WHOA That's Good Podcast - I'm Answering All Your Mom Questions (No Filter) | Sadie Robertson Huff

Episode Date: March 16, 2026

No gatekeeping — Sadie is answering ALL your mom questions. Baby registry must-haves, mom guilt, traveling with kids, postpartum body image, keeping your marriage strong, feeling judged, and when to introduce your kids to reading the Bible. She's going there. But more than anything? This episode is a reminder that wherever you are in your parenting journey, you are seen and you are not alone. God's got you, mama.  This Episode of WHOA That's Good is Sponsored By: https://www.ponchooutdoors.com/whoa — Get $10 of and free shipping on your first order! http://shop.taylordukeswellness.com/whoa — Get 15% off sitewide anytime + for the next 48 hours, you can also unlock 2 free gifts with any full-size protein purchase! https://helixsleep.com/sadie — Get 20% off sitewide and make sure you enter our show name after checkout so they know we sent you! - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's up friends? Happy Monday, everybody. I hope you're having a great day. Okay, so this episode is actually a solo episode, flying solo. Flying solo. Okay, sorry. But I'm actually really excited. I don't typically do solo episodes. It's been a long time, but recently I was doing like answering DMs on Instagram or was like asking me anything. And it was just really sweet how many questions I got from first time moms. And not even first time moms. It just like, toddler. questions, kids questions, so many mom questions. And I was like, okay, maybe I should do a podcast episode on this because there's so many questions. And so I literally said, should I do a podcast episode? And what questions do you have? And the response was very overwhelming. So many questions. So many of you guys out there just trying to learn from another fellow mom and sister and a friend out there who's in it with you guys. And so I'm super excited to do this. I just want to say first and form, that I know not all of our listeners are parents right now or moms right now. I know that some of you guys

are younger, some are older, some of you are longing for our children and longing for a family. And I just want to say this podcast, yes, is specifically towards moms that we have done so many podcasts over the past eight years almost of podcasting. And we sometimes go into niche topics and different topics. And this is one that I know a lot of our listeners are walking through. So we want to speak to this, but I really do hope that this can bring hope to anyone, no matter what season of life you are in. And I just know those who are longing to be a mom, that longing is so real and comes from such a deep place and even an ache in a lot of your hearts. And so I just want to say, God sees you. God knows your timing. He knows where you're at. And he loves you, friend.

We have several podcasts that I know can speak directly to so many of you, whatever season you're walking in. But today, we are going to talk about questions from the new mom. And y'all, y'all asked a lot of questions. I have three pages of questions, and that doesn't even begin to cover the multitude of questions you guys sent in. But we're going to go through a couple of different categories, just general motherhood. We have newborn stage, postpartum stage, toddler phase, all the things. I also want to be very clear from the beginning that I am a mom of three girls and my girls are four, two, and six. months. I say that to say, I do not have it figured out. Sometimes it's better to get advice from somebody who has

like 20 year old, 30 year old, you know, people who have actually done this. And I actually have my grandmother on here, my mom in here, my great grandmother on here for advice. And so this isn't necessarily advice from someone who's crushing it. This is me saying, I'm in it with you. And here's what we've done. And here's what's what's helped. And here's what we've seen great things in. here's what we're still struggling with. Here's how we're learning. All the things. We're in it with you. I actually was just at a wedding recently. And this mom came up to me. And we're actually good friends, but we haven't seen each other in a long time. And she was like, oh, I've just been struggling so much. And it's just so hard. Motherhood is so hard with these little ones. And she said,

I actually like, go to your podcast to listen to it for advice. And I try to find, like, motherhood advice. Like, how are you doing it? And I just simply, I guess kind of gave her empathy in the moment, but just want her to know, like, it is hard. Like, I get it. It's hard for me, too. I'm not over here, like, crushing it just because I'm the one giving the advice. I'm just trying to be a sister and a friend. It is hard. There are so many struggles. It stretches you thin, but it's also the most amazing and beautiful gift. And I truly have such a joy in it because it is one of the greatest gifts that God's given. And so, all that to say I'm in it with you. She also told me that I take a very chill approach and she's very

inspired by how chill and casual I am about it while she was saying this to me. Kids like screaming in my arms and I'm just like, yeah. And the truth is, I think that that is key to it is just not overstressing, not overthinking. And a lot of my answers to these as I was just skimming through them, I'm like, man, I kind of do take a chill approach. And I think that's because I have a mom who has just been very mellow, very even killed, doesn't kind of stress it. And I'm super thankful to learn from that. And so hopefully through this podcast, you will just hear grace and peace over you. You will hear somebody who empathizes with you, who's with you. But hopefully some good advice in the midst of it. So without further ado, let's kick it off. Okay, first question was,

how do I fix the mom guilt from having my second child? Now, we're just going to stop here. second because there has been so many questions about mom guilt. How do I deal with mom guilt going back to work? How do I with mom guilt having more kids? How do I deal with mom guilt on paying one more attention to the other? And mom guilt was such a trend and a thread through so many of these questions. I just want to first address this whole idea of mom guilt. That is something that I just want all of us to in, I mean, I know it's hard. It's way easier something up, but take off yourself, friend, take off yourself. And I want us to actually dive into this. So I brought my computer because I wanted to literally look up the definition of guilt. Guil is literally defined as both the fact of having committed

a legal or moral offense and self-conscious, painful, emotional feeling of responsibility of remorse for a wrong, either real, or imagined. And I love that it says it is a self-conscious, this painful, emotional feeling of responsibility or remorse for a wrong that's either real or one that's imagined. Because I think that a lot of the times when it comes to mom guilt, it's not a real offense you've committed. It's not a real wrong that you're doing, but it is an imagined one. It's thinking, okay, did I do wrong because now I'm having another kid and I'm not going

to be able to pay my first one more attention? No, there's nothing wrong in having another kid. God literally said in Genesis, be fruitful and multiply. Like, multiply. That doesn't mean just have one kid and pay them all the attention in the world. It's like, no, God gives you this amazing gift as a mom that your heart literally expands. Like somehow, some way you think I could never love anything more than this baby and then you have another one and you love them just the same. And you love them just the same.

And the love multiplies and the love grows. God does not just give you enough love for one kid. If God gives you another kid, he gives you the love to love that kid and to take care of that kid. And so there is nothing wrong with that. And so take off the guilt. When it comes to mom guilt going back to work. Now, I get this. I had to really wrestle with this because when I first started going back to work, even after having honey, I really wrestled.

And I was like, okay, again, like, is this wrong? Like, should I feel guilty? Should I not be working? and I really had to ask the Lord like, God, have you called me to this? Is this what I'm supposed to be doing? And I really did feel this is what I'm supposed to be doing. Now, some of you guys, you're not going to work necessarily because you feel called to that. It's out of necessity. Like your family needs the money and the income. And that's not wrong. That's part of life. That's providing for your family. So you're certainly not wrong for going back to work to provide for your family. That's even biblical. And when you look at the Proverbs 31 woman, this woman worked. This woman was doing stuff. She was selling things and making clothes and she was preparing for her house to be ready for the winter. And she was doing all of these things. And yet it says that her husband and her children would praise her name and call her blessed.

And so her working didn't affect her family in a negative way. Her working actually gained respect from her family. And so when you look at it biblically, no, you're not wrong for working. No, you're not wrong for providing for your family. So you shouldn't feel guilty for it. You should feel proud of what you're doing. And what I see in the Proverbs 31 woman is not a guilty woman. She's a confident woman. She has strength and dignity.

And so one of my favorite pieces of advice was actually from Dr. Amen, who came on this podcast. And he said, guilty parents raise confused kids. And he said, be a confident mom. Don't be a guilty mom. Because if I'm guilty, then what I'll do is I'll parent out of guilt. In other words, I'll come to work. I'll feel guilty for being gone all day.

I'll go home and then I will give them whatever they want. Or I will, you know, apologize for being gone and for working. But then that's a little bit confusing because then why do you keep doing it? Well, why aren't you still parenting out of the confidence of I'm doing what I'm doing to provide for my family? I'm doing what I'm doing because I believe in it. that changed things for me so much because I stopped parenting out of guilt. I stopped trying to make up for me being at work or whatever. And I just came home and I was confident in the decision I was making to go to work, to do my job. I was confident in what the Lord called me to do and how

it provides for my family. And I shared that with my kids. I had told them the joys that I had throughout my day and the podcast that I was doing or the book that I was writing or the things that I, the conversations that I had and the meetings that I had and my kids actually love to hear about it. And you know what's so cool now? My girls, they love to pretend they have a podcast. They both will be a little podcast host. They love to preach. They always go find their Bibles and preach to me.

They love any kind of microphone because that's what they see me doing. And so I think that it's an amazing thing when you're confident. and what you're called to do, and it'll be the same thing for you. I have friends who are teachers and their kids pretend to teach, nurses and their kids pretend to be a nurse. Be confident in the work that you do and the job that you do, and you'll be amazed how your children respect you for that. Okay, can we talk about how hard it is to find a gift for the men in our lives that they'll

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Good podcast sent you there. I'll tell you short story real fast. I was struggling recently because I had been gone a little bit and just working a lot. And sometimes that guilt does creep in like, oh, I've been gone too much. And it was just so sweet because that night I was laying in bed with Hun and she said, Mommy, you are the heart of this home. And I was like, what did you just say? Because she's four. And I'm thinking, did she really just say that? It sounded so profound. And I'm like, what did you say, hon? She said, you're the heart of this home. And I said, hon, that is so sweet. Like, when did, where did you hear that phrase? And she said, well, you know how long? You know how long?

like Judy Hopps is the heart of Zootopia. You're the heart of this home. And she began to describe this scene where at the end of Zootopia, I think it's the first one, the lion is, you know, really proud of Judy Hopps for doing what she did because she's this little bunny. Didn't think she was capable of doing that, but she did a great job. And the lion refers to Judy as the heart of Zootopia. And Honey said when I was watching that, I thought of you. And I wanted to tell you that you're the heart of our home. And that really was such a profound thing for a four-year-old to say and even think of.

And to me, it really felt like God's way of reminding me that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be and I'm still doing a good job. And I think if God's called you to work, I mean, if you're a mom, then you're called to be a mom. And that's your first job. But if he's also called you outside of the home to work or you need to do that to provide for your family,

still a call of God on your life because it's to provide for your family, which is a call on your life. If that's part of it, God will equip you to do both things well. He will give you the grace and the strength to do both things well. And I don't believe that one thing has to suffer. I don't think my job has to suffer, my family has to suffer. If that's the case, then I'm not doing it right. I feel like if that's the case, then I'm not receiving the grace of the Lord or the strength of the or the mercy of God. And so for me, that was such an encouragement. I really felt like that was from the Lord that I'm doing a lot in ministry and in my job, but I'm still the heart of my home. And that doesn't just come because I am the mom. I think that comes from being the mom, you know? And so, again,

I don't get it right a lot of times, but that was a huge encouragement to me. So when it comes to mom guilt, I think you need to ask yourself, is what I'm doing wrong? If it's not wrong, then say, then Lord, take away the guilt. You know, give me, give me a confidence in the mom that you've made me and the job that you've called me to do. If that's the case, give me a grace that's sufficient for me in my weakness. Give me mercies in the morning. And I'm not going to be, you know, insecure about it.

I'm going to be confident. I'm going to walk with strength and with dignity, knowing that this is my job and I'm doing it well. And so I hope that helps. Go read Prover 301, 2. you'll be encouraged, but how much this woman worked and how much her family adored her. Very encouraging to me. Okay. When do I get started? When do I start getting my kids to read the Bible? Okay, this is actually a really sweet one. So my friends do a great job with this. Like literally my friend's baby is two months old

and she is reading the Bible over that baby. I think that is amazing and so beautiful. I did not do that and I think it would have been great to do that. I think it's awesome. I don't think there's ever too early of a time to read the Bible over your children, but I also don't want you to feel guilty, again, back to mom guilt, if you haven't yet. I mean, just recently, I was like, okay, I want to start reading the Bible to my kids more consistently. No, we talk about the Bible a lot. We've read them Psalms. I teach some verses just on the day-to-day, like, we'll be like, I don't know, if honey's afraid, I've always said, like, do not fear for I am with you. That's a Bible verse. You know, like, I tell honey these things, but I didn't, like, read the Bible with her. And so recently I was

asking someone, I was like, oh, like, how should I start reading the Bible for my kids? And and they were like, oh, the Jesus storybook Bible. And I was like, oh, I haven't heard of that. And they were like, you don't have the Jesus storybook Bible? You haven't been reading the Bible to your kids? And I was just like, uh, no, they're like four and two. I didn't know. I was like, I didn't even know.

Like we talk about the Bible. We love the Lord. But I say it to say, like, I think people automatically, like, you feel guilty if you're like behind on something, but you're not behind. Like, you've been living the Bible to them, you know, like, you've been living the Bible to them, you know, like, you. You are, you might be the Bible that are reading right now, you know, by the way that you're loving them and by the little verses that you're teaching them day by day.

And even for me, like, we talk about the Meno app all the time. We've shown them so many movies about Jesus, shows about Jesus. They know the stories. We go to Sunday school. And again, if you're not even doing that and you're like, oh, I'm not doing that. Hey, just start somewhere, you know. And so for us, we started reading the Jesus story about Bible at night. It's been so great.

And they love it so much. So if you don't have that book, I highly recommend it because it. it's very true to the Bible in a way they understand it, and it always points to Jesus, which is really cool. Okay, my friends are moms and I'm not ready. How do I deal with the feeling of judgment and feeling less than because I don't have a child yet? I mean, again, it kind of goes back to the same thing as I'm saying to the mom, like be confident, be confident in what is on your heart to do and what God calls you to do in the season that you're in. The truth is, kids are the greatest joy, but it does change things. You might not be ready to step into that season of your

life, and that's okay. You might be in a time where you and your husband need to establish y'all's relationship and build a strong foundation and y'all's friendship. You might want to just, you know, enjoy the job that you might have just worked, you know, four years in college for. Everybody has a different scenario and a different season of life that they're in. So just because that works for one person doesn't mean it works for you. And I'm probably going to give that same advice for a lot of these answers. But, it goes back to being confident in the decision that you're making and being confident in what God told you. If God's, you know, laying on your heart to start a family and you're not,

that's one thing. If God's not doing that and you're not feeling that longing towards that, it's okay. Be where you're at with what you have. Okay, let's see. After my first pregnancy, I experienced a lot of pregnancy rage and postpartum depression. How do I navigate wanting more kids but fearing these issues will arise again? I'll say that For me, I didn't experience postpartum depression, but I did experience pretty severe postpartum anxiety after having honey. It was really, really hard, but I did a lot of work to become healthy again. I mentioned Dr. Amon earlier. I started seeing Dr. Amon.

He really helped me work through a lot. I have a counselor. Her name's Ms. Tara. She's been on the podcast before. She helped me a lot. And I really did a lot of work to make myself mentally healthy again before having Haven. And it also changed some lifestyle things that I thought were probably contributing to my anxiety. For instance, after I had honey, I did not slow down.

I was just like, you know, I can have a kid to keep going at the same pace I did before. And that is not true. You have to change. You have to adapt to the new season of life. I actually heard Haley Bieber say this one time in an interview. And it was something she was learning in motherhood. And she said, I used to think, like, okay, I'll have the baby. and then I'll go back to like my normal life.

Like I'll get back to it. I'll get back to it. And then I realize there's no going back. There's only going forward. And that's actually so true. And I think with after having honey, I kept trying to like get back to what I used to do, not realizing this is a new stage of life.

Like I'm a mom now. So things have to change a little bit. And that's not a bad thing. That's a great thing. It's just a new thing. And I think as long as we're trying to like be who we used to be and go back to what it used to be, we'll kind of live in this, like, I guess, like, a little bit of, like, grieving that, who we used to be and disappointment. But as long as you just say, like, no, this is who I am

now and you go forward, you will learn to love your new self in this season. Like, for me now, I'm so different than who I used to be, but I love who I am now. I wouldn't ever want to go back to who I was before having kids, even though that was a great time of my life and it was so special and something I'm so thankful for. But that was that time. in my life and this is this time of my life. And so I say it to say, do the work that you need to do before going forward if you're dealing with postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety, see a counselor, get the help. And then find your new rhythm of normal. Find your, find to love who you are now in the season you're at now instead of comparing yourself to who you were then. And for me,

I did not experience postpartum anxiety with Haven or Kit. And so you can move forward and you can be healed from that. It just takes a little work and a little time. Okay. How did you manage going from one child to multiple? I wrote on here, just do it. You just do it. You just figure it out as you go and you just learn as you go. I was actually at that same wedding I was just at, I was out, you know, rocking kit and another mom came out and she was rocking her daughter and she was like, oh, this is my first ever, you know, wedding to attend with a baby and this is our first baby and it's so hard. And I was like, oh, I remember that. Like, I remember the first wedding. I went to with honey and it's so hard. I even remember the first one with Haven. It was so hard. And weddings are just different after you have

kids when you're going with your kids because you're normally outside rocking them the whole time, what everybody else is inside and dancing and enjoying. And it's funny because now with kit, I don't mind leaving the party. I actually, in some ways, enjoy it. And I actually, and some ways enjoy it. because I realized how fast this season goes now. And she said to me, she was like, oh, but I know it's so much harder for you. You have three kids. I only have one.

And I said, actually, it's not. I said it was way harder with just one than it is with three. And I was like, because when I just had one, I was trying to learn how to be a mom. And now that I have three, I feel confident in being a mom. And so for me, the more kids I had, the easier it got because I felt more confident in my role as a mom,

whereas the first one, I just didn't know what I was doing. I was trying to figure it out, and that was so hard. And so for me, multiples have been easier because I feel more confident and I've learned so much than even one kid. So I actually think one kid's harder than three kids at times because with one kid, it's your first time to do it. With your third kid, it's your third time to do it. So I hope that encourages you. I've been thinking a lot lately about how real change usually doesn't come from big dramatic overhauls, but it's really the small things that you do consistently that stick. And in this

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all the things that they have are good. They're try latte. You got to try it. That's shop.com.com What is something that you've learned in motherhood that no one told you prior to becoming a mom? Um, I actually wrote down that that the first time to me is the hardest. It's your first time to do anything. And you'll gain confidence and you'll grow in that. I also think that you look at moms and you just think they're just superheroes and you think they're just powerhouses. You always think moms have it like going on. But then you realize that like every mom feels overwhelmed. Every mom probably didn't sleep. great the night before. Every mom is going on little sleep, but like there's a, there is a security and a confidence in being in the season you're in. And like, gosh, I just, I can't explain the joy in motherhood. It's so, it's such a joy. There's such a pride in it. There's such a joy in it. And that's why I hope people can get rid of the guilt because I just enjoy it so much. And I think that, even with the lack of sleep, even with the silly things and the tantrums and the losing our

patients and all that, that's all a part of it. But there's still such an enjoyment. Okay, how do you know when is the right time to start having babies? Multiple people ask this. So what I want to say to you all, you don't know when the right time to have kids is. And you really don't even have that much power in that, in that process. And I actually want to read y'all another verse. I'm going to bring out my computer again because I think these verses are so good when it comes to thinking that we can plan everything. And that goes both ways. Sometimes you want to have kids and it doesn't happen in your own plan and, you know, years to go by of infertility. And I've walked that road with so many friends. We have an amazing infertility podcast that Bella and I did together. We also have a great

one that Don Cherie and I did together called the Slow Burn. So I know that is such a hard road to walk. And then you have the other extreme of that where you didn't plan on having a kid and you find out you're pregnant. And that's also a part of it. We weren't necessarily like planning the timing of having kit. We thought we were going to wait a couple of years. And in fact, I even thought I needed to wait a couple of years because I felt like my body

really needed to recover from having two and the kind of traumatic birth. experience I have with honey and then a C-section with Haven and I was like, I really need time for my body to recover. I actually met with a doctor the day I found out I was pregnant with kit that morning. I was meeting with a doctor for some recovery things from the past pregnancies. And I was like, oh, I just, I'm so ready to get my body back and like feel more strong. And I said for me to one day have another kid, I'm hoping like years down the road. She said, you're not, there's no chance you're pregnant. I said, no, no, we're really trying to wait so that I can get my body back. And then hello, that afternoon, I took a pregnancy test because after I said no, I kind of got in my head,

I was like, whoa, I don't know. And honey had been telling me that she thinks I have a baby in my tummy and all these crazy things. And I was feeling a little tired. So I was like, I'll just take a test. And sure enough, I was pregnant. So say that to say, like, it's not all in your plan and your timing and you thinking you know you're ready or you're not ready. And I want to read these. verses to you. Proverse 169 says, we can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. So there it is, this plan is day. You can try to make all the plans you want and you can dream about the timing, but at the end of the day, the Lord determines your steps. I love this one too. Prevors 1921. Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.

So again, you can have all the plans in the world, but it is the Lord's purpose. It's going to prevail. And at the end of the day, that's actually what you want. Like, I cannot imagine my life without kid. I can't imagine my life without the timing of having kit. The way that my girls adore her, their little sister, the way that we adore her and her little life is so precious and so beautiful. And actually, the timing of her having her was, like, such a God thing. Like, I'm so thankful for me being pregnant at the time I was and how it cultivated me as a mom. And it's just amazing. So I'll say, to say, like, you actually want God's way anyways. His way's actually better. And even those like Don Cherie, who walked through seven plus years of infertility, I don't think she'd ever want to walk

that road again. But at the same time, look at what the Lord has done with her story. And now she has four kids and has, you know, talk to so many people and preachers so many people about the waiting season and the slow burn and how God meets you in it. And so the Lord's plan will prevail. It's the Lord that determines the steps. So it's okay to plan. And it's a beautiful thing to plan. There's wisdom and planning. But at the end of the day, you don't have that much power to decide when you're going to have a family.

You just don't. And so I love that so many people ask that question. I think it is good at the end of the day to realize we don't have that under control. Okay. How do you deal with anger and resentment when so much responsibility falls as you as the mom? I think that this is a hard thing because a lot of people have asked this, like, how does a dad help more in the newborn stage? How does, you know, all these things? I think at the end of the day, you have to realize that your roles are different.

Your responsibilities are different. The dad and the mom have two different roles. Y'all are a team, though. And so I think the more you can be a team, the better and be good teammates to each other. But don't compare your roles to his or you're going to be better. You're going to be responsible. But that's not his responsibility. I mean, God, the way that you're even created, you're the one that when the baby cries, like just quite literally and physically, your breasts will fill it with milk. His will not. As I have to say, there are just some things you're going to have to do as the mom that he's not. I mean, if you bottle feed, then he can help. I bottle fed, honey. She was a formula baby. And Christian helped me so much. Well, then I breastfed Haven and Kit. And that one was on me. There are things that he can help. though he can help with the diapers. He can help, you know, with so many things. And I'm going to do

more things hands on with the baby. One thing that I think Christian did a really good job of, he didn't necessarily do a ton in the newborn stage for the baby as much as I did because I'm the mom, but he did a lot for me. So I think like he took care of me while I took care of them and that was really, really helpful. Now don't get me wrong, he loved them very, very well. But it's just different, you know? I certainly can relate to times of feeling like, oh, it's all on me and the responsibilities and that's so heavy. But again, like, realize that that is the grace that God has on your life and receive the grace. Like, your grace is sufficient for me. Your power is made perfect in my weakness. So yes, I feel stretched then. Yes, I feel overtouched. Yes, I feel like I

have so much responsibility. But yet, God, you made me a mom and you built me to do this. And I, I'm capable of it. And you just got to lean into the Lord. It's an amazing time to lean into the Lord and to get to know him better. And again, let your spouse know ways that he can help. Communication is everything. And the more he can help you as you help them, it's a beautiful thing. Don't grow resentful and don't compare your spouse to other spouses or you're all story

to other people's story because everyone is different. Someone actually asks how to do a comparison to other moms. I would say just know that you're different than other moms. There's going to be strengths that you have that they don't have, and there's going to be weaknesses you have that they don't have. And if you have weaknesses that another mom doesn't seem to have, then instead of comparing yourself, learn from her, learn from the techniques, learn from the methods,

and learn from the things she's doing. But if it doesn't fit your family, then it's okay. It doesn't have to fit your family. For me, me and my sister-in-laws are parenting, like, so different. Rebecca and Mary Kate and I have such different ways that we approach parenting. But I don't compare myself to the way they're doing it, even though they're doing a fantastic job. I learned from them a lot, but I also realize that Christian and I's lifestyle is different

than Mary Kate and John Luke's and Rebecca and John Reeds. All of our lifestyles are different from each other. So if we took the same approach at everything and wouldn't even make sense for our family because our lifestyles are different. And so at the end of the day, just realize that your home is different than their home. So what worked for them doesn't mean that has to work for you or be something that you have to implement in your home. I think a lot of times moms are feeling like failures. When it's not that you're failing, it's just that you're not doing what they are doing,

but that's not even necessarily what's right for you. And so do what's right for you and your family. That'll take a lot of that comparison off. someone said how did you decide to post your kids on social media a lot of prayer a lot of prayer and a lot of advice from other parents that decided to post their kids on social media and those that didn't and just kind of getting both perspectives and there are still times although our kids are on social media all the time and we have to a TV show and we're out there in the world there are still things that I go okay I'm not going to post that so we have our boundaries

and what we share and what we don't share. And we have a reason for what we share and what we don't share. Actually, Alexa Pinovaga gave me this advice when I asked her about it because she shares her family on social media. And she said, we feel called to share our family because we feel like that is missing in the TV industry and the movie industry as godly families and what that looks like. Yet we have an amazing opportunity on social media to be an example to people of what a godly family looks like. And that really spoke to me a lot because my family through Duck Dynasty, like, certainly took up that call of sharing our family and the example it can be. And we've seen how the Lord's used that. And so I felt like in my own sense, before we knew we were ever going to have

the Divinity Revival or be on TV again, I was like, okay, this is a great way to practically be the light of the world and to show people an example of a family. And I felt like the Lord spoke a lot of things to my heart through prayer that gave me confidence. to pursue that. There are, of course, fears. There are, of course, things that raise flags, but I just feel like the Lord sometimes calls you to things that are scary. I think that's why he says to so many people in the Old Testament, do not be afraid, for I am with you. He says that because he knows what he's calling them to do is going to come with some things that bring opposition, that bring hurt, that bring pain, that are literal battles they're going to have to face.

but that doesn't mean that that's a no. That doesn't mean you're not supposed to do it. Don't be afraid for I'm with you. Don't be afraid. I'm calling you, but I'm going to go with you and go before you and behind you. And so there's a lot of prayer in that. There's a lot of seeking the Lord in that and asking God where the boundaries fall.

But at the end of the day, I want to be the light of the world. And so that's kind of how I even asked myself. I'm like, okay, would this post of our family show people an example of a godly family? We'd love to share it. And that's kind of how we do that. So again, a lot of prayer and not even just prayer up front, prayer throughout it.

We still pray. We still ask the Lord for wisdom on that. And I'm thankful for the example we've been able to be. I mean, even this past week, we were out of town and came in and told you how many moms came up to me with kids and talked to me about, like, the example our family's been. And I'm super, super grateful for that. Okay, in this season of live, we've got something on the calendar almost every single night. And so it's a little bit crazy at the Huff House.

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advice for keeping your marriage a priority for first-time parents? Again, prioritize your marriage and actually, like, actively prioritize your marriage. Even last night, Haven was being just two years old. And she said something to Christian. And I said, hey, you don't talk to your daddy like that. And I said, it's really important to mom, you don't talk to your daddy like that because I love your daddy more than anything in the world. And she said, no, I love you more than you love daddy. And I said, that's not true. I said, me and your daddy love each other so much. And out of our love, God gave us honey and haven and kit. And that's how the love overflows. And so we are not only big on prioritizing our marriage with each other, but we're big on prioritizing to our

kids and letting them see that our love and our marriage is fundamentally very, very, very important in our home. And that love and that marriage overflows to our kids. And so we try to be clear on that. How do you balance having lots of family close by and figuring out your new role yourself? I would say receive help. Like you don't have anything to prove. I think back in the day, think about how you did family in community. Like your family was your community. Nowadays, everybody lives everywhere.

And that's a beautiful thing. And that's a beautiful gift of the new age that we can go places and move places and, you know, go and be the light of the world wherever we're at. But it's a gift to live beside family. And it's a gift to live beside people who are like family who will help. and bring dinner and help with the kids. So I just think, like, you don't have anything to prove you're the mom, even if you receive help, and view it as a gift that it is.

I think so many times, like our generation is so big on boundaries, and hear me, boundaries are good and boundaries are needed. But sometimes we give so many boundaries that we actually are removing people from our life who we need to be in relationship with. and relationships are messy and they are hard. Now, obviously distinguishing there are relationships that are unhealthy. I'm not talking about that like unhealthy, abusive. That is absolutely in need for a boundary.

But there are just relationships and the nature of relationships are messy and are hard. And sometimes you mess up in front of each other and you have to laugh it off. You have to say, I'm sorry. That's just a part of being in community and being up close with people. People are going to see you and your flaws as you're a mom because you're going to to be stretched then and that's okay let them see you in that that just shows you're human and um so i would just lean into it let people come in let people surround you um do you have any tips for prioritizing a personal relationship with christ as a new mom yes don't put pressure on yourself for it to

look a certain way your quiet time is not going to be quiet your quiet time is probably not even going to be a specific time i would say 24-7 relationship with the lord is so key like god is in it all. Not just mercies in the morning. Mercy's all day every day. Not just grace in my weak moments. Grace in all my moments. Like I need God and I need the Holy Spirit to parent always. And so invite him in and you'll grow in such an amazing relationship with him. I mean, I love God so much more now with three kids than I did before three kids. And that is not because we have more quiet time. We have way less. It's because he's in it all. And he really does provide the strength to be the mom that I am. And I'm so thankful for that. Okay, I'm pregnant with my first. How do you get over the fear of not knowing what to do? Again, how could you know what to do?

This is the first time you've ever done it. You're not going to know what to do. You lean into the Lord. You ask for wisdom. You call other moms and you ask them how to do it. You listen to podcasts. If you're listening to this, you're doing it. You're learning. Read books. Parenting books are great. like find people on social media who are influencers who you're inspired by but at the end of the day be confident that if god made you the mom he will equip you with what to do if the holy spirit is in you he will speak to you he will lead you and so um yeah just it no one knows what to do no one knows every first time mom feels overwhelmed and that's just a part of it and it helps you become the mom you're going to be in the woman that you are.

How were your C-section recoveries? Tough, rough. So many people ask me about like C-section versus vaginal delivery and my traumatic birth experience. And to be honest, y'all, there's no easy way to give birth. And that's actually biblical too, that childbirth is going to be hard. Now that I would never, here's the important thing to hear in that, though. I would never want to scare anyone away from having a baby or going through labor or having a C-section or having a child because the joy is so, it so outweighs the pain.

It's so outweighs the fear. It's the best thing in the entire world and the best experience ever. Those were painful, painful days and experiences, but the best days ever because it's my kids' birthdays. And so, yes, it's hard. Yes, it's uncomfortable. there's so much messy struggle in all of that. But what a joy. I mean, I think about Hebrews 12.

It says, for the joy set before him, Jesus endured the agony of the cross. Well, that was horrific. But for the joy set before him, he did it for you and I. And so there's an aspect of leaning into suffering, of leaning into pain, of leaning into a progress that's going to push your body. But for the joy set before you, you're going to have a baby on the other side. And so what a great way to, you know, I mean, obviously you can't relate to Jesus in that because I was like so horrific.

But, you know, that pain brought new life is what I'm saying. And that pain in labor will bring life on the other side. And it's a joy. So yeah, C-section recovery is rough. But at the same time brought me my girls and I'm so grateful for that. Okay, do you have any baby registry essentials? I'm going to give you all my essentials. If I forget a few, I'm sorry because I'm sure I will.

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but that is helpful. Um, Sophie the Giraff, all three of my girls love Sophie the Giraff. It's their favorite and pretty much only toy of the newborn stage. And then, uh, like, I always say this, because we're on the go a lot. So we don't have like great bedtime routines, but I do have like consistent things I do around bedtime. So like a soft eat for them, like little soft blankets were like super good because anytime they could like grab a soft blanket or even put like a little Muslim cloth over their face or anything like that with white noise. It was like no matter where we were, they could go to sleep because that was like a consistent thing where like that meant bedtime. And so those are really helpful for me. Okay. Let's see. What are some verses? Oh wait.

So what are some verses that I can pray as I struggle with body image while pregnant? I'm going to keep going because there's a few others around that. How do you accept your body after babies? Do you have any advice for physical recovery after birth? As far as like accepting your body after babies and even during pregnancy, it's just, I think gratitude is the biggest thing, gratitude for what your body is doing and appreciating what your body is doing. I think about the verse, like, rejoice and Lord always again, I say rejoice.

Then it talks about like with Thanksgiving and prayer. and it's like essentially like gratitude, like present your request to God. And then it's like, and he will give you peace. It surprises all understanding. I think it's Philippians four. But all that to say, like gratitude and rejoicing and all of that like has so much to do with confidence. And for me, like, my body is amazing.

I'm like, are you kidding me and birth my three children? Like, that is insane. And I actually always felt the most confident right after I had my babies. which is ironic because that's when my body was like in the least good shape, I guess, but I just had such an appreciation for what it just did and what it was capable of. And I think that gratitude and appreciation goes such a long way. Don't get me wrong. I mean, six months after a kid, here I am.

And I'm like, okay, my body's changed. And there are days I have to go like, don't worry about it, you know? Or like, thank you, Lord, that gave me my babies. And it's really cute, like a kid's perspective. It helps you because, like, honey, like, loves my C-section scar. She, like, loves the things in my body that I might have felt, like, insecure about that have changed. But she's like, that's where Kit came and this and that. And so I think just lean into that appreciation and gratitude.

It goes such a long way. And then advice for physical recovery after birth, go at your own pace. I'm not a bounce back girl. Like, I'm like, go at your own pace. You're taking care of a baby. Your responsibility right now is not to get your body back. It's not to bounce back. it is to nourish a child, protect the child, you know, help your child in every single way.

And so my body is like really to serve like our kids and to provide a home for our kids and to, you know, provide food for my kids. And so like the last thing I need to put on my body is pressure for it to bounce back. So that's where I stand on that. I'm just like, don't pressure yourself. Okay, newborn stage. Also, I will say in the not pressuring yourself and having kids. It is such a workout to just have children and you will be surprised by how your body just naturally gets back. And it takes about nine months to a year, but, but it will. What are your tips on keeping your marriage first or your newborn? Are you talked about that? What are your tips for establishing schedules for your baby and when do you start implementing a schedule? Again, no one's

life looks the same. And I would just say, do what works for you? Don't, and don't panic about it. Someone said, do you have any tips for sleep regression? Actually, a lot of people ask that. I'd say don't panic and don't overthink it. You will sleep again, and it's okay. This is just a season of your life. For me, I just truly don't overthink all of that. I just lean into when I'm weak, then I'm strong. It's okay to not have as much sleep.

I'll drink a coffee in the morning. That's for me. I know that doesn't work for everybody. And if you need to establish more of a sleep routine to make sure that you're getting the sleep that you need because obviously sleep is important, then I would just encourage you there's so much. many great things out there. I remember whenever we started Lowe and I had all the what-ifs.

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based off of like the labor experience we had and everything. And so I did formula. She is great. Did it fine. And we love that. Then with Haven, I was like expecting me to not be able to breastfeed, but I was actually able to in the hospital. So I breastfed her and gave her formula too.

So we did a mix. And then with Kit, I've pretty much exclusively breastfed her. I've started to try formula, but she doesn't do great with it. It kind of messes up her tummy, so I'm figuring that out. But again, not only is your life different from everyone else's life, but every kid's going to be different, every pregnancy is going to be different, everybody's going to respond differently. So you can't even compare your life to your, you know, previous experience sometimes.

Okay, how do you get through teething? How do you deal with mastitis? This is like my phrase for it all. This two shall pass. Like you're going to get through it. It's just going to be hard for a little while. And it's kind of like whenever you have like a cut on your arm and like it bothers you. And all of a sudden like you, the cut heels and you kind of forget that it was ever there.

It's like, yes, it's a hard stage of like teething. But when you get past it, you'll be like, oh, I forgot how hard that was. Mestitis is just tough. Like you just got to see your doctor and do medicine if you have to. It's just hard. I had misditis with like the worst summit bug in my life. So I was put in the hospital for a couple days. Hopefully that doesn't happen to any one of you.

But again, this two shall pass. I'm fine. You'll be fine. It's just really hard at the time. Any tips on potty training? Okay, so so many people ask this. This is funny because I remember someone saying like, you know, a lot of people just wait to the kids ready or like you either wait to the kids ready or like you establish it hard.

And I remember with honey being like, no, I am not waiting until she's ready. I can do this. Like we can take control of the situation. And y'all, we tried so hard and nothing was working. And then when she was ready at about two and a half, she was just like, I want to go in the potty. So she did. And I was like, why did I stress that so much? And then Haven, about two, she was just ready and she just did it.

Like it just clicked. And so we started trying things. You know, we would do different little things to make it fun. But honestly, the wait until they're ready kind of. was true. Okay, last little bit of things. Let's see, how do, what rhythms do you find most important in your home regarding discipleship? I would say consistency. Someone also asked about like going back to work in ministry. And I would say, show your kids that ministry is your life. Like, discipleship is, it's not just something you do on Sundays. It's not just something you do when you're

specifically talking to your kids about God. Like, it's always. And so, for, Christian and I, there is this advice that we heard, like, to shepherd a child's hearts, like, always bring them back to, like, what God's responsibility is for you as parents to love them and, like, who they are as God's children. And shepherding their hearts is, like, a beautiful approach whenever you think about discipling them. And so it's amazing how we've seen so many opportunities to talk about God's love and to talk about who God is and just.

do that in such a casual way and to show them that like ministry is our life. Like I don't want them to just see me praying over people on stage. Like they need to see me praying over people at restaurants. They need to see me praying over people at Disney World. Like wherever we are, we're praying for people. Wherever we are, we're ministering to people. And so just keeping in mind like not setting them up to to think about their spiritual life as just when they're at church or just when it's in a ministry setting. But like that's an always thing. And that's important to us. So consistency is key. How do you stay patient with your kids, especially in the toddler phase? So many questions about that. You're just not always going to be patient and you're not always going to be kind and you're going to lose your temper and I do that often. And so does Christian. And our biggest thing is apologizing when we get it wrong, apologizing when we're not patient, saying, hey, I'm so sorry. I got frustrated and I shouldn't have acted like that. And essentially, we're showing them what they're going to do when they're not patient and when they're not, you know, always the best.

tempered. And so I don't think your kids like need you to be perfect. I don't think that's even a relatable example to them. Now, I think that you need to do the best that you can, obviously, as I am, but you're human. You're going to make mistakes. You don't have to always feel guilty whenever you make those mistakes. Just learn to repent and apologize and teach your kids what repentance and true apology looks like. Okay, best advice for surviving the toddler phase. I would just say, like, don't just survive it, thrive in it. It is messy. It is chaotic.

It is crazy. But enjoy it. Like, the toddler phase isn't just a phase. It's the year that they'll be two and three, you know? And so there's so much fun in the midst of it. And it is hard. And there are so many hard moments. But like, just enjoy it the best you can.

Be consistent with discipline. They need discipline. They are learning. They are listening. It will click. Now I see honey telling. in the same things that I told her, and that's been really, really sweet to see. And so you might feel like it's fallen on bad soil, but it's falling on soil. And it will get watered

in their hearts, and you will see it grow. So those consistent disciplines, I heard someone say, like, whatever you don't establish in the toddler phase, you're really going to have to deal with in the teenage phase. So you'd rather deal with it while they're toddlers than wait to the teenagers. Actually, my dad said that. And it's so true, like, now that you have to have them in your home with listening ears, even though it doesn't seem like they're listening, like establishing these things in them, you might not see a lot of fruit, but there will be fruit. And one day you will. And so stay consistent with discipline and also just enjoy it the best you can.

Christian said to me the other day, I was feeling overwhelmed by our toddler in a public situation. I was like, oh, like, I wish we just didn't bring her. Like we could have just gotten a babysitter and this is so hard. And he said to me, he was like, I'm glad we brought her. He was like, because that's just a part of it. He's like, I'd much rather her be here and throwing a tantrum here than her be at home and not be with us. And I love that perspective. And it's so true, like, I would much rather her be here.

I said that out of embarrassment for her throwing a fit in public. But, hey, it's okay. It's part of it. And then also, like, giving them grace that they are two or three or four and they're learning. And so I think parenting has taught us so much grace, not just for ourselves, but for our kids. and receiving grace of God because we're all just learning. Everyone is learning. Okay, any tips on traveling with new ones again, enjoy it, laugh at yourself, know this

two shall pass. You'll make it there and you'll laugh at the memories getting there and it's just fun. So yeah, I think as I'm talking about this, I guess in some ways I do approach parenting. not, I guess sometimes I think what that girl said to me is like, you don't overthink it's true, but there is a lot of intention behind it. And that intention is leaning on the Lord, leaning on scripture, leaning on family and community and advice from others, and just know that like you are in the same boat as everyone around you. You might think everyone else is crushing it, but they're dealing with tantrums. They're dealing, they've dealt with teething.

They've dealt with long nights. And everyone's doing the best they can. And so receive grace, friend, receive the peace of knowing that if God made you the mom, then you're built for the job, then you're called to do it. And you're capable of doing it. And you are the best mom for your kid because you are their mom. And you are the heart of your home. And you can be the heart of your home by providing for your family, by loving your family,

by describing your family, by showing them the things in life that matter. it does not have to be perfect. But where there is joy and where there is the Spirit of the Lord, there's so much freedom and there's so much joy and so much hope. So I hope that you feel encouraged today. You're doing a great job. If you have any other questions, of course, always send them in. This was really fun.

And I love diving into this because this is the stage of life. We're in this is what Christian and I are learning and talking about every single day. And at the end of the day, like, okay, how will we do today? We could have done that better. We could have done that better. but we're learning and we're in it together. So keep going, Mama. High five to you.

You're crushing it and you are made for the job.