Wild2Mild Podcast - Ep 8. Friendships, Burnout & The Weight Women Carry

Episode Date: August 17, 2025

Send us a textFrom behind-the-scenes chaos and hilarious confessions to dating stories, burnout and the pressure women carry every day, this episode has it all. We talk boundaries, self-worth and finding balance, all while laughing through the mess. Raw, funny and unfiltered the Wild 2 Mild way.✨ Subscribe for more real, relatable chats on dating, self-love & life 

Welcome back to Wild Two Miles podcast. And do you know what? We have got something to tell you. We've got a confession. We're pregnant. We're engaged. We're engaged. We may as well be bloody engaged at this rate.

We do everything together. I know literally. But anyway, go on. Fill them in. Okay, so do you know the last seven episodes that were filmed and that we've done? We filmed them in. February we literally

filmed them in two days like you know what that was trial and error so a lot of the things that we're doing at the minute is trial and error and because we did think that it would be really good

if we're kind of both them and then got them all out of the way but I was PMSing that whole time yeah you were the whole time now you're ovulating now and I'm ovulating now and I'm ovulating

No, can you tell? And now I'm on my period. Can you tell? Brilliant. Yeah, no. So honestly, I was saying to Nicole, a couple of weeks ago, like all these little things that are going kind of, not wrong, but that are, like, quite tiring and stressful and things don't go the way that you want them to go.

All of these things, when you're building something and you can look back at it, these are like little testimonies, aren't there? Yeah. Not a testimony. A test. These are little tests, little lesson. what's a testimony testimony is like a review

a review yeah these are tests yeah no these are like little tests and then obviously like when we'll look back when we've like built something yeah we can be like what the yeah like because even now like we look back and we'll look at that

that we filmed seven episodes in two days and we actually filmed 12 yeah and a lot of them were just not able to use the sound like all these like little things it was a lot yeah we could look back and we'd be like oh my god but look like we pulled through we made it and that like i'm quite proud like do you know what i mean and now i just feel like it's so much better to film this in real time like in the week that we release it because

like we've got lads we've got so many life updates and like even when they were going out i was like we were talking about fellas who i honestly couldn't put a finger on who the hell we were talking about it was like who the fuck is that yeah and I had to sit with myself being like, who is that? Who we're talking about? Who are we talking about? Real time shit. Real time.

We apologize. So let's, we don't have to apologize. What are you apologising for? We apologize for not giving you real time shit. Do we need, we don't need to apologize for that. Okay. Listen, at the end of the day, that was kind of what we're doing is we're thinking about, like, because we're thinking about what had been happening.

Yeah. Throughout, like, previously. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? had a lot of valuable lessons in those lessons in lessons episodes yeah we were talking about generic topics but i think we kind of want to talk more real time now so i think they're all great episodes oh fantastic um but they're so funny i love them i love so funny yeah they're so funny i love those episodes um but we purposely picked topics that we didn't have to be in real time

for chatting about yeah and obviously we'll still touch on all those sort of topics anyway yeah but yeah i'm excited to film this on a weekly basis i know so it's burnt myself out yeah can't wait literally yeah i'm excited um that was fun probably won't do it again yeah very tired um but yeah to update all the fellas that i was talking about are not in my life by the way just to let you know bye bye bye girl bye princess yeah absolutely wet wipes no but do you know what though i'm in the um actually i don't care losers sorry i love the little internal conversation shahas for myself that also was mean sure pick up but um i feel like right because obviously when i'm on hinge i'm like oh it would be really nice to just like date and like basically do

life with someone and like experience like the mundane things with a partner you can't say that people don't want that it is nice to have that like even when we're in the house and like say for instance like i'll cook the tea she'll wash the dishes yeah like you know she'll put the washing the wash machine I'll take it out and hang it up like it's yeah these like little moments where when you've got a partner is good but none of me basically are in a relationship it's just so funny this is where I'm going to so I have sat down with myself and I've had a little conversation with myself right I don't want a boyfriend like I've come to the conclusion that actually I don't want a boyfriend there was someone had said this on um TikTok it was a viral TikTok it was a viral TikTok

and someone said that a very amazing man is just a basic woman oh my god that is so true like so like being emotionally in tune with you listening to what you're saying like you know helping you navigate like certain situations in your life when you're feeling stressed or giving you like the pep talks are like advocating for you and like building you up giving you giving you the affirmations women do that naturally yeah that's so true a lot of my friends and the people that i've got around it's like they do that naturally yeah do you know what i seen the other day as well which is similar to that i see i listened to a podcast on it so um grace beverly's podcast shout out grace beverly um obviously i we both have burnout i burn out for years and she did an

episode on burn out there like last week of the week previous and she was saying that in this day and women like years ago women were just like cooking and cleaning but in this day and age there's such a culture for like grafting and being successful but the cooking and cleaning side is still there so as a woman you you are taking on a man's role and a woman's role all in one and that's why women are getting so burnt out now it's because you're doing everything the nine to five or the fucking nine to one a m at night like fucking like you yeah yeah yeah and then you're cooking and you're cleaning and you're doing everything and that is why everyone's getting so burnt out yeah but i think what it is is it's not necessarily a man's job to go to work

but that used to be but that's what it used to be exactly what it is is it's like i think like people want these old traditional values of like you know women kind of doing all of these things in the house making the household pretty and nice and stuff like that and then like men come home and just put their feet up because they've been grafting all day there's still this underlie there's still that ideology underlining yeah still that like conditioning kind of underlining so now obviously like women don't have to marry to get a bank account right so women are going out and doing that own thing so like it is my honestly like it's just such a it is a wild topic when you get into it it really really is it's a deep topic and I just feel like bloody whole three episodes on

this topic I could do the whole swear to God I could do the whole series on it yeah I know it is such a deep topic I know but let's

it makes sense though it makes sense though because like you know equally I feel like sometimes there's just not a lot of help is that like when you

it's very hard to live on your own like I have especially being a neurodivergent like I've got ADHD diagnosed and then I've been told that I need to go and get an autism sometimes as well like but like it is really difficult to live on your own it is like you know

coming up like when for instance like if we like I was saying before like you do the cleaning I'll cook like hate the chores yeah the chores I split and it's like so much easier anyways going back that's why I don't want a man because I don't need one yeah yeah no it's so true we literally do everything together yeah I think even like okay guys we've come into this new routine which is hilarious for me because I've never done anything like this before we are getting up at 6 a.m. every morning I'm going to bed like going into bed at about 9 30-ish 9 and we're going for a walk in the morning and I feel so good now yesterday wanted to absolutely curl up on the couch all day because I didn't get to sleep until like

11 or something yeah but this new routine is so good doing it with someone else I would never do it by myself but this is the thing and it told me accountable as well because like say for instance like if I'm like oh I can't pay bother like listen you're always going to listen to your body anyways if you really can't like today we're going to go on a walk this morning but obviously too tired I'm 30 and my feet had been really swollen so I was just like no I'd been walk I'd literally done so many steps um so I climbed to the O2 basically yeah when I'm telling you that I wanted to curl up on the couch all day I ended up climbing the fucking O2 building like

what the hell and this is the thing like so obviously like you listen like you have to listen to your body when it tells you listen slow down so we're trying to get into a routine we've done a good few days now of like getting up at six going on an hour and 10 20 minute walk in bastersea park and just like it's so nice having a coffee having a little walk and just like move my body getting a few steps in and it really does energize it but then when it gets to two in the afternoon pool I am dead oh yeah I'm dead as well yeah but I do like the morning routine of it all yeah same like I was on the phone to my dad and he was like oh yeah I've been doing it for years like it makes you feel so motivated and good you just need to get

into that routine yeah so that's where we are right now is we're living together because bethens come down to London I was up in Newcastle filming the last few episodes yep so we are basically yeah doing everything together as we always bloody well do yeah we do and but I love that like we do the shopping together like so much easier I need to body double as well like body double for my brain yeah but basically if anyone knows doesn't know what body double in it is oh yeah it is a tool that um people who have got ADHD really benefit from and so if you google body doubling what it is it's basically where even being in the same room as someone else can spark off more um motivation for someone who has ADHD yeah um and we benefit so

much from that living together like literally because the minute say for example like if you say if I'm like working and I'm doing this you bounce off my work and the same with you like if you're doing your emails I'll get my laptop out and I'll start doing mine honestly I'm not an email girl please but it's easier together yeah because then you're like you're doing it together

so yeah if you've got ADHD that's just a little nugget little tip there for you yeah that is that is the sweet spot it's chef's kiss it's chef's even if you aren't even if you don't have anyone to live with even just FaceTime and someone whilst you're doing things that's really good so um dating go on right now i never told this story because it this just popped into my head by the way um because i was looking at just a point that i wanted to make on

dating so basically this happened i was dating this guy right and this is after the last few episodes had aired uh i was dating this guy who i went on a date with last year and then i sacked him because he was a bit bizarre on the first day asking me to go back to his and i was like are you actually well in the head like really really strange and then do you know what I hate is I had to come up I felt like I had to come up with some excuse and be like oh just being like no so I was like oh I need to go home and feed my cat and he was like well let's get an Uber all the way back to yours and then you can get an Uber back to mine I was like are you actually serious like take no for an answer anyway this is wild so myself and my

friend were out for drinks maybe two three months ago well we had met him actually in a bar in I don't know who we're talking about sorry guys you do you do you do the same stalker. Sorry, that's me and he's technically not really a stalker, but maybe he is after this story.

So basically, basically, remember we met him? Oh, yeah. And I had sacked him off for your previous and he wanted to like, or maybe it was like

eight months ago, whatever. Right. Yeah. So he wanted me up again. So I was like, you know what he was looking well? Maybe I'll just give him

one more chance. I'll just go for a drink. Guys, trust your fucking gut. Never give him one more chance, okay? So we end up going for a drink, whatever. That was grand.

I actually came to the date quite drunk. because I had an event beforehand, so don't know what my body was trying to tell me there. But anyway, great date. Well, no, not great date. It was bloody well average. Then I went out the following Saturday, like a few days pre or after, and met him for a drink because he lives in the same building as one of my best friends. So he was up on the rooftop.

We were having a drink. He said some really inappropriate thing with my friend there. I remember who we're talking about now. Yeah. yeah okay yes he did what do you what do you say again he was like something for his dick like and i was he he he had just met my friend and i was like that is so weird at 32 years of age i get some get a grip social social cues so i know but i can say some appropriate shit sometimes and i'm like oh my god what's wrong no but he kept doing it though and i was like come on like anyway

so he asked where we were going i was like oh we're going to this bar he was like oh i'm going to the town next door and we're going to go for a few drinks myself and the lads I was like grand so anyway myself my friend are in this bar he texts me being like hey you're still there and I was like yeah and then he was like is it busy uh sorry he texts me being like hey you still there is a busy and I never text back because it was like I'm having fun with my friend text me again being like mind if I join for one I never text back text me again being like hey I'm here where are you I'd never text this guy back now okay so there was like four messages then he tried to call me so myself and my friend and he said that his friend was ill

and had to leave but I found out the next day that he came alone hon you weren't invited firstly don't follow me somewhere yeah like really fucking creepy in my opinion and like he's a nice guy in terms of like actual human being he seems quite nice but like but that made you feel a bit uncomfortable like I had to I left the bar I was like I don't want to see him him now and then because I was actually going to see him maybe the day after for a drink or something I don't know but then I was like actually never again so since then I have not been on any dates I'm a little bit traumatised I feel like you have to vet these men find them in bloody company's house find their address find out what they've done for a living the past 20 30 years

like you need to bet these people yeah I didn't get him properly unfortunately but I feel like maybe it's just it's one of them things that maybe just social cues were missed Do you know what I mean? Because, like, for example. Right. I don't deal well with men who can't pick up on social. Pick up on social. That makes me feel so uncomfortable.

Yeah. Like, I'm an empath. I feel other people's emotions. My friend was so uncomfortable. I felt sick. Yeah. So I was like, that's not for me. Yeah.

I think you've got very good social cues. You said that you don't, but you do. Because I, I don't know. No, you do. I honestly would not be able to be around you. Right. You didn't. Right.

Sometimes I feel. Like, I'm like, I don't know whether that's because I've got a bit of, um, what's it called? Rejection sensitivity from ADHD. Like, I really, I'm so hyper-visulent with people's, like, facial expressions, body language. Yeah. And sometimes that tone and it can really throws off. That's why I'm, I've got really bad social anxiety now. Like, and I never, ever had it, which is so bizarre.

Um, but yeah, like, I've done a lot. Oh my God, listen to this. This is just a little, I've done a lie. for Charlotte Crosby for Pepper Girls Club Like a few weeks ago Like maybe a week or two ago So obviously I don't really do a lot of lives anymore But I have done lives in the past

Like I've been on live on TikTok and stuff like that Anyways So for some reason I got changed in like one of the outfits And I was like on the live And there was like a few people sat there like Doing the monitoring of like the chat And like if anyone asks questions because if the host can't see it,

then they'll shout the questions off. And this really big rush of anxiety rushed over us, right? And all I could hear was my heart beating. Oh, no. And I could feel it pumping through my chest. And, like, all I could think about is everyone on this live and in front of me in this room is going to see is have a panic attack.

And I was in my head so bad. It brings it on more then. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And I was just like, oh, my God. And I don't know if anyone knows. I mean I don't know if you watch the live I don't know if you notice but like I was literally like oh can I get a like a drink of water

is that all right they're like yeah yeah that's fine and I was literally out of shot of the live for like literally two seconds and I was like drinking the water and I could feel me handshaking it was just the most bizarre feeling ever and that's why I feel like I've got bad social like cues because I'm just like why am I so awkward like

I was literally just on a I've literally done TV shows how am I not comfortable like not that I wasn't comfortable because I was comfortable but like how am I having these really weird things that come over is where I start panicking I hate lives as well though and I would get panicky as well I don't know what it is is it because it's happening in real time and you feel like you've got no control over anything maybe like for me that's what it is but I've been in TV that's that's always been the case like yeah that's also true but then maybe that's what spurred this on because I'm so like because of things being portrayed in a certain way

that maybe isn't the full extent of the story so then maybe my brain is like I don't know, I really don't know but like sometimes I do feel like sometimes I can ramble on a bit like especially when I'm maybe it is just the pressure of being in real time and like for instance when I done we're done a white fox event a couple of weeks ago as well

and we're done these like little interviews you know before we went in they were like oh talk about your outfit and like I'm really not good with on the spot questions. Even when we were looking back at a podcast episodes that we filmed and we were going through them. Yeah. And like, I was like, I asked you a question. You were like, I'm not going on the spot questions. You're like, I can't think on the spot. And that's so fair. Yeah, but really, I've got really, really, really bad memory. Like, I've got really bad like memory recall. And I don't know, I don't know why that is. But yeah, I just, I do feel like, I don't know,

feel a bit awkward but then at the same time I just feel like I'm just changing so much yeah but I think we all are like do you know something that kind of relates to that and like people changing so we ask people to ask questions on our Instagram this morning

and someone asked now I can't be on my phone because it like connects to my podcast equipment for some weird reason but the general consensus of the question was about friendship breakups and someone breaking up with a friend and oh has my laptop just gone off?

No. Someone breaking up with a friend and basically just trying to navigate that. Yeah. And we both now, I feel like people have been waiting for me to comment on different things with a certain friendship breakup that has happened.

I'm not going to delve deep into anything because I don't want to right now. Maybe when I'm ready to speak about it in the future. It was really, it was a really hurtful thing. I think friendship breakups are very painful, if not more painful. well maybe not to some people but sometimes can be more painful than actual relationship breakups and they're very and very awkward to navigate as well because at the end of the day like people just have

different opinions yeah and like different values different values different opinions and sometimes people just grow apart and I think that that's essentially what happens when you grow yeah when you get older and you've got different life paths sometimes you grow apart yeah I think like the whole situation for me if you know you know about you would just I think I was just I was so hurt and it took years

to call yourself out of it and I actually feel like if I'm to go like even think about it it still upsets me and I think I never you can't like time's a healer like there is like friendship breakups are so difficult and like with the relationships and situations

that I've had I'll only be sad for like a few months but with this it was a long time and I think it's just so difficult to navigate because I actually don't think a lot of people talk about friendship breakups because it is such a sensitive topic you don't want to upset people exactly and that's a thing as well

like I think when kind of like when you're in relationships and stuff like that like it's talked about so much so like there's no kind of it doesn't feel weird talking about it but when you talk about friendship breakups like it does slightly feel weird talking about it because I mean especially if you're like if you're a good person like you don't want to hurt

that other person you don't want to say anything that might upset that other person even if there were an asshole like yeah yeah yeah yeah because you don't because like at the same time like I do think that sometimes friendship relationships can be so a lot deeper than actual relationship relationships I would say yeah because like you share everything like you know the ins and outs of everything that's me and like want it do you know what I mean? And sometimes maybe with a partner

you would keep certain things like apart like even if you're in the fucking toilet having a shit like sometimes you wouldn't want your partner scene but when you wear your breath you don't know what you're like oh I've got it stinks yeah it's different like it's different it's such a different dynamic

yeah but I think ultimately what it is is like you know sometimes like you you can hit people and people can hurt you and it's just one of those things um where i think you're still healing i'm still healing what three years on that doesn't matter two years on it could take it doesn't matter time is a healer at the end of the day and i feel like we met each other obviously years ago but we came properly into each other's lives when we were going through the same thing with friendship

breakups and oh my god i've never been so blessed and lucky to have you in my life just for everything though i feel like you're just so loyal you're so funny you're so nice you help i know what i mean but i think like everything happens for a reason and people grow apart and that's fine but i think if you're sorry what we're going to no no i just want to just say if you're going through a friendship breakup like just take it easy like you're not going to be over in a few months unfortunately well it depends how deep the friendship was depends on how you feel about it as well sometimes you can be over it like that

I've had friendships where like I fell out with friends and like they've done things to us and like said awful things and made me feel like a really terrible person and I've just been like I'm in the mindset now where I've had that much like experience of just like you know falling out with people and things

where I'm just like you know what I find it easier to be like right I'm not put myself through this heart ache and this pain anymore if you want to be if you want to behave like that you behave like that if you think that of me you think that of me I'm in the stage

of my life now where I'm like my piece is more important than keeping people around us who don't want to be around us if you don't want to be around us that's fine speak up see you later that is fine no hate literally cared about people a lot

love you a lot but we're just not meant to be in each other's lives anymore and I think like for us sometimes we find it hard like when we think when we want like certain situations to be a certain way that's what can cause a lot of resistance yeah internally of like like oh like that like kind of like pulling resistance yeah but pulling resistance does that make sense don't know you know couldn't tell you but I know what you mean yeah like but when you just kind of like surrender to the reality of what is life gets a lot fucking easy

it does when you surrender and you go you know what that happened can't change it you don't seem that apologetic about it it is what it is yeah actually that is so true like just surrender to it just like don't fight it just like it is last as 8 billion people in the world move on

for sure and I think like therapy like obviously helps and like reading self-help books and listening to self-help podcast but also i think which is a really really important thing is actually cultivating um more connections because i think for sure especially in the very like wellness self-development community it's always like you know do your sound baths do your meditation you do not heal in isolation and that is why especially if you go through a situation i don't know if anyone's ever been through someone's definitely been this and this is for you so if you've been through a situation where you've had a group of friends that have isolated you right isolation is the worst thing it is the worst thing genuinely

as like a um a social as like a social like byproduct of a situation for you to isolate yourself is very very dangerous um for your mental health so cultivating a community of people that truly truly support you and truly say who you want or you know wanting to help you that's where you're actually going to find a lot of healing yeah not in the self-help books or the yoga or the meditation or the breathwork did heal me a lot though what they're doing the self-health oh yeah like they're tools their tools yeah meditation sound healing yoga somatic healing all of these things are tools the thing that's really going to help you

is cultivate and real connections you need people around you you can't be locked in your room by yourself like you need to go out and make friends like we want to join a wrong club yeah we can't run for shit but I did one on TikTok for people who can't run

and it's like a social thing yeah we'll join a book club we were saying as well I've read two books in my life one of which was Cheryl Cole's autobiography like I don't read but I'm like I want to meet like minded people not necessarily about the reading but people who are just really nice do you know what I mean yeah for sure I mean I definitely think that

getting hobbies and things and finding what your hobbies are and then like you'll meet people who have got the same hobbies if that makes sense yeah find out with the hobbies yeah yeah so obviously for for me my hobby is watching TV and watching movies I love it I love it I love watching Marvel movies and stuff but I want some active hobbies hobbies I want to do like I want to get back into my pool fitness and stuff yeah how funny is it I think feel like this podcast is very like yeah it is but that's our brains like oh great brain over here brain over here

going jumping from one thing to the other like you know what I mean do you apologize if this is chaotic this is probably how it's going to be for the rest of time so if you don't like it then listen to another podcast wait can I just touch on something that I just thought about right so I was so stressed I constantly

do live in a state of fight or flight like my body has been like that for years so I went to Reiki Heel and basically last month I went to Ibiza for my 30th and I was terrified with like I can't deal with social settings and someone actually did ask a question on this

as well today on our Instagram and they were like about social battery running out and any idea on what to do to fix it you may be an empath so if your social battery runs out quite quick when you're in very like highly populated

busy settings you're more than like restaurants that stuff you're probably an empath so what an empath is is that you pick up on other people's energies

and how they feel so that's why what I was saying with people's socials if they've got bad social cues and they make other people feel uncomfortable I want to die

like I feel so uncomfortable I pick up on everyone's feelings it is the most draining thing in the world so a family member told me that I was an empath there seven years ago when I first moved to London

didn't know what it was looked it up and then I was like oh my god so much in my life makes sense so that's why I can't now go into busy social settings which is such an issue for me um so I went to a Reiki healer to like kind of help me navigate everything guys when I tell you I believe in all this stuff but I'm kind of skeptical about Reiki because I've never had it done before so I was thinking god like what can so much can she do by waving her hands over me do you know what I mean I've never experienced anything like it in my life. Good, isn't it?

She had her hands on my temples and it was like she was pulling threads. And then she had, guys, you're going to die at what she told me. So I was wearing these really thick tractsuit bottoms. Was I telling you this? I feel like I was. You did, you told us. So I was wearing these really thick

tractsuit bottoms. And she had her hand on my reproductive area, just over it, like hovering over it. The ovaries. Overees, yeah. Yeah, not the vagina because that would be a molestation. But we need to clarify. Sorry.

Clarify laugh. not the vagina but the ovary area unless she put her hands in on my leg straight after they were like hot water bottles like they were roasting hot and then afterwards she was like

you've got so much negative energy around your reproductive area so basically and she was saying it's about the men that I've gotten with and used to date isn't that insane and I got up off the bed and when I tell you it was like I had 10 spa days

in one hour like I've never felt so lifted and my friend went to her a month previous and she had to get a taxi home because she was so grounded she couldn't lift her legs off the floor yeah Eva yeah oh my god she's getting a taxi home because she couldn't lift her legs off the floor isn't that insane that is I felt them the same and I went out and I've never felt so calm do is a fee of her give me 14 of them right now yeah yeah you need to go see her she's only down the road yeah gorgeous but yeah so anyway when it comes to like social battery and what I'm not like she gave me a book to read which oh shit I can't remember what it is right now but it's about um oh so the survival guide for an empath or something and I've been listening to it because I don't actually read books so you're more of a podcast girl yeah I like listening to stuff

and basically she gave me a piece of advice in the book and I went out for a drink last weekend with one of the girls and I was freaking out in case I was so tired and wanted to go home but I listened to the book anyway beforehand and she said imagine your belly button is connected to someone else's belly button

and there is like a line of energy and it's glowing a cord yeah and sniff the cord and imagine yourself

in a bubble with all white light you're radiating but it's like your protective energy and like just however you want to think

about it protect yourself protect your energy think of it as a completely different environment to where you are

and gosh shit I really hope that that is the name of the book because it was so good something look up books and it's like orange and white cover um but yeah so if you struck up with social energy

when you're out you may be an empath look into that and also we're getting older and that's also a thing maybe the socializing just isn't for us anymore I think like obviously where I definitely think that when you get older like I think you get so many life experiences where equally when you're younger you kind of just hang about when you're on like because I think you don't you're not as like socially literate. And then when you start to hang out with people and then you start getting fucked over and you start experiencing a lot of like hurt and pain,

you start to be a bit more protective of your energy, don't you? And you're just like, hmm, do you want to need to be there? Do you want to need to do this? No, probably don't. So I'm not going to do it. And I think maybe that also comes from a little bit of a fear of like being hurt again though. Yeah.

Do I mean? Potentially. Just try and protect yourself. Yeah, like you're just trying to protect yourself really. Yeah. but yeah I think God

so yeah being social is just fucking draining isn't it we don't like anyone thank you we don't like being around

anyone apart from each other thank you you just stay together for the rest of the days I know literally we're

me and Ralph the cat I know literally no literally no but then equally I feel like it also depends on like where you're at

energetically as well because I think sometimes I can have a really good time like I remember so many times where I've been out and I've just like you know met people and it's just been such a good night and it's kind of like I don't know what it is but as I'm getting older like I'm not experiencing that as much yeah when I was younger I can remember just so many times where like I'd just go out and you'd meet random girls and then you'd just be like hanging off each other's next all night but then equally you're kind of in the drinking scene as well though aren't you so like

you're drunk and you're not like you're like uh yeah yeah floating about so I don't know I don't really know all I'm going to say is um social burnout is a real thing and then I think also as well I think just trying to align with people who have the same interests as you because you'll never be drained by people who have got the same eat up that is eat that shit that is perfect you will not feel drained with people who you bounce off yeah only feel drained from people who are taking you taking your energy and yeah

that's what I would say so what you need to take away from this episode is find people who are the same interests join some clubs yeah fuck all the men off fuck all the men off get a wife

get yourself get a platonic wife yeah yes exactly and yeah if you're an empath read that book I was on the boat it has an orange and white cover

I can't really remember the name of it and cultivate a good community as well if you are feeling shit don't isolate yourself isolation's good in moderation right but listen to recharge listen to this though listen so um your brain when you isolate your brain if you isolate for too long your brain sees that as danger because you're actually a social creature oh yeah just end the episode on that end the episode on that as well because I just want to let you know just to how important it is though because I isolate and sometimes I think I over-isolate it

and it really makes a spiral and goes worse and I just don't want that for use because it's really uncomfortable it's really not a nice thing no it's the worst but sometimes isolation is great alright yeah but a mix of the both all right hope that makes sense

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anything you want and we'll keep everything anonymous as well just not dick picks thank you please don't i will out you anything but the dick picks thank you thank you we'll see you the next episode bye i love that that was so good Thank you.