WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FM - Dale’s Dates: Grandmother Knows Best, Part 2

Episode Date: December 17, 2025

Join Cupid and Psyche as they finish discussing vintage dating advice.

Welcome back to Dail's Dates. Today, Psyche and I are going to be finishing last week's article telling you guys how to get a wife or a husband. We hope you guys enjoy. I need to do all these things. I need to get ready. gonna take forever and then you discuss it with your friends and it's been three days and you haven't slept you know like it's just it's a lot i don't do that but i have friends who do this approach to dating and i think it's exhausting and women shouldn't do it but yeah no but i think that's the approach

anyone who asks unless they're like dangerous gets a fair first date yeah the second one's your choice and then for first aid no one needs to be freaking out no no it's you would get a cup of coffee with literally anybody so also no dinner dates on the first date at college absolutely not pretty fair i feel like i what if what if you already have like uh if you're already friends with them beforehand i think that's different i think that's different but if you're acquaintances sure yeah like if you're friendly that's different yeah a coffee date i would yeah i agree but dinner day don't put that pressure on people like yeah no this one is really really funny stand in a corner and cry softly chances are good that he'll come over to find out what's

wrong fair it works i'd be i i would you come talk to a girl who's crying uh if that's such a i mean yeah i feel like i would especially if i knew them or like new yeah i mean i'm a big public cryer i cry in public a lot um or i guess more than average i suppose and it has worked every time i mean i've got in male attention for crying several times really yeah yeah yeah like i was at this event and it lasted for a week and a half or something and i made good friends there okay we were saying goodbye i got emotional started crying it's great if you're looking for validation start crying it works okay yeah good good to know i would go up to a guy who's crying though like

if a guy started crying softly for no reason i would go to i would ask yeah yeah i feel like the expectation for for guys is a little different because i feel like a lot of guys at least try to pretend to be stoic in public i think so too but i think we need to move on from that we need a little bit of emotional vulnerability out there okay yeah appreciate it yeah you're allowed to have emotions that's true thank you thank you uh all right then this next section is uh titled how to look good to him oh this might be where we really feel that 1950s honesty coming out yes um men like to think they're the authorities on perfume ask his advice on what kind you should on perfume i i if if a girl asked me what kind of perfect

they should wear it, I'd be like, I don't know, whatever, something that smells good. Yeah, yeah. I just would have sort of no. I think it depends on the guy. I know some guys that are into perfume, maybe they have opinions. Yeah, but I feel like it's a very niche sort of guy. It's very niche for sure. Yeah.

I mean, definitely smell nice, but you can accomplish that in a number of ways. He doesn't need to choose whether you, like, are using your lavender or your sage to day like it's just it doesn't matter yeah i feel like men just appreciate if you put in the effort to wear yeah like this different for women though if a guy wants a wife he should ask her what perfume to wear yeah i'll keep that in the back of my head for next time i'm looking for a while you have no idea the discussions i've had with number of females at hillsdale about people's perfume like been turned off by or turn like yeah by the perfume definitely like oh he was a 10 until

huh yep so definitely shower not a clue good perfume okay next one this one is just like I know tell him he's handsome

just like there doesn't have to be a reason and maybe you don't need to tell him he's handsome in my opinion some guys really appreciate that wow you're so capable at this or whatever like compliment him yeah compliments go a long way 100% same for girls

okay if a guy knows how to compliment a girl Girl's outfit. How are, many brownie points? What are appropriate ways versus inappropriate ways to do that? I would stay away from anything that points out what the outfit does for certain parts

of her body. Okay. So maybe don't say, oh, that dress really cinch us your waist or something like that. That's just weird. Don't say that. That makes a lot of sense.

Also, I also don't think most guys know what parts of women's outfits do to their body shape. So, like, just, just don't. But just, that's a great outfit. That'll do it. Sure. You look beautiful in that skirt. That'll do it. Okay.

Yeah. Use the word beautiful. Women don't get called beautiful anymore. That's so sad. Yeah. Let's see. Also, beautiful is not the same as pretty. That's true.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Next one, don't tell him about your allergies. What? And then this is kind of lumped into... Don't be needy. Is that what this one's about? Take good care of your health. Men don't like girls who are ill.

Oh. I'm speechless. Yeah. I mean, I got to say, a peanut allergy is quite... That's something you should probably tell him on like, you know, hey, I have a peanut allergy, so... Like, if you're going to die because of something that he might give you, maybe tell him about that. I can just imagine, you know, someone taking this advice a little too seriously in 1958 going on a date and then, you know, having their man kill them because, you know. They were celiac.

I don't know if celiac people, you know, existed in 1958, but whatever. Well, you know. Yeah. Don't like ill women, apparently. Yeah. All right. Jeez. Imagine getting sick.

I don't know. Number 68 on the list. Use the ashtray. Don't crush out cigarettes and coffee cups. Don't smoke. Yeah. Don't smoke. I feel like there's there can be an exception made for pipes and cigars. Only pipes. That's fair. Cigars do tend to have like a darker. They're awful. That is sort of a lot more. Just don't smoke. Everyone, if you want a spouse, don't smoke. Also, if you smoke and you want a spouse, you'll have to be doing. a whole lot of cleaning and showering to be, like, remotely presentable to the rest of humanity. So I just think you should quit smoking. I mean, I smoke a pipe and I enjoy it. So I'm a little biased on that front. But I do agree with the general scent. Cigarettes are just a no. Cigarettes are just a no. Cigars in, you know, on occasion, in sort of. If you want to smoke a cigar in a Saturday,

come back, brush your teeth and take a full shower. Fine. Go ahead and do that. Yeah. The pipe's okay. Pipes. Pipes are good. They tend to be. sweeter and not quite as as you know heavy so um okay moving on this next category how to land him oh um are we tackling this man in 1950s like what land him as in a date i think that's sort of what the vibe i'm getting from from this advice um show him you can have fun on a cheap date but don't overdo it how do girls overdo it on cheap dates uh Like, how does a girl overdo it on a date? I don't know if you're, like, over-enthusiastic about the red solo cup that he brings on the picnic.

Yeah. I mean, I don't know how you what overdoing it means. I could see overdoing it on the question side of thing. Yeah, but the date's like a job interview that's kind of weird. But that's not really related to how cheap or expensive it is. So I don't think that's, yeah, I don't know. I mean, just have fun at any date you go. too expensive or cheap i mean yeah yeah don't let your parents treat him like a potential

husband i wonder what that means i imagine it it probably means sort of make sure your parents aren't like overly enthusiastic gushing over the guy yeah no no don't let your parents do that and definitely don't do what okay this is the story i'll change some details for the sake of these person's privacy but someone was at some Thanksgiving dinner and she had invited him and her mom made a comment about how nice it was to have all of her in-laws at the table he was the only person who was not related to the family at the table

they were not dating but mom said that he was one of her future in-laws so maybe don't do that yeah I like this one going to double date with a gay gay as in happy this is 1950s not different times different times a double date with a gay happily married couple let him see what it's like yeah have sort of older role models who are who have gone through what you're going yeah hopefully happy happily married yeah yeah now I think that would great yeah maybe not one of the weird happily married couples that

it's like way too much information after the first yeah I don't know um Talk to his father about business and agree that taxes are too high. Works every time. If you need to get in with the family, definitely talk about taxes with dad or cars. I don't know. Let's see. On the first date, okay, so these are two sort of that seem sort of against each other in spirit. So one, on the first date, tell him you aren't thinking of getting married.

Oh, sorry, never mind. I misread at first. I thought it said, tell him you are thinking of getting married. But no, it says on the first date, tell him you aren't thinking of getting married. And then the next one, don't talk about how many children you want. On the first date? On the first date. Absolutely.

Don't talk about how many kids you want. Yeah. I mean, do say you want to get married eventually if he asked. And this is not a weird conversation. You know, I've like at the end of the dates, just sort of lay out sort of your expectations about where you are sort of expected. Not expecting. Also, but don't lay it out in like coveted form. Like, you know, like henceforth.

No, yeah. I do expect a buy daily text from you. And I would like us to move on forward to the next interview set. Like, don't do that. No, yeah. Like at the end of the first day, say, hey, like, I had a fun time. I really want to go on a second one with you. But sort of just like, like, this is my expectation for what it would look like for us if we started dating.

Like, I want, you know, I'm dating for marriage. I don't just want to have fun. You can bring that in the date. Like, if he's like, oh, what do you want to do with your life? You could say, like, oh, I really want to get married. I really want to have kids. Totally normal. You shouldn't ask how many kids do you want on a first date.

That's not a first day question. No. In fact, that's like not a question you should be asking, really. Yeah. Ask God. He'll tell you. Let's see. Don't tell him everything about yourself at the start.

Hold something in reserve. Like what? Like, I don't know. Yeah, I guess don't tell him all your bad habits on your first date. That's probably not a thing to do. No. Men or women. Also, you know what?

I think this applies to the guys. She doesn't need to know the ins and outs and the ups and downs of whatever your special interest is at the moment on a first date. What? Yeah. She doesn't want to hear about, like, whatever book you're reading on the Gettysburg Address or, I don't know, whatever. Some guy that's, like, super into car talk, the podcast. or something that just starts talking about alternators on a first date, you know? I feel like that's, I don't know about that one.

I feel like if we're going to work out, she's got to know about my super niche. Your coin collection. Don't discuss your former boyfriends. On a first date. Yeah. See, but this doesn't say, so like, I don't think that one is in reference to a first date. Oh, that's just in general? These other ones specify on a first date.

this one just says it's sort of just in general I just agree yeah I feel like you need to talk about that yeah like what is sort of your experience with dating yeah how has this sort of shaped the way that you see it now I mean you want to know if someone went through a rough breakup when you're dating them you know you might be on an argument because of that breakup eventually so you kind of want to know yeah I don't know I think you should discuss your past don't do that on a first date like that's a we're seriously dating and need to talk kind of question but yeah turn wolves into husband material by assuming they have honor no absolutely not don't date a project also what what do they mean by wolves like a predatory guy i definitely not this one's just kind of i feel like

yeah i think there's maybe you know a maybe a little bit of a spectrum of like like obviously you're not expecting to start, you know, date someone like a perfect person, but then at the same time, you don't want to go in with like this big thing that you're, that would be a deal breaker if it doesn't change. Well, I think when I say don't date a project is don't date a guy that you know for a fact has a whole bunch of work to do before he's like relationship material. Yeah. Not that I don't think there are people that could become relationship material pretty fast.

It's just they need to become relationship material before. Or you date them. Plus, assuming they have honor seems to me that these guys are not necessarily the dating pool for the right reasons. Maybe, maybe, yeah. Next one. Never let him believe your career is more important to him than marriage. Mm-hmm.

Yeah? I mean, I don't think this is a real problem, though. Like, if you have talked and you have clear visions for what you want to do, like if you just want to dedicate yourself to your career you wouldn't be married like you wouldn't be dating you know what I mean so if you're dating you intend in some way to have a family you're also allowed to want a career alongside that yeah and you should talk like hey once we have kids I'd like to keep doing whatever I'm doing how can we make that work maybe I take a year off or two and then you pick up the slack I don't know I think this is not that big of a deal yeah plus I would be kind of worried if a girl's like I'm just waiting for this guy to show up. So I don't have to show up to the office ever again. I'll be kind of concerned for someone with that kind of attitude towards work because being a mom is a whole bunch of work.

And so if you don't like working, I think for a guy, it should be a red flag if a woman doesn't like working. Yeah. Yeah, 100%. Yeah. These two, I think, kind of go hand in hand. buy him an amusing or particularly appropriate present every once in a while. Oh, gag gifts are great.

Clip and mail him funny cartoons that means something to both of you. So sort of like... I don't know about the cartoons. Memes for sure. Teams for sure. I think the memes are a thing. But gag gifts, that's the next level of like, you know, relationship. Things that make the other person know that you think about them on a routine basis and care about them enough to.

also have fun with these things like if you're dating a girl who's super crunchy just get her some seed oils women every so often it'd be like thought of you you know like I don't know yeah just have fun have fun with each other and like I don't know go go through also figure out her sense of humor because I would find that really funny like as a crunchy person myself if someone got me vegetable oil I would be pretty amused to be like this hysterical like let's go do a bonfire and then you make an activity out of it but i don't know i feel like just sort of the general idea go through your day finding and looking out for things that you want to share with your significant other

like that's just called thoughtfulness it's called thoughtfulness i know and it's a lost virtue really yes yeah yeah a lot of people just sort of like categorize like oh i'm not with them right now so i just have to sort of attend to everything else learn their drink order yeah that's a great way of doing one of these like little things that you know 100% show them that you've been thinking about them like you know how they take their coffee maybe buy them their coffee order once

yeah 100% get a hunting license mind backfire what do you have against against getting a hunting license I mean I don't know I feel like a girl going hunting might be in a vulnerable position

generally speaking I don't know if it's the husband finding position Although it might work as like the Being lost at a football game I just get lost in the woods What would you prefer to find A husband or a bear? Like I don't know

Next one's still away on a battleship A what? A battleship Oh Yeah Well You'll definitely be doing the whole Damsel in distress if you do that

Yeah Rent a billboard And post your picture and telephone number on it Don't do that. And paint your name and number on your roof and say, give me a buzz, pilots. Definitely not. Identity theft is real. Don't put your picture anywhere.

Start a whispering campaign on how sought after you are. Ooh. I feel like that would work. Gossip. Yeah, that's a way to go. I mean, how far does this have to go? Like, if you two run in different circles, I mean, I have heard some stories of people saying, like, really like this girl but i don't know any of her friends yeah and she didn't know any of my friends

exactly we're in class together i feel like that might be harder yeah but if you're in a small town not hillsdale but a small town with people that like to talk because clearly no one in hillsdale gossips i mean this is a christian town this is this is this is a christian college we only have prayer requests so maybe you can start a prayer chain a prayer chain uh let's see uh bribe the pharist wheel operator to get you stuck on the top of a ferris wheel. I feel like this might be a step that you take after like while you're on a date

rather than to get. Yeah. This is on a date thing, but you can also start it on the date that you find the guy from the prayer request chain. 100%. Yeah. Well, our last tip for how to get a husband don't marry him if he has too

many loose buttons. What? Are these physical buttons? like on a or a or girls like are the buttons supposed to be a standing for women waiting around for him if he's sort of like a if he's a chronic hills dater yeah i mean don't i just a chronic hilted dater we know he will graduate single yeah but yeah maybe don't date someone that has like a tenuous past with dating maybe they need a little time to grow

maybe all right cupid we've found away we have and defying husbands or wives or wives what's the best tip we've heard today what do you think man i don't know we've heard a lot like what's been your favorite which one are you going to try next week to see if you're still single next next if i'm still single by next week i mean i think i did one unintentionally already really i think so are you going to be nice to people is that going to be your one hopefully i yeah uh i don't know maybe maybe i'll ask a random girl about uh about what sort of cologne i should wear maybe that might work maybe that's not random like tell me behind a girl and be like hey what do you think i should smell like that that might be that might be not recommended yeah i mean you could always text a girl that's

true it'd be something you do yeah i think i'm gonna go with it be a nice be a nice person that's my go-to to ugly men. Well, we are glad that y'all were able to join us this week. Tune back in next week for something that we're going to talk about. We'll probably still be single. Probably. Yeah.