Ep 17. Toxic Friends, Health Scares & Showing Up As Your Real Self
00:00Hi everyone and welcome back to the Wild to Mild Podcast with me, your host Beth and Kay Show.And me your host, Nicole O'Brien.Hello girls. Hello guys. Hello gays. Hello day. Hello she. Hello he. Hello.Hello. Everybody. We're back. Listen, I'm not being funny right, but I feel like I need to start putting a bit more. If I had in my appearance, I can't be awesome. Does anybody else feel like that? I feel like when I was younger, I would be kind of.constantly doing my hair, doing my makeup, doing tutorials, doing that.I don't know what it is, I'm not awest.It's just so much effort though.Like, even like when we, we spent like a week creating content and just like, like doing
00:42those of reels and whatnot.And when I tell you, like the amount of effort it goes into just doing, well, to me,how it feels to doing hair and makeup, I'm exhausted after getting ready.Like, I'm done.Like I'm put on my face.I've done my hair.I'm done.I don't have the energy to do anything else now.
00:59literally same like why is it i don't know what is that is that just age listen i'm so sorry by but i'msick of it now i know i'm sick of feeling like a fucking 95 year old woman in a 30 year old body butit's like a bit we did have a conversation this morning right which i think we should probablydiscuss a bit on the pod and it's like we need to just put more effort into our parents i feellike we just show up online like fucking like a scrub like i did a reel there weeks ago weeks andweeks ago with like me and my towel in on my head and a towel I was just out with the showerno tan on no makeup on and I'm just like yeah it's fine to post but is it like is it fucking hellI don't think it is I actually don't know I know like maybe we just need to put more effort
01:44into our appearance I don't know nobody's like so tired it is so tiring and the thing isas well like I 10 you know what's really funny so obviously I was creating some real site for brandslike a few weeks ago for the Halloweenlike well months ago or whateverum like Halloween stuff and I justafter I'd done my makeup rightand I was really enjoying doing my makeupI was like I'm done
02:08like I'm exhausted I don't have any more energyto film yeah but it's like Halloween makeuptakes up a lot of energy as wellyeah do you know what do I also I think because I don't do itoften like I used to do makeup get ready with meall of the time and listen I'm not a make artistdon't get strong I did do makeup in in universitynot university
02:28college, yeahbut I was more kind of massagelike wellness side of itI wasn't really I could doI can do makeup I thinkI don't know so good at makeupbut like this is the thinglike I don't know a little bit
02:40but I wasn't really into thatand then like I don't knowI used to do a little get ready with meso all the time and like I wasI really enjoyed doing itand now I'm just like ohI couldn't think of anything worseand put me up on and also I get really bad
02:53sensitive like sensitivitysensory yeahand I can feel the makeup on my skinand I'd rather not I'd rather show up like thisI know I think it's actually an active rebellionnot to look after you like like not to likeput makeup on and yeahI know because who am I trying to impress
03:11I don't have anyone to impress and I'm actuallyquite impressed with how I look right nowmyself like I don't need to impress anyonewe're very confident like even like when we wentto Abu Dhabi ages ago like I would never goon a flight with with no makeupespecially going to meet a brand at the airport and doing content and I'd like so many spots likebecause I was on my period and like I always get spots anyway like hormonal spots and um I was just like
03:41I'm confident yeah I don't need to wear makeup but then like this is this is the thing that I'm in as wellbecause I kind of think like yeah I'm like I'm actually very confident to not wear makeupbut then it's like where's the line drone because is it confidence have we convinced ourselvesOr is it laziness?Yeah?Or is it like low self-esteem?Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.Yeah, like this is the thing, isn't it?
04:06I mean, personally, I think it is confidencebecause I genuinely just don't care.Yeah, like, but then at the same time,I'm just like, but is that low self-esteem masked us confidence?Because we're like, no, we don't care when really we should care.Yeah.But then why should we care?I know.
04:22It's kind of like a revolving circle there.It is.Years ago, remember, like, ages ago, like once in one.months I talked abouthow I had to wear makeupwithout makeup yeahalways had to so likequite proud of myself
04:34for going to the airportwithout makeup on therebut this is what I meanso like maybe it is a confident thingmaybe we're just overly confidentI think it's like alsothe older you get the less you careanyway I think like naturally
04:45the older you geta little bit less you carebut I do think maybe we should puta bit more fucking effort inand I'm letting me sat downno brush to hairI brush my teeth actuallyyou do. I haven't brushed my teeth.
04:58Have you not?Oh no. I do. Sorry, I did.I did. Right. Fine. Right. I did. Yeah. Yeah. Like, I'm justlike, I know. It is what it is. Probably got toothpaste on the side of me mouth.How well. Do you know what? I just feel likewe're just, we're just normal girl. Well, listen to this actually, right, so someonevery close to us, sorry, totally changing subject, but I feel like this kind of leads on tolike kind of feeling exhausted and not being asked to do anything. Um, so someone close to
05:24has been diagnosed with fibromyalgia.And basically fibromyalgia is like where you're,it's basically your body's painkiller system just basically gets broken.So fibromyalgia is like your body doesn't send pain signals properly.So basically the wake up in a morning and the feel swollen,they're feeling inflamed, but they don't look at.Right.the feeling and sometimes it might look at it a little bit but like to the naked eye it doesn't
05:58really look like it but they feel really like internally yeah like very very achy their shoulderstheir neck their head their wrists their hands achy aching from head to toe um that's awfuli know and in my head i'm thinking you know what say i feel like that yeah very very much samelike i did read out the symptoms i read all the symptoms and i read all the symptoms and i'mwas like, fucking hell, that, that's you.Yeah, I know. You feel everything. Like, we were sayingthe other day, Betham feels everything sodeeply. Like, I'm not really connected to
06:31my body, and that's an issue that I need to work onby doing those yoga. But, like, you areso connected. Like, you can feeleverything happening in your body. Like, I canfeel the blood pulsating throughme body. I can feel, like, tingling. I can feel likenumbness, some places. I can feellike, I don't know, like growing
06:49pains, like, and I justbe, honestly, right, I was seen a Nicole the other way.like you know when you see those movies where like on a spaceship and one thing goes down likeone instrument is broken and then all of a sudden everything else is malfunctioning and that'slike how it like on a movie that's what happens that's what it feels like for me body i feel likeone thing's went down and all of a sudden i can feel all these things just malfunctioningthe vehicle is not working anymore so if anyone wants to swap vehicles happily i'll literallysuck my soul out
07:22this oneand put it in a different oneI need a cloneI think that you may havefibromyalgialike you definitely need to get testedbecause when you're reading outthe symptoms I feel like
07:31just fucking hellthat's scaryyeah like I justI feel like there's justconstantly something wrongand then I'm likeand then I gaslight myselfand I'm like
07:38oh my God I've actually gotwhat's that thing where you're likeworried about like health anxietystuff likebut what's it called againthere's no nowhere you convince yourselfthat you're sick when you're not
07:49yeahyeahfuckMunchinghausensMunchausenBut no I don't know if it's MunchausenSo I think it'sNo, because you are in pain
07:59Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeahI don't knowWe like we want to go to TurkeyTo get like this full body MOTYeah, it's like it's like 500 quidLike it is a lot of money7,000 a thingOh is it
08:11Euro thoughNo?Oh I don't knowSo probably by 500 perI don't know we need to look into itBut I have health anxietyLike every single thing I go and I get tested forLike years ago
08:20thought I had cervical cancer, like, and went for all the tests, went to like, um, likespecial doctors and everything, because I didn't get the cervical cancer jab because my nextdoor neighbor at home got it when we were 13. Right. And then she has now this, uh, disease whereshe, um, falls asleep all the time. Oh shit. So that was one of the side effects. So she can't everdrive. She falls asleep all the time. You're all going to be awesome about that. No, I know. Yeah.That's it. But I fucking fall asleep all the time. Oh yeah. Oh, I'll drive.think oh yeah i don't fucking drive so yes you know what i mean but just in case just in the near futurewhen i'm like 17 i want to drive yes 75 and we'll actually get more driver license guys what 30 years
09:01old we can't drive like i actually am so embarrassed now i'm actually embarrassed but at the same timetogether i think that should be our new year's resolution for 2026 that would be good when we'reofficially living together we'll live in london though this is another thing like i feel like i'venever on the outskirts what do mean like we can do it in like stratford or when or whatevergoing to drive in London though we always get the tube and we'll always get the like i think we just needto learn like when people say don't buy a car you're going to forget and then you'll have to do a refresherokay well fuck it we'll just do it on we're 60 you know what why i'm actually talking us out of drivingbut why i know if i lived in you because but this is the thing i feel like i've never had time and then
09:38also with my anxiety yeah remember when i done that driving thing and the driving instructor i was likelisten you need to get you anxiety under control well if you're listening driving instructor just to let you know i ammeds now so like oh you can do it now what is i cannot i do you know what why can whywhy are these the cords that the universe dealt me also how have we gone to fucking driving from fibromyalgiaevery episode it's like jumping like our brains but anyway but you know what right listenif you like ramble come over yeah we know we are pro rambler we are unbelievable at ramblingbut anyway sorry going back to like the health anxiety thing like yeah yeahSo basically I went to loads of doctors
10:21because I didn't get the jabSo then they actually gave me the job afterThe cervical cancer jobBut they said that it wouldn't workAs well as when you get itWhen you're younger and stuff like thatYeahBut yeah
10:33And that's why I want to go get the full bodyMOT because I have severe anxietyI might actually do that this yearLike before2026I feel like we won't have timeI think we're so busyLike we've got so much on
10:47It's only a week thoughLike you'll only be therefor like a week.Well, yeah, that's true.How way, man.Maybe.But yeah, you definitely need to get tested for the fibromyalgia.I'm just sick of getting tests now, though.
10:58Like, I'm sick of thinking, like, what's wrong?Have I got ADHD?Have I got ADHD?Have I got ADHD?I know.I'm sick of it.I'm absolutely sick of it.I do think maybe we need to simplify a few things.
11:10Everything is like so.It's so interconnected.It's just too much.It's so interconnected.Like, I just feel like mental health, physical health.Like, all of the, it's just so interconnected.And it's just so interconnected.it's actually
11:20boggling my brainI knowI knowlike you knowlike how likeyou knowyour experienceslike you know
11:27changes DNAand all of thisand like turns ondifferent gene cellsand likewhen I look into itI'm likemy head's actually
11:33bad atfriedmy head's friednowfried eggsfried eggsand likeyou know
11:38I seeyou know thatI don't know if you'veever seen that postrightwhere it goes likeit's got it's gotlike a two faces
11:45and one'snot happyand it's likethe personwhoknows the least and the person who knows the most yeah and the person who knows the least is likehappy cheery and then the person who knows the most is like fucking depressed that's you that's me that'sI don't know the most I know fuck all in comparison to like what's like yeah but I do say to you I'm
12:04like you consume so much knowledge yeah on TikTok and stuff like that yeah although it's badoh your phone although it's bad like I don't want to consume a huge amount I like to be obviously up to datewith what's going on in the world and everything like all the fucking shit that's going onbut I try and stay off my phone quite a lot because I actually it hurts my soul like I'm sosensitive to stuff that like I just I hate it and I try and just obviously be knowledgeable aboutstuff and the important stuff but I don't want to see absolutely everything about what'sgone on like fucking 20 years ago what's going on now like I obviously want to know because then youget those people who are really judgmental like
12:49oh my god like you're using your privilege to not care and then that makes us feel bad no but i feel likewe are up to date with all the shit like let's like you know like gaza all that awful stuff that'shappening in the world like we're up to date with all of that but like the little things like i justthe more i consume the more depressed i am but i like to be up to date with the important shitthat's going on but then but then what's not important though like i feel well yeah see that's thelike what's not important but then it's like you have to find what's important to you or it's justthe brain be fucking mangled there's so much information out there to consume me brain's friedjust like yeah yeah anyways i yeah i just feel like all nervous systems were not built to just
13:36have this much access to information like it's so it's like what you were saying the other dayit's like on ticot you'd be scrolling you're laughing yeah oh yeah you're crying a lads up's on thetrain the other day. I didn't tell you this. I was on the train the other day and I waswatching a TikTok. It's my for you page is all cats obviously because I'm such a cat lady and I wasthere was this cat being put down. Wasn't I fucking bawling crying on the train and it's so embarrassingbecause I've got my headphones in and no one else knows what I'm watching. Balling crying like tearsand it was like rush hour as well so it was so packed and it's like oh my god. It's like and then you'reon the next video and you're like laughing about something and I'm fucking having it. I remember
14:15emotion yeah like your emotions are just jumping all over listen i'm not gonna lie right i've down i downloaded thisum app called opal no no no no they don't say worms i downloaded worms as well um so anyways idownloaded this app called opal right and it basically it's like a social media blocker and it hasworked wonders hasn't it like my screen type remember when we're done the very first apps and my screen timeis about fucking million hours.Should we say what my screen time is now?Let's see what it is.Wait there, how do I find screen time again?
14:51I'm intrigued. I think it's in settings somewhere.My phone's recording so I can't see what my screen time is.What average one hour, 25 minutes a day.And that's everything.That's email, social media.No way.Yeah. You were on like 13 hours.I was swear to God, I was on something mad.
15:11I was on something crazy.It was battering my head.well done wait should we i need to say that can't be right oh no that's this week yeahthat's wild well done from oh wait there how do you see like further back i don't know ifthere's a report on there but that's crazy that app is really working for you anyone who struggleswith screen time get opal how much is it in one well you get there's different levels to it soyou can have like um the free levels which is like easy to get on social media which i actuallyuse because obviously to post and to do because it's my job like it's bit hard or you can do like
15:49one way it gives you like a six second buffer which is the easy one that I do right so six secondsand I'm getting better at it going actually never mind because then it makes us think for a little bitwhere I'm like do I need to be on there what I'm actually doing yeah yeah and then there's another onewhere it doubles the time each time so like say for instance like make it a little harder this is theoption making a little harder so it'll be like six seconds 12 seconds 24 seconds like it's so it'shorror and horror and horror I get on social media and then there's a there's like an absolute likeno like so say if you've got a different job like if you work in an office or something like thator if you work on a train or whatever whatever you do and social media social media isn't your
16:34income like it's literally just fun purposes then you've got like an absolute way you can get likemaybe one or two passes a weekwhere you can genuinely shut the app off.Wow.And I don't even think it workswhen you delete the app.So even when you delete the app,I think it still blocks.
16:52I swear to God, but I haven't used that once.I'm not sure.That kind of gives me anxiety.I don't know why, but like it shouldn't.That should be like therapeutic,but I'm so therapy.It sounds, I mean, it gives me an anxietybecause I think about like, obviously.
17:03What to post and stuff.Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.Of course.But yeah, what's not.One hour down from 13, like,or something madly,13 hours going online.Well done, though.
17:13That's fucking insane.High five.High five.Well,I can't believe it.Yeah, so if you,honestly, like,I just feel like I was a bit more concerned
17:22about, like, how much time I was spendingon social media.And when I was looking into it, right,so it actually highlights the same part of your brain as gambling.So it's just as addictive as got,like,these apps have been,these apps are billions and billions of pounds worth of,
17:38like,they have been created.to keep you on thereand what is morewhat is more valuable than moneytime yeah you don't get time back time isthe most valuable thing money is the most tangiblelike well if you're looking at it from a point of like
17:55you can touch it you know physical but when you're looking at thingslike love and yeah you know like things like that or happinessthat's that's thingy but time isthe most valuable asset that you havelike do you imagine if you're on your deathbed likeand someone tells you oh you would have had an extra six months this opal tells youit tells you how many years you've got back of your life oh my god i swear to god okay i need to getthat because honestly like yeah like time is the most important thing like if you're on your deathbed
18:26you're not thinking of i can't even think this morning of my little scroll in bed i can't eventhink of what i was looking at and that was probably a half an hour a scroll a half an hour out oftoday that i won't get back so like so say for yeah it's so crazy yeah it's so crazyisn't it right so 32 minutes on TikTok and an hour and 20 minutes on Instagram right like a day and thenit tells you how much you could have earned money wise like if in the time that you spent scrollingso for me it says like 68 pound at 68 dollars I could have made that's but you know what I mean so likesay for instance if I was at there scrolling for fucking 13 hours yeah yeah like that you couldhave made loads of money yeah yeah so it
19:09really makes you see the valueand nuts growing. Listen to this. Soyou usually get 85notifications per day.Oh god.And then I tell you what notifications are you gettinglike how many notifications are you getting usually?But it's like
19:27when I text peoplelike I'm not thinking oh they need to replystraight away but when people text me I'm likeoh I need to reply straight awayand then I don't and then it like festersin my brain and then I get stress andand I get anxious and then it turns into me not replying for like a week to some people.I'm in the top 16% of people who was using this.
19:49Well done.And you've only been using two weeks?No, longer.Sorry, I'm trying to think, yeah, you downloaded it ages ago.I downloaded it months and months and months ago.Fair play.Well, yeah, that's why you're in the top 16%.Sorry.
20:04Nah, I downloaded so long.Go wait there.Let's have a look.Fair play.So it says you screen time.is um 65% lower than your peers you're doing great wow that's crazy that's so crazy and can youfollow people on there don't actually know what i've got the free vision i haven't really looked at itlike properly in that sense i've just genuinely used it to try and get us off social yeah because
20:27i'm going to general i just uh i'm the modern-day gambler yeah you are no like genuine we weregoing to get a cage for her phone no i was so addicted like it was actually really bad and reallyterrifying and I think especially like work and self-employed doing all these different thingsand I know I've got other things that I'm like working on or whatever I've got other work butlike it's it was just really easy to just distract myself and I feel like especially becauseI was doing a lot of like shadow work and I was doing a lot of inner child and a lot of likechildhood work and stuff and it was really painful and I think I was like distracted myself all thetime because I didn't want to do the inner deep work yeah whereas now I feel like I'm just
21:08more focused on what I'm doing nowwith a podcast and with a brand and likewhat I want to do and you knowlike moving house and doing all thesethings and I'm focused more like thatI can't wait to we're like officiallyliving together so obviously Bethan comes downfor months and then yeah but I'm up and down
21:24my own because I've got the other businessbut like yeah I cannot waitI'm so excited for thatum should we get onto a dilemmayes we should and delem dolem dolem dolemdelem de lemme de lemme de lemmede lemme de lemme de lemmeRight, okay. This is quite a good one because I feel like I've experienced this sometimes.
21:43So, hi girls, I've got a bit of a friend situation and I don't know how to handle this.I've been close with this girl for years. We've been through everything together.But lately, I've started to feel like the friendship's really one-sided.She calls us constantly when she's upset, needs advice.But when I'm going through something, she either, when I'm going through something,she either changes the subject or she says,she's like so busy and last week I didn't reply to her straight away because I was having such a bad dayand then I've got this really passive aggressive message like guess you're too busy for us now then
22:18it made us realise just how emotionally exhausting it's become and I care about a lot but I'm really startingto feel like our unpaid therapist like am I being cold if I pull back for a bit um or do I just needto be honest and tell her how I feel I mean listen realistically tell that yeahAnd listen, I recognize that even I was that friend.I had really bad depression and anxiety.Like, I know how draining I was.And I feel so bad for it.And, like, when you're in that, like, mindset of, like, really depressed, like,
22:50you do need your friends to be there.But it's such a hard thing to navigate because it can be so energetically draining.Yeah.And I think when you're not actively putting yourself in, like, places where you can, like,you know, help yourself.Like, I don't a lot of therapy.Like, now I'm on meds.so now I feel like I'm in a different mindset
23:10and I can recognize because itit's like it perpetuates this vicious cycleof like youI mean me personally I knew how draining I wasbut I just had such a bad mindsetyeah I think likeit is hard because you want to talk to your friendsand you want to tell them and vent everything
23:27and it is good that you want to speak out loudthat you don't feel goodthat's amazing and you should be like thatyou should never hold stuff inbut at the same timeand I do understandunderstand when you do feel that way you feel like you can't take on other people's problems as welland maybe you don't want to listen to your friends but at the same time you have to because it can't
23:48just be one-sided like i've had that before where a friend has been going through something and she'svented so much to me and then i'm like i've gotten to a point where oh my god i mentally can't take thisanymore like i i do need to take a step back and you do feel guilty for it but at the same time i doto protect your peace and you have to be your own person and realize that if them venting somuch to you is really upsetting your nervous system and your vibration you're feeling low vibrational thenyou need to take care of yourself and if you've been there for her lows just tell her be likelook I just feel like I just need to take a bit of a break like mentally I don't feel good right nowbecause I'm taking on a lot of people's problems and issues and I just need a bit of a break
24:33like I think that's so fair enoughand I think if anyone had said that to meI would understandand like you know what like for meit really like solidifybecause like I was friends with someoneand um basic sorry I was friends with someoneand basically um
24:47I was very depressingthis was when I was in a really fucking shit relationshiplike we were just arguing all the timelike I just felt insecure around itand like he just didn't like make us feel securelike I was just you know what I meanso I was always cryingI was always upset
25:02and then my friend literally was on the phoneand she was like you ring me all of the timejust crying constantly and it's fucking drainingand I was likethat was so fucking hardand so harsh and so meanbecause especially when I was in a really really bad placebut at the same time like now when I look back
25:19like I'm grateful for thatbecause then it gave us the self-awarenessto be like the certain thingsthat you just cannot keep putting onto your friendsyeah but also did that make you realiseoh shit okay this relationship isn't for melike didn't make you like because that's whatI think back then I was quite young, so I think I was just in that really kind of vicious cycle of like really co-dependent, like, you know, in that, I don't know, just like feeling like I needed the validation from that person.
25:46Whereas now I feel like I'm a bit older and I don't need fucking validation from anyone, everyone can fuck off.Like if you, and in fact, actually, if you don't like, if we don't vibe, if we don't get on, if we're like thingy, that's actually okay.That's fine.that is like rejection doesn't mean anything as long as you're accepting yourself like andeveryone's different yeah and you're going to be attracted to different sorts of people likeI think we're so lucky we've got like we know exactly who our friends are yeah for years anddecades of like being involved with different people you realize who you can tolerate what youcan tolerate who you want to have around you what kind of energy when you stop being a people
26:24please I was well and like trying to please everyone and like try to stay friends with everyonebecause of like past and how much time is but nah it's not people develop in different areas and they change in different areas as you go through life i think it's weird when people stay friends with people for decades and decades and decades and decades like and without making any more new friendships like i find that weird because i'm like i mean i have decades and decades of friends which like i've grown up with but like we're you made new friends yeah yeah yeah like it's good to like make new friends as well because it's chose that you're grown as a person like you know what i mean i think you'refor this though like I would personally say to her and just be like look I really do feel likethis is a bit draining on me like I need to also my mind mental health like I want to be therefor you but I just need a bit of a break like I feel like you're not listening to what I have to sayand it's a bit one-sided like definitely voice it like we have said before what we do sometimesand also like how we feel and it actually can be detrimental to certain relationships andfriendships like it's important to say how you feel and I think if she's a good friend she'll be
27:29receptive to what you're going to say yeah yeah yeah and kind of take it on the chin and take it onboard you have to mind yourself and your own mental health for sure yeah like we've both hadfriends like that yeah and yeah if they're good enough friend and they value their like relationshipthey're going to be receptive yeah and want want to better their friendships like yeah like you should becomfortable. I just always think that you should feel comfortable having conversations,like difficult conversations with your friends. Like you should feel like, don't get as wrong.Conflict isn't very nice. Like it isn't. It's all, well, it's uncomfortable. And also, like,for me personally, I fly off the handle. Like, I know myself that I can get triggered quite easily.
28:11And it's not a good trait. And I get it. And I'm not perfect. And I'm sorry. But like,actually, I'm not sorry. Like, who's perfect? But like, you know what I mean? Like, it can be really difficult to have theseBut I think like you should be around people who can have these conversations with you without your like feeling a certain type way like you're going to be villainised. You're going to be fucking deemed as toxic. Like not everyone's toxic. Like yeah, you know what I mean? Like sometimes people just don't want to be around you because you're draining or sometimes people just don't want to deal with conflict because they're mentally struggling or like not everything that happens that is bad or negative is like toxic. Yeah. No, it's not.no one's perfect everyone's got their flaws yeah per from us we're fucking 10 out of 10me every word half of us when all so cystic I'm perfect so we're perfect you can do no wrongand all shit smells like roses like roses girl I fucking wish that you know what I mean likeI just think like I think you should assess a situation if she's a friend that you can I meanhave a conversation with and just be like listen i'm gonna i'm gonna be totally honest with you because i'm
29:24your friend like you're draining the fucking lights out of us and then equally if you don't thinkthat they're a quite a receptive person if you don't if you feel like the conversation is justalways going to be in favor of that person then that actually is a sign that they're quite toxicand that you don't even have to really fucking say anything like you do you boo yeah you do you i wouldsay it and if if you feel like you're not going to be receptive just kind of distance yourselfa little bit and just take time for yourself and just maybe just tell him oh I'm taking a weekoff my phone and just don't reply yeah a week and just really sit with yourself do some journalingdo some meditation really oh go to a sound bath we love a sound bath it's my favorite so worth it
30:07actually do rakey love rakey rakey is amazing help you out so much yeah especially if you'requite sensitive I still kind of get over that a few weeks ago when I've done that sound bath I knowwe need to do more of themand I was drunk yeah I knowI know umdid we have another dilemmaI don't know what did we haveoh sorry Ralph
30:26the cat is if you're watching the YouTuberight do you want to introduce yourselfto the cameraif you can see the visualsmy cat is literally up on the tableis he not just the most beautifullooking thing in the worldum anyways
30:43socome on little Mr Ralphoh he goes at your outfitto see hi ralphi oh he really goes with your outfit he's such a cute boy he's such a littleum i don't actually think we do have any more dilemmas oh well we just doing one today and i thinkwe may be scrapping the red flag green flag are we i watch yeah because i feel like a lot of thetimes when people are send them in that they all just red flags like there's not many green flagsgoing on right now i think we're we're going to think of a new concept if you've any new ideas
31:14actually do you know what's a really really good idea rightI think we need to find out what people's opinions are of the dilemmas.So we need, so obviously we give our opinion to like the view as the people's dilemmas.That's like our, but what we need like the listeners opinions.And what we read them out?Maybe.Yeah?Maybe.
31:39We'll say like, so say for instance like this week.So say like this week, obviously that was our dilemma for this week.And then we could put the dilemma on socials.and like in all groups in all like group chats and stuff yes that's it good and we can say guyswhat do you think about this and we'll read it out and then we'll ask and then the viewers can givetheir opinions on the people's dilemmas because you remember like months ago we did that um bride oneyes where it was like the bridesma and we actually put that dilemma up online on social and it wentviral because everyone was commenting like their opinions we yeah we should do that we should do that
32:13yeah look lads we're we're learning in real time this podcast is a learning curve exactlyand I feel like that's just the best way to beinstead of the...Because then we can all grow togetherand then we're going to dohopefully big life shows.Yes.Oh, I'm so excited.
32:26I would love that. I'd love that.I'd love to meet everyone.That would be so fun.Yes.And we are still doing that small intimate event.We just need to think of a date.Yeah, I know.So, but we are,
32:36that's still on the cardsthat we discussed, like, weeks and weeks back.But, yeah, I think that's a good show.We should get the listeners involved.Perfect.We'll figure out how to do this.Yeah.But listen, I'm...
32:48I'm so glad that you're here listening to us Rumble on.We love you.Mrs. and Mrs. Ramble.Literally.Mrs. and Mrs. Scrambled Egg Rumble.That's how I love to.What would really help us out is if you like,share and comment on the posts that you say on social media
33:07and if you can follow us on YouTubeand if we could be so cheeky,so, so so cheeky and ask for a review of our podcastbecause we really need some feedback.on how to be better, what you want to talk about,what you want would have stopped doing.For example, I feel like,I need to stop talking about my illnesses.
33:28I need to just shut the fuck up.Oh, no, I like it.I think it's good.It's relatable.But I think, apparently, the best thingis for people to rate the podcast.Oh, wait.So if you can rate us five stars,
33:42that'll be brutal.Give us five stars now,we're not getting a bloody blocks on.Fucking knock out.If you don't give us five stars.stairs i'm joking we're joking no but seriously we're very receptive queens and we want to take onany advice and any opinions that you have in the pod yes because your opinion is very valuable to usand we'll want to just make sure we can show up and be the best version of ourselves for you
34:05for sure so we're going to leave it there we love you lots love you love you yeah and we willsee you in the next episode bye girl bye guys bye bye byeThank you.
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