Woman Evolve with Sarah Jakes Roberts - Process

Episode Date: August 4, 2021

The Delegation has entered the chat & W.E. understood the assignment—half hood, half holy! Following a well-deserved SZN break, our girl SJR is back! Tune in as W.E. journey through the Rescue Eve, Hail Mary, Advice, & Snack segments of the podcast. This week Eve sought Peter-like miracles, W.E. highlighted a bunch of baddies paving the way, & ATE from an advice segment bound to leave you full! SJR shared that she's in the process of living in the spirit of multiplication! Even when it means laying down a good thing for the God-thing. Sis, shoot your shot and inquire about our co-hosting needs by emailing [e-mail]. Treat yo'self at Noom.com/Evolve + BetterHelp.com/Evolve! Then, introduce your little one to Bitty Baby from AmericanGirl.com (use code: EVOLVE)!

God can't bless you for ten to be or who you can care yourself to. He can only bless you and the lane that was created for you. I feel that for somebody. You don't need no itch, it's a unique boundary. What? I don't need your lights, I don't need your elevation. All I need is a God fighting for me that's there for all things. All things, all things. Try.

Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back. I know you like that, welcome back, welcome back. I see the girls and the girls that go on wow for me. You know I have to look up the lyrics or don't count. I need to look up the lyrics and then change the lyrics because what mates was saying and what SJR are saying two different things. What sub delegation?

What's up? How have you been? Oh, oh, oh. It's me, it's me, I'm fired. We're rusty. We haven't done this in a while. What's up? How are you?

What's been going on in your world? We took a smooth month off, but we back in that thing, like swimwear. And I see the girls have been waiting. Pat is chiming in from South Africa. What's up, girl? Robin says, let's get started. I haven't had my meds yet. Oh, Lord. I don't know what that means. It's making me nervous,. I'm asked, we said this is the only thing I'll turn manifests all for. Can I tell you, I started watching manifests while I was doing my hair. And when I saw the trailer, I'm like,

it doesn't look like it's gonna be an amazing show. But it also looks like it will be an amazing show. And I am like four or five episodes in. And it's amazing. First of all, come on my Lord and save your Jesus Christ Romans 828 y'all didn't tell me manifest was taking us to church manifest is out here trying to take us to church Okay, those who are called huh? Come on call the according to us But y'all don't know what I know, but I know what I know is what I'm saying. Okay

Ashley Tain says no, I'm madwood. We surely does love to play with your badge Uh-oh something play with your badge. Uh-oh, something happening with that badge. What's happening? Latavie says, where is extra? I'm with that killer intro. Do I have killer intros? The saints don't like it when I sing.

They don't like it when I sing. Sure he says, where you reach? Cause I'm done. Huh? What's that? Tell me more, say more. Joyce Shepherd says, day by day, I'm getting better. How have you been?

It's been a month over a month since I got to plug in with my friends, my girls, my sisters, the delegation. How have you been? What have you been going through? What has the month of July carried to you?

Tell me, I want to catch up. Alicia says, look at you bright eyed and bushy-tailed, ashtray. Are you know I'm doing what I can? No one else says, oh my, bad guys. I'm on some flight 828.

Let me tell you something. The show is doing a thing. Danielle King says lady, ladies, thrilled to be back from my break. Lord what a weekend. Can we rescue as the spirit airlines because child come on. Sheree says it in stupid. Don't tell me manifest in stupid. Well, it ended before it could actually end, right? I don't even know why I'm on this journey because I know it does, it's not

going to end well, but I'm intrigued. Okay, you got me now. I'm one of those people who if I start something, I have to finish it because where are we going with this? Um, Brianna says, I ain't seen as she tried that mustard on watermelon. I would have took a break too after that. Shanice likes it. It's the world on the street that Shanice eats watermelon mustard on it for fun and not just word challenge, but I don't know. Cannot confirm or deny. Jeanette said, if God is not talking to me, Stephanie says, Eshtair are so glad to see your beautiful face. Thank you. It's so glad to be seeing.

Tell me, oh, says, I just turned 21. Feels like a new chapter in my life. I'm so excited. Congratulations. When I was 21, when I turned 21, I was pregnant with my daughter, McKinsey. I was in the tough season in my life. And I am the woman I am today because of the lessons that 21 brought me.

So I am praying that this 21st year of your life is filled with so many lessons and that you have the wisdom to take notes. Because a lot of times we receive it many, many lessons, but we're not taking notes, we're not learning and processing and creating boundaries based off those lessons. So my prayer for you, Tammy,

oh, is that you take notes while receiving the lessons. Okay, or otherwise you just sit in class failing and nobody has fine for that. All right. Jalisa says it's my birthday month. Whoop, whoop. I'm ready. Jalisa. What a queen. My daughter's birthday month. My mother's birthday month and yours too.

Come on. We love to see it. At least as July was the struggle. My father was diagnosed with lung cancer this month. So keep the prayers coming for the, for the coming battle for my family delegation. Ilya, I got you. I also got your tweet and good, good up for what day four into this thing.

Pride of you, girl. Keep pushing. Okay, let's see. Joyce said this show was doing a wonderful thing. How else are you all doing? Elty Babes is wild. Time is flying too fast. Am I, can I tell you time is flying by 2021?

I was like, let me go on and get out the way. Because all they do in this time, my 2021 is the person you date after you were in relationship with the bad ex, okay? And it's got so much potential, but all you can do is talk about 2020. So you know that that booth thing is just gonna move out the way. That is what 2021 is.

It's like, let me just go on and move because it is not giving what needs to give. Okay, tell me this. I just wanna let Chow know that God told me that I'm gonna be at the Piotr's House Dallas for the road this weekend. I don't know how because I'm sitting in hospital bed. My God will definitely bless you from playing the seat if you wanna put me on a plane to Dallas and put me up for it. Oh, look at that.

Let me refer to my chase that. You know what I mean? Cause sometimes the Lord is in the blessing business and wants to help you get places and put you up places. But I got to see if I'm the one who's called to chase that, your chase. I got to see if Chase is the one calling me to chase what the God has placed on your heart. But let me tell you, if I'm not the one called to chase it, someone in the chat Chase is the one calling me to chase what the guy does place on your heart.

But let me tell you, if I'm not the one called to chase it, someone in the chat might be the one called to chase it. You know the first of the month is tricky for the most of us. Because that's when people like to get paid. Let's see about it. Brittany says, I'm tuning in from a little impromptu trip to Miami. You know being a sanctified city girl and whatnot.

It true or false, somebody was dancing to the twerker later before this podcast started. prompt to trip to Miami, you know being a sanctified city girl and whatnot. It true or false, somebody was dancing to the twerker later before this podcast started. I think it was Shanice and me, but I'm not sure. I'm not sure who it was. I think it was, but I'm not sure. All right, listen, listen. All right. So I hope you've been drinking your water and mining your business.

Lord knows that I have not. I took most of them off as you all know with a few exceptions. Like I preach for Activate and I preached at the Potter South Stylist and that was an incredible message. The message was called the Undoing and it seems like it really helped and met a lot of people right where they needed it the most. So beyond that, I've been home during stack, I'm gonna get into the things that it taught me and what I'm learning.

We got a new word of the month is August, so the word for this month is process, which once again during snack time, I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna tell you what I'm gonna tell you, okay? Shantana said, shot is going ham on this here keyboard behind this green. How do they hear that? How do they hear that?

All right, listen. So let's try and rescue people. What is happening? Let's rescue the folks who are doing the things. First of all, hold on. Good. Let me see. Because somebody just to to say, to Shay, just managed my summer semester of law school and officially started my

save girl summer girl, you better. OK, we had to take him and say you better. Caitlin says July was a tough month for me financially. Praying for him and bounce back this month with God on my side I can never fail. That's the kind of faith we need. I'm adding my faith to yours. OK, let's see.

Alexa said, shout what you're doing back there. What is happening? How do they know that your tap first of all, Shanice and I went and started to get our nails done so you can't even the nubs are gone and so you're going to hear her nails. She said, shout, chewing gum for sure. Wow, you're being carried in the comment section. to a gun for sure. Wow, you're being carried in the comment section. Um, Jasmine says, turning 30 fine this Saturday in 2021, didn't even give me the time to let my outer body catch up with the body and my head, the corpse tail.

Shies turning 30. Is it 30 fine? Or is 30 fine for 39 or 35. We gon' say it anyway. Shies turn in 30 fine. And she's gonna have her body. And I'm gonna celebrate and rejoice with those who rejoice. Because I will probably need to wait until I'm 30 fine to have my body somewhere along July.

I can't decide. I saw a book in Barnes my body somewhere along July. I can't decide. I saw a book in Barnes & Noble about emotional eating and I picked it up. Let me tell you something. I'm going to just reach this, this ain't nobody's business, but, but y'all's business. But this is what I'm going to say. Oh, it looks like, oh, it looks like DoorDash was here with our lunch. Everything's fine. like DoorDash was here with our lunch. Everything is fine.

Let me see. Okay. I hope they don't leave Ellis food, but should be all right. Wow, how unprofessional. Okay, listen. This book about emotional eating says, in this book, Howard Farkis argues

that repeated unwanted eating is driven by a natural desire to control your own choices in life. This creates a conflict between one side of you that wants to be told how you should eat and another that wants you to make your own choices. This conflict leads you to go from one extreme to the other creating an ongoing cycle of disordered eating. Let me tell you something. I don't know.

I don't know what to do about it. But when I saw this book, I felt what convicted? I don't know. I haven't started reading it, but it is sitting on my nightstand underneath the pack of Oreo thins. So I'm once that closer to reading the book than I was before I picked it up.

But life be life and you're right. It is, someone tell me what to eat, but also no one is the boss of me. And I just, I don't know what to do about it. I don't know. I don't know. Sheariness is she is typing with all of her fingers and all of her might. BabyFat says, I'm so happy you came on the day. I love you, girl.

I love you too. T Watson says come on law school. I just had my graduation Saturday finish my PhD at 29 pray for me. Y'all has been in journey. Congratulations. Okay, so listen, let's get into these rescue. Rescue Eve. We take a moment.

Hold on. I'm sound like she needs on this do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it.

I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to, is that not valence? Like, I hate to be an enabler. But is that not valence? Like, I ate a salad and then just ate a bowl of chips. Okay. So maybe it's not ideal, right? But at least you're one step. Well, you could have just ate chips. You could have had a sandwich in chips, but at least you ate the salad. Next time, maybe it's half a bowl of chips. I'm trying to not be such an extremist. And I hope when I finish the book

that I'm gonna get there. Okay, any who, listen here. Rescue Eve. Rescue Eve is when we take some time and see what's happening on the highways and byways, who has been cutting up while I've been gone. Things that we wanna know. Quantices the salad canceled out the chips, huh?

Oh, my canceled out, do you mean balance, huh? To quantices, double stuffed Oreos, Ella will know it's Oreo. Let me tell you something. I think regular Oreos and double stuffed Oreos are sin. I do. I think there's too much stuff on the inside. Them Oreo fans are the perfect ratio of cookie and cream.

And I don't need that like them jelly filled don't I don't eat stuff with stuff in it. Like jelly filled don't that's not my ministry. Oh them chocolates that have stuff. Listen, I'm the kind of per I don't like surprises. Okay. What I see is what I need to get. Don't surprise me. This applies for chocolate and relationships and friendships and business deals.

If this is what you present to me, this better be what I get. Cause if I open it and use some type of raspberry filling, use some type of caramel filling, then you're lied to me. Cause you look like solid milk chocolate. You see what I'm saying? I don't play them Valentine's chocolate games.

I don't do that, okay. But yeah, so Oreo fans, not double-sefe Oreos. As we said, SJR, did that whisper that your mom did when you and Trubb on front of God and everybody, well, everything's fine. Okay, listen, all right. So, Noel says, double-sefe is the way to go, no. Let's not create, let's just call them Oreos and whatever Oreos mean to you,

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I don't know what to say, but yeah, I think people are gonna judge me, but this is all right. It's all right. I'm gonna dive in anyway. Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis shared some thoughts about bathing and when they shared these thoughts about bathing, they were met with some criticism

and some judgment. Rescue Eve, if you're like listening for the first time or you've forgotten in the month that we've had off because you like What is this show about you haven't listened in a while? We see people who are being judged in the news and in the media and we say judgment is not our place What is a better way that we could like look at this thing to keep from being so judgment? So ashton Kutcher and Mila Kuna share Their children's bathing habits first of all they said that they don't really bathe every day.

Mila Kooner says, I didn't have hot water growing up as a child, so I didn't shower much anyway. But when I had children, I also didn't wash them every day. I wasn't that parent that bathed my newborns ever. Kutcher then acknowledged that there is no point in bathing children unless they are visibly dirty with the act of revealing that he himself just uses soap and water on his armpits and crotch daily, but nothing else ever. Okay, so when you read that part of it, sure, some people are like, that's fine, that's what I do. Other people are using the N word

and they're calling people nasty. And you know, I think we should try and rescue them because the American Academy of Dermatology says that children age six to 11, taking a daily bath is fine. However, children in that age group may not need a daily bath. I have a six and an 11 year old. I know my hand to the Bible. McKenzie needed shower on jay, on every day.

On every day, she's not, I don't know what children they tell me I don't need a bath every day, but I know McKenzie need a bath every day. And I'm gonna tell you, McKenzie, that was a little bit more delicate. And I've been bathing her every day, but I feel a Mackenzie need a bath every day. Now, I'm gonna tell you, Ella's a little bit more delicate, and I've been bathing her every day, but I feel a freedom in my spirit. This is giving go directly to bed time to me. You know that whole bed, bad through thing.

It's giving go straight to bed. What say you delegation? Can we rescue them at the end of the day? They said that your skin produces natural oils and stuff and that you should keep them in your body. And so, you don't have to pay everything. I need a shower, sometimes two of them. And can, see, this is why.

The more you eat them, or your things, I'll be able to, you can't just, when things, when God enlarges your territory, you got to make sure things stay fresh and dry. You know what I'm saying? You can't just, because it's more, it's more of you to clean. And I just, I don't know what delegation, what's at Marcus says? Nope, nope, nope.

Rihanna says like this, if you don't bathe every day, promise I won't lie to you. Took one to say, oh, I'm siding them, especially since COVID is a thing. Alina says not bathing just nasty. I'll rescue and drop them in a bathtub with a bar. So, Cardi says, man, they got a bat, they got a bat, no rescue. Lucy, Lucy, no, Sarah, we not saving the rich from not using water. One.

LT Baby says, lovey had me rolling on this topic. Lovey did a whole thing on Instagram and it was great. Margaret says, girl, don't sleep on a Boston, a Boston cream donut. Guys, Natalie says, my what's Indian parents went off, child? Do you remember when your grandmother used to give you a bath with the, just the cheapest dollar tree wash rag holes in it?

And I mean a scrub, I mean circular motions all up on your body and between your toes. Shout out to people whose parents used to really bathe them, like where there was a ring around the bathtub because they said it won't be my child, not today. My parents take bathing very seriously. And, you know, but I don't know, are we getting it wrong? Can we rescue? I don't know.

Tell me, Christians has waving my watchcloths like a prayer cloth, go bathe. For a drinker says, nope, let them sit in the water for a while, they needed, then we're gonna throw them, throw them some soap in a rope, do we? Oh, we will rescue them with soap on a rope. I love this idea. I was watching someone talk about this

for Fox five Washington DC and there were two black women, black men and a white woman and you could tell she was visibly a little uncomfortable about this subject coming up between them. And they were asking, do you use a washcloth or a lufa? And one black woman was like, I use a washcloth and then one was like, yeah, I use a washcloth and a lufa. And the white woman was like, okay, I just,

I use a bar soap with my hand. And then the black man was like, I used a washcloth. And like, you could tell that she wasn't even sure if she should enter the chat with her bar soap hand. First of all, the way that they presented bar soap to us on the commercials was bar soap in a hand. Y'all remember seeing the man with the hand and the bar soap. But I am still committed to washcloths.

Have we, is there something about us in our community? Is this a black thing? I don't understand. Is the bathing every day with to washcloths. Is there something about us in our community? Is this a black thing? I don't understand. Is the bathing every day with a washcloth and a scrubbing? Is it a black thing? Is it going back to the ancestors having to be in the field and in the mud and in the dirt and so a bath really meant something to us?

I'm honestly, I don't mean to make this like history month or a dissection piece, but I'm just saying, why is bathing so much more important to us? Is it so much more important to us? Why people, can you help me? I need to understand, is this help me? To Denise says, ain't nobody smelling like their kids, but then Ms. Ross is no rescue,

the whole household smelling like outside. Do y'all know that smelling like outside is not actually like something that you can smell like. Like evidently when I said something about Ellis smelling like outside, like someone overheard me and they were like, what does that even mean? It means you smell like nature, and force, and dirt, and wood, okay? And not like soap. I don't know. Help me to understand. Alexis says they need to marinate in the tub.

Dominique says rescue they bath tub from not getting used. All right, and then as they are, don't force things. This is a clear no word. All right, I tried a little bit, I tried, but I also I didn't try. So it's a no rescue. It's giving a strong no rescue, not even with the soap on the rope.. Not even with the soap on the rope.

I think even with the soap on the rope, maybe. Margaret says, yes, they're even we in Africa use watchcloths. Okay, so no, no, no, no. CCC says it's extra security with the watchcloth. Lily says, I remember, but a watchcloth feels so good. The scrub is not, the scrub, it's exfoliation.

It's everything. Parachup says watchcloths cannot be cultural. So, wanna says, it's exfoliation, it's everything. Um, pearly puffs as watchcloths cannot be cultural. To want to say it's a black thing. It must be a black, I don't know. It's got to be right. Kathy says, rescue my ex-coma baby, could not handle daily bathing with something. No, for real. When I did see the American dermatology folks said

that they may not need that. The Ella has exema and you know, I've told you about that. Ola has been clearing it up. But I'm wondering like, I'm like, maybe I'm drawing her skin out with these baths. I don't know. Because after we give her a bath, I use userin and births bees to make sure her skin stays moisturized.

But one thing she's going to do is get in that tub. If you don't get in the tub though, like you're out in the elements and pollution and nasty. So like, can you just not bathe and live in the world? Like I understand you didn't bathe and you said at home all day and then go outside maybe. But like, how do you not bathe and live in the world? Like, are you, is that okay? What do you do when you don't bathe your child?

Do you wipe them down? I need a parenting class. The feelings box, the feelings box. I don't know if it can help me with this. Keisha says it's a non-white thing. Okay, all right, I guess that's it. At least it's definitely a black thing. As we said, do they at least do them little garden tool baths?

Or white steps, bird baths, diamonds at part, they know, well, Ashton Kutcher does, if you guys are unfamiliar with Ashton Tate's referring to, is that a black thing to say, Hobaths? Yeah, I don't know, I never lived nowhere else. All black is all I ever been my whole life. But in my household, they would be like,

if you know I'm gonna take, go at least, go take, they would be like, if you're not gonna take a go, at least go take a whole bath before church, before the next service, we gotta go to church and I go take a whole bath. And you're probably thinking to yourself, what is a whole bath? Wow, this is why. When you,

I don't wanna define that, Google it. Google it. You take a wash cloth and some soap and some water in your sink and you hit the hot spots, the four corners of the earth, a bird bath. But do you say bird bath or do you say hobath? You say bird bath? Really, did you ever say hobath?

You never said hobath? Your mom called my, oh, whole bath is all I know. What about you? Whole bath is all I know. Wow. I started calling them a French bath with Ella for some reason. She's a fancy house. No.

The French but fancy house. No The French but fancy health I don't know but can I call you back on my work Brianna said shot so said shot is so that shot is culture. She's got her biology degree. She told my bird bath. Let me tell you something. Margaret says, I've taken such a bath. We call it a dry bath in our house, but it's a little bit of water in it. It's a little bit of water.

Regal says, all bird bath is so sweet. Yannis says in H word bath, oh, I probably shouldn't say H. I probably should say H word. That's is that we said whole bath. Whole bath is all I know. Tony says girl. No, you ain't saying the whole bath on I don't. I just and then it's in the comments. So I'm reading it again. Alexis is give us a definition. We're out here not. We're out here now. Goose says, how do you not bathe in living the world as there are good questions that need to be answered. Okay. All right. Adel says we call it funky sharp.

I know somebody who stays funky sharp. And if this is a thing, we need to call it funky sharp. Okay. All right. Let's move on to the next thing. Dang y'all up here. Tom out stuff. All the time and just move on.

Okay. All right. Listen. Sharon says I was confused with the whole bad Sharon. I didn't know that there was something else to call it. Okay, I just this is all I know. Oh, favorite says wash up for the one. Wash up is a good in between between Hobath and Burr bath. What's just yeah, that's because it's honey. All right, I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener.

I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. I'm not a gardener. We have been triggered. You all, we have been triggered. Juvenile, many fresh and me ex released a song that triggered so many of us to go back

to a time in our lives where drop, you know, for the 99s and the 2000s. And when I say 99s and the 2000s, somebody's speared already quick and somebody already got whiplash, okay, this one here, for $99,000 to $2,000. But instead of saying back that thing up, for some reason, the saints are saying backs that thing up. And, you know, do we wanna rescue them for trying to push the vaccine on us in such a way

that now we're triggered back to the days in which we needed whole baths. Do we want that that's that thing up. If y'all want to tell folks to get vaccinated, that's one thing, but that's that thing up. But we should rescue them anyway to get the message across. Because how would we, we wouldn't even be talking about it if they didn't take this memory of our childhood and desecrated in such a way. I don't know. I don't know.

Tell me, what do you all think? Should we rescue them? Raven says, so I'm throwing it back while getting my vaccine. We're a little confused. We're a little, Jayne McCulloch says, child, not me shaking a little when I heard that because that song is triggering.

Some of us cannot, some of us are trying to have a saved girl summer. And you cannot put the back that thing up, track up and say, back's that thing up, we're confused. Are we being responsible humans? Or are we going back to the days in which we was going

back to them days? We don't know. But you know, I don't know. What do you guys think? Should we rescue? Brianna says just when I thought there couldn't be anything worse. Tini says, I'm with it. Vax that thing up.

I'm not comfortable with Vax that thing up, becoming a thing. But I do think we should rescue them, but I also don't think we should rescue them. No one says Vax that thing up. Who approved? Who was listening? This is an interesting exploration. Who was listening to back that thing up and was like, you know what? Vax that thing up. Like who connected those dots? We need to talk because it's not, it's not okay. Our hangar says every time you sayen says every time you say it, every time you say it, I'm crying. Google says she needs to get going in the background.

I know what's happening. Shree says not as shite, are they belong outside with as you know rescue? No rescue for bags that thing. Stephanie says girl, who is she playing with? First of all, that song, who was wrong with us? Twicken one even what is called on today,

but bag that thing up had a moment in history. Let's not mess with history. The history doesn't always need to repeat itself. Ariel says, no rescue, shut it down. Kwanza says, yes, rescue, rescue. It's mama Mia. As we said, I'm sick of these fires starting to look like pre-obitch, which fires?

Oh. The back that thing up fire, they do. I hate seeing some flowers flyers though, because immediately when I see them on Instagram, I'm like, oh, do they pass in there? They're like, no, they just perform that South Beach this weekend. Okay, whoo, because they put them up there.

It's italicized, it's gold, it's whoo, you know, my clutch, my pearls. Okay, Declan says, I watched it about four times trying to make sure that's what they were saying. They are saying That's that thing up. Is this a rescue? Is this a rescue? Cynthia says no, they should have kept it in the 99s and 2000s. No rescue CC Cassie me and says I'm giving I love God. Do you love God? What's wrong with L? It's giving I love God

You're right. That's what it's giving I was wrong with it. Oh, it's giving. I love God. You're right. That's what it's giving. That's what it needs to give. Miss Panther Jones says, no, do not rescue. You should be in a message for STD prevention. Hmm. Now, that's a take on it. That's a take on it. Okay. So, Talents is girl. That makes me want to go back to the skating ring in the 90s. You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, rescue. The skating ring was the club.

I remember, I think it was called the, the skating, in Arlington, Arlington, Texas. That was stand up. The skating, I think that's what it was called. We used to beg if we could go to the skating ring to do what to do what just experienced the club on our level and let me tell you something this skating can't even skate right now if you I can rollerblade but I can't even skate but I wasn't going to put on skates but I was going to see to do missionary work now is anyone here like to come to the parts house Dallas? Anyway, listen, I used to love one to the skating rink. It was a moment for Darius says I was still dance to it.

Amen. And Cache says, etcher smile on the little too hard over there. What kind of flash? You know, you haven't said a time, a time, a time. And says, so you's a big find one more want you back to that thing. I like it. I like that song. I fine woman want you back to that thing. I like it. I like that song. I don't like the back of that thing up. It's triggering.

So are we rescuing Kimberly says I cringe when I hear it. Amen. So Alex says I want to save them just because it's them, but keep back that thing up outside. Like we will save you, but you got to keep the song outside. If you want to come up with a new song, you can come up with a new song. But let's leave the extra thing back into the past where we left it. Okay. That's all I'm saying. Lovely says Arlington. Yes, Sarah. My days, what's up Arlington in the building? Tiffany said such a breath of fresh air. Oh, to see you live right now. I love it. Thank you guys. Davie that says I was going to the skating ring Wasn't doing any skating. Not a lick of skating.

If I would have been skating at the skating ring, maybe I wouldn't struggle with exercising right now. But I was going to the skating ring to see what I could see and to be seen, most importantly and to be seen. What can I see and cannot be seen. But God, who was faithful, amen. All right, so we're not doing

back. I think 70 says rescue. It may help someone. Raven says, yeah, it's Friday. Nice indeed. You know, says after you would take them skates off and dance as well. Let me say, I'm pretty sure that the place that we used to go to an Arlington got shut down because I'm pretty sure there was a shooting there. But that's not not all right. I got to stop saying that's all right to everything because it's not always alright. This July I have been spending so much more time with my girls.

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from her world. When we got the bitty baby though, we opened up the stroller. First of all, it looks like a real actual stroller. Like it looks like something that a real baby can go in. But she loved it so much. She's got this little black baby that looks just like her and it's so squeezeable and lovable. You'll love it too.

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You shut down two of them, okay? You shut down two of them, okay? You shut down two of them and I'm just hoping that this last one that we as women can come together and do what needs to be done for the sake of our sister. My last rescue is of a young woman who was on a most wanted list, okay? The Tulsa Police Department posted about one of their most wanted suspects looking for information. And the suspect commented on the Facebook post herself, ultimately leading to her arrest.

Okay, this is what happened. On Wednesday, the police department posted about Lorraine Graves who is charged with being an accessory to murder the department was looking for information on Graves who was suspected to be involved in the murder of Eric Graves who is charged with being an accessory to murder the department was looking for information on grapes who was suspected to be involved in the murder of Eric Graves Eric Graves or Shine Kill okay, this is a full thing however the department was looking for Lorraine Graves Let me tell you they said that they would give a reward for finding her and Lorraine commented and says where's the reward money at? Just probably not a shining moment,

but nor is allegedly those crimes. In my head, I felt like this rescue was gonna go a lot better, but after reading what she's allegedly wanted for, it's giving no rescue. I just, this is what I will say before I read the full headline story and had to deliver it to you all instead of playing it out in my head. This is what I'm gonna say.

Sometimes you don't know your own worth. And maybe she saw how much money they was willing to give for her and she says, wow, I didn't know my own worth. And then she said, wow, here I am. Where's the reward at for me? If I am the reward and there is a reward connected to me, where is the reward? Maybe she was caught by surprise. Maybe she was prepared to be in hiding for a long time. But then when she realized that she was worth so much, she stopped laughing.

She was like, you know, wow. So I guess there's a no rescue day. I guess. I guess it's a no. Yeah. When I read it, when I read it, I couldn't rescue the way I wanted to rescue because she okay. So no. All right. Well, this is nice and awkward, but everything's fine. Um, Shantin says, free her. She's innocent. The air says free her and rescue her. She's so funny.

She need a bail. What is happening? Jasmine says no rescue next days. Oh, daddy says, oh, no. Why, why, why? See him says that pick. If you guys haven't seen the pick of her, she does look like, y'all got me. That ain't even like y'all got me.

I don't know. Google says that picture though. We can't concentrate on the story as they are. Sorry. I tried. I don't know. A dog who says I'm holding in my life, like I'm in the room.

I just, it sounded, I don't know what happens. Things sound a whole lot better in my head until I have to present them. I could never be a lawyer because I would just have my whole case in my head and then when it was time to deliver, I would fail. Lisa said, save her. At least as a share, I'm trying to make a way out of no way with this dress. Patrick says who picked this topic. I think. Lisa says, S.J., I'm trying to make a way out of no way with this dress. Patrick says, who picked this topic?

I think it was me, Patrick. But I can agree with you that I've had better moments. Maybe we should rescue me for the rescue. I've had better moments. OK. I hate to be unprofessional, but I'm already unprofessional with this. They tried to drop the food, but they said to can drop the food. I'm going to give you my phone real fast and maybe we can try and figure it out.

Can I? My kids are at work with me and I tried to order them lunch. I don't know if we can contact them. Everything's fine. Okay. Okay. Nicole says it's all a no for me. Robins says, well, God help the people.

What? No rescue. Some people need to go back to class. No rescue. All right. Well, all you can do is try. All you can do is try. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. And today I've taken a lot of else, but you know what? It's Hail Mary time and with Hail Mary, I know I won't lose.

And sometimes we even have Hail Joseph in there and I know I won't lose those. This is what I want to say unto thee is this. Okay. First of all, some onbiles. Not the one or the two only the me, not three. You see what I'm saying? Drop the hot little bar for you right there. Okay, because don't count on me to be in the lineup when I am only going to be me, some onbiles. You are out here flexing for us and you didn't even get on the bars or the mat to do it. And we salute you, Queen, for putting your mental health first. Okay, that's what we love. We love that, okay.

Hail Mary, though, Hail Joseph, too. A few people who have made their way into the news, Atlantis become first black female duo to win Harvard's debate competition. For the very first time, a pair of black female debate partners were named the champions of Harvard University's annual summer debate competition. Emani Stanton, 17, and Jela Jackson, 16, took home the win after facing off against more than 100 other debaters from around the world, and going undefeated for

all 10 rounds according to the Harvard debate council diversity project. Let me tell you something. Emani and Jala said, we come from a lineage of just black folks who know how to debate. I just, they said, listen, something happened. These black girls were like, listen, debate us, got it. It says the bar has been raised. And that's a good thing for people and for girls of color all around the world.

Jackson, a rising junior at Holy Innocence Episcopal School in Atlanta told NBC affiliate WXIA, it's still mind blowing for us. We went in there and we did it. Y'all better queen. Y'all, I mean, I love it. I love it so much. Okay. The program, each summer Harvard hosts a residency in debate competition for students. And for the past four years, the Harvard debate council diversity project has been recruiting and training black youth from the Atlanta area to compete. I love it.

We like to argue anyway, we might as well become very good at debating different subjects and topics and then going in there and doing what needs to be done. Okay. Jaina Coles says, and they'll do it again and again. Amber says,

yes, I heard about them just phenomenal. Jamie says, I love this story. Lily says, that's what stuff they look like they cost everyone. I don't want it. Imagine that, Angela says, a lot of sports people minding their mental health. Yes, we love that indeed. And Tiki says, yeah, my daughter is a debater and she

wants to go to Harvard, blessing to them and blessings to your daughter as she pursues this journey. As she can see, if she's exposed to it, it means that it can happen for her. So big ups to her. We thank you for putting in the work so that we can all be inspired. OK, our next Hail Mary, the leading ladies of logistics

are on a mission to help women excel in the $800 billion trucking industry. When it comes to the $800 billion trucking industry, women are often left out of the conversation. The leading ladies of logistics are using their platform to change this. Samantha Smith, Tawana Randall, Tristan Simmons, and Vanessa Gantt created the organization to not only empower business women of the transportation and logistics industries, but to also educate and create opportunities for them.

I was just looking to connect with other women in the industry that either had trucking companies or worked with dispatch or broker freight, sits Smith in an exclusive interview with Afro Tech. It's definitely more of a value when you have everyone that can collectively come together and provide different pieces of industry and different types of value from the industry and then mentor other women who was to join the trucking industry. My sister in love, Larissa, has a dream in her heart to join the trucking industry.

She has always talked about this dream before she and my brother even got together. And I think there's a lot to be learned here. So if you are a woman, don't just be limited to entrepreneurship that you have seen or have been exposed to. There's something to be said about women in this industry. The women said, we are the minority in transportation. It is male dominated. So anything that we can do to prepare ourselves

to be able to make sure that our businesses are sustainable is definitely a plus for us. So we love it. Big ups to them. Erica says they better do that. We can do it all. Amber, hold on, was that Amber? Amber says my sense of direction wouldn't qualify me for that. When I say I'm going to need a little GPS, if it's going to have,

I'm not saying I can't do it, I'm just saying I'm going to need a little j-plus. I've been with the girls, y'all, I have a spending every day with my girls. And I'm just saying I'm gonna need a little jippus. I've been with the girls. Y'all, I have a spending every day with my girls and I'm just tired of acronyms. They be asking how to spell stuff like PM and I'm like, Pum, you gonna bet eight Pum. Everything's fine. It's funny to me and them sometimes, okay?

So that's all right. Money who says yes, that's all right. Money could say yes, brilliant beauty. Elaine, I was just talking about the sisters. Thankful, queen says yes, I'm gonna need some GPS though in order to make it happen. And there is nothing wrong with that, okay? Let's see, Jamie says, I know that's right. Y'all better do it, making history and changing the future. We love it.

Okay. So, our last Hail Mary, a Hail Mary, Dr. K. Marie King was recently appointed to serve as the chair of the Department of Surgery and Chief of Surgery at Albany Medical Center, making her the first black woman to sit at the helm of a surgery division at an academic health science center in the United States. Dr. King who currently serves as Chief of Surgery and Medical Director for Surgical Quality at Grady Memorial Hospital and a professor at Morehouse School of Medicine has dedicated her career to advancing medical research surrounding pancreatic and liver cancers.

The Washington University alum who served in the United States Army did her residency training in general surgery at the University of Pittsburgh and earned a master's degree in biomedical science at the Minnesota-based Mayo Clinic. Let me tell you this, this is one thing about me as I know what I'm talking about.

I bet she loves it to whom and may concern email. I bet she loves it to whom and make an certain email. I bet she loves and loves and as the research suggests email because she went to what school to get it done. Okay. Dr. King took to Twitter to express her excitement about her new role. Words cannot express how delighted I am today of the announcement to leave the Department of Surgery at Albany Med. The connection I felt Words cannot express how delighted I am today of the announcement to lead the Department of Surgery at Albany Med.

The connection I felt with everyone I met made it seem ordained. Come on ordained. Come on ordained. Before I formed you, I knew you. I sanctified you. I ordained you, okay. I am humbled by the honor and in filled with gratitude. Thank you all for celebrating with me.

What's up, Dr. King? We love it. Thank you all for celebrating with me. What's up, Dr. King? We love it. Thank you so much for your inspiration, when your life becomes inspiration. That is what I'm talking about, and that's what she's doing. Kelly says, Black Queen's out here doing the dag on thing. And she says, wow, they need to be on the front page

of the newspapers and balance. She says, Black excellence, we love it. Erica says, glory, glory, glory, that's what I'm talking about. Hail Mary doctor. I love it. Google says, makes me sad that in 2021, we are still having first black woman or first woman to kind of sad. It is kind of sad, but this is where we're living. So we got to just keep keep on pushing, making sure that we're first

or paving the way that so that someone else doesn't have to be first. Being first is amazing, but making sure that someone else doesn't have to be first is even more beautiful. So I love that. Oh, I see you like actually speaking on the women's driver. Mother, the comments came out of order, so please forgive me. Advice questions. Give me. Um, advice questions.

Just so you know, I do have ads, I'm just putting them in at the end. So don't worry about this. If you're wondering where the transitions, where the ads, it's all right. I got you, okay? Okay. So our number one advice question says, good day, pastor Sarah, Shanice and the delegation. I need some guidance on a personal matter and I think you guys can help me. After watching the undoing by SJR this past week, it got me thinking of an area in my

life where I need God to strengthen me to start again. That area is in romantic relationships. Growing up, I never wanted to get married because I saw all the bad examples of marriage before me, including my parents. And even though they are still married, they are not happy. And my mother is only staying because of my 10-year-old little sister.

By the way, I'm 21. I kind of changed my mind when I started seeing people do relationships in a healthy way, online, mostly, in pastors and their wives. But I don't know most of them personally, so I'm not sure if their happiness is legit. Also, I became independent at 18 and recently just bought a car. So basically, everyone is always asking about my relationship status, hoping I'll get married soon. I'm from South Africa, so the pressure is real, but I'm not interested at least not yet.

So my question is, how do I, how do I let go of the fear of failed relationships, not necessarily mine since I've never really been in one, and embrace what I feel God is calling me to, which is marriage. I know this is beyond me. If I do this right, I'll be fighting for my future kids and everyone connected to me. But if I succumb to the fear, I might not live out the life God wants me to live fully. This is a great question.

I know a lot of people who have changed their position on relationships as a result of just doing work themselves or realizing that they created a boundary and a standard that was set on something that was ultimately a negative experience. When we have a negative experience and we create a boundary or a standard or a limitation based on a negative experience, we have to question, did I set this expectation because I had an experience that inspired me to make sure that this doesn't happen in my own life, for instance, with a bad relationship. We see this all the time, like you go through a heartbreak

and you're like, I'm never gonna date again, right? You move to a new job and you're like, I'll never apply for this job again. You start a business, it doesn't work out. You're like, I'll never start a business again. And we end up letting failure dictate our future possibilities. When failure dictates your future possibilities, you're always gonna find yourself

ultimately frustrated because you know the standard I have in place is rooted in failure and not in faith. Anytime we have something that's not rooted in faith, it's gonna continue to come up in our life as an area that we need to investigate, reprocess until we can live from a space to faith. It sounds like you're doing that.

So congratulations on living in this space to faith. What I would say to you when you talk about like, how do I get to a place where I can be open to marriage and really begin to embrace what I feel God has called me to, is simply this, you are going from, I never want to be in a marriage in a relationship, to now I believe God has called me to marriage. There are steps in between.

And I think to really focus on the steps in between is to say that I don't necessarily want to turn into someone who's now looking for my husband in every man that I meet, but rather to come to a place where I'm simply open to it. Being open is a powerful, powerful gift that we can give ourselves. That in a place where I once felt limited and in a place where I once felt restricted, I can now breathe in the reality that I'm open to this. I'm open to writing a book. At first, I thought I'd never tell my story, but I'm open to writing a book now.

I'm open to a relationship. Yes, I went through a heartbreak, but now I've rebounded from the space of I'll never do it again. So I'm open to it and to live in this space of openness, God is vast. Everything that God has created from the mountains, the oceans, the earth, the people who live in the earth are vast and we are these extensive creations that are meant to live in big open spaces. And when our fear begins to limit us,

then we do not experience the vastness of God, especially as it relates to God's love. So love yourself enough to be open to whatever God has for you, not just in relationships, but in any and everything. Living that space of openness and not need, I think my fear is that you will become needing and desperate for it because you've just gone from one extreme to the next. But give yourself patience and peace as you just become open to what God wants to do in your life that may not look like what you've seen. Sure he says it's got time, but maybe her culture thinks she's running out of time. Yeah, you're 21. That's another thing. Erica says 21, it will work itself out in five years. She has time. You

do have time. Jamel says, I'm open and expecting for God to allow my bow as to locate me. Talima says, since I thought you weren't going to preach that come on now, that's good. Kesh, she says, we are tired. They still picking their relationship questions, but we the delegation are. Aaron says, standard should be rooted on faith, not failure.

Jesus says, acknowledge the Lord in all your faith, not failure. Jesus says, acknowledge the Lord in all your ways and he will direct your path, focus on your healing. In addition, that fear is just an attack from the enemy. God is for family. Margaret says, Oh, looking for a husband and every man one needs that's it. That's that's the thing that happens to us when we become so open that we say, listen, now I'm waiting. And Julie says, wait, how old is this 18 men? I don't want to say much because maybe South Africa culture is different, but since you got lots of life to live, take your time, take your time,

take your time. We hear that over and over again. Thankful says, see this right here is why I love it. Missed the show so much. I am in that same space. Love this. Love it for you all, sitting in the maze, says be open. Let's get into the next question. Oh, wait, I wanna read Ashley's comment because it's really helpful.

Says, if you've witnessed both toxic and healthy, one question is, what are you willing to work to hold on to? It takes work to prevent toxic and produce healthy choice is yours. If you've been listening to this podcast and you find yourself triggered, either by the parental experiences that you've had, mommy issues, daddy issues, or maybe just relationship in romance, there's a whole gamut of issues that we all face and you need some help navigating them I want to tell you about something that has become such a great help for me on my journey and that is better help

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We've talked on the phone a few times and have plans to do another test. Then meet if the results are the same. My issue is he was not around because he never knew about me. My biological mother lied to me when I first asked her over 20 years ago and said he denied the baby was his.

Every other time I'd asked her, she would brush me off or say she didn't feel comfortable telling me who he was. Now that I've gotten the DNA result, she admitted that it was one of two guys and she never told him. I experienced a lot of trauma and poverty in my childhood that carried over to major depression and anxiety and adulthood.

And now I can't help but wonder how different my life would have been if he had been allowed to be a part of it. He seems to be financially and emotionally stable and very caring, none of which my mother was. She didn't even raise me herself, my aunt, her sister did. I had a lot of intertor-term oil over the years wondering what was so wrong with me that neither parent wanted me. Only to now find out what that was not the case. This is also causing me to feel a bit of resentment toward my mother, which I struggle with,

because she and I are finally in a decent place in our relationship, which just happened about 10 years ago. Not sure what my actual question is. I just need help, please, and thank you. First of all, that had to have been so much for you to just release. So thank you. No pressure to find a question because I can see how someone going through what you're experiencing right now may just need to release feel related to and hopefully come to a place of relief.

When I was reading your question, I couldn't help but think that at 45 years old, that you've had these circumstances that are ultimately making you feel like a little girl again. And you have to acknowledge that, that this is something that the little girl in me either hasn't healed from or is now being wounded again by. We put so much pressure on ourselves

when we become adults that like certain things shouldn't affect us because it happened in our childhood, but the truth is that we as adults are walking around with the wounded soul of our childhood experiences. And if we're lucky and blessed and we open our hearts up and surrender and sacrifice, we experience God's insight and perspective over what we called a wound, right? I think that's what peeling is, honestly. Healing is when we receive God's perspective

on what was a wound in our life. God's perspective will say to us, yes, you didn't have your father in your life, but because I knew that you were going to experience this deficit, I allowed for there to be addition in your life from your on addition in your life, from people who could handle your soul and handle who you are. And that came from your teachers and your grandfather. When we received God's perspective, it can be very healing for us because

what it teaches and communicates to our soul is, yes, I didn't have it, but God didn't leave me without anything at all. And so I think that the child in you is being rewounded, perhaps being exposed in a fresh new way. And I think you've got to honor that child that you've got to talk to yourself the way that you will talk to a child about this experience. And this is something that therapists use all of the time, which by the way, sis, you're going to a child about this experience. And this is something that therapists use all of the time, which by the way, since you're gonna need some therapy for this one, this is gonna be more than just an advice question. You're gonna need some therapy for this one.

But when you're being re-triggered and re-wounded, I would suggest that you would say, like, what would I say to a child who was going through this? It's okay. It's okay to be hurt. It's okay to be hurt. It's okay to be disappointing. It's okay for you to have all of these different perspectives

of your mother. When we have parental relationships, we feel like you know what? There's only one side of my parent that I can accept, and that is the person who has it all together, who has all the wisdom and makes all the right decisions. As we grow older, we realize that they too are wounded children with adult bodies navigating the world.

And it should make us more compassionate because we realize that though they didn't make maybe the best choice for us, it was the best choice based off of what they had to work with externally, emotionally, and mentally. This was the best that they had to offer. Having said that, counseling counseling counseling, it's okay for you to have some work to go through with your mom, who you knew, who you were able to establish a healthier relationship with 10 years ago, it shifted a bit because you have this new revelation. Both of them can still be true.

You just have to add this puzzle piece into the picture of what it means to be her. And then last thing I'm gonna say is this and I'm gonna see what the delegation says. Allow your dad to love that little girl in you. If that little girl can still be wounded, that little girl can still be healed. And if her dad is in her life and saying, I love you, I want to be a part of your life. Don't allow it to just be for this 45 year old woman who spent most of her life without him. But those moments when that little girl in you was like, if I had a dad, I wouldn't be going through this. You have a dad now.

See, if you can embrace that, if you can trust that and lean into it so that you're thankful for the time that you have with him now. Ariel says props to her for addressing her maternal wounds instead of maybe being in denial. Maternal wounds are so so serious and I want to do more talking about maternal wounds because I feel like we don't talk about them enough and a lot of women have been wounded by them. Gina Green says Sarah, LL will that's the way of course is my name. And but maternal ones, I think not just women, but I know men have been as well.

As Sharni says, so good, keeping God's perspective at the center and Kashi says, that's a lot to process. My heart goes after her. Google says, so true, Estreya, are we are grown women walking around with wounded child souls? Kashi says, a great counselor, just anybody can't handle this.

Yeah, interview your therapist. You may be at a space where you're like, listen, I don't care. I just want to go in there and unload, but interview your therapist, make sure they're qualified to handle your heart. Since if you see God's presence, like, do I feel safe here? Do I feel loved here? Do I feel like this is a space where I can open up my heart? Alexandra Marie says, yep, I wrote a letter to my younger self in 2018 and while the release

and empowerment I felt reaching back to her was amazing. Monkey says, sis, you have no power over the past, but the future still has options. Try moving forward, counseling, and getting to know your father. Sometimes we have to accept not getting the answers we need. And Jessica says, I don't answer better help at you. No, I have a better help at that. I want to add it in post instead

of adding it here. LT baby says, when I asked God, why was my father not present, he brought back a time when my father made me very uncomfortable in front of his male friends. And it all made sense. Please pray, please pray. That's what I mean about God giving us perspective. And okay, last comment says Jamie. It's from Jamie. It says, wow, this is from me. Man, can parents keep secrets? I've had so many bombs dropped later in life

from my mom, it's amazing. I feel for her. Sending you so much love. I suggest you go through the comments and to just check out some of the things that are here in the comments section. A lot of people point out their heart sending you love, helping you to understand that you aren't alone, but also that you can heal from this.

And that's important. That's important. Well, it's snack time in the sanctuary. It's snack time is a time during the podcast where I just share with you what God is teaching me, what I'm learning, how I'm growing and changing in hopes that it will inspire you. The word for the month is process.

And let me tell you, July, July was definitely an empowering month. And a lot of ways. Okay, so I know I didn't podcast last month, but last month's word was empower. And if you watch, tell you or if you're plugged into our socials, getting our emails, then you know that word is empower. So July 1st hit, right?

And July 1st, I'm like, I'm not going to work at the same pace and rate that I've been working. July 1st hit. And the first thing I did was I packed up the girls, we packed lunches, we went to the park, and we played outside for most of the day. We had a really great day. The first day that I spent with them

though, I realized that like, man, I have not been present. Like, I have been worried about work, worried about projects, worried about my next message. Like my life has been coming with so many demands back to back to back that I haven't been present for my girls at this stage in their life. And by being present, I mean like getting to know them as a parent, it can be so easy to try and make your children

fit in the flow of your life. But to be present is to really get to know where your child is. How are you changing? What's funny to you? What moves you? What hurts you? What makes you cry? And I felt really convicted that I hadn't been present. And we've got child care set up, and I immediately just kind of let childcare know,

like I'm not gonna need you all as much as I've needed you. I'm gonna spend some time with the girls this month because I really feel like it's important for me to be present with them. I preached this message the undoing, and I went from putting childcare on pause through the month of July until I could figure out what I needed to having no childcare at all, hence the girls at the office.

So I have no childcare at all, but I also have this prayer and this reality that I've been working too much and I need to be more present in my children's life. So no childcare needing to be more present. I was empowered though by my truth. Like having this reality come into my life that I needed to be more present was empowering for me because I'm like, now I know what to do with my energy. After the book comes out, people are like, what are you going to do for your next project? What are you going to do? And I'm like, my next word are these children?

It's to make sure that they are okay and to make sure that they are developing properly. They're still on summer break, so I'm still trying to figure out this is process. Now we're in August, right? So we're in August and August word is process. And process is me trying to figure out how do I build my work around my children instead of building my children around my work,

which is a beautiful gift to even have the ability to do that. And so I wanna be sensitive to what I can do. So like they're not in school yet. So I don't exactly know how much free time I have. This is the one thing I'm doing today. I'm trying to process what I know I'm called to and by process. I mean to literally understand the steps to lead to this desired outcome of me being more

present for them. So I see so many people are already commented about this congratulations, I'm proud of you. And Lamine says this is good, thank you. One of the things that became increasingly clear to me though is that I was gonna have to readjust my life so that I can live in the spirit of multiplication. So, okay, I'm gonna go backwards, and I'm gonna go forward, and everything's gonna be fine. When I preach the message to the undoing,

I talked about God being a God of multiplication. And what I have been doing in my life has been addition. I just keep adding and adding and adding, and not seeing how I can multiply what I've already put into the earth, to multiply content, to multiply energy, instead of just adding things to my plate. And so my prayer for August is that God would reveal to me means and methods in which I can multiply instead of adding. How can I do one thing and allow it to echo in several different places so that I can limit the time that I'm working but still continue

to have the impact of what it is I believe I've been called to do. I've been doing this podcast for almost four years, almost four years, four years and it has been one of just the most incredible safest communities that I think Wominee-Loth has is the place where I get to come and I can be the girl who preaches the undoing or I can be the girl who debates about birdbath versus whole bath. And it's become such an incredible, safe space for me, which is why it is so hard for me to come to this place where I realize that I can't continue to do the podcast and the way that I've been doing it, to do it live every week and the pressure connected to it and just the back end stuff. So I'm with you guys for like maybe an hour and a half on the podcast, but there's

so much work that goes into creating this moment and to do it every week, to do it in seasons, it has been really challenging. And to be honest, it's a lot of pressure. You know, the girl who preaches the undoing, talking about Hobath is a great balance, but not everyone is for me. And sometimes I worry when we start talking about things. It's just going to be a sound bite that gets me in trouble? Like it's very stressful to do it and to be myself

and to make sure that I'm also navigating with wisdom, right? Because I don't want anything to take away from the anointing that is assigned to my life and the glory that is assigned to my life. And I am going to try and figure out a way that I can still podcast, still maintain my connection with you all, but to not do it live the way that That. And I see the comments coming in. I am not breaking up with you all.

Erica says, don't break up with us. I am not breaking up with you all. But I am going to shift. I am not breaking up with you all, but I am gonna shift. I'm gonna change some things. I'm still navigating what that change is gonna be, but one thing I know for sure is that I wanna still be able to do it with you that I don't wanna do it by myself. And so there's a lot that I have in my mind

about how I can maintain the ability to still do it with you all, like to still have these conversations, to still connect, to still have the laughter and the joy, and to also make sure that I can do it in a way that helps me to take care of the kids and to balance what I'm doing and to kind of do it in batches so that I can record a few episodes at one time and be able to dedicate more time to the kids. As a matter of fact, if you want to help me like co-host whatever the podcast is going to look like next, I would appreciate if you emailed me at podcastatwomenevolve.com because in the picture perfect world, I would be able to have like a different member of the delegation co-host the podcast with me once a week

in a way that we can once again just kind of like, keep them coming back to back and still have them available on iTunes and Spotify. So. You're the webbing process. There's a Shanese is going to be receiving the emails. And yeah, she said there's a vetting process. She wants me to be clear about that.

Nia says maybe once a month, there's something to perhaps once a month doing something. Yeah, but yeah, I don't know. Hermie says, I enjoy the podcast. I do too. And, Alexandra says, you can't burn yourself out. Sis, you pour and pour and pour. We love and appreciate you, but you have so many other priorities. We love you and support you.

Your work ethic is out of this world and it's okay to slow down and balance you deserve that. Thank you. Thank you. Okay, so here's what we're going to do. This is not the last podcast episode. Live podcast episode. Next week will be our last live podcast episode, right? So I'm not just pulling the carpet underneath you

to all together. I'm gonna see if core will do a drive by, I may see if Dr. Anita can do a drive by. Next week will be the last live podcast episode. After that, I am going to do a podcast with you all, the members of the delegation. I wanna know about your e-behavior. I wanna know about, I want to know about you knowing better,

but not doing better. I want to hear about your Hail Mary Moments. We're still going to have advice questions. I have an idea in my mind of how this can work and still allow us to be connected. Email podcast at wamanivov.com. If you want to co-host the podcast with me, it's not just going to be one person.

I'm going to keep a rotation podcast at womanybob.com, be a part of it with me, and make sure that you are subscribed on Spotify, or Apple Podcasts so that you can make sure that you still get the podcast. I'm just shifting the way I do it, but I'm not changing all together in disappearing from the podcast space.

So that's it. Tasha and sis forget them kids. I'm just kidding. Oh, that's the energy I'm on. Cassius is looking, looks at my resume with podcast and radio experience, spotted over to the email. I love that you have the experience, but you don't with podcast and radio experience. Spotted over to the email. I love that you have the experience, but you don't have to have the experience.

All you have to have is a willingness to talk and he, he, and giggle with me and love on other women with me. Sure, and it says, you can bring them in the room while you podcast, we will watch them for you. There's no telling why my office looks like right now. It's not just the kids though. The kids are the kids are a big part of it for me because I just need to figure out,

okay, now I'm just talking and whatever. But Mackenzie is 11, she's turning 12 this month and I just remember in watching her, how much of a change you're going through when your body is changing, you're more self-conscious, but you're still like a kid at heart. And I just don't want other people to raise my children. And I wanted to find for her what womanhood is.

I want them to be with me. I want them to see me working. I want them to see me in the kitchen. I want them to be exposed to what life looks like from my world. LS5, she's at this pivotal age where she really needs direction and redirection and boundaries. Because she says, step to me like, Hun, I told you I ate my dinner, Hun, it's like what you're not going to do is call me, Hun.

But she just picked up so many things from her siblings and from babysitters that I can tell that I just need to be an anchor for her. And this is hard for me. I got low-key emotional talking about it today in one of our meetings, but I love this podcast. And I really love you all. And I think it's just even more meaningful to me because like, you know, this is like from the ground up, right? Like I ordered my podcast equipment from Amazon.

I didn't even know if there was an audience for something like this. The reason why I started doing the podcast live is because otherwise it was just gonna be me talking to myself and I was like, how can I create this way where I can connect with women who are looking at what's happening in the news, trying to get their life together and still wanna be inspired. And this community means a lot to me

and I love you all so much and I can't believe that we're shifting it. But I have to. And sometimes you have to lay down a good thing to experience a God thing. And I tell you guys this all the time. And I have to walk out what I preach. And I hope that that's why you stay plugged in with me is because I don't just preach it and not do it But I try to walk it out even when it hurts even when it's hard even when it changes things and

Yeah, that's it. That's all what She needs to tell me not to cry on the podcast, but she's not the boss of me. Christian says this hurts, but your reason is why we love you. Julie says, Ella calling you, hun makes me giggle. Hun bun. Ella's good for a hun bun. Hun bun, where's my lunch? I'm like, Ella, you don't want to go and sit down. And then she's, oh my gosh, there was this baby sister. So there's a baby sister that comes to our house.

And she came in and before she came, Ella told me that she doesn't like her anymore. And I'm like, why don't you like her? And she's like, well, she doesn't mind her business. And I'm like, okay, like, but Ella, like your five, you don't really have that much business. She's supposed to be helping me take care of you. Like, it's fine.

So the girl comes in. I've had this little talk with Ellen. And she's like, Hey, Ellen, how are you? Did you have a good time with mom? And she was like, see, she doesn't mind her business. And I was like, Ellen, she can't ask you how are you? Some redirection, some navigating. It's hilarious.

But, you know, we need to pivot a little bit. Okay, I love you. Jaina Kultischa, you better not. Let me tell you, she's got scissors like she's going to chunk scissors at me. Okay, so last question, starts with, which says, where specifically our advice question type. If you can you can email podcasts at woman evolve.com with your advice questions, and also if you wanna be a co-host with me for the podcast, it's gonna be the girl time, it's gonna be the giggling, it's gonna be the fun,

I'm just not gonna do it live. I thought about doing hot topics and stuff, but I feel like that is just like, this what we have here is so special, I don't wanna just recreate it with two people. So I'm going to let this idea of it go, but I do think that there's a space for engaging and connecting. And we'll see what happens. You know, we'll see what happens, but I think it'll be fun. And I hope you'll try it out with me. Make sure you are subscribed. Okay, two iTunes and Spotify.

I don't want you to miss it next week. I'll be back. I'll be with Cora. I'll be with Dr. Nida. I'm gonna see if I can get PT to swing on through. We will have a live farewell podcast for the ages and just pray for me as I'm in the process of becoming me just like you are.

And by in the process, I mean literally taking steps to become who God has called me to be. That is my life. This is woman evolved. Woman evolved is about the process of becoming who God has called us to be and doing great, big, vulnerable, courageous things and pursuit of that woman who God is calling us to be. And I know for sure that this is a part of that calling and it does. It breaks my heart.

I ain't even going gonna lie to you. But I love you guys. I'm gonna pray with you and I'll see you next week. I'll see you next week, okay? God, oh Lord Jesus, savior. What a blessing it is to be in relationship. A lot of times we talk about the trauma of relationships, the hurt of relationship, but God, what a blessing it is.

When relationship is done well. For this podcast, for the last four years, you have taught me the beauty of women coming together, being vulnerable, loving one another, supporting one another. And I thank you God for this incredible community, the woman evolved delegation. And we are in a season of undueing.

We're in a season of undueing. And God, I want to be sensitive to how we build from here. And so God, I pray that you would grant us creativity, that you would grant us vision and strategy, not just for the podcast father, but for every woman who was undergoing and undoing. May we build with precision? May we build with security and stability,

but most importantly, with confidence. Not confidence because we're building something so great that people will admire, but confidence that we're building as instructed by God. So God, if you tell us to tear it down, if you tell us to renovate it, if you tell us to let it go altogether, we'll do all of those things.

Because what's most important to us is that we take the steps that you order. Thank you, God, for not leaving us alone in the middle of our process. Now lead us forward as we grow in Jesus' name. Amen. I love you all. And I'll see you next week. you