Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus - Julia Gets Wise with Diane von Furstenberg

Episode Date: May 9, 2023

Today on Wiser Than Me, Julia sits down with 76-year-old fashion icon Diane von Furstenberg. In this conversation, Diane tells Julia why she’s always looked forward to getting older, the one piece of clothing she thinks every woman should have in her closet, and how she says her mother made her fearless. Plus, Julia and her mom Judith debate a questionable fashion choice Julia nearly made.   Follow Julia on Instagram and Twitter @officialjld. Keep up with Diane von Furstenberg @DVF on Twitter and @DVF and @therealDVF on Instagram. You can find out more about our show @lemonadamedia on all social platforms.   Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.    Wiser Than Me is brought to you by Hairstory. Use code WISER at checkout for 20% off your purchase, and Hairstory will donate 10% of proceeds from this code to water preservation efforts.     Wiser Than Me is brought to you by Evereve. Check out Evereve’s latest curated styles and get 20% off your first online order when you use code WISER.    Sleep better at night with Boll and Branch sheets. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code WISER at bollandbranch.com   Click this link for a list of all Wiser Than Me sponsors and discount codes: https://lemonadamedia.com/sponsors/.    For additional resources, information, and a transcript of the episode, visit lemonadamedia.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lemmonata. So the big debate when I was eight or nine years old was, do you love Bobby Sherman or do you love Deva Cassidy? These guys were the absolute teen idols of the time and everybody loved one or the other. Naturally for me it was Bobby Sherman. I didn't like Bobby Sherman. I loved Bobby Sherman. He was incredibly indescribably handsome. He was on a TV show called Here Come the Brides and he had this full mop of gorgeous hair that was sort of all combed in one direction

across his forehead. I mean, it really was just like the Beatles, which was, of course, irresistible. And he wore these kind of big blousey, very groovy shirts. And he was, be still, my beating heart. Perfect. And Bobby had a big hit song called Julie, Do You Love Me? Julie, Julie, Julie, Do You Love Me? Julie, Julie, Julie, Do You Care?

Julie, Julie, are you thinking of me? Julie, Julie, will you still be there? I mean, I didn't like being called Julie because my name is Julia. But Bobby didn't know that when he wrote that song for me. He and I were meant to be together if there had just been some way for us to meet. So at the age of eight, I decided I would write a letter to Bobby Sherman, not a fan letter, but a personal love letter. I can't remember now all the details of my letter, but I certainly can remember how it

opened because it was so fucking clever. And went like this, dear Bobby, I think you're really cute. How's that for a start? Question mark. With a heart at the bottom of the question mark, instead of a period, because that's what the cool second graders did back then. But the real clincher, I was going to enclose a photograph, a photograph that was guaranteed. God damn guaranteed to make him love me back. Now, at this time in my life, I had two items of clothing in my closet that I knew were can't miss sure things.

The first was a two-piece pink, ruffle, gingham bathing suit with bottoms that went all the way up to my waist in my mind. This was, of course, a bikini. I have recently looked at some pictures of me in the aforementioned bikini and honestly with the ruffles on the back, it looks like I'm still wearing a diaper. It really does. The second item for my closet, a pair of vinyl white, almost knee-high go-go boots. Do you hear what I just said? Go-go boots. I knew that either one of these would probably have been enough to seal the deal with Bobby. But together the bikini and the boots, forget it. He was as good as mine.

So I put on my bikini and my go-go boots and I walked my eight-year-old ass downstairs with a camera and I told my mom that I need her to take a picture of me because I wanted to send it along with my personal love letter to Bobby Sherman. You guys, do you see, you have to understand something. I knew I just knew in my heart that when Bobby saw this picture and read my note, we would be together for the rest of our lives. We were meant to be together. So anyway, I asked my mom to take the picture and struck a pose. And she laughed. Which I have to say, I'm still quite pissed about. She didn't even acknowledge the infallibility of my plan. She laughed.

And then she said no. Which of course makes sense now considering I'd essentially asked her to help me send what They might now call a sex or worse, but back then I was so insulted. I threw a proper tantrum big time. I may have been eight, but this was like a two-year-old on the floor, screaming, pounding fists, tantrum. I remembered so vivid God. I was so mad. And it really is a shame that she didn't take that picture because God, I really wish I had it now. I was so fierce standing there in my bikini and go-go boots, convinced all I needed to make my dreams come true with this one special outfit. This was the first time I understood or really thought about the power of a look.

I still feel that way when I put on the right dress for the Oscars or any red carpet show or feel exactly right in an outfit for a fucking hike. That's the power of fashion, how you feel inside of it when everything is working and you know it. What a feeling. And so today, of course, we're talking to Diane Vomfersenberg. Hi, I'm Julia Louis-Dryfus and this is Wiser than me, a show where each week I get schooled by women who are Wiser than me. Well, hold on to your freaking rap dresses, people, because our guest today has been at the

forefront of the fashion world for over five decades, and guess what? She's not done yet. Not even close. Remember how not that long ago, everything all of a sudden was a brand? Do you know what I mean? Shoes, computers, entertainment, people, everything's like a brand now. Well, way before that, decades even, Diane von Furstenberg became one of the original brands by creating clothes that celebrate the strength and independence of women.

She had the vision to see exactly where women wanted to go in fashion and she turned that vision into a global empire, one chic little outfit at a time, and then she banked her success and she started doing all kinds of good for all kinds of people. She is the founder of the Diller von Furstenberg Family Foundation, the DVF Awards, an incredible supporter of the Women's Cancer Research Fund, and is the former chairman of the Council of Fashion Designers of America, and so much more.

She has the brains, the beauty, the confidence, and the skill to make it in an industry that caters mainly to women, but is still most often run by men. She's willing to share herself with us as an author, designer, and philanthropist. So please welcome a woman who is wiser than me, Diane von Furstenberg. Hello. Wow. That was quite an entrance. Yeah, that's quite an entrance you've just made.

So are you comfortable if I say you're real age, Diane? Oh yes, I'm 76. But I really, really should be 300. Why? Well, because I've had a very full life. I've done a lot of things, lots of travels, lots of people, lots of, so I feel like there's no way I can make myself

even a day younger because I feel like I have lived very much every moment. Oh, it's so nice. But how do you feel inside? What age do you feel? Do you feel 300 no way? No, well, I feel, I feel my age. I feel that I have lived every single day of my life. In that life, in that short life, even though I'm 76, I have piled up so much that I certainly could not feel any younger. I am who I am. So I get the sense you love being your age.

Well, I love being alive. Yeah, that's how long I have been alive. So, yes. Yeah, yeah. Got it. Of course, I'm going to join the millions of people who want to talk about the rap dress. So indulge me for a second. There's such a universality to the rap dress.

It changed my life that rap dress. What's your story? Okay, here's my story. I was born in the early 60s, so by the time I became a teenager, in the 70s, being super thin was the only way to be, and I was not. I was a little bit heavy-set, but I had a small waist. Okay? And I'm going to tell you honestly that your dress was I think the first sort of fashiony thing that I wore that made me feel like, oh I don't mind my body so

much. Oh, right. That's good. I knew I hold. I'm going to say I was 16, 15. Uh-huh. Do you remember your first souvenir? Was it, what is it that you did in that dress? Well, I had multiple of your dresses. I had many of them. Here's one of my favorites, but I'm going to ask my team to pull up to show you on the computer right now. This is me in your dress. Oh, you look hot. to show you on the computer right now. This is me in your dress. Oh, you look hot.

Oh, how about that? Diane, if I'm first from excited, look hot. That's you look super hot. I need that picture. Okay, I want a copy of that picture. It needs to go in my archives. Oh, absolutely. Let me tell you just for our listeners,

I'm wearing of course the wrap dress for our listeners, I'm wearing, of course, the wrap dress, and it's in the fabulous leopard print. And actually, you know where I was going? I was going to a Paul McCartney concert. Wow. Yeah, he was performing at some benefit or something in Los Angeles, and I wore this. And I think I even still have the bra that's underneath it.

It's still in my possession. You look hot. Thank you. Oh, I'm so happy that you said, this is my, that's made my week that you said that. You look hot. So listen, let's talk about clothes for a second. Diane, are there any staples you think a woman should have

in her closet? I think the most important thing is to be true to yourself and to like yourself as much as possible. So obviously the staple should be what you are comfortable in and something that represents you at the best way or that allows you to be yourself, you know. And listen, when I created that dress, I had no idea that I would I would eventually sell tens of millions of them. Unbelievable. But it did something, it awakened things in people and I don't know. So, you know, I mean, I created the rap dress, but truly, it's the dress that created me, because it gave me my freedom.

It gave me my independence. It gave me my identity. So, it's one of those things. But as far as I think every woman, like you have a small waist, so rap dresses obviously look good on you. I don't really have a small waist. So, wrap dresses obviously look good on you. I don't really have a small waist, so I go for more fluid, but every one of us finds something that we have a tendency to go to. To accentuate like you mean? Yeah, and it becomes your personality and your style. and your style. And so, you know, for DVF, it's about making clothes, you know, thinking about all the different morphology of a woman, you know, with the one who likes to accentuate

the ways. The one who doesn't, then therefore you go fluid. And the ones who are buried body come who like to show the entire body. Then you deal with the fabric. Fabrication is so important. And then, of course, we have colors, and we have prints. So, in DVF, the colors are our letters. The prints are the words.

The fabrication and the silhouette makes the sentence. Nice. But do you have other staples that you like in your closet? Um... You know, I'm thinking of something like... Some people in the past have said to me, you every woman needs to have a perfect white blouse or something. Do you think that's stupid or do you think that makes sense?

No, I don't think that's stupid. Um... I don't think I have a white blouse, actually. Do you want me to get you a white blouse? No, not particularly. You know, but I could tell you, I would say everybody needs a black total leg. This is good to know. Let's talk about aging and body changes and how to embrace all of that.

How have you embraced all of that as you've gotten older? Okay. First of all, the word aging, I would change the word aging and say living, right? Oh, thank you. That's perfect. Perfect. Age is life. Yes. So instead of saying, how old are you? People should say, how long have you lived? Oh my God. Yes, I'm going to change this.

And automatically it changes everything. Even to a child, how long have you lived, little boy? I have lived 11 years. Wow, that's impressive. Yeah. And then if you ask an older person, I have lived 76 years. Wow. So aging for me is life. It is not a decay. Yes, yes, yes. It's a continuation of life. Yes, it's a completely different framing and I applaud it. Right. So for me, aging is a proof of living. And also, if you have, if you manage to be my age,

well, it's already, I mean, I thought I was gonna die before I was 30. So why? You know, why? Because I had done so much in my 20s that I didn't think that it was possible to continue like that. I see. And so I thought that only thing I had to children by the time I was 24, I had a successful business, I bought my house. So I did basically everything before I was 30. So I used to think

that that was be the end and then it turned out not to be. Yeah. Wow. I love that framing. How long have you lived? I'm really going to apply that to my the way I speak now. I think it's brilliant actually. Well, then I'm going to rephrase this question for you. Do you think there are things that women who have lived a long time should not wear? And here's why I asked you this question. Let me tell you something. So I was on a vacation, right? And you know how when you go on vacation and you go into a, you get sort of caught up in the culture of where you are and maybe, and what people are wearing and maybe it's in a different country or whatever.

Anyway, long story short, I was in this shop and they were selling these cute coolats. And I put them on and I'd forgotten how, because I wore coolats when I was a little girl, but I had forgotten how unbelievably comfortable coolats were. And I was like, oh my God, I think I've got to own these. But I wasn't sure, and I thought, oh, maybe this is just a moment. I'm going to put them on hold. I'm going to go have some lunch.

So I put them on hold, and then I went to go have lunch. And I was thinking about, should I buy them or not? And as I'm thinking about that, one of my teeth fell out of my mouth. I don't know why, but all of a sudden my tooth fell out. And I thought that was a sign that perhaps I had lived a little bit too long to start running around in cool outs. That actually I think you could wear cool outs. Do you have 90?

What if you don't have any teeth in your mouth? No, I'm kidding. You think you can wear cool outs until you're 90? Yeah, I mean, it depends how short they are. I mean, I don't think you should try to look sexy because that looks ridiculous. You mean in cool outs are generally speaking. What are you talking about? No, just in behavior. I think it's beautiful to live, to live who you are. And you are, you know, you are accumulation of all your life. So, right, the most, the most important thing is to be true to yourself. As long as you're

true to yourself, you are free. By the way, you know, on your Instagram, the picture that you posted of yourself and your bathing suit, you look so beautiful and so strong. And I just wanted to applaud you for it. I just thought it was inspirational. That was two years ago, I think, for my 74th birthday. Yeah. Yeah. I have a tendency to think that, at least in my case, when I look at myself in the mirror, At least in my case, when I look at myself in the mirror, I find my strength there. So somehow, when I look at myself in the mirror, I like it. And then sometimes I see a picture of me and I say, Oh my God, that's not how I feel

like. You know, what about this word? Well, again, I'm going to use this word aging, which I shouldn't. But I will for this question, I wanted to ask you about that. You know that phrase aging gracefully? I feel like there's a lot to unpack there because... Well, just going to living gracefully. Living gracefully, right.

But it has a lot of different meanings to different people and the idea of how to present yourself as a person who has lived a long time and, you know, and the judgment about plastic surgery or not to have plastic surgery and all that stuff. They said, I don't judge anyone. Everyone has the right to do whatever they want. Right. everyone has the right to do whatever they want. I have a tendency, since I'm a little girl, to find a tiny bit this strong look attractive, because it's lived.

So I like the lived. I never wanted to be a little girl. I always wanted to be a woman. I always the lift. I never wanted to be a little girl. I always wanted to be a woman. I always age myself. By the time I got to be 20, my mother said, how does it feel to be 20? And I remember I told her, I've been saying I'm 20 for the last five years.

So I've never wanted to be younger. I always look forward to being older. I think that's incredible because I've had the exact same experience. Exactly. I always wanted to get older. I really did. It was like, even I have to tell you this is going to sound strange. But even when I started to develop as a teenager,

and my breasts started coming in, and I noticed that they were very upright, and I used to push them down, because I wanted them to look like my mother's breast that would hang a little bit more. And I would push them down because it drove me crazy. And it's funny you say that. I used to put Kleenex in my bra because I didn't have any breath.

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Is that something you had to cultivate or it came to you naturally? Well, I never really sought of me as a leader. I prefer to think that I'm an inspirer. You know, I prefer to inspire rather than lead. But aren't you in charge, Diane? Yes, but you know, I mean, to be in charge is first and foremost a commitment to ourselves. It's owning who we are. We own our imperfection, they become assets. We own our vulnerability, we turn it into strength. So, to be in charge is really got to do with yourself. And everything has got to do with the relationship you have with yourself.

Because the most important relationship in life is the one you have with yourself. Once you have that, any other relationship is a plus and not a must. And I never want to be needy ever to anyone. For me, the most important thing is to be self-reliant. My children, I mean, for me, loving your children is making them independent. That's how you love your children because you equip them for life.

What would be a vulnerability that you would own that would then somehow become an asset? I mean, you know, I mean, I was very successful, extremely young, right? By 26, 27, I was on the cover of all the magazine. I mean, there was an entrepreneur and this, but you go up, you go up, what goes up must go down. You face difficulties, you go up, what goes up must go down. Yes. You face difficulties, you go through all kinds of things. And what is important is not to pretend you're not, but facing it, facing the obstacles, facing the difficulties and owning them and dealing with them.

And then all of a sudden, you turn them into assets. I don't get the sense you hold back how you're feeling. Do you let people know how you're feeling? You see, the thing that explains who I am, is the fact that 18 months before I was born, my mother was liberated from Auschwitz. She weighed 49 pounds. She was a skeleton in the midst of a field of ashes. She could not move. She went back to Belgium. Her mother couldn't believe that she had survived.

She was 21 years old. And she fed her like a little bird, you know, every 10 minutes. And within six months, she looked normal. Her fiancee, who had been in Switzerland, came, they met, they get married, and the doctor said, no matter what, you cannot have a child for at least two years, because you will not make it, and your child will not be normal. And sure enough, she got pregnant and I was born nine months later. And in a sense, you could say I was not normal. But the fact that I was so close to that, my existence, my mere birth was a triumph over misery. And therefore, just the fact that I was born was a triumph.

I had won just because I was born. And my mother used to say, God saved me so that I can give you life. By giving you life, you gave me my life back, you are my torch of freedom. So I was born with a torch of freedom in my hands, which as a little girl could be difficult. My mother, for example, would never allow me to be afraid. If I was afraid of the dark, she would lock me in the dark closet. Today she could be arrested for it, but she made me fearless. And I'm thankful that she did that.

She never wanted me to be a victim, never be a victim, no matter what happens. And that's how you build your character, because the only thing that you have complete control of, the only thing is your character. You could lose your health, you could lose your health, you could lose your wealth, you could lose your job, you could lose your husband, you could lose your family, you could lose everything, but you never lose your character. And that character is the little house inside yourself

that is called strength. And did you take those lessons that you learned from your mother and did you apply them to being a mother yourself? Yes, and my mother was also alive when my children were going up. My mother died. They were already both my children with parents. Oh wow. She gave that survival strength to them as well. Yes. And we all have that incredible survival thing. Is there an example that you can recall in your life where you've confronted fear and looked it in the face

and overcome it? Is there anything specific that you could tell us about? I mean, I don't know. I mean, 28 years ago I was diagnosed with cancer. Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I mean, 28 years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. Yeah. That's never pleasant. No. And, but I dealt with it.

You know, I said, OK, this is what happened. This is what the doctor can do. This is what I can do. And I just dealt with it. And I mean, you know, my mother told me fear is not an option. So fear is always pushed away. Because I mean, if you push the fear away, everything stays the same, but at least you could deal with it without the fear, you know, right. And I have a new trick. A friend of mine lately was, she was going to very, very difficult medical tests and it was very painful and she called me, she's in California, I'm in New York

and she calls me and it's 12 o'clock for me and I don't know what to tell her. And so I don't know what happened to me. I said, you know what tomorrow when you do that push your fear away Push your emotion and just go through it like it was you were watching a documentary Mm-hmm And the next day she called me and she said you know it was so helpful. So now that's my new trick Huh, it's stepping outside yourself and looking back in changing your lens Huh, it's stepping outside yourself and looking back in. Changing your lens. Changing your lens.

Yeah. I had cancer too and I was terrified. I didn't have your mother's advice in my ear, but what I did do was take one step at a time. Exactly. I approached it as if it were something to be approached in manageable parts and that's exactly what I did, you know? Yeah.

Talk about relaxing. How do you relax? What do you do to relax? Relax also is a weird word. What should I say instead? Empty the noise, you know? It's empty the corridor. Silence, solitude.

That is what is the most restorative things. So I need to be alone, I need to be in nature, yes, solitude, silence, all of that is very restorative. Yeah, I find the same. I'm a big hiker and... Me too. Yeah, me too. And if you go by yourself, it's

an entirely different experience. And swimming. Yes. I swim a lot. Yes. I swim a lot in the ocean very far. And therefore I'm alone between the sea and the sky. And I'm just a tiny little dot. And I go into deep meditation. and that is probably the most restorative thing. You know, I've taken up swimming recently too. Let me ask you something. What do you do about the sun when you're out there? Do you wear like a full body UV suit? I got one of those two the blocks of sun because then yeah yeah yeah., otherwise I would burn because I swim two hours at the time, so I could not do that unless I wore something. Two hours, my God, in heaven.

What does that mean? How many miles are you going? That's a couple of miles, is it not? No, no, it's maybe one mile. Yeah, maybe one mile. I mean, we're very lucky we have a boat. And so I go far in the ocean, in the sea, and there's a tiny little boat that follows me, but very far. And I go through all the meditation. I have these sutras that deep actual pretzel. So I have this routine that I go.

So I have this routine that I go. And by the time I'm finished with the whole routine, and then they become prayers, and then I talk about, I think about each one of my children, my grandchildren, so the whole ceremony of my meditation takes about an hour and a half, because then I turn, and I say, how long have I been in? And usually they say, between an hour, ten, and I say, how long have I been in? And usually they say between an hour 10 and another 30 and an hour. And then I stay a little longer.

Have you been meditating a long time your whole life? I, you know, I'm not, I should meditate more, more consciously. But I do, I do empty my mind. Yes, I do that. Otherwise, I couldn't be. I hate the noise. I don't like small talk. I don't like any of that. And I love nature. I mean, nature for me is everything. As long as I have nature on one side and my phone and the internet, I know me better. My conversation with Diane von Furstenberg continues after the break. The Apple Books app is a single destination for all the books and audiobooks you love, all subscription free.

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yes, it was, yeah, I had a lot of very stressful moment. Yes. Yeah. But you know, you forget, you forget the bad things like you forget the physical pain, you forget it. Once it's done, you forget it. So, and every single thing, every negative experience in your life ends up being an experience and turns into something. That's another trick that I always tell my friends. You know, sometimes, you know, my friend, I mean, I don't know, they do a movie or they do a book and it's not all their companies going bankrupt. See, they get backpressed and they just feel so bad. And I always say the same thing.

I said, this moment that is so hard will be the best anecdote when you write your book or you tell your TED talk. Turn it into an asset, right? That's right. Yeah, it's funny because not to keep going back to this, but when I had cancer, and it's funny, you say that, which was just very wicked, and I was in production, we had to shut down production, right? For almost a year.

And because I was, you know, normally I would have kept something like that completely private into myself because it was, because it is so private. But in this case, I really had to make a statement about it because everybody had to stop working on this show. I was doing VEEP on HBO.

And so I had to make it public. Well, here's the positive thing that came out of that was that I was talking about insurance and how critical insurance, obviously, is for everyone and everyone deserves to have it. And out of that sprung an opportunity for me to raise awareness and raise funds for women. Exactly. Exactly. Yeah. And so, and your experience, especially when, you know, you are a person, a public person.

Yes. You might, your job is a person. So when something, what is inspiring to other people, is not your success, your amoeia, your esca, whatever, what is inspiring is when you talk about your vulnerability. That is inspiring. Yeah, right. Exactly. Are you going to retire at some point or are you just keeping up this pace of fabulousness?

No, but you know, you change. I mean, now I'm born on New Year's Eve. That's a great birthday. Well, it's very neat. You know, when the year is over, it's over. So as a result of that, I always do New Year's resolution, blah, blah, blah. So now, you know, now I'm entering the winter of my life,

which could be a short winter, a long winter, I don't know that, but it's the winter of my life. And therefore, at this time of my life, it is more important than ever to really focus on using my voice, my knowledge, my experience, my wisdom, my connection, my resources, in order to help others, and to kind of, you know, improve the world and society to the best we can. And right now it's so discouraging, the world seems so corrupt and so awful, that I think we have to look for the light. Even if it's just a tiny little bit of light and build around the light, share is the light, share the light because at the

end it is the light that pushes the darkness away. This year we are, I don't know if it's this year, no it wasn't, it was last year. We lost the spectacular vote journalist and editor Andre Leon Talley. I know who is a very good friend of yours. What did he mean to you? And also, can you talk about endings and how you deal with endings? Okay, so Andre was, first of all, my friend. Yes. He was my friend for over 45 years. He happened to be also a formidable person. But if you're talking about ending, and it was very sad that he died, he died January 18 last year, but strangely enough, his life has become even bigger. Really? Since he died.

You know, how? Well, the recognition that he has received, and the recognition of his book and his work, and you know, he was almost evicted from his house a few months before he died, but didn't. And now the street names his name. You know, so there is no such thing as ending. It's evolution.

We are all part of nature, and we evolve into something else. Yeah, but I mean, but what about your sadness when he passed? I mean, you must have been very, I mean, he sounds like such an extraordinary human being. Yes, yes, but death, you know, life is a journey. Death is a destination. We all die. So, I mean, there's not a day in my life that I don't think about death. And that is my way of dealing with it.

So, you know, I mean, that happens to everyone. I know. We've all got it in common. We're all headed there. That's right. God, you're so gracious with your time. I want to ask you just a couple more quick questions and you can just give me whatever thing pops into your head. Is there something you'd go back and tell yourself at 21? Go for it. Is there something you go back and say yes, too? The only thing you regret in life is the things you don't do. Right. And I did pretty much all I could do.

What's the best business advice you ever received? Or the worst? Or both? Oh, I don't know. My big fault in business is that I enabled people and I, because I feel like I can make things happen. I think that everyone can make things happen. But, you know, I don't think I am a great business woman.

I think I am a very good manifesto. I can manifest things. I can make things happen. I am somewhat a little bit of a visionary, but I'm definitely not an executive. No, do I want to be. But you're like an inspired, or that's the sense I have. Is that true? Yeah, yes, and manifesto. I like the, I believe in manifestation. You know you have a vision and you make it happen. Can you give me an example of when that happened in your life? Oh my God, everything about my life. Everything. Like for example, now I have this vision that my last act, Venice, the city of Venice, is going to play a very large role in my life. Why?

Because I fell in love with Venice not only for its beauty, but for its history, 1600 years. And for me Venice is a woman. And she's had the most extraordinary life. She's invented everything. She invented a banking system. She invented a bank note. She invented diplomacy, the passport, the custom. Everything that we use in the modern world was invented in Venice.

And I had this vision that I think Venice should be a place where we kind of elevate the debate and where people meet. And I see Venice as a sing tank. And so that's my vision how I would like to spend a lot of my winter. I hope you do it. I know you do it. And I like you. Would you? Yeah, because you are an idea person. You are, you also are definitely a manifesto. You are a very, a very generous manifesto. You, you have ideas and you make them happen. So yeah. Thank you for saying that. And I would be very curious to hear you

or to interview you for that matter. We could turn around the next time. That would be superb. I got to say, it's been kind of dreamy talking to you. It's been very dreamy talking to you. Well, thank you very much for asking me and continue to be the woman you are. You are definitely inspiring. Back at you, D.V.F. Bye, Dali.

The sheikest lady ever. Bye. Lots of love to you. Thank you. Bye. Bye, bye. Bye. Bye. Okay, another podcast. Done and dusted. Wow, there is so much to tell my mom. Okay, I'm going to call her right now. Mama. Oh, hi, honey.

Hi, so I just talked to Diane von Fersenberg. Oh wow. I hope the rap dress is still there. Yeah. Speaking of the rap dress mom, did you have a rap dress mommy? I did have a rap dress and I was trying to think they came out and was it when one was it first that they came out? It's 74 1974. Yeah. So I had a rap out and when was it first that they came out? It was 1974, 1974. Yeah, so I had a rap version. I was trying to remember what it seemed to me that it had some kind of geometric print on it.

Yeah. And then one that was sort of gray and was sort of maybe one color, or two colors, something like that. I loved it, but it made, I don't know why, maybe feel a little subconscious. Why, mommy? Well, I don't know. Maybe I was just so used to wearing pants, you know, it was just, it was such a wonderful dress. Maybe I didn't, I can't remember, but I just somehow felt a little

self conscious. Well, it was a very sexy dress. So maybe that's why you felt self conscious. Yeah. Because it's not like you're wearing pants all the time, but I told her this story and I got to say, she did not find it as funny as I do. I don't think I told you this, but recently I was on vacation and I saw a pair of cool lots and I wasn't sure if I should get them or not, right? It was like, when am I going to wear cool lots? I don't play golf. I just, but they were so comfortable. And so I put them on hold and I went to go have lunch. And then one of my teeth fell out of my mouth. Went during lunch. And I thought, oh, this is maybe not a good sign. A woman who's teeth are falling out from house should not, uh, perhaps be buying clothes.

But, excuse me, but I'm very worried about that. Why did your tooth fall out? I don't know, mom. I cracked the molar. Who knows, but all the next thing I know, I was practically coughing on it. Oh, what? So it's all, I mean, did your whole teeth fall out or just the top of?

Yes. No, the whole thing came out. I was all, anyway. So, your dentists? I had to have surgery on my mouth or something. You know, I mean, it all worked out fine and say, look, I'm opening my mouth, you can see on my teeth. I've got all my, all my choppers, but, but, but not some terrible gum disease or something like that. I don't have any gum disease. I've got my teeth and I'll tell you what I don't have is a pair of kulots that I don't have

Hold on to your teeth and I'll go get the kool-hots Shit actually I love kool-hots. They're very comfy. That's the thing. I'm back in love with them too They are they are really comfortable. I don't know why it's the shorts underneath the skirt. It's like a magic combo, you know? Shorts underneath the skirt. Yes, that's what cool outs are. Oh, I thought cool outs were those three quarter pants that were wide.

Well, I don't know what the fuck they are. Oh, I'm talking about, maybe I'm talking about a scort, I guess, as I'm being told, it's just, well, this whole maybe I'm talking about a scort, I guess that's I'm being told that's it's well this whole time I was talking about a skirt that is shorts attached. Oh No, you don't need that Oh, that's hilarious. Yeah, brother's no one. Okay. All right. Well mummy. I'll talk to you soon Okay, good good be well and love to everybody and to you soon. Okay, good, good be well, and love to everybody, and to you especially. Okay, love you mummy.

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