WHOA That's Good Podcast - Unfiltered Tales of Motherhood, Pregnancy, Labor & Delivery | Sadie Robertson Huff

Episode Date: July 29, 2024

Sadie sits down with Freddie, Mya, and Rebecca to answer DMs about pregnancy, labor, delivery, and all things motherhood. Sadie reveals what she craved most during her own pregnancies, and Rebecca relives her crazy and slightly embarrassing bathroom incident after her first baby. Freddie opens up about her struggle with her changing body image before, during, and after pregnancy. Mya looks forward to her first baby’s arrival in the next few weeks, and the sisters agree that giving yourself grace is the key to motherhood. This Episode of WHOA That's Good is Sponsored by: https://carawayhome.com/sadie — Save $150 when you buy Caraway Home’s famous cookware set. Plus when you use the code SADIE at checkout you’ll save an additional 10% off. https://www.drinklmnt.com/whoa — Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase! https://www.covenanteyes.com/sadie — Try Covenant Eyes FREE for 30 days with promo code WHOA. - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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But I've told this story on the podcast before about my birth story about how when I got my, no, they were about to come break my water. He said, I'm gonna go finish up this other birth, I'm gonna come back and I'm gonna break your water. And I said, okay. And as soon as he said that, I just felt like I pooped my pants.

And I was like, no, no, like legitimately. I was laying in bed and I started laughing. And I said, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I was like, I could not stop laughing. I was like fanny myself and mom was like, it's okay. Like mom could tell I was embarrassed. She was like, it's okay, it's okay. Like it happens.

I was like, I just pooped my pants. I was like, I'm so sorry. I'm trying to focus on what you're saying, but I just pooped in the bed. This is before I even had like, this is before. I'm laboring. And he goes, I'm sure you didn't, your water probably just broke.

And I go, nope, nope, that was poop. And he starts to walk over towards me and I'm like, no. I tried to stop him, but I had the epidural, so I couldn't really move. You couldn't move? You were like, only my arm. And then he looks and he goes, your water broke. And like literally when he told me he was gonna break my water,

my water broke on cue. That's actually really cool. That's awesome. I swore I'd poop myself. I didn't know your water just broke. It broke on its own which is really cool because that was something I really wanted to happen. I was like, oh man, I wish my water would have just broken on its own.

I was 41 weeks and then it just broke. That's awesome. As soon as he said that. And I was like, oh my gosh. But it was, I'll never forget that. Like trying to stop him, my body couldn't move. But I was so embarrassed. I was like, no, don't look.

That's funny. People poop all the time. Yeah. Doctors think all the time. It's not. I actually did poop. but not doing labor. It was after and I passed out. I didn't even know I pooped.

Okay, listen, so here's how this podcast is gonna go. As you already been listening to us chat, we actually, we sat down because we were going to answer some of y'all's DMs on pregnancy, motherhood, and postpartum, which we will. But as we started talking about pregnancy, motherhood, and postpartum, we started laughing, telling all these stories, and we couldn't stop telling stories. So we're like, let's just start this thing. And just for your level of how deep this podcast is going to go, there is one question sent in about discernment and motherhood and Rebecca said, that is way too serious for this moment.

So we are definitely telling more funny stories. Currently right now, Freddie had her baby five months ago, which is crazy. Maya is about to have her first baby. She literally is two weeks out from her C-section. Rebecca has had two children, is now pregnant with her third. I have two girls. And so we are just sharing the, the go bad, the ugly motherhood.

And right now we happen to be talking about pooping in the hospital. So Rebecca's poop story is really funny. And as she's telling you, I'm going to keep reading y'all's DMs and we're going to go through these awesome questions. I do want you to start with your poop story. So like obviously a lot of people's fear and labor is like wondering if they're gonna poop or not

but um so that was my question you know and I was really nervous because I'm like I don't want to poop during labor which I didn't but actually they poop like after the labor and so after I had Zane I had a pretty bad delivery and I like really like fourth degree tear and all that and so I was in a lot of pain and so I was like going to bed like they were like you need but you need to use the bathroom before you go to bed I was like, oh no, I just like I was so tired. I was just like done and so anyway so then they kind of made me use the bathroom and then I did and

You know everything went well, and then I went back to the bed and I just sleep You know and so it was three days later or two days later I'm checking out the hospital and we were all, all the family are around. We were talking about how like, oh, it's all great. We can't wait to take the baby home. And I said, you know, it was so great that, you know, I just, cause everyone always also talk about pooping

or peeing after post-partum, you know? And I was like, well actually, I haven't had to poop, that's so great. You know, I'm just going to wait till like, when I get home from the hospital, and maybe at my own home, I'll be like comfortable, and I can use the bathroom. And the nurse looked at me and she was like,

you did poop. I was there when she said this. I was visiting you when she said this. I haven't had to poop, that's so great. And she was like, sweetie, you did poop. I was there when she said this. I was visiting you when she said this. I have a how to poop, that's so great. And she was like, sweetie, you did poop. And I was like, what, when? And so apparently when they made me use the bathroom, I had pastel, like, cause it was like so painful.

I literally pastel and like blacked out on the floor and four nurses like cleaned me up Put me back in the bed never even told me And then I was like I got back up and I just like thought like I had just pee or something And but they cleaned it up never even told me was so sweet about it and like Well, the nurse literally said to you that day, she goes, oh sweetie, you did poop, you passed out. Yeah, yeah. I was like, oh.

And you don't remember passing out? No, I was like, I kind of remember like being in the bathroom and just kind of like, you know, in the little, you know, but I guess doing that a minute or however long, I like, that I really, It's crazy, this is what I always tell people, like going into labor, cause you hear stories like that and you're like,

oh my gosh, I'm like scared. I always say like, you can't really, like don't be scared. Don't be scared of labor. I would never want anyone to be afraid to go into labor, even though like crazy things happen, but there's such a grace for it at the time. Like you don't know that you're prepared for that until you're in that moment and something like that happens. And then like, you don't know that you're prepared for that until you're in that moment and something

like that happens. And then like you don't even remember you're laughing and you're going into your third pregnancy not like scared. And like all the doctors and nurses like they literally have seen it all. They've seen it all. And like it's nothing like surprising them. It's never like a big deal. It's like to you maybe, but it's like to them it's like, you know. It's nothing. Actually, in fact, like it's like to them it's like, you know. It's nothing. Actually, in fact, like it's so funny how even from your

first year or second, things changed so much. Cause I remember the first time being like, I'm so embarrassed. What if I poop? I don't want to poop. And then when I thought I pooped, I was like, don't look, don't look. And the second time, because again,

we were talking about things people don't tell you, no one like, well, people like tried to tell you things and then you don't really get it until you're in it. Like actually the opposite can happen. You can get extremely constipated and especially after having a C-section. This is crazy, but because of like an abdominal surgery, your like gas bubbles can get caught in your shoulders.

What? That's really painful. And they'll be like, your shoulders are probably gonna hurt. It's just gas that gets trapped in your shoulders. What? That's really painful. And they'll be like, your shoulders are probably gonna hurt. It's just gas that gets trapped in your shoulders. And I'm like, oh my. So one of my friends told me about the gas trapped in her shoulders and was like, that was the worst part.

So just like be on the lookout, like try to take stool soreness. So then I'm so scared of not pooping the second time ago that I had them make me what they called a laxative cocktail every like five hours that I could take it and I was thinking that they on the dot I was like not missing that and yeah it still ended up happening to me and it was what it was but you know it's just funny because the grace of the whole thing is that you don't remember yeah you gotta just move on in your life

and you just like okay you look back you're're like, that's just part of like, you know, having this miracle and then you don't really like think about all the. It so outweighs the crazy. But it's funny, cause even today, like it's been a year now since I've had Haven and I went for like my yearly checkup or whatever. And I was like, Christian didn't have anything to do,

so I was like, why don't you come with me? Like, actually please come with me because I really would rather you come with me. Cause't have anything to do, so I was like, why don't you come with me? Like, actually, please come with me, because I really would rather you come with me. Because we have an incredible doctor, but it's a guy, and you know, you're just kind of in there, and you're just like, naked. So, I was like, why don't you come with me? And so, Christian comes with me, and he's like,

oh my gosh, women have to do this every year, this is horrible. I was like, oh yeah, your yearly body pat down, you just gotta make sure. I was like, it's crazy, like, what we go through as women is literally crazy. And he was like, oh yeah, you're yearly body pat down. You just gotta make sure. I was like, it's crazy. Like what we go through as women is literally crazy. And he was like, I literally didn't know that y'all had to do this.

Like this is a lie. I just had to do that the other day. Like my past me or whatever. And John Ray couldn't go. So then I met Hall and going with me. Just did not make it awkward. So she was like, when her daughter and going with me. Just to not make it awkward. So she was in there. When the doctor and the nurse came in, you know,

so we just kind of like, you know, made it light, but yeah. So she's seen it all. Oh yeah. Well, it is. You're preparing her. You know, you're raising her. It's actually funny because today we're all like close to our doctors here.

You know, they've delivered our babies in, it's a small town. And he was like, they were like, you should have brought honey and haywings. I'm like, do I really? No, I'm not bringing, but Rebecca's like, yep, come on, haul it and get the car. That is so funny. Oh man, okay, someone asked,

what were some of our pregnancy cravings? What were y'all's pregnancy cravings? Do you have any weird one? With honey I did with honey. I was like obsessed with lemons like lemonade Lemon pie lemon anything like I just wanted lemon. I remember Parish had like this lemon pie at the time I was like hitting that up. Oh yeah, I was there like every week Like the homemade Jiffy Puff We call it Jiffy Puff. Oh yeah, I was there like every week. The homemade Jiffy Puff. Oh yeah. We call it Jiffy Puff.

Marshmallow Puff? But like, it's like a homemade- But that's the brand. Yeah. Brand, Jiff is the brand. But like, it's like their homemade, it's not from Jiffy, but we all, me and Jarmie always get that and we're always like, the Jiffy Puff.

Yeah, I ate that all the time in like Anything Lemon, which is so funny because she loves lemons and so it is cool to see that she loves those things. Yes. But- I've noticed like whatever you're craving, like usually your kids end up- so funny because she loves lemons. And so it is cool to see that she loves those things. But I've noticed like whatever you're craving, like usually your kids end up loving it. It's true to me, but I don't know. It is true.

Yeah. She loves lemons. She loves lemonade. She would eat lemons like as a baby. I was like, that's so crazy. But then also with honey, I was so sick. So I pretty much ate a cheese potato every single day. Cause it was the only thing I could, I gained so much weight with any,

I was like cheese potato, like bread, pizza, like anything just carbs. I just wanted that. That's all I wanted. And then with Haven, the only thing I craved, and this is so random and so weird because I never ever drink this, is a blue Powerade Slush with nerds from Sonic.

Oh my goodness! Okay! That's so good! I never think about that. I've been craving Sonic too, the slushies. The slushies. Like I wanted something cold and something kind of sour with both of them. And I'm not a sour person.

I don't normally like tart sour, but that's like all I wanted. That's so funny. That's so weird. Those nerd slushies are so good though. I love the grape one. They hit different in that first trimester. They do. Yes.

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I only wanted lemons. Like I had- Did you eat a lot? Like were you more hungry? Yeah, I was hungry a lot. I was so hungry. Me too. I was hungry a lot. I could not get full. Also first trimester is so challenging because you're hungry, but also-

But then you get sick. You're sick. You're so nauseous. So it's like you're hungry and you're nauseous. So you're eating, but you don't want to eat. So it's just like, yeah, it's challenging. I don't have a lot of sympathy for Christian when he, like this is sad, but it's true. Because sometimes like, he threw up after he ate pizza one time recently, and now he won't eat pizza.

And I'm like, if I did not eat the things that I threw up, I would eat nothing. I would have nothing left. I just had to get used to throwing up because I threw up so much. But I would eat such big meals, I would be eat the things that I threw up. I would eat nothing. I would have nothing left. I just had to get used to throwing up because I threw up so much. But I would eat such big meals, I would be so hungry. But I remember like going on this trip, it was our baby moon and we ate this pizza

and I ate the entire pizza. And like in my mind, I was like, that was like more of a personal pan surely. That thing was a large. And I went back to that place after being pregnant and I was like, how did I eat this entire pizza? It is crazy how much you can eat. I know, it's a different-

You're eating for two. It's a different ball game. And you know, people say like, I remember I was with a friend one time and she's very fit and all the things. And she was like, yeah, you know, you really actually don't have to eat more than what you normally eat.

They say like,, she literally said, she said they say it's just like 15 extra pistachios and it kind of equals the same thing. I was like, uh. Wrong. Wrong. Do they say that? Yeah.

Wrong. I missed that part. I was like a whole size up pizza, but okay. Listen, that weight gain during pregnancy is no joke. No joke. Which people ask us about leading right into, how did you handle body changes throughout pregnancy and postpartum, Frederica?

Okay, well, I feel like I just need to share my weight gain story because it's funny now. It was not funny. I don't think you gained that much, did you? Rebecca. How much did you gain? I'm about to tell you how much I gained. So I had a goal going into pregnancy.

I was like, I'm not gonna look at the scale. When I go in, because it's just not gonna be good for my brain, like mentally, I don't need to know how much I'm gaining because I can't control it. Like I love eating healthy. I love working out. I'm just gonna continue to do that,

but I'm not gonna look at how much I'm gaining. To affirm this, one of my most disciplined friends in like her health. In a healthy way, like you love working out. You genuinely love eating healthy. That's your thing. Yeah. So I was like, okay, I'm just not gonna look at my weight because like nothing I can do. Yeah. So every time I go in, the scale, you know, numbers like right there, I'm like always looking up or down. Nurses never tell me anything. They kind of are catching on. Yeah. like right there, I'm like always looking up or down. Nurses never tell me anything. They kind of are catching on.

Well, about, I guess this was halfway, I had a random nurse one time, different. She was like, oh my gosh, this is the first time you've come in and you haven't gained double digits. And I'm like, oh my gosh, why did you tell me that? But in my brain, I'm like, I'm not gonna think about how many times I've coming in. She was like, she's like, in my brain, I'm like, I'm not gonna think about how many times I've coming in. She was like,

she's like, go girl. And I'm like, well. He has a trophy for you. The first like two trimesters, I was eating the healthiest I could and I'm still getting double digits. So I'm like, whatever, I'm not even gonna assess that.

So you're like double digits, you're getting like 10 pounds every time. At least, yeah, at least. I don't know the exact number. No way. So like I walk in the room and like every time Parker's with me, they send him into the room. So like he's not seeing the number. So like I walk in the room and like every time Parker is with me, they send him into the room.

So like he's not seeing the number. And so I tell him like, gosh, she told me this and he's like, well, how many times have you come? I'm like, I don't know. I don't care. I'm not going to think about it. So then I go in for my last appointment. Literally February 12th. I have her on the 13th.

I walk in. They do not send Parker to the room. So he's out there with me while I'm stepping on the scale. He knows I'm not looking. Well, he looks at the scale and then we Parker to the room. So he's out there with me while I'm stepping on the scale. He knows I'm not looking. Well, he looks at the scale. And then we get in the room and he's like, did you look and see how much you ate? He's not being mean.

He was just like curious. I'm laughing because now I know the number. I'm just like, I can't believe it. And I was like, no, I did not look. I said, did you look? And he said, yes, do you want to know? I said, no, I do not want to know. And we go back out in the waiting room. He's like, I'm going to tell you one day. And I was said, yes, do you want to know? I said, no, I do not want to know. And we go back out in the waiting room,

he's like, I'm going to tell you one day. And I was like, no, I truly don't know. He's like, just ballpark, what do you think? And I was like, well, based off of like other friends, like I'm just going to guess I've gained like 50 pounds. To me, I felt like that was giving myself a lot of wiggle room too. So I was like, I'm probably good.

Like that's probably fine. And also I can't believe I'm sharing this story because like pre-baby, I would never share my weight publicly. But it's just so funny. You just have to get over it. You have to laugh about it. You have to laugh about it. I was so swollen.

And so I have her. We come home. It's like a few days after coming home from the hospital. It's maybe been a week since I've had her. And Parker was like, I want you to settle on the scale because I just want to know how much weight you've already lost. Yeah, because a lot of water, weight,

and then we go live again. I mean, it really is crazy. It's more fascinating than anything. Yes. How much you gain and how much you lose and how much you fluctuate with such a short amount of time. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, and he was like, I just want to know.

And it took him a while to convince me. So finally I step on the scale. In like less than a week, I'd lost 25 pounds. Okay, so I'm like, wow, that's great. That must mean I don't, I'm much more than you. Well then. Half way done. Well then.

A few weeks later, I was like talking with Taylor Jopling, which like a lot of us know, spent on podcasts and stuff. And I was like, hey, I just want you to help me get back into like healthy eating habits, like postpartum, but also like I want to keep my milk supply because I'm nursing. So just wanted her to help me with those things. And she needed to know my weight.

So I was like, okay, I can do this. I can step on the scale and see how much I weigh. I stepped on the scale and I was like, so appalled by the number. And I had Parker with me because I was like gosh I cannot believe that's how much I weigh. He was like, do you want to now know how much you weighed? At the hospital? At the hospital or before the hospital and I was like, no, I just don't think I'm ready to know and he's like no

You need to know because you need to feel confident at how much you lost. Yeah, it's part of it. I gained 75 pounds at how much you lost. Yeah, it's part of it. I gained 75 pounds. You did not look like. I look back at those pictures and I'm like, wow, I was, I was big, I was big. It's a slow fade. It's humbling.

It's a slow fade though, and you're pregnant, and it's humbling, but what is crazy is the amount of change that happens so fast. Because it's a nine months span of your life. So all of a sudden you gain 75 pounds in, and you lose 25, and then you think you're back to normal because you're like, oh, I lost so much because any other time in your life,

to lose 25 pounds in two weeks would be crazy. But then you go put on your pants and you're like, yeah, hold up, they don't go past your knees. Or like, you try to put on your shirt and it's not even going over your neck. Like everything's different. I remember a month later, I tried to put on my ring because I go, okay, I'm back to my weight.

It was like here. And so everything changes so much. And Freddie, I'm so glad you told that because that speaks to, it doesn't matter if you go so healthy and you work out and you do the thing. You can have like a very healthy pregnancy and gain 75 pounds. And what's hard about it is you look online or you Google and say a healthy pregnancy, you gain 25 to 30 pounds and then you're like, well, I'm doing everything I can to be healthy.

But all of a sudden I have 75 pounds and I don't know what else to do about it. And I think that that just like frees so many women listening to this to know like, you can have an extremely healthy pregnancy be doing everything right. And still your body just responds differently. And so much of it is water weight too. And water weight doesn't just leave you in the hospital.

It stays with you for a while. As my fingers. And look at you now. You look great. Yeah, you look great, Freddie. That is sweet. I mean, you're only five months out. Yeah, five months was part of it.

And think about, like, your body amazing. Like, it's not just the belly that is getting you away. It's like, your whole body shifts. Like, that's where, you know, your baby's getting all the nutrients and all that. Yeah, it's all intentional. Hey, and you're happy, you know, like that you ate good. Yeah.

Well, and it's so funny, because like Sadie and Grace, another one of our friends told me like four months postpartum is one of the hardest times, because you feel like you should be farther along like than you are, whether it's how you feel emotionally or look. And I remember like, this was exactly at four months, we were like all talking and I was like, yeah, it's how you feel emotionally or look. And I remember like this was exactly at four months,

we were like all talking and I was like, yeah, it's hit me. Like I'm like, I just feel like my jeans should fit better. I feel like I should look like myself a little bit more in my clothes. And it's that four month like marker. It really was for me. It's so funny that people said that because I feel like,

where's that number? Like, who said that? You know like where is that number like we're who said that you know and I really have to be four months yes yes and personally I've been reading a lot of like just like other things and and like they said really it's like two years no no we were saying four months is the hard time I know makes you go like you should go back yeah because when you think of bounce back culture, how people post on Instagram, they're looking at me now or whatever,

you don't see a full picture. I know, that's hard because you don't see a full picture. And even for me, if I get things I've posted, and I wasn't posting it for that to say, oh, look at me bounce back or anything like that. But I can tell, oh, I look smaller. But that wasn't the purpose of the picture. But I can see now from my perspective,

like someone might've looked at that and thought, oh, look at how good. And that's fine. Or bounce back, they said. That's not wrong to like post the picture or whatever, if that's not your intention. But it's also like no from a receivers end that like there's so much you don't see like, there's so much you don't see.

Like there's so much you don't see. And I remember like four months after thinking like, oh, I should be back to myself because that's what you perceive on Instagram and feeling like I was not back at all. And like, oh my gosh. But then I remember a doctor telling me like, hey, it took you nine months to grow a baby,

and then you birth the baby, and you need time and space to like, actually just have, like nurture the baby, like to feed the baby, nurture the baby, do other things. And then it's going to take like a solid nine months for even your hormones to regulate again. And it's going to take like two years to actually like fully be back to not even what you were, but a new normal. And it's so amazing how like, man,

I just, I truly mean this and everything. Like I would not trade where I was at before for where I'm at now from like a body perspective, because I feel so much stronger and healthier and like mentally, physically, in every single way. And part of that is like just being a mom. And it's even funny because my cousin, we were with Ali last week at the beach. She's just like so cute and just got married to like prime body time, you know?

And she was like, Sadie, my arms are sore from hanging out with honey all day. She's like, you're so strong. And it's like, you just carry such a different strength, you know? You carry such a different strength as a mom because you carry such a different strength as a mom, because everything shifts to prepare you to be a mom. Like you said, not just to carry them in your belly, to then feed them and then to carry them with your arms and to the 1 million squats are gonna do a day

to pick up their toys and make up the things and all the things. I'm like the healthiest I've ever been, because I don't really work out, but then I feel like my workout is like, you know, just chasing them. That is a workout. People don't realize how much, like, you know,

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that slam you into the rock of ages. And I love that so much. And I feel like so much of life is riding a wave. Like sometimes you're like under, you know, the rebel, you're like, woo, everything feels a little chaotic. Sometimes you're like on top of the wave and like it feels like a smooth ride, but regardless of where you're at,

let it crash you into something solid, like the truth of who God is. And I think pregnancy, postpartum, all of it, especially with body image, is you just gotta ride the wave. Like you gotta ride the wave and like it's gonna happen. Your body's gonna change. So like start appreciating it from the start. And I think my second time around,

I was able to do that with a lot more grace for myself because I knew what the wave brought me to with honey, you know? And now I'm like, I can appreciate that better with Hayden, you know? And so I remember like we were telling you like all the things to prepare for because it's like, you don't know what you don't know and you're going to have to experience it for yourself. But here's what we experienced and like try to just allow yourself to be where you're at.

And I remember, if it's okay to say this, about you going to buy some jeans. And you're like, I don't wanna go because I don't wanna have to buy so many numbers up from what my original jean size was because that can just get in your head. Like as women, especially women who maybe used to struggle with weight or body image

or excessive working out, which I have struggled with and me and Freddie have bonded over that. And Freddie's like, I don't want to go buy jeans because I don't want to have to like see the number. I was like, the only number you need to worry about is when you check out and they hand you that receipt. That's the number we're going to worry about is how expensive it was.

Cause that's the only thing that actually can give us a burden is the price tag, not the size of the jeans. And I do think we kind of need to reshape our minds like that as women, like, man, it is no shame to like buy the size up. Like ride the wave is part of life. Your body is just so much more than an image.

It's an image of God, which means like there's power behind it, There's purpose. There's something that is able to create. So I don't know, I feel so passionate about that. Maya, how do you feel nine months pregnant? I cannot believe you're nine months pregnant. Yeah, well, I feel nine months pregnant. It's been rough.

It's at the point where in the middle of the night, when I have to go pee, it's like Isaac has to push me up out of the bed. I have to go pee, it's like Isaac has to like push me up out of the bed. Like I cannot sit up on my own. I feel like I have like a bowling ball attached to me, you know, just taped to me. But I was gonna say something that really helped me in my pregnancy at the beginning,

someone had told me, they were like, you just have to like trust God and how he made your body. And like your body knows what to do. And you just have to trust that like it's doing its thing. It's doing what it's supposed to do. So like, no matter like what happens, like whether it's, you know, gaining 75 pounds or it's the complete opposite, like whatever it is,

like you have to trust that like your body's doing what it's doing. Like just because it looks different from like the person next to you doesn't mean that like something's wrong with you or like God messed up on you or something's wrong with your baby or it's not healthy or that you're not healthy,

but instead it's just like your body knows what to do. Like it's gonna do what it's supposed to do. And you know, if it doesn't do what it's supposed to do, like there's doctors there of course to help that the Lord puts in our lives as well. But it just gave me a lot of peace to know like, okay, this is so true. Like if whatever happens or whatever I look like, like, I can find peace and joy in knowing that like my body looks like this because like the Lord is blessing me with

something that's so beautiful and a miracle and I'm just gonna have to trust that like this is what is supposed to happen. So true. And so I feel like that gave me a lot of peace, not saying that I have not struggled with looking at yourself and being like, okay, none of my clothes fit. And then we were talking about doing maternity pictures and I love where they wear the little jeans and they're unbuttoned.

And I was like, oh, I can do this. And then I went to put on my old jeans and I was like, of course they're not gonna button. I couldn't even get them over my hips. Like I was like, okay, yeah. So I had to buy new jeans that don't button for the pictures. That are supposed to be jeans that are already there.

You know what I mean? So then it's just like things like that. But I feel like it's one of those things where I have been able to just like laugh through it. I feel like the Lord has really like been with me through that because I was really worried about it too. It is like, okay, body image and worrying about like weight gain and like letting it consume me. Like I did not want that to consume my

pregnancy like whatsoever. I did not want worry to consume my pregnancy. Like I just truly wanted to like live in the moment and like take it all in. And so like my prayer like sorry, I'm out of breath because you know, But I like prayed like leading up to before I got pregnant and like even during my pregnancy like Lord like when I become pregnant like please just like Let me just love it and just like let me enjoy it like even Like even whenever it's like the mornings of throwing up, even it's when I'm nauseous, even whenever I feel sick or even if there's complications, like please just let me see like the light in it

and like you in it. And so like looking back at my pregnancy now, like being nine months down the road, I like, it makes me emotional because it's just like, truly like I have loved this experience. Like even I'm not saying it has been perfect because it has not. And it was a journey to even get to being pregnant.

So like it wasn't even like that, but it's just like the light, like just seeing that the Lord, I just was wanted to enjoy, I wanted to find peace, I wanted to find joy and light and happiness in it. And I feel like the Lord like really allowed me to do that and really took like this sense of worry away from me

in multiple things, just worry about being a good mom, worrying about my health, worrying about what I look like. I feel like the Lord really was with me doing all that. So that was probably my experience with it. But not to say that it was perfect and I did not struggle with those things, because did. But you know you're gonna have those days but then you can step away from those hard days and like no like I told myself I wasn't gonna hone in on this. I wasn't gonna be focused on this. Like I

want to focus on these other things instead of this. And so I tried to be very intentional with that. This pregnancy. That's so good. I actually was texting a friend recently who just found out she's pregnant and she was like super morning sick and she was like, oh no, I'm starting to throw up week seven. I know you said week seven is when you started to throw up and then she said, but something in me kind of

was just happy about it because she had been trying for a long time and she was like, I felt like joy that was throwing up because I know the reason why. It meant that you were pregnant. Yes, and I said to her, I said, I felt like joy that was starting up because I know the reason why. It meant that you were pregnant. Yes, and I said to her, I said, I felt the same way genuinely, and I just encourage you like keep that joy and that gratitude because it'll help you so much.

And I thought about that verse, like consider it pure joy when you face trials of many kinds. And it goes on to say, for you know that those trials are producing perseverance. And I was thinking about how in birth, it's such a beautiful picture of like considering something joy,

because you are so joy-filled, because it is so joy-filled, even though it's a trial, it's in a lot of ways really hard, especially when you're throwing up. Like for me, it was not morning sickness, it was 24-7 sickness. I'd get out of bed at night and throw up often. I mean, it was just all day for 17 weeks straight,

but yet I knew what it was producing. And if you lose that sense of gratitude, you can so easily go into the misery of it. But I heard someone on this podcast say a long time ago, it doesn't make people feel good when you, what did they say? It was like, it doesn't make people feel good when you don't acknowledge a blessing you've been given

or a gift you've been given. And I've been around people who are pregnant who are like so negative and I know it's hard. Like obviously we all know it's hard, but when someone has a gift that so, so many other people desire, and even you've seen like the beauty of the gift, like you have your own children,

you're like, oh God, I like you have your own children you're like oh god i wish you could just consider it joy you know because it's okay to have your moment and you never know talk like someone's going through and just say to a friend like this is hard i wish this would happen to me i wish yes and like it's you got to have your spaces like to like talk to your friends like this is hard you know and it's fair to like acknowledge your feelings but like the over excessive like negativity where it's like no this is something to count as joy you know so I think that's cool. Yeah and having to find the balance of the two like yeah of course you're gonna have hard days and of course you should be able to confide in your friends when you are struggling but at the end of the day also being like, this is a joyful time and loving it, you know?

Yep. Okay, let's see some questions we have. How did you know you were ready for kids? You actually told me one time, I don't know if you remember this, so you're going to Jackson for Bella's birthday when we first moved here, and you're like, do you and Parker want kids?

And I was like, yes, but not right now. And I don't know if I asked you or you just told me, but you were like, a good test is like, if you get your period or if you don't that month. Cause like, if you don't get your period, that's like a good indicator of like, oh, you want that. But if you're like, oh, sigh of relief, like I'm glad that I have my period.

It's like, that's a good indicator. And I was like, I've never thought of it that way. Like it just kind of is like a quick way to go, okay, I'm like getting more ready or I'm like, no, I'm still really not ready. That's how I knew because with Haven, I remember telling my mom, it was June of like, before I got pregnant with Haven.

So I got pregnant in September and this was June. And I remember telling mom like, I don't know how like I'll know if I'm ready to have a second. Like, how would I know that? Because with Honey, it was kind of unexpected. And then I was like, how will I know when I'm ready for a second? I mean, it was a little unexpected.

I know, but- I didn't trust the app, okay? The app said it was the day when I was like, surely this app doesn't know me. I just know when it happened and where. It's just so funny. She's exposing me right now. I didn't know and I did because the dang app told me.

She didn't listen. My flow app I've had for years said, you'll get pregnant this day. And I said, what does an app know? The app knew more than I thought. Yeah, family vacation. It's exposing because everyone. Hey vacation, that's where it happens, okay?

It's just the funny experience. The fact that y'all even know that is embarrassing, but it's what it is. Now we know, cause we like. It is what it is, cause we told them later, cause it was too funny not to share. But I remember this was June, and I said, I don't know how I'm gonna know

if I'm ready for a second. And then the next morning, we were in Copenhagen. That was when we were with Bella Jacob, and it was Christian, honey, my mom. And I was at breakfast with everyone, and I was just like, I'm about to throw up. And I ran to the bathroom, and I threw up, and I came back to the table,

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and it was negative, but we were like, oh, it's just too early. Like it's gotta just, sorry. I didn't silence with him. I was like, it's too early, it's just gotta be too early because I definitely am pregnant. And then I started my period and I was sad. And I was like, yeah.

And I just said to mom the day before, how am I gonna know? And then I was like sad I wasn't pregnant. And which I didn't expect. Like I just didn't expect that. But I think just like a day of thinking like, oh, I'm pregnant again, oh my gosh. Like it got me excited for that and opened my heart.

So then me and Christian started talking about it and started trying again. And we were grateful that a couple months later, we were able to get pregnant. And so yeah, I think that's a good little test to just be like, okay, now I know. And it's not a super deep answer, but it genuinely just kind of checks your heart.

That's so true. I'm excited or I'm like, I'm not excited, which I mean, that's a whole nother thing to talk through. But it's like, that's a good little indicator. Because sometimes you get your period and you're like, whew, and sometimes you're like, aw. Yeah. Rebecca, Rebecca was definitely didn't know

she was ready for three. Sometimes you know you're ready when the test is positive and you get yourself ready. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, Rebecca. A true shock. Yeah, I'm not gonna get into that today. Rebecca's trying to expose me over here.

I say, I gotta be fine to you too. I'm just kidding. All right, let's see. What are some other questions? Okay, this I thought was really good. This is a little bit deeper, but how do you handle the fear of not being or doing enough as a mother?

I think this, I thought about this question when you were talking about being prepared for pregnancy, that like your body was made to do this, you know? And I remember watching these videos called built to birth. And I love that. Like her little thing was like, you're built to birth. And the whole thing was just really encouraging because she's like, your body's built for this.

Like it's naturally gonna happen. Like at the end of this, the baby will come out. And then of course, you know, you have the doctors and nurses there to help you if anything happens. Like in our case, it did happen. But I think in the same way, like you're built to be the mom. You know, like I think you have to know, and I've told a friend this,

and I don't know if it was one of y'all, we were talking about this, and like, you're the person for the job. You know, like, no one else is the person. I read this thing too, like, say something about, along the line, like, you're not going to be the perfect mom, but you're the perfect mom for your kid. Exactly. You know, and so like, it's like, you always like, I feel like, about comparison yourself to like Instagram or on social media, it's like you always like I feel like about comparison yourself to like Instagram or on social media

It's like I think that's kind of hard I think that kind of take the joy away from like a lot of you know And I feel like the guilt comes from a lot of like other people's opinion or it's like what you see So, you know just really try to like yeah be in the moment and like knowing that you are the perfect mom for your kid. Yeah, it's like you are the person for the job. You're the perfect person for your kid because you're the mom. You're the mom, yeah. I always think about that like with Honey and Hayley because someone also talked about mom guilt.

There are times that I'm like, you know, some people work, some people don't work whenever they have kids. And I think sometimes whenever you work, you feel like this guilt for like leaving during the day. But then like, I know God called me to what I'm doing and God also allowed me to be their mom. And both can be something that he's equipped me for. And I know I'm the best person for the job to be their mom and best mom to them because I'm their mom

and I do the best that I can. And then also I know that God prepared me to do the job that I'm doing and has graced our family to be able to do both. And so I think like whatever your circumstances, just trusting that like God made you the mom, and he trusts you with that child. And so one, like don't abuse that. Like just the fact that you're the mom, you know? And he trusts you with that child. And so, one, don't abuse that.

Like, just the fact that you're the mom. Yeah, like, actually be the best. Be the best you can be. Wake up every day and be the best mom you can be. Find the confidence in knowing you're giving it your absolute all. But not the best compared to you. The best compared to you. Because it's gonna look so different. Everyone's family is so different.

Every kid is so different. Yeah, absolutely. I feel like that's so true. I feel like one of the biggest fears I have had has been like, oh, am I gonna be a good enough mom? But it's like stemming from being a people pleaser and being like, oh, what if my kids don't think I'm a good mom? Or like, what if my daughter doesn't think I'm a good mom? Or like, what if my daughter doesn't think I'm a good mom?

Or what if other people, when they see like what I choose to do, they're like, oh, why is she doing it like that? Or I would never do that as a mom. And I feel like on social media, everyone is so opinionated now on everything. And it's just like every decision you make for your family, you get judged for or people have a comment about. Or, yeah. And so then it's like, and then I'm also an over-thinker on top of that, so then it's like, people pleaser?

And then you're like, oh no, maybe I am doing this wrong, maybe it's not like my mom intuition, maybe it's like something completely different. And so I feel like that's where a lot of my fear comes from is like being a people pleaser and an over-thinker, you know? I think there's a lot of good can come from Instagram and like, you know, there is like a lot of like good like information out there if you know how to take it or not. But like, but it can be super toxic if you were like trying to like, you know,

like a lot of opinions out there too. So like you just have to find the balance to like how to use that. And there can be support from social media, but then there can be super negative stuff on it. I think that's why you really do like parenting, it's like marriage. Marriage with God is what makes it like make sense and go well, you know?

Cause you have this like firm foundation. I think parenting is the same way, like getting to parent with God, like getting to parent with God, like getting to parent with the Holy Spirit guiding you is like the greatest thing ever. Because Maisie, actually just on the podcast, she gave like the best piece of advice. She was like, I don't want to be like blown by the wind of people, but like blown by the wind of God. And I think like so often we are like blown by the wind of people.

Like we, you know by the wind of people. Like we, you know, just care about people's opinions. And I remember in the hospital being faced with that, like right after I had honey feeling like, okay, what are people gonna think if I don't nurse honey? Because, you know, if you look on Instagram, it's like breast is best, like, you know, formula is bad and all this stuff,

but like it wasn't happening for us. Like it was not happening in the hospital. And I remember feeling like guilty for that. And like, but my main thing, this is what I realized about myself. It wasn't that I was actually worried about Honey having formula. I was worried about what people would think

about me giving Honey formula. And then I was like, I'm not worried that this is like bad for her. I actually think this is gonna be best for her considering what my body has just been through and what my body is responding like at the moment. And I was like, I cannot let what people think matter. And I also remember the same thing with the epidural. I almost didn't get the epidural.

Not because I was worried what it would do to my body. I actually thought it would probably help me. I was worried what people would think about me getting an epidural. And have that expectation of like, you know, just like how it should go. Like that's what the perfect birth. Like if you do this, you're the perfect mom. You know, and I think the guilt, a lot of guilt really do come from comparison. Yeah, it's 100%. And you got to silence that voice.

I remember in the hospital being like, I am not gonna let what people think of me determine how I mother my children and lead our family. And that was such a good thing for me in the hospital because one, I got the epidural, and two, I chose formula for honey. And it was the two best decisions I could have made. Because one, if I didn't have the epidural

when honey got stuck, that would have been really, really bad. And then two, Honey was like, Honey is so perfectly healthy and so great. And like, I'm so happy that she was fed well and that we didn't have to worry about that and stress about that. And then with Haven, I had a C-section.

And then also I got to breastfeed and it was totally a different experience, but it wasn't because of what people thought. It was about what was best for us at the time. And it's not even just social media. You can compare yourself to anyone. Because if my mother-in-law listens to this, then this is me exposing myself. But even like with sometimes, even like with your mother-in-law or like your sisters.

They don't mean to. You don't mean to, but you can compare yourself to them. And like we are such different moms in some circumstances. And my mother-in-law is amazing. I learned so much from her. And one thing she is really good at is having it all together. And one thing I'm really not good at is having it all together. And last week, we were at the beach. And like, I y'all would just like die at how many things I forgot. Like I didn't bring swimsuits for honey to the beach. Okay, I left our

our baby bag like three times. I left my purse somewhere like, and I remember like last week, like as I did that, just what was going on inside of me, I was feeling like, what is she thinking about me as a mom? Like, is she thinking like, oh, you're so all over the place, you're such a mess. Like, you know what I mean?

Like you just get in your head about like what they're thinking. And then I found myself being defensive about like the things that I was doing Like she but did they put sunscreen on I'd be like, yes, they have sunscreen like I wanted her to know it I did do that like yes, I left the bag and yes, I left but I did do this and it was like trying to prove Myself like I'm a good mom But like I know I'm a good mom like and what makes me the best mom for them is not that I remember the baby bag

Every time and yes, I sometimes forget to pack the swimsuits to the beach and we go by anyone. And it's like, it happens. But I think like sometimes, and I just had to confess after Christian, I was like, Christian, I'm just going to say this, like your mom has done nothing to make me feel this way. But sometimes because she, she, I feel like she has it together. I feel like I don't, I worry that she questions if I'm doing a good job. And you know, if you talk to her, she probably would be shocked and be like,

I don't have everything together. I feel like I'm doing this wrong. Oh, 100%. She would not think that at all. And actually, to your point, she wrote a whole Instagram post about how good of a job me and Christian were doing as parents.

And it made me cry because she was talking about honey singing worship songs and honey knowing, like the things that they were doing. So it made me cry because I just did not expect to feel this on the podcast. But in my mind, I'm thinking, what if she's thinking I'm not a good mom because I left the stupid diaper bag?

But yeah, she's teaching them scripture. She's teaching them, and's like such a good mom. Need a great reason to get up in the morning? Well, what about two? Right now, get a small organic Fairtrade coffee and a tasty bacon and egg or breakfast sandwich for only $5 at A&W's in Ontario. You know, that just goes to the point of like, don't try to please people because you actually don't even know what people are thinking. Like you really don't.

I saw something on Instagram and it's really helped my perspective on me as a mom versus other people as moms. And the way that she put it is just so simple. She was like, you have your flows and your grows. Like the things you're naturally good at as a mom and the things you're not naturally good at. And that's also okay. But to not compare your grows with someone else's flows

because that's how you start to feel insecure and have that mom guilt. Because you're gonna see someone else thriving where you're like struggling, but you might really thrive in a place that someone else is struggling. And that has helped me so much because I did not thrive in the newborn stage.

Like the first four months were really hard for me, but now I feel like I am more in a groove. And a lot of that is because she's sleeping through the night now. But a lot of people are like, oh, they're not sleeping through the night. I'm just going to continue to let them wake me up because I'm fine.

And I was like, you know what? That's not my flow. Like that through the night. I'm just gonna continue to let them wake me up because I'm fine. And I was like, you know what? That's not my flow. Like that's my growth. I'm struggling in that. I love that, Freddie. There's some other areas that I know I'm really good at. Like I'm really good at sitting on the floor

and playing with her right now. Cause I mean, she's five months. There's not a lot of like disciplining that we're doing, but it's like those little things. Like I really enjoy that. And that might not be another mom's strength. And that's also okay too. So that's really helped me.

Freddie, I want to affirm you in that because that is so true. Like whenever you bring Collins up here on Mondays, like I just feel like my heart is like 10 times bigger. Like I just feel like I smile all day because I feel like you're such an amazing mom with her. Like I just see you always like sitting with her on the ground, like with your laptop,

like somehow you're doing work, but like you're on the ground, you have like a blanket right here, Collins is on the ground, you're somehow playing with a rattle and also typing at the same time. Like you truly are such in your flow like right now. And I just want to like affirm you in that,

like I see that and I feel like you like glow whenever I see you with Collins. Like I see you like glowing in the office and I just love when I see her, like we have these big bean bags in the office and she'll put Collins in this little bean bag or in this big bean bag but she's like so small and it's like the cutest thing ever.

I don't know if that has nothing to do with your flow but it's just so cute. Well I think even to hear you say that, it's amazing how everyone else gives you the grace that you should give yourself when you're a mom. When you're a mom, you think about what I didn't do well, but everyone else is like, look at how good you're doing. Because they're looking at you like, how are you doing it?

And I was walking on the plane the other week and I had both the girls and I was holding them and the flight attendant said, look at us moms, we're superheroes. I was like, isn't that what we are? Other people see you like as a hero because like being a mom is that, like you get to like raise a, help raise a life

and like steward a life. And man, if we would just give ourselves the grace that other people give us, it's amazing. Even that the Lord gives us in motherhood, it's like the most beautiful thing in the whole world. We could like honestly talk about so much and we could laugh about a million things and tell so many stories,

but I feel like everything we've shared has been so good because we have the balance of like the amount of things that in motherhood you just have to laugh at and you just have to ride the wave up. And then also like the things that are like deeply true. And like, if you can stop comparing yourself to other people, stop pleasing, trying to please other people and just like,

do, it's like, what is the verse? Do everything as if you're working for the Lord, not for man. It's like same with parenting. Like, I'm gonna do this as if I'm working for and with the Lord and not for man. Cause this is the job that the Lord gave me to be the mom of this home to these kids.

And what a gift. So thank you guys for sending in y'all's pregnancy, motherhood, postpartum questions. We'll have to do it again. And thank you moms. Maya, next time we come onto a podcast, you will definitely have had a baby. Oh, a thousand percent.

Cause you're two weeks away. Two weeks away. Okay, so girls, let's give her some advice on what she's about to step into. Give me the good advice. Don't have like super high expectations. Fair. And make sure you bring the water jug home.

Okay. You know, they have all kinds of stuff. One is the best. It's the best. It's like a Stanley, but not. They don't give you that at the hospital you're giving birth at. Oh. Just to break the news.

That's so sad. I didn't get one. That's so sad. Where did you have it? St. Francis. They don't give you one? Mm-mm. That's so sad.

They don't. They give you a styrofoam cup. No, no, no. That was my favorite cup. That was my favorite cup. That was my favorite cup. I took all the things in the hospital, especially all the healing things that they have. They give you all the newborn diapers. You're not even going to know what it is, but the sprays they have in the bathroom.

You just put them in the bathroom. You might not understand now, but you will know this. What do they call it? I don't even know, but bring home. It The like, it's like the Derma Blast and the Hazel Witch mask. Yeah, do it all. It's so funny you said, I just watched a TikTok of like a husband

who was like, they were packing up to leave after giving birth and he was like, make sure you take everything. He was like grabbing toilet paper rolls and like paper towels and he's like, literally take everything. That is funny. And like the underwear. Yeah. Oh, make sure you bring some, well, but he's like, literally take everything. That is funny. Take it all, yes. And like the underwear.

Yes. Oh, make sure you bring some. Well, but you're having a C-section. Yes. So I don't know, like, it would be the same, I guess. C-section is a lot different for sure, but they'll tell you everything. Yeah, they'll tell you.

And then they will have it. But just bring everything, because you're gonna be paying for it anyway. Bring everything. You never know. You might as well. Be comfortable, Be comfortable. Also, I will say too, it is crazy that everybody visits you in the hospital because I love

that and wanted that and welcomed everyone to do that. But after having a C-section, you just had major abdominal surgery and everyone's chilling in your room. And I was high off the medicine. And I just revealed, I'm like, I don't even know what I'm saying to anyone. So maybe just warn people that you might be a little high, but it's gonna be okay. I'm the same way though.

I'm like, literally everyone, please come to the hospital. I loved it. I loved it. I want to hang out. But I actually fell asleep in a conversation that I was having with someone, but it's okay. It's part of it. And then the other thing I would say is like,

whenever I went to my doctor's appointment, it's so crazy too, cause you go to the doctor like right after you had the baby like your first Appointments like two days after you get home from the hospital you came and walk and you have to go and it's so crazy, but then like I think it was the the second week appointment and Was at the pediatric doctor and she said something on the left. She's like mama How are you doing? And of course just makes you cry it's like you're already hormonal.

If anyone asking me how I'm doing it I would cry. I have a funny story I wanted to tell about that. That's not funny but it's kind of funny now. So I think I told y'all like what Zang I had like super terrible like delivery just you know. And so when I went back actually I didn't go back till like six weeks. So that's like whenever they checked you for like clear. Like the actual baby doctor. And so I went literally when I walked in all the nurses were clapping for me.

And they said we heard what happened. And then the nurse literally came to me and said, we heard what happened. And then the nurse literally came to me and said, if you need me to write a doctor's note for your husband, we can, like I'll do it for you. Cause that's whenever they gave you the go for like, and she was like, if you need me to extend it, I'll write it for two months, two more months. And I was like, it's okay.

My husband was in the delivery room. He saw it, he understand, he saw everything. But they were like, we will. Anytime the nurses come for you, you know you're in a situation. And they're like, you're the reason why we're having a C-section. Oh my gosh.

But it was just like, I remember just like, oh, I guess like I was like the story of life for six weeks. Like everyone was like, oh, remember that girl had the baby? It was terrible. I had that, like not the same situation, but kind of similar where all the nurses

kept coming into our room because they couldn't believe how big Honey was and like all the stuff that happened. And then I had all the pediatric doctors come in to check on her and me. And so this doctor had checked on me in the hospital. So then when I saw her two weeks later and she's like, how are you doing?

Like I knew she knew. So I started crying. And then it was so sweet though, because she said to me, she said, are you crying every day? And I said, yep. And she said, that's part of it. And she said, that's okay. And she said, that's just your hormones getting out.

You know, it's like, she's like, that mean you're sad? Like I was overjoyed, honestly, I was so happy. She was just like, that's part of it. And so it made me like not feel crazy. It made me just feel like, oh, you're riding a wave, you know? And then she said, all right, now stop looking at four walls and go outside. And it was like such good advice

because I had had the seat section, so I was thinking I just need to like rest, which you do. But she was like, any way you can get out, like just go out. And I remember um just went to my parents' house and it was so good for me because I just seemed to like get out of the house for a minute. And so, brush your hair, put on some makeup, like I love that. So I'll put that at the mall walls and get out. It goes a long way. You're going to do great. You're built to birth. You're the best person for the job. You just got to ride those waves. We can't wait to meet her. She's gonna be perfect in every way. I'm excited too. Thanks for the advice