ever sees how I get to that crazy point. They're like, well, how did you get there? You did crazy things either way. No matter how you got there, you did it. So we got to take responsibility. That could be hard too, because you got to watch like your stupid stuff you did.

Yeah, yeah. But, yeah. Yeah. But I mean, I miss it too. It was a lot of fun. It was a lot of fun. We didn't live through some bad things, but it was like a lot of fun too. But towards the end, I think for my mental health,

I needed that break. I was going through the ringer. Like I really, at the end. Well, no, and also you just didn't have any patience. Like you were just like so over everything. I wasn't showing up to see. Yeah, you were being like. I would just not show up to see.

Yeah, you were being just like kind of terrible. I was being a diva. And like, I mean, literally, it was my job. Like one day I just didn't go to work It was we were shooting in Malibu at it. It's like I had the best job in the world I was making great money and like my job was to go to the beach and sit on the sand and I literally said I'm not going today Yeah, because you were being such a little tired muffin. Yeah, and it took for granted But now like being offered for two years and kind of like you look yeah, you took it for granted exactly

I can look back on it and realize. Yeah, and I honestly think I needed that break. I needed it just for like, I keep seeing mental health, but I really did. I went through some ups and downs on that show mentally and, you know, yeah, I'm a strong person, but even the strongest person, you know, needs a break. And I definitely, definitely needed it.

Yeah, there was some time, some bad times in there, but overall it was awesome, but yeah, again, I do miss it. And if we were asked to go back, I would do that. Okay. We have another question. This will be our last question today. It's from MPY Troiac number one. Sorry if I mispronounced the name, but she asked, how are you able to build your trust back with the cheating? So we're obviously gonna hit all the raw stuff. I hate talking about this, but I mean, it's out there and I'm just gonna say, whenever it happened, it was like,

I don't know, it was horrible to go through, especially, but I definitely, I just was so madly in love that I wanted to stay with you still. We broke up for like what, like three months or something, like a month. Really was it a month? I think it was. I mean, I obviously had to do all the work. You know, so he called me, oh gosh, like a million trillion times. Like what

called me like 30 times in a row over and over and over and over. And I was just like not answering. But anyways, I just wanted to be back with him. I was so in love and you know, obviously, I'm glad now because we are married with a beautiful baby, so it was all worth it. But I will say that it's very hard to build your trust back. Now I trust him, but it does take time, and it takes patience.

And- It took a long time. And I had to work my butt off to get to where we are now. And it wasn't easy, but I messed up it single-handedly, the biggest regret of my life. You know, the worst moment of my life. Other than my father passing away,

it was the worst moment of my life. So yeah, it was really, really rough, but I loved her to death. Love her to death. And I just, I worked my ass off. It wasn't like I said, it wasn't easy. There was lots of bumps in the road, but. Yeah, he had to be willing to really, really,

really show me that he's changing that, you know like it was worth all this. We all make mistakes. I'm not just defying it at all. I'm going through a really really bad time in my life and I. And it's definitely difficult to talk about but you know, my dad's funeral. My dad's death actually brought us closer. Yes, yes. That being around that time really helped.

I mean, she could have just bailed right then and left me there. And I got nose where I would have been. But I sucks that my, you know, I have to use my dad's death as like brought us together. But that's the one positive thing that came out of that whole situation. But it definitely was a lot of work. It was a lot of work. Yeah, but it was worth it.

And now it's great. It's great, but it took some time for sure. And I know like a lot of people like looked at me like, okay, I'm blue, she go took some time for sure. And I know a lot of people looked at me like, okay, I'm blue, she go back with them and everything. And I understand that. I'm a very forgiving person. And I was like, I knew what kind of place you were in. And you definitely showed me and proved to me

that you were willing to change and really to work. And that is what changed everything. But I completely... We have to talk about this for one second because it is all over the news, but I completely understand like 1000% like Ariana is leaving Tom like they like what he did is just like, oh my gosh, unforgettable. So the difference is there. It was a whole relationship behind her back.

So like there's no, I mean, I don't even know what I would do. I would just, oh my gosh, I just called her so much. Honestly thinking, I'm never really wrong about things. And I honestly think there was probably another relationship going on even behind Rekel's back. Oh, go ahead. So I don't think it was just her, you know? Or what is going on in the world?

I'm just so shocked by all this. I just having a relationship while you're in a relationship for that long. I can't believe it was that long. And going in, like he's like, he's in like, and did you hear that? Like they were wearing like like, secret lightning bolts to like show their love for each other and like,

so weird. By the way, whenever we were doing our intro, I had a lightning bolt on my switcher. I did not know. I just like the lack of empathy and the pre-meditation of all. He knew exactly what he was doing. There was no, like, you know, there's no remorse. It was been going on for eight months.

It's not like you did something bad. You're like, what did I do? You know, but it's been going on. You knew exactly what you're doing. So it's a little bit of like, oh goodness. I just feel so bad for her. And like, I just can't believe that they did that. And still we're hanging out, like in front of, like,

Ariana's house. She was spending the night at his house. That just is like so heartbreaking and I just cannot believe that they did that to Ariana. Like it is just like it's so unforgettable. I'm not shocked by it, but I'm shocked by who it was. Yeah, like somebody so right in front of your face, like I cannot believe it.

Like it is just so, oh my God, it's so mad. Yeah, I just, I don't understand. She did not deserve that way. But Ariana is a very, very strong person. And Raquel, I'm sorry, her name is Rachel. Rachel, Raquel, whatever your name is, she's not a very strong person. She's very, she can be controlled very easily. And Tom needs to control people. That's his thing. He did it with Kristen. He's done it with everybody. I mean, you could be right. I've known Tom for 22 years, people. Oh, yeah, for the people who don't know the reason this whole fan group is a friend group. It was

pretty much around for Varian Pepples is because Jackson Tom modeled together and they knew each other before anybody else. We let we met in Miami. Yeah. We lived together when we were 20. I think we're 21. That's how we all met met and then we all kind of migrated to California. And we all worked at the same restaurant. That's where we met Katie met tosses. That's how it all worked. That's how it all worked. It's crazy. Yeah.

Very crazy. We started it. It started. And I just, sorry, I always give credit to the original cast of the show. Like it's, it's amazing to be able to start something like that. Yeah, it was pretty intense in the beginning with me and Stock, for sure. Oh gosh, that was a bad time, so let me tell you.

But not to get back to the thing, but the whole Ariana thing, I think she's just a very strong person and I don't think Tom could control her. And I don't think you'd like that. And I think Raquel is just very easily manipulated. I think she's very codependent. And I just think like, why did he not just like break,

why did he just not break up? Like I get they have a house and everything, but like how dare you do that behind her back like that? Like I just, I'm just, oh, I'm so shocked by it. Like I don't even know what else to say. It's been blown up so much in social media and everything. So like, it's hard for me to talk about because I really don't have a leg to stand out as man

or not I don't want to sit there be like, well you shouldn't have done it because you know, I've done it. But I've done it with, is a little, stand out of this man or not. I don't want to sit there and be like, well, you shouldn't have done it because, you know, I've done it. It's just what I've done. It is a little, little different, not justifying whatsoever. No, you're not just saying it's not okay. I just, it's a mess right now. They have a house together.

I mean, they were dating nobody. Basically, I'm sure everybody has a house. It's basically a marriage when you're together that long, even if you're not married. It's just, it's, ugh, it just makes me so mad. It burns me up. Buying a house with a girlfriend or boyfriend. It's just, that's such a risky move.

And now they have to pay for it. Now they got to figure it out. How they're gonna split it up. And I think Tom's, I think, I don't know, right? He owes money on it and thinks. I just don't know like what they thought was gonna happen. Like do they just think this was just gonna go on forever like that and nobody was gonna find out?

I mean, I just don't know what their in-game was on this. Because you know what, you know what, relationships end. It's fine, it's normal. They dated for 10 years. There would have been nothing wrong. If he would have went to Ariana, Ariana would have been, that's totally fine. I know how Ariana is.

She would have been fine because I think, she was probably kind of on the outs anyway too, but it's just she would have just, maybe he would have sat her down and say, you know, because- But she was in love with him. Like, he should have not done that to her that is just insane. I don't think he was ever around he's in that nine piece make that shift make shift bannies in and he's you know holds that bar in the strip mall and I don't think he's ever home so I just

think she was probably lonely. I shortzones that bar too it's actually really nice. I know it's really nice. I'm just trying to bash more on Santa. And shorts is for shorts is kind of taking the brunt. You're hating for sure. Speaking of shorts, so by the way, I talked about him knowing and he did tell me he knew we're just getting over that. Oh, yeah. We talked about how it happens.

I feel really bad for shorts. People are coming after him. You got to understand. Those are both his best friends. He did say to Tom, you need to tell her. You need to tell her. That's all he can do. I mean, they're both grown men. They're both grown men. You can only do so much. Yeah, you told her just tell her

And you don't know how long you knew by any means. I don't know how long you knew But I definitely knew he knew and he did like I said he tried he told him it He needs to watch some interviews on Instagram and like he was he pokes jabs at about about it all the time He makes like little comments to Tom and he times look so I think everybody is watching for Easter eggs now. I think the whole world is I've never heard that saying watching for Easter eggs. Maybe it's a southern thing You never heard the word commode either which like I could not believe so I don't know But yeah, I just feel bad for for shorts because he's taking the brunt of this and like I said They have a business together and I just I hope he apologizes to Schwartz as well as Ariana.

Yeah, I mean, I hate that Schwartz knew and like I'm sure Ariana's heard that she didn't find out as well. So that's like just it's just a whole horrible huge situation, but we're going to end it there. We got to call the people from Vanderhoop now and figure out how this room is going on. We got to text Lala. Oh, yeah. Lala on Shina.

I'm calling them as soon as we Lala. Yes. Oh yeah. Lala on Shina. I'm calling them as soon as we get out of here. Oh my God. But yeah, thanks everybody so much for coming and listening to our first episode on Winery Adi. Thank you guys. We're so excited. I want to give a quick shout out to my mama because today is her birthday and she's the best

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