WHOA That's Good Podcast - Strong and Kind

Episode Date: March 6, 2019

Sadie welcomes her mom, Korie Robertson to the podcast for her first full-length conversation. Korie shares advice her dad gave her about the blessings of family, faith and relationships and how these are the things no one can take away from you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Which is so fun because this is the woman who's giving me all of my advice. Y'all've got to hear from her every now and then for just our little conversation at the end of the podcast. But mom honestly is such a well-abvious. I was like, you need a full 20 minutes and then some for what mom's gonna be able to give to us today and bring to us. She's so

life-giving, she's so incredible and so I can't wait for you to hear from my own mama. Hey fam! Alright, actually hey fam because today the person that I received most all of my advice is on the podcast today and it's not just for a phone call. Everybody welcome K Swag. Oh, what was it? Hey, hey. If you don't know who K Swag is, this is my lovely mother. We call her K Swag because she swaggy self-explanatory.

But yeah, mom, I'm super excited for you to be on a full episode of Worth That's Good. Well thank you for telling everybody how swaggy I am. Hey listen that I'm gonna show everybody knows that about me. They even look at your Instagram page one time. They can sense the swag. Boss Hogs, boss hogs wife and name like that that just screams swag. Oh my goodness. Well I'm so excited to be a guest. This is so fun. like boss hogs wife a name like that that just screams swag. Oh my goodness. Well, I'm so excited to be a guest.

This is so fun. I know this is awesome. I was telling to my damn, I'm interviewing my mom today about the best piece of advice she's received. I feel like this might flip flop on me. But for just like every other guest, you are no different.

We want to know what the best piece of advice that you've ever been given is. Okay, well, since I had the advantage of like knowing what you're gonna ask me, I've been thinking about this. It's hard because, you know, there's lots of good advice out there. And the thing that I keep coming back to,

and I don't even know that it's advice more than just kind of like a life like mantra or a way to live. And it's something that my dad always told us. And we just, when we had these kind of like a life like mantra or a way to live and it's something that my dad always told us and we just when we've had these kind of family meetings and we talk about like generosity and the blessings that we have and you know just the kind of financially and the fact that we have a roof over our head and the food on our table and all the things that that we kind of take for granted as probably most of us that are Americans that have, we're secure financially in a certain way that people in other countries don't.

But one of the things he would always say, if we lose it all tomorrow, will be fine. And it was just this thing that always stuck with me that like, okay, that's not what really matters. What really matters is always there and is secure and stable. And that's failing and that's relationships and that's things that are not like you can't touch, you can't put a finger on. And that's the love of your parents and your family and God and your relationship with God and our faith.

And those are things that like no one can touch. Like nobody can take away. And so it was just this kind of like feeling and a security of knowing that like, even if we don't, even if we don't have the Christmas that we don't we might have or because we've got Christmas coming up or even if we don't have, you know,

the things that the world says are important. If we lose all of that, what we have is what is left is what's really important. And so I think that that's just kind of a life match with that. My dad always instilled in us, and I really think that that's probably the thing that is affected me the most in life, in the way I live live and the way I kind of do life. No, you know, that's actually so cool because I feel like I've, I mean, I know I've heard you say that a whole lot of times, especially during Doug Dinesy. Like you always said, you know, if we lose it all tomorrow, we'd be fine.

And I think that what I've seen in your life and in dad's life by actually living that out is there's no striving if you believe that. There's no striving because you're like, oh, I'm content with where I'm at and even if I lose it, it's okay. There was also like no, y'all didn't, even when times got hard or whenever there was maybe something that was going to be like, hey, you have to do this and it was going to like sacrifice our beliefs or our faith. Y'all would always be like, no, you have to do this and it was going to sacrifice our beliefs or our faith.

Y'all would always be like, no, no exception. We're not losing our faith because even if we do lose it because of that tomorrow, we're going to be fine. It eliminated so many of the, I don't know, do you understand what I'm trying to say? Yeah, yeah, I think that's totally true. I think that knowledge kind of gives you this change, like security because you're free to take risk.

You're free to say no to the things that you know are not what you want to do. You're free to say like, you know, if this all falls apart, I'm still okay. Cause what I know is what's real and what's really important will still be there. And so I think it offers you this real freedom and the choices that you make in life and the way you live your life.

Yeah, and it's so funny because like living like that and you leading like that, it's like our family, you know, everybody's like, it's everything's so different, you know, since the show. And even when we started the show, as your family's life changed so much, and I always say like, it's weird because as much as everything changed, it didn't feel like it changed. Like, in the pressure cooker of video campaign launches,

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feel like that at all you know and I think that that that was super cool because when those things the heart things remain the same then you start to notice like even though the whole world around you's like spending a moving character you have such a peace in contentment that everything just feels really secure. And that probably stems all out of that advice, you know? Yeah, yeah. I think that that's such an out love here in that, because I felt that same way too, and I remember people asking me that same thing, and I was like, well, you know, like, yeah, we travel more, and we're busier, and we people recognize us, but the important things really are still the same.

Like so it didn't for me either like internally, you know, I think for our and for our family, I think that that is something that was really important for us to kind of realize because it didn't change. Change us in that way, where if we didn't have that security where we we felt like,, this is it. We got to get it while we get it We've got to like we've got to hang on to this or whatever Mm-hmm. I think we might might not have felt that way. Yeah. Yeah, that's yeah That's awesome. Well, we'll probably circle back to that but I want to ask you some questions Didn't know it's coming. Well, you know I didn't either and then I was thinking about it. I was like, what would people want to hear and want to know it?

And you might not even have an answer for this. And if you don't, that's totally okay. But I was thinking about how, you know, people like always see our relationship online. And they're like, oh, mother daughter goals. And everybody loves how close you are to all your kids. And I can look at your life and think like me, Bella, Jean-Luc, Will, Rebecca, Rowdy,

like we all have our own like relationship with you. And we all, in a sense, like, if you ask any of us, like we would say like our best friend is you, which is kind of funny. No, that's not true. But it's really true. But like a lot of people are like negative about having like, to be their kid's friend.

But we respect you so much. And you are obviously our mom and the authority, but we also feel like a best friend. So where do you think the balance is and how you get that friendship with your kid, but then you also have, you're also still the authority. Yeah, I think that's a really good question. I think it happens over time, you know, of course, like your relationship with your kids change, you know, whenever, whenever y'all are little. I definitely wanted to be fun mom and I wanted to have fun with you guys and everything, but also like there are things that I had to be the authority on more. And then as you grow, but I think that because I think,

perhaps something that did well was that we really worked hard in that when you're little so that we could offer you that freedom as you got older to be your friend and to be able to just talk to you because you understood what you understood respect and you understood authority and all that. And I think that that's kind of like in a relationship with God. Like at first, we kind of acknowledge that like, all right, we acknowledge our submission to God and to his authority and that like, okay, he knows best for us.

I think when we can teach our kids that when they're young to wear like, okay, they acknowledge that, okay, mom and dad know best because they're the authority. They have the wisdom. They have the, and they love me unconditionally no matter what. If there's no like questioning what that might look like, or is there anything too bad that I can do that's going to push them away? Is there anything that's going to ever hurt this relationship? And if we establish that, and hopefully we establish that, and you guys when y'all were young, and something as you grow, we can just enjoy the fruits of that. And we can enjoy it. And y'all are great kids. And so we like you. We

actually, we were in a dollar in high school whenever, like, you would get your license, I would tell HV, like, remember that I actually like you, like,'ll still want to see you. I remember that. I know you have your freedom and you can enjoy it and I want you to like go be with your friends and I want you to go enjoy being a teenager but also like I like spend a time with you too. So come on, come on.

Yes. I actually do her a reason that to be Angela Luke. I love that. Yeah. I think that you enter that absolutely perfectly because you're right. Like it starts with that, even learning respect. And I think if you ask any of us, we respect you so much. And we love you so much.

So naturally we want to, and we know that you know best. And I think that the thing that you've done a good job at, you and dad both is, you don't just say, I'm the parent and I know best because I just know. Y'all were so good at like sharing why you know best because you were open with us about the real things that y'all walk through. So then we're like, oh, you really do know best because you've experienced this before us.

And now it would be way more wise for me to stop and listen to you than try to like shoot in the dark and go through this life, you know, try to figure out what to do. And that was like really, really cool. Like, you didn't just like discipline us without like reasoning, you explained to us why. And I think that was super huge and beneficial. And that's why like now I always felt free to tell you everything, which now Bella and all they make fun of me, because we're like, you can't tell say anything without her

telling mom, but it's gonna be alright. Get all my advice from you. That's a good thing. It is. Yeah, of course you'll say it's a good thing. Bella may back to differ. But, um, okay, well another thing I wanted to ask you about and talk to you about is strong and kind.

The obvious, because if y'all don't know our family, my mom has a book called Strong and Kind. And I think that the message behind why you talked about strong and kind is really cool, just that you even thought about us before we were born, that you wanted your kids to be strong and kind. And so if you want to tell everybody listening a little bit about that, I think they'd love it. Yeah, I think that, well, one of the actual reasons that I wrote the book, I did come to this kind of realization

when y'all were young is that, one, I wanted y'all to be strong and kind, but then also, if I want that for y'all, then I have to be that for myself. And so that is such a challenge to parents, and that's the thing, even just going back to what you were just talking about, I think it's so important for parents to be real with their kids, be open about everything

and honest, because kids see through it. Like if you're like, okay, I want you to be kind, but you're a main to the person at the grocery store or the waiter or whatever, they're like, nope, it's not real. And so kids are like really good lie detectors. Like they can see if you're not really living what you're saying and they really do.

So I do think it's important and I did, you know, I've always tried to say, okay, like if I'm gonna ask this of our kids and I have to live it and I have to be real and honest about when I'm not and when I haven't in the past and how can we talk through those things and be vulnerable about it even as parents. But yeah, like I think strength, the reason I say that time, you know, by the time you have kids, you've probably gone through some stuff, you know, you're married, you've gone through

into tough times in your marriage or whatever and you realize like, okay, you got to be strong to get through some stuff. You're married, you've gone through tough times in your marriage or whatever, and you realize like, okay, you've got to be strong to get through this life. There's some tough things that are going to be thrown your way. And so when we talk about strength, I really think about that tree. I always have thought of y'all as like these, and what's all to be these strong trees with like really deep roots. So that like, when the wind comes and the tough times come like you know you may you may bend there may be some blowing in the wind you may live some leaves

but you're not going to break like you're so strong you're so rooted in who you know that you are in God and in God's eyes you're so rooted in in him and is love for you and the unconditional love that we have for you that you're not going to break. And so that's that's where that strength comes from and that's what I've always really wanted for you guys. And then kindness is is for others like your strength is for yourself. I think in the kindness is for others. That's just a way to live on this earth. And I think that if we all just become more kind, this will be a much, much better place.

Yeah. Oh my gosh, Mom, I'm literally crying. Oh! Cheers, like streaming down my face. That was so sweet. But it's like, it's cool because obviously, like, I know that I'm your daughter and like, I read like the book, Strong and Kind, but I don't know, just to see like how much your mom loves you and not just like a selfish like love,

but really you love so selflessly and like you've raised us to be good people for the world, you know, and like and for ourselves, but you know for the world too. And so to pour over that strength for us and then remind us to be kind to everyone like seeing that and John Luke and Rebecca and Bella and Will and Rowdy and all of us. That's just so cool.

It really is. And that like just as an encouragement to parents everywhere like from a kid like it just means so much to even hear my mom say that over me and speak that over me and know that she's prayed that for me. And if you've never done that for your kid, that's okay. Start today because obviously my mom's done it forever, but today even again being reminded makes me feel like so loved and makes you want to be better. So keep speaking that over everyone in your life and encouraging people like that. Okay, so that was awesome. And the other thing I wanted to, well, two more things.

One more series than the last one, more fun. But, obviously adoption means a lot to you and to our family. And I've been talking to a lot of friends about it lately. And I think that to some degree, there's kind of like a lack of knowledge even and like the adoption and foster care system Even like in the country and out of country and stuff like that not just everybody doesn't know a whole lot about it

And some people think like oh, it's this magical thing where it's just like you just get the kid that you knew It was your kid and and I know just from our family like there's some hard parts to it and there's some beautiful parts to it and My brothers are my brothers and my sisters my sister you know and we see like the real aspect of it And I don't know if anybody out there has seen instant family But I think they did an awesome job at describing the whole thing But one of the things that they said was they like expected this like cosmic connection to happen and then like It didn't happen and they were like wait but the cosmic connection's not there

but then they still ended up adopting the kids and then later they were like wow like you were ours after all and I just like kind of wanted to ask you what you thought about that because you know I think that a lot of people they don't do something like that because they expected it to be a cosmic connection or this like magical moment. And sometimes like it's not like that. But to me, like what I've seen in you is that even when it wasn't always like cosmic connection, there was like a deep root of true love. And that's what became this like magical thing in a sense.

But I don't know if you would have anything to like say about that. Yeah, that's so good to me. I thought the movie was excellent. They just did such a great job and for trying to do it. And I think the movie is important to, and it's important for people to see. Actually, Bella just told me one of her friends said that, Will was the first person she knew who was adopted. And I was like, well, she's like 16 years old. How is the first person she knows, or maybe even is aware of that she knows?

I'm sure she knows a lot more people are adopted, but you know people maybe just don't talk about it And there is there is a fear I think associated with it of like, oh, what if I don't connect or what if I don't this and Yeah, it is it's can't can always It's not always like this easy just magical thing, you know It can be a hard thing and there are a lot of difficult things that come along with it because it is from a brokenness, you know, from a family that didn't, you know, that a mother that couldn't raise her child, a father who couldn't do what they, you know, what was kind of intended or what was expected. And so it does come up from a place of reckons.

So there is hard parts to it, but also, like God is so much bigger than all of that. He loves this port into us. And he doesn't call us to just live an easy life, just literally. He calls us to do the hard things. And he does ask us to take care of the widow, and the orphan, and the hungry, hungry and the needy and all that.

And, you know, whenever we do things God wet, God's way, whenever we do the things, the hard things, the things that are maybe even counter to what we think, like, oh, this would be just the easy route, but we think the route that God shows usays Alpharise, the rewards are great. You know, you really do end up getting the rewards, but it's not that it's all easy. Yeah. It's definitely not that it's all easy, but God sustained you and His promises are true and right, and He'll be with you through all of it. So I think that the more we talk about adoption and the more we see because I truly believe

it is God's calling to us as Christians, as of us who are believers, it is our duty to our responsibility, I don't want to do it because I don't want that to. So it's our responsibility to take care. Yeah. The least of these and certainly children who need a home would follow that category. 100 percent. Yeah, for sure. And you know, like the stats probably more than anybody, but is it there? It's not like an outrageous number in the States. Is it? For adoption? That is the crazy thing. If you look at so of the kids in the foster care system, there's about 130,000 of them each year that are that are up for adoption that are looking for homes.

And of that number, you know, probably, I think it's around 30,000, that will age out, that will turn 18 and never get adopted. And that is so devastating because you're thinking, you look at America and how like, we have plenty of families that we should be able to take care of this situation. We should, there should not be a child that does not have a home.

Yeah. In America, you know, you look at you look at what you're kidding me, you know, and not to say that we don't have difficulties and we don't have struggles and there's not problems that we have in our country, but certainly 130,000 kids, I have no idea how many people are in America, but I can guarantee you that there's a lot more than that. There's a lot more than that. And I know I've seen stats, like if every church in America just took one, you know, it would be, we would take care of that problem in tomorrow. Wow.

And so I think that it is time for us as a church to step up in that regard. And I think that as we do that and talk about being a light to our world, as we start solving the problems, the orphan crisis in our world, you know, now if you look at all of the world, there's millions of orphans, but that's something else that we can solve, you know, as the church, we should be the leaders in solving that, that type of problem and talk about being a light and assault and this earth. Preach that. Preach that. That's so good. Now, and I definitely wanted you to talk about being a light and assault and this earth. Preach that. If we do that.

That's so good. No, and I definitely wanted you to talk about that because I'm like, that really is just not that many people, you know, and if you look at how many people are in America, like look at how many people are on Instagram. And so I think the more like getting that out there and advocating for that is so important because even if somebody's listening today and you're like This is crazy. I was listening to whoa. That's good And now I just feel in my heart like it just leads you to a web page or to start looking into it

Then like go with that tug in your heart because like we actually can't be the generation that sees this That handles the problem, you know, and not that there's always gonna be people that put their kids at two It's a beautiful thing whenever families get to this is a beautiful thing and so to be a part of it will be so awesome. And also I do think that like people are called the things like there are you know the vowel talks about like we all have different gifts we all have different colleagues and it's not that's not everyone's calling to maybe a dot, but maybe there is something that you can do to help in this, in this, with children who need homes. There is so many different ways

that you can be involved. And if you are one that does feel a little tug, a little calling, then, you know, God is working on you and you're hard. And so you follow it. So yes, do it. Yeah, that's so so good I love it. Okay well as I predicted I knew we were gonna go long because I was like even when we talk on the phone we talk for like an hour but I do want to ask you a number thing last question but we one of my favorite things about our family is we have so much fun together like we are always playing games we're always having a match with the nizz or what what were we doing last year hitting golf balls

But the basel bat trying to hit it over the pond. Yeah, by the way I'm still cry laughing when I watch your video because I Even know how you would manage to hit it backwards We're always doing something one of my favorite things when we are cooking I'm using quotations because we all know it's dad But when we are cooking and we all end quotations because we all know it's dad. But when we are cooking and we all end up dancing around our kitchen table and it's just fun.

And I just wanted to ask how do you think for parents out there or even siblings or whoever did just encourage them on how to kind of invite people and invite a family into that space. How do you and this atmosphere in a house that's actually just fun to be in, you know? And I think that it's probably simpler than what people think. And that's why I just wanted us to kind of talk

about that a little bit. Yeah, that's a good question. I think I have to get an example of that. My mom is really fun. Like she's what, how does she still fun? And she's still like doing handstands or like trying to try and out the latest dance move or whatever. How does she still find it too long and still like doing handstands or Time try not the latest dance move or whatever. So I think it is it's so important to you know Just keep that fun in your family like I've always wanted our house to be the one that like we y'all want to come home to you

Yeah, and so that's kind of a goal and so like if that's your goal, okay, then how are we gonna make it fun? How do we want to be there and it really, I mean, it really is just a mindset. Like you can have us have day and you can, and always say like, you can be in a funk, but don't stay in a funk, you know? You can, you can like have a rough day and you can, you can live in it if you choose to and you can say like, I'm just gonna choose to and you can say like I'm just

gonna live in this funk and be like I'm miserable because everything's miserable and this didn't go right and this didn't go right or you can turn on the music and dance. You can or make a joke or like get outside and hit a golf ball across the pond. You can seize to get out of that funk and it really is a choice. That's true. So yeah. That's hilarious. Like somebody asked me on tour. I didn't even know that came from you. They're like, what do you do when you're sad? And the three people answered before me. And all three of them were like, oh, normally I turn on the sad music. And I just kind of cry it out. And the next song is like, yeah, I always just cry. It just helps me a lot.

And the next version said, like Taylor Swift songs. And I was like, you know, this actually sounds kind of funny, but I actually normally just dance it out. I was like, not kidding. But that's what we do. It's so fun. That's right. But mom, thank you. You have officially been our longest podcast because you have so much good advice And I love you very much and for a little plot twist I'm gonna try to call dad so wish all of America look I love you 5th girl.

Bye. Bye. Bye. Hey dad. Hey, what are you doing? Oh dang. Hey, I have a question. Are you out for a spontaneous two-question Q&A for my podcast?

I like that. Yeah, but it's a very, very, very simple question. I really fast. Okay, really, really fast. Do you think Twinkies on pizza is good advice or bad advice? That's all I need to know. Well go get you a deer and go get a deer steak instead of Twinkies on pizza. Love you guys. Love you guys. So I don't know if everyone's heard something that the Leverizonal team is so excited about right now.

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