WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FM - Thursday Lunch: The People Who CAN’T Sit With Us

Episode Date: April 25, 2025

This Thursday, Jillian and Bella beckon you to their table to discuss something they’re sure you all can relate to—although they hope you haven’t: Bad friends. The very type of people who we will NOT BE INVITING TO SIT WITH US. Although as zero-level populars they probably wouldn’t want to anyway :/ Learn from our mistakes. Also always be honest with the police.

You're listening to Radio Freehilsa, one of one of point seven of them. I'm Bella. And I'm Jillian. And this is Thursday night. And we only have one question for you. Do you want to sit with us? Well, do you? Do you want to sit with the little gremlin person who came and joined our show today?

No one wants to sit with that. No one wants to sit with a gremlin. Okay, anyway, today we're talking about bad friends. Oh, boy are we. And here's the thing. Every person I think has had about. bad friend and some some people have hilarious bad friends stories like 10 years terrible friend they go to TikTok they're like my friend was stealing hundreds of thousands of dollars for my parents and you're like

okay I must not have really bad friends because I never had anything like that happened to me my one of my stories does involve money a little holy cow I certainly haven't had that experience I've had bad friends but never to the degree of like bad friends yeah you feel a mm-hmm so yeah my friends were just like Oh, you don't care about anyone. But yourself. But you. By yourself. By yourself.

By yourself. We should stop. Okay. So Bella's going to start us off with her bad friend. What era is this from? So this was 10th grade. Sophomore year. Sophomore year.

Of high school. And I'm going to say for this food, it's going to be stale muffins. Stale muffins. Why muffins? I don't know. I think Loki had a muffin the morning this happened. That's why muffin is connected in my head. But it's like, ooh, it's dry as still, you're not eating. Yeah, like, whose muff is that? Are you eaten? Yuck. Anyways, let me paint the picture. Because it starts very wholesomely. Okay, good. So we, I went to a very small high school. So everyone in high school

was allowed to go to prom. Nine through 12. So in 10th grade, we had a prom. Okay, this is awesome. We had a really good friend group going, okay? Like, boys and girls, we all. We all. We all. got along really well. Everyone was dating each other. No, no one was, no one was dating, but it was actually really cute because all the guys got together and decided they were going to each ask one of us so that we could because we, it was not like it would have been normal to go to prom with no one. Like just as like all of us as friends. But all the guys, to their credit, these are like 16 year old boys all got together and they're like we should each ask one of them. And none of us, except for me and my crush, liked each other. But no one, none of the other ones really did.

They just thought it'd be cute and fun. So that's really nice, right? She was one of my best friends at the time. This was 10th grade. I've known her since eighth grade, but we were pretty close. So this is kind of a short story, but everyone, all of the guys had gone around. Of course, I'm getting this information later on. I wasn't there with the guys.

Okay. But all the guys had gone around and be like, we're going to do, I'm going to ask her, I'm going to ask her. And then when it got to my friend, this one guy who was very sweet, he was, a really nice guy. He asked, he decided he was going to ask her. The problem was that my best friend at the time she liked my crush. Oh. Okay, cool.

But I didn't really care because I was just chill like that. I don't know. But you also got first place. Yeah, I got first place. And I was, I was like, I wasn't doing anything. I was like, he's going to like me. He's going to like me. But like, she was all into that.

You know what I mean? But so this very sweet guy asks her during school. I don't think any of the other ones of us got asked during school. school but he goes up he's like will you go to prom with me she starts crying oh we're at like recess which yes we had recess okay we're all outsizing at the picnic table i think blah blah blah blah is asking blah blah blah right now this is so and she's crying she starts crying she leaves him oh doesn't answer him she leaves him sitting at one of the bleachers come or the like the picnic tables comes up to us i can't believe he asked me like i don't want to go with him like you know

I want to go with. Like, he's literally sitting there. So embarrassed. Oh, he was being brave and she was being horrible. Dejected. She is crying. I guess this, she was also a bad friend to all of us, by the way. But this is more like a bad friend adjacent left this guy sitting there.

Dejected. Horrible. So embarrassed because he asked her and she cried and left him. Oh, come on. And we're all like. You're evil. And we're all like, and we're all pretending. Well, I didn't know if my crush was going to ask me for sure, because things.

were very much up in here. But you probably were like, oh, yay. She was like, I don't, I want him to ask me, blah, blah, blah. And we're all like, you're evil. You're evil. And he was silent the rest of the day. Did they go to prom together? What's the resolution of that story? I don't think she went. Oh. She did not go. Oh, my gosh. I'm remembering this. She just didn't go. She, oh, he went with someone else. Okay, good. He found somebody beautiful. Wait, I'm realizing she didn't go. I totally forgot about that. Yeah, she's probably upset about why not going her way. And we're all like, why are you not going to And she was when I got asked by my crush, who was her crush, she was so mad.

I bought her favor back with a gift. I'm not kidding. Wow. So yeah. My story also centers on a man, unfortunately. Unfortunately, it centers on a me. What's that test that girls don't have? Fectal test.

We fail. It's okay. It's not the big of a deal. We're allowed to talk about boys. My food is going to be a delicious celebratory smore, but the bottom is a sparkler creeping its way up to the marshmallow. Oh, that's not good. Like the stick that you use to do the thing, sparklers at the bottom and it's creeping its way down, but you're holding it's going to hurt you. Yeah, you're going to hurt you. Okay. It's a sneak attack, basically, is what I'm saying. I just came up with

that. Isn't that genius? Yeah, that's good. So, so basically, there was one boy throughout, I don't know, about a year of high school that I had, I like talked to. Wait, so what grade is this? Junior year of high school. So this was like two seconds ago. Yeah, well, it's actually, if you think about it, like, Don't even say so. Anyway, so junior year of high school, I was talking to this guy. I unfortunately brought him through the ringer because he wasn't a Christian and I knew we would never date, but I was still kind of like, we could talk, though. But what if we talked about it? It was kind of evil.

And as all things do, unfortunately, when things don't work out, it turns into I hate you, you hate me. Do I remember why we hated each other? Absolutely not. Not one piece of me remembers. But I remember that my friends hated him more than I did by far. So like, if they would bring him up, they'd be like, God. And throwing up and be like, oh, he's so, like, ugly and I would hate him. And I'd be like, yeah, I guess so.

Yeah, he probably is. No, he's fine. He didn't really do anything wrong. But it was like, it was pretty much like the trend among me and my good friends to hate on this guy. That's, I feel like that's pretty normal. Yes. Just because it's kind of like no harm, no foul. I know he's hating on me.

Yeah. So why can't I hate on him? I know he made up a major huge fat rumor that I was a lesbian and they had a wager, a hundred dollar wager on it. Real life, by the way. Real life. So, anyway, I had eventually. dead against this guy, but he had one against me, and it really was all fun in games.

There was this girl I knew since freshman year. We had been in math classes together. She was one of those friends that you're friends with in class, but not really out of class. But she was a good friend to me in class. And I remember one time I would appear, I appeared on her spam account a few times. And I remember being like, oh my gosh. We're friends, bro. I'm on your spam. And we were spending a good bit of time together just because school is like a long, I think we had advisory period together at some point. I don't know. We had a long time. We were friends. We knew each other for a really long time and that's from like freshman year. So senior year comes around and I am, it's birthday party. I'm going to turn 18. Yay. 18. I'm scared. I'm so excited to have

my birthday at my last big one had been 16, but 17 had been a fun surprise birthday where that boy had been there and he had like, I don't know, I'm going to show you a picture later. It's pretty funny. That has to do with that. But it was like a small 17th and my 18th was going to be bigger. And I was like, you know what, it's the end. You can find it on my Instagram. There's an eclectic little group of people at my 18th birthday. And we're in my yard. And it's like a group of like 20 of us.

And I honestly think it's just my friends who were not graduated seniors the year before. Yeah. Who are still at school. People I knew from class. I thought it would just be fun to invite people that I, like, knew well, but wasn't like besty, besty friends with. So I invited her. Obviously, I didn't invite him, him and I weren't friends.

But she comes over. We're all having fun. We're playing just dance. We're doing karaoke. My mom made a, she like bought a chocolate fountain and put tomato soup in it. And we all made grilled cheese. It was so fun. And I was like, okay, everybody, we're going to trampoline time.

And some of my friends came out with me and we were jumping on the trampoline. We're like 18 years old. But it's all like, it's all just like fun. Life is fun. And we all start sitting on the trampoline. It's getting dark. It's time to gossip. Right, Bella?

Oh. Isn't it time to gossip? Oh, it's time. And stuff is coming out. And here's the deal. I know gossiping is bad, obviously. But it also is integral. But am I going to do it?

Yes. Unfortunately, it's integrity. to my high school experience. I was in theater. Like gossip was the backbone of everything we did. Drama. It really was. Drama. And we get on the couch. No. We get on the trampoline and we're all just kind of talking. We're like, oh, M.G. I hate this guy. I hate him. And they're like, he's so ugly. And we hate him. We literally like, we just don't like. I'm telling stories about like things he did

while we were talking or whatever. And we're just like being, we're just talking with each other. Like it's very free. But these are my friends. Most of these people I've had these exact conversations with except for this girl. Yes. We're talking or having a fun time. I'm so nervous. I'm not going to. I get a Snapchat message from this boy because he was like blocked on text. It was so drama.

He did not need to be blocked, but he was. And so he Snapchat messaged me like, basically a message that was like, you need to stop telling people about. You're like, seriously, you need to cut it out. What? How do you know? How do you know about it? Two weeks later, they start dating. So she was at the party, what, texting him probably being like.

Yep. They had been talking. I did not know they had been talking. She told him everything. He's like, stop telling people about me. And everything I was saying was true, by the way, except for maybe a little exaggerated because it was me, obviously. And then they started dating and they dated for like over a year. Oh my gosh. And they were a way better couple than him and I ever would have been. But I was like, bad friend alert. Wait, so that is actually crazy because you probably had no idea. You're all sitting on the trampoline. She's over there like texting. Anyway, that's my story. Go ahead. Bella, hit us with your entree. Entree, entree. Um, I think this story is going to have to be Flaming Hot Cheeto because that is what I was eating during this time.

Yuck, Bella. It was just the thing in that anyways, I had this friend. So this was, I was friends with her. She lived in my neighborhood. She was homeschooled. We lived down the street from each other. It was a vibe, okay? We, I, it is the vibe. We hung out together all the time. I think this took place in either eighth or ninth grade. If it happened in ninth grade, it was really early on in ninth grade. Anyways, I do believe I've talked about, wow, this is about a boy as well. Oh, no. My next one isn't about a boy, though, so I'm going to come in and save it.

Mine's briefly, mine has two kind of components. Basically, I think I told a little bit of this story at some point, but I had liked this boy who lived across from me, loved him, wanted to date him. He saved you on your bike. Yes, exactly. He saved me on my bike. And when he held my hands, I was disgusted by him. And I did not want him anymore.

I remember this. But, you know, it was, it was complex. But a week later, she was all over him. Like, you know. They were in love. So you're not my friend. But I didn't, I like didn't have the mental capacity to be like, that is not cool of you.

Yes. So I was just like, great. You guys. You guys look like a cute couple. Um, they started to get really, really bad and like vaping and stuff like that. So I was like, I'm not okay with this. But it got really bad. and vaping.

But at one point what happened is that he, in the middle of the night, his mom called the police, where is he? I don't know where he is. I got wrapped into this somehow. I said, and you should check it at her house.

You should. You told on her, so you're the bad friend. No, it was like, something along the lines of his mom coming to her house late at night being like,

where is he? And my parents being like, well, do you know anything? I was like, I have an idea. But before this, also she, We had been, why it's Flaming Hot Cheetos is because we used to go to Publix,

walk to the grocery store all the time and buy snacks. We buy snacks. I mean, I always buy the snacks and she always says she had no money. But every time I'd go over, she'd pull out this giant box full of like 20s from under her bed. Hey what? So she did have money, never paid me a set. Why did she?

And would just lie and say I had no money and then. And then she'd flaunt her 20s? I'd be like, I'd be like, I'm not buying you stuff anymore. And we'd go to Publix and she'd be like, I'm so. Bella. I know. And I'd always roll. It was horrible.

You fell for it? So, but anyway, so I was like, the police go over to this girl, my friend's house. He, yes, he's in her room. And yes, he like is literally like a movie trying to get out the window. They're like, we see you. So they're not allowed. Wait, we see you is crazy. And like her mom is shocked that he was in there, you know?

But, um, they're not allowed to hang out anymore. So it's kind of awesome because this means I can hang out with her more, you know? But why is there always a guy there? Okay, I'm confused. I'm confused. She's always like, we should hang out. And then there's always a guy there. A different guy?

A different, well, there's like three other different guys. Okay. So it actually turned out that her mom said I was the only friend she was allowed to hang out with anymore. So she would say, let's hang out. But she would like set something up with a guy and then I would just be there. You're joking. I would just like watch them hang out. What?

That's insane. She used your friendship to get to a boy. She used my friendship for money to buy her snacks. And then I like, it finally clicked. I was like, wait, so every time we hang out, how was there a boy that we're running into? She would fake it like we would run into them. She would act like we were running into them? Oh, there's blah, blah, blah, blah.

And I'd be like, this is so weird. I don't want to hang out with you and Robbie. Did she think you were stupid? I was, well, oh. Oh, well, there you go. No, because I figured it out at some point. And then I think I was at her house at one point and her mom made a joke along the lines of like, since I'm, she's only one of hang out with you. I was like, so cool.

So she's not know that. And we stopped being friends and then she started like actually doing evil things. Wait, so your entree for this is hot chitos. So you're starving and you're eating hot chitos. Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's really good. Mine is going to be a lunchable, a turkey lunchable for my entree story. Is that yummy?

I've never had that. It just is reminiscent of middle school lunch because this is a bad friend story to the max. It's not really to the max. It's just like kind of bizarre in my opinion. I had this friend. She is to this day, she's extremely beautiful. I will show you a picture of her. She follows me on Instagram.

but I know that she's doing it out of service for me because of the way that these conversations would go. I went to a new... Is this a friend I know who does? No, absolutely not. This is not like a real friend. This is like a sit with her at lunch friend. Okay, okay.

I... Okay, so I went to a school in seventh grade and then I had to go to an all new school in eighth grade. So both times I was basically starting over. But in seventh grade, I had some carryover friends from sixth grade from the, like, three that I had made. I had some carryover friends, and I think one of them was going to be the people that I sat with at lunch.

And I know that I was, was seen as kind of like the friend who will give her answers. I know that I was kept as kind of like a nerd pet friend. And that I didn't actually know that at the beginning. I came to know this. The nerd pet friend is the perfect way to put that. That's how it felt. And I know exactly who or I was like, what is like the nerd pet friend. And this is something that you all need to understand about me is when I didn't have friends in middle school, I would literally, I took the viewpoint of like, man, these people don't know what they're missing. Like I thought I was the bees knees. I'm not even joking. I was like what everybody wanted in a friend.

And if people didn't get it, I'd be like, oh, man, they really just don't get it, do they? Maybe next time, guys. They don't know that I can sing. Sing it loud. They did not know that I was hitting notes secretly in my room. They didn't know that I was in Susical Jr. Like, oh. But here's the thing.

That's actually the attitude that I took. They didn't know I was in Susical Jr. So the deal is that I was like, I was watching all this happen from the viewpoint of some evil master. mind being like she has no freaking clue in a chair spinning around in your layer exactly what it's giving you don't know who i am she had this system that she would explain to us called the layers of popular and she considered herself a third level popular and she would say that she's like i'm like third level popular third level popular she's like i'm friends with a lot of first and second popular's but not everybody knows me like the first and second popular's and she would tell us and we'd all sit

there like this mouth open confused and she would always make little slight comments about how we weren't wait what level were you seven unmentionable unmentionable we were low as it gets and she would always talk about how much of a service she was doing us by being with us as a being with us at lunch as a third level popular and so one day i got a haircut oh my god i got a haircut and i remember how terrifying it was because I went to the mall to get a haircut I was a kid I was like 12 years old or whatever I might have been I think I was 12 and she like did this nice blowout it was like kind of a bob on the low it's like it used to my Facebook profile picture for such a long time because it just is a funny phone to me now but I was low key eating like I was a I was in a blowout

bob if you can even imagine it was like follow me bob I can kind of see it's like bouncing I'm sorry but I was eating the middle part was like perfectly it was just like I'm sorry, I was slang. And I knew I was slang. Came to school. Everyone's like, love your haircut. I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah. I sit down and she's got her hair in like a bun.

She's wearing like sweatpants. I do remember this. And she's like, I cannot believe you look like that. And me, I look like this right now. And I was like, what? Like, what does that mean? And I thought like, what does that mean, though? What do you mean?

And she brings up obviously third level popular again. And the gist of what she's saying is like she's hot and popular. and I look good right now, so it's confusing to everyone else to have to look at us. For the first time in my life, I look good is what she's giving. And she's like,

it's giving you just got to makeover in a movie. Why did the ugly girl, like you're kind of taking away some of my sparkle? Like, why is the ugly girl looking good right? Like, why? They take the glasses off the ugly girl in the movie. That really is what it was giving.

And I was like, I'm not ugly. This is weird. Why is my pet friend looking good right? And I remember being like, I always look good. Like that was in my brain, I didn't.

It's not true. I look back at photos and I'm like, wow, yikes. But I didn't believe that at the time. At the time, I was like, wow, I'm really eating. Which is good. It was much better for my development. My yearbook, do you want to know what she signed it?

Oh. Heart, your third level popular friend. Didn't even put her name. And so if we say, do you want to sit with us and she was here? I'd say, no, you can't sit with us. No, you're not sitting with us and you can go sit. Thursday lunch is a different lunch. You don't get to be here.

You don't get to be here. Only zero level populars get to be here. Yeah, exactly. Probably really want a drink because on the last episode, we didn't have a drink. And now we're going to wash it down for the first time. in a long time in a long time in a long time in a long time okay you're going to go first so my song of the week is called drive and it's by the cars heard and i uh i'm actually i was inspired by a bit of a snowy day we had yesterday and i was listening to it and i was drinking this drink which was a hot peppermint tea

with honey awesome i love hot peppermint tea and and it was snowing and i had just gotten back from a little bit of a kind of birthday party and like we left the house and like the snow was coming down and it was beautiful out and like it was like wow you know life's kind of good life's too good and the like sky was like you know when it snows and the sky gets like weirdly blue but it's dark out it's night but like it's why is it so blue and so I went in my little room and I opened my window so some of the cold air came in and I listened to this song and I drink my little tea and I was like this is awesome my song in the week is going to be a hot vanilla chai oh wait so we're kind of matching we're like going on a walk.

Totally. We're going on a walk together. And in my headphones, okay, here's why hot vanilla chai. Number one, because it's so soothing. And it's like, it's one of those songs that I listen to and I go, I can like breathe again. Oh. Okay. I'm going to be fine.

And it also is like vanilla chai because vanilla chai is the first drink I ever like tried at a coffee shop. Before that, I was a pure juice and soda girl. Yeah, not a coffee girl. And I was like, adults drink that. I'm not adult. And then I was like, I'm going on all these coffee shop trips. I can't keep getting like hot chocolate. I was going.

I can't be getting hot chocolate every time. So I try to chai, a hot vanilla chai. And I was like, wow. So it reminds me of like my early self from high school. And the reason is because it's like really classic Protestant worship music. And one thing about Hillsdale is that they are so anti-evangelical worship music. I get evil stares when I mentioned liking it. And I've had teachers in classes say things like, like, I don't want to raise my hands when I worship.

And that's fine. Like you do not have to. But in my head, I'm like, I do. Like, it's called Always on Time. by Elevation Worship. You told me about this. And I put it on my story. And it's just a song about how God's always on time.

He's never late. He's always the goat. So we hope that you enjoyed our episode about bad friends, but God's a good friend. And that's the period. End of story. True. And that's the end of this. You'll have to tune in to our next episode of Thursday lunch on Radio Free Hillsdale, 1-1.1.7 FM to hear more of our lunchtime stories.

I'm Jillian. And I'm Bella. We'll talk to you next week. Bye.