Wild2Mild Podcast - Ep 10. THE BRIDE ASKED YOU TO SPEND £1250 FOR HER WEDDING???????

Episode Date: August 31, 2025

Send us a textThis episode is CHAOS from start to finish. Bethan has a full panic attack after Nicole’s cat escapes, we debate whether you should ever spend £1,250 just to be a bridesmaid, and one listener admits they’re embarrassed to introduce their boyfriend because of his tragic outfits. Add in flatmates who keep everyone awake at 2am, families who forget about you once a new baby arrives and a round of red flag vs green flag that gets brutally honest… and you’ve got one of our wildest episodes yet.If you’ve ever wondered what you’d do if your best friend asked you to go broke for her wedding, if a boyfriend’s bad fashion sense is a dealbreaker, or if telling your flatmate to “shut up and move out” makes you the villain, this one’s for you.Send us your dilemmas on Instagram [@wild2mildpodcast] or email [e-mail] we might read yours out next week. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a comment – would you pay £1,250 to be a bridesmaid?

Welcome back to the Walter Mild podcast with me, your host, Beth and Kerr Show. And me, your host, Nicole O'Brien. Oh, you're not in for a treat. This is a good ep this week. Honestly, so we asked you about like dilemmas, we asked you about, um, am I the villain? And oh, I can't even get over what you've sent in. Like, it actually makes me feel boring. Yeah, it makes me feel normal and I thought I was a little freak.

I know, same. actually did think and I was a bit weird and that like my life was completely fucked oh yeah no guys you lot are so interesting so we've decided that going forward we're going to have sections in every episode for red flags green flags dilemmas am i the villain there's going to be different sections oh series going off but yeah so we're excited to get into that and we will get into that very shortly but let's do a little week update oh yeah so tell me how is your week Kenny. Oh honey. I mean, it's been a lot. It's been, I mean, even just in the past two days, I've had two panic attacks. I know. Literally, she was obviously here, but it was a lot.

It was a lot. The one this morning. Oh my God, tell them the story. Right. So basically, right, so basically we'll put Ralph, Ralph, Ralph is Nicole's child baby cat, right? The cat, the cat, the cat. My child. The child. Um, so we'll put him on a harness and we'll let him go outside of and he just wanders about potters about like he's not too he doesn't try and get over the fence all the time like he's actually quite chill he's very chill cat he's a rag doll um so anyway so puts him on the harness this morning it's about seven o'clock in the morning puts him on the harness um and then i took a video of him like peering over the neighbor's garden looking like mea cat right so funny went to go inside went to have a look at it like without the actual light from the sky because

it's too bright when i look at my phone so i went inside goes back outside right Ralph's gone he's out of the fucking honest he's got no he's gone he's physically can't say him in the garden gone not on the grass gone I'm looking over the kitchen

I'm looking over the um the wall to have a look at the neighbour's garden I'm panicking and I thought well I'll try and find him before I wake Nicole up because Nicole's still in bed I was dreaming she was having the best time she was literally just living her best life while I was downstairs about to die right

ways, so I started to panic more and more because I'm like, because normally I'd be able to see him pretty quickly. Yeah. And I was in the house in a split second. I wasn't, he wasn't left outside but for longer than a minute. So I literally was like, I'm so confident. Then I started to lose vision. I started to lose vision. I started to really go into panic more. No, it's funny now. It's funny now. But like, oh, earlier, no. I started to really go into panic mode. Like, I really started to freak out because I thought I've lost Nicole's cat. Like, what the fuck? I had one job. I just had to look after the cat

and make sure I didn't run away and he's gone. So anyways I goes to the bottom of the stairs and bear in mind I was stumbling to the stairs because I started to lose my balance right because I was going to have a panic attack and I was like Nicole

and I don't even know what I said. You're like Nicole, Ralph's gone Oh my God! He's gone! And like when I was in a deep sleep so I jolted out of bed and I'm freaking the fuck out because this is my worst nightmare so I'm running down the stairs

I'm barefoot, I'm running into the garden I'm like, where is he? Where is he? And then I see the little fecker over in the corner up on top of the wall in between these chairs. Yeah, in between the leaves and you know what? He never, ever jumps up there, ever. He's never been up there in his life.

If he's ever trying to jump anywhere, it's over the two fences. He's never trying to jump up there. I think he was hiding on purpose. He was doing it on purpose to scare Bethan. I think he trolled his. And then Bethen went to go grab him and she was shaking so much she couldn't grab him so I was like I'll get him I'll get him

it's fine it's fine then I grab him and I'm holding on to him for dear life and I'm on the floor I'm on the floor having a panic attack my whole body was shit you know when animals have a stress response in the shake the whole body that was me on the floor like this shaking like that it was wasn't it I mean I was scary when I'm in those states and having a panic attack I don't have like any recognition any recognition recognition recognition it recognition of time so it felt like 10 minutes but Nicole was like oh no that was like a minute yeah it felt like 10 minutes for me I was on the floor I mean there was just drop drop drop drop I um of tears falling out of my eyelashes just drop because I was that panicked yeah you were so panicked

and then I was like oh my god because I was trying to stay calm and calm you and I was like breathe it's all fine but like if you didn't have a panic attack I would have had a panic attack because my child nearly got lost yeah yeah yeah yeah but no one's fault it's like literally how he is and no it would have been my fault because I was meant to look after him that's why I had a panic attack thing but in other news I have just been told that I've got anxiety from the doctor so I'm on medication oh she's diagnosed with the anxiety keep and trying me and it's my anxiety anxiety she came to me after the doctor and she was like so like doesn't mean I'm diagnosed if they give you medication I was like

yes you have anxiety she was like I don't think I have anxiety I was like honey I think you too I've literally had so many panic attacks over the years but yeah I genuinely thought I didn't have anxiety I know you've had a mad week with all that I know and social anxiety as well I get really bad social anxiety where I go really introverted and I always worry when I come away from social interactions thinking oh my god they think I'm aware at all or they think I'm like standoffish other thing I'm abrupt but it's because I go introverted and then I start my skin so I'm trying to keep me face normal yeah it's so hard it's so draining I know because I just want to be like that neutral yeah I know I've got no expression

I'm literally so apathetic at the minute I've got no expression but instead I've got to be like oh my god I know well I go home and I'm well I mean but this medication is gonna help

yeah I feel like it'll be so good for you and I'm excited for you to see how it all goes yeah but yeah you've had a bloody mat

I mean my week has been nothing like that my week has just been routine same old actually I got bagels for breakfast instead of eggs so yeah

wow she's really rocking the ball there huge week you guys bagels instead of eggs yeah but yeah I don't think

anything major is really happened this week I mean I did want to go on a few dates but I just couldn't be honest I mean what I have been doing is going to the cinema by myself and that's a huge thing for me because I've severe social anxiety and I can't do anything by myself always have to have someone with me but I got one of those passes I think I said this in the last episode maybe I didn't but it's like a pass you can get on Odeon where you get unlimited cinema screenings for a whole month for 20 quid so yeah that's why I'd be doing my week yeah that's so good though I feel like that's like a really good step in the right direction though because especially because you worry about being like doing

things on your own it actually stops you from doing things that you want to do so i think pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and i think it's like an easy way to do that as well because you're all in the cinema it's dark no one can really say yeah true and then you can start like open it up a little level you know what i mean i do i definitely do feel a little bit more comfortable if i was to if if i was to go somewhere by myself now i feel a little bit more comfortable then what I would have done What about if you would So the end goal here

What we need to get you to Is sitting in a restaurant And having food on your own Could never be me Could never be Maybe in a foreign country Like and for a drink Outside in a busy square

You wouldn't go and take yourself on a day Oh my God I just couldn't do dinner Like my little date nights for myself now Is like cinema Maybe a spa day or something like that That people do by themselves But like I just I couldn't do

dinner it would it was semi under I would get I would get like so anxious but like right are we just too anxiety ridden girls

we're literally are this should have been called wild and manxiety yeah mangled anxiety it should have been

wild and mangled anxiety mangled anxiety yeah oh my god guys Listen, bear with us as well My hair's a fucking riot

I just, I can't I've got anxiety leaves a lot Yeah, yeah, we can blame everything On the anxiety I know literally everything Should we have a look at the What should we do? Dilemmas

Oh I think we should do like So we've had a little quick Brief run over the dilemmas To say what you say Oh my God We'll do like maybe two or something Because there are quite a lot Isn't that?

Yeah And I feel like We'll do a few weekly anyway But let's do two today So we have them here on the laptop in front of us yeah okay right let's go with the first one can i should i read one you read it i do apologize as well i do have like dyslexia so if i can't read right bear with and then maybe we'll have to just give it to you to be reading all the time i also have dyslexia so oh great god help the

listeners brilliant right okay so right hang on let's have a lock so one of my closest friends is getting married next year and asked me to be a bridesmaid i was so excited until she told me the dress she's chosen for us is 450 quid plus the hendoo abroad will cost at least another 800 oh god that's that there's a lot of money that is a lot of money like i mean i get it but like right anyways um honestly i can't afford it i do live paycheck to pay check a paycheck and that kind of money is going to completely wipe me out wipe my sorry i'm so just like so sorry why don't my savings Oh, my savings. Wipe out my savings, but I also don't want to let her down

and all look like the bad friend who won't celebrate her properly on a big day. A part of me thinks if she really valued me, she wouldn't expect us all spend that much. But I also know weddings can be stressful and she's probably just caught up in it all. Do I suck it up and put myself in debt to keep the peace or risk the friendship by saying I can't

it. Oh God. Oh, you're going through it, you like. Yeah, no. I feel like that is such a thing at the minute. Like obviously everything is so expensive at the minute. Like I literally, to buy dinner in the evening is like at least 10 quid from ASDA. If not more. If not more. But like I just think it's so hard because obviously this is your one's big day and she wants everything to be amazing and flamboyant like if you're spending that amount of money. But I do think like it is a bit unfair to be asking someone to spend 450 quid on a dress well hang on there because it's 800 plus 450 which is eight nine 10 1112 1,250 oh my god that's a lot of money it's hard like I feel like if that were me like I if I'm to get married anyway which I don't know how fucking likely that is at this

rate but um I would want a really simple wedding like nothing extravagant but I feel like loads of people love the big weddings and spending loads of money on it obviously it's one day the of your life but that's where it's hard isn't it when you've got friends who are in like different like income like situations in the life like some people could make in really good money and then some people aren't even like they'll barely get by i think personally i think 450 pounds for a dress that you're going to wear once is absolutely ridiculous and it's so unfair to ask someone to pay that i think like get i don't know a dress rental place that people can just rent the dress for like a hundred quid yeah like just there's no need to be spending that much on the dress and my personal opinion

i think it's selfish yeah like because it's not it's not who wedding no exactly and i know that wedding dresses like i do know that yeah i wedden dresses yeah i think that i'm not being funny but where you where she got where she chose that um dress from like some designer probably but i think that that is unfair i think it's so lazy to ask your friends to spend that amount of money when everyone's making different like it'd be different if they were all on big money than whatever but you're one saying she's living paycheck to paycheck is lazy

ah yeah yeah and surely if you're not good enough friends and you probably know about the financial situation I think most close friends speak about the financial situation unless you don't feel comfortable but then it's like you should feel comfortable with your friends to let your friends know because you don't want to be taking that financial stress on

by yourself like you'd want to talk about it and just like get a little bit support like not support as in like oh pay me bills but yeah just like give me a few ideas maybe you can start this maybe you should do that like if she's a good enough friend like you're asking there like do you risk the friendship by saying you can't do it or do you put yourself in depth i think she's risking the friendship by asking you to do something like that yeah i think like if if it were me i would be like to her look i can't afford this like it's just a little bit out of what i'm getting paid from work and etc and it will put a lot of stress on me

am I okay to at least not do the holiday like if you pay the dress whatever not do the holiday and I'll take you for a nice spa day or I'll do something where it's like fucking 80 quid each and you can take it for a massage and be like can you just tell the rest of the girls if you're not that close with the rest of the girls but can you say that like I'm ill or I have to go home

like I don't want to share that I can't afford that but like take her on a separate day where you don't have to spend 800 quid on the hendoo abroad also you're not even factoring in the meals and the drinks and everything you're going to spend there well she said at least 800 quid on a holiday yeah so like I mean she might I don't know she might have factored it in but I just think yeah just tell you can't do it pay the dress maybe like even though oh the dress is a bit mad I think that she's got no choice in it because your ones after picking out the the dresses

for the bridesmaids surely the well yeah but at the same time it's like you should really be consulting and just double checking that everyone can afford that I know what clearly you're wild to ask like your friend to pull out 450 pound for a dress yeah oh that is wild like fair enough like a holiday because you are both experience in the holiday and that's like you'd pay that for a holiday anyways so like if you wanted to go on holiday you could literally save your holidays up you could save the money up for a holiday the way that you would do for a normal holiday you know what i mean yeah but i think 450 pound for a dress is insane it is insane and the i think that the bright and i get it it's your big date, I don't know, maybe I'm just a bit because I haven't got a boyfriend,

I haven't got a marriage and thingy, like I'm kind of on the other person's side. Yeah, people always say it's like, oh, it's one day of your life. Like, spend all the money. But my idea on it all is it's one day of your life. Why the hell are you spending all this money? It's one day. So, like, you can look at it in two different ways. It's one day of your life.

Like blow out. Like blow out, go out, you know, like it's one time you're going to do. this but then my my perception is like it's one day yeah so why you're spending that much money on one day yeah it's a bit mad I don't know well yeah I mean with that dilemma if it were me I would just sack the holiday bring her on a cutesy day and forfeit the money for the dress because unfortunately you probably don't have another option with that if it's a bridesmaids dress and everyone's wearing the same thing I mean I get that but equally the bridesmaid could I mean the you don't know how like open the bride's going to be because you

could just literally say, listen, I really can't afford both. Like, is there no way that we could maybe mix up the brides made dresses and keep the colours and maybe choose something a bit more in her budget? This is my budget. If you can't do that, then I can't come at the holiday. Does that make sense? Yeah, saying that's a bride, though, she'd probably fucking clock you in the head. Oh, right.

Yeah. Yeah, true. Because she, like, some girls, like, have, like, dreamt of this day their whole life. They've had Pinterest boards since they were, like, 10 years old with, like, the dresses and the ideas. Oh, my God, it's like that. that movie yes bride wars

yeah so good so like some people are in now you're creating bride wars you're in the bride wars yeah they'll be a remake in the movie about you do you know what actually

what you said it's probably probably better yeah because I think asking the bride change you're right you can't unfortunately you can't forfeit the wedding

bring her on a lovely day pay for the dress forfeit the wedding or four fit the holiday the holiday sorry don't forfeit the wedding but yeah or fourfeit the wedding

or do you know what forfeit the friendship leave or go see you later fuck her off fuck her off no we're joking we're joking well i hope that helps i mean we're not very level-headed with a lot of things but i feel like that is probably the best way to do that yeah definitely in our opinion but listen this is literally in your balls in your court unfortunately do what you want but that's what we think you should do okay what's the next one we have okay next one i've been dating a guy for about six months he's honestly perfect so many ways, kind, funny, family orientated, but there's one problem. I absolutely hate the way

he dresses. Oh, we'll go out for dinner and I'll turn up in cargo shorts. Oh, an old football shirt. Oh my God, please. When I've hinted about it, he laughs it off and says, I'm too bougie. Come on now. But it's getting to the point where I feel embarrassed introducing him to my friends because they're also stylish and he looks like he's rolled out of bed. Oh my God. My best friend says I'm shallow for even thinking oh for even thinking about it but attraction is attraction and I feel myself cringing when we're out together

do I sit him down and tell him I need to change his style or tell him to change his style or do I accept this is who he is and try to get over it. Hang on a minute I've got a question obviously we'll keep all these people anonymous yeah it's all anonymous no one said that they want to be thinking anyways

I've got a question for you so when you were first we're there so you will say so six months he'd been seen him for six months. When you first dated him, right, did he have bad fashion sense? Yeah. Because if he did.

Well, like, say so, if he's still, if he's dressing like that, he probably... But why did you go for it then? Because this has happened to me when I've been dating people and they've got shit fashion sense. I'm like, I can change them. I'll just go to Zara

and be like, we need to go on a shopping day. Right, I mean, I get that. But equally, you should never try and change someone's, like... Oh, well, I do. It shouldn't be so... It shouldn't be something that you think, oh, I'm going to change that about them because you should be too. That's how I look at something.

You're ridiculous now. Get a fucking great, will you? No, but like, cutey little project. Somebody red flags. No, because that's, come on. No, because that's how you literally enjoy our trauma.

Stop that because that you can't change people. But equally, I do think things like fashion because you know, you get them things where like it's like before he met this girlfriend after. But fashion before he met her. Yeah.

Fashion now. he's with her or something so you do see those like little trends where you see the boyfriend's fashion elevating yeah or the girlfriend's fashion elevating don't you so I get it it's not a huge deal break up but I don't know I feel like fashion for me is definitely something I look at

oh for sure like I feel like that's something I'm like attracted to yeah like if someone's wearing like nice oh I like the mall and black me I do black top black pants black bomber black trainers black like everything I don't know I just love a lot like nice tight black top yeah the muscles coming out

the muscles popping out like that I know I think yeah nice tight top and whatnot but I think fashion is like obviously so subjective but like that's not fashion wearing a football t-shirt in Cargo what's a cogo show is where Cargo shorts like I mean unless it's like I mean unless it's like really vintage street

which I don't think well no I don't gather that from that dilemma I think if it were me I would most definitely sit him down and be like, look, I'm going to say this with love, but you dress like shite and we need to figure out how this is going to be sorted. I'd be like, or else I'd be like, maybe don't be like, let's just go on a shopping trip to Zara and then just like, oh, you look so good in this. Let's have a fun little day. Try on all these things and then just big him up being like, you have to get that, you have to get that.

And then just go home and burn his other clothes. Literally, that's actually what, that's literally what you could do to be. fair or what you could do if you wanted to I mean no actually because you're spending money on a man that's actually mad I was going to say why don't you each like sneakly get rid of stuff burn it replace it with something better

and be like oh on the slide though yeah you could maybe ask him for some money for your nails or something and then just put it towards his clothes but then you're taking away from your lovely nails definitely not yeah no I most definitely would say to him because like at the end of the day you need to be attracted to him and if you're embarrassed about the style it needs to change sorry how did you get I need them but I need to know more I'm going to email back yeah we'll email you back we need more

info I need to know when you met him what was going on what was the what was happening when you met him what was he where was you drunk is that why you had the beer goggles on they realized oh my god was it a case where you's ended up staying together like forever you know them people that meet on a date and then they just never leave each other side ever have you ever heard them stories like where they're like oh yeah so like we're met and then we're just never left each other side that's my vibe that's my vibe so if anyone wants to do in fact i'm done don't even come near us um no yeah i need to know more i need more about that i feel like yeah we need to know more about how you met and what the story is there but wait did they say something about the

friend as well the friends were embarrassed oh no she was embarrassed of what bring them around the friend introducing him to friends she was embarrassed uh because they're also stylish and he's just looked like he rolled out about also come on now have a bit more pride in your appearance I know I often look like I've rolled out about

but I'll still put in a bit of effort I'll still put on the fucking claw clip and do the little front bits of my hair do you know what I'm a bit I'm a tramp no if we're going out for dinner

oh yeah do you know what I mean like it's different but like yeah say it to him change his style Bob's your uncle Fanny's your aunt

Fanny's your aunt Get to fuck new if you don't. I think that, yeah, if don't get over it, if it bothers you. Yeah, if it bothers you. I'd definitely bring it up.

You might as well. And also, would he not just feel so much nicer dressing stylish anyway? I know, like imagine all the compliments and the things he would get if you dress so cute.

100%. Right. Next. So dilemmas. That was dilemmas. Also give with some feedback on the dilemmas because I personally think

that that is so good. Yeah. There's so many dilemmas but we only had to choose too because otherwise we'll be such a dark now, do you? Yeah, we'll be here all the bloody day. Anyways, right, so am I the villain?

Oh. So we're done a little, so basically we're done a little poll online and I said, what do you want to do? I'm the villain and obviously we've got the email on the Instagram and you've emailed this in, right, so listen to this, right? So I kind of say, I'm blind, sorry.

Going to have to bring the laptop forward. Oh, yeah. Sorry, I'm blind. Also, apologies again for the, for the, reading so my flatmate has a new boyfriend and he stays over at nelly every night they're constantly loud cooking food at midnight the music on and yes the bedroom noise as well oh please right um last week i snapped oh god i was exhausted from work and i couldn't sleep again um and at 2 a m i banged on the door and told them to shut the fuck up i move out oh you know what fair um the next

next day she said she I completely humiliated her and I could have just text her instead of causing a scene now the flat is tense and she's barely speaking to us am I the villain for losing me temper and embarrassing her

or was she in the wrong for not respecting me in my own home? Right this exact thing happened to me years ago yeah so I was in uni and I was living with these like loads of other girls

it was like five of us in the house but my room used to be a big room and it was split then down the middle for me and this other girl and it was the last exam so basically in final year of uni those exams counted towards what kind of degree you had and what level a degree you had right and it was my last exam she had finished her exams like a few days previous and I was so stressed about this exam and I stayed up like studying until like 1 a.m and then I went to bed next thing she comes back from a night out and when I say like if a ping from your phone you could hear it that's it was like a paper sheet dividing our rooms she came back brought a lad back she knew I had an exam at like

half nine in the morning was riding this lad into fucking tomorrow and I was like I can't so I got so angry I banged on the wall and I said I said shot your fucking legs and then I said some other nasty that I won't repeat here. I was so angry because I was like how can you not have respect for me in my own home and especially knowing

I have one of the most important exams of my that determines my degree and my life tomorrow morning and you've brought a ladge back and you're having sex with him screaming are you well in the head the anger I felt

I couldn't get back to sleep because I was so angry yeah fair so I just said some nasty things that is bad that that is so but even then like say for instance that girl like she's shattered

she's exhausted from work and then you've got the fucking boyfriend and I tell you what it is a bit annoying it is a bit annoying like seeing the boyfriend there all the time like you don't live you go to go to your own home go away

I know it's so true I lived with a girl two years ago and the boyfriend was always there always there actually it's happened twice but one of them yeah the last place I was living in

and it's just so annoying like I don't feel like I can come downstairs in my pyjamas and my fucking tits hanging out you know what I mean like it's in my own home and it just makes you feel uncomfortable when they're there the whole time

like I get it like where else you say well actually go to his do you know what I mean like it's just so annoying and I think there has to be some boundaries with that so I get it and I think you snapping is just a buildup of this constantly happening and I think that is valid

and I think that is so fair well well wait a minute because um hang on so snapping and and being kind of what did you say shut the fuck up i move the fuck i mean i get it i understand it 100 but i do also think like if it's something that's been happening over and over again like you kind of do have to speak about it especially if you're living together do you know what i mean i know you should have been pulling her up and saying listen you should have said it in a calm matter because what happened is you've you've not said it all of the times every time that's just pissed you off and you've been sat there with this anger in yourself and you're just like it's fine i'll just put it in the side then what's

happened is he blew out of proportion and now she's going to villainise you because of your response to her disrespect so really it is your fault because you should have said something no but you should have said something to what and i get it i understand it and you need to learn how to set boundaries yeah but i but i do understand why you've done that because like what the fuck I wear mate yeah what the fuck get your fucking boyfriend and fuck off out the house this is a girl only zone yeah the thing is though is that i feel like i'd be like her like i'm so bad of setting boundaries with different things i'm learning i am as well but i'm bad and it's yeah but it's also so uncomfortable because you don't want to make things uncomfortable in the

house but then it comes to a point where it's like an elastic band and you just snap yeah so all this time of building up building up and you're like i don't want to make it uncomfortable like I don't know how to go about this conversation. Like I get it. It's being me. I understand. And then you get to a point where the rubber band's just gone and snapped and you're just like... And then you end up falling out. And then you end up falling out.

It is awkward. And you know what? I feel like not a lot of people talk about that enough. Like I feel like people always talk about like friendship breakups and they always say about like oh, this is how you get. Nobody talks about how you navigate conflicts with friends. Yeah. And a lot of the time I feel like it is them situation.

where like things can just creep up on you constantly creep up on you constantly and then all of a sudden you just don't yeah just absolutely done I've I've had that so many times in my I'm the cut off queen and I know it's not anything to brag about because there's so many people in my life where I've just went block block and then like no reason and then they'll come up to us and they'll be like listen I don't know you know there's no issue and I'm like yeah you don't have an issue with me I've got an issue with you and that's why you blocked like yeah I mean but then I'm like I need to learn how to communicate how I feel instead of just being like actually fuck off and just gone but then I also think I've been through so much in

my life like where I've just had so many betrayals and pain and like so many shitty things where I just think right well I don't want to sit around and wait and find out what happens like if you're capable of doing that you see you later for example like um not too long ago I had a friend who basically was like questioning me mental health and obviously now I've been like diagnosed got anxiety I'm on medication and it's like friends question your mental health yeah it's a bit fucking mad so basically being like well is she really like not feeling good like that was the vibe that I got and it was like what do you mean yeah like what I'm sorry I'm in a place now in my life where I do not need people like that my life I really

really don't. No, absolutely not. And I feel like I've always been the type of person as well. It's like no matter how much water or not water, no matter how much times went past. Water. Where the hell? Under the bridge I was going to say. I was like, where the hell did you get in? No matter how much like time has gone past. Like how long I've knew people are like, I could have been friends with people for five years. I could have been literally, um, you know, working with them every single day or whatever like if I feel like you're doing so listen I'm a scope your fucking moon right my intuition is a fucking powerhouse yeah and I've been told all my life to ignore it I have and I'm not doing that anymore so I'm yeah you're dead right yeah so I just I'm like that's where anyways

where to have spiral off from why I'm on this conversation right now where I'm on them about like setting boundaries oh setting boundaries yeah set boundaries so I also need to take my own advice and try and set boundaries as well because I'm one of them people that kind of sees all these like little things that I'm like, weird, weird. And I'm also neurodivergent as well. So I sometimes miss the hidden social cues that neurotypical have. So yeah, I feel like setting boundaries, it's hard, but then you have to do it because then you end up just becoming the villain. But if you're happy will be in the villain, then good. Me and you will be good friends. i think i think like setting boundaries like it's i find it's so difficult but then i need to think

and remind myself that oh fucking mank you just wipe it on yourself as well that is fucking disgusting get that leg away from me sorry sorry oh god oh god i don't know where it's gone no it's not where the fuck did that go that is disgusting listen we all do it I've seen you pick yours need it. No, I definitely have not. I'm joking. For sure, have not. I'm joking.

I'm putting your hair in your sleep. Can you imagine? I'm like, fuck it out. Got loads of stuts in me. I don't imagine. See what your mouth open and time you annoy me i'll just go into your mouth that's an awful thing that oh no but anyway sorry

oh we love a side track i know we do um but yeah going back to the boundaries thing is uh yeah like i basically you have to remember that one uncomfortable conversation will last five minutes 10 minutes whatever or else you're going to feel uncomfortable and 10 times worse for about six months yeah so that Rip the Band-Aid all. So true. That is so true. You did see that at me, but I did. I know, but sure, sometimes I don't take my own advice.

I know what I have to do, but I just don't do it. Yeah, see. But anyway, right, another one. Should we do another one? Yeah. Okay. My brother and his girlfriend had their first baby a few months ago. Every weekend, my mom and my dad go over to help, cook meals, babysit at the lot.

I live 20 minutes away, and I've hardly seen them since. 20 minutes away from the family? Yeah. from the baby yeah I'm gathering that's what that is and I've hardly seen them since they're always with the baby last week I finally snapped and told my parents I feel like they don't care about me anymore oh that everything sorry that's so insincere that everything is about my brother and his kid my mom got upset and said I was being selfish and that I should understand this is a special time for them now we feel guilty because I know a new baby is a big

deal but I also feel pushed aside in my own family. Am I the villain for admitting I felt left out and jealous of the baby. La boo-boo. I'm jealous of la booboo. No, this is a serious talk. Come on. She jealous of la-boobo. Right. Sorry, sorry. We will take this serious. Yeah, sorry. So first thing that I would say is I find it very annoying that your mom's got upset that you've came to her with the problem because I just feel like that's a little bit... It's a little bit gas lately that, isn't it? I don't know. I'm sorry.

I think... I think like if you go to someone with a problem and then they come back to you with their... Like, if they get upset about you being upset, I don't know. I mean, listen, there's been so many times that I've done that, but I do feel like I recognise it now is that's a little bit like...

It's a little bit... I don't know if the right word is manipulative. I feel like that's a really heavy word. That's a very heavy word for this. But what other word would that be then? Because the mom was just saying that she was being selfish and she should understand a special time for them. Which I agree with the mom but I don't agree with the word selfish.

I think that you're, it's a little less serious than being selfish but like it's a newborn baby. Like the brothers had a newborn baby and like yes they're spending loads of time there but you only get this time once with a baby. Yeah.

And it is so special. I can only imagine. I know, but then to push your other, like, if your other kid comes up being, says, listen, I feel really excluded and isolated, which is basically what she is. She's getting excluded and isolated. She's feeling like she's not important.

Like, that's such a nasty thing to do, and I get it. But, like, you should be also making time for someone else, especially when they're coming up to you, saying, I feel excluded and isolated. Yeah, well, yeah, that is true. But I also, I understand what the mom is saying, too. because it is special and I feel like

you know don't be a dick and just get involved but then at the same time it's like you don't if you're feeling excluded they should include you more like why is your mom and dad not taking you to go see the baby why are you home why is that like that's a bit weird yeah like why it's not all there together yeah

that's what I want to know is like why aren't you going to see the baby is there an issue with your brother or is there an issue with you do you need to be all the sudden have attention all the time oh you just completely no I know I know well I was just I'm trying to devil advocate yeah yeah I know I'm just having a little you know I'm playing about with a few scenarios and sorry if this is the cold hard truth to someone like we're just trying to

unpick it we we don't want to give you a false truths here like is there an issue with you and like being I don't know because I tell you what's a really awful feeling to feel isolated excluded no course it is firsthand experienced that and I wouldn't wish it on me worst fucking enemy and I do feel I mean I don't I definitely don't think that this is the case in this scenario but like adults now obviously what I've noticed is adults don't like bully each other through like you know like back in primary school when this is totally off topic like punch someone and push him not like I did that but you're so ugly well yeah yeah yeah you've got spoty face oh four eyes becky four eyes yeah yeah yeah yeah children were awful they call you all the names under

the son but like I feel like as adults obviously you're a little bit more intelligent and you understand a little bit more empathy wise but equally I feel like exclusion and isolation is adult bullying no course that's like what it is so I understand what she's saying when she feels excluded and isolated and then she doesn't really know how to express that because nobody else will really understand it yeah but my thing is like why are you not going to visit the family like why aren't you going and including yourself to see the brother unless there is an issue with the brother

which you haven't explained here so maybe there is but my thing would be if you're just sitting at home and all your family are gone to see the newborn baby who's your niece or nephew whatever why are you just at home why aren't you getting involved? Yeah for sure and like how did

you put it across? How did you put it across? We need a bit more information guys when you saw email and ink if we need it all Yeah, we need it all because it's hard to give you advice on this because we don't know the full extent of it

but there's two sides about but I was thinking how did you put it across to your man because why did she get upset? Yeah, why did she call yourself what are you doing? No, because this sounds

very, very blamy and I don't like it. No, okay, no, we're not blaming you I'm joking. I feel bad now. No, no, no, she's grand. Yeah, you're grand. No, listen, I think I know where exactly

you are because I feel like that isolation period where you feel like you're not getting involved and stuff is really fucking awful. But listen, I'm really proud that you've actually said something because most people don't say things, you know what I mean? Most people aren't able to actually communicate their needs.

So the fact that you've communicated your needs is good. Now, I feel bad. Sorry, sorry. I personally don't think that you are the villain but I do think that you need to come to a middle ground with your family on like going and seeing the baby with your mum

and dad and making a family thing out of it or um and then also like giving your family a little bit of leeway like it is a brand new bone baby and if it is something that continues which i'm going to imagine it probably is otherwise you wouldn't say anything if it's something that really continues cut them off i don't joke no i like include yourself a bit more yeah and if that doesn't work email us back because again you haven't told us the full extent of this so i don't really know how to go about this. I think like no one should be left out. No one should feel excluded.

I'll include you. Yeah, we'll include you. Come on. But it's, um, and no one should, like I think selfish is such a nasty word. Like, your mom should not have said that. Especially when, when you're expressing how you feel. Yeah, it shouldn't be then. It's not, yeah, it's not very nice or your mom shouldn't have done that.

No. But I think try and include yourself and see how that goes. If there's issues in the family and you've expressed it to your mom. and it's still happening then like has your mom not even said oh well we'll come and pop in if you're all living 20 minutes apart has your mom not even said like oh we'll come

and pop in for a cup and see you as well or like I thought they lived together oh I'm very confused there's not enough information in that one anyway right well we'll park that there best of luck I hope this helps

I don't know if it did I think we're probably just made that word I think we've made it, yeah, we've made it worse. I feel bad. Okay, I feel bad too, but I don't know the extent of the story. Try and include yourself if that doesn't work and there was issues there. I'm so sorry. Oh, I'm terrified. I'm terrified.

Yeah. Shit. No, I don't know. I don't know. Anyway, best of luck. We love you lots. Come to the house for a cup and we'll let you feel included. Exactly.

All right. Red flag green flag. Oh, I'm so excited for this. I was reading them a day and I was like, ah! How many will we do, too? All of them. All of them? I think so.

Okay. I'd like to. Okay. Well, we'll just do as many as we want. Okay. Well, I won't get bored. I could do it all day. Okay, go on.

Okay. You first. Okay. I can't read. Hey, so my best mate never argues. If something bothers her, she just shuts it down and avoids the topic completely. I feel like we've just had this. I feel like we've had this too.

Part of me thinks it's chill because we don't fight, but sometimes I feel like nothing ever gets resolved. Red flag or green flag. We've actually kind of covered a similar story in this. already today. Literally two minutes ago, wasn't it? Literally two minutes ago. That's weird, isn't it? I don't know. I would think red flag actually know

it's a bit of a mix both. This is me. This is literally me. Because I never argue. Because I shut down because I don't argue. I hate arguing. I hate confrontation. I hate it all. And then like it'll just build up, build up and I'll snap. Which is something I need to work on.

So I think you're a green flag for not wanting confrontation and not wanting to upset someone but then if you shut down and avoid the conversation and if nothing gets resolved it's just going to fester and you're going to end up falling out which in it basically was what that other girl sent in yeah is this same person is this have you come into the same thing have you come to the same thing um what do you think no i think it's a bit of a mix of both for me i think yeah i mean i get it but then i I also think like I'm saying this but I'm saying it not from like me embodying this

behaviour because equally I'm the type of person where I'm just like I kind of just like have things tallying up and I'm like oh that was weird oh that was weird oh that was weird and then all of a sudden I'm like oh hang on a minute you're a secret hate at gone yeah I'm that kind of person yeah whereas like I kind of should I should be very bogal and like oh like when you said this it actually made it feel like this was that your intention but then no one's going to be like yeah that was my intention like it's hard because when it's such small things

and then it ends up festering into like this big thing it's hard to like call someone out on such on the little things and if you're someone who doesn't want to ever argue and you shut down and avoid the topic I get it like it's like it's hard I've been the type of person that was very confrontational

I mean you might have seen you know in TV but I insert clip here yeah but like I have been in my past like a very confrontational person like if someone made me feel a certain type way

best believe I'd be talking about it yeah and equally I don't know if it really does resolve anything because I think equally if people are capable of like doing these things sometimes I don't think it does make the friendship stronger and better I think it depends on the person

yeah I feel like sometimes if you're like oh you made me feel this way and like it's some people take that as like you're attacking their character being like what you're saying I did that and then the other person can build up resentment too it's really hard because I know if someone came to me being like you made me feel so small you made me feel like shit or something like that I would feel I would feel awful like I would feel so bad and like that would just sit in my conscience for fucking months and then I would end up like nearly being annoyed at the person being like you've made me feel like that but then like if I've made them feel like that it's just messy yeah I get that but then equally like say for instance if someone has said like oh you've made

me feel like this but then you don't feel like you've made them feel like that and you've got evidence where you like well yeah how have I made you give it or you prove to like not prove but you tell me how I've made me yeah for example give us an example of how I when and how I made you feel like that like so then it's kind of of like it's hard isn't it it's everyone has different perspectives on things isn't it also you want to be like the active listener well that's the thing isn't it so to be like see if someone comes up to you with the problem this is what i struggle with when someone comes up to you with a problem right and they're like you've made me feel like this sometimes it is hard to be like go on the defense yeah for me

i find some i'm gonna find it a bit hard to be like yeah but when and why you approach us with this attitude yeah you know what i mean but then at the same time I know that that's a toxic trait in me because I'm like I should be actively listening to my friend partner family oh you're saying you go on the defense sometimes I can't yeah I'm saying I feel like you're attacked in some way yeah for sure or like if someone's trying to like paint you out as if you're a certain person then sometimes I can be like what are you talking about yeah like genuinely what are you told about you fucking delusional yeah you need a lobotomy

but then again but then again I'm like no because then that's me dismissing that person yeah but then it's hard when I feel like a lot it's very complex

because sometimes you know people's characters yeah I feel like it depends on the person like for me with this now I would say it's a beige flag it's a beige flag it's right bang in the centre

of the middle of the green flag and red flag because it's a green flag that you don't want to upset people and you avoid confrontation So she said her best mate never argue So she argues Oh

My best mate never argues So it's here that So she It sounds like It looks to me Yeah she's on about the best mate So I'm talking from the perspective of the best mate If the fact the best mate never argues

Is it a green flag or red flag Right And I think it's bang smack in the middle It's a green flag Because you hate confrontation You hate arguing You hate upsetting people And it makes you feel ill

And then it's a red flag Because nothing gets resolved and things fester and then that can sometimes turn out to be worse so for me that's a beige flag I get that I think I think even though I do apply this

I do think it's a red flag but listen I know my red flags and I'll hold outside then no yeah I think it is a bit of a red flag because I just think like to be able to communicate your needs is emotional

it's what's the opposite to emotional repression or suppression what's the opposite you know what I'm trying to see emotional stability it's basically yeah it's basically you communicating

your needs and being able to deal with conflict without shutting down that's like a healthy nervous system right so my nervous system we've established as fucked anyway we've established that mine is as well I've just been medicated

on anxiety tablets so you know we're not we're not trying to be the preachers or the teachers yeah but you know what we can

embody, we don't need embody it, sorry, but we can't give you advice and pretend that we'll do that. 100%. Right. No, but we know what we need to do, though. We just don't know how to do it. Yeah, that's exactly it. We know all the tools.

We just don't know how to build the house. Yeah, exactly. Okay, do you want to go with next one? Yeah, next one. Right, family question for you. My older brother constantly compares me to himself. What's with the brothers? We've had so many brother ones.

I'm sick of the brothers. Oh, my God. This is the second brother one as well. That's so bizarre. Maybe I've picked them out conscious. Yeah, subconsciously. Yeah, right, okay. Right, start again.

So, where are we? So you constantly compares himself. So, like, if I get a new job, he'll remind me he was promoted quicker. Or if I go at the gym, he'll say he lifts heavier. He says that it's just a sibling banter. But do you think that's a red flag or green flag? so he compares me to himself that's what she's saying yeah fucking red flag like why is he

brother not happy for you why is he constantly stealing the fucking limelight that's weird and also I fair enough men probably might go at the gym and lift heavier so fuck yeah you still got the gym I feel like that's just like a natural thing like unfortunately men are bigger and like can lift heavier well I don't know there's well no like in natural vibes of life and nature that is the way like the men usually like even you look at cows male cows are bigger than fucking do you know i mean like you look at animals unfortunately that is the way yeah true well basically um all i'm thinking is like because i do have that kind of brother banter with my brother as well like we take the piss out each other a little bit but not to that extent like i don't think

my brother would ever be like oh like well i've been promoted in the navy quicker or i don't know that would never come out yeah you'd be like well i got promoted with a brand with my followers my favorite brand i work in the navy and i'll film tictox yeah yeah for sure but i don't feel like that would be a case of like compare in each other i don't think it would compare would have that brotherly ban of like oh um stop eating on me food in the house man off like you know what i yeah yeah yeah yeah like i find that weird like saying that he got promoted quicker and he lifts heavier like he's trying to it feels like he's trying to knock you down a peg if anything yeah i feel like that's weird like maybe do your parents like you more and then he's like jealous of that or is it like jealous or is it

jealous are you honey jealous of you um i would say red flag anyway that is a red flag for me that's not banter no not if he's like shut me a down if you're not laughing right listen this is a thing if you're on equally laughing together it's not it's not it's not banter it's not jokes it's not funny even that goes for friendships as well if your friend is like taking the piss out of you and it's not funny for two you like they're taking the piss out you at your expense and you aren't both laughing think

that's a funny thing that's bullying that's like subtle bullying and sometimes people enjoy subtle bullying me personally not really not really do it sometimes I can oh I don't know sometimes I do like a little bit where it's a bit funny ways to take the piss out of each other well flirting I'm on like yeah but you find that funny

oh sorry yeah right yeah well yeah but like yeah well yeah well let's not talk about flirting when it's your brother that's fucking weird i don't know where that came from i was i was thinking of like relationship wise yeah yeah but i think but that's called that's called me is it called megan or peggin peggin is where you're got a delto and you are fucking pegging your man what's that one where no peggin i'm fucking dead i know what peggin is i know what peggin is but like what is what is that thing where like but like because men do that where they take the piss out e in they try and like belittle you and put you down in the sea is like a flirting thing but that's like

apparently like it's actually like not a good thing so apparently like they're trying to like dominate you or something oh really yeah but kids do that at the age of like three yeah because they're trying to sit their dominance okay well no I feel like that is too deep now kids do it maybe when you're older and whatnot but anyway going back to this yeah red flag red flag right he's a red flag well we do one more tell your mom and dad I would yeah oh we definitely tell your mom and dad for sure yeah mom and dad she's buying me can we do one more

we'll do one more okay good all right hi girls my boyfriend shares his location with his mom what no hang on hang on stop and still calls her every day for advice

even the small things like what to cook for dinner some people say that sweet family values nah others say he's a mommy's boy rare flag a green flag fucking red flag red flag

why are you calling your mom no because I don't know if I quite like the fact that he's like really close with his mom not to the point where it might interfere with your two relationships

but that's what will happen that's what will happen he's calling his mom asking what to eat for fucking dinner get a life you are an grown man why are you calling your mom telling her what you're going to cook

for dinner oh no I feel bad I don't I feel bad no because I speak to my mom all the time I'm so close with my mom yeah so am

but boys boys' moms are different. No, because is that not just no, I feel like that, I don't know. Sharing the location, if you're a woman with your mom, fine. Safety. Why's he doing that? I mean, the location thing's a bit mad

because, like, well, I don't know. I don't know, like, maybe she's just worried about our son. Because imagine, listen, like, put it this way, right? If I had a kid, you've seen the way that I had a panic attack with Ralph this morning when you left. I was on the floor, hyperventlyating, and couldn't fucking breathe or see. so if I had a kid I'd be like

even at 30 share your location let us know where you are like I'm need to make sure you see regardless and if you're a boy or a girl okay I get that maybe that will be me like I'm quite controlling then maybe but that's it but that's it like I get that out of safety

but it's like I've seen so many times like friends and whatnot when they're in a relationship and the mom is so involved that I've ruined the relationship and that's what I gather from this is that he's such a mammy boy to the fact where it's like the girlfriend ends up taking over the mother's role in the house which is that's what I will gather from that the girlfriend would then do well not so much

the cooking because he he's like asking her what to go for dinner but like the washing and everything a real mammy's boy will have the girlfriend take over if they're living together and I've seen that happen so many times that's why I think this is a red flag right I get that but then equally you could see it is a thing of like he like respects his mom's opinion that much that he wants to hear are from so then for instance he could be respecting his girlfriend's opinion and like going to his girlfriend because he trusts her advice and like he's like oh and it might just be a little thing like oh like what you're having for dinner maybe he's on the phone maybe the girlfriend's a bit jealous because the mom's like could be could be and maybe the girlfriend actually wants

the mom's position as in like so the girlfriend wants to be so that she wants the boyfriend to go to her for advice not the mom maybe actually yeah because actually maybe I would think If my lad was ringing his mom all the time, right, if I had a boyfriend, but obviously I hate them so I couldn't have a boyfriend. But like, if my lad was ring me's mom all the time asking for advice, I'd be like, well, what's wrong with mine? That's very true. What's wrong with my advice like? Yeah. I feel like, okay, is this a red flag or a green flag? For me, I would say a red flag just based on past experiences of Mammy's boys. I would say it's a red flag as well because I just don't like men. I'm sorry. There you go. There you go. I'm not going to beat around the bush and sugar-cote anymore.

I think I've seen enough to know that if there's a box of chocolate there and there's a few chocolate, that's all right. A few little fucking chocolate bars. I'm not touching any of the box. Fair, but what I will say is not all men are the same. Oh, I'm not dealing with that.

I know. I know some amazing people. I know for a fine fact. I can put my heart money, so I'll put my life on it. I'll tell you what, I'll go and speak the devil right now. And I'll say, listen, if this isn't true, take us now. Right, go on.

There's a man, right? Right, listen. Hang on, can't get me weird time. Word this right. I'll try and word this right. So, I know that every man in his lifetime, at least once, has hurt someone's feelings. But has not every woman, though. Every person has done that.

Oh. Yeah. Every person has done that. Yeah, but we're talking about men right now. Yeah, but I'm talking about men right now. Yeah, but I don't think every single man, I know a lot of good men. I think a lot of, like,

there's been a lot of fucking bad ones. What a fucking privilege it must be. Yeah. To go men who haven't traumatised you. I know. We've had different experiences. I know, literally what the hell. But yeah, going back to this,

red flag for me. Yeah, red flag for me as well, to be fair. Okay. We do one more. Yeah. Okay. So my best mate has to be the center of attention at every party.

She's always the loudest, always telling stories and everyone loves her. I find it a bitch bitch I find her a bitch yeah she'll find her a bitch I find it a bit

too much sometimes it's just your personality would you say that's a red flag or a green flag in a friend

well if it's a if it's a personality you can't really call that red flag yeah if anything your red flag yeah but like

but then again I don't know because she said she always has to be the centre of attention that makes me feel like she's performing to be the centre

of attention which isn't actually a personality. Right. So if she has to be the centre of attention, then she's just, she's obviously, I would imagine, quite insecure and wanting external validation

and feels like she needs that from a group of people, which is a red flag and something that you need to work on within yourself. Yeah, of course. But she also says it's just her personality. Yeah, so that's a bit of a mixed question.

That's a bit of a mixed thing. Because I think as well, like center of attention, if you have to be the center of attention, like that kind of tells me that the same thing that what you've just said yeah do you know what I mean so oh I don't know but then it's I don't know I'm having I'm having brain fog or whatever the fuck it's cold I'm like losing me train of thought fair enough well I think for me red flag if someone has to be the center of attention yeah and that also is so draining in a friend

who's constantly performative it's like yeah shut the fuck up oh my gosh Just be chilled, please, for one minute. If you have to be the centre of attention and like you're performing and things like that around, I don't know, why would you want to be friends? But then if you're saying it's just your personality, I'm a bit confused about that, are you? It's baffled my head.

I think if it's her personality, green flag, if it's not her personality and she's putting it on, that's a red flag because it's like, who exactly are you? And why are you masking to be this person surrounding other people? people like and delve deeper into the insecurities and maybe she needs therapy and that's fine everyone needs therapy everyone everyone we've all had therapy especially the ones who think that they don't yeah in fact you definitely need therapy then they need they need it bad traumatizing the

world bad so get in that fucking room on that fucking chair and start speaking about your feelings and stop traumatizing us because now I hate you yeah literally but I think lads a little bit of a advice when you sent in the questions can you be a little bit more specific yeah just give us a little bit more because I feel like we're like going back and forth about a few of these here but I think yeah going to that I think that that's good though because it's like debate yeah suppose a bit of a debate reminds me a debate class when I was younger in school I've never even heard a debate class oh yeah I've got memory loss honest to God yeah we would do debates and it was English or something no way yeah we'd do debates but anyway I think for me let's call that a beige flag because we

don't know the extent of that yeah we don't know she's putting it on we don't know if it's a personality like because you've kind of said that it's a personality but you've said that she needs to put it on so then I think if somebody who is naturally very outgoing and very charismatic and people are naturally drawn to you and then naturally like you are naturally the centre of attention because that is your personality I don't think that that's a red flag I think it's very endearing and I think some people do have that ability to do that but I think equally some people do have the ability to be the fucking

drain out of the room you're literally just like oh my God and then you'll tell them shut the fuck up and they won't and you'll just like oh my God I know and you need about 20 drinks to deal with it

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