Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus - Julia Gets Wise with Beverly Johnson
Episode Date: April 10, 2024This week on Wiser Than Me, Julia spends time with 71-year-old supermodel and trailblazer Beverly Johnson. Julia and Beverly dive into modeling in the 1970s, including what it was like for Beverly to ...find out she would be the first Black woman on the cover of American Vogue. Julia and Beverly discuss self confidence, and the two open up about their experiences with menopause. Plus, Julia follows up with her mom, Judy, about being in front of the camera.  Follow Wiser Than Me on Instagram and TikTok @wiserthanme and on Facebook at facebook.com/wiserthanmepodcast.  Keep up with Beverly Johnson @iambeverlyjohnson on Instagram.  Find out more about other shows on our network @lemonadamedia on all social platforms.  Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.  Maker’s Mark is a proud sponsor of Wiser Than Me. Celebrate the wise women in your life by creating a custom, personalized label from artist Gayle Kabaker today at www.makersmark.com/personalize.  Hairstory is a proud sponsor of Wiser Than Me. Check out their hero product, New Wash, today at Hairstory.com and get 20% off with code WISER.  This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/wiser for 10% off your first month.  COVERGIRL is a proud sponsor of Wiser Than Me. Check out their Simply Ageless Skin Perfector Essence. Learn more at covergirl.com. Only from Easy, Breezy, Beautiful COVERGIRL.  For exclusive discount codes and more information about our sponsors, visit https://lemonadamedia.com/sponsors/.  For additional resources, information, and a transcript of the episode, visit lemonadamedia.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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You know, I don't usually play characters who are first and foremost beauties.
I mean, you know, Elaine, for example, she was cute enough, but there was no requirement
of beauty and the character didn't lead with that.
And maybe it's a lucky thing too because I have a semi uncomfortable relationship with
my looks.
I mean, well, no, I mean, not exactly. Okay, that's not fair.
I'm actually perfectly fine looking how I look. What I mean is, is that sure, some days I wish I looked younger, prettier, sexier, you know, whatever.
But that's a, you know, that's like a cultural requirement for women and that is a different subject.
So never mind.
I like to play characters.
That's what I like.
When I'm required to be just me, when the focus is my image in front of a camera with
no script, no character, that's harder for me.
I've always felt so ill at ease on the red carpet for this reason.
I'm not exactly complaining.
I really am not.
I know I'm lucky to be there.
This is a good problem to have.
But it doesn't mean I feel comfortable.
And the same thing is true at photo shoots, too.
I'm always trying to look like I'm at ease.
But my interior monologue is just going a mile a minute,
and it's basically saying, get me the fuck out of here. I mean really don't get me wrong I do love to get dressed up.
I love pretty clothes like I mean I really love them. I love having my hair
and makeup done generally speaking you know assuming it turns out okay. But the
part of walking the carpet or posing on a photographer's set has always been a challenge for me.
Like, I often find myself actually holding my breath without realizing it.
I actually get lightheaded.
I have to remind myself to breathe.
I never really feel quite up to the task.
And I can really obsess on how I look after the fact, which is a bad place for me to go.
I've discovered that my resting face is not always good for photos because I look sort of mean.
And if I smile, it's usually better. So sometimes I just am smiling like a crazy
person up and down the carpet. Oh, God, it's hard, man. This is such a silly thing to complain about, of course, but here's where I'm going.
I am amazed at how some people can just command that moment, that moment in front of a photographer's
lens when it's really only about you.
So I have enormous admiration.
I'm in awe of the people who can do it. What a skill. It takes a kind of daring and
confidence and fearlessness that just blows me away.
So once I was shooting Veep in London and Lady Gaga was seeing at the same hotel
where we were all staying and a ton of fans were always waiting outside the hotel behind these little barricades at all hours waiting for her to make an
appearance. And every time she came out of the hotel, and this could be by the
way several times in a day, she would be in a completely totally different
outfit every time and each one was more outrageous than the last. Like there was
one sort of a hidey thing with braids
that were wired to stick straight out.
And then there was one with the most extravagant
giant feathered parasol, and one that was like a hefty bag
with these crazy revealing holes in it.
And then one night I was coming in, she was coming out,
and she was in this kind of a white gown
like a chrysalis or something and she
could barely move her feet and she goes out in front of all these fans clamoring for her
and she just unfolds herself and holds her arms out like this, like wings, and the front
of her gown becomes a bed sheet of the Mona Lisa. I mean it's a whole goddamn painting. It was just so
dazzlingly preposterous. If I ever wore something like that, people would just have to laugh at me.
I would laugh at me just thinking about it. It cracks me up. But Gaga can do it because she's
got that thing, you know, that total commitment to her persona.
She's like, I am fucking Gaga.
And I was gobsmacked, as they say in the UK, by her presence, her delivery.
She owned that space.
And the real, the super, super, super star, super model types. That's what they can do. They own it.
It's their superpower.
So sure, I can fake it or parody it.
No problem.
I think I could play it and get a laugh,
but I need that distance.
It's not really me.
So if you see me on the carpet for some awards thing
or a gala or a benefit smiling away,
and this is just between you and me,
dear listener. It's a performance. But a select few women, they can do it for real
and fewer still can take that skill, that command and through hard work, brains and
yeah, beauty, create a career that goes well beyond celebrity and fashion, and opens up opportunity for women across the world.
And one of those women is with us today, Beverly Johnson.
["Wiser Than Me"]
Hi, I'm Julia Louis-Dreyfus, and this is Wiser Than Me,
the podcast where I get schooled
by women who are wiser than me. Okay, so imagine you are a super smart bookish nerd.
You're a lanky 5 foot 10, you're an Olympic level swimmer with a full ride scholarship
to Northeastern University, but you're also so gorgeous that you get the chance to give
up the pool and become a supermodel. Would you take it?
Well, that's exactly what happened to our guest today.
And she did become a supermodel and convinced her professors
to give her college credit for modeling.
I told you she was super smart.
But when she got in front of a camera, boom!
She became one of the most successful models of all time.
And this started in the 1970s in New York, so that means she's queen of the most successful models of all time. And this
started in the 1970s in New York, so that means she's Queen of the City, you know?
Hanging out at Studio 54 with Halston and Grace Jones and Andy Warhol. She and
Jackie O were on a first-name basis. She was living the life. I mean, honestly, I
cannot even imagine the glamour. So how successful was she?
She did the cover of Vogue, the first ever black model on the cover of the magazine.
Do you know just how impactful it must have been for so many women to finally see themselves
on the cover of the most important fashion magazine in the world?
That historic moment marked a turning point in the fashion industry and opened doors for
models of diverse backgrounds to finally step in.
God, it was about time.
And she's done more than 500 magazine covers since.
The New York Times named her as one of the 20th century's 100 most influential people
in fashion.
She has become this powerful symbol for representation in the industry.
So you get the idea.
This is a true fashion icon, and it doesn't stop with the modeling.
She's also an actress, a businesswoman, a trailblazer, an important activist,
a mother and a grandmother, and a force of nature, and she's clearly wiser than me.
God, it is so fabulous to welcome Beverly Johnson.
Hi, Beverly.
Hi. Thank you for that introduction.
Oh my God. Thank you for your wonderful self. So we always start this podcast with some pretty
upfront questions. Are you comfortable telling me your real age?
Yes. What is it?
You tell me. What is your real age?
I lie so much. I really don't know.
age? I lie so much. I really don't know. I believe you're 71, Beverly. Is that correct? Oh, okay. Yes, I'll go with that. Okay. But now listen, how old do you feel? Oh, gosh.
Embarrassing. Tell me. I'm a teenager. You are for real? Yes, I'm a teenager.
Explain to me, why are you a teenager at heart?
How would you characterize that?
Well, I'm blushing now.
I'm all giddy after that introduction.
Not like I haven't heard it before, but it's just something that comes over me that becomes very young
and naive and feeling very kind of giddy.
Yeah, that's nice. And so what would you say is the best part about being your age? What's
the best part of that? I mean, if there is a best part of it.
Oh, it's all good. It's really all wonderful. I'm more in touch with how I feel and how my spiritual aura is, you
know, what I'm doing, am I going to the parent-teacher meeting for my grandchildren? I mean, I'm all
about other things. And so I don't really think about the 71. If that makes sense?
Yeah, it does. It means you're living life fully is what it sounds like to me.
In the moment. I'm in the moment. You're in the moment. Yes. you're living life fully, is what it sounds like to me. In the moment.
I'm in the moment.
You're in the moment.
Yes.
You're a mindful person.
Yes, I am.
I've always been.
I have girlfriends that we were best friends since the day we were born.
Yes.
Is this Dada?
Yeah.
You talk about in your book?
Yes, Dada.
And she says you're exactly the same person.
Oh.
I'm like, I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.
That's a very good thing.
I mean, I think I know what you mean, though.
I mean, you want to evolve, right, as a human being?
Right.
But I think she was talking about personality.
She gave me this letter because we used to pass the letters to each other every single
day on the bus.
And we live next door to each other.
Oh, lucky you.
And she's a pack rat.
And she collected everything. Beverly Johnson and her attic.
I mean like mannequins and everything.
I said, this is getting creepy, Dada.
This is getting creepy.
You know?
Yeah.
And I'm not sentimental at all.
So she gave me one of these letters, which I'm sorry she did because I've lost it already.
But it said, hey, he didn't speak to me, but that's okay.
I know he likes me. I'm just going to ace
this test and have a great day. I said, I'm the same person. Okay. So now that speaks to what I am
so struck with about you, Beverly. I mean, okay, you seem to me to be a very driven person. Yes.
I mean, from the get go as a student, as an athlete, I mean, you have to be driven
to be an athlete, as a model, as a businesswoman, as an advocate.
Yes.
And I think this drive is also spilled into your ability to stand up to bullies and to
sexual harassers and to stand up to leaders in the workplace, you know, like Eileen Ford
and Anna Wintour, just to name a few. So where do you think that that extraordinary drive comes from Beverly?
I mean, and has it gotten bigger, stronger, more muscular?
Where does this come from in you?
I believe that I was born with the fire in my belly.
I believe I was just born this way.
Really?
Because I can't think not being this way. Really? Because I can't think not being this way.
I'm an introvert.
I'm a very quiet child.
And they used to call me the alien, you know, my brothers and sisters, because I was very
methodical.
You know, I get the A's on my report card and they say, here she is.
She's getting the A's again.
You know, she's ironing her clothes for
the whole week of school.
Oh, I see. Uh-huh.
It's just who I am.
Were your parents like that?
Well, they were very methodical in what they were doing and in life and about us, you know, us children in the household. So I would say more my mother than my dad.
My dad, you know, was a steel laborer and my mother was a nurse, but she, she was a
housewife before that.
I remember her studying because, you know, they weren't, they needed more money and she
was studying these books about becoming a surgical technician.
Wow.
And, you know, I'm always fascinated with books and my father was a big reader.
So all of us kids are very big readers.
And I just looked at her and I was like, wow, and it was so complicated.
And I said, are you going to pass?
She said, oh yeah, I'm going to pass.
So I think I got that from her.
Oh, yeah.
You got that from her.
Yeah. And there she was, you know, the
woman in your life modeling this example of total excellence and determination. Yes. Yeah.
Obviously, you are known for your extraordinary all of your work, but in particular, the famous
American Vogue cover. I mean, that was not a fluke. That was something that you
had been working towards as a young model.
Yes.
Can you explain what happened then?
So Eileen Ford was the most powerful woman in the fashion industry.
Yes.
And it was the first woman that I saw that really wielded power. You know, I go to the
agency just to observe her and the business because
I'm learning. That's what I do. I'm learning.
Yeah. You watch.
I watch and I realized that I needed that Vogue cover to be the top model in the world.
I needed to get a cosmetic contract, do a beauty book because this is what I'm learning.
Right?
Yes.
So I make an appointment with her, Eileen Ford, and she's very matter of fact, I adore
her and she's been a very big help for defining who I am.
I just want to say that up front.
But then I said, you know, Eileen, I like to have, I want to do a beauty book, I want
a cosmetic contract, and I want to be on the cover of American Vogue.
And she said, you'll never be on the cover of American Vogue." And she said, you'll never be on the cover of American Vogue.
And she's a tough lady, but I was like, taking back, she said, who do you think you are?
Cleopatra?
And I thought to myself, underneath my breath, I said, that's exactly who I think I am.
Yeah, exactly.
But one thing I knew was, as this 19 yearyear-old or 20-year-old, however old I was, that I
wasn't going to get that cover there.
But let me ask you something for a second.
When she said that to you in that moment, did she make you feel shame at all or not?
No.
Was there a glimmer of it?
None of it.
No.
God, I just love this.
Right.
I don't know why, but no, no.
I didn't feel ashamed.
I analyzed the situation and thought, well, I'm not going to get that cover here.
And you can't leave this woman because I've heard about who leaves Eileen Ford, what happens
to that model.
Right.
And that's why I decided that I was going to write her a note and tell her how her and Jerry were like parents to me and how much respect I had for them and that, you know,
I'm going to another modeling agency, but I would hope that if I ever changed my mind
that they would accept me back.
Okay.
You know what?
It's like you're playing chess and you're five steps ahead.
That's what's happening right now in this story.
To me anyway, that's how it strikes me because that is just smart as shit that you did that.
And so she obviously was not offended, correct?
She wasn't offended that you left once you wrote the letter or what?
I have no idea.
All I know is that my bookings increased so that people were booking me to find out why
I left Eileen Ford and what has she done.
I don't think that's not the only reason they booked you.
You had good representation then at the Wilhelmina agency, right?
Wilhelmina was an amazing lady, an incredible woman in person, yes.
And first of all, she had hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of vote cover.
I mean, she was a huge fashion model and she was a model for Eileen Ford.
So she's in, I go in the office, they say she'll see you now.
I go in the office and she has her feet up on the table, legs crossed on the table.
And she has a slice of pizza in one hand and a cigarette in the
other. And I'm like, Oh, I like this lady. I mean, I'm just like, she was just the coolest
ever. And that's how our whole relationship started. She was just a really nice woman
and I told her what I wanted. She said, Oh, I'll get it for you. I'll do it. Wow. And she did. Wow.
But the one thing that I like to say.
Yes.
After I got the cover and I was there, I don't know, maybe six months, maybe eight months,
two years, I went back to Eileen Ford.
Oh, you did?
Oh, absolutely.
Okay.
Now, wait a minute.
Explain that to me.
Why?
I'm so curious.
Because she's the biggest modeling agency in the world.
And that's where I needed to be.
So she could get you more gigs, better gigs?
I could capitalize off of the Vogue cover I made.
Now, I don't know where I got that from,
but I learned a lot from her because when she saw me,
Eileen Ford said, welcome home, baby.
And did she say, was there any kind of ownership
that she had made a mistake or anything?
None, none, none, none. It was business as usual. It was business as usual. No. Ownership that she had made a mistake or anything? None. None.
None.
None.
It was business as usual.
It was business as usual.
They were booking me.
They were on top of it.
I was like, I just shot.
Yeah.
And I knew that.
You were just shot.
Straight up.
Yeah.
Right.
Well, what about Wilhelmina?
What was that like, leaving Wilhelmina?
I did the same thing with her.
You wrote another letter, I hope.
I didn't write a letter, I told her in person.
And she understood, smart lady, she understood.
And I had gone back and forth to her a few times.
Anyways, I was just making moves.
How I knew this to do as a 1920, 21 year old,
little naive young lady from Buffalo, New York,
I have no idea.
Yeah, exactly. And you say you're naive. I'm not so sure you're that naive. I mean,
it sounds like you, you, you got
intuition. I don't know.
Yeah. It's an instinct. It's an instinct. It's a drive. It's ambition. It's an instinct. That's
just really strong. But wait a minute, so can we just talk about life in
New York?
Yes.
In the 70s?
Oh my goodness.
First of all, you've got so many fabulous stories. I would love to hear every single
one of them, but there's one in particular I need to know about. You talk about being
at Studio 54 once, but it was for three days straight. For three days, once, but it was for three days straight.
For three days, for three days, yes.
Okay.
So could you please walk us through what that was all about?
Because you actually slept there?
Well, I don't really know if we were sleeping, but I was there for three days.
But what you have to understand is I'm working all the time, all over the world. And I don't really
get a chance to partake in the nightlife and all that was going on in that era, in the
70s or 80s, because I'm gone, right? I'm living out of a suitcase. So I take this opportunity
to say, I'm going to go to Studio 54. And I drive up in a taxi and of course, you know,
it's mounds of people standing out front.
And I see this little guy, Steve Rebell now, I didn't know that.
He says, come up and it's like the parting of the...
Parting of the seas.
Thank you.
And I walk in and I had never experienced anything like that before.
Studio 54, just the music and the joy and people walking around in their underwear.
It wasn't all out front.
There's different layers and me, I have to investigate every part of it.
Some places I shouldn't have gone down to, but I went everywhere in Studio 54.
What places should you not have gone down to?
Downstairs.
What happens?
Not that, well, I just want to see.
It was a lot going on.
Let's just put it that way.
It was a lot going on down there.
Things that I had never seen before.
No, come on.
Up close and in person.
Are you talking about sexual things going on?
Yes, yes, yes.
Is that what you mean?
Yes, yes.
Everyone's doing it every which way, essentially?
Oh, man.
It was surely an education.
Oh, it was surely an education. But then, then, then Halston and Steve Rebell and all the designers and you know, that,
that don't really get to see me in a really social setting, just embrace me.
And we, we know we had just had really deep conversations, you know, all night and I don't
know if somebody went home or whatever, and then they had racks of clothing for models or whatever, or women or whatever.
We could change there.
I mean, it was just one of those kind of things.
And you would stay and then you would have breakfast and then sort of, and then have
conversations and then the partying would start up again?
And then the party starts up all over again.
Wow. Don't go anywhere.
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So I'm so intrigued about one aspect or the main aspect of the, when you got your Vogue cover, that it hadn't occurred to you that you were going to be the first
black woman on the cover and that you, you were sort of thrust into this role
of role model.
Yes.
And you know, it's funny because as I was thinking about that,
I was thinking about my own experience,
like when I was on Seinfeld.
And I mean, this really isn't the same thing, of course.
This is, of course, on a much smaller scale.
But I was the only woman on the show.
And people would ask me a lot about being the only woman
and being this sort of feminist
character and feminist sort of role model in the world of comedy.
And I was like, I don't consider myself that necessarily, even though I may be, but I didn't
approach it like that.
Can you talk about that?
So it's very similar to your situation.
You were doing your job, you know, in job that you loved, and you didn't really understand the
environment that you were placed in and what you stood for, for so many women like myself,
working at an echelon where women never worked before.
And so for myself, as I tell people, discrimination isn't out loud.
They don't go around saying, there's been no black people on the cover of Vogue.
People just don't go around announcing things like that.
Hey, I'm a racist.
People just don't do that.
So I used to kind of hear like little whispers or whatever, but it never occurred to me that
there had
never been a black woman on the cover of Vogue. And actually being a sixties little girl.
Oh, wait a minute, wait a minute. Can I just interrupt you?
Yes, please.
So that when Eileen said to you, that's never going to happen, it didn't occur to you in
that moment that she meant because you're a black woman.
No, I, I, I, no.
She just said it.
Okay, carry on.
Yeah.
So, and then you kind of hear what's, you know, it's the sixties, now it's the seventies,
we had overcome all of that, that you as a young person think that, you know, racism
is behind us.
That's the naive part of me.
Yeah, it's over now.
It's over now.
So when I was getting all these interviews from right around the world, they would say,
how does it feel to be the first black model on a cover of Vogue magazine?
I'm like, well, oh, I am?
They said, yeah, you are.
Do you know what you're doing?
And so I was like, holy moly.
Wait a minute, I just want to be on the cover because there was this guy at Tufts University
that nobody, I couldn't
get any guys.
And I thought that I could get the guys and party a little and have some fun.
This is not what I signed up for and make some money for my family.
And so I was kind of like taken back.
So that pushed me into a self-discovery journey.
What's this thing about race?
What is it?
Now, really, what is this?
Yeah.
And I was mad that there hadn't been a black person on the cover of Vogue magazine.
I was very upset that that even existed.
Yeah, of course.
I mean, you must have been furious.
And it's not like it's easy to be a model anyway, right?
Well, the thing is that when you become a model, I mean like immediately, like say,
I don't know if the first job was 18 or 19, because I don't really keep up.
I knew that the other models were on my heels.
So time is like this in your model.
You're waiting for that day when the phone doesn't ring.
Oh, God.
It's kind of like an actor.
You're waiting for it when it's going to be over.
Kind of, yeah.
It was the best thing Eileen Ford ever told me.
She said, 99.9% of models leave the business broke.
Don't be one of them.
So I take things like that to heart.
What did you do?
I immediately started taking acting classes.
I started being a host on a teller.
I mean, I started just, you know, reaching out because
I didn't know what I wanted to do.
So I did everything.
I wanted to learn about everything because I didn't really know what was going to click.
I went to Brooklyn College at nights, you know, I'd started just preparing for that.
And so that happens very early on in a model's life.
You're expendable.
And so you just prepare for it.
And also the whole thing about your weight and your...
Because what happens is that you have a talent, right?
You're a comedian, you have something.
I have this.
My talent is me, my flesh and, you know, me.
Other people play the instrument or they're writers or they whatever.
Our talent is us, physically us.
That must be a struggle because a lot of weight is put on the physical exterior.
The exterior.
Yeah. Have you had to work hard in your life to validate yourself beyond your exterior?
I mean, how could you not to a certain extent?
I mean, find your self-worth beyond your beauty?
No, I always had that.
You always had it.
I always had my self-worth.
And I knew how to control it in a sense that, like I tell young models, I said, why don't
you let me tell the person, you know, I'd be the big sister.
Let me fight your battles right here.
I don't want you to go out on a limb on that one.
You know, the photographer did something to do.
Have you done that for people?
Oh, yeah.
Oh, yes.
Oh, yes.
The young models? Oh, for sure. What does that mean? Like you call an agent or you call such and that for people? Oh yeah, oh yes, oh yes. The young models, oh for sure. What does that mean?
Like you call an agent or you call such and such for them?
Yeah, and I said, this photographer is doing this
and that and the other, and you know,
you gotta watch out for this guy.
But if they did it, they'd be blackballed.
Even today, this is true?
Even today.
What the hell?
Beauty is tricky, is it not?
It's tricky, but it's power.
That's right.
And when you walk into a room, I hope you don't mind my asking this,
are you assuming everyone's going to look at you when you walk in a room?
I make everyone look at me.
Uh-huh. You know, I think from, you know, from my point of view, just, I mean, of course, looks
are a part of being an actor, but in the aspect of the business that I'm involved with, well,
first of all, it's hard to age for sure.
There's no getting around it. You know, I look at myself today in whatever the latest thing I did versus 10 years ago
and to see that change on camera is cuckoo bananas and you really have to work hard to
reconcile it.
But I mean, what's the alternative?
Not doing it?
I don't think so.
I mean, I consider myself a very driven person.
I can tell that you are a very driven person.
Are you still modeling?
Yes.
I've done about 20 covers in the last few years.
But the whole thing about beauty and aging, maybe what's a difference for me is that it's
my business, right?
It's my business. Yeah. So I love finding out what's a new
product. I love finding out what's a new machine that they have, the new laser that's going
to do this and that and all that stuff fascinates me because that's the business that I'm in.
Right. What's your take on plastic surgery? I love plastic surgery.
Black people, we don't crack, but we do keloid.
So you guys got to run up on us over there too.
You mean as in keloid scars?
Is that what you're talking about?
Yes.
Yes.
We can't cut ourselves because there's going to be a scar.
Oh.
So if you do, you have to do it.
I'm trying to figure that part out also.
Whoever figures that out, boy, they're going to be making a lot of money.
Well, it might be you.
But anyways, I love all that.
I love being able to live a long, healthy, beautiful life the way you want to live it.
People like gray hair and whatever.
Some people really do.
They treasure the sign of honor, badge of honor to have wrinkles.
I think that's great.
But I think there's also people that want to look a certain way.
And I think that's great too.
And so then when you're like on a set and you're doing a modeling gig or maybe you're
doing a runway and there are younger women there, is that like, do you have to do a mind game on yourself
to sort of keep yourself feeling, I don't know what, confident in those moments?
No.
You do not? Really, Beverly?
Not at all. You know why? Because I did Fashion Week a couple of years ago or two years ago.
Believe me, I had to train and everything to get ready to walk in seven inch heels.
You just don't go out there and start walking around.
But on Beverly Johnson, I show up as Beverly Johnson.
Yeah, I hear that.
Nobody can touch that.
Nobody can touch that.
I like that.
I like that a lot.
I remember when I was doing my show, Ve and I, there was this moment when we were on set and I realized, oh my God, I'm the oldest person on this fucking show.
It hadn't even occurred to me. And, and on the one hand, I'm like, oh, I'm the oldest person because I'm very used to being sort of the youngest person in a way. But then on the other hand, there's this feeling like, yeah, I'm the oldest person.
I know the most here.
And so there's a pride of ownership of that that is valid and useful, right?
Yes.
And people are coming over to you saying, oh, I really admire your work and all that
you've done and you've got to take all that in.
Well, they better come over to me.
Exactly. Right. They better all that in. Right, well they better come over to me. Exactly.
They better.
Bow down.
Right, exactly.
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So we talked about this a little with your mentorship.
You support women in a multitude of ways.
And I include in that that you came forward in 2014, you came forward with your experience
with Bill Cosby.
You've said you did this because you wanted to add credibility to the women who had already
spoken out about him.
Was this an easy decision to make,
or did you wring your hands, or?
Oh my God.
The vote cover was the defining moment in my life
where I became a face.
Yes.
Coming out about Bill Cosby
was the other defining moment in my life
where I used my voice.
I became a voice.
And it was very difficult.
I can't even tell. I'm still suffering, I became a voice and it was very difficult.
I can't even tell.
I'm still suffering, but it was very difficult.
Why are you suffering still?
This is something that the magnitude of it because of who he was and who he was to the
black world.
And I knew it was going to be polarizing.
I knew it.
I knew exactly what it was going to be like. I thought, you know, I knew it was going to be polarizing. I knew it. I knew exactly what it was going to be like.
I thought, you know, I knew it.
But I could not not express myself.
I could not let these women that were telling their stories be called a bunch of liars and
everything when I knew they were telling the truth because it happened to me.
And not only that, Julia, I wasn't raped.
I got away without the rape part.
He just drug me by the grace of God.
I know by the grace of God. But let me tell you something. That is what's so incredible
about this story about your story and who you are.
Well basically I called him a bunch of names and he was shocked.
Yeah, but that's a way of fighting. You paralyzed him and kept him from physically attacking
you, although he'd already attacked you by giving you that horrible drug.
But anyway, I want to say a few things.
Number one, thank you for speaking out and using your voice.
And I'm sorry if it's still giving you anxiety of any kind, but as a woman, I say thank you
because that was incredibly, it was critical that you did it and that someone
of your stature did it is remarkable. And so I stand in awe of you. I applaud you for
that. And I thank you for it. And while understanding how difficult that was, particularly because
he was such a figure in the African American community and in our country.
I mean, to everyone, you know.
It was tough, but it was great.
I do it again.
And it was really wonderful to now be able to, you know, women come up to me and say,
you know, I had a me too moment.
You know, because we never talked to each other.
You know, Janice Dickinson and I were like this.
We went all over the world together.
We never mentioned it to each other.
Do you think I would have went over there to that man's house if I hadn't somebody
had told me, don't go to that man's house, girl.
I would never have gone.
Nobody said anything.
So important.
We've got a long way to go, but we've come a long way.
Oh yeah, for sure. Your advocacy is really a common thread throughout your life, standing up for
other models in the fashion industry, you know, speaking out against sexual harassers.
I know you've also been a big advocate for women's health in particular by sharing your
own story with menopause.
Can you talk about that, Beverly, because I'm not sure everybody knows that story.
I think it's really worth having a conversation about that.
Throughout my career, being interviewed,
if you ask me how I am, I'm gonna tell you.
So don't ask me how I am,
because I'm gonna tell you how I am.
Good, I wanna hear it.
Whether it was about depression, addiction,
or whatever, I've always spoken out about things.
And so I had this near-death experience through menopause in a sense that
I had to have an emergency operation, to have a hysterectomy and all these things happened.
You were young. You were like 47.
Yes, yes. And the doctors didn't tell you. They were like, oh, yeah, that's right. You're
in full-blown menopause. Well, thanks for telling me.
Well, now, wait a minute.
They gave you a hysterectomy, and in advance of that, they didn't tell you this is going
to catapult you into menopause.
Nobody gave you that information.
No.
God.
Yeah.
So the whole thing was, it was my near-death experience.
Almost died, right?
So during the hysterectomy-
Because why?
Because why?
Because I went into my hysterectomy. I didn't think I had to tell anybody or whatever.
It's like a normal operation that women get.
So, you know, whatever, it was really played down.
So, it was one old boyfriend and he's the only one that shows up at the hospital.
I'm going, oh my God, something, you know, I'm in a lot of pain.
And the nurses are going like, she's not in any pain.
You know, you don't have any pain once you have. And sure enough, I was bleeding internally, bleeding. And they
called the doctor in at midnight. And I had passed out. I saw my father, my father had
passed away. I saw my father walking towards me really fast. And I'm happy to see my father
and he's going like this. He's telling me to go back. I think he's like waving, but I see his expression.
He's mad.
And I stop and I wake up.
And they were like rushing me into the operating room.
Whoa, that is nuts.
It's giving me chills right now.
That is a nutty story. That is nuts. This gave me chills right now. That is a nutty story. That is crazy.
He didn't want you to come to the other side yet.
I didn't want to come to the other side.
Beverly.
But that's why I started to speak out about it. I talked to everybody about it and they're like,
too much information. I remember my daughter like, okay, too much information. I said,
no, it's not enough information. So if I get on the open-wifery network, I would go, how
are you doing? Well, I just had a hysterectomy. She'd be like, whoa, we weren't going down
that topic, but I guess we're here now. It just was something that I, that's what I did.
I spread what I knew and my experiences and you deal with it basically the rest of your life.
Right, I mean, I'm in menopause as well.
And, you know, I'm so struck with the obvious reality
that women's health as a field of medicine
is really focused on fertile women.
And once you hit perimenopause or your postmenopausal,
there's not a lot of information out there.
And you have to work hard to get the information.
And also, women aren't talking enough, in my view,
to each other about the very effects of menopause.
You know, I mean, can I just say,
where are the conversations about vaginal dryness?
Where are those conversations?
And that's a huge issue.
Huge. Huge.
Huge, and I got a great product for that.
But anyways.
What is the product?
I would have to get up and go get it in the other room.
Well, now wait a minute.
Can we have, is somebody else listening in your house?
Cause can they get it and bring it in and you can tell us about it?
I mean, not that we're doing an ad for a product, but I'm curious to know.
I will get up and go get it for you in a second.
But anyways, I was on the Tamron Hall show and it was just really great and the women
in the audience and everybody was like applauding and whatever because you have to advocate
for yourself, but you also need an advocate to go with you
when you're going to the doctor.
No doubt, no doubt.
Yes.
Particularly if there's a crisis,
you always have to have somebody with you.
A partner, a best friend, a sister, a brother, whatever,
somebody.
Yes.
Because you can't necessarily advocate for yourself
when you're in crisis, right?
Exactly, exactly.
Yeah.
And then the whole thing with the hormones that you're getting, sometimes it can cause
cancer in women, breast cancer in women.
So it's a whole, it's really something that has to be spoken about and also tailored to
you.
Do you have that breast cancer?
I mean, it's so much that we have to do to take care of ourselves.
That's right. Knowledge that we have to do to take care of ourselves. That's right.
Knowledge that we need to gain and have and exchange.
And this is a great conversation we're having about menopause.
Right.
And I think that we have to have these conversations frequently just to make it less taboo, less
sort of secret.
You know, it's all happening down there.
Nobody talk about it.
And you know, it's one thing if you're having a baby, it's another thing if you're on the
other side of having babies, right?
Yes.
Even the side of having babies.
There's so many women that are dying through childbirth, particularly black women today.
Now I was thinking of that when the nurses were saying to you, oh no, she's fine, she's
fine because they're, right? I mean, in the medical community,
it seems like black women are simply not listened to.
And as a result, you know.
I could have died if it wasn't for this old boyfriend,
Walter, thank you Walter, coming to visit me.
And then he would, I heard him out there
yelling at the nurse, no, she is hurting.
And he saved my life. I heard him out there yelling at the nurse, no, she is hurting.
And he saved my life.
Wow.
You have a lot to be thankful for there.
I do.
Yeah.
In getting ready for this conversation with you, I learned that New York just passed legislation
that requires cosmetology schools to include education about textured hair and so on in
their curriculum.
Laws like this are just being passed now.
And I mean, it's the 2020s.
And I can't even begin to imagine what that was like for you in the 70s.
Yes.
My mentor, Naomi Sims.
She was another model at the time, right?
Yes.
She was a model at the time. She was really
the most gorgeous woman. Everything she did, I did. She wore her hair pulled back, I wore my hair
pulled back. She took baby oil, mixed it with a little iodine for a foundation. I took iodine and
baby oil and put it on for a foundation. She did a wig company, I did a wig company. And she was so gracious to me.
I'll never forget the first day she saw me.
It was at the Halston show because I wanted to do runway shows.
Models like us did not do runway shows.
That was like something in a whole nother.
When you say like us, you mean black?
Is that what you mean?
I mean like photogenic superstar models
did not walk the runway.
That was a whole other. That was frowned upon? Very, well, it was just not walk the runway. That was that was a whole other that was frowned upon
Very well, it was just not frowned upon. They were the girls that were they called them fit models
You know in they're working with the designers and everything, but I wanted to meet the designers
That's why I wanted to do runway shows and my agent was like you can't do a runway
So you're a cover girl. Yeah, no, but I want to go, I want to meet the designers.
That's where I met Naomi Sims and she came over to me and said, congratulations on everything
that you're doing, your pictures and glamour.
She invited me to her home and I said, that's how I'm going to be with every new model
that comes up after me.
You're going to pay it forward.
Yeah.
Oh, that's so beautiful.
Yeah. That, that's so beautiful. Yeah.
That's beautiful.
It's funny, I'm gonna tell a story on myself
that I'm kind of ashamed of,
but it speaks to what we were discussing earlier.
So when I was working on Veep,
and wonderful Sufi Bradshaw was one of our cast members,
and they had to have a person come in to do her hair and
makeup, a black person come in to do her hair and makeup, who was familiar with doing a
black woman's hair and makeup.
And I was so stupid and naive that it hadn't occurred to me that hair and makeup people
didn't know how to do everybody's hair and makeup.
And I'm glad that my eyes were open to that,
although I'm embarrassed that my eyes were open to that
so late in my career that this was news to me.
It's understandable.
I remember working for Glamour,
and one of the makeup artists,
I said, is he stoned or whatever?
He's all in black and he was shaking,
he was sweating.
And I was like, I went over to the editor
and I was like, hey, this guy is stoned.
And I don't want him with a black pencil in my eye.
She said, I know.
She said, I know.
But she didn't say anything.
I know.
I said, what can we do?
I said, well, you're gonna have to call somebody else.
She says, but who could we call?
Everybody's busy.
I said, well, I happen to know this makeup artist. Do you think they're free right now? I said,
I think they might be free. And she said, would you call them? And I'll get rid of
him and call them. So the makeup artist comes down. His name is Joey Mills. He's no longer
with us. Joey came in there. I'm here. I said, Joey, you got to tone it down. You got
to tone it down. You got to tone it.
I love people in hair and makeup.
You got to tone it.
And he went on to do makeup for white, black, and everyone.
But he was one of the first black makeup artists to get into the magazine world.
But that's how you had to get them in.
Oh, wow.
Yeah.
You know, your life is just, well, it's just extraordinary because it's
like advocacy is in the DNA of how you live your life. It's just baked in. And your daughter,
she's worked in the modeling industry too, right?
Well, so my daughter is quick. It's a quick story and, you know, she had a wonderful life
and nannies and blah, blah, blah. And she was really smart and she graduated two years
early from high school.
So she went to Santa Monica College and she went to UCLA and then she came home and said,
I want to be a model and Talani and I, we want to go to New York.
Now they're about 17 and a half years old.
I'm going by yourself.
She said, by myself, mom, you have to let us do this and this.
And of course I had it all connected.
So they went to model and they were getting really skinny and we called them lollipop
heads where your head is really big and your body and I'm like worried to death.
And then all of a sudden, I'm doing a show and she calls me up, mom, guess what?
I'm like, you're pregnant.
She says, why do you always leave with that mom?
I don't know.
Well, what?
Well, what?
She says, I'm going to be a plus size model.
I said, what's a plus size model?
She says, I'm never gonna let anybody tell me
how I should look ever again.
Oh my God.
And I was like, wow.
Look at this strength.
Where does that come from?
The apple does not fall far from the tree here.
Well, I was like, what did I do?
Is she rebelling that she wanted to be?
Is this, I mean, you know me, I get into, it's all about me.
You know, what did I do to her that did?
And I realized, so she was part of the top 10 plus size models
with Ashley Graham and those women in the industry.
I was so proud of her. She changed my whole life on my own
body perspective.
Oh, I see. That's fascinating.
She saved me.
She opened up your mind to...
Acceptance of who I am and my dysmorphia, my dysmorphia.
Yes.
And all of it. of who I am and my dysmorphia, my dysmorphia. Yes, right.
And all the-
Because I know that's right, because you struggled with dealing with getting too skinny, still
to this day.
Still to this day.
Still to this day.
We didn't drink water because we thought it was fattening.
Oh, wow.
Water.
That's how sick we were.
Wow.
That's one of the occupational hazards of being a model.
That's right.
So that's why I asked.
I mean, but you, but look, she's found a way to get into it without that bullshit attached
to it, right?
She found a way to expand not only what I did for black people globally, she did for
people with normal weight in the industry globally.
She broke her own barriers. So I'm so proud of her. I'm like, you know, she's
my shero. She really is. Yeah, she really is and she should be. Yes. I want to
ask you a couple other quick questions and I'm gonna let you go because you've
been so generous with your time.
Is there something you go back and tell yourself when you were 21?
Don't marry him.
That's good advice.
That's good advice.
Is there something that you wish you'd spent less time on Beverly in your life looking
back? No, but what I would spend more time on would have been my family, you know, my sisters,
my brothers and my friends, because I was basically gone about 10, 15 years.
Well, it sounds like you're making up for it now.
Yeah, I am.
I'm an introvert.
I want to be home.
Like right now, this is heaven for me.
I'm being home and I'm an introvert.
So when I go out, I'm going out.
Okay?
I'm going out for a reason.
Uh-huh.
But now, wait a minute.
All the time?
Like pretend you're just, you're going to go to the grocery store or you're going to
get in your car and, I don't know, drive to Pilates class. I don't know, whatever you do, are you aware of your beauty and how you present
yourself in those moments? I'm just curious.
Yeah, absolutely. Because otherwise, stay home. I'm the theory of, because if you go
out like that, somebody's going to recognize you and you're looking a mess.
So stay home.
I think you need to move into my house and remind me of this.
You should see what I look like when I go.
This is me dressed up talking to you right now, by the way.
For our listeners, I'm just wearing a t-shirt with stripes on it.
That was my dress up.
I had on a sweatshirt because I wanted to look cool like my daughter, my granddaughter
do around the house. And then it was hot. I said, let me just go get the Beverly Johnson
costume out and put it on just so I can talk about myself.
What's the Beverly Johnson costume?
It's makeup and the silk shirt.
Oh, I see. Got it.
Well, I'm wearing the Julia Louis Dreyfus costume.
Striped shirt and I put some mascara on just to talk to you.
You look pretty.
You look really pretty.
Thank you very much.
And I was admiring your glasses.
I love the little heart.
Oh, yeah.
Thank you.
My husband gave me that.
Isn't that pretty?
It's lovely.
Yeah, it's a locket. Yeah, thank you very much.
Lovely.
Thank you. Can I just, I'm going to completely flip the switch and ask you, what's the vaginal
dryness gel that you were talking about before?
I don't even know. Should I run and go get it for a minute?
Yeah, I'm going to wait right here.
Oh my God. It's not a gel. Oh my God.
All right. Well, whatever the hell it is
Just go get it
Okay
It is not a hormone and I saw it on Instagram. Oh my god
I know I use that you don't like this. I do like it. I thought you had another thing that was good
That's the reverie product. Don't you love it?
Yeah, hyaluronic acid.
Yes.
Guys, we have come full circle.
We sure have.
What a pleasure. Thank you for talking with me today and taking so much of your precious
time.
Thank you so much.
What a blessing to have met you and spent this time with you. I thank you.
Yes, this is great. Thank you so much, What a blessing to have met you and spent this time with you. I thank you.
Yes, this is great.
Thank you so much, Julia.
I appreciate you.
Wow.
How about that Beverly Johnson?
She really is something else.
My God, I can't wait to tell my mom all about our conversation.
Let's get her on Zoom.
Hi, Mommy.
Hi, honey.
How are you? I'm good. I just talked to Beverly Johnson, the wonderful model.
Oh, wow.
Oh, wow.
Well?
Well, here we go.
Here are the headlines.
She was incredibly open and candid about her life.
And I was asking her about being a model and being beautiful. And she said to me, beauty is power,
which I thought was a very honest
and remarkable thing to say.
So now I wanted to ask you, mom, did you have a model?
A little bit on Seventh Avenue
when I first got to New York.
Yeah.
You're kidding.
What do you mean on Seventh Avenue? What does that mean? Well, you know, the Seventh Avenue models, Avenue when I first got to New York. Yeah. You're kidding. Yeah.
What do you mean on 7th Avenue?
What does that mean?
Well, you know, the 7th Avenue models, it was a sort of a low grade kind of model.
What they did was they're working out a design so they would work it out right on your body.
And then they would move around and stuff like that.
So I did that for maybe three times.
I see what you mean.
And so did you think of yourself as a beautiful person?
Did you know you were beautiful?
Let's put it that way.
No, I did not.
But I could tell that my looks made a difference when I was someplace.
Oh, like what?
Well, you would notice I got looks and I would notice that I got a sort of attention before I'd
said anything, you know, before I was noted. I felt I was noted, but I was not, did not
have that kind of beauty that was, you know, pristine and so forth. But I never could quite
appreciate it when I look at my pictures now, when I see myself when I was younger and I think to myself,
I didn't ever know I looked that way.
But maybe that's the thing about getting older because I certainly feel that way about myself.
Like if I see myself from 25 years ago and I'm like, oh my God, I had no idea that I
was so hard on myself.
Yes, right.
And I didn't realize I shouldn't have been.
You know, that is very interesting
because I felt so responsible for myself somehow
and I couldn't appreciate myself.
And I think that that's absolutely true
that when you get older,
all of a sudden you begin to let that stuff go.
And yes, I would give anything
if I could have just taken joy in...
And sometimes I did, by the way, when I got have just taken joy in, in, um,
and sometimes I did, by the way, when I got dressed up and I felt terrific, you know, and you go out and you just feel like, okay, I've got the world.
And I had moments like that.
I remember when you and dad, uh, this is, I'm actually talking about my stepdad
because I was at their wedding.
I was the flower girl.
talking about my stepdad, because I was at their wedding, I was the flower girl. And when I was four, and they got married and my mom had an incredible dress. I loved that
dress. Did you love it, mommy, that dress?
I loved that dress.
Loved it. It was green, sort of, I'm going to say a satin with embroidered white flowers on it. And I remember
thinking that that dress was very beautiful. I also loved my dress that day.
I loved the dress that day. Oh my God.
My dress was very good. It was a sort of a white dress with like a little eyelet edge or something on it, right? Yeah. And I was carrying
pink roses, I believe, and my mom was carrying red roses. And I decided to have a shit fit
because I didn't like my flowers. I only liked her flowers.
And so I gave you one of the red roses and then you know pink roses to put in our bouquet.
Yes. So we had you know we we went that one out. It was a bit of a compromise and
I'm still I'm not gonna lie a bit bitter and I wish that I could have had the
whole bouquet for myself. And I also dare we get into the talk of the gloves. Sure.
But I had in mind that you were gonna to wear these little white lace gloves. And I thought the wedding couldn't go on, you know, without them. And
so you said you weren't going to wear them. And I said, well, then there's no wedding.
I'm just sad about it. And your stepbrand dad came up and he was hearing us over this
issue. And so he said, I've got an idea, girls. He said, how about if I take the gloves
and I put them in my breast pocket,
and then if you need them, you'll know where they are,
but I'll just keep them safe.
So he just took care of the whole situation.
Amazing, amazing grandparenting moment on his part, amazing.
And then the gloves now were sent to-
My niece.
Your niece. Yes. And that she has them for her own. Well,
actually, I'm going to, I'm going to burst your bubble mom. She doesn't want them either. And
she gave them back to me. Yeah. So they're sitting in my, in my desk and, uh, uh, still yet to be
worn by any, uh, child that's just not Maybe George, if he has any trouble with his feet.
That's our dog for those who are listening.
George might, I might put them on George, mommy.
Well, I think we done did it.
Okay, lovey.
Okay, love you.
Love you.
Bye.
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