When Reality Hits with Jax and Brittany - Not My Problem Anymore w/Lala Kent

Episode Date: March 14, 2025

Brittany takes the reins of her newly rebranded podcast with special guest Lala Kent. Together, they dive into life after toxic relationships, exploring the struggles and joys of motherhood and the empowering journey to independence. They reflect on happier times when their friend group was whole and open up about navigating life as single women, embracing growth, and finding strength in new beginnings. Please support the show by checking out our sponsors! Quince: Go to Quince.com/jb for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Progressive: Quote your car insurance at Progressive.com to join the ov er 28 million drivers who trust Progressive.

Hello everybody and welcome back to win reality hits. I'm so excited. My girl Lala Kent is here today. Hey, how are you? You sound a little country. Oh my goodness. I'm so glad that you're here. This is my first episode after fully taking over the podcast. So thanks for being my first. You know what? It's just so wild. First of all, I'm honored that I'm your first guest. Thank you. This is like massive for you. And I so remember that moment in

my life as well when you're like, fuck you, get off my podcast. Oh my God. I literally until you just said that forgot that you started it with your ex in the beginning. And can I tell you what I've never shared before? Yes, please. Is that at the time after I kicked him off, he was still collecting a check from the podcast. He wouldn't let the check go. How long did you have to do that for? I want to say it was a little over a year. Yeah.

I think a lot of people don't realize when contracts are involved, you have to continue with the contract, which was also what was happening between Jackson and I. And that's why we were doing every every other weekend or every other stomach doing it with them. Every other episode. Yeah. I wasn't about to be like, let's do a joint episode. No, because I actually had to do an episode after shit hit the fan because I had to pretend everything was kosher and it was me, my ex and Jesse Metcalf. Oh, you did one together after. Oh, like I was still preparing to, I was gettingcalf. Oh, you did one together after? Uh huh. Oh. Like I was still preparing to,

I was getting my duct tape around before I left the house. Oh, okay, so you were trying to like, I wanted to vomit and I was like flirting with Jesse Metcalf and my ex was looking at me like he wanted to like, just shoot me with laser beams coming out of his eyes. And oh my God, just reminiscing about what a horrendous time in life that that was. Yes. But you come out on the other side and on top.

Like how much better do you feel now? Oh my God, I feel so much better now. Yeah. And your podcast is amazing and you have your family on it all the time, your pod. And I love the pod. Yeah. I, doing a podcast, I think is fun. Oh, it's so fun. Do you enjoy it?

I do too. Yeah. Mine took a hit in the like on you know, the reviews because someone on Reddit started a petition to go on to my podcast and write horrendous reviews. Oh, I'm sure that's happened to me because people on Reddit are the worst. I'm sorry, Reddit people like what is wrong with you? Like get a life. It's life. I'm so sorry that you have to revolve your life around people you've never met in real life. Like that's insane to me. Who has the time?

But I feel like ours was taking a hit too because we kept having to go back and forth. And it was like, I'm having friends on trying to be light and funny. And then Jax was doing the mind of the man. And it was just like so opposite like every single week. So that ain't happening no more. Now it's just going to be me interviewing all my friends. I'm very happy for you. And just like all these different cats. I'm like, I'm excited. I'm excited. I posted my rebrand photo today. The photo is fabulous. Thank you. I love the direction that you went. Yeah. I have to ask you, like, what does it feel like now? You're fully independent. Like you're completely separate from him. Yep. What does that feel like? Amazing. This was like the

last thing that really was like tying us together. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Um, so it feels awesome. They don't have to worry about that anymore. I can like do whatever I want to do. I can rebrand it. I can, you know, I don't have to worry what he's going to say because I wouldn't even listen to his episodes. Like I would have like my team like listen and tell me what he was saying. So it feels good that I don't have to do that anymore. And also like, I just feel amazing. I'm back in my house. I'm doing everything by myself. Yes. Like, and it feels great. I'm very proud of you. You've reached a level of independence that I'm sure you're very grateful for because most people don't have that luxury. Like if Jacks were to

never give you a dime in child support, you would still be okay. Yeah. And he's barely given me anything. I'm not going to go into details about that. But you don't need it though. Some women are like, we had a child together. You must show up financially. You have to. He has not. He has not shown up financially, but you know, thank God I say it every day. Like I'm very blessed with everything that I have. And also like I never thought I would be in this life or this house or this, you know, TV shows and all these different things. So like it's all so crazy. But like the fact that I could do it by myself now. Yeah, like it's so empowering. You a bad bitch. I'm a bad bitch. And so are you?

I don't know. Yes, you are. I'm like, I look at myself sometimes and I'm like, I need a little bit of like an identity check. Because right now I just feel like mom, which is great. Yeah, you're a great mom. I chose that, right? That's all I've ever wanted. Well, not ever, but I loved being a mom to Ocean so much that I went out and got a donor. Amazing.

But there's moments where I'm like, I would really like to feel like my Lala is coming back at some point. You know, uh, your Lala is still there. I just think we need, I think that both of us need to go out more. I think a lot of people think I'm like out and about. Yeah. And I'm not, you're not at all. I'm not. No. Like people think that I'm like out partying all the time and doing this. And I'm like, they see you on social media. Of course we only post when we're out. Yes. Like once a week is that is that. And then if you're me, every

time you're out, you don't know where your phone is. Like the other day we were out and I'm like, where the fuck is my phone? This is the one time that I can give people content of me not in a bathroom. And I don't know where my phone is. I'm like, don't worry girl, I got you. We will be posting those soon. But no, you are a great mother. Like, oh my gosh. And also doing that by yourself, the whole sperm donor route, like that is like so, you're so strong. Thank you, Brett. Like so strong and amazing. I'm loving it.

Yes. And Sosa is, I mean, obviously Ocean is so gorgeous, but new baby Sosa too. Like now you have two beautiful little gorgeous girls in your life. You want to know what's really crazy. And I was thinking about this last night is having Sosa has allowed me to experience motherhood the way that every single woman deserves to experience it. When I had Ocean, I felt so alone and like I had Ocean like the cookie cutter way, right? Like with a partner who I felt kind of abandoned by and he wasn't very kind to me after I had Ocean.

And I think you could relate to this a lot Brittany yeah, but I felt like my ex robbed me of what I Was my right as a mom to feel like happy and peaceful So once I had Sosa, I was like, this is what motherhood feels like like I have the normal worries But I don't feel like I'm in fight mode. Like the moment I had Ocean, it was like I blinked and I was having to kind of abort mission on the life I once knew. And it was like my Dukes were up and I was fighting for my life, for my child's life. It was exhausting. And I have a trauma bond with Ocean now. With Sosa, it's like, I just

get to look at her and feel nothing but peace and excitement and know that like if I go out it doesn't matter if I'm not around her all day today because I got to work because no one tomorrow is taking her. It's not like, it's not my weekend. It's not this. It feels so fucking good. Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry. That was a long winded. No, no, I love you for being so vulnerable. But like you saying that just like brought a memory back to my head from my own life because I had talked about this publicly, but I think when I was talking about it, I was thinking like that he was so nervous and

stuff. But like now that you just said all that, it like kind of like something's like clicking in my head. It's like when we brought Cruz home from the hospital and Jax was driving, it was awful. Was he like? It was the day that we're bringing our son home from the hospital. And he was just like, the traffic was bad. And I get that that's annoying, but he just could not stand it. He was everything was just so bad and you know, road rage and everything. Yeah. And I, and back then I remember I've talked about this publicly and I, I was actually being like, he was just so nervous.

So he was mean to me and he was this and that. Now I look back at it and I'm like, Oh my God. That really does. That should be some of the happiest moments of your life. Yeah. You're already dealing with so many hormones. Yes. And pain.

Yeah. You just shoved a full on person in your body. And I, you were robbed of that moment as well. That's crazy. Yeah. Didn't even really let click until just now. Yeah. Isn't that strange? Yeah. You go into survival mode of blocking certain things out because if you dwell on them, it'll take you out. Yeah. I think I blocked a lot of things out and that's how I lived for a long time. Not

anymore. I can't wait for you to write a book, bitch. Oh my gosh. I have to eventually. Like, come on. But yeah, no, I understand what you're saying and you know, that was, goodness, we both been through some things with our exes. I know it's nice to be able to laugh about it now. Oh, I have to laugh about it or else like what am I going to do sit in the corner and cry all day? Heck no. No, absolutely not.

Absolutely not. Okay. Let's take another route really fast. The trailer for the Valley just dropped. That shit's wild. What did you think about it? Lola? I was shook. It's to my core.

First of all, first of all, Michelle throwing the drink on Jesse's face. I'm like, this was not your first time doing that. The aim, the precision, the distance between you and Jesse. The distance. The distance. The distance. The distance. Right in the face, not a drop spilled before it made its way to his face. Iconic. It was so good. I felt like you, they did a great job. I loved how they edited that together because it showed you obviously, we know you've been going through a lot, but I love that they added the aspect of like, you're still Brittany, your light is back, you're out having fun.

That is so, I'm so happy they made sure that that was in there. Like made sure to show I was laughing still. Yes, that you're still our like Kentucky muffin bitch, like out on these streets having the best time ever. While still going through a lot of shit. It was a well balanced trailer. Mm hmm. Baskin said this is one of the greatest seasons he has ever made and not just on the valley, greatest seasons he's ever made of any television show. Which is crazy.

Good for y'all. Crazy. I'm so happy for you guys. Yeah, I mean, yeah, Lava called me that morning because I just feel like a lot of my friends did. They all called me that morning because they knew it was going to be like a hard morning. And whenever I first watched it, I was like, Oh gosh, I just don't know. Like, I feel like there could have been this or that or that. And Lala was like, No, Brittany, like it showed you still happy and laughing. And then I like started rewatching it after that. And I was like,

she's right. Like I cannot, I'm so glad it didn't just only show like the extreme. Everything that's to come from this season. Because there's so much more. There's so much more. This is just the trailer. Everyone's going to know what you went through. They, it was a well balanced trailer. It got people excited. There's light-hearted moments that people want to see Especially with such a fucking dramatic season ahead. Yeah, I love that. They put Zack motorboating me on there I loved that Like the baby white thing like And like the baby white thing, like, I was happy. Oh my gosh. I was, cause you know what, you know what? Like that happened to me that morning where I came into my house to get

something because I was staying at a rental place. I'm not going to go into too much detail because it'll be on the show, but I will talk about what's on the trailer. Yeah, just the trailer. Yeah. I had went to my house that morning to get something or whatever and I took a photo of it and I'm not going to say what the morning to get something or whatever and I took a photo of it and I'm not going to say what the excuses were for it or anything like that yet, but like it honestly didn't click until the moment that Janet said that at the dinner table. I don't know why, but she was like, oh yeah, that girl wiped her Vagine.

Her Vagine. And it's now sitting on your counter. And I just like gagged, gagged. Because that was what actually happened. And like, there's no doubt in my mind. Oh my, I'm repulsed. She just like wiped her crock pot down before he put his meat in it. With my, with my son's baby wipes that were still left over at that house at the time. That's repulsive. Gross. That is repulsive. Gross.

See, when you told me about this, I thought that maybe she cleaned herself up after. Either way, disgusting. Oh, either way. It could have been- Throw it in the trash. Either way, it was still used for the same thing. Wiped it either way. And also, I'm sure whoever this woman is, is watching that being like, that was probably mine. You know?

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You were so pregnant, but you look so hot. And your ass looks so good. It was like the one time that I had like a juicy ass I was hoping I would have like at least six months postpartum And she like faded so quickly. I was really upset about it Yeah, I made the trade. I made y'all's trailer. I know and you said I Can't remember everything you said but you definitely at the end were like and I'm so happy. I don't have to deal with you You're like you're a narcissist. You're mean to my friend.

You're mean to my friend. You're something else. I think I called him toxic. Yeah, toxic. Yeah. And I'm so happy. I don't have to deal with you. Yeah.

I, you know, I, and I'm glad I don't have to deal with you. Yeah. I know that it sounds like the same song that I'm singing often however It is Undeniable that narcissism is an epidemic. There is many layers. There's many people who? Develop it because maybe they were raised by a narcissistic person And I think it's important that people talk about it

and call it out because when you're stuck. Hi, Cruzy. Hi, Cruzy. When you're stuck with a narcissist, it is a torture chamber. You know this. Yep. It's chaotic, it's controlling.

So you have to call it out and you have to educate people because narcissism is Everywhere right now. So if you think this is the last time I'm gonna be on television calling a man a narcissist You're crazy. Well, it's gonna be me now Joining I'm gonna be joining you in that story. I'm gonna be like, oh, yeah, we were nurses. I've like looked up everything Yeah, yeah, once you realize it and it's like, okay Yeah, we would be doing people a disservice if you didn't call it Period you're fucking welcome. Yeah. Oh My goodness, how did it feel filming for the valley like being so pregnant? I

I loved it because I I loved it because I was not a cast member. I just kind of bopped in because you guys were very much in my life. Real life. Yeah. You're filming a show and it just kind of like made sense. I wanted to be around you guys. I liked it because there was no pressure. You know, I was basically, I was less than a friend of.

Like no one expected anything of me except to be like, hi I'm pre. Hey. Hi. How are you? I'm pregnant But you look so good in your little two-piece I just loved it. Thank you. I had fun at your shark party The my shark party actually was a little nervous when Jesse came up to me cuz I was like no no no I'm not prepared for this Just here to fucking hang, man. You're like, I'm a friend of, of. I'm a friend of, a friend of, a friend of. Just here to bump around this pool party. All right.

Well, I'm so glad that you were there. Okay. So speaking of that, and we did kind of talk about the babies earlier, but you being a mom of two now, how do you feel like what is so different about being a mother of two compared to just have an ocean? It's just a lot more chaotic. There's like very little downtime. Like when you get one situated, the next one needs you. So it's, it's definitely, I don't have any free time.

I'm constantly exhausted. The days are very long and then by the time I get settled and go to sleep, the mornings come very quickly. And I love every second of it because, like I'm not one of those weird, not that they're weird moms, but like I'm not one of those weird, not that they're weird moms, but I'm not just a mom. I have other things going on,

but I will say that motherhood is the one thing that fulfills me to my very core. I like feeling needed. I like feeling that I have a purpose. They're my purpose. And I do feel at the beginning, I was a hot mess. And I know it was hormones, but I was feeling so guilty that I was maybe not giving Ocean the amount of time that she deserved. And now we've found like the perfect balance.

Yeah. I mean, it's got to be hard whenever you have a brand new infant that needs all of your attention. There's a difference in the beginning. They'll sleep for most of the time, but at the same time, you're like, are they breathing? Are they, you know? And like, I have to pump, I have to do this, I have to feed them, I have to do this,

I have to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you remember that every two hours feed? Yes, yeah. Those two hours go by so fast. Yes. I remember just sobbing my eyes out, wondering what the fuck I had just done bringing Sosa into the world because Ocean was so confused on why I was suddenly not taking her to school in the morning. Oh, and it broke my heart. And

now we've just like, we've got our rhythm. Yeah, you got into it. I feel like, but also you were also healing from having a baby. So that's completely normal You know, yes completely normal. I think it's normal too Yeah, but in the moment you feel like you're so by yourself and that's why I encourage moms like take it to social media Open up the conversation so that you know, like just sometimes feeling like you're not by yourself is enough Yeah, so would you say that's been the hardest part of having like two babies now? I think the hardest part is not having five minutes to myself. I put them both down last night at six.

They were in bed asleep before 630. Oh my gosh. Amazing. And I was in fucking heaven. I was like, I get to get in a bath, read a book. It was the light outside. I closed all the drapes. I'm like, nah was in fucking heaven. I was like I get to get in a bath read a book It was the light outside. I closed all the drapes. I'm like, nah, nah, nah, we're done. We're done with the fucking day That's awesome. What about the best part? the best part is

watching Now so says got the personality where she looks at her sister and smiles Now Sosa's got the personality where she looks at her sister and smiles and thinks that her sister is like cool, you know? Watching Ocean get excited that, oh, this is like a little person who's going to grow and I'm going to be able to have fun with. When she first came, Ocean was like, what the fuck is this baby? This is like the most boring thing I've ever seen in my life. Right?

She's like, why doesn't she walk and talk? Yeah. Like, why is she not talking yet? Yeah. She didn't understand. Now that she's understanding, that's the best part, seeing my girls together. Yeah. Oh, and they're so beautiful. Thanks. Oh my gosh. We talked about this before, but I swear Sosa looks like Cruz's little sister. It's crazy. Is it not crazy? When I see them together, I'm like, hold up. Oh my gosh. I love both of them so much. We were

just at Ocean's birthday party. I cannot believe that our babies are turning four. Like lies by, I cannot believe it. Like Ocean just had her birthday cruises is next month. Yeah. Four years old. I know this is pretty much Brit this is like, they're getting into the stage of, they're like human. Yeah. They're not toddlers anymore. They're like real life kid people. It's insane.

It's insane. And Cruz's getting so big and I'm just like, oh my gosh. He could give his shoes to Shaquille O'Neal. Shaquille O'Neal. Shaquille O'Neal. Sheena could probably wear Cruz's shoes. His foot is massive. Yeah. He's going to be a big boy.

But it's just crazy. You know, I've always put in so much thought into every single birthday, every single, I love doing all this party stuff. You need a show on HGTV. Oh, I would love it you you must have it I would love it or like some some kind of home decor something some kind of part I don't know you're so great at it But we have we also have party planners who are absolutely amazing picnic and play all like get me started on that best

I talked about in the world. I talk about them on my last podcast I think I don't know maybe the one coming up but I'm like, let me let me say this like I paid for Ocean's Party This is not a shout out This is a legit like yeah, they saved my ass. Yeah. Yeah, they're amazing Like I will come up with a concept of theme colors all that. And I'll send it to them and they just like go with it. Picnic and pedal. Amazing. I can't even and they've been doing every single one, every single party, my birthday, like, like everything. Yeah. And I've already got cruise. I've had so like almost a year before every single birthday for cruise, I've had the theme picked out. I can't wait for this year. It's crazy. I'm excited. I am too. For this year. It's going to be so cute. And Oceans was so good

and so cute. We went to that, what's it called? Slew. Slew Moo. Slew Moo. Where your kids have fun and the parents want to have a heart attack. Yeah. But it's so good for the kids. But like, you have to put the slime, you pick your slime, and you pick a scent, and then you pick a color. So you put the dye in. And I have like, I always use the same finger nail polish color like the majority of the time. It's called Orly rose colored glasses. It's very like nude. Don't look at my fingernails now because I was so nervous yesterday with the thing coming out So I picked them all off. I gotta go tomorrow, but So after I left there I had I had blue underneath my fingernails it would not come out

Going like a poppies Annie before Fucking die for it. It's it's such a cute place. Yes. And so many different kinds of slime. Yeah. Oh my God. It was so cool. Yeah. Extra sticky. Go with like the cloud. The cloud. Yeah. For the crazy one. I got like cheesecake scent, I think.

Oh girl, yum. Yeah. But it was so cute and so fun. Thank you, babe. But I just cannot believe that they're all turning four. All the Vanderpump kids are four years old. That's crazy to me. Nuts. So speaking of Vanderpump kids, way to lead into this. How are you feeling about Vanderpump rules being like basically over? I mean, I know they're having another season with a whole new cast, but you know, I was on that show for five years, which I

felt like it was a lot. You were on for eight seasons. So how do you feel? I felt fine about it. It felt very final. It felt like the story was done and that chapter had closed. So of course, when you look back on it, it was such a special time. It was a show that, you know, changed all of our lives forever. But I was cool with it. It was like, we're done here. None of us kick it. None of us are talking. Like the group is not just fractured. Like we're in pieces and yeah call it a day yeah it was fun while it lasted and you know let's pass the torch to someone else how do you think the new cast will like stand up to having to be a brand new cast but still

have the name are they changing the name or they're keeping the name. No, they're picking right up. It's just Vanderpump Rules season 12. Whoa. Yeah, dude. Like we never existed. Wow. Okay. So how do you think the new cast can stand up? I mean, that's big shoes to feel. Oh, you can't fucking step to us. Are you crazy? Are you crazy? Oh my God. They'll go on. They'll have a heyday. But like, are you joking? Old school Vanderpump rules, pop culture phenomenon.

I will say the only people, like you and I were pretty much the last of like the bringing in new cast members that really stuck and became like a part of the show. Like it just made sense. No, I mean, it's gonna be fun and entertaining, but like you can never, you can't replicate that shit. I've always thought that too, like how in the world are they going to do it? Or will it seem so fake

because they're trying to live up to the Vanderpump rules. That's what's so hard about reality TV right now is any new like Housewife franchise or city that comes out, anything you always feel like they're trying to replicate or I'm just doing what I've seen on TV. Yeah. Yeah. But that's also another reason why the Valley is going to be so good because it is so raw and so real right and it's also You guys are familiar faces. Yeah, you you have people that are that are dedicated Fans they want to see what you're doing with your life and they've evolved with you. So

To see you guys and then a group that you guys have been kicking it with Yeah, no, you guys are fucking unhinged. After that trailer, I was like, Oh my gosh, like it's, it's, it's very getting the attention, you know, in for the show, but it's not even like half of what happens. So I love it because besides you and like Doty, because you guys know the drill, but the rest of the cast is like, they haven't been wounded yet.

They haven't realized how fickle the audience is yet. Where it's like, we love you today. They are torching you tomorrow. It's so up and down, so up and down always. I'm so interested to see how this season's going to go. April 15th, the Valley coming out. Don't be mad at me. I did not watch season one. I'm not mad through my own. I didn't

want anything to do with Bravo. I don't. I honestly don't even like, well, I can't say that really. It's hard to watch reality whenever it's like your friends and stuff, you know? And like, you know how what's happening behind the scenes and this and that and you know, I watch whenever it's needed, but I don't want to like, I don't know. Sometimes transparent brought up anything on season one that I didn't know. Oh yeah, no. Season one was great, but it's not going to hold a candle to season two. And I will say that fo sho. You have watch parties that we can come to.

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Maybe I can like put one of those like big screens in all states. Maybe I can put one of those big screens in the back. You know how you can rent a big screen? Yeah, like a projector. Oh my gosh. I have a funny story really fast. I didn't even have a plan to talk about this. Okay. So one time for Valentine's Day for Jax, this is whenever I was pregnant, which I don't know why I went above and beyond for Valentine's Day whenever I was the pregnant one, but I did. So I set up a really cute movie night in our backyard and I got one of those huge projector screens and we had this whole thing set up with snacks and this and that. It you know, it was like bean bags

and stuff for us to lay on to watch like a really cute movie. So Jax is gone or I don't know where he was throughout the day. And so I'm setting it up with the people from the company. Yeah. He like plugs it in and it was porn. On his own phone. It was porn that popped up on the projector from them, from them. So like whoever had either rented it last or the owners or whatever were watching porn and it popped up and I'm a people pleaser. So I didn't say anything. So you started blowing them all? Just kidding.

No he just like hoped I didn't see it and like took it off like really fast. On the giant projector hoping you didn't see it. I just act like nothing happened. I was so uncomfortable. I was by myself pregnant with this and then all of a sudden it pops up and it's just me and this man sitting there, sitting all this up together and porn pops up. I wish I could remember what kind of porn it was, but it was just like, I'm so dead right now. I'm so dead. Do you remember? Like clean off your stuff before you set up a TV for somebody else. You know, people forget me. Yeah. I don't like it's a business. It's a

business. Like I paid you to come over and set this up. And it's gonna be porn that you just watched instead of like a sexy movie prior to this where you would be playing. What was he just jacking off or did somebody who read it before me play it? I have no idea. No, it had to have been on his own phone, Bernie. Well, I can't remember how it works. But yeah, it was something like that. Maybe he was just, Oh, because you had to connect your phone to the thing. Yeah, it was on his phone. Oh my God. Wait, do you remember when

when Kristen's eggs? Yes, I've talked about that with Kristen before on the podcast because it's so funny. But we'll say it again in case you guys didn't hear it. We were all in Vegas And we had this like huge suite that had like multiple bedrooms Yeah, what were we doing? It was for Lisa Vanderpump's opening or was it for me and Katie's birthday? No, we got the room for all of us. Vanderpump was opening her restaurant. Okay. Yeah, cuz I remember my outfit I looked really cute. Okay. Yeah, but we also went another time with me and you were like me and Katie's birthdays are close. Yeah. So we went another time and that's whenever you were still with Randall, I was still with Jack's too. Wow. What another lifetime. Yeah.

Cause we would always do group stuff and like Schwartz was there. Like every, you know, everybody was there. Damn. Kristin. So I've talked about with Kristin, she doesn't care. But yeah, whenever she was dating Carter, in case you guys didn't hear it in the past, he went up to take a shower and didn't remember that his phone was still connected to the Bluetooth to listen to music. And all of a sudden we start hearing porn sounds out of the speaker. I was like, Oh my God. That is so funny. I don't judge. We have a good point. Yeah, who cares? But we had so many fun memories whenever everybody was still intact. That makes me sad. Yeah. Stuff like that definitely makes me sad. But you know, look where we are. We're having amazing times.

Look where we are in divorces, custody battles. That's just so great. We have to look at the positives, okay? We cannot focus on the negatives. We have to look at the positives. Okay, so going into that, lead way to another question. What's the best advice, L lol all that you would give me? Going through you know my divorce and everything But also just the fact that I have to co-parent with somebody who I can barely stay in half the time Because I know you've been through it

What would your what would your advice to me be right now? You're you're and I've been where you are right now. You know, all the chicks are sending you messages. You're in the thick of it. But I think my biggest piece of advice to you is number one, no, this is not your forever. Take a moment to remember, like this is going to pass. The next piece of advice I would give you is do not let him plug into you. You'll get to a point where you're kind of just numb. You're done talking about all the shit that

he's done. You can laugh about it. The anger is gone. When you kind of just are chill with everything, they kind of just fade away a know, and they will be peaceful with you. I know it seems like it'll never happen, but you will get to that place. And I think just remembering that it's not your forever. And when it becomes too much, just like don't engage with him. Be okay to block him. I'm doing really good with that right now. I think you are too.

But it's been a lot. It's been hard. I mean, it's been over lot. It's been hard. I mean, it's been over a year since we've separated. We're still waiting for this divorce to finalize, but it's just been like a lot of up and downs, you know? Yeah. But right now I'm just like, no, I can't handle it anymore.

You know, it's just like, nope, nope, nope. Because I know this about myself that I am very forgiving sometimes too forgiving sometimes too naive sometimes too You know much of a people pleaser or whatever. I know these things about me, you know, and I feel like with our situation He would be Do I would find out something awful and I would you know be quiet for a couple days and then let him come back In and you know not not to for us couple days and then let him come back in and you know, not not to for us to get back together. Let me make that clear. I'm talking about like co parenting and different things, but then nothing ever changes. And the cycle repeats itself,

repeats itself, repeats itself. So I'm trying to just be like as strong as I possibly can and not allow that to happen. That's going to be the hardest part I think for you is when you share a child with someone, you don't have the luxury of just going goodbye, get the fuck out of my life. You have to engage still. It's mental torture, but you're going to get to a place where it's just kind of like clockwork. You know exactly how the days are gonna go. You know how to disengage. You know when to engage.

It'll just become your normal. Everything is always worse in your head than how, you know, when you start looking a million miles ahead, it's like, oh my God, how am I gonna take that all on? And then when it actually comes, we're just built to handle shit. There's 7 billion people on the planet. And then when it actually comes, we're just built to handle shit. Yeah. There's 7 billion people on the planet. Well, and also because you obviously feel like you're in a much better place now than you were years ago whenever you were in the thick of it.

Yeah. Yeah. And that's great. That's great for me to look up and be like, okay, she's in a much better place now when it comes to the ex, you know? Oh yeah. Like, Brittany, you remember I was down to like 90 pounds. I couldn't eat. I was not well. That was the most horrendous time of my life to the point where even when I go into West Hollywood, it gives me a pit in my stomach. I have to remind myself like you're okay.

gives me a pit in my stomach. I have to remind myself like you're okay. That time of your life is over and you're on the other side. Like it's over. It's gone. That feels so good. Good. I love being like you're someone else's problem. Like I never have to deal with you ever again. Oh yeah. To so many of these girls that are in my DMs because it's not just one. Yeah. Let me make that clear. It's been multiple. It's been multiple and I've said back, I don't respond to all of them, but I have said to a few like, do what you got to do. He's not my problem anymore. Yeah. And that feels good to say, cause like, I'm not doing it. Like don't drag me into your stuff. Like what is wrong with these girls that they can send me this stuff? Well, I think a lot of them do it because it's their way to you.

Yeah. But like, I don't want to see that shit. I don't want to see any of that stuff. I'm trying to move on. Do not send me sexual messages from my ex. Like so weird. Yeah. And like, we're not together anymore. I don't give a shit. Yeah, no people there will be women who who will reach out to me talking about how like how he creeps around on his new person. I go I don't give a fuck. Great and you're like doesn't surprise me.

Yeah, but like I've had to say like he's not my problem anymore. Do what you got to do like like what a Fucking feel. Yes, like I'm sorry. Not my problem anymore. I don't have to make excuses for him anymore No Feels pretty dang good Okay, so moving on Because we're talking about Vanderpump rules. that's how you and I met. Yeah. I love you.

I love you too. So glad that we met. Our beginning was so weird. Obviously, you don't know what's being... I wasn't even planning on talking about this, but I feel like I should because it's so funny. Whenever I first came to the show, I had no idea what in the world I was getting into. Okay? like I had no idea what in the world I was getting into. Okay. I was just like, never had seen Vanderpump rules, never had seen even I didn't think housewives or anything.

Yeah. So I had no idea what was going on. And then you had like my ex who was like such a gas lighter and a manipulator. So it was like, let me think that like, Lala was all over him and stuff. Like, and then whenever I wash it back, I was like, Oh my God. So a lot of people were like, like, I've seen so many people like comment and be like, Well, how do you feel like that seeing that like, Jax was like flirting with Lala too. And I've moved on obviously so far past that but it's just, it's a funny memory now because it was so not like how things were portrayed to me, you know?

Of course not, yeah. Yeah. And looking back, I'm like- And you called me honey boo boo or something and I was like so upset. Well, because you thought that I was calling you that because of the Southern family show called Honey Boo Boo. Yes. But I was actually trying to be nice.

So funny. show called Honey Boo Boo. But I was actually trying to be nice. I was trying to be like a pet name. It's so funny. Like thinking back now and just being like, gosh, like even from the get go, you know, there's so many different things that I could go back on and be like, wow. What a wild time in life. Wild time. Wild ride. I had no idea what I was doing. None of us did. I was just like, boop, boop. Here we are. I took a top off under a waterfall and I'm like, so what bitch? I'm like, what? Looking back on that

person, it's like reel it in. Reel it in. And I'm like, what are these women doing? What's going on right now? Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God. That's so funny. So, okay. If you had to pick like some of your favorite moments over the years on Vanderpump rules, what would they be? Oh my gosh, my favorite moments on Vanderpump Rules. Can I just tell you, I look back and I had so much fun, like gay pride back in the day. That was so, just like the day drinking and like getting ready and then getting there and just the energy and the vibe. I

had so much fun doing our solving trip, even though my dad had passed away, that was keeping my head above water. Being with my girls, there's so many moments, but most of my favorites are when I was fucked up. I loved all of season six. Oh my God, that time. That was my worst season. But remember we went to you, but like the most heartbreaking. Oh yeah, that was heartbreaking. But this season is way more heartbreaking than even season six was. But oh my gosh, Lala, you were so funny when we went to Cabo and you were dancing on that bird cage. Remember? Like you did not give two shits.

When I was holding my thumb up and my thumb was exposed. You were wearing like a t-shirt dress or something with your face on it probably. With my own face obviously. And then I had on a brand new pair of Jimmy Chews that were so fucked up by the end of the night because I was on the ground twerking my ass. What the fuck? Oh my God. Just so many funny moments. And I remember there was a time we were in like the bus, like on our way somewhere and like they said, Lala, they were like, Lala, please like announce like where we're going next.

And you're supposed to be like, okay, everybody, we're heading into so and so bar. That was too high. I forgot words. I was like, I don't know what the fuck is going on. Have someone else in. I was lit. So funny. Also loved Big Bear with you.

Oh my gosh. Big Bear with you. Oh my gosh. Big Bear. Yes. So that was like when we started becoming like friends. That was like when we, that's when you and I got thick. Yes. Cause we were both like, not only just from like having a couple of drinks and stuff, it was also because of the altitude sickness.

I feel like, like we were so. Oxygen cans. I've never experienced that before. No, Jackson was drowning. Oh my gosh. Too bad that didn't really happen. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. I would never wish death on him. No, of course not. But she's my gosh. Wow. See, I know many fun memories would end at some point. And here we are looking back on all the fun times. Yes, there were so many fun times. Okay, so what about your worst memory on the rules? We don't have to dwell on it. You can just say it and we'll move on. My worst memories all of season most of season seven when my dad passed

away. Like there are moments where I was like that was fun but overall fucking dark. Yeah you were in a it was a hard horrible time for you. Yes. Yeah understandably. Favorite moment all of season 10. All of season 10 was your favorite. I was fucking shit up. I was like out in these streets, narcissism, fucking you tonight. You're a dumb ass bitch. Who was I? I was out in these streets. No, I loved myself so much. I was like, oh my God, fresh new tits, ear pin back. No one's stopping me. Yes.

All right. I may not be as funny as Nikki Glaser. I want to pit the series of like calendars where men are just crying in a therapist office or punching a pillow and working out their anger towards their dad. But I do have my moments. I actually have full conversations. With the moon, yes. I try to keep it pretty balanced on this podcast, a little fun dance between comedy, therapy, self-medicating. Oh, and sorry, if you haven't guessed,

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Oh, I love you. You're so funny and so fun. Thanks, babe. Like you're our sixth year sober, which is absolutely incorretible. That's wild. But you're still like as fun as can be. Thanks, babe. I love how I get out with you. You're so still like fun as can be. Thanks babe. I love hanging out with you. You're so funny.

You make me laugh. That's all I, when I die, all I want people to say is that bitch was funny. Made me laugh. I don't need them to be like, oh, she was fine. I just need them to be like, she was so fun. Yeah. I hope people think I'm fun too. You're the funnest.

Thank you. I'm telling you right now. I feel like I'm fun too, but so are you. And I'm also, I'm so proud of you for sticking to that and like, thank you, babe. Six years is a long time. Like you should be so proud of yourself for many, many things. Being a mother of two, being out of this like horrible relationship and being so strong for yourself. And like you are an inspiration to many and don't ever forget that. Well, that's for you as well. Thank you. I love you. I love you, babe. So I asked all my guests this question. Okay. If you could be on any other reality show,

what would it be and why? Any other reality show? Honest to God, right now Southern Charm is looking so fun. I'm watching OG episodes and I just want to live there. Yeah, it's beautiful there. Never been to Charleston. Oh, I went before. I want to be on this show just so I can like sit outside and drink a coffee in the fucking middle of nowhere. How does this place stay in business? Oh wait, so you don't want to be on Jackson pretty take Kentucky.

That's so funny. Oh my goodness. Okay. So who is your favorite reality star right now of all time? Gabby from Trader. Her name is Gabby Wendy. She's funny as shit. I'm obsessed with her.

So I just saw like, cause she was on while traveling. And I saw just today actually, where he was like saying like, pick your Rose and your thorns from the season. And she was like, my Rose was winning obviously. And then she was like, my thought. And she was like, so I just, but want to make sure that you guys know I haven't got my money So I haven't gotten my money so Bravo NBC peacock just so y'all know and then he was like so what's your thorn? She was like well not getting my money So good, it's the way her voice it yes, I was trying to do it a little bit, but I'm probably I was trying to do it a little bit, but I'm probably didn't hit it. I was envisioning it. She's a fucking hute.

She's a funny. Yeah. I haven't even watched all the traders yet, but yeah, a lot of people are loving her and she just got married. So congrats to them. That is amazing. She said if she won the money, she was going to get married and she told, Oh, wow. That's great.

All right. At the end of this, at the end of the pod, I always like to do a couple of questions from fans. Okay. So here we go. This is from Janet. Janet. Our friend. Fucking weirdo. What? Are Janet? Yes. This is the question that you loved. What makes you feel like strong independent badass women? Um, let me tell you, can I tell you? Yes. The fact that I don't even need a man to have a baby. Yes. Motherfucker. I literally don't need a man for shit. Oh yes. So same. I mean, I didn't have a baby, but still, but that's the thing you could, right? It's all about wanting to, you don't have to want to, but it's the fact that you could. Men should be scared. We really are not needing

them anymore. If I were a dude, I'd be like, fuck. I will say for myself, I love that I have my house back and it's just mine and that I hired a gardener to take care of the yard. Like, you know what I mean? Like I take the trash out by myself. Like I don't like that was basically all that that man did at my house. So it's like, I could do that easy. Isn't it weird how shit kind of just got easier for you? Yes. The piece. The piece. Oh my God. The fact that I don't have someone out playing pickleball and then just like sits on all the furniture after.

So sweaty. Get the fuck off my suede. Oh my god, hilarious. Okay, this is from 999britney999. If you can go back in time and relive one day, just one day, what would it be? I think about this day a lot where my ex of like three years back in the day, we had the best time where like he had a house party at his uncle's house and we just all got really shit faced and it was like his cousins and all their girlfriends. And that's just so fun when like the boys are kicking it and the girls are

kicking it and they were like healthy happy relationships and you're fucking like Jack rabbits you don't have bills to pay because you still live at home. Just like the best day ever. Yeah. All right. This is from Renee underscore Jenna one. What was Lala's opinion on the Coke and Jack's? Did she know during this time too? We all knew that Jax was, he was doing copious amounts of cocaine. We all knew that. The thing is, is what is one to do about that? Like I always said, like when we would have conversations, not me and Jax, but like me and you, I cannot,

people love to be like, well, you're sober. You should talk to them. It's like, no, I'm not going to do that. They know I'm sober. When they want to come and talk to me about sobriety, I will be here. So I definitely, because it did start getting worse. It's always been pretty bad, but it started getting worse. And that's when I had to leave you had to leave. I Was not around him anymore. Mm-hmm. Like we remember an incident you and I and I straight-up said to Jackson like I'm Not coming around you. Yeah, actually with my kids Yeah, like have a good one and then you and I would just kick it. Yeah. Yeah, And you left him shortly after that. Yeah. Because the come downs were so bad. And I've talked about this many times. I don't want to go into too much detail because this is

a fun podcast. But yeah, so we, you know, that was like one of the main reasons why I had to move out. And, you know, it wasn't a secret within our group of friends by any means, but like everybody wanted wanted him to be better. Everybody wanted that or for him to at least realize there was a problem. I think that's what happened is it took so long for him to realize that there was a problem. Yeah. And you know what? Whatever he does as someone who's in the sober community and in AA, like I'm never going to question his sobriety right without his sobriety like Cruz

May or may not have a dad. Yeah, and that was so what biggest thing for me about why I wanted him to go I know you did made sure I took the right route to make sure he went in No, you fought very hard for that. Yes can't help anybody get sober. So pray to God for the sake of Cruz having a father that he continues down the path. Oh, pray. Yes. That's all I want. I know you want that. Yeah. That's all I want. That's all I want. I hate talking about it, but it just is like everywhere right now. So it's like, yeah, it's like something that we have to, you know, we have to talk about. And if we can help somebody along the way, like, of course, you know, yes. Um, okay.

This is from Lauren daily 444. If you could do any career other than reality TV or acting, what would it be? Murder investigator. Oh my God. I love that answer. I love that answer because I feel like I would be so good at two. Oh, every time I watch a true crime documentary, I'm like, I know who did it. And then I ended up being right at the end.

Yeah. Or I want to be the prosecutor. You're going to fucking pay me. Yes. Did you at my wedding figure out because we had a murder mystery murder mystery party. Oh, you want. Yeah. That's such a good answer.

Detective would be so fun. Even interview any of the people. Like, Bo and Stassi were like interviewing all the people in language. I don't know who did this shit. Oh my God. I love it. That was so fun. That was so fun. You know, the way that things turned out now are awful, obviously, with that wedding and everything was so fun. It really was. You had Lance Bass officially. I know. And then you were saying like, bye, bye, bye. How cool with all of us. I loved it. It really was. You had Lance Bass officially. I know. And I was saying like bye bye bye.

How cool with all of us. I loved it. Wow. Amazing. In a castle. I mean it was just like a dream. Okay. This is from MTB Megan. Can she give tips on how to make new friends after you quit drinking? This one is really, really hard because I made, I didn't let go of any old friends due to my sobriety right I lost friends along the way and that's for damn sure but it had nothing to do with like drinking mm-hmm I think when you're in the rooms when if you're going to a meetings you're gonna meet people you connect with so most of the people

who I'm friends with now that are sober, I met in the meeting. Okay. Well, that's great. But I didn't lose, like I didn't go find a whole new group. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. You're like, yeah. Yeah. So a lot of people with sobriety though, they got to cut out their old trends. No, you're, you are very much like, pour me a glass of water if you guys need to take a shot. Let's do it all together.

And I love that in you. And I know a lot of people can't do that obviously, but they're just like, I'm very lucky that I can be around it. Yeah. But because I can like, I know like even times whenever I go out or whenever I was pregnant or whatever, people can be so annoying. Oh, for sure. When I'm drunk.

Yeah. I know when to tap out. Yeah. I know when I say I'm done. Yeah. You're like Irish exiting so much. Oh my gosh. This is from Zoya underscore Passy. I think that's how you say it. Does Lala like being single? I wish I didn't like it so much. It's actually scaring me.

Oh, me and you have got to... No, I know. We're are double dating soon. Yes. And I get worried about going out and meeting people because I don't know what their intentions are. I have a lot to lose at this point. I have two children. So I'm all about like if someone knows someone and can co sign on them for me, like let's do it. Yep. I'm really, really happy. I'm okay being single. However, I do need to get out and start meeting people because I'm so comfortable being single that I'm like I can't just like give up forever. Like I got to start like using I got to start popping that pussy Like why she gonna close up?

Back in the boat. I'm like, where's the dawn now? I feel like I'm back in the boat. I'm like, where's the dawn? Calling the dawn. Calling the dawn. I'm dead. Now me and you have got to go out and wingman for each other. It's happening. I already told Brittany, I was like, the guy that you have been talking to, I know he has a friend and he does. I'm like, let's do this. Let's do this. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you one more question because I don't want to keep you away from your babies too much longer. Thank you. This is from death mango. Okay. What do you feel was your most iconic moment on Vaynerump rules. Oh my God. I've had so fucking money.

I love you so much. My most iconic moment. I had no but for real though I had so many. Bambi-eyed bitch later got iconic. Oh yes. The season 10 reunion. Just the little zingers that I would throw, like Rick helping, like this is Lala at her finest.

I'm like, I'm always at my finest, baby, always. Yeah, you are good at your one-liners, I swear. I just like had a heyday all of season 10, but I can't pick one scene because literally I'm a fucking icon. Oh my gosh. You're welcome. I love it.

By the way, I have to feel that way because if I live in everyone else's world I will be in the fetal position in my car and never come out girl We are Queens and we know it and that's all that matters. We've been through some shit. Yeah, like you cannot tell Yeah, we got to move on and move past it. I'm so grateful that you had me on this episode of your pod I mean, I'm so glad you came on on. Congrats on you having the pod all to yourself. Thank you. Well deserved. Thank you. I love you so much. I love you. Thanks for being on La La. You're the best. And thanks everybody for tuning in to another episode of When Reality Hits. I'll see y'all next week. Love ya! Are you looking for your next case?

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