WHOA That's Good Podcast - Everything Is A Gift

Episode Date: February 6, 2019

Sadie welcomes her best friend, Laney Redmon, to the podcast. They discuss the idea of striving to keep something that was never earned and how everything in life should be viewed as a gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I really hope that we can actually get these people to love me and not just laugh all the time But no, just like any other person that's on this podcast. I will ask you the same question What is the best piece of advice you've ever been given? Um, I was thinking about this because I knew this question was gonna happen and I would have to say it was from my mom. She told me you can't strive to keep something that you didn't earn in the first place told me you can't strive to keep something that you didn't earn in the first place. Oh yeah! And I feel like that just starts with our salvation. Obviously, God's good of grace, but it flows into everything. Yes, everything is a gift.

And if you look at life like that, you begin to be thankful and you see everything as something that you can't lose because it's all God's in the first place. That's so good. Oh my gosh. Okay, I honestly feel like that could speak to so many people, especially kind of where we're at in our age group because it's so easy to like start to strive in the things that you're going for because you feel like, well, I have to. I have to get this job. I have to get this thing to go out or I have to get the follows or have to, I have to get this job, I have to get this thing to go out, or I have to get the follows, or I have to do whatever. And so, like, for you and your own life, how have you like, you resisted the urge to feel the need to strive? Yeah.

I feel like, even with you brought up like Instagram, that kind of thing, I feel like I've made a rule for myself that I can't post or do anything unless it's coming from a place of feeling like it's not to get an approval or get a response It's only because I feel like it's something I'm supposed to do in the moment So people's response won't affect me negatively or positively. That's so cool Yeah, so I feel like it's even just like it's it depends on the situation. Yeah, that's so cool No, that's awesome. Okay, so I got to ask you a question, because I know the answer, because we

talk about this all the time. But I think that this is something that people should hear, because we have our Instagram page at Sadie and Lini, and we are stupid. And actually, if you haven't heard of it, our bio is living our best 12-year-old selves, because we are actually 12.

But we can change again every day. We can change our day. They're changing every day but that's it today but it's something funny because everybody always says like y'all seem so much younger than y'all are and not in a negative way they're not being rude it's just it's true because we're goofy and whatnot and I know that you've talked about this a lot in that sense of like, um, that that's okay and why it might be that way. And I just want you to hit on it because I think a lot of people are age might seem, um, to hear something like that would take a lot of pressure off of the post that they feel like they have to make.

I feel like just with our generation, it's easy to think that we have to be more revealing or post things that we think other people will approve of that are our age or even older. But it really goes back to, well, just kind of how we see ourselves and like, when I look at myself and like, okay, I know that what I post really is an innocence, a lot of times people see innocence as younger. Yeah. And the biggest thing that I've loved about it, Sadie and Lini, is we're truly being ourselves and you don't have to be gross to be funny or to get people's attention.

There is so much freedom in just being yourself and whether that whatever that looks like for you And when we started posting crazy stuff It really actually freed me up in a lot of ways because I think I thought I had to portray like an image of being cool And like I walk through like a season where I Always like I always left the house looking head to toe, just like felt like 100% did my best. And not that that's not good, but when we started posting everything,

it was like I'm out there, like I'm super crazy, how weird. And all my close friends know that. So why would I try and portray something differently on social media that isn't me? And we've gotten comments before I've seen where people are like Oh you guys are 12 But there there's a beauty and like I feel like the innocence of that and just freedom enjoy and laughter and it really stinks that that seems younger to people Yeah, you don't have to be sexy or to like,

put off this like image to seem older. I think you know. I want to change that. Yeah. No, that's so good. That right there, like, I want to change that. I think that's important for everybody to hear because the truth is, probably most people out there

listening right now, you probably relate to that so much. Like, you're goofy, you're fine, you're silly, or you're just like natural, like you know who that is in you, but for some reason when you wake up, you put on this image, you walk through your walk, you talk your talk because you feel the pressure

kind of the standard of the world that we live in today. But if you wanna change that and if you want to live out who you are, then you actually just have to do it. And I think you'll be surprised like how many people cheer you on in that. And I feel like it really matters who you have around yourself.

Like the fact that we are both like, I feel like I've watched you do that. And that really helped me to see you live free, be funny and public. Like, not worry about what everybody is thinking of you every moment of the day and it really doesn't matter because you've said you're like, you're really not going to see those people probably everything again. Yeah. You know, like it really is adding to your life more free. And I think like my mom and I know like our families have done a good job

at that and we've like seen that culture created and so like we're able to send them to like I think my mom like we call our case swaggy like y'all know my mom now from being podcast listeners but mom is like so free and she has so much fun and like all everybody around her is blessed by how much fun she has and anybody that doesn't know her that saw her wouldn't care like they're just going on with their day And like I've seen that trick going to me and Laney's friendship and I think that's really cool something else I wanted to Ask you that you could hit on because I think it's inspiring like when I met you you're a backup dancer

Okay, and like now you're singing you're writing you're about to start speaking like you're doing so many things And I think that sometimes we limit ourselves to one thing and we think, oh, this is it. And this is the way it's going to be. But I watched you open your hands and say, God, whatever you're going to do with these hands, do it. And so I want you to talk about that. And just to free to me found. Yeah.

I feel like that kind of started for me before dance. I watched a lot of my friends go to college and do all these things that I was like, that looks fun, but I actually went and got a job at Chick-fil-A and started working there just because simply I felt like the Lord told me to serve. And that was the one thing I knew to do. And just from that posture of God, like I don't know what I'm doing with my life.

Here, here I am, like do whatever you wanna do. Then like I had so many things that I wanted to do, all the singing, dancing I am, like do whatever you want to do. Then like I had so many things that I wanted to do. All the singing, dancing, fashion, like all those things were in my heart at that time already, but I didn't know what step to take to go there, like to get to those things first. And about four months after I was working at Chick-fil-A, God opened the door for me to back up dance, which was so awesome. Like you said, I did that for four years. And through that, thank God just began to open doors for fashion and for singing and, but I have noticed

through all of those things that I love those things. Like they're fun, dance was fun. And, but none of those things actually individually satisfy me. Yeah, and so I think it's been cool for me to see that like no matter what I'm doing, the thing that satisfies me never changes. It's always, always Jesus. And whether it's at Chick-fil-A serving chicken or it's dancing on stage or dancing in my room where no one's watching, singing by myself or making a song that everyone hears.

You know, the song first started by myself. Yeah, it started alone with Jesus and it was something that just came from my time with him. Yeah, and so I think it's just keeping, it's keeping your private time, like you always keep that. You never lose that, but it's just making your private time where somebody else can see it you know that'll preach that's so good I love that you said like that's not what satisfies you and like you know obviously what brings you your satisfaction and that's God himself that's your your time which uses

anything else is the overflow of that time and I think that going back to your original piece of advice, if you are satisfied with who he is, you don't have to strive. Exactly. You don't have to do that. Yeah, and that was what the first time my mom said that to me, that you can't strive to keep something that you didn't earn in the first place was about dance.

Oh, so nervous about, I think it was my first show with Britonical and I call my mom and she was like laying like you didn't earn this. She was like this is a gift from God so you don't have to worry about whether you mess up. She was like if you miss a move she was like it's okay because you didn't earn it. God opened the store and if he wants to shut it, he'll shut it, but he's still good to you. Yeah, so we put so much pressure on ourselves sometimes and it's like, God gave you that. It's a good thing to shut it.

Exactly for sure. Yeah, that's so good. Okay, now let's get juicy. You got yourself a little bobo. Oh, okay, I'm not gonna grill you. I'm not gonna go too. I wasn't gonna go too. What's going on? You know, I'm not gonna grill you. I'm not gonna go. I wasn't gonna go to you. You know, I'm gonna follow the spirit.

Don't turn around. I'm not gonna ask you about your boo. I'll let you, I'll let you life be private, even though it's on Instagram. Go check it out. But, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. But what I'm gonna ask you about is, I mean, I, I'm,

ever since I've known you, you like had this like year of being single, but I watched you pray for whoever you were going to date next, and I thought it was beautiful, and I also watched your dad encourage you and what to pray and stuff like that. And I just wanted you to speak to that, like just praying for the things before they get there, and you might not have a lot to say about this because I know This is a random question, but I do think that something I've seen in your life And it's cool because when I watched you pray for things when they came it was the evidence you that God's good This is actually really funny this

Comes from our friend court star court crew here She told me about a year ago. She, Lane, what are you looking for? And I said, I have no idea. And she goes, well, I just want to encourage you to start praying for God to show you what it is that you're looking for so that when it comes you know. And that really stuck with me. And so since then, I started praying just for God to show me what that would look like because I think all of us need different things because we're all different and God made us that way.

And so there are certain things that I need in my future husband that you may not, you know, you're stronger in that area. And so I began to pray for what that look like and I think it's just trusting too that God will open your eyes when it's time. I would look around it's kind of funny like the way that I met. It's actually really funny because that was my prayer was got over my eyes and I literally walked into the mouth.

Oh, before this random event and just started circling, I was like, let's just you know, check out the options and he literally walked by and I find it like I think it's hilarious but I can also see God in that because of my prayer was open my eyes. So, but I also think just be patient. Trust that God's good to you. He has your best in mind. And even with my dad, my dad's always told me, he said, I don't look at them, the guy, in particular, he said, I look at you.

And he said, I look and see how I can tell by your face, I can tell by your piece, I can tell what's coming out of you. And so I think that's a good test when you're dating someone too or starting to get to know somebody, do they make me a better person? Yeah. Is this somebody that I leave and I feel peace? Yeah. I feel encouraged.

I feel like I want to go bless somebody else. I love somebody else. I feel that way. That's so good. I mean, I can see that in you. And I think that that's so, that's so true. And that's so good for people to hear. It's like, look for God's best and know that when it's God's best, you're going to be your best too. He's going to make you be a better person of yourself. And y'all are gonna have your individual relationships with God but you're gonna make each other better and something that me and Lani have noticed in our friendship is just in our

relationship like we have so much fun and like we feel like at our best like we feel confident we feel joy filled we have peace we're pursuing the law we're encouraging each other in our walk. We come home at night and we talk about what God did. And it's so fun. And like eventually like when you start dating somebody, you want the person that you're dating to be your best friend.

And look at your relationship with your best friend. And look at your relationship that you're in with your boyfriend and say, okay, is he really treating me like my best friend? Because I think a lot of times girls do, they're like, oh, he's my best friend, but you're crying every night. I'm like, boo, is he your best friend, you know? And I think it's important to look at your friendships and your relationships outside of your relationship with the

guy and say, how do these line up? Do I feel the same way? Do I feel the same piece? And obviously it's going to be a different type of relationship, but you should always feel like you're becoming better. And I've watched that in your life. And I think that that's really cool. And I've watched God honor that. And also, watch this. You fall more and more in love with Jesus in your single season that like even if Clayton wouldn't have come that day and what by you would be just fine.

You know, it's like, it's funny like right before I met him, like two weeks before that, I remember I was driving down the road and I was like, I like love being single. Like I have loved the season that I've been in, I love my friends, I love my roommates, like this has just been the best. And I was just driving down the road and I was like, God, like I don't feel like I even like need that.

Like how am I gonna let somebody else in? Like I love what me and you have I love my friends like why do I have to have this? I feel like I'm gonna be split and he said You won't be split because the love that he loves you with will be the same love that I've loved you with Well, and so he was like your love won't be divided. Wow, and I I feel that 100% when it is in Wow. And I feel that 100% when it is in, it's a good thing. You're both like pursuing Jesus more than you're pursuing the relationship. Yeah. There is a piece and there is just, it's so easy. It comes naturally. It's so good. Okay. I want to ask you one more thing because you hit on it already, but I think that it would be good to just encourage people even more in this

because I think a lot of people put so much pressure on their quiet time and they're like, oh, I have to have these five minutes or I have to wake up earlier, I have to stay up or like, it's almost innocent striving in that. And for you, you said something earlier, you said, you know, you're quiet time. Sometimes that looks like with people around and like, it translates into that. And like, I think that some people might have heard that and been like, wait, what? You can do that. How does that look?

And so what does that, what does that look like for you and how would you explain to somebody like what that would be? Yeah. Um, quite a time for me like, I mean, Jesus is my best friend. So I relate it to a lot of the like, how I even see like my best friend like you. You know, I spend time with you. I like to talk about you. I have memories with you that I tell other people. And so with my quiet time, like yes, that's me and Jesus one-on-one. But I also like go and hang out with him around the people. And what I was saying about earlier about the private time becoming public is just you want that to be your fruit and your foundation.

And when that is your foundation, then it just starts to pour on to everything else at you. And it goes out in public. But quite time for me sometimes even just looks like, I mean, I'll sit in my room just by myself. I won't say a word. But it's quite time for me sometimes even just looks like I mean, I'll sit in my room just by myself I won't say a word, but it really it's quite time and I just wait until Jesus speaks sometimes It's I ran out this morning and I woke up late and I'm in the car and I just Listen to worship or Sometimes I'm around people and you hear Jesus by through your friends. Sometimes you'll say things and like,

that was Jesus to me. So I don't think you can put it in a box. It's a life with Jesus. You don't just like, it's not a turn on and turn it off. The fight time is your life. Yeah. I think so many people need to hear that.

24 or something. No, but really, like people need to know because Jesus, I know that to be true. He's in it all in like, I think when you limit him to a box and you miss him and everything else in your life and he's there. And so, man, I know people are going to be so blessed by this. And I hope that on the other end, your encourage not only in your own life, but your relationship with Jesus, your relationship with your boyfriend, your relationship with your friendships because they can all be so good. And it might, you might be sitting there, I just want to encourage you, it might not be

good right now. Start praying because there are times in both of our lives I know that we felt like we didn't have a group of friends or the people that were lifting us up or maybe there were some days where it was just you felt very lonely but the more and more we prayed the more and more time went on we eventually like found each other here in Nashville with all these amazing friends and we're so grateful and that's gonna come because God hears your prayers he loves I think he loves relationship he designed us for relationship and Lani thank you so much this is a very weird for us to be so serious for a whole 20 minutes

you were a hard get oh no try not to be with David alright y'all you know what time it is time to call mama so we're gonna call mama with our best piece of advice and our worst piece of advice. Let's see what she has to say. Hey hey! Hey girl!

Are you ready? It falls on good and bad advice! I was born ready. Wow. So I can show it up. All right, let's see. I think that this is a great piece of advice. It says, hold everything dearly, but not too tightly.

Yeah, that's good. That's very good. I think it's really good. I think I actually heard none other than Medea say it very well. She said I'm not a great person for Medea. Oh, she always comes in with the kill, but she said she was talking about the difference in things and people that come into your life that are seasonal friendships or even seasonal things that come in and then the difference between life long

and she said when you put life long expectations on seasonal things, that's when you get disappointed. And I see. What? Medias at that? Yes. That was awesome. Isn't that so good?

I like it been thinking about it every day since I've heard that. Because I think that's so true. Sometimes you think that these things are going to be a lifetime. Maybe it's a friendship, maybe it's a relationship, maybe it's even a job or whatever. And when you put a lifetime expectation, whenever it's a very much a seasonal thing,

then when it leaves, you're going to be really hurt by it and really upset by it when it was never actually promised. But maybe that was, you're going to be really hurt by it and really upset by it when it was never actually promised. Maybe that was life only meant to be. Maybe that was meant to be. Yeah. And if you can hold it tightly, but hold it dearly, you can learn from it and appreciate it for what it is and not like, oh, what it was and be hurt by it, not being there anymore.

Wow. I think that is really good advice. I love it. I'm actually going to write that down. Write it down. That's a good one. Write it down. I love the whole thing's dearly, but not too tightly.

I think that's so good. So, so beautiful. So good. Okay, what do you think about this? Start tomorrow, exclamation point. I'm not sure where they were going without one but okay like I mean you can always start tomorrow. I do think that there is there's something good and like our his what's the verse about like he's new every morning like his promises renew every morning like there's yeah you can always wake up and it's a

new day and you can start something tomorrow any tomorrow then have to be new years it doesn't have to be when you turn you know 30 or when you turn then you can always start tomorrow so I think there's probably two ways you can go at that it depends on the emphasis if you're like like we're gonna start tomorrow then it's like yeah we're doing it tomorrow there's something tomorrow where you go and I'll start tomorrow because you know you're not gonna start tomorrow that history you like it from the other coin it's like, yeah, we're doing it tomorrow. There's something tomorrow. Where you go? I'll start tomorrow. Because you know you're not going to start tomorrow. That is true. You get it from the other coin.

It's like, yeah. You're like, yeah, start tomorrow. You're always like always going to start tomorrow. Yeah, that's not good. Exactly. So look, if you're saying I'll start tomorrow, how are you saying it, boo? Well, thank you, son.

If you're an optimist or a pessimist, I guess. A class of full, class of empty. Yeah, everybody go check your glass. There you go. Somebody said something the other day. It was one of those like, class of full, class of empty. And it was like something about Jesus being the whole thing. Or something else like, wow.

Wow. I thought I had the right answer when I said glass half full and I was like okay okay I took it to the next level. I know where to tell me tell me but anyways thanks mom I think that this was really a great advice even the bad advice turned good. Alright well love you. Love you too. Bye.

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