WHOA That's Good Podcast - What We're Learning in Marriage: An Honest Q&A | Sadie Robertson Huff & Christian Huff

Episode Date: November 5, 2025

Sadie and Christian are answering your questions in this fun, anything-goes episode! They’re chatting about everything from how to actually survive a long-distance relationship, to whether Christian was low-key intimidated by Sadie’s fame when they first met . Plus, they get into being an Auburn fan, their new nighttime fam routine, Santa in the Huff house, their favorite things about each other, how they handle disagreements without the drama, and if keeping secrets from your husband is ever okay. This Episode of WHOA That's Good is Sponsored By: Upgrade your sleep—or give the gift of better rest! Go to https://trymiracle.com/WHOA and use the code WHOA to claim your FREE 3 PIECE TOWEL SET and SAVE over 40% OFF. https://helixsleep.com/sadie — Get 27% off sitewide today! https://drinkag1.com/whoa — Get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2, when you first subscribe! Chapters: 00:50 DIving into the DMs 01:43 Fave thing about each other 03:58 New nighttime routine with Honey & Haven 07:17 Being an Auburn fan 12:25 What life lessons are we learning right now? 25:02 Teaching Scripture to the girls 29:28 Santa 36:40 Long-distance relationships 38:51 Was Christian intimidated by Sadie's fame? 42:55 What part of marriage should be talked about more? 45:57 How to handle being asked to keep a secret from your husband 47:37 How to work through disagreements with each other - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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That's Helixleep.com slash Sadie for 20% off site wide. Heatsleep.com slash Sadie. We're going to talk about this a little bit more later on in the episode. What is up, everybody? I hope you're having a great week. It's about to get so much better because we are going to have a great conversation. This has been a long time coming. You asked, she finally listened. I feel like Christian is in a really silly mood today and so am I. So look, bear with us. It's

going to be a great conversation. Actually, we opened this one up to the DMs and we're like, hey, guys, what questions do you have for me and Christian? And honestly, y'all said, flooded. It was like, you're making it sound sarcastic. I'm not. I'm being serious. No, y'all flooded the comments. I know. I'm being serious. And so our team helped us kind of put together. these categories of like fun questions, dating questions, marriage questions, faith questions, kid questions. So we're going to cover a little bit of it all, but we're going to start with some fun questions.

I'm going to start with one that I want to hear. What is your favorite thing about each other? Well, you go first? Well, you say we're going to start super funny and then you... No, I said fun. Like, this is so fun when you tell me how much you love me. But you also said funny. Well, it could be funny that I'm hilarious.

You have had some things lately. Why would you say that? No one could hear that. Favorite thing about you is... This is a roostar. No, no, my favorite thing about you is you're fun to hang out with. You are always my go-to. Who would I hang out with?

You're always the first one. Wait, that is actually really sweet. You're fun at it? We've been watching the World Series together. We've been, we've been vibing. We have, we have been vibing. That's true. My favorite thing about you is.

It's humor, looks. I mean, I don't know. Hello. Hello. Let me scan my list real fast and decide which one I'm going to say. Oh, my gosh. Okay, mine's a little bit more serious, but you are so open to people speaking into your life. And that is like one of my favorite things about you.

That is very kind. It's true. And I've been reading through Proverbs. I actually finished it on the way here. I've been listening to Proverbs, I should say. So I've been listening to Proverbs. And one thing that's been a consistent thing is talking about, like, being willing to take instruction. And how, like, the fool won't listen to instruction, but the wise, you know, continue to learn.

And you do that very well. I listen to people that I trust. Yeah. So if you're in the comments right now, roast me for something I just said, I'm probably not going to listen to you. So let's just clarify who I'm going to listen to. Yeah. Well, we just, on that note, we just listened to a, I guess our actual church service on Sunday was about the voices we listened to and like having the right coaches in your life, having a good coach. Having a good coach. So it does matter. You know, you don't listen to everybody, but you do take instructions from the ones you trust. And I am, I learn a lot from that from you.

That is really sweet. Yes. Okay. Next question. Favorite, no, sorry, funny story from this past week. yeah it's got to be honey's bedtime well you started a sweet little nighttime routine that you saw on social media i did so my mom actually shared this on social media like she re-shared it and i read the whole article and it was so cool it was talking about how whenever kids like instead of just doing a bedtime story at night like reading a book if you tell them about your day um it's actually shown to improve their language like dramatically it actually said they i think they interviewed like 700 or they They did a study with like 700 families, and the ones who told their kids what they did during that day, and in detail, it's like, you know, I went to work today, and there was a moment where I got stressed, but I overcame it, and then I ended up having a great day. Like, you actually go through how you felt in the day, how you overcame emotions during the day. They said that their language was a whole year in advance in the other kids who had not, you know, heard about their parents' day. I thought that was really interesting and I had just had somebody tell me that Honey's vocabulary is like really amazing and they said they're like I can tell that you all talk a lot because she talks like like you and I was like well yeah she never we do talk a lot honey never stops talking and they said but specifically I can tell you don't talk to her like a baby because she talks like an adult and I was like that's really cool so anyways I was like I'm going to start incorporating in that more and see if I see you know changes in their vocabulary so this is fresh we've literally started this two nights ago. But it was so cool how automatically we saw something shift. So I was telling them about my day and I told them I went to work and, you know, I just started going back to work. So

sometimes that can be kind of hard, but I did my podcast. It was really fun. So I'm telling him about my day. And then this is so cool, Haven, who's two years old, she goes to pray. And, you know, sometimes two-year-old's prayers are just like repetitive. They sound the same every night. They're a little bit funny. But she actually said, thank you God that mommy got to go to work today. And she started praying for my day and for my work. And then Honey did too and she prayed for my work. And I just started noticing that they were like incorporating my day in their prayer life, which is like so cool at two and four. Like what? That's amazing. And so we've definitely seen something shipped in that. But the funny thing was that last night or that same night, we were talking about where mom and dad are

because they're on a trip. And so we talked about that earlier in the day. And so when it came time to pray honey's praying for k-mama and dubs and she stopped and she said what city is k-mama in and i said oh she's in scotland and so she said okay god thank you for scotland and thank you that k-mama is in scotland so then last night she's praying again for k-mama and i can't remember what the word was and she was like and god thank you for kama being in it was salatoria salatoria I should have looked up if Salatoria was actually a place. We went from Scotland to Salatoria. But hey, it was the thought that counts.

But it was like, there was no hesitation to it. I know. Thank you for came out being in Salatoria. It was just confidence, which was the funny part. It was so funny. But it is really cool to see that even in two nights. Like, I definitely have seen their thoughtfulness. You know, like they're like thinking about what they did in their day and what I did in mine.

You didn't yours. So that's pretty sweet. Another funny story because I saw that someone asked What's Christian's favorite college football team So first I'll let you have your moment Who's your favorite college football team? Auburn, that's where I went. War Eagle?

Yeah, War Eagle. Yeah, being an Auburn football fan is like, it pretty much equates to like the spiritual warfare that I go through. Whatever. It's like, it is not, being an Auburn football fan is literally one of the hardest things to do and to still be faithful to it.

Well, the problem that you go through, and I see this week after week, is, like, you get your hopes up so high. And it's like, no, these players and this stat and blah, blah, blah, and like, we're going to have the best season ever. And every year, I've known you, for the past six years, I guess, since we've been married. I won't count the first year because I didn't know enough about football. I still don't really. But I would be like, okay, why don't we just not get our hopes, like, all the way up? And then it can be like such a great surprise when they dominate. When you've reached the mountaintop like we have before, 2010, 2013 was another one,

it's tough to face the valleys. And we've been in the, our valley has been a long just plateau. Hey, you are so faithful, though. I am very faithful. But it is, but being an Auburn fan is, it's, it can be, it can be miserable, but it can also be exciting. One thing we also realize this week, as we've been watching the World Series, and Christian loves football, so we talk about that a lot, because it's fall,

is I started thinking, how many athletes, like professional athletes can I name? And this is really funny because Christian recognizes everybody. Like, we'll be somewhere, he'll be like, oh, that's so-and-so. I'm like, how do you know that? How do you recognize these people? And he, like, always knows every athlete. We were watching the Dodgers game, and they were, like, panning it on this person that had this, like, crazy blonde hair, and they were like,

I don't know if they were making fun of the guy, but they were, like, trying to show this guy's hair. And the person next to him was Dave Franco. and I was like, what are the odds that they're trying to showcase this? Yeah, so he's like, look, Dave Franco. But it was James Franco. Yeah, it was James Frank.

And then we were like, oh, I would have never recognized that. And then next thing you know, he's like, oh, there's Magic Johnson. And I was like, I would have never noticed that. And then I just wouldn't have noticed. So then I'm like, you know, to be honest, I don't know how many professional athletes I can even name. So we go through every sport. And I could only name off the top of my mind a total of 10 athletes.

and that was including football. Wait, that was NFL, NBA, MLB, tennis. WMBA. Oh, no, I didn't count in WMID. I'm at 12 if we count that. Okay, sorry. Caitlin Clark. Are you not counting WM.A is this?

No, no, no, I just didn't count that in the list of things I was doing. I only knew, like, the super famous ones, like, Steph Curry, LeBron. I think that was the only NBA players I knew. You know more retired. My NFL player game was strong, though, because I would. watch quarterbacks and receiver. That's the only reason. Yeah, so.

And Travis, Kelsey, and Patrick Mahomes does not count. They do count. They do count. They do count. That does not count. If they don't count, I'm back to 10. Okay, whatever. We'll stick with 10.

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I think that's just like the balance of life. You know, you're laughing one minute, you're crying the next. Like, that's just how we go through life together. And so we love that y'all want to dive in deep and we're going to do our best to answer some of these questions. So what life lesson are you learning right now? Real talk, real time. Hit us, babe. real talk real time um yeah parenting honey is uh the greatest joy and also one of the greatest

challenges um well and haven and kit but you're specifically struggling with the four year old age well specifically with honey just because she's articulate well haven is too but honey's like it's actually understands discipline and those kind of things i mean to interrupt but it's funny because you do have a harder time with honey's age and i have a harder time with haven's age like like honey is a little bit easier for me haven's harder for me but well if honey treated you the way she treats me it would be hard to you too so don't don't be don't be i think i'm like it ain't that difficult um but for honey she's like so so what i'm trying to say is the discipline with honey is hard because she's very strong and very stubborn and she gets that from um one of us or maybe two

of us? Just kidding. She definitely gets up from you. I don't know why we're leaving that up for question. She gets the stubbornness from you. She gets the strong will from me. But you're both of those too. But I'm saying that to say... I actually thought you were talking about yourself.

We're not that way. Yeah. I just thought you were talking about yourself, so that's really funny. Okay. Well, what I was saying was I'm trying to get back on track here. Okay, pause. No, don't pause. Why are we pausing?

Because I totally thought you were talking about yourself and that made me laugh. Because then I quickly realized it was like, oh, you actually are talking about me. I was talking about both of us. Don't pause. Let's just keep it rolling. But what I was saying with Honey is that she's very strong in the sense of like, she's, she's very opinionated. So if I give in to what she's wanting, the request, then there's really no conflict.

like there's no there's no issue or whatever but the problem is she's very strong in what she wants whether it's laying a bed at night and the other night she had a I gave her a water with ice because that's what she wanted and I put the top on it and she did not want the top on it and it was a whole meltdown and it ended up getting me frustrated her frustrated it was embarrassing because I got way too mad which we had to talk about that so I'm saying that to say in the instant, I could have just taken the top off and there would have been no conflict resolution solved. But to discipline her of like, hey, you can't get everything you want. And if I give into giving everything you want, then there's no, then there's going to be a bigger problem when

you're older. And I think that's the thing for me that I'm having to realize is the temptation to just give in what she wants in the moment because she's upset or frustrated at something. and in turn I have to be more patient and have more self-control which is very hard for me those are too fur to the spirit that I kind of can lack at times I cannot be very patient

when she is having a fit so to speak and yeah so I've had to fight that temptation of just giving her what she wants in the moment but not doing that because I know in the future she'll be stronger because of it so that's the thing that I've been learning

that's really good And one thing we've been talking about is like, how do you stay patient yet also firm and not let your emotions switch to anger or like frustration? Because I think that's the thing we've realized both of us. It's like you feel bad whenever you discipline out of anger or like emotion because it really isn't as like to me that's not like effective discipline as you really want it to be because then they're more upset. your mark says like an emotional thing where instead it's like you know I'm going to be levelheaded she can't control her emotions I can control mine so I'm going to be level headed and I'm going to be stern and I'm going to be firm on my decision but I'm not firm out of anger I'm not firm out of like over emotional I'm just making that decision yeah and that's the thing I've been trying to learn that's the thing

that you're learning is like being stern and not being angry and how like there is a difference in the two Like, you can be, like, firm in a decision, but you can do that with, like, a level head. And we're actually using the example of, like, whenever there's an emergency situation, like, everybody actually listens to the person who's most calm in the room who, like, stands up on this age and is like, hey, everybody, you're going to go out this side door. Everyone's single file line, like, the person who, like, takes control of the situation, not the person that's like, everybody run. Well, do you know what the problem with that is, though? I feel like I'm that guy for the first like five times that I'm trying to, but then eventually if no one's where the patience comes in. Eventually, if no one listens that dude, he's just going to lose it. And that's where, you see what I'm saying? He's like, okay, everyone calm down. Then

everyone, if everyone, if everyone keeps freaking out. But it's not, that's the thing. Eventually the guy's like, hey, listen here. But that's what we're learning. That's what we're learning. But what I'm saying is like with the top situation, this is real time parenting that we're discussing and one thing I will say for advice that we're learning right now is like and this is like to advise our parents gave us my mom was telling us this and I thought this was really good she's like y'all are going to have to wrestle it out like behind the scenes you know like parent do the thing and then after like come back and talk about it like how could you have done that better and I think that's been really helpful for us because we have these moments where it's like okay

the top situation, the lid situation. And okay, we got a little too mad. She got very upset. We had good conversation. We went to sleep. The whole thing. It was fine. But we come back and we're like, okay, that didn't go great. Like, how could that have been better? And one thing we were talking about is just saying, hey, I need the tops going to go on the cup because that's the way it's going to be because we're not going to spill the drink in the bed. If you don't want it that way, then I'll go put it back in the kitchen and you're not going to have water tonight. So that's like the period. I made a decision. I'm firm in it. I'm not angry about it. If she continues to cry, then you say, I'm so sorry that you're upset. I wish that you, you know, weren't, but I love you. I'm

going to lay with you. We're going to go to sleep. So it's just like not. That sounds great. No, but that, but that. I'm saying, I'm saying that sounds great in the sense of like, yeah, I wish I could do that. Well, we're learning that. As I'm saying, like, it's good to rehearse what we could have maybe done differently. Now, and also factor in a four-year-old screaming at you. So that's why it's hard. And that's why I'm saying, like, But I know you want to burst out in anger. I know eventually it makes you want to snap. But I think because toddlers can't control their emotions, we have to learn to control ours.

And you can be totally firm and be the disciplinary and not be over, like, that not be overridden by anger or like uncontrolled emotion. How to be stern, but not angry and too aggressive. Yeah. So that's good. That's good. Are you learning anything? I'm learning a lot right now. You're learning how to deal with me when I get like that.

No, I'm learning so much right now, and you know that. You're learning proverbs. I'm learning proverbs. And, hey, if you got to listen to Proverbs, for me, I, like, have been listening. I actually finished it in, like, four days just listening. That's because I needed to listen to Proverbs. I was like, I really need some wisdom in my life right now because I felt like I was struggling in some areas. I'm learning how to wrestle my problems out with the Lord and not with just people.

I feel like I wrestle them out with you. but I feel like I would have a tendency to, like, go to people and talk about a situation, talk about a situation. Like, whereas now I'm like, okay, Lord, can you just help me to forgive this person? Can you help me to learn how to control my tongue? Can you help me to learn how to sit in this feeling of being misunderstood? Because those are things I'm wrestling with right now. Like, I feel like you've watched me kind of wrestle with this feeling of being misunderstood in a certain situation.

And it's a, that's a hard. to wrestle out. And the thing you want to do is go to the person, talking out, blah, blah, but sometimes that's not beneficial. And so for me, I'm like, I'm learning how to wrestle out with the Lord. And that has been so sweet. You know, whenever I put Kit down at night, there's that big giant mirror in her room that is like our Jesus mirror. It's actually one that we did at conference where somebody actually painted the, like, interpretation of Jesus on the mirror. And some nights I'm in there and I'm on my phone. But recently I have just been like looking at that mirror and looking at Jesus's eyes. And it's like, okay, anything I need

to go of my chest today, anything I need to repent of, anything I just need to ask you, Lord. And I've just been asking God for advice. And it's been so helpful. And through asking God for advice, that's what led me to read in Proverbs. And that has been very beneficial to me. I think the theme that I learned throughout the first time of listening through, I want to continue to listen through and see what sticks out to me next time. But this time, it was the idea of taking instruction and listening to other people's advice and having humility. A lot of Dallas said humility comes before honor. I think so many times in our life, like we want to be honored. So we try to act like we have it all together. But it's like, no, actually have humility and

learn in the mess and the hard things. And then eventually one day, maybe you will be at that place of honor where you can speak in. But, you know, don't. don't just try to have it all together. Like, actually just learn, let people speak in. And the second thing I'm learning through the first I'm listening through is just the power of holding your tongue. Like, there is so much wisdom in being able to hold your tongue and not speak when it's not time to speak or not babble or not just go on. And there are so many warnings and proverbs about like where words are many, sin is not absent. And I think that's really true. And especially as women, I feel like it's just so easy to talk. And I just feel like that's not always beneficial, you know.

And so those two things stuck out to me. Another thing that stuck out to me was strength, like just what a blessing it is to be, like, a strong person. I was talking about like blesses, a man who doesn't faint in adversity in the days of adversity, but has strength. Today, Proverse 31, talking about, like, a woman who is strong, you know. And so, I don't know, I felt like even in four days just listening to Proverbs, I've learned so much. And that's because, again, I needed to learn a lot. I was struggling. It was great. Good chance. Y'all, I have never appreciated sleep like I do now that we have a newborn and two toddlers running wild. When the house finally gets quiet, I love sinking into my

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Helixleep.com slash sadie. Have you started teaching scripture to your kids? Where do you start when you want to teach your kids to memorize scripture? This is funny because we, I've not done a lot of this, but we did actually do this this week. And it was really sweet kind of what happened from it. We were all sitting at breakfast and my Bible was on the table and I was like hey let's read scripture and I pulled out psalms 23 and I thought that would be an easy one to go to because it's the Lord is my shepherd and their cousin's name is John Shepard so I knew they'd get excited about that so I was like okay do y'all know what shepherd means and they're like Shepie and I'm like it was shepherd actually is you know

someone who tends to sheep and then Haven's like bah like it was so cute like that was a good one to start with you're going to start somewhere that was a really good one And then, so I start reading it, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. So I stop. And I'm like, okay, let's talk about what that means. And Christian, you want to share kind of what happens? This is pretty cool. Yeah, well, yes, you said, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.

And then you kind of went into explaining it, the idea of God's all we need. We don't need to want anything because we lack nothing. And for some reason, and obviously the, you know, the Psalm goes on to talk about lying down in green pastures. And besides, he leads me. besides still waters. But for some reason, I never made that correlation to, like,

the Lord's my shepherd, I shall not want, and then these things follow. I've always, because there's a comma between the Lord is my shepherd, comma, comma, I shall not want.

And I think most of the time when I've read it, I've thought about it from the context of the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. And David has so many honest psalms about things he struggles with

and, you know, cursing his enemies and asking God to wipe them out, but then also his with Israel and with God. So I always read that psalmas, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. This inkling of like us as humans,

sometimes we don't like to be guided. Sometimes we don't like to be led. We want to go do things our own way. But it was like a humble prayer of, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. And then these things follow when I do surrender to allow him to lead me. So I don't know, and that's not the right context

of which it's written. And then, yeah, I learned that this past week. It was like, oh, never thought about it from that perspective. And I was like, I've never thought about it from your perspective. And then we were like, well, let's look into it. So then we opened up the commentary and I was able to read the commentary. And meanwhile, like, you know, Haven's just kind of sitting there running around doing little things and honey's listening. And we're talking about the context of scripture.

And then we're like, okay, so it does mean like, I need to be content with what I have, which led to a great conversation for us with Hun. because we've been talking about contentment and, you know, toys she has and overabundance and how, you know, we need to be generous with our things and you don't need all of this stuff to be content. So we've been trying to work with her on bringing toys, you know, to different places to give to kids who might not have toys. And so it was just cool how, like, what we were reading actually really did speak right

into the lessons we've been trying to work with her in. And not only that, but it actually helped us. We grew in that moment. We learned something new about God. and the word. And so all that to say, we'll definitely be doing more of that. And I don't think that your kids are necessarily ever too young to start speaking scripture over their life. I mean, we're already pray over kit, you know, all the time, worship over her, say scripture over her. Of course, she doesn't understand, but it's amazing. As soon as I start worshiping over her,

that girl lights up. She gets so happy. And so, you know, I always think about, I'm like, when they were in the womb. If it says, God, knit me together in my mother's womb, I feel like the womb is such a holy place that, like, I feel like we don't know, you know, how God meets them in the spaces. And what God is doing in there, why he's, like, you know, crafting their little fingerprints. And so, I mean, they were, like, made to worship. We all are. They were made in his image. And so you're never, they're never too young to connect them to their creator. They should be from the minute. They should be from the minute they come out of the womb. So I love that you ask that question.

Okay, let's see. This is a little bit of an off-topic one. I'll let you handle this one. But we do get asked this a lot, and I'm just going to say this is a Christmas question about Santa Claus, and we love Santa Claus. I'm going to go into this a little bit more, but I'm giving the heads up to all the moms out there. So someone asks, how do you explain Santa?

and other made-up characters while still staying true to your faith. And, you know, this is a controversial topic, obviously, because some moms choose to, some moms choose not to, and people feel very strongly about it. I'll tell you what's worked for us. I'll tell you also what I thought we were going to do because you always think you're going to do something and then you become a parent and you're like, okay, maybe I'm not going to do it like that.

Before we had kids, we were like, oh, we are 100% doing Santa Claus. Like, that is just like the fun of childhood, like, you know, let's not be over. dramatic about it. That was just like our personal commentary on the whole situation. Like, yeah, we're doing Santa Claus. And then I actually saw somewhere, somebody said, well, you could tell them, you know, there's a secret about Santa Claus. I'll tell you one day when you want to know. So, oh, that's kind of cute. Maybe we'll do that. So I say to say, like, we saw things that we thought were good ideas. We even had our own kind of idea about it. But then when we started to do it, I feel like, I feel like we kind of got some checks. And the way we ended up doing it, I feel has really been

sweet and still fun and kept it lighthearted, but nothing too like detrimental as far as like we're lying to our kids. I don't think you are lying to your kid. I will say personally, I am the person who has very deep thoughts. I was the kid who had very deep thoughts. I always ask my parents very intense questions. And when my mom and dad told me, news about Santa. I was really shocked about it, and it led me to have a lot of questions, even, okay, is God real? Because why did you tell me, this is real? And I really believed it, and there's so many movies about it, and there's so many books about it, and it's not even real. And I was like, well, okay, but everybody goes to church on Sunday. Surely we wouldn't do that

if God wasn't real. And I actually remember wrestling out those questions. And so from the kid who actually does overthink things, dives really deeply into things, I also was holding that tension and how we tell our kids. And so what we've done is we have said Santa is the magic of Christmas. Santa is the magic of Christmas. Obviously, we tell them the true magic Christmas, true meaning of Christmas. So here's the meaning of Christmas. It's Jesus, but some magic in Christmas is Santa Claus. And we say, Santa's, Santa's a matebly character. Just how you ask the question and said, how do you, you know, talk about these made up characters? We tell them, we kind of compare it to princesses that they love. Havens like, you know, always talks about Ursula and Honey. They would talk about like

Hapton Hook. They're scared of them. And they'd love, you know, the princesses. And I'd say, well, Ursula's not real, but it's fun to think about her, you know? Or Anna and Elsa, they're not really real, but they're so fun to imagine to watch some movies. And so just like Elsa and Anna is like the magic of Frozen Santa's kind of the magic of Christmas. It's not really real, but it's so fun. And so we kind of like do it like that. So it's very lighthearted, very loose. we do do Santa Claus because it's fun and it's magic and it makes Christmas morning super just like giddy and silly and fun but not holding it with so much weight that like you believe in something.

Yeah. If that makes sense. Well, me and my brother believed Santa like to a fault to the point where like my brother was in middle school and he was still asking my parents to put reindeer food on the roof and he's one of the most normal dudes that I know and he's awesome and loves God. So he made it out. So did so do Maya, his wife. She believed until high school. Yep. So that's what I'm saying. There is, I don't, she's incredible. I think, you know, ultimately, and I want to have another podcast about this whole conversation. I think every parent has to go where the Lord leads them. You know, if you have a check in your spirit, then hold up, you know, do something different. That doesn't mean everybody has to have that. That doesn't mean it's wrong for someone else to do something different. I think that is something that is a with social media is everyone comes on with their stance and it's like has to be that way and if you

don't then it's detrimental to your child i don't really think that i think you can do santa claus and they believe in it wholeheartedly and it's fun and then you tell them one day and it's like oh shoot it's not real well that's crazy i thought it was and most kids are fine with that and for me look i love god with all my heart it didn't hurt me i thought it was really fun i'm glad my parents did santa for me that's why i want to have some element to that but i do know the thoughts i had and I remember thinking those thoughts and so I just want to make sure with my kids because I see a lot of the same tendencies in my kids they ask really deep questions they are very I don't want to say an overthinker in a bad way but they do think a lot I mean when we read books you can't get

past one sentence without them asking a question it takes on what that sentence meant what why is her face in that picture a little bit sad did that person make her sat like they're so thoughtful and so you know i'm carrying their little hearts and minds as i'm trying to make something fun of christmas and in santa that kind of thing there's a lot of things to quarrel about in controversies and i don't think santa claus yeah you know he's not asking to be controversial who's saint nick that's right he's not like yo he'd be like y'all for real i was just trying to have fun and bless people just yeah it's whatever friends y'all know how the holidays can get with travel you know sweets everywhere

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we're moving on to dating section love it okay I love these two questions thoughts on long distance relationships tips to make it work for those who don't know christian and I were long distance our entire dating and engagement so babe give the advice I kind of think these two go together okay the next question is green godly green flags and dating to look out for so if you are potentially going to be in a long distance relationship tips to make it work and what are some green flags and dating um so for me the first thing i think about is the person has to have good friends around them and be surrounded by a good community and i think be involved in the local church and what i mean is i think it is key that because if you're not

always going to be with this person right if you're long distance dating if this person's a couple hours away, I think it's reassurance to you and even just assurance that they're not doing things that they shouldn't be doing. If this person that you're interested in and you want to start dating, if they don't have many friends, don't have a great community, and they don't have a church that they're plugged into, and I just would say if they're isolated, then I don't think that's a healthy key in a relationship. But for us, I had an incredible community of guys around me at Auburn, that one, you trusted me, but you also trusted them that I'm not going to go do something stupid or go make some wrong decision that would be detrimented to our relationship

because you know who I've surrounded myself with. I had an awesome relationship with my pastor, which same thing. If I was ever out of line and doing something that I shouldn't be doing, it would have never gotten to you to where like, hey, this is a red flag because it would have been addressed. It would have been addressed from some other situation. So, and I think, think for me, if I was isolated with no community, that our relationship wouldn't have worked. One, because there were things that I was struggling with when we started dating of, you know, how am I, you know, a junior in college and no one knows who I am to dating somebody who's very, very popular and well known, and to a lot of people that can be intimidating.

Someone actually asked that question. Was Christian intimidated by you at first because you were a TV personality? Wow. Good question. I think I was intimidated by you actually because I thought you were cool and I have been notoriously known for being kind of goofy and not super like cool. I remember high school someone was like, you were the least intimidating person and I was like, okay, that seems a little bad candid because I think what you're saying is I'm not cool, but thank you. You were, you were intimidating. But that's funny because I do think to some degree you maybe that that was intimidating,

but and I want you to speak to that. But I actually do remember being intimidated about you, too. So it goes both ways. It is good for that. No, I think I intimidated just from the aspect of, like, what I would be stepping into is a bigger deal. Right. Comparatively to something else. Right.

Just, you know, recognition or just eyeballs and those kind of things. But I think the biggest green flag is whoever boy or girl has to be surrounded by a good community. And same for you. And when you lived in Franklin, you had. amazing roommates, incredible girls around you to where I was able to trust you, but also not only trust you, I trusted your friends to know, hey, they believe in our relationship. They're not going to let you go out and do something done. Totally.

I agree with Christian 100%. I think community, not being in isolation, being involved with the local church, obviously if they love the Lord, but not just like someone who goes to church, but someone who actually has a relationship with God. those are obviously two different things and what you don't think about when you're dating as much as I think you should is that when you're marrying someone when you're going to marry someone it's not just like oh I'm getting married like yay I'm going to be a wife it's like no that person's going to be your husband and he's going to be the father to your children and y'all are going to walk through some really hard stuff together and to say that um a foundation like y'all's foundation being on God is important is an understatement. Like it is necessary. I cannot imagine the past six years of our life not being rooted in Jesus Christ, not having a foundation of faith that we both were able to come back to when we were both struggling, when we both were going

through something that was crazy or wild or whatnot. And even the good times and the fun times. I mean, that is so essential. And so that's just something not to take lightly. It's something not to look over it's not just a green flag it's like everything um so i just say that very strongly i i think to um another thing to look for and we kind of are saying this with just saying community it's just nothing should be done in secret you know there shouldn't be anything in y'all's relationship that if your friend found out you would feel you know ashamed of like yeah you're going to mess up but you should be willing to even tell your friends that hey we slipped up like we messed up um And we want to do better.

And can you hold me accountable? If y'all don't have those kind of relationships where your relationship is like gotten so in secret and you have all these secrets. I think that is a dangerous place to be because it might bond you to someone that's actually not supposed to be your forever person. And you might feel like he has to be because he knows all this stuff or because we are in this together. And any secrecy should not be the reason that you're staying in a relationship.

And so I definitely think you want to be open. and you don't want to have secrets. That's just really important. Yeah. So like I said, to wrap that up, I just think a great green flag in dating, whether you're in the same town or if it's a long distance,

I think community is just a big deal and knowing that you can trust this person, friends that they have your best interest to and that he is, you know, confessing things to his friends. He's involved in the church. So I think those are the biggest green flag for me. It's great, babe.

I love it. What is something people never talk about in areas that you wish was talked about more. We were kind of talking about this this morning because we read through some of these questions. And I was saying, like, I think we and our community do this very well. And naturally, I just don't think it's very normal for the outside world. It's just to confess sin, like, to be honest, to admit struggles.

I think, you know, it's so helpful whenever you're around other married couples and you're just honest. And even, like, you're going to have an argument and it's not the end of the world. Like, people can trust and know that you love each other, and it's okay that one little thing might have made you mad and you move on, you know, and for just people around you to be for your relationship, for people around you to know what you're walking through

and believe with you and pray with you and speak life into you. Like, community is so important in marriage, in my opinion. And I think when you get married and you start having kids, it's very hard to keep community because it's so crazy. Like when our friend group gets together right now, there's so many kids that it's just, like you can hardly talk, but I think it's still worth it, you know. I mean, I don't think I know. It's still worth it. Like, it's still worth the intentionality. It's still worth getting

together. We're all getting together this weekend. And it's going to be wild because there's going to be so, way more kids and adults. But like, we need that. You know, we need to see each other. We need to help each other through it. And so I wish it was just talked about more like the power of community and admitting when you're going through something, not being ashamed of it. I actually heard someone tell me recently that my parents really really. relationship has helped them so much in their marriage. Because when you look at my parents' relationship, it's easy to think like, oh, wow, like what a perfect couple. You know, they've been married for so long. They have this amazing family. But my mom and dad will be the first to admit, like, they have

struggles. They've had struggles. Of course they have. They've been married for so many years. And it was one of her friends telling me this. And she said, their marriage has impacted me so much to see that you can go through hard things and you can have these little struggles and you can still have a great marriage. And so I think because of social media sometimes you think like, oh, for a great marriage to be great, it has to be perfect, has to look this way, your husband has to do all these things for you, you have to be this perfect wife. And that's just not realistic. You can actually have a great marriage and also have some bumps in the road. Yeah, I think even like, you know, you talked about community, I think communication is huge. I mean, the amount of times, and this is not to

like throw shade or anything, but it's kind of funny, just because we, I feel like we just like overly share and like overly communicate because the amount of times I'll be talking to my to a guy friend or just a guy that I never something and I'll know that their spouse knows something and I'll say something they're but oh I didn't know that and I'm like do you and your wife you know like do y'all not talk about stuff you know like it'd be things like that so and then for us it's like we just tell each other everything and just always talk about stuff so I think that's something for me of just communication just talking things out I love that and that that's actually funny. You keep segueing so nicely to my next question. Someone said,

how do you handle when your friend asks you to keep a secret from your husband? And you just kind of talked about no secrecy. Yes. And I will say, though, because I have had the situation happen to me several times where a friend will be like, don't tell anybody like, please don't tell Christian or whatever. And that's because they're walking through something. And there are certain things. There are certain things. Let me phrase this. There are certain things where it's like, okay, I get that. Christian doesn't need to know. you're pregnant or you're whatever you know but then there are other things where I'll just say to them hey I'm actually going to need to tell Christian that or are you okay if I actually tell Christian

that because that's going to be really hard for me to keep from him or whatever and so I think you have to be honest with your friend too when you know it's something that you would like to share with your husband he is your husband after all like if you can be honest and they can give you that permission I think that's great just talk it out in that moment or you can even say before they say it like, hey, I love you. If this is something that doesn't need to know and it has to do with, you know, anything that he needs to know, then our relationship is very open. I'd love to talk to him about it. Or if it's like, okay, if it's just a girl chat, he doesn't need to know. It's irrelevant. Absolutely. I will keep that secret for you. That goes in the vault. And so I do think

there are times where you should just be honest with your friend and just be like, hey, actually, the way our marriage is, is like we're very open and I'd like to talk to him about this. Or I totally get it, the vault. He doesn't need to know that. But if it's ever like, hey, can't tell you secret? Like, Christian's just the worst. But don't tell him, I said that. Then it's like, I'm probably going to tell them.

Yeah. Because we need to work through that. Moving on. Okay, moving on. How do you all work through an argument and disagreement with each other? We haven't had an argument a while, so I'll have to think about this one. That's a joke. That's a joke.

We keep coming back to communication. We've had lots of arguments lately. We've had a ton of arguments. But it comes back to communication. And a lot of this, not to segue, how has life been adjusting to a family of three been? Segwin to that. Some arguments have come from just the hecticness of,

is hecticness a word? Just from the hectic. Might not be, but we did it. From life being hectic. Some of our arguments have sprouted up because of that. I mean, yeah. But it comes out of communication. communication. It's very refining time of our life. I keep saying that. It's one of those things where

it's like because it's so hectic and wild, it's just easy for the water to boil over, you know, and for things to just come up. I mean, when you have three kids and the ages our kids are, it requires so much of you individually and together. And I think it's just left a lot of, you know, room for us to have disagreements and argue and have to wrestle it out. But I was going to say the same thing, communication and sticking with the argument until it is either resolved or you've grown from it or you've learned from it. Obviously, not all arguments are going to be able to be resolved in some moments because it's like, okay, this is like a bigger conversation.

We might have to come back to this. But like, I'm growing in it or I acknowledge it's a problem or I'm working on. I'm working on. I'm going to talk to a friend about that. I'm going to talk to my mentor. I'm going to talk to our counselor. I'm going to go read some proverbs. I'm going to read a book on that. Like, we're willing to grow. We're willing to learn. We're willing to have those conversations. And I think that's why, like, I am super proud of us in our marriage right now because although there have been a lot of arguments and things that have come up, it has only made us better. And I truly mean that. And I think both of us even know that in the moment. It's like we're arguing this out for a reason

and for a purpose and because ultimately we want to be better. Like one thing we keep at the forefront of our mind is like, this is the kind of mom I want to be. This is the kind of dad I want to be. This is kind of marriage we want to have. And to do that, I got to uproot this in my life. You know, to do that. I got to become more patient. I got to, you know, work on my, like, like, whatever it is. You fill in the blank for whatever it is for your life. And so, yeah, I think sticking. with an argument, sticking with that communication until, you know, you're growing from it until you have like a plan or how I can be better. One thing too I heard in Proverbs a lot today was like how good it is to like prepare for something, even like Proverse 31. When you think about all the

things this woman did and was, it all came from that she was prepared for it. Like the reason that the snowstorm didn't like hurt her family is because they had clothing for the snow. The reason like she was able to have a field or whatever is because she like sowed the seeds in the ground. And everything that she eventually became, it started with her doing something to get there. And I think about that in our marriage. Like we're sowing seeds right now and plowing ground right now. That is hard and sometimes feels like, you know, the dirty work. But one day like, man, it's going to be so beautiful. And we know we're working towards something beautiful. And we know we're working towards a home that is going to be filled with all the things that we desire for it to be.

And so I think, you know, there's so much good in our season right now. We've laughed so much and even talked about how fun of a week we've had in the midst of also arguing it out. Yeah, traveling to New York with a four-year-old, two-year-old and two-year-old and two-month-old, well, it'll push them buttons. Oh, bring some stuff up. It would be challenging. But it was a great trip. It was a ton of fun. We had a blast.

It was. I kept saying. It's also challenging. We're going to look back at this, and this is going to be the best memories, but in the moment, it is hectic. It is crazy. I actually kind of put that on my post. I was like, this is a really perfect picture, but going to New York with a four-year-old, two-year-old, and two-month-old is not for the faint of heart. And we even had all of the grandparents.

I'm saying our blessing in our curses, it's most people that might do that. If they have arguments, it's just they're arguing. but for us it's happening with 30 of your family and your family both of our families in tight quarters

it's not as fun of a dynamic when you're both visibly frustrated and you have 30 people with you that is really hard and that's the most refining thing that's where it comes to that humility before honor that I keep bringing up in proverbs

and being willing to listen and learn is because we're at a stage in our life where we cannot hide that we're struggling with things like we can't hide it it's here like we're in front of our family and I'm frustrated

we're in front of our family and you're stressed like it just it just here we are with all of our chaos and our cracks and it's like at a time

I would have been able to hide it I would have been able to mask it I would have been able to like oh I'm stressed yes this is hard but I can just oh no we did we used to

I mean you can go to the room you can't you can't hide your emotions I can. I can be like... There is not an ounce of me that can be like... Everything is cool when you're part of the team. God did not grace me with that.

If I'm mad, you'll never be like, I never would have known that. Yeah, that is true. And it's a struggle of my. I'm trying to get better at it. But it's never like, I would have never known that you were stressed or frustrated. Yeah. But I actually, unfortunately, can hide it. And I can be like totally fine, even though I'm really struggling.

But now... I notice it, though. But now I can't do that anymore. It's like the Batman mask and the Dark Night Rises when Joseph Gordon Levitt realized that Bruce Wayne was Batman. And he said, because that was the face I used to make in the mirror. That's kind of like that moment. Somebody out there will understand it. That was deep.

Thank you. That's really powerful. Somebody would understand what I was trying to say? I don't quite understand because I haven't seen that. But the way you described it, I'm like, yeah. You've never seen the Dark Night Rise? Is this? Maybe.

Okay, we need to watch it because I actually want to see the depth of that moment and it's probably true. All that to say, I can't hide it anymore because it's in front of everybody. It is what it is. It's stressful.

It's crazy. I mean, think about it. I'm doing this press for the show and I'm feeding kit in the midst of the whole thing and I'm waking up in the middle of the night. So we didn't get the girls to bed to like 11 something each night

because, hello, it's so hard to keep anyone on a schedule when you travel. And then I had to set my alarm for two to make sure I have milk to start for the next day to pump. And then I had a wake-up call at 6 to start with hair and makeup to get ready. Then the interviews all throughout the day, but in between each one, I'm feeding kit, then I get back to the crazies.

And that's all fun and hectic and wild, but, like, you're sleep deprived, you know? And everything is a little bit hard, and you're in front of everybody. And so, like, pressure, you know, pressure. Surface pressure. Yeah, it is hard. And no matter like what season you're in as a mom or, you know, it can be in any season, but I do feel as a mom, like, it does feel overwhelming a lot of times. You don't have to be doing a New York trip for just it to be extremely overwhelming when you are in a lack of sleep, when you're trying to keep everybody together, when you're trying to, you know, discipline this kid and love on that kid, and everybody feel equal and really loved and, you know, seen, and then you're working and it just is hard, you know. And so all that to say, it's okay to like let that be seen and let that be shown.

I think just also have the humility to let people speak into it and know like you're not a failure. You're not a bad mom. You're not like you're just tired. You know, you're just doing the best that you can with what you have. And the people who are speaking into your life are not shaming you or judging you. They're actually just trying to help you. And that's what I'm learning is like I can't be embarrassed. by it, I just have to lean into it and say, like, thank you for loving me enough to help me,

you know, and I'm going to receive that. And so that's what's helping me right now. That's great. Well, this was fun. This was fun. Thank you all. Deep and... It was all the things. It was thrilling. Do you have another movie analogy for us? Do I have another movie analogy? The Dark Night one was pretty epic. Thank you. We could just end on that. Yeah, we can just in on that one. We'll end on that one. Well, thanks for sending on such great questions. As always, like I said, Thanks for trusting us with deep questions. Thanks for even asking us the silly ones to when following along our lives.

We never take it for granted how incredible you guys are. And we love to meet y'all. It's been fun, even just different travels we've had people coming up and listening to the podcast. It's such a blessing. And so I hope this encouraged you. I hope you have a great week moving forward. Be the light of the world. That's what we tell our kids.

I'm going to start telling y'all too. I do have one more movie reference. Oh, hit us. I'm a survivor. A single mom. Should I do my repo impersonation? Not now. I'll leave that for next time.