WHOA That's Good Podcast - How Laughing Can Save You From Some BIG Arguments! | Sadie Robertson Huff

Episode Date: October 16, 2023

Sadie and Grace Taylor LOVE to laugh together and they both want to know: Why WOULDN'T you laugh at a fart? It's free, they're hilarious — especially when they're a surprise — so laugh away! Grace and her husband are expecting their first child and she has a great strategy for keeping her worrying in check: give yourself a set amount of time to do all the worrying, but then speak Scripture over it, remind yourself of God's truths, and give it all to the Lord! Sadie and Grace have some great encouragement for anyone who feels like celebrating their friends in their good times is just too difficult — we've all been there, trying to be happy for friends who are experiencing things you want for your own life, but there's a new way to think about it. And on the flip-side, bearing one another's burden IS a burden, but if they're really our friends, we need to walk beside them and support them in whatever season we're in!  https://helixsleep.com/sadie — Get 20% OFF AND 2 free pillows! https://drinkag1.com/whoa — Get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D & 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase! https://www.hungryroot.com/whoa — Get 30% OFF your first delivery and FREE veggies for life! - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Yo, I'm so excited for today's hot gas. I get to have one of my besties on the hot gas. A fellow member of our sermon squad, which I'll probably hear me talk about, our Wednesday night group. And I'm just so thankful for her life, who she is. And I can't wait for you all to get to know her. If you don't know her, you're missing out on about 200 hilarious Instagram videos a day. Because she is that friend.

And we are all so grateful for it. Q.S. is laughing. And I'm just glad to have you on the podcast. Grace, thanks for being on. Yes, I'm so excited to be here. Thanks for having me. Yes so obviously you're pregnant. I am very. You're going to watch it. You're pregnant.

So you know some of our friends have been on the podcast and they've been nervous because they're on a podcast. I like people listen to you and there's a lot of lights in here and cameras but you're nervous for other reasons. Yeah I just want to get out there. A few things on my doc at this morning that I just need to let y'all know about because they could run into some issues here. So I'm going to be out of breath at times. You'll hear me take these like deep breaths or kind of like try to catch my breath or I might just like, you know, toss it to you so you can say something so that I can breathe for

a second. And then I'm probably going gonna have to take a couple pee breaks. So y'all just spare with me. There might be some awkward editing in there for my exits that I have to make, but we'll get through. We'll be great. And as older I was like, look, they're used to me being pregnant twice now.

I was like, guys, I got so out of breath. With honey, she was like, her booty was in my ribcage, the whole last pregnancy. So some faithful followers. No So we have faithful followers. No, we have faithful followers. Every time, like, I would throw it to people, just so like, we could edit it to where you just see their face so I could physically,

like, push her butt down my rib. I don't want to lift her up. So if you need to start just moving her around and all the things, you do what you need to do. Thank you. Also, I've never heard anyone else but I can say, I'm just gonna toss it to you. See, this is why I love sisters and friends because I get my real friends on here who are just like, city you get out to do this. Yeah, you're not gonna be.

That's right. I love it. Well, I'm excited for those who don't know you because our friendship was really funny. We always talk about this. Like, we have been friends for a while now and hang out all the time and we have no pictures together. Yeah, we really don't. Which is actually so weird. It's so sad. I know it is sad.

But hey, I tried to solve that. You did. That's a funny story to me. You have to tell that story. This is pretty hilarious. Okay, so because we have no pictures together, which you actually instigated it like the week before our sermon group, she was like,

we need to get a picture of all of us together. We don't have any pictures together. And so we're like, okay, we're gonna do, but then we're like, this is not the week. Like, I don't know why. For some reason that week we either were missing people. I think a couple of people were out of town. And so we're like, we'll do it next week. And then the next week rolls around. And I'm like, okay, perfect timing. We just found out we're pregnant. This is how we're gonna tell all of them. So I'm like, we'll just say like, you know, this is like the classic, easiest way to go about it. We're like, I'm gonna take a picture. It'll actually be a video. We'll say, hey, we're pregnant. Well, this particular sermonite, we had one person missing too. I think

Parker was out of town. And we were like, planning to do it. Me and Brian had told him, like he knew, he had the video ready, all the things. And I'm like, okay guys, let's take a picture and say he was like, well Parker's missing, you know, like maybe we should wait. And I was like, yeah, but look at Alisa here, they're not always here, like let's just take it. It'll be great.

No, so the time kept passing. I'm just like three times. No one was like catching on. I was like, okay, this is not gonna work. I didn't know why I was like that. I was just like three times. No one was like catching on. I was like, okay, this is not gonna work I was like that. It was like no Well, it was crazy like I think honey was running around like it was just like kind of an off night anyways I think and I think we had like already eaten dinner We were like we were gonna wrap it up and I had like been nervous to do it

So I was like pushing it off a little bit and we're getting ready to wrap it up and then for whatever reason I kept mentioning the picture and everyone's kind of like I think we like no one like felt cute either. I don't want the picture. We're like in our jobs we're like nah probably not. So then I'm like okay we got a pivot and I told my aunt I was like we have to do it now because if it was like if we we were all going to be out of town following that if it was like, if we were all gonna be out of town following that. So it was like either now or wait a month or something. I was like, I can't wait that long, I was telling them. So then I was like, we gotta pivot.

I'm gonna do it during prayer request. I'm just gonna say, like, hey, will y'all pray for a future baby? And I'm like texting, right? I'm like, I said, I'm gonna get with you. But while you still got a video, all these things, he's like, yeah, it's fine, just do it. And so then I'm like, all right, like, it says I'm gonna get with you, but while you still got a video, all these things, he's like, yeah, it's fine, just do it. And so then, I'm like, all right,

let's do like prayer requests. Like does anybody have any prayer requests? And one of our friends goes into like, like a pretty serious, it's very serious, prayer request. Oh, it's gonna make me cry, laugh. Like a very serious prayer request. Oh, it's gonna make me cry lap. Like a very serious prayer request. And so then like, I'm like, okay.

And then I'm like, anybody else? You haven't been taking this so much. That's not as serious. Yeah, like, obviously, you know, I'm, yes, yeah. I just needed something like a little bit of a buffer there. So I'm like, anybody else, you know, and then it's just quiet. And I'm like anybody else you know and then it's just quiet and I'm like Oh my gosh like this is just not this is not good but I got to do it like now's the time I got to do it so I'm like okay Um and I think I started out in like a super serious voice too because I was like

I don't know how to follow that like all happy So then I was like I was just gonna ask if y'all would start praying for our baby and then everyone of course you laugh. Oh my gosh. We all have to start having a shock and then we all just started laughing because we were like, we were just had to acknowledge what just happened in the way that it just was said. It was honestly hilarious. Thankfully we're all really close to where our friend was laughing too. She actually

started crying. Yeah, no, she was like so excited. She was like, forget what I just said, we're crying about that. I'm like, this is so important. So that was so awesome. Yeah, our Sermon Squad is awesome. And if you have ever heard of Sermon Squad, we just get together on Wednesday nights, which recently threw the summer and us having a baby. We've been a little bit scattered with that, but get together in Wednesday nights, watch us sermon together. Everybody brings food. Sometimes we don't watch us sermon, sometimes we just play cards

and hang out, but we call ourselves sermon squad. And I think it's really sweet because there've been times in my past, like even a high school and stuff where I feel like I have like more pictures with friends and memories. I can truly say I have so many more memories to be all the pictures. Like we have so many funny memories and not a lot of pictures to like look back on,

but I would rather look back and be like, think about this night and that night and all the things that we've done. And we still have spent the night parties even though we're adults. Sometimes the guys would go stay the night with each other because they're all best friends and the girls will and it's a blessing for sure. It is, it's so fun, it's so special and sweet to have that and really I think the

fact that we don't have any pictures is like a sweet thing too because it just shows that we're in the moment and not worried about like I don't know capturing it it's just we're enjoying each other's company and none of us are very and you might be surprised listening to this because if you follow me on Instagram I have a large following on Instagram, but I'm not really in Dissociamedia and all of us are kind of like that. No one's like super on it Like there's not a lot of I don't think anyone in our Foring group probably has snapchat that really uses it, you know like nobody has a camera out

You know, so don't really think about it. And then most of all of our pictures are of honey anyways. Yeah. She's like everyone she did. She's our mascot. She is our mascot. Our group here. And now we're gonna have a lot more babies, obviously.

So tell everyone a little bit about your life. Your husband, your life right now, just so people can get to know you. Yeah, so I was actually grew up on a farm. I miss this to be not too far from here. I was homeschooled. I have three older brothers, one younger brother. So it's the only girl.

I feel like that contributes to a lot of my attributes. And just the way that I handle teasing and different things like that. I'm pretty good at it. I'm feeling it. Yes. Very interesting. He is. he is a teaser for sure. Um, and then yes, I'm married. So it has been Bryant who works out at Camp Chioca. I don't know if you'll have ever heard of that,

but it's a sweet sweet camp. Um, in Calhoun, it's where we really what made us level easy and as so much. Um, I started coming summer of 2015, which is where we initially met And then came every summer after that like just fell in love with it and Really like grew so much there and had so many people pour into me in my life and Just loved it and so then the next summer Bryant and I weren't officially dating it, but I brought him with me. And he loved it and met some of his lifelong friends there too, Reeves and Jackson and all those people who were still friends with and just forever friendship really is what we made it camp. And so it was just a really sweet place. And we came back as junior staff and then counselors and all the things. And and we came back as junior staff and then counselors and all the things.

And that's kind of what brought us to Louisiana. Initially, then we went back to Missouri, obviously finished up our college. And then once, Bryant Higgar graduated that May, and I graduated in December. And then, so we had kind of been praying about like, Lord, what do you want us to do? Where do you want us to be?

And really our prayer was just like, if wherever you want us, just like please open doors and wherever what do you want us to do? Where do you want us to be? Um, and really our prayer was just like if wherever you want us, just like please open doors and wherever you don't want us to place close those doors. And so um, really started like praying through that and the Lord just continually kept opening all these doors for us to come back to Louisiana. Um, which is funny because like I initially, Bryant was like all excited about it and I was very hesitant. I was like, I initially, Bryant, was like all excited about it and I was very hesitant. I was like, I don't know, like we're moving somewhere new, like just as scary and like away from our families and all these things and um been by the time like it came time to like make the decision and move. I just had so much peace um And we were like, both more, we started out so opposite. Like, he was like, we're definitely going.

I was like, I really don't know. And then it was like, by the time it came time for us to move, we were at such a middle ground of like, we could stare, we could go, but we prayed for the Lord to open these doors and he did. So we're gonna be faithful and go. And so that was just really sweet. And the Lord has obviously blessed us so much since being here with like friends that we had prayed years for

and just like a community of people like many people to get to do life with was like such a big prayer and something that we didn't have. A ton of in our hometown and our hometown that we were living in in Missouri and doing collagen is like a very big college town. So there's a lot of that atmosphere and so a lot of people at the college age I felt like at least in our town didn't take their relationship with the Lord seriously you know. And so it was hard to find friendships that felt really like deep or rooted or had like more than just a surface level. And I have my few and my far between that I had and they were the best and I'm still

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I think that gives so much context for where you are at now. I think it really is cool that one thing you sow, and you're like, we're praying that God would open the door as you shut the door. It's like, one thing that I learned from you, and we've had great conversations about, is like being prayerful about making decisions, and you and Bryant certainly were for here. And I think that it's cool that you'll have this desire for Golly friendships and community and you were seeing that that wasn't necessarily happening there and you had definitely had some great friends and your so friends with but overall as a

culture and yet you all had seen something here just from camp and camp being here and stuff that you're like okay maybe we could find that there and then you took a step of faith to come and so one thing that I know you've been talking about lately is just that act of surrender and what that looks like. Whenever you don't know what's on the other side of something because I was talking to Christian about this other day, we were talking about the decision

that we have to make. And he was like, well, we don't wanna do this yet because X, Y, and Z. And I was like, here's the thing, like this decision is always gonna require faith. Like even if we got X, Y, and Z. I was like, here's the thing, like this decision is always gonna require a fee. Like, even if we got X, Y, and Z, wouldn't really change your mind. Like, I was like, it's gonna require a fee,

so we have to ask ourselves, like, is this something that we can surrender the fear, surrender the money that it's gonna take, the faith, and all that kind of stuff, and just say, you know what God, even without this, like, because you said it, we're gonna do it. We're gonna go, which is a hard place to get to. Easier said in that little 30 seconds of this, this and that, than actually living that out. So talk to me about what surrenders look like in your life lately and what you've been learning about that.

Yeah, so this past year, I feel like the Lord has really, like, just called me into this place of having to relearn surrender. And I feel like it's something that we're constantly learning, maybe in different capacities of whatever our life looks like at the time. But for me personally, like, just with all the fear that comes with having a child, like, obviously it's so exciting and so beautiful

and so precious, but then you start thinking about all the things to be worried about financially. And am I gonna be a good mom? And what if I need to switch my job because now I have a baby and my baby's my priority now. And like all of the questions and all of the what ifs and all of the fear that come with just uncharted territory, something I've never done before. We've talked a lot about first before and how like we need to give ourself

grace for like the first time you do something because it's just hard and you're learning and it's difficult. But through all that, I feel like the Lord has just taken me on this journey of like relearning serendir and honestly, like very practically for me that has looked like, okay, some days I'm gonna let my, I'm gonna set a timer on my phone for 15 minutes. I'm gonna let myself worry about this for 15 minutes and when that 15 minutes is up, I'm gonna stop and I'm gonna recite a Psalms or I'm gonna go get busy about something else and if my mind wants to go back to it then I'm gonna go back to that Psalms and I'm just gonna repeat that over and over like, I'm going to like find practical ways to be like, okay Lord, I'm gonna let myself

have 15 minutes to worry about it because I'm human and I'm gonna worry about it. So I'm gonna give myself a time to have my emotions. But then I'm like, if I really want to surrender this, then I'm gonna do it in a way that this way is not practically. So here's my 15 minutes and then when that's up, I'm focusing on you. I'm gonna go do the laundry, I'm gonna go do the dishes, but if my mom starts swandering, get worried again, then the Lord's my shepherd, I shall not want.

You know, just practically walking that out because I feel like it's so easy to say, I'm gonna surrender this, I'm gonna surrender this, I'm like he said so much easier said than done, but sometimes we really have to just get practical about like, okay, what does that actually look like? How to actually do it? And so for me, that was what I did.

And I feel like it worked. And it helps me. I love that. And I'm definitely at a better place now with just all of that worry and all of the unknown. Because there's so much unknown in pregnancy too. Like even now, like she could come any day and she'd be fine but also like I have no idea what that would look like or like you know like there's just so much unknown to that. So just like really

trusting and then sorry see there's my deep breath and then putting my feet where my mouth is and just saying like I'm gonna walk this out like I'm actually gonna do it and that's what it looks like. That is so good. I love that. I've actually never heard of that like taking 15 minutes and like allowing yourself that because you are human and you're gonna feel that but even like I'm like God being a part of that you know about 15 minutes and and then reading it's not like here's my 15 minutes of human and then I'll go do a godly. Like I love that it's like God's with you and that and the worry and hearing that and he cares for those things and wants to take those burdens. And now let's cover it with truth, you know. I kind of had a moment like that yesterday where one of our friends went through just something extremely tragic and I was just

like distraught over it and I called stuff, I was like, hey, I'm not gonna come in this morning because I just need to like, I just need to be with my girls and I just need to like think about this and everything. And she was like, and then I was like, kind of scattered and stressed. And she said, say to the,

you need to go sit with the Lord. And it was really good encouragement because you know, you say like, only be with the Lord. I need a, I need a prayer about this, any of you with the Lord, but then to actually like go and do it is another thing. And I can be very like, oh, and passing, you know, it's like, okay, God, like on my way to go get havens, like, okay, God, I need you to be with your number. Like, I love you.

But it's like, no, just like, you need to go, you're super Lord, and you need to process what just happened. And my rocking chair is like my place to do that. Like, I just, if anybody ever saw me, we're rocking a chair, you're like, you crazy, because I'm just like, we're talking out loud to God. But like, that's my place. I feel like, I feel like I'm going and like,

sitting to talk to my dad, like in relationship. And so I went out there and I just got so emotional and I was so mad. And I was just like, why would you do that? How could you do that? Like I know that the why question isn't important, but right now it feels necessary. Like just like giving it all out. And then as I kept talking, like I just got to this place where I was just like, but God, like like I just got to this place where I was just like but God like this world is on our home. You are our hope. And like if it wasn't for you, we would have no hope at this following world. And like all of a sudden like my language or a shift and it wasn't that I wanted it even to shift and it was that. Try it was just that I couldn't help it because as I set with them,

I was beginning to see his character. I was beginning to see his hand in it. And so I love that. It's like putting your feet where your mouth is, like not just saying I'll pray, not just saying I need to be with the Lord, not just saying I need to surrender this. But like get up, walk outside, sit in your rocking chair, set your timer for 15 minutes, and work it out, you know, because I think if I didn't do that, I would have not, I would have not moved on, you know, that day. And maybe not even today, you know, I would have not moved on that day and maybe not even today. We would have still been in that anger, and that mad, and that resentment. And then I got to the place of like, you're my living hope. And so I love that you shared that.

There's such a prejudicality to walking life with God. And so that is so good. And you brought out the first thing, which I think is really good that we've talked about and not a lot of people probably even know maybe even heard that before. I think it was something that my counselor said, I can't remember, but she was talking about how like you have to give yourself grace because almost every season of your life you're experiencing something for the first time and especially with like a baby like it's your first time to be pregnant. It's your first time and especially with like a baby like it's your first time to be pregnant. It's your first time to have a baby.

It's your first time to have to like be a mom and all these things but even in just life like it's your first time to go to college. It's your first time to be a junior and you're first time like there's always going to be something that you're doing for the first time. And so you have to give yourself grace to like learn how to do things, you know? And so I love that you brought that up. And on that note, during that conversation that you're referring to, me and Grace were like on our way back from the Ila Local Bible Study one night, and we just got into this conversation on like your first time and giving yourself grace because

you had just kind of been like, I feel like overthinking and being hard on yourself in this season. So you want to share a little bit about that because I think that is so relatable to so many people feel anytime they're going through something for the person. Yeah, so really just that and there's actually another conversation that I'm thinking of too that I don't know if you remember, but I had a really hard day at work and it was like my first time having a hard day in this capacity that I had had a really hard day at work and it was like my first time having a hard day in this capacity that I had it at. Yes, I do.

And that was actually when you shared it with me about the, you were like, you know, I had basically just poured my guts up there. I think I was crying and like spilled it all out to y'all. And I was like, I was just struggling with feeling like, what could I have done better, what could I have done more? And just like feeling inadequate and also just feeling like, like that was so hard, how do I navigate just the emotions

of what I just saw and how to process and just all the things and- Not only that you said to your nurse. Yes, I'm a nurse, I love my job, but sometimes it's very hard. And sometimes it's really emotional and very sad. And most of the time it's beautiful and sweet, but sometimes it's really emotional and very sad and and most of the time it's beautiful and sweet but sometimes it's really hard too and so I had a really hard day at work and like I think

this had been days after too like it had taken me a while to even just be able to talk about talk about it but that time I finally did I like shared it with y'all, and Sadie had just encouraged me in like, it's okay to like have a first and not do it perfect. Like it's okay to have a first time, whatever it may be, and fail, and mess up, and miss a step, or even just feeling adequate, or whatever that looks like, because we can't expect we're human.

You know, like we can't expect ourselves to get it right on the first time, but God's grace fills in the gaps where we fall short. And if we're trusting on him and leaning on him, then like there is grace to cover that. And so like, and that goes right along with overthinking too. Just overthinking, I could replay every little piece of that day and all the events that happened and all the ways I felt inadequate and all the ways I wanted to do better

and be better next time and all the things. But that doesn't necessarily fix anything for the future. What does actually help me for the future is realizing, okay, the Lord gave me grace in those moments and how can I actually like go back and look at that day instead of seeing all the things that I did wrong. How can I look at that day and see all the times

that God gave me grace for where I was falling short. And so like just kind of reframe your thinking and just like giving yourself the grace that you would give other people. You know, like so many times I feel like I'm so quick to give other people grace But then if it were me I'd be like oh, man, I should have done better. I should have whatever You know like I don't have that same grace for myself, but God does I feel like if I can just see it through that lens good

What you would say to someone else. Yes, it's like oh, I would totally if anybody else of that I'd be like you're fine Yeah, you're doing a great job. This is your first time, oh, I would totally, if anybody else did that, I'd be like, you're fine. You're doing a great job. This is my first time I experience that. But then to me, you're like, what is wrong with you? You're getting together, you know, all that stuff.

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is just seeing the big picture like, and I thought about this not how long ago, of like, I don't know why I thought about this, not that long ago, but my grandma always used to watch Bob Ross with her and he would always make this like little happy accident so you know, I don't know if you guys have ever seen Bob Ross, but if you haven't, he would like make a mistake on his painting and he'd call it a happy accident. But like every time at the end the painting was so beautiful. And so like even when we mess up, like's good. If you can look, if you can step back and look at the big picture like I'm not living my life for Christ. Am I being faithful? Where he's

calling me to be faithful. If I'm doing these things, then like the big picture, I'm gonna, I'm gonna mess up because I'm human. I'm gonna fall short of the glory of God. I'm gonna sin. All of these things, even in Christ, I'm gonna do all those things. But like if I'm repenting, if I'm asking for forgiveness, if I'm still coming back to the feet of Jesus and like my life's goal is to live for the Lord of my life's goal is to share the gospel and like, love others well and do all these things.

And like, big picture is, it's going to be beautiful, even with all my happy little accidents. You know, like, it's going to be pretty because the Lord's grace is covered and he's the one that's orchestrating it and he's the one that's orchestrating it and he's the one that's painting the picture, even with all of our mistakes, even with all of our shortcomings.

Come on with that analogy, that is so good. I love that so much. You're so right, like look at the bigger picture. Maybe think about when you were talking about that's the first time and sometimes like we think we don't have room to fail, we don't have like we think we we don't have room to fail would have room to learn we have room to grow for me it's not even so much like yes I get disappointed myself but I also get like fearful that like God's disappointed I mean and that's like the heaviest thing

I was thinking about how you know I was just watching a video of a dad teaching his older to ride a bike and it was just so sweet because she like has her little knee pads on her elbow pads she's got the helmet she's decked out. This girl is not going to get hurt and she's starting to go she's so nervous and the dad is like so proud and he's just like guiding her and then he kind of lets her go for a little bit and she's like so proud she's riding but odds are like she's probably gonna fall like it's the first time she's ever written a bike but like she's gonna fall but she's not gonna get probably gonna fall. It's the first time she's ever ridden her, but she's gonna fall, but she's not gonna get hurt. And the dad is still so proud that she even tried.

And I was thinking about that, in the context of God, when we go out for the first time, God's leading us in faith to do something. There's gonna be a moment where it's gonna feel scary. You're gonna be like, oh my gosh, I've never done this before, but you're guarded. You're covered. You might fall, but you're not going to get hurt, you know? And so I just was thinking about that as you were explaining that and just think that's a really beautiful picture of who

God is. I love that you're a nurse. I love it. I love that I have a friend that's a nurse. I love hearing your stories. I think it's just so sweet. And I just love nurses because they just like change my life in the hospital whenever I had both my kids like they just made it the best experience And I just it's so cool. I think you get to do that for other moms And we've talked about before that message Louie Gagelore preached about passion purpose and designer genes And he was mainly focusing on that verse whatever you do Yeah, do it for the glory of God. And you like exemplify that so well. And I think so many people, especially because church

cultures, like, what are you called to? What are you called to? And sometimes that you can get in your head and be like, well, is it okay to, that God like calls me to be a nurse? To be a teacher, like, it might not be ministry. But like, all things are ministry, right? And we talk about that a lot. So it talks me about just just like you're calling and because I think that people like way

everything that word speaking of overthinking and and how it doesn't just mean that you have to be a nurse that can be anything, but you're using it right now as a nurse. Absolutely. So even for me recently, like since finding out I was pregnant, and like feeling my priorities just shift a little bit towards my baby and what that looks like for me at work. And I work three 12-hour shifts right now, which is great because it allows me a lot of flexibility. But it also is just 12 hours away from my baby when she's here and so I was just like thinking through that

And I'm like man, I've always felt cold to be a nurse actually like I've always felt cold to This since I was 12 years old. We had dear friends who had a baby in the NICU and we went to visit them and from That moment on I was like I'm gonna be a N ecu nurse and now I am and that's so cool to just see God's hand on that and how He placed that on my heart. But I had to kind of come to a place of like, okay, I've always felt called to this and so then I think

I kind of got stuck in that of like, but I've always felt called to this. Like, is it okay if when my baby comes eventually I do something else? Like, what does it look if when my baby comes eventually I do something else? Like, what does it look like when my kid's gonna be in school? Like, all these things look like future wise. And what if it means I'm not a nurse anymore? And like, what does that look like?

Or if I'm not, maybe I'm a nurse, but maybe I'm not a naked nurse. And that's the specific one I felt called to you or whatever. And so really just kind of realizing that like, again, like it goes back to the big picture thing like if my life is lived for Christ that is my first calling. Yeah, that is that is my My like close hand like not gonna change like every single day if I'm living my life I feel a little worried if I'm

Sharing Christ if people if I'm loving people well if I'm praying for them if I'm doing all these, feel the word of fun. Sharing Christ as people with fun, loving people well, if I'm praying for them, if I'm doing all these things, like, then whatever I do, like, it falls under that umbrella, and it can, and like God allows it to. Like, He may have called me to be an in-cuneurcer, I believe that He did, and I believe that He did for this time right now.

But if later He calls me to something else, then that's okay too. Like, my calling is to listen to whatever he has called me to. And so that can change. Like, if he, if for this season is this and if for another season is something else, like, that's going to be great and beautiful too because it's something that he's called me to. So I think it's just like realizing that like, what is your first priority? And what really is your calling?

Like if you're calling is to be a fall over Christ, fall over of Christ and live that out well, then like what does that look like in every season, you know? I think that like your calling is yes, like it's the first things first like you're a fall over Christ is to give glory to God and all you do and bring people to Him. So if that's like your calling, then maybe it can be said wherever God leads you to do that. That's really better. You can, because I think that, but that's how we all say it. You know, it's like calling, calling, and that's confusing because you're like, I'm going to those, I'm going to be able to, and sometimes you can feel like they're in cultured teaching with each other, but I think it's more like you're called to live a life for Christ. You're called to live an obedience for Him. And go and tell the whole world

about the good news of the gospel. And then God will then lead you down the path that's for your life, like maybe to be a nurse, maybe to be a teacher, maybe to be a preacher, maybe to be a pie cassoist. Whenever it is that God calls you to, or leads you to, you will do your calling yes wherever you're led yes and I think that that is like that just takes all the pressure of a

trying to figure out yeah if I'm doing the right things like I can know in confidence I'm doing the right thing if I can say I'm following Jesus with all my heart I'm leading people to him I'm telling people about the good news I can say in confidence I'm doing that and I'm doing that right where God has me and where my feet are planted. And so like, you can go to bed and I know and like I'm filling my calling. Not because you're in the job that you want you.

And that's so good too, because then it's not circumstantial. Yeah, you can't lose that call. Like, you can't lose that initial. That won't even make sense. We could lose our calling because we lost our job. Right. Or we, yeah. They just had to let you off.

Exactly. Like what if they were like, what if the hospital shut down? They went to let you off. And then you were like, that just lose my calling. Right. Yeah. That's too big for that. Your purpose is too massive.

Exactly. You're calling to be based off your circumstances. Yeah. If your circumstances change, it doesn't mean your call changes. If you, if the hospital shut down tomorrow, you could do what you're called to do in your home. You know, and I think that that is a really good way to lay it out because, man,

I have so many conversations like this with, especially people in their 20s, like trying to figure out what they're called to so that they don't miss it. And they're making like, if I choose the wrong major, if I get the wrong job, if I don't get the. And they're making like, if I choose the wrong major, if I get the wrong job, if I don't get the job,

because they chose someone else, that they think that's like where they're calling lies, and it's like, no, like, you're calling's bigger than that. It's bigger than a job title. It's to give, it's to follow Jesus, and to lead others to them. So I love that. And don't miss the like, don't miss that you can do it

wherever you are, wherever you are. Like, really just don't miss the like don't miss that you can do it wherever you are wherever you are like really just don't miss that because it's so easy to like I feel like just give ourself excuses of like well I'm gonna choose this major and I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna give god glory but like if that is the bottom line if that's your goal then like do that and do that as you're choosing your major and do that as you're you know like and be intentional about it. I guess that's what's like so easy to miss is just the intentionality part of life. It's true. Like I don't know. I even when I first started working I was like man I like I want to be the hands of feed and Jesus in my workplace like how do I

do that? I am a naked nurse so I work with babies, so I'm not going to share the gospel with them, but how do I like practically live that out? Well, I pray over my babies every single day, like I'm praying for their health, I'm praying that they would come to know the Lord one day, I'm praying that like lots of babies in the neck, you like, or babies in general just don't come from good family situations.

Like I'm praying over their family, I'm praying, like all these things for their future that I'm never gonna see the fruit of them, and that's so okay, but like I'm still choosing to family I'm praying like all these things for the future that I'm never gonna see the fruit of and that's so okay but like I'm still choosing to be intentional about what I can do with where I am even if it looks different like totally different than maybe even where I'm gonna be in a different season or like where I'm gonna be next week like do it in the grocery store do it it doesn't have to even be like ministry related like even in relationships like like everywhere, anywhere, all the time.

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Don't forget to use our link so that they know that we sent you over there. Go enjoy friends. I love that everywhere anywhere all the time. I also think, you know, even for people listening for those who are doctors and nurses, I think about doctors and nurses a lot. And like, think about them and pray for them because I'm like dollar positioned in such amazing, in such an amazing place where it's a hard place. The hospital is not amazing in the sense that hard things happen in it. But an amazing place where y'all can't intercede for families who are going

through hard things. And so it's like, if doctors and nurses have like a revival in their heart, and maybe they can't say it out loud because that might be inappropriate, but they can literally pray over these families. They can bring them to God, bring them to the throne room, and I'm like, that's a really powerful thought, you know? And so y'all are just placed in such a unique place and an important place, and I love that. Gosh, you've said so many good things. I'm like, I'm like trying to make sure I don't miss anything that you talked about and that you said. I'm sure I'm sure I have, and I don't miss anything that you talked about that you said.

I'm sure I'm sure I have enough. I'll have to have you back on the podcast. Good thing I know we're gonna find you. But I do want to, I do want to hit on this because you do have like such a funny humor and just make me laugh, but you sent me a like meme that day that I was like, this is so our life and it's like people it was something about like people who choose not to laugh at parts are really like the worst because you're choosing to have the same amount of parts as everyone else but less laughter and it was something along those lines and I was like you know what that's so real and I just really sad but on that note you do laugh at everything. You have the best laugh, and my mom always would tell us, don't be selfish with your laugh.

She would always tell us, if somebody says something funny, laugh at them, don't be selfish or send you with your laugh. It makes you feel good when you laugh with them and laugh at them. And you are the best person to just laugh at whatever. And so, where does that come from? Is that just a part of your personality? Do you choose joy? Where does that come from in your life?

And even just like the laughing at the nonsense. I think that's right. Yes, truly this goes back to my upbringing a little bit and I feel like growing up with all brothers because boys are just like that. They just think it's hilarious to fart and I think it's hilarious to make poop jokes or like whatever.

Like, and so I think a lot of that humor comes from them. And then my dad is like the biggest dad joke person, like all the puns, all the things. And so probably a lot of it stems from that, like rooted in that, but also just choosing, yeah, choosing to have the joy, choosing to laugh at the silly things, the stupid things, the embarrassing things that we do, like, oh my gosh, the amount of times we embarrass ourselves, like, but it's so much more fun if you just laugh at it, you know, like, so much more enjoyable

and actually less embarrassing if you just just laugh at it. It's actually like, it's actually like it's actually Fixes it a little bit like you don't laugh at it because then it's more embarrassing And it's like you're probably won't let you laugh at it and then literally you're like oh, I'm so dumb I just laugh that I do and wait funny you're for everyone Exactly and like this is he might kill me for saying this but my husband always says it like the most embarrassing thing is an unintentional fart like if you if fart intentionally, it's not that embarrassing because you're just gonna laugh at it. But if it's unintentional, then you're like caught off guard

and you're like, oh, that's actually embarrassing. But if you just laugh either way, like no one would ever know. But he's like, but I'm caught off guard, like I can't laugh about it because I'm like, oh, like I didn't mean to do that. That's so hilarious. That was hilarious. Just like, just, like, I didn't mean to do this. That's so weird.

That is hilarious. Just like, just laugh at all of it. No one's gonna know. It's way better to have the joy and just laugh. I love it. I think that's so good though, because a lot of people just do take life way too seriously. And that's not to see that serious things don't happen in life.

I think that the point is, so many serious things do happen in life that you have to laugh. It's like whenever my mom used to say, you gotta laugh to keep from crying. You know, and like, you say that in funny moments, but it's like no really a lot of times you do have to laugh to keep from crying. Like last night, I posted a store on my Instagram because it was a hard day. And I was just like singing, and which I don't record myself singing. I just been doing it because I love that song

and the words were like ringing so true. And so I was like, I'm just gonna record myself saying this. This is truth to me. And then Chris, he walks in. He's like, Christ, oh no. He's like singing this song like so high. And he's a turn of us to tune. And then I just like, fade out.

And he's just there. Like, oh my days in my nights, I was like so funny. But I started laughing and it was just so good to just like laugh. And I think sometimes we're like, oh, we can't laugh because this is too hard, we can't laugh. And you almost feel like guilty for laughing it. But I think that God gave us the amazing capacity

as humans to rejoice and to mourn. And we've talked about that even about. And I will say, laughter has saved me and Bryant from so many fights. So that's... That is... If you can laugh in the middle of an argument, you're gonna be like, okay, we're fighting over something silly or whatever. But it really does save you from so many,

not only awkward moments, but just moments of like coming back down earth and being like, okay, this really isn't that big of a deal. Like, okay, I'm actually upset over literally nothing. Like, let me just humble myself a little bit. Oh, it does take so many. So, it takes a lot of the pressure off things. That's great.

So like, Joy back into the situation, brings you back down to earth, humble, seal, little bit of life. We all need a little humble pie But actually when we're Christian we're dating we always ask couples like what's your best piece of beer device? Yeah, and someone said they're like there will always be a moment every argument that something funny happens And you're gonna feel like don't laugh like don't laugh Like you're gonna feel this like this thing rise and tell you like do not laugh

like you're gonna feel this like this thing rise and tell you like do not laugh Then say said when the heavens just laugh like it will it will stop the art even and it is so true like you know it like even As I'm saying you're like yes, there is a moment. I'm trying to find it. Oh, it's not funny I cannot I cannot laugh right now. I actually, we had a moment, I did a lot of sweet completely honest. We were having an argument the other day and I said something that was funny but I was not ready to laugh

and I knew I was about to laugh. I just opened the door and I like, one down, so I first thought, and I was like, I can't get this up yet. I can't get this up yet. And it's like, no, just laugh, just get it over with. And so because it's just, you know, most of the time, it's just a silly thing anyways.

And you need to laugh. So I love that. I think that that laughter really is like the best medicine sometimes, and it's just good for the soul. The last thing I want to ask you about is kind of a hard topic, but on the note of being able to rejoice with those who are Joyson were those who mourn we talked about this like we are walking through See like so many different seasons with all our friends like and especially when it comes around the topic of pregnancy

Like some of our friends are getting pregnant some of our friends are waiting to get pregnant some of our friends I haven't recently miscarried some of our friends are walking through Really hard things with pregnancy and some of us are walking through really sweet things. And it's been a very interesting balance of rejoicing with those who were joys and mourning with those who mourn. And so can you speak to that a little bit because I know you're sitting here and you're pregnant? So obviously like this is a huge blessing and we're excited. But also you've been walking with friends who aren't.

And so keep speaking to that a little bit because I think a lot of people are probably in that stage where it's like maybe something good is happening for them at Hard for a Friend or maybe they're the friend that they're in the hard season. And their friend is walking through something good. Just speak to that a little bit because I think that that's the thing that a lot of people walk through. Yeah, I think that really it just looks like whatever you can do to be a good friend in that season. So every season for friendship is going to look different. Yeah. And how do you love and support your friends well, regardless of what they're walking through? Even the Monday and days, like sometimes it's just like,

hey, here's $10 on memo, go get yourself a coffee. Yeah. Like that could just be an everyday thing. It doesn't have to be a happier sad moment. But then in the happy moments, in the sad moments, like I think it really comes down to realizing like my friends successes are mine in a way too because like I love them and I want them to succeed. And when they succeed, like that's a joy for me too. Like why would I let anyone steal that from me? Like that's just another reason to be happy. That's just another reason like give a god glory. So if my friends going through a season of like something

really joyful, then I want to celebrate them well. And I want to be there to like realize that like this can be my joy too. Like I can share with that in that with you and like escalate your joy by just being joyful with you and like being excited for you and being happy for you. And then the same thing in like hard times I think like a lot of times for the times that are hard like people are hesitant to walk through their friends with that because it's it's a burden on you too. Like it if you really do bear one another's burden it's like it can

feel burdensome to walk through something really hard with someone. But there's so much beauty in it because God teaches us so much about ourselves and about sorrow and all of these things as we do it. And just realizing that you would want that too, if it was you going through the hard time. And so just being willing to sit with people in silence, that you would want that to if it was you going through the hard time.

And so just being willing to like sit with people in silence, cry with people like do the uncomfortable things, talk about the uncomfortable things or maybe not talk about the uncomfortable things if they don't want that. But just being willing to just be there. And I think one of the reasons we do is because we would want that. We would need that if it was us going through that but also just we're called to it. We're called to bear one another's burdens and then just practically like how does that look? It's gonna be different. I feel like it's different for every person what they need but like just being willing to say like okay yes Lord I'm gonna I'm

gonna try my best to love this person well in this season, even if I don't do it perfectly, even if I, you know, like, say the wrong things, do the wrong things, like, just give me grace to cover that because I wanna love my friend well in this hard season. It's so good. It goes back to that word used earlier in tensionality. Like it starts with intentionality, and intentionality can cover a load of,

kinda like mishaps. Like, you know, if you're being intentional and you accidentally say the wrong thing, like I feel like people see your art and they're like, they're here, you know? And I feel like when it's truly like your friend, like even if you say the wrong thing, they'll just be like, and that's actually not really helpful,

but I love you and I'm thankful that you're here, you know? But just like being there and showing that you care goes such a long way. And I love that you said that like if my friend succeeds, like it's my success too, like I rejoice too. And that's, I'm always like all ships rise together. Like when the tide comes, like all the ships rise together. Mia Fields was on my podcast recently and she was saying how like someone else is miracle, it doesn't take away from her.

Yeah. And actually gives her faith to believe for her own And so I thought that was like really cool, and I love that you just said that Gosh so much advice here. You are so wise. You're so encouraging. Now everyone knows why I love this girl And I'm so thankful for her and Thank you for being on the podcast nine months pregnant Thank you for bearing the out of breathness After you have the baby you'll have to come back

and tell us the first story all about it, all the things, but I love you friend. This was so fun. Yeah, it was so good to get to chat with you. you