WHOA That's Good Podcast - The WHOA Line is Open: Our First Call- In Episode!

Episode Date: April 13, 2026

It’s our first call-in show! Sadie and Christian are listening to your voicemails and answering your questions in real time — hearing your thoughts, fears, and doubts is truly powerful! They encourage anyone questioning the security of their salvation, share how to date well, why seeing someone’s true colors beats a facade every time, and can prayer really change anything? Plus, Sadie opens up about navigating hormone shifts at work and home, and they discuss how to break negative thought loops after rejection. And… are we making our first match? IYKYK  Singles in New York and Dallas, take the hint. Leave Sadie a voicemail anytime at [phone] This Episode is Sponsored By: https://loveoneinternational.org/whoa — Join the Love Club today. For just $20 a month you'll provide life-saving support to a child in need and as a thank you, you'll receive exclusive Love Club merch! Plus, the first 100 new Love Club members will get a FREE copy of my devotional, How to Put Love First. https://drinkag1.com/whoa — Get an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3+K2 FREE in your Welcome Kit with your first AG1 subscription (a $72 value!) when you use my link! Go to https://trymiracle.com/WHOA and use the code WHOA to claim your FREE 3 PIECE TOWEL SET and SAVE over 40% OFF. - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We are so excited about this episode. And when I say we, She means me. Got my bestie back. You can't get enough of me on the podcast. I really can't. I just, you got to be on it with me. So I'm really excited about today.

We kick-started this on Instagram. We told everybody that we have a new woe line. See our little phone right here. And it's really cool because so many of you guys have already called in. And I really mean so many of y'all. We were blown away by the intentionality behind your voicemails that you left us. And they were so good. So originally we had talked about,

What if we just start incorporating these into the episodes at the end of the episode, which we're going to do? But there were so many great ones that we decided to dedicate a whole episode to this. And so today we're going to answer y'all's questions, but we're actually going to hear your voices. And so if you called into the whoa line, thank you. If we don't get to yours today, don't worry. Like I said, this is going to be a more regular thing. And this line is always available.

So we'll have it in the show notes. You can always call. Leave us to know. Let us. I mean, you can really ask anything. lot of times on the voicemail, we're going to have prompts for y'all. Based off certain episodes we're going to be talking about, today's prompt was just like, what advice do you need in life right now?

And so we can't wait to dive into some of the things that y'all sent in and hear your voice. Again, thanks for being like such a dedicated listener to this podcast. And hopefully as we continue to grow what this podcast is, it's not just a place where you listen, but you get to speak into too. And that's why I'm so excited for your voice to be on the show today. Before we dive in, though, one thing that we do literally every single time before we film an episode of what that's good is we always pray for you. And today, Christian and I were praying over y'all. And we were like, you know what, let's pray on the podcast today.

There's a devotional that I do almost daily. It's a daily devotional, but I'm not the most consistent person in the world. But it's the worship initiative devotional. And I love that every single day they pray over you. And they always say, if you get nothing else, at least you got prayed over. And at the end of the day, Christian and I were talking about this. We don't have all the advice in the world, right? Like, we're going to point you towards the Bible. We're pointing towards Jesus. We're going to point you towards the best advice that we have based of our life experiences. But we don't know it all. You have to lead into the Holy Spirit to let God guide you in your life and in your circumstance. So we're going to speak in. We're going to bless you. But also,

the most important thing that we could do for you is pray for you and trust that God's going to meet you where you're at in your life. And so we're just going to pray for you. God, I thank you so much for every single person who's listening to this podcast. God, I thank you that this is a day that you have made. We will rejoice. We are so glad to be in it. God, I thank you that you have the listener in mind, that whoever is listening to this right now, you knew they were going to hear this today. And maybe this is going to be an answer to prayers that they've been praying. Maybe they've been seeking your counsel on things or asking these big questions. And maybe today you're going to use Christian and I to speak right into that. And so, God, I just pray that you would fill us with your

spirit so that we could speak to your child on the other end of this podcast. And God, I pray that we would bless them, encourage them. I pray that they would know at the end of this podcast and all in between how love they are, how celebrated they are. God, I thank you that hopefully through this podcast they will come to love you more, know you more, and feel more loved and known by you. And so, God, I thank you for this time. Thank you that this podcast is going to come at the perfect time in the listener's life. And God, we just thank you so much for what you're doing in their life. Lord, bless them, keep them, make your face shine upon them. Be gracious to them, God, and fill them up with peace. And it's in your name we pray. Amen. All righty, let's get to the

voicemails. Let's get to the woe line. Hit it, Josh. Josh is our producer. I see. My name is Haley, and I'm so excited to be calling in. I've been following you since we were both about 16, 17 years old, so it's been a long time now. My question, and need for advice is how to stay hopeful that God will provide a Christian man for me when I'm living in a worldly city. I live in New York, and I'm plugged into my church and my community, but there aren't any eligible bachelors in those environments, and everyone I meet outside of church is not a Christian. It's really hard to not give up or to settle, and I'm having a tough time. Thank you for being a sister and a friend when I needed one. I love you. That's so sweet.

Such a good and relatable question. It was so relatable. right? Was it Haley? Right, Haley? Haley, thank you so much for leaving that note and also shout out to being each other's sister and friend from afar. It's so cool. You've been tracking since we were 16. That is a long time, so I love that so much.

Such a relatable question, a question that we get asked a lot. I was just talking to some girls the other day about this, and it's interesting that you were talking about living in a big city and there's not an eligible bachelor who's, you know, faith-based and all that, because I was

talking to people in a small town and they were saying the same thing in a different way. There's nobody here. There's not enough people here. There's no eligible bachelor. And I was telling them, I said, you know, you just really can't limit God to a city. To a city. I mean, truly, I was living in Louisiana. I mean, sorry, I was from Louisiana. I was living in Nashville. Christian was from Florida. He was living in Auburn, Alabama. And somehow we meet. You're on a vacation. On a vacation. I'm on a vacation. You know what I mean? And so, You really can't limit God to a city, limit God to a singular location. The way that you're going to meet your husband is going to be a divine time.

It's going to be a divine setup. I really believe that. I believe that God has your guide for you. And I think the most important thing that you can do as you wait and stay hopeful is pray. So those seeds of prayer. I mean, one of the coolest things about Christian and I's meet up. I mean, I always say this to girls because how do I find my husband? And I say, I wouldn't have found a Christian if I was.

trying to look for him in the sense of God just really set that up. I would have tried to find you, but I would have never found you. You were trying. You were doing some. Yeah, but I'm saying, but I never would have found him. Yeah, because it's just bigger than that. And when I look back at prayer life and how that aligns, it's really cool because Christian actually sent me at this DM in January of 2017 that I never saw until, you know, a year and a half later whenever we finally met on that vacation. But what's really cool is February in 2017. I have a year and a year and a half later, a note on my phone, on my app, the notes app on my phone. And I was praying for my future husband. And it was really, really cool because some of the prayers that I was praying for him really did align

with what he was going through in his life, which we never knew until literally we were about to get married. I remember I found that. And I was like, this is so cool. And knowing Christian's Testament, I was like, when did that happen? Wait, that's so crazy because I was praying for you in that. And so even though your relationship isn't starting now, it's really cool how God, already has your relationship in mind. So sow seeds of prayer, talk to God about those things, because then whenever you do meet that person, it's going to be more obvious. It's like, oh, of course you're the guy. Like, you're the guy I've been praying for. You're the guy that God has led me to. And yeah, just don't limit God. He can do so much. Just stay, I would say,

keep positioning yourself in places that it would make sense to meet your spouse. Church is a great place to meet your spouse. You want to meet someone like-minded. And so again, we met on vacation. You can meet anywhere. But going to church, putting yourself out there, showing up places, going on dates, meeting up with friends. Studying at the coffee shop. Yeah, come on now.

Well, because it's even cool, even being in New York City, like, I feel like that there's so much optimism of things that could happen in New York City. It could be next week and your husband can move to the city and show up at the church. You never know. The guy that you're going to date that would might become your husband. Like, you just never know. Or you can be at the coffee shop and this person just moved here last week and they're trying to find a church.

and you invite them to church. Like that's the cool thing about the big city is that even though it's a secular environment, you know, the possibilities, I feel like are endless of things that could happen. So yeah, I think that obviously,

you know, man plans a step, man plans is, makes his plans, but the Lord establishes his steps. So make the plans. But at the end of the day, ask the Lord to guide your steps.

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I just have been dealing with that from the past of being in a relationship and ultimately ending in just rejection and hurt because that person just didn't end up having the same feeling. So I was wondering if you could speak on how to deal with that and just also just to reconcile and wrestle with that as well as just to rest in that the Lord is our portion and that he's enough. So yeah, thanks so much for doing this. So so like vulnerable of you to share that with us and thank you for calling in saying that because I know so many people listening this podcast are probably like same. I've experienced that in some way or another. And it's such a hard feeling and such a like hard one to wrestle with. I think so many people I probably

experience on a lot of different levels. Sometimes that's relationships with like a guy that you're dating or a girl that you're dating and then sometimes it's like a friend that you feel rejected by or a family member you feel rejected by. And I've certainly felt those things in my life too. I would say one of of things that I've experienced after experiencing rejection is there's such a like, there's that part of it that feels like, oh, like so shattering that you got rejected by somebody or that somebody didn't love you or, you know, like you enough to stay or whatever those things are. I think the first thing you have to do is weed out the lies that the enemy will try to, you know, root in you is that you're not lovable because he didn't love you. Well, that's not true. He has his own stuff.

There's so many things that maybe were insecurities in his life or things that he had going on or his personal thing that God was dealing with him that really has nothing to do with you, you know? And so first of all, you're just got to say, just because he didn't love me, doesn't mean I'm not lovable. I am lovable. I am love because God created me, loves me, gives me purpose, gives me hope. Just because he didn't like me, doesn't mean I'm not likable. Just because he didn't think I was funny, doesn't mean I'm not funny, you know, whatever it is, you know? And so, like, root yourself in the truth of what you know, what you know is true based of what God says about you not how that person acted towards you or treated you.

After you weed through that and go through the heartbreak and the reestablishing what is true in your identity, I think one thing that is cool is every, and I'm really speaking to like relationships or friendships. If you're rejected by family members, I know that that's a whole other ballgame that I would advise counseling in. If it's somebody that you have to stick it out with. But when it comes to like, okay, someone, I was. dating or someone that I was friends with just totally rejected me, totally kicked me all that

stuff. After the hard part, I feel like every closed door, it leads you to another one that you can open. You know, every no leads you to the right, yes. And so I think sometimes what I've seen is I'm like, oh, that stinks. Oh, that's the worst. But also on the other side of it, like God's setting you up for a better relationship, like someone who will treasure you, someone who will love you, someone who will love those quirks that that person didn't see as, you know, the treasure that they are. We're in a friendship. It's like, oh, that stinks. Oh, that was terrible.

We're in a job. Oh, man, that really hurt my pride or that really hurt who I am. But now I get to step into a new job. Now I get to step into new friendships. And so it kind of creates this new beginning for you in a new relationship, a new job, a new opportunity to be accepted in a space and to actually, like, thrive in a space instead of living in a relationship or a job where you're not. welcome or not wanted, if that makes sense. And so even though it's so hard, it really does get

you where you're going. I always say every breakup gets you where you're going. You're only going to marry one person. So if that's not the one, you got to move on. And it's kind of the same thing in other areas of life. It's like, okay, if that's not the job for me, thank God, even though that was hard, help me to not, you know, grow roots of insecurity, help me to not plant these things that are not true. I know I'm loved. I know I'm capable. I know that somewhere I will be wanted and then move forward go to the place that you are wanted go to the place that you can thrive go to the place that you are accepted and so yeah i think on one hand it's really shattering and really hurtful but on the other hand it sets you up for a great opportunity in new spaces where you

really can be accepted that's really good yeah i think well first off i think you're it's it's bold to to seek counsel on that to to admit that because we all have that fear of rejection um So just to say making the first step of calling, being vulnerable to ask that is a, it's a huge first step. You brought up counseling. And I would advise really in any areas with that of seeking counsel, like a counselor, a person to talk to in person. Because even for me, it's because like you said, it does spiral. it's if something like that happens and then you look up and you know you get kicked out of the group message that's happened to me before it's like you say something maybe dumb and then you get kicked

out of the group message and then you feel that rejection and it might not be something you know it could have just been an accident or something like that but then you take it so personal um or for me at times i've confessed this to you it's like if i don't get if my friends don't invite me to something uh and i see they're all hanging out i'll i'll feel rejection And it might, you know, not have been anything personal. But I think sometimes something like that can happen. And then you don't address the lies. You spiral.

You spiral. And then you look at all these smaller things. And then you feel that same feeling when it might not be that deep. So for me, I've had simple things like that that I've had to address in counseling because I don't want something bigger to happen. And then it becomes this all-consuming, truly rejection of my identity. So for me, I found the smaller things when I can feel a certain way, that's when I need to go get help, not waiting for the bigger thing to happen.

And then going there, it's like, now these smaller things, eventually it can accumulate to where, if you don't address it now, then it can't become detrimental. But so sorry that happened to you. That is so real. Yeah, I think humans, yeah, it's like just a fear of everyone feeling rejected. It makes me think of Lauren Nagel's song. you say because it's like

I keep fighting voices in my head that say I'm not enough every single lie tells me I will never measure up and then she's talking about like this lie

of rejection that we've all felt like we don't feel like we're good enough we don't feel like we're enough and then she speaks the truth that you say I'm loved when I can't feel a thing so it's like

I'm speaking the truth over myself even though the lies telling me the complete opposite like you're saying I'm loved even whenever I don't feel that way you're saying I'm strong

even whenever I feel that way. or alpha and weak. And so when you feel rejected, it's you really do have to lean into God where you are fully accepted as your identity so that you don't start acting out of the insecurity of the rejection, either man put on you or you put on yourself. That's good. That's great. Next. Hi, Sadie. The thing that I really need advice on is I remember the day and the time that I asked Jesus to save me, but how do I deal with the feelings of doubt that, keep coming up that that I've done something to lose my salvation or I've done something that maybe I've just not quite needed to cut.

Thanks. I wish I had my Bible. Do I have my Bible? Let me see real fast. Do you have your phone? Yeah, break out the word for this. Okay. I feel like we should go to Romans 8.

You got Romans 8. I got First Corinthians 15. Okay, you go there and then I'll hit Romans. I love this verse. I hope it's comforting. To some people, it might not be, but to me it's super comforting. So this is 1st Corinthians 15 versus 1 through 2. So this is Paul writing to the Church of Corinth. He says, now, brothers, I want to remind you of the gospel that I preached to you, which you received, and on which you have taken your stand. by this gospel you are saved if you hold firmly to the word that I preach to you.

Otherwise, you have believed in vain. So for me, you know, you have Romans 109, you have Romans 8, there's all these salvific verses in the New Testament. And for me, I don't know, there, there's something about that verse that Paul's writing. It's a, I just love it. He says, by this gospel, you're saved if you hold firmly to it. And it's this idea of, yes, we all doubt. And that's what's so beautiful about the Bible.

You read, go read the Psalms and read David. You have Psalm 22, my God, why have you forsaken me? And Jesus quotes that on the cross. Like, I don't think Jesus was doubted in that moment, but you have David in these Psalms running from Saul. You have these crazy moments in King David's life to where he's doubting. He's doubting the promise of his anointing and of the kingship. And something about that for me with Paul, I don't know, it's comforting.

it's this gospel saves you if you hold firmly to it um and that idea of through the trials it's it's it's it's continuing to pray god help me in my unbelief help me my doubt you have the story in the new testament where jesus is going to go heal uh i believe it's this is the centurion son and he says i believe it helped my unbelief and jesus marvels at that and there's something beautiful about admitting when you're doubting when admitting when when you're struggling um to have to have have the faith. So like I said on the last question, just even having the, you know, the wherewithal to admit that and confess that and ask for guidance, I would say you're further along than those people who aren't thinking thoughts like that. This season has been so full in the best way.

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slash woe. These questions are so good and that's what we were like blown away by the voice memo because you guys are truly seeking the lure which is so beautiful and that end of itself like it just shows the posture of your heart. I would say this. I love what Christian just said because he went with more like doubting on doubting faith and stuff. But when I heard in your question was a lot of like doubt of your own salvation.

Like I know I was saved, but I doubt because I messed up. And I just want to encourage you, you're not saved because you did anything to earn it or deserve it. You are saved because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. And so you don't have to doubt like, we're not doubting ourselves when it comes salvation.

Like that really is like doubting that Jesus did what he did and that that was enough. I don't doubt Jesus. Like Jesus sacrifice was enough. Jesus was perfect. And so yeah, if it was on me, I'd really doubt myself because I mess up all the time

because we all do because we're human. But that's the beauty and the grace of God that he did sin as one and only son so that Jesus did what we couldn't do. Jesus did it on our behalf. And so we don't have to doubt where we stand. with God because we messed up, whenever God sees us, like he's seeing the sacrifice of his son. And so I want to read Romans 8 because this is like, this says it all, but it says there is therefore

no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. So that feeling that you're feeling, oh, what if I messed up? But I know I would say, but I'm not really sure because now there's no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the spirit of life has set you free in in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done with the law weakened by the the flesh, essentially what he's saying. So the laws in the Old Testament, whenever, you know, God gave the law to Moses, the Ten Commandments, but way more than Ten Commandments, like so many laws. And it was, you got to do this if you're going to stay holy enough to enter the presence of God. Well, we couldn't uphold the law, just like the Israelites couldn't, because we're weakened

by the flesh, because we're human and we just can't get it right. So what it's saying is God did what we couldn't do because we're so weak. By sending his one and only son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, he condemns sin in the flesh in order that the righteousness required of the law might be fulfilled in us, who not according to the flesh, but according to the spirit. For those who live according to the flesh, set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live in according to the spirit set their mind on the things of the spirit. for to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the spirit is life and peace.

So when you start thinking about what you did, everything you've done, how you got to measure up, how you got to maintain righteousness, that just leads to death. Like that's turmoil. But to set your mind on the spirit that Christ Jesus did for me what I couldn't do for myself, that results in life and peace.

And so I just encourage you when you start going down that spiral of doubt, just start thanking God for Jesus. Thank you, God, that Jesus did what I could not do. Thank you that he was spotless and blameless and perfect. Thank you that he upheld righteousness. Thank you that he did that on my behalf so that when I come under that blood, that's how you're able to see me as holy and righteous and pure. You know that song, it's only by the blood? Sometimes we sing these songs and we're belting out and we're dancing around and no one knows what it means.

Y'all, it's only by the blood. It could have only been the blood of Jesus when it says, does anybody want to be holy, righteous? is purified and spotless. How could you be that other than the blood of Jesus? And so I just want to encourage you, I hear so many people doubting their salvation, so many people doubting if they're good enough for God and to earn God's love and to enter heaven. And I'm like, yeah, the same people doubting that are the people screaming this song only by the blood at the top of their lungs. That's how you don't doubt. It's only by the blood of Jesus. And so I'm so glad you asked that question. That's so real. and I know that's going to speak to so many people who are listening to this.

That was so good. And then it was not this interiors son. It was Jesus healed the young boy with the mute spirit. So just to clarify that. And then last thing I was saying, I was reading this on the plane. Luke 7, it's when Jesus is, he's dining with the Pharisees. And the woman, you know, anoints Jesus. And then is a weeping over on his feet.

And then dries her tears with her tears with her. with her hair. And Jesus says, verse 50, your faith has saved you. Go in peace. And then Luke 8, it's the similar thing. This is the woman with the blood discharged. And he says, daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace. So I want to, I want to talk to someone like Lisa Harper. I'm like, because it's the same idea.

Daughter, your faith has saved you. Go in peace. Then the next one says, daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace. But just that idea of like, because the Pharisees is like critiquing this woman in front of Jesus. And Jesus is telling this woman who is at the time sinful because of things she had done. And Jesus says that your faith has saved you. And something about that to me was just so beautiful of Jesus looking at this woman who in her day was deemed sinful. The Pharisees were judging her or critiquing her.

And it was the faith that she had that Jesus says your faith has saved you. go in peace. So just wanted to say that verse. I read that issue. I thought it was really powerful. It's cool. So I think ultimately, like, yes, your faith matters so much.

There's room for doubt. Yes, God can handle all of that. But ultimately, what you come back to is it's not on you. It really is not all on you. Jesus really did do what we couldn't do. And I love even just finishing out Romans where it says, those who are in the flesh

cannot please God. like we can't please God, but at the same time, God loves our faith. God loves when we ask for faith to believe whenever we come with, you know, repentant heart. So like, there is something on you to do. There's belief, there's faith, there's repentance, there's accepting salvation, there's all of that. But at the end of the day, you could never earn, you know, you couldn't do it. Like, God just loves you so much. Like God did it on your behalf. And so take rest in that. you can do something, but he did everything. Like John Tyson says, God comes where he has wanted.

I think if you want God, he will show up. It's good. In your doubts and your questions. It's good. Hey, my name is Jordan, and I kind of have a deeper question. A few years ago, my family was in a car wreck, and sadly, my mom and sister both passed away. Ever since, I have questioned, can prayer change the outcome, or is your story written and prayer won't change the ending?

And if so, how do you not be discouraged and praying for things in life? Thank you. Wow. First off, Jordan, I just want to say I'm so deeply sorry. I can't imagine the pain of that. And I can only imagine that it would definitely make you question why even pray if what's going to happen is going to happen. and why would that happen and all of those things. And I just want to speak to first in an empathetic way of I really can't imagine.

And I'm so sorry. And thank you for trusting us with that question and coming with your deep question. This is this moment, this voicemail is for that. You can ask anything. We always say we're a sister and a friend to those who don't have one and we mean it. Sister and friend, we can laugh together, we can have fun together, we can dance, we can sing. we do all the silly stuff. By the end of the day, it's the realest relationship. You know, you ask the hard questions. You say those things. And said, thank you for coming with that question.

The first thing that comes to mind when it comes to why I pray if the outcomes already fixed is Jesus in the garden, like Gassimony, when Jesus knew what was going to happen. He knew that he was sent to die on the cross. That was what he had to do to be the sacrifice, to be the perfect lamb, sacrifice on behalf of all mankind, but at the same time, although he knew that was what was going to happen and needed to happen. He did not want that to happen. I mean, that's a horrible situation to have to go through. The circumstances were not ideal. He was going to be taken by the Roman soldiers. He was going to be beaten, whipped, crucified, did not want that to happen. And so Jesus was so worked up about it that it says that he was literally sweating blood. I mean,

this was like true stress, but he was praying. And he was asking the Lord, you know, if there's any other way, would you let this cut pass from me? If there's any other way, would you, would you do, could you take this for me? Like, I don't want to have to do this. And then he would say, but not my will, but yours be done. Then he prayed again, you know, is there any other way? If there's not another way, then it's not, it's not my will, but yours be done. And I think that that's that kind of the way that you have to approach prayer is that God can hear you. There are times in the Bible where God did kind of change his mind about things. I mean, Moses would pray to God and God would change his mind.

I mean, there are times where Paul, you know, was doing things, going to Jerusalem. And he's the spirit of God's like, don't go there, you know, and then Paul goes there. And so there are definitely moments where I think, this is like such a deep theological question. So I want to be careful with how I approach it. This is based on my reading and understanding. I think that there are definitely moments for that. But at the same time, like we don't understand the will of God. We don't understand the ultimate outcome.

We don't know the why. I will never know why your mother and your sister had to pass away. That's just an awful thing. Like I am not going to say and try to sugarcoat it and go, and here's why, because God gets the glory. right. No, it's so hard to understand. Some things are just, we're not going to understand on this side of earth, and that's the hope we have in heaven. In Hebrews 11, it said, all these people of faith died without receiving the promise that they had. I mean, you think about that. You're like, what? The heroes of faith died without receiving the promise. But then it says, for God had something better in mind, and it's talking about eternity to come. And so this world, we don't have the promises we would want to happen, but like we have the promise of eternity. So Jesus is praying in this garden. He's, say, not my will but yours be done. And then it's so interesting because right after he's praying these things, let me just go, it's in Matthew 28. Right after he's praying that, you know, God would you change your mind? God would you do something different? They show up to take him.

Sorry, not Matthew 28. It is. Okay. It's Matthew 26. Let me find it. Okay. So Matthew 26, the betrayal and arrest of Jesus. So he just prayed all this that God would change his mind and God doesn't change his mind. Judas comes, you know, and Jesus says, come do what you are trying to do. And that's whenever Peter whips his sword out, cuts the dudes you're off because he's fighting. He's like, no, this can't happen. Like, we're not going to let y'all take Jesus.

And then Jesus says, put your sword away back into his place for all who take the sword will perish by the sword. And then he says in verse 53, do you not think that I couldn't appeal to my father and he will at once send me more than 12 legions of angels. So stop there for a second because wouldn't you think? Well, he did just appeal to his father. He did just ask his father to change his mind. Jesus just said to God, could you do something different? But he didn't just say that. He said, but not my will, but yours be done. And so even though God didn't change his mind and do the thing that Jesus kind of wanted him to do, which was change your mind, do something different, don't make me have to go through this. Jesus didn't doubt that God was still good. Jesus didn't doubt that God

still had a plan. He didn't doubt his love for him. He didn't doubt that he was there for him. And so he goes, put your sword away. Do you not think if I really asked my father to change his mind that 12 legions of angels would come at my behalf right now and save me? But then verse 54, it says, but how then should the scriptures be fulfilled that this must be so? So he's saying, if, if, I don't do this, then how is it that I will fulfill all of the scriptures of coming and actually being crucified? I'm doing this thing that is the will of God, even though it's not what I would want, but it's God's will and I know the promise that's to come. And so Jesus' story is an example of the promise to come because we see him die, we see him crucified, we see the worst

of the worst happened to him, but then we see three days later, the tomb rolls away, the ground begins to shake. There's a resurrected king. And then not only is there a resurrected king who's alive and well, but he speaks to eternity to come where we're all going to be. And so that's what you had to anchor your hope in. I don't know the why for the suffering right now. I don't know why it has to be like this.

But I don't doubt that God is still good even when my circumstances aren't. I don't doubt that God doesn't love me even when I don't feel that way in the moment. because there's a promise that's yet to come, and it's anchored in Christ Jesus being raised from the dead and giving us the hope of eternal life. And so that's a very deep answer back to a deep question, but prayer is necessary. Jesus not only gives us an example to pray,

and when the disciples say, how should we pray? And he says, our Father who are in heaven, how it be your name, that kingdom come that will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Even he says it there, that kingdom come there will be done, earth is in heaven. But not only does he give us,

us an example of how to pray, he exemplifies how to pray throughout all of his life. If you go read all the Gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, you'll see Jesus pray. Actually, every single tab I have here is moments Jesus prayed, because I want to be reminded that if Jesus prayed, I need to pray. And so, yeah, you don't always know the outcome. You don't always know if it's going to change God's heart or mind. But it's not even always about changing God's heart and mind. It's changing your, it's like submitting your heart and mind to the will of God, even when the will of God is not the outcome you would have wanted, expected, or hope for, or believe for. Okay, friends, if you're waking up in the middle of the night, either sweating or freezing, then this is for you. It turns out that

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Man, you were not lying. This is such a deep question. So sorry that you had to go through that. That's just horrible and traumatic. And I cannot imagine having to go through that. so I'm so sorry. Just to kind of clarify, like Saddo was saying, we, you know, I mean, First Corinthians 11 says who can understand the thoughts of the Lord and who can understand his mind? And I feel like there's certain things in scripture that, you know, even with a theology degree, even with, you know, there are still things that we'll just never know.

You mentioned Moses praying and it changing, you know, the mind of God. First Corinthians, 11th also goes on to talk about how, you know, you can only stand, you can only understand those thoughts through the power of the Holy Spirit. And it's such a, man, I'm trying to figure out how to just kind of what to say. Because it is, these are things we wrestle with. Like, we've prayed, you know, for sicknesses and nothing's happened. We've also prayed and there's been healings. And I think that's the beautiful thing is, is you just keep.

praying. It's a relationship. You keep, you keep seeking advice. And you also have times in the Old Testament where people pray and they're probably eventually glad that God did not answer their prayer, right? You have Elijah who's praying that God would end his life and take him to heaven and God doesn't answer his prayer because that's not what, that's not the plan that he had for them. You have Jonah, who if, if he would have, you know, if God would have done what he wanted him to do, then he would have never gone and saved the Ninevites. Um, one story that I want to read really quick. Um, it's a little bit longer, so I'm going to try to read it pretty quick. But when I think about the power of prayer and the things that this man saw in his life, it's this, this story is so powerful to me. It's, it's David right after he has the affair with Bashiba and she gets pregnant with, uh, his son. Um, and this is right after Nathan confronts him. And, uh, Nathan says that, you know, the son, um, um, shall surely die for his sin. And it's such a beautiful story. So really quick. He said, And the Lord afflicted the child that your eyes wife boarded David and he became sick. David therefore

sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and laid all night on the ground. And the elders of his house stood beside him to raise him from the ground, but he would not, nor did he eat any food with them. On the seventh day, the child died. And the servants of day were afraid to tell him that the child was dead. For they said, behold, while the child, child was yet alive, we spoke to him, and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him that the child was dead? But when David saw that the servants were whispering together, he understood that the child was dead. And David said of the servants, is the child dead? They said he is dead. Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes, and he went into the house of the Lord

and worshipped. He then went into his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him and he ate. Then his servant said to him, what is this thing that you have done? You fast. And I fasted and wept for the child while he was alive. But when the child died, you arose and you ate food. He then said, while the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, who knows? Whether the Lord will be gracious to me that the child may live. But now he is dead. Why should I continue to fast?

Can I bring him back? No, I shall surely go to him, but he will not return to me. And that beautiful, just thinking about all the times David sought counsel from the Lord in times where his answers, his prayers were answered. That's the thing. In this story, you read that David believed that he could change the mind of God because of the old stories, because of things he's seen in his life. And God did not answer his prayer. And it says after the child died, he fasted or he went to the house of the Lord in the temple and he worshipped. And he ate food because he said, the child is dead. I can't bring him back. But he said, I will go to him. And for me, that's just a comforting thing of, of, you know, it's the question you're asking. It's, can I bring him back? And will, will God save him?

And his prayer was not answered. And I think that's something that he probably wrestled with too. And so I think that's a beautiful story of his prayer not being answered and his response after that. I love it the end, too, of that story it says, and God loved them and gave them another child. And, you know, it's like when people go through a misconduct, carriages, to get pregnant again, doesn't bring back the other baby. And that's what's really hard to wrestle with because you're still grieve the other baby. It doesn't solve all your problems.

But I do believe God is a God of redemption. And I think like some people agree to disagree with that statement of like, if it's not good, then he's not done. Because sometimes it doesn't look good in the way that you think of good. That doesn't mean he won't redeem. When you think about Joseph's life, that there's so many stories in the Bible like this one. Like Joseph, we could just ping pong all day long of like, bad things happen, but God was still good. Bad things happened, but God still redeemed. Like Joseph said, you know, it's very famous what the enemy meant for evil. You took and turned it for the good.

And so, yeah, the enemy means evil sometimes. Life is really hard. It's a matter. The world we live in just has bad things happen. But God is still good. and God can still take what was so hard and he can redeem things for good. And some of that we'll see on this side of heaven and some of that will have to wait for eternity to see. But thank you for sharing a bit of your story.

And thank you for asking that great question. Hey, Sadie. My name is Kay, I'm a college student here in Dallas, Texas. And I know it's probably a little unusual for a guy to be calling your podcast. but I grew up watching you on Duck Dynasty and I see the wonderful relationship you have with your husband. You have a beautiful family, so I'm calling to get some advice for myself

and other young men out there trying to find a Christian relationship with a young woman in today's crazy world and once you're in that relationship, how do you keep it Jesus-centered, God-centered, especially in this crazy world? Okay, well, first of Great question.

Should Cade go to New York and meet Haley? I think you should. Is this just a matchmaking service? I think this is. Kate and Haley, either she should go to, no, no, yeah, no. She should not go to Dallas. You should pursue her, fly to New York, figure out what church she goes to, and you should meet her. You're in Dallas.

You're in the, you got American flight. You got an easy flight. You got easy flight, Kate. Easy flight. If they end up together, shout out to the woe line, okay? Shout out to the wo line. Okay, but for all, your question was beautiful. We could officiate the wedding and we could end it with saying, whoa, that was good.

Where did you even big over here? We are. We are. We are. We are. That's a great question. You did not know I was going to be on here. What's up?

I'm here. Great question. So I think he's asking. And how do you keep it? Yeah. Well, I think I really want you to speak into this because. That's why I started talking about. Well, I know.

Christian and I both talk about how we did not date. well before we dated each other. Everybody knows that we could have written two separate masterclasses on not dating great before we found each other. But by the time we found each other, we both so wanted to do it God's way. That was something we said all the time. We want to do this God's way. We want to do this a way that was intended. And I feel like you were really like really trying to do it the right way and maintain this relationship in a godly way. And I remember so many things you intentionally did. I want you to speak to it, but I'll pick up what you missed.

No, that's good. Well, I think, I think, too, the tension is, I think sometimes you can, because I even kind of sometimes found myself doing this in our relationship was like you, you focus so much on maintaining it that it's like you, you think you have to be perfect in it. So, and not that, I don't think I ever did this, but I think sometimes it can become performing. to where it's like she expects me to do this. So like I need to act this certain way. It's like, well, I opened her card her the first time.

So it's like, should I do that the next hundred times to maintain this thing that she loved at the beginning, you know? So I think sometimes you can get in your head of like, I maintain this by always putting my best foot forward and which you should strive to do. But at the same time, you know, I think sometimes you can maybe just, it can become an act. if you try to maintain this, doing things that you know that your girlfriend likes to do, which can become a dangerous thing to where... It's got to be from the heart.

It has be from the heart, yes. But I think, you know, obviously keeping God at the center of it. For me, I don't think I would have maintained our relationship to be healthy and especially God-centered if I did not have guys around me that I could talk to, that I could pray with, that I could confess things to, that I could ask for wisdom on. I had a great relationship with my pastor. Still have a great relationship with my pastor from college. And he would give me advice on how to pursue, you know, questions to ask and things like that.

So for me, I maintained it by seeking counsel around me, which is like what you're doing now, which is awesome. But asking the questions, surround myself with guys that could relate. in part to a situation I'm in and having an elder speak into it, having a pastor speak into it, and not getting so consumed and caught up with, how can I try to impress my girlfriend? I don't know about y'all, but when spring hits, I'm decluttering, deep cleaning, and trying to get our lives together before summer hits, and this year it hit me. We refreshed the whole house, but most of us still sleep in the same old mattress. If you've been thinking about upgrading your mattress, you definitely need to look.

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a godly relationship, you have to be living a godly lifestyle. That's not something that you're going to magically get in a relationship if that's not what you're bringing to the relationship. And Christian had been living a godly lifestyle before we met and I had been too. And so when we met and we both wanted to do it God's way, it was a mutual decision that this relationship is going to be one that honors God, whether we're together or we end up breaking up. We're doing this God's way. And I was telling some girls this other day because they were kind of trying to carry the weight of leading the relationship spiritually.

And I said, the guy needs to lead that. but you're also speaking into that and helping lead it and steer it to. Y'all should both be fighting for the same goal together, and that's to do this the Lord's way. It shouldn't be something one person's fighting for because then you end up fighting against each other to maintain this and there's shame involved and there's you did this, there's you to that. Like, no, you got to be like-minded and both living godly lifestyles if you want a godly relationship is going to make it so much better. Also, yes, the expectation is that we're pursuing the Lord, but not perfection and not

performance. So I always tell girls, don't just date someone for three months and then go, okay, I'm going to marry them. That works for some people. You got to give it at least six months. You got to give it at least six months because anybody can be anything you want them to be for three months, okay? You got to give it some time for them to show who they really are. People, like, you are going to put your best foot forward. You want to be likable. But being loved and being liked are two different things. It's fun to be liked. It's fun to do things that are likable. By the end of the day when you're married to someone and you're going through life's moment and you have children and you go through just different things, you're not going to be likable all the times. You're

not going to have your best foot forward. You want to make sure there is a deep foundation of love and a deep foundation of God, of God's word, of who God is that goes so much deeper than your performance or your likability in the moment or your, oh, I open your door for it. That's so sweet. I love that. I always love when Christian opens my door. But ooh, we are way deeper than that when it comes to why I respect and love Christian so much. And so, yeah, I would say live a godly lifestyle if you want a godly relationship. And yes, surround yourself with community. I think that is a really big thing. Christian was talking to his guy friends all the time, getting advice, getting questions to ask me. And I knew that. Like he would be like, oh, Parker said that I should

maybe ask you this. He wouldn't like try to out like he knew it all. He's like, me and Miles were talking. He was saying this. And I love that because I was like, oh, wow, he talks to his friends about me and he really wants to get to know me deeper. And I just had one of my best friends was in a relationship. And they ended up not being together, but it was so good, like the way that they did it because they were asking each other such great questions.

And it made them realize they're really not compatible and that's okay. And so your questions matter, just like this podcast, y'all are asking such great questions. we're able to speak, you know, hopefully great answers that have some depth to them that are, you know, actually shaping you. You can say service level all day long, but that doesn't get you to the relationship that you're probably seeking if you're seeking a godly one and someone you're going to marry. Yeah, because there is a fantastic question, because there is that authenticity, and I do think the longer you are with someone, you do see their true colors.

And so for us, I'm just thinking about our first major argument was at an airport, behind a magazine rack because I still really struggle with this, but more sure at the time. I've gotten a lot better. But patience, I, there could reach a, I had a certain threshold of patience. And if that just, if that got crossed, it doesn't matter who I was with. And I was with the love of my life at the time. And I was just furious. So all that to say, like, she saw that side of me and we were able to work through it and talk.

but I'm just thinking like I could have suppressed it and been like I'm fine everything's really when it got mirro and I'd be like whoa then it would have been like yeah I'm like what where the world has this been but it's like but I didn't show you that side of me

yeah and so that was such a blessing like that's how you get to know someone and that's how your relationship deepens when you do see the side that's when you start to love someone and not just like someone when you see them on the not so great sides and you still love them because it's like

yeah we all have our things And so Christian, like, I always think I broke up with people for like silly reasons, you know? Like, I mean. Yeah, I did make it so I'm going to say bad breath. Okay. So like some people I'd be like, nope, nope, no, no. I mean, Christian. I'm glad they didn't get it figured out.

Was he perfect? No, he did have better breath. But yeah, there was a patient saying, but I have all my things. I had jealousy issues and I wasn't trusting and I was anxious and like we all have Sadie where the airport and me and the guy at the gate were like getting in this heated argument because I'm on standby trying to catch this flight to fly to fly somewhere with her and he was just not letting me get on the plane. Finally he got so annoyed he said just he said you are annoying me so bad just take the ticket. He just gave me a ticket and he said just please go get away for me.

And then we had a huge argument. We were dating. We were just dating. We were just dating. But it's those things that like I think back to something. something like that to where I could have suppressed that. I could have tried to have hidden that side of my patients. But that was something that you were able to see. We were able to work through it. And I've gotten a lot better at it. It's a relationship. It is a relationship.

It is a relationship. So it's like don't always try to be perfect. You can't be perfect. Don't try to put up a facade and then not actually have the person you're dating and see who you truly are. That's great. Do we have one more? Let's do one more. Hey Sadie, it's Kate. I just wanted to say first that I left through podcast. I listen to it every morning on my walk. And it's just nice to get the word of God, and you're just such an inspiring, godly woman.

So my quick question is, I just, I am almost eight months both pregnant with my first baby, and I had a pretty traumatic birth experience and postpartum anxiety and all that. I know you can relate to that. But I'm just wondering my poor husband, you know, has had to deal with a wife that's not so patient as I have been in the past. And I'm just wondering how to work on that and what your advice is on just having patience

and, you know, being able to work with your husband through that. I hope that made sense, but thank you so much. And I will continue to pray for your podcast and your family. Thank you so much. So sweet. First off, Kate, like, thank you so much. I also resonate so much that you say. That makes sense because eight months postpartum, a lot of times you're like, am I making sense right now?

I think that we should lay, like, you know how there's like Bridezilla? Yeah. There should be like, like, I don't know if it's like postpartum zillam. Or like... No, there shouldn't. You don't think so. That might be bad advice. That's a really bad advice.

Kate, don't listen to him. Don't listen to him. Okay, here's the thing. Sorry. I just was like, just to give it a label. Okay, no. We're not, we are not labeling that. To all the women out there.

Sorry. I hope this just encourages you that every husband probably struggles with the same thing because it is hard. It is hard. We're going through so much and they have no idea. And if they walked in our shoes

for one day, That's also bad advice. Here's the thing. It is hard. It is very hard. Hormones are involved. You just get over simulated. You're so tired. I 100% get it. It is vulnerable to do a podcast after having baby too because you're talking so much in a microphone and like you're going through so much in life. And so gosh, there's been times where I have just felt, I think some people have said to me like, oh, how do you do it? Like you're crushing it. And yes, right here right now, but there are so many moments that I have that are just, I'm exhausted or I feel weak and my body is not regulating right. And I've shared this on Instagram recently

because I actually kids eight months today. But I have had like this crazy hormonal shift lately and it has like made me feel so not myself and has been so hard to deal with. And one of the things that I've seen it affect the most really is like my patients and like my I get, like, frustrated easily or so I was feeding kit the other day. And sometimes whenever I'm feeding kit, I just get really overstimulated fast. So a lot of times I'll feed her in another room because I know myself. And like when Honey and Haven are pulling at me and kneading me, it's like, you just feel overtouched and like overstimulated. And so I can't remember what Honey did, but it just like made me react big. And I was like, honey, I can't remember what I said. And Christian

lives there and he's like, are you okay? And I was like, no. I really don't feel. feel okay right now. Like I feel very emotional. I feel overwhelmed. I feel sad. Like, and I just told him how I felt. And he was able to be like, okay, like, why don't you go take a bath? I got bedtime. And it was so helpful. Now, that's not every night and realistic for every night. You know, we're a team. We operate like a team. There are some nights I might carry the team more. There are some nights he might carry the team more. But for the majority, we're carrying the team together. And so be a team. And so be a It's so important you share when you're not doing okay, when you do need a little extra help. And then when you are able to be more present and do it, like, do it, show up, be the best that you can be, you know?

And so I say that to say, like, it's such a team. It's such a team thing to have a family and to love your family and to just be honest with your family. And to me, like being for both of us, like, quick to apologize. I mean, I even said to honey, honey, I'm so sorry. Mommy was not patient with you earlier. I've had a really long day and I felt overwhelmed, but it's not okay to talk to you like that. And I'm sorry.

So being the first to apologize, being the first to admit when you need some help, I feel like that has helped us thrive in this time. That could be more chaotic because I look at this time of our life and my body has gone through so much. And like hormonally, it's just hard. And then, you know, pregnancies and C-sections are hard to recover from and all that. But genuinely, like this year,

has been one of my favorite years of my life, like the best space we've been in our marriage and with our family. And that's not because it's been easy and that's not because I've done it perfectly. But I think really because we've done it honestly and we've done it as a team. And so I would just encourage you, do it honestly,

be the first to say sorry, and be a team with your spouse. Let him in on it. And Christian, you've done a really great job of helping me through it. Thank you. That was really sweet. Yeah.

You have anything to say other than postpartum zillop? No, just forget I ever said that, Kate. I'm really sorry. But no, but yeah, just to the husbands. Just, yeah, you know, like you said, we don't know what it's like to go through that. So I think constantly just being understanding, you know, we talked about rejection earlier to not always feel in this feeling of rejection. If your wife reacts a certain way to you, it's not always you. Sometimes it's just what they're going through.

But it is hard. It is super difficult. I don't know what it's like to be in those hormones and emotions. But you've let me in on that. It is such a team. We're in it together. And I love you. So thanks for you.

I think that's been cool too. It's like I know Christian doesn't understand that because how could he? And so, you know, you got to give them the benefit of the doubt of like they don't know. But it's really cool whenever I've been like, can I tell you what this feels like? And I, like, will explain to you, like, what it feels like. And you're like, gosh, I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. And it, like, creates a space of empathy instead of being like, you don't know how I feel or whatever.

Like, don't be accusatory. Like, they don't know how you feel. So it's like, hey, can I tell you how I feel right now? Because it's making me feel really sad or it's making me feel like I feel whatever it is, you know? And then you come to this point of understanding. It's an empathetic place. It's a place of compassion. And so that's just rule of thumb for anything in life, you know.

just come at it not with like a you don't do this but it's like here's where I'm at and this would be amazing if you can like pray over me or help me with this or whatever it is and so you're a team you're crushing at Kate you're doing a great job you're a better mom than you think you are you're a better wife than you think you are and keep receiving the grace of God it is sufficient for you when you are weak then you are strong that's what Paul says and it's only true because of the sufficient power of the grace of God and so I just want to say thank you all so much for sending in these questions. I love that we have created a community like this of sister and friends that you don't have to show up even on this and add polish or perfect or say it

right. Like just get it out. Just get it out in the light. And God can do so much when you expose those things in your heart and you get things out in the light. And I hope today bless you. I hope that you feel encouraged. I hope that you feel like someone sees you and is in a similar situation that you're not alone and that ultimately God sees you. He's in it. And so If anything, I hope this pushes you to prayer. Lean into what the Lord's doing in your life and speaking in your life and keep calling into this line. Like I said, we'll have different prompts. Sometimes it'll be fun.

Sometimes it'll be deep. But always feel free to call any time and just leave us a note. And if we can work and into the show, we will. If not, like I said, we're going to have so many. So we'll speak to these things in our Instagram captions. We'll speak to these things and sermons that I'm preaching and books that I'm writing. And so it's so helpful to just hear your voice and know what's on your heart. I hope you have a great rest of your week, and thanks again for tuning in.

Love you guys.