Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer - Skipping Love (w/ Betsy Sodaro)

Episode Date: June 6, 2025

Comedian and friend Betsy Sodaro (Ghosts, A Funny Feeling) joins Nicole to swap crazy Las Vegas stories, their experience getting slammed by puberty, and debate why we shouldn’t have to pay taxes right now (plus what happened when Nicole skipped paying taxes for 5 years). Betsy reveals what life was like spending six months in a hotel, and Nicole confesses she nearly launched an anime-recap podcast with an ex. Plus: the time a customer-service call at Lane Bryant turned into phone sex.WATCH this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastSupport this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:» Smalls: Protein packed cat food! For a limited time only, get 35% off plus an additional 50% off your first order when you head to Smalls.com and use code DATEME.» Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme» EarnIn: Make Any Day Payday! When you download the EarnIn app, type in Why Won't You Date Me under PODCAST when you sign up – it’ll really help the show.» Booking.com: Book now at Booking.com!View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors.Follow:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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You'll love seeing even more of it on video! Watch this full episode on YouTube, just check the description for the link. Subscribe so you don't miss out. New video episodes drop every Friday. Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Please tell me why. Welcome to another episode of Why Won't You Date Me? A podcast where Mina Fulviar was trying to figure out why I was so single, even though you could come on the table and tell me it's a straw wrapper.

What? My guess, my guess today, my guess today is very funny. I get to hear more about that a little bit. OK, I start. I start every episode with saying that I would date you even though you lied to me about what your cum is. Funny. Funny? Yeah. Funny.

And I don't know when I started it, but I've continued doing it. I'm running out of things. And I had this little balled up straw wrapper and that's where I got straw wrapper from. I mean, knowing you, it's like that could have happened. I could have totally like, I could totally see a dude be like, no, it's just a straw wrapper. And I'm like, mm hmm. Okay, babe.

Thank you. I believe you. You're not just coming on my coffee table. Oh, never do that. I would, two, three years ago, I would stay in a relationship with somebody who came on my table and then lied about it. I'd be like, whatever, he loves me. Anyway, the person whose voice you're hearing is a comedian.

One of the funniest people I know, a dear friend, and you've seen her as Nancy on CBS Ghosts. She's also the co-host of Head Gums, A Funny Feeling, where she and Marcie Jarrow cover... I say it that way too. I'm like, me and Marcie Jarrow. Uh... Because it's such a fun last name. It's a fantastic last name.

Right? Especially knowing that it's like, isn't it like Creole, like, fun old French New Orleans? She's from Louisiana. She's from Loireland. She is from, from... French, New Orleans. She's from Louisiana. She's from Loire. She is from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, from, Scoodabop-bop-bop-bop-bop. Scoodabop-bop-bop-bop-bop. Scoodabop-bop-bop-bop-bop. Scoodabop-bop-bop-bop-bop. Scoodabop-bop-bop-bop-bop. Before we started recording, we were talking about Vegas.

Yeah, we love Vegas. We've gone a couple of times together. Yes, and it was delightful. I was doing shows with the Cosmopolitan, and they gave me five free rooms. I can't believe that. Right? You also hid that you were doing shows, the Cosmopolitan, and they gave me five free rooms. I can't believe that. Right? You also hid that you were doing shows,

because, well, Steve started it, because he was like, what about this weekend, knowing that you were doing shows, but he didn't tell us, you didn't tell us, and then we're all like, yeah, that's a perfect weekend, and then you're like, you know what, let me see if I can get us some rooms, and then Steve was like, Nicole, you're performing there.

We want to come in and we're like, Steve, you didn't tell us any of that's happening, but let's go. That was awesome. I don't know why I was so like cagey about it. I guess it's weird to be like, friends, come on a trip, see me perform, and then we'll gamble and have a nice time. It was so fun. Not cagey. If you ever want that again,

we'll be more than happy to join. Betsy, that's so nice. You took the worst pictures. It was really funny. You sent these pictures, and it was just like me on stage but blurry. Pure blur. And so far away.

Pure far, so far away. Pure blurry. And I was like trying really hard. It's like, this is such a cool moment. Like Nicole's like in a huge theater. This is so exciting and cool. And then I was just like, oh my God. And then when we went and saw Drag Race.

Yeah, we went to Drag Race. That was so fun. It was so much fun. I love Drag Race Live. I just, Vegas is such a special place. It's so strange. Okay, so I was there over the weekend. This airs in June, so I was there several weekends ago.

And at noon, noon on a Sunday, Saturday, or was it, I think it was Saturday, noon, this woman was falling down, her ass was out, full ass out, she was wearing a very nice thong, and her butt cheeks, lovely. And this man was just dragging her around, and they kept going to every elevator bank, and I was like, I don't think you're staying here. I simply don't think you belong here at the Cosmopolitan.

That is so funny. It is like understandable, because it's like, these places all look, as soon as you get inside, unless it's like Excalibur, where there are like knights and shit. For the most part, it's like there's funky art and you're like, which one am I in right now? And they love that. They're like, yeah, get lost.

Get lost and try to get up to your room even though you're in the wrong casino hotel. And there'll be like different elevator banks and you have to just know which though you're in the wrong casino hotel. And there'll be like different elevator banks. And you have to just know which side you're staying on. It's very confusing. It's so tough, but I love it. And there's these two old ladies who got in the elevator and they just went, how?

And then the person I was with was like, oh, you have to scan your key card. And they were like, key card? And I was like, you can't say key card like that. You've stayed in a hotel. How did you get this far? How did you step into this elevator and be like, how? How?

What are you doing? How'd you get up to your room if you have a room here, you fucking weirdos? I love Vegas. I love it too. It's so fun. It's so much fun. God, and romantic.

Just kidding, not really. It's disgusting. But I did meet this bartender, his name is Gino, and he's at the bar right by the check-in and the valet. And he was just so nice. He had the kindest eyes. And I was absolutely shit-faced. And he came over, it was like two nights in a row, we went to go see him. And he was like,

hey, I'm going on a break, so in case you're gone, I just wanted to say goodbye and it was like two nights in a row, we went to go see him. And he was like, hey, I'm going on a break, so in case you're gone, I just wanted to say goodbye and it was lovely to meet you. And I was like, Gino, I'll be here, how long is your break? And he was like an hour and I was like, I don't think I'll be here, Gino. Goodbye and nice to meet you, that was nice.

And I won $3,000 off one machine. Nicole. I know. That's like a slot machine? I know000 off one machine. Nicole. I know. That's like a slot machine? I know, a slot machine. Nicole, how much did you put in like $20,000? I put in $20,000. Got three thousand.

And mortgaged my house and I got three thousand dollars. No, I put in $40. I was down to my last 40. Cause I took out 1500. I was like, I'm in $40. I was down to my last $40. Cool! Because I took out $1,500. I was like, I'm gonna ball this weekend. And then I was up $1,000 the first day. Second day, down $1,480. Yes.

And I was so sad. Yeah. I was like moping around being like, oh no, I did bad. And then this machine hit, and then it's called a handpay. A nice lady came out and she said she gave me she counted it out. And then she said, do you want taxes taken out? And I said, what? You got to take my money.

20 percent tax in Vegas. So they give you like a receipt or something, because what do you do then? I think I got a ten ninety nine or something. I don't know about taxes. I hate them. I hate them. I also feel we shouldn't have to pay them right now. Betsy. Oh, I'll pay the state.

I'll pay state taxes. I don't think we should have to pay federal taxes either. You heard it here first. You heard it here first. We shouldn't have to pay no federal taxes. No! Well, my whole thing is like, if you could come after me and then be like, we're gonna put a lien on you or whatever and take the money,

you know how much I owe. Yeah, so why... Just take it out. Just do that. Take it out. What are we doing? Just do that. Why do I have to sign up for Turbo Tax and then put in all the information and then have them be like, you get money?

You know, just send me my money. Just send me my money. Or take my money. I didn't do taxes for five whole years, because my dad, my dad, my dad said, if you don't make money, they don't care about you. And I was not making money at the time, because I was working at Liam Giant, making $7.50.

And I was like, if you take any of my money, that's not nice. So I just didn't file for five years. And then when I moved out here and started making a little bit of money, took all... I kept all of it just in case. And I brought it to this man. He was like, you're a mess. Also, rather organized, but I cannot believe you haven't paid in five years. But then he was like, it's fine. You don't owe anything. You're going to get a nice chunk."

And I think it was $1,000. Hey, man. We'll take it. We'll take it. I do like you being like, I'm not paying, but I will keep everything for the future. I'll be a criminal, but when I go straight... You'll be ready. When I go straight, I'm gonna have all the stuff I need.

Well, because I was like, one day I'll have to file taxes. Yeah. One day I'll make money. Yeah. One day. Someday it'll happen. Then it does and you're like, oh, whoa. Taking out a lot, huh?

And there's still crazy potholes in our street. Come on. Where does the money go? Well, we know now. We do? Everywhere we don't want it to. crazy potholes in our street? Come on. What is that about? Where does the money go? Where? Well, we know now. We do? Everywhere we don't want it to. Yeah, we're funding wars and stuff,

and guess what? I love peace. We love peace. No wars, only peace. No wars, only peace, man. Wait, you grew up in Colorado. Yeah, it was awesome. Where in Colorado?

Breckenridge, Stummon County. So big ski place. Yeah, and it was like in elementary school every February. They're like, okay, you're not going to school today. You're going skiing or snowboarding or ice skating. Like you have to pick a winter activity and go do it. And that's like how I learned how to ski and stuff. Isn't that awesome?

So in February, the whole month of February? No, but Thursdays and Fridays. You get to just go outside and ski or snowboard? Yeah. And you got like free lessons and stuff. Isn't that cool? That is cool. Yeah.

Do they still do it? Do you know? I doubt it. I doubt it. I feel like every state should do that. Right, where it's like, look at this cool out... Look at the cool outdoor world that you live in. Yeah. Go have fun in it.

Go have a nice time. Like, I grew up in Jersey, and there's a lot of, like, land. Yeah. So maybe it's like, go farm. I don't know. Go farm? I mean, that'd be kind of fun, like, till the land. Go. So maybe it's like go farm. Go farm. I mean, that would be kind of fun of like, kill the land. Go learn how to grow stuff.

Right? It's the garden state. It is the garden state. Go garden. Go garden state. I think that would be nice. And then, I guess in Seattle, go dance in the rain. You got to go dance in the rain. That would be so funny.

He's gonna eat a bunch of elementary school kids out and be like, dance, dance, dance in the rain. That would be so funny, sending a bunch of elementary school kids out and they'd be like, dance! Dance in the rain! Embrace Seattle! I think it would maybe help with the happiness there. Yeah, I can't imagine living. I shot a movie in Vancouver years ago in the month of November. It rained every single day, all day long. I was so sad.

I need sun. I need sun too. And I didn't realize that until I moved here. I guess I was just raw dogging it in New York because it gets gloomy in the winter. And I didn't realize how sad I was until I moved here and I was like, wait, I'm happy multiple days in a row? Yeah, this is nuts, dude.

This is crazy. And like, whenever it's a little bit gloomy, even here, I'm like, I can't get out of bed. Yeah, today I was like, I gotta just keep sleeping, I guess. Yesterday was tough too, because it was also pretty gloomy. It was gloomy and chilly. Yes, and I woke up and I went, no, no, no, this won't do.

And I went right back to sleep and I woke up and I went, no, no, no, this won't do. And I went right back to sleep and I woke up at noon 30, ready to attack the day! And then I went on a walk and got lost in my own neighborhood. Whoa. I took a wrong turn and then I said, will I ever get home? And then I was just like... Did you use your phone or did you did your phone, did you use anything or were you like, let me figure this out?

It never occurred to me to pull out my phone. Good. That's a good sign. Because I was like, I'm in my own neighborhood. If I just head down, I should hit my home? I don't know. And then when I did start panicking, I finally saw a house that I knew. And I was like, oh, okay, home is this way.

But I was like, Nicole's been missing for two weeks, and it's just been like within 500 feet of your house. It was scary for a hot second. And then Clyde was taking a shit, and this man came out of his house and was crossing the street, and I was like, he's gonna get me. He knows I don't know where I am.

And then he just went into his car because it's a neighborhood, he's not trying to kill me. Yeah, people are walking their dogs left and right in this place. That is so funny, Nicole, to immediately think like, I'm in danger, I'm in the woods now. I'm going to die. This man who lives deep in the woods is going to kill me.

I wasn't even in the woods. I was on a sidewalk. I was... Wait, in Colorado, it's sunny when you ski. Uh-huh. But somehow it doesn't melt the snow. Yeah. I guess the temperature's low. Yeah.

Colorado's super sunny, too. Right? And so I grew up where with tons of sun. Was everyone tan and fit? Um, a lot of people were burnt. Burnt with like goggle marks, you know? Like a lot of burnt people. Coming back to school on a Monday being like, oh yeah, I hit it hard.

And after spring break, whoa, dude, everybody coming back looking like lobsters. Here's a question. Did they ever check whether or not you went skiing or did your outside activity? Did you have to like sign in somewhere? You must because teachers went with you. And they would then like. They would bust you to the mountain and then tell you, like, your lesson is with that person. But I remember skiing with some of my teachers who were really cool.

That's so wild. Mr. Bennett was my fourth grade teacher, Mr. B, and he was awesome. Is he still living? I think so. Shout out to Mr. Bennett. We love you, Mr. B! We love you, Mr. B!

He would throw chalk at us and we loved it. Like, if we were talking, he would just be like, quiet! And we loved it. He was awesome. That's a good tactic to be like, you're being unruly, I'll be unruly. Yeah, I'll be fun and make you stop, even though you love me, hucking chalk at you. My Spanish teacher in high school, Senora Hardy,

had a nervous breakdown during class once because we were screaming. And there was construction in high school, Senora Hardy, had a nervous breakdown during class once because we were screaming. And there was construction in our school, so there was classrooms in the gym with no roof. So people would throw things over the wall all the time. And we just didn't want to learn Spanish. And she like went to Peru or something, or not Peru. She went somewhere in South America in college and was like, I'll bring Spanish back to Middletown,

New Jersey to all the children. And we were like, fuck you, we hate it. And she got hit in the head with an eraser and then she changed. And she... Something in her, like, it just knocked her. And then she wouldn't talk to us for the rest of the year. We would go to class and she would be dead-ass silent. And we would just be like, Senora Hardy, hola.

Nothing? Nothing. You really did break her down. We ruined her. You ruined her. I hope she's OK. Senora Hardy. Senora Hardy.

I hope you're doing well. Te gusta. Te gusta. Does that mean we like you? I think so. Muy bonita para, Curly. She had curly hair. Oh, see.

I don't think I said hair, right? Para? That might be dog. Pero. Pero. Pecho piernas, piernas, piernas, piernas. Did you ever sing that one? Pero, pecho piernas, piernas, piernas, piernas.

Cabesa, boca, ojo, zinari, pero, pecho piernas, piernas, pelo, pecho piernas. I don't know education than me. Palo, Pecho, Piano? I don't know, sounds like that. I don't know. Senora Keating. No, uh, Keeling? Oh no, I can't remember. It's okay, school was a long time ago. If you really think about it.

Aren't you so happy we're not in school anymore? Elated. Every time I watch a show where kids are in school or something, I'm like, ha ha! Suckers! I do not miss it one bit. I don't miss it either. Also, I remember, I've said it on this podcast, I know.

I remember going to middle school, and I was like, when do we go outside to play? Oh. And they were like, never. And I was like, what? Devastating. And then we never went outside again. Because like, you're still kids.

Yeah, I was a child. I was 12. Yes. Let me play. Like, nope. You have to be in lockers, outside again. Because like, you're still kids. Yeah, I was a child. I was 12. Yes. Let me play. Like, nope. You have to be in lockers and you have to like, learn about your period. And it sucks. Yeah, I didn't want to learn about my period. No, I was devastated. Every health class.

Same. I was just like, I hate this so much. Same. My sister got hers first and I was like, na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na- They wait for the sermon, they come back like, whoa! Hubba hubba! Whoa! I came back and everyone's like, same bitch! I got slammed and everyone's like, uh-oh. Whoa, look at me! I don't want fucking boobs, man! I hate this so much! Well, they also don't tell you in health class,

they are heavy, your back will now hurt. Yeah, it's a whole, you have to like move your body completely differently. Yes, and it sucks. Also, nobody in school told me to keep moving my body, otherwise I'm gonna wake up sore as fuck in the mornings when you hit 30. Yeah, nobody tells you anything.

It's so rude. It's so rude. Betsy, I know you don't date much now, but did you date a lot in high school? No, it was, and this is now too, it was never in my design, like I've never really cared about it, never wanted it. And I was always kind of a little like,

why do people care so much about this? I still kind of get that way. And I'm like, no, it's fine, it's fine, people do, but very much like, especially I feel like, why do people care so much about this? I still kind of get that way. And I'm like, no, it's fine, it's fine, people do. But very much like, especially I feel like high school and stuff just being like, who gives a shit? Why do you care what they think? Like, and so I've never really been into it.

And I was like, I think I'm broken. And then I'm like, it's fine. I think I'm broken. If I am broken, it's fine, dude. I'm okay, I'm okay. I think that's very normal. I think there's so many people in the world out there who are like, I don't get it. I don't know why people want this.

Because I don't know why I wanted it so bad. Right? Right? And I would just watch friends, like, just be treated like shit. And or change around the person to be like, you're not fun anymore. What's happening? And that weirded me out so much. But you're a bummer now. We usually have fun, but when that guy's around, you suck, just like he does. You know? It's just like...

It's like Grease. It's the... Grease is like a perfect example of a terrible relationship. Sandy changed her whole... Her whole life. She's wearing tight little pedal pushers. She's smoking now? She's smoking. Sandy. I can't believe.

Come on. A lot of people do that. They start doing shit that they don't normally do She's smoking. Sandy. I can't believe it. Come on. A lot of people do that. They start doing shit that they don't normally do to like get that guy or get that girl. And it's like, why? What would be like the wildest thing you've done to impress somebody or try to get someone?

Watch a Miyazaki movie. Oh my god. The life just shot out of your whole body. Your soul just left you. Learning about Akira? I am not an anime person, except for Pokemon. You know me. I'll sing the Pokemon theme song at karaoke. It's so great. You blew my mind. I was like, I didn't know you theme song at karaoke. It's so great. You blew my mind.

I was like, I didn't know you could do theme songs. You sure can. This is a game changer, dude. It's great. I went to the Miyazaki exhibit. Okay. At the Academy Museum. Yeah, yeah.

And it is interesting if you like it. Yeah. But they're very beautiful movies. But boy, oh boy, are they slow. For a cartoon that can do anything, we're going to take our time and tell a story? No, thank you. No, I need you falling off a cliff. I need you getting smushed by a piano. I need something funny and cartoony to happen. Instead, I watch Kiki's delivery service about a cat and a witch, and then she's flying on a broom

and leaves her fucking family, and I said, why you gotta leave your family to be a witch? I don't know. I don't know either. I don't think you should have to. Me either. Then I watched Porcos or something. It was a flying pig. That should have been fun. That should have been awesome, a flying pig!

It was so slow. Oh, man. It was so slow. Yeah, I think that's one thing that I did. Yeah. The other thing is I dated somebody who wanted to do a podcast together. About like dating each other or just in general?

They didn't wanna put it out there that we were dating each other, and I was like, okay. And then they wanted to do an anime recap podcast. What? And I was like, ha ha ha, okay. And then when they were like, oh, so let's do it, I was like, what do you, what?

This is my job. This is not fun. Yeah. But I did it. I recorded an episode. No way. I have my track. I don't know if they still But it was it was um, how you say the most painful hour of my life Okay, you should start a podcast where you have to talk about something you hate for an hour

And you have to like act like you're into it, dude. Well, I meet Lapkus and I basically have that. Oh yeah, pretty much doing Marvel shit and stuff. Oh my God. I felt like I was being gaslit during a lot of those episodes because I'd be like, oh, this sucks. And they'd be like, and somebody would be like,

no, it doesn't. For this reason, I'd be like, oh yeah, you're right. It was really good, I love it. Oh, tough, that's tough. Nevermind, don't really good, I love it. Tough, that's tough. Never mind, don't you dare do that to yourself. Also, during this podcast recording, I was like, I'm not hosting it. You want to do this, so you'll host it.

So there was lots of dead air, and at one point they were like, ooh, this is tough, and I was like, is it... Is it hard to host a pod... Wow, okay. Oh, well, just take your time. Well, the soundboard doesn't work. Wow. Oh, man. Oh, and pretending I like jazz.

I dated a man who was like, I needed to listen to this jazz. Oh, man. And I was like, okay. And I had to be like, wow, that's good. Bum bum bum bum bum bum bum. Whoa, yeah man, I feel it. I love it, I love the beats on that one.

I tried to impress people in college. I tried to get into like hippie jam bands. Like string cheese incident. Excuse me? Yeah, there jam bands. Like string cheese incident. Fish? Excuse me? Yeah, there's a band called String Cheese Incident. And I tried so hard. Cause they, like multiple friends loved

this like hippie jam band stuff. And I was like, yeah, I can get into this. And I would just sit there being like, oh my God, oh my God, this sucks! This is not good music! He's like bleeding from my nose, and he's like, look at God, this sucks, man, I can't fucking handle this!

Oh, it sucks. The best part about this story is I know exactly the face you make when you're not pleased and you don't wanna be somewhere, because it's like pretty slight, but like I'm like, oh, Betsy's done. Uh-oh, I do wear a lot of my emotions. I had just recently, like, I came home,

Gilly, I came home from a show and I was like a little drunk and tired and Gilly got a bunch of tie and she was like, you seemed so grumpy as soon as you walked in. She got a bunch of tie from that. I was like excited to eat, and she was like, you seemed so grumpy as soon as you walked in. She got a bunch of Thai food that I was like, excited to eat, but she's like, you looked at it and you were like, so disgusted. And I was like, no, I was just really drunk and tired

and just like, wanting to go to bed, but knowing I should eat before I go to bed. But I wear, yeah, I wear my feelings. But I appreciate that, because I don't necessarily, sometimes I do, but when we were in Vegas and we were walking back from Caesars, and I was grumpy, because it was just hot. And I remember just saying out loud, I was like, I'm grumpy.

And Mano goes, OK. And then everyone just kind of stopped talking to me, which I really loved. And we just like walked. And no one was like, walk faster, Nicole. I was like, I don't want to. And I didn't have to do any of that. It was lovely. I feel like I've learned that from like Mano and Keeley.

Like that crew is so good at being like, just say it and you'll feel better saying it. It already feels great to be like, I'm grumpy, dude. And then the crew being like, okay, great. It's incredible. And I learned from you, like you're always like, oh, I had a great time last night or whatever. We got to hang again.

And I don't really say that to people. I'm like, I love that. Do we? Okay, good. I love it so much. I just love hitting people up, especially when it's just fun and being like, let's do it again. It's so nice.

Yes. And then it's like, oh, I don't have to like think about like, oh, did I say something weird or like, maybe nobody wants to hang out with me ever again. It's like, no, no, it's nice. Yes. And then it's like, oh, I don't have to like think about like, oh, did I say something weird or like, maybe nobody wants to hang out with me ever again? It's like, no, no, it's nice. And it's just nice to tell friends that you love them. I love doing that. And like, had a nice time.

I try to do that too, of just like, like if somebody pops in my head, I'll just be like, man, I love you. And I love that. Okay, get ready. Oh, you're gonna get a lot of weird texts from me after this. I fucking can't wait. Tina, I'm outside your house.

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Just being like, you're so loud all the time, which we probably were. But you know, just anything, anything. And one night, I was out of town, I was in Portland doing a TORCO show. And this neighbor, our... Drew Tarver was over, and Mono, and they were getting ready to go out on a Saturday night. It was like... I don't even think it was eight o'clock yet.

But they were like hanging out, listening to music and stuff. And neighbor comes down, banging on that window by our door, shatters it. And for a long time, like the neighbor had been like, a pretty big mess to where even our landlords were like, we don't know, we're trying to get them out. It's really hard to evict somebody. Shatters that window, cops are called,

they run away for a while. They truly were gone for like two months after they did. The neighbors? Yes, her and her partner. And they were gone for a while, and then our landlords were like, this is enough we think to evict, whatever. So then they, our neighbors are like,

okay, let's go to court then. And they started snooping around being like, this house isn't officially, or whatever it is, three apartments. To be a three-plex? Yeah, like it's still technically a single family home or whatever. So then, they do get evicted, and then our landlords are like,

well, we have to now do this. And they bought it thinking it was one of those things. They're like, we have to do this, so... And they own a bunch of hotels, including the Dunes Inn on Sunset. And they're like, we have to do this. You could come live at the Dunes Inn for only two weeks. And we're like, okay, all right, we can handle that. We can do that.

Six months. We were there for six months while they were fixing up the house, all of us. So Mark and Steve were in the front part of the house. So all of us were living at the Dunes Inn on Sunset Wilson. I didn't realize it was six months. Exactly six months.

Because it was December 10th, and then we got back into the house on my birthday, June 10th, which is six months, and we lived in the dunes, and it was pretty fun, but also we were so just like, I would like to not live in a hotel.

I want my things. Yes, especially kind of a crappy hotel. Like, it didn't have like cable. It didn't have like... You didn't have cable? No. It had, it did have HB, it had like three channels. One was HBO, but where it would just play like the Three Stooges movie over and over again.

And you're like, I've seen this. I need to die. But it was really funny. Like there was one weekend where there was like a great big like rockabilly, I need to die. It was really funny. There was one weekend where there was a great big rockabilly, I guess, conference or concert or something, and a bunch of bands were staying at the Dune. Oh, that's fun. And they would start partying at 6 a.m. and then party till 2 a.m.

And we would just, I'd be walking through with groceries being like, cool man, people people are like pounding like bottles of liquor and like playing big bases. Yeah, it was pretty fun and wild seeing all the different people. Did you have to pay rent? No. So that made it way cheaper. That's very nice.

Also funny for them to be like, all right, we'll put you up at a hotel, don't pay rent. And well, I guess because it was supposed to be two weeks. Yeah, because they kept being like, two weeks would come and we're like, what's going on? They're like, probably another like week or two. Okay, what's going on? Probably another week or two. And you're like, okay, it's been six months.

It's six months. God, that's so wild. There was one morning, because it was a motel, so the doors open to the outside, like the parking lots in the middle, and there was one morning at like eight o'clock or something, I just hear boop, boop, boop, boop on my door. I'm like, what? What? And I open it and some dude's like, are you Papaya? I was like, uh, no, I don't know if there's a Papaya living here.

Uh, I'm a Betsy. Are you Papaya? And then he just like, manically walked away. He's like, sorry, and like walked away. I was like, who's Papaya? I gotta know who Papaya is. Who's Papaya? What is Papaya doing? That's really funny. It was wild. Are you Papaya? What is Papaya doing? What is Papaya? That's really funny.

It was wild. Are you Papaya? No, I'm a betty. Are you Papaya? No, man. God, that's so funny. You woke me up in my hotel room. In Vegas, I was in a room with Steve and Mano,

and someone knocked on the door, and we were like, who is it? And they just said, let me in. Oh. And I said, let him in. Let's see what's up. Mano was like, who is it? And they just said, let me in. Oh! And I said, let him in. Let's see what's up. And Mana was like, no. And they put an ironing board up to the door.

Like, that was gonna help if they broke the door down? Funny. I mean, maybe it was like... shock them a little bit. And be like, oh my God, an obstacle course. Yeah, like, I wasn't planning on that. I'm looking for papaya. Ew, let me in.

Yeah, just softly. That is so creepy. Let me in. Nicole. Well, I was like, I don't know, this person might be fun. Who knows? A fun Vegas story, you know? Just randomly knocking on doors.

Let me in. And the funny part is, I've done that before. I used to get real drunk when I lived in New York and then go home, because that's what you do. And I lived in 27 and directly underneath was 21. And it was a six-floor walk up and I'd be like, far enough, and I'd knock on the door. And they'd be like, you don't live here.

And I'd be like, let me in. Come on, I'm tired, man. Please, please let me in. And when I moved out, I sent them like a little card that was like, sorry for all the times I knocked on, man. Please, please just let me in. And when I moved out, I sent them like a little card that was like, sorry for all the times I knocked on your door. You guys were very gracious and nice. But once I did had to let the dad climb from my window into his window, because he locked...

Because you got locked out. His child, he locked his child into the apartment. Oh, my God. Thank God I was home. Yeah. That would have been terrible. Yeah. Could you believe? Uh-uh How old was the kid? I guess not an old enough to unlock the door. Yeah, like a toddler.

Oh my god. Another reason I don't want children. I would leave it places. Yes, all the time. I lose important things all the time. All the time. I left my phone on the roof of my car. Imagine I put a bassinet up there. And watch the baby bounce down the roof. There's in Jackass where they do that. And it is so funny watching people watch the, like, huge SUV just be like, oh, I got a baby on it. That's very funny. Yeah, I would...

And I would be like, for probably a couple of days, like, whoa, my life rules. And then I'd realize, oh, it's because my kid's not here. I lost my kid. Where are they? Oh no! I left them at Dave and Buster's! Which honestly, that's pretty fun for a kid. That would be so funny if you left a child

at Dave and Buster's. I went to Dave Dave and Busters and I ordered a children's drink, because it was purple. And I was like, you put vodka in it? And he goes, yes. And I was like, how come it's not in a kid's cup? And he's like, I can't put alcohol in a kid's cup. And I was like, but who's gonna know? I'm not giving it to a kid. Oh, maybe he thought that's what I was gonna do.

That's fucked up. But why would I share alcohol with a child? Yeah, no, they're not gonna appreciate it. No. They're gonna just fall asleep too fast. Yeah. Yeah. Hey, get up, we're having fun.

Come on, we're having fun. We're at Naven Busters. Let's go. Rally, you fucking idiot. Let's throw some axes. Do you want kids? No, no, no. God, no. Dear Lord, no.

I'm so unfit to be a mother. Happily. I'm happily unfit. No, it's never even, there's not been an ounce of that in my life. Never? No. Wow.

Not one bit. When I was in like high school, a little bit after high school, I was like, yeah, I want five kids five I wanted five children and then was a nanny for too long and I was like, oh no I feel everybody should have to work with kids. I think so living ones. Yes Sometimes I give you that real baby. Yeah you just put a key in it. That doesn't work. No. Real babies.

No, because you can still put that in your drawer and be like, whatever. I don't care. I'll get a B. Who cares? I'll get a B in class, I don't care. But a living baby? Yes. Oh my God, sometimes I keep crying,

and you don't know why. Oh, and that's so sad and freaky. Yeah. I couldn't handle it. I feel like there's something wrong with you, and I don't know what. I couldn't handle it. I feel like there's something wrong with you and I don't know what. I couldn't handle it. Yeah, I think people need to work customer service

no matter what. And if they want kids, have to take care of living kids. I agree. I did like working customer service because I was like good with people. Of course, I could see you be great with people. One of the most historically worst waitresses in the world. And I made good money.

I bet. I would drop drinks on people. I would forget full orders. Um, I know I've talked about it on the podcast, but I would like go to tables without my little pad and I'd be like, what do you guys want? And I remember I didn't have my pad to write it down and I'd be like, oh no, they've started.

And I'd let them get through their whole order. And then I'd go to the like, little computer and be like, oh no, they've started. And I'd let them get through their whole order. And then I'd go to the like little computer and be like, do I remember? No. Then I'd go back with my pad and be like, that was a test. Just to confirm. You're ready to order. Just to confirm.

Y'all really want what you want. Tell it to me again. Already I wanna give you tips. Just for that, I'll be like, here's 20 bucks. Thanks for a good time. And then if people ask for multiple things, I'd say, okay, I might come back with all of it, some of it, or none of it.

The count starts now. And then when I came back with all of it, nine times out of 10, I would get a round of applause. For doing the bare minimum. That ruled. I was so bad. I like you setting up though to be like, hey, there's a good chance I will mess this up. Yeah, I I will but I'm taking care of you. Yeah, I'm warning you. I'll be nice

I want we need more of that too of just kind of like I would love for people to just be like just so you know Like I really don't like this. Mm-hmm. I don't like working here rather than them fake words Like we can tell you yes, and I love a server when you're like, oh, is this good? And they go, well, you know, I wouldn't. Yes, I love that. I appreciate that so much. I need to know that.

Or I haven't tasted it yet. That's great. That's cool. But I hate when they're like, oh yeah, it's great. Is it a big portion? Oh yeah, so big. And then it comes in, it's a Skittle. And you're like, what?

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And he'd be like, how big is that 2628? I'm like, pretty big. How big? That is so funny. Wide enough to fit your butt? And we've extended sizes online? How big? How big? I think it goes up to a 34.

What did he want? Like, what did he want? Like, you could put a trash can in there. Mm-hmm. How big's the trash can? Have you ever seen two hams? Yeah. Ooh, fit that in there.

Yeah. And then the second time he called it, he'd be like, ooh, big. And he'd be like, yeah. Oh, I know what you, ooh, big, and he'd be like, yeah. Oh, I know what you want, sir, okay. How funny. It was, lame Bryant, lame giant, was one of the wildest places I've ever worked.

Truly, no money, and I had to do so much. And you had to sell credit cards. With like, the interest was so high, it'd be like 26% or whatever. I feel bad for even offering this to someone. So so I would say cuz you would get 10% off and I'm like You're not actually saving if you're paying the minimum on it So I'd be like are you paying with a debit card today and they'd be like yes I'd be like do you want to open a credit card and then immediately pay it off? Oh

Smart and then they told me to stop doing that in that wild of course I worked at the gap in high school and I like You told me to stop doing that. Of course. Isn't that wild? Of course. I worked at the Gap in high school, and I didn't have any Gap clothes, and you needed them to wear them, but I was also like, I don't have money to buy them yet. And they would give me, they were constantly like,

you need to get Gap clothes. I was like, you need to pay me money. Pay me, pay me money. And then I will get your Gap clothes, dude. I feel like if it's a policy that you have to wear the clothes, they need to pay me money. And then I will get your Gap clothes, dude. I feel like if it's like a policy that you have to wear the clothes, they should give you some clothes. You should get an outfit.

Give me an outfit. Give me two outfits. If I'm working more than two days a week, I can rotate those too. Yes. Rude. I hated it. I hated it so much. People would ask for sizes. I was like, let me go check in the back.

And then I would just stand there like, head down, shoulders slumped, just being like... Just powering off. I hate this so much. I hate this so much. And then I'd come out and be like, we don't have them. And then like somebody else would go back and be like, we do have them. I'm like, okay. I would do that all the time.

I'd be like, yeah, sorry, we don't have it. And then sometimes they'd put me in the fitting room. Yeah. And sometimes it smelled like a locker room. I won't lie, it was kind of nasty. But once a lady peed on the floor, we were like, we don't have a bathroom. And she was like, oh, you don't?

And they went into the fitting room and peed everywhere. Oh my god. Isn't that wild? What is that? What's going on? It's been happening forever. What's that wild? What is that? What's going on? It's been happening forever. What's going on?

I don't know. And then one lady returned tights with period blood in them, and I had to take them back. Why? Just... Because that was our policy. We took everything back. Yeah. And I was like, you wore these.

And she said, no, I didn't. I said, no, you can't do that. Don't you do that. I said, ma'am, let's be real. You wore these up and down. You wore them hard. We're going to do a DNA test. And you wore these. We're going to send this to the SVU unit. And we're going to get some diagnostic.

We're going to find out. OK, we're going to find out your criminal intent, you stupid bitch. Ew, that's wild. Isn't that nasty? I definitely have returned stuff to Target like after shoots and stuff. Oh yeah.

Like truly with dirt on it. And they're like, yeah, it's fine. Yeah, we'll take it back. I was like, okay. In high school, I used to return things to Nordstrom with no receipt because they would give you a cash option. So I would not have bought them. I would have stolen them and returned it for money.

Thanks Nordstrom! Nordstrom! But they changed their policies. Oh, I can say that on the record. Oh my God, should I not? Anyway, Betsy. It was a wild time. Let's go back to dating for a hot second.

Okay. Do you have any advice for single people? Well, I'm kind of like, embrace it, have fun. But that's kind of just because that's all I know, really. But I feel like so many people, and we've had friends like this too, of like having to immediately jump into a new relationship. And it's like, I think it's okay to chill out and like work on yourself. Like sure, go out with, like go on dates and stuff, but it's also okay to like

be single for a while. Yeah, I agree. And I honestly think that's good advice because you might discover some shit about yourself. Like maybe you don't like being in a relationship or maybe the things you want have changed. Like I also can't... People who do relationships back to back don't make any sense to me. I'm like, so you became accustomed

to this person in your life, and then you're gonna immediately become accustomed to something else? Yeah. You don't want quiet? Yeah, you don't want to just, um, a moment to chill out a little bit. Be with yourself?

Just be with yourself. Because, yeah, you'll... I feel you learn more about yourself. And like, it is as, but as cheesy as it is, it's like, like RuPaul. Can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else? But it is huge to be like, well, what makes me me happy... Mm-hmm. ...that's gonna, that's gonna bleed into every relationship and stuff.

And if this person isn't making me feel good, that's gonna bleed into every relationship and stuff. And if this person isn't making me feel good, then it's gonna suck. Yeah, I spent like a chunk of time in between relationships and the thing I learned was like, if the person doesn't wanna be in a relationship, I have to move on. Like if they don't wanna be in a relationship

and they're like, oh no, I'm just kinda dating, it's like, nope, move on, get out of there, I don't want to be in a relationship and they're like, oh, no, I'm just kind of dating. It's like, nope, move on, get out of there. I don't want that again. Yes. And I don't think I would have learned that about myself if I had immediately jumped into another thing and been like, oh, I'll just go with the flow. Yeah, I'll do whatever you want me to do.

And it's like, no, it doesn't have to be like that. No, it sure doesn't. And it bums me out when you see that happening, you know, with good friends and stuff. Or it's like, it's okay to chill out. Just chill out. It's fine. You're okay. Yeah. And you'll take this time, and you'll be happier for it. I promise you.

That's what I think. I think. I think it's okay to embrace it. It's okay to embrace it. Also, it's nice to not check in with somebody all the time. Yeah, I don't know what that's like. It's un to embrace it. Also, it's nice to not check in with somebody all the time. Yeah, I don't know what that's like. It's unhinged. Like, you'll be planning a trip with friends and be like, oh yeah, I have to tell that person

that I'm going away. I have to make sure that's okay. Yeah, that you're fine with, or not, yeah. Like it is okay. It's like, hey, I'm gonna be going away, I'm planning a trip. Oh, okay, great, have fun. But then I'm used to just planning it and being like, oh yeah, I'm gonna be going away. I'm planning a trip. Oh, okay, great, have fun. But then I'm used to just planning it

and being like, oh yeah, I'm gone. Yeah, I'm gonna go do this thing. You can't do that, you can't do that. My relationship now, I'm like, oh, here are my tour dates. We finally just shared a calendar because I'd be like, sorry, I'm gone, sorry, I'm gone. Especially where it is almost every weekend being like, I'm actually out of town, holy shit.

Oh, that fun thing you wanna do? do can't can't do it. Sorry Billy dude, oh my god. I'll be in Philly this weekend Well, but not June weekend. So this is June. I wasn't Philly. I had a great time Betsy. Yes. Do you have anything you want to promote? We've come to the end. Oh my god. We did it Thank you for doing it. Thanks for having me. You're simply the best. Sorry you don't have much of relationship stuff,

but hey, we did it. We survived. I don't know. I think it's interesting and good for people to hear that it's okay to not want that and that it's okay to be happy with yourself and do things that make you happy. So I think this episode was a triumph.

Yeah! You hear that, listeners? It was a triumph in your face. Yeah, fuck you if you were thinking author-wise. Yeah, come on. It's fine. It was good. How dare you? You already shut it off. You already shut it off. You already shut it off when I was like,

I don't really care about it. Um, I guess check out podcasts. This is a podcast. Check out Funny Feeling. Me and Marcie Jarrow. Uh, it's a spooky, fun, you've been, Nicole's been on it. It's a great episode where we just talk to friends. Do you have a new ghost story? Or wait, what? No, I was gonna say We Love Trash.

I forgot to say that up top. Oh yeah, don't worry. I'll say it. I'll say it. And We Love Trash. Me and Mano Agapian! Just kind of celebrating everything trashy. Movies, shows, ourselves, food. I do love that.

Have you covered Craven on We Love Trash? No, not yet. If you would like a guest, I would love to talk about it. Okay. I will say this. I watched Craven over the weekend twice. I bought it for $20 in the hotel. Oh, my God. And then when I got home, I was like,

I have to stop spending money on this. Just buy it. Because I keep renting it. Just own it. So I finally bought it. Good. I love when movies like really strike you as like, I need this in my life. The Boy Next Door.

Oh, The Boy Next Door is a perfect movie. I love it so much. I saw it three times in the theater. I bought the DVD multiple times because I kept lending it to people at parties. I'd be like, you need to watch this movie, it's perfect. And being like, I don't know who I gave it to. And then I'd be like, I'll buy it again.

That's so funny. I love when movies just hit. That's me with Craven. Okay, we'll watch it. I can watch it anytime, anywhere. Okay, let's do an episode. Let's get the footlong nachos from Subway. Because we gotta try those.

And then watch Craven and scream about it. Ugh, I would really love that. There's a scene where it's clear that they used AI on this woman's mouth. And it's nuts. Also, characters appear. Things happen that aren't resolved. It is my favorite movie.

I love Aaron Taylor-Joy. I think he's so wonderful. Yes. I love him so much. He's so charismatic and hot. Yes. Anyway, do you want to promote Ghosts? Yeah, watch Ghosts. Um, I guess it's June, but a new season will start probably in October or something.

But watch it. It's on Paramount Plus. Betsy's on it and she's so funny. It's a blast of a show. I think people will really enjoy it. You're so but watch it. It's on Paramount Plus. Watch it. Betsy's on it and she's so funny. It's a blast of a show. I think people will really enjoy it. You're so funny on it. Thank you. I get to be just a weirdo. Which is.

In a potato sack. Ffff. Your outfit is really funny. It's so dirty. It's filthy. It's so gross. It's filthy. And there'll be some times where I'm like eating lunch

and I'll like drop something on it and be like, oh no, and then I'll be like, it's fine. It's fine if there's a barbecue today now, who cares? It doesn't matter, just adding to the character. Yeah, I'm just helping out. Well, if you like this episode, you can like it, you can rate it, you can subscribe, you can give me five stars on Apple Podcasts,

and if you write me something nasty, hitting on me to whywon'tudatemepodcast podcast at gmail.com I will read it Yes Dear Nicole if we ever dated I'd pull up in a cherry red 3000 GT. Hmm. It's my favorite car Yes one hand on the wheel the other on your thigh Greasy from a tray of little Dom's lasagna that I stupidly thought we'd save for later I'd eat that lasagna off your tits. Oh!

And then I'd eat you like I just broke a six day fast and your pussy's the first solid thing I've had in days. Oh no, I'm getting horny! Oh no! Betsy, keep it together. Oh no! Keep it together. Read it faster!

I'd fuck you like I'm trying to knock the trauma loose and refinance your soul at 2.9 percent APR This is brilliant mid stroke. I'd whisper you're hilarious You are the moment then I'd hit you with I put my thing down flip it and reverse it and actually do it When we're done leg shaking lasagna on your tip me blinking like I just saw the ending of the sixth sense I'd wipe you down feed you bites between kisses and hold on to you like I just saw the ending of The Sixth Sense. I'd wipe you down, feed you bites between kisses, and hold onto you like I just won you in a horny custody battle.

So Nicole, why won't you date me? Filthfully yours, Lasagna Daddy. Lasagna Daddy, that was beautiful. That was lovely, and it included two of my favorite things, a Mitsubishi 3000 GT and Little Tom's lasagna that they only serve on Fridays and if you go after 8 p.m. they will be sold out, which is sad. I didn't even know they had lasagna. They keep it a secret.

It's only on Fridays and they don't bake enough for the day. That's so LA of them. It's so mean. You know, be like, sorry. It's so mean. You need to know the proper time to come and get our lasagna. That's all. That was really good.

I would read a whole book about that night. It's so good. Thank you. Well, Betsy, that's it. Signing off from Los Angeles, California. Bye bye. Peace. In the world.

Do you wanna ask Betsy if she would date you? Oh shit. All right. Betsy, we did end the episode, but. Pfft. Ha ha ha ha ha! Do you want to ask Betsy if she would date you? Oh, shit! Oh, Betsy, we did end the episode, but... We're back. We're back because I forgot to ask you the question I ask everybody, but I have missed it on like five episodes. Ooh! Would you date me?

Absolutely! I think we would have a blast dating. Thank you. I asked this to Colton Dunn, and he had such a pregnant pause that I was like, I think I'll kill myself. Guns under the bed. Get the gun, John. Oh, my God, where is my improv on?

I did this for a phone. I did you earlier and I was like, oh, no, this is a phone. John, get the phone ready. No, the gun. What? John, get the phone ready. No, the gun. What? John, get the phone ready. I would absolutely date. What did Colton say? Yes. Eventually, no, I think he said,

cause we played a boyfriend and girlfriend on Grand Cru and he's like, we've already dated. And I was like, you know, that was a cop out. That was his answer, right? Yeah. Come on, Colton. What the hell, dude? Rude, Colton.

But I would. It would be a blast. Thank you, Betsy. Bye. Yeah. You've been listening to Why Won't You Date Me with me, Nicole Beier. This show is produced and edited by Mars

with executive producer Anya Kenovskaya. It's engineered by Casey Donahue, with guest research by Lindsay Kempf. Our VP of content at Headgum is Katie Moose, and our theme music is arranged by Mike Komete. Ah, thanks for listening. We'll be back next week with a brand new episode. See you then.

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