WHOA That's Good Podcast - What Our Husbands Always Wondered But Were Too Afraid to Ask | Sadie, Christian, Will & Abby

Episode Date: November 19, 2025

Sadie and Christian are joined by Will and Abby Robertson to break down the real questions husbands have about their wives…but are way too scared to actually ask. Like, what does “I’m fine”��really mean? And when you say, “I have nothing to wear,” while staring at a fully loaded closet—let’s unpack that. How do women just instantly know the right thing to say? And when we’re venting, are we genuinely asking for advice or do we just need someone to nod along and hand us a snack? And finally, do wives actually want to pick the restaurant, or do we low-key just want our husbands to take charge and choose already? https://drinklmnt.com/whoa — Get a free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase! https://samaritanspurse.org/occ — Share God's love with a child in need this holiday season. Join Sadie in packing shoeboxes with gifts for Operation Christmas Child this year! https://sadiepens.com — Get 10% off my favorite supplies and journaling Bible when you use the code SADIE10 when checking out! Chapters: 00:00 Skincare 05:40 What does 'I'm fine' mean? 10:33 Nothing to wear? 15:37 Small irritations 20:23 Throw pillows on the bed 22:40 What does "getting ready" mean? 24:45 What's a fun part of life right now? 28:00 The most attractive thing 30:10 Women always know what to say? 35:05 Short fuse with the husband 46:01 When women vent, do they actually want advice? 49:20 Picking the restaurant - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Well, your skin really does look good. So you're using ITK, yeah. I use their exfoliating face wash, exfoliating toner. He's always done really great skin, though. Deep moisturizer. I don't get acne. Yeah.

You know what I use? You know what I use? That one by your eye. Water. Agua Agua I was going to say I've actually never seen

you do skin care I've never done a single thing of skin care But Other than lotion And Poor strips That's not skin care

Yes it is skin care Yeah but it's like Knockoff clan It's cleaning up your horse Yeah Yeah but it's not like makeup Fores is your skin No

Skincare is not makeup No it's not makeup 90% of Skincare is makeup No it's not Yes it is It is literally not Yes it is That's crazy to say.

No. Skin care is not makeup. 90% of makeup is skin care, but not the other way around. If I did whitening strips, is that considered skincare? No. Like on your teeth? Oral care. That's like...

That's oral care. It's part of your body. Your poor strips are skin care. Because you're taking care of your skin. Well, are there some like luxurious, like, moisturizer? Well, just because it's like... It doesn't mean that it's skincare or not skin care. Like, skincare is a wide range.

makeup. I could go buy makeup from CVS or Sephora and they're both makeup. You know what I'm saying? It doesn't matter. If I just buy like a 50 cent porstrip at Walgreens. Skin care. You're taking care of your skin. Skin care isn't just for the boogie things of life.

Like I'm not, so like I'm not putting on makeup. Yeah. Christian thinks he'll doing makeup. No. I use ITK last at store. Well, if I use like a specific tweezer for like my eyebrows, is that skincare? No, that's hair care. No, but

skincare is like face wash moisturizer, which is good for guys and girls. Owner settings. It's not makeup. Not bingo. Okay. This is going to be a question I'm going to ask you.

Okay. Since we're on Let's get to today's episode. Happy Wednesday, everybody. It is November 19th. It is a day seven years ago Christian told me he loves me. It's a good day to be alive. Aw, I actually think you, told me the 20th,

but for some reason, in our memory bank, we always say the 19th. Because we got married in 2019. Yeah, that's what happens. I see the 11 and the 19, and I'm like, that's day you told me, love me, but it's the 20th. I'll have to say I'm jumping the gun a little bit.

And you're dyslexic. I am dyslexic, and that is part of the problem. Every time I see 11, 19, I'm like, you told me, love me, or we got married, or neither, actually. Oh, I'm 24 by now. in 2019 the 20th yeah it's hard to remember everyone okay all that to say that's a big date all that to say today's episode is going to be super fun let me tell you the title of it because i like the way that

we wrote it what our husbands wondered but we're too afraid to ask this could get juicy abby's already made the rules not to roast her i didn't even try to make that rule because i know that rule would be broken. I'm okay as long as I'm not the only one getting rusted. If we're in this together, I'm okay. In the hot seat. So as long as Christian makes the first blow, then they can start. You don't have to wait long. We've already been roasted. I'm a scared to do this, but I'm handing over the hosted. Your dyslexia is not a disability. Oh, I was. Preach that, Christian. Thank you. What did I roast you for then? Other than me calling you dyslexic. I was more to do with the skincares.

Well, me disagreeing about Porsche being skincare, it's not a roast. That's just like, that's just subtle banter. Anything he's rusting himself? That's true. Witty banter. Okay, that's true. I love banter. Thank you for that word, though.

That was very encouraging. So thank you. If you're listening, and if you're dyslexic, it is not a disability. Amen, Christian. Thank you. Okay, question number one. I know you're actually being serious. Hold on.

I am being serious. All right, never mind. Let's get it. No, what are you going to say? No, no, no. Your voice matters, Will. What are you going to say? You're so inspiring today.

I just want to say thank you for having us today. It's very special. And then this is the first time that Abby and I have been on together. What? And I didn't even introduce you all. Hold on. Welcome to the Walnut's Good podcast. Will and Abby, TikTok's favorite couple.

Thank you. Hey. Happy to be here. Justin the family. I really am. Yeah. When I looked at the calendar, it said TikTokers, Will and Abby. I was like, wait.

No, wait, what? He's joking. Last night, he said, I'm so excited for that podcast we had tomorrow interview on those TikTokers. And I was like, who? And he just was quiet. I was like, oh, Will and Abby. But no, actually, thank you for pointing that out. I didn't even entry a lot because I actually did a podcast with Abby today.

So we've been bantering back and forth. And now we're glad to have you in the hot seat. Not even in the hot. You're hosting this. Y'all are in the hot seat. We're in the hot seat. Oh, shoot. We have the easy job.

We have the easy job now. Maybe the hard job later when we're having to reconcile what's about to go down. The question number one. This is one for all the men out there. Wondering about women. What do you really mean when you say, I'm fine? Depends on the situation. Am I saying it like that?

Most of the time it's used in that context. It's in a, like a, it's in like a, yeah, like a downcast. Because I think there's two ways. I think I could be like, like, that was like, I'm sad and I'm fine. But then there's another way, like, I'm fine. That's different. Okay. If it's like, I'm fine, period.

It's like what's going on? Like, you good? There's like an I'm fine period or like I'm fine dot, dot, dot. It's like there's one that's like, oh my gosh, you're okay? You're like, I'm fine. Like, that's like the sad. But then it's like, what are we doing? What are we doing?

Well, if you're like ticked off and it's like, I'm fine. I'm fine I'm fine Yeah yeah yeah There's all in how you say it Okay So what about you Abby I'd say there's probably three

For me too It's either I'm fine period I'm fine dot dot dot dot I want you to ask me a little bit more And Wait Yeah And then I'm fine

Like wiping my tear away I think I have four You have four Like yes But for me the four I'm fine like I'm fine like question mark I'm fine

That's true like I'm fine are you asking? That actually happened to me the other day. That's a good one. I'll add my foot. That actually happened to me the other day. A friend was like asking me if I was okay because I was so busy like getting the house ready when she got there. She's like, are you okay? You seem like you're like so busy like scattered. And I go, I'm fine. And then I was like, hey, don't, don't Martha me. I'm doing a great job. I'm married. I'm a present. I just have good kids who are being crazy. But that was an un-fined question mark because I thought I was like, do I not look fine? but typically, yes, the sad I'm fine means, like, I'm sad, but I am fine.

Like, I'm okay. Like, I don't want to talk about it. I'm fine, but yes, obviously I'm crying, but I'm fine. Yeah. Then there's, like, oh, I'm actually just fine. And normally I would be like, I'm actually just fine. That one comes with an actually. And then there's the, I'm fine.

Like, I'm actually not fine. I'm very annoyed, but I'm not ready to talk about it. Yeah. Which is when you're in, like, I want to continue talking about it. But I want you to ask me. I don't want to have to. I'm fine, dot, dot, dot is you playing hard to get. Yeah.

Like I'm like, but I'm being, I'm being honest. I don't want to just share everything. I want you to ask me to share what I'm feeling. It's just like. It's like, I'm fine. I'm fine. If I get hit with the I'm fine, it's like, oh, bleep. It's like, what did I do?

Oh. I'm being like, it's for real deeper. I was going to say, when I hit you with the I'm fine and like it's, the right tone that's like I am not ready to talk about it. So like after this podcast, when I say hey, are you okay? And if you say, I'm fine, I'm like Ooh.

Maybe I went too far on the, whoa, that's good. Okay, but no to everyone listening. This is good. This is why we're doing this because we're trying to help other people work on communication and we're working in our own communication. And it actually is good to ask your significant other like, what does I'm fine mean to you?

Because to Abby, she said she actually wants you to ask questions. I normally don't want you to ask questions. Like, I'm like, I'm not ready to talk about it. You're just like, get out. Like, get away from me. That's usually. So it's good to establish. And I didn't know you were the one that said you had four and that was good to know.

I said that's so true. I have two. I don't say I'm fine. I say I'm good. Yeah. I'm good. You're like, I'm good. I'm straight.

I have two. Like, I'm good means like nothing. thing is wrong at all like i'm good you're chill like you don't have to ask anything i have no bad feelings right now the other one it's it's like i'm fine it's loaded yeah i'm good is like yeah i'm frustrated or i'm sad there's actually a fifth one i could add to probably most of y'all if like i'm fine then it's like a it's not even a dot that it's like a comma or it's like a semicolon And, you know, then it's like, actually, you know what, since you asked, it's, it's like, pause.

Yeah, it's like a pause. But then it's, I actually know I want to be real right now. Actually, yeah, let me tell you. So when someone says, how's your day and you naturally say good? But then sometimes you're like, actually, it's really not good. Can I tell you what happened in my day? Yeah. That kind of moment.

That is good. Let me share. Yeah. Okay. Well, guys, this has been so fun. We have to, we have to move on. Okay, let's be real. A Thanksgiving week is no joke. Between cooking, cleaning, chasing kids, traveling to see family,

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slash woe. You might really want to ask the second question? No, I would love to ask this question. You want you a two? I want number two. Okay. All right. You go for it.

Oh, crap. All right. This one's like coming for the jugular. I'm too giggly for the day. All right. Get him, Bobby. So, why is it that the wardrobe, other than, other known as, uh, the closet. The closet.

I already know that. Is full of clothes. And yet, you always have nothing in all caps to wear. When God. going out. Why is that? That did feel like he went for the jugular. It was. It was easy. There was a lot of punches there with a yet.

How do you answer it first? And then finding to give some more, you know, bigger picture. The best way I feel like I can explain this is sometimes different outfits just don't go together. And when you can't figure out what part of your outfit you want to wear. and try to match it with something. It's just overwhelming. And then it's like, okay, well, I just don't have anything to wear. That's true.

And what I've noticed recently, this, I know, Christian's just ready. He's just ready to say something about whatever I might say. But what I've noticed is the things that take up the most space in your closet, which are like sweatshirts and like more casual stuff, that takes up so much space. But that's not what you're actually going to wear when you need to put together outfit to go somewhere or like go to a wedding or goes so it's like oh i don't have anything to wear and you're looking at closet that's full which is confusing but you're like 90% of this stuff i couldn't wear for this occasion and the 10% i could wear for this occasion i just wore for the last

exactly that's what i was about to say so it's not the closet that's the issue no well my closet is a little small okay that's that's a given our closet sucks it's so small it's like two square feet period. Our closet in Texas was so nice. I just did a massive closet cleanup and it did feel really good and I have to say less is more because the past few days I've had a much easier time picking out outfits now that I went through everything because I like now I'm seeing what goes with what and what actually have and it's easier to put together outfits. I would I would like to go through like my stuff. You need to go through yeah. I need to go through it just there's a lot of things that I haven't worn since like last year and I'm just like I think I'm going to wear this. I think seasons changes are

really hard for me, like remembering how I put together outfits with a sweater versus just a shirt or like a top. And you kind of got to find your new style based off the trends. You're like, okay, how am I going to fit that trend into the wardrobe kind of thing? Well, even I was telling Mary Kate this today and she thought this was funny. I was telling her how it got rid of so much clothes. And I said, I finally got rid of my in-faith jeans. And then she was like, what are in-faith jeans?

I was like, oh, yeah. like jeans like in faith I'm going to fit into them again but I don't right now I said I just made that up but I said it as if it was like a thing because I've always called them my in faith jeans and then I was like I got rid of those because I'm like I don't need in faith jeans I'm wearing jeans that fit me today and if you're going to sit in my closet and be the wrong size you're getting out yeah I did that not too long ago just like anything that I want to wear one day again I'm just like whatever I'm not doing that well y'all both do have no you're both do have great style. Thank you. That is so sweet, babe. Thank you. Oh. But probably sometimes you have more to wear than you think. That's probably true. I received that.

It's whether we want to wear it or not. That's true. That's true, too. My favorite is we'll have an event and say you might need to wear a dress for it. You should be like, I just have nothing to wear. And I'm like, I'm looking at probably 30 options that you could wear just that you don't want to wear. I have to see. My closet was also full of, like, stuff I wore in pregnancy.

I'm still, like, that kind of postpartum, like, different than whenever before I had kids. I feel like I had a lot of stuff in my closet that just didn't fit my body for right now. And that's what I mean. Like, I had to get rid of the stuff that was just sitting there that's, like, not going to even fit my style as a mom. Is there stuff? I don't know. I just feel like, that's hard. Maybe girls out here are relating to what I'm trying to say.

but I don't really know how to say. There's like really youthful wardrobe pieces, and then there's pieces that are like more mom-coded almost. And it's not that I always have to be like a mom. No. But I'm also like, I just don't know that that fits me right now. And too, practically, like short dresses. I'm like, I can't wear any short dress chase kids around

because I'm going to be a biddo or picking them out. It's just not appropriate. So I'm thinking through logistics. I'm thinking through logistics, okay? Christian move on I was saying I wouldn't mind it if you did thank you okay okay moving on

I'll skip question three for a second it's about us I don't feel like it's maybe timely this one's also about us but in a more deep manner what is something small I do that bothers you but you don't say anything about it I probably say something about it

I think if there's something I haven't told you All right This could shift the afternoon I want this to be the first place I ever hear This could really shift the afternoon Because then I might end up saying I'm fine If I tell me something How do you feel about that?

What is something small I do? Something small that you do This is really small But it does kind of annoy me Is that you have those long eyebrows That you won't let me just like cut or tweez and then I see you over there trying to pull them out with your fingers and I'm like, why will you not just let me cut them?

Because it hurts when you tweez her mouth. I could just scissor them. Cisor them. Just trim. It's it. It takes two seconds. I could be better at that. That's just a small thing.

You can scissor them tonight. The other small thing, I won't say. Cut them with his scissors. You can trim them tonight. You can trim them with the scissors. You can cut them with scissors tonight. You can trim them tonight. That's just a very small thing.

If that's a, that's, I will take that. Abby, what about your man? Um, you make me want to go smaller than where I was going. Oh, see, what you're going to say is really going to shift the afternoon. No, I was thinking about this morning, Will's like, like trying to nonchalantly look in the window at the coffee shop. And I was like, Will, you are not casual right now. So I was like, bothered you? Yeah.

Sometimes you think. that you like really are like not looking a certain way but you are I'm like hey that is funny that's what you're a growing guy thing is like you're noticing the way that there

I'm like oh just you're being really you know what I was doing I was just watching the guy I know caramel drizzle on the coffee I just wanted to see it you just wanted to see it

I was literally I had my arm on the window and I was literally like you You were trying to be nonchlamas and all. I don't know something funny. This is maybe something small I do that bothers you, but the small thing is actually, it's big.

Yesterday on the O'Dershame podcast, we were talking about the poop story stuff, and I made the joke about, yeah, like sometimes when I forget to flush the toilet and make Sadie mad, they're like, you forget to flush the toilet? I'm like, you've never, like, accidentally forgotten to flush. They're like, no, I don't think I've ever not flushed.

And I'm like, if I get distracted, and I'm like, you know, I just forget to flush. And then you always are like, oh, look, who forgot to flush? Yeah, I know. Okay, well, on that note, you know what really does, you know what I mean? And this is potty talk. Oh, gosh.

This needs to be said. You literally, I'm going to say toot all the time. Like, unashamedly, you squat. You have been ripping them lately. What are you? You're coming at me. You've been so gatsy. out this is what I'm saying it doesn't annoy me that you do it annoys it me that when I do it's like bruh

and I'm like you've done it 30 times today I do one time and you're like bra that's what we do because like it's different they're very all the time I'm so used to it it's just like bait like like it's their big dudes But like, but hers, she lets one out. That it's so bad. It's revolutionary to him. It's so bad. So the small thing that bothers you is my, it's not that you have gas. It's that when I do.

No, that's what I'm saying. I don't mind that you have gas. I don't mind that you do something funny about it. I mind that when I just casually do, it's like, just trying to, what? Next time you just. rip it. I'll just like give you a head nod. Yeah, that's what's up.

I'll just be like, yo. All right. Maybe that's... No, you think of that, baby. You can even laugh. I'll dab you up. It's the look and disgust that I get at that. It's like... It's like... It's the... I think it's cute, but it is also like a bro. What you doing? What's you doing? Next time just be like, give me some.

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What's the correct number of throw pillows on a bed, and why is it never zero? Six, seven. That's the first I've ever done it. Sorry, I had to. We don't even own six or seven. and throw up the list. Thanks for having us. We forgive you.

Which technically that means nothing. So you're saying zero. Oh. That was a two bovaca. That was so too much. It's true. Technically six seven means nothing. I've literally cried.

I've literally never said that in my life. There's no true meaning. Can I say, could I say that six, seven is not funny to me at all like that was funny like you did that and I was like I felt it that was kind of like the look Christian gives me when I fart

nice no if that's the look I gave you then I need to work on that because that is hurtful I'm just kidding there are a number of pillows on the bed you are I'm not a fart shamer it's funny because like people will just die laughing and I'm like okay back to the pillows

I think we found an even balance of we have How many do we have? We have five. We have five. Two big ones. Like at all times? Yeah.

Two big ones, two small ones. We make our bed. We make our bed every single way. And then one lumbar. A lumbar. That's what, it's just like the long. Fancy choice of work. Yeah, it's like a long one.

I'm not very detailed in my life. I don't even know how many pillows. Do you all make your bed every day? No. We have, we have two pillows that are on their bed. Yeah. They're actual pillows. We do.

That's the ones you lay your head on. Every morning. If we count our head pillows, that's, We have nine pillows on our bed. Whoa. We have two king-sized pillows. We have two king-sized pillows that we sleep on. And then we have two big ones, two regular size lumbar.

We take the five off, and then we just have two pillows on the bed at night. In my mind, I really want to be someone who makes a bed every day, but I've like told myself to do it a lot of times in my life and listen to inspiring motivational things about doing it. And I still haven't thought. Neither. Okay. Moving on. This kind of, I'm going to jump to number 10 here. Whoa. What are you really doing when you say you're getting ready? Getting ready in quotes. Getting ready? Like, like? I really am getting ready. And I'm probably listening to an audio book or a podcast. Not doing what scrolling ever? I listen. That's like my, that is my time to listen to books or sermons. When I, okay, when I get up, I, I,

just start getting ready and I don't really get on my phone or sometimes I don't even talk until I'm like done getting ready and that's it she won't I don't like my getting ready time is my getting ready time like it's like if I'm still in bed you're just like hey time to get up yeah the only thing that I would say is like not part of like actually getting ready would be me just like talking to Ollie or like pet and Ollie or something or taking her outside that's inspiring I'm very like ADD kind of so I can't just like do one task at a time

I have to like I'll start my makeup and I'll like get up then I'll go like a dress and I'll do my hair then I go brush my teeth I'm like I'm like opening the window shades while I'm brushing my teeth I like to kind of move around

do that kind of stuff yeah and like blow drop in the air you're like moving with the leg yeah yeah my arm stretches over to the window toe yeah with the leg what is that

well I'll see about you like moving your windows changed like with your leg like while you're brushing your teeth and then blow down your hair. No, I'm brushing my teeth and I'm doing the same thing at the same time. My legs just walk. I should really, I can't wait. We need to do a podcast where we ask the questions to y'all. Let's do part two.

We are right to part two because I'm very curious what you're doing. Let's do it. Make it a competition. Can we wait I'm fine? I'm fine. What's that your I'm fine? We can ask number eight.

let's just let's do a little curveball I'm so curious what number three was I'll go back to number three yeah yeah you can ask number three all right number eight what part of our life is really fun right now you don't have an answer quick

I don't have an answer quick besides everything we've had a lot of fun lately this is sometimes chaotic but what is really fun to me is when bedtime when me and you are laying down with Honey and Haven

and reading books and making up stories and all that kind of stuff, that is very fun. And I know it's not going to last forever, so I feel like bottling it up whenever we have those fun storytelling times. It is chaotic, though. It is, but it's also like, this is really fun, and this stage is, like, got to go by way faster than I wanted to. That's true. I feel like I'm in the same, like, I just want, I know it's not forever. I want to just soak up the time just between us, but I don't feel like,

one certain part of our day is like the most fun. Yeah, we only have much fun during the day. How about your Lego nights? Oh, that is really fun. That's our Monday night. Monday, TikTok Live Legos. Yeah, that's fun. That is fun. But we like watch a lot of TV together and like... Y'all watch a lot of shows. Name all your shows you'll watch.

Oh, my gosh. I just started Golden Bachelor. What we're watching right now. Survivor, Amazing Race, Special Forces. Kardashians. Kardashians What's the Is it Kardashians or keeping up

The Kardashians? No Kardashians We did watch keeping up But it's changed But you caught a Nobody We're about to start

Nobody wants this Dancing with the Stars Nobody wants this It's a show Yeah It's with Kristen Bell It's actually very funny Dancing with the Stars

Big Brother We did watch The Big Brother Ended already What? These are all current These are current These are current

These are current airing TV shows. I'm only watching House of David right now. Well, only murders in the building just finished. Only murders in the building just finished. I want to watch House of David.

Have you seen the first season? We just watched all the Chosen. No. Season two just came out. We watched The Chosen all the way through. I'm watching One Punch Man. This is...

I don't know. We watch a lot of... That is commitment. Yeah. We just finished. Well, she just finished Love is Blind. Terrible season.

That's really bad. Absolutely. It was a nice. nightmare. I didn't watch all of it, but I knew enough. And the list goes on. That is crazy. You know what was fun that we kind of trailed off? We were watching Reba. And then Riba is now going off Netflix. No. I think it's maybe off now.

That's very sad. Oh, by the way, Fantastic Four just going on Disney Plus. Shut the front door. Wait. Did you finish Thunderbolts by the way? Everybody wants us to start a podcast. I'm like, guys, there's really no like, there's no, everybody has a podcast. and family. I was like, there's no room for us. And then people were like, well, people were like, what if y'all get on and just talk about like TV shows and movies and like Legos and like just random stuff?

It's like a pop culture podcast. Yeah. That may be fun. You could do like all the Easter eggs. I don't know what's happening ever. Like our own version of new rock stars. You could do that. All right. Number three, we're circling back to it.

Am I ready for number three? Let me take one more sip and my chai that tastes like a candle. Just look directly at me when I'm asking you. It tastes like a candle. What is the most attractive thing about me? Are you serious? This was number three. And is it still the same from when we first met?

Oh, that's interesting. Let's take a breather on that one. Let's see. The most attractive thing about you right now? Was that the first part? I mean, and is it still the same? Oh. Like, there could be something else if it were not.

I think one of the best. things slash most attractive things about you is how you like love people and how everybody is like drawn to you because you're just such like a lovable light person and that stayed the same like man i thought you're going to say like i know i'm so good you went first sorry because i would feel like i also love your physical appearance that helps that was that was actually really sweet thanks i love that just one baby okay well is that the same as when you met me what physical no what like is that the same thing being drawn to you yes okay yeah you've always been that way hey i'll just go with the first thing that came ahead before i was swayed by her answer that was

really beautiful one of the things that i think is the most attractive thing about you that i originally was very tired to and still am is how athletic you are that was very attractive to me because that's how we really like when we did we were dating we bonded so much over playing tennis playing basketball. We threw the football all the time because we both like stuff like that. So I feel like that was like a very bonding pain in our relationship and still is.

It's so true. Well, that was number three. That was the... That was the... I love how you held out for that one. Well, because it was after, I just felt like we needed to kind of do some other things before I went there.

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You got it, Bobby. Do you ever rehearse what you're going to say before bringing something up because women always know what to say? Oh, yeah. I rehearse in my mind. what i was saying because you didn't really get it so i was asking oh i got okay all right i was just all right my bad my bad she was just rehearsing my fault my fault my fault that's actually funny you probably were i was just like figuring out what i was going to say but i feel like sometimes men i'm not saying all men do this but sometimes men start their sentence not knowing

how the end is going to come out to be and i just i just i don't I feel like I think of the whole sentence before I say it. You know what I mean? Yeah. I think that's true. I don't know. In that sense, I guess I kind of rehearse it, but I don't feel like it's a rehearsal. I can agree to that.

Like I don't look at myself in the mirror and say, I'm going to say this, this and this. You know? I have done that before, though. Okay. I can agree. I mean, it's, this is like, I'm not trying to say that, like, you dig on me all the time about this. but like sometimes you just like think just think before you say it yeah that's fair it's fair it's very fair in hindsight most of the time I'm like wow yeah I've sometimes I just get yeah

sometimes I stop you and say just rehear that sentence and then reformat it and then tell me it again and it'll sound better you get mad whenever I say like you could have said it like this you're always like well yeah I could have but I didn't think to say it like that in the moment but I think that's because typically we do and sometimes to a fault overthink what we're going to say so there is a lot of thought that goes into what we say even though it doesn't always come out great and not always obviously everybody says things that are like oh I shouldn't say it like that even if I did think it out or whatever but sometimes guys will just say something and then it's like oh yeah maybe I should have thought about that and girls do that too

but I do think we tend to overthink, which can be a problem in and of itself. But for me, like, with even what I do, because so much of what I do is communication, podcasting, book, writing, speaking is all communication. And whenever I'm going to give a message on stage, like one of the things that helps me prepare is to rehearse in my mind how I'm going to say it.

And even when I'm typing out my message and working on it in the room, like I imagine myself saying it. And if I can't imagine myself, saying it and it doesn't come out naturally or right, then I'd delete it. I'm like, then I'm not going to say it. It has to come out naturally and authentically. So I say, just say, since I already kind of program my brain to do that, it's easy for me

to accidentally slip into that and just my normal day life, too, like, rehearse what I'm going to say before a conversation. You don't ever, like, go look at yourself in the mirror and be like, so what I really mean when I'm doing? Are you rapping? No, I was meaning like, do you like look at like inflections and like facial? you know kind of thing well the problem is because sometimes I rehearse like moments of a message I'm saying like I have found myself rehearsing even conversations I'm going to have that day with

somebody like if it's a big conversation I'm going to have I have I have found myself of doing that in front of a mirror I'll be honest there that was and that is vulnerable what do you say that I also think like I'll be thinking about conversations that I may have And I feel like that is like me, me asking the Lord into those conversations. Like, I don't. Yeah. You're really, you're trying to be intentional about it and be like, okay, God, help me with the right words to say. And just like open up the door to these conversations that I want to be like had.

I get that. Well, if you all think it's been hot, it's about to get hotter. Okay. We're moving into a section called Deeper Questions. Oh, my gosh. I'm going to jump to number seven. I'm just going to be honest with you. This is the only question.

question of all the ones with a preface hold on oh me are you pumping the brakes wait hold on give me a second are you pumping the brakes yeah I was just doing a California roll all right go I go for it I'm never heard you say that California stop you know it's like you don't come to a complete stop whoa is that why the sushi's called California roll baby don't don't over think this baby I'm sorry I never heard that before I think it's called a California stop I might have just made up California roll I was about to ask

it why is a California roll called Okay let's ask number seven deeper questions This is all with a preface so get ready If you're listening Buckle up This is bold But if you want to go there I think it's something that can help

That can every Sorry Is this the preface? Yes This is bold But if you want to go there I think it's something every couple Can relate to

How can a woman hold it together for everyone else but have such a short fuse with her husband Oh snap Were we supposed to Were you supposed to say the preface out loud 100%

I was definitely supposed to say the preface Okay Oh my gosh I'm crying Because that is a good question It is a good question I wish I wasn't laughing so hard right now To answer this because that is really a question And how can a woman hold all these, hold all this things together, but have a short fuse for their husband?

Yes. Short answer, I feel like it's because you're my, my inner circle. Like, I'm in a person. Yeah. And I want to be able to come to you with things. I don't think it's like a short fuse issue. But it's just like you're my direct, like. You feel most comfortable.

Yeah. Yeah. I don't, I mean, and you can tell me if I'm wrong. I don't really feel like you get the short fuse with me. Like when I think about who gets the short fuse, it's Cabo or dog, because like I just have a little, like if Cabo gets on the table, eat something, all the stuff, like, I'm like, Cabo makes me so annoyed because I'm like, man,

I'm trying to hold it together for all the kids, get all their stuff and all the different things in life. And then when Cabo like eats the food or knocks it, it's like the one thing that like makes me like mad. Not that I'm mean to Cabo, I'm not mean to Cabo, but I'm like definitely more like annoyed about it. But with you, you don't think as much like before you. Yeah, I just seem like Cabo. And I've noticed I need to be careful about that because like Honey gets so mad at Cabo and I know it's because she sees me.

Again, I'm not like mean to our dog. I love our dog so much. But when I think about short fuse, I think it's like the one thing that tips it over the edge when you're like trying to hold things together. But I think for me and you in our relationship sometimes I can get snappy. in the midst of like when I'm really busy like for instance and one thing for me right now this is kind of funny

and this is very niche to our situation like being postpartum when I'm pumping and trying to do a million things like I've noticed I'm like short fuse because like my body's trying to do something I'm picking up something I'm helping the girls and then I'll like snap at you and then I'm normally I try to

I'm like sorry it's not you like I'm really stressed right now or like sorry I'll like tell you I'm pumping I'm overwhelmed, I'm like over-stimulated, like so much is having. So I feel like, and maybe I wasn't as good about that earlier on. Now I try to just communicate with you why I was short or why I snapped or why I was like a little bit on edge. And normally it has nothing to do with you.

It's like I feel overwhelmed. And when you ask me that, I just wasn't graceful. That was a very sweet, intimate moment. I'm being serious. No, that was, we had a connection there. That was good. That's good. I'm being serious.

Thanks for letting us know that. It's just how fast you turn to another question. The problem is I've been rehearsing what I'm going to say. Right, right, right. Back to number 12 on the not deeper questions. Gotcha. But no, that was actually really, that was really sweet. Do you have more to add on to that or no?

No, I think you covered it pretty long. Yeah, well, because I was going to say, I was going to have another vulnerable moment. Vulnerable. We saw this show one time and the guy said vulnerable the whole time, and that's why Christian says that. It was a really funny thing. Vulnerable. Um, no, but what I was going to say was I think most of the time it comes down to kind of what you said. Abby, it's like when it's your person, that's the person that you respect the most, trust the most, love the most. And it's, so my point is there's someone else can say something to you and it doesn't bother you. But if the person that you respect the most love the most, have that sort of relationship. Okay. We had this moment recently. Yes, we did. Do you want to share? When you call me the, I can't, can I say that?

No. What? Oh. Christian. No, I'm talking about dinner with everybody. Yeah, yeah. Like, yeah. I think that's good to share.

This is the reason why there was a preface is because, hey, this is going to help a lot of people. If you don't want to share, it's okay. No, I want to share it. But like, John Reed and Jacob were roasting you for a solid hour and a half. Okay, yes. So when we're in New York, I was just getting flamed at this restaurant. But you were also joking. back to them.

Was this the one that we weren't at? We went to go to this. We saw MJ. Not to make you feel like a hot dog. Not to make a corn dog at a hot dog party. It ain't flattering. It's not flattering. Yeah, we're at a steakhouse.

We're at a restaurant in New York. And John Reed and Jacob had like two Guinness beers. I tried to sip and I was like, blah. That's gross. And then I was like getting roasted for that, which is whatever. But then the guy came to order our food. And my past few steaks that I've eaten. have just been like not good

they've been too bloody I just it was like all the details of this I'm given the details okay so and I was like you know what I'm gonna kind of whisper to the waiter

like hey I want a medium well state you know like you know are you ashamed of medium because everybody made so much fun of him so then I tell the waiter because the waiter like made sure he said it right

he was like medium well and then Christian was like yes and then Johnry's like No, hold on, no, hold on, that's not what happened. Because I usually get medium or medium rare, but the last few times it's been way too rare. So I was like, medium well, and then it might end up being what I actually want, besides the point. So the guy goes to order for Jacob, and Jacob says medium rare, but the guy said, the guy said, wait, did you say medium well? And then Jacob said, who in the world orders a medium well steak?

And then the waiter pointed at me. And then Jacob just started flaming me, like, just roasting me for the next 30 minutes. then John Reed jumped on. And I'm like, I always say, you know, you can roast me and I'll be, I'll banter back. But after about an hour, I just like, after an hour, I'm like, okay, this crap's got to stop, you know. So this is all happening. And then Sadie makes some kind of. No, all I said was.

No, no, you made some kind of like sarcastic comment. And I jokingly said, oh, what are you turning on me now too? And then you said, well, you're kind of like walking into it. And then that comment made me snap because I was like. like, wait. Okay. From Christian's

perspective, that's what I sounded like. From my person, I said, we've got to walk into it laughing because I

said, you drink, you try to sip of their beer and you were joking and you said, oh,

this is disgusting. You like, you did it as a joke. You're like, like you did a joke. I just not look like, you just looked like like a baby sheep.

Because to be honest, To be honest, I thought the whole night you were being so funny. Like, I really was, I was laughing with you and at you. And then when you did the medium well thing, it was just funny. And then it was like, and give me some ketchup too. Like, we were all having fun. When I hear you walking into it, I think I'm like raising my glass with the fork like, I'm supposed to waiter, I want a medium well state.

Like, that's my idea of walking into it. So all that to say, when I said you're walking into it, Christian got upset with me. This is where I was getting to with the short fuse. And I was like, are you kidding me? And I said this in front of everybody. I was like, are you kidding me? Everyone else has been roasting you for an hour. And all I said was you're walking into it.

And that was deeply hurtful to him. And then he said, because you are my person. This is sad. I'm not crying. I'm fine. It's just that I'm fine. Because I was like, I've actually been crying laughing and now my tears are like close to the end. Yeah.

no that that's so bad because i was like i'm sorry i don't want i didn't mean to upset you i was surprised that that did upset you in no way did i think when i said you're walking into it was it going to be offensive i was actually thinking you were being funny all night and i was laughing with you and everybody and how you were we had actually even just talked about how like we no one can take it like christian like you were laughing at yourself you were laughing at everybody but to the point of this question that's why people struggle with this is because there is a shorter fuse

and it's not because it's like a fuse is that that person really means less to their words hold a lot of value so if that person does it, it's offensive everybody else can be laughing but you're on my team like you're on my side so when it feels like they're not

then it hurts we talk about this we talk about this a lot especially with her family it mainly is like whenever we're hanging out we're playing games whatever so I mean she grew up with I mean she had her dad

and then she had a younger brother and so they they were always like the tag team on Abby it's so in a setting when we're all together and they're ganging up on her I you jump in

I jump in I mean I think it's funny but then that automatically plays in to she values what I am saying to her. It hurts from you. It's one thing if they say it's funny, but when you say it's hurtful. Absolutely. So like it's

better for me to not saying anything at all and just like kind of smile at that. Because if she sees that, like she knows that I think that's funny but I'm never going to take that dig at her because it's just going to hurt her feelings. And I think that that is like so

real for so many couples. So I'm glad we got to this point. But I think too, in my like situation when being over similar doing so much for me I feel like the thing that I get short with them like you know all that I have my plate you know so like can you give me that grace like I don't want you to like if you have one more thing I'm like but you know how much I have going on but I need to have more capacity as well to be present in our relationship despite all that I'm going on so it goes like I gotta take it for my side but that's the thing that makes me more I'm like you know but I think ultimately it comes down to you know each other the best you love each other the most so you're most sensitive to what that person says or does yeah that's good that was a good question that was a really good question and i almost feel like that's maybe the best way to end it there's two other questions i think we could ask the other two but okay but that was well it doesn't matter ask them okay you got it bobby last two questions right right cool make it count do women

actually want advice when you when when they vent Do women actually want advice or just someone to listen? I've actually been thinking about this lately. I am an external processor and I like to just talk to you about everything. We were just talking about this last night. We're talking about this last night because in times past, I have always been a really good listener with you. That's something that you have valued. But I do want a little bit of a little bit of stuff.

marriage grows, you always love somebody to talk to. I'm always just the listener. So, like, she's now looking for someone, looking at for me to respond and validate what she's saying whenever I've always just been a listener. So that's something that we're, that I'm learning and growing into. But what I was going to say is I want validation from you as my authority. Like, Right. Like, I'm submitted to you, so I want, I want you to have something to do with, like, what I'm thinking and feeling. You know what I mean? Yeah.

Yeah. I want to be in on it too. I love that. I think for me, because I do so much communication, I want you to speak into it. Like, and that's the thing, when I think back to the first time I ever had a conversation with you on the phone, when I was like, whoa, I'm really interested in you. like as a person and also to date you is because you talked so much in like the best way like you had so much to share you had so many things like if I brought up a topic you had so much to say about it you you were like did you read this book have you watched that sermon do you know Ben Stewart

like you were like connecting all these dots and speaking into what I was saying and that's when I knew I was like you can lead me like I knew you could leave me and I knew that I wanted to learn from you in those ways and like connect with you in those ways and I still feel that way like whenever I come to you and say something and then you have advice it literally reminds me of like why I fell in love with you how because I think about that first phone call so I do like when you speak into it but listening there's so much comfort and like being able to just sit there and know that you're listening and that you're listening and that you are hearing the part no one else is hearing and then I love whenever you come back with some good advice that's really sweet thank you

Yeah, I think it's cool, like, how certain, how marriages can evolve that way from just being the listener to actually adding value to the conversation by, like, keeping it going and being like, oh, yeah, and then this, this and this. And that's also where we find, like, okay, this is what the Lord's stirring in me. Oh, wait, he's actually stirring that in me, too, just in a kind of different way. Yep. And it just brings us closer and closer to him. I love that. Cool. So the next question that I circle

That honestly, y'all kind of just answered it With that last one The question was, when you're upset What is the best way for me to respond But we kind of just talked about that with listening And sharing advice So I kind of want to end with a fun one Is that okay?

Let's do it Yeah You're listening out there Is that okay if I end with a fun one? Yeah You're doing a great job hosting Okay, this is actually a really fun one Do you actually want me to pick

Where we go out to eat Or is this a trap? Yes, I actually want you to pick By the end of the day, after all the decisions, I'm like, please pick where we're going to go eat. I don't care at all. I'm very decisive on where we go. That's a joke. I'm on the same page.

I feel like I make a lot of the decisions during the day, and I'm just ready to, like, have that one off-capping. You make a plan for the day. Hey, we're going to start off. We're going to go get coffee. Then we're going to go drop off some packages. Then we're going to go to Walmart. We're going to Target, old Navy, whatever. And then by the end of the day, you're poop.

and you're just, hey, where are we going to eat? I don't really care what happens next. I feel that way. I'm always like, anywhere. I don't care where. And I'm not going to argue back. I'm just going to be like, yep, let's do it. Because it helps whenever you decide that.

Are you inspired? I am inspired. I do want to say I will fight back if you say Taco Bell. Dude, no. I'm not. There's a line. There's a line. I could say something tonight.

You'd be like, no. No, I wouldn't. 100% you would. No, I'm telling you. It kind of also depends on the day you do love when you pick. This is making me think about dinner. Let's go to Ross tonight. Great.

And just like that, friends. And we're going to dinner. And just like that. No, okay, we're doing this again. Part two. Let us know the questions in the comments. Because we'll do rolls reversed. What have you guys?

No, what have we always want to know about? Guys. But we're too scared to ask. This next episode may take a while. It may be a bit of a longer episode. This next episode may go so viral. It's just like insanity. We may need a part two and three.

We'll need a part two to the... I think y'all are going to ask so many questions. There's like a part five. Just like, okay, we get it. There's a lot of questions. You want to know about us. Well, I need help with my questions. To be continued.

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