Wild2Mild Podcast - Ep 18. Exposed: The Overshare That Went WAY Too Far

Episode Date: November 16, 2025

Email us 💕On this week’s episode of Wild 2 Mild, the girls dive straight into the deep end. Nicole kicks things off with her thoughts on Lily Allen’s new album. The girls explore the fine line between being real online and revealing too much. Nicole shares the embarrassing story of over-sharing at the White Fox party which led to being shown on their socials.Meanwhile, Bethan has taken a bold step and deleted her social media altogether. She opens up about what pushed her to finally hit the deactivate button, how it’s affecting her mental health and whether we’re all a bit too addicted to living our lives through screens. From that, the conversation naturally flows into cancel culture - how it spirals, who gets targeted and the toxic expectation of being the “perfect victim.” The girls unpack why this mindset is so damaging and why the internet’s obsession with perfection is impossible for anyone to live up to.Then comes this week’s dilemma… and it’s a juicy one. A listener writes in admitting she gets jealous easily and wants to know how to build her confidence and stop comparing herself to others, especially in her relationship. The girls go deep on the realities of jealousy - where it comes from, why it’s normal, and how to work through it without letting it sabotage something good. They share their best advice on creating real self-worth, becoming more secure within yourself and showing up to your relationship as the calm, grounded version of you.It’s honest, relatable, and exactly the kind of girl talk you need this week.

Hi everyone, welcome to the Wilder Mile podcast with me, your host Beth and K-Shaw. And me, your host, Nicole. Hey, girls! Oh my God, we've got so much to talk about. But what have we got to talk about you, talk? Right. So, can I just say, Lily Allen's new album? Right, I just want to come in to...

Well, that's a few weeks ago. I know, okay. Well, new for her. She hasn't released in so long. When was the last thing she actually released, though? Years and years ago. I remember that song, When I wake up in the web patch. She's just so.

goodwill. She is. And basically she has a book out, well, from like 2018, but I'm currently starting to listen to it. She's had a crazy life. Like crazy, yeah. I'm only on like 20 minutes into it. So I don't know much yet. But like my friend listened to it all and was like, it's absolutely insane. You need to listen to it. But she's very open. And I feel like that's why I like her because I feel like I love an open book over here. We're the fucking definition of an open book. Open book. I know we're actually going to get, we are going to okay no guys before we get into the lily ann thing can i just say one thing i went to a white fox event there weeks ago weeks and weeks ago okay but i was telling beth and about it the other day and that's

what it's like fresh in my head but basically they did like this video where they were like are you on the not like a box pop yeah box pop thing oh guys i need to i just need to shut up like that's that's just i need fucking tape from my mouth yeah because they did the little vox pops things and then it was like are you on naughty or nice list and everyone's answers were like nice list because I'm like eating healthy or like nice list because you know I've got a boyfriend or all

this shit then it comes to me someone didn't say nice because we've got a boyfriend or something I can't remember but it was just like wholesome like really wholesome it gets to me naughty because I'll slit your tyres what the fuck is that I've never slit anyone's fucking tires

it's like I've got Tourette's but the worst part about it is though is like you're not that way inclined at all like you would never ever ever do that like what the fuck is wrong with me you would genuinely never do you would be so scared to do that in case they got arrested or something yeah i wouldn't last one second in jail yeah they put that like last so like everyone's are so wholesome and then it gets to me and i'm like oh my god and then they did another one where i can't remember what it was it was like oh what i can't remember uh fuck what was it it was like um what's something that you're attracted to that you should or what i can't remember what i can't remember but it was well back but uh everyone's

answers again so wholesome comes to me and then i just say that i'm a raging psychopath path oh my god like you're really not selling yourself no i'm not selling myself stop doing this we're going to podcast and also like it's not like this is for a tiny little brand why fox is like 2.4 million followers yeah that's fucking brilliant and i'm thinking i yeah i just need to shut up oh my do you know what i actually felt like that remember remember in that podcast where i was talking about like should i unfollow people who are not engaging me content we got a lot of got so much hate for it well we didn't get so much

I don't like getting hate at all that it really hurts it hurts as I feel really bad yeah yeah yeah yeah anyway so I post and I was like and I think what happened there is I crossed over between business mind and personal

because there's a few of my apparent people who would claim to be my friends who like watch everything I'm doing but never engaged but then are the first people to ask me for things like oh Bethan we share this business

Bethan we share that business Bethan we do this better than we do that and I'm like yeah of that we meant by it I feel like that little snippet of that social clip did not give enough context whatsoever

and that's why they got the hate and they were like narcissists what the fuck and they were like narcissus you last for six months oh my God I read so I don't even care but um yeah

So I feel like, from a business perspective, like, my business mind is like, well, if it's true that, like, the content gets pushed out to people who you personally follow back and, like, your friends, not as in friends as in like, you're my friend, like, friends as in on social media. So, like, acquaintances, if it's getting pushed out to them and they're not engaging, and then that content's not for them. And this is also another thing. It's like, I don't expect people, like, who know me to like my share. shit that because that's not who it's for the people who it's for is for people who resonate with it so i think i just really fucking conducting myself in a bad way there didn't that oh it's hard like when you've got a podcast you just sometimes you just don't think because i feel like with two of us because we i know what you're on about yeah but i forget the people

listening don't know the full story do you know i mean because we talk about this shit all the time yeah so like it's it's hard um anyway so after i've deleted social media still so oh she's still on the no social love that um but yeah how do i fix my big mouth tape right so just put tape over the mouth oh just don't go outside yeah maybe i just don't go to any more social events genuinely never leave out honestly like what the hell though like it's actually worrying we really put our foot in our mouth sometimes don't work constantly why do we keep doing it i never used to be like this i think i don't know because you get so i think like you get so worried that you're overthinking and then you end up just saying something something stupid yeah because you just like

i've never seen anyone's tires before in my life where the fuck did that come into my head you would never even do would never do it no never would I who knows uh no you would never you'd be mortified you'd be so terrified you can't even like ring up the council and complete you can't even ring your land load up and complain that the dishwasher has not worked i know like there's a tree from next door growing in and ruining my fence for the past six months and I can't bring myself to knock on the door and ask them to sort it like I'm terrified anyway but going back to Lily Allen so with this whole so her ex is the fella from stranger things which you love stranger things I do I love it yeah so that's the ex and the whole

album is like about him and their marriage and having an open marriage and how he he then like cheated loads as well and I've thought on an open marriage how can you cheat though I think in terms of like he was having an actual affair so I think with an open marriage from what I It's like confirmed both parties or confirm in the open marriage but he was already cheating so he just wanted like to be like well this is already happening

so you're forced into an open marriage then yeah so he like he so she kind of insinuates the fact that she didn't want to do it but loved him so much and was like if this will make you happy then okay let's give it a go he then had an affair and there's a song called Madeline and that's all about the affair

who was Madeline? It was one of the people like think from what I gather was she working on a set of either the movie or a stranger things no and something along those lines don't put me on that say this man's ruined this fucking stranger things for me now yeah I know same the new ones I know yeah I know yeah I know but um yeah same and then and then in the same or the week after Millie Bobby Brown comes out with these accusations wait what bullying or something along those lines no you're lying no you're lying at the premiere like they were all like cutesy together but body language psychologist

said that it was so over performative for the premiere no way and it was like the premiere was like a few days after all these allegations came out that she made I need see the allegation yeah yeah yeah maybe ask Trach TBT what the exact

allocations are but yeah it was fucking it's juicy that that man is having he's having a bad time but you know what I mean yeah I mean like also like you brought it on yourself honey like what do you expect treating people that way like it's her karma's a bitch

karma will always bite you in the ass I always say that's so crazy though because like I was think oh my god yeah there allegations oh I've got to fucking pay for it I'm not paying for that Ladb Bible what are you doing you have to pay for lab Bible it's saying and remove the ads or accept consent for free

accept the cookies oh accept the cookie no I always accept the cookies but I'm not doing it No, I'm not doing it because I'm worried now I'm really paranoid about my phone I feel like it's I don't know I just feel like the government's watching it Oh 100% to listen to you I think Alexa actually

legally people can get the information from your Alexa If you were involved in something They can gather So Alexa is listening to you Allegedly From what I gather from my research

That they can gather all the information If you're plotting something And your Alexa's turned on that's crazy it's listening to you like it's fucking crazy get rid of it i know get rid of it i'm scared but you call someone's cloning your fucking voice well yeah because i i was getting like um like phone calls all the time and it was like hi we're from a e and we want to give you like a free blah blah blah and i was like i'm not even with e and then they just put the phone down scammers it's terrifying but like scamming what what are they trying to do take me bank out

because shirley oh you're not in these places now so what you're not in these places now so what you think that they're just going to put the phone down because well I'm not going to give up my bank account is that what it is yeah I'd say so that's what I think it is yeah because like poor older people who don't have a clue like they'd be given over their details oh you know what I mean it's really sad it's really fucking sad like what on earth moral corruption right now what we're talking about we're talking about Lily Allen we're talking about my stupid big mouth I want to talk about Lily Allen one more time yeah so Lily Allen so obviously there was allegations that

he did there was there sexual assault in that i don't know that's why i was hoping you google it so we can't be sure right how we yeah just accept the cookies oh my god man you all we all we all we all everyone's accepted the cookies and actually not even know what cookies it's just advertising oh for god i hate ads i know i think let's have a look at the stranger things premier following bullying accusations no who is say so it's Lily oh no I'm on about Millie Bobby Brown did it to him

that was the accusations and then Lily Allen it was all the cheating and everything but she had like voice notes and everything in the songs like it's like well I think because I went before I deleted TikTok

obviously I'm not on TikTok anymore obviously this is my new person you know I'm not on social media you'll be listening to this for next 25 episodes I'm not on social media I'm not the mates I'm not mad I'm not a therapist yeah yeah yeah um so i did see something where um who is um who is that actor have you ever seen

divergent yes and do you know the actress yeah the woman the woman yeah who was that friend the friend with the dark hair the the small one i don't know i forgot say what's her name the small one in divergent divergent and then there's the man so there's um pio james who i that's him and her and then there's I'll get the I'm gonna have to get the thing off and wait what about her

so because apparently Lily Allen had SA allegations towards her yes yes I've seen this and then because obviously people were basically saying

that Lily Allen deserved what a husband done to are because and they were like saying don't forget who Lily Allen is and she had SA allegations against her

with that actress it was the one as well who was in the band she supported Lily Allen and that's how she became big fuck what's her name again? I'm gonna find it now right now that's Zoe Cravitz that's it Zoe Cravets

yeah yeah yeah yeah but and then I went down a bit of a rabbit hole with it right and then apparently that Zoe Cravitz do you know Will Smith's kid who what's he called Jaden and I think there was something along the lines of like her and Jaden

when he was younger that Zoe Krabbits or something I think she'd said something like oh like he's fit or but he's too young or something like that along them lines

like he was underage I think allegedly I don't know don't please don't come for me I'm just thinking off the top of my brain don't quote us I see don't quote us but I did say something along that line and then what really

like in my head I was like people want a perfect victim yeah they do They want a squeaky, clean, perfect victim who was never done wrong. Done wrong. Or that means that they deserve it. And I think that that is the most preposterous shit I've ever seen. But again, it was another thing of like karma coming back around for people, isn't it?

Like when you look at it and you're like saying it and it's like people are experiencing these things and maybe in a past life they've done this or in the past previous selves they've done that. and I do think karma is fucking real though like people who've done me wrong they've had their karma and I'm like I do think karma exists oh yeah for sure but I just

what I just don't like is the fact that like society and like culture cancel culture especially wants a perfect victim and they always target and they have these really unrealistic high expectations for people in the media

and people in the public eye and it's like you don't even hold your rapist friend to account like shut the fuck up there's literally women who've had an essay like experience or they've had some sort of sexual trauma experience but you don't know none of your friends have ever done anything like that shut up like yeah that's so true like I mean listen I'm just obviously thinking this is just a total random subject you know what I mean like that's just off the top of me head but are you holding your friends to the same accountability that

you're holding these strangers online and by the way just like no realistically people can't hold other people that they don't know accountable the people who are really going to hold you accountable to people who you know your friends your family yeah because they know who you are and like why do people feel it like

the moral code to hold people accountable it's because people just want to superiority yeah that's what it is you think that you're morally better than them like that's why you're trying to hold these people accountable because you think your shit doesn't stink yeah and I can guarantee you now you've done something in your life that you've like

regret or you've hurt someone i mean obviously that situation is a little bit a lot but yeah that it's a bit like that's so true like do you know what i mean but like it's just it's just it well and that's one of the reason why i came off social media because i just thought it's so toxic it is oh my god it's always been toxic but cancel culture is just gone to a new fucking extreme though like we were even saying it the other day like honestly you can't say it that even the smallest thing which you may not mean in one way people can take it like people view things through the lens of their own perception exactly exactly like like it depends on like what experiences because like I don't know even from me like for example right

say if like if I sense that someone's energy's off right and I but like remember when that that guy that I've been texting I was like oh I feel like he's bit off like I feel like he's a bit um you know he like you normally responds quicker and and then he's voice left as a voice male and he's like oh sorry I've just been here like but I've internalised because of my own perception and lens thinking oh there's something wrong because I didn't

respond quick enough yeah yeah I do that too do you know what I mean so like people view everything in the lens of that own perception and I'm probably looking at like these people like Lily Allen like Zoe like Jaden of like these people have got

a background of like not being a perfect person but none of them deserve to get the pain that they're enduring from the public who don't even fucking know them or what they've even been through the hate I'd say is fucking insane like I couldn't even like honestly we can even deal with three comments they're like couldn't deal with three comments I was literally in my bed yeah I was anxious as anxious yeah so like I don't know if the right industry to be honest like we need to get very sensitive though we're very sensitive like but I do think well

it's good to be sensitive but I just think it's bad when it can like really affect your mental health? 100% you need you do need to have thick skin especially in this industry but I'm glad that we don't have thick thing because like can you imagine being a twat like if you like know some people have got like a really thick skin and they just don't care about

anyone or anything now that is true but I've came into contact with so many people who have got this like thick skin and they don't care but it's like yeah they don't care about what you say about them but they also don't care about what they do to other people fuck that's actually very true I never thought of it that way because it's like I always wish that I have like thicker skin and just not care because I feel

I'm so sensitive to like everyone's opinions and stuff like that and then it's like because you care though like yeah ultimately I think it's because you care you want to make you know good impressions you don't want to hurt people you don't want to hurt people's feelings even though I mean that yeah but everyone like you're inevitably inevitably going to hurt someone's feelings throughout like you know what I mean that's just human nature your opinions will be different to other people's and whatnot but it's like I just wish like how do you even get thicker skin i don't even know like i feel like you're just it's your genetic makeup isn't it and it's like your mind i don't think i can't change it you can because

really neuroplasticity yeah like neuroscience always says this like you can literally change your reality you can completely transfer obviously you've got your genetic like um like whatever but ultimately you can change who you are do i my god so i could just be anyone so i can just completely changed myself well what do you think act us do that's fucking that literally acting that pretendant about you someone else and sorry can I actually just ask a question so like years ago I was dating the actor guy remember and it always got to me how like I don't understand how actors can like act in a scene be kissing someone be doing all that and then it not like it really got to me like would you classify that

that is cheating i mean not really like i know what you mean i know how did they do it some people have different mindsets on this right because that acting so they essentially i think what actors do is the genuinely embody this character right this character that are really stepping into their life yeah they're not them anymore now they can really terrifying they can detach from who they are like and he had avoidant um behavior and just detachment attachment issues is that the right word maybe it just comes hand in hands of being an actor i don't know yeah i'm joking i'm joking no it doesn't like i feel like yeah because they're very good at like because a good actor what i have seen i mean i don't know anything about the acting world but this

what i've seen is like they generally especially like what are them actors that literally act for like so many months of doing the same person oh like johnny dep um it's called um oh where you where you actually think you're the character yeah and you actually sense them crazy like yeah yeah kind of dean what's that is dean there what's them act as called again that whether where they

they embody the actor so much for like six months before the film the movie they literally pretend to be that person what's a cold again oh fuck I'm sure it was him that told us I don't know what is it

it's imitation no it's not it's um oh my god that's gonna annoy this shit I'll find it we'll find it we'll find it we'll find it we'll find it but yeah anyway yeah that acting it is like that's that's a talent beyond belief to be able to do that I've got a friend right um jake because

we've had this conversation before me and jade and she basically said she would say oh i would do be able to do that no problem I'd be able to act no problem but in my mind I'm like I'd get awkward if I had to do a kiss and scene I'd be like I get so awkward even when I've had to kiss on camera in reality shows I'm like this is so uncomfortable there's about 40 of you behind the camera looking at me you know sometimes I look back and I think how did that ever do reality TV like genuine how and it's weird and I had sex on TV as well I'm I'm mortified about that like my prefrontal cortex is obviously developed later on in life wow that is hilarious because at the time I was like yeah and and listen it's a normal thing like we don't we don't

judge sexual women's sexual liberation but I do think how did I do that you're such a different person now I feel if I've met you all those years ago but then I don't know sometimes I feel like I feel like it's kind of like a group thing as well it's like a group mentality oh yeah for sure i'd be like who you're awake like it's very it was very very open yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah and stuff it was just one then things and we do that anyway the two of us oh yeah we do yeah just crazy crazy kind of i had a wild run when i was young my love i can't wait till i'm not having kids you're not having kids no for sure i was about say it i'm not okay i don't know if i will i can't wait till someone else not children though yeah

thing is like I feel like if I meet the right person maybe I could be swayed but also at the same time like I don't think I want to give up my independence like fair play to mothers fair play yeah even if I met the right person I personally know that I do not want children yeah fair enough and I feel like it's shoved down our throat throat throat I need to tell you something what I'm pregnant no no no why would you say that I'm joking I'm joking it is fucking ridiculous no um so i seen emma watson on a podcast okay this guys has changed my life okay so she's on a podcast and she's saying like how she finds it so annoying how everyone is like oh have you met someone have you met someone and she's like like no one actually thinks about this like

it is so rare for you to meet someone in your early years um when you're like young and whatnot um to like have kids if you it's so rare to meet someone who you like who you love who you resonate with who you connect with to then want to bring a life into the world like that's not just someone you're going to pick off the street like it actually is a rarity but it's so normalized to ask the question of oh why aren't you with anyone and why haven't you found this person it's because everyone just gets with anyone because they want to have something like because i don't know i feel like this generation, in previous generations before us, I feel like, and I don't agree with individual culture either. Like, I don't, I believe that you need a community of people always.

Yeah. Yeah. But I do feel like it's pushed upon you to find your person, find your person, and I feel like people find someone and they try and stay with them through so much shit because they don't want to be alone. That is, like, yeah, yeah. I feel like sometimes people will just get with someone so that they can be like I've got someone yeah you see people like in a relationship and then they'll break out that relationship they'll get in another one they'll break out that one they're getting another one yeah you're right actually you're jumping from relationship to relationship you're not giving yourself if you truly love that person you're not giving yourself enough time to heal exactly it's like this is scared of being alone and also not knowing who you are as a person

I mean I feel like people genuinely just get where anyone yeah and they'll put up with anything yeah but yeah but i think like going back to like what emma watson said like it's such a rarity to find that that person who is for you but it's so normalized because as you you're right as you said people just fucking don't want to be alone yeah and they just stay with people and then they'll cheat yeah yeah yeah and that's why there's so many fucking horror stories of cheating and everything yeah and it's because you're set and it's because really you're fucking settling yeah you're right well i don't know sometimes people like can fake that personality's and it's too complex for me and i'm opting out i know my head's fucking right from it

opting into the declining of humanity and come here should we go into a dilemma oh my god yes we're because we've had a good few dms yeah we have yeah but we'll just go through one and then we'll do okay we'll do the others and other episodes probably not I don't even know What? Wait, I'm trying to read Oh yeah

Well, I read it Yeah, maybe you should Every episode is like Do you know what But no one's complained No one's like You know Give us any shit about it

So I mean Do you's mind That I can't read Is it a bad thing Is it a bad thing? No, it's not Because I'm also a bit dyslexic So it's fine

Anyway, okay Here we go Hey, I love your podcast I helps with my anxiety Whenever I'm having an attack And I switch your podcast on And it helps distract my mind. No way. I never thought I would hear that my voice would actually stop someone

from having a panic attack because I feel like I'm overstimulating of anything. Me too. But you know honestly? Could you give me some advice? I get jealous. My boyfriend is completely loyal. It's nothing to do with him. It's my own insecurity. There's pretty girls around him, one of his neighbours, friends of the family, etc. And when we're around them, I really feel insecure and he's looking at like he's looking at them oh yes like he's looking at them because they are prettier than me

I put on weight on which it makes me feel worse can you give me any advice love you's love you love you from what I gather from that it's like a bit it's like an insecurity yeah so it's like what you need to do is work on your confidence you need to work on yourself that's what you need to do

on yourself focusing on what others are doing and how others look, et cetera. Everyone. Just stop looking at them. Just stop looking. Close eyes.

No, I think work on yourself, work on your confidence. That is the first step for this. Because I think when you're a confident person, it'll radiate. Like you will honestly, you could be anyone.

And as long as you walk into a room, being confident, everyone's going to gravitate towards you. And you'll feel so much more comfortable in yourself. Do daily affirmations. Do journaling. Look off like videos. listen to podcasts specifically to grow your confidence like I did that and it worked a lot and just yeah

I think also like with the whole weight thing I don't think like personally that's it's nothing to do with weight what I would gather is it's like internal confidence so it's to do with how you feel within yourself but also you have to be feeling good in yourself because like for example for me personally like I'm a bigger girl right I'm 14 sometimes I've 16 and sometimes I'll drop no 12, I'm all overplace. But I'm a very, I'm happy like this. I'm confident in myself. But I know that if I was really not confident

and I was really picking myself apart all the time, then I would be doing other things. I'd be listening to me, what's the call, affirmations all of the time. I would be eating healthy. I'm not saying going on a diet, but I would be definitely doing the 80-20. Yeah. You know what I mean?

And also food, like, is direction. linked to like your brain health and everything so I think for sure and I think it becomes like a negative cycle as well I feel like because obviously when because sometimes I think especially for me like back when I was younger when I did really care about how I looked and I was very fill in my face with lip fill I you know all of this I was literally going on fucking herb a life to try and lose with like just ridiculous yeah just ridiculous but I was so not like confident with myself so I was like reaching for anything to make us feel good whereas I feel like when you change your mindset around it

then it's not necessarily a weight thing but if the weight thing is making you feel bad and you're like I don't feel confident like in this weight because me in this weight now I feel confident I feel good you know what I mean so it's kind of like one of them things of like if you don't feel good then you have to make steps to make yourself feel good because you can't like you can't be like living in

in a body where you feel where you don't feel like yourself. Yeah, but you don't feel like that's exactly what I mean. Like if you don't feel like yourself then that's where it kind of stemming from because it's like for me I feel like myself. Yeah, I would, if I were you,

I would write down exactly what's making you feel unhappy about yourself and then you can like fix it by doing this and that and have like a strategic plan in place. Tiny steps as well. Yeah, don't be doing everything all in one. No, no. It doesn't work.

Literally one step at a time. Yeah. and it will come but you need to build up the resilience and the pattern and the recurrence of it. It needs to be a habit and what do they say? It takes like three weeks, four weeks or whatever it is to make a habit. So just take it in bite-sized trunks, take it every day as it comes. But what I will say is what you don't want happening is when you're insecure and especially insecure and in relationship, then the other person can maybe get a bit impatient and maybe it could be the fact where this then doesn't end well.

It turns out of something different than what it's actually at. Because if he's not, if if I was in a relationship with someone who was insecure all the time and I have been dating people like that and you have to keep telling them like to reassure them all the time unfortunately the other person sometimes will end up getting fed up of it and it's like this is just me being so honest with you the reassurance needs to come from within like you have to you have to find that little spot and you've got it because like otherwise you would go down this path of like you know you'd be like are you looking at her do you want to get with her and that's when you know that that's it's kind of overtaken yeah but the fact that you're coming here and you're messaging us and you're asking for advice rather than going there and like you know give a first step first step first steps and again we're no therapists we're not we're not we're just our advice we're just chatting you know what well we're not chatting shit we're actually have really fucking good advice and I feel like because we've been through so much like we're just you know yeah like for instance like back in lockdown I

had a business where I would get um with this other company where we had like the best psychologists in the world do different courses and they had a full course on confidence I'll actually try find it if you actually know we have your message yeah I can try find the course and send it to you it's from like a years ago and there was like 12 episodes in there with this amazing psychologist I'll send you his page as well um but yeah I think the first step for sure is just building your confidence back up and figuring out what you need to change to make yourself feel more secure because you can't go on in a relationship feeling insecure it's going to ruin you it's going to ruin the relationship it'll ruin

other relationships around you yeah because then you're going to feel worse and it's going to be a downward spiral and you just don't want that so I think you've taken the right step in you know you're aware yeah that's the best thing because it's the worst when you're not aware exactly then you can't you can't work on it you can't change anything when you're not aware yeah exactly I just think I think you're a lot further ahead than what you might think you are. Yeah, I think so too. I think so too. I think you need to get back to feeling like yourself, whatever that looks like to you. Everyone's different. Everyone is different and trying like, I definitely think affirmations are

really good because they literally rewire your neural pathways on how you think because your brain can't tell the difference between what's real and what's fake. So if you're like, oh my God, I literally don't feel pretty, oh my God, I literally don't feel pretty. Oh my God, I literally don't feel pretty. Oh my God. I literally don't feel pretty. Oh my God, I literally feel fucking gorgeous. Oh my God, I literally feel like gorgeous. Yeah, yeah, exactly.

Oh my God, I literally feel so gorgeous. But like, what did you use to do? When you repeat, that's what I used to do. Bethany used to do a voice note and listen to it in her sleep. So if you listen to it, like subconsciously, it's going to get inside your fucking brain. Yeah. So what I would actually recommend as well, right,

is you can do your own. So say for instance, anything that you're struggling with now. So for example, I don't feel good. enough I don't feel pretty enough I don't feel um smart enough or what whatever it is that you think that you don't feel enough of you write you literally say the exact opposite I feel absolutely gorgeous I am literally so smart I'm so resilient I'm superior not but like you know you know what I'm saying like you do the opposite of what you're currently thinking now you do that is a voice recording, a voice memo

on your phone, you speaking it with your voice and you listen to that over and over again. That is literally you telling yourself when your brain's trying to pull you the opposite way. Your brain's trying, your brain is only trying to protect you. It's trying to protect you from being hurt. That's why you're worried.

That's because you're trying to be, is the word apprehensive? You're trying to predict something like might go wrong. You're predicting, oh, like, you know, he's around all these pretty girls like you might leave us one of one of these pretty girls you're trying to protect yourself

yeah that's all you're trying to do I think definitely your voice notes that's such a good share of like but unfortunately it is actually like not it's doing the opposite it's doing the opposite even though your brain and your body is wired to do this and protect you

but in the grand scheme of things it's actually what's the call well it's pulling you away from people now isn't it and pulling you away from like doing it's like self-destructive that's what it is that's exactly it yeah it's self-destructive so I think yeah do the voice notes i'll try find that course and send it to you um on the podcast page and i'll

also send you that guy who i did the course with um he's also like an anxiety coach too um but yeah or was it a woman shit i can't remember this we're talking five years ago um but yeah i think figure out what you need to change to make yourself feel better do the voice notes and then just listen to podcasts on it and that really helped me anyway grow my confidence And just surround yourself with the right people and really try not to push people away because you don't want to be, you know, kind of sat there reminiscing on relationships and feeling alone, especially when you feel quite down. But we're sending you so much love.

And also message at any time. Like we'll say your message. Like message at any time. Let me know how you're getting on. If you need any tips, any more advice. I feel like I'm probably better texting me because I feel like when I speak, I'm too fast. and then I'll say, and I'll put me foot in my mouth sometimes. Oh, yeah, me too.

Oh, my God. Whereas when I'm texted, I can really think deeply about what I want to say and like what I want to send to people. How you want to articulate it properly. I'm not very good at articulc. I'm very like, yeah, so am I. But hopefully this is why we've got podcasts. Hopefully, yeah, hopefully this has helped you a little bit, you know.

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