Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus - Julia Gets Wise with Annie Leibovitz
Episode Date: December 3, 2025In this episode of Wiser Than Me, Julia sits down with visionary 76-year-old photographer Annie Leibovitz for a conversation about ambition, aging and the strange magic of being truly seen: both on ca...mera, and in life. They dig into Annie’s relentless eye for detail and how motherhood rewired her creative instincts. Plus Julia speaks with her 91-year-old mom, Judy, about family photos and why smiling for the camera is harder than it looks. Follow Wiser Than Me on Instagram and TikTok @wiserthanme and on Facebook at facebook.com/wiserthanmepodcast. Find us on Substack at wiserthanme.substack.com. Keep up with Annie Leibovitz @annieleibovitz on Instagram. Find out more about other shows on our network at @lemonadamedia on all social platforms. Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today by hitting 'Subscribe' on Apple Podcasts or lemonadapremium.com for any other app. For exclusive discount codes and more information about our sponsors, visit https://lemonadamedia.com/sponsors/. For additional resources, information, and a transcript of the episode, visit lemonadamedia.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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As I've mentioned on this here podcast, we lost our home of 31 years and everything in it in the Pacific Palisades fire earlier this year.
And if you listen to the last episode of Wiser Than Me, in that episode, I warned that I might be talking to you, dearest listener, about that fire and the loss that came with it, a lot.
this season, and, well, I'm a woman in my word, so here you go. We had a rough plan of evacuation
from that house. The most important thing to get out was our photos. And unfortunately, we didn't
get a chance to put that plan into effect, and all the photos were lost. And I have to say,
we had more than just a few photos. In fact, we had, Lord help us, more than 90 big photo albums
that were perfectly sorted and identified and organized by me. Every picture ever taken of our kids
and also crazy important stuff like our parents' baby pictures and the only pictures that existed
of my parents' wedding and a photo of my father-in-law playing high school football and a leather
helmet in 1927 and many, many just thousands more, like tens of thousands more. We were the
repository of the family record. And it is definitely obsessive, but God, it was so joyful.
It was so perfect. These photos gave me an enormous amount of joy. And there was one,
one in particular that was just so good. It was this gorgeous photo that could have been a Norman
Rockwell painting of our son Charlie at about five in his first baseball uniform, sitting on his
dad's knee, hugging a huge baseball glove like a doll baby. And his dad, my Brad, who was Charlie's
first baseball coach, was in the exact same Texas Rangers uniform hugging tiny Charlie.
You just can't imagine the shit-eating grins on their faces. It was just heaven. Another was a photo
that Brad took of our son Henry sitting on my father's lap on the Il San Luis in Paris, my father's
beloved hometown with an ice cream cone in his chocolate covered four-year-old hand and more chocolate
dripping down his smiling chin. And my dad is looking at Henry and Henry's looking right into the
lens so pleased with himself. Beautiful. Really beautiful. Why, why, why are these losses so
poignant? What is it about a photograph? It feels like the memory is taken away to tell you the
truth. Diane Arbus said, a photograph is a secret about a secret. The more it tells you,
the less you know. I think that's very profound. I'm not sure how it applies to what I've just
told you, but I'll tell you one thing. I would give almost anything to have those images back,
really, honestly. But here's a happy ending to this sad tale. First of all, we have so
much family and so many friends who know of this loss. And they've been sending us a ton of fantastic
family photos, which is very touching and incredibly generous. And second, one of my very favorite
photos that I thought was lost was out of the house when it burned up. So I still have it. And it's
just a black and white passport photo of me and my mom. Back in the day, I guess kids got passport
photos with their parents. And I have to tell you, this is a marvelous photo. My mom is young.
She's 27, actually. She's very beautiful. She's holding me. I'm roughly four or five months old.
My arm is around her neck. And my mother has this kind of pleased smile. And I am looking right
into the camera, kind of like Henry is looking into that camera in that photo from Paris that I was
describing. It's just a passport picture. It was probably taken in a drugstore or something,
but I swear to God, it could be an Henri-Cardier-Bresson portrait. I've had that photo for decades.
I've always loved it, but now, oh man, stone cold treasure. How we look at a photo can, and often
does change for sure, but the photo cannot. It is that one 250th of a second,
or 160th of a second or whatever that shudder speed is, that sliver of a second, an instant,
so potently preserved in the frame.
And a great photo, whether it's a family photo or still life or a photo of a movie star,
whatever it is, it may be just that fraction of a second captured, but somehow it can
capture us, the viewer, over and over and over again.
So, how thrilled I am, then, that our guest today is Annie Leibovitz.
I'm Julia Louis Dreyfuss, and this is Wiser Than Me, the podcast where I get schooled by women who are wiser than you.
I love pictures. I can't get enough of the great fashion news and culture photographers of the last century.
Richard Avedon, Robert Frank, Vivian Mayer.
They all so vividly evoke what is now a distant era, an era that I can't quite touch.
but I love to look at.
That's what great photography was.
Then, along came Annie Leibovitz,
and there was a seismic shift.
Suddenly, rock stars were draped across motel beds,
a new John Lennon cradled Yoko Ono,
Whoopi Goldberg submerged in a bath of milk.
And it wasn't just celebrities, either she shot.
Officials rolling up Nixon's red carpet
as he flew away in shame
after resigning the presidency of the United States.
She wasn't just photographing her subjects, okay?
She was helping to define entire decades and careers.
And she's still doing it.
Her images are intimate and elaborate, packed with intriguing narrative,
often funny, ironic, touching, and always daring.
Annie Leibovitz blurs the lines between photojournalism and fine art portraiture.
If you're under 50 and you're under 50,
and you've ever seen a photo of a celebrity that stopped you in your tracks, chances are it's in Annie Leibovitz.
Now she's released Women 2, a follow-up to her groundbreaking 1999 book, Women, which featured a forward by her late partner of 16 years, Susan Sontag, that began, a photograph is not an opinion, or is it?
26 years later, in Women 2, Annie is still answering that question.
She was the first woman ever to have a solo exhibition at the National Portrait Gallery in Washington, D.C.
And in 2016, she was inducted into the International Photography Hall of Fame.
Safe to say, Annie is the most sought-after photographer in the world.
Please welcome photographer, storyteller, and witness to half a century of art, music, and history,
a mother and a woman who is so much wiser than me, Annie Leibovitz.
Hi, Annie Leibovitz.
No, I doubt that.
No, I don't doubt that.
I've had the great joy of looking and really doing a deep dive into your work as if I didn't know it already.
But really doing a deep dive and holy crap, what an uvra.
Do you know what?
It's strange to me I haven't photographed you.
Yeah.
With all our crossing lines, I wanted to tell you right off that we need to do something.
We should really think about it before we.
We all go away, so...
Oh, my God, I would love that.
I would love that.
You're such a really good actor besides, you know, everything you've done, so...
Oh, thanks.
Wow.
So, first of all, before we begin, are you comfortable if I ask your real age, Annie?
Yeah, sure.
How old are you?
I'm 76 years old.
Okay.
How old do you feel?
I feel...
If you ask my daughter, sometimes I'm seven.
sometimes I'm 12.
Most of the time I think I feel more like 35 or 40, you know, probably.
What do you think the best part is about being your age?
What did you say?
I just love getting older.
You kind of know what you're doing.
Yeah.
It doesn't mean it's what you're doing is good or better or whatever.
It's still hard work.
But you kind of know what you're doing.
And there's something really nice about that.
And then things I think naturally are slowing down.
And I kind of, after running around like crazy, starting when I was very young, and so it's nice to kind of slow down a little bit. It's kind of great.
Yeah.
And do things a little bit more methodically, not methodically, but slower. I mean, it's great.
What do you mean? Do you mean physically slower? Or do you mean?
Physically and it couldn't be mentally too.
You seem sharp.
No, I'm like, I'm okay. I'm okay. I do love to move. I do love to move, it's for sure.
You know, back in the day, I don't know if you remember this or not, I'm sure you do not, but you took a photograph of Michael Richards, and it was a photo of him in profile with shaving cream in his hair, and it was sort of this kind of organized looking chaos, which was so incredible. I was really moved by it, and I wrote to you, and I asked you, would you be so kind as to give me a copy? And you very generously sent me a signed copy of it, which I have to this day.
And that photo, for me anyway, really tapped into him.
And when you're working, I was wondering, with people in comedy, do you try to stay sort of in their brand?
I have such, God, profound respect and admiration for comedians.
I mean, all along through my work, they're the life flow that goes through.
They're so smart.
They're so intelligent.
They're so manic-depressive, you know.
You know, really, under the radar, it seems like no one really understands how brilliant our comedians are.
And I don't know about you, I'm sure, you know, but the last, you know, a couple of years, I mean, they've sort of helped me survive with what comes across on Saturday Night Live.
I would run to the set to watch the show just to sort of get through everything.
So, I mean, listen, I start off with, oh my God, Richard Pryor.
Lily Tomlin, you know. I mean, I was like hung out with Richard Pryor or got, you know, lost several
days with Richard Pryor, you know. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. I know how hard it is to be funny in a
photograph. It is hard. Yeah. And, you know, you have to go back to Charlie Chaplin just hanging
from the clock or being very physical. So I admire that imagery as well to try to sort of think of how
to be funny without being stupid. Without being stupid. Yeah. It's kind of a
fine line. I just think about
Meryl Streep and the white face.
Yes, of course. Like playing a
role is really comfortable
for almost any actor or comedian
quite honestly. Yeah, totally
of course. I mean, well,
I'd love to ask you
about the portrait
that you took of your mother.
It's black and white
and she's looking
right at you.
Just
really
without affect, and the lighting is incredible.
It's just really an extraordinary picture.
And I remember reading that your mom said that she didn't want to look old in this photo.
So I'm wondering, do you approach photographing older women differently than photographing younger women?
Do you consider age at all when you're – is this a stupid question?
I don't know.
No, it's not a stupid question, but especially as I get older, I really –
I mean, it sounds so corny, but I do find the beauty in every one, every one of us.
And, you know, I mean, when I think about Louise Bourgeois picture or Jane Goodall or, you know, my mother was a whole other set of complicated issues because growing up with my mom, who's a hard act to follow, a very creative dancer, but never got a chance to really fulfill all of that.
She grew up where she smiled for every picture
And then every picture
When she took family picture
She wanted us all to smile
So I began to distrust the smile
I didn't believe in the smile
And she actually
The photograph you're talking about
She sat for it
And she was very nervous
And it actually
I mean I actually was crying
behind the camera
Because it's not that I didn't want her to be
I didn't want her to be nervous
But she was nervous about looking older
And she was in her middle seven
probably my age, and, you know, she didn't want to look old.
What made you cry?
Well, because she was so vulnerable.
Yeah.
I took that photograph, and, you know, I've told the story many times, but she didn't like it.
My father didn't like it because he said she wasn't smiling.
But she grew to like it, you know, it was just nice.
I mean, we had a big show with the Corcoran.
And we blew that picture up really big, and she was standing next to it, signing, you know, like, you know, photographs.
She found her way back to it.
She found her way.
She started to like it.
But it actually is such – I still learn from that photograph now because it took me a while.
I mean, someone said to me, you know, your mother is really looking at you like she loves you.
And I was like, no, no.
But what is remarkable about the photograph?
And this is where the bar is raised, is that she really is looking as if there's no camera there.
I mean, she's just looking at me.
I mean, there's no camera there.
And that is, I think as a photographer, especially if you're going to be interested in portraiture, you don't want to notice the camera.
You don't want to think that there's something there.
Yeah.
You want that to go away.
Right.
Some photographs, with time, they certainly do change.
And they have other aspects to them, you know.
Right.
And I would imagine that that photograph has new meaning now.
Well, I think what I find remarkable is it stays constant.
I mean, it's, I mean, I didn't get it at first.
A lot of times I don't get it at first.
You didn't get what?
I mean, I didn't get how good it was, I guess, on some level of my mother.
I mean, I was really happy that it showed her intelligence.
And she was a really intelligent woman, and she never broadcast that.
You know, that wasn't something.
She was always creative, life of the party, blah, blah, blah, you know.
And I think that has a lot to do with the time and the period for women.
It's hard.
I think it's hard to have your picture taken.
Yeah, it is hard.
I have tremendous empathy.
However, a lot of it is in the subject's lap.
I mean, it has a lot to do with what they can bring to this.
Are you comfortable having your photo taken?
I can't stand it, yeah, no.
You can't stand it?
No, I know what it is?
It's what I do.
I've sort of given up on that.
No, seriously, because there's so many different ways you can take a picture, number one, and number two, if it's someone that you think is a good photographer, and they're few and far between on some level, might trust what might happen regardless of how it sort of looks.
Yeah.
But I'm sort of like, you know, I gave up and I kind of like said, okay, just, you know, take my biggest ride out of Gary.
It's like, it's not like, because they can't, very few people can really put the time in it to do it in a way that they know what they're doing.
But what about if you take a picture of yourself, Annie?
Like, does that, I'm curious about that because I wonder if the image that you get, it matches the image that you have of yourself?
sometimes I think I make myself a little better looking than a little better I mean
or kind of a better version of you know of how it's so weird but have you um when you look at
yourself in the mirror is the it's the opposite of what you're actually get what other people
are looking at you know is it's backwards it is so weird and then you know like you know
It was so funny because, you know, first of all, I love photography and I admire photography.
And I like, I've studied not, you know, not on purpose so much, but I've just looked at every single photo book that's ever kind of existed in every photographer and really learned and grew up with amazing photographers like looking at Avedon and Irving Penn and Helmut Newton and Guy Bredan.
And then, you know, so it's funny when you, and even, even Diane Arbus, when you think about, you know, Diane Arbus.
And then you sort of notice, it's so interesting with the camera phone now because people are beginning to sort of see other parts of themselves.
But like when you see someone who knows they don't, they never see the back of their head, you know, have you been people where you realize that, because there's, yeah.
I know.
I'm probably one of those people that hasn't seen the.
back of my head.
Well, the back of your head may look like my.
It's funny you say that.
What does the back look like compared to, you know, the front?
And some people don't take care of the back of their head.
No, it looks like they got out of bed.
I know.
It's three quarters all the time.
Totally.
You know, I have to say that if I'm having my picture taken, which I have a real, frankly,
love, hate relationship with, because as to your point about trust.
Well, it has a lot to do about whether you like yourself or like the way you look, you know, I think.
It does, but also you've got to really trust the person you're with because it's a really, in my view, it's a very intimate process if it's going well. And so you're giving over to somebody who has the control, which always kind of scares me a little bit. But I love seeing you like this, by the way.
Like what? Right now. I don't know what it is. It's just no, no. We'll get your camera.
No, it wouldn't work coming through this funny machine. But no, no, no, I just, you know, it definitely would.
with, it feeds into, you know, how, I think you're always probably a little more refined
when you go into your photograph. I don't know what I'm saying. Don't know.
Yeah, I've got hair and makeup, you know, for starters. There's that. Yeah, that's true. That's
true. Yeah. And obviously, I mean, I don't have any hair and makeup today for our conversation,
except I do have a little lipstick. But anyway, you have a really gray skin.
Oh, thanks. But, um, uh, I will.
say that the amazing photo that you took of Demi Moore, of course, the iconic one when she was
pregnant with her second kid, and that was like, you know, everybody was, to coin a phrase,
gobsmacked by it. And I wanted to tell you something about that photo that was really important
to me. So I'd had my first child the year before. And I was not somebody who was comfortable
in my own body when I was pregnant. I was just, I felt enormous. I was enormous, frankly. And
And I never felt beautiful.
And then I saw that cover, and I thought, oh, wow, that is a beautiful body, a pregnant woman's body.
You know, I do want to point out with Demi Moore.
Sure.
Because, again, we didn't really know 100% what we were doing, and it didn't think it was publishable exactly at the time.
and it did get taken off the newsstands in the South.
Oh, it did?
I didn't know this.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, no, these magazines take chances when they do things like that.
Wow.
You framed it differently for me, and I just wanted to thank you for that,
because it really was a – that opened up my mind in a way that it hadn't been.
So, thanks.
I mean, I'm just looking – I mean, I have this – I'm just learning how to talk about the women's book,
but in Gloria's essay, and I pulled.
this out, because I think it is so important, how we are seeing changes how we see ourselves.
Now, what that means is it's important to, when you saw Demi Moore, you saw how you could see
yourself, I think. Like, we need these photographs and these stories of women to inspire us.
No question.
Only because we're in a kind of terrible moment in this country.
Yes, we are.
And for women, particularly since Roe versus Wade was overturned.
But, and then being awkward, being an awkward young person, you know, having the camera and giving me a license to be somewhere.
And it's interesting to understand, I mean, and this again is in Gloria's essay.
But can I read this thing from?
Yes.
You're talking about Gloria Steinem's essay that opens your new book, Women, too.
Yeah.
Okay.
I didn't grow up in a world in which women are viewed as powerful as men, Gloria says.
I know many people now feel our country is going backwards, but when you have lived a long life, which I am lucky to have done, you have a context of compared to what?
Being condescended to is progress.
Previously, we were just ignored.
I remember time, she says, when thoughtful male journalists would look at a room full of women and say, there's no one here.
So one of the reasons I pulled this out is this really is what was happening when I was young, is I would be in rooms and no one took me seriously.
No one thought you could do anything.
And I actually used that and loved it.
And it was kind of like frustrating for me when I got better known.
And, you know, my subject will come up and start talking to me,
and say, no, no, no, stay over there, you know, so I could take a photograph.
Right.
It was something, as a photographer, you could use that no one paid any attention to you.
But as a woman, period, it was very strange for sure.
We'll be right back with more of my conversation with Annie Leibovitz after this quick break.
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today at care.org slash wiser. You've mentioned that you don't really love working in a studio. You'd like to
work elsewhere. Can you talk about why that is? What is it about working in a studio?
I don't think I'm a very good studio photographer. Oh, give me a fucking break.
You're so great. Listen, I had to learn how to do it, but I don't, it doesn't give me enough
or even my subject enough, you know, real life going on. I don't know what it is. It's just,
it's so down to the person and me. That's like just too scary to me. Oh. You know, I just
like a breeze or something like anything else or you know rain happening or or you know and i i i
love landscape but um yes and i also really when we're setting up portraits love to start at
someone's you know home you know if we can't because there's a chair you sit in you're kind of
comfortable you can go off and change your shirt or you know do something and yeah there's something
about it i mean it's not something about it it is it's just more ideal you know um but obviously
it's some people are more private, but...
I notice a lot of the, in all of your work, a lot of your photographs, or many, I should
say, people are in bed, which I love.
Oh, no, no, no, this is so funny.
Okay, go ahead.
Well, I love it because there's something, obviously, very intimate.
I think people get relaxed when they're in bed, but I mean, like, I don't mean in bed,
like, necessarily posing in bed. I just mean in bed.
And I love bed.
There's a great tradition to all that.
No, Peter Usjar, there's a big resurgence of his work, but all of his portraits were people lying down in his bed.
You know, they would come and lay down.
And actually, my favorite picture of Susan Sontag is her, you know, kind of reclined in his bed, kind of laying down.
They're not, they're still clothed and everything.
They're just laying down.
Right.
But there was a period I was doing so many people in their beds that I came home from a shoot one day, and Susan said, would you stop photographing people in their beds? Just stop it. It's like, it's too much. And so, you know, I started to look and I saw Brad Pitt in this, like, orange bed.
Yes. I was just starting to look at, I guess, I guess she's right. You know, I have too many people in beds, you know. So I went, I had to sort of stop. It was terrible.
Yeah, but I'm going to say I think there's value to it.
I really do. I think there's something. I understand it. And I don't know. I personally dig it.
So, you know, I remember growing up and my mom and dad would be on Sundays, particularly all the funny papers would be, you know, all the papers would be in bed. And we'd all get in bed.
I know. We would, too, in my family. We would get in bed with my parents. It was really cozy corners. I liked it.
Yeah, it was great. Yeah.
What kind of kid were you like? Describe who you were as a child.
Unformed. Of course. Certainly unformed, you know, really unformed. But were you driven as a child? Were you sort of drawn to art in some way?
Well, we were brought up, all of us were brought up. I'm one of six kids. So first of all, you always felt abandoned. You were never, you know, because you were one of six. Like you never got any.
And you were number three, I think, is that right?
Yeah. And we moved a lot. Yeah. Which I loved and kind of, I think, I've talked about this before, but it follows through into the assignment work, you know, basically we,
we would be in Bloxie, Mississippi for two years, and then moved to Fort Worth, Texas, or something.
So, you know, when things got to be, oh, it's not really great here, I'm not having a great time, you knew you were going to leave.
So you didn't have to...
Oh, that's interesting.
Yeah, you could always reinvent herself in the next town.
Uh-huh.
That's actually really interesting.
You knew you were going to leave.
God.
So you didn't have, like, a sense when you were a kid of sort of longing to stay in one place.
You were kind of, you dug the moving around.
Wanted to leave.
Yeah.
You wanted to go.
You wanted to go at a certain point.
Wow.
And so my brothers and sisters were my best friends.
I have very few childhood friends that I can say, I don't have any kind of come to think of it.
Really?
Because we move so much.
It's always been about family.
Always been about family, which is why I wanted to have children along or not.
Yeah.
But it was beaten into us early on.
You know, like it's about family.
It's about family.
Well, it is ultimately, I think.
It is.
And right now it really is, yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, right now it really is.
Yeah.
Right now we really have to hold each other and our communities and our people together.
Yeah.
Because outside of it, it's a little strange.
So I'm going straight in Rolling Stone.
You were there, essentially the inception of Rolling Stone.
Were you a music lover?
No.
No.
No.
No.
It's really important to realize that I went to the San Francisco Art Institute as a painting major,
and then I took a night class in photography,
and then I became totally seduced and interested in photography
in the dark room and everything,
and I was interested in photography.
Yes.
And when I went to Rolling Stone,
it was a young magazine that did more than music.
They did popular culture.
They were politics a lot.
And I, you know, travel with people like Hunter Thompson and Tom Wolfe
and went down, you know, space launches.
It was like the music was like so predictable to me, you know, that work.
I mean, you were sort of at the,
mercy of whatever lighting person was, you know, what drugs they were on, you know, lighting the
stage.
Yeah.
I mean, it was like the worst, you know, I wasn't interested in, I wasn't a rock and roll
photographer.
I was a photographer.
And I applied what I had, you know, to, to that.
So, I mean, I love music, you know, I remember when I did the Rolling Stones tour as
a tour photographer in 1975, I wished I was on Bob Dylan's Rolling Thunder tour, you know, I didn't
really love the Rolling Stone's music. You know, it's like I thought, okay, you know, okay, Robert Frank, you know, was on their tour, you know, a couple of years before. And, you know, this film called Cuckers Blues, which never got seen. But I said, okay, okay, because, you know, McJacker called me up and said, would you be the tour photographer? And I did it, and it almost killed me. Yeah. Because I was so naive.
And did it kill you from the drug point of view and addiction and all of that or the schedule or all of the above and never sleeping? I'm assuming all of that. Probably all above. I mean, it goes, you know, taking drugs goes with, you know, not going to sleep or staying up for two or three days or whatever. Yeah, it does go with that. That's the equation.
But I didn't like it at all. I mean, I didn't like that it took over. So was not me. And then it took me while to not be that.
How did you not be that?
Well, I tried many, I tried to see therapists and people and blah, blah, blah, blah.
And then I eventually, I went into a place in Summit, New Jersey for a month, and I just, like that.
It was over.
Oh, you mean a rehab place?
Yeah.
It was just over.
It was just over.
I got the help.
I needed, and it was like, I said.
so encourage anyone. It's like, because, you know, it'll really want to do that. And then it's like, it's like they gave you all the tools you needed to not do it. And then you just move on. Oh, God. It's lucky for you that it worked as well as it did. My God, because a lot of people, that is not the case. But good for you. That's awesome. Can you tell the story, by the way, of, because it's a remarkable story. And I think it speaks to the ballziness of you, even if you didn't feel it, of the first time that you've photo.
John Lennon?
No, I mean, I, you know, again, was very young.
I just started working at Rolling Stone.
I had heard that Jan was going to New York to interview John.
And I started to talk about it and said, you know, why didn't you let me go and take the picture?
You know, I can stay with friends and fly youth fare for $75.
And you can own the negatives, I said.
Of course, that part he really liked.
And I think that's why I got to go.
Yeah.
But it was such an important sitting because it said for me what would be the predecessor for all the work I did from then on.
Because John and Yolko were so welcoming and easy.
Without affectation.
Yeah.
And they just let me roam around.
And, you know, I found out later that I think,
Yoko finally told me this like 20 years later or something that basically they were just so
thrown that Yon hadn't hired some big fancy photographer, you know, that they just kind of, you know,
and I was like so young and they just thought it was nice, you know, so they were so nice.
And then you got that amazing photo, I think, when you were just checking the light meter or something.
Yeah.
And to be clear, this is a solo portrait of John, not the one that you took a decade later of John and Yoko in bed,
together, the solo one.
So I had, at that point, I was trying to be, you know, Margaret Burke White from Life
Magazine, and I had like, you know, I went through all those stages, you know, like I'm, you
know, Eugene Smith from Life Magazine.
Oh, I'm a photojournalist, that's what I am.
But I had three cameras.
I had a camera that had a longer lens on it, a 105 that had a light meter in it.
So I would use that as my light meter, and it wasn't a lens I liked.
The 105 was a longer lens.
And then I had another camera that had the 35, which is Cartier-Abrezance, Robert Frank's, you know, lens of choice, which is closer to how the eye sees.
It's a little wider, and it's more environmental.
And so I was literally taking a light meter reading with John at the end of the table in a room, and I took a couple of pictures at the same time.
And then it was Jan who liked that picture.
And I didn't like it because it wasn't my kind of picture.
You know, I didn't like a long lens picture.
Yeah, but you know what's interesting, too, about that picture, actually, that has just occurred to me, is that there's no effect to it.
It sort of reminds me of the portrait of your mom in that sense.
That's right.
There's nothing between them and the lens.
It's just truth.
Yeah.
That's hard to get.
You know, I don't know if it's so hard to get as it is to realize that that's there and it's not gotten.
Oh, I see.
You know, I think I have a little more to learn.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
For sure.
Have you ever made a mistake and turned it?
Wait, listen.
Yeah, that's the question.
Have you ever made a mistake, Annie Leibovitz?
That's like, that's like you're talking about.
They're all mistakes.
And turn, no, like can you cite, and maybe the Lennon thing is an example of that, of making a mistake, a really,
a bad screw up and turning it into an asset somehow with your work?
Well, I mean, it's hard to even understand that question because on some level,
things happen like that.
I mean, it's, and you realize, I'm thinking about the Nancy Pelosi picture where I'm
spending three days with her at the Capitol, and I'm trying to catch up with her,
and she's in high heels, and she's, I can't, I cannot catch up with this woman.
I was trying to get in front of her, you know, like, and I couldn't do it.
And I just, you know, shot and I just, you know, went, you know, back to my studio or whatever and said, oh, this is such a failure.
And I looked at it and I said, oh, my God, that's Nancy Pelosi.
You can't keep up with her.
You know, she's like, you know, she's like running, you know, those men couldn't keep up with her.
And I just loved it.
I just loved it.
I mean, I go into a shoot and you try to be as prepared as possible.
And then you hope for something will happen that you didn't expect or you want.
You want something to happen that you know about.
I'm a very good editor.
I'm a very good editor.
I mean, there's a lot of stuff that's on the floor.
You know, that's like, you know, we want to throw away.
I'm not worried about how many pictures I take, you know, because I know that I'm a very good editor.
I love that story about Nancy.
You know, we talked to her on this podcast.
Yeah.
You know, what was really remarkable is that she's a big chocolate lover.
And so I gave her a box of chocolates.
This one in particular, we did this in person.
And I'll be goddamn.
She didn't start eating those chocolates right as we were.
talking. And it was actually really nice because I felt like she was loosening up. You know what I
mean? And she was talking with chocolate in her mouth. It was just awesome. Anyway, I digress.
No, no, that's not digress. I love that. That's great.
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I want to talk about Susan and your partnership with Susan.
And frankly, you know, a lot of people who listen to this thing, there's a lot.
Of course, grief is a part of life.
And if you've lived to a certain age, you know, you are going to have to walk with grief and be with it.
So I wanted to talk to you about that period of time in your life when you lost your partner, Susan Sontag, and your father, and you were having all these babies all within a very short period of time.
It was amazing. It was amazing.
How did you do it?
You do it.
You know, we, when Susan died, I wasn't even too sure I had any photographs of her.
But so she died and I tried when she died and at some level, you know, because it went over a long period of time, you know, when that happens, you're, there's a kind of a sense of relief as well, you know, that this person can be over that, you know, but basically they're on.
Although she never, it was really hard
as she never really wanted to die.
So, you know, that was really hard.
She said, I if I could just have five more years.
Yeah.
But we're all going to, you know, we're all certainly going to head there.
Yeah, we're all going to bite it at some point.
For sure.
So there was that work.
And then I had all this, these photographs I've never stopped taking photographs of my family.
I love my family.
I think they're in my best photographs.
And then, you know, the children came along, and there was that whole period.
And then Susan would get mad at me because she thought I didn't take enough pictures.
She said, why are you taking more pictures?
And I was like, she'd get mad at me about everything.
But so when you see in photographer's life, you know, I am really photographing her
because she wants to be photographed towards the end of her life.
It was really her wanting that.
Anyway, photographer's life is my best book because it's working, you see all of that
and you see the story of every man.
And you see the assignment work at the same time going on, you know, like Colin Powell and, you know.
Yeah, I know.
It's interesting how it all bumps up against each other.
You know, it's weird, too, when you have these big events happen.
I'm sure lots of people have this experience.
I certainly have, like, when I had a baby the first time, and my world was turned upside down the way it does for any mother.
and all of a sudden you and your life and your ego is on the back burner because somebody else's
ego is front burner and you're in charge. And that's a flip of a switch that's a biggie.
And I remember thinking, wow, and then, you know, and I'm driving in the car and he's in the car seat
and life is going on just like it was. What the hell? And your book tells that story.
It sounds like your work got you through that period of time.
Totally, and I've said that about this, that definitely I was really lucky to have my work.
Yeah.
And I'll tell you, when I worked on it, when I worked on the edit upstate in my barn, I mean, I was so deep into it.
It really was my year of magical thinking, you know, Joan Didion.
It's really, it really is, you go a little, you go insane, you know, you really do.
and I worked on the edit for the book and it was like I remember it was over 400 pages
and I took it into Andrew Wiley my agent to look at and he went through it and I kept waiting
for someone to say you can't do this book it's 400 pages you know you have to edit it down to
200 or something right and no one ever said that they were I think we were afraid to tell me
you know to edit or anything and we published it for over 400 pages of these pictures
and I never really
I never really thought anyone was looking at it
I mean I never thought anyone would look at it
you know what I mean it was it wasn't like something I did for anyone else
I did it for myself and so it was very strange when people started
looking at it I realized I had exposed my life
I don't think I could ever do that again like that
you know especially not with my children I mean they said that to me a few years
back they said mom oh they did yeah I mean and you have to respect that
Of course.
For sure.
How old are they now?
Well, Sarah's 24 and Susan and Samuel are 20, 19, they're 20.
Uh-huh.
I know.
Wow.
Right.
I know.
They're pretty cool.
They're pretty great.
Was it hard for you when your kids took off for college and stuff?
I remember the COVID drop off was tough because they just said, okay, drop them off.
And I was like, what?
What?
I know.
I can't go up to their room and just straighten out the bed or something.
I just went to a corner and cried.
It was like...
Me too.
Yeah.
Me too.
In fact, with our first son, when we had both of them and we dropped our first son off,
and I remember really having to keep it together because I didn't want to lose my shit in front of my younger son, who was, you know, 13 at the time.
But then when we dropped off our second kid, I started crying like we had had a horrific death in the family.
And my husband had to say to the taxi driver,
My wife's okay. It's all right. I just let it go. It's a bummer. I don't know. What's your experience now that sort of they're a little bit past that moment? I mean, I know your younger ones are still studying, but.
Yeah, there's still, I mean, if I'm having any issue now about being older, is that I decided to have them older. And I, you know, my older daughter gets mad at me if I don't take care of myself. Mommy, I want you, you know, live longer.
And I was like, you know, and you worry about that.
But I believed in setting by example, by just working and then letting them see me work.
For sure.
And not necessarily being so, so smothering and so close.
Because I just knew I was an older mom.
And I knew they were going to have to sort of deal with me leaving earlier than, you know, than possibly being around.
But were you always sanguine with it like that?
I mean, you sound very.
I think part of even having more than one child was so they would have each other.
Because, you know, I am very close with my siblings.
And, you know, when our parents did pass, you know, we really did close rank.
You know, we really are tighter, yeah.
Yeah, that's beautiful.
My husband's father, I used to say that his biggest accomplishment was that his own children were close.
And I think that there's something to be said for that.
I mean, you do realize it's pretty lucky.
what you have with your sibling.
Because a lot of families are not like that.
That's right, yeah.
And more families are not like that, actually.
Oh, God damn it.
I don't know if it was Margaret Meade.
Somebody said, somebody said the big life challenge was to reconcile a sibling relationship.
And if you can do that, you're well on your way.
Something to that effect.
I don't know if it's Margaret Meade or not.
We could say it is.
Doesn't it sound like Margaret Mead, do you think?
No, it really doesn't.
It sounds like me.
Bullshitting.
That's Jane Goodall.
She's talking about chimpanzees.
I do love that picture.
That's a funny thing finally looking at that picture of Jane Goodall and then like realizing, oh, because it was a very quick shoot.
And of course I wanted to be in the jungle with her or something.
Right.
Where were you?
No, we were like backstage somewhere I had like 10 minutes with her or something like that.
She hates having her picture taken, and maybe under those circumstances, she hated it.
And, you know, I took several pictures and then went away from it, and then I looked at it in her face and said, oh, my God.
Because at a certain point, she just stopped and gave me this look, you know, after like, you know, hating it, hating it.
And then she stopped and looked at me.
And I realized, oh, my God, she's looking at me.
That's why those chimpanzees really trust her because she was looking at, she was like dealing with it because everything's in her face.
Totally. And I have to say, am I crazy? But when I was looking at those pictures of her in your book, and I thought, oh, my God, does she look like this stunning chimpanzee in these photos? I'm not kidding.
Okay, now you're taking it too far. No, but I think it could have been the look. Because that look, I mean, that's not a look for a photograph. That is like, like, okay, I'm going to deal with this person.
who's insane, and I'm going to, like, you know, try to calm them down. And I'm going to do this.
Yeah. I mean, what an incredible woman. She was a powerhouse. Yeah. But wait a minute. I want to go
back to you having kids for a second. So you had your kids when you were in your 50s. Is that right? I'm not telling. I'm not telling you.
Oh, come on. You told me how old you were. No, no, no, no. Yeah, exactly 50. Yeah, 49.50. You know, what happened was
I was seeing my doctor and I was just crying because I said I realized it was my late 40s and I said
I can't believe I'd let this time go by and I haven't done this you know and I haven't had
children and you know Susan wasn't interested in children and because she was a big child
and you know it wasn't interested and I would talk about it every now and then and she was not interested
And we didn't, besides, we didn't really have that kind of relationship.
You know, we had two separate apartments, and she really had her, you know, we had our own world.
But we really supported each other tremendously.
But so, so he said to me, you can do it.
And I said, really?
And I did it.
Wow.
Was it hard to be pregnant at that age or not so much?
No, not really.
I was working.
I was working.
Yeah, right.
I went on working.
I remember going down to do Willie Nelson.
and I was really pregnant, and there was so much pot, you know, and it was like, we were all stoned by my whole family, I'm sorry, my whole crew.
Yeah.
And then we all went to, you know, what is it, that salt pit afterwards to have like, you know, ribs or something because we ate like crazy.
Because we were stone.
We had second, you know, what is it?
Secondhand smoke.
Secondhand smoke.
And it's just like, I love Willie Nelson.
Okay.
He's the greatest.
Okay.
Now, let me ask you a couple of quick questions.
Is there something you go back and tell yourself at the age of 21?
I feel really lucky what I had the opportunity to do.
I don't know if I wouldn't want to be 21 again.
No, I wouldn't either.
Yeah.
Forget it.
I mean, I edited my first half of my work, 1973 to 1983.
I edited that those 10 years in depth.
And I can stand outside of myself and look at that work and see this kind of energy and
verve and insanity of the way I was working.
and I kind of love whoever that person was, but I would have wanted to be that person again.
So I'm guessing then, another question that I often ask folks is, is there something that you wish you'd said yes to?
But it sounds like you said yes to everything that you wanted to say yes to.
That was the problem.
I mean, everything was just too interesting.
Yeah, right.
Everything.
Every single thing was interesting.
I was just interested in everything.
What are you looking forward to?
I just am so lucky that I love what I do, and I think it's the key is what you hope for your children is they find something they love to do.
Please, Christ.
Because it just really makes it all just so incredible.
Oh, it truly does.
There's nothing more rewarding than that, for real.
So any one final question, is there anything you want me to know about aging?
I think we started at the very beginning just to say that I'm really enjoying it.
You know, I mean, I'm enjoying kind of knowing what I'm doing except for this sort of stuff, podcast stuff.
You did good.
You did good.
No, no.
You did.
I mean, you know, here's what I like.
No, because we had a conversation, which I appreciate.
Yeah.
You know, I like when we go off and we go somewhere else, and I mean, I'm enjoying it.
Fuck it.
What choice do we have and let's go and there's a lot to do still?
One step at a time here, you know?
One step at a time.
And I really admire you and I am very grateful.
I am.
I really do admire you an enormous amount.
I really do.
I always have.
So thanks for taking the time today.
Thank you, Julia.
Thank you.
Well, Annie Leibovitz is an extraordinary human being.
There's no doubt about it.
I know my mom thinks so, too.
So I can't wait to hear what she has to say about my conversation with Annie.
Let's get her on the Zoom.
Hi, Mommy.
I lovey.
How are you doing?
I'm doing fine.
Doing fine.
How are you doing?
I'm exhausted and very happy.
I just had a really nice conversation with Annie Leibovitz.
Oh, what a figure, right?
Totally.
But the other thing was incredible about Annie was having a baby when she was 52.
She had a baby when she, her first baby when she was 50, and then she had twins four years later.
She had the twins by a surrogate, but these are her babies who are now in their early 20s.
Isn't that incredible?
Incredible.
Now, where she got the strength and the confidence to do.
do that in her 50s?
I can remember reading about that at the time and thinking how possibly what she had to do
to her body and what she had to go through was incredible, and she must have had a drive
that was enormous to do that.
Yeah, I know.
I admire her for it.
So here is something else that she said, which I thought it was really interesting to think
about.
She says her mother always wanted them to smile in photos.
because they took a lot of family photos.
She is one of six kids.
And she has learned to never trust a smile, says Annie.
Actually, you look at family pictures, and they all have these smiles pasted.
We all have our smiles pasted on our face.
Yeah.
And it's funny because you and I both have really big smiles.
We have, you know, I inherited this big jaw from you.
Right.
This big.
this big mouth and I'm very used to smiling for photos and people even photographers have always said
you know they want me to smile sometimes it's like less smile actually one time I was I was having
my photo taken at the DMV and the ladies they took it and then she looked at me and she goes
okay let's do one more a little less smile
And you know what else this reminds me of, Mom?
Do you remember that story about Henry when you were trying to take his picture?
You came when Charlie, our second son, was born.
Will you tell what Henry said to you?
You were trying to take his picture?
Yeah.
And he was with Charlie.
And so I said to him, I don't remember if I said smile, but I said, look happy.
And so he said, Granny, I haven't been happy one single day since Charlie was born.
Now, by the way, I'd like to say the two boys are now like...
No, I know.
They're joined at the hip.
I want that for sure that Charlie knows that he was so welcome in the world.
No, of course.
No, no.
But the thing is, it was an honest child reaction to the moment and to your point, you know, they're thick as thieves, those two.
And I remember that somebody said to me one time, if you can.
survive a sibling, you can survive anything in life. Well, now, who said that? Because I mentioned
this to Annie Leibovitz, and I thought maybe it was Margaret Mead, but it wasn't. Who was it?
I have no idea. Maybe you've heard me say it before. Yes, then you were the one I was quoting,
but you don't know who you were quoting. No, I don't know who I was quoting. I didn't make it up.
Yeah. Okay, so I got news for you. It is Margaret Mead.
Okay, listen to this.
Sister is probably the most competitive relationship within the family.
But once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship.
I would replace the word sister with sibling.
Well, anyway, that sort of dances around the idea, I guess.
Right, right.
You know, sharing a parent's love is like threatening beyond measure.
And that's what happens with the sibling.
You have to share the love, and that's especially if you're the king or the queen and you're used to having it all to yourself and then all of a sudden when this little wee.
Yeah, I know.
I mean, it is such a hard transition to make, but then once that transition is made, you know, you're the better for it.
The siblings are, like I said, they're just joined at the hip.
All right, Mom, I'm happy I got to chat with you once again.
Same for me. I'm always happy to chat with you. The more, the merrier.
Okay. Love you, Mom. Have a fabulous day.
You too. Love you.
Bye. Love you. Bye.
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