WHOA That's Good Podcast - Before You Say ‘I Do’ — Real Talk From the Robertson Girls | Sadie, Mary Kate & Abby

Episode Date: November 12, 2025

It’s all about weddings in this episode — and nothing’s off-limits!  Sadie Robertson Huff, Mary Kate Robertson, and Abby Robertson are diving into the DMs to spill all the tea on engagement stories, wedding planning chaos, dream themes, what they might have done differently, and their best advice for soon-to-be newlyweds. Plus, Mary Kate and Abby share the sweet (and kinda funny) stories of how they first met and started dating John Luke and Will! https://liberty.edu/Sadie — Get your application fee WAIVED when you start your future with Liberty University today! https://drinkag1.com/whoa — Get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2, when you first subscribe! https://samaritanspurse.org/occ — Share God's love with a child in need this holiday season. Join Sadie in packing shoeboxes with gifts for Operation Christmas Child this year! - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So welcome Abby and Mary Kate to the podcast. Thanks for having us. This is the first time with this dude. duo. I know. I know. That's fun. It's fun. I'm excited about it. Abby, what other times have you been on the podcast? Oh, gosh. I don't know. We, Will and I did something together at one point. And then I feel like that may have been it. I was about to say, it was like when. I feel like I've

watched several. And Will's been in several that I've just been here to watch. But I haven't, I haven't been in actually a lot, but it feels like I have. It feels like you have. Oh, the, didn't we do a girl's one with the, like, Like mom, were you in that at one point? Maybe not. I don't know. Oh my gosh. Well, welcome to your big debut.

You have been taking TikTok by storm. I've been seeing a lot of people say you're their favorite Robertson. No offense to me and you. But for good reason. It's been fun. I always tell you this. But you're my favorite TikTok follow and pretty much the only one I actually follow. I follow people, but I always forget about TikTok.

And then I'm like, oh, I need to go see what Will and Abby have posted. And then I get inspired and you probably are annoyed by this. And then I do all the ones that y'all did. No, I'm not annoyed by it at all. I think it's funny. I don't know. I'm like, this is the only place I find my trends are Will and Abby's page. Y'all are the trendsetters.

Y'all really are. You just follow the trends. Hey, that's okay. We like put our spin on trends, but I think that's what everybody does. Oh, yeah. It really is true. And y'all are good dancers, too. Thanks.

I know. I didn't know Will had it in him. Will does. He just needs a little bit of coaching. You just bring it out of him well. Yeah, maybe I bring it out of it. You're a good coach, though, because you did dance since, like, you were a baby, huh? I did dance for 10 years, and I did it for four or five years competitively. Wow. Yeah, so I just pick up. I knew you did it for a long time.

Yeah, I pick up choreography really quickly, I feel like, and I just know how to, like, explain it because I, It's been explained to me for so long. That's hopeful because that's why I ask you about the TikTok trends because I don't know why. Like when I'm watching it, I guess because it's mirrored. I have a hard time figuring out like where my body is supposed to be. And you always pick it up and you're like, no, it's just like this. I'm like, oh, okay. Mary Kate, we had our day before TikTok when we would post our dance videos to YouTube.

We did. That's bold. It was bold. It was bold. We only did it once. Well, will see made that beep for us. Do you remember? I still remember.

Have you never seen it? No, I need to see this. Is this still on YouTube? Okay, Paul. I think it was on your Instagram. We're going to have to speed this thing up, but I just have to see if this is on the internet still. Because I want to say it did better than it should have to see it. No, it was like it actually did.

It was weird. But it was really fun. It was really fun. I think it was on your, you think you post it. it. I don't even know if he can... Oh, yeah. Did you find it? Oh, yeah. Nine years ago, 372,000 views on YouTube. This one?

Oh, that's Will in the back. Before there was TikTok. We're viving. I came on. We made this. This is crazy. I've never laughed as hard at it, though. I always thought it was so cool.

It was good. And we had our plaid skirts around our waist. Oh, no. Oh, no, no, no. There's more. That's not me, though, is it? No. That's just you.

That's someone I don't even. I haven't talked to her in so long. I didn't know I attached that to the back side of it. I'm officially crying. It seems like every time I've been on here, I end up laughing crying. Last time it was Rebecca, though. Yeah, Rebecca will make you laugh till you cry. That is a shame because I work my butt off on this podcast and put out great content,

and that gets 375,000 views. Come on. Give it to us. Can this podcast exceed that view? That is so funny. Okay, now I've got to get my mascara off. I totally don't even know how I thought about that in this moment. Okay, anyways, back to Abby actually being a really impressive choreographer for on TikTok.

And the fact that we're actually going to talk about relationships, Will and Abby, Will and Abby have become TikTok like y'all are a couple people follow in love. but not everybody probably knows your origin story how y'all started dating how y'all met so tell us a little bit about you and will's love story yeah i feel like everybody asks us all the time and we just like give the short version but um we met our junior no sophomore and junior year of high school as a sophomore will as a junior and we were just friends for our super long time we met in youth group and we just had of last just being friends together we were in lots of different small groups together, and we soon realized that we were a little bit more than friends. We were crushing on each other a good bit and got together our junior and senior year right before COVID happened. And COVID happened, and we, like, our first date, we went up to the top of a parking garage because everything was closed. We couldn't go out to eat anywhere, So we picked up food and went to the top of the parking garage

and had our first date and everything just kind of happened after that. We did long distance. Which this is coming back to me now because y'all they did in secret for a little bit. It wasn't really secret. Will just like didn't tell anybody about it. He didn't tell anyone for like months.

Yeah. Which it was a unusual family because we see each other so often. It was like, what? Yeah. Hold on, huh? I remember that. That was fun and exciting. That was exciting.

Yeah. So when y'all were crushing on each other, who made the first, like, move to let the other one know, like, hey, I kind of like you. I think it was me. I honestly don't even remember really, like, the details of it. But, yeah, I think it was me. I kind of was like, do you not, like, see what's going on here? Like, what are we doing? Sometimes I think the girl has to just, like, call it the way they're seeing it.

you know sometimes the boys you know I think the boy should pursue but I think the girl can give them confidence to do the pursuing like hey I like you I'd like to be pursued by you yeah it's funny because Will's back in the distance in this podcast studio and I keep glancing at him I'm like who made the first movie you're like I don't know Will's like hey no shame in that no shame in that at all I love that that's so sweet so then y'all how long did y'all date for before you got engaged we dated for for, let's see, two and a half years, maybe three. Yeah, I think close to three years before we got engaged. Yeah, y'all were just, I guess, still in high school. We're in high school, and then we did long distance for his first year of college while I finished high school. And then I moved to Lynchburg and did college at Liberty for a year. so that's already like a year and 10 months yeah so okay i have a funny question i'm gonna ask you all these same questions to mary k but like when you look back at y'all's dating season versus how y'all

are now like did y'all date differently like were y'all more romantic or y'all more whatever because when i think about bell and jacob it cracks me up just like think about bell and jacob now okay bell and jacob went stargazing like their first date that is hilarious to me because that is like so not something I can see Belle and Jacob doing now necessarily. I don't think anyone would be more extreme. I know. The difference than that's crazy. They were so like young, romantic, like, falling in love.

And they're so, like, so in love, but they're, they're so funny together and, like, kind of, like, make just, like, funny jokes about each other, towards each other, but they're, like, best friends. But I can't see them doing that, you know, and it being, like, as serious and cute as it was then. Do you all have, do you feel like you dated? the same or I feel like we're a little bit of the same but we were way more like romantic and just like falling in love more like back then not to say things aren't romantic now but we just like we're more intentional with it which is something we need to get back to but yeah it's your dating time I feel like we were a lot more um I don't know maybe like goofy in a sense together because when you have kids like there's so much you're doing that you don't create spaces

to, like, just be a silly goofy self. But, like, when we were dating, Christian and I, we went on so many car rides because we were long distance. So whenever we would drive from, like, Nashville to Auburn or Auburn, Nashville, that was, like, four hours in the car together. And we would just, like, jam out, like, dance, laugh, like, just be crazy. And we haven't done that until long. Well, recently, we went to Rustin.

It was, like, right before I had Kit. And we listened to the craziest, like, funniest throwback 2000s the whole way there. and the whole way back to be like an hour and we just danced. We were laughing our heads off and we were like, gosh, we need to do this more. Like, so good for the soul. Sometimes you, like, forget what you did

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And so we met at camp, and then, but we lived in, like, two different towns. And then just became friends. We were good friends that week at camp. And then a year, I went to my same school that year. And then next year I ended up at the school where y'all were. And I'm not for him or anything. But I always, I always, like, preface that. Like, we didn't really keep in contact or anything at all.

Like, I just ended up at school over there. And so we picked back up there. And we started dating, I think right before I. I turned 18. Yeah, so we were 17 and 18. Dated for like maybe six months, got engaged, got married when we were 19. What was y'all's dating season like? Yeah, it was interesting because I was thinking back when you were asking her who made the first move and I was just laughing because I know if you've heard this before, but John Luke,

when we were, we were very good friends for a while before we started dating. Like a good year, we were very good friends. And I wasn't interesting. in being anything more than friends and we were in the car together we had driven to church together for like Wednesday night like youth group and usually my sister was in the back seat of the car but for some reason she wasn't there and he like reaches his hand over this is just like out of nowhere he just like reaches his hand over and grabs the hand and I just like pulled it Right away.

What did he say? I don't know. That's all I remember. I mean, it was 12 years ago, something like that. No, but literally, he reaches over and I just slipped it out. That is so funny. How did y'all circle back? So then after that, I was adamant.

I was like, well, if you're coming, if we're going to be friends and you're going to youth group or anything with me, like my sister, you're going to be in the back car. So I always made sure. I was like, Kelly, you have to come ride. You've got to do with us. We've got to make sure this doesn't like. Where was I? I was always there too back in the day. That was going to church in Delhide, though.

Oh, okay. So that was the only time I feel like you weren't there. So he would drive over there with us sometimes. He was trying to help with our youth group. We were trying to build up our youth group a little bit at the time. So that was the reasoning. Yeah, so then we ended up having, at some point we ended up having a, you know, heart to heart. And I told him, I said, John Luke, look, we are not dating.

We are not ever going to be anything more than friends. You just need to understand that. And he finally, it took that for him to take the hint. Well, then it was like probably a month or two or three shortly afterwards where I was like, well, then I was missing him when he was gone and I was, and I remember, then we talked about it. And I was like, you know, I think I do like him. I think I tried to tell myself I didn't, but I do. So then I had to humble myself and because he had backed off at that point.

And so I had to circle back and be like, okay, I actually do like you. Then we had another heart to heart about that. And then we started dating. Yeah, March, got engaged in October, got married the next June. So I remember that all, like, so clearly. I remember, well, first, you might have not wanted to date him because I was like, no, y'all cannot date. Because we were all, like, best friends. And I was like, Jellink, you're going to ruin this.

You're going to ruin this. which is so funny because Bella was the same way with me with Christian. When Bella and Christian were friends and I one day Christian and Bella's like, you're going to ruin it. You're going to ruin our friendship. Which is great because it worked out for both of us. But the fear is obviously like they're your friend. What if you break up?

And then it's awkward. But I remember like we would, I would spend that at y'all's house all the time and your mom would buy us like ice creams for each of us. It was the proline and cream or whatever. And we all had like our names and our ice cream and John would be coming over. and I would be like, there's no ice cream for you. Like, where are you here?

You know, and I could tell he was like crushed it on you. And but I love your point of you had to humble yourself and come back and tell him because I feel like girls find themselves in that situation a lot. I actually know a friend who is in that situation where the guy liked her and she didn't like him and he had asked her out. She said no. And now she actually thinks she might like him. And she's like waiting on him to come around.

again and I'm like well he feels he you already said no so you're going to have to be the one this time to come back yeah you got to communicate that because all he knows is that you don't like him and that hasn't changed so there does have to come a point where it's like you admit okay I have feelings for you now and it's very inspiring to anyone who's ever been in the friend zone or put someone in the friends there that you can't get out of it yeah but you have to have some conversations yeah to get out of it that's good okay let's get to the engagement Abby how did will take us like give us the details this is a podcast you can give us the details of the day it actually okay so going into our engagement i knew we were going to get engaged soon i didn't know

when and i was like will all i want is to actually be surprised because i was like i figure everything out nobody can ever surprise me because i'm just nosy naturally and i was like i just i just want to be surprised and um he pulled it off he figured out, well, one, everybody was lying to me, which I just was shocked by after, but I asked for it. So it was just funny and weird. Will took me up to the top of the parking garage where we had our first date and had everything set up. Two of my best friends were in town and set everything up. And then, yeah, that's where he popped the question. And I was so surprised. Yes. Well, he had told me that the ring wasn't ready. And he didn't know when it was going to be ready. And he didn't know when it was

going to be ready and he did it on my birthday and I was not expecting that on my birthday because I just was like he probably isn't going to he's probably not going to do anything on my birthday but he told me we were going to dinner and my which looking back hindsight you know everything my mom was like are you sure you want to wear that and I was like mom what is wrong with my outfit like do you not like it she was like it's fine like it was just making sure and then my best Manhattan talked to me all day and I was like it's my birthday she's not talking to me like what in the world he had surprised me her coming into um so yeah it was all a surprise he got me good and isn't it funny like hindsight you're like man it was so obvious but in the moment like everybody was

telling me like how did you not know literally everyone came into town and I was like I just thought they really came for my birthday because me and Christian were having that big party and I was like I mean it was a fun party. I just thought everybody was coming for the party. And I thought the same thing. I just didn't think he would do it on our birthday. When I say our birthday, Christian's birthday is June 9th. Mine's June 11th. We had our party together. And Christian had said beforehand that he did, which now I know he did this to throw me off, but he had said like he just wanted it to be us when he proposes. He just wanted to be very private, which isn't normally my style. I'm more like, I want everybody to be around. But I was like, that would be really sweet. I totally get that. So we kind of agreed on that. And so I just did not think he would do it like when all of our friends, all of our family were here because I'd just been thinking it was going to be like a private moment. But he did make it private. We like went to the farm away from the party. And by the time we were leaving, I knew what was happening at that point. But I did not think it was happening that day.

I didn't know until he took my blindfold off, but it was like the real deal. I thought he was surprising me with my best friend, which was a good alternative. Oh, that's awesome. That's really sweet. fun. That is so sweet. Okay, Mary Kay is quite a few years ago. I've got to think back, but I just don't think, I don't even know if you all realize how shocking it was for me. You remember how shocking? Like, I don't think anyone could have been a surprise that I was and still had said yes. Like, that's how shocking, like it was, because

we had talked, I'm telling you, I just never, I never apparently know what's going on. Same with that conversation with John Luke saying, we're never going to be anything more than friends. We had talked the weekend before he proposed in the car, and I said, yeah, I feel like, you know, maybe we should. Like, I was in, like, I wanted to marry him, but I was in, like, did not think we were close to that stage. But your parents got married older. Yes. You weren't used to, like, our family had all got married so young. And I was like, 18.

Very different. 18. And he was, like, my first boyfriend. Yeah. So it was just, like, I told him, I said, yeah, I mean, I guess we could probably. like, you know, we can start talking about when we want to get married, maybe sometime next year. And he literally had the ring in his pocket that day. And he said, he was like, man, I am about to rock her world.

And he did. I remember that. I was like, Julie, did you not think like maybe it's not the right time? Like when she said that, he's like, no. I just thought this is about to rock her world. I was just absolutely, like, shocked. Even the night, I mean, even when I said yes. Well, setting the scene, it was his birthday.

So same, like, and I didn't think anything about it because, like, a lot of our family, both of our families were going to be there, and I didn't think anything about it. And I went, so all of y'all were out at the farm already. I just, that was during dance on the stars. So me and Derek, because it was switch up week. Derek Huff, he was there. So random.

Flew in, because of the engagement. But it seemed like for his party. Yeah, yeah. So we went, but we met at your parents' house, and I was going to, everyone was already out at the farm, and we were going to ride together. And he was like, oh, I actually have something for you. And he made me, like, a photo book of all of our pictures, which all of our pictures being from, like, the six months we'd been.

Yeah. Wasn't that long. Except there were a few from Cannes. What kind of camera did he put up? It was like a GoPro. Yeah, it was like a GoPro in the corner. It was a GoPro. Yeah, I forgot.

We do have that. And so I was, like, flipping through it. y'all, I mean, I'm not thinking anything flipping through it. And the last picture is the ring. And then he gets down and he proposes. And I just remember thinking that moment, I'm like, I'm saying yes right now because I do want to marry you, but I'm not putting any time frame. I remember the first thing you said, you said, now? That was, yeah.

He said, will you marry me? I was like, now? And then you said yes. And then I said yes. That was crazy. It was crazy. It was a shocker because it was like. Like Bella got married at 18, mom and dad got married at 18, two moments people got married

to 18. I'm okay. And we're like 15 and 16. Like we come from a line of like everybody getting married at that age. So 18 didn't seem crazy. But 18 is so young. That is wild. That is crazy. And so no wonder. And y'all had just had that conversation. So okay, if it's okay for me to ask, because maybe some people feel that way, it's like a rush process or maybe they feel like, whoa, I'm so young, or I know I want to marry you, is it the time yet? What looking back, like, what would you say to someone in that scenario? By now, you probably know the Robertsons are all about good food and big family meals. So between sweet potato pie and Christmas cookies, it's easy to feel like I'm living on sugar this time of the year.

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He was in our relationship. And so I was just, my mindset was, and we probably picked a date within the next 24 hours. And we picked it for the following June. And I remember thinking, okay, I feel good about John Luke. I feel good about marrying him. I feel like God, you're going to just pave the way, you know, for this process. And then if we're, you know, if we're not feeling ready, like, and you just push it back or you move it like yeah i don't know just trusting that in the process

god was going to yeah bring us both to be ready for it it's so cool to see you now like i guess how many years later 10 years later and like look at the family you've created sitting here pregnant with twins like that y'all really did go in the journey together you did and you leaned into the lord and like y'all have such an amazing beautiful family that you've created from that you know So, yeah, it started a little bit like, whoa. It did. It did. And we were talking recently about just getting married young.

And it's just crazy. We've been married for 10 years. And I feel like getting married young, I don't have any regard of doing it. But I do think one of the pluses you could have of waiting is just saving some heartache between the two of you. Because there's still much, we still had so much growth to do as people. And I feel like we hurt each other. you know in immaturity like that's that can be the price that you pay with getting married so young not that I regret it at all wouldn't change it but I do think in the growing that you get to do

together there's so much fun in that but then the hard part of it can be like the growing pains yeah you feel each others too yeah you know you feel your own but you also feel each other's yeah that's so real so yeah that's my only thing thinking back about getting married young it's really good that's really good advice I love that Okay, so after the engagement, one fun thing that we have to talk about for girls is picking a wedding dress. Someone actually asked, sent us the DM whenever we open up the questions for this podcast and was like, do you regret your wedding dress? Do you love your wedding dress still? All those questions.

Abby, how did you pick out your wedding dress? What did that day look like? And did you just know it was the one? I did know it was the one after trying a lot on. I am well my mom had her dress like special made my grandmother like put all the pieces together because she wanted like a top from one dress and a bottom from one dress and a train of one dress and like she was like very particular on what she wanted and I was like oh boy this is just not going to be a fun experience like I've done like homecoming dresses and prom dresses

and stuff and those were never easy for me so I was like crap I'm just not going to have a good time with this and actually your dress was one that I always like wanted like that was my like ideal dress yes and then you wore it and I was like I've had somebody else who had to me too a friend of mine was like when you walked down the aisle was like dang because they had that similar dress picked out but she ended up doing a similar one I was like which I loved my dress that I picked anyways but one of my one of my prom dresses that I wore was like that cut of the top yeah I was like I want my wedding dress to be. be like this and then I was like okay it's okay we'll move on we'll do it um yeah it was I

really loved my dress um but I it was actually the first one I tried on at the second store and I went and tried on all the other ones that I had picked out and then I just reaffirmed that the first one was it and it all worked out perfectly we only were engaged for four four months and I went dress shopping like day two after getting engaged so because I was like you don't get a wedding dress in that fast like if you have to order it it takes months and months so it just like happened to be that that dress came in right on time and alterations we're all going to line up perfectly and I was like okay good wow that's so good did you cry I teared up a good bit I don't think I like cried and was like I love it but that's just not my personality yeah

That's so sweet. Mary Kate, what about you? Yours was actually on TV. Yeah. Well, that's what I was just thinking about was we actually did it on TV, but we didn't show all of it on TV. Because I went to Austin and actually kind of did some of the design process there with Sherry Hill. Yes, that was so cool. It was really fun. But it was kind of crazy because I don't think I got the dressant. Like she made it. Like we kind of combined two dresses and she made it. And I don't think I actually tried it on to like. like two or three weeks before the wedding. Really? That was the first time I tried the dress on.

Oh my gosh. I know. So when I looked back and at the time I was like, this feels kind of chancy. A little risky? Yeah. A little bit. And so it got altered like the week. I probably got it back with alterations like the week of.

Wow. But I loved it. I'm still happy with it back on it and still love it 10 years later. I feel like I hope this is true. I feel like we'll always love our wedding dress. I think so. Because it was our wedding dress. Yeah.

Even when times change and styles change. It's like, it's your wedding dress. Like, when I like at mom's wedding dress, it's obviously different than the times now. But, like, it's so beautiful. Yeah. Ours was a fun story because I got in one dress shop right after Christian had, like, talked to my dad, and I knew I talked to my dad. This is before we got engaged. And I actually bought my dress before we got engaged.

That was, that was in faith. Funny enough, though, I have had so many people say the same thing that they got their dress before they got engaged. But I think nowadays, and maybe, like, I don't know, a lot of my friends did this. But because you have to book venues so far in advance, because the dress takes so long because of that, like, you do kind of start planning the wedding a little bit even sooner than you get engaged. And I feel like so many people are embarrassed to say that. But I think that a lot of people, I think more people are doing it than probably will admit. I booked my dress appointment before we got engaged because I was like, I got to get this ball rolling. It's like, you already know.

you kind of talking about it and whatnot. And I knew we were hoping to get married in November because of our schedule. He was like in school and then his brother's baseball schedule was so crazy. So we kind of had to start talking about it earlier. And he lived in Auburn. I lived in Nashville. My parents live in Louisiana. His parents live in Florida.

So to get us all together to talk about it, we all met in Nashville for like him to talk to my dad, our families to meet each other. And after we had that day, we were like, okay, we're pretty locked in. Like, we know where we're heading towards marriage. And I was actually about to go to New York the next week. And while we were all talking about this, his mom was like, oh, you should go to Climfelds while you're there. And I was like, oh, should I do that? Oh, my gosh.

Like, we're not even engaged yet. This is kind of weird. And she's like, oh, it's just going to be so fun. It's like, okay. Well, then when we left, the meeting, like our meeting, it sounds weird to say a meeting, but like everybody meeting and hang out. mom was like, do you just want to go find a wedding dress out here? So in Nashville, we went and, like, found a shop. It was super fun.

And didn't pick any of those, but it was just fun. And then we booked an appointment at Climfelds from when we were going. And I was looking at their website, and I screenshotted one dress. And it was like, the only dress I saw that kind of, I was like, I just want to try this on. But I had no idea what I wanted. I hadn't had, like, you know, some girls are like, I know I want lace or I know I want this. I really wasn't sure. So I get there, I try on, like, every different type of.

a dress and I'm just I never really thought I was going to find my dress there so I was just like having fun and then before we left I was like do you all have this dress and I showed them the dress and they said we do but we only have it in pink and I was like well I just try it on and see if I like the style and I had told him I wanted to wear gloves so they had like found some old like vintage gloves in a drawer that they had just so I could get the vision and it had the pink dress on they brought me flowers in a veil and I started crying I was like oh I forgot you wear the gloves they were so pretty and so that was really cool but what was a little bit fun about the like process too was I wasn't going to be able to get the dress till September and when it was in November so

I was like had to just in faith to just say like okay I want the white version but there's a lot of different variations of white so I wasn't sure what that was going to be and then I ordered my gloves from somewhere else and I didn't know what color white the dress is going to be and so when I ordered those gloves and we got to New York in September um and I tried to them on with it and they matched perfectly. It was like so fun. It was like all came together. It was so fun. That was like magical moments in life. Magical moments. So fun. I miss that trip. Yeah. I was just thinking. I missed all those trips because I was always pregnant. I was scanning. That is so funny because all my bridesmaids were there and I was like thinking about

the fact that I don't remember you being there. Yeah. That's crazy because you were with Shepi. Yeah. Yeah. I had a few weeks. later. A few weeks later. Yeah. And I was like, now I know that that was really rough to plan a wedding a month after you had a baby because Bella did it to me. And I was nine months pregnant in your wedding. Yeah. You were both pregnant at your wedding. You were like nine months pregnant though. I've decided though I'd rather be nine months pregnant at a wedding than a month postpartum at a wedding. Because the nine months pregnant really wasn't bad. It was the three weeks after having honey at Bella's wedding.

And let me just tell you, this is really embarrassing and funny, when we went dress shopping for Bella's wedding. I remember that day. Do you remember this day? I do. And we're trying out all the bribes my dresses and all the bribes my dressers there. And nothing was fitting me. And it was so discouraging because I was only like four months pregnant.

And I was like, oh no, like this is not good. So I like secretly like start crying in the dressing room because my mom told me she was like, hey, like this is what you're going to look like postpartum. And I just hadn't thought about that because, you know, you've never been there before. And I felt like my belly was pretty big. So this is what I'm going to look like three weeks after? She's like, yeah. So you definitely need to find one that fits you now.

And I was like, okay. So I just didn't. Sometimes you don't feel pretty. I just felt sad. So anyways, but I'm trying to not to take away from the moment for Bella. Well, anyways, I order stress. And then I didn't know my mom ordered me another one that she thought was going to work better. I think, yeah, we talked about it.

Okay, yeah. Because I was pregnant, too. We were only, like, that was with Ellen Honey, so we were only like three weeks apart. Yes. And I remembered what worked for me in your wedding postpartum. Now that I'm a mom, the Christmas season has taken on a whole new meaning. I want my girls to grow up knowing that giving is even more special than getting. One of the sweetest ways to do that is through Operation Christmas Child.

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or build one online. That's Samaritanspurse.org slash OCC. Because, yeah, if you're never in postpartum, you don't quite know what that body type feels like. looks like and it is different. And so they were like, maybe you should do this one, which was just so different than my normal style. So I went with the one I thought. They bought me in secret a backup item. Well, during her wedding, I wore the one that I liked and everything was going great until right after the wedding. We all go for a family picture and Christian comes walking out and I go to hug you and like I wrap my arms right, both of my straps, which aren't buttoned by the way. They're not like, you know, they're not like nursing

straps where they're supposed to undo. They're like stitched straps. Yeah. Just pop. I do you remember that now? And I say, don't let go with me. Don't like go with me. So, Christian, I just like, hug me and walk inside. And I get inside, the dress just falls off. And I'm like, thank the Lord that happened after the wedding. And then mom's like, I actually ordered you another dress. So then I get to wear my backup dress. It worked out. I know. And then remember all the bad spades like went out for Bella's thing. And we dance to um get in there yeah yeah what's that song um wobble wobble we need it's so wobble and had honey strapped to me with my new fries my dress uh-huh and after that i went inside

and i literally fell asleep on the floor lane held honey and i fell asleep on the floor that was so crazy that was you did we were both so postpartner it was so fun though like we've all done it for all the weddings and it's been really fun um oh gosh okay so wedding what was your wedding theme Abby what was y'all's kind of like theme y'all's was so fun we did all black um or all of our guests were black and we just had simple as like I want classic modern time list like just yeah I didn't want any color really other than green but yeah that's the after the wedding the jazz thing that was fun that was fun yeah Your mom actually came up with that.

She was like, what if we do a second line like they do in, like, New Orleans and stuff after weddings? And I was like, weird. I was like, I don't know about that, but maybe. And then we started thinking about it more and more. And I was like, well, we have to get people from point A to point B. And instead of just walking over there in silence, like, let's just do it. And my brother was in band in high school. So he got some of his buddies.

And that was our little band. It was so fun. I didn't realize that they did it. I thought that's sweet. Yeah, I love that. It was really sweet. It was fun. That was really fun.

Y'all's theme was so, your wedding was so fun. It was fine. What would you say the theme of it was? I don't know. Outside. We were just outside. It was outside. It was outside, Louisiana and June.

Fireworks. Yeah. It was just fun. We had a lot of flowers, just a lot of, we had a band and music. Martin Ballas performed with D.C. That was fun. And then, Ben Rector. Yeah.

Yeah, that was so fun. Reed did something. It was just fun. It was fun night. And then we had our favorite. And so different and so fun in both of the farm. It was like modern, timeless, all black, DJ, like, all that. And then y'all was just like band, outdoorsy, like very colorful.

Your flowers are super colorful. You were like only green. That's so funny. It was so different. All the variations that have happened at the farm. And ours was like nighttime. I was thinking like night. garden. That's what I wanted it to look like in the tennis court. And it was so fun.

I love that tennis court transformation. When mom, same, mom had that idea and I was like, no, weird, get married on a tennis court. And then it was like so cool. It was really cool. Shout to mom. She had the vision. She does. She had the vision. All right, let's see if there's any questions that some people sent in that we want to make sure that we answer. If you could do it over again, what would you change about your wedding day? I was thinking about this I don't think I would change this I just would have prepared for this a little bit better

we had so many people at our wedding it was like a huge wedding and I think like there's so much beauty to small weddings now that I've had a really big wedding and I'm like oh that's fun because it's so intimate it's just your people but the big wedding was so fun and there were so many people and there was energy and it was fun for that reason

but I felt like Christian I were getting pulled in every direction, talking to so many people. And there were so many people from his family I hadn't met because they lived in a different state. There were so many people. My family, he had met. We had met so many of our friends. So I felt like we were meeting people, like most of the reception, which was sweet because when else would we have really spent that time with all of our people in one place. But I feel like we didn't even have time to eat. Like we didn't have time to like sit and be like, whoa, except for one moment, which is my one of my favorite moments of our whole wedding is we looked at each other during the whole

reception and it was so crazy we were like let's go hide and we ran to the wine bar and like crouched down and hid behind it and we were like we just got married and that is like one of my favorite memories ever so i don't know that i would change going from a big wedding to a small wedding because there's beauty to it but i would have been a little bit more intentional with making sure christ and i had our private moments so that we didn't feel so crazy pulled um and Like I've seen a lot of brides and grooms like they go eat somewhere else and then come. That's a good idea. Like that's a good idea because that was a little crazy.

I feel like we were kind of the opposite. We like, I feel like we didn't really like talk to anybody really our whole wedding night. Like we kind of unintentionally had like a photo line. After we cut our cake, we kind of got trapped in there. And we talked to like a few of those people. But other than that, like we really were locked in with one another. And even though all of our people were there. We just, like, were tunnel vision on each other.

And I think that was, like, so beautiful, and I loved every bit of it. But I wish we did take a minute to, like, look out into the audience and say, like, look at all of our people. Those moments. Because that's really the only time that everyone that you know and love are going to be together in one place. And I just wish we were a little more. I wish I had thought of that and was a little more intentional at, like, honoring the people that we love. That's cool. Like, a different perspective.

because yeah because I think there is so much beauty to all of them being the same place but it's like that balance of having eyes for each other but also acknowledging the room yeah one thing christian i did in that moment was we held hands like the whole time even if i was talking to these people and he was talking to those people i felt like we were together but we were just like so many so much going on so yeah i think those are things you don't really think about before the day but it'd be cool for those who are engaged like think about how how you and your spouse are going to kind of like navigate that. Because there's beauty to both.

Do you have anything you change? Some of my flowers got messed up. I wasn't going to say it. I remember that. I didn't know if you remembered that. Nothing else. A very minor. I've heard.

Honestly, don't care about it now, but I do. Well, you were right afterwards. I was sad about it. And so that was what was upsetting because you didn't match the flower crown. Oh, yeah. That was it. That was fun. It was great.

So fun. It was such a cute flower crown, though. I really liked it. It was still happy about it. And I was kind of a trendy thing then, but I liked it. It was beautiful. It fit you well. Thanks.

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and they need to be helping with this, then you can't get frustrated because they might not know that you're expecting them to do that. I think communication goes such a long way because most of the time, if you ask them to help, they'll probably be willing to help you instead of just like being frustrated that they're not thinking about it. And you also have to acknowledge, like, I think for us in the stage right now, like parenting looks different for like the mom and the dad sometimes you know and there are just things that the mother is naturally going to do and the mother naturally has to do like feed the baby like for me i have to be the one to wake up in the night because i'm feeding her with my own body you know and then i feel like i naturally comfort them more

because i'm a nurturer and the mom like that kind of thing there's things that christian does that i'm not as good at like he's the on the ground playing rough getting them going like that kind of thing And we also just have to be okay knowing that like my responsibilities look different than his and not comparing what his is to mine and just being okay that he's being the best dad and being the best mom. And that's going to look different. And the workload is going to look a little different. Yeah.

Yeah. That's what I was thinking. Whenever I said that about like that's just a lifelong, there's different roles, different roles, different responsibilities, you know. And you can talk about it and if you don't feel like something's fair in it. But, you know, it is. It just looks different. A lot of it is just, to me, like, acknowledging it and seeing the other person. Like, I don't really need Christian to do it.

But if he encourages me, it goes a long way. Yeah, that's so true. Like, hey, you're doing a great job. Thanks for handling all that. Or vice versa. Like, for me lately, like, mornings are so crazy. And when he helps me out with that, I'm like, hey, thank you so much. That made it so much easier to get them ready when you did that.

You know, like seeing what each other is doing. Yeah. And I think they always, they actually want to help. Yeah. You know, you just have to communicate, like, how you want them to. What would be helpful? Abby, you got anything on that? I was thinking back to, like, what we did, like, in real life.

And we'll, like, certain things, kind of like a to-do list of, like, all the things that I wanted him to accomplish or, like, think about or, you know, whatever it may be. And then all the things, like, he kind of was, like, I don't care what it looks like or anything. but I want to like be involved in in doing so anything that was like colors flowers tablecloths like signage like all of that stuff I just like we talked about it together and I feel like that kind of relieved not my frustration but just like the the weight of all the wedding planning things so just be it on it together yeah so helpful yeah okay let's see I think one more that would be a good question for y'all to answer is moving across the country when we get married but i'm sad to

leave family slash home any advice from moving after getting married um for christian and i we were opposite we had lived you know all over the place and then when we got married we lived together in auburn so we were away for a little bit but then COVID hit and we were like smack dab in the middle of family and like quarantined together but you guys both moved away so what was that like right after getting Mary moving away, advice to people kind of in that stage. You can go fast if you have something. I, we did long distance basically our whole relationship. So when it was time to like settle down and be together, I feel like it, that was just

what it was. Like we just, it didn't matter where we were or what we were doing. If we were together, it was, it was just perfect. Like, I don't know. It just is like what we wanted to do. so and as hard as it was to be away from my family because I'm I'm a big family girl like I don't leave my family often we talk every day I was with him so it just made it worth it so yeah as hard as it was and as much as I missed my family it was just like such a perfect time for us to

grow together away from our family and establish our own like relationship dynamic because we really like we did we had we never had that like every day time together because we were long distance so yeah it was it was fun and hard but yeah it's so good it's so good it's same way it was fun and it was hard like just because it's hard doesn't mean you shouldn't be doing it yeah and it's bad yeah you know i was remembering that too yeah just because it is just going to be hard but it doesn't mean it's bad yeah it was really it was good for us and it was there was a lot of fun in it, too. And I think, too, like, a lot of people say, oh, the first year is the hardest or whatever.

That's not true for everybody. Some scenarios, it is the hardest. For us, the first year was kind of the easiest. And then things have gotten harder in different ways. And, like, year three, that was pretty hard. Like, now we're on your city. It's, like, there's different years. So I think sometimes people will say, oh, that's going to be really hard when you do that.

But that might have been unique to that person's situation. And because for us, when we moved to Auburn, it was just so. fun. Like we, like you kind of said, it's like we just got married. We're so excited. We have been long distance. Like we're together. In those three months, like, we look back at those three months. We're like, we didn't realize how fun that even, like, it was fun and we knew it was fun. We didn't know like how fun. And that time was never going to really be given back in a sense of like, we watched movies all the time. We just did fun nights, all the stuff. Whereas now it's like, when's the last I was just sat and watched a movie without, you know, getting in a

rough, we can't even watch a movie right now. We have three kids. Like, it's so crazy. You, we'd have to go to a movie. We'd sit in our bed and, like, laugh, watch a movie. We had Cabo. We just got her. We were like, I was going every day while Christian went to class. I was walking outside trying to teach Cabo how to walk on a leash, which I didn't do a very good job at because that dog cannot walk in a straight line. But like, just fun memories, you know, being together and just doing whatever we want. because we had the time to do it yeah and so when you do get married um for those listening if you're at that stage of like stepping into early marriage like enjoy it everyone's going to tell you it's

it's going to be hard yes it's going to be hard marriage hard life's hard but like enjoy those freedoms enjoy that fun enjoy being each other's company being undistracted uh really developing that relationship between the two of you outside of your family you're now a family y'all have the same last name, what that dynamic scale. Even the conversation is about the future. Like I think about so many things we talked about year one that now we're living in, we're walking in, dreaming about

kids, now we know their names, now we know who they are, like it's go time, you know? So it's so special. But this has been so fun. I loved hearing y'all stories and recapping and thinking back it's fun because like we see each other's life, but then you don't know all the little details

in the ends and out. So thanks for sharing and giving such good advice. Fine. It was for much time.