WTF with Marc Maron Podcast - Episode 1065 - Pamela Des Barres

Episode Date: October 24, 2019

No one can doubt Pamela Des Barres’s commitment to the life of rock and roll. She’s known as THE rock groupie, but further distinguished herself as a writer, educator, tour guide and interviewer, all involving her life on the road throughout modern music history. Growing up in California with a love of Jesus and Elvis, it wasn’t surprising she was drawn to the charismatic allure of rock stars. Pamela tells Marc about her time with Frank Zappa, Phil Spector, Jimmy Page, Robert Plant, Keith Moon, Mick Jagger, Tiny Tim, Jim Morrison, Waylon Jennings, and more, as she experienced the highs of the Free Love 60s as well as the era’s dismal end at Altamont. This episode is sponsored by Zoro.com and New Mexico Tourism & Travel. Sign up here for WTF+ to get the full show archives and weekly bonus material! https://plus.acast.com/s/wtf-with-marc-maron-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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T's and C's apply. Lock the gate! All right, let's do this. How are you, what the fuckers what the fuck buddies what the fucking ears what the fucksters what's happening i'm mark maron this is my podcast wtf welcome to it how's uh how's it going with you guys um i feel all right? you guys I talked to Pamela DeBar today she is the original well obviously

not the original groupie but she was part of the organized groupie situation I don't know what you would call it

she has a podcast Pamela DeBar's Pajama Party and she writes a regular column for the Please Kill Me website

she was she was there back in the late 60s man doing the business with the with the fellas and uh you know just hanging out with she's a world famous groupie i guess is what you would say and she had a lot of she had relationships with a lot of the the big musicians uh back in the day i'd always heard her name i'd met her once over at the zappa house in that brief period of my life where i was dating a zappa and uh i don't know it just we i decided why not talk to pamela debarres and we're doing it and so that's going to happen

shortly i will be at the masonic in san francisco this saturday day after tomorrow october 26th for the final stop on my tour before taping my special next week there are some tickets left at wtfpod.com slash tour also well you know i i you know not that this is going to be incentive for people to go see the show either you want to come see the show you don't uh my uh my buddy um luke schwartz luke schwartz door guy from the comedy store which is how i started is going to come up there and open for me uh looks a good guy funny guy and uh what else yeah i've reloaded the merch store we've put a bunch of new stuff in there at the wtf merch store we got new uh we got new shirts with the drappling design and metallic ink. We got a ringer tee,

a ladies muscle tee. We got tumblers and water bottles and hats. But you can go to podswag.com slash WTF or click on merch at wtfpod.com Go into San Francisco for the big show at the Masonic.

Masonic auditoriums always, you know, Masonic lodges, Masonic temples. I know there's a back room to this one. Some guy wrote me about it. But, you know, I'll let you know how that goes. Because I'm on the inside, folks. I don't know if you knew that about me. I'm on the inside. You know, I said, you know, I was just drawing to attention the fact that our president is a dirtbag.

And sometimes, look, you know, it doesn't have to be deep. Oddly, and I know this cuts both ways, but sometimes it's very satisfying just to, you know, call people names. God knows he knows that. So, you know, sometimes it just feels good to say President Dirtbag. But because of some of my commentary that was immediately disregarded as commentary by the QAnon folks. But, you know, look, if you want autocratic rule, if you want to bend the system into some sort of single party nightmare if you want to you know there's it's a difference between having political differences and having uh different opinions on the other side and wanting the other side to be dead but uh whatever

commentary i made about the uh un-american people some of them got riled up. I think some of them made some sort of mini film project about me. And it's been revealed, folks, that apparently I'm on the payroll of George Soros and I'm actively working for Deep State. And somehow Barack Obama's involved in this scheme that involves me calling the president a scumbag and calling people that support this momentum that we're in now as being somewhat un-American. And I just want to say that you got me, man, you got me. I, you know, we all get on the phone every morning. There's a big conference call with everybody that works for Soros and Deep State. Soros isn't usually on the call, but Deep State representatives are usually calling from their secret phones.

It's a big conference call with me and a lot of other liberal celebrities where we just get the talking points and we're told sort of, you know, how, you know, what we're trying to do, which is obviously spread socialism throughout the country to the point where everyone's making the same amount of money and nobody has any freedom. So that's sort of, you know, that's a big job. You know, it's a lot of time on the phone. And to be honest with you the checks don't roll in you know they're deep state and soros not as organized as you think you know the payroll never on time and it's never as much as you think it's going to be but uh but we're all so terrified all the time you know that if we don't say what we're gonna what they want us

to say that soros and deep state and uh uh, you know, the, in Barack Obama, who, you know, who does get on the phone occasionally with us to tell us what's up, um, are going to come down on us. So I just, I, you caught me and, uh, look, I'm just hoping my checks keep coming in from a deep state and from, uh, Soros. And I hope I don't get into trouble for revealing to you fucking dummies that, yeah, that you got me. I, Mark Maron, in my house doing my podcast where I talk to people in the creative business and being paid by George Soros personally to call President Donald Trump a scumbag at least twice a month.

Big money, folks. Big money. So San Francisco, folks, I've been in this auditorium before, the Masonic. I actually think that was in 1992, that was where the finals of the San Francisco comedy competition were. I think maybe 93. Fuck, I don't know. But that was the year that Carlos Alsrocki came in first.

I came in second. Patton Oswalt came in third. I think Rick Kearns came in fourth. And I can't remember who came in fifth. But I've been there, and it was weird, folks. I got the zap on my brain because I was a little closer to the source of the big conspiracy that I'm now involved in because I work for Deep State on the payroll.

And George Soros, sorry. I got to throw a little love to Soros, you know what I mean, because he's signing the checks for my podcast fucking idiots um anyway but yeah I had the zap on my head about the Masonic but I knew man I don't know if you've ever competed uh in anything but I don't compete a lot you know I compete in my mind and certainly I you know we're all competitive but to actually be in that that competition was so fucked up man they had these judges and then they'd break down these numbers and they put the numbers up the next day and you would never understand how it broke down

or what the numbers were and there was 40 people when the thing started and it comes down to five and oh my god what a fucking stressful nightmare for comedy. But you know what? I knew it. Here's my point. Sometimes it's just not your night, man. And I kind of knew it wasn't my night. And I don't know if that was my own head, if that was a real thing, or I was picking up a mystical vibe. But I knew going in it was not my night.

And second place is not bad bad but it ain't first but i knew it when i went on i'm like i ain't fucking getting over right oh my god so that place is polluted for me i'm gonna have to go go there transcend and kick some ghosts ass that's the big plan but uh there are tickets i'm looking forward to going to san francisco for a couple days i'm actually gonna i think i'm gonna drive up and oh and i'm gonna i haven't done this the whole tour but i'm gonna do a meet and greet i guess yes i am i'm gonna i'm gonna sell some posters myself maybe luke will sit out there with me. I'm going to sell some posters and meet the people, take some pictures. I ordered myself a new square reader so people can charge with their cards. Bring cash, though.

$40 for the hand-screened poster. Yeah, by Raquel Jack. $40 buckaroos. But it's cool. And it's like I know some people in other places are like, where was our poster? How come no Philly poster? How come no D.C. poster? Because it's a lot to wrangle.

And this was sort of specific because I just felt that this particular artist kind of played into the San Francisco trip, man. Even the font, the graphic of my name is taken from the old weirdo, the Arkham weirdo comics. So it just was a vibe. And this is where it's at. I got 100 of those fucking posters. One 98. Actually,

I'm taking two for myself. I hope you don't mind. And I'll be there. Hopefully the show will be good. There's nothing worse than the meet and greet when the show's not great. And you just kind of be got to be like, ah, thanks.

Yeah. Hey, I tried, man. Yeah. No, I've done better. Oh,

thanks. It was, it was okay. Okay. Yeah. You don't want to be that guy. Just pretend. Pretend like it's amazing. Yeah, I don't know if that's great advice.

I don't know if it's honest advice. But don't take the experience away from somebody else. Do you know what I mean? Everything's great. What a great night. But then they may walk away and be like, I think that guy's delusional. Is he delusional? I hold my check from deep status here.

So Pamela DeBars is here. It's sort of interesting going back. She was part of rock and roll at a very kind of important, kind of crazy time in this city. And she's infamous and mythic. And she has a podcast called Pamela DeBar's pajama party. She writes a regular column for the please kill me website. And she's here and I'm going to talk to her. Well, she was here. So this is me and Pam. You can get anything you need with Uber Eats. Well, almost, almost anything. So no, you can't get snowballs on Uber Eats, but meatballs and mozzarella balls, yes, we can deliver that. Uber Eats, get almost,

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I live five minutes from Whole Foods. Five minutes from Trader Joe's. Lucky, lucky, lucky. I'm not near a Whole Foods either. Oh my God, where do you live? In the valley? Yeah, way out in the valley. Reseda. Reseda. That's where I'm from. You grew up in Reseda? Yeah.

I have no sense of Reseda. I know I drive by it. Is there anything nice about it? I mean, I've seen the sign for Reseda. Have you heard free-falling? No, I know. That's what always comes to mind. Of course, right? Is that about you? You know, I always thought it was. Just because of Jesus and Elvis and my mom and Reseda. Did you know Tom?

I only met Tom briefly. Oh. Yeah. He was one of the few that you didn't know? There's a lot of them I didn't actually know. Right, yeah, yeah. What I mean by socialize with. Oh, yeah.

No, I met him once at Dylan's house. It was one of the best days of my life. Bob Dylan's 50th birthday party. Oh, yeah? I met you once. When? I met you briefly. Maybe not.

I dated Moon for like six months. So I was at a Christmas party before Gail died. Maybe the last one. Okay. With all the trees in the living room. Yeah. So I think you were there. Always there for all her parties.

Always there. Yeah. So I was sort of, I don't know if we met, but I think we did briefly. Yeah, it was quite an array of characters. Always. At the Zappa house. Always. Yeah.

And that house is gone now. Well, Lady Gaga owns it now. Did Lady Gaga buy it buy it yes she did 11.5 oh that's good at least she wanted frank's studio of course the the original one downstairs the the one with the low ceilings yeah i got to see it yeah oh you yeah well i mean you know what years were you with when did i date moon six was about five years ago or so. Okay. So it was like- So it was unwell already. No, she literally got sick when I was with Moon towards the end of it.

And I didn't really know, like it was a very brief like window. Yeah. But yeah, she started to get sick right when I was, around the time I was with Moon. And I don't know that it ended particularly well with us, but she recently reached out and was like, hey, let's not be weird. Good. She's still, you know, I've known her all her life. You have, right?

She was six months old, yeah. What was your... She's 51 now. Right. Yeah, that's crazy. That's how long I've known that girl. Yeah, but you used to watch them? I was their governess.

I lived in the house, in the Zappa house for three years. And then I'd go back and forth whenever I was having trouble finding somewhere to live or moved out with somebody, Gail would always take me back and I would be the nanny governess for however long that lasted. So how, like, I mean, I guess a lot of people, you know, your story story because you've written a couple books about it, and you're sort of infamous, but there is sort of the movement. Like, where does it start? How do you get to Los Angeles?

Were you always here? Well, I was raised in Reseda. I know, but were you born here? I was born in L.A., yes. You were? Uh-huh. So your folks are from here? I'm a SoCal gal.

Oh, yeah? Do you have siblings? No, they're from the south oh no i'm an only child my mom lost a couple kids before me a couple after me so i i was uh adored yeah and worshiped and revered but you know i got in trouble it wasn't like you know early on consequences yeah um yeah i i got in trouble but I was always music crazed. But this is like the 60s, right? 50s.

50s, I was music crazed. I got turned on to Elvis Presley when I was nine. I went to my dad. I still love thrift stores and thrifting and treasure hunting because my dad took me to thrift stores and garage sales when I was a little kid. It's not the same anymore, though, because everyone knows what they have. You really get to find good shit, you know, like records and stuff. You've got to hope that the person doesn't know what they have. Right.

Yeah, most people. Well, eBay changed everything. Exactly, right. Yeah, the internet just ruined it. It truly did. However, I travel all over the country teaching my writing workshops. Yeah. And I go to all the small town thrift stores, and I still, believe me, I still find great

stuff. What do you look for? Mainly vintage clothes and knickknacks. My house is so full. Some people might call me a hoarder, but they would be wrong. An organized hoarder. Very organized. Yeah.

Clean. Clean. A collector. But anyway, yes, Elvis at nine, I went, my My dad took me and he said, pick anything you want. And I didn't see any dolls or toys or anything, but I saw a stack of records. And the first one was Great Balls of Fire I picked because of the yellow, you know, really bright cover. Seven-inch ones? No, they were 45s.

Yeah, 45s. And then Elvis was right under that. And I had seen him on Ed Sullivan. I was curious, so I bought it. It was Jailhouse Rock. I bet you Jerry Lee would be happy that you saw his first. Yeah, he probably would. So I brought those home, and my life was altered for all time.

You know, when I hear about people who were kids when that stuff happened, I guess it's hard when you just listen to it. When my dad played that stuff for me, it was like, yeah, it's hard when you just listen to it at my, you know, when my dad played that stuff for me. It was like, yeah, that's great music. I love it. But it was really mind-blowing. I mean, when it came out. Yes. It was life-altering, planet-tilting, you know.

Yeah. Yeah. Elvis, you know, was doing the black music, but he gave them credit. He actually brought black music to the fore, which was really important, I thought. But a lot of people say he ripped them off. I don't think so. He was doing what felt right to him. He was a kid. Yeah. Music is an evolution of ripping off. Yes. Yeah, for sure. Even Dylan says that, who's my God. Yeah. He's your guy? He's my God, man. Some of the later Dylan records, he actually claims writing credit on songs that are,

I'm pretty sure, pretty traditional. But that's not, you came to him a little later? Yeah. Well, no, right away. I was in high school when Victor Hayden went to my high school, who was Captain Beefheart's cousin, Don Van Vliet. Don Van Vliet. Yeah. Are you familiar with Captain Beefheart?

Of course I am. Oh, good. I do a whole comedy bit about Captain Beefheart. Yeah. Are you familiar with Captain Beefheart? Of course I am. Oh, good. I do a whole comedy bit about Captain Beefheart. And I talked to Moon about Captain Beefheart, teaching her how to drive.

Uh-huh. Wow. Well, he taught me a lot, too. I was in high school. Victor went to my high school. So this Victor, he's his cousin? Yeah, Victor Hayden was his cousin. And he lived in Van Fleet, lived out in the desert, right?

Yeah, but at this time, he was living in the valley. Uh-huh. Mm-hmm. How old was he at this time? What was but at this time, he was living in the valley. How old was he at this time? What was he doing? Well, he was older than I was. He was probably 26 or so. And you were, what, 16? Yeah.

No, he was maybe even only 24 or 5. Yeah. I was 16 when I met Don. Talk about a mind-boggling life change. What happened? Where'd you go? What was that scene? Okay, Victor went to high

school he turned me on to dylan right right in high school the first album bob dylan right 65 life changing yeah yeah whenever then he took me to meet don a few months later at the second annual teen fair at the hollywood palladium where he was really out of place. Who Don was? Yes. Captain Beefheart and the Magic Band, that first album, genius. Sure, but was that who he was when you met him? Yeah, he was already Captain Beefheart in 65. I met him early 65. So he looked me up and down and Victor had already combed. I had a big bouffant and everything and I was trying to be a cheerleader, but he convinced me. I mean, I just wanted combed, I had a big bouffant and everything, and I was trying to be a cheerleader. But he convinced, I mean, I just wanted to comb the rats out of my hair after I met Victor.

So I was looking pretty hip. My dad brought me a corduroy jacket, and he looked me up and down and said, you're a gas. I wish there were more people like you. This was huge for a 16-year-old girl. Yes. For this big, gruff man. Yeah. This tall, imposing dude. Huge for a 16-year-old girl. Yes. For this big, gruff man. Yeah.

This tall, imposing dude. Yeah. So I went out to find out, okay, what is a gas? You have to become that. What is a gas? What is a gas? I'd never heard that term. And did you find out?

Well, sort of. Victor turned me on to jazz. He took me to a club called Mother Neptune. And you were like 17, 16? Yeah, 16, 17 years old. And they're just letting you in places? Different times? Yeah, I guess so. I soon got fake ID as soon as I started hanging out on the strip.

But yeah, Victor, I give him so much credit for altering my life. And Don. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, so at that meet, you meet Beefheart, and that's his first record around his first record. God, safe as milk. Right. Right. Fantastic.

Kind of weirdo Howlin' Wolf jams. Blues. Yeah, yeah. Rock and blues, though, man. So good to dance to that record. Yeah, yeah. He was great. He became a real character.

So when does your commitment to the life of rock and roll begin? Very soon after that. I got to Hollywood from the Valley, which was literally like going from the Midwest to the moon. Yeah. You didn't go over there often? I never did. Reseda was West Valley.

It was my little area. I knew that had my little record store, the theater, where I saw A Hard Day's Night and all those things. But then over the hill. It's like right over the hill. Right over the hill. Magic. Magic.

And I had a car. My daddy bought me a 59 Chevy Impala convertible for my 16th birthday. Boy, I wish I had that. Anyway, I drove that over the hill, and it was Oz. Where did you start going first? Pandora's Box,

which was the club at Crescent Heights and Sunset. Pandora's Box was torn down because they had to have a three-way turn signal. But I really believe it was because the hippies were taking over the strip. There were at least 1,000 to 1,500 hippies up and down the street, long-haired boys growing their hair out, girls taking their bras off. No, 65, 66 is when I started. This is when it started. Yeah.

And it was really that populated, huh? Yes. It was a revolution. It was a revelation. It was magic. Yeah. You know, it was, you can't describe it. Where'd you park?

It was, we had to walk a few blocks, yeah. And then I started hitching because it was easier right i would hitch over the hill laurel canyon yeah where all the rock stars lived so pandora's love yeah buffalo springfield all the cool people mamas and paps everybody hung out frank yeah frank yeah i i first saw frank first saw him and i always of, because of Don, I knew about Zappa. And he had just moved to town from New York. Frank had. Yeah, Frank. And I saw him at the Lenny Bruce eulogy. Oh, you went to that?

That's how hip I was at 16 and still in high school. Where'd they have that? He's buried way up in this valley, the Northwest Valley. Sun Valley, I think it is. Lenny is? Yeah. Northwest Valley. Sun Valley, I think it is. Lenny is?

Yeah. And there was this big, long hippie march up to his gravesite. And I first saw that guy, Vito. Everybody knew what was happening. Yeah, you know. Who's Vito? Vito was the, it's hard to describe him too, because these things couldn't happen today. Yeah.

Actually, Rodney Bingenheimer took me to his 54th birthday party in 66. And he had a sidekick called Captain Fuck. Can I say that? Sure. Captain Fuck. He had a big F emblazoned on a big red cape he wore. And it was just a bunch of hippie, wild, trippy freaks. Vito was? Vito. He was 54 years old. Then? Yeah. Ah. And he had come from the beats. Yeah. And he always wanted to be the center of attention.

He was an amazing artist, incredible dancer. What kind of painter? Sculpt. Uh-huh. Sculptor. Uh-huh. And we started dancing with his troupe. I met all the GTOs, my girl group, before we were even, we were just very young teenagers.

Well, you know, 17. Yeah, I have that record. You do? I bet you have a big collection of records. I have a few records, yeah. But somehow I got the GTOs record somewhere. I have it. Wow, you should let me sign it.

I will. I also have a, I think I have a record called The Groupies. Yeah, there was a band called The Groupies. That wasn't, I thought it was. And there was a movie called The Groupies with a soundtrack. Yeah, I think it was. Is that it? I thought it was just talking.

It's not just, maybe, I don't know. I'd have to look. I don't know if there's music. Because I was in that movie. Yeah. But I was seeing Jimmy Page at the time. And I was always pretty secretive. They didn't like to be talked about.

Who, Hendrick or Page? Page and any of them. But Zeppelin especially were very private people. Oh, yeah. But I said I would do this movie. I wanted to be in the movie. These people said, oh, we'll film it at your house. So the whole thing was filmed at my house.

And they said, we will not use the word groupie if you don't like it. So, of course, they called the movie Groupies. So going back to Vito and the Lenny Bruce eulogy. Yes, I went to the Lenny Bruce eulogy. So word was on the street. I went to Vito there and hung out with these crazy freaks. You know, I always wore a padded bra. So you weren't a freak yet.

You were just a teenager. I was a pre-hippie. I thought I was a hippie. Yeah. And then I became a flower child at the love ends and stuff. And then I really latched on to the Vito scene and Zappa and became a freak. There's quite a different sensation between those three categories. Right. Because Frank was sort of anti-hippie in a weird way, right?

Well, he made fun of everything, but he wasn't really anti-hippie. He just didn't take drugs. So he thought they were stupid, smoking pot and taking drugs. Of course, he wrote that fantastic song, punk yeah but was so the the lenny bruce eulogy was the was sort of the baptism in the freak scene yeah it was it was a baptism and also uh the birthday party veto's 54th birthday very close to each other did people speak at the lenny bruce thing oh yeah yeah phil specter led the the talks and everybody said a few words and i actually have a picture of me sitting there looking up at Phil Spector when I was 16. Pretty cool. And I was already wearing vintage clothes, vintage velvets, because a friend of mine's grandma let us go into her trunk. I mean, that was another life changing. Everything was blowing my mind. And I was this normal, sort of normal, but an only child. Yeah. Makes you a little abnormal.

Right. In the valley, and I just transformed into this creature. When you hear about, like, I know that you've certainly seen the arc of time hit a lot of these dudes, but, you know, it didn't end well for Phil. No, it sure didn't. But, like, at that time you know was there any sense that he was sort of a monster and a weirdo phil specter was a kind goofball we all hung out at canters because the clubs closed at two and we all show up at canters because they were all night you had to have 50 cents so you couldn't go in you had to buy some soup this is

a mid-60s yeah mid-60s well this is mid-60s. Well, this is now 66. He would buy me food. He was a very kind fellow. He wanted the hippie girls to be there, so he'd buy our food for us. He liked to have the girls around. Yeah, he really did. He always had a full table full of girls. And it was such a magical situation

with all the bands wandering around the strip. There was no separation between the hippies, the flower kids, the freaks, and the rock stars. And it seemed like everyone had sort of access. They were out in the streets as well. Yeah, they were hanging out in the streets. The riots on the Sunset Strip. What were they about? They were going to close Pandora's box.

So we decided to protest. riots on the Sunset Strip. What were they about? They were going to close Pandora's Box. So they, that we decided to protest. Yeah. So we had signs made and we sat cross-legged on sunset in the street and thousands, probably about a thousand, twelve hundred kids. And the cops came with their batons and started beating us all up. But they were going to close Pandora's box, which was a very cool little all ages club. This is where the mall was, is now? No, it's right now. It's a small island. Oh, so it didn't exist. It was a big island.

Right. Yeah. Yeah. They were widening the street. Oh, I get it. Wow. All right. So when does like, how do you shift into this lifestyle where because it's hard because there's an idea of the 60s and how people viewed sex and communal living and free love.

It was so different then. Sure. But, you know, like you kind of get characterized or you characterize yourself as somebody who it was sort of your gig right to hang out with rock stars it was a i wouldn't call it a gig because i always had to work right to pay for things when did when did that start you know when did you realize like i'm going to be the person that sleeps with rock stars i never said that to myself i'm going to sleep with rock stars. I wanted them to be my boyfriends. Oh, it was earnest. Oh, yeah. Oh, totally earnest.

Oh, my God. I'm all about love. Are you kidding? Oh, my God. I'm still a flower child down deep. I'm a hippie in all of it. You must have gotten your heart broken over and over again. I did get it broken. Yeah, I was looking for love, looking for love.

Yeah. And there was no groupie word. That word didn't exist when I was doing this stuff. When did it start, though? Who was the first one you fell in love with? Well, I was hanging out with Zeppelin. What year? I was seeing Jimmy.

This was 68. Oh, before they broke big. Yeah, first album. That's when I was seeing him. Maybe it was early 69. Where'd you meet him? I don't know. It was 68.

Well, it's a fun story. I was with Cynthia Plastercaster in Chicago visiting her. She made the dick sculptures? She made the dick. They weren't sculptures. They were actual dicks. Yeah, plaster casting of the cocks. Plaster dicks.

So, yep, I went to visit her, and she's on the GTO's album, Our First Conversation, Frank Taped, which is so great. Oh, that must be where I'm thinking of. That's on the record. Yeah, that's on the GTO's album, Permanent Damage. So now, like, why, like, like, in that scene, like, she's out there

making plaster casts of rock guys' cocks. She had to love the music or she wouldn't do it. Okay. But, like, how, like, who hooks you up with her? How do you know

that this is the circle you're running it? Frank introduced us on the phone. Frank did, okay. And we were, you know, fell in love, we were both in love with Noel Redding from the Jimi Hendrix experience. So we really connected on that.

And I went to Chicago to visit her when 68 was turning to 69. And I got to see a lot of her dicks. They were pretty amazing. The Hendrix one especially. Which she still sells very small amount of replicas right now, if you're interested. She still got those casts?

Oh, of course. Yes, that's her life's work. So, oh no, it's real serious work. She's going to go down in history, I believe, as a very important artist. I've always believed that. So you can still get a Hendrix cock? Yes, for $2,000. Okay, there you go.

Yeah, don't you want one? I'm ordering it now. They're bronzed. Are they? Yeah. So when I was visiting her, she had a big poster of Led Zeppelin on the wall, and I'd never heard of him. Right. This was at 68 when it turned into 69.

So she said, oh, you got to stay away from those guys. They're really dangerous. Ooh, especially that Jimmy Page. Oh, my God. I've heard he has whips on the road. So I said, oh, my. Oh, of course I'll stay away from them. But he was awfully cute.

So when they did come to town, of course, I loved the music. It's always got the music for me. That first album. And the second one, too. Oh, yeah, for sure. They're all pretty good. So I was at a club called The Experience, which was a short-lived club, a very, very naughty club on Sunset.

Why was it naughty? Well, you could pretty much get away with anything in there. I was pretty new to drugs though, and I had only slept with a couple of people when this happened. to drugs though and I was I'd only slept with a couple of people when this happened I was pretty green but Zeppelin walked into the experience and I had heard from one of the BTO's boys together outrageously

the boys we danced with the gay boys so colorful so wonderful and that one of them had gotten a postcard from someone who said Jimmy Page wants Miss Pamela and I was like ooh see these were the groupie tom toms there was no texting there was no Google there was no internet from someone who said, Jimmy Page wants Miss Pamela. And I was like, ooh. See, these were the groupie tom-toms. There was no texting.

There was no Google. There was no internet. There was nothing. But I still heard that Jimmy Page wanted me. And it was a smaller town then too, right? So people who were on the scene, I mean, word could travel pretty quickly because it was not a huge scene, right? Yes, it wasn't that big. No, people tend to think that, oh, everybody was a hippie in the 60s.

No, it was a real small group of free-spirited, free-thinking weirdos. But that night at the Experience. The Experience. Where was that club? T-H-E-E, the Experience. Sunset and Stanley, I think it was. Rodney Bingenheimer's club opened close to there later. But anyway, I was passed a note by their roadie, Richard Cole.

Very notorious roadie. One of the, probably the most notorious roadie ever. Anyway, he passed me a note saying, Jimmy wants to meet you at room 609, whatever, after the show. At the Hyatt? At the Hyatt, of course. The Riot House. and i didn't go because i had heard he was you know difficult and you know with the whips and all that stuff

so he somehow got a hold of my phone number you know people ask me how did you meet these guys oh did you have to what did you have to do yeah nothing because we were the GTOs were already kind of renowned crazy girls. Yeah. Half-naked, wild dancing, freaky girls. Yeah, you were one of them. And we had our album. Yeah, the GTOs, Girls Together Outrageously. Frank recorded us.

At this point, though, the record wasn't out yet or anything. We were just, everyone knew who we were. Just notorious. Yes, exactly. And he found your phone number. Does that mean, where were you living? Your folks?

No, I had just moved into my own apartment. In Hollywood. Yeah, in Hollywood, West Hollywood. And he called me, and he coerced me, and he sweet-talked me, and that accent and those rosebud lips and all that stuff. So he invited me to a show out in Long Beach. So Michelle Overman, my dear friend at the time, was already seeing Robert Plant.

So she said, oh, come on, just see the show. So, of course, that's all it took, seeing the show. So we made out and had all this passion. Incredible. Yeah. Long Beach, where was it? Well, no one had ever seen the arena, Long Beach Arena. Yeah.

So then Jimmy and I became an item after that. So you made out with Jimmy after the show, and then he became an item. Well, he had to woo me a little bit. Yeah. Because I had only like, I think he was the fourth person I slept with. Fourth, yeah. Yeah. And you know, in those days.

Was he the first rock guy? Oh, God, no. They were all, the first three were bass players. Bass players. So now you're moving up to the guitar player. Got a little confidence. It was Nick St. Nicholas, who I was really in love with, bass player and Steppenwolf, and then Noel Redding. Yeah, Noel Redding, and then Chris Hillman of the Birds, who was

my true, true, true love off and on for decades in my life. Hillman? Yeah. Yeah. So those are the first three. Yeah. And then you stepped up to the guitars. Then it was Jimmy Page, and then it was Mick Jagger. Oh, yeah?

So I guess you can see the elevation, right? Right. But now, when you have a relationship with a guy like Jimmy at that time, I mean, what is that? Do you find, are they, because there's a lot of talk about inspiration, about muses, about this and that. Of course. We were all muses, all of us girls. You think that you felt that? Yes. I mean, at muses, about this and that. Of course. We were all muses, all of us girls. You think that you felt that? Yes.

I mean, at the time, I was just having fun. Yeah. You know, you reflect later. Yeah, of course, we were really inspiring these people. Roberts told me going to California is about me and a couple of other L.A. girls, you know. Yeah. And yes, in fact, Zeppelin would base themselves in California, in L.A., at the Hyatt House, rent the whole sixth floor, and fly out to everywhere else.

Their wives always thought they were in Idaho somewhere. Well, there was only one wife. Yeah. Robert was married. Oh, no, wait. There was only one single one. Jimmy was single. Right.

They were all married. Yeah. Everybody got married so young in England then. I guess so. I think he's, isn't Robert still married? I don't know. I mean, I know he's got- Absolutely not.

No. No. That's a guy you stay in touch with? I did for many, many years, decades. Whenever he came to town, he'd come over, we'd have tea, we'd go to dinner. I went to all his shows. And then he just stopped talking to me about four years ago. Broke my heart. Oh, that's too bad. And I do believe it's because he has a young girlfriend. They get young young girlfriends. He and Jimmy have very

young girlfriends right now and I think the girls don't want to know about the past and he doesn't want to think about it either with the new young girlfriend. Even though Robert and I never actually slept together. We talked about it for years but we didn't do it. Were these relationships, if they weren't specifically

just sexual, did you see these guys struggle through stuff? I mean, were you? Oh, of course. I went on the road with them. So I from a groupie, I went to a super groupie, which were girls who were taken on the road because these guys had girls in every port. You know, I'm a traveling man. Yeah.

Remember that song by Rick Nelson? So they had girls everywhere. It was a it was a toy store. The world was a toy store for these guys. And the time was ripe. No one was getting killed by having sex. Right. It was a beautiful, free-spirited, free-loving time.

No one was using each other. When my book came out, I'm with the band, my first book. Yeah. I had no idea how it would be received. You never know when you're writing a book if anyone's even going to read it. Yeah. It became a bestseller, which is great. And I think I opened the door for a lot of other quotes and nobodies to write their memoir. Yeah. But at the time, I was considered to be a submissive slut when that book came out.

By who? Because the word groupie was used. Oh, so who gave you that name? Who gave you a submissive slut? when that book came out. By who? Because the word groupie was used. Oh, so who gave you that name? Who gave you a submissive slut? Well, who called you that? Oh, God, everybody. The press. I mean, it got good reviews for the writing and stuff.

But when I would go on talk shows, people were just insulted. The audience members would stand up and just call me names. Like you were a whore or a slut. Yes, submissive to rock stars, which was the absolute antithesis of what was really going on. They don't understand the egos of rock stars. No, we were equals with these people. I took Rod Stewart shopping for his first freaking feather boa.

How you did that? Oh, yeah, all that. We dressed Alice cooper and put their makeup on them i mean we were very important girls the gtos you define the the culture of that era of rock we actually did yeah yeah i mean why they needed the because i just i picture look you know these guys are performers people know their records a lot of times people don't realize that you know it, maybe months, to pull a record together, the studio hours and all

that. And when you're on tour, you're on the stage for like two or three hours. They're so bored on the road, though. Right. I know, it's, right, they get their two and a half hours, Zeppelin's created those long gigs. But yeah, and then the rest of the time they're staring at the four walls

in the hotel room, Or on the bus. Worn for the girls. Yeah. I was seeing these guys pre-bus. There were no tour buses. And, like, what was the— And the bands were huge, so they didn't have to have tour buses. Did you ever have to deal with any of these guys having, like, you know, sort of, like, crisis of identity or insecurity or breakdowns or—

Keith Moon, yeah. Oh, boy. Yeah. Keith Moon was one of my main squeezes. Really? I could soothe him. I would, no, middle. I would say the middle of his career was a 70.

I met him on the set of 200 Motels. He played the nun. The Zappas movie. Yes, Zappas movie. And we became friendly because I was seeing someone else at that time. But then when I was single and he came to town, well, I wasn't quite single, but he came to town and we really connected. We always liked each other.

And whenever he came to town, I was his L.A. girl. Yeah. And it was a very wild ride because now he would be considered bipolar. Right. Yeah. He was a manic guy. Right. But it was fun.

Oh, it was mostly fun. But you asked me, were there crises? Yes. He could not hide his misery. He couldn't hide it. When he was down. Yeah. He would pretend to be other people.

We cross-dressed a lot. He would pretend to be other people. We cross-dressed a lot. And when one of the shows I did, I helped him do his K-Rock big spectacular L.A. show featuring a lot of people. He was the host. And I helped him get his clothes. We always went to Western costume so he could be other people. He really committed to it. He escaped himself, though.

He was escaping himself. Yeah, yeah. Well, I mean, that's another question, I guess, and just in light of the reputation of some of these guys, not in terms of sex, but in terms of drugs and stuff. I mean, it must have been somewhat menacing. I mean, you're painting a pretty starry picture about it, and it is the romantic idea that I want to have. I'm a big rock and roll guy, but I have to assume that sometimes the drugs got scary. Well, for me, I was not an addict. No, but being around it. Oh yeah, I was around it, but early days, Jimmy Page was not doing drugs. He was primping in the mirror. I mean, I knew them all the way through their career and I saw him really slide down into all kinds of drugs.

And it was worrisome to watch. But look at him now. Yeah. He's this fine gentleman. Sure. You know. Yeah. If they survive and clean up a little bit, they usually do all right.

And a lot of them didn't survive. And I lost a lot of friends, of course. So there's obviously a lot of darkness involved. And it usually mostly involved drugs. Yeah. Yeah. But I was not addictive. It was such a blessing. I got my it usually mostly involved drugs yeah yeah but i was not addictive it was such a blessing i got my mom's side of the genetics yeah and i tried everything i did this stuff with them yeah but i i stopped when they went left town you know it wasn't like

i had to keep doing coke or whatever it was when you know that you're like you know the la girl uh you know how does that kind of fact how does that play into the idea that you're like you know the la girl uh you know how does that kind of fact how does that play into the idea that you have a you know that you you know that you have a relationship i mean well we had a relationship totally it was very intimate it was very warm it was just it was just totally loving well you know i'd see other people too i was single yeah you know when i was seeing Keith Moon, Waylon Jennings, and Mick. So I was seeing these people. Well, with Mick and Jimmy, and that was a bit of a triangle,

because Mick would, when I finally met him, I was dancing with Miss Mercy to the Flying Burrito Brothers at the Corral, a tiny little club in Topanga. What's Miss Mercy? We were all Miss. Tiny Tim, when he met all us girls, called us Miss Pamela, Miss Mercy, Miss Sparky, and all that. How was Tiny Tim? Nice guy?

He was the best. He was the real thing. Boy, talk about a lunatic. But sweet, sweet, sweet, sweet. Quite a story there. But Miss Mercy and I were dancing to the Flying Breeder Brothers, my favorite band of all time. Really? People ask me.

That's who it is. And the Stones all walked in to this tiny little dump because Graham Parsons, Keith Richards were very, really close. It was a bromance before the word existed. Do you think that Keith took him down? Do you think that Keith? No. Graham took himself down. Oh, yeah.

Terrible addict. Yeah. Oh, really? And he had a lot of down. Oh, yeah. Terrible addict, yeah. Oh, really? And he had a lot of money. Because he was a trust fund kid. Yeah. So every year he'd pick up $333,000 down in Florida, which now, how much would that be? Yeah, a lot.

A lot. And it was gone by the end of that year because he was very generous. He paid all the rents of the bands. He bought everyone drugs. But anyway, that's another story. Oh, yeah. Sort of a sad story. Yeah, it's a real sad story. I miss him all the bands. He bought everyone drugs. But anyway, that's another story. Oh, yeah. Sort of a sad story. Yeah, it's a real sad story. I miss him all the time. But Mick came onto the dance floor because he'd met Mercy in San Francisco. And he said, who is your beautiful friend?

So then I started seeing Mick. But I was already in love with Jimmy Page. And he was on the road. And so for several weeks, the Stones were in town recording, I would go visit Mick, and I loved Mick Taylor, too. We became really good friends. And Mercy, and I would go hang out with Mick. Mick Taylor seems like a sweet guy. Best. My favorite guitar player.

He's great, yeah. Him and Hendrix. Uh-huh. But Mick kept, you know, giving me, trying so hard. I did make out with him, and I did let him put hickeys all over my legs, but I wouldn't sleep with him because I would say, you have to be true to Jimmy. Oh, really? And Mick kept saying, come on, he's not being true to you. Sorry, it's just not happening. And I believed Jimmy. I was very naive. I still am in some ways. But anyway, when

I found out that he was not being true to me on the road I said fuck it and I slept with Mick now when you're sleeping like like can you like uh your experience sexually with all these different rock gods I mean some better than others I don't ever answer that question I do rock and roll tours of Hollywood and some people want to know how big someone was or who was the best, who was the best. I mean, but like, you know, I guess. And I don't compare. I never compared. For me, when I was with these people, I was so thrilled. It was such a heightened experience that I didn't compare one to another. You didn't think about it. Yeah. I

didn't think of it in that way. It was all electric anyway. Yes, it was. It was. There was a lot happening beyond the sex. You were there. I was thrilled. I remember the first time I was with Mick, I was looking up and I could not even think about anything below the waist. I was looking at his face going,

oh my God, this is finally happening. Yeah, hypnotized. Because I was such a huge fan so early. But then I saw him off and on for a while so I and when I went to England I spent a lot of quality time with him but when you see them like is it like one of those things like like do you do you get those calls where you're like it when it's sort of like you don't even know they're in town and you get a call like 11 at night like what's up

is it were you around is some of it like that we always knew they were in town okay right yeah the groupie tom toms yeah and we'd expect them and i would get notes and letters i have letters from so many of these people we used to write letters back then really people don't realize it was just a relationship it wasn't like i, of course there were groupies, one night stands, one hour stand, 10 minute stands. That was not me. Right. You guys, the crew of you out here had a sort of a, it seemed like there was sort of a community of support and also that you had these reputations of almost, I wouldn't say it's maternal, but there was something nurturing about the whole trip. Yes, we were totally nurturing.

I sewed buttons on their shirts. I ironed their shirts. I took them shopping. I brought them food. People think of a hotel room or whatever. It was much more than that. It was the real thing. It was a good time.

Absolutely. And I got my heart broken too Jimmy Page but Mick, Waylon Jennings Keith, these were people that I knew I wasn't going to marry I was going to have fun, you could have fun in those days and have sex with people and not guilt trip yourself

I mean I did for a little while because I'm a Jesus girl. So I have him tattooed on my back along with Elvis. But for a while, I questioned the morality of what I was doing. And I looked through the Bible, and I tried to find somewhere where it said fornication sucks or whatever. I couldn't find it. I think it's also the weight of how women are supposed to fit into the whole trip.

Totally. And we were coming out of the 50s and had to express ourselves as we were the early feminists, of course, only we were not perceived that way. We were perceived, like I said, as submissive sluts to these rock gods. But it was the opposite. We were doing what we wanted to do going after what we wanted i think that's yeah i think that's changing i i feel like that because of culture now for different reasons it sort of has to do with uh empowerment and you know too much porn and a lot of different things it just it does seem that that that women are more able and i'm

generalizing to kind of fuck like dudes a little more, you know, just for fun and to walk away from it. I hope that's coming back. You think it's coming back? I do think it's coming back a little bit that there's a demystification around sex and the expectations are not all loaded up like they used to be. Well, when I had to go on Oprah and Geraldo and shows like that, it was late 80s

and everyone was afraid of AIDS. And that colored so much of my story and the stories I was told in the book. Because of the timing. Yes, because of the timing. Well, I mean, back in the day, when I spoke to people of that era who were out there fucking,

I mean, VD was sort of common. Like you got it, you dealt with it, and you moved on. It was no big deal. I only got it one time, and it was not from a rock star. So people just think it was just a tawdry, wicked. It wasn't like that. And maybe for some people it was. Not for me or the people I knew.

It was around. It was around. Oh, people were having orgies. I had plenty of people trying to get me involved in three ways and four ways in the orgies, but I was not into that. I'm very much a one-on-one. Well, what was that scene at that place, the experience that you said was so weird? Was that like an orgy trip?

It was. There was one night when Zeppelin were there and Richard Cole. It was always the roadies with them, with the fish and all the things you hear about them. It was never the band. The fish? Well, you know, the mud shark story. I don't.

Tell it to me. Well. No. I was not there. Believe me. Yeah. But there were stories about in Seattle, you could fish off of your balcony at the hotel where they stayed.

And they would use these fish on these girls. Use them? Oh, okay. Use your imagination, okay? Yeah. And it wasn't just Zeppelin doing stuff like that, but these were the kind of girls who just would say anything to be with these guys. But it was not me.

No, I get it. But, like, knowing that those guys were those guys that didn't okay i've got to go back it was not the band the only person in the band who participated in that stuff was bonzo the drummer and he only when he was completely bombed out of his mind yeah right right and robert one time was he would be bait he would pretend he was going to somehow get involved and then leave they never got involved in that stuff but the roadies all did and john bonham if he was drunk enough right so don't think it was jimmy or robert certainly not john paul jones right well i mean just like there's this sort of like weird kind of understanding

where you have you have a genuine relationship with these guys. And it's nice. And you feel a certain amount of respect. But you know that they're out there being monsters. Well, like I said, it wasn't the actual guys. Right. And I loved Bonzo, but he was not my boyfriend. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

He was married. Yeah. You know? Sure. But I was treated like a queen. Yeah. They took me to see Elvis in Vegas. Sat in the front row.

The Zeppelin guys? Yeah, Jimmy and Robert. Sat right in between them seeing Elvis. How was that? In the black leather stuff. Oh, did you go meet him? Oh, my God. No, I was so angry.

And I think he was afraid I was going to run off with Elvis because Red West came up because he knew I was such a fan. Red West came up behind after the show and said, would you want to meet Elvis? And I can still see it. He turned around and said, oh, no, thank you. Wow. And Robert and I looked at each other like, what is he saying?

Red, the king of the roadies. Yeah, Red West, absolutely. I'm curious about Tiny Tim. You said that's sort of a weird story. Well, it's a fun story because he obviously had OCD before anyone knew it was such a thing. So Miss Lucy had met

one of the GTOs had met him in New York and she was already Miss Lucy. She had the miss because they'd met in New York. And she took the rest

of us to meet him at Sunset Marquee when he came to visit his first gig out here actually. From London? Where was he from? New York.

Oh he's from New York. So I don't know where I just remember him when I was a kid i remember having kind of being fascinated with him and he seemed like an oddball very much almost like andy kaufman yeah very much like that so we we went to visit him and she knocked on the door and she said the gto's are here and he went oh oh wait a minute miss lucy oh just a minute you, he was really like that. So he had to take a shower. He said, let me take a shower first. So he waited in the hall.

Then he opened it up, freshly showered. We went in to visit him. And we sat around. And he was so petrified with all these girls that he was about to faint. And she fanned him with a fan. Was he like a, was he kind of a, was he, I don't, what was he? It was almost he was bordering on being a drag act. He was sort of.

He wore lipstick and eye makeup. No one was doing that. And he sang in a falsetto. He sang in a, he spoke in a falsetto, too. Interesting. And then we, he kept having to take showers. Every 20 minutes, he, oh, I have to take a shower. And he'd come back.

But we spent the whole day there with him. And at one point, he said, I have a secret. I want to show you something. And he took us into this tiny little kitchen, Sunset Marquis, and he pulled out frozen hockey pucks out of the freezer and a hockey stick from behind the fridge, and we played hockey on that little floor. And he loved that. He thought that was the most fun ever. Tiny Tim. Yeah. And then he said, here's my real

secret. And he opened the drawer and under the silverware, he had hidden all these candy bars. Because my manager thinks I'm fat, but I'm just pleasingly plump. Oh my God. I remember these quotes because I wrote them in my diary. I kept diaries for the whole thing. Yeah. My whole life. Yeah. And you still got them, right? Yes. Oh, I still have. They should be in the Smithsonian. What about Jim Morrison? Well, I knew him. Yeah. I made out with him. Yeah. Rolled around with him. Yeah. But you saw the doors back in the day oh yeah plenty they were the house band at the whiskey which was my home away from home and how was it when you saw them when they first started coming around did you realize like this there's nothing like this i had never of

course never seen anything like it never saw anything jim already even before the first album came out he was groaning and moaning and rolling around on the floor and laying flat on his back and singing. We had never seen anything like that. Yeah. And just sexy. Good God. And, of course, I had to at least get my hands on him a little bit, you know. But I was so young then. That was when I was super young.

So making out was enough in a lot of cases. Oh, yes. That's what I was going to say, too. They did not there was no demands made on us girls from these guys in the mid to you know mid 60s to the 67 8 it was like yeah let's just have fun to make out i was very good at oral sex which was something i enjoyed doing yeah i wanted to show my respect and love for their music, and that's how I did it. But I wanted to hang on to my virginity until I was in love. You think that's funny, huh?

No, it makes perfect sense. I don't think it's funny. It's one of those things where my brain always goes to, well, I'm sure they enjoyed that. They did. They did. They must have been great. And you know, when Bill Clinton said, I did not have sex with that woman, I knew just what he was talking about. She just gave him head. That's all. That is not

full sex at all. Sure. It's really just flirting up until intercourse. It's foreplay. Yeah. I get it. Yeah. Well, so now as you got older, when did you, you got married? I married Michael DeBar. I got my Prince Rock and Roll Charming. We were together 14 years and we're best friends to this day. Oh, that's nice. We have a son, Nick. He's just turned 40.

It's unbelievable. And yes, we had a rock and roll life. That's what my second book's about. Yeah. I'm writing my sixth book now. What's this one about? I can't talk about that one. Actually, there's a seventh book too, which is Sex, God, and Rock and Roll. It's this one about? I can't talk about that one. Actually, there's a seventh book, too, which is Sex,

God, and Rock and Roll. It's my spiritual journey. Sex, God, and Rock and Roll. Because they're all alongside each other. Where do you stand with God these days? Wow. I think you're God and I'm God. We're all God. We're all God. And we have to remember that or we're fucked. Right. That's my philosophy. It's in all of us.

Yes. Totally. And in this microphone and this table. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So you've detached yourself from any organized type. Well, I still love Jesus because he was my main man. You do? Yeah. He didn't do anything wrong.

It's not his fault that his name has been blasphemed for centuries, right? He took the hit for everybody. I know. God, love him. No, and he was a hippie boy and mary magdalene was his muse and you know i'm a big jesus lover yeah so you just integrated that but you've integrated it all into your spiritual totally and it's the story of my i was born again at eight years old and it's my whole story through all the amazing yogananda krishnamurti all the

things that it's a side of me most people don't know but you did that you were a searcher all the amazing, Yogananda, Krishnamurti, all the things. It's a side of me most people don't know. But you did that? You were a searcher all the way through? All the way through. Like, did you do, well, it's lucky you didn't get caught up with Manson or something. Well, he was a fraud. Yeah. I never met him, but I knew people who knew him, and he was just a fraud.

He was like, almost like Vito, only Vito wasn't that evil. But, you know he he wanted to be the center of attention he found out how to do it was to grow your hair out yeah and there was free love spiritual yeah well there was some free there was very little spiritual thing well he figured out a racket yeah like the language of uh spiritually yes like a leader you never ended up there at a party or anywhere never yeah no uh- uh-uh. But that was a bring down. Oh, yeah. That brought down the hippie movement, the love-ins and all those things.

It was way too real. Yeah. It was a wake-up call or something. Yeah, it was. And Altamont happened around the same time. I was with the Stones at Altamont. Get the fuck out of here. You were?

Yes. Talk about not really wanting to be there. I got this sense that you know because of the bad drugs that were going around and just the intensity of the the nervousness of the acts that you know you could definitely feel that things weren't going right through the show well i left before they came on that's how bad the vibe was so yes right because like the grill marcus said that you know when they went back up on stage and they knew that they were in trouble, like, that they had never played so intensely well. Yeah, yeah.

Like, you know, when the guy went down and the shit got out of control but the Stones kept playing. Yeah, yeah. That, you know, they were playing to save their asses in a way. Yes. It's amazing they didn't leave the stage. I mean, it's really, I give them a lot of credit. But afterwards, I walked into this room, this hotel room. They were all in there, just them.

In San Francisco? In San Francisco. Yeah. It was them, a couple roadies, and Michelle Phillips was there, and me. And I walked in, and the vibe was so, and when I called, Mick said, did you hear what happened? And I said, no. He said, just come up. Come up to the hotel room, right?

Because I was seeing him. I was seeing him then. So then I found out what happened. They were all sitting around talking about it. Mick was saying, I'm not going to do this anymore. I've had it. I'm finished. With what?

Performing. Live performing. Yes. It was a heavy scene. Well, they hadn't been to the States since 66, since you saw them the first or the second they hadn't oh right and it was sort of like now they had to make this transition into hippie land so what had happened was you know they had aligned themselves with the dead a little bit and the idea was first to be at golden gate park but all that stuff fell through for a lot of different reasons right but mick wanted to get they he was doing a

movie with the with the Pennybacker, right? Great movie. Scary. But it was originally supposed to be a pro-Stones documentary, right? Yes, of course, doing a good thing for the fans. Yeah, and it just got out of hand, and the book sort of hangs it on Mick's insistence to do the show anyways, knowing that that place was. Well, he didn't want to let the the fans down and that was real because mercy

and i were hanging out with them and she does tarot cards and she read their cards one night in front of the fireplace and she said it ended with the tower and she said are you guys doing something that's kind of secretive that you know and keith said yeah we're doing this free show yeah she said i don't think you should do it that's how i mean it was and they both said no it's too late it's already all planned is that yeah i mean you know the plan was different it was so awful there it was so terrible i i left right after the burrito brothers played more people died there more like the one guy got stabbed but a couple people got killed in the car. Yeah? Oh, yeah, man.

So the Burrito Brothers, like, yeah, he was a pretty beautiful guy, huh, Graham? Yes, Graham was another life-changing person. He sat me down one night, me and Mercy, actually, and played us George Jones, Waylon Jennings, who I went after, Merle Haggard, Willie, all of them. He made us listen. He would carry that little portable record player around and make people listen to this.

Because I never would have. I saw George Jones. He had this corny crew cut and those stupid clothes, which of course I love now. And I wouldn't have considered it. But he made us. And I've been a country fan, real country. I think he did that for rock.

Yeah, he sure did. Like he integrated it, man. He, you know, country honk and send me dead flowers. No eagles without Graham. Absolutely. And he's not in the fucking Hall of Fame. Excuse my French. I don't understand that.

It's so lame. Yeah. So how is your life now? Good? It's great. I teach women's writing workshops all over the country. You get a good turnout? I'm leaving tomorrow. Yeah. So how is your life now? Good? It's great. I teach women's writing workshops all over the country. You get a good turnout? I'm leaving tomorrow for Fairmount, Indiana, because I'm a James Dean nut.

He's also tattooed on me. I love Rebels. And I teach there, and I teach Chicago, New York, Nashville, so many places. What is it like? London, Toronto. Do you rent a space and people come? No, I teach in a student's home. Okay.

Yeah, it's all very intimate. It's memoir. Women want to write about themselves. You know, it's a very cathartic experience. And just best friends are made. So much has happened that I didn't expect. I have made best friends out of it, and they fall in love with each other. It's just magical stuff

and I do the rock tours what are those exactly? I take, I'm with the band Rock Tour based around my first book I take people in a van I have a great driver named Kip Brown who's also a musician so this is your business, you own the van?

oh no, no I'm still fairly a hand to mouth rock girl but I take them all around and show them where all these things happen to me. Every six weeks, I take about a dozen people around Hollywood, Laurel Canyon. I go all the way to Century City where my favorite Keith Moon story happened. Oh, yeah. Which one is that? Well, it's pretty incredible.

Okay. It was one of his more innocent pranks. Yeah. But we had to stay in the Century Plaza because he was kicked out of every single hotel in Hollywood. For breaking things? And, yeah, well, many, way worse than that. So we went to Western Costume first with Dougal, his guy, and he rented a long red velvet cloak. Yeah.

From an ermine. And we went to the Century Plaza Hotel where all the presidents stay. He'd never tried that one. And we pretended, he pretended he was a count from some non-existent country. Yeah.

And they believed us. In those days, you know, they made up a country and we stayed there for two weeks. So one afternoon, he said,

here, stand out on the balcony. I'm going to show you something. And I was like, uh-oh. And I stood on the balcony and there he, stand out on the balcony. I'm going to show you something. And I was like, uh-oh. And I stood on the balcony. There he was hustling across the street. He was like a little gnome anyway.

And he had a big giant box of Tide in his hands. And he dumped it into the fountain across the street. This huge fountain. The Century City Fountain. And, of course, the bubbles went a block, two blocks in the air, rolled down all the streets, stopped all the traffic. And he laughed. He was so gleeful

because he got away with that prank. And it was kind of, for him, a pretty clean prank. Literally. Relatively innocent. Yeah. I'm sure the people trying to get to their meetings didn't think so. Right, right. But that seems kind of fun. So you show people that place. And did you ever get into trouble with the wives of any of these dudes or girlfriends?

I only had one married guy, and that was Waylon Jennings. And in those days, you did not know they were married. They took off their ring. That's all it took. Yeah. So I didn't know Waylon Jennings was married. How would I know that? Yeah.

And he had just married Jesse Coulter. He was a naughty man. But boy, what a trip that was. Yeah? Why? Because he was out of my element. The country thing. He was a big, but that was, big quiff.

Yeah. What do you mean? He was not a long-haired guy at the time. Right, right. He wasn't shaggy. Right. He was not an outlaw yet. Yeah.

But he really was, of course. And he had these black leather wristbands and this squint and cigarette hangout. But I loved his music so much, I wanted to get to know him. Yeah. He's great. So I went to a session after seeing him play and throwing flowers at his feet in my underwear. It's quite a story. Big sales pitch, huh?

Yes. It worked, okay? Yeah. So he came over and I opened the door at 5 a.m one morning and there he was and i went oh boy am i in for it but it was great he was sweet and gentle and lovely and wild of course and the next morning he wandered around my my little living room looking at the long-haired boys on the wall and he was do you really like all this long hair and everything yeah and i said of course oh yeah we love to love to run our hands through it.

Anyway, he grew his hair out. Okay. I talked to his kid. His kid's all right. Oh, I love Shooter. Oh, yeah. He told me Waylon was still talking about me right before he died. So that made me feel good.

Oh, you made an impression. Yeah, of course. I always made an impression. I hope I still do. This is very memorable for me, of course. I always made an impression. I hope I still do. This is very memorable for me, Pamela. Okay, good. I'm going to tell you the best day of my life, though, and I'll make it brief. That's all right.

It was Bob Dylan's 50th birthday party. I got to meet all the Wilburys and just hang out with Bob and George and everything. I was beside myself. And at one point, George Harrison leaned over and said, have you read the book, Bob? Bob said, not yet. And he said, I read it and I'm not in it, unfortunately. Your book. Yeah, I'm with the band. Then he introduced me to his mechanic who was sitting next to him. And he said, he works with engines the way you and I work with words. George freaking Harrison. Then

I did give Dylan the book for his birthday I saw him at a gig that's when he let people backstage and he said I read your book cover to cover and you're a good writer oh there you go isn't that wonderful oh yeah but that was the first time he met him at a party died yeah I bet no I met him a little bit before that he was dating a girlfriend of mine and he was it was one of his very rare social times. He came to a couple parties. How old?

What age was he? He was just turning 50. Oh, okay. That's when the hoodie thing and all that. Uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah, he's character, right? I never miss him play.

Never. No? You always go. I saw him in 65. I walked down to the front of the stage. I couldn't. It was like I was in a trance. Yeah.

No one was going to keep me from Bob, and I was the only person who walked down to the front of the stage I couldn't It was like I was in a trance Yeah No one was going to keep me from Bob And I was the only person who walked down there Yeah And they did not make me go back to my seat And you just stood there? Yeah For the whole show Pretty mesmerizing dude

Yeah Yeah I would say so Have you seen him recently? How's he doing? He's great Yeah I mean I see the

I don't know him Right but you go to the shows I go to the shows Absolutely I never miss him That's great He's still a groupie Great. Yeah. I mean, I see the, I don't know him. Right, but you go to the shows. I go to the shows, absolutely. I never miss him. That's great. He's still a groupie. Absolutely.

You've got to come see my license plate. That's what it says. Okay, I'll come. Thanks for talking to me, Pamela. Thank you, Mark. I appreciate it. Yep. There you go.

A little slice of history. Look, folks, I forgot to mention that I was cast in the Aretha Franklin biopic called Respect. Maybe I should talk about that next show. I'm going to play Jerry Wexler alongside Jennifer Hudson. So, yeah, that's happening. And now I'm going to play some straight guitar, old school. Look, I've been watching that country, Doc, and I'm not going to be ashamed of three chords anymore for my life.

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