WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FM - Samyang Ramen: Ask Us Anything Pt. 2

Episode Date: June 15, 2026

They're back for Ask Us Anything: friends edition (and airports...but mostly friends). Here are some thoughts on finding good friends, keeping up with childhood friends, and more!

Hey guys, welcome to real ramen hours, where we have real conversations about real things and real food. And this is part two of Ask Us Anything. Woo, woo, woo. Yay. And today, Lolly's going to share a recipe. I don't know what it is yet. What is it, Lily? Mool name yon.

Yum. That's good. Well, I guess, I guess I have to preface this by saying I have eaten this. every once a week for the past three weeks. Wow. Okay. Even though it's still technically winter at wholesale. And that's how you know it's a craving.

Dun, dun, done. So if you haven't heard, I'm expecting. Yay. Big reveal. It's so exciting.

But yeah, I've been really liking, like this is, I think about this all the time. I liked it before I was pregnant, so I think you would too. But this, can you spell it for everyone so they can look it up?

Yes, it's M-U-L, well, it's a specific kind of cold noodles. And Neng M-Mian is spelled, like, N-A-E-N-G, N-A-E-N-G, N-N-I-N-G, and then M-Y-E-O-N means noodles. And I know that sounds weird to be eating cold noodles, but this is like an amazing summer dish. So you actually, I would suggest just buying the pack, because they sell these, like, packs at the Asian store and you just mix. There's a little broth packet. You mix it with water and you actually stick it in the freezer to freeze the broth, not solid, but until it's kind of like chunks of ice kind of, like half like slushy, I guess.

Okay. A little bit. And then you just boil the noodles. They're like buckwheat. Yeah, chewy buckwheat. Yeah, they're even chewier. Ah. And the trick to make them extra.

because you're chewy is that after you boil them, you know, you like dump them out in the colander, you have to rinse some with cold water and like kind of like stop them from cooking. Stop them from cooking, but also you have to rinse off all the like. Oh, the starch, yes. Yeah. Okay. And that makes them really, really chewy. And then literally all you do is just put the noodles in a bowl, pour the icy broth on top. I love it with some sliced cucumbers and like have.

a boiled egg and you could put like hot mustard or vinegar in there too the broth's kind of like sweet and sour and it's just a really good summer dish i've seen um like youtube channels where they give this to like americans or like people who aren't familiar with it and people surprisingly like it so i know it sounds weird probably doesn't sound as weird as keenom's pig skin dessert but this is definitely worth trying um yeah people don't eat it in the winter or the spring bring. I'm just going through a phase right now. I agree it's really good. I've had it a couple times. There's a spicy version of it. I love the spicy version. Okay. What is this? As well as well. Bebimning man. It's like mixed. But I feel like I only eat the spicy whatever that would when I have like a protein like

like like like pork belly like you know like the what's that call barbecue like the one on the skill like I'll the skillet. And that's good. But like I just, if it's like plain, I just want the broth and an egg and a cucumber. The spicy one isn't, it's a little bit different because it's not a broth. It's kind of like a spicy sauce. Gotcha. Yeah.

But this one actually is kind of like a soup. But it's the same kind of really chewy, delicious noodles. And they're both cold. Yeah. Oh, no I want them too. So now we can be excited for summer. Yeah. And for the baby.

And for the baby. The baby will grow up to love this. He has ever had. Patrick's not going to be happy about that. He doesn't especially like the matcha and for context. Kina made me a matcha for this episode.

So I'm enjoying that right now. It's delicious. All right. You guys ready? Yep. For some more questions? We'll start with. With a more fun one, what are the best activities to do with friends?

I'm guessing maybe in the context of Hillsdale, they didn't ask that, but... Okay, like, this is one thing I'm going to do with a friends, or like with a bunch of friends before I graduate. I just want to go on a really long drive with good music during the sunset and just like chill. You know, like I mean like on a sunny day. Like it'd have to be like, you know, no, I couldn't be this cold. but I just want to like beautiful sunset we'll just drive and then we'll stop somewhere you know that's so fun and then have a little picnic or something like that when it's warm enough I don't know we're gonna get there but that is picnics yes you need to do that oh you need to have a lot of picnics when you're

at hillstone during the um when there's sunshine you go outside yeah when they're available weather is you have to do it that's I think that's like one of the core things that I still remember from everything you remember how every year we would have a picnic with a group of friends and we just have in the arb or actually we had it on the quad once yes when you had a bucket of strawberries yes that was so good i still think about that bucket of strawberry yeah can you can we get another bucket of strawberry bro like let me fly back to her life on us her context keen on literally brought this bucket on the plane with her right yep i almost got confiscated the tsa guys were like oh gotta take it away.

I'm like, you cannot. You can take anything in my suitcase, but you cannot take this bucket of strike. Yeah. For me, I would say one of the most often, wait, that's a weird way to phrase it. One of the things that I do most often with my friends that I think is super fun is go to Asian restaurants.

far away Asian restaurants because we live in the middle of nowhere and go to good ones and just like spend a day around that so like the food is the main thing but we can always like a walk around and look at the other sites in whatever city we go to but that's always something I love to do but another thing that I remember doing with Lily actually I think once or twice was we went paddle boarding and that's super fun because kind of like what Keenom's activity is. We kind of just, you know, you go paddleboarding on the lakes, you have something to do, but then you kind of just sit and just float there and talk to each other.

And that's always the best part. And then you like paddle back. But anyway, it's so nice, especially on a sunny day. So, like, doing some sort of outside activity or, like, a walk is always the best. I agree. Yeah. I think people often say, like, oh, girls, just like, like talking, guys like actually doing things together. But I would say like the things we enjoy most

is when we're actually doing something as well, even if it's just walking and talking or in a car. Yeah, I think I'd have, I don't know if I have anything more to add to your guys. I noticed you guys both came up with like eating together. So I think that's definitely, yeah, picnics or restaurants. Baking together can be really fun. Oh, yeah. Or like just making fun. food together can be it can be stressful and chaotic but I mean good memories come from that too yeah any any fun that you have done at hillstow like a fun thing that beside me and ashland picnic and trips let me think I mean I think blank pranks like oh like if I'm going back to like I was going to mention maybe like spontaneous activities because the things you guys mentioned are

more planned. And those are things that end up being super fun being planned. But then there's also like the spontaneous side. So just being willing to go on like a late night run to Dairy Queen or just like going on a nighttime walk and stargazing or things like that. That's really true. Yeah. I feel like all these things kind of involve some kind of time commitment because you are like going

somewhere. But that's when like you really bond with people because you're like, yeah, you're sacrificing your time to spend time with people. Yeah. But you know the best activity? Late night meals and conversations in the dorm room. With ramen. With ramen.

Yeah, I was going to say. Yeah. Yeah, simple is good too. Yeah, that was, I feel like I had, I get to know people the most do like late night conversation because I just feel like you get to know a lot of people because like, you only have each other in homework at that point if you're staying up that way and so you prefer not to do your homework like me and then you talk to people and it's always the best though i homework i would not remember a single thing about whatever what is the thing we learn in philosophy

see i don't remember anything but i always remember that one thing that ashlyn told me which i cannot share. What? I'm joking. Which one? Which one? Yeah, which one? Like, there were so many of them.

But, you know, she should share with me stories about her life. And I feel like, to them, like, I feel like those are the moment that I'll think about later on in life. That's, yeah. Also, it's a sign that you need to talk with friends when your brain turns off for studying at, like, midnight. Well, maybe you should go to bed. But sometimes after midnight is one, like, the best conversations happen.

And you do have a brain for those conversations. is just not for studying. Yeah. Get your priority. Yeah, the energy shifts at a certain point. And that's okay. Embrace it. Yep.

Yeah. All right. This is kind of a broader question. So answer how you like. What kind of friends should a girl be looking for? All kind of friends. I don't know. Like.

What are qualities in a friend? A good friend. I feel like if you, well, so that like you should be also looking at yourself. But at the same time, like if you're looking for somebody who have similar values to you, like you cannot like, like no offense. Like I don't think there's really, it's going to be hard trying to find a friend and try to stay friend with people who who live kind of a different life than you. Like I feel like you can be acquaintance, but I don't think you can be like really true friends. if you don't really share similar beliefs, I'm assuming. But I always look for somebody, since I am a little self-focused, not going to lie.

Same girl. I try to look for people who have all the traits that I do not have. Somebody who's selfless. I always try to find a friend that I can always learn from. That's like my goal when I'm trying to find a friend. Like we shouldn't be holding like I feel like you need to look for somebody that will try to help you become a better person Not just like the same level as you but someone who can bring you even yeah further and yeah and sometimes that person who can bring you further Also has is like lacking in some traits that you can help bring them further but that's well so fun facts whoever are friends with me consider yourself highly proof

those joke notes Thank you Thanks yeah I definitely I think I talked about this in our hot takes episode as well but just someone who's willing to confront you is also along the same lines

as what Kianam is saying that's also super important because you can't really get very close unless you have disagreements and can work through those disagreements and if someone's not willing to stand up and like talk about them and it's just kind of like holding it or like trying to forget about it that's you also like there's a barrier still so look for someone who's willing who's brave enough

to do that um yeah really always tell me tell me this like look for somebody who can pew the layer from your onions yeah want to explain that a little bit lily well he's an onion type so you'll think you figured something out about her and then you're right so it was just one layer of the onion you peeled back so some people People are more like coconuts. Like it just takes one hard crack. And then it's just liquid inside. Very easy.

But yeah. Different personality types. And I agree with what you said, Kiena, about looking for someone who's different from you. I mean, that won't, you won't necessarily, you shouldn't, like, reject people who are similar. And you should have that foundation of seeing truth the same way so that you can confront them.

Wow, it's all tying together. I mean, do you just have to not. Like at first when I said you need to find people with similar value, like, like, don't get me long. Like, you can't, you can find other friends. You're not, that's not going to stop you from being friends with them. But I feel like in order to have that really like, like Christ-like relationship between you two, it's kind of hard. If you don't have a kind of foundation. Different worldview, different lifestyle.

It's going to affect that. Yeah. Yeah. I was, C.S. Lewis wrote a book on, well, it's called the Four Loves and one of the types of loves is a friendship love. And I remember in that chapter, he's talking about how you should view your friends, like Keenom was saying, like, as more highly than yourself. So think of them as, yeah, people you can learn from so that, I guess the ideal scenario would be like, you're all in a room together and you're looking around saying,

wow, I'm so grateful I get to be around these people. Like, how did I get into this group? And that group should be, like, welcoming more friends. like it shouldn't be exclusive because friendship's one of those relationships that actually like brings out more of you can see the good qualities in a person that other people bring out of them so like yeah that's true kynom brings different qualities out of ashland than i do and i get to have the joy of seeing that different side of ashlin when i'm with both of you together and so it's just like one of those things that i think a lot of people

want their friendships to be exclusive or like find that one best friend but I think it's really important to find people who are really welcoming to like add to the friend group yeah yeah and like no I totally agree because sometimes it's it's really fun also just inviting someone else like I don't know we as seniors or juniors sometimes we'd like invite a freshman that we just met yeah on a trip with us somewhere and to eat good food and and it's always just fun like I don't know it kind of shakes up the comfortable um way we're used to talking to each other a little bit but I think that's good for us because then we got to see how each of us individually like interacts with a new person and like learns from that and you know it's not it's it's it's kind of good to be uncomfortable sometimes but

yeah yeah I feel like junior year I had a hard time talking to people that I know too well already because I'm like, every time I eat with them, I'm like, bro, like, I have nothing to talk about. Like, how are you? Yeah, like, great. Great. How was your day? Yeah, it was good. How about yours? Yeah, me too. Like, how was your class schedule? I already know everything about your class schedule. But, yeah. Literally, it just, I feel like, yes, you sometime, you get too comfortable in the friendship and, like, you kind of get kind of slacking with one at another. So, like, this semester, or at least, like this year I've been trying to kind of cut that little you know yeah so like I would

I don't try to ask grab meo with people anymore which is with my friends anymore like if I see them I'll hang out with them but I'm asking um underclassmen like people I don't know too well yet and then I'll go on mute but then definitely like I also reach out to friends and be like hey you want to grab a mute together like when like they're saying but yes that is still one thing that I'm trying to work on, denied not to slack with my already friends, like the people who are ready my friends. Yeah. But yeah, do you go back to the point about like having like a very enclosed group. I think always like in big friend groups, there's always going to be people who naturally like gravitate more towards each other because they've spent more time together. Maybe

they live in the same house or dorm or just like overall their day to day life and value. align more. So you can always be closer friends to some people and like don't get to see other people as much. But at the same time, like just having the welcoming aspect to your friend group is really important. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Yeah. Those are great. I guess following the thread of having a friend you can confront and having friends you line up with in your worldview, someone asked, If you have a friend who you like, but, wait, there is a typo on this one. A friend who likes you, and I guess you like, but that friend's not helping you spiritually grow or confronting you. And maybe they're not taking that from you as well should you keep being friends with them. And what should your relationship with them look like?

Hmm That's a good question I think I had this problem this year actually guys Whoa Yeah I feel like I had a hard time because I was like Man I really want to keep them as my friends

But me keeping them comfortable and not like Like I've confronted them But they choose to lift the way they lift It's really hard for me to do anything more about it Without like being so involve in the person's course of action and course of life. Like, that mean I would just have to be really involved. When I, honestly, I don't think I'm the right person for it because,

ha ha, fun fact, he's a guy. Whoa. And so I could, I, this is what I did, or at least, you know, draw my boundary. Oh, like, I'm so sorry. I will continue to pray for you. But I think for your best interest, I think you need to see. week pasture a male um what's I call what's the word not counselor not the mentor a mentor like a male mentor or like somebody who can actually have walked this

path of live and knew it better than I do in order to be like the most helpful because we will continue to be like acquaintance and whatever but I don't think you should be like like like trusting in me to be like you know like oh like I'll solve you know I do not I cannot solve everyone's problem. And by me keeping him comfortable in his like, oh, yeah, no, it's okay. You're good friends. Like, whatever. No, I'm not doing that because that is just going to hurt him more than, you know,

than like what you're supposed to do. So I feel like you need to draw kind of a boundary with to a certain kind of if the person refuse to turn their life around. I think there is, there's a certain line where you also have. have to draw your line and kind of withdraw back a little bit because it's complicated. So I guess like you can still hang out with them and you can still like schedule things with them but don't make that like you have your time to devote to other people as well. So don't make it a thing that takes up your extra time.

But you know, if you happen to be free, like go. say hi grab a meal but don't be mean but like you don't have to be like extra extra like yeah you know what i mean like we have mother motherly instinct as woman and we tend to be like oh no i feel so bad maybe i should do something no fight that instinct a little bit guys um let them grow because you're not leaving enough space for them to grow yeah i think of my older sister in situation because she has moved across the country twice in the past few years to cities where there's just not a lot of Christians and she can't find a lot of Christian friends. So she has very joyfully like taken up her opportunities to get to know non-Christians and to become friends

with them. And every time she's very tempted to want to turn that into a close, deep relationship. but I visited her over spring break and she told me she's like, I realize I just can't be friends with non-Christians, meaning that she can't have that deep friendship she wants because they just don't align in their values, which is hard when there aren't any Christians around you to be friends with. So not saying that you can't be friends with a non-Christian, it's just not going to be the same kind of depths of the relationship.

You're not going to be able to expect them to listen when you confront them about things because you don't have that same foundation for morality or truth or for growth even and like you might not even see you might not even line up on what is problematic about their life um so it can be really hard but at least recognizing that can help you I think better see ways you can love that friend um it'll just look different because it'll be more from a distance, like maybe consists more of prayer for them than confronting them.

You want to be able to pray together and pray for each other in a kind of a relationship, I think. You can pray for the person. Yeah, but you can't really ask them to pray for you. Yeah, yeah. So if it's more, because if

that becomes more one-sided, I guess, on your side, because of the deferring values and such. So just don't spend too much time on that. And you can still be a blessing to them, but you don't have to prioritize that per se because, yeah. And interestingly enough, in a couple of her friendships, like she was ready to continue in the friendship,

just kind of at a more of a distance. But the non-Christian friend told her, like I can't be friends with you or like they were the ones who realized that they're too different and they don't actually want her you know praying for them or pouring into them like they didn't want that kind of Christian influence in their life okay that was a hard one questions here um let's see should we move on to get some questions about guys great yes okay turn into hot takes again Okay. Starting up strong, is it okay for girls to flirt? And should you confront a friend who is just chasing a guy around?

I think Lily should answer this question. Guys, I love flirting. But I do think, obviously, there are proper context for it. I just think a lot of Christian circles are too hard on flirting or, like, to condemn. it too much and then it happens anyways and then people don't do it right. Maybe kind of the way a lot of Christian circles treat dating, it's like, we're not going to talk about it so that they don't do it. And then they do it and they do it wrong because they don't know what a good relationship

looks like. I definitely think like if you're not allowed to date or not ready to date, flirting is like the first steps before dating. So like, I don't know, why would you start? Like, that's, is there a purpose for flirting besides, I don't know, attracting a guy? Like, you don't want to just be manipulating him. So I think that answer is pretty obvious. And I think a lot of times when people wonder, like, oh, is it okay for me to be flirting with someone?

If they're asking me that question, like, I'm hesitant to answer because I think they know the answer and they just want me to say what they want to hear. like it's okay or it's not okay um and they just don't want to like it or like i don't know people can be very mixed up um but i feel like normally you know if it's okay to flirt or not like we girls we kind of keep track of all that's going on like we know the consequences of our actions we know if we want attention or if we want to you know accept the responsibility of a relationship and are genuinely interested in a guy who we look up to in certain ways. So, I don't know. I mean, is it unfair for me to say, like, use your discretion with this?

Because I feel like girls often know what they're doing. I feel like sometimes, even without you knowing you're flirting, you begin to flirt before you even realize it. So, like, when it already happened, it's usually too late. Like, I don't know. Like, maybe if you recognize it, maybe stop. Um, but oftentimes when you realize your flirting is already too late. Hmm. That's like, I feel like, and so there's really like for me, I feel like, yes, use at your

discretion like flirting because there are a different way of flirting, which, TBD, like to be determined by the person. Do you want to share like what I guess for the audience who doesn't know what flirting is and who would want to know so that they can use their discretion? What does flirting look like? Can you give us some examples? Well, okay, there are two types of flirting. We as Christian flirt a different way.

Other people who are not Christian flirt a different way. Oh, that's a good distinction. Give us the Christian. Okay, I'll give you guys the Christian one. I feel like flirting, we're just doing something out of your norm in order to talk to a guy, to try to be really friendly to him or try to make. make things line up a little bit. Like you try to make, um, like, you're accidentally standing in line next to him.

Yeah. Like, oh, you showed up to the same meeting. Or like, guys, I'm so bad at this. Or, yeah, like, or you happen to know, like, you just time things right, basically, and just say things that would be like, oh, you're doing that, me too. Like, you know, that kind of thing? You're not doing it, but you're like, you're going to go to the event just so that you're going to say you go. I love basketball.

Oh, really? Yes, I would totally come watch you play or something like that. You know what I mean? I'm like, really? You know you have a game that day. But you're going to like, oh, really? I didn't know. But I'm going to show up now because you told me about it. That kind of thing. I think, and for me, like, I guess maybe in that stage where I didn't quite know it was flirting yet, all it consisted of was like smiling and making eye contact with guys because I didn't use to do that. And then my mom was like, when you. you talk to someone, you need to make eye contact. So then I thought that was just a normal thing of being polite. But then I realized like it had some effects on guys. So I wouldn't say it was flirting until I knew it was flirting though. Because a guy can fall in love with you or be attracted to you and you don't even have to lift a finger.

Like he could just look at you and think you're pretty. So if you smile at him, it doesn't mean you're flirting unless you know. that you are trying to get him attention. Or you're, yeah, you're trying to make him like you, even if it's just as a friend because that's not how it works with guys. But, yeah, it can be very, learning can be very simple. Mine would just, mine would just be like timing it right where like I, like, I time the thing a little bit. Canaan is good at this.

Where he would turn to look at me and I immediately time it to look at. at him and then look away. So don't ever do that. Okay, guys. This is just like, you know, next level flirting here. You just kind of try to create that fake, you know, fall in love in one second kind of thing. No, no, no, no. It's just more of like me try to like see, like catch the eyes together and then give

him a big smile and then move on. Don't do that. It's a little too timing wise, but. I really like what Lily was saying earlier, though, about not like whatever you do. And sometimes you don't realize you're flirting or whatever. And that's okay. But at the end of the day, also, like, you're not the one who's in control of the other person. So if they start liking you, even though you try really hard on a flirt or you flirt really hard and they don't like you at all, you know.

So true. But also just what Lily was saying about. Don't start until you are actually like ready to date or you're actually like interest in the guy. Like that's a good rule of thumb. Yeah, you should be thinking of the next step because a lot of people will flirt and then they don't want to date or a lot of people will date but they don't want to get married. And it's like, okay, well, what would this lead to? You know, you want to break up? No.

Like they just put themselves in these situations where they're unhappy with either result. You got to be ready to deal with the consequence once you start for learning. I feel like that's the rule of thumb here is if you're not ready, don't, don't venture down that road, you know, like, you know, stay away from it a little bit and then figure out what is, well, kind of like listen about this guy, is he a good person? Like, you know, like, do you guys, like, have similar things before you actually, I guess, venture upon this? And on the flip side for the women who are looking for husbands, loosen up a bit, let go of your pride it's okay to let someone know that you think they're funny or like you can walk up to

someone and it's not the end of the world like you have to be able to give a little bit um in order to let someone know wait i have a question do you or do you not let the guy knows that you're interested did i or where are you asking me personally no no no i'm just asking us in general like i feel like i'm learning is i'm yeah like i'm fine with the person knowing i mean i think it's weird when girls tell like walk up to guys say like I have a crush on you. Not like not like not like that but like you know the guy could make positive yeah like positive positive signs yeah yeah I mean I think that's just what flirting is like I think so that's like it's just giving him enough so that he knows you don't dislike him you know okay that's a good way I encourage that one yeah because

guys are kind of simple creature that you need to give a little bit a lot of actually not a little bit a lot of signs so that they can be confirmed because often guys are too like scared i guess to be like oh does she like me does she not and we as woman were like you can help him a little bit yeah you have to help i mean he still has to pursue you like you can't hand yourself to him but you can't it is kind to you know help help them out yeah just help you a tiny bit they need a little bit of help wait what was the um second half of that question the second one is should you confront a friend who was just chasing a guy around. I mean, I think I would just tell them what we've just been saying about like the idea of

flirting and like dating. And if they're going to chase this guy around as as this question says, like, are they prepared to date this person? Are they actually like thinking they could be potential for marriage in the future? Like she's just trying to pursue him. Chase after meaning pursue, right? I think it implies the guy's not necessarily. necessarily interested.

Then, yeah, no. Yeah. I don't know. Find another fish. There are many of them in the pond. Like once you give some positive enforcement or whatever that's, whatever the word was, positive feedback. Positive feedback.

But notice that is reciprocal. Yeah. You know, it's response. Or like, if you flirt and you don't get any response, then maybe. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Flirting should not be pursuing that those should not be equivalent for a girl.

A guy, it probably should, flirting should mean you're pursuing her. But sometimes it's not. Chasing, the word chasing, pursuing. Like, that's not our job. And that's fine. Like, I'm so glad I don't have to do that. That would be stressful for me. You should signal the chasing.

The girl should. That's how we would say it, right? And at the end of the finish line. Yeah, like, waving the flags. They're like, you got it. Make them run the whole mile. Yeah. So I would probably just, if it goes on for a while and you can tell, like, the guy

is not ready and the girl's just head over heels like really trying to get his attention i would probably confront that friend yeah so i guess talk to them about it um but yeah if that doesn't work it's not up to you to change them so yeah yeah summarize girl should flirt until you're ready for the concert win guys should do most of the work you should be dropping your handkerchief and he'll pick it up yeah you know i mean like dropping clues everything down there do drop the handkerchief occasionally. Don't pick it up for him if he's not picking up, though. If he's behind you, slip a little bit.

Sorry, no, don't do that. You know, like, that was, isn't that in, like, books or stuff like that? Like, yeah, stuff like that. Yeah, it's not like the movie. Catch me. Yeah. Thank you for catching me. I would have fall without you.

You know, that kind of thing, yeah. Yeah. I will, I want to add just on the note of confronting your friend who's chasing a guy. Like, this is much more about her than the guy. It's not like she's necessarily harming the guy, maybe a little bit by giving him undeserved attention. But if you approach it to her as this is your dignity, this is, you know, for the sake of your own respect, self-respect,

like you should not be throwing yourself other people. The same goes for friendships. Like, don't be desperate. Like any relationship, you need to have. You need to be able to know when someone is not valuing what you have to offer. So, yeah, don't give your heart away. Yeah, guard your heart. Yeah.

Yeah. Okay. Okay. We already talked about this. So we can just touch on it briefly. Someone asked, what boundaries should you set with guys slash how friendly should you be? How should you act with guys? And how would that work with like a childhood guy friend?

like someone you grew up with so probably sibling status guy friends he knows I'm trying to like I'm kind of like siblings meaning like you have no feeling for the person but the person have feeling for you like you grew up with them all like around ever since you were a little like you grew up with him and then now now that you're actually old enough that it could date you but like uh I would have been like date and figure out whether you want to get marry or just like date and then you know broke up and you know like what if you just want to be

friends with him what I guess what kind of boundaries would you set with him that you would have to shift things a little bit I feel like this is like really a hard question for me because sometimes childhood friends are like really could be like clothes like you know platonic I don't know if it applies in the situation because it's like sibling status right like so I honestly personally a lot of those guys friends, they actually know boundary because they have girlfriends. And though, like, and their girlfriend and them would figure out. Like, so it shouldn't be the girl, sole responsibility to set the boundary. It, I don't know how to like say.

He would be setting boundaries too. Yeah, he should be, like if one of you are dating, you will know the boundary. You will be setting. So like for right now before dating, I don't know. Like, if your relationship is well right now and there's like no weird like relationship. like relationship situation developing like you know like all of a sudden one of you relies you have feelings for the other one i think you're fine right now because i don't know it's sibling status guys like i i think just generally just treat them like any other yeah any other

friend not like texting all the time like you would with your friends that are girls but like just you know um keep in touch sometimes and yeah treat them like a human being i mean i mean And if you're talking about sibling status, like when I think about my relationship with my brother, it's honestly like less close or just about the close is my relationship with other guys. And in a sense that like my brother and I don't like really go on walks together. We don't like hang out. We don't text. We'll call sometimes to catch up. But like, yeah, when people are like, oh, he's like a brother to me.

like they're going on walks like or like they're doing stuff that I don't know I think I wouldn't do with my brother really um my brother is sending dead bugs picture to me like that is that kind of like you know and he'll be like respond to my message after a week after I sent it so I'm like I don't know like in general just I think you shouldn't um like it's make an exception for the childhood friend like Ashland was saying treat him like any of your other guy friends. And the boundaries you would set, we did talk about this with hot takes, but kind of just,

you cannot treat them as intimately, emotionally or physically intimately as you would a girlfriend. Yeah, there's a line to what you'll confide in them with. Just consider that one day they're going to be someone else's husband, and you wouldn't really want to have, like, shared a lot of things with them that you won't be able to share

with them when they are someone else's husband like hold them at an arm's length um and obviously if you're interested in them and you're allowed to date like it's okay to start something but drop a handkerchief yeah but like in general just treat them with respect yeah as a guy you know oh ask your parents my mom always knew when my friendship with a guy was not healthy like and she didn't even witness anything she just knew okay we have time for one more short question. Can we do the airplane one? Oh, yes.

I thought that was funny. Oh, yeah, I didn't even ask any of these. These are like in a different category. Are we doing a part three? Yeah, we might have to do a part three. No, no, we can. I think, where do you guys like to go for airplane layovers? This is a very targeted question towards the international members of this podcast.

Wait, I'll go first because I requested it. The Seoul Incheon Airport. It's just so clean. And they have like high-tech robots that like carry your luggage around that you can program your destination in and they just follow you around like a dog. You have like, wait, what were you saying? Kinaw. A shower. That's my favorite.

There's a showers there. What? Yeah. Layover showers. And you get like nice Korean food when you stop there. Yeah. I recommend. It's pretty big. Yeah.

But also like not too hard to walk around. And it's sunny. Like the sun hit. Oh yeah. Lots of windows. Yeah. Love them. Super nice. Yeah. It's just like one of the nicer. You don't feel like you're in like, you know, a lot of these airport.

You feel entrapped it. Like, where am I going? I'm just getting from one close place to another. Yeah. So I'll make it feel, you know, like a little bit more open. Nice. I like taking showers in there. That, guys, that's saying something because Keenom's kind of a clean freak.

Like, she's very high standards for hygiene. Well, you guys know that. So taking a shower in an airport, you know, that airport has to be pretty good. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, like, I live by and the best.

I live by it. Yeah. Okay. Although, okay, I've heard the Singapore. No. Airport is amazing. But I've never actually been, but I've heard that people like take extra long layovers there just to like explore it. So that's probably pretty great. Wow.

But yeah. Yeah. I actually, well, my favorite's so, so, but like, you know, because I'm able to enter Singapore without a visa. So sometime I would just like layover, leave my stuff there. And then, you know, you're literally you for like, because the country, well, Singapore is only like, if you drive from the beginning of the country. to the end of the country in 30 minutes. So, like, that's how small Singapore is. And so you literally can explore it within, like, a couple hours.

I do want to go to Singapore. I had a friend who, like, would go there every summer and she'd tell me about it. It's very high-tech. It is. Wait, Lily, what's your favorite airport you've been to? Oh. It could be an American one. Yeah, I was thinking, like, well, the only international ones I've been to are, like, France and Switzerland, I think.

Or Germany, maybe. Oh, that's so hard to say because I just had a terrible airport experience. Or like, in the last few years, they've just all been bad. We always fly through Chicago O'Hare, and I will say it's been a lot better in the past few years. TSA is way quicker now. And they did survive the, like, TSA crisis that hit over spring break. But, yeah. I can name the airports I hate, like, the ones that are awful.

Sure, oh, boy. Okay, go ahead, go ahead. This will be good for the viewers. I'd say C-TAC is the worst than I've ever been to. Wait, C-Tac? Where's Seattle? Seattle. I lost my luggage there after.

Yeah, I haven't heard any good experience. Had a, like, 10-hour overnight sitting there waiting for a new flight. Yeah. Hashach San Francisco. And then Washington, D.C., I've heard is really bad. And I can attest to that because in my Chicago flight, like at O'Hare, my flight was delayed five hours. My two-hour flight was delayed by five hours

because Washington, D.C. was keeping that plane. So, not very happy with that airport, even though I've never been. The Indianapolis airport is super tiny. Oh, and the Bozeman Montana airport, it's super tiny, but, like, they're so cute and, like, cozy and clean, and, like, they just make you like airports again

when you go to a small one. L.A.X is terrible, too. Oh, yeah. Take it from the international folks. San Francisco, L-A-X, don't like. San Francisco is better than L-A-X, though. Okay. By far, by far.

Okay. What's I called? Jeff, wait, hold. JFK. Mm-hmm. JFK. That's bad? Mm-hmm.

I've never been. Yeah. I prefer the Newark one. Okay. Yeah. Have you guys been to the Atlanta airport? Yes. Yes.

That one's, I think, is it the biggest airport in America? It's really big. It has the most run way. A lot of subways, yeah. I'd say for it, sheer size. Like, I was bracing myself for a lot of things to go wrong just because it's so huge. And you have to, like, if you miss your little subway, you could potentially miss your flight because it was like, there's shuttles everywhere and they take forever. But I had, I've had pretty good experiences there.

Do you say there for my experience has been the longest? It is kind of a rat race when we get in there. But we always ended up, like, most of the time we were flying into Atlanta. And that was our last destination. So it wasn't too bad. But yeah. I miss too many flight there. So I just, because I just don't, like, even with that, like, three hours, lay abort, it's not enough.

It's just so big. Yeah. Yeah. C-TAC is like that too. Like, try to get a bigger. Actually, just any time you're flying internationally, just get two plus hour layover just in case some delay happens and you have to run around a big international airport. So. Yeah.

Yeah. I think it was C-Tacchan. attack where my little sister and I accidentally gave the employee a panic attack because everyone was like going on strike that day and we were trying to get our tickets to work. He was so kind. He got us on the plane at the very last second. But as we were walking down the like the little runway tunnel thing, we saw him literally like in the corner like curled up on the ground and like people were coming around him and like they're like, are you okay? He'd had like a terrible day probably full of angry people.

And so that was like we were like the camel that broke his back and we felt really bad. But we were also traumatized by how terrible C-Tack was. Yeah. Yeah. Well, anyway, that took a turn. Next time you fly internationally, go to Seoul International Airport. And get a meal with some friends there. Ooh, I'd love to.

At dead of night because you're traveling internationally. And yeah, we'll see you next time. Bye guys. Bye. Oh, what is it? Well, right now it's afternoon, but we don't say any. You would just say, hey guys. Hey, guys.

It's my name. All right. Yeah. My turn, Keel. Stop hugging the mic. Okay. Okay. Okay.