WHOA That's Good Podcast - What Actually Matters in Dating (and What Doesn’t) | Sadie Robertson Huff & Christian Huff

Episode Date: March 30, 2026

Sadie and Christian are back diving into the DMs and answering your questions! Such as: what's their current fave inside joke?; girl names they've loved but haven't used; what's coming up for them this year; if they could master one skill, what would it be?; setting healthy, godly boundaries; accountability and why it matters; dating advice for those with high standards, how to dig deep in studying the Bible, and what Sadie's been learning - and practicing - when it comes to Sabbath.  This Episode of WHOA That's Good is Sponsored By: https://liberty.edu/Sadie — Get your application fee WAIVED when you start your future with Liberty University today! https://drinklmnt.com/whoa — Get a free 8-count Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase https://jonesroadbeauty.com — Get a free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase when you use code WHOA at checkout! - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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But per usual, you've lodged it. Your Monday is about to get it. I thought this was a Wednesday episode. You're Monday. Yeah, I thought you said you're a money. I was like, Oh, you're Monday. What are you out here promising?

No, you're Monday. Well, this should be a Wednesday episode because I'm on, but Monday it will suffice. Oh, did you see someone commented the other day and said, is Christian your official co-host now for all the future episodes? That was actually my burner. But I'm glad that that caught your attention. And actually, just kidding. but whoever commented that, thank you, I see you and I appreciate you. Oh, they didn't say they wanted you to be.

Were they roasting? Crap. They were just asking. I'm just kidding. I'm sure they did. I love you. So that was not a good comment. No, it was probably a good comment.

I was just laughing because I'm, you know what? I love it. You took it good. That means that you are at a great place in your life. I keep a glass half full. I love that. We keep the glass overflowing over here. There was maybe a time of my life where I would have seen it

is half half empty, but not anymore. That's actually true. Right here right now, we are realizing a major growth in your life. That's sweet, babe. Yeah, very sweet. You used to be a glass half mid guy, and now you're a glass half full guy. Yeah, that's who I am. Let's dive into these awesome questions that our friends have asked us.

We love going through the DMs. And actually, the last time I posted it asked me anything on Instagram, I got a little distracted within the day and did not get to answer. many as I wanted to. And that's why I love podcasts like this, because we get to actually answer the questions that you guys are asking, and we always appreciate it. Also, can I shout out that your bio here?

It says answering DMs with Christian, husband, influencer, comedian, businessman, and dad. That is all. I cannot believe that's what Chad, GBT gave you. That's not Chad, GBT. That's my teammate, Claire, shout out. Shout out. Real, recognize, real.

She's Claire GPT. She is. And that's our group text with her. All right, here we go into the questions. We'll start with some fun ones. What is your favorite inside joke that you have together? Our inside joke that also is not inside anymore. It's outside.

Everybody knows about it is that Christian calls me Sandy when I do stupid things. And you also call me kind of. But when you do things that aren't normally like you. You be like Sandy? Like if you curb the car or which is a common thing. I mean, that is like you. You know, things like that, it's Sandy. Or, what's the other one?

You even call me the other one and a while. Sammy. Sammy is when I, like, really do something crazy. Sammy's like, yeah. Sammy is stupid. Sandy is just like, you were cute, but that was, that was, that was not like. That's our inside joke. Like, if I say something wrong, he'll be like, Sandy, or if I forget that I'm supposed

to do something, it's Sandy. And that's kind of like an ongoing thing. That's been a thing for a long time. But that's because we'll go to restaurants and she'll say her name is Sadie. and it'll be come back on the cup or the receipt as either Sammy or Sandy. I get, I've gotten Sammy at Chick-Fleigh. I've gotten Sandy at Starbucks. And early on, before, you know, whenever I was more known from like Doug Dynasty

and not doing like ministry stuff, people would like come up to me and they're like, oh my gosh, are you Sandy Robertson? No, Sandy Robinson. Yeah, I did get Sandy Robinson a lot. So Sandy Robinson is like when there's something really not smart. She's my alter ego. Yeah, but that's pretty funny But Sandy Robinson is also really cute

Okay, that is cute Speaking of cute What are some girl names that you love But didn't end up using? Well, the one that I loved, we were very close to using it And we might use it again one day though That's true, I thought Hampton was really cute

Yeah, we, which this is also going to answer a DM We get all the time, are y'all going to have a fourth child? We're not planning on having a fourth child anytime soon ideally we're going to give it a lot of space in between because I would love some time to heal my body and also just enjoy the stage we're in. But we'd love to one day have another baby. And if it was a girl, Hampton would definitely be at the top of the list. And the other kids names we've kept very secretive, but at this point, like we've

thrown out so many things. This is the fourth baby. But we love the name Hampton. But we'd pray about it. Obviously, God's like done so much with the name stories. And the thought of a vasectomy just freaks me out. I don't know if I can see that. Thank you for that.

It does. Anytime I think about it, I just start like limping around the house. He literally does. It's the most dramatic thing ever. I'm like, okay, well, then just be okay. We have a lot of goods. That's great. But yes, Hampton.

Okay, I really like the name Pepper, but I feel like we can't have a honey and a pepper because it's two things you find in your pantry. We can do that. But Pepper, for anyone who wants that name, I've always loved the name Andy, but you didn't love that for a girl, but I think it's cute for a girl. And then linen. I like the name linen.

We had a few that we like. But Hampton was definitely the top runner. And Honey has now named all of her baby dolls Hampton, which actually happened too with Oakley because I loved Oakley. And then Honey named all of her baby dolls Oakley. And Pet Shark. Yeah. And pet shark. So, yeah.

Those are some of the names that we liked. And then we have a boy name that we're not going to share. That has been the boy name. If any of the girls would have been a boy, that would have been a boy. that would have been the name. We don't even have a runner up for a boy name. Yep, we don't. So if we had twin boys,

we'd have to really think. That would be crazy. Okay, carrying on, if we ever have twin boys, we're going to, like, clip this podcast when I said that, but that would be crazy. Okay. What is something that y'all are looking forward to doing this year?

A lot of things. Are we sharing some of the things we're doing publicly? Like... Don't share one of the things, but you can share the other thing. L-O-N-D-O... Yeah, you sure. Yeah, well, you're speaking at the Global Leadership Summit

in London. Super excited. I love London, so I'm excited to go do that. So speaking of London, this is kind of funny. And this is how real you guys are who have followed along the podcast for a while. So there was a picture that I took with Honey when I was pregnant with Kit. And it was at the time that I hadn't announced like what the name was. And someone sent in, or I don't know how I saw this, but someone was guessing that we were actually going to name our baby Hampton because they saw the word Hampton.

because they saw the word Hampton behind me in that picture with honey. Like there was a, and you know how the other story with Honey and Haven. This was in London? Yeah, and we had the Honey thing and the Haven thing behind us. And I was like, well, good thing I didn't see that because that might have swait us. So that was kind of cute. But yeah, we're going to London. I'm speaking at the Alpha Global Leadership Conference, which I'm like so excited about.

Yeah, it's a Global Leadership Summit. That's not what it is. That's the Global Leadership Summit. Yeah, but it's a global leadership. leadership conference called Alpha. And I'm really excited about it because actually I've done a Q&A at this before and it was when we were engaged right, right before we got engaged. Yeah. And that was just like a really cool time in my life because I had a dream that I was speaking at something like this. And whenever they asked me to do it, it was totally a God theme because I just bought a ticket to go to it to

learn because it's a leadership conference. I wanted to learn and I was bringing some members from my team and then they saw my name, you know, come up as they were seeing their tickets and they were like, oh, she's coming. And then they asked me to do a Q&A. And I was like, that's so wild that, like, I'm getting to do this Q&A at this thing. And so here we are, you know, seven years later. And I can't believe that they asked me to speak at it. And I'm just super excited and really leaning into what God is going to lay on my heart to share. So I feel super excited about that. I'm speaking like to the next generation. And I am pumped. So that's coming up. And then Kayla Fan awards coming up, which is going to be really exciting. My book comes out this year. It's a big,

it's a big year as far as like ministry and some work things we've been doing. But also like so many things within our family I'm just excited about. But we'll save those for our personal life. If you can instantly master one skill, what would it be? I don't, I don't, I need to think about it. Really? I feel like you know something, but you don't want to say it. Well, I have an idea. I knew it. But I want to like, I don't know if that's my answer. Just say it. You can backtrack. I'll say something like tennis. Like, that'd be pretty awesome. Well, I thought it was going to be something embarrassing. That's great. Like, what? I don't know. Like, I thought it was going to be like something with like a, like, a ninja, like, I don't know, like, throwing a slingshot.

Like that actually, I changed my answer. If I could master a slingshot, like what David would have used. That's what I thought. It was going to either be something with a sword or something with a slingshot because you've been sewn to David. I didn't mean to say ninja. Maybe sword fighting. Okay. Yeah, something like that. If I could master anything that King David or if I could sing.

Oh, speaking of, this is hilarious. Are you outing me right now? What were you singing yesterday? I will not be afraid. And Haven goes, dad, you really can't sing. And Honey goes, yeah, you really can't. You really just can't sing. It was so funny.

A little to that now. I'm not actually singing. I'm just, that was just like an off the cusp. I thought you were singing. I would not fly. I would not be afraid. What was the song? Let's go fly a kite.

Let's go fly a kite. I'm making the two of those. I would not fly. That was a sandy. Shoot, that was a sandy. Okay. Let me recover. I will not go fly a kite.

I will not. I might have been a Sammy. That's such a funny mix up. Okay. I love you. Cut this? No, don't cut this. Keep it rolling.

What is something that you would master? Okay, you know mine. Cooking. I would want to master cooking because it's something that you have to do so often. And it's so frustrating when you spend like so long cooking something and then it's not that good. That just frustrates me because I'm not naturally good at cooking. but I want to be good at cooking because I want to provide for my family for that in that way and I love Christian loves eating so I want to be good at cooking it's true and so

like I appreciate good food there's so many things that I'll try to cook and then I will spend so long on it and like pull my all in fit and then eat it and I'm like that's just honestly not good you know and that's so frustrating so if I can master cooking and know like I'm going to make this dish and it is going to be so good, that would be awesome. Okay. Let's get into a little deeper questions. We can maybe go about something fun later. Okay.

I love it. We're doing a stay on the fun for a second. Well, I mean, we only had three more fun ones. Okay, well, let's answer them really quickly. Yeah. Okay. We'll go a little deeper. If you could give a TED talk on one topic and you have 15 minutes to prepare, what would you speak on?

Do you have something? Yes. I like speak on Living Original. or I would speak on being a sister and a friend. That's great. And I would speak on fitness through a healthy lens. That's great. See?

That was good. Quick and easy. What are some of your favorite Christian books that you've ever read? Ooh. I was going to say there's a lot. There's really like I haven't read that many. I'm not a big book reader. Well, I'm reading one right now by Jeremiah Johnson.

That's really been interesting to me. it's like the Jesus discoveries and talks about the shroud and just all these different artifacts that they found throughout history pointing to the fact that Jesus was a real person that lived a real life. So that one's been really interesting to me lately. It's great. I think probably the most helpful, one of the most helpful books I've ever read was winning the battlefield of the mind by Joyce Meyer that helped me so much. I remember I had you read it too. I don't know if you finished it, but it was extremely helpful for me. I think I'd finish it.

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That's a great question. The first thought that comes by mind is needing to surround yourself with people that can keep you accountable. I mean, obviously there's practical things. things of, you know, maybe setting time limits on social media or not staying at each other's house till late at night and hanging out with friends more often, not isolating yourself. But I think for me, the thing that was biggest was accountability with my guy friends, to when I would feel tempted to do something or if we did cross a boundary.

Like having people that could speak into that, that I could be vulnerable with, that they could, you know, confess things to and repent with. For me, that was the biggest. There's obviously so many practical things, like kind of what I said. But I think if you surround yourself with people that want the best for you, that are going to ask you questions,

and that you don't feel the need to hide or to act or to feel shame, when you do something you shouldn't do. So I think I always just, I think accountability is huge. That's great. I think, too, one of the biggest lies that the enemy will try to get you with

is like, oh, well, if you broke a boundary already, then there's no sense any, in setting another one. Like, you're just going to break it again or it's already been ruined or you're already impure, whatever, whatever lie the enemy is telling you, but don't keep sinning. You know, don't stay in that habit of sin. Like, you actually can repent, turn from your sin, confess your sin, be healed of your sin, receive the grace for your sin, not grace in an abusive way of going, well, I'm going to receive the grace and we'll do it again. I'm going to get grace again. know like receive grace so you don't live in shame but don't keep doing it you know i actually decide

like okay i don't want to do that anymore your boundary is set there not because it's like some goal to achieve but it's something that god set forth as like a good design and so i think put that boundary back in place go i'm not going to do this not because it's just something i don't want to do personally for a pride thing but because this is what god calls me to and i trust that his plan is better for me than what my flesh is telling me I want to do. And so go back to the boundary line. Go back to what God said, repent of it. And like Christian said, confess to your friends, set up better boundaries in the future. Okay, this led us to that. Let's not get in that situation again. I'm obviously speaking more towards like couples when it comes to the boundaries within dating.

Netflix and chill and all this. But there's so many more things. I mean, that's just that stage of your life. If you're going to go, like at this stage in our life, like, there are things that you set boundaries for with yourself that, again, like, you're going to be tempted by. You're going to be tempted to the cross. But it's like, how do I not, how do I set myself up to win? Like, for me, I have, like, a boundary for my mind and, like, shows that I watch. Like, I don't want to watch shows that lead me to not having peaceful thoughts. And so for me, it's like, okay, well, what if I do watch something that all of a sudden now I feel anxious or all of a sudden now I'm, watch something that was like inappropriate or whatever well then i stop watching the show you know it's

like oh well i'm only on episode two and there's all season i don't care like stop watching the show like don't keep doing it don't keep sending and i think so often like we just let ourselves kind of live in that like victim mentality like oh well it happened or oh well i saw it so i just keep going like no um guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life like fight on behalf of your mind win the battlefield of the mind uh fight for your purity don't just like let it happen. Yeah. Well, we see Jesus model that, right? You have the woman that's caught in adultery, and, you know, the Pharisees are trying to stone her. And Jesus rebukes that. So he liberates the woman. He calls her out, he calls her into freedom. Then he also says, go and send no more.

So there is. So there's freedom and there's redemption. But then again, there's also transformative action that is required by the gospel. So that's the beautiful thing. It's, yes, there's not a boundary you pass that. It's, well, we've already passed it. Let's, you know, let's keep doing it. There's, there is repentance, there is confession. And in that, there's redemption and healing. And then the outcome from that is to not keep doing it, to stop doing it.

On that note, I saw a question coming up. So I jumped to it. How do I hold my friends accountable without coming across as rude or unloving? That's good. I think, I think oftentimes, I think, things get labeled as rude because the person's just defensive. So I think sometimes we, we like don't want to, to come across confrontational, not because they're being confrontational, but because the other person's going to perceive it that way. So you end up not doing

anything. So for me, I would maybe rather come across as to the person, you know, harsh or unloving versus not saying anything at all. Because you're only responsible. for what you choose to speak into. It's their responsibility for their response. They're going to be defensive and, you know, label you as something and project onto you, this thing that's not true, you're not responsible for their reaction. But I think there is a delicate way to go about it in a graceful way, not one invoking shame, not being hypocritical by you speaking out against something that you're actively living in. So I think there's a way, I think it's a delicate balance to do it, obviously doing it in love.

But at the end of the day, I think we are called to call out things in other people. And if they feel a certain way about you doing that, I don't think you can control that. I think that's true. And I also think because you're speaking from a guy's perspective and guys tend to receive that a little bit better at times. Like I feel like there's just that kind of moment. strength and like competitiveness like y'all go at it a little rougher in sports so maybe you can go at it a little rougher even in tone sometimes whereas with girls it can be hard sometimes because you're like so worried this is going to be awkward or this is going to hurt their feelings or they're

going to cry but I think ultimately like how do you do it and not becoming like not sound unloving is that if you're really doing it from a place of love then they should feel loved, even though you're speaking some hard truth. And so a lot of it is going to come from like, okay, is my heart really, and why I'm saying this really from a place is because I genuinely love them so much. And I do not want to see this sin or this thing like hurting them. And so I think when it comes from love, it will be laced in love naturally, but also go above and beyond to be loving. Like that doesn't mean that you hold back. truth. Like, Jesus was literally the embodiment of love, but he was also like the embodiment of

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like everybody probably has a preconceived notion of who I might be that follows me on Instagram because you've seen me from afar. You're like, oh, well, she's done this or that. So she's probably like this. But I always say like, because that can be crippling sometimes because you're like, oh, well, they're just going to think that or they're just going to think that. It's like, okay, I don't need to worry about like what man thinks.

Like, God looks at my heart. And when I show up, like, shock them with your kindness. shock them with your grace, shock them with your humility, whatever that is. And Jesus really did that because here he comes. He's God in flesh. He's this messianic king that was promised to these people, but he came like completely in an unexpected way. They were expecting someone powerful and he came so humble. Like they were expecting someone riding on a horse and he came on a donkey. And he just kept showing up in such a way where it was like not really what they were expecting, but you can't help but like see his heart and um i think about that even in these type of moments it's like someone

might think oh that person's going to judge me for doing x y z so when that person speaks into my life she's going to be judgmental she's going to be whatever but when you go to them and you say hey friend i just want to say like i've been seeing you wrestle with this and it breaks my heart that you're struggling in that way because i've been through that too and when i went through that this is what led me to in my life. And I just want to encourage you that there's so much better for you. And this is how I walked through it. I just want to let you know, I'm here for you in that. If you ever need prayer, if you ever need a friend. And so it's like you shock them with your grace. You shock them with your empathy, with your compassion. They're met with so much love.

But also, you called out the sin and you were truthful and you didn't sugarcoat that that's not a healthy way to live your life. And so I think coming in in a way that like they can't deny your love for them because you laced it so much with love, but also like don't sugarcoat or hide from the truth. And then also, there is something to be said that, again, even if you do it perfectly, even if you go in with all grace and with all love and with all the kindness in the world, people sometimes, like Christian said, are going to be on the defense and they're going to be mad about it and they're going to be hurt. I'm saying that from experience. Oh, yeah, that's what, that's what I'm speaking to now. I'm saying people are going to. Yeah. Like,

obviously your, like, tone is everything. Like, you are to speak the truth and love. You are to have a tone that's mild and appropriate and that's not harsh. But then again, it is, if the person doesn't have ears to hear it, then it doesn't matter. I mean, there's times in our marriage where you might call something out of me and it might be harsh, or your tone might be harsh in it. And I'm defensive. But there's also been times where you've called something out and it's been the most gentle, loving, compassionate way. and I'm still, it still irritates me.

Because it's, it's, it's, it's, it's me being defensive about something. So it's, but that does not mean you shouldn't do it. Yeah. Like you did it the right way. But it's also, if I don't have ears to hear it, if I'm going to be defensive. Oh, totally. It doesn't matter how you. Both scenarios, because I've had scenarios, like, I had a scenario yesterday where I was

worried to say something because I was worried it was going to come across like, you know, that I'm speaking into something that that person is walking through that. Maybe I shouldn't speak into. but also I'm seeing it, so I got to say something. But I came at it with, like, so much love. And the person was like, wow, thank you so much. And she was surprised by, like, and you heard it because it was a response, like, how much grace I met her with, but also, like, calling out something that other people are seeing and not saying.

And so, like, I was using that as an example because sometimes, like, it's one thing to say, like, oh, well, you can't really care about how they receive it. and yes that is true that is true sometimes people are going to receive it well even if you did it perfectly but tone is everything and with guys that's what i was just saying sometimes you can be like you know like jp said do you like do you have people who can be honest with you and you're like i think so and he's like you smack bro like you you got to stop smack it like that's funny but like a girl like when i was eating too loud i know that's what i'm saying like he was he caught but that was like a bro moment like as a girl you can't just be like

you smack. Like you gotta be like like kind of lighter about it. And on the flip side too, I do see a lot on social media. I think people do like confrontation. And I think that sometimes people do speak in a situation

so they shouldn't speak into. Oh, for sure. Well, I'm not saying you disagree with me. I know. I'm just saying for sure. Yeah. I'm just saying it's like sometimes people feel the need out of this like form of righteousness to to speak into this to rebuke that to help correct this

and it's like you don't you're like you don't have to speak you're not the person that has to speak into everything you don't have to speak into every there aren't you don't need 30 hills that you're going to that you're willing to die on no you need to speak to me it's like if you're walking through life with someone they're your friend and they're going through something that everybody else is talking about are noticing and no one saying it that's wrong like someone needs to say it and you don't need to talk to anybody else about it. You need to talk to that person about it. And you need to come at it, not from a place that I can't believe you're doing this, but I'm so sorry you're going through that. It breaks my heart to see you making those decisions

because I get it. I've been there. I've done similar things. And let me just tell you, friend, it didn't end well. You know what I mean? That's more what I'm speaking to. And also you have to know, like, trust that the Holy Spirit speaking too. So pray about it. Like you don't have to be the want to say it, let the Holy Spirit say it. There's another situation in my life right now. I'm walking through watching and I feel strongly I'm not the person that's supposed to speak into it. But what am I supposed to do with that? Pray about it. What am I not supposed to do about it? Talk to everybody else about it. Is this a good time to plug your new book? No, we can't announce it yet. I mean, people know I'm writing, but we can't talk about the title. Oh, shoot. This, but this was a perfect

time to plug it. I know it was. It was. We'll save it. Anyways, um, because what I was going to say was, Yeah. Beep, beep, beep. That's so funny. Okay. What is your best dating advice for someone who has high standards? Now, I wanted to say this, and I wanted to ask you this, because you over there, you were picky in dating. You literally said to me, like, you, I think we've told us in the podcast before, but you didn't, like, like, sometimes there would just be girls' voices that you were like, I don't like the way that her voices.

I said to say, like, hey, that's real. Some people have high standards and some people are like particular about things. And that's not always a bad thing, but it can be a crippling thing. And you might be the guy to talk to. Yes. Well, I just didn't, you know, you were a lot more mellow. I didn't, you know. Which is funny.

I'm not trying to out. I'm not trying to out. I'm not trying to out. No, I just didn't love that. That just kind of bothered me. But if you do speak like that, it's awesome. You just weren't the person for me. And that's okay, because I'm happily married.

Um, sorry, what was the question again? High standards. Yeah, well, I also just was not a good person before I met Christ, whether it was relationally or many aspects of my life. Um, but high standards, uh, hmm. Yes, no, you, you were just somebody that I actually enjoyed, like, talking to, um, relationally. And I feel like we had a lot.

in common, even though circumstantially our lives looked completely different. And that was intriguing to me. And I feel like, you know, I always, when I really started following Christ, it was this idea about running, running this race and not feeling like the other person's, you know, it was this analogy of if you're running a mile, like you're trying to keep, you're trying to run the same pace. If I'm running a six-minute mile and you're, you're lagging at like a 10, then we're probably not compatible from the standpoint of where we're going.

So I feel like we were running the same speed, even though we were doing completely different things. And, yeah, standard-wise, I don't know. And physically, I think the fastest mile ever ran is a list. So we're not super compatible when it comes to our actual mile times. Yeah. But we're very compatible with running the race goddess up before us. But I never, like, made a list of like, high, height, well, I just, I thought you could

kind of speak to that because you are kind of, like, you do set standards high for yourself. And sometimes that can come across in other people. I'm the same way. I set high standards for myself. And sometimes I'm, like, very hard on myself and can be, like, a perfectionist about certain things. And so, you know, I think I did have really high standards in dating that were a lot of times unfair to the person that I was looking for, you know. And so, yes, I think first and foremost, like Christian said, like it's different before Christ and after Christ. But like, once you become, you know, a strong believer in Christ and you realize, like, the goal of marriage would be like to glorify God and to do what the Lord has called us here to become one flesh and to, you know, be fruitful and multiply.

and do this life together, like we can do this life better together than a can apart. A quarter of three strands is not easily broken. Two or better than one. Like, if we're going with like a biblical point of view on marriage, like this is why we're doing this, then it's not so much about being picky. It's not picky in the sense of like, oh, you smack or oh, you do this. Like, I don't have standards like that, but I do have high standards and the things that matter. Like I wanted someone who felt like heavy convictions and things who did want to live a life set apart from

the world who isn't like comparing the way you live to everybody else but like looking at God and being like what what do you have from me Lord and so I think you can set your standards high and you should and the things that matter but so many people set their standards high on things that just don't matter you know it's like it doesn't really matter that much if it's blind hair or brown her if they're taller if they're shorter if they smack or if they don't smack like those just those things just don't matter and those things change you know but the things that things that do matter, certainly set you up well. Have you ever thought about how easy it is to move through Easter season without actually

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She's in a sorority, all these other things, but their relationship would come, would butt heads because she would, he's really following the Lord. I think she was kind of wishy-washy on it. And she would, this is not like super exposed, but she would go to these sorority parties, but as she went, her phone would be dead. So she would, like,

leave her phone to her house, and my buddy would never know really what she was doing. But it's different than what, when they're together, it's spiritual, but then when it's apart, it's a little more worldly. So I'm saying that from the authenticity

of like, if you're not practicing what you're preaching, I don't care how pretty the person, person is how well you get along. If those core things on just being authentic aren't real, then your relationship's not going to be, it's not going to be strong. And so for me, with you, you had to trust me having a crazier background. This is the way I'm living now. I'm still in college. I still have friend center fraternities. Like we still go out and do things, but I'm not super rambunctious. I'm not going to the party scene anymore. I'm not,

doing all those things. And for you, you had to get to a point where you weren't constantly checking my location and just being in this negative headspace of, was he going to resort back to what he did? But you to trust me that, hey, this is where I'm at now. I'm not here anymore. I need you to trust me in that. I'm being genuine and authentic. And I have accountability people that are going to hold me accountable. But if you don't have that, then yeah, you are going to, you are going to be in that negative headspace. Yeah, it's good. So for me, it's just if the person's authentic and genuine,

that surpasses any level of beauty or physical attraction. Obviously, those things are important, but for me, authenticity is going to last. Yeah, the standards have to be high when it comes to authenticity, when it comes to honesty, integrity, godliness. Like, those are the things you want your standards to be high in because those things really matter. And I think sometimes people can get manipulative with people

who do set standards high because oh, you're just being too harsh. You're being too hard on me. You shouldn't care that much. Or nobody's like this. And I think you've got to be careful with people who are speaking that because a lot of times people are speaking that out of fear knowing that they don't want to become that person. And so it's like, then you shouldn't even expect that in me. And if you're in a dating relationship,

I would encourage you, y'all might not be at the same space yet. But, I mean, first, ask yourself, am I being too hard? But if it's like I expect you to be honest with me, that's not too hard. If it's like I want you to not have your phone dead every time you're at a party, that's not too hard. Like you're setting standards that are practical and that set you up for like a healthy marriage. That's not too harsh. But if you're like, I don't want you to like do like just basic things.

But yeah, like that don't don't be like, you know, too picky or too particular. But those things are worth fighting for. and if they're not willing to meet you with that, if you're dating, I'd say break up. If you're married, I would say pray, go to counseling, seek counsel, but mainly just pray and ask that God would align your standards to one another,

that he would give you both the same conviction, that he would really align your hearts on that and open the door for conversations because we've had things like that in our marriage, even, where it's like, I feel strong about something that you don't or you feel strong about something that I don't. And God has really brought our hearts together,

and respecting one another and trusting one another. Yeah, that's good. And I feel like the authenticity part, too, it goes beyond just external things that you can see. But it's internal things too. It's like if you have this hidden sin problem, eventually it's going to get exposed. So if you're not authentic up front,

then eventually it's going to come back and bite you in the butt. This was to you, Christian. How do you encourage Sadie in the faith and how does she encourage you? Great question. How do I feel like I encourage you? I feel like I encourage you

maybe on the studying aspect of faith and like I feel like the way my brain works might encourage you to try to learn more about a story or see how it connects to something here you're referring to a specific situation are you referring to that conversation we had? I'm not referring to a specific thing.

No. I thought you're talking about that conversation we have recently about this was kind of funny. Christian thought something was really cool in scripture and he shared it with me. And I was like, okay, like, what is that, what is that do for you? Like, what is that? And he took that the wrong way as if I was saying, like, it's not cool. Being defensive.

But I was like, no, I'm not saying that's not cool. That is cool. But I just was wondering, what does knowing that teach you about the characteristic of God? Because we have talks about the Bible all the time and, like, something will stick out to me or something will stick out to him. And we're, like, teaching each other, like, what we're learning through that. And this particular thing that he thought was really cool. I wasn't really understanding what was so cool about that. And I didn't mean it and like, that's not cool.

I meant like, teach me, like, tell me. And it's really cool for us to like get super excited about stories and share. So I do think that you do encourage me in that. But I would say if I can share what I think you encourage you more and than even that is that I, like Christian knows what I struggle with. right? And so Christian will see me struggling with an aspect in my life or something. And like he always is so quick to like speak truth over it and be like, hey, I see you going down this trail. Stop. Like God is for you. God is good. He is proud of you. You're like and he starts speaking truth to the lie. He probably

knows I'm already believing, which is so great. And I'm sure so many moms and women can relate to this. Like maybe I'll feel like, like I didn't do a great job today with the kids. or I drop the ball here or I drop the ball there. And so all of a sudden I feel like a failure. You know, some of you might can relate to that. And Christian will see me going down the spiral and like stop the spiral and get me back to truth, get me back to who God's called me to be. And that's like super helpful.

So I feel like you encourage me a lot with that. You also encourage me a lot in ministry. Like when it comes to messages that I'm about to preach, you walk that out really well with me because I'll get nervous about things or I'll get in my head after I preach. whatever it is and like you're always there to be an accountability partner to me and an encourager to me and I'm very thankful for them. That's very sweet. Thanks. I feel like for you, for me, for I feel like you encouraged me and just like simple faith aspects of just, you know, it's like that's what the Bible says. I believe it. Um, and not that I ever like doubt anything I

believe, but I feel like the way my brain works, I can like, you know, it's like that I believe but help my own belief. I feel like sometimes I can struggle with that and you don't really doubt and waver. Things like that. You're always pretty strong and stiff-ass on the things. Thank you. That's really sweet. I remember whenever we started low and I had all the what-ifs.

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I think the Bible becomes super interesting when you realize that it's a whole story, but if there's so many cross references and there are so many things that tie into the scripture, it's unlike any book ever written. And so for me, the thing that makes the Bible so interesting, it's not like you're just reading an ongoing story. It's like you'll read something in the New Testament, and then somehow that connects to something in the Old Testament. Or there's a word in this book that relates to this book,

or there's a prophecy 1,500 years later that's revealed when Jesus comes. And I think if you don't read the Bible through that lens of how it all connects to each other, then I think it's not as fascinating. And there are a ton of resources for people that can see that. I think one thing, too, I'm a visual learner. So when I first started really reading the Bible, I love the Bible project. It's like this clip art. These two guys that are geniuses, and I can look it up on YouTube.

They also have an app. But they just break down scripture really, really clearly, really concisely. And they do it through these little kind of clip art graphics. I don't even have clip art's the right word, but like sketches. You're right. Sketches and it shows you kind of like a visual of what's happening in the scripture. And I think they articulate it really well. But for me, the Bible becomes the most interesting when you can read something and you realize

that it connects to this other point here. That it all connects in some form. I think Bible Project is a great way to get interested. I think too, like studying a part of the Bible and then kind of obsessing over it. In other words, you could like binge it. You know, that's very on trend. like if you start a show that you love, like you binge watch it, you become obsessed with it. You know, for me, you might watch a movie. This is not what I do. I watch a movie. And then after I

watch the movie, I want to know like everything about the real story of the movie. If it's a true story or like, what do the real people look like? What do they act like? You know, how did this happen? I go and watch all the interviews or it's like, even if it's not a true story, I'm like, what about that actress? What's she up to? I want to go watch the interviews that she did before the movie. And I just want to like learn everything I can about that movie and that situation and how it was made and what the actors and actresses are doing in their life. And that's how I get with the Bible where it's like I studied John Ford, the woman at the well.

Then I'm like, I want to know everything about the woman at the well. And then as I'm studying the woman at the well, I'm reading about like Jacob's well. Oh, okay. That's Jacob from the Bible who had Joseph. And, you know, he was all,

you know, it just connects to everything. And so then you learn about that. Then I get on a Genesis kick and learning about the story of Jacob and then Joseph and then that's a kick. And it's like, just getting so into the story and the nitty gritty of it. And then also, like right now, I'm reading through the Bible recap.

And which shout out to everybody who heard me say, I'm doing that for Monday year's resolution. Still in it, still up to date. And you had some catching up to do, though. I did. Hey. You're up to date now. I'm out to date now.

There's grace for the journey. No, I'm just laughing. It's been read. But it's true. I did get behind in that. I caught back up. But, like, you know, whenever we were in Leviticus and numbers, I hope. was like, okay, this is a little hard, a little stretching because you're literally reading,

like, page after page about, like, skin infections. I'm like, okay, let's go back to the New Testament. But actually, what's been really cool is as I was reading it, I didn't really think I was learning anything at the time. And then all of a sudden I'd be like, wow, God, like, you are so good. Like, I see your hand in this. Like, you're such a good father. Your provision for the way that you were talking about calling people out and not trying to be rude and unloving. But, like, you are. like he just would call these people out because he wanted a better life for them so bad. And they just could not get out of their sin. They could not keep wanting to go back to their old ways.

They could not stop idolizing false gods. And he kept pursuing them and kept being gracious them and kept giving them boundary lines to stay within so that they wouldn't keep going down destructive paths. And so it was just like really cool that as I read and became like disciplined and consistent with something, ultimately it was leading me to a greater revelation of God. And so I encourage you, like, you might be reading it and be like, I don't really get it. Lean in. And for me, like, doing it with Terri Lee Kovil or Bible project or anything where you can, like, go to another resource and learn more.

There's so many commentaries out there. We love enduring Word. If you have a mentor you could call, if you have a pastor, you could call and be like, hey, this doesn't really make sense to me. Like, let someone help break it down for you because it doesn't make sense to most people when they read it. It doesn't make sense to me. I have to, like, go listen to what Terrily Koppel had to say or go look it up at the Bible Project. So like keep learning, be a student of the word. And you have access to the Holy Spirit and to God.

And so ask God, what did it mean? Why did you do that? What did it, how did this connect? Like, you know, and it's so cool when the Lord starts revealing stuff to you. And on that note, someone said, how do you slow down and reset? And I wanted to bring this up because I want to talk about Sabbath, because this is something I've been learning as I've been reading the Old Testament. So to be completely honest, Sabbath has not been something.

that I've ever, like, gotten too into, like super stoked about. Mainly because, although I know Sabbath is a big deal, obviously, because the Lord set it in motion and on the seventh day, God rested. And literally, when you're reading the Old Testament, when you're going through Leviticus and all these things, you're going to hear how God was like, you need to take a Sabbath on that seventh day. You need to rest. It's also one of the Ten Commandments.

Like, when you think of Ten Commandments, like, these are like the big things. and he's like, remember the Sabbath, like keep it holy. And so obviously, like, Sabbath is a big deal. So when I say I've never been too into Sabbath, I don't want to say like I'm going against the Word of God. But I'll tell you why. I was never like thinking too much into it. It's because when you get to the New Testament,

the Pharisees were like always so mad at Jesus because Jesus was healing on the Sabbath and he was doing stuff on the Sabbath. And Jesus was like doing these miracles and doing these wonderful things, but they were so religious. that they couldn't like accept that he was whatever he was doing because it was the fact that it was on the Sabbath. And I think sometimes like people in religious circles like can be a little bit religious, like spirited when it comes to how we talk about the Sabbath and what it needs to be or what needs to look like. And I felt like when Jesus came, you know, he he didn't come to like abolish a law, but he did come to like fully fulfill.

the law. And so it's not that he's saying that get rid of Sabbath, but he also, like, he is the law and he's fulfilling it. And basically, Jesus was saying all of those things that you read in the law, like the infection things and the, this, all of it. Like, all of that is good. But ultimately, it comes down to this. Love the Lord of God, without a heart, soul, mind, and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself. And so Jesus was like, I'm fulfilling the law in this. And he said, this doesn't mean I'm like dumbing it down, you know, even when we talk about adultery, he's saying, like, I'm actually calling you to a higher standard. Don't even look at a woman lustfully.

So he's saying, like, it's not just about the law. It's about your heart, you know? And so when it comes to Sabbath, I always felt like it's kind of about your heart. And then I look at all the disciples, you know, after Jesus died, they were just going for it. Like Paul, even, I mean, not like one of Jesus disciples, but when Saul became Paul that, Paul was like on mission for the gospel. And you just don't see Paul like emphasizing rest, you know? He's not like.

And then I rested. that was so important and you need to rest, you need a rest, you need a rest, you need a Sabbath, Sabbath. He was like, go, tell, get it out there. Like, to live is Christ, to die, is gain. Like, it was just like, go for it. So I feel like I kind of took on that approach a little bit more. But as I've been rereading the Old Testament and looking at Sabbath, something that has really stuck out to me is, yes, Sabbath is about rest and that is important. And again, on the seventh day, God rested. But really what Sabbath was to the Old Testament people and what God was really teaching them was not just about rest, but it was about humility and it was about trust. He was saying to them,

take a day that you don't work and trust that I will provide. Take a day that you don't work and humble yourself to know that I am your provider. And so yes, rest, get the benefit of what it looks like to not work by being revived and being rested. But also, humble yourself to a place to know that you don't do it at all. You know, like, you're not providing for your life. I'm providing for your life. It's not anything you can do in your own strength, but like trust that I can do more with your time of rest and you can do with your time of working. And that really convicted me because, one, I do need to rest. And I do need to make more of a weekly habit of that because that is something important and it's something that God modeled. But two, I do think in a culture that is so work, work,

work, go, go, go, like do, do, do. God is saying, like, actually, I want you to humble yourself and trust me that I can do so much more even when you rest and you can do when you work. And I am your provider. You are not. Like, you don't need to approve anything. Like, let me provide for you. And so I felt convicted in that. And the week we went to the beach, we like treated it as a Sabbath. And for me, it was kind of coming out a crazy time because I was finishing a lot of work things, but also there's always more that you can do. And I just felt like, okay, I need to take a week and Sabbath.

And it's about rest. I need to rest with my family. I need to be with my family being present. But two, I don't need to produce anything. Like I don't need to work or do anything. This is a week of humility. saying that like God, you work on my behalf. So I felt like convicted not to post social media, not to let my team like keep doing things even on my behalf. Like just stop. And don't produce,

don't put out. Don't, uh, you know, promote myself in any way, but like let God just work in my heart. And it was so fruitful and so beneficial. And for me, I don't want to just do that once in a blue moon in a week. I need to start doing that weekly in different aspects. And so that's what God's teaching me. It's been really cool because, again, you're going through the Old Testament, and it's not like that just hit me in one sentence. But that's what happens when you obsessed with the Word of God. In other words, meditate on the Word of God. Psalms 1, 2, 3 says meditate. For those who meditate on the law, for those who meditate on the word, will be like a tree planted by a stream of living water. And it talks about the fruit

will not weather, the leaves will not die off. It's always going to flourish because it's planted to buy a stream. And so when you meditate on the word, obsess over the word, read the word, your life produces fruit. And it's a beautiful thing to see. That concludes all of our questions. I think we're about out of time. We're about out of time too. So thanks for sending in your questions. It's always so encouraging to see what's on your heart. Please keep sending questions and let us know what you want to hear from us. We always like to hear what's in your heart. So keep sending DMs into the whoa, that's good podcast page. And we would love to answer them. And for the person that said, Tadis co-hosts, yes, that is me.

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